What did I miss? What else are the consequences of dressing sharp? Another great video? 10 Things Sharp Dressed Men Never Say - th-cam.com/video/nuS3kMjtYMI/w-d-xo.html Video Summary: 0:04 - Random women start hitting on you 0:45 - You're put in charge 1:17 - People do what you ask 1:50 - People expect to pay you more 3:05 - People think you're smarter than you actually are 3:47 - You become a model of success 4:32 - You develop a good reputation 5:09 - People will stare 5:35 - Other guys start asking you for advice 6:10 - Your girlfriend or wife becomes jealous 6:53 - You perform better at work
People step out of your way in public. My brother and I decided to put on suits for a family event, and stopped at Walmart. Other shoppers were glancing at us and then immediately made a open lane.
You forgot the haters.. Haters at work, haters in your family, haters in your group of friends, and definitely hate from other men in general. In my experience men get pretty jealous, or show hate if women gravitate to you over themselves. Especially if their woman finds you attractive.
You got that right. I was spat on by someone unbeknownst to me. I was also verbally abused... shouting out that I think I’m better than everyone else. Society is really going down the toilet...
A few years back a friend of mine had a room mate who's girlfriend made a very kind remark regarding my sense of style, the next day he tried to start a fight with me over seemingly nothing and I had to leave the house lmfao
The reason the haters hate you is that when you dress/put yourself together well. You demonstrating what they should be doing too but are too lazy to do.
Too true , I lost a friend that way , his girlfriend liked me for how I dressed and the things I like . So ...he got heated and stopped talking to me hahaha 🤣
Can confirm. I went to an interview and a girl way out of my league said I was her type and asked what I was doing that weekend. Dressing sharp will automatically boost your score by two or even three points.
Not only in the dating game, but also in business. I often get confused with the store manager when I’m shopping. The clothes literally put me in charge.
Honestly, I can attest to some of these actually being the case. After I improved my wardrobe, people at work started taking me more seriously, and in fact it actually helped me command such an appearance within the company that I've been moved in to a position that involved traveling around the world interacting with clients! It's gotta start somewhere guys, why not the wardrobe?
Dress style was really important to me when I started work 30 years ago. I actually purchased custom fitted shirts and had my clothes tailored. I dressed well because of how it made me feel. I slacked off over the years because my wife always complained I dressed and looked better than she did. Then came the casual Friday movement, which leeched it's way to every day, and I became a part of that movement. Then I just started buying off the rack clothes that didn't fit well. A couple of years ago I ran across Antonio's channel, binge watched from the start of his channel, and as a result, have started to up my game. Since doing so, I've experienced a couple of situations mentioned in the video. I've had younger women sales clerks compliment me on my style, had a woman in a nutrition store hover around and then ask about my cologne, and been approached by an attractive woman at a concert. I so wish Real Men with Real Style would come back to the workplace. Says a man over 50...
She was complaining because she knew other women would be complimenting you on how you dress. Let me give you a secret, the more she is scared of another women taking you away, the more she will do to keep you and keep you happy. Stay fly!
This is very true and have tested this in real life once. I went to two different 5-star hotels on two different occasion. The first one I was dressed wearing t-shirt and jeans, came up to check in and I was basically ignored. It took quite some time and the service from the counter was not friendly, treated like a regular customer. The second week I checked in to another 5-star hotel dressed in suit and tie. What a difference, I was greeted like a special guest, calling me 'sir' , and so much friendlier service. The check-in employee also called out a guest service to carry my luggage which I did not have on the first hotel wearing just a t-shirt. Of course hotel service should treat their customers the same but there is really an effect to being well dressed.
Spot on Antonio, When I was in my 20's I attended my first managers meeting at a new job. It was a small company that just gone through a difficult period. I had always been taught to dress the part by my Dad. I walked in with what I thought would be the right look a sport coat and tie. All the other managers looked like they had just rolled out of bed. At the end of the meeting the owner put his hand on my shoulder and said there were going to be some changes. At the end of the year only one person and I were left from that original group. I always thought it made a difference.
I couldn't agree with you more! When you look good, you feel good, and when you feel good, people are drawn to you. I've gotten compliments from complete strangers on my shoes and the fragrances I wear. In the workplace, people ask me questions and actually listen to what I say. Every guy out there has something to offer and dressing sharp completes the total package. You don't have to be wearing a suit all the time, but a little effort goes a long way. It's all in the details, like proper fit, use of color, and an accessory here and there. Women, especially, pay close attention to detail. Plus, when your wife's friends smile and tell you, "Wow, you clean up good", you know you're doing something right. Keep up the good work, Antonio!
I couldn't agree more I've recently changed my wardrobe and style and it seems all of my friends and even strangers are giving me compliments and asking me for advice it gives me confidence in myself that I never had before
I've noticed since I've started putting more attention to my dressing, more men complement me for my styles, I've even experienced subtle jabs for others when receiving compliments on my attire. But also most people won't engage in conversation unless I start one, but the level of respect has been amazing. One thing, I've learned is that you might not be the best looking guy, but you can at least dress nice wherever you go. You owe yourself that.
This list is spot-on. Since I've began to dress well I've experienced all these side effects. I have both men and WOMEN ask me fashion and style advice (including my boss), which I find hilarious as before I was a logo t-shirt, running shoes and jeans guy always in a baseball cap. I made a casual statement in conversation at work that wrist-watches are now really just an accessory like jewelry, and a Lady that works for me started wearing a watch that was gifted to her from her daughter because... " Tim said watches are accessories now". People automatically treat me with more respect, but one negative thing is that people now assume I have a lot of money, and ask for loans, try to pitch ideas for me to invest in, and/or think I'll always pick up the check. its also true that people at work and other situations tend to defer more authority to me, and yes; the being hit on by women has been the most unexpected side effect. Keep in mind I'm a 300+ pound man who will soon turn 50, yet I've been hit on many times by much younger, attractive women since I started this gentlemanly look. I recently walked into a bar ( i was wearing a suit, waistcoat, pocket-square, boutonniere, one of my Hamborg hats and all the other gentlemanly accessories) just to have a drink and relax after work, and within 10 minutes I had TWO lovely professional-looking women come sit on either side of me ( First one, then a few minutes later another. They weren't together) and both began flirting and subtlety hitting on me and it soon turned into a weird, and to me somewhat uncomfortable, competition between the two of them for my attention ( I left without either of them , or their numbers). I've always had the confidence, charm and personality, but whether its a confirming statement to people's shallowness or not, it is obviously the clothes, the fit, the accessories, the grooming and the scent that is making a HUGE difference.
