Absolutely love the idea. I was laughing so loud at some very relatable parts of this, that my wife and I started in on our own "it's not just us" stuff. Stay classy lol.
Yall are doing great. You're both awesome. You're both the best parents to your kid there ever could be. Your feelings of being protective over your little one are natural and good. Momma is gonna be Momma bear and boys will be boys. This is a healthy verbal reconciliation of the two.
Classic examples of why kids need both parents. Moms will be protective(sometimes overly) and dads will allow learn by experience (sometimes overly). Awesome to see you both discussing it openly. It may well save your marriage imho. Thanks for being good examples for us all.
This made my husband and I laugh and hug. We are about five months ahead of you, and we have experienced all of these things. The over protective mom is REAL, but it does get better. I said “it’s not just us!” Multiple times during this story. Hahaha thank you for sharing. Please keep this up.
You are just new to this, you all need to give yourselves a break, you are doing fine. I’m sure some of your own reactions, are a surprise to yourselves at times. It’s actually, fascinating, and kind of cool. Growing and learning together, is a pretty profound, incredibly deep experience. One of the best of life.
Can totally relate. 28 years with my bride Hang in there, you're doing exactly the right thing, being honest, talking it out, and giving space. BTW, the name you came up with is brilliant.
As a son of divorced parents it’s really refreshing to see u guys have disagreements and understand where each other is coming from, I think that talking things out, and talking about the uncomfortable stuff is what keeps a family strong. Your son is very lucky to have parents that want to get better as people for the purpose of raising a great young man. Keep it up bro I love all your content and u help a lot more people than u think
This would be a way of life I wish I experienced w a fallen father early on my childhood, But do appreciate my entire 25 yrs of experience that I now see the world in different perspectives
This is like relationship/marriage advice without it being intended that way. If only more couples would have such open and honest communication like this, more would be saved. You two are so brave to share your personal couple/parenting experiences with the world. Thank you!
agree…however he could meet her half way and say that he might he a little too sensitive…this seemed to resolve with her taking apologizing and taking full responsibility for their “disagreements”
UFC champion Cain Velasquez shot the man that was raping his son and he's facing 20 year's in prison and rapist is literally getting away with it scot free! Any good protective father would do the same, but the justice system is broken
OMG....43 wonderful yrs this month. Trust me (lol) with grandkids she still shoots me down then kicks me.....it's wonder. I hear your sense of humor. Great stuff!! Love this. I am in!!
Reminds me of a cartoon I saw once. First day of kindergarten all the moms are peering through the school windows....... by the first day of 3rd grade they are peeling out of the parking lot to be, ANYWHERE else! You guys are new parents, you'll find a balance. I've been a single dad for almost 14 yrs , I was super paranoid at first, that gave way to laughing at ALL of it. Mine gets more interesting all the time. BEST JOB EVER!
You two are doing great things! Keep doing what your doing and making great memories. As a 50 year old, grandfather of 6, I can now sit back and enjoy watching "new parents" and remember the fond memories. BTW, the momma bear thing never goes away. LOL
I haven't laughed that hard in awhile. I feel like this definitely is every relationship, great episode keep them coming. And no advice, you guys are great parents!
love this. I'm 46,I'm 4 yrs older than my wife. we've been together since she was 16. she's the love of my life. I don't deserve her. u gotta fight for that shtt. we've gotten thru weight gain,kids,missing hair,jealousy,money problems ,drugs alcohol on my end and she's fkn rock solid . love how u 2 talk about this stuff in public. thats how real love can last. its a battle man. but it's fkn amazing and hard to explain if u don't have it.
Sounds like a rich, eventful, deep, beautiful bond. Now it’s time to enjoy some easier times. Some reflecting. Have fun together, appreciate every moment. It was worth it.
Great series name! When Shawn said "I'm gonna go get him" I was waiting for Katie to say "Be careful!" 1st kiddo is hardest because you are learning - - source of a LOT of funny stories, but a lot of growing together too!
My parents wouldn't let me ride my bike past the end of our street. A few years later my little brother could ride all over town. So yes, the first one gets more protection, also more time with parents.
@@sues3218 So funny, I had to look back & see what I said. Shawn Ryan is one of my earliest yt subscriptions. Seen a lot of growth here. (Hickok45 was my very first!)
You guys are great parents. Thanks for being vulnerable and this is good therapy for couples in a down to earth way. One way to take a moms overly concern though is to interpret it as her care for you and her family. It’s so easy to take negatively but most of the time the motives are pure. If she didn’t say anything, then I’d start wondering if she cares. God bless you in this new venture.
It's the first little one. Lol this brought back memories. Wait till the 2nd kid. All these little things won't matter, he/she will eat dirt and you two will say does it taste good.
This is healthy and great to share. This is what being new parents looks like. I’ve lived it too. The unhealthy version of this disagreement is when you both say nothing and just quietly resent each other.
He’s alive! You’re doing your job!!! I remember how scared we were coming home from the hospital!!! I was thinking I’ve just got to keep this little thing alive!!! 9 years later… it’s a blessing!!! Congratulations love this!!!
First child? Prepare for alot of heartbreak amongst the wonderful lasting memories. Fact is you cannot protect them from everything. That thought alone breaks your heart. You guys are doing an awesome job. Grow with each other because you are going to need each other. Don't be afraid to let the kid play in the mud. More upset and heartbreak to come so protect yourselves when it happens. Stay strong in each other and guide the best way rhat you can. God Bless you.
Great stuff. I've been married 33 yrs. 3 kids. Life is hard but that's how diamonds are made. Keep talking and you are not alone. Shepherding a child's heart is a great book. Love the show and your transparency. Thank you. JD
I really enjoy u two ..finally a couple of people being real not fake...it's worth time listening ...u guys got this...two things live and forgiveness very important...she brings out your soft side shawn...I've seen those photos of u when u were a seal.. watching you ..that hard Part of you..know when to be gentle and when to be hard...thank you ..for this ...cheers from an 58 yr old school metalhead from Kansas city...
