Omfg bro and it's annoying cause they hate whenever it's targeted towards us, which is fair, but then they say the most messed up stuff about black people and white people and they pass it off as a "joke".
As somebody who has family from Mexico, the casual racism and language barrier is definitely a thing. They legit have no filter and it's hilarious at times
Fr, I work at a pharmacy, and this one guy who calls every now and then just casually calls himself a wetback, it's absolutely hilarious. Mexicans have the best sense of humor.
The WORST feeling is when another person who speaks the language your parents does makes fun of you for only understanding but not being fully fluent IT SUCKS
I’m at a point where I’m generally proficient in the language, so my family just does the next best thing and start *making up words* and then getting on my ass for not understanding them.
As a Nigerian myself, I can 100% relate to getting the most diabolical haircuts. From elementary - middle school I would regularly get the 'shaved head' cut and had to go two weeks with getting head slaps.
I’m American, but bro when we were young back then our mom didn’t let us get ANY other haircut besides a shave with no lineup, that shit was actually horrendous. My cousin one time got a different haircut and our grandma made him go back and get his hair shaved down. A nigga couldn’t catch a break. 😂😂, i love my afro so much more now.
YOH, and the beatings and threats never fail making you fear the fuck out of your parents. I'm a chick so I don't relate with the haircuts but anything hair, clothes and jewelry...nah that shit would get you roasted
@@FruityCatRing one time I spilled my mom's coffee, lost my hat and made her late all at the same time. I could've been pronounced dead that day but my mom spared me. 😅
@@mxsterym bro you are not everyone. Also poland is way less aggressive than the other ones, every polish person I've met is pretty mild except the casual racism kid
as a punjabi kid growing up in canada this is extremely relatable. My parents keep saying that if i go to a indian school i wouldnt even survive or some other shit like saying how western kids are weak af now.
Thats probably relatable to western kids, parents and adults act like they had it harder and I'd would not survive a day in 80s school, I beg to differ.
That is true we have no choice in life 😢 i am being forces to give jee exam like 1.2M children give that shit and only like 10K get in and you need like 99 % I want it to be better 😢
The racism thing is so true, whenever you have foreign parents or not. When my family used to watch TV, and saw some black man doing stupid shit, they would say “Look how black he is”. I would try my best to not laugh, cause I know its always unintentional 💀.
I currently know 4 languages, and that's because I was exposed to all of them back when I was a kid. Now I'm 22 trying to learn Japanese and finally realize how hard it is to learn a new language when you're not a kid
I'm trynna learn Japanese too and I've come to the realization that at it's basically impossible to be proficient unless you find a Japnese person and become friends with them or actually move to Japan.
I learned Japanese in school and that made me appreciate not having to learn English in school. If I grew up in a non-English speaking country I would just give up on English.
When me and my family escaped the the war in Yemen. I can relate to ALL thing you said in this video. This is why I hate school my family give me so much pressure and always compare me to other kids, but when you compare them to others they will bring up their past.
Both of my parents were born in Brasil (met in the US), and I am the only one in my immediate family that speaks fluent English with an American accent . My mum has always complimented my ability to write and speak in English, but she also criticised me for not knowing Portuguese (even though she never even taught me it when I was younger) I basically relate to this video a lot in general, my mum does basically everything in this and I'm glad that it's not just me going through all of this
I always hate how they get on you for not understanding the language but never teach it to you while you are young just expect you to learn it when you barely hear it
My parents are Vietnamese and I can confirm the racism is 100% accurate. My dad casually just says a ton of stereotypes and my mom… literally called a black man the equivalent of the hard R in Vietnamese 💀
My Parents are no joke when it’s comes to racism they’re really bad. Even my grandmother 50+ she said something about Indians stink and said little Chinese girls look black like me. (I’m black btw) and what’s worse is they don’t change, my mom said she looks Asian some days and I’m just sit there disgusted by her
As a Cantonese person who doesn’t speak my native language, I agree that learning a new language is hard for me to learn because of how I was never taught it when growing up.
As a cantonese person, i almost started losing my ability to speak it during middle and early high school. However, recently i started listening to canto-pop & cantonese rap has started to kickstart my learning process despite the fact that im 17 now. I think that its a lot easier to learn foreign languages when theres an established pop culture around it (i.e. japanese & anime).
@@Sarantis-107 I am a Chinese immigrant and I moved to the US at the age of 15, about 4 years ago. I was the only cousin fresh off the boat from China and pretty much all my other cousins are American-born, who have no idea how to speak Chinese. It feels so weird as all of my aunts and uncles tend to compare my cousins to me, because I speak Chinese (well duh I was born there), and all other stuff. How funny to see the other perspective 😅
As a first generation child to Nigerian parents who have begged me for the past three years to go to graduate school (my father, that is), I heavily relate to this. Casual racism about particular races (especially Hispanics) is noticeable from both my parents, opinions that would get them picked apart on social media. And I get the same feeling that they want me to go to school to brag about me, considering how often they compare me to my most successful peers. Not to mention the fact that my father is more religious to me than I am, which creates more issues. Sometimes I feel like what I do is more important to my dad than the type of person I truly am.
Growing up with Ugandan Parents was a day-to-day struggle. They always controlled what I wore, what haircut I got (often times the buzz cut, which made me develop a fear of barbers). I lived in the projects of Vienna, Rennbahnweg where gunshots were sometimes audible, which my parents just ignored. I would often get the most difficult tasks, which they expected me to at inhumane speeds. If something pissed them off about me, they would give me a whoopin with the belt. They fled Uganda during the mass murders of Idi Amin, which they always brought up. I had to learn German, English and Swahili. It was really a fucking struggle.
@@deathk7690same, i can understand pidgin but not french. but atleast there’s material to learn french online, but they lost me when they started talking in their village language and then get mad at ME cuz i grew up in the USA and don’t understand.
I grew up in very strict African family where my mom be whipping my ass with a belt if ever i did some thug looking stuff. Even now i am still scared of getting a tattoo or a piercing just cuz they might disown me or something
@AzureWolf depends heavily on the tattoo, if you get memorial or marriage based ones they're fine. I mean a date to show when someone closed to you died isn't bad at all.
