Why 80% of Autoimmune Sufferers Are Women?
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- Why 80 Percent of Autoimmune Disease Are Female
Did you know that 80% of autoimmune sufferers are women? In this video, we dive into the reasons behind this statistic and discuss how stress, mental health, and unresolved childhood trauma can contribute to autoimmune diseases. Watch to learn more about the mind-body connection and the importance of self-care for women's health. In this video, we discuss the reason why 80 percent of autoimmune diseases are prone to women. In this mind-blowing video, he goes deep into the mystery of autoimmune disorders, revealing why 80% of sufferers are women. Prepare to be surprised as the video reveals the hidden variables, societal influences, and biological reasons that contribute to this shocking number. Don't miss out on this eye-opening insight that could forever change your perception of autoimmune illnesses!
Summary
00:28 🧬 Gender Disparity in Autoimmune Diseases
The gender ratio in autoimmune diseases shifted over time, with more women diagnosed, attributed to societal stressors and cultural expectations.
01:51 🌍 Societal Stressors and Autoimmune Diseases
Women absorb stress from family and work, leading to increased risk of autoimmune diseases.
03:18 🌐 Intersectionality and Autoimmune Diseases
Women of color face higher risk due to social and racial oppression, emphasizing the impact of societal structures.
04:38 🔄 Healing Principles for Autoimmune Diseases
Core healing principles include authenticity, acceptance, and agency, emphasizing the importance of healthy emotional expression.
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I was sexual abused as a child by my father, my mother knew but choose to hide from it. I would only get toys if I did what he wanted then I stopped asking. From age 6 -16 I suffered daily with my body in constant fear of the next attack. I was forced to marry at 17, my brothers were allowed to continue education till they all got degrees but I did as I was told. I wasn’t a bad child if anything I was very submissive. I still went back to my parents and helped them with their daily living and what ever they wanted. I guess I still needed the feel to be wanted by them and loved by them. Me doing these things meant that they loved me and any acknowledgment I would get would mean they loved me. I now know they didn’t live me I was just a piece of meat they could use. This is just a small part of my story.
As a result of 42 years of trauma I have suffered a brain tumour, blood disorders, sever depression, pmdd, gut issues and I battle every day to survive the meantal and physical pain. The physical I can deal with but the mental torture of being unloved by the people who we’re supposed to protect you is unbearable.
I'm very sorry to hear about the pain and challenges you've had to suffer, and I admire how resilient you are in continuing to support your parents despite everything. The story you tell shows your inner strength as well as the depth of your love and compassion.
It's heartbreaking to feel unloved by those who should care for and support you, but please remember that your worth is not defined by their actions or acknowledgement. You are a wonderful person who showed great compassion and kindness, and that is something to be proud of.
Seeking professional care for your mental health is a brave start toward healing, and I hope you continue to put your well-being first. Remember that you are not alone, and that there are people who love you including me and want you to be happy and healthy. Keep going, and may you find the love and support you truly deserve on your journey ahead. 💕✨ Sending you a lot of hugs and love 💕✨ always take care
GOD🙏 loves you❤️
They will get what is coming to them, my dear. Our Creator néver sleeps, it is just not time yet for His war on evil.
I am so sorry for the terrible trauma you have suffered. I send you wishes for strength and healing.
@@auntiemame7076 so kind of you, bless your heart 🙏✨💖
"I think people have to be angry. Not enraged, not chonically resentful, but to be able to say, "no! You will not treat me in this way." So much healing in that! ❤
Well having boundaries disregarded is frustrating and disrespectful.
This is such an underrated comment. Those words struck the very core of my heart! Thank you!
Anger IS a healthy emotion. And in the beginning of recovery, resentment, hatred etc is necessary in order to get to the other side.
OMG, one of the best comments ever.
luv luv luv the way he said it
Some men put a lot of responsibility on their spouse. Women are expected to be responsible for the rearing of children, taking care of the home, and working a job. Men think their only responsibility is to work.
Thank you for sharing your viewpoint. It is important to acknowledge that cultural norms and responsibilities have changed over time. It is becoming increasingly necessary in modern relationships to have open communication and shared duties in order for both sides to succeed. Every relationship is unique, and it's important to figure out what works best for each pair. Mutual respect and understanding contribute greatly to the development of a healthy, balanced relationship. 💕🙏✨💖
@@yourinnerchildmatters Agreed! The problem comes when one or both have come through childhood trauma. My husband was abused and neglected as a child. He doesn't know how to parent or genuinely love someone. I spent years trying to help him see there is more to raising a family than just work. Our story is a hard pill to swallow. I can't change what happened, but I can help our children heal and move on. I can also heal and move on.
So true !!!
It is not “some” men. Majority of them do this. The ones that don’t are in the minority. Most women have to spend years raising their husbands like a toddler to do basic housework.
Finance is not a responsibility of woman. If she earns it is only for herself.
A medical study a few years ago concluded that 70% of women with autoimmune disease had been abused at some point in their lives. It was recommended that doctors begin asking patients with autoimmune disease about their histories of possible abuse.
Thank you for sharing this important insights. It is important that we raise awareness about the possible connections between autoimmune illnesses and past experiences. If you or someone you know is suffering with an autoimmune condition, I hope this information will help you in getting the appropriate support and care. I wish you all good health and happiness.💕🤗
Where can I access this study to show to our doctor please?
Drs don’t take the time with their patients-- less than 15 minutes and they throw a pharmaceutical solution at you expecting a cure.
90% come back with more compounding issues.
It’s a cycle and they all get richer
While we get sicker--
The industry needs an overhaul!
Abused? Men we screwed up royally AGAIN just like Adam we worshipped the false idol of woman we were supposed to protect them from themselves!
How did we make the same mistake as Adam?
I simply know women lie far more than men. Especially about this topic. Thank you president obama for indirectly proving women make false accusations a MINIMUM OF 56% when he suspended military constitutional rights trying to convict 960 odd men accused of rape and inadvertently proved over a 1/4 admitted lying for ATTENTION, ANOTHER 1/4 admitted lying accusing a ransom man so she could keep having sex with her affair partner but still avoid that which almost all women are highly allergic to ACCOUNTABILITY of admitting she’s been cheating. Prime examples, amber herd, and #metoo.
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for the good wishes, and thank you so much for helping everyone.
I believe women are starting to REALLY understand this and that's why more and more women have opted out.
Out of marriage.
Out of of children.
Out of long term heterosexual relationships.
Out of being overly involved and expectant in things they really don't enjoy or need to do.
Out of continuing to be silent or quiet because it is literally ruining our lives and killing us.
thanks for sharing your insights about this topic 🙏✨💖
One way to control women and girls is to control their bodies. Which controls their potential for school, finances etc... Use your voice and vote those that are against womens rights out!
Yes!!!
Actually he said during the '30s the ratio was 1:1. Those things you said women should opt out of are the exact things women had in the '30s. The only thing that's changed now is women have taken on fulltime jobs in addition to all of that. If there's something we should opt out of, it's trying so hard to be do-it-all career women. We are clearly not built for this type of stress.
@@ayeshak6822, please reread my comment. I didn't say women should opt out of anything. I said they already were.
I also said they're opting out of doing things they don't enjoy or need to do which could easily infer full time work.
What also needs to be discussed is that when women do feel something is wrong physically and go to the doctor for help, we are less likely to be believed that our symptoms are real. I know so many women living in pain every day. Some know why, but it took them years to be diagnosed and for others like myself, we are still waiting on an explanation outside of "Oh you're just anxious. Try to be less stressed and you'll feel better". Clearly not only is that not working, this video asserts that the stress we deal with is, in fact, causing us to develop more physical issues in life.
Exactly. If you are female, doctors ignore. By the time I was 20 I had severe eczema, extremely high cortisol levels, cluster headaches, and a bleeding stomach ulcer. Despite all this the doctors did not clue in that I was being abused at home.....
Cognitive Behavioral and Cognitive Processing therapy helped me. It takes the edge off. I hope you have access to a good therapist.
That's complete nonsense! Just because you're unable to properly express your ailments or have a crappy doctor doesn't mean all women do. I've never once heard a woman complain about a doctor dismissing her without a proper check-up.
@@YamiKisara Way to go using that anecdotal logical fallacy there. "No women I know have this problem so it must not be a problem". Give me a whole fucking break. You literally have a woman right now telling you her experience and the experience of women she knows and you what, try to invalidate that to make yourself feel better??? Not only has this been my experience and the experience of COUNTLESS other women, there are documented studies proving this to be true, along with a horrific historical track record of the blanket diagnosis of "hysteria" given to women in the past when they'd go to their doctors seeking help for legitimate medical issues. Like have so many fucking seats and maybe pick up a damn book to education yourself on the way. My gawd!
@@YamiKisarajust because *you* haven't heard of it does not mean it doesn't exist! Most women I know have had an experience (or many) with an unresponsive, disrespectful, or dismissive medical professional.
All of my girlfriends who had extreme stresses in their teens and adolescent years, especially with fathers and mothers and siblings who put extreme stress on themselves without having anyone in their corner when they needed support...all of them developed autoimmune diseases in their early 20s. Multiple autoimmune diseases. So have I, since childhood.
I'm sorry to hear about the struggles that you and your girlfriends have had. It's really difficult to deal with such stresses. Thank you for sharing your story; it serves as an important reminder of the importance of support and coping mechanisms during our formative years. I'm sending you positive vibes for better health and well-being.🙏✨💖
Wow. I just realized, so did I.
Thank you and take care 🙏🏼
Same here. I lived in constant stress and fear and severe depression. I have a heavy autoimmune disease now (started in my 20s). But I developed a lot since then and learned to take care of myself and let go a lot of trauma.
Grew up afraid of the belt 😢 I have RA and Fibro
Yeah, family culture has a bigger impact in childhood.
