Personally I don’t fire my boss, I put them on a PIP. I write down my unmet needs and problems, and I set a date 90 days away. They can improve the situation, or I quit. I don’t tell them about this, obviously.
I quit two jobs with two toxic bosses. Narcissistic bosses are the worst and can tear apart your self esteem and confidence. Gaslighting and projection and blame are just some of the toxic behaviors.
I had a narcissistic school principal. I was blessed that I was able to transfer to different a school as an employee. I could not take his shit no more!
I am a cop (for over 25 years) and I have had many bosses who ticked these points! The problem in a job like mine is that you can't just leave and go elsewhere (because then you wouldn't collect your very significant pension after age 50 etc) and if you point out the problems, you can very often be kissing any advancement or progression/development goodbye. I'll be hopefully retiring before Christmas and I can't wait.
This one really resonated with me, as I had to quit a job with TWO toxic bosses last month. One was short tempered and unpredictable, always at odds with second boss...and both channeled hostilities at me. Detailed scope of my duties defined, then dropped new unrelated projects on my lap that were suddenly more urgent regularly. Approving work from home three days a week then venting about me "never being in the office" when both of them lived 2-6 hours away from said office and came in sporadically. When they served me with a PIP my stress level maxed out and I quit a few days later--along with the second boss the same week. Stressed out over burning through my emergency fund at the moment, but feeling WAY better than I did in that company.
Use it as a stepping stone. Be patient. Use the skills knowledge and experience you gained from that post and embellish it (if you have to) in job applications and interviews. If you are in bad state consider short term work (even dreadful call center work) or delivery driver were you can deliver stuff on behalf of companies in your local area and keep pushing on until you land a decent job. I famously had a horrendous job working in a call center but now work with a better employer, I compare the transition between the two jobs to the ending of the Shawshank redemption lol come out clean the other end lol. Have a good day reader.
Very true. An outgoing employee told me that my new workplace was an absolute you know what show. At first I chalked it up to them being bitter. But they were right, a month later I quit.
I didn't need to be told those things about a job I had at a call center, I quickly figured it out for myself lol. Dealing with customers was bad but the culture and politics of the call center were every bit as bad lol. Have a good day reader.
@@hansonelI had the same exact situation, but after the guy who warned me was sent to the Gulags, they started targeting me and I foolishly tried to beat the PIP. Never again. Don't tolerate being treated poorly.
I landed my first professional job back in 1998 at a chemical company. No joke, in my first week, my coworkers were literally telling me “Yeah if I were you, I would just keep looking…” Toxic environment was a nice way to put it .
Every thing you said happened to me at my last job. I was doing the work of 3 people, my supervisor talked about me to my coworkers, even upper management. I quit my job on the spot when he lied about approving my vacation time. I was there for 21 years so I knew it was time to go. Now I have a better job that offers a work life balance, I work from home, and the benefits are exceptional. When a company starts to disrespect you it is time to go.
Same thing happened with me at one of my former employers. Said right to my face that my time off was approved. Came back after said vacation and was told it was either lost, thrown away, or “never approved”. Said manager was investigated though.
I was at my last position for 14 years. After coming across your videos over a year ago. I’ve made the changes in my career and treat myself as a free agent. It’s such a breath of fresh air!
I just realized my current boss is doing almost all of these. The one that I really appreciate you sharing is the "hands-off" because I was not sure why this bugs me all the time as my boss is never aware who is doing what, but she always demands us to finish the tasks she needs right away without seeing how busy we are at the moment. And most of the time the tasks she wants us to do can wait.
I needed this video. I moved cities for a new job that I was excited about. I had the exact industry experience they were looking for so I was qualified. The job ticked all of these points and I don't know how I've survived one year. They still don't trust me to assign the work that is required for the job. I'm treated like an intern who "needs to shadow" others work while having very little work I'm responsible for. Why would they pay for my relocation and invest in all of the training programs if these people still can't decide if I'm ready for the job? Can't wait to leave this place.
Dealing with toxic people in any situation is never easy, but they can prove to be a great personal development tool if you allow yourself to learn and grow from your experiences with them.
I have a supervisor who regularly gives me negative public feedback in front of my peers. Not only that but she likes to create her own narrative that I never go to her for help (which is NOT true) whenever I do make a small mistake. I've been going to her for help the whole week and regularly ask my colleagues for help because she told me to as well. It seems like if she didn't see me do something, she likes to assume I didn’t do it. Not to mention, I do ask her for help but she hasn't been very approachable to me and most of the time she has an attitude when I do ask for help. She's told me in the past that there is no such thing as "stupid questions" but then treats a question I have like it's a stupid one when I am. genuinely trying to learn and not make more mistakes. I am tired of her toxicity and how her feedback causes my usually friendly co-workers to change their behavior around me. I think it's time to quit.
My boss sadly fits many of these. He's unpredictable, way too hands-off, doesn't value the work I do, never has anything positive to say, doesn't understand the job I do but yet still seems to think its easy and doesn't provide any feedback, apart from criticizing once in a while, which I don't call feedback. I know he won't change and I'm happy to say that I've started looking for a new job. Thanks Bryan, your videos have been quite helpful!
Holy shit! This is 100% my last job. Literally no feedback whatsoever and I could count on one hand the number of times I ever got any acknowledgement of my work.
the boss I had is hands-off in real work, but micro-managing on petty matters like status on chat, late for meeting for 1 minute, etc. She asked everyone in the team to attend night meeting, while she herself go offline and take our summary from that meeting. Not just that, of the 10 things that I did right, she magnify the mistakes during meeting in her passive aggressive manner. I just wish there's karma for a piece of trash like that. Ironically... I'm having a hard time explaining myself why I am leaving the organization. I love the organization, but not the boss. Unfortunately, the big taboo in job interview is, we shouldn't be complaining about our boss. Not even briefly mention about the toxic boss I can't work with.
@@dracofirex The next job that we will normally apply usually have similar characteristics. If we talk about the fitness of the job, the interviewer will doubt that you'd be able to take on the job that is greatly similar to your previous one. Hence, ... 😂
@@curiousGoyangi Hmmmm yeah in that case I'd then say "I was looking for different opportunities" or something to that effect, make it sound like it was nothing personal!
I think what I've seen happen is many "bosses" take the promotion to their leadership role because they want to enjoy the benefits and priveleges, like being paid more and being seen as an authority figure. But when it comes to the hardest part, which is ultimately their core role of being responsible for the outcomes of the business as it relates to individuals' performances and how their outcome affects the business as a whole, they star to fall apart. When they get moody, it's the stress. When they remain "hands off", it's because they don't want to be too involved in your development or decision making so that they can't take the blame for your results. Because ultimately, in many institutions, it's their head that gets rolled if things aren't working the way they're supposed to. I was a retail manager for a little over a year, and for the last six months I struggled to meet expectations from my own superiors which seemed to remain unclear. Ultimately what I was told is that it was "them or us", meaning either I started writing up/firing the people on my team or it was me that lost my job. I ultimately stepped down, because it seemed like the company I was in wasn't really setting anyone up to succeed, and it simply didn't feel fair to my team to hold them "accountable" for things out of their control, like unmanageable workloads, unrealistic expectations and being blamed when short-staffing and payroll issues meant everyone was expected to do the work of multiple people.
