i can't imagine how much strength it must have taken for you to discuss this with us. i can barely admit my problems and feelings to myself sometimes, nevermind sharing them with others. but i hope you know we all appreciate you doing this! love your positivity and strength.
Everyone has different problems and no one chooses to go through pain or to suffer and no matter what the struggle or problem is THEY ALL MATTER AND ARE ALL JUST AS IMPORTANT. IT TAKES A LOT TO SHARE A PERSONAL STRUGGLE AND A WEAKNESS AND AN ADDICTION AND TO BE WILLING TO DO THAT AND SHARE IT TO HELP THOSE OUT THERE IT TAKES ALL OF HER TO DO THAT BECAUSE THERE ARE SO MANY OF US WATCHING , IT MAKES HER VULNERABLE AND ITS ALSO PEOPLE THAT ARE CLOSE TO HER THAT ARE WATCHING AND THAT TAKES A LOT. DONT JUDGE SOMEONE BECAUSE THEY STRUGGLE DIFFERENTLY THAN YOU DO. KAYLI YOU ARE BRAVE AND AMAZING FOR DOING THIS . THANK YOU FOR YOUR COURAGE AND ENCOURAGEMENT BECAUSE YOU ARE JUST ANOTHER VOICE OF HOPE THAT CHOSE TO BE PUBLIC TO HELP OTHERS AND THAT IS AMAZING . DONT EVER THINK YOUR WORDS GO OUT EMPTY BECAUSE EVEN IF IT IS JUST ONE PERSON JUST ONE THAN THATS ALL THAT YOU NEED TO BE PROUD OF CHANGING SOMEONES LIFE. GOD BLESS YOU AND LOVE YOU.
To anyone struggling, you are not alone. I am on the road to recovery from anxiety and it truly does get better. You may not feel like it does now, but at some point it will. Life is worth living. You are worth living. Kayli, just hearing you talk so openly about healing the mind makes me anxiety go away for a bit and it makes me feel better. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing this series.
I really want to thank you for making these videos because even though I've never struggled with these things it's good to know what to stay away from and especially to understand and realize what people who go through these problems feel. It's easier to support loved ones when you understand them more.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. In watching your video last week I realized that I have an eating disorder. It really opened my eyes and helped me put a name to what I was feeling and realize that I'm not the only one with this problem. I can't thank you enough for that. Now I can start my own journey of healing and recovery from this disease. Thank you, Kayli. A thousand times thank you.
Kayli, you're such and amazing person! I have struggled with my weight for most of my life and have turned to everything from purging to starvation to exercise, even. Unfortunately I don't have the support from my parents to get healthy and it's hard to do alone. You honestly brought a tear to my eye and helped me realize that I need to love myself for who I am. Thank you so much for being open with us and thank you for being my support.
Your videos are so inspirational, I have never personally struggled with an eating disorder, but I know so many people going through situations of self harm that you just help me understand them. I would be so interested in seeing pictures of you at your lowest point, just because putting an image to these awful times would help me truly see it. You are so beautiful. Good luck on your journey.
I think it was important that I, and other viewers too, hear you telling us that we deserve to have help from people. I'm struggling to accept that I need to get help with the things that are bothering me. I find it so hard to go to my friends or go to a counsellor. Thank-you so much Kayli. You are a wonderful and beautiful person. Much love to you. :)
I love what you said at the end, about not feeling selfish for wanting to help ourselves. You can't possibly begin to help someone else or worry about someone else if you are not well yourself. :) You're so smart and great!
Thank you so much for making these videos, I've stopped purgeing but still find myself struggling with full recovery and I feel like these videos help remind me what I'm fighting for and why I want to take care of myself. Latley I've been a little confused about food and have struggled eating more than one or two full meals a day. I think that following these series will help put me back on a better path
I will be taking this journey with you Kayli, and it feels so good to know that you having us here along the ride is really important to you. I think that's what really stands out to me from your videos, that you really want us as viewers and you to be in this together. Love you kayli, you are such a good role model for your children and everyone out there watching your videos ❤
Hi kayli! I just want to tell you thank you for doing these videos. I have almost exactly the same story as yours and fought that fight for many many years. In my case my family never knew about my eating disorder, I kept it a secret and suffered inside along time. In my experience I think Just getting older (I'm 39) has made me more accepting of myself and gradually curbed my disorder. Your doing a wonderful thing here kayli!!! Thank you!
Kayli, thank you so much for being so mature and focused and I admire your dedication in taking on such a serious and taboo topic. I wish you and all your viewers all the best in your journey, I have not personally suffered from an eating disorder but watching your videos and reading the comments is opening my eyes and helping me understand. Thank you for being an educator and a tower of strength and my thoughts and prayers go to you and your viewers :o)
Thank you, Kayli, for your incredible kindness and honesty. One of my daughters has struggled with an eating disorder. It is so hard to handle as a parent, because so much of the eating disorder is about control--if, as a parent, you try to step in, you can just make things worse. I got my daughter in therapy and it has helped so much. She is healthy now, and working to deal with the issues that were at the heart of her eating disorder. Looking forward to more of this series.
you're voice is so soothing, i love it. You are such an inspiration and I admire you a lot. Its so great to hear you talk about your struggle because I can really relate and its great to have someone who understands these issues. I often look at your videos when I need some encouragement, so thank you for putting these up :) stay strong, you're beautiful
This is why I'm so glad that I've been subscribed to you since your channel started...because if I never was before I wouldn't be able to watch these videos and I'd still feel so alone...so glad that you're talking about all these issues. It does help ALOT . thank youu :)
Hey Kayli! I just wanted to let you know that I think this series that you've started is amazing. You are so brave to be so open about your personal struggle, because I think one of the most important things to find when you are going through something like this is someone to relate to. You're so down to earth, and so inspiring, and for so many people, that is one of the best things to find, to help them through and encourage them to fight. Keep doing what you're doing :) xxx
Like I said, Kayli's channel is by far my favourite channel when it comes to the women on the moms view. She's just so creative, so emotional, and so inspiring. I'm so glad you're talking about body image, Kayli. I started purging for 2 weeks just before you uploaded your video regarding it. I stopped right there, and am now exercising instead. You and Shay are so inspiring. I plan to look beautiful with a healthy mentality and work hard towards my goal instead of taking the easy way out.