The body remembers...I had a horrific childhood, was thrown into the street at 15, where it was better in some ways, worse in others. I'm in my 60s and deal with complex ptsd, complex trauma, and fibromyalgia. I feel pain every day. Some days are worse than others. Sending love to all those who are survivors. 🌹
LOVE YOU...WHOEVER YOU ARE...❤❤❤❤❤
@@ishratpopal633 thank you 🌹 Bless you 💕
Flee to Jesus 🙏🏼 he is the only one that really can heal your heart ❤️
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So much respect for this man! As a woman, if you point out these aspects, all you get is hate ( from men and some women), called femi nazi or whatnot, best case scenario some men would admit some of it, but avoid the topic. It takes a real man to acknowledge this without feeling attacked
Thank you very much for your nice comments and understanding. It is important to have open and respectful discussions about these issues, and your support is greatly appreciated. Let us continue working together to promote understanding and change. 🙌💪
@@yourinnerchildmatters in the US 70 percent of women of collar gives birth out of wedlock. They were no raped like you are trying to say " oppressed or discriminated by society" This is their choice and you want us to do what, give them more food stamps and better lives with other benefits at my expense and my children? I would say those ladies your body your choice, so go and handle it , strong independent woman
@@andreycham4797 thank you! we are at a point in time when women are the most free they have ever been in most places around the world. They have all the power to make whatever choices they want and yet they still view themselves as the victims of imaginary oppressors. This is the only way they can continue to avoid accountability for their terrible choices.
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And such choices include their own diet. Too much sugar and carbohydrates are the main culprit behind the surge in autoimmune disorders.
I mean, think about what he’s saying, it doesn’t make sense that today, with feminism so prevalent, that NOW autoimmune disorders happen because women are being oppressed?
@@johnmacrae2006Poor women don’t see much benefit from feminism, it’s almost like living in a different country inside the same country as others because the culture around you is so different from what other people experience.
As a woman I was raised to be the peace in my home, both for hubby and children. However, when there's no outlet for Mom to release all of that energy it gets trapped in the body causing dis-ease. If this becomes a repeated issue then chronic illness like inflammation, autoimmune conditions, and chronic pain occurs. I am healing myself from this. When issues in the spiritual (emotional and mental) side isn't addressed, it will show up in the physical side. Take care of yourself, Mom, because you can't help anyone when you neglect yourself 💜
You sound just like me. I was raised the same way. Don’t rock the boat. I’ve learned over the years to say no and to set boundaries. I’m so much happier now. It’s been a long road, but I’m better now.
I started this journey to heal my mental and my pain, weight, swelling, and muscle spasms have decreased. I was thinking they were related because my mom used to say holding everything in will give you cancer, and I believe it even more now
I'm a woman and I've always felt responsible for everyone else's happiness and wellbeing. Apart from my own.
Something happened to you recently. The source of divine oneness has touched your soul. You are awakening. You are quickening. You have an understanding, a knowing of your true power.
You now stand as a sacred source of your true power.
You are the power.
This power is changing you. This power is changing your reality. Look around you, you are at the center of a
sacred circle of creation.
You are now aware of the illusion of the world.
You feel more deeply now. You feel the suffering the world has caused. You realize that your actions are significant.
You create your reality.
You are the power.
You have to learn to detach.. Mindfulness meditation helps. Therapy, and prioritising you (and your health) above all also helps. And strong determination to prioritise you. Then your kids, then others.
After helping caring and helping for years l feel that I’ve wasted my energy,time, and money.
Ppl are selfish and only care about themselves.
@@jolan630 what I've learned is that if I want to help people, I do it without expectations and not wanting anything in return. If I say "good morning" to someone walking down the street and they tell me to F-off, that's not about me, it's about them lol
Just because someone acts rudely doesn't mean we have to act rudely in return.
@@coolbreeze5683
Never expected anything from anyone in return but just human honesty and kindness, seems like most ppl are not even capable of doing that. What world are loving in? So sad!
To everyone reading this, I sincerely pray for that whatever is causing you pain or stress will pass. May your negative thoughts, excessive worries and doubts disappear, replaced by clarity and understanding. May your life be filled with peace, tranquility and love
Thank you so much for your kind words and heartfelt wishes for all of us. It means a lot, and I truly appreciate your positive energy. I hope the same for you and for everyone in our amazing community here. 🙏💖 Wishing you a life filled with peace, clarity, and boundless love. Take care all💕🙏✨💖
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Thank you so much.
Too bad that thing is my "mother" 😂
The best comment on here, thank you, and may you be blessed as well!
It's super stressful to tell people No and then deal with their reactions and have to find ways to cope with those emptions from others. That's why women suck it up and go along to get along. It's not about us not being able to modulate our emotions well. We're fabulous well-trained at that. The issue is men's, and some women's, lack of ability to modulate like decent human beings and being able to handle rejection without getting violent or aggressive, or even depressed about it.
Thank you for sharing your viewpoint. It's important to acknowledge the difficulties that come with setting boundaries, and your comment highlights a broader issue of how society frequently expects women to bear the weight of managing the emotions of others. Let us continue to work toward a future in which everyone can express themselves and deal with rejection in a healthy, respectful manner. 💪🌟
Women receive the message that it's NOT SAFE TO SAY NO. There will be consequences if I set boundaries! Domestic violence cases demonstrate this.
@@rosej5029 🎯💯😥
My health was failing very quickly no one understood what was going on. I decided to be happy and left my unhappy relationship and moved to the jungle. My health is better than ever and it’s only been 6 months
I'm deeply inspired by the story you shared and how you chose to prioritize your health and happiness. It takes lots of courage to make such a huge adjustment in your life, especially when dealing with health issues. It's encouraging to hear that leaving an unhappy relationship and embracing a new environment in the jungle has had such a great impact on your well-being. It serves as a reminder that sometimes the most important thing we can do for ourselves is to make room for healing and happiness. Your path shows the importance of self-care and listening to your inner voice. I'm glad to hear your health is doing better, and I hope your days in the jungle continues to bring you the peacefulness, healing, and happiness you deserve. Thank you for sharing your story with us; it serves as a reminder that there is always hope for a better tomorrow, even in the midst of misfortune🙏✨💖
Lucky you! 🥴
This makes so much sense...I grew up with a verbally abusive father who crippled my mom and I with fear with his daily rage. I developed an automimmune disease at the age at 16. Highschool was stressful, but when I came home I did not have a safe space to retreat to. My heart breaks for the younger me who felt trapped in that household--too scared to runaway, but too scared to speak out against my rageful father.
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I hear ya!
I was blessed to have Dr. Maté as our family doctor.
He delivered my daughter, 29years ago.
A good man.❤
WHAT? WOW! You are really blessed.❤
Would you please tell me how to get consultation from him?
@@sadiarashid7880
Sorry to say that he closed his office in EastVan.
He did years of work in the midst of heroin, crack, and all serious addiction from his office in the Downtown Eastside.
He wrote my favorite book,
In the Realm of the Hungry Ghost.
Please read this book.
UTube is where I find his talks and information and interviews.
Sending hugs....
Oh god the spam smh
Why man gonna deliver? Why even woman gonna? Our 16/20 pregnancy time all kids more n more grandkids..all as usual .. no men women..no hospital, doc, nurse, etc.
My sister has MS and I have autoimmune thyroid disease. We grew up in a toxic household with a narcissistic mother and I always used to wonder how come my sister and I ended up with autoimmune diseases. Makes sense.
Your openness in sharing your own journey has truly touched me. It's undeniable that our physically and mental well-being are inseparable. It's interesting how our bodies can adapt to years of stress and difficult surroundings. Remember that you and your sister are very strong people to have survived this type of hardship. By sharing your story, you are helping to raise awareness about the importance of understanding the link between emotional experiences and physical health. Here's to resilience, healing, and breaking the destructive pattern. I wish you and your sister the best of luck on your continuous paths to wellness. 🌟💪
Eliminate meat and dairy and gluten and oils and just eat fresh fruits and veggies and nuts and seeds and berries and melons and lentils and heal yourself. read Dr Michael Greger's book How Not to Die.
I suggest reading this book and applying the insights. Brave New Medicine: A Doctor’s Unconventional Path to Healing Her Autoimmune Illness Paperback - September 1, 2019
by Cynthia Li MD (Author), Arlie Russell Hochschild PhD (Foreword) Best wishes.
Same, two of my sisters are narcissists and for 40 years I’ve carried their bulling up until 18 months ago. I never opened up even to my husband because I just didn’t want to burden him or my beautiful children. When I finally had a breakdown, I cried for days, weeks and months! Never been a cry baby either because growing up under their care I wasn’t allowed to cry, if I did I’d get black and blue bruises all over. So I always held back my tears out of fear and I guess - a coping mechanism .Bizarrely crying helped me so much and when my husband and children saw that,
they were the best support especially my beautiful daughter. She was the one who told me the cause of my autoimmune thyroid disease. She did t want to tell me at first because she thought I’d hurt more knowing what caused it. I was in shock, because I always thought, why am I the only female in my family that has this autoimmune.
Now I know 😢
This is basically my life as well. I got cancer at 21 and my older brother at 24 got Crohns disease and we grew up with an emotionaly abusive father that later comitted suicide.
I’m working on my stress now at 26. My sister, father, and mother all died of cancer before I reached 25. Seriously diving into my emotional and mental healing because I want a life fulfilling and blessed life.
You got this ❤
Jesus Christ/Yeshua is the key, a father& friend to any who welcomes Him.
Do what brings you joy.
You should consider the possibility of earth rays and change your bed's place after having let a person look for them. It's called dowsing and maybe can safe your life, it is surely money well spent. I'm capable of doing it, but live in Europe. Good luck!
That is HORRIFIC, I"m so sorry. :(
I totally agree that autoimmune disease is brought on by trauma and prolonged stress. I speak from experience. Thank you Dr, for confirming what I have suspected for decades
Thank you for sharing your own story, and I'm glad you found comfort in Dr. Gabor Mate's insights. It's wonderful how trauma and chronic stress may affect our health. Your courage in dealing with of these difficulties is very admirable. Take care and stay well💖🙏🥰
The problem for us women is that this patriarchal society is too cruel to women
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖
Jaja
Don't be ridiculous.
I would believe you if you lived in the Middle East or Africa, but if you are from the West, no, you are not oppressed.
Put aside the victim card.
@@salmagtz7110try asking the women in your family and your female friends if they have experienced abuse or been attacked because of their gender. There’s actually a lot of things you’ll never get to see or experience because you’re a man, just like I have never experienced what it’s like being a man.
