Buying A Chateau In France 🏰 🇫🇷 - 10 Things we wish we knew before

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  • @FRASERMCGREGOR72
    @FRASERMCGREGOR72 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    Hands down this has been your best video ever. It's so accomplished and well edited and full of tips and tricks. You've come such a long way. All your hard work is inspiring and it's really lovely to watch everything come together for you all.

  • @platoman214
    @platoman214 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I'm an old man now; entire non-work life spent traveling with close friends looking for exquisite furniture, mulling over masterpieces seen in museums, private mansions, kings' courts, etc. Now, 42 years later, I have my work of art and realize none of my family would have a piece of it in their home. Very well, sell it to marketers who can feed someone elses dreams., one piece at a time, giving to someone the joy I had for so many years. So that the comment is not solely about me, I do really love personally you, Anna and Philipp, for your dream, steady seeking, and present victory in an astonishingly lovely achievement. May it now turn around and bless you.

  • @rileykeff
    @rileykeff ปีที่แล้ว +192

    My wife and I bought an old house about a year ago. One thing I find myself consistently talking about with her is that - when we renovate stuff ourselves, we need to trust one another that the other person isn’t knowingly making a mistake, they’re trying their best to have an excellent finished product.

    • @rosemarythyme6351
      @rosemarythyme6351 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Totally agree! Trust is a huge factor in renovations. It has helped us to keep in mind that old houses aren't perfect and a screw up here and there adds to the home's character as long as it isn't a safety issue or blatantly obvious.

    • @pippacarron1861
      @pippacarron1861 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      And this need for trust applies more generally in a relationship too.

    • @kd1g130
      @kd1g130 ปีที่แล้ว

      Get more than two tradesmen estimates I used the one from my neighbors recommendation and he was still dishonest with us. So get four or five if possible. Then when things go badly, you know good back up options for the future as well.😢😊

  • @graemelewis2291
    @graemelewis2291 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    Hands down my favourite Château renovation channel. My wife is a professional interior designer with 30 years experience, our taste is vastly different, hers is baroque, mine is minimalist and less clutter. Our house looks like the shoemaker shoe, it's basically an office LOL

    • @akiralight6861
      @akiralight6861 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Its the memories that count, would love to get into renovating or designing a room in my house :)

    • @elizabethcuartas4951
      @elizabethcuartas4951 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Good luck with your house start with small protects as long you love your house every little thing will make a difference and you will happy and proud.

  • @ruth5014
    @ruth5014 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    I was actually struck by how many of these lessons are totally applicable even to people renovating a small and modest home! We’ve come to some of the exact same conclusions about the process we’re going through with our own little fixer-upper.

  • @dwagnerful
    @dwagnerful ปีที่แล้ว +99

    You both have worked so hard getting the chateau livable. It's always easier to look back. I think so many of your renovations are really beautiful. The hard reality of owning an old home; trying to turn a profit, constant maintenance and repairs, never ending money pit, taxes, etc., can exhaust anyone and make you old early. Bed and breakfast and wedding venue are hard, hard, work. Pleasing the public, well that's another story. I sense you are coming to the end of this journey and looking forward to a new exciting chapter in your lives. If this is so, I wish you and your family the very best!

  • @sandramapstone5601
    @sandramapstone5601 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I can tell you that the closest we ever came to DIVORCE was doing renovation projects together. After 30 years of being married we have learned to step back and think about what the other person is saying, and listening ... and hearing them!

  • @aekyth
    @aekyth ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My first Youtubute comment ever.
    I've been following you for almost 2 years and each of your videos is a pleasure to watch. Thank you for sharing this wonderful adventure with us. On a personal level, I feel very privileged. I look forward to every Sunday when I can meet up with you behind my computer.
    I wish you all the best, you deserve it.
    Greetings from Reims, France 👋

    • @HowToRenovateAChateau
      @HowToRenovateAChateau  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      So glad to hear that, thank you so much for following! merci!

  • @mariagrasso6675
    @mariagrasso6675 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm shocked to learn you had issues around the chateau's decor and style. It's what I love the most about your home, the effortless blend of modern and classic pieces with fresh color combinations. You honor the home's tradition and also acknowledge that we're living in 2023. The rooms take my breath away, AD worthy, but not stuffy or pretentious. Seems like you have found a style that perfectly reflects who you BOTH are, and perhaps is a metaphor for why your relationship works. Ah, the silver lining of conflicts and disagreements. Bravo!

  • @sth.777
    @sth.777 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    You've done an amazing job, including being willing to tackle a massive learning curve! If I could give a bit of marital advice, with 30 years married and going strong: Make time for a date night each week. No kids, no talk of work, projects, TH-cam, schedules - just you two. Go out to a nice restaurant; find a new place together, whether that's a walk, hike, or new site of interest nearby. And never go to bed without talking through strife points and finding a resolution together. Remembering that you're on the same team, even in the stressful times, will be helped by these simple steps.

  • @lynetteyoung9777
    @lynetteyoung9777 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for sharing 10 discoveries from beginning your chateau renovations. Your openness has been very helpful and are greatly appreciated.

  • @colleenlongardner2692
    @colleenlongardner2692 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    And can I say that Anna's creative talent is just outstanding. Her super power.

