Anxious about talking to new people? 6 Minute English
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- Many people feel uncomfortable about the idea of talking with new people, but this is something that could it be good for their state of mind. Neil and Georgina discuss research that says that seemingly inconsequential conversations with people we don't know can have a beneficial effect on our mood and wellbeing. And our presenters feel good about teaching you related vocabulary!
This week's question
According to the Oxford English dictionary, approximately how many words are in use in the English language?
a) 171,146
b) 271,146
c) 371,146
Listen to the programme to find out the answer.
Vocabulary
underestimate
think that something is smaller or less important than it really is
anticipating
guessing or expecting a certain outcome
to pluck up (the) courage
to force yourself to do something that you’re scared or nervous about
connect
start or have a good relationship with someone
mood
the way we feel
introvert
person who prefers to spend time on their own
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As a people person, I don’t need to pluck up my courage to chat with total strangers. Thank you for this lesson!
I am introverted and most people always said that you need to become an extrovert. Hence, I often intend to underestimate and feel doubt my ability when I make an important decision. Moreover, I am afraid of doing new things. So, I need to pluck up the courage to embrace new challenges. And the connection between me and others has a good tendency to boost my mood and have anticipating results. Remember, you don't need to try to be a person who doesn't want to be. Being yourself and being the best version of your own.
In Vietnam, we frequently start a conversation with strangers because we think the more the merrier.
Great culture! In the UK, it's more common to start conversations with strangers in smaller towns than it is in the bigger cities. We agree with your sentiment, though - speaking with each other can only increase our happiness and mental well-being. 😃
Now I like this cultural attitude :D
As a friendly person, I don’t need to pluck up my courage to have a small talk with total strangers. Usually I talk about neutral subjects like the weather or movies if I want to make a casual conversation. By the way, I truly enjoy your podcasts. Thank you for your great work!
I agree with BBC. It's the fact that talking to someone makes us more happier. I am both of introvert and extravert. Sometimes i like being alone by myself. But less i am alone, i want to talk to somebody. It feels like the air we want to breath. My friends felt anxious and depressed when they were absolutely alone. But when they started talking to somebody and meeting friends they got much better. Thanks BBC for your work👍 You help to many people, that's amazing
Strangely, before even listening to this, I've been doing that(talking to strangers like on the train on my way back home from work) and I can vouch it does indeed make you feel better in some way. Strike up a conversation and it just might make your day!
That's true, When I talk with someone that I don't know, I feel happier and I don't know why when they laugh my jokes or comments this makes me double happy.
Next video: how to memorize 171,146 words 😱
How to memorise
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@@fjorgenews Thanks for the tip!
The Best programme ever for learning english👍👌
I did not know that these words are included in English language , thanks for your good programmer you guys are fantastic . Starting a conversation is too difficult with a stranger to me . I know that I have to break this bad habit . If I don’t get ride of this habit I am sure I never become a good English speaker . It causes to decrease my confidence .
Nice program! Talking to strangers is not easy always but whenever we have conversation with new people , we really get nice experience.
I need a video for how to read long numbers 😱
it's also a big challenge to hear long number for me
It is hard for any foreigners😂
me too. we have the same problem.
Thank you, BBC. 💚
My boss never underestimate my ideas.
Since my team delivered the projects before the deadlines, I am anticipating to get a good hike from my employer.
Finally, I plucked out all the courage to ask a paid leave to my manager.
I love to connect with my colleagues.
I want to experience how it feels as an introvert. 🙂
Thanks BBC learning English. 💗
oh, u can't even anticipate how it feels to be an introvert, its an awful thing in the modern world to my mind. So don't try to experience it))
You're welcome!
Great example sentences - thanks for sharing.
I believe as human beings is important to keep in touch with people and try to socialize in a good mood. To have a good behaviour, be polite and think in other could help.
I am really agree that we get happiness by connecting people!
Lovely session by BBC as usual!
Damn it! It's my IELTS task 2 topic this morning !!!!!!!!!
Iziel Bluewings hii, where you took your exam?? I've been studying for IELTS these days..
@@gayathrik8569 I chose IDP.
Really
Good luck with your results... hope you did well! 🤞🏽
My mind tells me that I am an introvert but sometimes when I reach out to new people , it goes smoothly
On the other hand , when I reach out to people I knew in the past like old friends , it doesn't work 🙃
I thought that i was the only one
Really helpful and interesting i just love it .
