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May i ask what do you even mean by practicing polygamy correctly? Like which is the correct way and which is the wrong way, and which one is the one women don't like etc etc because your video has me slightly confused you see
@@niharikaarora3450 yes man are naturally polygamous and desire more than women . Thats why in monogamous societies man does adultery, visits brothel , have mistressses . Just look at the self proclaimed western civilization and thier so called liberal moral standards
Tbh from my experience most of them do that as a challenge to women since marrying more than one wife is becoming a taboo because of women’s emotions, so these men trying to compete with these women lol
who is obsessing ? what you see are married men wanting a second, if you see non married men then open your mouth, we discus the permissible topics, whats halal and whats haram, why are women obsessing over thier " rights " when they cant even keep a husband then ? or why this and why that when they cant even do this , you see how stupid your point is ? just because they cant get married NOW, doesn't mean they should not think about thier future and possibilities or thier god given rights.
What ur saying is dangerous. Me personally if I was in this situation then I would seek to keep the peace. However, you can get 2 wives if u want and if she doesn't like it she can leave the marriage. Islamically that's valid....
As a woman I can tell you no woman is "OK" seeing her husband practicing polygyny however the one closer to their deen and smart enough to know life would be harder as a divorcee (if he is willing to put up with your responsibilities) would put up with it
@@aqeel786p I am saying if he knows that she will divorce him he does not need to get a second wife. This causes a society problem, the dude is basically a dead beat leaving his children and his children will not have a smooth growing process.
@@aqeel786p Also it depends on why he wants another wife, if it's just he wants to then no problem. But if his wife is absolutely nuts and abusive then that would make more sense.
Woman ARE allowed to put a clause before marriage to not allow a second wife. Islamically this is permissible. And islamically there are many conditions for man to get a second wife.
This is an opinion according to some scholars, and other scholars say you can’t. It isn’t correct to just transmit what you have heard by other people on social media
There’s theory and then there’s real life. In real life, majority men cannot afford a second wife unless they expect their wife to financially contribute to the household so he can afford to be with another woman. I don’t know any woman who would allow her husband to marry a second wife on her dime 😂 the reality is, the Muslim community waste their time with these discussions. This is a discussion for the 1%. If you work a regular 9-5, live in a western country and make less than 250k a year, you cannot afford a second wife + second family/children. Trying to get a second wife when YOU KNOW and YOUR FIRST WIFE KNOWS that you cannot afford this, will just result in your second wife divorcing you (not because of the polygamy, but because you can no longer financially take care of her and your children with this new second wife expense), and you will destroy your relationship with your first wife and your children. The key is to just marry a woman who is open to polygamy instead of trying to force it on a woman that does not want that life.
If money is an issue, there are lots of career driven sisters who don’t need financial support. In misyar marriage the man can be "unjust" without sinning. It is very much possible for a man to be polygynous today.
This is exactly what makes me angry about these broke brothers who act like it is their right. When the government is providing for your first wife because you’re too lazy or broke, that does not open you up to take the responsibility of another wife/family. One of the wife’s rights is that you provide for her. When you can’t even do that, who allowed you to even think about a second?
@@moonwalkerr87 any self-respecting woman with a family who loves her would never allow her to marry a man without fulfilling her rights. That sounds like halal prostitution and that is not respectable at all. Yuck.
For me personally, I'm not into polygamy as a woman and I would never want to be with a man that wants it. He shall find another woman that agrees with it because that's not going to be me. I can't give that to him, which means I would rather him find someone that agrees/doesn't mind it. The reason why I'm against it was the reason that this was allowed to happen. Muslim men used to marry women who are divorced, who are widowed, or had responsibilities and needed help with it. It was done out of kindness. Now, it's almost done if he thinks his wife is not good enough for him physically, and he wants something else. A lot of men these days choose to have secret wives and create a relationship with them that does not allow them to have children and for it to be just a fun fling, and then they will go find their next victim. It's like men these days do not marry for the right reasons. One of the main conditions for polygamy, is besides the fact that you have to fulfil all the requests and be able to provide for them and be responsible for them, is the fact that you have to have everything equal for them. Unfortunately, some men make it very clear that they have favourites, and they prefer a wife over another. In Islam, the most important thing is to have everything equal between them. However, it is impossible to have everything equal between four different women, which kind of makes this hat on. It's like you're allowed to, but you can't. It also makes me feel insufficient as a woman, it's like as if I'm lacking something, and he's looking for the thing that I lack in another woman. Of course, if I can't get him children, that's a different situation. But if I can, and I'm doing my best, I don't see why there is another reason to have a different wife.