It's not selfish, I think everyone goes through phases of not loving themselves, not being strong and struggling with their body image. And it's so easy for others to judge or say things like "just love yourself" but until they've been there and felt how you've felt, they'll never truly understand. I myself haven't been there, but I am genuinely so appreciative that you are sharing your story with us and I hope that we all can learn and share and grow from it!
She's so lucky to have you for a friend! I think focusing on making her eat is just addressing a symptom/manifestation of a greater prob for her. Talk to her about how you're scared for her, let her know you love her & so do many others, & see if you can get her to open up on what is triggering her desire to not eat. Maybe it's 1 event, maybe it's depression, maybe it's pressure from a coach/team etc. Encourage her to seek help & open up to her family too especially if you think they don't know.
After struggling with self image for a few years now, I have decided to take this journey with you, Kayli and all the other people taking the journey as well
I have struggled with weight all my life and body image and sometimes feel like food has taken over my life. I love these new videos, they have such a great message and hopefully they will help us all become happier with who we are.
thank you so much for these videos. it makes me feel like i'm not crazy and not alone. The few people that i told about my struggles with body image didn't really care that much, so i told them that i was fine now. they probably still think i just wanted attention. i'm not fine. it all started with a guy calling me fat and ugly every day. and those words bounce through my head every time i look in a mirror. thank you for putting up your story so i know i'm not the only one going through this.
I really like your question and I'd love to hear Kayli's response since she's been through it. What comes to mind for me is that we say that love is unconditional. If the voices in your head put you down, then it's not love, it's masquerading & therefore you wouldn't want to trust it. It has to be a hard struggle to overcome what you've thought to be truth for so long, but doing things that are safe and healthy for your body is the best way to love you & chase out the voices. You're worth it!
Watching your body image video was making me tear up! I have always knocked myself down over my weight or appearance. The feelings you said you felt about wanting to be normal and skinny, I remember thinking that way since I was in my first few years of elementary school. You are not alone, there are so many of us who are fighting to learn to love ourselves. :)
Kayli, you are a beautiful, amazing woman and I appreciate so much that you are doing this. I struggled with bulimia for years when I was in college. I remember asking for help so many times and nobody ever thought it was a big deal. I was finally able to stop when it started seriously affecting my heart, but even now (5 years later) it's still a struggle most days to keep my head in a good place and not revert back. I can't wait to start on this journey with you. Thank you.
Kayli, you are amazing. No matter what you say, someone out there will hear something wrong, take it out of context, or twist it into something it isn't. You are simply sharing YOUR story, and you are incredibly brave for doing that.
Kayli, I would really love to hear about the whole situation from Casey's point of view. Thank you so much for sharing. As someone who secretly struggled with bulimia for a short amount of time, I really appreciate these videos!
Oh my gosh Kayli. I love you so much. Thank you so much for this series... it means so much to me. It is definitely inspiring and helpful. Today I went out shopping and I couldn't stand to look at myself in the mirror. This journey is going to be very hard, but I am so thankful to have you to go through it with. Thanks again Kayli!!
I am 15 and I can't remember to ever be pleased with how I look like. I tried so many different ways to get better and even if I'm not obese I still feel bad with myself when I see everybody else. I was bullied before and than I had a depression and I was crying everyday because no one really understood me and than I moved to another country with my mom. I didn't change since then but I started to accept myself and I hope I will find the motivation to finally do it. You really inspired me !!!
Kayli, you are the first person I have ever looked up to not based completely on outer beauty. Ever since I can remember I have always been looking up to other girls in my life based on how skinny they were, or their pretty, hair, or the way they do their makeup, and I would idolize them and want to be like them. But that completely changed when I found you. I look up to you for your kindness, as a caring mother, and for the inner beauty that shines in you. You have helped me heal, thank you :)
It's nice that you read through the comments and respond to peoples concerns I just hope that you don't let the comments prevent you from telling your story and giving advice the best way you can.
Kayli, thank you for putting your story out there for everyone. I'm looking forward to learning about health with you and seeing all of your future videos. You and your whole family are so inspiring!!
kayli, you are so brave for opening up about your struggles. i think you are beautiful on the inside AND the outside! can't wait to see your next videos.
i've struggled with bulimia for the last 5 years, however the thoughts started way before that. I recently sought help back in october and did not really take recovery seriously till december and there are some days where i don't think i will be able to beat this but i know that recovery is totally worth it and i always try my best to not give in to the urges or the thoughts that reappear every so often. Thank you for being an inspiration and sharing your story
Thanks so much for being honest. You will help so many people by doing this series of videos! I am sure it is very painful for you, you are an amazing, caring person. I look forward seeing your parents discussing how they felt while you were struggling. I am sure it was so difficult. Would love to hear from Casey as well. Thank you Kayli for your strength!!
