Being too clingy is one of my red flags as well. I feel like personal space is really important in a relationship or if you’re in a talking stage. It gives you and your partner time to miss each other.
It depends. My husband seemed clingy but he was just serious and intentional about making me his wife. I know dating now is alot harder than 15 years ago but don't write off all men too soon 🤗
i'm 19 and I've never been on a date, honestly I think the fear of sitting down and talking face to face scares me and I'm also afraid of men in every way LOLLL
When I was young, dating was fun!! My friends would roll up, we would even drop off and pick each other up! Guys were much nicer, funnier, and really enjoyed the attention! Find guys who just want to be friends first! ☺
Awwww you’re so young… always remember safety first.. who cares if you hurt anyone’s feelings… safety first!!!!! Wait at least 3 months before going to his house
Men who randomly bring up their ex & talk badly about her. Men who listen to red pill content. Men who talk about how expensive things are. Men who say women look better without makeup instead of complimenting how beautiful his date looks🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩!!!!!!! But more importantly. Men who plan the date in advance. Men who bring flowers. Men who express genuine interest in getting to know me. Men who smell incredible ✅✅✅✅✅✅✅✅ btw. Loveeee the final look 😍😍 & the men over 30 statement about rushing is so true LOL!
I fully agree, but why does men taking about how expensive things are mean he's a red flag. I've never been on a date (I'm still in high school) so idk
@@raiinyy776 from PERSONAL experience, my last ex did this all the time. come to find out, he was broke... and he was mostly broke because he was spending all his money on a video game. its not a bad thing to call out if something is expensive by means of it not being worth the value its being sold for, but if he talks about just any and everything being expensive, he probably has some financial issues or some kind. its hard to explain/describe, but if he does it CONSTANTLY, then it is an issue.
My friend always used the saying… ‘there’s truth in a joke’. Disrespect is disrespect… no 2 ways ab it. A judgy guy many times, sadly has had past issues with abuse or he may have ‘standards’.
i think i saw a video a long time ago depicting ways a man can turn out to be physically abusive and it starts off with harmless “jokes” disrespecting her and then it escalated in him pushing the girl in a ice skating rink because he got too mad until it was full on very bad physical abuse! and you just laugh it off as a joke at first but it is something to look out for and call out if you feel disrespected in any way
A judgy guy w/standards, may very well be a Spiritual man… still… he’s not the judge… God is. @essyboo, I agree, abuse can start off in baby steps… and if parents don’t “nip it in the bud”, such as boys beating up their sisters… they may grow up hitting, abusing their women.
A judgy man may be a Spiritual man but it’s not his place to judge. Good point. Some abusers abuse from what happened to them, others may have hit their sisters + that’s where parents need to step in from the door… from day one.
Somebody on tiktok said she doesn't talk otp/text men every day who she's "just dating" because it creates a level of emotional intimacy for her that is unsustainable esp. if they never get together. And that clicked for me. I cannot invest 3-5 hours of my day (outside of an actual date) with you and not get caught up emotionally. So my rule is when it's time to be official, you can get my time.
But people are different. Some people are more extroverted and emotionally aware. There is someone for everyone and one theory is hard to apply to so many different personalities. This idea makes sense but how do you build with anyone emotionally or decide who deserves your time if you don't put in any to make it grow for future steps? There just has to be a balance depending on if your personality seems to match theirs. Especially because first dates are a bit awkward and it takes investigation to decide if the next dates are feasible. Long but my opinion on this. I'm 30 and dating was hard when I was overthinking it. Now I'm going to be married because I found someone online, didn't overthink, and once I understood our personalities matched and our conversation styles did (which doesn't take too long) , I put in the effort and fell in love❤
@@Mikirono23a lot of girls send long ass in depth paragraphs to their girlfriends when texting. So it’s not a totally foreign feeling to do it with a guy too
- A man that is overly attached to his mom and relies on her to do basic things for him - A man that needs to be touching/kissing you all the fucking time, like can't we just talk? - A man that doesn't even notice you are uncomfortable in a situation if you don't voice it.
Best advice I got very early give a relationship 3 months to figure out whether on not you want to be with each other if they not sure at the end then move on to the next and most of all let God guide your heart and the right relationship will happen
When dating, I look for guys who I talk with most of the days, mixtures of calls and text. It is not everyone’s thing, but someone who can easily go over half a week shows me lack of effort or that he is trying to keep up with a roster. When we are in some form of routine of communication, instead of that here & there method, I am more comfortable making plans to see them in my free time because I feel like that is someone who is not only highly responsive when they think they’re going to see me, that they still care to know me on days we both work.