@@salmagtz7110 but but believing women are diamonds and islam is the only religion that gives a good status to women? Am I missing something?🤔
Woman should avoid to go closed to any man playing the boss for the sake of heart intelligence and well being
I'm a med student and absolutely think that high and chronic stress does effect our immunity, especially autoimmunity. Every time I have problems at the time of an upcoming important exam, I get an auto immune condition, that completely goes back under control without medications once the stress is over. It's very important for women to learn how to control the stress, I know it's very difficult but there are ways to mediate and communicate with our partner and cut off the toxic people.
Non-sense coming from a medical student? There's no gender-bias for auto-immune diseases. Its genetic. Diabetes, glaucoma, Parkinson's, COPD are all auto-immune diseases and affect men, women equally.
If this is true, why dont women in the third world/non-western world have these problems?. They are living in much higher danger, and much lower standards of living. Everyone claims to have a mental illness these days in the west. Personally I think toxic politics and woke left propaganda is harming the groups it was supposed to help. 80% of suicides are men but nobody would dare blame others for mens suicide.
It’s better managed through health optimisation via supplements, diet and exercise, but drs know next to nothing about supplements and diet.
Thankfully the longevity science is doing something about this, all of this “ mind over biology” is thankfully outdated now, we used it for years because it was the only blunt tool we had, thankfully science and technology is creating better tools, but all this “ mind over biology” is only helpful for an extremely small % of people who have the genetics to take advantage of these methods.
@@Vgallo unfortunately, healthcare nowadays is relying more on medications than the mind of the patient, if the patient is going through difficult circumstances, supplements and diet won't help, not saying they aren't good but sometimes all a patient needs is a good support system, that would lift up their spirit and help them a lot. Stress is a very dangerous factor that shouldn't be taken lightly.
@@Vgallo Mind over biology. Problem is that the less developed a nation is, the more tendency of its people is to believe in MOB. In India even qualified psychiatrists believe 'Depression & Anxiety " is a disease of the mind without fully understanding the complex interplay of various neurotransmitters like Serotonin, Dopamine etc. Quacks, Faith-healers, Spiritual leaders take full advantage...victims/ sufferers are relieved of their money. Some commit suicide, some become vagabonds or social outcasts.
Many people mistake this for "oh it's just stress".
That's not what this is about. Autoimmune diseases are biomedical in nature, but they can be triggered, exacerbated or kept active through stress.
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts. You are completely correct. Autoimmune disorders are complicated and multifaceted illnesses, and it's important to understand the impact that stress can play in them. Stress can cause, aggravate, or maintain the activity of autoimmune diseases.
Living with an autoimmune disease can be extremely difficult, and it is frequently a daily battle that is not clearly visible to others. It is important to raise knowledge about the different factors that might effect these diseases, including stress, in order to better support persons who are experiencing them. Your comment highlights the importance of taking a holistic approach to managing autoimmune disorders, one that involves both biological and emotional and psychological aspects. Thank you for adding your voice to this important conversation. 💙✨
If you have any further insights or experiences to contribute, please do so. Your point of view matters and can help others understand the complicated nature of autoimmune disorders. I wish you luck and strength on the journey. 💪🌟
Abuse, stress & medical illness have destroyed me. A lot of us. There are too many hateful ppl in the world, too many disregarding & abusive parents & doctors. I wish everyone here Love, Peace of Mind & Soul, & Whatever it is you need to Heal & end the nightmare of being abused & the physical/mental suffering that goes along w/ it. 💗💗💗💗❤️
Thank you for your meaningful message. Your courage and determination in the face of such hardships are truly impressive. You are not alone, and your desire for love, peace, and healing is shared by many of us. I'm sending you a lot of love and positive vibes. 💗❤️
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@@yourinnerchildmatters thanks for your good wishes & helpful channel ❤️❤️❤️
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It's not just stress, it's abuse and violence, it's complex post traumatic stress because of the huge amount of violence we receive throughout all of our lives. This is the result of living in a sick patriarchal societies
thank you very much for sharing your thoughts 🙏
A big problem also is that with chronic stress, our nervous system becomes very dysregulated. We ping pong between fight, flight,, freeze, shut down/collapse. We may be functional but underneath, the brake and the gas are floored simultaneously. We must address our nervous system dysregulation in order to move the needle in the direction of healing.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us! You are 100% right about how persistent stress can affect our nervous system. It's a difficult path, but addressing this imbalance is an important first step toward healing. I wish you and everyone else here strength and resilience on this journey💫💕🙏✨💖
YES . Balance is always my goal.
You got it!
You keep that needle to yourself.
If I have an inner child it is of my creation... it did not come down on a silver thread... and any INFESTATION will be dealt with sooner or later.
Keep your cartoonies to yourself!!!
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thanks, I wish the same.❤
I've been abused, used and EXPERIMENTED on my entire life.
I have the ability to dust myself off... and walk away from TORTURERS and SADISTS ALIKE.
YOU LOT HAVE ONE PROBLEM AND CRUMBLE LIKE A BISCUIT.
GRIEF
My Mum had a very hard live,she had 7 kids with my dad who never loved her and was so abusive.
She lived to age 101 years.Never took any meducation
Secret is She had very strong faith in God.
thanks for sharing this, appreciated 💕🙏✨💖
May God bless this dear woman ... 🙏
She was abused and submissive because she believed in a lie you call god😅 wake up, patriarchy created those male gods to control women
That makes all the difference !
Or a combination of these and her faith.
I have multiple chronic illnesses and am disabled. I am the oldest child, qas responsible for my siblings, and also had years of childhood trauma - emotional, physical and sexual abuse, by my father. I truly believe this contributed to my health challenges. 😢
Thank you so much for telling us your story. Your courage and toughness have definitely touched me. It's clear that you've overcome a lot in your life, and I admire your bravery and determination. Your experiences surely impacted your path, and I can only imagine how difficult it must be to handle chronic conditions while also being a caring sibling. Remember that you are not alone on this journey. Many of us are fighting our own battles, and it's encouraging to see you share yours. This community is here for you if you ever want to talk or need support. Please take care of yourself, and never underestimate the power of your story to inspire others.💕 Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs,💖
God bless you,beautiful women.
So sorry to hear - so sick of kids playing the role of a parent. No animal does this no species does this. It is not of natural dynamics. This should never happen. I hope you are in recovery. Wishing you great vibes!
I'm also damaged fully insde outsde overall lifes every secnd I'm also disabled, abnormal, rotten, nomore one.
Get facts first before believing. Jeez.
I had a job where I saw many many people with autoimmune diseases. I encountered women with fibromyalgia where pretty much all of them were married to a alcoholics. Has to be something to this.
My poor Mother experienced such hardship through childhood poverty and abandonment. In her thirties her husband died, leaving her a widow with 5 children. Her mother died a year later. She spent the next 35 years being bounced between doctors. Her GP labeled her a hypochondriac. When she was 72 years old an emergency room doctor discovered she had Lupus. She died 5 years later. She was only treated for Lupus for those last 5 years. Her crippled hands and feet from rheumatoid arthritis, her lungs were at 30% capacity. Her digestive system was ravaged so her food was puréed for her. She was trapped in a body that had rebelled against her. She raised 5 children and died with 8 grandchildren and 10 great grandchildren. The youngest ones mostly remember her “scary hands” and her coughing to the verge of suffocation. Bloated from too many steroids and wheel chair bound.
Your touching and heartfelt comment has truly touched me. Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss. Despite overcoming major challenges, your mother's life journey has been defined by great determination and bravery. She was clearly a great woman who showed incredible courage throughout her life. The way you've shared her story is an important reminder of the human spirit's resilience and the enduring love that can flow from a mother's heart. Despite her own difficulties and health challenges, she raised a family, leaving a legacy of children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren who will undoubtedly carry forward her strength and love. Hearing about her years of misdiagnosis and how hard Lupus took on her is heartbreaking. Her determination in the face of such tragedy is nothing short of inspirational. She encountered difficulties that most people can only imagine, but she continued.
Your sharing of her story beautifully respects her memory by allowing others to learn from her experience and see the need of empathy in medical care.
Thank you for sharing this deeply personal and touching story with us. Your mother's legacy lives on through your words and the love she instilled in the family she raised despite all obstacles.
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I’m so sorry. That’s sad.
Gabor Mate is brilliant. I first saw him at his home almost 25 years ago in East Vancouver after contacting him about issues my son was having in his class. He helped verify my concerns and gave me validation to advocate from my 7 yr old. It completely changed the course of my son’s education and life really. It also allowed me to trust my instincts. I attended an online retreat with him and others about healing trauma a few years ago, transformative. Forever grateful to Dr. Gabor Mate
That is really wonderful to hear! 😊 Dr. Gabor Mate's work has had a great impact on many people's lives, including yours. The story you tell shows the power of advocacy, the necessity of believing your intuition, and the significance of confirming what we are worried about. Thank you for sharing this inspiring experience.🙏💕
I wonder if it's possible for a very old trauma to be healed, and if that could help heal the autoimmune diseases.
Can you go into more detail. Im asking because this sounds similar to what I'm going through with my son. My son is severely traumatized and I have auto immune diseases and no support system. He struggles in school... and most teachers don't really care about the students and he picks up on that easily. No it's never ok for teachers to abuse their power but a lot of them do. We have to tolerate school and each mood that every individual teacher is in. Children like my son can not tolerate that mess on any level. But he still has to go to school. So I've been praying for some new tips and information....