It helps me improving my English. Thanks a lot. From Bangladesh❤️
Of course your programme is the most helpful material for english listening, new vocabulary and improving speaking as soon as possible. Thus, thanks a lot. But I have got a question for you: Are you all "non-native speakers"??? Please, 🙏 don't forget answering my question!!! I'm really interested it 😃😃😃
Thanks guys for this lesson. I think I´m more introvert than extrovert. However people usually told me that I´m really extrovert, I don´t know why hahaha, because when I start meeting someone, I feel me little nervous, and something I don´t know what to say, or sometimes I try to find an interesting topic for starting a conversation. I only consider hard the first conversation, because you don´t know anything about that person, and we always to want get a good first impression, I think it is for that reason. Because when you are talking with someone one another time, the fair goes away, and things became easy. Starting sometimes is hard.
thanks for the useful video! your video brings me back about the period of working at a reputable restaurant of mine! woking as a service staff at there helps me improve and develop my social skills immensely! it's not about providing customers a good and savory meals , it's about my open communication with them although i see them in the first sight. Because i consider myself as an extroverted person who likes to socialising with other people ^^. Through certain conversations with many types of customers, especially foreign customers, they broaden my understading about them and give me a positive mood when working as well.
It's great if you can combine work with learning a new language! Getting paid while learning - that's excellent. Thanks for sharing your experiences!
@@bbclearningenglish thanks for your a nice compliment. i'm looking forward to watching the latest video... ^^
Thanks BBC
My note while listening
Normally, we don't go up to a stranger and strike up a conversation. However, having a conversation with a stranger might be good for us.
As a matter of fact, many of us spend part of our everyday life surrounded by strangers but we rarely reach out and talk to them because of the fear of awkwardness and discomfort.
Actually, we have a negative voice in our head which causes us to underestimate ourselves as not being interesting. We walk around with the fear that the other person would not feel interested in talking to us but the experience of talking to a stranger can turn out more fun and relaxing than we thought.
We should pluck up the courage to talk to strangers as it's good for our health because it can put us in a better mood.
Great writing! Well done! 🙌🏻
Thank you BBC. I want learn English and you help me for this aim
I'm really fall in love with Neil's voice. 😂 I'm regretting now why I couldn't find this kind of useful channel. I'm late already.
It's never too late to learn something new. Welcome to our TH-cam Channel, Mi YinYin Mon!
And this is our website: www.bbc.co.uk/learningenglish/english/
Thank you very much!
Thank you BBC
You're welcome. Thanks for watching!
Very good channel and topic.
Great show ever 👍👌
Hi to all strangers...
Puneeta K hiiiii puneeta. Hope you're doing good.
Greetings from Russia
@@gayathrik8569 Hello dear. i wish the same for you.
Hiii. From Viet Nam
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Thanks!
For many years I believed I was an extrovert person, but every time that I arrive a new city I do not know how to approach people and meet new friends. I enjoy to much speaking with others but I struggle with the first contact.
Thank you
I'm an introvert yups I prefer to spend a lot of my time alone because I don't like crowded places. When strangers reached me I keep the distance with them and I feel uncomfortable
How to make small talk or to get to know a stranger or to make a new friend:
Firstly, smile :)
Then, ask some questions.
After that, compliment his or her.
Finally, you have to be confident, not arrogant, I mean you have to be humble.
To sum up: smile, ask, compliment, be humble.
i dont know how to make good joke
@@phucao3224 maybe you dont need to try to make good joke as good jokes come natural
@@NhanNguyen-pq5xc thank for the " USEFUL" advice
huge challenge for introvert, but the good impact itself can encourage them, thumbs up
Nice programme❤😘🙏
Hello bbc. Could you explain what do you mean by "absolute words "? Thanks in anticipation!
It is beneficial to become creative as it gets opportunity to practice motor skills while talking with stranger
I think this might be culture difference. In korea, if someone starts conversation with stranger, usually we think he or she is swindler...
Or it depends on the situation?
thank you so much
You're welcome!
I think it becomes difficult to talk with strangers since everyone keep using cell phone and pretending not seeing each other!
I agree with you!
That's the real obstacle of the 21st century(
I wish we could get 20 years back in the way of human relationships
Yeah but Let's say hi! Because of the internet, we met strangers online!
@@tingting4567 hi-hi!
yeah, but to my mind, using online we just get lots of "connections", not true communications
That's true . Everyone stares at smartphone
Hi guys. The question is not how many words are being used in the English language, but it is how many words or expresions should anyone learn to speak it fluently?
I think if I spend my life learning new vocabulary, I won't finish.
For me I'm not an extrovert and I think it is impolite to start a conversation with people whom you don't know.
Last month I was returning home by bus and my coworker was sitting beside me. We were discussing the cost of his farm and suddenly, a person sitting in front of us started talking about the case, then we stopped talking until we got off the bus.
