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Three years ago my ex husband died. Are divorced wasn’t final when he passed a way. I was so overwhelmed and sadden to go back to my house that I still owned to see thing and the condition of the house that I owned I literally had 3 day to to get rid of things to get the house ready to sell . If it wasn’t for God, looking over me I don’t know what I would’ve done. I Had a yard sale for 2 days on the weekend Covid was just ending. I had a lady that came to the yard sale she had just lost her son to Covid and lost her entire house to a fire that had happened next-door to her. She asked me if I had any beds for sale I said well I have a queen size bed, a double bed and a twin bed. You’re welcome to all of them. I gave her sheets and and towels and dishes, God put her in my path.
Thank you for your videos. I'm just learning about "Executive Dysfunction," and although I'm not considered a hoarder, I feel like one .... its been sad and frustrating to feel stuck. It's been four years since two major losses. When I have a Buddy System, I work steady, organized, and feel like my old self. I wish I could afford to hire a professional organizer, or recuit enough help. Here goes nothing, I'm starting small. Appreciate prayers!
I help a friend but she doesn't drive the 30 miles to come help me 😥. Her stuff is overwhelming and she don't get rid of enough for the tiny space she lives in. When I leave it's frustrating to not see much difference.
For anyone who is overwhelmed, I can testify that even with physical issues, chronic illness, wrist surgeries, that decluttering is a mind game and on the other side you feel SO good about yourself, and every time you open a closet, cabinet, or drawer, and you can breathe, because everything you see is stuff you intentionally want.... IT FEELS AMAZING. And when you go back again a year or three later, you laugh at what you didn't purge, and you feel another level of empowerment. Great video with such real emotion.
Thank you! I have Lupus and have been trying to declutter and redecorate paint etc since the beginning of summer. I also work nights so I knew it would take me longer than the average person. It has been overwhelming both physically and mentally. I am still only half way through the kitchen. I have been so discouraged and wondering if it was worth it because now I have this big mess. Today I put back one cabinet door and the silverware drawer. All decluttered, organized, new liner, painted etc. I wanted to do it the right way not just paint what you can see. I will keep going slowly but surely knowing it is well worth it! Thank you! Be blessed. ❤
Bulging disc, tear disc, degenerative disease, fibromyalgia, Lyme disease, rheumatoid arthritis, pots, vertigo, tiny stroke. And I’m still decluttering. It’s amazing. I am able to breathe.❤️ The only thing holding you back is yourself.
I also think about our children and since our time on Earth isn’t promised and we’re both in our 70’s and I don’t want them to have to deal with all our old stuff.
My mom painted the inside of her house while dad was dying for the same reason. She would go to work, go to the hospital, stay till visiting hours were over then go home and paint. Absolutely having control while watching the uncontrollable. You did what you could do to 'keep your head above water'. Prayers.
My mom died 6 weeks ago and I am slowly emptying her house. She kept everything beautifully and it was immaculate but she has so much stuff! I dont have any brothers and sisters, and neighbours that said they would help are nowhere in sight so I am doing it on my own. I am in my 60's and have arthritis in my hands but I am determined to do it. I find it so hard to ask for help, so it has because a mission to get it done alone! Some days I am in tears doing it, but I always feel such a sense of achievement when I have done it.
I hope you have the luxury of time so as not to rush. I think it is part of a mourning process as well. Please don't be afraid to ask for help especially from a friend who will keep you on task and asks the hard questions like "will you really use it?", "Does it serve a purpose?". Someone who can/will help prepare a yard sale if you want or just get stuff to the thrift store. Praying for you.
I am sending you all the love. I cared for my dad in my home for 11 years with Dementia as a single so supporting mom or two boys. Somedays I was drowning in stuff because I was so tired and the hoarding and the kids stuff- piled up and I was so ashamed of my house. I saw you bravely open up the storage area and it reminded me of mine… Thank you for normalizing this when it happens.My dad passed on this Thanksgiving and both boys are off to college and I did a massive- 15 SUV load declutter and almost 500 books to the library. It was a massive emotional effort but worth it. BUT you need to give yourself grace if you can’t do it at the time you wanted to. I just didn’t have the emotional bandwidth to do it until now. If you are reading this and drowning I send you love and grace. It’s a lot❤
Leslie, I’m an attorney. I have four granddaughters and grandchildren, etc. etc. I am very busy. I do a lot of stuff lots of hobbies on top of my work. I have to tell you that you are someone to aspire to. Your ability to put on a brave face, even when you were really suffering physically as well because I remember you said you had rheumatoid arthritis on top of everything else. You should be a hero to your kids.
One thing I have tried is: STOP going to Goodwill. Also limit "mindless" wandering through Home Decor stores, etc. Enjoy it but don't bring it home. Limit scrolling Amazon, etc. I am now telling myself "I don't need really this." Trying to use what we have.
SOS = Stay Out of Stores My parents always bought only what they needed and was in the budget. They loved to "window shop " browse, comment and on to the next store window
I subscribed to your channel as soon as you said the word, "Aging." I've grown weary of watching 20 somethings making videos of decluttering their bedrooms at their parent's houses just because they're bored of their clothes. I was in an accident a few years ago, and now I'm mostly healed, and want to declutter and reorganize. Your content works for people who have been through the school of hard knocks.
My husband had Alzheimer's for many years. Sadly he passed last Saturday. I have no idea how I'm going to deal with our storage unit all alone. Missing him is hard enough. Going into storage with all our memorabilia from over the years, I don't know how I'm going to be able to get through it emotionally let alone physically. My hubby was still strong up til the end. But his spatial orientation was gone so he was like a bull in a china shop and I couldn't take him to storage for the last few years. I tried to be prepared for this but there's just no way. You are an inspiration Leslie. My heart goes out to you and Jason. Dementia is such a cruel and treacherous journey. Make the best of every single moment while you can. XX ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss. Tackle your decluttering project when you’re ready. My son passed in 2008, brain cancer, 24 yr old. I gave special items to his friends and family so they had some memorabilia of Brian, and of course kept some items as well Couple shirts, trinkets. I decluttered his room for probably over 8 months period, as I was selling my home. Bitter sweet moments for sure. The best memories are in my heart. ❤️ God bless you and your journey. You have purpose and God has a plan for you still, hugs!
I'm sorry for your loss just take your time and just do what you can I know how hard lost my husband in 2015 and it took me about 4 years before I could do anything but now I'm doing a little bit at a time now just loss my son 2023 in January I just put some of his stuff down stairs in the celler I'm just doing a little bit at a time ❤❤❤. Give your self some time .God be with you and your family.
I'm 84 and finally let go of "things." I had my family go through things and see if they wanted anything. It was not as hard as I thought. It was freeing. Instead of leaving things in a will, let them have it now.
This is the perfect day for me to watch your video. I’m going to “My Sisters Place” it is a store where all profits go to helping women in sad situations and need help. This knowledge helps me so much. I feel not sad but happy to help another person…..
I’ll watch you do another declutter. Just know I love you and Jason both even though I don’t really know you. I feel your pain. And I hope that my husband or I does not reach that point.
We have now laid three parents with dementia to rest. Last month, we moved my mother, who also has dementia, to assisted living. In cleaning out her home, we processed 5 bedrooms full of accumulation. That was three closets and a six foot wide built in bureau full of clothing. We felt sad, perplexed and resentful all at the same time. All I know is, I don’t want to do that to my children. I’m declutterring as we speak. Thank you for this video and all the others you’ve shared. God bless and sustain you on this journey! ❤️
I have been through this. I cleared my grandmother’s home by myself. Now I am helping my mom take care of declutterring soooo much. I’m being honest with her about what my brother, sister, or I won’t want one day. I do it in a loving way and we’re getting it done. Next I will tackle my own junk. 😅
Agreed. I've been a caregiver for so many people. I'm still getting rid of their stuff and now my own so I'm not part of the cycle. It's brutal clearing out other people's stuff when you're trying to grieve
What really strikes me as how much clutter comes from buying, buying and more buying. One big change I have made is that I very rarely go out “shopping” anymore and it’s really freeing! I have been decluttering the last few years and finally have just things I want and mostly use. My life is so much better as my mind is so free. ❤
Same here. I'm exhausted from all the decisions I have to make, the work it takes to list all the stuff, sell it, or even fill bags of stuff that's not worth selling and take it to goodwill. It takes so much time, effort, and on top of that I can't forget what someone else said in the comments in one of the decluttering videos I watched: all this stuff used to be money... makes me sick to my stomach
I absolutely love you! My home was clean and relatively organized, until my husband got dementia. He is in heaven now, I have cancer that is controlled by a medication that makes me feel exhausted. I so need to begin to declutter and your video has given me hope. I can at least start! Thank you, Lesley! ❤
I'm an 82 year old womanand active . One of the most difficult emo tion thing to face,was to acknowledge that getting rid of the power,tools that I was no longer physically able to use,safely also was,a,recognition that a,whole piece of my renovation identity was was also gone. I grived that much more than the tools.
I totally hear what you are sharing. There truly is a sadness and a feeling of loss that comes with saying goodbye to the abilities of your younger self that comes with aging, which is ok. I have to remember to be gentle/kind to myself through the process. ❤
I found that when I got divorced I developed a stronger affinity for tools as they made me feel safer, like I would still be okay. I consider myself a renovator, but seem to be lacking skills. I’m in my early 50’s. Not sure if I should give up or keep trying to learn.
I just found your channel today. My late husband had dementia so I know how difficult it is to be a caregiver. My husband spent over $500 for 5 pieces of Hull pottery and then I took his bank card, the checkbook, and his van keys. I realized his mind wasn’t working right so to protect our finances I had to be drastic. So proud of you for how you are letting go.
Leslie, I've been a resident apartment manager for a senior complex for 28 years. This property was purchased last April 2024 and I need to go. Also, the Lord told me at the end of April, "You're done here". I'm in a one bedroom and live alone. Your video has been a tremendous encouragement! When you asked, "who's going to want this when I'm gone?" and "I don't want my legacy to be storage containers of stuff". Powerful to say the least. Continued grace, the joy of the Lord and Blessings!
I purged my house and everything that was in good shape went into the yard. It looked like a big ole yard sale but a big ole sign that said FREE STUFF!!!! Anything that didn’t get taken went to Goodwill. It made it so much easier to deal with. I think about half of what I put out was given away. Whole house DONE in a week
i don't have a yard but i do have a magical curb, almost everything i put out there finds a new owner, which makes it so much easier for me to let things go. and once the stuff is gone it's GONE, out of sight and surprisingly out of mind.
You hit on the simplest but most helpful thought - the money is already spent, already wasted, and you have that thing just sitting there, unused. We’ve lost 3 parents in 2 1/2 years and we have sentimental items that do not work in my home and no one else wants. It’s so hard to let go…
I lost my mom in 2016. I took pictures of her things because I was so afraid of losing memories. Other reasons for not letting go of things is the concern that her stuff would go to the landfill. It made me feel much better when her things went to people needing them.
Decluttering is challenging and for a long time I procrastinated. I found that if I schedule a morning ahead of time, go buy my favorite fast food (Firehouse Sub!) and put in the the fridge for when I complete the morning's work, I can get things done! Remember to "eat the elephant a bite at a time!"
I survived an hours-long, violent assault in 2016. I tried to pretend that nothing had happened, and kept working, kept pushing… until I couldn’t any longer. In 2018, I just sort of imploded. Couldn’t bring myself to get out of bed. Wouldn’t eat. Ended up in hospital with kidney stones because even taking in water felt pointless- it wasn’t worth it to me. Here we are 6 years later almost to the day, and while I’ve improved, it is a LOT to try to create a new life for oneself after trauma hits us (whether that’s a loss, a medical crisis, an attack, an accident). I’ve been through a lot in my life, and my family was gone by the time I was 35. Grandmother was lost to dementia and it’s something I fear myself. I just wanted to send empathy, warmth, & understanding from my home to yours… We all have different battles in life, but heartache & overwhelm usually get all of us at some point or another. Wishing you love, comfort, strength, & moments of respite as you walk your path💝 You’re not alone!