I am a 33 female with health challenges. I am highly sensitive and developed an autoimmune disease at 13. It was due to having narcissistic parents. I didn't make the link until I was 27. I also experienced 10 incidents of sexual abuse. Then,I met a narcissistic man and then I developed fibromyalgia. Now, I am just angry. I know how to say no and cut off everyone. Healing is possible. Step by step. Nutrition and supplements can help by a lot too. Speaking your truth too ❤❤
Your bravery in sharing your journey has really touched me. You've clearly came across big challenges, and I admire your courage in seeking recovery and self-awareness. Your resilience is admirable. Remember, you are not alone, and your voice is important. It's wonderful that you've discovered strategies to prioritize your well-being, and I admire how you focus on the value of expressing your truth. I wish you continued strength and healing on your journey. 💖🌟
I have SUCH a difficult time speaking my truth. My Better help subscription? I signed up in April this year and was too stressed to even make the first appt. Then I talked myself into doing it a couple months ago in August, but there has only been two appts since then. I can't bring myself to talk about myself, let alone all the painful incidents. That feels like I'm reliving it! I have no idea what to do. I'm just literally wasting my own money. And on top of that, I haven't worked in over a year...there's just so much stress and I am afraid bec I have no desire to work bec I can't imagine things going well with a manager and co-workers and customers to factor in. There's no way I am prepared to be around all their diff types of energies/opinions/personalities. I would need boundaries, which is a new concept for me at the age of 38 😑 I'm sorry for your experience. I'm glad you learned to say no.
I am sorry for what you are going through. It seems like you had a lot of trauma in your lifetime. What tools have you used so far? @@MsTaLaiah
It's so true that we take on everyone's stress. The times in my life when I have felt at my happiest, were when I knew that each of my children, and my partner, were all doing something they really enjoyed, life was good for them - then I felt I could relax and enjoy my life too. It's insane. And my mother is a mess, aged well beyond her years, crippled with arthritis, as well as suffering from other ongoing health issues - guess what, my father is a VERY difficult man, and she has pandered to him all their married life. It was what women of her generation were taught to do. At least I feel free to express anger, she daren't.
What you're saying makes perfect sense to me. It's interesting how we can absorb our loved ones' stress and emotions, especially when they're coming from several places. It's encouraging to hear that you've found moments of joy when your family is doing well. It's also important to look for yourself and your own well-being.
Your mother's situation is indeed difficult, and it's painful that she has had to bear such a heavy weight for so long. Society has come a long way since her time, yet many people still find it difficult to express their emotions freely. Your ability to express your emotions is an important step toward breaking the cycle. Wishing you and your family strength and more moments of joy. 💖🌟
This is why getting married and having kids doesn’t benefit most women unless you are marrying a very independent responsible man who can do most things on his own and doesn’t need to be treated like a baby. I truly believe men and kids sucks the life out of women.
Yeah, I sure get you.
Women are raised in gender based shame. Before a girl gets 1st period she already hears opressive, self-limitng beliefs about own gender. Everytime we experience misogynistic attacks whether in real life or social media it feels like stabs in our body, chakras etc which affects reproductive system and what's not. I've read books abt emotions- health connection but none of them talked about how gender based shame affects our health.
Women are also encouraged to live with anxiety, agoraphobia bc we hear fearful messages how dangerous world is for us while never being taught how to deal with stress and anxiety.
I have chronic anxiety since childhood and can't imagine having kids which would increase my anxiety 100x because of how stressful and responsible it is.
Ofc society doesn't care abt women's mental health and pressures them to have kids anyway.
I am grateful for dr. Claire Weekes books on anxiety.
Thank you for your insightful and honest comment. Your thoughts put light on the many difficulties that women experience as a result of societal expectations and gender-based shame. It's heartbreaking to see how these repressive attitudes may affect every part of a woman's life, from mental health to reproductive well-being.
Your understanding of the link between misogynistic attacks and their physical and emotional consequences is impressive. It is important to increase awareness about these challenges, which are frequently unspoken. Dr. Claire Weekes' anxiety books are a great resource for anyone dealing with anxiety. Your bravery in sharing your personal experience with persistent anxiety is admirable. Remember, your voice matters, and it helps to a broader conversation with the goal of creating a more empathic and understanding society. You are not alone in your feelings, and many others can relate to your experience.
Thank you for taking part in this discussion. Please feel free to share more if you like, and please take care of yourself on your journey to healing and understanding.🙏✨💖
I live with 2 auto-immune disorders that affect my mobility due to chronic pain. I'm also a full-time carer for my 2 adult disabled sons, one adult daughter who suffers from depression and my mother of 76 with dementia. Sometimes, I believe I will only be free from it all when I'm dead. All lean on me, all know their constant leaning makes me ill, yet still they constantly demand my care. Im so incredibly exhausted! 😢
I'm deeply sorry to hear about your big struggles, and I want you to know that you're not alone in feeling this way. Despite your personal health issues, your strength of character and passion to caring for your family are impressive. When you're continually giving so much of yourself, it's normal to feel overwhelmed and worn out.
Remember that it is important to prioritize self-care as well. Taking care of yourself is not selfish; it is important if you are to continue to be there for your loved ones. Reach out to support groups, friends, or experts who can offer you some comfort and break. You deserve to relax and rejuvenate. Please know that there are people out there who care about you, even if it doesn't always feel like it. Your patience is admirable, and I hope you find moments of peaceful relief amidst these challenges. We're always available to talk or just listen if you need it. During this difficult period, I am sending you courage and kind thoughts. 💕
Best I can give is a prayer.
PLZ MEDITATE....
There are many things you can look into to help you. Have you ever been tested for Epstein-Barr Virus? It is believed that autoimmune illnesses stem from active EBV. If you have it take Monolaurin. It’s the only thing that can destroy EBV.
Also look into flower essences. They can help with trauma, anxiety, depression. If you are uncertain where to start try Rescue Remedy. I’ve been taking it, and many flower remedies for over 30 years and they have helped me, and the countless others I’ve suggested them to. I’m truly sorry for all the pain you’re going through….I hope you read this and look into them, I believe they will help you…or even those in your life who are unsympathetic towards you and so needy…those are extreme personality types that flower essences can help with as well.
Geez, that's too much to handle. Something is going to give. I'm a caretaker for a disabled family member and it's tough. But I think you need to get someone too help somehow because that's just too much.
It took me years to identify the source of my panic attacks that resulted in me being diagnosed with HBP.
Narcissistic parents.
When I think back on the things that happened to me , even now with my relationship with my mother sometimes my body gets so stressed, it's like there is a black ball of pain in my stomach and the tears are like a full cup about to run over....and now in my 40s is when I am seeking help to unravel the knots in the ball of twine called my emotions....before they manifest in other ways.
Better late than never.
I'm sorry to hear you've had to go through such a difficult journey. Recognizing the source of your problems and seeking treatment, even later in life, takes bravery. Remember, it's never too late to focus on healing and emotional understanding. You've taken an important step toward a better and happier future. Please know that you are not alone in this, and that a helpful community is available to you. Best wishes on your journey to recovery and self-discovery✨💖🙏
Hispanic and developed an autoimmune disorder at 31 yrs old after enduring severe stress from an abusive boyfriend. It really sounds like I am apart of this statistic. :/
Ended the relationship, practice healthy lifestyle, went through CBT therapy, started thinking/relating to the world healthily, and I am in a healthy relationship with a loving, kind, principled man. I am definitely doing so much better. Ladies learn about the 7 areas of life, boundaries, and needs so you can understand it’s your human right not an option. It can all be done with grace and conscience respect towards others. You do not have to be toxic and there is a way through. So many blessings to my Earth sisters. 🙏
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your wonderful journey with us. Your strength and bravery are truly inspirational. It's great to hear that you've changed your life by putting yourself first, creating boundaries, and embracing a healthy relationship. Your words will definitely inspire others who experience similar challenges.
I wish you good health, happiness, and a lot of love. Many people will find hope in your message. Take care and stay blessed.💕🙏✨💖
Hey, what's CBT therapy?
@@FrenchViking466Cognitive behavior therapy so basically you get taught methods to be your own therapist. You get to develop skills to cope and get assigned specific homework as your therapy. So if she dealt with stress for example (just an example) she might’ve been tasked homework like journaling and being mindful of what stresses her and writing that down or noting anytime she physically felt stress coming and notice what caused it .
You made the mistake of getting in another relationship with a man. Even if they are “good” they are still sucking energy from you in one form or another. That is going to bite you in the butt in a few years. Just a fair warning
@FrenchViking466 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a complex therapy designed to assist an individual in learning healthy cognitive functioning. It teaches an individual how to understand the impacts of their thoughts, to become aware of the emotional reactions to those thoughts, and whether or not they are in reason with the objective reality. Many exercises are given to aid in the goal, which is to think and emotionally respond to the objective reality in a balanced and healthy way. I was diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder so much of the way I related to the world was purely subjective, which led me to respond to situations in inappropriate ways. The therapy aims to reconstruct the mind and its processing functioning. There are many free pdfs online, and I highly recommend reading one, especially if this seems like something you might want.
Women are now expected to do two full time jobs! THIS is the problem, both physically and emotionally.
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This literally has me sobbing. It explains so much and I feel like everything suddenly clicked. It all relates so much.
I'm happy to hear that this video resonated with you and helped you make sense of things. please Remember that you're not alone in this journey, and it's okay to feel the way you do. If you ever want to share or discuss more, we're here for you. Sending you a virtual hug 🤗❤️ 🙏
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you. It means a lot. Sending a hug back ❤️
“Healthy aggression” might be more palatable defined as “Assertion”.
I’ve not heard of Dr. Maté before, but I really like his energy.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! "Healthy aggression" as "assertion" is an excellent description. Dr. Maté gives a fresh and clear perspective to the subject, and his energy is inspiring. I'm happy that you enjoyed his insights. Please let me know if you have any further questions or would like to discuss any other topics. Your point of view is greatly appreciated!
Thank you for your comment. This was very helpful.
My husband just passed away, I feel so much less stress in my life.
Also remember that woman entered the workforce in mass about 50 years ago resulting in so many being grossly overworked and that affects the immune system. This is my life long story. I have severe autoimmune joint and soft tissue disease as a result.
It’s because women have 300 hormones to balance and men have only 30. We don’t take on stress…it gets dumped on us. Husbands are mostly clueless and love being that way. Someone has to navigate family life while balancing all those pesky hormones. Women are gods!
thanks for sharing this 💕🙏
Endometriosis => Repressed Anger
I can vouch personally.
thanks for sharing
New research has found a bacteria normally found in our mouth ends up down there & that endometriosis may end up being treated w an antibiotic!….
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Three of my closest friends developed endo and one needed surgery, all came from broken homes (not divorced parents, just very selfish and uncaring). Also developed mental illnesses they hadn't had in childhood
Had it at age 18-26. Got healthy once I cut my selfish parents out.