Welcome to parenthood kids! The toughest job you're ever going to have. You both are doing great. Especially talking things out. Cheers to your beautiful family.
Absolutely normal struggles of first time parents. It’s a good sign of a strong marriage that you can sit down and work through the frustrations. It gets easier, then harder, and goes through this cyclical cycle. Communication and your marriage needs to always be a priority!
I let your mom go if thats what she wonts i always love her and i never take from her and i never hurt her no more i give her every dim i get to take care of you all and dont care caise i no in my hart she doing what she needs to to make shore you all get what you need i love my kids no matter what dispite what they think i will keep them promises and i keep going forward and keep my head up but i will be onest when im done im done and i dont wont to go on with out all of you i will not be like my parents and i always love your mom dont think funny when im down cause every word i say at this time true and id change for all but i need you to move with me i got us but i wont do it with out you all and not trying this or saying this to get you fill sorry
I appreciate your willingness to be vulnerable and have REAL talk in front of the camera. THIS....THIS right here can help sooo many people in THEIR relationships. My wife and I have 3 kids, 6 grandkids and have been together for 30 yrs. One thing I've learned; keep it upbeat, fun and go with the flow. Parenting is rewarding and the learning is flexible. Don't be so hard on yourselves. You have a Budweiser; a new baby is harder, buy ya got the tools to make it. Enjoy Sonny and enjoy each other... everyday! Semper Fi
You guys are awesome..such open honesty. Mamas are overprotective because of Love...it's hard for men the first year because a mothers instinct is all about her pup..even though it may be just a bubble bath." It's not just you"😊 thankyou for all the raw honesty and sharing❤❤
What is the purpose of a family? Families are central to God's plan for His children. They are the fundamental building block of strong societies. Families are where we can feel love and learn how to love others.🙏❤🙏
Great first time parents at learning and figuring it out TOGETHER which is amazing as well as communicating with each other. Definitely keep communicating with your partner whatever may be..and the rest will fall in place... Father of 3 hooyah
Love “Not Just Us” please do more! As a mom who raised 8 kids and 3 foster kids, I want to say you’re doing great! We are a blended family and early in our marriage we realized that we are a team and if one person loses, the team loses. So we look for a way that we can both win-because the most important thing you can give to your child is parents who are in love.❤️
@@pekarr1 As the other comment said, you're the weird one.. They are talking normally, and maybe they would sit next to each other if it wasn't a youtube video. For me it's more weird when couples sit in front of a camera and turn their heads towards each other and look at the screen in the same time..
I'm right there with you. My wife is very critical of how I do things for my son. We've had countless disagreements but she is a incredible mom to our son. Keep up the great work!
Love the concept, Shawn and Katie Jean! It's definitely aptly named "It's Not Just Us." We had two kids, but they were nine years apart. It was a lot like having an only child twice. Things we thought we did right with the first, didn't work at all with the second. Thank God there was no internet or social media to judge our mistakes or drown us with unsolicited, "expert" advice. Great guidance from Jordan Peterson is his Rule 5: Do Not Let Your Children Do Anything That Makes You Dislike Them. It seems to have worked for us (and our kids), despite being ignorant of the rule when we were in the child-rearing trenches. God bless you both--and your Wee One!
You guys are doing great! The fact that you both communicate and resolve issues before they get blown up and respect each other is a recipe for a healthy marriage. It's your 1st child...you will raise him the best you know how. Its a new and great experience.
As young man seeking to join the marines who would love a family, im glad to see the big bad seal cia guy can eventually have a family and life outside of the contractor world. I for one love this and as an incredibly idiotic person at times love the advice and example. Thank yall. Really.
THE WORLD NEEDS THIS RIGHT NOW. PLEASE MAKE MORE EPISODES!!!!! AND THANK YOU FOR YOUR SACRIFICES AND SERVICE YOU MADE TO THE AMAZING COUNTRY I LIVE IN!!!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Fatigue is a big factor in arguments during the postpartum period. Practice saying "have a good time." You're talking about it and in my eyes you have already won. I wish I had a do over because it was so much fun. There were also moments of sheer terror. Congratulations and the best of luck.
Parenting advice: 1. Give/show them more love than you think they need 2.Don't do anything for your child that they can do for themselves 3. Don't let them do anything that make you resent them 4. Let them talk to you / listen to them (like a coach not a authoritarian ruler)
This is what's happening right now with me and my wife. So glad I saw this because I have been feeling the same way, "well imma just do me and wait until she is older," it's definitely difficult but we have been talking more and my wife can see the problems and we have been working on it. It's been about a month since we had our first conversation and things are finally starting to get a little better. But thank you for sharing. It's nice to see we are not alone. It's crazy how things change when you have a child.
Loads of laundry for sure. LOL Hope they keep the first aid kit well stocked too. LOL I wish I had property like that when I was a kid. The fun and adventure is going to be epic.
These are the best! I’ve watched all these but my wife and I are on a trip and I’m letting her listen. The trials of marriage and raising a family. Have to love all of it
This is awesome! It reminds me of your mindset video talking about how to "build confidence in public situations" video! Having the confidence to throw it out there is the best thing you can do to increase inter-personal communication
Love this. As parents of 3, (7, 11, 13) my wife and I are so busy with our work and our kids and their 4-H/FFA projects, baseball, volleyball, basketball, etc, etc...that we fail to communicate the things that we feel are important in that moment. We (mostly myself) just back off and say, (it's not worth it, pick your battles)...Refreshing to see 2 adults talking about things like this and coming to a resolution without making one or the other feel belittled or have to admit guilt in the moment, which is usually happening so fast, that there is no time for discussion. Lol. Be it bubble bath, or what jacket a kid can or can't wear, or what is acceptable behavior from a 13 year old and what isn't, we need to follow your and your wife's example of communicating when there is time for thought and reflection, and not being too proud to admit fault, however small the disagreement. Thanks again, A Fan From Oklahoma
Extremely relatable. I have been told I always or often shutdown my husband's ideas or suggestions. He also expressed feelings of nothing he does is right. The discussion still creeps into our marriage but I have made it a rule for myself to never say no to anything he says. Though I sometimes forget or fail. Thanks for the video. Looking forward to the segment.
