This is one of the most beautiful films I have ever seen about tradition, family, ancestry, lineage , the struggle to survive in a splendorous but harsh land , generational gap where the old and the new collide. Very touching story of a family torn apart by poverty and then reunited in joy despite of being separated for a decade or so. The film makers did a magnificent job in telling the story of this family with breathe-taking photography and intimate observations - never contrived or forced - but with poetic sensibilities and tender compassion.. Deserves much wider viewing. I really love this film.
They should have a sequel in which the filmmaker invites volunteers to work the land when the parents and their children visit America and the Netherlands.
I love Pema’s bravery on how he tell his parents about his plans and the courage to reject their plans of him staying in the village to look after their land also the arrange marriage which they strongly urge him! He chose another path in which he know would be the best for the whole family! being the only son! The production team did a great job in capturing every valuable part of the story! Wonderful story!
His love for his sisters is infinite, I hope he'd taken the right decision and live his life, not what his parents wanted. His parents live a life no one wants to live, but also do not know any better. I feel for the two sides. This documentary should have been broadcasted on tv or in cinemas, our children don't know what type of life they have, or at least mine don't understand how difficult life is in other parts of the world.
It may have caused controversy if this documentary was shown on cinema or broadcast on tv. There may have been scores of complaints to OFCOM or the equivalent even the tv channels.
The responsibility he takes for all his sisters. So caring and kind and with so much patience. His parents have definitely done something right with him.
It's a touching story. It characterizes how love holds cohesively members of this family to be always together. Although physically they are far apart from one another but the love that always burning in their every single heart adheres them tightly as family. The pursuance of the son to study notwithstanding of his parents' pressure to marry is a perfect decision. He has a strong character. He valiantly confronts his problem. He is by far a responsible person who already knows how to deal with the future. He may set an example to others who have similar age.
I’m proud of him too. It must of took huge stones to tell his rents that he didn’t want to marry/move home. Very brave. It’s not ur fault she had 11 kids it’s 100% her & ur dads decision/fault.
THANK YOU for a wonderful documentary. I greatly appreciate experiencing the journey of this family. I learned that life has it challenges no matter where you are born and live. I am incredibly Grateful and Blessed for the life I have lived and experienced.
The parents couldn't take care of the children when they were younger. I think its wrong to put pressure on this young man and his sisters, now he is grown. Respect to them for what they did do, however. What a tough situation and decisions. What a waste of an education if they aee guilted into going back. The husband should maybe staying home more and helping his wife.
It iz very heart touching & DOLPA iz a very remote place in NEPAL but i salute to this parents who support to help theire childrens future. Tashi Tahle & NAMASTEY fr. HKG.SAR.
They still preserve their culture and tradition strong , same Language as my grand parents speak, beautiful, Utsang Tibetan Dialect and same dress and food , free Tibet . But it’s beautiful to see the children getting good education and going ahead and still son wanted to help parents, it’s our Tibetan culture that we don’t abandoned parents when they are old.
The children when they pay a visit to their parents, they need to help out and give them a day off. Let your parents rest at least once a week and cook for them. Pamper them while you are with them.
Everyone has a choice in life. I don't think force married is the answer to preserve the culture or tradition that's very toxic.... because we need to follow our culture or tradition your parents can tell what's good for you and for them 😭😭😭
I wish there was more about why the parents decided things were so bad they had to drop off child after child at the orphanage. And then, later on, things are so bad again that they want the kids back. I'm trying to be more thoughtful, but it's hard to understand.
Is there any continuation or Blog of this Story??? Its very interesting to know how this young man working on his dreams same w/ her sisters who are left in Kathmandu and how they're living w/ the pressure of there cultural tradition???
@@missjane946 i'd watch how they reach home...hope this young man live in the netherlands and trying to continue to study and hope someone would share the continuation of his life or any Blog of his life...
The went on TEDxTalk in 2015. He's a university graduate and a professional photographer, traveling to many countries. He's on Instagram where he shared his work.