My friend you aren’t alone either. I imploded as well and I prayed for a solution. I’m a Christian and I knew I needed help to get out of the rut I have been in for months. I timidly asked my Primary Dr for mental health consult. Of course she said yes. Then when they tried to reach me I wouldn’t answer the phone. When a few more miserable weeks went by I reached out…and I’m SO glad I have! She turned out to be a Christian lady and we have a plan. We will be addressing my own SA and how feelings have been emerging surrounding it. I thought I had dealt with it all,’but I think it’s time for another layer to be addressed. They have diagnosed me with PTSD. So here I go! 😅 I feel so much hope again! So I might gently suggest maybe it’s time for something to help you along to deal with your trauma. God bless ❤️
I'm in my 60s with 3 grown up daughters and have been decluttering this year. I ask them if they want certain items which has helped enormously. Its lovely seeing these things in their own homes too. Even jewelry i no longer wear from hubby is now being worn by them❤
I wish my 3 daughters wanted some of my things. When I ask they say they don’t want anything. Even my jewelry! I love to decorate for the seasons so I have an enormous amount crafting supplies and decor.
I use a donation center that donated to US Vets and they pick up at my home it's great. Because donations make it into my car and ride around with me for weeks. A lot of donation centers are limited what they take as well as only take donations on certain days which makes it hard. So making an appointment for them to come and pick up everything is the best.
My husband has dementia and I was going to clean out his closet.He came in and asked what I was doing. I said I wanted to clean the closet. Everything I was going to donate is still here in the closet.Everything I showed him he said I want to keep that…..So, we did exactly what he wanted. Maybe another day.
Hi Leslie, this is my first time visiting your house, thank you for letting us in and I am using an online translator. Before I had a huge amount of sets of dishes for at least 8 people, now that my husband and I are alone, I realize that we no longer need all that, and I realized that before I didn't need them either, (imagine, two sets of crockery for each season of the year) followed by a lot of dirty dishes to wash after family meals, with how easy and practical it is to have disposable paper plates and cups, which now end up in my compost pile. I am trying to eliminate depression from my life and seeing everything that is no longer used makes me feel so bad and think so much that I should get rid of it because every time I see them when I walk near them it makes me sad. . I cling to what will not return. And the worst of all, whatever the case may be, is that I am forgetting to live in the present. You have done a great job showing us your video, but I am not referring to the physical effort you have made, but to the motivation and teaching that you have been able to transmit to us through it. Please accept a warm hug, from Tulsa, Oklahoma.
Excellent decluttering vlog here! I took notes. When I am indecisive about donating “good stuff “ or am thinking I need to hang on to something to sell later, I try to remember that fantastic feeling I had when I found something truly wonderful in a thrift store for pennies on the dollar. I am more inclined to donate the item so that someone else can get that same kind of blessing.
My ex husband was a dumper. I’m left with going through all of it. I have a shed, basement and backyard. I tackle each little by little. I give myself much grace with God leading.
I’ve watched a number of videos of declutterring, most, if not all, have a spare space to move things to sort, or clear out the area they want to work in. None fit my situation…I live in a studio apartment and I don’t have a spare area to move things out to, unless I take things out to my balcony, and then I’d be dealing with the weather, if I didn’t finish in a day. I also have a heart condition which limits my energy, strength for lifting, and how long I can work before I get tired and need to take a break. Your video, tho, was an inspiration because of all that you had to go through, and the before and after shots. I would love to tackle a room in a day…or even a week, but I know that isn’t going to happen, but seeing all that you accomplished, on your own, gives me encouragement to persevere and just keep working at my pace, knowing that I’ll get through it all. My kids have already said they don’t want my things, so I need to keep only what I want/need to use the rest of my life. Best of luck completing your declutterring and getting your husband to accept the things if his that you try to get rid of.
My favorite video! Trying to declutter is the worse when you think about sentimental things important to you, but probably not important to your kids when deciding what to keep in the future. Good job!
Bless your heart. This has to be so tough to do all by yourself! It is so hard to let go of previous versions of ourselves. I own my own organizing business because I love being able to help people so they don’t feel so alone and overwhelmed by everything. Blessings to you! 😊
Please know that although we don't know each other personally, you are not alone. You have so many people thinking of you and praying for you and Jason. Hang in there, Leslie! 🙏 Julie
This makes me want to tackle my garage now. It is full of my husband’s tools that he has not used since his brain injury and subsequent dementia (14 years).It seems so overwhelming to start and also brings feelings of sadness. Yes it is a reminder of what you are going through, and yes you are all by yourself.We just had our 43rd anniversary during a hurricane here in Texas. He forgot which was the first time, but it was very hot and disorienting for him due to the storm and power outage with no a/c or lights which literally wears you out physically as well as emotionally. Thank you so much and carry on with love ❤to you,dear Leslie.
definitely take care of this area. My parents didn't. The tools stood in place and we were walking through all that rusting/dusty stuff every time we went into the house. The garage is the main entrance. So often I fantasized about emptying it out and getting the floor reconditioned and cleaning everything top to bottom. But it isn't my home. Now, my dad's gone and it's just my mom there and she has no interest or energy to tackle it.
Omgosh Leslie, I have to say I was very surprised that your cabinets looked JUST LIKE MINE! I had to laugh, it made my day because I did not expect it. You are truly like the majority of us and I admire you very much!
When my husband began memory decline he bought so many tools for his work building but he wasn’t able to do that any more. He borrowed money on the equity in our house that I didn’t know about.
Time stamp 11:00 is an important point for so many people. So true when she says, "You already wasted the money..." It goes hand in hand with "stop buying stuff that you're not going to need or keep. " This video is very insightful, and I, too, was tired of watching 20 somethings declutter
I absolutely love this video. This is what I needed. Thank you for sharing real life. I get tired of seeing unrealistic content on other channels. That isn’t real life. This type of video gives me a boost to declutter my home. 😊❤️
I identify so much with you. My husband was a prepper. We prepared for Y2K. When that mindset is combined with Alzheimer’s disease, it makes moving extra difficult. We moved many things because it was easier to move things than try to convince him to let it go. We threw out many things and donated many things and sold many things. We had a large roll-off dumpster that we filled to the brim and many many truckloads that went to Salvation Army. Mike passed away in 2020. I’m still coming across items that I have to embrace. Sometimes I can let them go. Sometimes I’m still not ready. I’m 😅81, it’s important for my health to simplify now. It will make things easier for my children also. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you walk this difficult and confusing path ❤
That's understandable Susan, your living space should make life easier and reflect who you are. Also if that's you in the photo you look so joyful, you have a glow around you. 😊
@@chaoticneutralsheep Thank you for your kind words. I’m now 81. My life is so blessed because I discovered that I am an alcoholic. I’m not a drunk, I don’t have low morals, I don’t not have willpower. There is a reason why I drink the way I do, and there IS a solution. I didn’t start drinking alcoholically until about 10-15 years ago. My God opened my mind to see that I had a new master. It wasn’t G O D but G I N. I went to an A.A. meeting the next day, and my life has been changed. God is so good 😊
I recently saw old pictures of my old condo after I got it staged for the open house. It was an eye opener to realize how much I loved it after I had cleared out a lot of my stuff. It has really stuck with me and made me want to declutter.
I am currently going through this. With the government and economy the way it is, I have been changing my life-style in a huge way. I absolutely have to get rid of things that I always enjoyed. We entertain differently, and actually not entertaining much at all anymore. We are building up food storage differently because of our age and where we live. We need to make sure we can stay warm and not be hungry during snow storms, or worse. We built a greenhouse and I am learning how to grow in it. I love it but it literally takes daily monitoring. No difficult but definitely needs to be done or something will die or not product what it is intended to produce. We are becoming quite senior and although in generally good health we definitely are declining from what we could do 10 years ago, and needing room to prepare for taking care of our ourselves better - leaning toward a more self sufficient life style. So older precious things have to move out to make way for our new life style which will also be precious to us in a whole new way. The one thing that does not change, that I HATE clutter. It literally stresses me out. So things MUST change. I am pleased that I just happened to come by this channel….as it is encouraging me to keep going at going through my dream retirement home….it has become tarnished and must be detailed and shiny once again.
Your video has been a tremendous encouragement! When you asked, "who's going to want this when I'm gone?" and "I don't want my legacy to be storage containers of stuff". Powerful to say the least. Just because it is sentimental to me, doesn't mean my kids are going to want it. That makes me sad because they are in such a toss away society. So...on to decluttering my basement and garage!!! Leslie, thank you so much for sharing even the hard stuff. Your are an inspiration to so many. Even though we're not dealing with an illness, decluttering things that have been passed down is hard too!!! Janelle from Ohio
I can so identify with you. The only thing is, I did the decluttering after my husband passed from dementia 2 years ago. He would have just been to upset with me if I tried when he was here. My kids helped me and got me through all of it.
I started decluttering in July of 2014 because we were going to move house (we didn't in the end - but we were going to!) Wow! That's 10 years ago! The neighbors probably thought we *were* indeed moving out lol! At that point we had over 30 years of 'stuff' that I began to get rid of! I consider myself a minimalist. Last week, I decided to make yet another pass through my house (one area at a time) and I'm amazed at what I'm finding to let go of! So until I actually *do* move house ..... this will be more or less a never ending process! PS! I now have empty drawers and cabinets. And many of my kitchen cabinets are only HALF full! (the 50% rule)
Its been my experience in life...people who give a lot of Grace and kindness are those that get it the least, and most often need it the most! Love your honesty and know you and yours stay in my prayers. We all need to show more Grace and kindness these days. No one gets out without scars. Head high ..crown straight, wrist wave queen to queen! LOL
Thank you so much for sharing this video and for your honestly and transparency. I know it was God who helped me find you today. We had a situation where I needed to care for a small child for 12 weeks, and I’m in the process of nesting deeply and decluttering our basement, (which waited 7 years while we cared for both my husbands parents and my daddy, until the Lord called them home) and we raised and homeschooled our 6 children and have just now become empty nesters at ages 61 and 70! 😂 I had an accident about 3 weeks in to the childcare and tore my rotator cuff, so had surgery this past Friday. Our AC unit had to be replaced so that is motivation to ask the men in, show them the mess, and take a deep breath and know that somehow we shall get thru this! I am so grateful that you’re moving thru and persevering on your tasks with such a sweet heart and attitude. God bless you and warm hugs from KY! You’ve added a lot of sunshine to my situation. ❤
I appreciate your video. My husband passed almost three years ago. He was a wonderful husband, dad, and grandfather. But he was a huge, huge, huge collector of books, mining equipment, soda pop bottles, and thousands upon thousands of of football cards. Some could be quite valuable but I don’t have the tome or energy to figure it all out. I’m pretty much on a kinda of a roll, finding places to donate, sell, or give away. Not only is physically demanding (I’m 73) but so emotional too. I was sorry to see you break down in tears. Jan in Kentucky 💙
Wow, what an emotional and inspirational video. Hi, my name is Wendy and I am new here. I just came across your channel and think you are an amazing women. You are super sweet and very genuine. I have watched a few of your videos now, and have really enjoyed them. I personally suffer from a few different auto-immune diseases and have had numerous neck and back surgeries. So, I know how clutter can accumulate in a household. Strong strong, you got this.
I also have 4 auto immune diseases and am getting ready to start my second time to start declutterring the basement. I’m overwhelmed since the last 14 years I’ve been dealing with being a caregiver & guardian for my son who is mentally ill. I also the last couple years over looked taking care of my mother while she was in the nursing home and her finances and was the trustee until she just recently passed. All these things cause you to get more clutter over the years. You have no time for yourself, you are taking time for others all the time. Watching you makes me realize I must get busy again and put action into my plan!! I will feel so much better. I already had one of the sons take some of his stuff out of the basement he wanted. The rest will probably be dumped in the garbage. I don’t know why we hold on to stuff!! Thank you!!