Welcome to new parenthood, I have 5 kids, and the first one we both were hovering over him and overprotective but by number 5 we have learned that kids are super resilient. You guys are doing great and every serious parent goes through the stage that you guys are in. ENJOY THE JOURNEY
It’s tough sometimes as a dad to feel connected to the child, so when an idea gets shot down by mom, it can feel a bit personal. Me and my wife have had to talk this out more than once. The big take away is that we both love our daughter and have nothing but good intentions, and we just need to work on better communication with each other.
I love seeing this. A respectable adult not overly serious conversation. This is how it’s done people. Good job to both of you. Congrats on your marriage, son and business. This is why I watch. The content is, real, quality, content.
Keep hovering! Please keep hovering! We are in a world where the evil wants our children younger and younger. Fight that evil by hovering! There’s going to come a time when you won’t be able to! Hover! Hover! Hover! Great segment. Thanks 🥰
For me this is mostly a trip down memory lane, but I appreciate having my memory jogged and I truly enjoy the whole dynamic!! It kind of feels like the more things change the more they stay the same. Love ya guys! 🌻🐝
I can't like this video enough! As a father of 3 boys this was defiantly an issue with our first son. Seeing you guys work it out by talking and not just letting the issues build up is awesome and shows how great yall are doing as parents. It's crazy how resilient children are but as new parents all you do is worry, not sure if that really ever changes but it does get better. Love the vlogs!
I just wanted to let Shawn know that her being so extremely careful with the baby has NOTHING to do with you personally. If the Lord Himself suggested a bubble bath she would have felt the same way because it's in every fiber of her being to protect her baby, especially the first born. I was the same way.
It warms my heart hearing y’all laugh. My wife and I have been married 5 years and we have never had a full fight. I grew up with my dad always fighting with my mom. So my wife and I have disagreements but we just talk it and move forward even if we agree to disagree
You two can talk, smile, and laugh and reflect on your situations, i respect that a lot...that's exactly what you two need in my opinion. I believe it will make your both stronger and closer in your relationship.
The best part of parenting is that kids will slowly and methodically rid you... of the worst parts of you... which is you! [meaning: selfish you, self-absorbed you, impatient you, arrogant you, etc, etc] Shawn & Katie are fantastic. Hope they have many-MANY children.
I loved this!! One thing to remember is us women had almost 9 months to bond with our baby as they are growing inside of us. When we give birth it's now time for the father's to bond with our kids, as scary as it sounds but father's need this time to bond. I remember when my son was months old he was crying because I put him to bed after a feeding and I wanted to go to him so badly. I told my husband you better hold me down because every cell in my body wanted to go to him. I knew our son was ok except he wanted to sleep with us and he needed to learn to sleep on his own. But know, this is the easy part because you guys will have to deal with the terrible two's and the horrible three's. As I say this my son turned 14 years old yesterday and dear god help us all with the teenage years. I am totally thankful for my husband and having him here as we lean on each other through this hellish and yes I said hellish hormonal, hair growing everywhere teenager years! Just remember never fight or disagree in front of your kiddo, as parents you have to show a united front. Kids are smart and savvy and if they see a crack between you two they will absolutely 100% use that to their agenda. And keep laughing with each other because trust me it's better than crying 😄! Also keep taking time and reconnecting with each other. All of us parents can totally relate with each other. Just have fun and remember if you feel safe with your husband and you know he will protect you, know he will do everything in his power to protect y'all's kiddo. As parents when we have kids we suddenly become this huge emotional bundle, kids make us cry, laugh, they make us pissed off and angry but they also make us proud of them. Thank you so much for sharing, I really enjoyed this!!! 💜
I think you're right about not fighting about parenting in front of the kids, 💯. However, I think it's healthy for parents to have disagreements in front of the kids to show that it's normal and to be an example of it between people who love each other and have their best interest at heart.
We love it!! Keep this up because we love you both and we do agree with you both , most married couples act like this. Please don't be helicopter parents, I am 60 years old , I grew up with no seatbelts, no helmets on bikes, my father put me at 3 years old in his lap holding on to the steering wheel me driving down the streets of Oklahoma city. My friends did the dumbest crap and yes we got hurt but it made us stronger and smarter. Thank you for letting Sonny just cry it out. Babies are real smart and they will rule over you once they know they have you wrapped around their finger. I know this has been addressed before but when you felt alone in this upside down world, I wanted to slap you and say wake up. There are more of us than the minority that is trying to shove this crap down our throats. We are the common sense majority but they won't let us speak. So hang in there! Much love! And yes we have been praying for you. And PS. my wife says you and I are the same person in different bodies. I took the Red pill 30 years ago and I am the biggest control freak in the world and a political junkie. 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
As a father of 5, and definitely not perfect... loving thoughtful conversations like this are the way to get through these situations. You guys are, and will continue to be damn good parents. It's not her against you or you against her its both of you for each other and what's best for the kid. 👍
It’s very rare to find anyone in social media or yt being this authentic. You guys are awesome Shawn. The things you guys are experiencing as new parents is not uncommon. My boys are 15 and 18 now to say they get to that age lighting fast is a gross understatement. Here’s my advice. Slow down, enjoy every second with your son and your wife because you don’t get do-overs. Be quick to listen, slow to speak. Pick your battles and learn to let the small stuff go. NEVER go to bed angry or upset. Compromise, Don’t fight in front of your son. This one is a must, make GOD the most important thing in your life, in both your lives. I wouldn’t be married today almost 21 years later without his love and mercy on me. Pray, the greatest tool you have in life is prayer. 👍 Best of wishes.
I love this. How transparent she is and admits she hovers and how he admits he was really mad. They love each other more than being right. For the record, Shawn, being a former Seal, he'd break somebody in half before he lets anything happen to his son. He's like, I'm going to go, get my boy. ❤ He loves him, and you both are doing a great job.