I hope his sister listened to him about getting an education and that he accomplished his goals it sadden me to see his older sister that stayed and already with kids you can see in her eyes she wish she had that same opportunity as them.
A very nice documentary…… I was teary eyed …. I can feel the love of a mother to her children that she has to endure to give them freedom to fulfill their dreams
So I came across this video and it’s very sad that they all have other achievements they want to better them selfs I wonder if there’s a second part to this video did he go back or the sister I would like to see a 2pt 2021
A very touching story that breaks my heart especially when the mother wipe her tears the time they must say bye to each other and so with the father , but the son's decision is right.
I would so much like to see an update on these people! I'm now wondering what happened. Did the young man go back and marry a village woman? Did his sister go back because of her guilt? We need you to film them and update this please and thank you it's a wonderful wonderful documentary.
He didn't. He stayed in the Netherlands where he completed his undergraduate and then Master's degree and is now a professional photographer based in Amsterdam. According to the update from another channel this documentary was posted, due to diminishing health, his parents stay mainly in Kathmandu and he visits them frequently.
It is like going back in time when he visited his parents and older sister. I think they could find a compromise and could be what they call here in Florida a snowbird, visiting them during the summer and helping out a little and then leaving during the winter when there is no work to do. However the alternate idea of paying someone to help the parents and sister is good also . I hope he does not just sell of the family's land when he inherits it someday. It is beautiful. But it does not seem to have any modern conveniences at all. I do hope people help to bring medical care to the area.
Pema cares or his sisters. He wants to be successful and taking care of his family. His parents should not be forcing him children into arranged marriages because the orphanage is their real family.
Thank you all those God and Goddess like European and American Parents who just gave a new bright life to not only “some” but MANNNNNNNNNY!…….. May god bless you all and all sentient being!… love all!… Peace!..
dorjeartsyakgirl ~ US sister instagram you can see their dad, he is doing great looks the same. their life is better now. pema.prima ~ Pema instagram he lives in Amsterdam sumchogkersbergen ~ sister in Netherlands
I swear this is a re-upload cos I watched it before. It feels contradictory and ironic at times. Though the unfortunate happened the parents want him to continue the traditions. Cultures do change though so they are almost tribal by their way of life.
It feels cringeworthy for his mum is particular to carry on traditions when it didn't help him and his 4 sisters. I'm sure they were given the opportunity to immigrate as well but decided to remain in Nepal.
I do leave here in the West and netherlands is my second home: im sooo happy for this jung man deciding to come back here and live his life. I hope u could also influence ur younger sisters to live a life they'd want in order not to be a living death just because of culture and tradition of the family. The parent are not well educated its the reason they dont understand that there Kids must decide for there own life.
I viewed it not as HER need but their survival. What she said is true and it is part of keeping the culture and legacy alive. Though I do think they should just hire help at this point. The parents aren’t apathetic to their children. There is sincere love and selflessness from the parents. It’s just their mindset and perspective are completely different from their children.