Oh!! Thank you for posting this. It explains so much. So very much!
After 40yrs I left a fearful place as my organs were shutting down.
And I recovered within ashort time to full health in my new place. Brillent.
Wow, your journey has been astounding inspirational! It takes great strength to make such a major change after 40 years. I'm happy to hear that you've not only escaped afearful place but also regained your health. Your strength shows through, and I'm grateful to have you share this inspiring story on our channel. In your new chapter, I wish you continued good health and happiness💕🙏✨💖
Thank you for your kind message, support & encouragement.
Life is good now.
As a woman of color, racism has not affected me. The men of my so called culture I was assigned to at birth caused me a lot of stress. Leaving them and the community has increased my happinesss and health.
I feel for you sister
@@anandaalvarez4336 what exactly do you mean?
@@mcraft1181she means she has sympathy for what you've been through.
@@mcraft1181 Chaos dream got it right
@chaosdream21 ok thank you. I took it as she was feeling bad because of what I believe. My poor interpretation.
Women should really learn to cut contact with toxic people and prioritize their mental health over social obligations. If their dignity or self respect is threatened, they should just LEAVE. Its harder to do when they are younger. But once you have an education and can make your own money, you will be able to do it.
This makes me sad and literally speaks to my soul. I was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism/ Graves disease after a 15 year marriage ended in divorce. Was told likely stress. I'm refuse to allow a men to stress me out. Come together and we should appreciate each other and not cause unnecessary stress. It's old to be arguing and not getting along. Let's have healthy exchanges and conversations
I'd like to begin by saying how touched I am by your comment. Your journey, dealing with hyperthyroidism and the breakup of a 15-year marriage, is surely stressful, and I'm very sorry to hear about your hardships. It takes great bravery to share your experience, and your words are a testament to your resilience.
Many of us resonate with your message. Stress can have a negative impact on our health, and your desire to prioritize your own peacefulness and well-being is admirable. You are completely correct; healthy communication and understanding are essential in relationships. It serves as a powerful reminder to respect one another and aspire for harmony above unnecessary conflict. Please know that you are not alone in this journey. There is a welcoming community here, and we are here to listen, share, and lift one another up. Your thoughts touch many people's hearts, including mine, and I appreciate you opening up and sharing your wisdom.If there is anything more you'd like to contribute or discuss, please don't hesitate to reach out to us. You are a source of strength and happiness in this community, and your presence contributes to it.
On your journey ahead, I wish you continuous strength, healing, and happiness💫💕🙏✨
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you. I appreciate your kind words. 🙏
@@feliciawalker9771 likewise dear 💕🙏✨💖
Agreed.
This just hit me so hard as it’s EXACTLY what has happened to me in the last 4 years, and 3 years ago I got absolutely horrible rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia. This video was such a crushing awakening. So strange that it showed up on my feed this week of all weeks.
Dr. Mate understands women’s general position in the world. What a relief to have someone recognize that many women bear the social and familial role of “fixers” with perpetual understanding smiles plastered on their faces. When covid came along I was horrified, of course, but after a while I realized that what I really want for myself is to be left alone after 74 years of being what everyone else wants. I have always been cheerful by nature and remain so. My selfishness bothers me less every day and I find myself extending my own little “covid lockdown” as long as I can get away with it. I prefer to not even talk on the phone as my hearing is failing. I wish everyone the best but please let me be myself. My upbringing would explain why I’m more comfortable alone but that is yesterday’s news. Thank you Dr. Mate.
I'm so glad that Dr. Mate's understanding resonated with you! It's amazing how a little recognition and validation can make such a difference. Wishing you all the best in your journey of self-discovery and embracing your true self!
I developed MS at age 8. I've tried to tell my neurologist and other doctors (I also have a few other autoimmune conditions that require ongoing medical care) that it's the result of trauma and CPTSD. They just stare at me lol. But once I realized there was a mind/body connection after reading Gabor Mate's book, I was convinced. While I knew I was reactive and not quite as emotionally stable as I wanted to be, I didn't even realize I'd been abused until I started therapy and my therapist actually cried when I explained my childhood. I think we protect ourselves from the reality of how bad it is/was. This is what I did, along with continuing to fawn over those who had abused me, and it made me even sicker. When I could no longer work, or even walk, I made healing my psyche and body my career and 10 years later I'm almost better. I think I'm 90% there and still working diligently to prioritize myself and my health. I've discarded toxic relationships, I meditate, go to therapy and physical therapy, working the trauma out of my muscles with yoga and mindful, meditative stretching, and daily workouts. I went to medicine ceremonies and used hallucinogen healing modalities. I fell in love with my own beautiful, resilient, courageous self! How amazing to survive all this and still thrive! Taking control and healing is incredibly empowering, and just making the decision to do so is healing. It's like realizing you're hurdling down the road in a sports car, but you're in the backseat and nobody is driving because it's your car, and you jump in the driver's seat and take control. Now, instead of having this scary, awful experience, you're the driver of what happens in your life and within your own mind and body. It's amazing. Please heal, please do this for yourself because you deserve that! How we're treated as little girls and women is a reflection of our male-driven, patriarchal, purity culture society, not us. We're beautiful beings who deserved better, but we absolutely can and should give that to ourselves!
This inspired me! Tysm for sharing!!❤
Wish you a blessed life
So well said.
That’s why they say that married men live longer, but married women do not. Food for thought.
thanks for sharing your insights, bless you✨💖
I would do anything to have an hour on the phone with Gabor Maté. He’s the only one that I can find and understands.
thank you for watching
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you for posting
Life knows innumerable ways to support you. Ask for help, move outside and open your antennas. ❤
Yes!
Me too.
So true. I've been living by myself for over ten years now, far away from my parents and relatives, no intimate relationships with men. The healthiest period of my life.
My POV: take anger as a (rush) signal for yourself that in that situation you need to connect to your own power. When you connect to yourself and your power you can act consciously. Anger has done its job, it disappears and does not hurt you or others in your action.
I am a 62 yr old woman. I come from a dysfunctional background which continued into adulthood. I have always had some type of medical chronic issue. I now have connected the dots and realize that my mind always punished my health and body. I notice that now I have LET GO of a lot of RAGE and Anger and I am doing better.
I was married to an alcoholic, narcissistic man . I developed colitis which led to graves disease and celiac disease. He later won custody of our daughter citing my health made me unfit to be a mother .
Illness he caused in me due to his abuse 😒😔
So sorry! Something very similar happened to me.
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I want to thank you for sharing your story with us, and I'm sincerely sorry to read about your very difficult journey. You've clearly been through a lot of pain and struggle, and I can't imagine how difficult this has been for you. Your bravery and resilience in the face of such suffering are admirable. I'm so sorry you had to go through this and that your health suffered as a result of the situation.Sharing your stories, I feel, can be truly inspiring and healing, both for you and for those who may be facing similar issues. By speaking up, you're bringing attention to important issues that need to be addressed, such as the effects of abuse on one's health and well-being. Please know that we are here for you if you ever want to talk about your experiences or seek advice and support from our community. You are not alone, and many of us are ready to listen, empathize, and provide support.
I hope your healing and recovery journey continues and that you can find peace and happiness in the future. You are deserving of love, care, and a happy life, and I hope you find it. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs,💖🌻💕
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you so much for your lovely words of support. They really mean a lot to me . I send lots of love and respect to you ✨✨🙏🏻🙏🏻
Am so sorry ❤❤hope you heal and thrive
Perhaps also because women of colour are often from cultures that place high emotional demands on their women. They are taught from a very early age, that a good woman must be a perfect daughter, sister, wife, mother, grandmother etc. She's not supposed to say no, or to look after herself. To do so, is to risk being ostracised and cast out by her family and peers. Its a life of servitude and drudgery for many.
Thank you for sharing your enlightened point of view. It is important to recognize and appreciate the cultural background as well as the societal factors that affect women of color. Let us continue to encourage conversations that empower and enable women of all backgrounds to live their lives on their own terms. Women must be empowered.✨💖 #EmpowerWomen
Not just women of colour, you shouldn't say that, ALL women....
@@barbarastepien-foad4519 I know, I was referring to the point made in the video about coloured women being subject to racial prejudice. I don't think that tells the whole story, so I filled in a bit of a blank! Of course, women of all creeds and colour face the same struggles. Perhaps it would have been helpful to some if I'd acknowledged that, but was hoping I wouldn't need to 🙄
@@barbarastepien-foad4519 There are often huge cultural differences regarding upbringing of girls (and their brothers). Individual variations, but still. Parents/grandparents who immigrated from anywhere outside what we call "the West", at least those who came from rural areas - you can't with a straight face put them seamlessly side by side with the urbanized, hyper capitalized Western parents.
I agree that it is more cultural than racial
I agree with him. I was in a very toxic marriage (Narcissistic abuse). I was so stressed out and on top of that, I served the Military 17 years. I took in a lot. And I ended up having Multiple Sclerosis 😢
My mom absorbed so much physical and mental traumas within her families as a child and wife, that her ending was very sad. Mom my was a deep feeler, non selfish always working and these things hurt her.
Anyone that is under stress for a good length of time , will develop Dis-Ease, it causes a inflammatory effect in the body, and affects the Immune system. We must realize that we are spiritual, emotional, and physical beings, and need to tend to all of what we are, to have a healthy balance.
Thank you for this. He is so right. I have spondyloarthritis - psoriatic arthritis. I picked up that I flare the most during time of extreme stress. My body is constantly in flee mode now. Luckily one of my Doctors not the rheumatologist, picked up on my stress based on hearing the story of my life and she pushed me to see a psychologist..... What's the result.... I say no now without hesitation, I don't linger in situations where people make me feel awful. I cut off toxic people quickly. I don't owe them anything. Not doing this is always an expense exercise for my health an my pockets. The most I have had at a consultation is 8 cortisone injections.... Caused by me entertaining toxic people. Not again.
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts. It's amazing to hear about how you've taken responsibility of your health and made such wonderful changes in your life. Your experience is extremely inspiring, and it shows the importance of self-care and setting limits. You owe no one your happiness or health, and it's wonderful to see you putting yourself first. We extend you our warmest wishes for a better and healthier path ahead. 💕🌟
Avoiding, and getting rid of toxic people certainly made a positive difference in my life. I seem to attract them for some reason.