My husband is always well dressed and owns many suits. He stands out compared to his father and brothers. People interested in his “money” is true! My husband’s niece asked me to help her organize her engagement party. Once I asked for her budget, she practically stopped messaging me (She did it herself even though I’m the queen of thrifty and an experienced party hostess). An uncle of mine is always trying to figure out how much my husband makes. 😂
It happened to me too many times. I worked at McDonald's as a Shift Manager. And Everyone would assume I was the General Manager or even the owner of the place. Yes, people go by the way you dress up. It works. I must add. Attitude also plays a role.
After a few years of being sloppy, I decided to up my dressing game a few months ago and return to my former good dressing habits. I have found that salesgirls in stores 20 years younger than me are getting all flirty and showering me with attention and complements. Very odd!
Hello Antonio! I can relate to a lot of these struggles when dressing up lol. Maybe one struggle you missed Antonio is you end up getting more haters. Some people can't stand when they see someone dressed sharp. Since they dont have the balls to put effort into their style, they sure want to ruin yours. Its definitely a struggle i deal with frequently.
I try to coach a couple younger fellas here at work to look and dress sharper and this will help me tremendously. It's called the "halo effect" and believe me, it is real. If you look great and present yourself well, people will associate you with all things good and proper, potentially propelling you to where you want to be. Conversely, if you don't take care of your appearance, opportunities will pass you by no matter how adept you are.
haha. doing a internship at a law firm rightnow and running round in a sharp suit all week i can relate with this. people guess me 10 years older and woundn't consider i'm still a college student
The people staring and the second glances are great. When I go to a coffee shop or out for a drink I now stand where people can see me. This boosts my confidence and encourages me to stay sharp.
The in charge is so true I work in a polo shirt/rollneck in winter but keep a jacket in the car and put it on for meetings and am always mistaken for the PM or senior staffer. You get listened to more as well!
Great list. I agree with your points. I've had a few of these "Dangerous Side Effects of Dressing Sharp" happen to me. It's always nice to get a compliment from people, even for guys like me over 50 who like to dress sharp. Trust me, people do take note of it. Awesome content Antonio!
as a middle eastern man, I find this very informative. There are a lot of middle eastern men out there that have no style and I don't want to be like that. I want to be a fresh looking guy , Arab american. Thank you RMRS. I have actually been wearing dress shirts and good pants and have received compliments.
I laughed at multiple points here. Long story-short: Listen to this man, so much of this is true! I am 32yrs old, a Junior in college, and obtained a prestigious/competitive internship that began January 7th, ending in mid-March. I didn't know what defined "business professional" appearance. After hours and hours of Antonio and the Gentlemen's Gazette I was ready to spend some money, scouring eBay for luxury clothing and jewelry (cufflinks/watch) for literally 1/8th retail. Bottom line: I laughed at this video because I have first hand experience of these points being true - when previously I thought Mr. Centeno was a touch over the top! It's so fun dressing sharp! Cheers. Ps. I am married, which enhanced Antonio's humor. I've also been mistaken time and again as a Senator/Representative during these last weeks - Antonio is right, it's hard to stop someone and explain: "I'm an intern". Their face and body language can be a little awkward after that. (This is the "long story-short")
@@tempestandacomputer6951 Yeah Ik that was 3 years ago In my case I’m held back maybe 2-3 years because I have a skill issue at doing stuff 💀💀💀💀💀 I’m still in calculus 3 though
Hey Antonio, great video! You are definitely speaking the truth. I remember one day going to a store with my wife after leaving a social event. The both of us were dressed very nice and a woman approached us asking for help. I told her " sorry miss, we don't work here" and she said" oh I'm sorry, I thought that you two were supervisors, you both look so professional" and we were only there shopping for an appliance.
I concur on all points presented. I worked in law enforcement for many years, of which part was working as a field agent in probation/parole. On one occasion I arrived early for a meeting with a judge. One of the secretaries in the office began providing me information on "my new office". When I explained to her I was the new agent assigned to that district, she became flustered. She said, "I'm sorry. I thought you were the newly elected judge. I've never seen an agent dressed to the 9's before." Her reaction confirmed dressing sharp was a substantially wise investment.
I’ve been watching these presentations on and off for years. And I appreciate the time and energy that is put into creating one. I’ve always been a proponent of strong presence and character making a first impression before clothing. I grew up very poor. I lived in the poorest part of town and was the poorest kid. Talk about getting slapped twice. I wore my hand me downs from my older sisters. Of which, most of their clothes were made by my mom. So, I had to develop a strong personality to avoid getting picked on and bullied. After years of schools and universities. I worked hard. Unbelievably hard to be where I am today. I was in the Steve Jobs mentality of wearing the same thing every day so I didn’t have to think about what I had to wear so that I could dedicate all my energy into, well, never being poor again. This, unknowingly, builds strength of character that shines beyond what any piece of clothing or how you are put together to attain what Antonio has mentioned in this video. I have bespoke Tom Ford suits that I will occasionally wear. Designer everything I could ever want. But my favorite attire has always been jeans, t-shirt and zip up jacket (day) or a sport coat (night) if it is cool out. Dress for the ladies? If you like. But I guarantee you that dressing to impress for women will get you the wrong woman. My wife fell in love with me when I wore yellowed white t shirts, sweat pants with bleach stains and Birkenstock’s with socks. She saw my character first and above anything else. I fell in love with her, not because she makes Angelina Jolie look like a homeless person. But because she also has an incredible strong character. Kind, generous and thinks of others before she thinks of herself. We don’t crave attention because it comes to us. In fact, we draw so much unwillingly that we have plan on how to be not noticed. Restaurants will put us in a shielded part of the establishment. We request separate plane boardings, we have assistants get us our Starbucks etc. This is the irony of attention. The more you get. The less you want it. Now, I am not saying to appear like a homeless person. Absolutely not. There is a social contract on what is acceptable. Be neat, clean with good personal hygiene. Hopefully, there will be a time in everyone’s life where they can see the character of the person rather than make decisions based on externals.