  • @elizabethpaints
    @elizabethpaints ปีที่แล้ว +104

    Wow, this was an eye opener! Your history of renovating your past homes reflects your great partnership working through the chateau challenges. However I had no clue there were problems with furniture and decor ideas, except of course for paint color. Now that we know the back story, the renovations you've done take on a whole new meaning. You are an amazing team!

    • @HowToRenovateAChateau
      @HowToRenovateAChateau  ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Glad you enjoyed it!

    • @stop_and_smell_the_roses
      @stop_and_smell_the_roses ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes. I appreciate their honesty. I went through a tough renovation on a smaller house and wish I wouldn't have chosen to live in it whilst renovating.

    • @marthaizaguirre6363
      @marthaizaguirre6363 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Love your clean, uncluttered, casual elegance style. 🥰

  • @katymichalski7244
    @katymichalski7244 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    I think it was so, so smart for Phillip to become an electrician. This was beyond genius as he knows what is there now and can also look back to see what repairs were done. Especially learning that while under so much stress of being sick and getting the loan. Really very impressive
    !!! "Capability Phillip"

    • @annarichter6196
      @annarichter6196 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Don’t forget he’s also a master of waste pipe plumbing.

    • @anonymousonlineuser6543
      @anonymousonlineuser6543 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@annarichter6196 And a powerful influencer...

  • @ovillagebedandbreakfastino2243
    @ovillagebedandbreakfastino2243 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for this video. I renovated a Maison de Maitre in Languedoc during COVID. As a solo owner with no skill on how to repair things I hired a group of workers. I changed 19 old windows that could probably have been repaired now I watc that I watched your video. My new wooden windows look great but it was a stuggle to find the hardward that would make them look like the originals. I agree with you that buying dark brown furniture from Antique stores is not the only way to furnish a home. I get a lot of compliments for the style of my rooms and share spaces. I also sourced everything based on my taste. I chose the style instead of trying to make a decor with old furniture. I think people appreciate sleeping in a brand new bed, instead of putting their heads against an old velvet headboard that may have hidden bugs or dirt. I also found that creating the outdoor space was more complicated that creating the living spaces inside the house. I had to create a parking, a swimming pool, etc,... and I am still learning about the plants, trees, flower etc... I wished my garden would look fuller than it is now. To conclude I want to say that I LOVE the style that you have created. It is really beautiful. You have great taste and both of you are very creative. Your castle deserved to have owners like you. It was waiting for you, and it is probably going through its most glorious era thanks to both of you.

  • @TheBeauChateau
    @TheBeauChateau ปีที่แล้ว +8

    We wish we could have watched this a year ago!
    We agree with everything here, especially the part about delighting to Benoit!
    We are still arguing over colors and designs… I prefer warm colors while Ian wants a Batcave in our dungeon, so we need to learn to compromise 😅

  • @PropheticCoachTheresa
    @PropheticCoachTheresa ปีที่แล้ว +40

    You guys will be at a million subscribers soon. You sure deserve it. Thanks for bringing the world so much joy in the last couple of years. Blessings! ♥

  • @debkendall
    @debkendall ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I remember having an argument about door knobs you need so many of them - so understand what you mean about merging styles . You have a beautiful aesthetic

  • @CzarinaHarris
    @CzarinaHarris ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I think your apple trees somehow remember that their ancestors thrived there many years ago! Wonderful to see fruit so soon on your tree, congratulations!

  • @maurawhelan3530
    @maurawhelan3530 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Love your contemporary style…simple clean etc. not too flowery not too much wallpaper. I think you’ve done a lovely job letting the details on the house shine…

  • @dalenamostert9557
    @dalenamostert9557 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My husband is not imaginative, and neither is he hands-on. We are positively polar opposites! Yet we created an amazing home filled with whimsy and fun. We host music shows and even got married in our garden. My no 1 regret is that I want to do too much myself. My no 1 tip, though, relates. If you can afford to pay a professional, do so. Even if you have to stand by and guide the creative elements. I love your show so much!

  • @pippacarron1861
    @pippacarron1861 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So honest of you both with #1. I think your natural, relaxed personalities shine through in every episode which makes your channel such a winner. Loved the ending.

  • @deba4537
    @deba4537 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Must add: your lovely pup adds a perfect note of warm orangey-rust to every room!

  • @carolebarager3373
    @carolebarager3373 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Having a sense of humor has taken you both a long way in more ways than one!
    Lovely to watch.

  • @em8066
    @em8066 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That awkward moment when you go to like the video but realize you already liked it. Loved this entry. :)

  • @PropheticCoachTheresa
    @PropheticCoachTheresa ปีที่แล้ว +36

    You guys will be at a million viewers soon. You sure deserve it. Thanks for bringing the world so much joy in the last couple of years. Blessings! ♥