Great post.
After a harrowing upbringing, I was bullied beyond belief and bearing by my in laws in another country. I collapsed and was hospitalized for a month. Nervous exhaustion they said. I had 3 minutes with a dr who said nothing more than, one day will will learn to say no. He was right. It took a while but I did and it was effective. When widowed, I went no contact with the in laws. No regrets. Bliss. I have boundaries.
I like a saying...when love isn't being served it's time to leave the table. Also, I don't know what your problem is but I didn't cause it comes in handy, too, with nit pickers. I have people who truly love me. The rest are not required.
@@marybrennan5825, I attract them too, and I think I know why. I’m pretty sure it’s because I’m too nice. I’ve had to learn over time not to put up with stuff anymore. I say what’s on my mind, and I say no. Fortunately I have never gotten an autoimmune disease, but I think it’s all about taking care of ourselves and setting boundaries.
I'm so happy for you. Thanks a lot for sharing your experience 💕
Although stress is definitely damaging to health, so are toxic cleaning and cosmetic products that women use, which are also hormone disruptors that interact with estrogen.
Not even CLOSE especially not today's cosmetics. Unless you work with industrial grade cleaning products and love to mix bleach with other chemicals, you will not get so affected
You are correct! Stress is just one piece of the puzzle when it comes to overall health. Toxic cleaning and cosmetic items can also have an important impact. It is important that we are all aware of these hidden dangers and make informed decisions for our own safety. Thank you for bringing such an important topic to our awareness!
thanks for sharing your thoughts, 💖
Well If you lived in my body, one that gets migraines when a visitor wears perfume (which contain up to 100 chemicals and hormone disruptors), someone who can no longer work as a seamstress because of the chemicals, and scented laundry detergets in the clothing, someone who cant use public washrooms that spray people with perfumes that lower the testosterone levels in men, someone who can't wear most cosmetics or sunscreens, etc, then I could not Imagine you saying, "Not even close". I respect Europe for banning a lot of the ingredients and substances that we commonly use here. My mother in law and 2 of her co workers got cancer using the cleaners used to clean a long term care facility. You would not say, "not even close" if you were her.@@MELLMAO
Diet has a big impact as well, but frankly the stress caused by Adverse Childhood Experiences and their constant repetition must be by far, the biggest factor.
I remember my mom being diagnosed with non follicular lymphoma and she had a history of other diseases such as frozen shoulder, and back pains. I didn’t know what autoimmune diseases were like. But all the doctor informed us was its your immunity system treating your own body as an intruder.
The only information about psychology and stress I had then was from a grade 12 psychology book. That said b cells in our white blood cells acts when the body is in stress.
Thats exactly what i told the doctor as a teenager, then mom s b cells are so used to be in action. That they have started acting on her own body. He didn’t say a word and moved on.
Thank you for sharing your personal story of your mother's diagnosis. It must have been a difficult moment for both of you. It's sad that you were unfamiliar with autoimmune disorders and stress at the time, but it's admirable that you made an effort to connect your understanding from your psychology book with your mother's situations.
Medical practitioners may not always be able to provide extensive answers during a session, but it is important to continue pursuing knowledge and asking questions. Understanding how the immune system can turn against the body in autoimmune diseases such as non-follicular lymphoma will assist us in understanding the complexity of such diseases.If you want to learn more, there are plenty of resources accessible now that can provide further information regarding autoimmune illnesses and their relationship to stress. It is important to keep informed and to continue pushing for your own and your loved ones' health. Bless You
Wow you're so smart and brave 😂❤ love the docter's realisation and "let's move on or I'll lose" vibe
I was abused in every sense as a child, I got involved in abusive relationships as it was all I knew. I was diagnosed with MS at 33, However, I think I had it 10 years earlier. I am now 54 snd very tired of life. I also have asthma and an over active thyroid, all these cobditions are autoimmune. I have no doubt that my childhood circumstances contributed to these conditions..
I'm genuinely sorry to hear about the difficulties you've encountered throughout your life. Your bravery and resilience in the face of such suffering are admirable. It's heartbreaking to think about the impact of our childhood traumas on our health.Please know that you are not alone and that there are others who are concerned about you. This community is here for you if you ever feel the need to discuss or share more. Your story may encourage others who are going through similar difficulties. Keep going, and I hope brighter days come your way soon.
I'm sending you my love and support💕🙏✨💖
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you so much for getting back to me. I have forgiven those who have hurt me, Simply because anger was eating me up. In saying that it's from afar, they are not in my life and I like it that way, Now I try and be happy. But life is still difficult for me. I may well share more here, but only if someone can benefit from it. ❤️
@@ShoJ369please share, it will surely help. I myself had faced physical and emotional abuse. And still trying to heal myself.
Did you ever hear of Joe Dispenza's work? His meditations and books have helped me so much. There are many, many testimonials of people getting their health and zest for life after life stories and ailments that are almost exactly what you describe. I would highly recommend checking it out!
@@nidanida2863 Thank you I will 😊
Just after listening for a few min there is not even question to deny his words .My grandma was a prime example a victim .She absorbed feelings and stress
From around her Many children .few died at birth ,grandad ash all ,then problem with grown up kids ,no money .Despite all of this she was building own house .She didn’t finish she gone at 59.
I want to thank you so much for sharing your personal story with us. It's really touching to hear about your grandmother's courage and resilience in the face of difficulties throughout her life.
Your comment points out the important effect that compassionate people, such as your grandmother, can have on those around them. It shows the long-lasting strength of love and determination. She truly sounds to be a very superb person. Your words have impacted me greatly, and they serve as a reminder of how important it is to understand and value the experiences of those who have gone before us. They frequently leave an invaluable legacy that influences our life. Thank you for being open and sharing this touching story with us. If you ever wish to share more about your grandmother or any other thoughts, please do so.🙏✨💖
I totally get what he's saying and agree. I had tremendous stress and a hidden abscess tooth. I became very ill, started having rashes on my scalp and face near my ears, then moved down my neck, upper back, and under arms - the doctor told me I had "auto-immune disease," but never asked about my teeth. Once the pain became intense, I had 3 different dentists tell me I had a problem with my back tooth and I said but the pain's in the front. Only when I pressed hard on the 3rd dentist did he tell me the pain was radiating forward. So I had it taken out and about 3-4 months later the majority of the poison had left my system and so did the "auto-immune disease."
I'm very sorry to hear about the challenging health journey you've been through. It's unfortunate how sometimes health issues can be interconnected and go undetected. Your experience underscores the importance of thorough examination and communication between doctors and patients. I'm glad you were persistent in seeking answers and that your health has improved since addressing the underlying issue. Thank you for sharing your story; it might help others going through similar struggles. I wish you continued good health and recovery. 🌿 💖🙏
Very true but not only for women. Also men, children and old people will suffer if there is a hidden inflammation in their dental cavities it affects your whole body, many people do not know about this.
@@johannakamstra-schickendan7380 Yes indeed, and the health care system completely ignores dental issues as if it has nothing to do with the rest of the body.
This is so on point, coming from a child who was a perpetual people pleaser, living with polyarthritis I know how good stress can fuel you, but bad stress left me in chronic pain for 20 years. Gabor speaks directly to my soul. The fear I had was to be alone and no friends, but the truth was the more people, the more empathetic I was, and in my role in the community I was trained to help everyone and not be selfish. I felt that! Turns out it’s not the fear of being alone, it’s the fear of hearing yourself and knowing it’s not working. I left my job after 30 years, went home to care for again parents and a sick brother. In all that, my energy was focused, I was doing what felt right for me, prioritizing my health and mindfulness Pilates and the isolation I dread became my sanctuary, and for the first time ever, my autoimmune disorders are not firing on all cylinders and the stress level dropped. Amazing mind that Gabor. I was so lucky to have met him in my community. I didn’t know he was my catalyst to healing down the road. ⭕️
I am the oldest of five.
My mother was extremely needy my whole life.
She suffered from multiple autoimmune disorders.
Wellness industry is booming and I see more women investing and starting businesses in this space as a response to the stress of the cold and harsh reality of corporate America. 70% of yoga instructors in the Us for example are women.
thanks for sharing your thoughts, bless you 💖💖💖
For a few years now I have been battling with extreme pain in different parts of my body (especially pelvic area and lower back), arthritis, different female health issues and edema. I'm not even sure it's officially arthritis and edema; this is what I presume from the symptoms of what I've researched. I have debilitating reflux most days and always seem to be feeling on the verge of a cold or the flu. I have to constantly treat symptoms of something or other, it's like whack-a-mole. I'm always exhausted, like I need to lay down. I'm only 38 but I feel so old in my body. Functioning as a single parent and working more than 1 job feels like an impossible feat most days. Sometimes even washing the dishes is insanely challenging - the energy just isnt there. I haven't been able to see a doctor for a full health check-up as they are exorbitantly expensive where i live and i don't have health insurance. Without sounding dramatic, some days it feels like my body is ravaged with cancer. Ive never had cancer, but it's like it feels like what i imagine it would feel like. If that makes sense. My entire childhood and adolescence was trauma after trauma, extreme poverty and then eventually I just became a proverbial punching bag for so many different people: family, partners, friends, colleagues. All this time, ive felt like i was a hypochondriac. Or that all these illnesses/issues were all in my head. It doesnt help that i look "normal" and people always tell me i look good (funny enough, especially when my pain is at its worst and I feel the most ill). I eat healthily, i have vision boards, i do affirmations and have mantras, practice positive thinking, read the right books. I don't smoke or drink. I do everything "right". When I try to work out though, it's like i just can't stick to any constant routine as i just start to feel ill or im too tired to do it for more than 2 days. I thought I was lazy or a failure or looking for excuses, even though logically i knew that couldn't be the case. Now after seeing this, I feel like I've finally found something to explain all of this. I dont know if anyone's even reading this, but it really feels good to finally understand. I hope this happens for someone else like me ❤
I'd like to begin by thanking you for sharing your story with such courage and vulnerability. It takes a lot of courage to talk about your problems, especially when they've been a part of your life for a long time. I'm deeply sorry to hear about your physical and emotional suffering. Your description of your health difficulties, combined with your status as a single parent and the lack of inexpensive healthcare options, shows an unfavorable situation. You've clearly experienced countless challenges, both physical and emotional, throughout your life, and I admire your determination in pushing toward. Your comments about feeling like a hypochondriac and questioning your own health are something that many people can relate to, and it's often aggravated when others can't see the suffering we're in. Despite these obstacles, your path through positive thinking, self-care habits, and trying to live a healthy lifestyle is admirable. I'm truly touched that you found comfort or clarity in our video. It's encouraging to know that sharing this content has helped you in some way. You are not alone in your fight, and I sincerely hope that your story reaches others who may be going through similar situations, reminding them that they, too, are not alone. Please keep in mind that you are strong and resilient. Your willingness to share your story can serve as an inspiration and source of hope for others. Continue to take small steps toward your well-being, and don't be afraid to ask for help from friends, online communities, or any other available resources. Your path is important to me, and I send you my best wishes for better days ahead.
