@11:28 start @13:48 create timeline document @15:51 narcissist = overwhelming @16:23 narcissist's deceptive/effective community-face = severely isolating @17:40 your evidence can change The Narrative @22:15 you have more experience & skills than you think [particularly since post-abuse thinking has been skewed] 23:54 take the vantage point *from when it's over* or *your healthy self in the future* for better perspective
You are so right! I’m in the middle of a divorce and my husband is a financial advisor. His clients are just like him! It’s crazy. I’m so scared to go through this process with him because of how much of a bully he is. Can’t imagine what type of lawyer he will find. Ugh. Hate dealing with people like him.
You are truly a genius for the insights you have into the narcissist world and type of attorneys they match with. Now everything makes more sense. Thank you so very much. God Bless You
This is why I m still married to and living with this narcissist. I went to a lawyer about divorcing my narcissist. Husband and got bad news. Saying because he is retired and on a fixed income and I m still.of working age that I won't get much. She says he will probably get the house and get to keep.most of his retirement and I get little to nothing. He,s 62 just retired. I m 54 still working. Hellllllllpppppp!!
I am So sorry, please remember to get another opinion. Also know it can cost you your health. That is worth more than anything. Praying you find your out!
Mine waited until he retired so he wouldn’t have to pay alimony (30 yrs marriage, I was stay-at-home mom) and he hid $ from a cash business we also had for a couple of years. But the law is clear on his pension and retirement. I get 1/2. I won’t be able to prove the cash business but he doesn’t get everything. He believes everything is his. It’s a horrible position to be in with these people. Divorce is hard, they make it horrific!
Thank you for your extremely informative podcast. While I have documented his behavior, threatening texts, for the first time in my life I will need to find a lawyer. Your advice is priceless. The husband I’m divorcing is.quite the narcissi. At the moment, I’m living with my daughter, who isn’t real keen with me living here because of his erratic behavior. I’m not looking at this process in an emotional sense, but as a financial transaction. However, the stress of this process is overwhelming, unfortunately. My family is wonderfully supportive, as they realized he was a narccist long before I did. Hindsight is 20/20 and I do feel foolish at the moment. My parents are paying for my divorce and I don’t want this process to cost them a fortune. One more complication is I have multiple sclerosis and am on disability, however, I was stupid enough to give him my IRA, which he promised to pay back, but never did. Yesterday, he sent me a “Separation Agreement”that’ spells-out I get nothing; no alimony, plus he wants me to sign the house over to him. Not happening. I refuse to sign the insulting document. Already have documents organized, just need the perfect lawyer. Again, thank you!
I wish he wouldn't have been so sneeky and wise. He got all evidences by playing with my emotions and mind he recorded my breakdowns after he poked me and played his game. What can I do? I don't have any evidence, kids are on his side or atleast they won't rise their voice for me. Unforrtuanately I also don't have money for the best and expirienced lawyer. Oh and the emotions are very hard to handel. I am just avoiding him any way I can. I try to ignore any provocation from his side. Thank you for these videos. Love it. ❤
This could not be more spot on unless you are living in this situation. I have to wonder if you have experienced a narcissistic relationship, and if you have my heart goes out to you. I am 21 years. At this point in 3 years into a horrific divorce that has torn both of our families and friends of parked and left me completely isolated while he is seemingly untouchable. The only relief that I have is knowing that other people understand they terror that has been my existence it will continue to be until someone can help me. I am on my fourth attorney, and I am hopeful that this is going to be the key to the end of the beginning. Thank you for all of your videos from a stay at home mom and a narcissistic abuse survivor that is determined to find peace and prosperity for all I have worked for and given up over the last 21 years. Thank you!
Very incitful information! My narcissistic spouse hounded me to get equity out of my home and I refused, now through the divorce he is trying to get the equity out of my home. He has caused a lot of damages to my home and devalued it. He was always an argument to get him to help me with the monthly bills yet he had all kinds of money to spend. He was demanding, bullying, etc. I helped him make a lot of money in his business and he claims he made 0 income the last 2 yrs of our 2.5 marriage. He was also awarded indigence in our county when he has been living in another county. Going through the Financials he was receiving funds from various sources, earning income. He withdrew large sums of cash out of his accounts. This whole issue has me in a wirlwind.