You are such a mature thoughtful young lady. Being in my 70's you provided such insight about dating in the 21st century. It was quite illuminating and refreshing to hear your perspective which I truly appreciated. It demonstrates how women's thinking has evolved over the decades. Your level headedness speaks volumes. I applaud you 👏 and good luck 🍀.
she didn't explain why, but gworls, never let a man pick you up for a first date cuz you don't know him. PERIOD. Plain and simple. He could seem like a nice guy over text or whatever, but he could end up kidnapping you, or taking you to his house or just somewhere where you might not feel comfortable, because he might have ulterior motives (I know that sounded very intense, but it's VERY possible). He is driving, in HIS car, meaning HE has the power in that situation (another reason why if you do end up having a man pick you up on a first date, just take a few seconds to make sure the child lock on ur door isn't on, incase you need to jump out if he's being weird)
girl you don’t gatekeep anything!! thank you for including the links to everything in the description and for being a good example on how i should value myself as a young woman! i’m graduating hs next week so i really needed this reminder of how people are and how to preserve myself but also be able to put myself out there.
I am so happy to be out of the dating scene. I've been on so many dates that it no longer gave me anxiety nor was it something that was really something to look forward to. For reference, where I live, there are an abundance of single people as well. But I never had the same mindset of wanting someone who wanted nothing to do with me unless we were together. My fiance and I moved extremely quickly and two years flew by in a blink of an eye. Maybe the mindset you're talking about is for people who would like more casual dating? Like I know for a fact I'd be devastated talking to someone for a year before it became official. I understand it's different strokes for different folks though
@@modernstylehomes7535 thanks for the concern, but it’s not about advice. I just love this kinda content from Tea and hopefully my comment will inspire her to do more.
girl you look so cute and classy 🤍 I loved this kinda video im 17 so I feel like I learnt a lot too. its soo important and I love when girls know their worth
I think men in their 30s are just not dating to date, they’re dating to marry. They’re more experienced, further along in life etc… So they’re gonna take it more serious than someone in their 20. That said, like you said love bombing and moving too fast is still very much a thing.. so of course vet them out properly. Love this video, beautiful as always ♥️
Age doesn’t mean anything with a man hun. That only applies to women. I feel like you’re in a dangerous bubble if you think 30 yr old men are mature & experienced & are dating to marry.
Yes, I can second that. I used to think the same thing and date men in there 30s but I learned very quickly that they are still doing the same things and still have the mindset of a 20yr old when it comes to dating. Don’t look at the age of a man, study his actions that is the only true way you can know he is ready for marriage.
Be careful because I think your beauty scares men that's what causes the control narcissist issues.. they think your to good for them so they try to reverse the embarrassment.. it's crazy but being beautiful is not safe with men especially if you got seductive sex appeal they'll usually move fast and crash everything so just get a long distance relationship and slowly make it official.
I wholeheartedly agree with you. Talking on the phone and texting is the lowest form of communication. So much can be misconstrued, especially when you’re just getting to know someone.