Thanks to your channel I wear suits daily now. I owe you huge gratitude for the large and in charge video. For the effects, I noticed the following. 1: half true. Never happened, likely cause I'm still fat though. But... I never was rejected either. And yes I dared asking. I always had enough confidence - I'm not _that_ fat either, but it got refined thanks to dressing up. They do check you out shamelessly. I love that. (and women too, don't let them fool you) 2: put in charge? True. Before I put myself in charge, now others do it for me. It makes it easier. 3: doing more what I say? No difference. 4: expected to charge more? Haven't noticed anything of the sort (yet). But I still don't live for money. Suiting up is cheaper than ever and off the shelve with minor made to measure is perfectly affordable for everyone now. 5: people think you're smarter. True, but I don't like it. I love how people used to say 'you have such a smart face', but now it's just the suit. I worked so hard to be very high educated. I could advise you on smart looking glasses? 6: people looking up to you? Although in small degree, it's definitely true! 7: people will stare. Heck yes. But I like that. It's good. Try it. 8: other guys asking you: yes, true. Usually just about money. They're always surprised how cheap it is. And I tell them about your channel and give them advice for when they are large like me. 9: women compliment me right next to wife: non-verbally yes. Again, that is terrific. 10: performance in general? Zero difference. But I never dressed sloppy. In summary, gentlemen, suit up! It's worth it.
This is the kind of problems I love to have. A problem I have recently found is that when you dress up, people start assuming you have the money. As Antonio said, you'll get "just kidding" comments. But those show a significant amount of subconscious truth. Anyways another like to this great channel. And also a proud share.
You know Antonio I've gotta say, for me I haven't noticed so many of these things after starting to step up my game. I'm a senior in high school and have gotten some blazers and chinos and shirts that all fit right, and while people do give me compliments, the effect I have noticed more is the one dressing sharp has on me! It feels so nice to button that sports jacket and stand up to give a speech and know I am looking good. Also due to being broke I haven't been able to buy some nice genuine leather shoes yet. Thanks for the content!
This is true. I only started to wear better shirts, and a nice cologne along with keeping my haircut crispy every two weeks. That was already such a difference. Now, I’m waiting for my first suit to be done at the tailors.
All I get from anyone (mostly women) is "wow you look fancy today". Or "why are you always so dressed up?". It's become more of a nuisance than anything lol.
Great video!! I'm a medical student and a lot of times your clothing tips can't be applied to me. For example, some hospitals don't allow ties, other require full white outfits, suits are NEVER worn by doctors (unless private practice, then you're free to whatever u want). I'd like to dress better in the hospital but im not so sure what would be okay. A lot of my classmates wear jeans, sneakers and t shirts, but i don't really like that. I tend to wear black or blue jeans / chinos, polo shirts, and most often white vans. I think I could improve though. If you could help me out Antonio that'd be great!! Thanks again for your great content
Another side effect I would add, is that you'll become a bigger target for muggers and thief. They're gonna see your nice clothing and assume you must be rich and have a lot of valuables on you. So now, on top of what you said, you also got to defend yourself from scumbag trying to steal away your stuff.
I thought dressing sharp can deter thieves since there's the broken windows theory. One thing to keep in mind is that we should have stealth wealth in order to look proper.
You see... strangely, I need videos like this. Afew months ago, I was watching The Sopranos and I actually made me want to start dressing well. (These guys ALWAYS look in charge, and like they're going somewhere) So I started watching video after video to find the ins and outs of putting together outfits with skill. After afew months of buying nice but reasonable dress shirts, pants, shoes, it has made a big difference. But what I didnt expect was how cold the water would be to jump into. This past weekend, I put together a nice outfit that included the first sport coat I bought just afew days ago. I ended up taking it off once I got to the place I was going because I didn't have the balls to wear it at the event. I'm definitely NOT giving up, but looking at how great people look in these clothes, I didn't expect I'd feel the anxiety to up my dressing game as much as I did. It feels almost like a costume for me at this early stage of the game. The mental aspect of trying something so new is the most challenging thing for me now.Can't wait to get work up the courage though!
I’m a woman. I received a how to be a lady book when I was young. In it, it said that at first you will feel like you’re acting in costume, but with time you will be comfortable. It is so true! It becomes normal (and those closest to you become used to it). Post Covid and weight gain, I’m dressing up again. I wear dresses and I feel like I’m over dressed. I just need to remind myself that everyone else is underdressed for a party. Wearing a big sun hat is when I hesitate. I hope you’re still dressing up 5 years later!
Great Vid Devil Dog, I have had some of these happen to me. Casual Friday is the death knell of the office. I continually get shit for dressing like I own the place, but when a client comes in or a VIP from comes in, I am the one that they go to. Funny how that works. I don't say that as a humblebrag, I just can definitely relate to this. One other thing I would mention is the old adage dress for the job you want not the one you have. Take some pride in yourself, and dress for you and everything will come back full circle
You really have a valuable content Antonio... I just rocked a three piece suit at my high school farewell and that was all because of your amazing intellect and videos... Thank you... Much love from India 🔥🙏😊
It's amazing of how you are perceived by people when you dress sharp, i had people in the London meeting telling me stories. What i really want to know is what is this jacket and where you bought it from!!! Thumbs up for the nicest pocket square out there.
I had that happen at an employment agency in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania(I live in Kansas). I was looking for a job and a couple of women asked me if I was the supervisor. I felt great that whole day. I wore a shirt,tie,slacks and suspenders. I want to convey confidence and success.
Everything on the list is accurate but i also notice that some people start getting intimidated of you and if you walk in the city such as New York people notice you more.
Antonio...you did it again! Another great video. Very encouraging to dress sharp and to step up our wardrobe. I have already had a few times where people thought I was in charge. Spot on!
I’ve been doing this for a while on my college campus of 14K students and holy jeez. Does it work. I’m only a freshman but I’ve been in the performing arts center from time to time and I’ve been stopped by the President, Provost and Director of College Advertising and it’s been amazing!! Not sure if I’m on any college ads yet but I’ll let you know 😉 Watches are, and have been a large part of who I am over the last two years. Now have I a date on Tuesday night. Late night. Books, billiards, coffee. I’m hoping it goes great but I’m also hoping I get compliments so she knows that I’m serious 😅 Her and I have similar interests (music, we’re both musicians) so wish me luck gents !