You mentioned stay at home moms, I only work part-time because it has been my job to take care of the children and I have been cut off from my husbands finances for three years now while still being married to him and living in his home. Everything I need, I pay for. So my question is, How does someone like me afford an attorney? Maybe that would be a good video.
You can file your own divorce. Fill out the paperwork. Be clear about everything that you want. Take paperwork to the courthouse. Pay the courthouse filing fee and whatever else they charge for the sheriff to serve him. This could be from $200-500 depending on where you live. Find legal aid which is free advice and help with paperwork before you file at the courthouse.
Well, the whole point is to try to find and keep assets and get support (if you’re not workin), custody of kids too, if you have them. My narcissist so nasty that he served me with a custody order, for 50-50 custody, to which I’d already agreed. Likely just to intimidate me. So nasty. He’s now trying to swindle me out of as much money as possible. Wants every last penny. Biggest problem is he’s self employed and hiding assets. For me, it’s terrifying not knowing if I can even stay in my home...I’m on SSI disability and now over 60. Not a good position to be in. It’s all about finding his hidden assets. But how? The forensics I hired are hitting road blocks. I’m not sure where to go from here. For me it’s not about emotion, it’s about discovering assets, which he’s hiding. Hiding both income and assets.
So grateful you made this video, im currently being divorced by my Narcissist husband of 12 years, he filed back in June yet prolonged the divorce by not doing the discovery, it took him until November to turn it in (no consequences thus far) hes been shacked up with the secretary from his work since May, my next court date isn't until the end of January. Nightmare to minimize it
If your a man with children, your going to lose 70 % of everything you own. Your house is hers, furniture, dog, children all hers. You get your clothes and tooth brush ( she doesn't want those) . Don't let a lawyer tell you they can fight. They really know they cannot. They want that $50,000 bill your going to pay.
I'm scared cause he put a PO on me and now has a lawyer to uphold it. I have alot of documents proving his abuse prior to his false report, but seeing how manipulative he is I feel he'll win
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I'm seeing Storm cloud's and she's brewing it up. I'm looking for shelter and it's not going to be long before I get paperwork slammed on my table. Just here trying to find out what I can expect to happen. I'm wishing to be Honorable after choosing her almost four decade's ago. I'm wishingto stay in honor at all costs.
There is no honor among narcissists. Put your emotions aside and document EVERYTHING! Everything she does,everything you do. And be sure your actions are above board. Don't be seen as overly friendly to anyone. Everything you do can be held against you.
@@laleezy77 You're correct. It's been a year now and the divorce decree is dated January 16th this year. I am still staying in honor. If they're not honorable is it on us? No
@Simply Teacher Daphne I can give you an update. The divorce was final in January of 2020 and I'm paying monthly installments until she remarries or I pass away. I'm happy to be able to purchase my peace. Me and my dog get along great. He is always happy to see me when I return home and never questions me when I leave. I'm so grateful to have such a friend and roommate. He don't bitch, I don't bite. Peace
Pretty sure my wife/ex is NPD/High Functional BPD (EUPD), delusional/anti social traits. Everyone loves her, however she has tried to use suicide attempt to control and manipulate me and a falsified DVO to get me out of the house. Pretty intense (is a GP and we have been together for 10 years). Messed up
I live in a no fault state, is it still possible to bring forth a motion to request a reimbursement for half of what my husband spent on his affair partner?
Hello Leia, as each situation is different, we only recommend specific attorney suggestions after a coaching call, which you can book here: divorceandyourmoney.com/coaching
They make it complicated so you give up trying... You better Be very clever ...so you keep a hidden cameras in your house in 2 or 3 rooms where you people interact
Very tempting to give up and stop because you just want freedom from the narc. You must continue to finish so you can truly be free. Never interact with them alone. Complete the process and get help. Do not go through it alone. Support by family and friends if possible. I am grateful for my circle. God is good. I am able to complete the process.