  • @ronniemensch2400
    @ronniemensch2400 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was such a great video. Twelve year ago we bought a 100 yr old fixer-upper in the city we now live. My husband did not want the house, he saw all the work that would need to be done. That was just on the outside. Self seeded trees growing against the house. Four massive spruce trees in the north too close together. I could see beyond all this foliage, my husband could not. As soon as we walked into the house he fell in love with the original decor that was still there but needed work. I said all it needs is wallpaper removed, hideous orange and lime green kitchen repainted... mdf door and window trims, that I hate, replaced with custom made new trim, which we have. A main floor bathroom that was beyond ugly... the list can go on. It was a good price, big enough to house our congregation members for events, more importantly enough room for our family to be able to visit. We have gone through contractor after contractor, none were good enough for my husband, who basically worked from home. In most cases it had nothing to do with the work but more to do with him being an extreme introvert and having someone in the house all day drove him nuts. Where are we today... kitchen still needs all the trim work, which we have. Main floor bathroom still needs to be completed. mdf still needs replacing. The 1970's windows on the main floor are garbage, the original wooden windows upstairs are warmer but in need of repair. Lastly I am not allowed to do any of the work, because even what I do does not reach my husband standards, he could do better, but he can not and does not. Truth is we live in a home in perpetual state of restoration / renovation mess! Visitors are few and far between, children and grandchildren, never come to visit. Listen carefully to the advice in this video, the truth is it is a lot more difficult to agree, one of you has to backdown.
    Thank you for your honesty it was very refreshing to hear the truth and really relate to it all. Saskatchewan, Canada.

  • @lydiarowe491
    @lydiarowe491 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The mistakes of cutting costs by having to redo is a lesson learnt…so much depends on experience and timing which both of you have now gained by trial and error..having this blog to give others what not to do is a blessing to so many..being afraid of hard work is not what you are..this endeavour has taught you and your followers so much..laughing and embracing your challenges does create a community with your followers…making up after having had disagreed is the message that we can all benefit from❤..happy days to all..🍀

  • @gabrielleroy8654
    @gabrielleroy8654 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One thing i learn through reno is that everything can be learnt :)

  • @MrJerryoseattle
    @MrJerryoseattle ปีที่แล้ว +16

    As entertaining as your previous videos have been, this video really does show us that the planning we don’t always see on screen is important. I confess that I am a chateau video addict. I can safely say this video is on every level my favorite chateau viewing experience ever. Thank you so much for sharing in an informative and vulnerable way this aspect of your experience owning your chateau.

    • @WinstonSmithGPT
      @WinstonSmithGPT ปีที่แล้ว

      I’ve actually dropped all my COVID chateau video indulgences except this one.

  • @toddmartin3936
    @toddmartin3936 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You two should be awarded as the chateau love couple, constantly beating any stress and disagreement under exceptionally challenging circumstances. Undoubtedly, your achievement was, is, and still will be a big deal! Keep going; it is fun to watch your vlogs.

  • @ginacrusco234
    @ginacrusco234 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    That was really fun, especially as we got to see your own living quarters, and many of the bedrooms we haven't seen for a long time. As for the old brown wood furniture, for heaven's sake, restyle it! Strip it, sand it, stain it, paint it, but don't just store it in the attic.

  • @matswilliams1058
    @matswilliams1058 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow, honest and sincere! Valuable advice for renovators/settlers! Like it a lot. It would still be pretty sad not to live in the Chateu that you spent all the money to buy. Too bad for us that we missed many episodes before TH-cam came into the picture!

  • @lizlang7655
    @lizlang7655 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My husband and I have been married for 40 years. The best advice for a disagreement is to have it out immediately don’t hold emotions in. Once it’s done it’s over and you move on! We live in Maryland (USA) on a river off the Chesapeake Bay. We just finished renovating a waterfront home (took us 5 years doing the work ourselves) that was built in the 80’s and was never updated. The colors back then were pink and blue. We are retired and enjoying the fruits of our labor in the waterfront home!

  • @theFrenchChateau
    @theFrenchChateau ปีที่แล้ว +7

    #1 was so funny when Anna compared Philipp's sense of taste to a middle-aged Italian man 😂with a touch of flamboyancy thrown in. It felt like you were describing Francesco and me. I still have nightmares remembering us arguing over a canary yellow kitchen island. Enjoy the rest of your evening. From us in Limoges 🙂

    • @HowToRenovateAChateau
      @HowToRenovateAChateau  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sounds just like one of Philipp's ideas !😂

    • @theFrenchChateau
      @theFrenchChateau ปีที่แล้ว

      It's so funny to watch you guys as there's so much we have in common 😆 I still find it a struggle to bring myself to agree with his way of thinking when it comes to decorating

    • @carlavel
      @carlavel ปีที่แล้ว

      And?? Is canary yellow? I need to know please

    • @theFrenchChateau
      @theFrenchChateau ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@carlavel It's blue and olive green 🙂 The kitchen was my luxury item. He chose the heating as his item when we started our renovation journey.

  • @daisy9910
    @daisy9910 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm an interior designer and building designer. My husband always reverts to, "You're the designer, so you decide". I think the fact you both have opinions is a good thing, because having the responsibility all on one set of shoulders can be daunting. We've been slowly renovating for 10+ years on and off, and last year moved out for three months to do some major works on our very modest house. Having a plan is great, but having a back up is even better. You never quite know what you're going to find opening walls and lifting floors. Also, I totally agree about finding the right trades for the jobs.