Hey Tea,I have been watching your content for a while and lately I feel like we've been seeing more of your personality lately like in this video and it's so cool to me and super enjoyable. ❤
You look beautiful. Personally I have no experience with men ‘cause dating scares me a lot so i tend to be really closed off. Hope your date night went well
when i met my bf he literally called me every day just to check if im fine or sum and we really had great talks so imo it depends on th person youre trynna date
i could spend all day just watching Tea glam up and talking BTW agree with everything u said abt dating i dnt even have expectations anymore on men lol
I hope you have a great Date Tea! ☺️ Everyone has standards. Be honest & follow your heart. If you feel something is off or you're not into them. Don't set up a 2nd Date or agree to a 2nd Date. Respectfully reject them. Be sure to have some type of protection at all times. Try going out of your norm for Dates. Doing that will allow you to see how a Person is. Regardless of age, be you, & always be a Lady. 😁
when I was 25 I was dating a 33 year old teacher and he was such a flirt and I didn't know his mom would come over and do his laundry on weekends LOL! There are some childish 30 + year olds out there so not all older men are in a rush to get serious. I am sure you will get a hold of that one good man in your life tea 💕 I met the loml a year later and we're 6 years strong (who is a year older than me) and we got married! it'll happen for you✨
You're so pretty and that outfit is perfect! Cute, comfy, simple! Right now, I unfortunately result to online dating cause I never meet anyone while I'm out and about and we typically meet up at a park or something so it's super casual, which I don't mind, that's one less thing to stress about when we're both dressed down but I'm starting to miss a nice date night out with a little more effort. I just turned 37 though and I recently lost about 20lbs with another 30 or so to go so I'm admittedly self conscious about dating while I'm trying to lose weight. Since a lot of men online are all about the healthy lifestyle and gym life with a bunch of pics and/or vids of them lifting, it sometimes feel like the physical is the most important thing so I will typically swipe left on those shirtless gym bro profiles in hopes of someone who highlights other hobbies they enjoy that I find interesting or enjoy myself like riding horses or tinkering with their jeep or car. Hopefully, I can meet someone more organically soon🤞🏾🤞🏾
I watched this and this is AMAZING also if ur cleaning a beauty blender DONT USE DISH SOAP after I did it my skin got tiny Lil bumps and were SO ITCHY instead use a soft skincare item like that's for masks u make custom or something BUT DONT USE THE CLAY MASK ONES
@@cybertutorials5609i mean but if you are wanting a serious relationship and/or marriage it’s important to be intentional and not waste each others time by asking the right questions
Loved this video and learnt a lot from what you had to share... also loved seeing your personality a bit more. can totally relate with your experience of dating 30+ year old men, been in two relationships with these older men and they definitely rushed things and were somewhat controlling, like I had minimal authority in the relationship. considering these relationships didn't last I'm definitely putting more caution on older guys. Definitely going to be using the statement you mentioned on how to communicate to a guy that you'd prefer slowing things down. really wish I had done this before. but anyway we live and learn I guess. thank you so much for this video, looking forward to seeing more similar content for sure!
I agree with every single one of your red flags. I would also add a guy who has zero female friends or at least sister/cousin they’re close with is a red flag to me. It is controversial, I understand it, however I believe it shows a certain sensitivity about the guy. He is also more prone to understanding women, idk, this what I believe now at 29, might say the polar opposite in a few years 😂
I love this girl. Sorry to say but I have been seeing her thumbnail and just thought " another pretty girl on youtube? shocker" but she's beautiful all around.
Tbh, I (respectfully) disagree with what you said about ghosting a guy who was giving weird/crazy vibes after a date. I feel like at least tell them you don't want to see them again because they made you uncomfortable, or they were rude or whatever the reason or reasons were, because when they start realising that they're getting older and no one wants to love them because they have such horrible attitudes, at least they will realise some of the reasons why if they remember why previous dates had decided to call it quits. Cuz at least when they FINALLY decide to sit down and re-evaluate themselves and try to make themselves better men, then they'll know some of the things they must work on, as previous dates had let them know, instead of just ghosting and not giving a reason, which is also kinda valid, but I feel like explaining is better (even though they should know already lol)
New subscriber. Love the energy. I see she does not upload regularly. I've been waiting on a follow up video 🙏 I just hope all is well. A man could lose his mind the way she showed up looking on that date. Girl you are STUNNING you should have a bodyguard 😅
@@TeaRenee Girl yes. I hope you read this 😆 but let me tell you. I'm older than you but I so enjoy your channel it helps me tune into my soft feminine side after going through some HARD times & MAN you are light years ahead of most. I am SO glad you dodged that bullet... Do not look back. You stick to your guns & respect your boundaries so absolutely beautifully. I wish you all the best 🥰 I know your mom is so proud of the woman you're becoming. Never EVER sacrifice a thing, you can and will have it all!! 💛 Much love
Very Important! I would suggest don’t drink on a date so you’re aware of what’s going on and you aren’t in a vulnerable state . A lot of men are drinkers and that’s their go to on dates is getting their date to drink!!
The thing about dating older men is also having to contend with the norms and beliefs about women they're carrying from a different time. Even 5 years can make a tangible difference in the social atmosphere and dating culture a person was brought up in (ex. their understanding of the nuances of consent could be VERY different). Just something to look out for, as people don't speak enough about the cons of dating older
This was so interesting. I also was one of those people who hated being on the phone if I didn't know someone. My current bf of a year used to ask me to FT and I would ghost him after because I would be so uncomfortable on the phone. But after I met him on our first date, we were on FT every day after that nonstop and I loved talking to him. He soon became the only person I spoke to lol but also we were semi long distance so we still FT all the time.