One thing that you did not address is when a older women marries a much younger man like 30 years difference and the women being the main provider and he is the narcissist's who is trying hard to take everything from her that she has worked 50 years of her life for and the inheritances that she received within that 50 years and her Social Security that she saved and never spent but lived off of her deceased first husbands money that he left her, her mothers estate that was left for her and that she never had her her current spouses name on anything that she owned during their marriage, and he never gave her a dime in the 6 years, one month and 21 days before he left her and her being 68 years old him 38 years old and she is disabled and now forced to go back to work. What about women like me ? And he wants everything I have. He even went as far to take me to small claims court to sue me for calling him a thief which he is when he left my home and took things that did not belong to him and he lost that case and he tried to get $7,850.00 out of me, judge ruled in my favor and I had a decent attorney, she ruled that this should be taken care of in Family court. Every state has different rules and I am in South Carolina, no a good place to get a divorce.
@11:28 start
@13:48 create timeline document
@15:51 narcissist = overwhelming
@16:23 narcissist's deceptive/effective community-face = severely isolating
@17:40 your evidence can change The Narrative
@22:15 you have more experience & skills than you think [particularly since post-abuse thinking has been skewed]
23:54 take the vantage point *from when it's over* or *your healthy self in the future* for better perspective
Cliff notes:
1. Document everything. Get organized.
2. Get an experienced lawyer
3. Take your emotions out of the situation.
Good luck! 🙂👍
You are so right! I’m in the middle of a divorce and my husband is a financial advisor. His clients are just like him! It’s crazy. I’m so scared to go through this process with him because of how much of a bully he is. Can’t imagine what type of lawyer he will find. Ugh. Hate dealing with people like him.
I am confused because isn't divorce law a 50/50 split ? Regardless !
Is your divorce over? Mines going on 4 years.
How did it go!?? Do you have any advice? I’m going through this now!!
You are truly a genius for the insights you have into the narcissist world and type of attorneys they match with. Now everything makes more sense. Thank you so very much. God Bless You
1...get a passport
2 leave the country...disappear
Only way to win 😉
😂😂😂😜. Sooo TRUE!
This is why I m still married to and living with this narcissist. I went to a lawyer about divorcing my narcissist. Husband and got bad news. Saying because he is retired and on a fixed income and I m still.of working age that I won't get much. She says he will probably get the house and get to keep.most of his retirement and I get little to nothing. He,s 62 just retired. I m 54 still working. Hellllllllpppppp!!
That attorney is a NARCISSIST….BAD ADVICE
I am So sorry, please remember to get another opinion. Also know it can cost you your health. That is worth more than anything. Praying you find your out!
I'm in the opposite spot. My wife 64 is working and is the narcissist. I'm 62 and was the stay at home parent.
Mine waited until he retired so he wouldn’t have to pay alimony (30 yrs marriage, I was stay-at-home mom) and he hid $ from a cash business we also had for a couple of years. But the law is clear on his pension and retirement. I get 1/2. I won’t be able to prove the cash business but he doesn’t get everything. He believes everything is his. It’s a horrible position to be in with these people. Divorce is hard, they make it horrific!
Thank you for your extremely informative podcast. While I have documented his behavior, threatening texts, for the first time in my life I will need to find a lawyer. Your advice is priceless. The husband I’m divorcing is.quite the narcissi. At the moment, I’m living with my daughter, who isn’t real keen with me living here because of his erratic behavior. I’m not looking at this process in an emotional sense, but as a financial transaction. However, the stress of this process is overwhelming, unfortunately. My family is wonderfully supportive, as they realized he was a narccist long before I did. Hindsight is 20/20 and I do feel foolish at the moment. My parents are paying for my divorce and I don’t want this process to cost them a fortune. One more complication is I have multiple sclerosis and am on disability, however, I was stupid enough to give him my IRA, which he promised to pay back, but never did. Yesterday, he sent me a “Separation Agreement”that’ spells-out I get nothing; no alimony, plus he wants me to sign the house over to him. Not happening. I refuse to sign the insulting document. Already have documents organized, just need the perfect lawyer. Again, thank you!