  • @northwoodfalls1403
    @northwoodfalls1403 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Having owned quite a few homes at this point, I have also learned that you have more time than you think and if you let yourself enjoy the process (as much as you humanly can because there is no escaping the inevitable stress) and let your home emerge organically, it will be so much more satisfying than rushing to get it all “done”. A house is never “done”. It is a forever to do list, so the sooner you can embrace that and accept the process, the easier of a time you will have. I, too, have grown to appreciate that the process of haggling, compromising, and sometimes passionately arguing about style or how a renovation should go in a space, results in something unique to the two of us. Our home is growing around us and is becoming a living memory holder of our journey together through life. It is our relationship together that matters most. This house could disappear tomorrow, it isn’t, ultimately, the thing that matters most. Remembering that when I’m ferociously defending my preferences for anything design related in our home puts all of that back into it’s proper perspective. We have learned to embrace going slowly, taking our time so that we only have to do a thing ONCE and can be truly satisfied by the end result. All those instant makeover reels on social media, all those renovation programs where you see a months work reduced to 15 minutes can make us feel like we have to get it all done NOW. That instant gratification thing. You miss out on a lot when you try to move through a project so quickly. And I have learned that most often, mistakes are made and regrets follow. I have appreciated this about your channel. It doesn’t all happen instantly. I really appreciate the realistic pace of your projects and how you show us the mistakes, the doubts, the unplanned for challenges that arise in every project. It is somehow very soothing and satisfying ❤

  • @jdrew5367
    @jdrew5367 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    It’s good that Philipp isn’t missing his red room! 😂 Most have a idea with a château that you need heavy, detailed brown furniture. In reality need to get something that is comfortable and you enjoy the style pleasing to the eye and you can live with. I remember when you did the dining room. Some didn’t have nice things to say in a while you painted the whole room, one color and why are you putting those chairs or whatever. In reality, this is your Château you’re making the Château yours and the two of you are the only ones that are gonna be living with it day and day out as long as you enjoy it, and it’s the way you want it. More power to you! You’ve made your Château your home. Thank you Philip and Anna in sharing things you both have learned through the growing pains of renovation of your château.

    • @dariadunivan6268
      @dariadunivan6268 ปีที่แล้ว

      Such good ideas. I so enjoy watching you both ,kids and Ziggy. I do love your dining room color. Such hard work, I think every couple would have fights and the stress. I do love red rooms. I had I had 3 red bedrooms and they so pretty with beautiful Schumacher fabric. I guess you tell that I loved it if I used it 3 different homes. I love Philips’s sense of humor.

  • @kellyprice1024
    @kellyprice1024 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    Anna, as a mother and Grandmother, if it was not just the noise you stressed over with your children, it would be something else. Raising children is hard. Rest now as Teenagers can really throw you. Every parent tries their best. ❤

    • @maryallen6334
      @maryallen6334 ปีที่แล้ว

      Another thing similar --- remember they are quite capable of forming their own opinions that they will be comfortable living with for the rest of their lives. If we all thought the same we would be still living in caves... So .... don't worry.

  • @irenakozmos7373
    @irenakozmos7373 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What is it with men and the color red... I'm so glad you were able to overcome your the troubles regarding different tastes. To me, you are perfect and no chateau should rock that. We love you and are rooting for you, your family and your chateau! And just paint the brown furniture, it will fit beautifully.

  • @kathrynmoll86
    @kathrynmoll86 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Think of it this way: your relationship as a couple and as young parents may be stronger now because you worked it all out in the therapy of a rip-roaring renovation. We live and learn through trials and errors! Great job on this vlog -- one of my favorites! ❤🥰

  • @Rbmc2611
    @Rbmc2611 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love the change up this week. Your list of what not to do surely will be a help to some others. Not me because I’ll never buy a château or another house that needs renovation. I’m too old and I know my limits but I love watching you and his humor. Your wallpaper and your love is green, I’m a fan of. I’m glad you all have made it through the storms of life and marriage continued to endure because you’re a very cute couple! We just celebrated 48yrs. My parents 75 yrs.

  • @madolynway6612
    @madolynway6612 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I think as a couple you are working out your own successful path. I enjoyed this video....good to look back and assess what you have done for future reference. Carry on.

  • @thomaspotschka5387
    @thomaspotschka5387 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My experience: every year, there is a big conference, where Industry decides which colours they use next season. I know this, because I was related to polyamid fibers for carpets in Hotels etc. So it makes no sence to paint the Walls, tapestry and next year, you will choose fabrics, but colours change you can not find your colors anymore. It is usefull, to buy the complete interior for one room, than to paint all walls, next year to buy curtains, next year furniture!

  • @MagalyCavène
    @MagalyCavène ปีที่แล้ว +28

    My husband and I (that mostly means : I propose an idea and he does his best to make the idea better) have renovated our appartment. He made everything by himself, we having a very tiny budget.
    I agree with Anna. We were living in it during the massive renovation and with three kids, it was very complicated (one week without bathroom, for example)...
    Now our kids are grown-up, we bought a very derelict house (400 years old at least) that burned to the ground many years ago. All that's remain is the walls. And trees in all the rooms. And our budget is always very tight...
    But one thing we knew before beginning this renovation was how usefull it is to have your grown-up kids with you ! So we do eveything par ourself, but we're five to do the job and it's fantastic !
    Thank you so much for sharing your best and worse experiments !
    And sorry Philipp, but I love the colour of this room...

    • @margaretjacobs4016
      @margaretjacobs4016 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You need your own You Tube channel! I would love to watch that renovation!