The parent's did the right thing to give them up for adoption because they couldn't take care of them,but how do they expect them to now go back home& marry & work for them when they have another family&parents& grew up in western culture,if they gave them up for adoption that cuts their ties of obligation,I think they were kind to go back at all & when they got there they were forced to work& guilted too feel sorry for their birth parents.& It seems like they kept the oldest girl cuz she was strong& healthy so she could work the fields& get married which parents get a dowry for her too,if the parents raised all the kids together& they were brought up there I could understand them asking for help but they don't know that life they were raised different with othersin a different culture they don't even speak their native language but to be honest their parents are not elderly yet they appear older then they are because they work hard& have lots of baby's but honestly her baby's 12 so she's maybe 50 hardly too old to maintain her own house I think she's trying to manipulate her birth kids too make their situations easier that's not the right thing to do the son was nice& offered them to come stay with him they said no so let them live their lives free of guilt& let them live their dreams,I just feel bad for the oldest girl who's married with her kids she's so sweet& kind & she's got a hard life too because she had to get married I hope her brother looks after her& her kids when he gets older,to make sure she's happy, I wish pema,& his sister's& all of his families lots of success happiness
I am sorry, but their children are not nice and helpful to their parents. Their parents try to survive and keep the land and family in a most picturesque, breathtaking Tibetan landscape. Their live is full of hardship, hard but meaningful, and necessary work. And l do not agree, that their children should live their lives away from their home land in a spoiled society, following their “dreams”. What are our Westerner dreams? Most are after money to retire, most of us are trapped in professions we don’t like, just do for money. Many people do not have any work, and do nothing. To photograph misery, or for aesthetics, to talk about other people’s hardship...while we shower twice in a day, are sterile clean , and live an easy life disconnected from the land, is this a better way to live. Living in high rise buildings, spending our hard earned money on eating, drinking well, and buying status symbols...l respect the boys decision, but l do not agree with him, and by now, he should have found out, an arranged marriage is not much different than to choose someone you think you love, but get divorced after a year, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years...these days many young people do not find any partner, soulmate, lover, friend for life, because they do not want to commit to a relationship, as soon as it is not fun, and needs strength, consistency, compromise the relationship is over in many cases. Life can be meaningless, or worthwhile in any society, or community. My perspective is different. I have heard this only son talking on stages about his live, but l am with his parents, and l feel their sorrow, and hardship. To me, he is not any better off, than his parents, and the villagers living isolated in the Himalayan mountains not much educated. I admire his parents. Thank you.
I don't think there's a right or wrong answer here. The son has tried to compromise, and still tries to care for them. An arranged marriage was to be my future, but I declined. For almost 10 yrs my family didn't speak to me, but eventually we were back together and I helped them through their final years. I don't regret my decision, but I do wonder what might have been.
This is one of the most beautiful films I have ever seen about tradition, family, ancestry, lineage , the struggle to survive in a splendorous but harsh land , generational gap where the old and the new collide. Very touching story of a family torn apart by poverty and then reunited in joy despite of being separated for a decade or so. The film makers did a magnificent job in telling the story of this family with breathe-taking photography and intimate observations - never contrived or forced - but with poetic sensibilities and tender compassion.. Deserves much wider viewing. I really love this film.
They should have a sequel in which the filmmaker invites volunteers to work the land when the parents and their children visit America and the Netherlands.
I love Pema’s bravery on how he tell his parents about his plans and the courage to reject their plans of him staying in the village to look after their land also the arrange marriage which they strongly urge him! He chose another path in which he know would be the best for the whole family! being the only son! The production team did a great job in capturing every valuable part of the story! Wonderful story!
It's a good documentary but there are clash of cultures.
His love for his sisters is infinite, I hope he'd taken the right decision and live his life, not what his parents wanted. His parents live a life no one wants to live, but also do not know any better. I feel for the two sides. This documentary should have been broadcasted on tv or in cinemas, our children don't know what type of life they have, or at least mine don't understand how difficult life is in other parts of the world.
Wouldn't it be nice to go visit with our children so they can see 1st hand how it is to live that way.
It may have caused controversy if this documentary was shown on cinema or broadcast on tv. There may have been scores of complaints to OFCOM or the equivalent even the tv channels.
Kindly continue this documentary. I would like to have further knowledge about their lives and parent. Thoughtful documentary
The responsibility he takes for all his sisters. So caring and kind and with so much patience.
His parents have definitely done something right with him.
The orphanage/children's home rather more, I think.
And forced him to be a man basically, forced him to take the role of a parent...and basic good character in the family, as a whole.
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@@jennyforeman1994 what is opOpp? 😊
Accident
A very interesting and touching film, an update would be wonderful 😍
It's really a beautiful story. The way they love each other is priceless
It's a touching story. It characterizes how love holds cohesively members of this family to be always together. Although physically they are far apart from one another but the love that always burning in their every single heart adheres them tightly as family. The pursuance of the son to study notwithstanding of his parents' pressure to marry is a perfect decision. He has a strong character. He valiantly confronts his problem. He is by far a responsible person who already knows how to deal with the future. He may set an example to others who have similar age.