I used to be self-conscious about my image (being a bit heavier, and taller) I felt, even at a young age that i was just so imperfect. Now i'm not self-conscious, because i worked with what i was given. I had people come into my life that felt much worse then me in this way, i thought it's wrong for me to say these things to them, when i'm not being honest to myself, this caused me to change how i saw myself for others, and it really does work! love you Kayli :)
Just telling someone that they are beautiful does SO much. Whenever I look at myself in the mirror and these negative thoughts just start pouring in, I remember the times my friends have complimented me and I automatically feel so much better about myself. It may seem conceited for me to say that, but it is true. I just told one of my friends today that she looked pretty and I could tell that that lit up her day. Seriously, give the people you love compliments! They go a long way.
Again, I am so glad that I found your body image videos. I pray that as I watch them I will continue to be enlightened and hope that I can make certain changes in my life as it relates to exercise, healthy food choices, and working on my self-esteem. I wish you all the best on your journey and look forward to seeing more of your videos.
these are going to be some of the most important videos on youtube!! a lot of lives are going to be changed and a lot of people are going to be affected by that - thank YOU
Dear Kayli, thanks so much for sharing this with us. I'm hopeful for this journey and that we will all get a little better and healthier. Yesterday was a bad day for me, but I heard these lyrics in a song and they really stuck out to me: "This isn't everything you are". I truly want to believe that; that all my sadness and my hatred and this drowning chaos isn't all I am, I'm more than this and I don't have to let it define me. xx
I was in the same boat years ago. I was overweight and people at that age notice for sure. Just find those good friends that like you for you, people they are the important. Life is amazing by being who you are. When you are ready you eating healthier but please believe in yourself!
“Don’t focus on the people that don’t understand.” Solid advice. Followed by even more good advice: “Just try to understand that they don’t understand.” Needed that.
Thank you for posting these videos and talking about it, I feel like it is overlooked a lot of the times, and people just do not want to discuss it. From the amount of comments I read here, it is obviously a big issue within our society, just as important as children in Africa or poverty. We need to start talking about it, and you are doing an amazing thing by sharing your story an giving everyone else a chance to open up.
I really appreciate you addressing the comments about the starving kids in Africa. When I am going through a hard time and I go to talk to someone, they always tell me that my problems are nothing because there are others suffering more than me. And that makes me feel so little and that I don't matter. But now, I feel better because of what you've taught me. I am beautiful! You ARE beautiful! Thank you so much! I'm on this journey with you too!! HEALTH MINDS FTW!
you made me tear up at the end. I don't have any kind of eating disorder, but I truly feel for every one who is struggling. Any kind of addiction is hard, because it takes over your life. I just want to say to all -YOU CAN DO IT- YOU SHALL OVERCOME AND HAVE SUCCESS!!! GOD BLESS!!!
I think this is just such an amazing and important thing you are doing. Thanks Kayli for having such a big heart for others. Eating disorders rob so many amazing lives of joy, freedom, happiness, & control- so often the biggest thing we thing we are achieving. I loved what you said about the lies. All of which we see as total truth. Thanks for really caring enough to shine light on to this all and reach out to others.
I don't have a body image problem(s) but I will be continue watching & supporting your journey. I believe any positive discussion about mental health disorders will help spread the word and diminish stereotypes that mental health disorders have.
First off, your hair looks great in this video :P Second, I am so proud of you that you are willing to use your experiences to help others! You have a big heart, and I am glad you are making these videos!!
I appreciate this forum! I want to add to my earlier statement that I on a daily basis, deal with self love issues. It is so hard to love my 'whole' self, but I do, thru outward activities, show my self that I'm worthy of love, and therefore worthy of having good health and good healthy habits. I want to show my kids that I don't need to sacrifice my health to do unto others. I show that I can better serve the world or just my inner family if I come from a place of self love.
it makes me really mad that people automatically jump to the whole "there are way more problems in the world" then don't watch these videos! obviously these people don't understand and don't want to understand. thank you for sharing your story kayli and thank you for making these videos. you are awesome and you'll get through this :)
I can't wait to hear more about this. I really struggle with body image all the time. I know I should be happier about myself but I don't know how to get there.
Wow thank you so so much. I do not have this problem but I took what you said and applied it to my own life. Literally texted my guy and said I wanted to be there for him he doesn't need to go through his emotional pain alone. I want him to know that he's special so thank you for opening up my mind of how I can help.
Wow, that's how I feel.. Like my problems isn't important enough to talk about. I have never really had an eating disorder, but I've skipped meals and struggled with my body image but I've never told Anyone... Thank you Kayli♥ you're so beautiful and so strong and thank you for sharing your story
It's good this is being talked about here. I've seen so many girl glorifying eating disorders online and not realizing that what they do is hurting their friends because they feel so good about it and it's really heart breaking and a larger issue than people care to pay attention to.
Excellent video Kayli. You are very well-spoken on this issue and come across in such a genuine way. I especially admire that you addressed some negative comments and concerns in a straightforward way. You're on the right track! I know you will be helping many girls and young women.
At around 08:00 you spoke about you needing a reason to be a better person, I see that fate/the universe presented to you an opportunity (your child) to be loved/needed. I think that's your personal pathway for this journey. It is a blessing that you came to see this and act on it. I think in general, 'we' need to put our selves 1st if only so that 'we' can better serve selflessly with 'our' cups runneth over. It's hard to give what's needed if 'we' are operating at half mass. Show by example..