I agree. I've noticed the same issues with managers I've had in the past. I think some people need to accept that just because they want to be in senior positions doesn't mean that they are good at managing people. People/team management isn't for everyone and that's okay.
Our entire team is experiencing the first two from our current manager. It makes every day a living nightmare because we don’t know who we’re going to get, and the overall tendency is to be hands-off in an inappropriate way. Thank you for this video. It’s a much needed wake up call.
My boss displays many of these traits. They are to turn 70 so I was trying to outlast them. Now it doesn’t appear they will be retiring any time soon. Thankfully they don’t contact me outside of normal business hours.
I had this one boss who was a great guy & supported his team members really well but was a liar! Other team members knew he was a liar but we put up with it.
The hands off point really hit home with me. This woman was my boss for over a year and I can honestly say, I'd be hard press to say if we ever exchanged more than 20 minutes of conversation combined throughout the year. She left her position without truly announcing it to the team and went on to another position.
Very useful. I am in the process of trying move jobs. Manageress constantly emailing/calling me throughout the day. She even called me whilst on leave!!!!
Stay away from bad bosses!! Always apply to other jobs. If the company is great, start by documenting everything and report the boss to HR to ask for a transfer as a solution, if that doesn't work after a few weeks, triple your job hunting efforts and apply to every related job. This is how I got away from a careless boss who was also a big documented THlEF, he literally stole people's wallets and company staplers on camera and "somehow" got promoted after.
My current boss gets argumentative over trivial things and is a micromanager. It's very demoralizing but most other companies can't pay me what I'm currently making and I don't want to go back to 2-3 wks vacation. I don't trust HR and even though my company has a no retaliation rule managers know how to disguise retaliatory tactics.
My former boss and now current boss both are guilty of being too hands off. They want to be informed of everything but don't step in until something happens and even then it's only to find out who's guilty.
Wow, a lot of these boxes are being ticked, and I'm experiencing these weekly, if not almost daily at this point. Really hoping those feelers I've put out recently grabs hold, else I'll have to take much more drastic steps for sure
Corporations don’t care about toxic bosses. I work for one that openly tolerates a bad manager even after a dozen comments pained to HR he’s still employed here. As long as the on time goal is met he’s not going anywhere.
I got my terrible boss fired one time. I arranged a meeting with her boss and invited my colleagues to attend where we went through her various transgressions and they backed me up. She was gone the next day.
Unfortunately, most people need to work jobs, so we need to make it work better. We can't change how employers act, but we can change our mindset and act like the owners of our career.
A lot of employers like to demoralize staff so that everyone knows their place and sticks to it. I kind of admire it and some people don't get affected by it, but I am no good to anyone that way ie being broken and demoralised. Also should you get into a management position, it's important to be friendly to your staff but never their friends. If I ever was to become self employed, I would not want friends or family working for me. Ps if at interview you are told we are a family or work hard play hard - run out of the building as quickly as possible lol. Have a good day reader.
Looking back, one of the most telling aspects of a toxic workplace is when the bosses treat people around them or under them poorly, especially under the guise that it's just for the sake of business. Any business environment or culture that rewards you for being harsh and treating people badly isn't one worth being in, and I don't think it's justifiable as simply being business. Sadly, far too many companies have bought into the idea that the bottom line is the most important thing, and if its at the expense of the work-life balance and mental health of the very employeees continuing to make the business function, so be it.
Wow...can´t believe this video comes out at the right moment xD I just talked with a coworker about our boss and found out that that many coworkers had issues with her, got fired, quit themselves, one even broke down in tears because she is so cruel. I was seriously thinking about to bring that to the light, because it seems that only the coworkers knows it...or it doesn´t even interest anyone in this company.
If you are career driven honestly the hands-off is the worst IMO. If your boss is just an apathetic lump you can't really get anything out of that relationship.
if you're (un)lucky enough, and your boss also has a boss at the top of the food-chain, you can actually get the boss fired if you carefully document questionable actions of said boss.
My friends who work in multinational companies all had/have toxic bosses. The worst part was that some of these bosses were hired not based on competence but based on who they knew, whose lovers they are etc. A friend who speaks 6 languages was always skipped from promotion and she only got incompetent team managers. I was a contractor for a company and one day when I got there to hand them an invoice, I was approached by this woman who was a project manager (I hadn't met her before). She kept complimenting me on how slim and pretty I looked, but from that day on, I never received a single work project from them. A few of my friends also told me that when they complained about their toxic boss to the higher management nothing happened to that person, but even worse, the complainants became the targets, some lost their jobs. Unfortunately finding a good job has never been easy, and leaving your toxic job isn't an option for people who have mortgages, kids, etc. Especially nowadays with the advent of AI, I've actually seen a lot of competent people (even managers) losing their job.
I suggest looking for work in the government/public sector. They are excellent employers that offer excellent benefits (besides money) especially if you have a degree etc you would be amazed how quickly you can rise up the ranks.
@@gerardsloan1593 Actually, no. It depends on the country. In corrupt countries working for the government is a lot worse than working in the private sector - at least in the private sector you stand a change if you are competent. The government only hires the relatives/children/lovers etc of the people in power. They even forge exam papers in order to admit the people they want. Only rarely they hire competent people - and these people end up doing the work of 5 incompetent employees. Also, you need to bribe someone to get there. I myself tried to get in and I was asked for bribes but I didnt have the money and even if I did - I would not give it to them because I worked for it. There are scandalous situations uncovered every day, and they will never stop. I have 2 college degrees at the best university in my country, so... I am sure that in other countries everything you say is true.
@@roxyskittens I am from Ireland. Not sure where you are based. In fact, working in the government sector with their benefits is one of the most attractive benefits you can get here. There is ample opportunities for growth and development including courses etc. There is also some level of job security (here's hoping). Have a good day reader.
I had a boss that was too hands off. Smart guy but he didn’t know what he wanted and needed his people to tell him. He was the odd combination of being a good boss but a terrible manager.
2 weeks ago I walked off a job because a toxic environment and crazy boss. Sabotage/ micromanaging/lying to me and coworkers and even her own boss, favoring the men in the department - plus I hated the place anyways. I was there 9 weeks. I’m still recovering from anxiety and my self confidence is very low, but at least im not there.
I had a boss that screamed at me, threatened me, etc. He later fired me. I heard that he was terminal in the hospital about a year later. I visited him, and told him "i am glad you are going to die" in front of his wife. #karma.
My last manager was a micromanager, bureaucrat and a sneak. She took an instant dislike to me due to my making suggestions or even questioning her commands (many of which were damaging to the service). I always ultimately carried out her orders but it was the fact I even questioned her that pissed her off. I was a supervisor and a fellow supervisor never opened her mouth, even in meetings - which is what my manager wanted. The whole culture of the job was like that so Im glad I finished my contract last week and to be out of the place.