As a person with haitian parents, they ask me TIME and TIME again to learn French even though I wanted to learn Japanese instead to become a manga artist and they wanted me to become an engineer. Just because I can help them with their windows 95 ahh laptop
C'est très facile a apprendre français frérot. I've been learning french for like a year shit is not that hard. Learn Spanish on the side it'll help u out trust.
8:55 - 9:24: I can hella relate to this. Ever since I was about 9yrs old, my 100% Somali mom always had to find a way to compare me to 2 of my friends and how “smarter” or “learned more languages” than me.
My parents spoke their native language at home because it was easier than English obviously. I was able to pick it up and I began speaking English mixed with my native language.
Im surprised he didn't bring up LGBTQA+ stuff. In some countries topics like that are unthinkable. There are people who don't even believe that gay people can originate from their homelands. Heck, in Japan being gay is seen as an "American thing" from what I've been told.
It’s honestly a living hell having ethnic parents and being LGBTQ, I understand and cultural differences but it’s definitely not just a western/American thing like some like to think
How many times have y'all heard the, "I was top of my class" phrase. The thing is, my father had literal proof of all his claims, and anecdotal evidence from his classmates, so it pushed me all throughout graduate school
The facebook comparison one is so true for me and my siblings. My parents will always send us Facebook videos of a 13 year old who graduated from some top notch university with a bachelor's degree. Its so annoying that they do that as it makes me feel worthless. Also the part about the huge emphasis on education is very true as well.
9:09 oh god I relate to this so hard I hate when my dad compares me to some guy on Facebook just because he is smarter than me I hate that shit. Nobody is born a genius and no amount of studying will make you. A genius
My family’s German and I have to say the education thing is f’in real. I’m much older, my parents are past that shit, and we’re all a lot wiser, but I still feel like an irredeemable failure because I didn’t finish college. On the flip side, it can be really hilarious. I remember being a kid and when I did something bad, I’d think I got away with it until I’d overhear my parents discussing, in German, my punishment. They thought they were so slick, but they didn’t realize I understood everything.
Hallo, kann auch Deutsch sprechen. Welche Bestrafungungen hattest du als Kind bekommen. PS: Also know how to speak Englisch. Grew up speaking Englisch and German, though my parents never taught me their mother language. Hopefully I will be able to speak it fluently with them one day.
Im Cajun and American and I gotta say... I wish all countries in the world can agree that maybe learning a language when your a little baby is probably the only way to actually learn a language actually quite fast. I hope someday our language can be taught in schools just like English. And now I look back and I am like: Damn I wish I can save this dying language rip brother im staying with english
The most frowned upon thing in mexican families is the cousin that's always is like "I'm latino/latina" but does not know spanish, can't make guacamole and makes quesadillas in the mucrowave.
I'm the immigrant! I was born and raised in China before my parents and I moved to the States (4years ago when I was 15). I'm 19 now. On the other hand, all my cousins (most of whom are my age) are American-born and I was the only cousin fresh off the boat. They speak no Chinese, and I'm pretty much the only cousin who speaks Chinese. It feels so weird to be the one being compared to. My aunts and uncles always compare my cousins to me and I feel like my cousins resent me for that. They'd tell my cousins stuff like "Why can't you be a good Chinese boy like (my name)". Literally whenever I hear them say that, I just .. don't know how to react lol.
I don't have foreign family but because my cousin was good at every subject at school i was ALWAYS compared to her, like holy shit, she did something good and my mom always would ask me why I'm not smart as her, the only thing I was better than her was English and it like little better than her. I'm thankful that she is like 3 years older than me and we can talk and not get angry at each other.
omg not only in situations that relate to education but to literally anything- they'll see some kid on facebook preaching in a church and they'll be like "why don't you guys be like them?" or like one of my cousins would be cooking for the house and they'll be like "oh why don't you guys learn this too?"
@@knapp1394 within my immediate family, aunts/uncles and cousins, I was the immigrant kid. I grew up in Asia until the age of 15 when me and my parents moved to the US (2020). That was 4 years ago and I'm 19 now. All my other cousins are American-born and among my cousins, I was the only one born and raised in Asia. It's interesting because my aunts and uncles always compare their own kids (my cousins) to me, especially when talking about speaking Chinese or doing better at school (i always did my best at school). I feel like a few of my cousins resent me for it 🫠 I mean this in a respectful way but American born kids, really don't know the struggles of immigrants. It was difficult growing up in Asia and having gone through it all in our native countries, of course you would want your children to see their full potential and capabilities. It takes a certain kind of person to leave it all behind to move to a new country, not being fluent with the language, customs etc. It toughens you up to an extent, where you fight for yourself and your immediate family
For the language and culture barrier, my parents decided to basically strand me in their original country for 4 years and learn it from the source. Worst 4 years of my life. And guess what! Now I have a language and culture barrier with the country I currently live in.
As a person who grew up in a hispanic family that came Guatemala: Education is #1, if I don't go to college and or drop out, my family would disown me and think im a failure, not to mention I lost all of my spanish vocabuary 💀
7:14 bro my mom literally said all people who have depression and anxiety are introverted while yes a lot of people who have anxiety and depression are introverted not all of them are introverted
I remember my company bringing up the Crown Act. There were a number African-American people wearing braids or other hairstyles that weren't "typical" and they told us some horrendous stories from previous companies about judgement toward their hair.
as a Haitian american the language barrier is real, there are times my mom will roast me for not knowing haitian creole but then I ask her why didn't she teach it to me as a kid that way she wouldn't be grilling me about it.
Wanna point sum things up lads so sit down. My parents are kurdish (i am kurdish too in natural terms) yet I was born and raised in Italy. And boy whatchu said in this video is absolutely TRUE. First of all I am fluent on english, turkish and ESPECIALLY italian (at this point I'm more italian than a natural italian tbh), but these three are also the only languages I know, and bloody HELL, for them the fact that i don't know anything about kurdish is a SIN, a CRIME for them, and they try everything to make me learn the language. And boy let's talk about the racism part: first of all they have the constant belief that all italians are sum sort of extraterrestrial being that must be extinguished (yet we live in italy). Oh yeah, and they are probably the most religious people i've seen in my life (nothing wrong about that obviously) but the way they tryna force it is straight up crazy. There is still a lot to talk about (I could rewrite the Divine Comedy), like how they extremely prioritize education, the random ass comparisons, but I'm just too lazy. I still love them and do not take this as a way to disrespect.