I feel like I either eat too much or not enough. I'm looking forward to this journey Kayli. Thank you so much for being such an inspiration. I appreciate everything you are doing :)
We're so proud of Kayli and support her each step of this journey. Has Kayli's new series helped you all in anyway? Do any of you relate to having an eating disorder or know someone that has one? xo
Wow. This was an awesome video. I really like the points you made and I like that you referenced those comments; your responses to them were enlightening. I haven't ever had an eating disorger but I think there are so many great messages in the things you've said, I think it'd be good for anyone to here them even if there isn't any issue of an eating disorder.
your words and your attitude are so warm .. .. in this moment you encouraged me to fight harder .. i know that im on a good way .. but i can do better ..
You are not selfish. I can't believe people would think that. It is a mental issue the same as many others like depression. I really enjoy all your videos Kayli!
Sharing your story with us has really helped me. I would have never guessed that you had an eating disorder at one point in your life. I'm 18 now and turning 19 this year. I struggle with body image issues and have done things to avoid gaining weight. Just, thank you. Your story made me feel like I had a big sister to look up to.
7 years ago when I was 13 I developed anorexia and bulimia. It's been a struggle over the past 7 years because I've overcome anorexia but still have bouts of bulimia. I was diagnosed with overeating 4 years ago and have overcome that as well. It's awesome to be able to know that other people out there are going through eating disorders as well and are overcoming it or have overcome it.
It's hard NOT to be addicted to working out. It feels SO good to do it. And then when you accomplish something, like today, I finally ran 12km in good time too, the accomplishment you feel, and the changes you know WILL come from it, is addicting! I couldn't even IMAGINE what it would be like if I stopped exercising. I'd die.
I haven't had the same problems, but I suffer with bipolar disorder and ocd which controls my mind in such a scary way. I'm just starting my journey to get a healthy mind, and body, and no matter if the subject is a little different I still take a lot from your videos. You're an incredible person. xoxo
My body image issues started when I was ten and bullied for my weight and appearance. My naive fifth-grade self even tried to throw up (with eating a lot of salt. I didn't know how to stick my finger down my throat) and develop wannarexia. My troubles have persisted since then and I've only just been starting to develop my body image issues. Thank you so much for your bravery, Kayli.
Kayli is so sweet! :') A reason to fight a little bit harder... beautiful, it's like also something Shay said in his I did it Mom video,@ 23:02, he said a quote by someone named Anthony Robbins: Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change! So true! Very inspiring! I'm going through changes, not feeling well, hair falling out, overweight, so I need to fight a little bit harder, the pain is greater than so it's time for change! ♥
I dont normaly comment of videos, but i just want to let you know you are beautiful and so strong to be able to share your story with youtube. If i can be even half as strong and as beautiful as you one day i would be happy. I am really proud of you for doing this and i already feel like you have helped me see myself slightly differently. Love you kayli. stay strong and keep up the good work
1. Kayli, I feel that this journey you are instigating has a great potential for a powerful group healing endeavor! There is something very powerful about a large group doing this together - and, in the way you are doing it, it is a brand new kind of thing - how very exciting.
Kaylie- I dealt with excessively exercising along with anorexia! After I realized that i was harming myself by doing both, i began to workout for the fun of working out! not the fact that i was burning calories!! When i came to college was really tough for me because i became a very stressful and emotional eater, but i had another epiphany, and i realized i wanted to eat to LIVE not live to EAT! it was the best thing that I had heard myself say! i still have a long way to go! HERE WE GO=]
have you looked into intuitive eating? i have suffered from food obsession, binge eating and self hatred and this method was shown to me by a RD that i was working alongside. I highly recommend it, there are several books out, it really helps get past the mental barriers. thank you for your videos!
Thank you Kayli for talking about this subject. Lately, I have been struggling with my own body image, comparing to others, feeling disgusted at my reflection in the mirror. I need to find a healthy relationship with food also, I'm also an emotional eater. I also tend to starve myself and then binge. I am not to the point of being anorexic, I'm not skinny enough to be one. Maybe you or your trainer can recommend books for emotional eaters. You are beautiful! Keep up the good work.
Well, my struggle with body image has been getting better since I started doing therapy, and started I listening to complements more. I've noticed that people like things in me that I have never paid attention to, or thought "hm, this is not beautiful". Other people don't see me the way I do, so their positive opinions have been helping notice my qualities myself and then I decide "well, yes, I also think that's beautiful in me"
I don't understand why someone feels the need to tell you that you're giving people suffering with eating disorders the wrong message? You had your own personal journey and everybody gets through these problems differently, you are so bravely telling the world about your story and showing how life gets better and how their is hope. You are doing so much by speaking about this issue and I and hundreds of other people are so thankful of that, you don't need to justify your words to me :) xxxxxxxxx
i can't imagine how much strength it must have taken for you to discuss this with us. i can barely admit my problems and feelings to myself sometimes, nevermind sharing them with others. but i hope you know we all appreciate you doing this! love your positivity and strength.
Everyone has different problems and no one chooses to go through pain or to suffer and no matter what the struggle or problem is THEY ALL MATTER AND ARE ALL JUST AS IMPORTANT. IT TAKES A LOT TO SHARE A PERSONAL STRUGGLE AND A WEAKNESS AND AN ADDICTION AND TO BE WILLING TO DO THAT AND SHARE IT TO HELP THOSE OUT THERE IT TAKES ALL OF HER TO DO THAT BECAUSE THERE ARE SO MANY OF US WATCHING , IT MAKES HER VULNERABLE AND ITS ALSO PEOPLE THAT ARE CLOSE TO HER THAT ARE WATCHING AND THAT TAKES A LOT. DONT JUDGE SOMEONE BECAUSE THEY STRUGGLE DIFFERENTLY THAN YOU DO. KAYLI YOU ARE BRAVE AND AMAZING FOR DOING THIS . THANK YOU FOR YOUR COURAGE AND ENCOURAGEMENT BECAUSE YOU ARE JUST ANOTHER VOICE OF HOPE THAT CHOSE TO BE PUBLIC TO HELP OTHERS AND THAT IS AMAZING . DONT EVER THINK YOUR WORDS GO OUT EMPTY BECAUSE EVEN IF IT IS JUST ONE PERSON JUST ONE THAN THATS ALL THAT YOU NEED TO BE PROUD OF CHANGING SOMEONES LIFE. GOD BLESS YOU AND LOVE YOU.