I had a similar issue with my previous manager. She didn't like me speaking up and showing confidence. I think some bosses act like dictators - they want sheeple as employees who will keep their mouths shut and be passive.
another flag is when they talk badly about coworkers to me. last time this happened, it wasn't because I had his trust - he did that with everyone including about me to others.
*TIMELY* I'm in a toxic situation. Poor work life balance, not paid what my work product is worth, a violation of trust. I would love a brief session with you regarding my existing strategy that is already in place.
When I met my to be new boss for the first time management were discussing soft skills for teamleaders. She put her vinger in her throat and made vomitnoises. Second time she said she had never had any problem to get rid of people when she needed to. I lost my younger sister and my father last year and was still learning to do my job. Never got any help, she never asked how I was doing and we had one meeting of half an our in six months time. Due to her behaviour I was scared to ask for help and now I am home sick, massive burn-out. Began working on setting bounderies as soon as I could. This happens to me only one time.
Yep. Done that before. I think it was very obvious that they were lying trying to twist the truth in my feedback. Not because my performance was poor but because they actually couldn’t fault my performance but wanted to build a narrative regardless. There had been layoffs and she was mid senior management versus me being a junior in a small company. Because I was good, she was probably worried that in the future I could be promoted and she would be laid off (cheaper for the company).
I was in a similar situation in my previous job. My snakey ex-manager made up a false narrative during my performance review to tear me down. I resigned a month later and I realise that she was trying to sabotage me for similar reasons (I think she was worried I was going to take her place because she had a scarcity mindset and she was let go months later.)
Amazing concept, you gave me the tools to think like this before this video and I fired my CEO. The concept of being the CEO of your Career / Life, it's amazing and so simple at the same time. Thanks for sharing and helping so many people.
All that, plus this one my boss did all the time: Playing one employee off another. He'd call you in his office, and say "Hey, so and so said you did this" So, some people would say "oh ya, well, he did this!" Very toxic, and he loved it.
I worked in a call center a few years ago. It was the worst job I have ever had. I was out of work graduate with grad experience and lived worked in North America in my early 20s. I had no recent customer service experience and no office admin experience (before the call center). It was the only time an interviewer told me I was incredible and amazing (nobody told me that after I joined). At interview she was charming and put me at ease etc. Two of my answers didn't apply to a customer service and none involved using phones or a computer, I still got the job a short while later. I didn't realize until my first day I was joining a call center lol. The lady that interviewed me would be my line manager (I knew that anyway before I joined). She was a narcissistic psychopath who used me and overlooked my weaknesses when it suited (other staff on leave during the summer) and then accentuated my weaknesses when I no longer suited and sold me down the river when everyone else returned from leave. The entire experience working there made me bitter but toughened me up. I now work with a better employer with great benefits and I get to use some of my skills and experience. Moral of the story, if the job feels too good at the interview stage, it is because it's too good to be true. If you get flattered at interview (and you are the only person in the waiting area waiting to get interviewed lol) these are tell tale signs you are about to join a bad job (toxic supervisor). In every trouble a blessing. Have a good day reader.
I once worked for a woman who ripped her office door off its hinges during a fit of rage. She also threw a laptop against a wall...I've had some fantastic bosses as well, but unfortunately you always remember the bad apples.
In my 30 years in the electronics industry I've had every one of these types of bosses. I think I've finally landed at a company that had a culture where these traits aren't accepted for leaders but time will tell....
Worst boss I had started out as my equal. We were both community college tutors, he was the guy who joked around and watched football on his laptop late at night, he seemed harmless on the surface. He was antisocial but I just said hi to him and moved on to chat with other coworkers. He grew weirder, after that promotion, he started stalking me, and acting weird. He seemed to believe he owned me after the promotion. I think it was always there he just got weirder, he's stalked me at about 2-3 academic institutions in the Boca Raton area. He just went weird, his girlfriend dumped him due to his stalking me years ago when he was supposed to be eating lunch with her. I also watched her ream him out in public in front of half the staff before he was promoted. Just got uncomfortable, I would excuse myself from the room and he would exclaim to another coworker how he thought I liked him. I knew it was doomed at that point. I'm not sure if in grad school it was either him or his best friend that stalked me based on the message I received from a third party. Now high schoolers are stuck with him as a teacher for the past few years.
If you go out of the way for your boss and they throw you under the bus the first chance they get it means they don't respect you and once they start doing it they will keep doing it to hide their bad decisions.
I guess for me I am not sure what to do and no one has any good advice. I love my job, but after nearly 5 years I have been passed up for a promotion & am really struggling financially. I've been told there is "no growth for me this year". In situations like this, do you wait for things to get better? I would hate to leave a place I love just to be miserable--but at home my financial situation is making me miserable.
It's time to leave. They're not supporting your growth and you're financially struggling. It's not fair on you. Life is too short to put up with a situation that doesn't serve you, so don't wait - take action.
Damn this give me flashbacks. I had a 6 month internship with a totally hands-off approach guy.He hired me for one of his pet projects but he lost interest 2 months in so I was not getting the equipment needed to continue but was still employed on contract. I pretty much had to hound him to give me shit to do otherwise I was spending 8 hours a day on youtube. I ended up doing a bunch off smaller projects and tasks for people in other departments. It was fortunately decently payed and it required and counted for my degree. He also had to write an assessment of my work for my school. Let's say writhing that assessment myself was a pretty damn fun project LOL.
My boss was extremely disorganized and he didn't see my value. I was paid a decent salary but he became really disrespectful towards me. On the day that I walked out on my job, he was screaming at me, belittling me in front of an office full of lawyers and throwing papers and totally out of control. He asked me what I did all day? Then he was screaming at me saying that I did nothing all day. I was like "oh really, since I don't do anything all day, I don't need to be here GOODBYE!" After I walked out, he was begging me to come back. He was practically crying. His wife even pleaded with me to come back because he cant run that business without my help. It took me YEARS to learn that business and it's quite complicated. I refused to go back. He was warned two other times to stop screaming and to stop embarrassing me in front of an office full of people. I'm not saying that I didnt make mistakes but I think that if you have to scream at your staff and belittle them to get your point across, you reap what you sow. The lesson for him is "don't shoot the golden goose" because it will have a bad result. Meanwhile, I have got to find another job. I made a compromise with him to help catch him up on the work and train my replacement in exchange for a good reference. He agreed to my offer. I felt that it was the right thing to do even though he truly doesn't deserve it. No doubt he's going to try to convince me to come back but no amount of money will change my mind. I have high blood pressure and my anxiety is on overdrive. No way, he can keep that job.
Other times you know you REALLY need to fire your boss... 1. When (s)he let's other staff members get away with murder, but decides to have a staff meeting when upper management comes down on her for letting people get away with this, and (s)he comes down on you for your mistakes. 2. When the company VP is emotionally unstable and throws temper tantrums out of the blue. 3. When upper management has HIGH UNREALISTIC DEMANDING expectations of staff and they become annoyed when these aren't met, and staff wasn't trained properly. THAT'S WHEN IT'S TIME TO FIRE YOUR BOSS.