I've always said, the more space you have, the more crap you hold on to. I'm grateful for our small home. My husband has terminal cancer and I might one day be left to tend to our 46 years of all things. I'm always going through our stuff and donating at least monthly. It helps me mentally to let go of things that now are not as important to me as it once was. Every 6 months I go through our clothes and household items. Thank you for sharing this video. I understand somewhat how hard it was emotionally letting some things go.
Leslie, I’m right there with you!!! My husband has PSP (progressive supranuclear palsy) Of course I have to do everything inside and outside myself and I never feel in control about anything!!! Its been that way for 10 years and I am mentally and emotionally fatigued and feel so unsuccessful in everything I need to accomplish!!! One day at a time, right?! I’m proud of you and I’m proud of myself. Sending love to you and Jason 💝🙏🏻
My parents were hoarders and stuffed every room, corner and attic. A defective wire arched in the wall 30 years ago and slowly smouldered thru the wall up to the attic. They had left for a 4 day vacation on Saturday and on Sunday the roof collapsed in flames. It was burned to the ground! Thankfully they were not at home because if they were, grandkids were always there. They lost everything, even their vehicles. They rebuilt and wouldn't you know they stuffed it back up again, but not the attic because my dad could not get up there. We lost him 9 years ago and our mom died 5 years ago and boy was it a BIG job clearing out all their junk. I've been working on my house now that I'm 73 and getting rid of things we don't need anymore. Its amazing how much crap we collect throughout our life. You are doing great, Leslie. One day at a time is all you can do. Good Luck.
Thank you for sharing this video! My Mom had dementia and I know how hard the journey is. Bless you both! I struggle getting rid of her things and things I might need later. Little by little I'm getting it done. I donated 8 boxes of stuff today and it felt great! I set a time limit... 15 minutes and do all I can during that time.. it really helps when I'm overwhelmed. I've also set goals to fill a box or garbage bag before I take a break or stop until the next time. You're a true inspiration!
This was really inspiring. I loved the quote about "just because it made you happy in the past" and the if you get overwhelmed walk away! I struggle with the things I once loved and with the things I bought to do like crafts, and my books ( so many books) because I think well, once the house is cleaned out I will then have time and space to do them ( or read them) and yet so many things have sat for 5 years or more undone or unread. There is a chance we will also be moving in the next year and I do not want to haul the clutter with me. I also do not wish to leave a houseful of stuff for my kids someday, The kids have all collected their treasures from their childhoods from the house. We never know how long we have or how long we will be clear headed or healthy and mobile as we age ,so I am just trying to keep what we truly love and truly use and making space to just breathe and enjoy my life. But still struggling with the hobby room and the library because as I age those are the activities that I will turn to each day??!! ( i also laughed at the 5 sewing machines.... I think we have 3 and no one really ever sews either( if any one else is hesitating on a bunch of sewing machines but are afraid to let go because you like to do projects once in awhile FYI many libraries now lend them out for that occasional project or it may be a place to donate one you have call your local library) .
Thank you so much for this. I am sitting here tearing up. My significant other has dementia. His hoarding has doubled over the past few years. Ibsm overwhelmed. I need a recliner for myself and delivery has to be postoned due to needing to clear out living room . You validated my thoughts on how dementia will increase hoarding, he has had hoarding for years, but now it is beyond what i can handle. Thank you, thank you. My new mantea is progress not perfection. Off to the living room, say prayers for me.
I know what you’re talking about when you say that you’re doing everything by yourself, my husband was in a tractor trailer accident and he is now unable to walk without assistance and I miss his help so much and now I’m in a huge home and no help praying for you guys ❤
Of all the decluttering videos I watched or books I've read, this one really hit me. Because if you, of all people who us the epitome of decorating, etc, have so much clutter, then I don't feel like such a failure, and can take that first baby step to decluttering my home. Thank you!❤
My husband is an automotive hoarder. He has a two car garage, a bedroom, a shed, and a storage unit full of automotive stuff. That doesn't count what is parked 3 wide and 2 deep in the driveway. I believe he has dementia. However, refuses to talk with his doctor about anything. His paranoia is amazing when it comes to doctors and mental health. You are inspiring me to at least ensure my space is decluttered. Thank you ❤
This is what my husband is doing with mountain bikes. He has filled our entire basement with bikes and parts. He does sell them, but it is so overwhelming to just go down there. He is also over purchasing items like light bulbs (I filled 5 giant storage bins with them when I got them all out). It just hit me like a ton of bricks when she said hoarding is a sign of dementia 😢
I absolutely love your raw honesty and showing actual clutter. You really dont know what is going o in someone else's life! My husband had a traumatic brain injury a year ago and things just really went by the wayside.
This is an older video, but it came at the right time. I went today to help a family member who called me and admitted they have a hoarding issue. I went to help and was overwhelmed but just got to work. I kept telling the member that you can only tackle a large thing with small steps, but you have to tackle it. It was an emotional day for both them and me as I know this person has mental issues due to cancer that led to this. But it was so overwhelming and emotional for me to tackle and then come home and process. I cried when you cried because I could feel exactly how you were feeling. Thank you for being real and transparent.
I live with my 2 month old son and i was going through my house for the first time in who knows how long and i was so proud i chucked out 10 massive bags of rubbish whilst juggling my baby- you really inspired me to clean today so thanks so much
Oh, my! I can so relate to your emotions and sense of being overwhelmed. I took care of my parents 'things' as they no longer could. Then I took care of my older brother's mega 'stuff'. He had dementia and bought things like Jason has done. It was so emotionally hard to make decisions about someone else's life collections. Now, I'm working hard to downsize our home. I, too, have been alone on most of the journey (my husband now has signs of dementia). The younger you begin, the easier it is for you. One step at a time! The relief I feel after cleaning a space is worth so much more than the stress of seeing all the items in the closet! Thank you for a wonderfully realistic video. My prayers will continue for you, and remember, grace abounds!!! 🙏💞🙏💞🙏💞
I get it! I just decluttered my whole house to move into a condo. My husband has Alzheimer's. Getting rid of things is like letting go of your past life. I did it and I moved and I feel much better. You can do this❤️❤️
Wow, I’m so glad I found this channel because I can relate to my husband had a stroke like I said he lost short-term memory loss no longer drives. He lost his vision. I do all the driving plus he has cancer. I’m running everything I think has gotten bad so he can’t pick up too much heavy may be 30 pounds, hard to clean up And for 10 years, I’ve been a community activist in my neighborhood so I still do things and when I actually do things it’s actually a little bit of meantime so I can be with Women. We have the same thing in common (community)and then I started .Gardening when pandemic hit , it also helps me . I stay home caregiver., Oh what drives me crazy that my husband wants to be out and about like all day .. and with his blood platelets so low, I cannot risk him to get sick so I keep telling him we have to stay home or we have to be careful. I have tons of things I gotta do. I don’t need to be in the streets all the time. Already I’m always in the medical center at least 3,4 times a month for his oncologist .,it’s alot.,I felt like I’ve had a couple of breakdowns myself with just being so much on me with his dad who’s full-blown dementia it’s just so much and you know I had to break down because my husband was always the main breadwinner and always the strong one and now I have to be the strong one I always been since I was in my 30s, I’m always taking care of someone. I took care of my mother. Then I took care of my mother-in-law who passed from cancer a couple years back and then David had the stroke and was found out with cancer and his dad had a stroke and has to as well his dad’s already 79 years old I actually have physical therapy., What does keep him happiest when my grandbaby comes he loves her so much. We only have two grandchildren the baby and my 19 year old granddaughter and she’s off life so I don’t see her as much.
Thank you for sharing this. Powerful, triggered tears. My mom had dementia and just last week she went to assisted living begrudgingly. She is high functioning so people who aren't around her long enough don't see what I experienced. The spending is incredible, we had multiple Amazon and Temu packages every day. I know this is not your other channel but you turned off comments and I have been with your channel for a long time. I just want you both to know, I send love and light and so many prayers to you both. My journey is not over, I now have to de-clutter being in a wheel chair after breaking my ankle. You inside me Leslie! Thank you and God Bless🩷💙
Oh my! Tysm for this. In the span of 6 weeks, my family lost 3 family members who meant the world to us. My husband and I had to clear all 3 of their homes, all containing childhood memories. When I saw the quote at 12:51, I realized that we kept things that NEVER brought happiness. My mom lost her husband to Alzheimer’s a few years ago. I was there through everything and I am still there as she declutters from all of the “pile up” that happened while she cared for him.
❤❤❤ You are so Strong, Thank you for sharing the hard things! I have been helping Mom with Dads treasures, it can be very overwhelming. Mom saved so many cool things from my youth I didn't expect to see again. Now I have to go through again to see what I really want for keepsakes today. My favorite time was finding all her clay pots hidden in her yard. We only have so much space for stuff. Love all your inspiring vlogs🎉
I needed this! Thank you for sharing your true feelings during the declutter. I moved in with my mom after my dad passed away from cancer almost 10 years ago. THEN, my mom was diagnosed with dementia almost 7 years ago. A year ago I finally needed help and found a good place for her to live. I am also on my own and very overwhelmed. I need to tackle my storage unit I put my 3 bedroom condo when I moved in with my mom. I have been struggling with decluttering mom and dad's stuff. They kept everything. And now it's time!! I need to get it done. Thank you for your inspiration.
In 2004 we had a move to a new city from a home we lived in since 1987. Back then there was a show called Clean Sweep, my husband and I watched several episodes to get into the right frame of mind to declutter. It worked. Fast forward to 2008 and we moved again and I was disappointed with myself that we had accumulated more stuff. Now I have learned my lesson and at least once a year I go through my decor stash. My biggest thing was to organize old photos, I would get really depressed when I tried to weed out insignificant ones. I procrastinated with this until 2022 when I turned 60. I found an attachment that I could take pictures of my old photos with my iPhone and save them on a SD card . I have it in an electronic photo frame and I now I enjoy seeing the photos on a regular basis . I feel for you Leslie , it is so hard to rid items from our home when they hold memories. Thanks for sharing this part of your life. I am sure you have helped a lot of people.❤️
Hello, this video, the ‘fading’ video …and I am also watching ‘A Day In The Life…’ from 3 days ago, but stopped it to write this…and they have really hit me. My husband was diagnosed about 3 years ago with ‘mild cognitive decline’ but since then had a myocardial infarction with a stem Nov 2022, then Dec 8 2023 he had surgery for an ileostomy (severe ulcerative colitis since spring 2020). He was doing fantastic, then about 2 1/2 weeks later he had a mild stroke…but because he didn’t think it was a stroke he would not go to the hospital. So, the damage was done and he was diagnosed with dementia. He is with the VA and has gone through 7 hrs of testing…again. He also has aphasia, some days are better for him than others. So, we are just starting on this journey. I want to thank you for making your videos. I know everyone is different, and we still don’t know what kind of dementia he has….but your honest heart felt videos along with others that I have seen on TH-cam etc are helping me to prepare for the future. I think the scary thing for me,is that back in 2020 when my husbands UC first started…it came on suddenly and he ended up in the emergency room…when they scanned to see what was going on, they discovered that he had an abdominal aortic aneurism…6cm. They did surgery about a month later, which leaked and they patched it. Because of having all those things happen within 4 years…and now dementia…I find myself always worrying, expecting the worst to happen at any moment. So when I watch your videos, and I see you getting emotional…my heart goes out to you and to your husband. I admire the courage that you both show and I want you to know that I so appreciate you sharing your experience with the world. You show me that there are still good times to be had, I just need to learn to let go of the constant worry as best I can and realize that I’m not alone in this. None of us are. ❤
I am walking the path you are on. My dear husband is suffering from Dementia, and our little cottage has to have order, or I cannot breathe. What resonated was the stuff you have already spent money on, but is now a burden, it is soooo true!!! I love that you showed us the good, the bad and the ugly (this disease is so ugly), and it helps me to know that a calm mind and happy heart can happen, even in the midst of all the hard stuff! You are an inspiration to me!!! thank you
Leslie, you are a miracle worker. Bless your sweet, hardworking heart. Thank you for sharing such a tough subject. And what perfect words, you've already wasted the money. I have to go now, I have decluttering to do. Bless you and Jason
Oh, my goodness, this is what I needed today. I just left my parents' home feeling so overwhelmed and alone. They both had vascular dementia, I lost my mom 2 years ago and my dad a couple of months ago. Getting past being their caretaker for the last several years, to preparing their home for sale has been difficult. They were hoarders and your video reminded me of the reasons for so much stuff! I think I can face it again tomorrow with a new plan. Starting small. Thak you for sharing and making a difference. Prayers for you and Jason as you continue on this journey.
