How do you respond to the comment: “it was just sex”, “it meant nothing”, “I still love you!” I must be in the minority but saying those things to me only makes me angry with a feeling of hopelessness. What do you think? Would those comments make you angry or more understanding?
Quite frankly that would ENRAGE me that they could so callously disregard the pain they had caused me. To me it means only that they were sorry the got caught.
I remember this story…. This guy was soft. He could have avoided all the grief by simply releasing the video evidence but didn’t have the stones to do it. Sure he divorced her but with zero revenge.
@@GSP-76 He sent the emails but never sent the videos. Had he sent them the customers and everyone else wouldn't have bought the disgruntled employee story.
@@chrisclark5204 If he sent videos, he would have been arrested for revenge porn. I agree he should have not helped his ex wife cover up and lie to their clients and told them it was true but sending videos would have been stupid... especially since his kids would have been traumatized by it..at least in this story.
@@chrisclark5204 thank you…. I was going to say the same. The rule is always control the narrative. He endured a ton of grief from his kids because he was too weak to show them the proof.
You half correct the assumption is also tell people the truth and they will side with me. The conflict is people of punch down and not up. For cheating it's the same people care more about status quo than the hurt party. Look at the daughter reaction as an example the first thing brought up was consulting a therapist for the marriage.
Even to the end she couldn't wrap her mind around the fact that she and AP ruined everything with their affair... Kept it in the dark... and accepted the losses when it was exposed... And then actually further victimized him with lies to try to keep their arrangement as acceptable "if he could ignore the truth"... Consider what would have been the fallout if she first divorced her husband.. and gave up 60% of the assets in an amicable divorce, and THEN had her affair. It wouldn't have been an affair then would it?? Sure, her reputation would suffer.. but the emotional injuries would have been greatly reduced... They could ruin their own lives.. well maybe the OBS would have to accept the affair... But his pride would not have been nearly so injured
He would have saved himself an incredible amount of grief and endless arguing and droning, by sending the video along with the original evidence from her email account. His delay made this much worse than it had to be. Even now, his daughters still question the reality. After viewing the video, EVERYONE's pain and conflict would have been reduced. Trickle-down "truth" only delayed the inevitable. The wife refused to be held accountable for her actions. In addition to the affair, she continued inflicting pain and doubt by lying and portraying her husband as a jerk. She sacrificed his image attempting to excuse her crimes. Lying to and denigrating her spouse, to preserve her imagined image, at his expense, reveals her true lack of morality. Immediately revealing the video would have resolved all the uncertainty. "It was only sex", for which she was quickly willing to sacrifice her husband and her marriage. She was morally corrupt and unredeemable.
I am not in support of vengeance but in sole support of justice. Not only in support of the betrayed husband but also in support of the decent and unsuspecting people of the community. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a proverbial scarlet letter to warn others of impending moral danger. However, in this current amoral environment, these characters have no fixed or sound principles to guide them in life, making for the possibility of compromise under any conditions. So, the betrayed husband appears to be so confused since he did not possess a sure foundation upon which to base his ultimate decision. Very sad, indeed.
It infuriates me whe cheaters say it meant nothing, or it was just sex. So, you were willing to destroy your marriage for fun without love. Exactly, how is that supposed to be better? Do they ever expect those brainless phrases to improve anything? It's betrayal, plain, and simple, and now you need to live with the consequences.
It kills me in all these stories the cheater always say 15yrs 20 yrs 30yrs whatever the age of their relationship is they always say ___ many yrs has gotta count for and mean something but the betrayed never seem to bring up how all that time apparently didn't mean anything to them except maybe created some sort of hall pass just once I'd like to hear the betrayed say if those 25 years had meant anything at all to them then they wouldn't have destroyed the marriage they alway let them say after 25 yrs they should be forgiven and they shouldn't throw all that time away and let it be meaningless just once I want them to say that it is obvious that it's meaningless to them or they'd never chosen to throw it away so haphazardly
That was the key fact undermining all her protestations of love and wanting to save the marriage. Against his best judgement the husband held out the willingness to try to save the marriage if she would quit the job and stop working with Greg. Given that the affair arose because of her constant close proximity to Greg, it was inevitable that resuming the work relationship would resume the affair. She was unable to give up Greg, unable to give up the affair, so she rejected the one rational route to saving the marriage that was offered.
This character is annoying. His daughters and family pester and attack him, while he has in his possession, proof of the adultery. He doesn't want to share this and put an end to his problems "because it would hurt them " Pathetic. He could edit the footage - without showing the sex act - and show enough of the truth to prove the adultery. The wife : " I will do anything - but I won't do that " I won't leave the job where I will continue working closely with the guy I screwed . How stupid and arrogant do you have to be to think this works ?
He could have just sent the video to everyone they know and end it all from the start. Now, their business is restarting and soon they will resume their intimate encounters as if nothing happend!