I’m proud of him too. It must of took huge stones to tell his rents that he didn’t want to marry/move home. Very brave. It’s not ur fault she had 11 kids it’s 100% her & ur dads decision/fault.
I admire this guy. This story is very inspiring. Love it.keep safe everyone.
Its an inspiring story which teaches me a lesson on how to be grateful.
This may be my favorite documentary. I come back and watch it almost every year. I love the dad! He seems so kind.
THANK YOU for a wonderful documentary. I greatly appreciate experiencing the journey of this family. I learned that life has it challenges no matter where you are born and live. I am incredibly Grateful and Blessed for the life I have lived and experienced.
I admire this boy. He has a true heart.
Love this story...very inspiring at the same time true humanity exist...love u Pema
I would love to see part 2 of this documentary the following up
what a wonderful human being you are .
The parents couldn't take care of the children when they were younger. I think its wrong to put pressure on this young man and his sisters, now he is grown. Respect to them for what they did do, however.
What a tough situation and decisions. What a waste of an education if they aee guilted into going back. The husband should maybe staying home more and helping his wife.
@@feitme I agree
It iz very heart touching & DOLPA iz a very remote place in NEPAL but i salute to this parents who support to help theire childrens future. Tashi Tahle & NAMASTEY fr. HKG.SAR.
follow your dreams...dont let anyone else hold the pen writing your life story...you are the one decide where you want to walk with...
Love this documentary.....cried watching this. Looking forward to know more about them. 🥰
They still preserve their culture and tradition strong , same Language as my grand parents speak, beautiful, Utsang Tibetan Dialect and same dress and food , free Tibet . But it’s beautiful to see the children getting good education and going ahead and still son wanted to help parents, it’s our Tibetan culture that we don’t abandoned parents when they are old.
The children when they pay a visit to their parents, they need to help out and give them a day off. Let your parents rest at least once a week and cook for them. Pamper them while you are with them.
Everyone has a choice in life. I don't think force married is the answer to preserve the culture or tradition that's very toxic.... because we need to follow our culture or tradition your parents can tell what's good for you and for them 😭😭😭
I wish there was more about why the parents decided things were so bad they had to drop off child after child at the orphanage. And then, later on, things are so bad again that they want the kids back. I'm trying to be more thoughtful, but it's hard to understand.
Very interesting , thoughful , good film. How old n new culture clash each other, how people struggle to survive this far remote places. Thank you
WONDERFUL STORE !! THIS IS MY 2 TIME WATCHING THIS MOVIE LOVE IT SOOO MUCH 🌷💖💖💖💖💖💖💖🇯🇲
I hope there is part 2
Is there any continuation or Blog of this Story??? Its very interesting to know how this young man working on his dreams same w/ her sisters who are left in Kathmandu and how they're living w/ the pressure of there cultural tradition???
I found this！
@@missjane946 i'd watch how they reach home...hope this young man live in the netherlands and trying to continue to study and hope someone would share the continuation of his life or any Blog of his life...
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The went on TEDxTalk in 2015. He's a university graduate and a professional photographer, traveling to many countries. He's on Instagram where he shared his work.
@@somewherefaraway8037 Can you please share his instagram name here? Thanks in advance
Your story is amazing, i really admired you.
Really enjoyed watching this, would love to know more about his life and where it has taken you and your sisters.
I hope his sister listened to him about getting an education and that he accomplished his goals it sadden me to see his older sister that stayed and already with kids you can see in her eyes she wish she had that same opportunity as them.