One thing I have learned is that when a Dad says "what about this or that" its because he saw an opportunity for a really great moment he was going to experience and share with his child. Shooting it down can be a little heart breaking.
You two have a great dynamic. Any it is definitely not just you having these challenges. Parenting brings out nuances in our personalities that we may not have realized were part of us. But listening to each other, being willing to take a step back, & being willing to adjust your perspective & responses is part of the process of maturing as adults & parents. Great job!
Hell, they should show this to school kids! “How to have a healthy argument with someone and not go off the deep end”. I appreciate that you guys give each other the opportunity to talk and are honest with yourselves! It’s so refreshingly genuine.
Jeez. I have an 18 month old and it's crazy how much of our lives are different yet how much we're the same. It is in fact not just us! Great video Shawn and Katie!
Loved this. I feel like as guys/men it takes a long time to get to this place. Where you can talk and compromise so we’ll. I know my relationships would have benefited from it. Now it’s just great to see a peak at life behind the scenes. Shows ya that you have more in common with your neighbors and strangers that anyone wants to believe
You are doing great! The healthiest kids I know are the ones who play/played in the dirt and got messy. Our immune systems grow with us. Nature is good for us. Sounds like you both have good sense and are willing to work through issues, and that the most important thing- communication! Talk through everything. That will also teach your son to do the same. Above all, don’t be hard on yourselves and have a great time. Laugh. I’ve heard angels can fly because they take themselves lightly. I am absolutely loving your shows. Thank you for all you do!
This is both refreshing and heart warming to hear from the three of you. You're such an amazing couple and you're perfect for eachother. No bullshit or fakery whatsoever. It's down to earth and real. This is what everyone needs to be like or see exists.
Y'all are not only opening up and talking about it, but you're doing it in front of thousands of people. The way you communicate with each other is fail safe. You won't lose! And the kiddo is going to be just fine! I like this episode. Feels even more personal than the Shawn Ryan Show. Take care y'all! GOD BLESS AMERICA 🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲
I love that you both have public discussion about this because there are alot of people out there that think "wow are we the only ones that have disagreements like this?". This will help so many new parents and get a chuckle out of it and may or may not bond people more.
This was great! My wife does this same thing. I have to constantly remind her that I have a perfect track record of keeping our kids safe. This video helped me, because of how your wife explained why she “hovers”. My wife has never been able to articulate this. It is natural “momma bear” instinct. The mother of our children cannot help this natural reaction. Thanks for this.
After your last video, I said to myself, Shawn is getting about time to take the plunge and just shave the head. Lol! And here we are! In all seriousness, I'm digging this video. No defensiveness. Just communication. Do more like these. Parenting advice... don't take any minute or hour for granted. If it comes to spending time with your child or spending time in the studio or working on some project, choose the child. Having been in the Navy myself when my daughter was an infant (born oct 2001), I missed out on everything. I was at sea doing Insurv for her 1st birthday, on a pay phone in Souda Bay Crete when I heard her say "Daddy" the first time. Deployed for her 2nd and 4th birthdays. I missed first steps, first solid foods, all of the firsts. You are fortunate to have the time to be home with yours. Cherish it, take advantage of it, and don't ever let anything come in between those moments. And have patience with one another. This is a new world and new dynamic for you and your wife. You're not always going to agree on things but just realize, you two are learning this together. Being a parent doesn't come with a manual.
We are going to call this "It's Not Just Us" and make it a regular thing. Let us know what you think in the comments section. Thank you
I love this idea!! This here is such a healthy thing for a relationship! Even if you don't record it and show us. I love the idea 💡 🙏🇺🇸
100% Please keep these going. Your channel and openness are doing a service to society that I can't thank you enough for. Much love to you both!
Absolutely love the idea. I was laughing so loud at some very relatable parts of this, that my wife and I started in on our own "it's not just us" stuff. Stay classy lol.
Very brave 😍😍....I thought you were going to talk about the Ukraine 🤣
Yall are doing great. You're both awesome. You're both the best parents to your kid there ever could be. Your feelings of being protective over your little one are natural and good. Momma is gonna be Momma bear and boys will be boys. This is a healthy verbal reconciliation of the two.
Your a lovely couple,well done to both of you
Classic examples of why kids need both parents. Moms will be protective(sometimes overly) and dads will allow learn by experience (sometimes overly). Awesome to see you both discussing it openly. It may well save your marriage imho. Thanks for being good examples for us all.
Absolutely!
Amen. Father and Mother. God made it so for a reason.
Well said man
100%. Couldn't say it better.
Both parents. So fucking important
This made my husband and I laugh and hug. We are about five months ahead of you, and we have experienced all of these things. The over protective mom is REAL, but it does get better. I said “it’s not just us!” Multiple times during this story. Hahaha thank you for sharing. Please keep this up.
You are just new to this, you all need to give yourselves a break, you are doing fine. I’m sure some of your own reactions, are a surprise to yourselves at times. It’s actually, fascinating, and kind of cool. Growing and learning together, is a pretty profound, incredibly deep experience. One of the best of life.
Can totally relate. 28 years with my bride Hang in there, you're doing exactly the right thing, being honest, talking it out, and giving space. BTW, the name you came up with is brilliant.
Nothing better than having a wife who thinks alongside of you. I'm blessed much like you bro.
As a son of divorced parents it’s really refreshing to see u guys have disagreements and understand where each other is coming from, I think that talking things out, and talking about the uncomfortable stuff is what keeps a family strong. Your son is very lucky to have parents that want to get better as people for the purpose of raising a great young man. Keep it up bro I love all your content and u help a lot more people than u think
This would be a way of life I wish I experienced w a fallen father early on my childhood,
But do appreciate my entire 25 yrs of experience that I now see the world in different perspectives
This is like relationship/marriage advice without it being intended that way. If only more couples would have such open and honest communication like this, more would be saved. You two are so brave to share your personal couple/parenting experiences with the world. Thank you!