3 languages!? Holy hell! You should be so proud! Take pride in that! However with that being said, I don’t want to downplay/disregard your feelings about your parents feeling disappointed/Saddened, etc. (because I can relate, not to the multilingual part LOL) Regardless, being bilingual/multilingual is soooooo impressive. Whether you choose to learn Kurdish or not, I can tell you that being able to speak more than one language is cool in lots of peoples book. I wouldn’t trip to much.
@@dontreadmyprofilepic2124because its hard and time consuming! I now it since I myself can speak in 3 languages (and none of them is my mother language)
I’m Nigerian AND MIXED since my parents are from different tribes (Edo and Igbo), they only teached me English and learnt Italian since I also live in Italy. All my family members and relatives look at me weird since I never learnt their languages
Thank you so much for this video! My parents are Polish but I grew up in the UK, so it is so hard for my parents to help me with anything related to English. This was *so* frustrating during Covid, as my parents couldn't help me with my online work. Also it's so hard communicating sometimes because my Polish vocabulary isn't very vast and I just end up saying it in English. I wish I could improve at Polish but everyone else at school that's Polish just doesn't really speak it well enough to communicate or they just prefer to speak English.
The last part is so real my secondary also banned people speaking polish so that was shit considering there were kids that had just emigrated and barely spoke english . The best way to expand ur vocabulary is to try and read a polish book with a polish dictionary and trying to consume some polish media
@@bongspaghettii7711 WHAT!? BANNED POLISH? i get they want to know what everyone is saying but that's just so selfish. also i am fluent in polish but sometimes i just can't find the word I'm looking for. as for consuming polish media, should i start watching tvp? 😂
I'm a second generation from an Italian immigrant family that very recently came to the Americas. My father is first generation, both my Nonna and Nonno are from Calabria. My father and his family would have to always deal with racism in the small town in Rhode Island he was born and raised in; with some certain racial slurs being thrown around. So it is important for me to understand foreign cultures.
my mom is russian and i have almost no idea what shes saying most of the time so i just ask my dad for translations (since he learned russian just to get with my mom which is sweet)
My mom is from iraq and she wanted me to speak arabic and english but i was only able to learn english. Every time i go visit my family from my moms side, they all cant speak english and can only speak arabic, so i just kinda have to deal with it like all the time, and its super frustrating.
At least at anytime you hace the cappacity to learn, like in the sense that you can self-teach yourself arabic by consuming arabic movies and media Me? My parents are from pakistan, but they speak a dying regional language that probobly wont exist in a century since everyone from my village is either learning urdu or english. And the only way I can self-learn is listining to music but thats is as comparable as learning english through rap lyrics.
Everything in this video is SO COMMON for me. I know DAMN WELL I’m not the only one that deals with this shit. Not knowing the full language, dropping out is NEVER the option,etc. This is so common for me.
I believe there is a big difference between casual racism and actual racism. Casual racism is more critical towards races than discriminatory, and is typically much more conversational and social than practical and personal. Casual racism never holds any bad intentions or grudges against other races, it is more thrown around in personal discussions as a form of humor. I wouldnt even consider it racism at all, at least according to the definition of racism, I'm just using it in regards to the discussion. Actual racism on the other hand is completely derogatory, and it deliberately meant to insult, harass, and discriminate against people of other races. Not only that, but people who are actually racist often express it through the way they live and their character, not only what they say. People who are actually racist go out of their way to directly target, insult, and discriminate against people of different races, wheras casual racism is never directly targeted at anybody in particular, since it is not even meant to be insulting in the first place. And as much as everyone with a twitter and reddit account hates to admit, we are all casually racist (I use the term racist VERY losely) and use casual racism all of the time. Its not hard to spot someone whos actually racist, as that is made obvious by the way they talk and act towards people of other races and of their own race. Of course there is a grey area. Often times casual racism can turn into actual racism when executed poorly and in bad taste, I want to make that very clear.
as a Bangladeshi American this is so true. My parents always just casually bring up race out of nowhere for no reason at all, saying some shit like "black people are violent" or whatever. It's so stupid I swear. Not only that but I'm not entirely fluent in Bengali either
1:42 yeah, my parents were never really like that. My parents are from Nigeria I can’t speak the language, but I can understand it. For some reason whatever I have to speak to language every single word that I know gets deleted from my memory but the second somebody’s talking to me bro it’s like as if I’ll be speaking the language for 15 years because I can understand every single word they’re saying.
Fr I am Telugu and I'm currently learning the language and I know how to read in Telugu but it has an extremely different system than latin letters so it kinda hard especially since there's over 800 characters but I'm getting better
I have family almost everywhere and I speak like 4 language and right now I am still learning English. fun fact I just came here last year. Have a good day 👋🏾
This might just be one of the most accurate descriptions of immigrant families ever. I come from Brazil, and the amount of times my British colleagues have said something that was kinda offensive, but I shrugged it off was too many, so that casual racism thing really gets to me.
the language thing is 100% true. im half turkish (my dad is an immigrant) and i speak turkish pretty well considering he put in the effort to speak to me in turkish from birth, but for my siblings i cant say the same because although theyre younger than me they know significantly less. one time my dad bought me this whole collection of 9 books (which i was grateful for because I enjoy reading) but they were all in turkish and i was about 10 at the time so i couldnt read them until years later because my language skills werent advanced enough.
As someone with Ethiopian parents, I relate to this a lot. Especially the comparisons, gotta be the most annoying shit and sometimes they get mad at me for getting annoyed. School is obviously a most and casual racism is actually insane. Even today my mom was saying some stereotypical shit lmao
It is hard to be a foreigner, especially in the US. You can be exposed to bullying, being abandoned by people of different race, or just normal racist acts. As a Taiwanese that goes to a Chinese international school, I have never faced any instance of racial bias between people. Indeed, in my 8 years of living in China I have never really met instances where I am just picked on in the street for my race or become the center of attention because of that. God bless all the people who has been picked on through racial biases. Although it is hard for me to imagine what you guys have gone through. I would imagine it being very horrible.🙌🙌🙌
The casual racism is so true my family is from Guatemala and my mom thinks very lowly of black people, she’s gotten mad at me for having black friends cause apperantly “they always carry guns”
As a 50% Polish person I can actually relate to some of this. But sometimes I cant relate because my parents actually understand English and electronics well.