In my honest openion., miracles happened the least u expected.. Keep going man alot of things must do in the future..
what happened to him after this its been 9 years we would like an update on his life
Fallow your dream .💙first education then marry ...you are great brother loving caring brother 💙❤❤ love 🇳🇵
Way to go Pema. Keep us inform. I was wondering why he never look back to wave to his mom.is it traditional? But good luck Bro
A very nice documentary…… I was teary eyed …. I can feel the love of a mother to her children that she has to endure to give them freedom to fulfill their dreams
I watched this full document n it was amazing n heart ❤️ touching for me because It was seems to my school life jrny ✌️
So I came across this video and it’s very sad that they all have other achievements they want to better them selfs I wonder if there’s a second part to this video did he go back or the sister I would like to see a 2pt 2021
Beautiful movie!
Very touching.
Love the story ,it's inspiring to other..
A very touching story that breaks my heart especially when the mother wipe her tears the time they must say bye to each other and so with the father , but the son's decision is right.
What a pitiful story..❤️❤️. It miles my heart 💞💓. looking at this video, my emotion is out of control 😭😭😭😭😭. Life in this earth is not easy 😭😭
where is he now and his family follow up?
I would so much like to see an update on these people! I'm now wondering what happened. Did the young man go back and marry a village woman? Did his sister go back because of her guilt? We need you to film them and update this please and thank you it's a wonderful wonderful documentary.
He didn't. He stayed in the Netherlands where he completed his undergraduate and then Master's degree and is now a professional photographer based in Amsterdam. According to the update from another channel this documentary was posted, due to diminishing health, his parents stay mainly in Kathmandu and he visits them frequently.
@@mjm8955 oooh can you share the link I watch it also
It is like going back in time when he visited his parents and older sister. I think they could find a compromise and could be what they call here in Florida a snowbird, visiting them during the summer and helping out a little and then leaving during the winter when there is no work to do. However the alternate idea of paying someone to help the parents and sister is good also . I hope he does not just sell of the family's land when he inherits it someday. It is beautiful. But it does not seem to have any modern conveniences at all. I do hope people help to bring medical care to the area.
It was a wise decision he made.
update pls is so touching very good family but each and everyone of ua has a distany im praying that one they will all together.
Any updates on them?
lol seriously i watch this 5 times in 1 day a bit curious and love the story as well
Link of for the part 2 please.?
I cried watching this story... god bless to youre family
What happened to his two younger sisters?
Omg i want to know what happened .
I am just seeing this now and I feel for all of them. I know the hardship of having to decide between your life and your family had to be difficult.
Pema cares or his sisters. He wants to be successful and taking care of his family. His parents should not be forcing him children into arranged marriages because the orphanage is their real family.
Thank you all those God and Goddess like European and American Parents who just gave a new bright life to not only “some” but MANNNNNNNNNY!…….. May god bless you all and all sentient being!… love all!… Peace!..
This have no part 2? Is the guy married now?
U r rite there. Iam also looking for part 2 & hope so, everything 'll b good now. Namastey fr. HKG.SAR.
He's now a professional photographer. Follow him on his Instagram.
@@gurungkharkaraj9177 oh wow
@@proverbs1172 i would love to follow him on instagram but cannot find him.
Where is this Guy new..any follow up
Hallo ich möchte wissen wie gehts denn Fam🙏🙏🙏🌺👍👍👍🌺👋👋👋❤️❤️❤️
nice movie!
Two worlds collide. People are products of their cultural programming.
Seen this already a CPL of yrs ago
Love it..
wait for part 2..
The one thing I learned from this is I’m lazy asf.
What a depressing movie.. really pity him for his background.. one step forward two steps back.. the only way out is to severe all ties..
dorjeartsyakgirl ~ US sister instagram you can see their dad, he is doing great looks the same. their life is better now.
pema.prima ~ Pema instagram he lives in Amsterdam
sumchogkersbergen ~ sister in Netherlands
I swear this is a re-upload cos I watched it before. It feels contradictory and ironic at times. Though the unfortunate happened the parents want him to continue the traditions. Cultures do change though so they are almost tribal by their way of life.