I'm grinning from ear-to-ear, because I remember my wife and I "disagreeing" over the dumbest stuff when our kids were that age.
Hows ur relationship now if theyre grown up. What do u n her argue about now
Thank you both and I hope to see more of these!🙏🏽 Godspeed
This is a very healthy way to talk about shit without it boiling over. What a great example of a healthy marriage
You guys are communicating a lot better than most.
Keep it up and be patient with one another.
"I apologize." Wow. She's a keeper.
"I realize that I hover." Self awareness and accountability. That's rare in a woman.
I know. My family of origin is full of awful toxicity. This is so healthy.
Thank you very much!
I agree. She’s a good one. ♥️♥️
agree…however he could meet her half way and say that he might he a little too sensitive…this seemed to resolve with her taking apologizing and taking full responsibility for their “disagreements”
Great Americans make great couples great couples make great parents and we as a nation need a lot more of you.
First child is A LOT of anxiety because of feeling protective. Kids are so resilient. Boys are incredibly resilient. Dads are super protective.
UFC champion Cain Velasquez shot the man that was raping his son and he's facing 20 year's in prison and rapist is literally getting away with it scot free! Any good protective father would do the same, but the justice system is broken
@@georgecoull1883 he shot at**
@@l3joint ☝️ ✅ you got me, thanks I hear he hit a bystander in the arm?
@@l3joint honestly don't know how I did that smh
@@georgecoull1883 Don't sweat it.
OMG....43 wonderful yrs this month. Trust me (lol) with grandkids she still shoots me down then kicks me.....it's wonder. I hear your sense of humor. Great stuff!! Love this. I am in!!
Reminds me of a cartoon I saw once.
First day of kindergarten all the moms are peering through the school windows....... by the first day of 3rd grade they are peeling out of the parking lot to be, ANYWHERE else!
You guys are new parents, you'll find a balance. I've been a single dad for almost 14 yrs , I was super paranoid at first, that gave way to laughing at ALL of it. Mine gets more interesting all the time. BEST JOB EVER!
You two are doing great things!
Keep doing what your doing and making great memories.
As a 50 year old, grandfather of 6, I can now sit back and enjoy watching "new parents" and remember the fond memories.
BTW, the momma bear thing never goes away. LOL
I haven't laughed that hard in awhile. I feel like this definitely is every relationship, great episode keep them coming. And no advice, you guys are great parents!
Haha! Thank you!
This is definitely every relationship🙃
love this. I'm 46,I'm 4 yrs older than my wife. we've been together since she was 16. she's the love of my life. I don't deserve her. u gotta fight for that shtt. we've gotten thru weight gain,kids,missing hair,jealousy,money problems ,drugs alcohol on my end and she's fkn rock solid . love how u 2 talk about this stuff in public. thats how real love can last. its a battle man. but it's fkn amazing and hard to explain if u don't have it.
Sounds like a rich, eventful, deep, beautiful bond. Now it’s time to enjoy some easier times. Some reflecting. Have fun together, appreciate every moment. It was worth it.
Great series name! When Shawn said "I'm gonna go get him" I was waiting for Katie to say "Be careful!" 1st kiddo is hardest because you are learning - - source of a LOT of funny stories, but a lot of growing together too!
My parents wouldn't let me ride my bike past the end of our street. A few years later my little brother could ride all over town.
So yes, the first one gets more protection, also more time with parents.
@@savage22bolt32 So true. LOL
@@sues3218 So funny, I had to look back & see what I said.
Shawn Ryan is one of my earliest yt subscriptions. Seen a lot of growth here.
(Hickok45 was my very first!)
You guys are great parents. Thanks for being vulnerable and this is good therapy for couples in a down to earth way. One way to take a moms overly concern though is to interpret it as her care for you and her family. It’s so easy to take negatively but most of the time the motives are pure. If she didn’t say anything, then I’d start wondering if she cares. God bless you in this new venture.
It's the first little one. Lol this brought back memories. Wait till the 2nd kid. All these little things won't matter, he/she will eat dirt and you two will say does it taste good.
So true!
Its all new parents. You guys are amazing and a great example THANK YOU!
This is healthy and great to share. This is what being new parents looks like. I’ve lived it too. The unhealthy version of this disagreement is when you both say nothing and just quietly resent each other.
He’s alive! You’re doing your job!!! I remember how scared we were coming home from the hospital!!! I was thinking I’ve just got to keep this little thing alive!!! 9 years later… it’s a blessing!!! Congratulations love this!!!
First child? Prepare for alot of heartbreak amongst the wonderful lasting memories. Fact is you cannot protect them from everything. That thought alone breaks your heart. You guys are doing an awesome job. Grow with each other because you are going to need each other. Don't be afraid to let the kid play in the mud. More upset and heartbreak to come so protect yourselves when it happens. Stay strong in each other and guide the best way rhat you can. God Bless you.
Great stuff. I've been married 33 yrs. 3 kids. Life is hard but that's how diamonds are made. Keep talking and you are not alone. Shepherding a child's heart is a great book. Love the show and your transparency. Thank you. JD
Thanks for allowing us into the bubble time you both are way cool!
You guys are adorable together. God bless your family!
Yes, you are not alone. This was the biggest topic of “discussions” between my wife and I with our son.
Literally the same topics!
I really enjoy u two ..finally a couple of people being real not fake...it's worth time listening ...u guys got this...two things live and forgiveness very important...she brings out your soft side shawn...I've seen those photos of u when u were a seal.. watching you ..that hard Part of you..know when to be gentle and when to be hard...thank you ..for this ...cheers from an 58 yr old school metalhead from Kansas city...
Welcome to parenthood kids! The toughest job you're ever going to have. You both are doing great. Especially talking things out. Cheers to your beautiful family.
Absolutely normal struggles of first time parents. It’s a good sign of a strong marriage that you can sit down and work through the frustrations. It gets easier, then harder, and goes through this cyclical cycle. Communication and your marriage needs to always be a priority!