Damian Rudling Business casual on my longer days(2+ classes, each 2 hours), casual on my shorter days(1 class, roughly 90mins) but it’s so cold in New York these days so my wardrobe is mainly long sleeve shirts, turtlenecks and quarter zips. Chinos/jeans and boots, mainly Chelsea/dress boots.
So true, during my internship on base I always dressed with tips from this channel. One day a new Major came into the office looking for my boss and walked straight to me thinking I was him. My boss just sat back and smiled and let her go.
I like these vids, they remind me of stories I have of my great grandpa on my mom's side who dressed in a suit and fedora/trilby almost every day and for any occasion..my grandpa (same side of the family) was similar in that he always conveyed a sense of "I know what I'm doing" and when he did dress up you noticed and that brought it out even more. I do wish there were more showing of..well more guys like me who aren't quite as fit though..when all the well dressed men you see are thin and fit it makes guys like me who aren't as fit for whatever reason but want to dress sharp feel like we shouldn't..like it wouldn't be right to do it because we're not as fit as all the other guys who wear nice suits and cloths.
Fun and with elements of truth to it! Btw - that is a GREAT jacket. Initially I thought it was tweed but looking at the shoulders and lapel style i think more Italian wool. Very nice and the burnt orange pocket square is a really nice highlight.
I would love it if you could do a quick showing of what you’re wearing in each video like Sven at the Gentleman’s Gazette. E.g in today’s video I am wearing a sports jacket with a white dress shirt etc.
Hey Their Antonio You always Have the best Content Out Their man! Can I request another video on connecting with people for business and in personal life thanks man👍
I go to the grocery store every week. Normally, I wear jeans or khakis. One time I stopped to do my shopping after a job interview. I was wearing a good suit, my favorite shoes, and a new tie. Every woman in that store from 18 to 80 was staring at me an smiling and saying "hi".
In a casual setting, it often doesn't take much to look on the sharper side. A good sweater/shirt combo or a well fitting sport coat can move the needle as well. In business the old rule of dress for the job you want is a tried and true adage. Think like a CEO in any job you have.
A few days ago i had some car trouble and pulled my car into the Car Dealership unscheduled where it normally gets serviced. I was dressed sharp as usual for work, and it was in the morning around 8. They asked if i can leave the car to get serviced. Then the service manager gave me a loaner vehicle which was a new model year vehicle barely had 500 miles on it. I had the vehicle for the day while i was at work. Picked up my Car later that afternoon. However, I do believe that the fact i was dressed well played a part in getting maybe better than usual service. Maybe it was service as usual. But i still think being well dressed allowed me that element of better service than the usual. Be well dressed guys if you can.
I listen to u telling the story of the newcomer reaching to being the face on the billboard.... It sounds incredible, but I saw it in my previous company at the airport! It is possible, if one looks always, always, always impeccable and sharp! And people literally start to associate the success and the company with this one impeccable and sharp employee!
At the same time, confidence makes us a harder target, so how do we achieve the right balance? I think a video about what to wear in high-risk areas would be beneficial
This gentleman is absolutely correct this also applies to women who take pride in their appearance and dress well and present their best selves to the world
All of this is true. My wife even felt overshadowed during formal night at a cruise because of my white suit. At work, it gives you instant credibility in the classroom.
What did I miss? What else are the consequences of dressing sharp?
Another great video? 10 Things Sharp Dressed Men Never Say - th-cam.com/video/nuS3kMjtYMI/w-d-xo.html
Video Summary:
0:04 - Random women start hitting on you
0:45 - You're put in charge
1:17 - People do what you ask
1:50 - People expect to pay you more
3:05 - People think you're smarter than you actually are
3:47 - You become a model of success
4:32 - You develop a good reputation
5:09 - People will stare
5:35 - Other guys start asking you for advice
6:10 - Your girlfriend or wife becomes jealous
6:53 - You perform better at work
You forgot about the guys laughing at you ;)
Being at a disadvantage in a physical confrontation?
@@georghartmann6971 Nobody laughs at me now, but I did used to get picked on in grade School.
You forgot, people asking you to pay lunch or dinner😂😂
People step out of your way in public. My brother and I decided to put on suits for a family event, and stopped at Walmart. Other shoppers were glancing at us and then immediately made a open lane.
You forgot the haters.. Haters at work, haters in your family, haters in your group of friends, and definitely hate from other men in general. In my experience men get pretty jealous, or show hate if women gravitate to you over themselves. Especially if their woman finds you attractive.
They can only hate the game jhouse972!!! Keep doing your “thang!!!!”
You got that right. I was spat on by someone unbeknownst to me. I was also verbally abused... shouting out that I think I’m better than everyone else. Society is really going down the toilet...
A few years back a friend of mine had a room mate who's girlfriend made a very kind remark regarding my sense of style, the next day he tried to start a fight with me over seemingly nothing and I had to leave the house lmfao
The reason the haters hate you is that when you dress/put yourself together well. You demonstrating what they should be doing too but are too lazy to do.
Too true , I lost a friend that way , his girlfriend liked me for how I dressed and the things I like . So ...he got heated and stopped talking to me hahaha 🤣
In a world full of trends I want to remain a classic gentleman....
As you said yourself...
Exactly :)
Francis Maloney you probably wear a Fedora and have a neck beard
@Selim Sultan Akbar Being a gentleman is a matter of choice.
Set your own trend....be a gentleman
@@vimos.9996
But if course....
@Selim Sultan Akbar My mother would say to us.
Be the kind of man you'd like your daughter to be with..... A gentleman.
Can confirm. I went to an interview and a girl way out of my league said I was her type and asked what I was doing that weekend. Dressing sharp will automatically boost your score by two or even three points.
Not only in the dating game, but also in business. I often get confused with the store manager when I’m shopping. The clothes literally put me in charge.
Honestly, I can attest to some of these actually being the case. After I improved my wardrobe, people at work started taking me more seriously, and in fact it actually helped me command such an appearance within the company that I've been moved in to a position that involved traveling around the world interacting with clients!