Girl I hate when people call me PERIOD... This generation feels entitled to your time all the time and that's just not okay to me. I set boundaries even with my friends when it comes to talking on the phone. I thought it was just me bro 😫
Really enjoyed the video & dating talk/advice! I love the concept of a dating uniform & you look stunning & im definitely picking all those items up asap 😂
Men in their 30s get serious fast because they're done playing the field like they did in their 20s. They're at the stage where they're ready to settle down because they're more established in their careers and ready to start families.
Being too clingy is one of my red flags as well. I feel like personal space is really important in a relationship or if you’re in a talking stage. It gives you and your partner time to miss each other.
It depends. My husband seemed clingy but he was just serious and intentional about making me his wife. I know dating now is alot harder than 15 years ago but don't write off all men too soon 🤗
@@Sm84641EXAAAAACTLY
i'm 19 and I've never been on a date, honestly I think the fear of sitting down and talking face to face scares me and I'm also afraid of men in every way LOLLL
Might have to be friends with them first
I was that way too. I am still am scared of men at 28 but not as much. I only bother with one's worth my time
When I was young, dating was fun!! My friends would roll up, we would even drop off and pick each other up! Guys were much nicer, funnier, and really enjoyed the attention! Find guys who just want to be friends first! ☺
I am 20 and same 😂. I don't even know any boy at all in real life. Don't know how it feels when they're near. Kind of scared of them as well
Awwww you’re so young… always remember safety first.. who cares if you hurt anyone’s feelings… safety first!!!!! Wait at least 3 months before going to his house
Men who randomly bring up their ex & talk badly about her. Men who listen to red pill content. Men who talk about how expensive things are. Men who say women look better without makeup instead of complimenting how beautiful his date looks🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩!!!!!!! But more importantly. Men who plan the date in advance. Men who bring flowers. Men who express genuine interest in getting to know me. Men who smell incredible ✅✅✅✅✅✅✅✅ btw. Loveeee the final look 😍😍 & the men over 30 statement about rushing is so true LOL!
I agree
I fully agree, but why does men taking about how expensive things are mean he's a red flag. I've never been on a date (I'm still in high school) so idk
@@raiinyy776I’m also wondering
@@raiinyy776 from PERSONAL experience, my last ex did this all the time. come to find out, he was broke... and he was mostly broke because he was spending all his money on a video game. its not a bad thing to call out if something is expensive by means of it not being worth the value its being sold for, but if he talks about just any and everything being expensive, he probably has some financial issues or some kind. its hard to explain/describe, but if he does it CONSTANTLY, then it is an issue.
@@m1ssb1mbette ohhh, i see. yeah, constantly yapping abt it and not doing anything makes sense
My friend always used the saying… ‘there’s truth in a joke’. Disrespect is disrespect… no 2 ways ab it.
A judgy guy many times, sadly has had past issues with abuse or he may have ‘standards’.
A judgy dude is insecure about himself and projects onto others
i think i saw a video a long time ago depicting ways a man can turn out to be physically abusive and it starts off with harmless “jokes” disrespecting her and then it escalated in him pushing the girl in a ice skating rink because he got too mad until it was full on very bad physical abuse! and you just laugh it off as a joke at first but it is something to look out for and call out if you feel disrespected in any way
A judgy guy w/standards, may very well be a Spiritual man… still… he’s not the judge… God is.
@essyboo, I agree, abuse can start off in baby steps… and if parents don’t “nip it in the bud”, such as boys beating up their sisters… they may grow up hitting, abusing their women.
A judgy man may be a Spiritual man but it’s not his place to judge. Good point. Some abusers abuse from what happened to them, others may have hit their sisters + that’s where parents need to step in from the door… from day one.
Somebody on tiktok said she doesn't talk otp/text men every day who she's "just dating" because it creates a level of emotional intimacy for her that is unsustainable esp. if they never get together. And that clicked for me. I cannot invest 3-5 hours of my day (outside of an actual date) with you and not get caught up emotionally. So my rule is when it's time to be official, you can get my time.
When they're clingy texting and calling every time and very fast in the beginning, they ghost and disappear very fast
From experience, that’s true, get latched as if we kissed and have barely got together but have 100 hours work of conversation
@@ssafiyah4960 exactly! It’s really a game to see how much time you’re willing to sacrifice. They have to know you’re busy and your time is important.