To anyone struggling, you are not alone. I am on the road to recovery from anxiety and it truly does get better. You may not feel like it does now, but at some point it will. Life is worth living. You are worth living. Kayli, just hearing you talk so openly about healing the mind makes me anxiety go away for a bit and it makes me feel better. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing this series.
I really want to thank you for making these videos because even though I've never struggled with these things it's good to know what to stay away from and especially to understand and realize what people who go through these problems feel. It's easier to support loved ones when you understand them more.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. In watching your video last week I realized that I have an eating disorder. It really opened my eyes and helped me put a name to what I was feeling and realize that I'm not the only one with this problem. I can't thank you enough for that. Now I can start my own journey of healing and recovery from this disease. Thank you, Kayli. A thousand times thank you.
Thumbs up for Kayli, and all of you who share your own personal experiences and struggles! xo
Kayli, you're such and amazing person! I have struggled with my weight for most of my life and have turned to everything from purging to starvation to exercise, even. Unfortunately I don't have the support from my parents to get healthy and it's hard to do alone. You honestly brought a tear to my eye and helped me realize that I need to love myself for who I am. Thank you so much for being open with us and thank you for being my support.
Your videos are so inspirational, I have never personally struggled with an eating disorder, but I know so many people going through situations of self harm that you just help me understand them. I would be so interested in seeing pictures of you at your lowest point, just because putting an image to these awful times would help me truly see it. You are so beautiful. Good luck on your journey.
I think it was important that I, and other viewers too, hear you telling us that we deserve to have help from people. I'm struggling to accept that I need to get help with the things that are bothering me. I find it so hard to go to my friends or go to a counsellor.
Thank-you so much Kayli. You are a wonderful and beautiful person. Much love to you. :)
I love what you said at the end, about not feeling selfish for wanting to help ourselves. You can't possibly begin to help someone else or worry about someone else if you are not well yourself. :) You're so smart and great!
Thank you so much for making these videos, I've stopped purgeing but still find myself struggling with full recovery and I feel like these videos help remind me what I'm fighting for and why I want to take care of myself. Latley I've been a little confused about food and have struggled eating more than one or two full meals a day. I think that following these series will help put me back on a better path
I will be taking this journey with you Kayli, and it feels so good to know that you having us here along the ride is really important to you. I think that's what really stands out to me from your videos, that you really want us as viewers and you to be in this together. Love you kayli, you are such a good role model for your children and everyone out there watching your videos ❤
Hi kayli! I just want to tell you thank you for doing these videos. I have almost exactly the same story as yours and fought that fight for many many years. In my case my family never knew about my eating disorder, I kept it a secret and suffered inside along time. In my experience I think Just getting older (I'm 39) has made me more accepting of myself and gradually curbed my disorder. Your doing a wonderful thing here kayli!!! Thank you!
Kayli, thank you so much for being so mature and focused and I admire your dedication in taking on such a serious and taboo topic. I wish you and all your viewers all the best in your journey, I have not personally suffered from an eating disorder but watching your videos and reading the comments is opening my eyes and helping me understand. Thank you for being an educator and a tower of strength and my thoughts and prayers go to you and your viewers :o)
Thank you, Kayli, for your incredible kindness and honesty. One of my daughters has struggled with an eating disorder. It is so hard to handle as a parent, because so much of the eating disorder is about control--if, as a parent, you try to step in, you can just make things worse. I got my daughter in therapy and it has helped so much. She is healthy now, and working to deal with the issues that were at the heart of her eating disorder. Looking forward to more of this series.
you're voice is so soothing, i love it. You are such an inspiration and I admire you a lot. Its so great to hear you talk about your struggle because I can really relate and its great to have someone who understands these issues. I often look at your videos when I need some encouragement, so thank you for putting these up :) stay strong, you're beautiful
This is why I'm so glad that I've been subscribed to you since your channel started...because if I never was before I wouldn't be able to watch these videos and I'd still feel so alone...so glad that you're talking about all these issues. It does help ALOT . thank youu :)
Hey Kayli! I just wanted to let you know that I think this series that you've started is amazing. You are so brave to be so open about your personal struggle, because I think one of the most important things to find when you are going through something like this is someone to relate to. You're so down to earth, and so inspiring, and for so many people, that is one of the best things to find, to help them through and encourage them to fight. Keep doing what you're doing :) xxx
I love what you said about the world's struggles and how we ARE apart of that! Every single one of us matters. Such a good reminder.
Like I said, Kayli's channel is by far my favourite channel when it comes to the women on the moms view. She's just so creative, so emotional, and so inspiring. I'm so glad you're talking about body image, Kayli. I started purging for 2 weeks just before you uploaded your video regarding it. I stopped right there, and am now exercising instead. You and Shay are so inspiring. I plan to look beautiful with a healthy mentality and work hard towards my goal instead of taking the easy way out.
It's not selfish, I think everyone goes through phases of not loving themselves, not being strong and struggling with their body image. And it's so easy for others to judge or say things like "just love yourself" but until they've been there and felt how you've felt, they'll never truly understand. I myself haven't been there, but I am genuinely so appreciative that you are sharing your story with us and I hope that we all can learn and share and grow from it!