I'm from an Egyptian family, I never experienced casual racism but def the language barrier, comparison, and education. I can understand arabic, specifically Egyptian or Saidi Arabic, but I can barely communicate back in it.
the racism thing is so real. my dad was born in Angola but he and his family fled to doc because of war and every once in a while when we go to Walmart or smith my dad's always like "see this one he's Congolese. Congolese people. always wanting to show off their cars" 💀
I swear I’m Albanien 🇦🇱 and I can speak but not that well and when I talk with my family there and I don’t understand something I literally just say yes because it’s better than saying no 😭
The part about hits so different cause it's so true! My entire family would do it to me all the time that I'd seat and seeth in silence too afraid of the ahh-whooping I'd get if i said anything back!😂😂😭
I’ve got Cameroonian parents and they were lucky enough to be from the Anglophone side so there was never a severe language barrier in that department but there IS a language barrier for when I talk to the rest of my family who speaks their own villages’ language that I can’t learn with Duolingo and they just barley wanna teach me it 😭😭😭
The casual racism thing is true. My parents are Mexican, time to time they use racial slurs for races 😭
dude in mexico we literally have a slur for every single kind of person
That is so true us Mexicans call races slurs so casually
As a Mexican this is true 💀
Omfg bro and it's annoying cause they hate whenever it's targeted towards us, which is fair, but then they say the most messed up stuff about black people and white people and they pass it off as a "joke".
@@Jaysonesp69420 wait dog how old are you 🤨
As somebody who has family from Mexico, the casual racism and language barrier is definitely a thing. They legit have no filter and it's hilarious at times
Fr, I work at a pharmacy, and this one guy who calls every now and then just casually calls himself a wetback, it's absolutely hilarious. Mexicans have the best sense of humor.
Same
I swear to God same
BRO YOU ARE LITHUANIAN OR WHO
There is a chance that somebody have been called a Pendejo or puta
And they have no idea what it means
The WORST feeling is when another person who speaks the language your parents does makes fun of you for only understanding but not being fully fluent IT SUCKS
Fax bro 😭
My parents be clowning on me for barely understanding their language
I’m at a point where I’m generally proficient in the language, so my family just does the next best thing and start *making up words* and then getting on my ass for not understanding them.
Idk where I or anybody is supposed to learn Sinhala 💀
Bro I fully understand it and people act like I can’t hear them like bro it’s so annoying
As a Nigerian myself, I can 100% relate to getting the most diabolical haircuts. From elementary - middle school I would regularly get the 'shaved head' cut and had to go two weeks with getting head slaps.
I’m American, but bro when we were young back then our mom didn’t let us get ANY other haircut besides a shave with no lineup, that shit was actually horrendous. My cousin one time got a different haircut and our grandma made him go back and get his hair shaved down. A nigga couldn’t catch a break. 😂😂, i love my afro so much more now.
Bro i had a absolutely fleshy skin fade in second grade 😂
I feel you man
YOH, and the beatings and threats never fail making you fear the fuck out of your parents. I'm a chick so I don't relate with the haircuts but anything hair, clothes and jewelry...nah that shit would get you roasted
@@FruityCatRing one time I spilled my mom's coffee, lost my hat and made her late all at the same time. I could've been pronounced dead that day but my mom spared me. 😅
The casual racism thing is too true. My dad is from a eastern europe and bro causally says the most racist things to me.
@@mxsterym bro you are not everyone. Also poland is way less aggressive than the other ones, every polish person I've met is pretty mild except the casual racism kid
My dad is from Romania and I'm honestly glad to hear that there are a lot of foreign parents who are racist
My mom is Spanish and she is very racist
My family is from Finland and I would say they are more racist towards other people from Eastern Europe and some from the Middle East.
Same here with my parents from Albania
Being foreign is fun and so hard at the same time , it's really something
Ong
@Nebraska Truth Center Mate, I hit puberty at 11. 14 is above the average when most people hit puberty you absolute wanker
Literally
i can relate, mostly for school i get bullied for not speaking the regular laungauge
@@Rayyan.MP4 and then they start mocking the language u speak 🥲🥲
as a punjabi kid growing up in canada this is extremely relatable. My parents keep saying that if i go to a indian school i wouldnt even survive or some other shit like saying how western kids are weak af now.
Thats probably relatable to western kids, parents and adults act like they had it harder and I'd would not survive a day in 80s school, I beg to differ.
I'm like, maybe they should try making the Indian schools better
That is true we have no choice in life 😢 i am being forces to give jee exam like 1.2M children give that shit and only like 10K get in and you need like 99 %
I want it to be better 😢
Oof I can relate to that. My parents say that I wouldn't survive Pakistani schools.
Lol. I don't live in my country and my parents say i cant survive in those schools.
The racism thing is so true, whenever you have foreign parents or not. When my family used to watch TV, and saw some black man doing stupid shit, they would say “Look how black he is”. I would try my best to not laugh, cause I know its always unintentional 💀.
you mean unintentional?
Same thing here. Whenever white people doing dumb things my parents say look how white he is. And call latinos seals.
LITERALLY ME WITH MY MOM 😭😭😭
It’s like out of nowhere, unpredictable, and despicable 💀
my ma would always say "dont go near that negrito, he's gonna rob you" surprise surprise, we're mexican 😭
@@phunsies LMAOO
I currently know 4 languages, and that's because I was exposed to all of them back when I was a kid. Now I'm 22 trying to learn Japanese and finally realize how hard it is to learn a new language when you're not a kid
I'm trynna learn Japanese too and I've come to the realization that at it's basically impossible to be proficient unless you find a Japnese person and become friends with them or actually move to Japan.
@dpassch7deutsche Sprache schwere Sprache
@dpassch7tf is papiamento?