But people are different. Some people are more extroverted and emotionally aware. There is someone for everyone and one theory is hard to apply to so many different personalities. This idea makes sense but how do you build with anyone emotionally or decide who deserves your time if you don't put in any to make it grow for future steps? There just has to be a balance depending on if your personality seems to match theirs. Especially because first dates are a bit awkward and it takes investigation to decide if the next dates are feasible.
Long but my opinion on this. I'm 30 and dating was hard when I was overthinking it. Now I'm going to be married because I found someone online, didn't overthink, and once I understood our personalities matched and our conversation styles did (which doesn't take too long) , I put in the effort and fell in love❤
Let's factor in the failures and not dwell in them. Let's love our soft girl era and fall in love 💕
I agree, be intentional when dating! And yes I hate being on the phone all day, just let me know when are we linking up.
dont call just text me! pleaseee I cant stand it lol
@@TeaRenee but to get to know someone texting is bad
@@TeaReneesame and so many guys always want to be on the phone or ft instead of texting 😩
As a woman, I hate texting. Texting is for small convos only. Who about to be writing long paragraphs and constantly on the watch on their phone?
@@Mikirono23a lot of girls send long ass in depth paragraphs to their girlfriends when texting. So it’s not a totally foreign feeling to do it with a guy too
Don’t let your guard down because he’s 30+. It doesn’t make him a man. All the rules still apply.
a word!!!
This is so true. Just because someone is older doesn’t mean they’re mentally mature!
- A man that is overly attached to his mom and relies on her to do basic things for him
- A man that needs to be touching/kissing you all the fucking time, like can't we just talk?
- A man that doesn't even notice you are uncomfortable in a situation if you don't voice it.
Sometimes it’s scary rejecting a man. These men are crazy nowadays. I give out a google number instead of my real number lol
Ugh so true. I've been using Google number since age 20. Tea, please remember this tip!
Crazy
so smart I'm gonna start doing this! i just give my number to avoid the drama and block them later 🤣
Girl what's a Google number?
google number ? and if they call ur number in front you ?
Best advice I got very early give a relationship 3 months to figure out whether on not you want to be with each other if they not sure at the end then move on to the next and most of all let God guide your heart and the right relationship will happen
When dating, I look for guys who I talk with most of the days, mixtures of calls and text. It is not everyone’s thing, but someone who can easily go over half a week shows me lack of effort or that he is trying to keep up with a roster. When we are in some form of routine of communication, instead of that here & there method, I am more comfortable making plans to see them in my free time because I feel like that is someone who is not only highly responsive when they think they’re going to see me, that they still care to know me on days we both work.
awe i love that!!! i'm the oldest daughter tooooo
You are such a mature thoughtful young lady. Being in my 70's you provided such insight about dating in the 21st century. It was quite illuminating and refreshing to hear your perspective which I truly appreciated. It demonstrates how women's thinking has evolved over the decades. Your level headedness speaks volumes. I applaud you 👏 and good luck 🍀.
I’m the oldest daughter so watching u made me feel like watching an older sister for a bit 🥹
she didn't explain why, but gworls, never let a man pick you up for a first date cuz you don't know him. PERIOD. Plain and simple. He could seem like a nice guy over text or whatever, but he could end up kidnapping you, or taking you to his house or just somewhere where you might not feel comfortable, because he might have ulterior motives (I know that sounded very intense, but it's VERY possible). He is driving, in HIS car, meaning HE has the power in that situation (another reason why if you do end up having a man pick you up on a first date, just take a few seconds to make sure the child lock on ur door isn't on, incase you need to jump out if he's being weird)
girl you don’t gatekeep anything!! thank you for including the links to everything in the description and for being a good example on how i should value myself as a young woman! i’m graduating hs next week so i really needed this reminder of how people are and how to preserve myself but also be able to put myself out there.
so gorgeous
Thanks angel
I am so happy to be out of the dating scene. I've been on so many dates that it no longer gave me anxiety nor was it something that was really something to look forward to. For reference, where I live, there are an abundance of single people as well. But I never had the same mindset of wanting someone who wanted nothing to do with me unless we were together. My fiance and I moved extremely quickly and two years flew by in a blink of an eye. Maybe the mindset you're talking about is for people who would like more casual dating? Like I know for a fact I'd be devastated talking to someone for a year before it became official. I understand it's different strokes for different folks though
I need a Tea Renee dating series...tips and tricks and how to stay centered in your grind/work while making time to put yourself out there.
you don’t need advice from every influencer. You just need to believe in yourself and have standards.