Kayli, I really respect you for looking out for your viewers concerns. It really shows you are a genuine person. You are going to help save lives!
She's so lucky to have you for a friend! I think focusing on making her eat is just addressing a symptom/manifestation of a greater prob for her. Talk to her about how you're scared for her, let her know you love her & so do many others, & see if you can get her to open up on what is triggering her desire to not eat. Maybe it's 1 event, maybe it's depression, maybe it's pressure from a coach/team etc. Encourage her to seek help & open up to her family too especially if you think they don't know.
After struggling with self image for a few years now, I have decided to take this journey with you, Kayli and all the other people taking the journey as well
I have struggled with weight all my life and body image and sometimes feel like food has taken over my life. I love these new videos, they have such a great message and hopefully they will help us all become happier with who we are.
i love how you just opened your arms and heart up to any hate comments with love and understanding. this was a beautiful video.
thank you so much for these videos. it makes me feel like i'm not crazy and not alone. The few people that i told about my struggles with body image didn't really care that much, so i told them that i was fine now. they probably still think i just wanted attention. i'm not fine. it all started with a guy calling me fat and ugly every day. and those words bounce through my head every time i look in a mirror. thank you for putting up your story so i know i'm not the only one going through this.
I really like your question and I'd love to hear Kayli's response since she's been through it. What comes to mind for me is that we say that love is unconditional. If the voices in your head put you down, then it's not love, it's masquerading & therefore you wouldn't want to trust it. It has to be a hard struggle to overcome what you've thought to be truth for so long, but doing things that are safe and healthy for your body is the best way to love you & chase out the voices. You're worth it!
Watching your body image video was making me tear up! I have always knocked myself down over my weight or appearance. The feelings you said you felt about wanting to be normal and skinny, I remember thinking that way since I was in my first few years of elementary school. You are not alone, there are so many of us who are fighting to learn to love ourselves. :)
You are truly amazing for sharing this with us Kaylii
Kayli, you are a beautiful, amazing woman and I appreciate so much that you are doing this. I struggled with bulimia for years when I was in college. I remember asking for help so many times and nobody ever thought it was a big deal. I was finally able to stop when it started seriously affecting my heart, but even now (5 years later) it's still a struggle most days to keep my head in a good place and not revert back. I can't wait to start on this journey with you. Thank you.
Kayli, you are amazing. No matter what you say, someone out there will hear something wrong, take it out of context, or twist it into something it isn't. You are simply sharing YOUR story, and you are incredibly brave for doing that.
Kayli, I would really love to hear about the whole situation from Casey's point of view. Thank you so much for sharing. As someone who secretly struggled with bulimia for a short amount of time, I really appreciate these videos!
Oh my gosh Kayli. I love you so much. Thank you so much for this series... it means so much to me. It is definitely inspiring and helpful. Today I went out shopping and I couldn't stand to look at myself in the mirror. This journey is going to be very hard, but I am so thankful to have you to go through it with. Thanks again Kayli!!
I am 15 and I can't remember to ever be pleased with how I look like. I tried so many different ways to get better and even if I'm not obese I still feel bad with myself when I see everybody else. I was bullied before and than I had a depression and I was crying everyday because no one really understood me and than I moved to another country with my mom. I didn't change since then but I started to accept myself and I hope I will find the motivation to finally do it. You really inspired me !!!
Kayli, you are the first person I have ever looked up to not based completely on outer beauty. Ever since I can remember I have always been looking up to other girls in my life based on how skinny they were, or their pretty, hair, or the way they do their makeup, and I would idolize them and want to be like them. But that completely changed when I found you. I look up to you for your kindness, as a caring mother, and for the inner beauty that shines in you. You have helped me heal, thank you :)
It's nice that you read through the comments and respond to peoples concerns I just hope that you don't let the comments prevent you from telling your story and giving advice the best way you can.
Kayli, thank you for putting your story out there for everyone. I'm looking forward to learning about health with you and seeing all of your future videos. You and your whole family are so inspiring!!
kayli, you are so brave for opening up about your struggles. i think you are beautiful on the inside AND the outside! can't wait to see your next videos.
i've struggled with bulimia for the last 5 years, however the thoughts started way before that. I recently sought help back in october and did not really take recovery seriously till december and there are some days where i don't think i will be able to beat this but i know that recovery is totally worth it and i always try my best to not give in to the urges or the thoughts that reappear every so often. Thank you for being an inspiration and sharing your story
Thanks so much for being honest. You will help so many people by doing this series of videos! I am sure it is very painful for you, you are an amazing, caring person. I look forward seeing your parents discussing how they felt while you were struggling. I am sure it was so difficult. Would love to hear from Casey as well. Thank you Kayli for your strength!!
I used to be self-conscious about my image (being a bit heavier, and taller) I felt, even at a young age that i was just so imperfect. Now i'm not self-conscious, because i worked with what i was given. I had people come into my life that felt much worse then me in this way, i thought it's wrong for me to say these things to them, when i'm not being honest to myself, this caused me to change how i saw myself for others, and it really does work! love you Kayli :)
It's so amazing that you're discussing a majorly taboo topic, and I know that it is helping so many people struggling with this disorder.
Just telling someone that they are beautiful does SO much. Whenever I look at myself in the mirror and these negative thoughts just start pouring in, I remember the times my friends have complimented me and I automatically feel so much better about myself. It may seem conceited for me to say that, but it is true. I just told one of my friends today that she looked pretty and I could tell that that lit up her day. Seriously, give the people you love compliments! They go a long way.