@dpassch7 ok
I learned Japanese in school and that made me appreciate not having to learn English in school. If I grew up in a non-English speaking country I would just give up on English.
When me and my family escaped the the war in Yemen. I can relate to ALL thing you said in this video. This is why I hate school my family give me so much pressure and always compare me to other kids, but when you compare them to others they will bring up their past.
Bro i mention i always gotta live up to someone and they say i shouldn't and then they bring up the neighbour an hour later
yeah not only that but they also cherry pick ONLY the good traits of the person they are comparing you to lmao.
@@AddinRoyale They just see pure angle in them, like he could’ve killed someone and they will always compare you to them.
@@illfordThat’s my mom right there. “You don’t have to be like your brothers.” Few second later “Why aren’t you like your cousin?”
@@illfordThat’s my mom right there. “You don’t have to be like your brothers.” Few second later “Why aren’t you like your cousin?”
Both of my parents were born in Brasil (met in the US), and I am the only one in my immediate family that speaks fluent English with an American accent .
My mum has always complimented my ability to write and speak in English, but she also criticised me for not knowing Portuguese (even though she never even taught me it when I was younger)
I basically relate to this video a lot in general, my mum does basically everything in this and I'm glad that it's not just me going through all of this
I always hate how they get on you for not understanding the language but never teach it to you while you are young just expect you to learn it when you barely hear it
Aprenda português kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk
Fala português kkkkkkkk
Can't be too hard on yourself tho, they didn't reach you to teach you when you were little🤷
Holy shit that’s basically me too😭😭
My parents are Vietnamese and I can confirm the racism is 100% accurate. My dad casually just says a ton of stereotypes and my mom… literally called a black man the equivalent of the hard R in Vietnamese 💀
Can’t Blame Them
Based honestly
(East) Asian parents be wilding
@@antoninuslarpus7107 can confirm
Nah that's crazy 💀
Serious note though, I'm also Vietnamese and my parents are the same...
As an Indian the amount of casual racism in my house was insane.
Same
it is because of colonization
My Indian parents fr got scared of a group of black guys at the mall
@@tylerankirsh5030I’m so sorry for you.
My Parents are no joke when it’s comes to racism they’re really bad. Even my grandmother 50+ she said something about Indians stink and said little Chinese girls look black like me. (I’m black btw) and what’s worse is they don’t change, my mom said she looks Asian some days and I’m just sit there disgusted by her
my parents are arab and i’ve heard the most diabolical things come out of their mouths about every race, including their own race 💀
BRO ARABS HAVE THE MOST UNIQUE INSULTS I DON’T GET HOW WE HAVE THE WEIRDEST STUFF
As a Cantonese person who doesn’t speak my native language, I agree that learning a new language is hard for me to learn because of how I was never taught it when growing up.
As a cantonese person, i almost started losing my ability to speak it during middle and early high school.
However, recently i started listening to canto-pop & cantonese rap has started to kickstart my learning process despite the fact that im 17 now.
I think that its a lot easier to learn foreign languages when theres an established pop culture around it (i.e. japanese & anime).
@@0xC2same, school destroyed Chinese language for me. Not a single person spoke the same language so my language skills were screwed
@@Sarantis-107 I am a Chinese immigrant and I moved to the US at the age of 15, about 4 years ago.
I was the only cousin fresh off the boat from China and pretty much all my other cousins are American-born, who have no idea how to speak Chinese. It feels so weird as all of my aunts and uncles tend to compare my cousins to me, because I speak Chinese (well duh I was born there), and all other stuff. How funny to see the other perspective 😅
@@song-pg9kj I also am chinese, I was saying that people in my school don't know it at all so I only could speak English
As a first generation child to Nigerian parents who have begged me for the past three years to go to graduate school (my father, that is), I heavily relate to this.
Casual racism about particular races (especially Hispanics) is noticeable from both my parents, opinions that would get them picked apart on social media.
And I get the same feeling that they want me to go to school to brag about me, considering how often they compare me to my most successful peers.
Not to mention the fact that my father is more religious to me than I am, which creates more issues. Sometimes I feel like what I do is more important to my dad than the type of person I truly am.
my mom is from Poland and my dad is from Nigeria, what kind of mortal kombat ass combo is that
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Growing up with Ugandan Parents was a day-to-day struggle. They always controlled what I wore, what haircut I got (often times the buzz cut, which made me develop a fear of barbers). I lived in the projects of Vienna, Rennbahnweg where gunshots were sometimes audible, which my parents just ignored. I would often get the most difficult tasks, which they expected me to at inhumane speeds. If something pissed them off about me, they would give me a whoopin with the belt. They fled Uganda during the mass murders of Idi Amin, which they always brought up. I had to learn German, English and Swahili. It was really a fucking struggle.
as an African american with African parents from cameroon this is so true
African Americans are like descendants of slaves, not native African
we can all understand pigin and french but its when they start with the village language that you can't hear shit, I only 2 words which are greetings
I can relate my Cameroonian brother
Same
@@deathk7690same, i can understand pidgin but not french. but atleast there’s material to learn french online, but they lost me when they started talking in their village language and then get mad at ME cuz i grew up in the USA and don’t understand.
2:25 this statement is actually true. The older a person is the harder it is for the brain to remember new languages
I grew up in very strict African family where my mom be whipping my ass with a belt if ever i did some thug looking stuff. Even now i am still scared of getting a tattoo or a piercing just cuz they might disown me or something
@AzureWolf168true tattoos aren't worth it
@AzureWolf depends heavily on the tattoo, if you get memorial or marriage based ones they're fine. I mean a date to show when someone closed to you died isn't bad at all.
my mom is from poland, my dad is from el salvador. casual racism isnt even casual anymore 😭
Being foreign and being brought up Bilingual can be fun, but painful, but this video is so real.
As a person with haitian parents, they ask me TIME and TIME again to learn French even though I wanted to learn Japanese instead to become a manga artist and they wanted me to become an engineer. Just because I can help them with their windows 95 ahh laptop
I think you should learn French too though
C'est très facile a apprendre français frérot. I've been learning french for like a year shit is not that hard. Learn Spanish on the side it'll help u out trust.
Spanish and French will become my 4th and 5th respective languages
Maybe after learning Japanese you can learn french?