Thank you for being a part of this community, and please know that there are people that care about you including me and want to support you. sending you lots of virtual hugs 🤗✨💖🤗
@@yourinnerchildmatters From the bottom of my heart, thank you for this beautiful response Xxxx
I had a similar experience. I prayed for wisdom. Eventually I asked my doctor for specific tests. He was surprised that I had tested positive for intrinsic factor antibodies (indicates pernicious anemia). I continues to suffer and began to have more digestive problems. I now know that it’s a second autoimmune disease called celiac. I avoid gluten and have replaced what, barley and rye grains with brown rice, corn or corn flour and no more white bread, pasta cakes, cookies, pie crust because most are made with gluten in the flour.
I still have serious symptoms including fatigue which has been remedied some with iron supplements (iron bisglycinate). And b vitamins also give me more energy.
I hope you get properly tested and follow your instincts as well. Surround yourself with advocates.
You sound like me and your symptoms you talk about are VERY familiar to me. Eventually diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, Epstein-Bar Virus and a few other things. I did everything right too, but the overwhelming stress component starting in childhood has stayed through adulthood. I have deliberately stayed unmarried, etc. for the last 20 years just to keep myself in a normal functioning flow to lessen the stress. My Rheumatologist retired me medically a few years ago to save me from myself in order to keep me from overdoing (we are always perfectionists in everything, aren’t we?). When the stress is gone, we get to feel what “normal” might have been like had we not experienced the life we had. It can get better. Find a good doctor, therapist if you need or want one, and people who really “see” you. If it takes some isolation in order to get your body and mind connected again, then that’s what you create for yourself if you can. It sometimes takes a huge step back in life in order to move forward again. I hope you truly find what you need to heal…💜
@@Pais13yCat316 Thank you for this reply. It brought tears to my eyes - esp how you avoid certain "life" to keep the stress at bay and how when stress is gone it's this brief reprieve of OH IS THIS WHAT IT'S SUPPOSED TO FEEL LIKE? Yes, I fully relate to the perfection as I have OCD tendencies (washing my hands is the main one but also smaller less obvious habits). This information is very helpful. Thank you again. Bless you 🙏 ♥
Jesus Christ heals all our traumas when we cast our burdens on Him. Peace that transcends all understanding enters our soul.
Thank you. I saved this video.
I have celiac and i have ut sincr young.
My mom always projects her stress to me. She uses me as her emotional support since my father passed away when i was born.
Wgen i got severely bullied in college. I started developing intense symptoms of pmdd.
From now on, i will deny absorbing stress and will work on myself and finally do what i want
About 9 years ago i entered into one of the most toxic relationships of my life.
Within 1 year i had all the symptoms of fibromyalgia.
The constant fatigue and pain was unbearable.
The symptoms continued until i ended the relationship 18 months ago.
My body is now pain free. I am now left with severe depression. The trauma bond is unrelenting.
You're free! Don't give up on yourself, work on the depression and love your new healthy self. Congrats for your strength...💪🏾!
I do believe that chemicals in creams makeup and nails and hair and cleaning has a lot to do too in autoinmune diseases
than you for sharing this, very much appreciated. 💖
I can totally relate to this, having a couple of autoimmune diseases myself as a 51 year old woman. The puzzle pieces have been coming together for the last 3 years and realizing how many things i have been angry about, which was depression for years.
What happens when you TELL your doctor about this?
Meds pushed…no thanks.
Then writing in your summary that you’re hyper active and that you cried.
Yes! Thank you so much, I really appreciate you taking time to explain this. I have Rheumatoid Arthritis, Fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, IBS, diverticulitis, Barret's esophagus, Asthma and COPD, and I have periods of deep depression. My parents started me drinking beer at the age of 11, by the time I was 15 years old, I was so sick from Rum and coke I had a black tongue for 3 days 😢😢I was a full alcoholic by 18 and just barely Graduated from high school. I remember a out of body experience at 6 months, afraid of my Dad's temper. I didn't know that all the issues were from my Childhood 😢😢😢😢
Thank you for sharing your story with such openness. It takes great bravery to come up about your experiences, and I sincerely appreciate your faith in our community. I'm truly sorry to read about your difficulties, especially given the impact they've had on your health and well-being.
Keep in mind that you are not alone on this path. Many people have had similar struggles and found strength in discussing and seeking help. Your willingness to face past experiences is an important step toward healing.
Please know that there are resources and communities available to offer help and understanding. Your past does not define you, and there is always hope for a better future. Reach out to us if you ever want to share more or if there is any way I can help you on your journey to recovery.
I'm sending you positive vibes and strength. 💕🙏✨💖
@@yourinnerchildmattersnot op but how to reach out to you?
When women get the strength to say no to their partner, they ignore them or disagree. It becomes fighting because trying to reach a compromise is not in their habits. Why do we always have to be the one to encourage the reach of a compromise? It’s so tiring… what’s your advice? Sometimes, let it down is less tiring…
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts and experiences with us. It is important to understand that each relationship is unique, and finding the appropriate balance can be challenging. It can be exhausting when it appears that the responsibility of compromise is always placed on one person. Compromise should be a collaborative effort in any healthy relationship. It is all about open communication and mutual respect. If you're feeling exhausted, it's a good idea to be honest with your partner about how you're feeling. Inform them of your thoughts and feelings so that you may both work together to create a more balanced approach.Remember that self-care is important as well. Taking a step back to recharge and reflect might be good at times. Your well-being is also important. Sending you love and strength as you face these difficult situations💕🤗💟
80% of women have autoimmune illnesses. 80% of women initiate divorce.
Very interesting!!! In my first marriage (to a narcissist), I developed Hashimoto disease (thyroid disease that causes slow metabolism). I did have anger, I did say « NO! », but him being a narcissist, no was not an option. Then I developed Crohn’s disease. At that point I left him, but there was much emotional healing to do; in that process I also developed Graves’ disease (thyroid disease that causes the thyroid to be overstimulated). Yes, Graves and Hashimoto contradict each other, and although it is quite rare, it is possible to have both. Yikes! And just a few years ago, I was borderline for Myasthenia Gravis (which affects the nerves in the face which can cause temporary but recurring paralysis) but that has since subsided (thank God!). So, yes, I’d say stress has a lot to do with it. The notion of being the one who has to make it all work out is a little insane, but we women all do it. To this day, I still do it, but now I am married to a wonderful man…but I still need to work on things, like asking for help instead of trying to do it all on my own. Having autoimmune disorders is exhausting, so yeah, I need help with stuff! (Damn pride keeps getting in my way.lol)
Thank you so much for telling us your story. It takes a lot of courage to overcome the difficulties you've encountered, especially in a marriage with a narcissist. Your bravery is truly admirable. It's nice to hear that you've finally found a wonderful and supporting partner. It's normal that asking for help might be uncomfortable, but it's an important step toward self-care and managing autoimmune conditions. Your path and willingness to share it remind us all of the value of self-compassion and getting help when necessary. Your bravery is an inspiration to many, and we are grateful to have you as a member of our community. If you ever want to share more or need help, we're here to help.💕 🤗💟
Seriously in todays misogynist culture hearing a highly educated man acknowledging females physical and mental misiries brought about upon her by her dearest closest relations.....amazing.still humanity prevails
Thank you so much for your kind words. It is important to address and acknowledge the issues that everyone, regardless of gender, may experience in today's society. Let us keep working together to build a more fair and compassionate society. Your support is very much appreciated💕🙏✨💖🥰
I agree. Much different to your misogynistic men like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson.
I can totally relate to this. I couldn't enjoy either of my pregnancies because of my husbands fear of change, so I got sick during both pregnancies, the 1st resulted in an emergency cesarean and the 2nd in a premature birth. Now, both children suffer from the result of gestational anxiety.
In hindsight, I would counsel women not to enter into a permanent relationship until you have a strong EQ. Once you have sound emotional intelligence, you can help your family to identify their emotional burdens and enable them to overcome them.
I'm touched by the story you tell and appreciate your openness in expressing it here. I'm sorry to hear about the problems you encountered during your pregnancies and the affect it had on your family. It seems like you've gone through some very difficult times. Your message about the importance of emotional intelligence is very valuable. It's clear that your experiences have taught you a lot, and your willingness to help others by sharing your wisdom is admirable. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and opening up.❤️💖🌺
Tek tako da steknete EQ?!Sizifovski posao je "jak EQ"
Like every one will take this advice…sadly not so 😢
I adore this man, always thought these things, and I love he is putting Statistics there to prove that's the obvious correlation
Dr. Gabor Maté is an absolute inspiration! His commitment to connecting personal insights with hard-hitting statistics is admirable.🙌
It makes sense. It is definitely stress. Emotional stress over long periods of time. Especially dealing with narcissistic and abusive family members as a youngster. I am highly sensitive anyway and was always the black sheep so it doesn't surprise me that I have Lupus and RA now.
