Navigating Family Conversations in Dementia Caregiving: 7 Hard Discussions and Family Conflict
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- Navigating Family Conversations in Dementia Caregiving: 7 Hard Discussions and Family Conflict
In this video, we explore the common challenges and conflicts that families often face when caring for a loved one with dementia. From disagreements about care responsibilities to financial strains and complex decisions, our expert insights shed light on the issues that can arise in the realm of dementia caregiving.
🔍 Key Topics:
- Care Responsibilities
- Financial Strain
- Treatment and Care Decisions
- Living Arrangements
- Communication Challenges
- Time Commitments
- Guilt and Resentment
🤝 Join us as we discuss practical strategies for fostering communication, understanding, and collaboration within the family unit. Discover ways to navigate these challenges, seek common ground, and provide the best possible care for your loved one with dementia.
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This is exactly what has happened in our family and never in a million years would I have thought it would “break” our family. They don’t get it because they don’t do it nor realize that as this horrible disease progresses, there are more doctors appointments, lots more care needed, etc that the one that has been doing it 24/7 is exhausted physically, mentally and emotionally.
It is so common in families. So unfortunate. 😔
@@DementiaWithGrace our local support group and moms doctors say the same thing, that it almost always falls on one person
I am completely parallel to what you speak of. We never had big family issues until my loved ones dementia symptoms became evident to me. Her side of the family is not on the ground and is in DENIAL..I, too, have been castigated by my loved one AND her brother, sister in law and nephew.
@@PaintedShovel I’ve been caring for my mom for almost 6 years without a single day to just relax, have time with friends, etc. No one will ever understand what it’s like and it’s not only exhausting physically but more mentally as many times, nothing makes any sense. They lose all ability to understand things that are common sense. Yes, it is a very heartbreaking disease, it’s sad to watch on a daily basis and when your own family isn’t there to help and support you, it creates bitterness and resentment on top of what you’re already going through. I love my mom with all of my heart but am 65 years old, disabled myself and I’m beyond exhausted. Sending you prayers and strength for what you’re going through as I do get it🤗
How about a crazy situation of my dad’s respite volunteer siding with my sister, and not seeing dementia in 90 minutes of playing cards each week…?!
He keeps inferring that it’s only old age.
My friend's mother would perk up when out of town relatives came to visit. These relatives would tell my friend , who was exhausted physically, emotionally, etc that all her mother needs is "more stimulation". My friend could not make them understand or believe how stressful it was to take care of her mom and then she'd be even more stressed.
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Oh yes! I have seen this and heard of it! That’s when I say, “I know you would love a weekend with her! To catch up! I’ll take a little vacation!” 😆
Too bad none of them would invite her to visit for a couple weeks!
I never mind your long videos. I always feel like I have been enlightened or verified. I’ve said it a 1,000 times, dementia is such a cruel disease on everyone involved but especially for the one diagnosed. Much love for all you strong loving caregivers. Big big hugs from NC🤗🤗🤗
Your videos popped up on my youtube feed after I had googled information on dementia. I ordered your book Dementia with Grace and it has been such an encouragement and blessing to me. Just this past week, we have moved my mother from independent living to an assisted living facility. Her dementia progression along with her physical limitations with arthritis have made this move necessary. Your suggestions on how to handle dementia behavior have been tremendously helpful. Your phrase "broken brain" gives a whole new light on how to look upon someone who is suffering with confusion and can no longer find the words to express how they think or feel. God bless you for writing this book and sharing your knowledge, suggestions, tips and solutions as caretakers for those that can no longer take care of themselves. 🙏
That means the world to me! Thanks for taking the time to leave a sweet message!
Vicky... thank you for what you do ❤and thank you for sharing your experience with us.
Thank you
Always great advise
I could listen to u all day Vicky😇 Bless u for all u do for those of us who need your help and reach our for it🙏
I’m thankful for you! That’s sweet you say you could listen all day! My accent is not for everyone! As these comments can attest!! lol!! All my love, Vicky ❤️
@@DementiaWithGrace your accent is lovely!❤ Blessings from South Africa
Vicky, our lifeline!❤
Too sweet!! I’m just trying to help!
@@DementiaWithGrace you are truly a lifeline to us caregivers and sincerely appreciated as is the Facebook support group. 🙏
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I don’t mind my allegedly bipolar sister never talking to me again, but I certainly don’t like my slandered reputation…
It helps that my dad has enough faith in my abilities that he wants to be with me.
Whew! You hit all the nails on the head with this one!
My late grandmother LOVED flamingos!
Aww! I chose one as a “mascot” for the group!
@@DementiaWithGrace Great choice!
You are an amazing resource for so many of us on this journey and you are so appreciated!
Thank you so much!