I underestimated the positive impact on working with my friends, but I had to pluck up the courage to finish the works.
I always feel nervous when i talk to a person who i just met for the first time since i am an introvert person. I need to pluck up my courage to break the ice every time.
Perfect
i have also connected with you !
Good job
Great!
Why are the newest videos of the 6 minute english private?
What's meaning of Essex in the sentence psychologist from Essex ?
We need a video where Neil recites the 171,146 words
🤣🤣 Good idea! We'll ask him to!
In English there about 170.000 word but a native English speaker can use just 20.000.
Are you a native speaker?
Can bbc explain how to use "that's a given " ?
that means 'it's a sure thing'
Great 👍🏾👍🏾 thank you very much
It will be better if this conversation has English subtitle because some spelling we don't understand.
We want to write your talks on the mirror thanks amillion👏👏👏👏
thanks a lot for your videos, my listening skill is better
you keep on
anticipate is a word that they use with the similar meaning with guessing or predicting
Can i know how to use much, many ,more, and a lot of
Hello! I dare to ask you to add subtitles correctly. There`s sth wrong in this video. (And even if we`re an introvert - a person who prefers to be alone rather than with other people.(X)--> others(O)) It makes me confused when repeating after videos if there`s any wrong subtitle. Please put subtitles exactly from now :D Thanks for useful and practical videos~
With all our 6 Minute English videos, you can find our transcripts by following the link in the description. For this video you can find the full transcript here: www.bbc.co.uk/learningenglish/english/features/6-minute-english/ep-191212
Hope that helps. 😃
As a friendly person, I never need to pluck up
I want to make a conversation with neil and katerien...they are my favourite stanger persons..hey neil🙋♀️
I passed my first listening exam and got frustrated about my grade. I got only 10/40 even less. Plz help me as much as you can how i can get more at listening
iam introvert, i hate spending my free time with other people, unless they are online when playing video games
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Nice
Paradigm shift I'm mood
1:52 ---> 2:16
2023 I've still watched and leant this video
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I think Is there nothi g wrong into talk to strangers just accurate way AND Places, like parks, coffeés, bars.... being confident helps AND if not try Even Is good for you mood.
Introverts panic when they're going shopping and the assistants are too much enthusiastic
Nice example! However, we usually say 'much too' rather than 'too much'. The assistants are much too enthusiastic!
Awesome but could you improve by arabic subtitle
I should say an important fact relating to this topic. Our prophet Muhammad صلی الله علیه و سلم has said say hello 'salaam' to everyone you know or you don't know. And salaam means 'wish you are healthy'. It was said 1400 years ago. Now our scholars say this by researching.
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Transcript
Note: This is not a word-for-word transcript
Neil
Hello. This is 6 Minute English and I'm Neil. Joining me for our discussion is Georgina.
Georgina
Hello!
Neil
Now, Georgina, you’re a chatty, sociable kind of person, aren’t you?
Georgina
Well, yes, I think so.
Neil
But would you go up to a stranger and strike up a conversation?
Georgina
That might be going too far - if you don’t know them, what are you going to start talking about?
Neil
A good question. But maybe you should - because in this programme we’re looking at how talking to strangers might actually be good for you! But first, let me talk to you about today’s question. I’d like you to answer this. To make conversation we need words - so according to the Oxford English dictionary, approximately how many words are in use in the English language? Is it…
a) 171,146
b) 271,146
c) 371,146
Georgina
We use a lot of words in English, but not 371,000 - so I’ll go for a) 171,146.
Neil
OK. Well, as always I will reveal the answer later in the programme.
Now, let’s continue our conversation about having conversations with strangers! Many of us spend part of every day surrounded by strangers, whether on our commute to work, sitting in a park or cafe, or visiting the supermarket.
Georgina
But we rarely reach out and talk to them because we fear it would make us both feel uncomfortable - or awkward. And Gillian Sandstrom, social psychologist from Essex University in the UK, can explain why. Here she is speaking on BBC Radio 4’s All In The Mind programme….
Gillian Sandstrom, Social psychologist, Essex University
We kind of underestimate, we have this negative voice in our head that's telling us "I shouldn't have said that, why did I do that? I said that story better last time". But the other person doesn't know any of that and they’re probably… they might be anticipating that they won't have a positive conversation and then they do. And they think, wow, that person was amazing. So we walk round with this fear that the other person isn’t going to be interested in talking to us.
Georgina
Fascinating stuff. So we have a negative voice in our head telling us about all the bad things that might happen. We basically underestimate ourselves.