It's gotta start somewhere guys, why not the wardrobe?
Dress style was really important to me when I started work 30 years ago. I actually purchased custom fitted shirts and had my clothes tailored. I dressed well because of how it made me feel. I slacked off over the years because my wife always complained I dressed and looked better than she did. Then came the casual Friday movement, which leeched it's way to every day, and I became a part of that movement. Then I just started buying off the rack clothes that didn't fit well. A couple of years ago I ran across Antonio's channel, binge watched from the start of his channel, and as a result, have started to up my game. Since doing so, I've experienced a couple of situations mentioned in the video. I've had younger women sales clerks compliment me on my style, had a woman in a nutrition store hover around and then ask about my cologne, and been approached by an attractive woman at a concert. I so wish Real Men with Real Style would come back to the workplace. Says a man over 50...
She was complaining because she knew other women would be complimenting you on how you dress. Let me give you a secret, the more she is scared of another women taking you away, the more she will do to keep you and keep you happy. Stay fly!
This is very true and have tested this in real life once. I went to two different 5-star hotels on two different occasion. The first one I was dressed wearing t-shirt and jeans, came up to check in and I was basically ignored. It took quite some time and the service from the counter was not friendly, treated like a regular customer. The second week I checked in to another 5-star hotel dressed in suit and tie. What a difference, I was greeted like a special guest, calling me 'sir' , and so much friendlier service. The check-in employee also called out a guest service to carry my luggage which I did not have on the first hotel wearing just a t-shirt. Of course hotel service should treat their customers the same but there is really an effect to being well dressed.
Spot on Antonio, When I was in my 20's I attended my first managers meeting at a new job. It was a small company that just gone through a difficult period. I had always been taught to dress the part by my Dad. I walked in with what I thought would be the right look a sport coat and tie. All the other managers looked like they had just rolled out of bed. At the end of the meeting the owner put his hand on my shoulder and said there were going to be some changes. At the end of the year only one person and I were left from that original group. I always thought it made a difference.
I couldn't agree with you more! When you look good, you feel good, and when you feel good, people are drawn to you. I've gotten compliments from complete strangers on my shoes and the fragrances I wear. In the workplace, people ask me questions and actually listen to what I say. Every guy out there has something to offer and dressing sharp completes the total package. You don't have to be wearing a suit all the time, but a little effort goes a long way. It's all in the details, like proper fit, use of color, and an accessory here and there. Women, especially, pay close attention to detail. Plus, when your wife's friends smile and tell you, "Wow, you clean up good", you know you're doing something right. Keep up the good work, Antonio!
I couldn't agree more I've recently changed my wardrobe and style and it seems all of my friends and even strangers are giving me compliments and asking me for advice it gives me confidence in myself that I never had before
Nice video
I've always said that "When you look good, people treat you good".
I've noticed since I've started putting more attention to my dressing, more men complement me for my styles, I've even experienced subtle jabs for others when receiving compliments on my attire. But also most people won't engage in conversation unless I start one, but the level of respect has been amazing. One thing, I've learned is that you might not be the best looking guy, but you can at least dress nice wherever you go. You owe yourself that.
This list is spot-on. Since I've began to dress well I've experienced all these side effects. I have both men and WOMEN ask me fashion and style advice (including my boss), which I find hilarious as before I was a logo t-shirt, running shoes and jeans guy always in a baseball cap. I made a casual statement in conversation at work that wrist-watches are now really just an accessory like jewelry, and a Lady that works for me started wearing a watch that was gifted to her from her daughter because... " Tim said watches are accessories now". People automatically treat me with more respect, but one negative thing is that people now assume I have a lot of money, and ask for loans, try to pitch ideas for me to invest in, and/or think I'll always pick up the check. its also true that people at work and other situations tend to defer more authority to me, and yes; the being hit on by women has been the most unexpected side effect. Keep in mind I'm a 300+ pound man who will soon turn 50, yet I've been hit on many times by much younger, attractive women since I started this gentlemanly look. I recently walked into a bar ( i was wearing a suit, waistcoat, pocket-square, boutonniere, one of my Hamborg hats and all the other gentlemanly accessories) just to have a drink and relax after work, and within 10 minutes I had TWO lovely professional-looking women come sit on either side of me ( First one, then a few minutes later another. They weren't together) and both began flirting and subtlety hitting on me and it soon turned into a weird, and to me somewhat uncomfortable, competition between the two of them for my attention ( I left without either of them , or their numbers). I've always had the confidence, charm and personality, but whether its a confirming statement to people's shallowness or not, it is obviously the clothes, the fit, the accessories, the grooming and the scent that is making a HUGE difference.
My husband is always well dressed and owns many suits. He stands out compared to his father and brothers. People interested in his “money” is true! My husband’s niece asked me to help her organize her engagement party. Once I asked for her budget, she practically stopped messaging me (She did it herself even though I’m the queen of thrifty and an experienced party hostess).
An uncle of mine is always trying to figure out how much my husband makes. 😂
It happened to me too many times. I worked at McDonald's as a Shift Manager. And Everyone would assume I was the General Manager or even the owner of the place.
Yes, people go by the way you dress up. It works.
I must add. Attitude also plays a role.
After a few years of being sloppy, I decided to up my dressing game a few months ago and return to my former good dressing habits. I have found that salesgirls in stores 20 years younger than me are getting all flirty and showering me with attention and complements. Very odd!
They just want to sell stuff. They think you got dollars....😱
@@desidog4169 yeah..well , your getting attention nonetheless 😄
Good on you for for getting back into dressing well. :)
I just dressed up more than usual today. I can attest that I got more looks from others, men and women, admiring the style.
Hello Antonio! I can relate to a lot of these struggles when dressing up lol. Maybe one struggle you missed Antonio is you end up getting more haters. Some people can't stand when they see someone dressed sharp. Since they dont have the balls to put effort into their style, they sure want to ruin yours. Its definitely a struggle i deal with frequently.
I have been dubbed the “suit man.” So I constantly have to watch this channel to stay educated and updated!!! Can’t sleep on Antonio!!!😂😂
I try to coach a couple younger fellas here at work to look and dress sharper and this will help me tremendously. It's called the "halo effect" and believe me, it is real. If you look great and present yourself well, people will associate you with all things good and proper, potentially propelling you to where you want to be.