Needed this too, except my parents are still here and I am trying to help them stay in their home by making it safe and healthy. It is so hard and I am neglecting my household.😥
I found by asking for someone to come “help” what I really needed was someone to talk too. Share ideas, stories that went with items. It was much easier to get rid of stuff. May you find strength and peace from God during this time.
@@lilongge1304 Something has to give when you are the primary caretaker of your loved ones. I' so blessed I got to spend that time with my mom and dad. I pray for you and your family as you go through this.
You did such a good job explaining your thought process during the declutter. You have such an obstacle with Jason's illness. Nice to see him still being able to drive the tractor that he loves. You handle everything with such grace. Thank you for sharing. ❤️❤️❤️
I wish I could lend you a hand. Decluttering and organizing are 2 things I love to do. You did a great job and I understand it being overwhelming. We are creatures of our stuff and we Americans seem to have lots of it. Thanks for the inspiration.
I really needed this video, I’ve been struggling to declutter, I want to but it’s hard and I’m doing it alone too! My mom had dementia…PICKS and I cared for her for 8 years, she became a hoarder really bad, it was tough to see her like that. I completely understand what you’re dealing with and how emotional it is. I’ve watched countless videos on people declutter it and haven’t found anything that has helped until now! Your words of wisdom and seeing that even you have rooms like so many others is so helpful and so encouraging! Thank you so much! ❤ 🙏
When we bought our home 31 years ago we only had 2 chairs and a table in the basement. Now the shelves are full. I want to declutter them SOON. A lot is Christmas stuff that I will never use again. I’m going to let grands pick what they want and rest goes. Thanks for the inspiration. 💚
You touched on all the things that I struggle with in decluttering, especially being overwhelmed. Hugs to you Leslie and thanks for this video and keeping it real!
I’ve never commented before. I’m so moved by this video and how honest it is. God bless you for sharing and caring and helping put perspective on emotional clutter. My partner has been going through cancer treatments for over a year. My organization and upkeep of my home has been put on hold to the point that I feel like I’m drowning. I needed this video to help me not feel alone. Thank you, thank you dear lady! ❤❤❤
I love how you keep your experiences real! Life has thrown a lot of curve balls your way and you are facing them with grace, humility and understanding. So many times while watching this video I wished I could reach out and give you a big hug! You have inspired me with your determination to make the best out of the life you’ve been given. Both you and Jason are in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong. ❤️
I'm an old nurse and I recognize that food tray rack! I have a 1940s cabinet salvaged from my hospital's laboratory as a bedside stand. and some mid-century chairs that used to be in patient rooms. These will not be leaving my house for a while but I am inspired by your video to get rid of some "basement things".
Leslie thank you for simplifying this! One thing that helped me is when you said you are leaving the organizing for another time. This first phase being the decluttering. I think I’ve put those steps all together and that is even more overwhelming to think of doing both at the same time. This was a really helpful video with your bullet points, quotes and just being honest about the struggle. Bless you and Jason!
I can't tell you how much this video has helped me. Our stories are similar in a lot of ways, and I spend most days with that overwhelmed feeling. It's paralyzing. This video made me weep, but it also has given me motivation that I haven't felt in a long time. Thank you
My heart was breaking for you, so hard to do this by yourself and all the items that Jason won’t use again. You are such an inspiration and giving us a raw look into your life. God bless you and Jason!
I've been decluttering for years but I've been holding on to more than I need to so in the next few weeks - I'm going to go "scorch earth" and get rid of even more stuff. As I get older ---- I really want to live a more simple life. You're right ------ it's very emotional but as I "purge" ---- the trip down "memory lane" is necessary for healing.
Love this video! My husband passed in December and I just had to go through all his clothes and man treasures. It was hard, I cried, but even found things that made me smile. Now that its done it feels like a weight has lifted. I donated some to a store here that gives the proceeds to the local animal shelter, he would have liked that! Thanks again for all you do!
I always think about the seasons of life. One thing I have been able to continue doing is knitting and crocheting. I started doing these when I was a young mom. I'm still able to do them at age 73. But there are things that I have needed to set aside because my life has changed and I'm good with those changes. Your advice is right about starting small and enjoying the accomplishments. Concerning things: we were given an Insta Pot. I thought it was more work than it was worth and promptly donated it. Great work!
Thank you for sharing your struggle, I can relate. I am currently dealing with cleaning out my mom’s house, she is 84 years old. Some days it easy to talk to her and other days we have to reason with her what to keep. I really needed to see this video today! Thanks……… A Charming Abode!
I also know how emotionally upsetting it is to declutter when your husband has dementia. I cried as I watched your video. My husband has had dementia for 8 years & the past 18 months he has been in a skilled nursing facility. He was very athletic, he was a 5k road race runner, a cyclist & it was so emotionally difficult for me to go through his athletic wear, gear, etc. just a few months ago. I have his medals & trophies he has won displayed still in our home & also in his room at the facility. He too had hoarder tendencies. 😢What a dreadful disease this is. Your transparency as you go though this journey with Jason has been encouraging to me & so many others. Thank you for sharing all that you do. Remember that Joy & sorrow can co-exist. 🙏❤️🙏
Leslie, my heart just broke and felt so heavy for you with this video! Even tho you didn’t really say anything in particular it was just your spirit and eyes, I said a prayer for you cause I know what it is to be the wife, mother, grandmother and greatest of all the caregiver! Unless one has been in that position they haven’t a clue to the mental, emotional, physical and Spiritual drain it puts on one’s mind and body! I know you are a woman of faith and I too am, God is carrying you through times you are hurting, afraid, angry or lost! Just the name of Jesus brings renewed strength and comfort!! You and Jason are in my prayers!❤❤
Thank you Beautiful Leslie!! I am in that struggle space, circumstances are quite different.. the 'clutter' is MENTALLY exhausting for me, it's SENTIMENTAL ! I lost my Daddy and Momma and have very little family, and they chose not to have anything to do with my little family. Like we are neighbors , my ONLY sibling and I haven't laid eyes on her since last Christmas. She is never 'able to' do anything with us but can and does everyone else... i'm finding a part of me is starving to have family bonds, to be part of, and those 'life long friends' I guess we served our purpose... I'll just leave that unspoken... and it's made it SO much harder to turn loose of stuff. My Mom and Dad's stuff, I feel guilty, SO Guilty, like I'm doing something wrong, or letting go of the little piece I have left of them, then I'm letting go of my only sibling and her family, " stuff" its all I have of them, my MIL is in Hospice as we speak, so there is the trying to hold on to her, knowing what coming, worrying to have a piece of them for my children, I guess I'm trying to pack anything in to fill these holes and voids in my heart, then ADD, it took 24 YEARS of prayers .. going through SO medically, sooo much before God gave us our first child, a Son. Then 6 years later, my daughter, 2 years later my baby boy. So I have a 12, 6 and 4 year old and girl, I STRUGGLE to get rid of their stuff! ANY of it. I mean I have "special" baby clothes, Christensen, Home from Hospital, first church outfits. All 3 were Preemie, NICU babies, the youngest was CCNICU @ Brenners, he was 2.15 pounds and 14.6" long. So he was in preemie for MONTHS. Their first "this and that." Down to their diaper bags, toys, stuffed animals, and they have so many and can I tell you I HATE stuffed animals .. keeping their "build a bear" or the little things I got for them in the NICU that would have our "scent" for their comfort, those are keepsakes, but I mean I struggle to get rid of ANY. So needless to say, I am a GUILT hoarder. Clingy.. trying desperately to hold onto ANYTHING that will make the hurt less and it's emotionally drowning me. Then I get SO overwhelmed trying to get rid of it, I had cancer and the radiation affected my brain and caused me to struggle with organizing, I used to rock it, now the thoughts of it rock my brain and I panic, literal anxiety attacks. I can't figure out how to do this anymore. I NEEDED this. You don't know. Yes, the decluttering, but the REAL, RAW, EMOTIONAL, ITS OK.. GOD HIMSELF sent you my way today. Thank You!! Please know I am praying for you and Jason and the girls, with all my heart.. anyone who has a spare second I TRULY ask if you would pray for us. For my little family. And know wherever you are, whatever the need I'm praying for YOU. In Jesus Name. God's got us! I know He does. Sending love hugs, cheering, and prayers to all.
I’m still decluttering the 3 households I inherited when my big brother, aunt and Nana died. Big brother died in June 2019, Aunt died February 2020 and Nana, who was more of a mum, Dec. 1, 2020. I understand that overwhelming feeling of ‘oh my gosh, there’s soooo much!’ to literally just start sobbing. I finally came up with a game plan and so far, it’s going very well. I had boxes for my cousins and am placing generational items in them to pass down to their children as well as things I know they gifted to each. It’s much easier knowing the good things are going where they should. Also, how much Waterford Crystal do I really need!? It’s gorgeous but I want my cousins to have some and USE it! They will. Much love from Ireland 💚🍀
Leslie, my mom had dementia so I have investigated so much about it. I’m not a doctor or a nurse but my parents taught me a lot about nutrition. I have read articles and books by many doctors where dementia can be improved or even reversed by changing your diet. I wish for you to try it on your husband, and if you are convinced that it helps, that you also use this diet on yourself and pass it on to other people. Please listen to the TH-cam video on “The Mind Body Green Podcast” where he interviews Dr Kat Toups. The interview is called “How to prevent and reverse dementia.” It is rather lengthy so you might have to watch it in sections. There are other dementia videos by other doctors. Good luck to you and Jason. ❤
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Three years ago my ex husband died. Are divorced wasn’t final when he passed a way. I was so overwhelmed and sadden to go back to my house that I still owned to see thing and the condition of the house that I owned I literally had 3 day to to get rid of things to get the house ready to sell . If it wasn’t for God, looking over me I don’t know what I would’ve done. I Had a yard sale for 2 days on the weekend Covid was just ending. I had a lady that came to the yard sale she had just lost her son to Covid and lost her entire house to a fire that had happened next-door to her. She asked me if I had any beds for sale I said well I have a queen size bed, a double bed and a twin bed. You’re welcome to all of them. I gave her sheets and and towels and dishes, God put her in my path.
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Thank you for your videos. I'm just learning about "Executive Dysfunction," and although I'm not considered a hoarder, I feel like one .... its been sad and frustrating to feel stuck. It's been four years since two major losses. When I have a Buddy System, I work steady, organized, and feel like my old self. I wish I could afford to hire a professional organizer, or recuit enough help. Here goes nothing, I'm starting small. Appreciate prayers!
I help a friend but she doesn't drive the 30 miles to come help me 😥. Her stuff is overwhelming and she don't get rid of enough for the tiny space she lives in. When I leave it's frustrating to not see much difference.
❤❤❤yes!! That’s awesome after my mom passed I gave a lot away kept what she had always told me she wanted me to have!!
Wow! God's ways are higher than ours! I love Him so much!
For anyone who is overwhelmed, I can testify that even with physical issues, chronic illness, wrist surgeries, that decluttering is a mind game and on the other side you feel SO good about yourself, and every time you open a closet, cabinet, or drawer, and you can breathe, because everything you see is stuff you intentionally want.... IT FEELS AMAZING. And when you go back again a year or three later, you laugh at what you didn't purge, and you feel another level of empowerment. Great video with such real emotion.