I wish he wouldn't have been so sneeky and wise. He got all evidences by playing with my emotions and mind he recorded my breakdowns after he poked me and played his game. What can I do? I don't have any evidence, kids are on his side or atleast they won't rise their voice for me. Unforrtuanately I also don't have money for the best and expirienced lawyer. Oh and the emotions are very hard to handel. I am just avoiding him any way I can. I try to ignore any provocation from his side. Thank you for these videos. Love it. ❤
This could not be more spot on unless you are living in this situation. I have to wonder if you have experienced a narcissistic relationship, and if you have my heart goes out to you. I am 21 years. At this point in 3 years into a horrific divorce that has torn both of our families and friends of parked and left me completely isolated while he is seemingly untouchable. The only relief that I have is knowing that other people understand they terror that has been my existence it will continue to be until someone can help me. I am on my fourth attorney, and I am hopeful that this is going to be the key to the end of the beginning. Thank you for all of your videos from a stay at home mom and a narcissistic abuse survivor that is determined to find peace and prosperity for all I have worked for and given up over the last 21 years. Thank you!
Not all narcs rage--they can be subtle
Very incitful information! My narcissistic spouse hounded me to get equity out of my home and I refused, now through the divorce he is trying to get the equity out of my home. He has caused a lot of damages to my home and devalued it. He was always an argument to get him to help me with the monthly bills yet he had all kinds of money to spend. He was demanding, bullying, etc. I helped him make a lot of money in his business and he claims he made 0 income the last 2 yrs of our 2.5 marriage. He was also awarded indigence in our county when he has been living in another county. Going through the Financials he was receiving funds from various sources, earning income. He withdrew large sums of cash out of his accounts. This whole issue has me in a wirlwind.
You mentioned stay at home moms, I only work part-time because it has been my job to take care of the children and I have been cut off from my husbands finances for three years now while still being married to him and living in his home. Everything I need, I pay for. So my question is, How does someone like me afford an attorney? Maybe that would be a good video.
They're take down payment. Then pay ince month. Cout cost plus your lawyer. Until he has to pay your legal fees
Try Legal Aid.
You can file your own divorce. Fill out the paperwork. Be clear about everything that you want. Take paperwork to the courthouse. Pay the courthouse filing fee and whatever else they charge for the sheriff to serve him. This could be from $200-500 depending on where you live. Find legal aid which is free advice and help with paperwork before you file at the courthouse.
Good video 2020
Hi have you been through it …?!!
Well, the whole point is to try to find and keep assets and get support (if you’re not workin), custody of kids too, if you have them. My narcissist so nasty that he served me with a custody order, for 50-50 custody, to which I’d already agreed. Likely just to intimidate me. So nasty. He’s now trying to swindle me out of as much money as possible. Wants every last penny. Biggest problem is he’s self employed and hiding assets. For me, it’s terrifying not knowing if I can even stay in my home...I’m on SSI disability and now over 60. Not a good position to be in. It’s all about finding his hidden assets. But how? The forensics I hired are hitting road blocks. I’m not sure where to go from here. For me it’s not about emotion, it’s about discovering assets, which he’s hiding. Hiding both income and assets.
Apologies to read about your ordeal and I hope you were able to go through it all smoothly and got help and healing. Stay safe.
Love listening to you! Great info!!
You are the best and have great advice!! Thank you!
Thank you so much for the great information.
Thank you. Very helpful!
Thank you, You have help me so much. 🙏
Amen.. You knocked out of park.
Fantastic dialogue.
So grateful you made this video, im currently being divorced by my Narcissist husband of 12 years, he filed back in June yet prolonged the divorce by not doing the discovery, it took him until November to turn it in (no consequences thus far) hes been shacked up with the secretary from his work since May, my next court date isn't until the end of January. Nightmare to minimize it
Thanks for the information, he's at 100% on the charts
Great tips!
Very valuable information
If your a man with children, your going to lose 70 % of everything you own. Your house is hers, furniture, dog, children all hers. You get your clothes and tooth brush ( she doesn't want those) . Don't let a lawyer tell you they can fight. They really know they cannot. They want that $50,000 bill your going to pay.
Every single detail of a narcissistic persons characteristics is my husband! It is crazy!
It’s very helpful
I'm scared cause he put a PO on me and now has a lawyer to uphold it. I have alot of documents proving his abuse prior to his false report, but seeing how manipulative he is I feel he'll win
This was great information I am going through this now. Thank you
Hello Corina, hope find strength from above to go through this and come out strong and better. You deserve the best the world can give you.
Thank you so much for this advice!