  • @kathleenclark5877
    @kathleenclark5877 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    What a great idea for a vlog! Certainly your advice goes a long way for HUGE. Projects like your chateau but even for smaller projects in modest homes. I am now in my seventies but I used to pride myself on doing things myself. I love wallpaper. In fact I even wallpaper closets with leftover paper, truth be told. However, I was redoing my bedroom which had wallpaper that was at least 30 years old (just a classic stripe). But, I wanted to strip off the wallpaper and have it painted (I will wallpaper envy thing but I detest painting. So, I decided to hire painters and I was going to strip the paper myself. On the first day I spent hours just ripping off little strip because the old glue I think had turned into a form of cement! So I gave myself permission to have the professionals do it. Within 2 hours, they had it all off, had filled in cracks and crevices and had started to paint. Like Philip, I would have spent frustrating hours stripping off decades old wallpaper for what? There is indeed a point at which you step aside and let the experts take care of it. So, know that we all enjoy your journey and your individual senses of humour. I cannot believe what you have managed to achieve in a relatively short period of time! Thanks for sharing!

  • @bilbine2284
    @bilbine2284 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Erst dachte ich, schade, ich würde lieber mehr von der Renovierung sehen. Aber die alten Bilder zu sehen und eure Offenheit sind einfach nur schön. Tolles Video!

  • @timdelaney2507
    @timdelaney2507 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have been watching and following your journey since Charlotte interviewed Anna during the lockdowns of 2020. As a couple you are delightful to watch, and I have so enjoyed sharing your lives as a viewer. Luckily for us, we also had the immense privilege of being guests during the B&B stage of your journey.
    We had such a great time and adored being spoilt with the BEST breakfasts each morning, as well as staying in Chambre Bleue .... just gorgeous PS Thank you Anna for heating up our quiche on one of the evenings for dinner:))

  • @caroletaylor9960
    @caroletaylor9960 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My late husband and I also did a lot of renovating with a great deal of stress in the beginning. The one thing we found (and I think you guys have, too) is each day laugh. Find something to laugh with each other about. Don't take yourself too seriously, admit your mistakes and enjoy a good laugh. Looking at a smiling face does wonders. Your guys are a joy to watch, and you both are so talented. Blessings to you, and continue to smile!

  • @janehartman6871
    @janehartman6871 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    We have flipped and sold a couple of houses, not nearly the extent of a chateau, but we realize it is a continual journey of learning, compromising and enjoying! You are such an inspiration to many!

  • @angelatorlop4319
    @angelatorlop4319 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Communication is the key. I have been married for 31years and we have been together for 38 years! Sometimes I still can't believe it myself! Try not (and this is where is can be hard) to be intractable on your decisions or ideas. Flexibility is the key. If someone feels that they are always the one to give in, whether it be on paint colours or issues between you as a couple, then resentments build up, followed by Anger and bitterness and these can be very hard to overcome. Never be afraid to reach out and ask for help. Whether it's getting an electrician or plumber to do something, or have some counselling to get you through a rough patch. Men and women think differently. That is just nature. Factor in, different personalities, up bringing, education, ideals, goals for the future etc ! it gets complicated. The one thing I have learned on my way to my 50's is stop sweating the small stuff. Things usually have a way of working out in the end and sometimes the more you struggle against something that is going to happen anyway, the more stress you invite on yourself. And Anna I was not surprised to hear you say that about how stressed you felt having guests in your home, made you feel like you couldn't relax 100%. I am a RN (ICU/Recovery) and having worked with people all day, every day for over 35 years, I absolutely know that is the one thing I could never do, no matter how much I love interacting with people. I could put them in a gitte or holiday cottage (definitely not giving them the chateau!!) I could 'entertain' for morning tea, lunch or dinner or afternoon or morning chats or some sort of craft get together (I'm a quilter) but NO to actually having them in my house. I think it's very important, especially when you deal with people face to face on a daily basis, to have down time in a safe and relaxing environment where you can be yourself! Ok, so now I've written a small book on this issue, I will just say that the chateau looks beautiful and I think that you and Phillip appear more relaxed, (at least on camera) now you are YouTubing full time.

  • @BwInNewJersey
    @BwInNewJersey ปีที่แล้ว +16

    These are great renovation tips whether for a Chateau or a 1bdr apt. My tip is to give yourself a break and take a minute if a style is not jumping out for a specific room. Ive waited weeks or a month and a great idea will come from a magazine, a show or youtube. Its better to be patient and get what you want rather than rush and be unhappy or redo.

  • @ameliahowitt2926
    @ameliahowitt2926 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Fantastic to hear your advice and know I am not alone. My husband and I are embarking on renovating a huge 1880s vicarage in New Zealand and I can identify with all of your tips. One of our issues is I am a perfectionist and have to wait for the exact right time to start works after researching from all angles. Whereas my husband is a doer and he loves to give everything a try immediately, sometimes with minimal knowledge. Last night he started sanding and prepping the kitchen whilst I was making dinner for our 4 young children. I wished I was in a caravan or apartment for those moments, or an outhouse/ doghouse for him! No sure how much paint dust was consumed in our meal last night. (No lead by the way). The upside is I can mention something that needs doing and he is onto it. Thanks for your inspiration from afar.

  • @judithtravis4879
    @judithtravis4879 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think you guys are wonderful together. cherish every moment of your life. be in that moment! feel the sun and the wind and see the smile on their face. love is the strongest power of all.