Thank you! I have Lupus and have been trying to declutter and redecorate paint etc since the beginning of summer. I also work nights so I knew it would take me longer than the average person. It has been overwhelming both physically and mentally. I am still only half way through the kitchen. I have been so discouraged and wondering if it was worth it because now I have this big mess. Today I put back one cabinet door and the silverware drawer. All decluttered, organized, new liner, painted etc. I wanted to do it the right way not just paint what you can see. I will keep going slowly but surely knowing it is well worth it! Thank you! Be blessed. ❤
Thank you for sharing. I needed to hear this.
@@mrs.g7795- Sending healing hugs your way. Lupus is nasty!!
Bulging disc, tear disc, degenerative disease, fibromyalgia, Lyme disease, rheumatoid arthritis, pots, vertigo, tiny stroke. And I’m still decluttering. It’s amazing. I am able to breathe.❤️
The only thing holding you back is yourself.
I also think about our children and since our time on Earth isn’t promised and we’re both in our 70’s and I don’t want them to have to deal with all our old stuff.
You made me feel so much better when you said, "We have 5 sewing machines. And neither of us sew." Hahahahahah That was a great chuckle.
I decluttered while my husband was terminally ill. I know it was a matter of having control over something while watching the uncontrollable.
So sorry for your loss
@@valerie718 Thank you
My mom painted the inside of her house while dad was dying for the same reason. She would go to work, go to the hospital, stay till visiting hours were over then go home and paint. Absolutely having control while watching the uncontrollable. You did what you could do to 'keep your head above water'. Prayers.
@@CarolMyself Thanks Carol. Wishing you all the best.
My mom died 6 weeks ago and I am slowly emptying her house. She kept everything beautifully and it was immaculate but she has so much stuff! I dont have any brothers and sisters, and neighbours that said they would help are nowhere in sight so I am doing it on my own. I am in my 60's and have arthritis in my hands but I am determined to do it. I find it so hard to ask for help, so it has because a mission to get it done alone! Some days I am in tears doing it, but I always feel such a sense of achievement when I have done it.
Prayers as you do this! Hugs
@@praiseHim1962God bless you 🙏 ❤
I hope you have the luxury of time so as not to rush. I think it is part of a mourning process as well. Please don't be afraid to ask for help especially from a friend who will keep you on task and asks the hard questions like "will you really use it?", "Does it serve a purpose?". Someone who can/will help prepare a yard sale if you want or just get stuff to the thrift store. Praying for you.
I would help you if I was near. I am supporting you from a far
Wishing I was close enough to help you. Prayers that it gets done and you are relieved of the stress❤
I am sending you all the love. I cared for my dad in my home for 11 years with Dementia as a single so supporting mom or two boys. Somedays I was drowning in stuff because I was so tired and the hoarding and the kids stuff- piled up and I was so ashamed of my house. I saw you bravely open up the storage area and it reminded me of mine… Thank you for normalizing this when it happens.My dad passed on this Thanksgiving and both boys are off to college and I did a massive- 15 SUV load declutter and almost 500 books to the library. It was a massive emotional effort but worth it. BUT you need to give yourself grace if you can’t do it at the time you wanted to. I just didn’t have the emotional bandwidth to do it until now. If you are reading this and drowning I send you love and grace. It’s a lot❤
Leslie, I’m an attorney. I have four granddaughters and grandchildren, etc. etc. I am very busy. I do a lot of stuff lots of hobbies on top of my work. I have to tell you that you are someone to aspire to. Your ability to put on a brave face, even when you were really suffering physically as well because I remember you said you had rheumatoid arthritis on top of everything else. You should be a hero to your kids.
One thing I have tried is: STOP going to Goodwill. Also limit "mindless" wandering through Home Decor stores, etc. Enjoy it but don't bring it home.
Limit scrolling Amazon, etc.
I am now telling myself "I don't need really this."
Trying to use what we have.
I TRY to follow the 1 in 1 out rule...but I allow myself way too much slack! LOL
Amen! Just don't go. It's easy when you stay home.
Yes, I have had to avoid garage sales. Just keep driving.
SOS = Stay Out of Stores
My parents always bought only what they needed and was in the budget. They loved to "window shop " browse, comment and on to the next store window
I subscribed to your channel as soon as you said the word, "Aging."
I've grown weary of watching 20 somethings making videos of decluttering their bedrooms at their parent's houses just because they're bored of their clothes.
I was in an accident a few years ago, and now I'm mostly healed, and want to declutter and reorganize.
Your content works for people who have been through the school of hard knocks.
My husband had Alzheimer's for many years. Sadly he passed last Saturday. I have no idea how I'm going to deal with our storage unit all alone. Missing him is hard enough. Going into storage with all our memorabilia from over the years, I don't know how I'm going to be able to get through it emotionally let alone physically. My hubby was still strong up til the end. But his spatial orientation was gone so he was like a bull in a china shop and I couldn't take him to storage for the last few years. I tried to be prepared for this but there's just no way. You are an inspiration Leslie. My heart goes out to you and Jason. Dementia is such a cruel and treacherous journey. Make the best of every single moment while you can. XX ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss. Tackle your decluttering project when you’re ready. My son passed in 2008, brain cancer, 24 yr old.
I gave special items to his friends and family so they had some memorabilia of Brian, and of course kept some items as well
Couple shirts, trinkets.
I decluttered his room for probably over 8 months period, as I was selling my home.
Bitter sweet moments for sure.
The best memories are in my heart. ❤️ God bless you and your journey. You have purpose and God has a plan for you still, hugs!
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Many prayers for you and your family. My husband passed away 3 weeks ago from LB dementia. It is such a cruel disease. 🙏
I'm sorry for your loss just take your time and just do what you can I know how hard lost my husband in 2015 and it took me about 4 years before I could do anything but now I'm doing a little bit at a time now just loss my son 2023 in January I just put some of his stuff down stairs in the celler I'm just doing a little bit at a time ❤❤❤. Give your self some time .God be with you and your family.
I'm 84 and finally let go of "things." I had my family go through things and see if they wanted anything. It was not as hard as I thought. It was freeing. Instead of leaving things in a will, let them have it now.
This is the perfect day for me to watch your video. I’m going to “My Sisters Place” it is a store where all profits go to helping women in sad situations and need help. This knowledge helps me so much. I feel not sad but happy to help another person…..
I’ll watch you do another declutter. Just know I love you and Jason both even though I don’t really know you. I feel your pain. And I hope that my husband or I does not reach that point.
Congratulations 🎉. You are awesome. ❤
Maybe there is hope for me.
We have now laid three parents with dementia to rest. Last month, we moved my mother, who also has dementia, to assisted living. In cleaning out her home, we processed 5 bedrooms full of accumulation. That was three closets and a six foot wide built in bureau full of clothing. We felt sad, perplexed and resentful all at the same time. All I know is, I don’t want to do that to my children. I’m declutterring as we speak. Thank you for this video and all the others you’ve shared. God bless and sustain you on this journey! ❤️
I have been through this. I cleared my grandmother’s home by myself. Now I am helping my mom take care of declutterring soooo much. I’m being honest with her about what my brother, sister, or I won’t want one day. I do it in a loving way and we’re getting it done. Next I will tackle my own junk. 😅
Agreed. I've been a caregiver for so many people. I'm still getting rid of their stuff and now my own so I'm not part of the cycle. It's brutal clearing out other people's stuff when you're trying to grieve
What really strikes me as how much clutter comes from buying, buying and more buying. One big change I have made is that I very rarely go out “shopping” anymore and it’s really freeing! I have been decluttering the last few years and finally have just things I want and mostly use. My life is so much better as my mind is so free. ❤
Same here. I'm exhausted from all the decisions I have to make, the work it takes to list all the stuff, sell it, or even fill bags of stuff that's not worth selling and take it to goodwill. It takes so much time, effort, and on top of that I can't forget what someone else said in the comments in one of the decluttering videos I watched: all this stuff used to be money... makes me sick to my stomach
I rarely shop, too, anymore…just got new underwear! Nothing in the store appealed to me as I walked through. Got what I needed and left…
@@lyndakling901 exactly! It almost felt like I had gotten over an addiction...truth be told, I've never been addicted to anything other than sugar
I absolutely love you! My home was clean and relatively organized, until my husband got dementia. He is in heaven now, I have cancer that is controlled by a medication that makes me feel exhausted. I so need to begin to declutter and your video has given me hope. I can at least start! Thank you, Lesley! ❤
I'm an 82 year old womanand active . One of the most difficult emo tion thing to face,was to acknowledge that getting rid of the power,tools that I was no longer physically able to use,safely also was,a,recognition that a,whole piece of my renovation identity was was also gone. I grived that much more than the tools.
I totally hear what you are sharing. There truly is a sadness and a feeling of loss that comes with saying goodbye to the abilities of your younger self that comes with aging, which is ok. I have to remember to be gentle/kind to myself through the process. ❤
I found that when I got divorced I developed a stronger affinity for tools as they made me feel safer, like I would still be okay. I consider myself a renovator, but seem to be lacking skills. I’m in my early 50’s. Not sure if I should give up or keep trying to learn.
@@JodeeWalton-n2b Keep learning!! You can do this!!❤
I just found your channel today. My late husband had dementia so I know how difficult it is to be a caregiver. My husband spent over $500 for 5 pieces of Hull pottery and then I took his bank card, the checkbook, and his van keys. I realized his mind wasn’t working right so to protect our finances I had to be drastic. So proud of you for how you are letting go.
Leslie, I've been a resident apartment manager for a senior complex for 28 years. This property was purchased last April 2024 and I need to go. Also, the Lord told me at the end of April, "You're done here". I'm in a one bedroom and live alone. Your video has been a tremendous encouragement! When you asked, "who's going to want this when I'm gone?" and "I don't want my legacy to be storage containers of stuff". Powerful to say the least. Continued grace, the joy of the Lord and Blessings!
"Going after it like I'm freaken moving out!"😂
I purged my house and everything that was in good shape went into the yard. It looked like a big ole yard sale but a big ole sign that said FREE STUFF!!!! Anything that didn’t get taken went to Goodwill. It made it so much easier to deal with. I think about half of what I put out was given away. Whole house DONE in a week
i don't have a yard but i do have a magical curb, almost everything i put out there finds a new owner, which makes it so much easier for me to let things go. and once the stuff is gone it's GONE, out of sight and surprisingly out of mind.
You hit on the simplest but most helpful thought - the money is already spent, already wasted, and you have that thing just sitting there, unused. We’ve lost 3 parents in 2 1/2 years and we have sentimental items that do not work in my home and no one else wants. It’s so hard to let go…
I lost my mom in 2016. I took pictures of her things because I was so afraid of losing memories. Other reasons for not letting go of things is the concern that her stuff would go to the landfill. It made me feel much better when her things went to people needing them.
Decluttering is challenging and for a long time I procrastinated. I found that if I schedule a morning ahead of time, go buy my favorite fast food (Firehouse Sub!) and put in the the fridge for when I complete the morning's work, I can get things done! Remember to "eat the elephant a bite at a time!"
I survived an hours-long, violent assault in 2016. I tried to pretend that nothing had happened, and kept working, kept pushing… until I couldn’t any longer. In 2018, I just sort of imploded. Couldn’t bring myself to get out of bed. Wouldn’t eat. Ended up in hospital with kidney stones because even taking in water felt pointless- it wasn’t worth it to me. Here we are 6 years later almost to the day, and while I’ve improved, it is a LOT to try to create a new life for oneself after trauma hits us (whether that’s a loss, a medical crisis, an attack, an accident). I’ve been through a lot in my life, and my family was gone by the time I was 35. Grandmother was lost to dementia and it’s something I fear myself. I just wanted to send empathy, warmth, & understanding from my home to yours… We all have different battles in life, but heartache & overwhelm usually get all of us at some point or another. Wishing you love, comfort, strength, & moments of respite as you walk your path💝 You’re not alone!