Neil
To underestimate means to think that something is smaller or less important than it really is. We worry that what we say won’t be interesting or important enough.
Georgina
Ah, but the other person doesn’t know that. They’re also anticipating - or guessing - the outcome. They're thinking that if they have a conversation, it won’t go well. But of course, when strangers do talk to each other it normally goes well.
Neil
Yes, it’s just fear that is stopping us. But if we get over that fear, and get chatting, people might actually like us - and we might make new friends.
Georgina
Another reason why you should pluck up the courage to talk to strangers is that it’s good for our health!
Neil
‘Pluck up the courage’ - that’s a good phrase, Georgina, meaning force yourself to do something that you’re scared about and… research by the University of Chicago found we may often underestimate the positive impact of connecting with others for both our own and others' wellbeing.
Georgina
And connecting here means starting or having a good relationship with someone. So the research found that, for example, having a conversation with a stranger on your way to work may leave you both feeling happier than you would think.
Neil
Gillian Sandstrom also spoke about her research and the power of talking to strangers on the You and Yours programme. Listen out for the word ‘connected’…
Gillian Sandstrom, Social psychologist, Essex University
What we've shown in the research is that it's really good for your mood. So people are in a better mood after they reach out and have a conversation, however minimal, and the other thing that the research has shown is that just makes people feel more connected to each other.
Neil
There you go! Talking to strangers is good for our mood - and mood means the way we feel. It’s good for our mental health - and we might discover people actually like us!
And even if we’re an introvert - a person who prefers to be alone rather than with other people - experiments have shown that talking to others can make us happier.
Georgina
The problem remains, Neil, that when speaking to someone new, what do you talk about?
Neil
How about some interesting facts - like approximately how many words are in use in the English language? Which is what I asked you earlier. Is it?
a) 171,146
b) 271,146
c) 371,146
What did you say, Georgina?
Georgina
I said 171,146. Was I right?
Neil
Spot on, Georgina. Well done! Yes, there are an estimated 171,146 words currently in use in the English language, according to the Oxford English Dictionary -plus many more obsolete words.
Georgina
I shall pick a few of them and make conversation with someone on the Tube later, but not before we recap some of the vocabulary we’ve explained.
Neil
Yes - so we highlighted six words, starting with underestimate which is to think that something is smaller or less important than it really is.
Georgina
Anticipating means guessing or expecting a certain outcome. I anticipate this programme to be 6 minutes long!
Neil
That’s a given! Next, we mentioned the phrase to pluck up the courage,meaning to force yourself to do something that you’re scared or nervous about.
Georgina
When you connect with someone, it means you start or have a good relationship with someone. I think we’ve connected on this programme, Neil!
Neil
Absolutely, Georgina. And that’s put me in a good mood - mood means the way we feel.
Georgina
And finally, an introvert is a person who prefers to spend time on their own.
Neil
Thanks, Georgina. Well, that’s our conversation over, but you can hear more from us on our website and on our app. Goodbye!
Georgina
Bye!
Thanh a lot
I am from India
Kundan Kumar Hi! I need to talk with someone who only speak English.
Could we do a call?
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Im in love with Neil since 3 years now. Does neil have any personal channel?
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In China,we usually starting a conversation with food😁😁😁it doesn’t matter whenever,this is always the one of the popular topics in China.😊😊😊
There is not anxious in arabic world from speaking to new people
Why so?
It is bro 🙃
Nice & interesting topic.
Next video: who to memorize 171,146 words
Social anxieties are very common. Particularly now after the covid 19 pandemic.
Its come from my recomendation
We have a tradition connecting to British. We recognise their gestures unknowingly anything apart from that annoy us.
E.g. : I thought that I could pluck up the courage for make a video for a job but i failed.
i spek to larning english
171146 words!!!!!!!!!!
Neil: Hello. This is 6 Minute English
and I'm Neil. Joining me
for our discussion is Georgina.
Georgina: Hello!
Neil: Now, Georgina, you're a chatty,
sociable kind of person, aren't you?
Georgina: Well, yes, I think so.
Neil: But would you go up to a stranger
and strike up a conversation?
Georgina: That might be going too far - if
you don't know them, what are you going
to start talking about?
Neil: A good question. But maybe
you should - because in this programme
we're looking at how talking to strangers
might actually be good for you!
But first, let me talk to you about
today's question. I'd like you to answer
this. To make conversation we need
words - so according to the
Oxford English dictionary,
approximately how many words are
in use in the English language? Is it...
a) 171,146; b) 271,146 or c) 371,146?
Georgina: We use a lot of words
in English, but not 371,000 -
so I'll go for a) 171,146.