@@modernstylehomes7535 thanks for the concern, but it’s not about advice. I just love this kinda content from Tea and hopefully my comment will inspire her to do more.
ugh I love your voice, you’re aesthetic, your aura just so prim and beautiful 🩷 keep up the great content
girl you look so cute and classy 🤍 I loved this kinda video im 17 so I feel like I learnt a lot too. its soo important and I love when girls know their worth
How did it went??? did you liked him?? you deserve the best girlyy!!! love your personality
Like we wanna knowwwww
bahahahhaha thank you sweetness, it was a good time tbh but we'll SEE I'll keep yall updated
@@TeaReneeand???
I think men in their 30s are just not dating to date, they’re dating to marry. They’re more experienced, further along in life etc… So they’re gonna take it more serious than someone in their 20. That said, like you said love bombing and moving too fast is still very much a thing.. so of course vet them out properly. Love this video, beautiful as always ♥️
Sorry to pop your bubble even these 30 year olds are just as bad
@@accessdenied5262 lmaoo
@@accessdenied5262agreeeeed. 30’s men are horrible
Age doesn’t mean anything with a man hun. That only applies to women. I feel like you’re in a dangerous bubble if you think 30 yr old men are mature & experienced & are dating to marry.
Yes, I can second that. I used to think the same thing and date men in there 30s but I learned very quickly that they are still doing the same things and still have the mindset of a 20yr old when it comes to dating. Don’t look at the age of a man, study his actions that is the only true way you can know he is ready for marriage.
My immediate “nope” is if they start talking about money/investments 🚩🚩🚩🚩
Be careful because I think your beauty scares men that's what causes the control narcissist issues.. they think your to good for them so they try to reverse the embarrassment.. it's crazy but being beautiful is not safe with men especially if you got seductive sex appeal they'll usually move fast and crash everything so just get a long distance relationship and slowly make it official.
I love this type of personal content… you are so beautiful and talented and you have a great personality ILY
I wholeheartedly agree with you. Talking on the phone and texting is the lowest form of communication. So much can be misconstrued, especially when you’re just getting to know someone.
That lip combo is so pretty
You said sth that I could relate to “ at first you think oh he’s the one for me till you are like oh! I don’t see this going anywhere” real!
you’re so pretty and down to earth! hope your date went well❤
Didn’t think you could possibly get any prettier but here we are 😍
Had to re-comment I accidentally deleted 💕
Hey Tea,I have been watching your content for a while and lately I feel like we've been seeing more of your personality lately like in this video and it's so cool to me and super enjoyable. ❤
This is my first time in the channel and I loved you! The make up. the tips, everything 10/10
You look beautiful. Personally I have no experience with men ‘cause dating scares me a lot so i tend to be really closed off. Hope your date night went well
i def understand this, take your time dont force anything! dating will always be there so put yourself first ❤️
I would not kiss on the first date these days...Too many people have parasites.😮
Kissing on the 1st date spells desperate ☺️
as someone who has never dated i loved watching this
Thank you so much for advising ladies never let a guy pick you up!! So true!! And you look beautiful, hope you find the right man for you 💕❤
I don’t even like being on the phone 24/7 with my closest friends much less a man..no thanks
Yeah the 24/7 days have gone down to 24 seconds unless it’s literally a call ‘for a good reason’.
EXACTLY
THIS
I hope it went well !! You looked beautiful as always ❤love this video idea!
it was fun hehe, thank you i'm glad you liked it
The above 30 men one is def true for me (and a lot of people I've talked to as well)
when i met my bf he literally called me every day just to check if im fine or sum and we really had great talks so imo it depends on th person youre trynna date
That eye makeup is holy moly crazy ❤ I lie you didn’t even do your eye makeup yet you just have beautiful eyes
I just found her channel and I already love it, she has a very gentle and elegant vibe 🩷
this felt like a ft call😂😂i was geeked for you, but please do more of these🥰
You are wise beyond your years! 💕
I completely agree. I was thinking the same.