" not just us"... Amen to this new Journey .. Bubble bath. 💐⚓💐
I let your mom go if thats what she wonts i always love her and i never take from her and i never hurt her no more i give her every dim i get to take care of you all and dont care caise i no in my hart she doing what she needs to to make shore you all get what you need i love my kids no matter what dispite what they think i will keep them promises and i keep going forward and keep my head up but i will be onest when im done im done and i dont wont to go on with out all of you i will not be like my parents and i always love your mom dont think funny when im down cause every word i say at this time true and id change for all but i need you to move with me i got us but i wont do it with out you all and not trying this or saying this to get you fill sorry
I appreciate your willingness to be vulnerable and have REAL talk in front of the camera. THIS....THIS right here can help sooo many people in THEIR relationships. My wife and I have 3 kids, 6 grandkids and have been together for 30 yrs. One thing I've learned; keep it upbeat, fun and go with the flow. Parenting is rewarding and the learning is flexible. Don't be so hard on yourselves. You have a Budweiser; a new baby is harder, buy ya got the tools to make it. Enjoy Sonny and enjoy each other... everyday!
Semper Fi
My wife and I just starting trying to have kids. I appreciate you both being so open and sharing your experience. IT'S NOT JUST YOU.
You guys are awesome..such open honesty. Mamas are overprotective because of Love...it's hard for men the first year because a mothers instinct is all about her pup..even though it may be just a bubble bath." It's not just you"😊 thankyou for all the raw honesty and sharing❤❤
What is the purpose of a family? Families are central to God's plan for His children. They are the fundamental building block of strong societies. Families are where we can feel love and learn how to love others.🙏❤🙏
Great first time parents at learning and figuring it out TOGETHER which is amazing as well as communicating with each other. Definitely keep communicating with your partner whatever may be..and the rest will fall in place... Father of 3 hooyah
Love the name, it really encapsulates what you do. Bringing light to important topics from perspectives we are otherwise denied, for various reasons.
Love “Not Just Us” please do more! As a mom who raised 8 kids and 3 foster kids, I want to say you’re doing great! We are a blended family and early in our marriage we realized that we are a team and if one person loses, the team loses. So we look for a way that we can both win-because the most important thing you can give to your child is parents who are in love.❤️
You guys have to keep this going!! Talk about a ray of sunshine in the middle of all the stuff going on these days! You guys are great!!
Very smart.....airing the "issues", talking about it, documenting your apologies and future changes of behavior. Love it, thank you for sharing.
I wish I could talk like this with my wife. I envy the communication y'all have. Nothing but love and respect for you and your family brother
It looks wierd to me... i prefer just talking normaly not 1 meter away sitting face to face in garden
@@pekarr1 you're the weird one believe me
Maybe it’s time for counseling or to be re-married. Life is too short
@@pekarr1 As the other comment said, you're the weird one.. They are talking normally, and maybe they would sit next to each other if it wasn't a youtube video. For me it's more weird when couples sit in front of a camera and turn their heads towards each other and look at the screen in the same time..
Last Chance, you CAN!
I'm right there with you. My wife is very critical of how I do things for my son. We've had countless disagreements but she is a incredible mom to our son. Keep up the great work!
Love the concept, Shawn and Katie Jean! It's definitely aptly named "It's Not Just Us."
We had two kids, but they were nine years apart. It was a lot like having an only child twice. Things we thought we did right with the first, didn't work at all with the second. Thank God there was no internet or social media to judge our mistakes or drown us with unsolicited, "expert" advice.
Great guidance from Jordan Peterson is his Rule 5: Do Not Let Your Children Do Anything That Makes You Dislike Them. It seems to have worked for us (and our kids), despite being ignorant of the rule when we were in the child-rearing trenches.
God bless you both--and your Wee One!
You guys are doing great! The fact that you both communicate and resolve issues before they get blown up and respect each other is a recipe for a healthy marriage. It's your 1st child...you will raise him the best you know how. Its a new and great experience.
As young man seeking to join the marines who would love a family, im glad to see the big bad seal cia guy can eventually have a family and life outside of the contractor world. I for one love this and as an incredibly idiotic person at times love the advice and example. Thank yall. Really.
THE WORLD NEEDS THIS RIGHT NOW. PLEASE MAKE MORE EPISODES!!!!! AND THANK YOU FOR YOUR SACRIFICES AND SERVICE YOU MADE TO THE AMAZING COUNTRY I LIVE IN!!!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
You can feel the love between you two!
Fatigue is a big factor in arguments during the postpartum period.
Practice saying "have a good time."
You're talking about it and in my eyes you have already won.
I wish I had a do over because it was so much fun. There were also moments of sheer terror. Congratulations and the best of luck.
Y'all are kickin ass! I pray to find a partner that's willing to call out my s*** and wants us both to be better people every day. Cheers Y'all!
You will. Just be patient my friend.
Me too man, me too. Its rough out there, and the dating scene has changed since I last dipped my toes in
It’s not easy when another calls out our $&!?….especially when the tracks of pride have been laid for many years.
God bless you two and your beautiful marriage and family. 🙏🏼♥️
Parenting advice: 1. Give/show them more love than you think they need 2.Don't do anything for your child that they can do for themselves 3. Don't let them do anything that make you resent them 4. Let them talk to you / listen to them (like a coach not a authoritarian ruler)
This is what's happening right now with me and my wife. So glad I saw this because I have been feeling the same way, "well imma just do me and wait until she is older," it's definitely difficult but we have been talking more and my wife can see the problems and we have been working on it. It's been about a month since we had our first conversation and things are finally starting to get a little better. But thank you for sharing. It's nice to see we are not alone. It's crazy how things change when you have a child.
That baby boy is gonna have soooo much fun as he gets older on ur property, he's gonna get into stuff u never woulda dreamed of.
Plus he's the son of a Navy Seal, which has to b the coolest thing ever!! He's gonna have sooo much fun growing up out in the wilderness!!
Loads of laundry for sure. LOL Hope they keep the first aid kit well stocked too. LOL I wish I had property like that when I was a kid. The fun and adventure is going to be epic.