Neil: OK. Well, as always I will reveal
the answer later in the programme.
Now, let's continue our conversation
about having conversations
with strangers! Many of us
spend part of every day surrounded by
strangers, whether on our commute to
work, sitting in a park or cafe,
or visiting the supermarket.
Georgina: But we rarely reach out
and talk to them because we fear
it would make us both feel
uncomfortable - or awkward.
And Gillian Sandstrom, social
psychologist from Essex University
in the UK, can explain why. Here she is
speaking on BBC Radio 4's All In The
Mind programme...
Gillian Sandstrom: We kind of
underestimate, we have this negative
voice in our head that's telling us
"I shouldn't have said that, why
did I do that? I said that story better
last time". But the other person doesn't
know any of that and they're probably -
you know, they might be anticipating
that they
won't have a positive conversation and
then they do. And they think, wow,
that person was amazing.
So we walk round with this fear
that the other person isn't going to be
interested in talking to us.
Georgina: Fascinating stuff.
So we have a negative voice in
our head telling us about
all the bad things that might happen.
We basically underestimate ourselves.
Neil: To underestimate means to think
that something is smaller or
less important than it really is.
We worry that what we say won't
be interesting or important enough.
Georgina: Ah, but the other person doesn't
know that. They're also anticipating - or
guessing - the outcome. They're thinking
that if they have a conversation,
it won't go well.
But of course, when strangers do talk
to each other it normally goes well.
Neil: Yes, it's just fear that is stopping
us. But if we get over that fear, and get
chatting, people might actually like us -
and we might make new friends.
Georgina: Another reason why
you should pluck up the courage
to talk to strangers is that
it's good for our health!
Neil: 'Pluck up the courage' - that's a good
phrase, Georgina, meaning
force yourself to do something
that you're scared about and...
research by the University of Chicago
found we may often underestimate
the positive impact of connecting with
others for both our own
and others' wellbeing.
Georgina: And connecting here
means starting or having a good
relationship with someone.
So the research found that, for example,
having a conversation with
a stranger on your way to work may leave
you both feeling happier
than you would think.
Neil: Gillian Sandstrom also spoke
about her research and
the power of talking to strangers
on the You and Yours programme.
Listen out for the word 'connected' -
Gillian Sandstrom: What we've shown
in the research is that it's really good for
your mood. So people are in a better
mood after they reach out and have a
conversation, however minimal,
and the other thing that the research
has shown is that just makes people feel
more connected to each other.
Neil: There you go! Talking to strangers is
good for our mood - and mood means
the way we feel. It's good for
our mental health - and we might
discover people actually like us!
And even if we're an introvert - a person
who prefers to be alone rather than
with other people - experiments
have shown that talking
to others can make us happier.
Georgina: The problem remains, Neil, that
when speaking to someone new,
what do you talk about?
Neil: How about some interesting facts -
like approximately how many
words are in use in the English
language? Which is what
I asked you earlier. Is it?
a) 171,146; b) 271,146 or c) 371,146?
What did you say, Georgina?
Georgina: I said 171,146. Was I right?
Neil: Spot on, Georgina. Well done!
Yes, there are an estimated
171,146 words currently in use in the
English language, according to
the Oxford English Dictionary -
plus many more obsolete words.
Georgina: I shall pick a few of them
and make conversation with
someone on the Tube later,
but not before we recap some of
the vocabulary we've explained.
Neil: Yes - so we highlighted six words,
starting with underestimate
which is to think that
something is smaller or less important
than it really is.
Georgina: Anticipating means guessing
or expecting a certain outcome.
I anticipate this programme
to be 6 minutes long!
Neil: That's a given! Next, we mentioned
the phrase to pluck up the courage,
meaning to force yourself to do
something that you're
scared or nervous about.
Georgina: When you connect with
someone, it means you start or
have a good relationship with someone.
I think we've connected on this
programme, Neil!
Neil: Absolutely, Georgina. And that's put
me in a good mood - mood means
the way we feel.
Georgina: And finally, an introvert is
a person who prefers to spend time
on their own.
Neil: Thanks, Georgina. Well, that's our
conversation over, but you can hear
more from us on our website and
on our app. Goodbye!
Georgina: Bye!
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So , the question is how many words you need to speak English fluently?
Why have you guys stopped making videos with your own face? I think that's very much a part to learn how you enunciate and how is your body language when you talk to someone. That's make the language interactive.
Sir it would have been better , had there been subtital
You can find the transcript to the videos here: www.bbc.co.uk/learningenglish/english/features/6-minute-english/ep-191212
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My parents told me not to talk to strangers