Again, I am so glad that I found your body image videos. I pray that as I watch them I will continue to be enlightened and hope that I can make certain changes in my life as it relates to exercise, healthy food choices, and working on my self-esteem. I wish you all the best on your journey and look forward to seeing more of your videos.
I love that you're talking about this Kayli. You've made my day so much better!
You are so open and trusting in your fans :) I honestly don't think I could have the strength you have!
these are going to be some of the most important videos on youtube!!
a lot of lives are going to be changed and a lot of people are going to be affected by that
- thank YOU
Dear Kayli,
thanks so much for sharing this with us. I'm hopeful for this journey and that we will all get a little better and healthier. Yesterday was a bad day for me, but I heard these lyrics in a song and they really stuck out to me: "This isn't everything you are". I truly want to believe that; that all my sadness and my hatred and this drowning chaos isn't all I am, I'm more than this and I don't have to let it define me. xx
I was in the same boat years ago. I was overweight and people at that age notice for sure. Just find those good friends that like you for you, people they are the important. Life is amazing by being who you are. When you are ready you eating healthier but please believe in yourself!
“Don’t focus on the people that don’t understand.” Solid advice. Followed by even more good advice: “Just try to understand that they don’t understand.” Needed that.
Thank you for posting these videos and talking about it, I feel like it is overlooked a lot of the times, and people just do not want to discuss it. From the amount of comments I read here, it is obviously a big issue within our society, just as important as children in Africa or poverty. We need to start talking about it, and you are doing an amazing thing by sharing your story an giving everyone else a chance to open up.
I really appreciate you addressing the comments about the starving kids in Africa. When I am going through a hard time and I go to talk to someone, they always tell me that my problems are nothing because there are others suffering more than me. And that makes me feel so little and that I don't matter. But now, I feel better because of what you've taught me. I am beautiful! You ARE beautiful! Thank you so much! I'm on this journey with you too!! HEALTH MINDS FTW!
Great job Kayli. This is such an important message to so many people. Thanks for being strong enough to share your journey.
you made me tear up at the end. I don't have any kind of eating disorder, but I truly feel for every one who is struggling. Any kind of addiction is hard, because it takes over your life. I just want to say to all -YOU CAN DO IT- YOU SHALL OVERCOME AND HAVE SUCCESS!!! GOD BLESS!!!
I think this is just such an amazing and important thing you are doing. Thanks Kayli for having such a big heart for others. Eating disorders rob so many amazing lives of joy, freedom, happiness, & control- so often the biggest thing we thing we are achieving. I loved what you said about the lies. All of which we see as total truth. Thanks for really caring enough to shine light on to this all and reach out to others.
I don't have a body image problem(s) but I will be continue watching & supporting your journey. I believe any positive discussion about mental health disorders will help spread the word and diminish stereotypes that mental health disorders have.
First off, your hair looks great in this video :P Second, I am so proud of you that you are willing to use your experiences to help others! You have a big heart, and I am glad you are making these videos!!
I appreciate this forum! I want to add to my earlier statement that I on a daily basis, deal with self love issues. It is so hard to love my 'whole' self, but I do, thru outward activities, show my self that I'm worthy of love, and therefore worthy of having good health and good healthy habits. I want to show my kids that I don't need to sacrifice my health to do unto others. I show that I can better serve the world or just my inner family if I come from a place of self love.
it makes me really mad that people automatically jump to the whole "there are way more problems in the world" then don't watch these videos! obviously these people don't understand and don't want to understand. thank you for sharing your story kayli and thank you for making these videos. you are awesome and you'll get through this :)
Kayli, thanks you so much by being so brave and sharing your story and bringing those terrible memories back. You are my insperation! love you Kayli
kayli you are so inspiring. i am glad you're sharing this story with those who truly need it. god put you in this place for a very good reason
I can't wait to hear more about this. I really struggle with body image all the time. I know I should be happier about myself but I don't know how to get there.
Oh you have such a sweet voice. It instantly makes me calm. Thank you for sharing with us. We love you!!
Wow thank you so so much. I do not have this problem but I took what you said and applied it to my own life. Literally texted my guy and said I wanted to be there for him he doesn't need to go through his emotional pain alone. I want him to know that he's special so thank you for opening up my mind of how I can help.
Wow, that's how I feel.. Like my problems isn't important enough to talk about. I have never really had an eating disorder, but I've skipped meals and struggled with my body image but I've never told Anyone... Thank you Kayli♥ you're so beautiful and so strong and thank you for sharing your story
It's good this is being talked about here. I've seen so many girl glorifying eating disorders online and not realizing that what they do is hurting their friends because they feel so good about it and it's really heart breaking and a larger issue than people care to pay attention to.
Excellent video Kayli. You are very well-spoken on this issue and come across in such a genuine way. I especially admire that you addressed some negative comments and concerns in a straightforward way. You're on the right track! I know you will be helping many girls and young women.
I cant thank you enough for making these videos. Your talks inspire me to get better, and i cant wait to go on the journey with you!
At around 08:00 you spoke about you needing a reason to be a better person, I see that fate/the universe presented to you an opportunity (your child) to be loved/needed. I think that's your personal pathway for this journey. It is a blessing that you came to see this and act on it. I think in general, 'we' need to put our selves 1st if only so that 'we' can better serve selflessly with 'our' cups runneth over. It's hard to give what's needed if 'we' are operating at half mass. Show by example..