🌈🙏💜 Thank you ! Btw Ive said many times my ex’ lawyers are so much like him!!’ Thanks for the validation
Everything I needed to hear💕💯💯
I basically think no one deserves to have a cheating spouse. Trust is like a crystal glass that once it’s broken,it’s hard to fix them.. That’s why it’s important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners... Last week I suspected my husband cheating on me, a friend recommended a hacker to me I contacted him and he helped me get cheating proves by helping me hack his phone giving me full access to everything he does on his phone... I got access to all his phone call logs, Text messages, Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp, Kik, Emails, Social media chats (both old and new) without looking at his phone... if you suspect your spouse cheating on you, just contact this great hacker via text/whatsapp or call him +1 (908) 799‑8357 , or via mail (cyberprohack100@gmail.com). His services are very trusted and guaranteed and also affordable, I can’t thank him enough. I hope you find peace of mind just like I have found after discovering the truth.
As the saying goes,what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
OMG u just described my soon to be ex wife!
Off the Charts he a Pro
Im in Missouri and could use Help
You just described my ex and divorcing now 👍
Czn you recomend someone in Illinois?
He’s the best thing since sliced bread!
And now we know bread is not good for us either lol
I'm seeing Storm cloud's and she's brewing it up. I'm looking for shelter and it's not going to be long before I get paperwork slammed on my table. Just here trying to find out what I can expect to happen. I'm wishing to be Honorable after choosing her almost four decade's ago. I'm wishingto stay in honor at all costs.
Hell no honour.. fight for fair money
There is no honor among narcissists. Put your emotions aside and document EVERYTHING! Everything she does,everything you do. And be sure your actions are above board. Don't be seen as overly friendly to anyone. Everything you do can be held against you.
They have no honor..so your honor towards them means nothing! Whole diff ballgame with these wicked ppl
@@laleezy77
You're correct.
It's been a year now and the divorce decree is dated January 16th this year.
I am still staying in honor. If they're not honorable is it on us? No
@Simply Teacher Daphne
I can give you an update. The divorce was final in January of 2020 and I'm paying monthly installments until she remarries or I pass away.
I'm happy to be able to purchase my peace. Me and my dog get along great. He is always happy to see me when I return home and never questions me when I leave.
I'm so grateful to have such a friend and roommate.
He don't bitch,
I don't bite.
Peace
Does this apply to canadians too?
Pretty sure my wife/ex is NPD/High Functional BPD (EUPD), delusional/anti social traits. Everyone loves her, however she has tried to use suicide attempt to control and manipulate me and a falsified DVO to get me out of the house. Pretty intense (is a GP and we have been together for 10 years). Messed up
I live in a no fault state, is it still possible to bring forth a motion to request a reimbursement for half of what my husband spent on his affair partner?
Can u recommend someone in AZ???
Hello Leia, as each situation is different, we only recommend specific attorney suggestions after a coaching call, which you can book here: divorceandyourmoney.com/coaching
They make it complicated so you give up trying... You better Be very clever ...so you keep a hidden cameras in your house in 2 or 3 rooms where you people interact
Very tempting to give up and stop because you just want freedom from the narc. You must continue to finish so you can truly be free. Never interact with them alone. Complete the process and get help. Do not go through it alone. Support by family and friends if possible. I am grateful for my circle. God is good. I am able to complete the process.
One thing that you did not address is when a older women marries a much younger man like 30 years difference and the women being the main provider and he is the narcissist's who is trying hard to take everything from her that she has worked 50 years of her life for and the inheritances that she received within that 50 years and her Social Security that she saved and never spent but lived off of her deceased first husbands money that he left her, her mothers estate that was left for her and that she never had her her current spouses name on anything that she owned during their marriage, and he never gave her a dime in the 6 years, one month and 21 days before he left her and her being 68 years old him 38 years old and she is disabled and now forced to go back to work. What about women like me ? And he wants everything I have. He even went as far to take me to small claims court to sue me for calling him a thief which he is when he left my home and took things that did not belong to him and he lost that case and he tried to get $7,850.00 out of me, judge ruled in my favor and I had a decent attorney, she ruled that this should be taken care of in Family court. Every state has different rules and I am in South Carolina, no a good place to get a divorce.
Sounds like a party 🎉
Lol besides my spouse, I know someone in politics....
Never married me. Already ahead