Conversely, if you don't take care of your appearance, opportunities will pass you by no matter how adept you are.
Cause you're ready for opportunities ;-)
Deion Sanders, "u look good, u feel good,
U feel good, u play good,
U play good, they pay good"
I am from his part of the world..We believe in dressing well..
haha. doing a internship at a law firm rightnow and running round in a sharp suit all week i can relate with this. people guess me 10 years older and woundn't consider i'm still a college student
Same here
Excellent! When I put on my charcoal grey suit, I ALWAYS get treated better. And I mean ALWAYS! Very powerful stuff and one of your BEST!!
The people staring and the second glances are great. When I go to a coffee shop or out for a drink I now stand where people can see me. This boosts my confidence and encourages me to stay sharp.
Hold on... No ad?
What's wrong with sponsored videos?
@@RealMenRealStyle Absolutely nothing :) Love your videos and this one was very relatable
Nothing at all, I love to see how you drop the sponsor in seamlessly
The in charge is so true I work in a polo shirt/rollneck in winter but keep a jacket in the car and put it on for meetings and am always mistaken for the PM or senior staffer. You get listened to more as well!
Great list. I agree with your points. I've had a few of these "Dangerous Side Effects of Dressing Sharp" happen to me. It's always nice to get a compliment from people, even for guys like me over 50 who like to dress sharp. Trust me, people do take note of it. Awesome content Antonio!
as a middle eastern man, I find this very informative. There are a lot of middle eastern men out there that have no style and I don't want to be like that. I want to be a fresh looking guy , Arab american. Thank you RMRS. I have actually been wearing dress shirts and good pants and have received compliments.
This is a perfect example of why this is my favorite TH-cam channel. Thank you for this!
I laughed at multiple points here. Long story-short: Listen to this man, so much of this is true! I am 32yrs old, a Junior in college, and obtained a prestigious/competitive internship that began January 7th, ending in mid-March. I didn't know what defined "business professional" appearance. After hours and hours of Antonio and the Gentlemen's Gazette I was ready to spend some money, scouring eBay for luxury clothing and jewelry (cufflinks/watch) for literally 1/8th retail. Bottom line: I laughed at this video because I have first hand experience of these points being true - when previously I thought Mr. Centeno was a touch over the top! It's so fun dressing sharp! Cheers. Ps. I am married, which enhanced Antonio's humor. I've also been mistaken time and again as a Senator/Representative during these last weeks - Antonio is right, it's hard to stop someone and explain: "I'm an intern". Their face and body language can be a little awkward after that. (This is the "long story-short")
Bryce Young WTF YOU GOT HELD BACK FOR 12 YEARS!!!!!?!!????? (OR STOPPED GOING TO SCHOOL FOR 12 YEARS)
@@nabranestwistypuzzler7019 This may blow your mind kid, but some people go get a job and have a family before going to college.
@@tempestandacomputer6951 Yeah Ik that was 3 years ago
In my case I’m held back maybe 2-3 years because I have a skill issue at doing stuff 💀💀💀💀💀
I’m still in calculus 3 though
Hey Antonio, great video! You are definitely speaking the truth. I remember one day going to a store with my wife after leaving a social event. The both of us were dressed very nice and a woman approached us asking for help. I told her " sorry miss, we don't work here" and she said" oh I'm sorry, I thought that you two were supervisors, you both look so professional" and we were only there shopping for an appliance.
Stay true to yourself fellas. Clothing does not transform you into someone you are not. It only compliments the man you already are.
That's deep .Great take
I concur on all points presented. I worked in law enforcement for many years, of which part was working as a field agent in probation/parole. On one occasion I arrived early for a meeting with a judge. One of the secretaries in the office began providing me information on "my new office". When I explained to her I was the new agent assigned to that district, she became flustered. She said, "I'm sorry. I thought you were the newly elected judge. I've never seen an agent dressed to the 9's before." Her reaction confirmed dressing sharp was a substantially wise investment.
I’ve been watching these presentations on and off for years. And I appreciate the time and energy that is put into creating one. I’ve always been a proponent of strong presence and character making a first impression before clothing. I grew up very poor. I lived in the poorest part of town and was the poorest kid. Talk about getting slapped twice. I wore my hand me downs from my older sisters. Of which, most of their clothes were made by my mom. So, I had to develop a strong personality to avoid getting picked on and bullied. After years of schools and universities. I worked hard. Unbelievably hard to be where I am today. I was in the Steve Jobs mentality of wearing the same thing every day so I didn’t have to think about what I had to wear so that I could dedicate all my energy into, well, never being poor again.
This, unknowingly, builds strength of character that shines beyond what any piece of clothing or how you are put together to attain what Antonio has mentioned in this video. I have bespoke Tom Ford suits that I will occasionally wear. Designer everything I could ever want. But my favorite attire has always been jeans, t-shirt and zip up jacket (day) or a sport coat (night) if it is cool out.
Dress for the ladies? If you like. But I guarantee you that dressing to impress for women will get you the wrong woman. My wife fell in love with me when I wore yellowed white t shirts, sweat pants with bleach stains and Birkenstock’s with socks. She saw my character first and above anything else. I fell in love with her, not because she makes Angelina Jolie look like a homeless person. But because she also has an incredible strong character. Kind, generous and thinks of others before she thinks of herself.
We don’t crave attention because it comes to us. In fact, we draw so much unwillingly that we have plan on how to be not noticed. Restaurants will put us in a shielded part of the establishment. We request separate plane boardings, we have assistants get us our Starbucks etc. This is the irony of attention. The more you get. The less you want it.
Now, I am not saying to appear like a homeless person. Absolutely not. There is a social contract on what is acceptable. Be neat, clean with good personal hygiene.
Hopefully, there will be a time in everyone’s life where they can see the character of the person rather than make decisions based on externals.
Thanks to your channel I wear suits daily now. I owe you huge gratitude for the large and in charge video.
For the effects, I noticed the following.