I am working on firing my boss so to speak. My boss lacks knowledge to understand the work we are doing and are very much about showing of that she is the boss. Hoping to find a job closer to home that are into medical research.
My last boss was as qualified to be one as Michael Jordan was to replace Eddie Van Halen in said band. He was and is completely unqualified. I even asked him one time why he didn't have basic access to things that managers normally do and he said that his boss at HQ didn't give him that power. He was more appointed to the position because he was there during day shift with the manager that left, plus he had been there a while.
What’s frustrating, is that this person isn’t even my boss. My boss is amazing. It’s a higher up who is in charge of the department we are in, even though they should be separate. This person is technically not my boss at all. But I have to deal with them constantly & them giving me “orders” that I have to oblige to just because of their title. I have been in this job for only a few months but I’m debating leaving already because of the higher ups/ownership. This person is leaving on maternity leave soon, but when they come back, I may be packing my bags… And yes they pull the “we’re family” manipulation 🙃
OMG... this is my boss 100%. She started by introducing herself as a "tiger mom" and used me as an example of her "child". She's chronicly bipolar. Recently I let her know my team was going to lose admin access to the servers we're responsible for (we're an IT server support group) she wasnt even a little concerned, and told me she didnt think we needed admin access, as a matter of fact she didnt think we SHOULD have it. I had to point out to her we run the servers, install and upgrade software on them, etc. And she still had a blank look on her face. I cant get out of here fast enough! I was supposed to move to another manager by the end of this month, but he left last monday 😢 The worst part is that I've got a bad ticker, and my fiance and son have health problems too, so we need to find that unicorn job that provides insurance fast. And of course, my experience also dictates a decent salary (not to mention monthly cost). i feel totally screwed.
How about a boss that gives newer people other opportunities within the workplace and not the ones that have been there a while? Also, a boss that say things like, "It's my call, I make the decisions." Blah blah blah. Heck, might as well just tell us, it's my way or the highway.
If you worked for gov 10 years then leave....What do you do if the gov follows you to each new job and infuses great conflict by speaking to human resources/management? What steps can be taken to shake government from following you? I want a restraining order from my former employer!
Can someone answer me.I am in the Pharma industry and I have seen people who keep getting fired for some pretty horrible things seem to easily be rehired at other companies just weeks after they are let go?Why are they having such an easy time rebounding?
Knowledge being nearly impossible to be "guarded" by the company. Hence training is almost imposed and a new company does not need to train a new employee. Win-win.
Failure and setbacks are a way of allowing oneself to start over again more intelligently. Also these can make you more resilient etc. I worked in a horrendous call center some years ago. I gained invaluable customer service, telephony, office admin experience as well as a taste of workplace politics and culture. I would also see how nasty how some people can be including smiling assassin's (people I thought were my friends but weren't). I work with a better employer now and earn decent benefits and enjoy a comfortable low stress lifestyle, I can forget about work when I am not working and enjoy my free time relaxing - a benefit of being single and no committments lol (that is a video for another channel lol). Have a good day reader.
Went into work today had no work. Today ended up being the fibsl straw. Part-time hustle. The company I work at is 650 billion dollars in debt, and another entity bought that debt. The ship has been thinking for a while, I'm actually starting to see the water rise Im gone. Wasted my intellect at a place thats mad ungrateful
I want to ask a question. I am an IT engineer for a large bank in the United States, and I have been with this company eight years. Recently, my team and another merged and the technical lead on the other team has a problem with me. He is constantly attacking my work, and accusing me of making mistakes and reporting it to my management team. What does this mean? Should I be concerned about my job? Should I take this to human resources? he is not a manager. He is just a technical lead. Thanks for any advice you can give me.
When I worked for a small company, they had this office manager everybody regarded as Hitler, he was very authoritative, exacting, and wanted everything his way. If employees made mistakes he would solo them out bring the office staff to attention and embarrass and deride the associate Infront of everyone. The boss didn't last long, yet the owners did something I think most should do, they just transferred him to another company. This company was owned by the same owners of our company, and he practically was the sole operator of the business, no employees under him. But the owners, employees couldn't fire them, they were as bad as him if not worse at times. After a while though they got a business coach, and they changed their ways or should I say hid their derision until they sold the company.
I agree with the premise and the information is good, I just find phrase / the title of firing you boss is a bit confusing, what you mean when to quit your job if you have a bad boss.
So most of what I'm hearing here is "Leave your office job if any of these are happening." So what about those of us who don't work in an office? What about all the people working unskilled labor because nothing else is available, have no other choices, and have to work under these exact kind of bosses?
Especially that bit about work life balance. This does not exist for labor jobs. The "work life balance" for anyone doing grunt work can be boiled down to "You work, you get life. You don't work, you die." So should every single person working unskilled labor just quit then?
How do you manage when you strongly suspect your boss is "on the spectrum"? I sent a detailed account of my situation by filling out the online form on your website
It's funny that I have had different bosses and basically with women it was the worst because you never knew in what mood they would wake up in. Male bosses were usually much more mellow and chill. Atleast that has been my experience so far.
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Personally I don’t fire my boss, I put them on a PIP. I write down my unmet needs and problems, and I set a date 90 days away. They can improve the situation, or I quit. I don’t tell them about this, obviously.
“Secret double probation!” I love it. 😅
I love this idea! 😅
I quit two jobs with two toxic bosses. Narcissistic bosses are the worst and can tear apart your self esteem and confidence. Gaslighting and projection and blame are just some of the toxic behaviors.
I had a narcissistic school principal. I was blessed that I was able to transfer to different a school as an employee. I could not take his shit no more!
I am a cop (for over 25 years) and I have had many bosses who ticked these points! The problem in a job like mine is that you can't just leave and go elsewhere (because then you wouldn't collect your very significant pension after age 50 etc) and if you point out the problems, you can very often be kissing any advancement or progression/development goodbye.
I'll be hopefully retiring before Christmas and I can't wait.
This one really resonated with me, as I had to quit a job with TWO toxic bosses last month. One was short tempered and unpredictable, always at odds with second boss...and both channeled hostilities at me. Detailed scope of my duties defined, then dropped new unrelated projects on my lap that were suddenly more urgent regularly. Approving work from home three days a week then venting about me "never being in the office" when both of them lived 2-6 hours away from said office and came in sporadically. When they served me with a PIP my stress level maxed out and I quit a few days later--along with the second boss the same week.
Stressed out over burning through my emergency fund at the moment, but feeling WAY better than I did in that company.
Use it as a stepping stone. Be patient. Use the skills knowledge and experience you gained from that post and embellish it (if you have to) in job applications and interviews. If you are in bad state consider short term work (even dreadful call center work) or delivery driver were you can deliver stuff on behalf of companies in your local area and keep pushing on until you land a decent job. I famously had a horrendous job working in a call center but now work with a better employer, I compare the transition between the two jobs to the ending of the Shawshank redemption lol come out clean the other end lol. Have a good day reader.
Very similar situation with urgent projects outside of my scope and walking back wfh agreements we made.
If a coworker tells you to watch your back with management and one day he/she just vanish...RUN.
Very true. An outgoing employee told me that my new workplace was an absolute you know what show. At first I chalked it up to them being bitter. But they were right, a month later I quit.