Missed you girl. The hair cut is soo beautiful. ❤
I love the idea of a "date uniform"
Age doesn't matter they all need to grow up!!!
omg YES LOL
i could spend all day just watching Tea glam up and talking
BTW agree with everything u said abt dating
i dnt even have expectations anymore on men lol
I hope you have a great Date Tea! ☺️ Everyone has standards. Be honest & follow your heart. If you feel something is off or you're not into them. Don't set up a 2nd Date or agree to a 2nd Date. Respectfully reject them. Be sure to have some type of protection at all times. Try going out of your norm for Dates. Doing that will allow you to see how a Person is. Regardless of age, be you, & always be a Lady. 😁
when I was 25 I was dating a 33 year old teacher and he was such a flirt and I didn't know his mom would come over and do his laundry on weekends LOL! There are some childish 30 + year olds out there so not all older men are in a rush to get serious. I am sure you will get a hold of that one good man in your life tea 💕 I met the loml a year later and we're 6 years strong (who is a year older than me) and we got married! it'll happen for you✨
Thanks for sharing all these moments with us!
That Youth the the People cleanser is the businesssss oh my god. That and their superfood moisturizer had my skin looking brand new.
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I am totally with you on the "alpha" thing. I feel like, if you gotta say that, you not what you think you are.
You're so pretty and that outfit is perfect! Cute, comfy, simple! Right now, I unfortunately result to online dating cause I never meet anyone while I'm out and about and we typically meet up at a park or something so it's super casual, which I don't mind, that's one less thing to stress about when we're both dressed down but I'm starting to miss a nice date night out with a little more effort. I just turned 37 though and I recently lost about 20lbs with another 30 or so to go so I'm admittedly self conscious about dating while I'm trying to lose weight. Since a lot of men online are all about the healthy lifestyle and gym life with a bunch of pics and/or vids of them lifting, it sometimes feel like the physical is the most important thing so I will typically swipe left on those shirtless gym bro profiles in hopes of someone who highlights other hobbies they enjoy that I find interesting or enjoy myself like riding horses or tinkering with their jeep or car. Hopefully, I can meet someone more organically soon🤞🏾🤞🏾
I will have this soft life soon trust me
This is off topic but the way you do your makeup is how I want mine 😩
you have such a great personality! this literally felt like a fun facetime call
You and ayra starr have a striking resemblance
I watched this and this is AMAZING also if ur cleaning a beauty blender DONT USE DISH SOAP after I did it my skin got tiny Lil bumps and were SO ITCHY instead use a soft skincare item like that's for masks u make custom or something BUT DONT USE THE CLAY MASK ONES
I’d suggest go into the date as a journalist or an employer! Ask questions, most dudes are terrible at selling themselves. Good luck
Its a date, not a job interview. Have fun!
@@cybertutorials5609i mean but if you are wanting a serious relationship and/or marriage it’s important to be intentional and not waste each others time by asking the right questions
You looked stunning! Aaaand, how did it go? Was he worth your special occasion perfume? 🥰🤭👀
Moving too fast is definitely a red flag !!🚩🚩🚩 it gives get over some one by getting under some one else
Loved this video and learnt a lot from what you had to share... also loved seeing your personality a bit more. can totally relate with your experience of dating 30+ year old men, been in two relationships with these older men and they definitely rushed things and were somewhat controlling, like I had minimal authority in the relationship. considering these relationships didn't last I'm definitely putting more caution on older guys. Definitely going to be using the statement you mentioned on how to communicate to a guy that you'd prefer slowing things down. really wish I had done this before. but anyway we live and learn I guess. thank you so much for this video, looking forward to seeing more similar content for sure!
You gave really good advice!
Great conversation! But all emotions are controllable! ❤
I agree with every single one of your red flags. I would also add a guy who has zero female friends or at least sister/cousin they’re close with is a red flag to me. It is controversial, I understand it, however I believe it shows a certain sensitivity about the guy. He is also more prone to understanding women, idk, this what I believe now at 29, might say the polar opposite in a few years 😂
i only like this if he said "will you be my girlfriend" LOL
Girllllll you are GORGEOUS 🫶🏽💕🥰
Rewatching for like the 10th time because you are genuinely one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen❤❤
Girl you are stunning, and I cannot stop admiring your nose ring, I've been looking for a dainty simple one like that everywhere!
you look so elegant
I just love your video T… please keep them coming. So refreshing!!!❤❤❤
If he’s that much of a stranger, u need a ‘dummy phone’ in addition to ur real ‘tracker’ phone 😊
I agree with everything you said!
Miss Girl, let me just say that you are so pretty!! ❤
Loved your vibe so much!