  • @Amy-tl2xe
    @Amy-tl2xe ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I must say, Anna's taste reflects my own, so I think her ideas are fantastic, and her skill is amazing. I would always defer to her in that area. I agree with Philip that having a landscape architect give you an overall plan initially would save a whole lot of time, effort and money in the long run. Also, the kitchen is one of my favorite rooms of all time - so, if you came up with that plan together, kudos.

  • @barbaragerrett8508
    @barbaragerrett8508 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Fortunately we too realized we both needed to compromise & create a home we could both enjoy and be happy with.
    Good for you putting your yourselves & your family’s wellbeing as a top priority!
    I have so enjoyed & appreciated watching you from the very early days!
    Blessings to you all ❣️

  • @sailingwhitsundays5672
    @sailingwhitsundays5672 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Biggest asset w projects & renovations is the research. I even research 5 star tradies. Our 23 year old son says you pay cheap quality you’ll pay twice, think he’s right. Your channel & projects had me thinking you have everything agreed & figured, but the “without killing your partner” brings us back to the reality journey of renovating for all of us. Love your channel !

  • @jocelyncleghorn3510
    @jocelyncleghorn3510 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel your pain. My partner and I have renovated 1 home and currently building our 4th. Every time I say never again and we end up doing it again. At last we only have 1 of our 4 children at home enduring it with us this time.

  • @SeldimSeen1
    @SeldimSeen1 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It is refreshing to watch you two grow so much and it's been a total joy to watch you guys growth as a couple.

    • @tadeuszoltarzewski
      @tadeuszoltarzewski ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ❤Love this beautiful family from Rosie O from Devon England 💕🇬🇧

  • @vickiemeisinger9632
    @vickiemeisinger9632 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Philip n& Anne~
    I love this video as the two of you talked about the things that you wish you would’ve known before purchasing the château as well as doing renovations on the château. The two of you certainly have done an excellent job of letting the public know how stressed and frustrated you were over the renovations because every time I watched your video I just thought the two of you worked well together, and that you had such a vision of beauty for the château, and you both were willing to do what it took to make it, so . Which you definitely did do.❣️❣️
    I could relate to a number of the things you talked about wishy you had known him advance… My husband and I bought about 10 acres of land and it had it split level home that was about 40 years old and we wanted to add another floor level, as well as taking off the roof and putting on a new roof and basically getting the entire house to where we had a four level home with such beauty… But it was very hard on our relationship and the children’s relationship in the sense that they knew we were fighting, which I never wanted them to know and they were restricted to their movements within the house, because so much was being torn apart at the same time. I wish we would’ve just worked on one area at a time like you guys did and get the remodeling done and then go onto the next project, but we need to do it that way, we had half the house torn up and we finally get an area done and then another area done, only to have an unusual unexpected storm come in and it’s caused new and old roof areas to leak instead of running off it runs right through unfinished areas of the house… It was shocking and also disheartening to see how much of the new areas had been finished now had rain water and flooding in the rooms, causing us to have to redo all those areas over again. And the rain had to come at a time when we both happen to be away from the home… So had one of us been there I’d like to believe we could’ve stopped some of the damage anyway.
    I think one of the things that happens to people who are buying a place that they want to renovate is thinking they have to take on a whole lot of projects and get it done in a swift amount of time. But truly what you should do is allow a couple years to do everything so that you have less stress and you’re not trying to finish a race that didn’t need to be there in the first place…. Very unrealistic ideas because the human body just cannot work that fashion that hard weeks after week, month after month.
    Thank you to both Philip and Anna for being Honest and humble regarding the Château‘s renovation. I wanted to tell you that from the first time I watched your video years ago, I was amazed at what you two could do, and how beautiful your visions were even before you began demolition on the next room❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️ there isn’t one color of paint or one style of the room that you have done in the remodeling process that I just didn’t love and was truly blown away. I want to say to you both that I think you’re very talented and I’m really proud of you and all that you’ve accomplished for your home. I think that your Chatteau is the
    Most beautiful home I’ve ever seen. I am an interior designer
    And I have seen a lot of homes remodel, and I have known people who did their own work, but nobody quite as well as the two of you, Phillip & Anna❣️❣️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
    God bless you both and your family, and thank you to make your videos available to us. Keep doing the wonderful job you’re doing and find some rest in there as well. 😊❣️😊❣️😊

    • @HowToRenovateAChateau
      @HowToRenovateAChateau  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for your interesting comment, I’m sure a lot of people can relate to it!

  • @ΣτέλλαΜιτούλη
    @ΣτέλλαΜιτούλη ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Before watching this video I was always thinking that Anna and Philip have perfect taste in decorating spaces and have the same taste as well. Even though you had differences in decorating the chateau, the result is the most beautiful and suitable for this chateau in my opinion!

  • @debb8152
    @debb8152 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The turning point in the style war seemed to be when you bought the Italian modern chairs. I like the willingness to move outside the comfort zone for both of you. Also, Anna uncompromising dedication to her design sense. And no new news but you compliment each other.

  • @mariachristoff
    @mariachristoff ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One of the things I most enjoy is the pop of modern / contemportary chair here and there.