I didn't need to be told those things about a job I had at a call center, I quickly figured it out for myself lol. Dealing with customers was bad but the culture and politics of the call center were every bit as bad lol. Have a good day reader.
@@hansonelI had the same exact situation, but after the guy who warned me was sent to the Gulags, they started targeting me and I foolishly tried to beat the PIP.
Never again. Don't tolerate being treated poorly.
It just happened to me, she left and told me how much she pitied me for coming to replace her.
I'm one month into it and I am a nervous wreck!
In my opinion, the worst trait a boss can have is being condescending.
I agree. My ex-manager was extremely condescending, patronising and infantilising towards me. It's one of the reasons why I quit my previous job.
I have a zero tolerance policy for passive-aggressive behavior like tbat. One of the quickest ways for me to bail without notice.
I landed my first professional job back in 1998 at a chemical company. No joke, in my first week, my coworkers were literally telling me “Yeah if I were you, I would just keep looking…”
Toxic environment was a nice way to put it .
Every thing you said happened to me at my last job. I was doing the work of 3 people, my supervisor talked about me to my coworkers, even upper management. I quit my job on the spot when he lied about approving my vacation time. I was there for 21 years so I knew it was time to go. Now I have a better job that offers a work life balance, I work from home, and the benefits are exceptional. When a company starts to disrespect you it is time to go.
Same thing happened with me at one of my former employers. Said right to my face that my time off was approved. Came back after said vacation and was told it was either lost, thrown away, or “never approved”. Said manager was investigated though.
What position or career field is this in? I ask to get ideas for myself
I had a similar experience in my last job. You're right - when there's disrespect, it's time to walk away.
I was at my last position for 14 years. After coming across your videos over a year ago. I’ve made the changes in my career and treat myself as a free agent. It’s such a breath of fresh air!
I just realized my current boss is doing almost all of these. The one that I really appreciate you sharing is the "hands-off" because I was not sure why this bugs me all the time as my boss is never aware who is doing what, but she always demands us to finish the tasks she needs right away without seeing how busy we are at the moment. And most of the time the tasks she wants us to do can wait.
Your videos help me rethink my career and mindset. I had to fire my old manager/job due to unrealistic expectations and terrible work life balance.
Glad to hear about your mindset shift!
I needed this video. I moved cities for a new job that I was excited about. I had the exact industry experience they were looking for so I was qualified. The job ticked all of these points and I don't know how I've survived one year.
They still don't trust me to assign the work that is required for the job. I'm treated like an intern who "needs to shadow" others work while having very little work I'm responsible for. Why would they pay for my relocation and invest in all of the training programs if these people still can't decide if I'm ready for the job? Can't wait to leave this place.
Dealing with toxic people in any situation is never easy, but they can prove to be a great personal development tool if you allow yourself to learn and grow from your experiences with them.
Yep. After the 3rd or 4th boss like this, I just decided to fire bosses in general and work for myself lol
Lol! 😅 I have a good boss in my current job, but I've come to realise that the best boss I'll ever have is me! 😁
Love it!
I have a supervisor who regularly gives me negative public feedback in front of my peers. Not only that but she likes to create her own narrative that I never go to her for help (which is NOT true) whenever I do make a small mistake. I've been going to her for help the whole week and regularly ask my colleagues for help because she told me to as well. It seems like if she didn't see me do something, she likes to assume I didn’t do it. Not to mention, I do ask her for help but she hasn't been very approachable to me and most of the time she has an attitude when I do ask for help. She's told me in the past that there is no such thing as "stupid questions" but then treats a question I have like it's a stupid one when I am. genuinely trying to learn and not make more mistakes. I am tired of her toxicity and how her feedback causes my usually friendly co-workers to change their behavior around me. I think it's time to quit.
You know what you have to do.
Do we have the same boss?
It *is* time to quit.
My boss sadly fits many of these. He's unpredictable, way too hands-off, doesn't value the work I do, never has anything positive to say, doesn't understand the job I do but yet still seems to think its easy and doesn't provide any feedback, apart from criticizing once in a while, which I don't call feedback. I know he won't change and I'm happy to say that I've started looking for a new job. Thanks Bryan, your videos have been quite helpful!
Holy shit! This is 100% my last job. Literally no feedback whatsoever and I could count on one hand the number of times I ever got any acknowledgement of my work.
the boss I had is hands-off in real work, but micro-managing on petty matters like status on chat, late for meeting for 1 minute, etc.
She asked everyone in the team to attend night meeting, while she herself go offline and take our summary from that meeting.
Not just that, of the 10 things that I did right, she magnify the mistakes during meeting in her passive aggressive manner. I just wish there's karma for a piece of trash like that.
Ironically... I'm having a hard time explaining myself why I am leaving the organization. I love the organization, but not the boss. Unfortunately, the big taboo in job interview is, we shouldn't be complaining about our boss. Not even briefly mention about the toxic boss I can't work with.
You can always put that the job was not the right fit for you, if you must say anything at all. That's all they need to know!
@@dracofirex The next job that we will normally apply usually have similar characteristics. If we talk about the fitness of the job, the interviewer will doubt that you'd be able to take on the job that is greatly similar to your previous one. Hence, ... 😂
@@curiousGoyangi Hmmmm yeah in that case I'd then say "I was looking for different opportunities" or something to that effect, make it sound like it was nothing personal!
I think what I've seen happen is many "bosses" take the promotion to their leadership role because they want to enjoy the benefits and priveleges, like being paid more and being seen as an authority figure. But when it comes to the hardest part, which is ultimately their core role of being responsible for the outcomes of the business as it relates to individuals' performances and how their outcome affects the business as a whole, they star to fall apart. When they get moody, it's the stress. When they remain "hands off", it's because they don't want to be too involved in your development or decision making so that they can't take the blame for your results. Because ultimately, in many institutions, it's their head that gets rolled if things aren't working the way they're supposed to.
I was a retail manager for a little over a year, and for the last six months I struggled to meet expectations from my own superiors which seemed to remain unclear. Ultimately what I was told is that it was "them or us", meaning either I started writing up/firing the people on my team or it was me that lost my job. I ultimately stepped down, because it seemed like the company I was in wasn't really setting anyone up to succeed, and it simply didn't feel fair to my team to hold them "accountable" for things out of their control, like unmanageable workloads, unrealistic expectations and being blamed when short-staffing and payroll issues meant everyone was expected to do the work of multiple people.
I agree. I've noticed the same issues with managers I've had in the past. I think some people need to accept that just because they want to be in senior positions doesn't mean that they are good at managing people. People/team management isn't for everyone and that's okay.
Our entire team is experiencing the first two from our current manager. It makes every day a living nightmare because we don’t know who we’re going to get, and the overall tendency is to be hands-off in an inappropriate way. Thank you for this video. It’s a much needed wake up call.
My boss displays many of these traits. They are to turn 70 so I was trying to outlast them. Now it doesn’t appear they will be retiring any time soon. Thankfully they don’t contact me outside of normal business hours.