These are the best! I’ve watched all these but my wife and I are on a trip and I’m letting her listen. The trials of marriage and raising a family. Have to love all of it
Damn!!! Your wife rocks!!! She said to you, “its a safe space.” Yes keep making this. Definitely helps me to reflect with my relation with my wife.
(47 yrs of marriage) all hubbies have felt..."I feel like everytime...". BUT you 2 are talking about it! Wish we had. GREAT job u too!
This is awesome! It reminds me of your mindset video talking about how to "build confidence in public situations" video! Having the confidence to throw it out there is the best thing you can do to increase inter-personal communication
Love that!
Love this. As parents of 3, (7, 11, 13) my wife and I are so busy with our work and our kids and their 4-H/FFA projects, baseball, volleyball, basketball, etc, etc...that we fail to communicate the things that we feel are important in that moment. We (mostly myself) just back off and say, (it's not worth it, pick your battles)...Refreshing to see 2 adults talking about things like this and coming to a resolution without making one or the other feel belittled or have to admit guilt in the moment, which is usually happening so fast, that there is no time for discussion. Lol. Be it bubble bath, or what jacket a kid can or can't wear, or what is acceptable behavior from a 13 year old and what isn't, we need to follow your and your wife's example of communicating when there is time for thought and reflection, and not being too proud to admit fault, however small the disagreement. Thanks again,
A Fan From Oklahoma
This is a a great idea! And y’all are communicating about these issues amongst one another is awesome!
Extremely relatable. I have been told I always or often shutdown my husband's ideas or suggestions. He also expressed feelings of nothing he does is right. The discussion still creeps into our marriage but I have made it a rule for myself to never say no to anything he says. Though I sometimes forget or fail.
Thanks for the video. Looking forward to the segment.
This was great. The wife and I have disagreements that at the end of the day mean nothing and we move on. Creek time and Coco Melon are the best!
My man! Cheers
Damn right! Cocomelon!!!!
Welcome to new parenthood, I have 5 kids, and the first one we both were hovering over him and overprotective but by number 5 we have learned that kids are super resilient. You guys are doing great and every serious parent goes through the stage that you guys are in. ENJOY THE JOURNEY
It’s tough sometimes as a dad to feel connected to the child, so when an idea gets shot down by mom, it can feel a bit personal. Me and my wife have had to talk this out more than once. The big take away is that we both love our daughter and have nothing but good intentions, and we just need to work on better communication with each other.
I love seeing this. A respectable adult not overly serious conversation. This is how it’s done people. Good job to both of you. Congrats on your marriage, son and business. This is why I watch. The content is, real, quality, content.
Keep hovering! Please keep hovering! We are in a world where the evil wants our children younger and younger. Fight that evil by hovering! There’s going to come a time when you won’t be able to! Hover! Hover! Hover! Great segment. Thanks 🥰
For me this is mostly a trip down memory lane, but I appreciate having my memory jogged and I truly enjoy the whole dynamic!! It kind of feels like the more things change the more they stay the same. Love ya guys! 🌻🐝
I like to refer those hubby, wife moments as “Spirited Conversations”
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I like that name.
I can't like this video enough! As a father of 3 boys this was defiantly an issue with our first son. Seeing you guys work it out by talking and not just letting the issues build up is awesome and shows how great yall are doing as parents. It's crazy how resilient children are but as new parents all you do is worry, not sure if that really ever changes but it does get better. Love the vlogs!
I just wanted to let Shawn know that her being so extremely careful with the baby has NOTHING to do with you personally. If the Lord Himself suggested a bubble bath she would have felt the same way because it's in every fiber of her being to protect her baby, especially the first born. I was the same way.
It's so refreshing to see other people out there having discussions like me and my wife you guys are great thank you.
It warms my heart hearing y’all laugh. My wife and I have been married 5 years and we have never had a full fight. I grew up with my dad always fighting with my mom. So my wife and I have disagreements but we just talk it and move forward even if we agree to disagree
You two can talk, smile, and laugh and reflect on your situations, i respect that a lot...that's exactly what you two need in my opinion. I believe it will make your both stronger and closer in your relationship.
Y’all are so right…It’s not just y’all….it’s life….everyday life…blessings…ups,downs….hurts. Communication,communication,communication
The best part of parenting is that kids will slowly and methodically rid you...
of the worst parts of you...
which is you!
[meaning: selfish you, self-absorbed you, impatient you, arrogant you, etc, etc]
Shawn & Katie are fantastic. Hope they have many-MANY children.
The fact you both acknowledge and admit these things is awesome.
I loved this!! One thing to remember is us women had almost 9 months to bond with our baby as they are growing inside of us. When we give birth it's now time for the father's to bond with our kids, as scary as it sounds but father's need this time to bond. I remember when my son was months old he was crying because I put him to bed after a feeding and I wanted to go to him so badly. I told my husband you better hold me down because every cell in my body wanted to go to him. I knew our son was ok except he wanted to sleep with us and he needed to learn to sleep on his own. But know, this is the easy part because you guys will have to deal with the terrible two's and the horrible three's. As I say this my son turned 14 years old yesterday and dear god help us all with the teenage years. I am totally thankful for my husband and having him here as we lean on each other through this hellish and yes I said hellish hormonal, hair growing everywhere teenager years! Just remember never fight or disagree in front of your kiddo, as parents you have to show a united front. Kids are smart and savvy and if they see a crack between you two they will absolutely 100% use that to their agenda. And keep laughing with each other because trust me it's better than crying 😄! Also keep taking time and reconnecting with each other.
All of us parents can totally relate with each other. Just have fun and remember if you feel safe with your husband and you know he will protect you, know he will do everything in his power to protect y'all's kiddo. As parents when we have kids we suddenly become this huge emotional bundle, kids make us cry, laugh, they make us pissed off and angry but they also make us proud of them. Thank you so much for sharing, I really enjoyed this!!! 💜
I think you're right about not fighting about parenting in front of the kids, 💯. However, I think it's healthy for parents to have disagreements in front of the kids to show that it's normal and to be an example of it between people who love each other and have their best interest at heart.