  • @jackiedelvalle
    @jackiedelvalle ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Wow, just looking back at the totality of what you guys have achieved in the relatively short time that you've been in that chateau is mind boggling. The decor is ABSOLUTELY STUNNING - every bit of it. I hope you both occasionally take a breath and a moment to feel some pride - you really have earned it. Wonderful achievement. I've done some renos, much more along the lines of the Paris flats, and, at a much tinier scale, I can agree with all your 10 learnings. Onwards and upwards 👏👏👏👏👏

  • @kathsmith4924
    @kathsmith4924 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    you've both created a beautiful château you should be very proud

  • @yvokiwi
    @yvokiwi ปีที่แล้ว +4

    We are very happy that we managed to visit you and your chateau as long as it was a guesthouse. We wondered that we didn’t hear anything of your girls.
    But I understand the pressure you had even it’s a nice sign of life to hear that children live in the house. 💚

  • @Scotty7268
    @Scotty7268 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Couples counselling? You two appear to have it under control. After 57 years of marriage, we find the reason why we married in the first place, love, is still the core of our lives, with a good sense of humour. Now, we might wish we had a list of 'the 10 things to know before you are old!!'

  • @OurChateauandGardenProject
    @OurChateauandGardenProject ปีที่แล้ว +7

    We're closing on our chateau tomorrow, so this was incredibly timely! Thank you!

  • @deboragriffin1224
    @deboragriffin1224 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My husband and I learned to work separately. He is a perfectionist and I am an efficiency expert. The two do not mix. I’ll get twice as much done in 1/2 the time, but it will only be b+ work. His work will be a+ work but not very much completed.
    So we might work “together” on a project now, but we have separate tasks!

  • @helenlaboe7532
    @helenlaboe7532 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    In a home I think rooms evolve and in a marriage compromise brings unity and communication helps growth and unique serene homes.

  • @maryacton6046
    @maryacton6046 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So proud of you both!! How special to share your insights and reflections on your château journey. You have a very special partnership and family life.
    Warm wishes for another great week.
    Mary from sunny 😎 Central East Coast, Queensland, Australia 🇦🇺💚💛💚❤️❤️❤️

  • @dewalddelange3502
    @dewalddelange3502 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What I have learnt from renovation is: (1) Only do it as an occupation to make a profit. The repairs are never ending, and you waste your life away. (2) Test products. Varnish does not last as long as claimed on the can.

  • @wildfireintexas
    @wildfireintexas ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The gates and entrance look wonderful. Well done.

  • @MH55YT
    @MH55YT ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm a renovator too, and the red color stresses me out too, especially in a chateau. Your last question was asking for viewers' advice. I think you could have charged a premium fee had the fireplaces worked as original, rather than the cast iron inserts. I would have spent the money on an upgradeable gas fireplace that your guests could turn on & off with a switch.

  • @GilCCruz
    @GilCCruz ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Our favorite channel on TH-cam.. Incredible video, loved #1 where you turned lemons into lemonade.. Well done.

  • @johnrobertwoolley5730
    @johnrobertwoolley5730 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    One is tempted to comment about your mistakes ( groundwork and garden being my errors too) BUT, you have given us a fabulous time and one learns from experience.
    Maybe you can do the barns up and keep your guests at arms length.
    Bonne continuation!

  • @ellend9739
    @ellend9739 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    We love your family and love to follow you ! Every Sunday we like to watch it ! And Philip ……well he naughty 😂

  • @1mezion
    @1mezion ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really do love these types of of vlogs. As far as the furniture is concerned there's a lot of software programs that allow you to virtually Place Furniture in your room to get an idea of how it would look in real life.

  • @aletverster
    @aletverster ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My husband and I also have very different interior design tastes. He loves dark, heavy antiques in dramatic spaces, and I love bright and airy spaces with contemporary furniture. It took many years of shared Pinterest boards, but we finally found a golden midway and it turned out really well! Our house was even published in an interiors magazine 🙂

  • @annemiekvandorp4457
    @annemiekvandorp4457 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You two are heart-warmingly open and honest about disagreements. My respect for you is immense. Please keep an open mind towards each other. Love from The Netherlands 🙂

  • @leakonttila7022
    @leakonttila7022 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I am not sure you know but your channel is the best. Just to let you know 🙂

  • @joanalden8767
    @joanalden8767 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Time is always against us as well as funding all the renos. I always do a mood board for ideas then investigate if things can be found with our funds. I make things, check out charity shops, get shops seconds etc.
    Not everything will work but be open minded. Good luck with yr future plans x

  • @jamesgause9546
    @jamesgause9546 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hello,
    Loved this weeks episodes. Your channel is my favorite one , well presented, fun, and enjoyable ….
    I am from Cambridge area, retired in US., I go home at least once a year for a month to get my tea shop fix and shopping at M&S, plus some good memorable pub meals too.
    Have a good week both of you! All the best, Maureen.

  • @lpinman16
    @lpinman16 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love ❤ how you compromised in the end. Building or renovating is so hard! We built our home it was SO HARD! It did teach my husband and I that even though we don’t see eye to eye on everything learning to pause, listen and compromise was the key to getting through it. 7 years later we understand each other better and learned that loving each other doesn’t mean always agreeing.

  • @pamelairvin3164
    @pamelairvin3164 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Time. 24 hours of thought and processing can make such a difference when ideas clash and emotions elevate. I have been enthralled with your renovation vlogs; the honesty, humor, and glimpses into the chateau's history are wonderful. I was sad when the bed and breakfast came to an end; however, family is so much more important. Perhaps one day you will use one of the outbuildings to create a guest bungalow for future revenue endeavors? Don't hesitate to have a furniture sale when you clean out that wonderful attic!!!! Blessings!