The makeup is beautiful and you are gorgeous! Thank you for all the tips, really helpful 💞
I find your videos very calming
her skin is so fineeee
I HOPE IT WENT WELLLLLLLL
I love this girl. Sorry to say but I have been seeing her thumbnail and just thought " another pretty girl on youtube? shocker" but she's beautiful all around.
I too feel like someone wanting to call me all the time and we just started dating I think they are trying to keep tabs on me. And it’s kinda weird
You look so stunning, just like a doll! ❤😊 Loved the makeup look and how you talked about boundaries (especially when talking to someone new)
Tbh, I (respectfully) disagree with what you said about ghosting a guy who was giving weird/crazy vibes after a date. I feel like at least tell them you don't want to see them again because they made you uncomfortable, or they were rude or whatever the reason or reasons were, because when they start realising that they're getting older and no one wants to love them because they have such horrible attitudes, at least they will realise some of the reasons why if they remember why previous dates had decided to call it quits. Cuz at least when they FINALLY decide to sit down and re-evaluate themselves and try to make themselves better men, then they'll know some of the things they must work on, as previous dates had let them know, instead of just ghosting and not giving a reason, which is also kinda valid, but I feel like explaining is better (even though they should know already lol)
no i def see what you mean, this is a great point!
im not laying out feedback for a man so he can learn to hide things for the next girl.
that hourglass lip gloss is sooo niceee y’all need to try it out 😫🫶🏼0:48
New subscriber. Love the energy. I see she does not upload regularly. I've been waiting on a follow up video 🙏 I just hope all is well. A man could lose his mind the way she showed up looking on that date. Girl you are STUNNING you should have a bodyguard 😅
lol thank you!!! the update is live now 🫣
@@TeaRenee Girl yes. I hope you read this 😆 but let me tell you. I'm older than you but I so enjoy your channel it helps me tune into my soft feminine side after going through some HARD times & MAN you are light years ahead of most. I am SO glad you dodged that bullet... Do not look back. You stick to your guns & respect your boundaries so absolutely beautifully. I wish you all the best 🥰 I know your mom is so proud of the woman you're becoming. Never EVER sacrifice a thing, you can and will have it all!! 💛 Much love
first time watching your video and the first clip got me saying " damn shes gorgeous!" out loud
Very Important! I would suggest don’t drink on a date so you’re aware of what’s going on and you aren’t in a vulnerable state . A lot of men are drinkers and that’s their go to on dates is getting their date to drink!!
Almost lost my life on a first date 😂😂 never let a man pick you up first date !! Because ur trapped ! 😭❤️🙌🏽
And he is gonna know where u stay,yikesss
21 and never had a date. I really want to find the love of my life but I‘m really anxious about talking to men I don’t know 😩😩
girl you are so beautiful
Can we please get a prom makeup and prep inspired video! I literally can’t do makeup for my life. And you eatttt ❤
Je ne comprend rien de ce que tu dis car je suis francophone mais j’aime bien regarder tes vidéos 🤍 t’es super inspirante ❤
The thing about dating older men is also having to contend with the norms and beliefs about women they're carrying from a different time. Even 5 years can make a tangible difference in the social atmosphere and dating culture a person was brought up in (ex. their understanding of the nuances of consent could be VERY different). Just something to look out for, as people don't speak enough about the cons of dating older
Love!! your beautiful natural makeup. I love!! your natural makeup.
I saw the thumbnail and clicked instantly. I love your makeup style so much I have to recreate this. Thanks for sharing! ❤️
You look so pretty pudd!
thank you bby!
This was so interesting. I also was one of those people who hated being on the phone if I didn't know someone. My current bf of a year used to ask me to FT and I would ghost him after because I would be so uncomfortable on the phone. But after I met him on our first date, we were on FT every day after that nonstop and I loved talking to him. He soon became the only person I spoke to lol but also we were semi long distance so we still FT all the time.
Girl I hate when people call me PERIOD... This generation feels entitled to your time all the time and that's just not okay to me. I set boundaries even with my friends when it comes to talking on the phone. I thought it was just me bro 😫
Really enjoyed the video & dating talk/advice! I love the concept of a dating uniform & you look stunning & im definitely picking all those items up asap 😂
Men in their 30s get serious fast because they're done playing the field like they did in their 20s. They're at the stage where they're ready to settle down because they're more established in their careers and ready to start families.
Let them know sis 👏🏾
Definetly not 😂. Thats their strategy for getting some.