I had this one boss who was a great guy & supported his team members really well but was a liar! Other team members knew he was a liar but we put up with it.
The hands off point really hit home with me. This woman was my boss for over a year and I can honestly say, I'd be hard press to say if we ever exchanged more than 20 minutes of conversation combined throughout the year. She left her position without truly announcing it to the team and went on to another position.
Very useful. I am in the process of trying move jobs. Manageress constantly emailing/calling me throughout the day. She even called me whilst on leave!!!!
I've had bosses like those mentioned here, and believe me, getting away from patterns of behavior is something that you must do before it is too late.
Stay away from bad bosses!! Always apply to other jobs. If the company is great, start by documenting everything and report the boss to HR to ask for a transfer as a solution, if that doesn't work after a few weeks, triple your job hunting efforts and apply to every related job. This is how I got away from a careless boss who was also a big documented THlEF, he literally stole people's wallets and company staplers on camera and "somehow" got promoted after.
My current boss gets argumentative over trivial things and is a micromanager. It's very demoralizing but most other companies can't pay me what I'm currently making and I don't want to go back to 2-3 wks vacation. I don't trust HR and even though my company has a no retaliation rule managers know how to disguise retaliatory tactics.
My former boss and now current boss both are guilty of being too hands off. They want to be informed of everything but don't step in until something happens and even then it's only to find out who's guilty.
Wow, a lot of these boxes are being ticked, and I'm experiencing these weekly, if not almost daily at this point. Really hoping those feelers I've put out recently grabs hold, else I'll have to take much more drastic steps for sure
Too hands off. This literally happened to me on Friday!
Corporations don’t care about toxic bosses. I work for one that openly tolerates a bad manager even after a dozen comments pained to HR he’s still employed here. As long as the on time goal is met he’s not going anywhere.
Complaints*
I got my terrible boss fired one time. I arranged a meeting with her boss and invited my colleagues to attend where we went through her various transgressions and they backed me up. She was gone the next day.
Yay! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Highly unusual. They usually stick together, promote the bad boss, or ignore the behavior.
It’s like the employer/employee relationship is not healthy, and should be done away with.
Unfortunately, most people need to work jobs, so we need to make it work better. We can't change how employers act, but we can change our mindset and act like the owners of our career.
A lot of employers like to demoralize staff so that everyone knows their place and sticks to it. I kind of admire it and some people don't get affected by it, but I am no good to anyone that way ie being broken and demoralised. Also should you get into a management position, it's important to be friendly to your staff but never their friends. If I ever was to become self employed, I would not want friends or family working for me. Ps if at interview you are told we are a family or work hard play hard - run out of the building as quickly as possible lol. Have a good day reader.
That’s why I’m a consultant now.
Looking back, one of the most telling aspects of a toxic workplace is when the bosses treat people around them or under them poorly, especially under the guise that it's just for the sake of business. Any business environment or culture that rewards you for being harsh and treating people badly isn't one worth being in, and I don't think it's justifiable as simply being business. Sadly, far too many companies have bought into the idea that the bottom line is the most important thing, and if its at the expense of the work-life balance and mental health of the very employeees continuing to make the business function, so be it.
FACTS!! My last boss is a real asshole!! Fired that toxic fool on 12/18/2023.
Wow...can´t believe this video comes out at the right moment xD I just talked with a coworker about our boss and found out that that many coworkers had issues with her, got fired, quit themselves, one even broke down in tears because she is so cruel. I was seriously thinking about to bring that to the light, because it seems that only the coworkers knows it...or it doesn´t even interest anyone in this company.
If you are career driven honestly the hands-off is the worst IMO. If your boss is just an apathetic lump you can't really get anything out of that relationship.
if you're (un)lucky enough, and your boss also has a boss at the top of the food-chain, you can actually get the boss fired if you carefully document questionable actions of said boss.
My friends who work in multinational companies all had/have toxic bosses. The worst part was that some of these bosses were hired not based on competence but based on who they knew, whose lovers they are etc. A friend who speaks 6 languages was always skipped from promotion and she only got incompetent team managers. I was a contractor for a company and one day when I got there to hand them an invoice, I was approached by this woman who was a project manager (I hadn't met her before). She kept complimenting me on how slim and pretty I looked, but from that day on, I never received a single work project from them. A few of my friends also told me that when they complained about their toxic boss to the higher management nothing happened to that person, but even worse, the complainants became the targets, some lost their jobs.
Unfortunately finding a good job has never been easy, and leaving your toxic job isn't an option for people who have mortgages, kids, etc. Especially nowadays with the advent of AI, I've actually seen a lot of competent people (even managers) losing their job.
I suggest looking for work in the government/public sector. They are excellent employers that offer excellent benefits (besides money) especially if you have a degree etc you would be amazed how quickly you can rise up the ranks.
@@gerardsloan1593 Not in my country.
@@gerardsloan1593 Actually, no. It depends on the country. In corrupt countries working for the government is a lot worse than working in the private sector - at least in the private sector you stand a change if you are competent. The government only hires the relatives/children/lovers etc of the people in power. They even forge exam papers in order to admit the people they want. Only rarely they hire competent people - and these people end up doing the work of 5 incompetent employees. Also, you need to bribe someone to get there. I myself tried to get in and I was asked for bribes but I didnt have the money and even if I did - I would not give it to them because I worked for it. There are scandalous situations uncovered every day, and they will never stop. I have 2 college degrees at the best university in my country, so... I am sure that in other countries everything you say is true.
@@roxyskittens I am from Ireland. Not sure where you are based. In fact, working in the government sector with their benefits is one of the most attractive benefits you can get here. There is ample opportunities for growth and development including courses etc. There is also some level of job security (here's hoping). Have a good day reader.
@@srro9728 sounds scary. I wish you luck.
I had a boss that was too hands off. Smart guy but he didn’t know what he wanted and needed his people to tell him. He was the odd combination of being a good boss but a terrible manager.
2 weeks ago I walked off a job because a toxic environment and crazy boss. Sabotage/ micromanaging/lying to me and coworkers and even her own boss, favoring the men in the department - plus I hated the place anyways. I was there 9 weeks. I’m still recovering from anxiety and my self confidence is very low, but at least im not there.
I had a boss that screamed at me, threatened me, etc. He later fired me. I heard that he was terminal in the hospital about a year later. I visited him, and told him "i am glad you are going to die" in front of his wife. #karma.
You just gave me validation and clarified the trauma I was dealt! Thank You Thank You
My last manager was a micromanager, bureaucrat and a sneak. She took an instant dislike to me due to my making suggestions or even questioning her commands (many of which were damaging to the service). I always ultimately carried out her orders but it was the fact I even questioned her that pissed her off. I was a supervisor and a fellow supervisor never opened her mouth, even in meetings - which is what my manager wanted. The whole culture of the job was like that so Im glad I finished my contract last week and to be out of the place.
I had a similar issue with my previous manager. She didn't like me speaking up and showing confidence. I think some bosses act like dictators - they want sheeple as employees who will keep their mouths shut and be passive.
another flag is when they talk badly about coworkers to me.
last time this happened, it wasn't because I had his trust - he did that with everyone including about me to others.