1: half true. Never happened, likely cause I'm still fat though. But... I never was rejected either. And yes I dared asking. I always had enough confidence - I'm not _that_ fat either, but it got refined thanks to dressing up. They do check you out shamelessly. I love that. (and women too, don't let them fool you)
2: put in charge? True. Before I put myself in charge, now others do it for me. It makes it easier.
3: doing more what I say? No difference.
4: expected to charge more? Haven't noticed anything of the sort (yet). But I still don't live for money. Suiting up is cheaper than ever and off the shelve with minor made to measure is perfectly affordable for everyone now.
5: people think you're smarter. True, but I don't like it. I love how people used to say 'you have such a smart face', but now it's just the suit. I worked so hard to be very high educated. I could advise you on smart looking glasses?
6: people looking up to you? Although in small degree, it's definitely true!
7: people will stare. Heck yes. But I like that. It's good. Try it.
8: other guys asking you: yes, true. Usually just about money. They're always surprised how cheap it is. And I tell them about your channel and give them advice for when they are large like me.
9: women compliment me right next to wife: non-verbally yes. Again, that is terrific.
10: performance in general? Zero difference. But I never dressed sloppy.
In summary, gentlemen, suit up! It's worth it.
This is the kind of problems I love to have.
A problem I have recently found is that when you dress up, people start assuming you have the money.
As Antonio said, you'll get "just kidding" comments. But those show a significant amount of subconscious truth.
Anyways another like to this great channel. And also a proud share.
My girlfriend is always jealous and I think she loves me so much.
You know Antonio I've gotta say, for me I haven't noticed so many of these things after starting to step up my game. I'm a senior in high school and have gotten some blazers and chinos and shirts that all fit right, and while people do give me compliments, the effect I have noticed more is the one dressing sharp has on me! It feels so nice to button that sports jacket and stand up to give a speech and know I am looking good. Also due to being broke I haven't been able to buy some nice genuine leather shoes yet. Thanks for the content!
different and unique video every time. Great.
This is true. I only started to wear better shirts, and a nice cologne along with keeping my haircut crispy every two weeks. That was already such a difference. Now, I’m waiting for my first suit to be done at the tailors.
All I get from anyone (mostly women) is "wow you look fancy today". Or "why are you always so dressed up?". It's become more of a nuisance than anything lol.
This, especially when the people around you don’t dress well
@@yusufakals We have the same name buddy
@@yusufahmed8980 ayayy
:) you smile bro feels good.
Simply ask them why they are not.
You couldn't be any more on point Antonio. I have experienced all of this. Great video!
Great video!! I'm a medical student and a lot of times your clothing tips can't be applied to me. For example, some hospitals don't allow ties, other require full white outfits, suits are NEVER worn by doctors (unless private practice, then you're free to whatever u want). I'd like to dress better in the hospital but im not so sure what would be okay.
A lot of my classmates wear jeans, sneakers and t shirts, but i don't really like that. I tend to wear black or blue jeans / chinos, polo shirts, and most often white vans. I think I could improve though. If you could help me out Antonio that'd be great!! Thanks again for your great content
Its refreshing that you change your approach. Your older videos looked a little too stiff. Your in the right direction. Subscribed..
Another side effect I would add, is that you'll become a bigger target for muggers and thief. They're gonna see your nice clothing and assume you must be rich and have a lot of valuables on you.
So now, on top of what you said, you also got to defend yourself from scumbag trying to steal away your stuff.
QuebecNinjaTV Yeah but I enjoy that! Kinda cheap thrill and your clothes get to distress naturally.
YES YES..more facts..this too has happen to me
I thought dressing sharp can deter thieves since there's the broken windows theory. One thing to keep in mind is that we should have stealth wealth in order to look proper.
How about just staying clear of Crime Alley, Mr. Wayne?
You see... strangely, I need videos like this. Afew months ago, I was watching The Sopranos and I actually made me want to start dressing well. (These guys ALWAYS look in charge, and like they're going somewhere) So I started watching video after video to find the ins and outs of putting together outfits with skill. After afew months of buying nice but reasonable dress shirts, pants, shoes, it has made a big difference. But what I didnt expect was how cold the water would be to jump into.
This past weekend, I put together a nice outfit that included the first sport coat I bought just afew days ago. I ended up taking it off once I got to the place I was going because I didn't have the balls to wear it at the event. I'm definitely NOT giving up, but looking at how great people look in these clothes, I didn't expect I'd feel the anxiety to up my dressing game as much as I did. It feels almost like a costume for me at this early stage of the game. The mental aspect of trying something so new is the most challenging thing for me now.Can't wait to get work up the courage though!
I’m a woman. I received a how to be a lady book when I was young. In it, it said that at first you will feel like you’re acting in costume, but with time you will be comfortable. It is so true! It becomes normal (and those closest to you become used to it).
Post Covid and weight gain, I’m dressing up again. I wear dresses and I feel like I’m over dressed. I just need to remind myself that everyone else is underdressed for a party.
Wearing a big sun hat is when I hesitate.
I hope you’re still dressing up 5 years later!
Love the jacket Mr. A. The color looks good on you.
Great Vid Devil Dog, I have had some of these happen to me. Casual Friday is the death knell of the office. I continually get shit for dressing like I own the place, but when a client comes in or a VIP from comes in, I am the one that they go to. Funny how that works. I don't say that as a humblebrag, I just can definitely relate to this. One other thing I would mention is the old adage dress for the job you want not the one you have. Take some pride in yourself, and dress for you and everything will come back full circle
You really have a valuable content Antonio... I just rocked a three piece suit at my high school farewell and that was all because of your amazing intellect and videos... Thank you... Much love from India 🔥🙏😊
It's amazing of how you are perceived by people when you dress sharp, i had people in the London meeting telling me stories. What i really want to know is what is this jacket and where you bought it from!!! Thumbs up for the nicest pocket square out there.
The last poin is so underrated, but 200% true. Its exactly like flipping a switch,
Great vid Antonio
Great video! Everything he shared is 100% true. Especially points 1 and 10.
Thank you, great video :) Love the channel. Also liked your jacket :)
I had that happen at an employment agency in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania(I live in Kansas). I was looking for a job and a couple of women asked me if I was the supervisor. I felt great that whole day. I wore a shirt,tie,slacks and suspenders. I want to convey confidence and success.
The staring is so true.