  • @janetmackinnon3411
    @janetmackinnon3411 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Goodness, even assembling an Ikea wardrobe puts a strain on a marriage!

    • @tadeuszoltarzewski
      @tadeuszoltarzewski ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂Same with us. I go out for the day😂❤x from Rosie O from Devon England 🇬🇧

  • @Graciebridds3109
    @Graciebridds3109 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    We renovated a Victorian terrace (not quite as grand but still v crumbly and characterful) - I found that it was vital for our marriage to get out of the house. Because we were living in work we never really shut off - running away is vital sometimes ❤

  • @krulding
    @krulding ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's amazing to see where you started and where you're now, so much has changed and grown! As to 'wish I had known', three things: one: choose the right floor- I really regret the one I've now. Two; money isn't scary, and find someone to help you with it if you find it hard. Three; Your taste in things can change a lot in just a few years, don't be afraid to throw the old things away.
    Love this video!

  • @WinstonSmithGPT
    @WinstonSmithGPT ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video is incredibly well organized and edited.

  • @jillphillips3227
    @jillphillips3227 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Really great vlog! Anyone who does any reno runs into issues......but hiring the right outside help is a major point. I would add that if you do hire a contractor for painting, woodwork, elec, etc. If they cannot deliver the goods on the dates they say, it might be best to cut them loose early in the game. Of course, I found this out the hard way and then had to toy with cutting one lose and trying to find another, but in my heart, I should have cut him loose sooner than later. There is NO easy way to renovate....there is always a mess and not even one room that is neat and relaxing....so the idea of renting a flat or caravan is excellent. Enjoy all your vlogs so much! Cheers

  • @Due152
    @Due152 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think, the mix of both of your styles - is just perfect! Clean and proper, straight with a bit of craziness. A bit old and a bit modern furniture gives a room the tension, to avoid being boring. All what you achieved is absolutely great. But that you didn’t have a landscape designer from the beginning! For a chateau! That was a surprise 😳. In plain German I would like to ask: wahnsinnig geworden?!😂

  • @tesshiva
    @tesshiva ปีที่แล้ว +1

    In the U.S, we have a tool company called Stanley, whose jingle/motto was “Stanley, we want to help you do things right.” My husband and I always sang “Stanley, we want to help you have a fight!” Many Thanks for your honest insights, we really enjoyed this video!

  • @claudiamiddendorf1110
    @claudiamiddendorf1110 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I helped my parents renovate their two bathrooms in their tiny house just outside of San Francisco, California about 15 years ago, and they have endured normal wear and tear beautifully. When we were at the re-tiling stage in each bathroom, we had the chance to install heated floors which at the time was going to add to the budget. My mother being the more budget-minded of the two, decided against it but I think they would have loved heated floors in a mostly foggy, damp San Francisco coastal town.

  • @AlaskaLife2017
    @AlaskaLife2017 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Enjoyed you sharing this video with us VERY MUCH!! Sometimes I could feel a little bit of tension during a sharing of opinions...but knew the pressure & stress you were likely under. AND I knew you both would work through it because of your love and admirable relationship. Both talented people and fantastic parents! 💕🙂👍👏🎉

  • @lilyjohnson2506
    @lilyjohnson2506 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I loved this episode! So authentic. My husband and I have renovated a couple houses and after lots of learnings we have found to first discuss what we actually want to do versus what we want to hire out to contractors in the beginning. We evaluate it based on what projects would bring us joy to tackle versus what which stress us out. Having patience and humility to admit when we want to switch gears, even Midway on a project, has definitely helped our relationship in the long run! I think you two do a great job of this and definitely enjoy watching all the beautiful progress you have made!

  • @denisesmithinteriordesign1406
    @denisesmithinteriordesign1406 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I agree with everything you said.. I'm an Interior Designer (I should do TH-cam videos) I seem to be always so busy. My advice would be ask for professional advice, or even take some online courses. The number of times I've been on sites after projects have started is unreal.
    I love the job you are both doing, well done and keep going..

  • @vfl5211
    @vfl5211 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Although you don't necessarily share the same style, you do share dedication and passion and you both work incredibly hard. If just one of you was the enthusiastic one, it would be a lopsided ship sailing in a circle, but your equal commitment, albeit sometimes taking you in different directions, means you are able to tack gracefully in a most elegant and sophisticated vessel - the chateau.

  • @bear6562
    @bear6562 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Guys, you are adorable! I love the way you two interact, love your ideas, love the hard work and especially that you are together and have one goal!
    Nice video and good advice.
    Decades ago when my husband and I bought our first house in Canada we wished we had some good advice too ...We bought a 15 year old house that passed inspection but in the first 3 days after a good downpour we found out that all the windows were leaking and all our stuff that we deposited in the basement was soaked! So... new roof, new windows, new floor, new appliances....

  • @lindamitman4538
    @lindamitman4538 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You two are my favorite channel with your honesty and humor.

  • @krisindaboyce2747
    @krisindaboyce2747 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    It sounds like the two of you have found your comfort zone. The both of you have learned and grown together in ways you never would have thought.
    When you are in love you'll do what you can to make things work out.
    Learning never stops. Hugs from Canada ❤