I only read the first paragraph, but yes in islam you can put in the nikah that you don’t want him to marry another woman after you, its as simple as that In that case you will have the right to stop him from marrying a second wife even if he wanted to
Asalamualikum sister, you are not insufficient as a woman dear! Women and Men are equal, but different! May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'Ala bless you, strengthen you, and guide you, Ameen.
I would think of money lol , his salary would be divided in 2 , so that means lesser food , clothes and other necessary stuff , and if other wife get sick , then you would stay like bankrupted ....
@@yevheniiaalbin1934 that's what I was saying! Some men matty wives that they cannot handle. Women need men who are responsible, and sometimes they can't be balanced or provided for properly. Remember that his salary would be divided to 3 sections because he needs some of the money himself. LOL
To marry in secret is so horrible!! It is horrible for the kids! Don't do that. If you want to then invite your kids with her to get to know each other so that you can plant sympathy between them. Let your kids know that you love them and and that they also has to respect this. Don't do it in secret. It destroys the trust between you and your kids/wife/sister/mother.
Yeah, I feel bad for the girls who get convinced their man loves them if he marries them in secret, like, gurl, he is sneaking to see you and hiding you as if he is seeing a prostitute😒
Marrying a second wife when your wife really doesn’t want you to is pretty horrible, but Allah allows it without her permission so some Muslims will condone it.
@@matthenley3886 it is horrible for my parents if i keep a beard , it does not matter , who has the right to prevent me from doing something halal ? no one has
The disregard for women's feelings is unreal . To do an action that will undoubtedly hurt and destroy your spouse without any remorse is straight up sociopathic in my opinion.
Depends if they do that on purpose to make their wife feel less some men hâte their first wife and they try To ruin them or their reputation subhana Allah
Your opinion is complete nonsense. You fail to realise that Islam doesn't revolve around a woman's emotion. Everything which hurts a woman's feelings isn't instantly wrong. When men are struggling to give rights to wife it's fine, but other way around? You act like it's oppression. The nonsense women like you talk is all double standards
@Humaira uou do realize that polygyny comes with STRICT conditions right? If a woman doesn’t feel like she’s being taken care of, knows her husband will play favoritism, it is not allowed for you to still go and marry 4 because you’re breaking the rules of Allah. no need to manipulate others by saying what you’re saying about “women’s feelings”. do you only marry for sex and kids?
@@SimranMakandar-s9o Stop speaking nonsense woman. Fear Allah. A woman can feel something which is not actually true. Feelings are true, but they are not always the truth. Also a lot of women lie nowadays about men, intentionally and unintentionally. Also a woman can't predict the future. She won't 'know her husband will play favoritism'. Fear Allah before you speak such garbage.
I don't mind being in polygamy relationship but if my husband can't provide me things and wants to married another wife & have favoritism. No way I let him,I have a right to confront him.
U don't mind. Bruh since when does a women not mind. I'm a man and that's not in your nature. Your gonna mind and your gonna accept it lol. The prophet wife's broke plates. Aisha, read about her.
I don’t know, as a Muslim woman it still seems a bit unfair to me.. I don’t want to feel like his love is being divided amongst others. I can’t even imagine him looking at another woman not to mention sleeping with and having kids with her. He’s my partner, we have a special connection, inside jokes, years of built trust and love, i know it’s not the intention but I know most woman would not help but feel inferior in a way if he disregarded all that and found another woman. He’s always gonna prefer someone more- maybe he will treat us both well, but emotionally he will always have a favorite.
Well it’s a normal feeling and the wives of the Prophet pbuh also felt a similar type of “jealousy” at times. Obviously you can’t put yourself in the shoes of a biological male to understand how they think or feel, but thinking about Allah and trusting His wisdom behind such decisions can help you be more at ease.
You know how you can have more than one child but still value and love and take care of all of them the same? How You don’t secretly wish that one or more of them wasn’t part of your family? You could see it like that. If a man wants to enjoy another woman, it should definitely not be for free, he should take full responsibility, he should be there in both good and hard times.
My grandfather had 2nd wife and to this day we still have problems in my family because of it. Even though the parties involved all died. If you’re trying to escape the problems in your marriage with 2nd marriage it’s not going to work. Just makes everything worse. And the children that grows up in this environment tends to negative views on marriage and Islam. I have seen plenty of people that never want to get married because of this reason.
Sure but again this doesn’t mean we take individual horror stories to denounce poly. As a matter of fact, seems like it wasn’t very Islamic the way that marriage was managed, Allah yerhamo by your grandfather. Even you said if you do it to escape your problems. You shouldn’t just marry again to fix current marriage problems.
Your story is the majority experience I've seen with polygyny in my life. 8 out of 11 poly marriages ended in disaster, and this sort of disaster is familial destruction, it isn't small.