Everything on the list is accurate but i also notice that some people start getting intimidated of you and if you walk in the city such as New York people notice you more.
Love the jacket you’re wearing in this vid.
This is a good motivational vid to get our butts in gear.
Antonio...you did it again! Another great video. Very encouraging to dress sharp and to step up our wardrobe. I have already had a few times where people thought I was in charge. Spot on!
Love these kind of videos!😂
*_That's what happen when I use Tiege Henley , random girls starts hitting on me!!_* 😂
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@@RealMenRealStyle thank you for always replying , means a lot to me !!♥️
Each of the points you mentioned in the videos is absolutely correct 😃
I’ve been doing this for a while on my college campus of 14K students and holy jeez. Does it work. I’m only a freshman but I’ve been in the performing arts center from time to time and I’ve been stopped by the President, Provost and Director of College Advertising and it’s been amazing!! Not sure if I’m on any college ads yet but I’ll let you know 😉 Watches are, and have been a large part of who I am over the last two years. Now have I a date on Tuesday night. Late night. Books, billiards, coffee. I’m hoping it goes great but I’m also hoping I get compliments so she knows that I’m serious 😅 Her and I have similar interests (music, we’re both musicians) so wish me luck gents !
Good luck, also what kind of clothing do you wear ?
Damian Rudling Business casual on my longer days(2+ classes, each 2 hours), casual on my shorter days(1 class, roughly 90mins) but it’s so cold in New York these days so my wardrobe is mainly long sleeve shirts, turtlenecks and quarter zips. Chinos/jeans and boots, mainly Chelsea/dress boots.
Great job sir !!!!!!
Thank you !!!!!!
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So true, during my internship on base I always dressed with tips from this channel. One day a new Major came into the office looking for my boss and walked straight to me thinking I was him. My boss just sat back and smiled and let her go.
Thank you for making this video. I really enjoyed this.
I like these vids, they remind me of stories I have of my great grandpa on my mom's side who dressed in a suit and fedora/trilby almost every day and for any occasion..my grandpa (same side of the family) was similar in that he always conveyed a sense of "I know what I'm doing" and when he did dress up you noticed and that brought it out even more. I do wish there were more showing of..well more guys like me who aren't quite as fit though..when all the well dressed men you see are thin and fit it makes guys like me who aren't as fit for whatever reason but want to dress sharp feel like we shouldn't..like it wouldn't be right to do it because we're not as fit as all the other guys who wear nice suits and cloths.
Attracting other peoples women is a big problem of high quality men. 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thanks for all the advice! I love that sports coat, where could I find one like it?
Fun and with elements of truth to it! Btw - that is a GREAT jacket. Initially I thought it was tweed but looking at the shoulders and lapel style i think more Italian wool. Very nice and the burnt orange pocket square is a really nice highlight.
Amazing Video.
I can confirm a lot of these.
Hey Toni, another great video, thanks for your help. What kind of jacket are you wearing here? I am digging it.
I would love it if you could do a quick showing of what you’re wearing in each video like Sven at the Gentleman’s Gazette. E.g in today’s video I am wearing a sports jacket with a white dress shirt etc.
Wore a suit for a stage guitar performance. 6 girls came up to me asking for pictures after 😎
Suit up boys!
Nice one Antonio! Love from Germany
Love my German viewers. Thank you!
Und ich dachte ich wäre der einzife deutsche der ihn guckt :)
Big respect from Saudi Arabia 🇸🇦
Most of these are true! I can attest, and owe all that to Antonio and his community on TH-cam
Hey Their Antonio You always Have the best Content Out Their man! Can I request another video on connecting with people for business and in personal life thanks man👍
I go to the grocery store every week. Normally, I wear jeans or khakis. One time I stopped to do my shopping after a job interview. I was wearing a good suit, my favorite shoes, and a new tie. Every woman in that store from 18 to 80 was staring at me an smiling and saying "hi".
the part about people listening to you is so true, like am here listening to everything you say like its the gospel.
😂😂😂❤❤❤ Love this video. Very good sound advice.
In a casual setting, it often doesn't take much to look on the sharper side. A good sweater/shirt combo or a well fitting sport coat can move the needle as well. In business the old rule of dress for the job you want is a tried and true adage. Think like a CEO in any job you have.
A few days ago i had some car trouble and pulled my car into the Car Dealership unscheduled where it normally gets serviced. I was dressed sharp as usual for work, and it was in the morning around 8. They asked if i can leave the car to get serviced. Then the service manager gave me a loaner vehicle which was a new model year vehicle barely had 500 miles on it. I had the vehicle for the day while i was at work. Picked up my Car later that afternoon. However, I do believe that the fact i was dressed well played a part in getting maybe better than usual service. Maybe it was service as usual. But i still think being well dressed allowed me that element of better service than the usual. Be well dressed guys if you can.
Hello from sweden. This was a real good video. Keep up the good work
I am a big fan from germany and i can totally agree with you my brother !
Been wanting to dress more sharp for a whilw! Thanks to this, I know I need to do this even more! :)
Mr.Cabello, keep in mind that you don’t have to spend a lot of money doing it. I say this from experience. You can do this.
This was such a great video
Loved it as a guy who dresses sharp
These things really happens and the feeling is great.
I like this.
Thank you Antonio.
I listen to u telling the story of the newcomer reaching to being the face on the billboard.... It sounds incredible, but I saw it in my previous company at the airport! It is possible, if one looks always, always, always impeccable and sharp! And people literally start to associate the success and the company with this one impeccable and sharp employee!
Genius vid, great work Antonio
You're absolutely right
Depends on your surroundings, some areas it might get you robbed or killed too. Be Wise & Be Aware.
At the same time, confidence makes us a harder target, so how do we achieve the right balance? I think a video about what to wear in high-risk areas would be beneficial
All are true. I can totally relate.
This gentleman is absolutely correct this also applies to women who take pride in their appearance and dress well and present their best selves to the world
I really like this video. Very true and on point.
Totally agree with the first point
This video is so motivating! Great job !
Loved the video
All of this is true. My wife even felt overshadowed during formal night at a cruise because of my white suit. At work, it gives you instant credibility in the classroom.
@RMRS That was the best way someone has ever explained why to like and subscribe to a video.