My friend you aren’t alone either. I imploded as well and I prayed for a solution. I’m a Christian and I knew I needed help to get out of the rut I have been in for months. I timidly asked my Primary Dr for mental health consult. Of course she said yes. Then when they tried to reach me I wouldn’t answer the phone. When a few more miserable weeks went by I reached out…and I’m SO glad I have! She turned out to be a Christian lady and we have a plan. We will be addressing my own SA and how feelings have been emerging surrounding it. I thought I had dealt with it all,’but I think it’s time for another layer to be addressed. They have diagnosed me with PTSD. So here I go! 😅
I feel so much hope again! So I might gently suggest maybe it’s time for something to help you along to deal with your trauma.
God bless ❤️
I'm in my 60s with 3 grown up daughters and have been decluttering this year. I ask them if they want certain items which has helped enormously. Its lovely seeing these things in their own homes too. Even jewelry i no longer wear from hubby is now being worn by them❤
I wish my 3 daughters wanted some of my things. When I ask they say they don’t want anything. Even my jewelry! I love to decorate for the seasons so I have an enormous amount crafting supplies and decor.
I use a donation center that donated to US Vets and they pick up at my home it's great. Because donations make it into my car and ride around with me for weeks. A lot of donation centers are limited what they take as well as only take donations on certain days which makes it hard. So making an appointment for them to come and pick up everything is the best.
My husband has dementia and I was going to clean out his closet.He came in and asked what I was doing. I said I wanted to clean the closet. Everything I was going to donate is still here in the closet.Everything I showed him he said I want to keep that…..So, we did exactly what he wanted. Maybe another day.
Hi Leslie, this is my first time visiting your house, thank you for letting us in and I am using an online translator. Before I had a huge amount of sets of dishes for at least 8 people, now that my husband and I are alone, I realize that we no longer need all that, and I realized that before I didn't need them either, (imagine, two sets of crockery for each season of the year) followed by a lot of dirty dishes to wash after family meals, with how easy and practical it is to have disposable paper plates and cups, which now end up in my compost pile. I am trying to eliminate depression from my life and seeing everything that is no longer used makes me feel so bad and think so much that I should get rid of it because every time I see them when I walk near them it makes me sad. . I cling to what will not return. And the worst of all, whatever the case may be, is that I am forgetting to live in the present. You have done a great job showing us your video, but I am not referring to the physical effort you have made, but to the motivation and teaching that you have been able to transmit to us through it. Please accept a warm hug, from Tulsa, Oklahoma.
Excellent decluttering vlog here! I took notes. When I am indecisive about donating “good stuff “ or am thinking I need to hang on to something to sell later, I try to remember that fantastic feeling I had when I found something truly wonderful in a thrift store for pennies on the dollar. I am more inclined to donate the item so that someone else can get that same kind of blessing.
My ex husband was a dumper. I’m left with going through all of it. I have a shed, basement and backyard. I tackle each little by little. I give myself much grace with God leading.
I’ve watched a number of videos of declutterring, most, if not all, have a spare space to move things to sort, or clear out the area they want to work in. None fit my situation…I live in a studio apartment and I don’t have a spare area to move things out to, unless I take things out to my balcony, and then I’d be dealing with the weather, if I didn’t finish in a day. I also have a heart condition which limits my energy, strength for lifting, and how long I can work before I get tired and need to take a break. Your video, tho, was an inspiration because of all that you had to go through, and the before and after shots. I would love to tackle a room in a day…or even a week, but I know that isn’t going to happen, but seeing all that you accomplished, on your own, gives me encouragement to persevere and just keep working at my pace, knowing that I’ll get through it all. My kids have already said they don’t want my things, so I need to keep only what I want/need to use the rest of my life. Best of luck completing your declutterring and getting your husband to accept the things if his that you try to get rid of.
My favorite video! Trying to declutter is the worse when you think about sentimental things important to you, but probably not important to your kids when deciding what to keep in the future. Good job!
Bless your heart. This has to be so tough to do all by yourself! It is so hard to let go of previous versions of ourselves. I own my own organizing business because I love being able to help people so they don’t feel so alone and overwhelmed by everything. Blessings to you! 😊
Please know that although we don't know each other personally, you are not alone. You have so many people thinking of you and praying for you and Jason. Hang in there, Leslie! 🙏 Julie
This makes me want to tackle my garage now. It is full of my husband’s tools that he has not used since his brain injury and subsequent dementia (14 years).It seems so overwhelming to start and also brings feelings of sadness. Yes it is a reminder of what you are going through, and yes you are all by yourself.We just had our 43rd anniversary during a hurricane here in Texas. He forgot which was the first time, but it was very hot and disorienting for him due to the storm and power outage with no a/c or lights which literally wears you out physically as well as emotionally. Thank you so much and carry on with love ❤to you,dear Leslie.
Pray that you get your power back on very soon. May God bless and be with you, your husband and family on this challenging journey you're on. 💗💗
Thank you for the inspiration to start decluttering myself! I know it wo nt be easy but baby , it will be worth it!
definitely take care of this area. My parents didn't. The tools stood in place and we were walking through all that rusting/dusty stuff every time we went into the house. The garage is the main entrance. So often I fantasized about emptying it out and getting the floor reconditioned and cleaning everything top to bottom. But it isn't my home. Now, my dad's gone and it's just my mom there and she has no interest or energy to tackle it.
Omgosh Leslie, I have to say I was very surprised that your cabinets looked JUST LIKE MINE! I had to laugh, it made my day because I did not expect it. You are truly like the majority of us and I admire you very much!
When my husband began memory decline he bought so many tools for his work building but he wasn’t able to do that any more. He borrowed money on the equity in our house that I didn’t know about.
Time stamp 11:00 is an important point for so many people. So true when she says, "You already wasted the money..." It goes hand in hand with "stop buying stuff that you're not going to need or keep. " This video is very insightful, and I, too, was tired of watching 20 somethings declutter
I absolutely love this video. This is what I needed. Thank you for sharing real life. I get tired of seeing unrealistic content on other channels. That isn’t real life. This type of video gives me a boost to declutter my home. 😊❤️
I identify so much with you. My husband was a prepper. We prepared for Y2K.
When that mindset is combined with Alzheimer’s disease, it makes moving extra difficult. We moved many things because it was easier to move things than try to convince him to let it go. We threw out many things and donated many things and sold many things. We had a large roll-off dumpster that we filled to the brim and many many truckloads that went to Salvation Army.
Mike passed away in 2020. I’m still coming across items that I have to embrace. Sometimes I can let them go. Sometimes I’m still not ready.
I’m 😅81, it’s important for my health to simplify now. It will make things easier for my children also.
My thoughts and prayers are with you as you walk this difficult and confusing path ❤
That's understandable Susan, your living space should make life easier and reflect who you are. Also if that's you in the photo you look so joyful, you have a glow around you. 😊
@susan I truly hope and pray you can get someone to work with you.
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Thank you for your kind words. I’m now 81. My life is so blessed because I discovered that I am an alcoholic. I’m not a drunk, I don’t have low morals, I don’t not have willpower. There is a reason why I drink the way I do, and there IS a solution. I didn’t start drinking alcoholically until about 10-15 years ago. My God opened my mind to see that I had a new master. It wasn’t G O D but G I N. I went to an A.A. meeting the next day, and my life has been changed. God is so good 😊
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I recently saw old pictures of my old condo after I got it staged for the open house. It was an eye opener to realize how much I loved it after I had cleared out a lot of my stuff. It has really stuck with me and made me want to declutter.
One should never judge, one should always try to understand
I am currently going through this. With the government and economy the way it is, I have been changing my life-style in a huge way. I absolutely have to get rid of things that I always enjoyed. We entertain differently, and actually not entertaining much at all anymore. We are building up food storage differently because of our age and where we live. We need to make sure we can stay warm and not be hungry during snow storms, or worse. We built a greenhouse and I am learning how to grow in it. I love it but it literally takes daily monitoring. No difficult but definitely needs to be done or something will die or not product what it is intended to produce. We are becoming quite senior and although in generally good health we definitely are declining from what we could do 10 years ago, and needing room to prepare for taking care of our ourselves better - leaning toward a more self sufficient life style. So older precious things have to move out to make way for our new life style which will also be precious to us in a whole new way. The one thing that does not change, that I HATE clutter. It literally stresses me out. So things MUST change. I am pleased that I just happened to come by this channel….as it is encouraging me to keep going at going through my dream retirement home….it has become tarnished and must be detailed and shiny once again.
Your video has been a tremendous encouragement! When you asked, "who's going to want this when I'm gone?" and "I don't want my legacy to be storage containers of stuff". Powerful to say the least. Just because it is sentimental to me, doesn't mean my kids are going to want it. That makes me sad because they are in such a toss away society. So...on to decluttering my basement and garage!!! Leslie, thank you so much for sharing even the hard stuff. Your are an inspiration to so many. Even though we're not dealing with an illness, decluttering things that have been passed down is hard too!!! Janelle from Ohio
Decluttering is physical and emotional but once you get it done you find you are a happier person. I know this because I gone through it
I can so identify with you. The only thing is, I did the decluttering after my husband passed from dementia 2 years ago. He would have just been to upset with me if I tried when he was here. My kids helped me and got me through all of it.
I started decluttering in July of 2014 because we were going to move house (we didn't in the end - but we were going to!) Wow! That's 10 years ago! The neighbors probably thought we *were* indeed moving out lol! At that point we had over 30 years of 'stuff' that I began to get rid of! I consider myself a minimalist. Last week, I decided to make yet another pass through my house (one area at a time) and I'm amazed at what I'm finding to let go of! So until I actually *do* move house ..... this will be more or less a never ending process!
PS! I now have empty drawers and cabinets. And many of my kitchen cabinets are only HALF full! (the 50% rule)
Its been my experience in life...people who give a lot of Grace and kindness are those that get it the least, and most often need it the most! Love your honesty and know you and yours stay in my prayers. We all need to show more Grace and kindness these days. No one gets out without scars. Head high ..crown straight, wrist wave queen to queen! LOL
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I ❤ this comment! Consider this my wrist wave 👋 😊
@@LindaKayHolevas Wrist wave back from Montana! LOL
Thank you so much for sharing this video and for your honestly and transparency.
I know it was God who helped me find you today. We had a situation where I needed to care for a small child for 12 weeks, and I’m in the process of nesting deeply and decluttering our basement, (which waited 7 years while we cared for both my husbands parents and my daddy, until the Lord called them home) and we raised and homeschooled our 6 children and have just now become empty nesters at ages 61 and 70! 😂
I had an accident about 3 weeks in to the childcare and tore my rotator cuff, so had surgery this past Friday. Our AC unit had to be replaced so that is motivation to ask the men in, show them the mess, and take a deep breath and know that somehow we shall get thru this!
I am so grateful that you’re moving thru and persevering on your tasks with such a sweet heart and attitude. God bless you and warm hugs from KY! You’ve added a lot of sunshine to my situation. ❤
I appreciate your video. My husband passed almost three years ago. He was a wonderful husband, dad, and grandfather. But he was a huge, huge, huge collector of books, mining equipment, soda pop bottles, and thousands upon thousands of of football cards. Some could be quite valuable but I don’t have the tome or energy to figure it all out. I’m pretty much on a kinda of a roll, finding places to donate, sell, or give away. Not only is physically demanding (I’m 73) but so emotional too. I was sorry to see you break down in tears. Jan in Kentucky 💙
Wow, what an emotional and inspirational video. Hi, my name is Wendy and I am new here. I just came across your channel and think you are an amazing women. You are super sweet and very genuine. I have watched a few of your videos now, and have really enjoyed them. I personally suffer from a few different auto-immune diseases and have had numerous neck and back surgeries. So, I know how clutter can accumulate in a household. Strong strong, you got this.