❤✨🦃Happy Thanksgiving” Thank you for the wonderful advice, again!!!!❤️✨🦃
Happy Thanksgiving!!
Here’s a situation for discussion:
My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, first neurologist.
I never saw it, but saw what I believed was Parkinson’s.
The same second neurologist diagnosed vascular dementia and confirmed Parkinson’s.
Recently, he had a list of symptoms that led to an ER visit.
My subsequent observations and questions make me believe he was wrongly medicated for Alzheimer’s (placed on Namenda).
I’m going to question the medication, and if my hypothesis is correct, he may have a marked improvement to prove that my sister is “right”, about him not having dementia…
She had argued with his PCP who sent him for a senior assessment, that showed a definite change.
It’ll be interesting to see how all ends.
My family is going through a lot right now. Mom has dementia. Dad is 92 and frail and needs help himself. I live 5 miles away but am not temperamentally suited for caregiving, and besides, as Mom has gotten fully into paranoia, I'm her scapegoat and the focus for her anger, so it's not the least little bit livable for me. The rest of the kids live 1300 miles away, and all but one of them think her dementia isn't bad, so the accusations she's making about me must be true. I feel like I've lost all my family.
Mom and Dad accept that assisted living or a home aide is needed, but they refuse to let anyone help them with the decisions involved, and they're in no hurry to make decisions themselves. I think they hope that delay will result in some miracle answer.
Meanwhile, one brother is entirely checked out. One comes to visit with the idea that he's going to make them make decisions (or else?) Mom hates my sister and me, so our input isn't wanted, although our parents definitely expect us to come over and act like maids for them. When they want, and only if we do exactly as they say, when they say it.
I think the most likely outcome is that we all check out. I'm already on my way out the door. Can't take being her scapegoat, especially when I know that I've been doing a lot for them. It's too much like my teen years, and I never want to relive those days again.
(We suspect Mom is a narcissist, and it has made all of our lives more complicated. It has also made the last few months, as she's descended into paranoia, especially challenging.)
I just live you and am so happy to have found you.
Aww! Thank you for saying so!
Vicky ,how can i get my five siblings to help more ,my 81 year old mother was diagnosed beginning of last year, We started to see the signs about 4 years ago im not sure what stage she's in ...She Is very forgetful but still manages to bathe take her meds , she does eat if i prepare it or remind her too ...she no longer balance her check book and remebers all of her six children and some friends but only a couple of her 18 grandchildren She says theres those people 💔 she is very obsessed with washing her hands and having to go to the bathroom she is a busy bee and i am struggling.. i just want more help How do i get my siblings to help more.. they all live within thirty minutes from me, how do i tell them again!!!! that i need more help just come pick her up spend the day with her bring her back home after.. Me and my husband could use some quiet time my mom has always been high energy she worked til she was 74 and she never stops and with this disease its just rough sometimes thanks ..
What do you do when your person has ocd on top of dementia and it is very hard to handle him when he gets an idea in his head. Example, he got it in his head he needed new tires on car. The car is only 3 yrs old. Everybody tried to tell him he didn’t need it. Nothing would satisfy him but get the tires. We bought them after sitting 4 hrs. And got home and I caught him out with a tire guage trying to check tire pressure. This is just one example. I’m spouse and inly care giver. It was an exhausting day
What would you say about a person "supposedly" having dementia. All doctors and an investigator (investigator says not dementia, is a psych issue) seem to think my mom is just fine. All the while my mom is feigning dementia AND can pass every test they throw at her. Will always say she "forgets" everything. Says she is fine. However the person can send a text with precision punctuation. No misspelled words, nuce sentence formation. A whole dam paragraph! I apologize for going off topic, it just happened and your video ame on my feed. Im a bit raw about it right now. Meanwhile she is manipulative and seems to have her hate on for me.
That's called Narcissism and let me tell you once Dementia gets in the mix it's not pretty ~ Vivian
Hi, I know this might not be the best place to ask questions but I need some advice. My mother is constantly accusing me of stealing or hiding things from her, some are things we don't actually own. I tried to reason with her but that just made her angrier. Our relationship is really strained right now because of this. Should I just buy whatever she accuses me of? I am really not sure if I should do this because there might be things that I just can't buy anymore. What should I do?
My mother is doing the same thing everytime she misplaces something she says someone took it but she really don't blame me yet, it's my grown children who don't live with me or go anywhere near her room and why would they take your nightgown lol.. She thinks they are friends of mine it's very frustrating 😢
16:55 Viicky,
I have a play-list on dementia.
Could you please comment on it?
Dementia.
th-cam.com/play/PLF2u8wp26pCLy0HX985ZyerhhTmgCb3Ht.html
When I get caught up!! I will try!!