I feel like I either eat too much or not enough. I'm looking forward to this journey Kayli. Thank you so much for being such an inspiration. I appreciate everything you are doing :)
We're so proud of Kayli and support her each step of this journey. Has Kayli's new series helped you all in anyway? Do any of you relate to having an eating disorder or know someone that has one? xo
Kayli, I really appreciate how real you're being with us :)
You are such a genuine, good person Kayli! It's so brave of you to share with us. Good to see some positivity on the internet for a change too! :)
Kayli, you are so beautiful. Even though I've never had a problem with an eating disorder, I feel so inspired to make my body healthier!! Thank you.
Wow. This was an awesome video. I really like the points you made and I like that you referenced those comments; your responses to them were enlightening. I haven't ever had an eating disorger but I think there are so many great messages in the things you've said, I think it'd be good for anyone to here them even if there isn't any issue of an eating disorder.
your words and your attitude are so warm .. .. in this moment you encouraged me to fight harder .. i know that im on a good way .. but i can do better ..
You are not selfish. I can't believe people would think that. It is a mental issue the same as many others like depression. I really enjoy all your videos Kayli!
Sharing your story with us has really helped me. I would have never guessed that you had an eating disorder at one point in your life. I'm 18 now and turning 19 this year. I struggle with body image issues and have done things to avoid gaining weight. Just, thank you. Your story made me feel like I had a big sister to look up to.
7 years ago when I was 13 I developed anorexia and bulimia. It's been a struggle over the past 7 years because I've overcome anorexia but still have bouts of bulimia. I was diagnosed with overeating 4 years ago and have overcome that as well. It's awesome to be able to know that other people out there are going through eating disorders as well and are overcoming it or have overcome it.
It's hard NOT to be addicted to working out. It feels SO good to do it. And then when you accomplish something, like today, I finally ran 12km in good time too, the accomplishment you feel, and the changes you know WILL come from it, is addicting! I couldn't even IMAGINE what it would be like if I stopped exercising. I'd die.
you are the most gentle and caring person kayli! so amazing and beautiful
I am watching this series in amazement- you are so strong!
I haven't had the same problems, but I suffer with bipolar disorder and ocd which controls my mind in such a scary way. I'm just starting my journey to get a healthy mind, and body, and no matter if the subject is a little different I still take a lot from your videos. You're an incredible person. xoxo
My body image issues started when I was ten and bullied for my weight and appearance. My naive fifth-grade self even tried to throw up (with eating a lot of salt. I didn't know how to stick my finger down my throat) and develop wannarexia. My troubles have persisted since then and I've only just been starting to develop my body image issues. Thank you so much for your bravery, Kayli.
Kayli is so sweet! :')
A reason to fight a little bit harder... beautiful, it's like also something Shay said in his I did it Mom video,@ 23:02, he said a quote by someone named Anthony Robbins: Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change! So true! Very inspiring! I'm going through changes, not feeling well, hair falling out, overweight, so I need to fight a little bit harder, the pain is greater than so it's time for change! ♥
kayli you are wonderful. thank you for this. you are helping so many people you have no idea. including myself. thank you.
I dont normaly comment of videos, but i just want to let you know you are beautiful and so strong to be able to share your story with youtube. If i can be even half as strong and as beautiful as you one day i would be happy. I am really proud of you for doing this and i already feel like you have helped me see myself slightly differently. Love you kayli. stay strong and keep up the good work
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Kayli, I feel that this journey you are instigating has a great potential for a powerful group healing endeavor! There is something very powerful about a large group doing this together - and, in the way you are doing it, it is a brand new kind of thing - how very exciting.
love you kayli
I'm really excited for this. I think when you say we need to find something that causes us to push a little harder... I think i've found it.
Kaylie- I dealt with excessively exercising along with anorexia! After I realized that i was harming myself by doing both, i began to workout for the fun of working out! not the fact that i was burning calories!! When i came to college was really tough for me because i became a very stressful and emotional eater, but i had another epiphany, and i realized i wanted to eat to LIVE not live to EAT! it was the best thing that I had heard myself say! i still have a long way to go! HERE WE GO=]
Yes more vlog style videos! I like the laid-backness of the vids filmed in your house. :)
You're wonderful Kayli, so warm & inspiring
have you looked into intuitive eating? i have suffered from food obsession, binge eating and self hatred and this method was shown to me by a RD that i was working alongside. I highly recommend it, there are several books out, it really helps get past the mental barriers. thank you for your videos!
Well said. Stay strong Kayli and everyone else out there struggling with anything, no matter what it may be.
Thank you Kayli for talking about this subject. Lately, I have been struggling with my own body image, comparing to others, feeling disgusted at my reflection in the mirror. I need to find a healthy relationship with food also, I'm also an emotional eater. I also tend to starve myself and then binge. I am not to the point of being anorexic, I'm not skinny enough to be one. Maybe you or your trainer can recommend books for emotional eaters. You are beautiful! Keep up the good work.
YAY KAYLI!! I can't wait for the series to begin! :) I am so excited to transform my thinking and perception of myself. :D
Well, my struggle with body image has been getting better since I started doing therapy, and started I listening to complements more. I've noticed that people like things in me that I have never paid attention to, or thought "hm, this is not beautiful". Other people don't see me the way I do, so their positive opinions have been helping notice my qualities myself and then I decide "well, yes, I also think that's beautiful in me"
I don't understand why someone feels the need to tell you that you're giving people suffering with eating disorders the wrong message? You had your own personal journey and everybody gets through these problems differently, you are so bravely telling the world about your story and showing how life gets better and how their is hope. You are doing so much by speaking about this issue and I and hundreds of other people are so thankful of that, you don't need to justify your words to me :) xxxxxxxxx