Thank you so much and welcome to my channel ❤️
I also have 4 auto immune diseases and am getting ready to start my second time to start declutterring the basement. I’m overwhelmed since the last 14 years I’ve been dealing with being a caregiver & guardian for my son who is mentally ill. I also the last couple years over looked taking care of my mother while she was in the nursing home and her finances and was the trustee until she just recently passed. All these things cause you to get more clutter over the years. You have no time for yourself, you are taking time for others all the time. Watching you makes me realize I must get busy again and put action into my plan!! I will feel so much better. I already had one of the sons take some of his stuff out of the basement he wanted. The rest will probably be dumped in the garbage. I don’t know why we hold on to stuff!! Thank you!!
I've always said, the more space you have, the more crap you hold on to. I'm grateful for our small home. My husband has terminal cancer and I might one day be left to tend to our 46 years of all things. I'm always going through our stuff and donating at least monthly. It helps me mentally to let go of things that now are not as important to me as it once was. Every 6 months I go through our clothes and household items. Thank you for sharing this video. I understand somewhat how hard it was emotionally letting some things go.
Leslie, I’m right there with you!!! My husband has PSP (progressive supranuclear palsy) Of course I have to do everything inside and outside myself and I never feel in control about anything!!! Its been that way for 10 years and I am mentally and emotionally fatigued and feel so unsuccessful in everything I need to accomplish!!! One day at a time, right?! I’m proud of you and I’m proud of myself. Sending love to you and Jason 💝🙏🏻
Thank you so much for being real! This is the first declutterring video where I feel encouraged to get started rather than just frustrated with myself
I'm so glad to see you're normal. Thanks for being Real.... I have a lot going in.
My parents were hoarders and stuffed every room, corner and attic. A defective wire arched in the wall 30 years ago and slowly smouldered thru the wall up to the attic. They had left for a 4 day vacation on Saturday and on Sunday the roof collapsed in flames. It was burned to the ground! Thankfully they were not at home because if they were, grandkids were always there. They lost everything, even their vehicles. They rebuilt and wouldn't you know they stuffed it back up again, but not the attic because my dad could not get up there. We lost him 9 years ago and our mom died 5 years ago and boy was it a BIG job clearing out all their junk. I've been working on my house now that I'm 73 and getting rid of things we don't need anymore. Its amazing how much crap we collect throughout our life. You are doing great, Leslie. One day at a time is all you can do. Good Luck.
I totally understand.
Thank you for sharing this video! My Mom had dementia and I know how hard the journey is. Bless you both! I struggle getting rid of her things and things I might need later. Little by little I'm getting it done. I donated 8 boxes of stuff today and it felt great! I set a time limit... 15 minutes and do all I can during that time.. it really helps when I'm overwhelmed. I've also set goals to fill a box or garbage bag before I take a break or stop until the next time. You're a true inspiration!
Thank you for those tips. I’m going to do the same…set a timer.
This was really inspiring. I loved the quote about "just because it made you happy in the past" and the if you get overwhelmed walk away! I struggle with the things I once loved and with the things I bought to do like crafts, and my books ( so many books) because I think well, once the house is cleaned out I will then have time and space to do them ( or read them) and yet so many things have sat for 5 years or more undone or unread. There is a chance we will also be moving in the next year and I do not want to haul the clutter with me. I also do not wish to leave a houseful of stuff for my kids someday, The kids have all collected their treasures from their childhoods from the house. We never know how long we have or how long we will be clear headed or healthy and mobile as we age ,so I am just trying to keep what we truly love and truly use and making space to just breathe and enjoy my life. But still struggling with the hobby room and the library because as I age those are the activities that I will turn to each day??!! ( i also laughed at the 5 sewing machines.... I think we have 3 and no one really ever sews either( if any one else is hesitating on a bunch of sewing machines but are afraid to let go because you like to do projects once in awhile FYI many libraries now lend them out for that occasional project or it may be a place to donate one you have call your local library) .
Thank you so much for this. I am sitting here tearing up. My significant other has dementia. His hoarding has doubled over the past few years. Ibsm overwhelmed. I need a recliner for myself and delivery has to be postoned due to needing to clear out living room . You validated my thoughts on how dementia will increase hoarding, he has had hoarding for years, but now it is beyond what i can handle. Thank you, thank you. My new mantea is progress not perfection. Off to the living room, say prayers for me.
I know what you’re talking about when you say that you’re doing everything by yourself, my husband was in a tractor trailer accident and he is now unable to walk without assistance and I miss his help so much and now I’m in a huge home and no help praying for you guys ❤
Of all the decluttering videos I watched or books I've read, this one really hit me. Because if you, of all people who us the epitome of decorating, etc, have so much clutter, then I don't feel like such a failure, and can take that first baby step to decluttering my home. Thank you!❤
My husband is an automotive hoarder. He has a two car garage, a bedroom, a shed, and a storage unit full of automotive stuff. That doesn't count what is parked 3 wide and 2 deep in the driveway. I believe he has dementia. However, refuses to talk with his doctor about anything. His paranoia is amazing when it comes to doctors and mental health.
You are inspiring me to at least ensure my space is decluttered.
Thank you ❤
This is what my husband is doing with mountain bikes. He has filled our entire basement with bikes and parts. He does sell them, but it is so overwhelming to just go down there. He is also over purchasing items like light bulbs (I filled 5 giant storage bins with them when I got them all out). It just hit me like a ton of bricks when she said hoarding is a sign of dementia 😢
I love almost everything. That said, I can't let go of my scarves, jewelry and kitchen dishes. This is hard!!
I absolutely love your raw honesty and showing actual clutter. You really dont know what is going o in someone else's life! My husband had a traumatic brain injury a year ago and things just really went by the wayside.
This is an older video, but it came at the right time. I went today to help a family member who called me and admitted they have a hoarding issue. I went to help and was overwhelmed but just got to work. I kept telling the member that you can only tackle a large thing with small steps, but you have to tackle it. It was an emotional day for both them and me as I know this person has mental issues due to cancer that led to this. But it was so overwhelming and emotional for me to tackle and then come home and process. I cried when you cried because I could feel exactly how you were feeling. Thank you for being real and transparent.
I live with my 2 month old son and i was going through my house for the first time in who knows how long and i was so proud i chucked out 10 massive bags of rubbish whilst juggling my baby- you really inspired me to clean today so thanks so much
Oh, my! I can so relate to your emotions and sense of being overwhelmed. I took care of my parents 'things' as they no longer could. Then I took care of my older brother's mega 'stuff'. He had dementia and bought things like Jason has done. It was so emotionally hard to make decisions about someone else's life collections. Now, I'm working hard to downsize our home. I, too, have been alone on most of the journey (my husband now has signs of dementia). The younger you begin, the easier it is for you. One step at a time! The relief I feel after cleaning a space is worth so much more than the stress of seeing all the items in the closet! Thank you for a wonderfully realistic video. My prayers will continue for you, and remember, grace abounds!!! 🙏💞🙏💞🙏💞
I get it! I just decluttered my whole house to move into a condo. My husband has Alzheimer's. Getting rid of things is like letting go of your past life. I did it and I moved and I feel much better. You can do this❤️❤️
Wow, I’m so glad I found this channel because I can relate to my husband had a stroke like I said he lost short-term memory loss no longer drives. He lost his vision. I do all the driving plus he has cancer. I’m running everything I think has gotten bad so he can’t pick up too much heavy may be 30 pounds, hard to clean up
And for 10 years, I’ve been a community activist in my neighborhood so I still do things and when I actually do things it’s actually a little bit of meantime so I can be with Women. We have the same thing in common (community)and then I started .Gardening when pandemic hit , it also helps me .
I stay home caregiver.,
Oh what drives me crazy that my husband wants to be out and about like all day .. and with his blood platelets so low, I cannot risk him to get sick so I keep telling him we have to stay home or we have to be careful. I have tons of things I gotta do. I don’t need to be in the streets all the time.
Already I’m always in the medical center at least 3,4 times a month for his oncologist .,it’s alot.,I felt like I’ve had a couple of breakdowns myself with just being so much on me with his dad who’s full-blown dementia it’s just so much and you know I had to break down because my husband was always the main breadwinner and always the strong one and now I have to be the strong one I always been since I was in my 30s, I’m always taking care of someone. I took care of my mother. Then I took care of my mother-in-law who passed from cancer a couple years back and then David had the stroke and was found out with cancer and his dad had a stroke and has to as well his dad’s already 79 years old I actually have physical therapy.,
What does keep him happiest when my grandbaby comes he loves her so much. We only have two grandchildren the baby and my 19 year old granddaughter and she’s off life so I don’t see her as much.
Thank you for sharing this. Powerful, triggered tears. My mom had dementia and just last week she went to assisted living begrudgingly. She is high functioning so people who aren't around her long enough don't see what I experienced. The spending is incredible, we had multiple Amazon and Temu packages every day. I know this is not your other channel but you turned off comments and I have been with your channel for a long time. I just want you both to know, I send love and light and so many prayers to you both. My journey is not over, I now have to de-clutter being in a wheel chair after breaking my ankle. You inside me Leslie! Thank you and God Bless🩷💙
Oh my! Tysm for this. In the span of 6 weeks, my family lost 3 family members who meant the world to us. My husband and I had to clear all 3 of their homes, all containing childhood memories. When I saw the quote at 12:51, I realized that we kept things that NEVER brought happiness. My mom lost her husband to Alzheimer’s a few years ago. I was there through everything and I am still there as she declutters from all of the “pile up” that happened while she cared for him.
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You are so Strong,
Thank you for sharing the hard things!
I have been helping Mom with Dads treasures, it can be very overwhelming. Mom saved so many cool things from my youth I didn't expect to see again. Now I have to go through again to see what I really want for keepsakes today. My favorite time was finding all her clay pots hidden in her yard. We only have so much space for stuff. Love all your inspiring vlogs🎉
I needed this! Thank you for sharing your true feelings during the declutter. I moved in with my mom after my dad passed away from cancer almost 10 years ago. THEN, my mom was diagnosed with dementia almost 7 years ago. A year ago I finally needed help and found a good place for her to live. I am also on my own and very overwhelmed. I need to tackle my storage unit I put my 3 bedroom condo when I moved in with my mom. I have been struggling with decluttering mom and dad's stuff. They kept everything. And now it's time!! I need to get it done. Thank you for your inspiration.
In 2004 we had a move to a new city from a home we lived in since 1987. Back then there was a show called Clean Sweep, my husband and I watched several episodes to get into the right frame of mind to declutter. It worked. Fast forward to 2008 and we moved again and I was disappointed with myself that we had accumulated more stuff. Now I have learned my lesson and at least once a year I go through my decor stash. My biggest thing was to organize old photos, I would get really depressed when I tried to weed out insignificant ones. I procrastinated with this until 2022 when I turned 60. I found an attachment that I could take pictures of my old photos with my iPhone and save them on a SD card . I have it in an electronic photo frame and I now I enjoy seeing the photos on a regular basis . I feel for you Leslie , it is so hard to rid items from our home when they hold memories. Thanks for sharing this part of your life. I am sure you have helped a lot of people.❤️
I loved Clean Sweep, we need more shows like that!