*TIMELY*
I'm in a toxic situation. Poor work life balance, not paid what my work product is worth, a violation of trust.
I would love a brief session with you regarding my existing strategy that is already in place.
My current boss is an asshole, so I'm going to fire him first thing Monday morning!!
Good luck!
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When I met my to be new boss for the first time management were discussing soft skills for teamleaders. She put her vinger in her throat and made vomitnoises. Second time she said she had never had any problem to get rid of people when she needed to. I lost my younger sister and my father last year and was still learning to do my job. Never got any help, she never asked how I was doing and we had one meeting of half an our in six months time. Due to her behaviour I was scared to ask for help and now I am home sick, massive burn-out. Began working on setting bounderies as soon as I could. This happens to me only one time.
Yep. Done that before. I think it was very obvious that they were lying trying to twist the truth in my feedback. Not because my performance was poor but because they actually couldn’t fault my performance but wanted to build a narrative regardless. There had been layoffs and she was mid senior management versus me being a junior in a small company. Because I was good, she was probably worried that in the future I could be promoted and she would be laid off (cheaper for the company).
I was in a similar situation in my previous job. My snakey ex-manager made up a false narrative during my performance review to tear me down. I resigned a month later and I realise that she was trying to sabotage me for similar reasons (I think she was worried I was going to take her place because she had a scarcity mindset and she was let go months later.)
Amazing concept, you gave me the tools to think like this before this video and I fired my CEO. The concept of being the CEO of your Career / Life, it's amazing and so simple at the same time. Thanks for sharing and helping so many people.
All that, plus this one my boss did all the time: Playing one employee off another. He'd call you in his office, and say "Hey, so and so said you did this" So, some people would say "oh ya, well, he did this!" Very toxic, and he loved it.
I worked in a call center a few years ago. It was the worst job I have ever had. I was out of work graduate with grad experience and lived worked in North America in my early 20s. I had no recent customer service experience and no office admin experience (before the call center). It was the only time an interviewer told me I was incredible and amazing (nobody told me that after I joined). At interview she was charming and put me at ease etc. Two of my answers didn't apply to a customer service and none involved using phones or a computer, I still got the job a short while later. I didn't realize until my first day I was joining a call center lol. The lady that interviewed me would be my line manager (I knew that anyway before I joined). She was a narcissistic psychopath who used me and overlooked my weaknesses when it suited (other staff on leave during the summer) and then accentuated my weaknesses when I no longer suited and sold me down the river when everyone else returned from leave. The entire experience working there made me bitter but toughened me up. I now work with a better employer with great benefits and I get to use some of my skills and experience. Moral of the story, if the job feels too good at the interview stage, it is because it's too good to be true. If you get flattered at interview (and you are the only person in the waiting area waiting to get interviewed lol) these are tell tale signs you are about to join a bad job (toxic supervisor). In every trouble a blessing. Have a good day reader.
I once worked for a woman who ripped her office door off its hinges during a fit of rage. She also threw a laptop against a wall...I've had some fantastic bosses as well, but unfortunately you always remember the bad apples.
Statistically i outperformed my team by 600% in my last job but he refused to recognise it and tried to roll it up as the work of the team.
All that bosses need to do is not to be terrible. But sadly 99% of them still fail it.
In my 30 years in the electronics industry I've had every one of these types of bosses. I think I've finally landed at a company that had a culture where these traits aren't accepted for leaders but time will tell....
Worst boss I had started out as my equal. We were both community college tutors, he was the guy who joked around and watched football on his laptop late at night, he seemed harmless on the surface. He was antisocial but I just said hi to him and moved on to chat with other coworkers. He grew weirder, after that promotion, he started stalking me, and acting weird. He seemed to believe he owned me after the promotion. I think it was always there he just got weirder, he's stalked me at about 2-3 academic institutions in the Boca Raton area. He just went weird, his girlfriend dumped him due to his stalking me years ago when he was supposed to be eating lunch with her. I also watched her ream him out in public in front of half the staff before he was promoted. Just got uncomfortable, I would excuse myself from the room and he would exclaim to another coworker how he thought I liked him. I knew it was doomed at that point. I'm not sure if in grad school it was either him or his best friend that stalked me based on the message I received from a third party. Now high schoolers are stuck with him as a teacher for the past few years.
If you go out of the way for your boss and they throw you under the bus the first chance they get it means they don't respect you and once they start doing it they will keep doing it to hide their bad decisions.
Exactly!
I like this guy. He makes sense and has been helpful.
Thanks a lot for this video. Helps me realize that I’m just postponing a decision that I made a few months ago.
I was fired back in May for being a whistleblower, hired by a boss who used me as a pawn. Chronic liar. Committed elder financial abuse.
Can you make a video on the difference of working hourly and salary. The Pros and Cons please .. thank you ‼️‼️
I guess for me I am not sure what to do and no one has any good advice. I love my job, but after nearly 5 years I have been passed up for a promotion & am really struggling financially. I've been told there is "no growth for me this year". In situations like this, do you wait for things to get better? I would hate to leave a place I love just to be miserable--but at home my financial situation is making me miserable.
It's time to leave. They're not supporting your growth and you're financially struggling. It's not fair on you. Life is too short to put up with a situation that doesn't serve you, so don't wait - take action.
I had a boss who asked me and another co-worker to turn in a book report on shyness. Really?
All they want is more bang for the buck and less they are holding me back and thank you.
Damn this give me flashbacks. I had a 6 month internship with a totally hands-off approach guy.He hired me for one of his pet projects but he lost interest 2 months in so I was not getting the equipment needed to continue but was still employed on contract. I pretty much had to hound him to give me shit to do otherwise I was spending 8 hours a day on youtube. I ended up doing a bunch off smaller projects and tasks for people in other departments. It was fortunately decently payed and it required and counted for my degree. He also had to write an assessment of my work for my school. Let's say writhing that assessment myself was a pretty damn fun project LOL.
Great videos, Brian!!
More to come!
Another option is to change teams within the company.
My boss was extremely disorganized and he didn't see my value. I was paid a decent salary but he became really disrespectful towards me. On the day that I walked out on my job, he was screaming at me, belittling me in front of an office full of lawyers and throwing papers and totally out of control. He asked me what I did all day? Then he was screaming at me saying that I did nothing all day. I was like "oh really, since I don't do anything all day, I don't need to be here GOODBYE!"
After I walked out, he was begging me to come back. He was practically crying. His wife even pleaded with me to come back because he cant run that business without my help. It took me YEARS to learn that business and it's quite complicated. I refused to go back. He was warned two other times to stop screaming and to stop embarrassing me in front of an office full of people. I'm not saying that I didnt make mistakes but I think that if you have to scream at your staff and belittle them to get your point across, you reap what you sow.
The lesson for him is "don't shoot the golden goose" because it will have a bad result. Meanwhile, I have got to find another job. I made a compromise with him to help catch him up on the work and train my replacement in exchange for a good reference. He agreed to my offer. I felt that it was the right thing to do even though he truly doesn't deserve it. No doubt he's going to try to convince me to come back but no amount of money will change my mind. I have high blood pressure and my anxiety is on overdrive. No way, he can keep that job.