We love it!! Keep this up because we love you both and we do agree with you both , most married couples act like this. Please don't be helicopter parents, I am 60 years old , I grew up with no seatbelts, no helmets on bikes, my father put me at 3 years old in his lap holding on to the steering wheel me driving down the streets of Oklahoma city. My friends did the dumbest crap and yes we got hurt but it made us stronger and smarter. Thank you for letting Sonny just cry it out. Babies are real smart and they will rule over you once they know they have you wrapped around their finger. I know this has been addressed before but when you felt alone in this upside down world, I wanted to slap you and say wake up. There are more of us than the minority that is trying to shove this crap down our throats. We are the common sense majority but they won't let us speak. So hang in there! Much love! And yes we have been praying for you. And PS. my wife says you and I are the same person in different bodies. I took the Red pill 30 years ago and I am the biggest control freak in the world and a political junkie. 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
As a father of 5, and definitely not perfect... loving thoughtful conversations like this are the way to get through these situations. You guys are, and will continue to be damn good parents. It's not her against you or you against her its both of you for each other and what's best for the kid. 👍
It’s very rare to find anyone in social media or yt being this authentic. You guys are awesome Shawn. The things you guys are experiencing as new parents is not uncommon. My boys are 15 and 18 now to say they get to that age lighting fast is a gross understatement. Here’s my advice. Slow down, enjoy every second with your son and your wife because you don’t get do-overs. Be quick to listen, slow to speak. Pick your battles and learn to let the small stuff go. NEVER go to bed angry or upset. Compromise, Don’t fight in front of your son. This one is a must, make GOD the most important thing in your life, in both your lives. I wouldn’t be married today almost 21 years later without his love and mercy on me. Pray, the greatest tool you have in life is prayer. 👍 Best of wishes.
I love this. How transparent she is and admits she hovers and how he admits he was really mad. They love each other more than being right. For the record, Shawn, being a former Seal, he'd break somebody in half before he lets anything happen to his son.
He's like, I'm going to go, get my boy. ❤ He loves him, and you both are doing a great job.
One thing I have learned is that when a Dad says "what about this or that" its because he saw an opportunity for a really great moment he was going to experience and share with his child. Shooting it down can be a little heart breaking.
You two have a great dynamic. Any it is definitely not just you having these challenges. Parenting brings out nuances in our personalities that we may not have realized were part of us. But listening to each other, being willing to take a step back, & being willing to adjust your perspective & responses is part of the process of maturing as adults & parents. Great job!
Communication is probably my biggest weakness. Raising children is super stressful for a relationship. Great content. Love it.
Hell, they should show this to school kids! “How to have a healthy argument with someone and not go off the deep end”. I appreciate that you guys give each other the opportunity to talk and are honest with yourselves! It’s so refreshingly genuine.
Jeez. I have an 18 month old and it's crazy how much of our lives are different yet how much we're the same. It is in fact not just us! Great video Shawn and Katie!
Loved this. I feel like as guys/men it takes a long time to get to this place. Where you can talk and compromise so we’ll. I know my relationships would have benefited from it. Now it’s just great to see a peak at life behind the scenes. Shows ya that you have more in common with your neighbors and strangers that anyone wants to believe
You are doing great! The healthiest kids I know are the ones who play/played in the dirt and got messy. Our immune systems grow with us. Nature is good for us. Sounds like you both have good sense and are willing to work through issues, and that the most important thing- communication! Talk through everything. That will also teach your son to do the same. Above all, don’t be hard on yourselves and have a great time. Laugh. I’ve heard angels can fly because they take themselves lightly. I am absolutely loving your shows. Thank you for all you do!
Takes balls to bring these issues to light in attempt to help us all. Please keep it up. As a longtime viewer I love this content
This is both refreshing and heart warming to hear from the three of you. You're such an amazing couple and you're perfect for eachother. No bullshit or fakery whatsoever. It's down to earth and real. This is what everyone needs to be like or see exists.
Yes.. daily .. the morning coffee enlightening.. love it.
Y'all are not only opening up and talking about it, but you're doing it in front of thousands of people.
The way you communicate with each other is fail safe. You won't lose! And the kiddo is going to be just fine!
I like this episode. Feels even more personal than the Shawn Ryan Show.
Take care y'all!
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I love that you both have public discussion about this because there are alot of people out there that think "wow are we the only ones that have disagreements like this?". This will help so many new parents and get a chuckle out of it and may or may not bond people more.
These are such minor, necessary, common interactions between new parents. Completely sane, normal, and healthy.
This was great! My wife does this same thing. I have to constantly remind her that I have a perfect track record of keeping our kids safe. This video helped me, because of how your wife explained why she “hovers”. My wife has never been able to articulate this. It is natural “momma bear” instinct. The mother of our children cannot help this natural reaction. Thanks for this.
Keep it coming!!! Y’all are definitely not alone. God bless you and your family!
Prayer works for my wife and I when we have issues. Communication as you demonstrated is the key to working out these kind of issues.
After your last video, I said to myself, Shawn is getting about time to take the plunge and just shave the head. Lol! And here we are!
In all seriousness, I'm digging this video. No defensiveness. Just communication. Do more like these.
Parenting advice... don't take any minute or hour for granted. If it comes to spending time with your child or spending time in the studio or working on some project, choose the child. Having been in the Navy myself when my daughter was an infant (born oct 2001), I missed out on everything. I was at sea doing Insurv for her 1st birthday, on a pay phone in Souda Bay Crete when I heard her say "Daddy" the first time. Deployed for her 2nd and 4th birthdays. I missed first steps, first solid foods, all of the firsts.
You are fortunate to have the time to be home with yours. Cherish it, take advantage of it, and don't ever let anything come in between those moments.
And have patience with one another. This is a new world and new dynamic for you and your wife. You're not always going to agree on things but just realize, you two are learning this together. Being a parent doesn't come with a manual.