This is basically an ad catered to men for your coaching 😂 funny how the majority of the video is bashing women for not wanting their husband to have multiple secret wives
I really like the way this video was broken down. As a sister who has never warmed to the idea of polygyny I think it would be nice to see you discuss (perhaps in a future podcast) reasons why a man would want to marry another woman other than the obvious. Because even as you said, it was intended for a limitation so it’s not just for sexual desires, because what if a man is not fulfilled after wife no. 4? If this man wants to increase his Imaan as he is improving in his deen through other sunnah practises it seems more understandable in my eyes. I think it’s important to be honest as men know that most women get jealous and ‘hiding’ is not deemed a just way to act towards your wife especially if she never agreed to this. May Allah reward the women who welcome this and grant them the highest levels of Jannah, Ameen.
Hmmm i think women dont want pologamy because its their fitrah to not want to share, not becaause of womanism or because we think men and women are the same, its also not true that a woman cant think of anyone else just because she is married to a good man, its just haram so no point in thinking of it
Polygamy causes heartbreak i know as my poor nan was one and she had such hardship from it the marriage didn't last. It can work if the situation is right i.e poor lady in need of shelter etc. but most muslim women would only be ok with this arrangement if she doesn't love him but thats ok as not everyone can marry for love. Love marriages are a special blessing not afforded to many. Some women may just need basic needs met and be second wife thats ok too.
@@Abdur-Rahman862 no they aint. marriage is not about that much trust its about survival of the individuals and the team work they they do together. u dont however start a company with somebody and decide they should hold all the assets or they can have a second partner without ur knowledge because that will have an effect on your side of the buisnes.
@@SpaghettiBolognese99 when so many men are dying in war an woman have to start sharing men. but we don't have to do that anymore. we don't have tos hare and we don't have to be unsatisfied with our partners anymore
@@SfsewDid prophet saw married aysha ra cause she was a widow or divorcee or some helpless woman. Polygamy have been before islam. It's not something introduced by islam to protect helpless woman.
What you say is kind of misleading, especially when you talk about natural inclinations. If all men are polygamous by nature, why does Allah mention monogamy in the Holy Quran by saying you can content yourself with one wife? It's like Allah is not going to tell you to drink water only if you're wealthy because water is essential to you. Since the majority of men cannot afford to marry multiple women, why would men be polygamous by nature? Why isn't polygyny the norm then? Why did Allah allow men to marry only one woman if it's against their nature? Most men nowadays just want to marry multiple women for the wrong reasons. As a Muslim woman, I’m not against polygyny, but an option isn’t an obligation, a norm, or a general truth.
It was for the past but now single men even more than women 80 percentage of men are single it will cause more loneliness and disaster it's not feasible for now
I feel like men nowadays seek to marry another woman because they feel their first wife is lacking in one way or another e.g., she’s not as young or beautiful, she may not want to have intercourse, or more kids etc. in this sense how can a man treat his first wife equally to a second or third if he feels she is lacking or defective? Men who seek another wife should realise that a second wife should not be a replacement or substitution, but rather complementary to the first wife.
Thank you for talking about this topic. I've met too many convert sisters who accept to be the "secret" second wife to a man that helped them accept Islam. They will give away their rights and dignity for the sake of man that will lead them to jennah. They get so delusional and suffer with depression and suicidal thoughts. When these men's actions don't align with their words, they blame Islam and leave the religion. The emotional trauma that they cause to the first wife and her children is unethical. I would never wish that for any Muslims. I personally accept polygamy for my husband. When and if he ever does decide to take on another wife, I would love to support him. I would make sure he gives the sister her rights. Inshallah. Polygamy is Sunnah and it can work in these times. We just have to be transparent of our expectations and needs.
If a woman doesn't want her man to have a second wife, she can put it in her Nikkah contract for a reason and it is permissible because Allah the most knowing knows that some women would not want that. Everyone is not tailored the same way. You cannot just say women should accept it and if not, there is a problem in her Taqwaa. I don't know why men are acting as if women are depriving them from their right when they put those contracts. This is permissible to the woman as much as it is permissible to men to marry many.
Cannot stop a man from what he is allowed to do. What you can stipulate in the nikah contract is that you can divorce if he remarries. And that stipulation must be agreed upon by both. You cannot take away a man’s right, but you can give yourself the right to divorce. There is a difference between restricting someone’s right and givving yourself a right.
@moonwalkerr87 of course. That's why it's important to have this discussion before even getting married. Finding a spouse who is okay with our goals in the future (for example: marrying more than one wife). Its not wrong at all from both sides (for a woman to prefer a husband who only wants one wife or for a man who prefers to have more than one wife). Its just both sides need to be honest. May Allah SWT ease everything for us
@Themessagedrama That is called isthlaal. Making what Allah made halaal, haram. This is actually forbidden. Just because she adds that to a marriage contract. Don't mean he can't marry again. He can divorce her and move on. Or not agree to thst at all.