God I miss lockdown!! I had so much fun, being at home with all the cool stuff I bought to keep me occupied over the years. Never having to be around stupid people & working from home was great. I never complained once
I can't believe this husband!!!! At about 9:27 he could have just stood firm and questioned her about all the incriminating evidence he found. Not storm around the house, packing suitcases, and locking himself in a room like a child throwing a tantrum. Another thing I find childish is how many of these spurned husbands feel the need to either share information about the affair with family and friends or have a party or get together and expose their wives publicly. An affair is private couple's business. Other people don't need to know one has a failed marriage. Just handle it.
No offense, but you're either a woman or a cheater yourself with that response. If you don't notify everyone as a "spurned husband", it's very easy to make everyone believe a made up story about a man hurting a woman, whether it's true or not. This guy was incredibly weak in his response once he found out. IMO, he should have acted like nothing was happening until he served her and avoided trying to explain it to her, then sent the video to everyone saying "This is why I'm divorcing this b*tch".
While you are correct in alluding to the fact that people react in different ways IF this were to happen to me any adrenaline and anger going through me would have me address the issue head on (I know me). I would immediately present my evidence, stand firm, and ask my wife what she is going to do to fix her "mistake". During such time, I would not be packing a suitcase, she would. Also, the sound of a door closing would be her on the other side finding another place to live in the meantime. I still stand firm in keeping marital affairs private, but if anyone askes, I would direct their attention to the cheating wife for answers. @@frankblasky1296
@@dcfmkyn he did address it initially head on...he did the one thing he could to lash out and hurt both people. More than a few killed their spouse during the pandemic.
Well, okay, the husband in the story reacted how he did, and no one could have told him otherwise. It was unfortunate that he found out while locked up with her during the pandemic.@@Rune-Thorne
How do you respond to the comment: “it was just sex”, “it meant nothing”, “I still love you!” I must be in the minority but saying those things to me only makes me angry with a feeling of hopelessness. What do you think? Would those comments make you angry or more understanding?
Quite frankly that would ENRAGE me that they could so callously disregard the pain they had caused me. To me it means only that they were sorry the got caught.
That might make me put hands on someone. Thats so condenscending. Like very disrespectful
I remember this story…. This guy was soft. He could have avoided all the grief by simply releasing the video
evidence but didn’t have the stones to do it. Sure he divorced her but with zero revenge.
Did you not pay any attention to the story? He sent the evidence to everyone well before he filed for divorce.
@@GSP-76 He sent the emails but never sent the videos. Had he sent them the customers and everyone else wouldn't have bought the disgruntled employee story.
@@chrisclark5204 If he sent videos, he would have been arrested for revenge porn. I agree he should have not helped his ex wife cover up and lie to their clients and told them it was true but sending videos would have been stupid... especially since his kids would have been traumatized by it..at least in this story.
@@chrisclark5204 thank you…. I was going to say the same. The rule is always control the narrative. He endured a ton of grief from his kids because he was too weak to show them the proof.
You half correct the assumption is also tell people the truth and they will side with me. The conflict is people of punch down and not up. For cheating it's the same people care more about status quo than the hurt party. Look at the daughter reaction as an example the first thing brought up was consulting a therapist for the marriage.
The husband was a weak simp. He should of released all of evidence and things would have went more smoothly.
Even to the end she couldn't wrap her mind around the fact that she and AP ruined everything with their affair... Kept it in the dark... and accepted the losses when it was exposed... And then actually further victimized him with lies to try to keep their arrangement as acceptable "if he could ignore the truth"... Consider what would have been the fallout if she first divorced her husband.. and gave up 60% of the assets in an amicable divorce, and THEN had her affair. It wouldn't have been an affair then would it?? Sure, her reputation would suffer.. but the emotional injuries would have been greatly reduced... They could ruin their own lives.. well maybe the OBS would have to accept the affair... But his pride would not have been nearly so injured
Why do cheating wives says, ‘Let me explain,’ and ‘Then say I don’t know why I did it . . .’ What kind of explanation is that?
He would have saved himself an incredible amount of grief and endless arguing and droning, by sending the video along with the original evidence from her email account. His delay made this much worse than it had to be. Even now, his daughters still question the reality.
After viewing the video, EVERYONE's pain and conflict would have been reduced. Trickle-down "truth" only delayed the inevitable. The wife refused to be held accountable for her actions. In addition to the affair, she continued inflicting pain and doubt by lying and portraying her husband as a jerk. She sacrificed his image attempting to excuse her crimes. Lying to and denigrating her spouse, to preserve her imagined image, at his expense, reveals her true lack of morality. Immediately revealing the video would have resolved all the uncertainty.
"It was only sex", for which she was quickly willing to sacrifice her husband and her marriage. She was morally corrupt and unredeemable.