Hello, this video, the ‘fading’ video …and I am also watching ‘A Day In The Life…’ from 3 days ago, but stopped it to write this…and they have really hit me. My husband was diagnosed about 3 years ago with ‘mild cognitive decline’ but since then had a myocardial infarction with a stem Nov 2022, then Dec 8 2023 he had surgery for an ileostomy (severe ulcerative colitis since spring 2020). He was doing fantastic, then about 2 1/2 weeks later he had a mild stroke…but because he didn’t think it was a stroke he would not go to the hospital. So, the damage was done and he was diagnosed with dementia. He is with the VA and has gone through 7 hrs of testing…again. He also has aphasia, some days are better for him than others. So, we are just starting on this journey. I want to thank you for making your videos. I know everyone is different, and we still don’t know what kind of dementia he has….but your honest heart felt videos along with others that I have seen on TH-cam etc are helping me to prepare for the future. I think the scary thing for me,is that back in 2020 when my husbands UC first started…it came on suddenly and he ended up in the emergency room…when they scanned to see what was going on, they discovered that he had an abdominal aortic aneurism…6cm. They did surgery about a month later, which leaked and they patched it. Because of having all those things happen within 4 years…and now dementia…I find myself always worrying, expecting the worst to happen at any moment. So when I watch your videos, and I see you getting emotional…my heart goes out to you and to your husband. I admire the courage that you both show and I want you to know that I so appreciate you sharing your experience with the world. You show me that there are still good times to be had, I just need to learn to let go of the constant worry as best I can and realize that I’m not alone in this. None of us are. ❤
I am walking the path you are on. My dear husband is suffering from Dementia, and our little cottage has to have order, or I cannot breathe. What resonated was the stuff you have already spent money on, but is now a burden, it is soooo true!!! I love that you showed us the good, the bad and the ugly (this disease is so ugly), and it helps me to know that a calm mind and happy heart can happen, even in the midst of all the hard stuff! You are an inspiration to me!!! thank you
I so agree with all the points you made. It was a fantastic video…for all that you mentioned.
Leslie, you are a miracle worker. Bless your sweet, hardworking heart. Thank you for sharing such a tough subject. And what perfect words, you've already wasted the money. I have to go now, I have decluttering to do.
Bless you and Jason
Oh, my goodness, this is what I needed today. I just left my parents' home feeling so overwhelmed and alone. They both had vascular dementia, I lost my mom 2 years ago and my dad a couple of months ago. Getting past being their caretaker for the last several years, to preparing their home for sale has been difficult. They were hoarders and your video reminded me of the reasons for so much stuff! I think I can face it again tomorrow with a new plan. Starting small. Thak you for sharing and making a difference. Prayers for you and Jason as you continue on this journey.
Needed this too, except my parents are still here and I am trying to help them stay in their home by making it safe and healthy. It is so hard and I am neglecting my household.😥
I found by asking for someone to come “help” what I really needed was someone to talk too. Share ideas, stories that went with items. It was much easier to get rid of stuff. May you find strength and peace from God during this time.
@@lilongge1304 Something has to give when you are the primary caretaker of your loved ones. I' so blessed I got to spend that time with my mom and dad. I pray for you and your family as you go through this.
@@virleneprice9848 My siblings are helping, but I am usually the one who's the bad guy, because I am the cleaning lady. 😬. Thank you for the prayers.
You did such a good job explaining your thought process during the declutter. You have such an obstacle with Jason's illness. Nice to see him still being able to drive the tractor that he loves. You handle everything with such grace. Thank you for sharing. ❤️❤️❤️
I wish I could lend you a hand. Decluttering and organizing are 2 things I love to do. You did a great job and I understand it being overwhelming. We are creatures of our stuff and we Americans seem to have lots of it. Thanks for the inspiration.
I really needed this video, I’ve been struggling to declutter, I want to but it’s hard and I’m doing it alone too! My mom had dementia…PICKS and I cared for her for 8 years, she became a hoarder really bad, it was tough to see her like that. I completely understand what you’re dealing with and how emotional it is. I’ve watched countless videos on people declutter it and haven’t found anything that has helped until now! Your words of wisdom and seeing that even you have rooms like so many others is so helpful and so encouraging! Thank you so much! ❤ 🙏
When we bought our home 31 years ago we only had 2 chairs and a table in the basement. Now the shelves are full. I want to declutter them SOON. A lot is Christmas stuff that I will never use again. I’m going to let grands pick what they want and rest goes. Thanks for the inspiration. 💚
You touched on all the things that I struggle with in decluttering, especially being overwhelmed. Hugs to you Leslie and thanks for this video and keeping it real!
I’ve never commented before. I’m so moved by this video and how honest it is. God bless you for sharing and caring and helping put perspective on emotional clutter. My partner has been going through cancer treatments for over a year. My organization and upkeep of my home has been put on hold to the point that I feel like I’m drowning. I needed this video to help me not feel alone. Thank you, thank you dear lady! ❤❤❤
I love how you keep your experiences real! Life has thrown a lot of curve balls your way and you are facing them with grace, humility and understanding. So many times while watching this video I wished I could reach out and give you a big hug! You have inspired me with your determination to make the best out of the life you’ve been given. Both you and Jason are in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong. ❤️
I'm an old nurse and I recognize that food tray rack! I have a 1940s cabinet salvaged from my hospital's laboratory as a bedside stand. and some mid-century chairs that used to be in patient rooms. These will not be leaving my house for a while but I am inspired by your video to get rid of some "basement things".
Leslie thank you for simplifying this! One thing that helped me is when you said you are leaving the organizing for another time. This first phase being the decluttering. I think I’ve put those steps all together and that is even more overwhelming to think of doing both at the same time. This was a really helpful video with your bullet points, quotes and just being honest about the struggle.
Bless you and Jason!
Thank you for the motivation. It’s so hard for me to let go of items. Your after made me get up and tackle one room.
I needed this in my life. So motivated now. Ps, you sure are pretty.
Is this jason her husband?
I can't tell you how much this video has helped me. Our stories are similar in a lot of ways, and I spend most days with that overwhelmed feeling. It's paralyzing. This video made me weep, but it also has given me motivation that I haven't felt in a long time. Thank you
My heart was breaking for you, so hard to do this by yourself and all the items that Jason won’t use again. You are such an inspiration and giving us a raw look into your life. God bless you and Jason!
I've been decluttering for years but I've been holding on to more than I need to so in the next few weeks - I'm going to go "scorch earth" and get rid of even more stuff. As I get older ---- I really want to live a more simple life. You're right ------ it's very emotional but as I "purge" ---- the trip down "memory lane" is necessary for healing.
Love this video! My husband passed in December and I just had to go through all his clothes and man treasures. It was hard, I cried, but even found things that made me smile. Now that its done it feels like a weight has lifted. I donated some to a store here that gives the proceeds to the local animal shelter, he would have liked that! Thanks again for all you do!
I always think about the seasons of life. One thing I have been able to continue doing is knitting and crocheting. I started doing these when I was a young mom. I'm still able to do them at age 73. But there are things that I have needed to set aside because my life has changed and I'm good with those changes. Your advice is right about starting small and enjoying the accomplishments. Concerning things: we were given an Insta Pot. I thought it was more work than it was worth and promptly donated it. Great work!
You don’t know how badly I needed to see this. I’m also a caregiver of person with dementia so everyday I try to do something, no matter how small.
Thank you for sharing your struggle, I can relate. I am currently dealing with cleaning out my mom’s house, she is 84 years old. Some days it easy to talk to her and other days we have to reason with her what to keep. I really needed to see this video today! Thanks……… A Charming Abode!
I also know how emotionally upsetting it is to declutter when your husband has dementia. I cried as I watched your video. My husband has had dementia for 8 years & the past 18 months he has been in a skilled nursing facility. He was very athletic, he was a 5k road race runner, a cyclist & it was so emotionally difficult for me to go through his athletic wear, gear, etc. just a few months ago. I have his medals & trophies he has won displayed still in our home & also in his room at the facility. He too had hoarder tendencies. 😢What a dreadful disease this is. Your transparency as you go though this journey with Jason has been encouraging to me & so many others. Thank you for sharing all that you do. Remember that Joy & sorrow can co-exist. 🙏❤️🙏
Leslie, my heart just broke and felt so heavy for you with this video! Even tho you didn’t really say anything in particular it was just your spirit and eyes, I said a prayer for you cause I know what it is to be the wife, mother, grandmother and greatest of all the caregiver! Unless one has been in that position they haven’t a clue to the mental, emotional, physical and Spiritual drain it puts on one’s mind and body! I know you are a woman of faith and I too am, God is carrying you through times you are hurting, afraid, angry or lost! Just the name of Jesus brings renewed strength and comfort!! You and Jason are in my prayers!❤❤
Thank you Beautiful Leslie!! I am in that struggle space, circumstances are quite different.. the 'clutter' is MENTALLY exhausting for me, it's SENTIMENTAL ! I lost my Daddy and Momma and have very little family, and they chose not to have anything to do with my little family. Like we are neighbors , my ONLY sibling and I haven't laid eyes on her since last Christmas. She is never 'able to' do anything with us but can and does everyone else... i'm finding a part of me is starving to have family bonds, to be part of, and those 'life long friends' I guess we served our purpose... I'll just leave that unspoken... and it's made it SO much harder to turn loose of stuff. My Mom and Dad's stuff, I feel guilty, SO Guilty, like I'm doing something wrong, or letting go of the little piece I have left of them, then I'm letting go of my only sibling and her family, " stuff" its all I have of them, my MIL is in Hospice as we speak, so there is the trying to hold on to her, knowing what coming, worrying to have a piece of them for my children, I guess I'm trying to pack anything in to fill these holes and voids in my heart, then ADD, it took 24 YEARS of prayers .. going through SO medically, sooo much before God gave us our first child, a Son. Then 6 years later, my daughter, 2 years later my baby boy.
So I have a 12, 6 and 4 year old and girl, I STRUGGLE to get rid of their stuff! ANY of it. I mean I have "special" baby clothes, Christensen, Home from Hospital, first church outfits. All 3 were Preemie, NICU babies, the youngest was CCNICU @ Brenners, he was 2.15 pounds and 14.6" long. So he was in preemie for MONTHS. Their first "this and that." Down to their diaper bags, toys, stuffed animals, and they have so many and can I tell you I HATE stuffed animals .. keeping their "build a bear" or the little things I got for them in the NICU that would have our "scent" for their comfort, those are keepsakes, but I mean I struggle to get rid of ANY.
So needless to say, I am a GUILT hoarder. Clingy.. trying desperately to hold onto ANYTHING that will make the hurt less and it's emotionally drowning me. Then I get SO overwhelmed trying to get rid of it, I had cancer and the radiation affected my brain and caused me to struggle with organizing, I used to rock it, now the thoughts of it rock my brain and I panic, literal anxiety attacks. I can't figure out how to do this anymore.
I NEEDED this. You don't know. Yes, the decluttering, but the REAL, RAW, EMOTIONAL, ITS OK.. GOD HIMSELF sent you my way today. Thank You!!
Please know I am praying for you and Jason and the girls, with all my heart.. anyone who has a spare second I TRULY ask if you would pray for us. For my little family. And know wherever you are, whatever the need I'm praying for YOU. In Jesus Name.
God's got us! I know He does. Sending love hugs, cheering, and prayers to all.
I’m still decluttering the 3 households I inherited when my big brother, aunt and Nana died. Big brother died in June 2019, Aunt died February 2020 and Nana, who was more of a mum, Dec. 1, 2020. I understand that overwhelming feeling of ‘oh my gosh, there’s soooo much!’ to literally just start sobbing. I finally came up with a game plan and so far, it’s going very well. I had boxes for my cousins and am placing generational items in them to pass down to their children as well as things I know they gifted to each. It’s much easier knowing the good things are going where they should. Also, how much Waterford Crystal do I really need!? It’s gorgeous but I want my cousins to have some and USE it! They will. Much love from Ireland 💚🍀
Leslie, my mom had dementia so I have investigated so much about it. I’m not a doctor or a nurse but my parents taught me a lot about nutrition. I have read articles and books by many doctors where dementia can be improved or even reversed by changing your diet. I wish for you to try it on your husband, and if you are convinced that it helps, that you also use this diet on yourself and pass it on to other people. Please listen to the TH-cam video on “The Mind Body Green Podcast” where he interviews Dr Kat Toups. The interview is called “How to prevent and reverse dementia.” It is rather lengthy so you might have to watch it in sections. There are other dementia videos by other doctors. Good luck to you and Jason. ❤