Thank you for taking the time to tell us about the experience you had. It takes a lot of bravery to speak up about your emotional stress and struggles, especially if you've dealt with narcissistic and abusive family members in the past. You've clearly gone through a lot, and your sensitivity is a strength, not a weakness. I'm really sorry to hear about your Lupus and RA struggles. These situations can be very challenging, so it's important that you emphasize self-care and support. Remember that you are not alone, and there are plenty of supportive communities available. if you ever want to share more or need to talk, we're here for you. Take care, and be kind to yourself💖🙏❤️💖
@@yourinnerchildmatters Aww, that is so sweet. Thank You. That truly touched my heart. ❤❤
@@ba8501 thank you too. Sending you lots of positive vibes and virtual hugs,💖🌻🌹💕🙏❤💖
I put up boundaries in my family recently. I lost half my kids because I wouldn’t conform to their ideals. It’s sad but I finally feel free and true. My life is different now.
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏
I think that the video background showing actors feigning emotion detracts from this video. But thanks, I appreciated the teaching!
Sorry!
Nothing could be more truer than this! Thank you for giving this fact a platform.
Thank you very much for your kind words! I'm happy that you found this video helpful. Comments like yours are what make creating content worthwhile💕🤗
A huge present day stress factor are the algorithms on TH-cam and elsewhere, that constantly feed us more videos on issues we may have watched about subjects that concern us - reaffirming and building our fears. I feel this is partly why it's now hard to have a discussion with anyone, as everyone's so convinced they are right.
I was chronically neglected and abused from birth until 22. Medical neglect, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse and neglect.. everything.
I have ibs, possible pots, cptsd, anxiety. Im suprised im still here
It might not necessarily work, but I recommend reading "Niacin: the real story" written by some Doctors. In it he refers to many studies but one of the key findings is that stressful events lead to not only a shortage of vitamin B3 in the body, but also to a dependency to it.
The main author goes on to say that he's cured a number of people from a variety of conditions brought on by extreme experiences by large doses of B3 (nictotinamide) and, while it does take time to recover (more than 6 months), they do.
Vitamin B3 is cheap and widely available, so people looking to try something to improve their situation haven't really got much to lose by trying this.
My husband lost his job when I was 3 months pregnant. Our baby was born with three openings in his heart. Many years of stress. I have arthritis in my back and knees. Rapid heart beat. Grew up in violent home too. Also husband cheated while overseas. He had cancer 3 times. Now I am alone. It had all affected my health.
I'm truly sorry to hear about all of your difficulties, and I appreciate you sharing your story with us. Life may be really difficult, and it appears that you've had more than your fair share of hardship.I want you to know that you are not alone on this path, even though it appears so at times. Your bravery and resilience in the face of hardship are inspiring, and I admire your courage in speaking openly about them. It shows your inner strength. Please keep in mind that there are support systems and communities available to offer support and a listening ear. Your well-being is important and seeking help, whether from friends, family, or experts, can make a major difference. I hope you can find some peace and healing in time. Life might be unpredictable, but there is always possibility for positive growth and progress. You deserve to be happy and well, and I sincerely wish you the best on your path ahead.
This community is here for you if you ever want to discuss or share more. I wish you strength, fortitude, and loving thoughts.💕
We women through centuries were taught we were NOT allowed to say NO, to BE QUIET to keep the peace and to feel GUILTY to do anything or buy anything for themselves including buying feminine napkins which are necessary. It has been pressed upon us via social and family cultures and any woman who spoke up or fraught for women’s rights are considered a B itch and trouble maker. Now we have modern stressors that no women face before, along with the old paradigm of thinking. We as women are better now then our ancestors, but our ancestors died young. We live longer and autoimmune and fibromyalgia, and other diseases are manifestations of us living longer with the same problems with new stressors. So in one way we do have it better however our health says it’s not. Our bodies are screaming!
Complete agree! I grew up in a narcissistic family and have Type 1 diabetes. Two female cousins on mother’s side have Type1 and one female cousin on father’s side has Crohn’s.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge! It's not easy dealing with a difficult family dynamic as well as a health condition like Type 1 diabetes. It's encouraging to see how you're dealing with it. We all have our own adventures, and it's reassuring to connect with those who can relate. I'm sending positive vibes to you and your cousins who are also battling with health issues. 💪💕
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In "When the Body Says No" (I think), Dr Gabor Mate goes through actor Gilda Radner's life and subsequent death to see how her biography affected her biology.
I find it useful looking at celebrities because you do get broad details of their lives and you can often make links between certain traumatic events and the emergence of illness.
So do I. Prince Harry for example.
I think as more public figures open up and talk about mental health therapy and its impact, especially its link to physical health we will see a change.
the awareness i hope will aid funding allocation, general acceptance and normalisation of therapy and other mental health care options.
So ppl can look after their mental health just as easy as seeing GP when ill.
My autoimmune disease started after Covid😢 10 months of lockdown with no access to any household help or from my husband who suffers from OCD and an MIL with paranoia. Receipt for disaster. Wish I could sue the Govt for imposing this nightmare on us.
I'm very sorry to hear about your painful situations, and I cannot imagine how difficult these last several months must have been for you. Dealing with an autoimmune disease is a tremendous load in and of itself, and the additional strains of lockdown, limited assistance, and family issues must have made it very difficult. When faced with such situations, it's natural to feel frustrated and overwhelmed, and your feelings are valid. While I cannot provide legal advice, I hope you find some relief and support for your health and well-being.
Please keep in mind that you are not alone, and that there are networks and services available to assist people facing similar issues. I wish you courage, resilience, and healing on your journey, and I wish you better days ahead. Reach out to us if you ever want to share your experiences or just talk.💕
honestly, i've developed a fear and anxiety over the years of any guys who call themselves "funny", especially guys who are funny in public, and there's a reason for that. there's a fear within me that they're looking at me as their next target to make a joke about and humiliate in public.
ever since i was a little girl, to be quite frank I was taught by my parents to be obedient. I'm more of the sensitive type tbh, so that turned into me over the years becoming both externally obedient as well as mentally obedient to people and not being so aware of who I am or what I'm doing. the only thing that I could hold onto to ensure I'm still me is music and my passion for it. so I sort of learned to cope by always listening to music in my head or visualizing scenarios with music playing and being more in my mind and oblivious to someone trying to joke on me or trask talk me. doing that just helped me avoid the threat.
this turned into many cases where people thought that because I didnt respond when I was pranked, harrassed or humiliated, they can keep doing what they're doing on me and I'll be oblivious to it. It's not that I'm oblivious, I just ignore it and hope that they'll stop but they don't. and the times I tried to hit back saying it's not nice and stuff, there will be that one guy who will make a joke and everyone will just start pointing and laughing at me, making me feel alone. i'm not very good at comebacks, and there were scenarios where people found that "cute", but it honestly just makes me wanna go insane then and there. there were so many situations like this throughout my childhood where people saw me as either annoying because of how oblivious I was, or a scapegoat that they could just keep picking on cause I wouldn't fight back. not so much harrass, but more of pick on and use as their model to joke about and humiliate. and i wanted to feel "cool" so I just either stayed silent or laughed along without being aware of how nastily or terribly this person is joking about me to the point where they're attacking me for no reason. many guys throughout school thought they could prank me in the same way, and it even turned into every single time that I was being asked out or being kissed by a guy as just a dare or a prank. Later on, minoring in theatre in college, my professor told me that i was a good actress but when it came to improv, I was the worst in the whole class because I just couldn't spontaneously come up with funny or random situations that would keep things going or just go with the flow and be willing to take a risk then.
and it sucks cause at 24 (i'm straight), even though I've developed avoidance issues where I disassociate when it comes to romantic feelings I have for anyone, i'm still that girl that can envision having a beautiful relationship with someone, my inner child still loves those genuine romantic movies where they're both laughing, feeling good in each others prescence. but i fear that if someone is good at joking around, that they could turn around and make the same jokes on me and take me for granted and look down on me as easy to use because of that. but now because of my fear of a funny guy, which many guys seem to be, and many people claim that they want, if I FEAR that very thing, i wonder how can I expect a guy to like me? the thing is, even my parents who didn't really get me tbh, it turned from them trying to help me cope with a joke, to me becoming and feeling like a joke. That's why even the movin in 2019 Joker really hit me hard, because sometimes even I've wondered what if I just hit that breaking point sometime.
Thank you so much Dr Maté for speaking about this, and through hearing your words it made me introspect and really think hard about it! Oh, and no, your humor does not make me feel anxious at all haha it doesn't even cross my mind. Think it's cause I feel safe knowing that you have the best intentions in mind and it's just to enjoy not for anything else
Your candid and heartfelt comment has truly touched me. It takes a lot of bravery to open up about such personal moments and anxieties, and I appreciate you taking the time to share your story with us.
You've clearly gone through some difficult situations, and I'm sorry to hear about the challenges you've had coping with humor and wit in your life. Your special method of employing music to find peace and detach from difficult experiences is a proof to your inner strength. It is important to remember that you are not alone in your feelings, and that lots of people have gone through similar experiences. Your vulnerability in sharing this reflects your resilience. It's also encouraging to learn that the humor in Dr. Maté's content does not make you worried, indicating that you're working toward healing and growth. Recognizing the difference between good-natured humor and hurtful humor is an important element of this journey.
Please know that there are helpful communities and professionals that can help you work through your worries and anxieties as you continue to reflect and grow. You have earned the right to be in a relationship in which you feel safe and appreciated. Your inner child's desire for a beautiful relationship is completely valid, and with time and help, you can find a partner who loves and respects you for who you are.
Thank you for being open with us, and I wish you a journey filled with healing, self-discovery, and true connections in the future.💕🙏✨💖
The best day swill be the day you find all that love and give it to yourself. The day you fall in love with yourself. Bless you.
Brilliant coming from a man. Feminists have known this for decades.
thanks for sharing your thoughts 🙏✨💖
This is a hard sell. There are so many factors and variables that it is hard for me to accept his hypothesis without having ruled out other biological probabilities.
When we waste time worrying about hard facts, studies etc. we waste valuable time. Once upon a time gut instinct and common sense were used. Not hard to understand how much the modern way of life has not only not improved us but made us work harder, longer and divided us from our children's day to day lives, while strangers take care of our most precious - our children. Woman wanted equality and sadly that is not what we got. So many are very unhappy in this mad dash to acquire and be the perfect Mom's etc. It's no wonder so many are sick.