I am not in support of vengeance but in sole support of justice. Not only in support of the betrayed husband but also in support of the decent and unsuspecting people of the community. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a proverbial scarlet letter to warn others of impending moral danger. However, in this current amoral environment, these characters have no fixed or sound principles to guide them in life, making for the possibility of compromise under any conditions. So, the betrayed husband appears to be so confused since he did not possess a sure foundation upon which to base his ultimate decision. Very sad, indeed.
Every one of these stories the kids are telling the father its no big deal that his wife cheated what does that say about today’s youth
Any man who marries in todays world until the divorce laws are changed to at fault is a fool.
It infuriates me whe cheaters say it meant nothing, or it was just sex. So, you were willing to destroy your marriage for fun without love. Exactly, how is that supposed to be better? Do they ever expect those brainless phrases to improve anything? It's betrayal, plain, and simple, and now you need to live with the consequences.
Why do people tell other people that got cheated on to wait and think about it so they filed divorce even if they could have🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
It kills me in all these stories the cheater always say 15yrs 20 yrs 30yrs whatever the age of their relationship is they always say ___ many yrs has gotta count for and mean something but the betrayed never seem to bring up how all that time apparently didn't mean anything to them except maybe created some sort of hall pass just once I'd like to hear the betrayed say if those 25 years had meant anything at all to them then they wouldn't have destroyed the marriage they alway let them say after 25 yrs they should be forgiven and they shouldn't throw all that time away and let it be meaningless just once I want them to say that it is obvious that it's meaningless to them or they'd never chosen to throw it away so haphazardly
The pandemic wasn't that bad, no cops everywhere gas station and grocery store stayed open, only went out when needed...
Wonder if the cheater should be given a pass, but she would not quit her job?
That was the key fact undermining all her protestations of love and wanting to save the marriage. Against his best judgement the husband held out the willingness to try to save the marriage if she would quit the job and stop working with Greg. Given that the affair arose because of her constant close proximity to Greg, it was inevitable that resuming the work relationship would resume the affair. She was unable to give up Greg, unable to give up the affair, so she rejected the one rational route to saving the marriage that was offered.
This character is annoying. His daughters and family pester and attack him, while he has in his possession, proof of the adultery.
He doesn't want to share this and put an end to his problems "because it would hurt them "
Pathetic.
He could edit the footage - without showing the sex act - and show enough of the truth to prove the adultery.
The wife : " I will do anything - but I won't do that "
I won't leave the job where I will continue working closely with the guy I screwed .
How stupid and arrogant do you have to be to think this works ?
It’s not what it seems, it was only sex,give me a chance, we can fix this, blah, blah, blah and so on.
He could have just sent the video to everyone they know and end it all from the start. Now, their business is restarting and soon they will resume their intimate encounters as if nothing happend!
A mistake? One mistake 6 months she was having an affair 6 months . . .
I'd send the video!
She cheats and he's the A-hole? She wants to move on with no consequences.. once a cheater always a cheater...
God I miss lockdown!! I had so much fun, being at home with all the cool stuff I bought to keep me occupied over the years. Never having to be around stupid people & working from home was great. I never complained once
36:20 BS. I wouldn't shake hands. What could the cop do? Nothing.
How stupid is this 304 it was just s-time with another man.
Send out the video
I lome your stories but your endings tend to be anticlimactic and sucky.
He l feel is they dumb A__ for not showing the vidio!
I can't believe this husband!!!! At about 9:27 he could have just stood firm and questioned her about all the incriminating evidence he found. Not storm around the house, packing suitcases, and locking himself in a room like a child throwing a tantrum.
Another thing I find childish is how many of these spurned husbands feel the need to either share information about the affair with family and friends or have a party or get together and expose their wives publicly. An affair is private couple's business. Other people don't need to know one has a failed marriage. Just handle it.
No offense, but you're either a woman or a cheater yourself with that response. If you don't notify everyone as a "spurned husband", it's very easy to make everyone believe a made up story about a man hurting a woman, whether it's true or not. This guy was incredibly weak in his response once he found out. IMO, he should have acted like nothing was happening until he served her and avoided trying to explain it to her, then sent the video to everyone saying "This is why I'm divorcing this b*tch".
When this happens to you, you will feel much different and likely act on pure adrenaline and anger.
While you are correct in alluding to the fact that people react in different ways IF this were to happen to me any adrenaline and anger going through me would have me address the issue head on (I know me). I would immediately present my evidence, stand firm, and ask my wife what she is going to do to fix her "mistake". During such time, I would not be packing a suitcase, she would. Also, the sound of a door closing would be her on the other side finding another place to live in the meantime. I still stand firm in keeping marital affairs private, but if anyone askes, I would direct their attention to the cheating wife for answers. @@frankblasky1296
@@dcfmkyn he did address it initially head on...he did the one thing he could to lash out and hurt both people. More than a few killed their spouse during the pandemic.
Well, okay, the husband in the story reacted how he did, and no one could have told him otherwise. It was unfortunate that he found out while locked up with her during the pandemic.@@Rune-Thorne