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8:55 - 9:24: I can hella relate to this. Ever since I was about 9yrs old, my 100% Somali mom always had to find a way to compare me to 2 of my friends and how “smarter” or “learned more languages” than me.
As a black man, the parents can say crazy things about other races sometimes. And the slurs you get called can be insane.
My parents spoke their native language at home because it was easier than English obviously. I was able to pick it up and I began speaking English mixed with my native language.
I mean that's pretty normal, the issue is they just expect you to know it even if it's the most obscure langauge
Im surprised he didn't bring up LGBTQA+ stuff.
In some countries topics like that are unthinkable. There are people who don't even believe that gay people can originate from their homelands. Heck, in Japan being gay is seen as an "American thing" from what I've been told.
It's understandable, usa is gay.
It’s honestly a living hell having ethnic parents and being LGBTQ, I understand and cultural differences but it’s definitely not just a western/American thing like some like to think
Technically based?
As an individual who was born and raised in Japan, it’s not necessarily considered an American thing, but more a “western” thing as a whole.
@@LostSpectre496 oh god these people still exist why?
How many times have y'all heard the, "I was top of my class" phrase. The thing is, my father had literal proof of all his claims, and anecdotal evidence from his classmates, so it pushed me all throughout graduate school
Fr 😂 like how is that even possible
Bro my dad was classmates with one of the smartest people IN CHINA, and tbh I’m kinda the same smart as him so he can’t complain
Bro this guy is the most original man like always relatable so chill so funny he da man
The facebook comparison one is so true for me and my siblings. My parents will always send us Facebook videos of a 13 year old who graduated from some top notch university with a bachelor's degree.
Its so annoying that they do that as it makes me feel worthless.
Also the part about the huge emphasis on education is very true as well.
9:09 oh god I relate to this so hard
I hate when my dad compares me to some guy on Facebook just because he is smarter than me
I hate that shit. Nobody is born a genius and no amount of studying will make you. A genius
0:09 a teacher at my school literally JUST got arrested for being an edp this week 😭
My family’s German and I have to say the education thing is f’in real. I’m much older, my parents are past that shit, and we’re all a lot wiser, but I still feel like an irredeemable failure because I didn’t finish college.
On the flip side, it can be really hilarious. I remember being a kid and when I did something bad, I’d think I got away with it until I’d overhear my parents discussing, in German, my punishment. They thought they were so slick, but they didn’t realize I understood everything.
Hallo, kann auch Deutsch sprechen. Welche Bestrafungungen hattest du als Kind bekommen.
PS: Also know how to speak Englisch. Grew up speaking Englisch and German, though my parents never taught me their mother language. Hopefully I will be able to speak it fluently with them one day.
I like how this guy can roast tf out of you without getting cancelled 😂
as a nigerian, i can relate that all of this is 100% true and painful in life but it can kinda be fun at the same time
Am a Nigerian too and my mother insults people in our language 😃
Im Cajun and American and I gotta say... I wish all countries in the world can agree that maybe learning a language when your a little baby is probably the only way to actually learn a language actually quite fast. I hope someday our language can be taught in schools just like English. And now I look back and I am like: Damn I wish I can save this dying language rip brother im staying with english
I'm not really good with different languages outside of Eurppe, South America, and Eastern Asia. But do you mean French?
The most frowned upon thing in mexican families is the cousin that's always is like "I'm latino/latina" but does not know spanish, can't make guacamole and makes quesadillas in the mucrowave.
even for my standards as a non mexican making a quesadilla in a microwave is sine, just use a pan it's not hard
I'm the immigrant! I was born and raised in China before my parents and I moved to the States (4years ago when I was 15). I'm 19 now.
On the other hand, all my cousins (most of whom are my age) are American-born and I was the only cousin fresh off the boat. They speak no Chinese, and I'm pretty much the only cousin who speaks Chinese.
It feels so weird to be the one being compared to. My aunts and uncles always compare my cousins to me and I feel like my cousins resent me for that.
They'd tell my cousins stuff like "Why can't you be a good Chinese boy like (my name)". Literally whenever I hear them say that, I just .. don't know how to react lol.
I don't have foreign family but because my cousin was good at every subject at school i was ALWAYS compared to her, like holy shit, she did something good and my mom always would ask me why I'm not smart as her, the only thing I was better than her was English and it like little better than her. I'm thankful that she is like 3 years older than me and we can talk and not get angry at each other.
omg not only in situations that relate to education but to literally anything- they'll see some kid on facebook preaching in a church and they'll be like "why don't you guys be like them?" or like one of my cousins would be cooking for the house and they'll be like "oh why don't you guys learn this too?"
@@knapp1394 within my immediate family, aunts/uncles and cousins, I was the immigrant kid. I grew up in Asia until the age of 15 when me and my parents moved to the US (2020). That was 4 years ago and I'm 19 now. All my other cousins are American-born and among my cousins, I was the only one born and raised in Asia.
It's interesting because my aunts and uncles always compare their own kids (my cousins) to me, especially when talking about speaking Chinese or doing better at school (i always did my best at school). I feel like a few of my cousins resent me for it 🫠
I mean this in a respectful way but American born kids, really don't know the struggles of immigrants. It was difficult growing up in Asia and having gone through it all in our native countries, of course you would want your children to see their full potential and capabilities. It takes a certain kind of person to leave it all behind to move to a new country, not being fluent with the language, customs etc. It toughens you up to an extent, where you fight for yourself and your immediate family
For the language and culture barrier, my parents decided to basically strand me in their original country for 4 years and learn it from the source. Worst 4 years of my life.
And guess what! Now I have a language and culture barrier with the country I currently live in.
As a person who grew up in a hispanic family that came Guatemala: Education is #1, if I don't go to college and or drop out, my family would disown me and think im a failure, not to mention I lost all of my spanish vocabuary 💀
7:14 bro my mom literally said all people who have depression and anxiety are introverted while yes a lot of people who have anxiety and depression are introverted not all of them are introverted
I remember my company bringing up the Crown Act. There were a number African-American people wearing braids or other hairstyles that weren't "typical" and they told us some horrendous stories from previous companies about judgement toward their hair.
as a Haitian american the language barrier is real, there are times my mom will roast me for not knowing haitian creole but then I ask her why didn't she teach it to me as a kid that way she wouldn't be grilling me about it.
