Surprises After Losing 140 Pounds | Openly Judged More Now | 44
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ส.ค. 2024
- It is weird how comfortable people are with telling me their critiques, judgement, or just being generaly snarky toward me after losing weight and living a healthier life style. I was judged as an obese person, too, but it was more subtle and not as socially acceptable. I would get looks or just looked over, but it wasn't so picky, targeted, and overt. It is just something that I didn't expect.
Everyone has an opinion but I don't get why they feel the need to share it with me. LOL
I think this is what's going on - they're triggered. Oh well, not your problem. Obviously, they have some of their own stuff to work through and you're right - it's projection . Fortunately, I don't get that too much at work. It seems they're either pretty supportive or they don't care at all. My best friend from high school is very supportive although she eats very differently from me and she doesn't feel judged eating with me. Other friends will express guilt, but I tell them that I don't eat like this to make you feel guilty. I'm doing this for me and no one else. There's another relationship I have that has proven to be toxic like you described... I can imagine that they would say it "teasing" or "kidding" if I called them out on their toxic behavior and then accuse me of being too sensitive or unable to take a joke. They're triggered and they don't know how to deal with the negative emotion they're feeling so they lash out at you and try to cut you down.
You're doing great, Jenn! 💕❤💕❤
Thank you! I think you are spot on. I need to talk some day about how your relationships w people change when you start focusing on your health. Some people really react poorly to it and it makes you really step back. I totally get what you mean about people thinking you are automatically judging what they eat and do. I don't care at all. I always say I don't live in your body and don't feel or even know what you feel. You do what you want. It has been so weird
Hey there, good to see you ❤❤ Oh, people and their comments, give me a break!! 🙄 You said it: projection. People who make comments about another person’s diet or appearance or anything - they’re really just showing their shadow side. It’s pretty shocking how people react when you take control of your health. I see it a whole lot around drinking since I quit, and around ‘weight’ since my husband tested pre diabetic and changed all his habits. They want to think you’re doing something magical or impossible. They don’t want to look at what good self care really is. Oh well, you more than get it. Thanks for sharing, love to the cats ❤❤
Yes you hit the nail on the head. It is so interesting how people's behavior changed. Like they say nothing before and once you work on improving something they dig in. You are also spot on with the doing a magical or impossible thing. When people ask me what I did, they never like my answer because it isn't some magical pill or program. And congrats to your and your husband for your achievements 😀❤️
Loving all the content ❤ People can be so rude, I got the most ridiculous comments when I lost weight and even worse when I went vegan for three years🙄
It is like you become open season for opinions all of a sudden. it's been so weird.
First thing congratulations on all your weight loss ,and the second thing love yourself, for how your are and everyone always can mind there own business .You should be so proud of yourself b.💚🙏
Thank you! I appreciate it 😊❤️
Hi!!! 😃 You know those comments are about them/what they are dealing with and not you!!! 😊 It's still frustrating, though, I'm sure!! So happy about your healthy lifestyle!!!!❤🤩😀
You know what they say, misery loves company. They're just mad you are not miserable like they are.
I think you are right. I also probably did the same thing to people before as well. It is just so weird being on the other side of it. It is like an alien land. lol
Girl you do you an piss on everyone else!! Is what I say. You look great. I totally understand the type 2. I was doomed no matter what. I had gestational diabetics with both my pregnancies. Which lead to type 2. Take care sweetie 🥰.
Thank you! ❤️
Love these notifications!!! ❤❤❤
Thank you! 😀😀❤️❤️ I'm forever trying lol