It feels cringeworthy for his mum is particular to carry on traditions when it didn't help him and his 4 sisters. I'm sure they were given the opportunity to immigrate as well but decided to remain in Nepal.
I do leave here in the West and netherlands is my second home: im sooo happy for this jung man deciding to come back here and live his life. I hope u could also influence ur younger sisters to live a life they'd want in order not to be a living death just because of culture and tradition of the family. The parent are not well educated its the reason they dont understand that there Kids must decide for there own life.
Forced marriage is no good
Rise up your family from village
The mother sounds narcissistic. Sound like my mother.....it’s all about their needs.
I viewed it not as HER need but their survival. What she said is true and it is part of keeping the culture and legacy alive. Though I do think they should just hire help at this point. The parents aren’t apathetic to their children. There is sincere love and selflessness from the parents. It’s just their mindset and perspective are completely different from their children.
is this flim or relaty??
Update 🥺
The parent's did the right thing to give them up for adoption because they couldn't take care of them,but how do they expect them to now go back home& marry & work for them when they have another family&parents& grew up in western culture,if they gave them up for adoption that cuts their ties of obligation,I think they were kind to go back at all & when they got there they were forced to work& guilted too feel sorry for their birth parents.& It seems like they kept the oldest girl cuz she was strong& healthy so she could work the fields& get married which parents get a dowry for her too,if the parents raised all the kids together& they were brought up there I could understand them asking for help but they don't know that life they were raised different with othersin a different culture they don't even speak their native language but to be honest their parents are not elderly yet they appear older then they are because they work hard& have lots of baby's but honestly her baby's 12 so she's maybe 50 hardly too old to maintain her own house I think she's trying to manipulate her birth kids too make their situations easier that's not the right thing to do the son was nice& offered them to come stay with him they said no so let them live their lives free of guilt& let them live their dreams,I just feel bad for the oldest girl who's married with her kids she's so sweet& kind & she's got a hard life too because she had to get married I hope her brother looks after her& her kids when he gets older,to make sure she's happy, I wish pema,& his sister's& all of his families lots of success happiness
མ་དེ་མོ་ལ། 🙏🙏😊
I am sorry, but their children are not nice and helpful to their parents. Their parents try to survive and keep the land and family in a most picturesque, breathtaking Tibetan landscape. Their live is full of hardship, hard but meaningful, and necessary work.
And l do not agree, that their children should live their lives away from their home land in a spoiled society, following their “dreams”.
What are our Westerner dreams? Most are after money to retire, most of us are trapped in professions we don’t like, just do for money. Many people do not have any work, and do nothing. To photograph misery, or for aesthetics, to talk about other people’s hardship...while we shower twice in a day, are sterile clean , and live an easy life disconnected from the land, is this a better way to live. Living in high rise buildings, spending our hard earned money on eating, drinking well, and buying status symbols...l respect the boys decision, but l do not agree with him, and by now, he should have found out, an arranged marriage is not much different than to choose someone you think you love, but get divorced after a year, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years...these days many young people do not find any partner, soulmate, lover, friend for life, because they do not want to commit to a relationship, as soon as it is not fun, and needs strength, consistency, compromise the relationship is over in many cases. Life can be meaningless, or worthwhile in any society, or community. My perspective is different. I have heard this only son talking on stages about his live, but l am with his parents, and l feel their sorrow, and hardship. To me, he is not any better off, than his parents, and the villagers living isolated in the Himalayan mountains not much educated. I admire his parents. Thank you.
M with those kids
I don't think there's a right or wrong answer here. The son has tried to compromise, and still tries to care for them. An arranged marriage was to be my future, but I declined. For almost 10 yrs my family didn't speak to me, but eventually we were back together and I helped them through their final years. I don't regret my decision, but I do wonder what might have been.
He became Westernized..."my needs blah blah blah"
@@elainemiles3676 Maybe, but dam that family land is very isolated. Imagine a bad toothache or worse.