Wanna point sum things up lads so sit down.
My parents are kurdish (i am kurdish too in natural terms) yet I was born and raised in Italy. And boy whatchu said in this video is absolutely TRUE.
First of all I am fluent on english, turkish and ESPECIALLY italian (at this point I'm more italian than a natural italian tbh), but these three are also the only languages I know, and bloody HELL, for them the fact that i don't know anything about kurdish is a SIN, a CRIME for them, and they try everything to make me learn the language.
And boy let's talk about the racism part: first of all they have the constant belief that all italians are sum sort of extraterrestrial being that must be extinguished (yet we live in italy). Oh yeah, and they are probably the most religious people i've seen in my life (nothing wrong about that obviously) but the way they tryna force it is straight up crazy.
There is still a lot to talk about (I could rewrite the Divine Comedy), like how they extremely prioritize education, the random ass comparisons, but I'm just too lazy.
I still love them and do not take this as a way to disrespect.
3 languages!? Holy hell! You should be so proud! Take pride in that! However with that being said, I don’t want to downplay/disregard your feelings about your parents feeling disappointed/Saddened, etc. (because I can relate, not to the multilingual part LOL) Regardless, being bilingual/multilingual is soooooo impressive. Whether you choose to learn Kurdish or not, I can tell you that being able to speak more than one language is cool in lots of peoples book. I wouldn’t trip to much.
I don't mean to be rude but if you are already skilled in language learning why don't you learn kurdish?
@@dontreadmyprofilepic2124because its hard and time consuming! I now it since I myself can speak in 3 languages (and none of them is my mother language)
I’m Nigerian AND MIXED since my parents are from different tribes (Edo and Igbo), they only teached me English and learnt Italian since I also live in Italy. All my family members and relatives look at me weird since I never learnt their languages
Thank you so much for this video! My parents are Polish but I grew up in the UK, so it is so hard for my parents to help me with anything related to English. This was *so* frustrating during Covid, as my parents couldn't help me with my online work.
Also it's so hard communicating sometimes because my Polish vocabulary isn't very vast and I just end up saying it in English. I wish I could improve at Polish but everyone else at school that's Polish just doesn't really speak it well enough to communicate or they just prefer to speak English.
The last part is so real my secondary also banned people speaking polish so that was shit considering there were kids that had just emigrated and barely spoke english . The best way to expand ur vocabulary is to try and read a polish book with a polish dictionary and trying to consume some polish media
@@bongspaghettii7711 WHAT!? BANNED POLISH? i get they want to know what everyone is saying but that's just so selfish.
also i am fluent in polish but sometimes i just can't find the word I'm looking for. as for consuming polish media, should i start watching tvp? 😂
I'm a second generation from an Italian immigrant family that very recently came to the Americas. My father is first generation, both my Nonna and Nonno are from Calabria. My father and his family would have to always deal with racism in the small town in Rhode Island he was born and raised in; with some certain racial slurs being thrown around. So it is important for me to understand foreign cultures.
1:23💀 dead
my mom is russian and i have almost no idea what shes saying most of the time so i just ask my dad for translations (since he learned russian just to get with my mom which is sweet)
This video is so true, especially the casual racism part. I'll be vibing in the living room and hear my mom say the most out of pocket thing ever
My mom is from iraq and she wanted me to speak arabic and english but i was only able to learn english. Every time i go visit my family from my moms side, they all cant speak english and can only speak arabic, so i just kinda have to deal with it like all the time, and its super frustrating.
يا رجل كيف هذا امر سيء ؟ اعرف انو ممكن تضن انو cringe but doesnt matter
At least at anytime you hace the cappacity to learn, like in the sense that you can self-teach yourself arabic by consuming arabic movies and media
Me? My parents are from pakistan, but they speak a dying regional language that probobly wont exist in a century since everyone from my village is either learning urdu or english.
And the only way I can self-learn is listining to music but thats is as comparable as learning english through rap lyrics.
Everything in this video is SO COMMON for me. I know DAMN WELL I’m not the only one that deals with this shit.
Not knowing the full language, dropping out is NEVER the option,etc. This is so common for me.
I believe there is a big difference between casual racism and actual racism. Casual racism is more critical towards races than discriminatory, and is typically much more conversational and social than practical and personal. Casual racism never holds any bad intentions or grudges against other races, it is more thrown around in personal discussions as a form of humor. I wouldnt even consider it racism at all, at least according to the definition of racism, I'm just using it in regards to the discussion. Actual racism on the other hand is completely derogatory, and it deliberately meant to insult, harass, and discriminate against people of other races. Not only that, but people who are actually racist often express it through the way they live and their character, not only what they say. People who are actually racist go out of their way to directly target, insult, and discriminate against people of different races, wheras casual racism is never directly targeted at anybody in particular, since it is not even meant to be insulting in the first place. And as much as everyone with a twitter and reddit account hates to admit, we are all casually racist (I use the term racist VERY losely) and use casual racism all of the time. Its not hard to spot someone whos actually racist, as that is made obvious by the way they talk and act towards people of other races and of their own race.
Of course there is a grey area. Often times casual racism can turn into actual racism when executed poorly and in bad taste, I want to make that very clear.
There's always a grey area with casual racism.
9:48 that scene fits so well
the amount of times arabic parents made a sexual joke is insane 💀💀😭
He's back with an educational video.
Highly informative
Not to sound like a bot, but i genuinely love listening to this guy. Reasonable but dead-ass honest.
as a Bangladeshi American this is so true. My parents always just casually bring up race out of nowhere for no reason at all, saying some shit like "black people are violent" or whatever. It's so stupid I swear. Not only that but I'm not entirely fluent in Bengali either
frfrfrfrfrfrfrfrfr same
but are black people not violent?
@@ПавелКузов-ж1в no, most are not.
@@ПавелКузов-ж1в turns out most are not
@@electrikality thats why сities with large black people population crumbling in crime?