@splanet5088 I found a part-time job and pretty much retired. I've moved on and am much happier now
Other times you know you REALLY need to fire your boss...
1. When (s)he let's other staff members get away with murder, but decides to have a staff meeting when upper management comes down on her for letting people get away with this, and (s)he comes down on you for your mistakes.
2. When the company VP is emotionally unstable and throws temper tantrums out of the blue.
3. When upper management has HIGH UNREALISTIC DEMANDING expectations of staff and they become annoyed when these aren't met, and staff wasn't trained properly.
THAT'S WHEN IT'S TIME TO FIRE YOUR BOSS.
I’m dealing with a bad boss right now he’s all of these things. How can so many people be this way. 😡
I am working on firing my boss so to speak.
My boss lacks knowledge to understand the work we are doing and are very much about showing of that she is the boss.
Hoping to find a job closer to home that are into medical research.
My last boss was as qualified to be one as Michael Jordan was to replace Eddie Van Halen in said band. He was and is completely unqualified. I even asked him one time why he didn't have basic access to things that managers normally do and he said that his boss at HQ didn't give him that power. He was more appointed to the position because he was there during day shift with the manager that left, plus he had been there a while.
What’s frustrating, is that this person isn’t even my boss. My boss is amazing. It’s a higher up who is in charge of the department we are in, even though they should be separate. This person is technically not my boss at all. But I have to deal with them constantly & them giving me “orders” that I have to oblige to just because of their title. I have been in this job for only a few months but I’m debating leaving already because of the higher ups/ownership. This person is leaving on maternity leave soon, but when they come back, I may be packing my bags… And yes they pull the “we’re family” manipulation 🙃
OMG... this is my boss 100%. She started by introducing herself as a "tiger mom" and used me as an example of her "child". She's chronicly bipolar. Recently I let her know my team was going to lose admin access to the servers we're responsible for (we're an IT server support group) she wasnt even a little concerned, and told me she didnt think we needed admin access, as a matter of fact she didnt think we SHOULD have it. I had to point out to her we run the servers, install and upgrade software on them, etc. And she still had a blank look on her face. I cant get out of here fast enough! I was supposed to move to another manager by the end of this month, but he left last monday 😢
The worst part is that I've got a bad ticker, and my fiance and son have health problems too, so we need to find that unicorn job that provides insurance fast. And of course, my experience also dictates a decent salary (not to mention monthly cost). i feel totally screwed.
99.9% years of employers, Yes YOUR boss lie! Colleagues will sabotage you and throw you under the bus more than none.
Wow, unpredictable and hands-off...
Unfairly attacked / public negative feedback
The last one fuh sure 👌🏾💯
It's easy to manage. It's much harder to be a good leader
This one resonated with me.
How about a boss that gives newer people other opportunities within the workplace and not the ones that have been there a while? Also, a boss that say things like, "It's my call, I make the decisions." Blah blah blah. Heck, might as well just tell us, it's my way or the highway.
Nah some people want to work nights and weekends to appear like a dedicated team player
Narcissistic bosses are partially to blame for unemployment problems, I didn't get abused as a child just to get abused at Arby's, like sorry hun lol
I think I m thinking of quitting my job it bring nothing but problems .
If you worked for gov 10 years then leave....What do you do if the gov follows you to each new job and infuses great conflict by speaking to human resources/management? What steps can be taken to shake government from following you? I want a restraining order from my former employer!
Can someone answer me.I am in the Pharma industry and I have seen people who keep getting fired for some pretty horrible things seem to easily be rehired at other companies just weeks after they are let go?Why are they having such an easy time rebounding?
Knowledge being nearly impossible to be "guarded" by the company. Hence training is almost imposed and a new company does not need to train a new employee. Win-win.
Failure and setbacks are a way of allowing oneself to start over again more intelligently. Also these can make you more resilient etc. I worked in a horrendous call center some years ago. I gained invaluable customer service, telephony, office admin experience as well as a taste of workplace politics and culture. I would also see how nasty how some people can be including smiling assassin's (people I thought were my friends but weren't). I work with a better employer now and earn decent benefits and enjoy a comfortable low stress lifestyle, I can forget about work when I am not working and enjoy my free time relaxing - a benefit of being single and no committments lol (that is a video for another channel lol). Have a good day reader.
One guy falsified data got caught fired and then got a job at Pfizer within a month
My former employer is not rep of me any longer...how can I ensure a gov is no longer able to abuse their over reach?
Its the last on for me.
Went into work today had no work. Today ended up being the fibsl straw. Part-time hustle. The company I work at is 650 billion dollars in debt, and another entity bought that debt. The ship has been thinking for a while, I'm actually starting to see the water rise
Im gone. Wasted my intellect at a place thats mad ungrateful
Thanks man 🙏🏾
I want to ask a question. I am an IT engineer for a large bank in the United States, and I have been with this company eight years. Recently, my team and another merged and the technical lead on the other team has a problem with me. He is constantly attacking my work, and accusing me of making mistakes and reporting it to my management team. What does this mean? Should I be concerned about my job? Should I take this to human resources? he is not a manager. He is just a technical lead. Thanks for any advice you can give me.
5:51 😢 I am been contemplating for 2 months to look for another job.
Well, yes it's the boss I am resigning.
Thank you Sir. Your advices helps a lot.
When I worked for a small company, they had this office manager everybody regarded as Hitler, he was very authoritative, exacting, and wanted everything his way. If employees made mistakes he would solo them out bring the office staff to attention and embarrass and deride the associate Infront of everyone. The boss didn't last long, yet the owners did something I think most should do, they just transferred him to another company. This company was owned by the same owners of our company, and he practically was the sole operator of the business, no employees under him. But the owners, employees couldn't fire them, they were as bad as him if not worse at times. After a while though they got a business coach, and they changed their ways or should I say hid their derision until they sold the company.
My previous manager from Microsoft is kinda the way you describe here
I agree with the premise and the information is good, I just find phrase / the title of firing you boss is a bit confusing, what you mean when to quit your job if you have a bad boss.
Fire your boss? Great title. This'll be interesting.
So pretty much all bosses.
So most of what I'm hearing here is "Leave your office job if any of these are happening."
So what about those of us who don't work in an office? What about all the people working unskilled labor because nothing else is available, have no other choices, and have to work under these exact kind of bosses?
Especially that bit about work life balance. This does not exist for labor jobs. The "work life balance" for anyone doing grunt work can be boiled down to "You work, you get life. You don't work, you die." So should every single person working unskilled labor just quit then?
How do you manage when you strongly suspect your boss is "on the spectrum"? I sent a detailed account of my situation by filling out the online form on your website
My name, health condition, sexual status all spoken of to my new employer causing massive hatred from other employees.
What about snide comments about (me) to other coworkers(within or out of earshot?) Does that count as “constructive criticism?”
It's funny that I have had different bosses and basically with women it was the worst because you never knew in what mood they would wake up in. Male bosses were usually much more mellow and chill. Atleast that has been my experience so far.