Losing My Mother To Cancer
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ก.ค. 2020
- hey guys
I am super afraid of posting this video but I really feel the need to share what I am going through since I lost my beautiful mother to cancer six months ago. I have been trying to operate on social media as if I am doing ok that I am dealing with it best that I can but its just not true.
Behind the scenes I am hurting so much and I don’t think I am talking about or acknowledging this as much as I should be to be able to heal. So much of my work is about who I am, what I think, what I am learning and how my life experience contributes to all of that.
So to not bring this to my channel or make it a part of my story on line feels in authentic and at the very least I hope it can illuminate for you guys that it is ok not to be ok. It is ok to feel things to grieve things for things to fall apart and for you to have a hard time. Its ok if the things that used to be important to you professionally or superficially lose their interest and are hard to recommit to.
For me its been so hard watching my peers continue to thrive and make strides professionally and knowing deep down I want those same things but at the same time…I just can’t get there.
In the age of social media, numbers and money and productivity and looking like you have you’re shit together is the supreme narrative to share with the world. So I hope that maybe me being honest with you guys about what this is like in reality will help you in some way.
Whether its knowing that you are not alone, or whether its making a new supportive friend in the comment section, or whether its making you feel comfortable enough to share what you are struggling with..it makes putting this super private struggle on the internet for anyone to see a little bit easier.
I hope you are doing well. Ask for help if you need it. Smile when you can. And just remember that things do get better. I promise.
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There is no expiration date on grief, especially the death of a parent. You deserve the time to grieve and there is nothing wrong with that. You miss her and you have every right to take the time to feel that. Your fans will still be here for you. Sending blessings!
Cancer took my Mom when I was 8. I am 45 now and there are still days where I need to give myself a minute or two to miss her and allow the tears to flow. Give yourself the time to grieve when you need to grieve. Sending you a big warm hug 🤗
I just lost my mother on June 21st, the woman that raised me my grandmother technically but the only mother I ever had.
I can't even begin to imagine losing my mom. She's my best friend. Idk how I'll do life without her.
My mom has stage 4 cancer right now and she’s fighting for her life ... I feel for you and I’m sending you prayers for strength and peace ❤️
Whitney, almost three years ago, this coming August, I lost my husband of 15 years at the age of 48 to cancer. I know what you are feeling but holding on to the guilt does nothing for your healing but you have to deal with the guilt. I felt so much guilt after my husband past that I didn't trust myself anymore. It's taking me a long time to not feel so guilty. Like I said I am three years out and I have gone through the grief stages so many times that I lost count. But there is a reason you go through it, there is a reason to let go of the guilt....you forgive yourself for your mom, and especially for yourself. And always remember, you go through this season or journey your way, no other way will be similar. Take it one day at a time, one step at a time, and one minute at a time. I'm not going to tell you it gets easier but it does become liveable. All the blessings and love to you.
When I got the call that my mom had passed I argued with my sister that she was wrong, that everyone there was wrong and they needed to check again. You're not stupid for being in denial, some things we just can't comprehend until we're well into it. So much of what you said about grieving and talking to the people in your life resonated with my experience and I really appreciate your vulnerability in this video. My take on loss at this point at least is that you'll never be the same person you were before, but you just keep on going. 💗
I lost my dad in 2017 and I broke down in tears when we visited his memorial bench on Father's Day. Whit, this is hard and you never get over it. Be kind to yourself.
Sorry for your loss 🙏🏽💖no one can replace a mother’s love 💓💗
Same exact thing happened to me in January of this year. My momma was my everything. The grief comes and goes in waves. Some weeks I’m ok, then it hits me. She was my person so I so know how you feel. Stay strong. ❤️
I lost my mother unexpectedly at the end of March. I am away at school and hadn't seen her in so long but she was my person. I don't know how to keep it together. The most important thing is just to take care of yourself however that is. I am truly and deeply sorry. Be compassionate and gentle with yourself. I'm still learning how. ❤️ I'm sending you love.
I just lost my dad Tuesday....I understand. All this going on in the world adding to it....its too much, Ive been praying and learning to meditate. Hugs and I will say a prayer for you.❤
It’s just the first part of the video and I’m sobbing, it’s breaking my heart because I’m putting myself in your shoes.... I can’t 😢
Hey beautiful, I'm going thru the same motions lost mom 3 months ago....we can't control what life brings us but we can control how we deal with it....the pain is so deep and truly feels like part of my life is gone....let the emotions and tears clear your soul and allow yourself to feel. As I say all the time "Mom you taught me how to do everything except how to live without you". It takes a strong woman to go public in such a vulnerable time and thats what mom taught you....she is proud of you and I'm proud of you....we are moms and the best we can do is carry on their legacy....much love to you and dont worry about content at this time...take care of yourself 💖💔💖💔💖💔
I am so sorry for your loss. My dad died of lung cancer when I was 12. I still miss him, but the worst part was knowing that he suffered from treatment on a terminal diagnosis. You take your time, grieve however you need to grieve. Much love and light for you and your family.
I’m so so sorry for the loss of your mom, Whitney. Sending all my love and healing your way ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻 I am 52 and lost my mom at 14. She had ovarian cancer but the doctors were saying the tumor was getting smaller and she actually died from an infection because they gave her way too much radiation that killed off all her white blood cells. I didn’t get to say goodbye to her because I insisted on continuing to go to class in high school and then one day I got the call to go to the office and my grandparents were there to pick me up and told me she had passed away. I am still not over it to this day. It is easier but I still harbor great guilt for not being able to tell her goodbye and that I loved her one last time.
Multiple of my relatives died of cancer. My auntie back in February this year. The denial can be really strong, it's normal. Please be very kind to yourself. Guilt doesn't need a place in your life right now and I know it's easier said than done but it really doesn't. ♥ And take all the time you need, we will be here when you come back.
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I also lost my mother to lung cancer on April 11th, she was my best friend..... I talked to her everyday all day. I’m now staying strong for my dad who was with her for 44 years and it’s giving me purpose, thank god cause it’s hard to get out of bed everyday. You are not alone.... just remember you have a daughter..... I do too (she just turned 18) and she needs your love and support like ur mom gave you. Don’t let the guilt eat at you, she knew you loved her and these are all valid feelings during the process of grief. At least that’s what I keep telling myself.
Awww honey God bless you. I am in tears hearing this. I am a mother who is extremely close to my kids especially my daughter. I had a blood cancer called multiple myeloma. I am in remission currently but they say that one day it could return. Who knows. My heart BREAKS at the thought of leaving my children. I pray everyday to live long enough to see grandchildren. From a mother’s point of view if God chooses to take me earlier than I would like, I would want my daughter to cherish our memories, think of me with joy and happiness and remember our good times. I would NEVER want her to feel any guilt. My happiness comes from her being happy and stress free. That’s what a mother wants. I promise you your mama does not want you to feel any guilt. She doesn’t blame you. I guarantee it. I am close to my own mother as well. I cannot survive without her. In some ways I pray God take me before her because I cannot live without her. Whitney I am heartbroken for you. I am going to pray that God sends you a peace that passes all understanding. ❤️😭