1:42 yeah, my parents were never really like that. My parents are from Nigeria I can’t speak the language, but I can understand it. For some reason whatever I have to speak to language every single word that I know gets deleted from my memory but the second somebody’s talking to me bro it’s like as if I’ll be speaking the language for 15 years because I can understand every single word they’re saying.
Fr I am Telugu and I'm currently learning the language and I know how to read in Telugu but it has an extremely different system than latin letters so it kinda hard especially since there's over 800 characters but I'm getting better
I have family almost everywhere and I speak like 4 language and right now I am still learning English. fun fact I just came here last year. Have a good day 👋🏾
This is so relatable, it’s unreal
This video probably out of all videos on TH-cam relates to me the most
This might just be one of the most accurate descriptions of immigrant families ever.
I come from Brazil, and the amount of times my British colleagues have said something that was kinda offensive, but I shrugged it off was too many, so that casual racism thing really gets to me.
Don’t worry as an Anglo Saxon descended American. I’m equally as racist to southern Europeans. Anything south of the Pyrenees is black to me.
8:42 lmao vergil
As a person who has Sri Lankan parents, I can confirm that you basically described by entire life in 12 minutes 20 seconds 💀.
the language thing is 100% true. im half turkish (my dad is an immigrant) and i speak turkish pretty well considering he put in the effort to speak to me in turkish from birth, but for my siblings i cant say the same because although theyre younger than me they know significantly less. one time my dad bought me this whole collection of 9 books (which i was grateful for because I enjoy reading) but they were all in turkish and i was about 10 at the time so i couldnt read them until years later because my language skills werent advanced enough.
8:57 my mom does this. I get she wants me to be great but she pushes it to way to hard 💀
another banger,
tommy never disappoints
Never ever
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@@AnekoF90 Damn ):
Blud talks like a npc
Y’all on his ass ☠️
4:52 I was on the floor laughing at this
As someone with mixed parents I can confirm that nearly everything he said is relatable
And thing is your parents complain when they NEVER TAUGHT YOU THE LANGUAGE
Well I'm going to be a foreigner to France and I'm scared
1:35 my mom speaks Spanish some times because to “teach me”.
As someone with Ethiopian parents, I relate to this a lot. Especially the comparisons, gotta be the most annoying shit and sometimes they get mad at me for getting annoyed. School is obviously a most and casual racism is actually insane. Even today my mom was saying some stereotypical shit lmao
It is hard to be a foreigner, especially in the US. You can be exposed to bullying, being abandoned by people of different race, or just normal racist acts. As a Taiwanese that goes to a Chinese international school, I have never faced any instance of racial bias between people. Indeed, in my 8 years of living in China I have never really met instances where I am just picked on in the street for my race or become the center of attention because of that. God bless all the people who has been picked on through racial biases. Although it is hard for me to imagine what you guys have gone through. I would imagine it being very horrible.🙌🙌🙌
When your afrian parent makes a joke about all asian people speaking "ching chyeong" when we are at a Mexican restaurant 💀
My parents are foreigners but they are chill af and raised me pretty well
The casual racism is so true my family is from Guatemala and my mom thinks very lowly of black people, she’s gotten mad at me for having black friends cause apperantly “they always carry guns”
To be honest my parents be saying some sht that’s so bad, I wonder how are they not locked up right now…
As a 50% Polish person I can actually relate to some of this. But sometimes I cant relate because my parents actually understand English and electronics well.
Love the Diavolo sound effect at 4:39. Very nice and subtle add on.
This video made me realize that us foreigns really do have the same experience of life lmao
TOMMY IS BACK WITH THE MOST INSANLEY RELATABLE SHHHEEEEAAAAAATTTTTTT!!!
At dinner I heard my mother randomly say all Chinese people look the same and they eat everything like what 😭
I come from bangladesh, live in germany, can speak english and take french classes in school. My ass is so cooked😭🙏
as a person who does not relate to this, i fully agree
1:23 even though it's pronouced "Neye-jer-sau-rus" it's still pretty sus
I'm from an Egyptian family, I never experienced casual racism but def the language barrier, comparison, and education. I can understand arabic, specifically Egyptian or Saidi Arabic, but I can barely communicate back in it.
Saidi as in upper egypt or saudi?
@@bigsalamimommy9346 Upper Egypt
This was so refreshing. The fact that I laughed through out the video really made my day!
the racism thing is so real. my dad was born in Angola but he and his family fled to doc because of war and every once in a while when we go to Walmart or smith my dad's always like "see this one he's Congolese. Congolese people. always wanting to show off their cars" 💀
I dont think thats to bad compared to the other shit on here bro
@@kingleothesomethingsomethi285 he used to say and do way worse things but that's all i can remember
You mean Democratic republic of congo Drc
Bro this is the most relatable video I’ve seen so far
Worst feeling is when your parents are just casually racist in public with them noticing
9:41 lollllllllll fr
I swear I’m Albanien 🇦🇱 and I can speak but not that well and when I talk with my family there and I don’t understand something I literally just say yes because it’s better than saying no 😭
ngl i’ve never met an Albanian person ever in my life. Like i completely forgot y’all exist
Hello, fellow Albanian here, I'm actually fluent because I wasn't born in Nort America rather i moved here.
@AzureWolf 😂😂
For me I was Born in Kosove and speak fluent Albanian but I moved at like 1 year and so many of these things are true
the thumbnail is something else💀💀
always had my serbian family talking shit about albanians every time we got together and I loved it
Bro wtf Albanians are the best people
@@Kicks4Fun not to Serbs
Basically my sudanese parents talking about egyptians 😭👨🏾🦯
My day just got 50x better because Tommy posted
The part about hits so different cause it's so true! My entire family would do it to me all the time that I'd seat and seeth in silence too afraid of the ahh-whooping I'd get if i said anything back!😂😂😭
bro i can't even help people or else i get some insane diss in response. I aint even do something but if i get blamed im put into the belt blender
1:27 you forgot ough, which has way too many different sounds
I’ve got Cameroonian parents and they were lucky enough to be from the Anglophone side so there was never a severe language barrier in that department but there IS a language barrier for when I talk to the rest of my family who speaks their own villages’ language that I can’t learn with Duolingo and they just barley wanna teach me it 😭😭😭
10:47 the way he said mathematically lolllllll