@@Sumayyah-ho1wl Look, the thing about that "Nikkah contract" clause - it's actually not against Islamic law at all. It's the woman's right to have that in there if she wants. You should really check with religious scholars and rulings (fatwas) before saying it's not allowed(haram). She is not going to stop him from remarrying, but she will get divorced if she wants to. Even if it's your right to remarry you cannot force her to accept it. It would be a lot better if the partners just talked it all through and agreed on everything upfront, instead of wasting time and energy on it later on.
People say that the man does not have to tell his wife. This is FALSE. He doesn't need her permission, however the Prophet pbuh said that MARRIAGES MUST BE PUBLICIZED FOR MANY LOGICAL AND PRACTICAL AND SOCIAL REASONS. So, if marriages must be publicized then OBVIOUSLY THE WIFE WOULD KNOW AND SHOULD KNOW. if the community knows! Also, a secret marriage entails lying all the time, hidden children (which is haram because kids could grow up and mistakenly marry their siblings not knowing that they even have those siblings). All of these sheikhs that hide this obvious knowledge for the sake of men's secret pleasures will be accountable to Allah. They are ruining lives and families by enabling lying.
Honestly multuple wives is a very difficult thing that many brothers and sisters can't do at all. The marriage is not only between the man and the women but also the women have some sorta of relationship with each other because of the kids and the same husband. I as a muslim woman I know I can't handle it because I have great amount of jealousy and want 100% monogamy where I don't even allow opposite gender friends. It is a tough thing that many people can't 100% do which can lead to hell. I will choose monogamous husband and if he wants 2nd or more wives, I will ask for divorce because I know I will probably commit a sin by either being mean to him, or to one of the women or I will disobey him. I also know many men can't treat all women equal so he will most likely earn sins too. It is easier to avoid hell fire instead of playing too close to it for me.
Same here as a guy I really don't have enough mental fortitude to balance multiple wives even one is difficult for which is why I rather stay single(unless it's Allah's plan for me to marry other then that I'm okay with controling my desires/lust).
@@cyberyousef7519 oh no, of course I won't shame him but I won't be involved in it lol. I applaud anyone who can do it sincerely be it the man and the women. Also the kids.
Fr. I'd rather stay single than be in a situation which can lead me to hellfire because I can't cope with the conditions. Allah swt is most gracious and didn't make it a must for the women to accept it if they can't, divorce is permissible alhamdulillah
Although it is halal to not tell your first wife Allah does say that you require to treat them justly, and lying could be involved which is haram so it is best to not keep it secret
@@Avistyl nah it ain't halal akhi, how can u say that talking to another woman secretly and marrying her is halal, u gotta discuss with ur partner and if ur wife says no because she is jealous, now that's a good wife
Lil reminder to the gents 🤗🤭: Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: إِذَا كَانَ عِنْدَ الرَّجُلِ امْرَأَتَانِ فَلَمْ يَعْدِلْ بَيْنَهُمَا جَاءَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَشِقُّهُ سَاقِطٌ If a man has two wives and he is not just between them, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides collapsed. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1141, Grade: Sahih
This is a great reminder 🤍Marrying multiple wives is a huge and serious responsibility, and you'll have to answer for every moment of injustice you put your loved ones through. As the prophet (pbuh) once said, "Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for there is no barrier between it and Allah". This gives the most comfort out of anything when I hear the horrors of what many women go through in such marriages. Allah swt is Most Just, He will most certainly never wrong anyone, alhamdulillah 🤍
People love to use this Hadith in this issue. As a Muslim if you think you do any form of worship without any flaws and it's perfect then you're arrogant, because no human is without flaws. My salat, my fasts are nowhere near as perfect as it should be? That's ok. But marrying multiple women? Your behavior and sense of justice better be on the same level as the perfect role model, the Prophet (pbuh), himself or else divorce.
@asmodeusoflust83 yes, bcuz Allah says I'll forgive u ignoring my rights but never that of my creation. Your just nit picking the parts of Islam u like
@asmodeusoflust83 the point where u are trying to justify polygamy by comparing it with salat and fasts. You're marrying a human, not a "form of worship" where u can mess up and be forgiven.
1 #podcast. 2 as a new Muslim woman I get the concept of a man being able to have multiple wives. And I get it now on the flip side I as a woman know I can’t be in one. It’s more of an emotional issue for me growing up an a non Muslim household I seen the way my dad look and love my mom and various and always wanted that same thing. To a man to love and cherish me as my dad do my mom. An I also know after a while I know I will with draw from the relationship which will end up breaking up a home. Since I never grew up in a broken home why put myself in a that situation ❤ but love your content and look forward to the podcast. May Allah keep blessing you and your family with your success
I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE: Brothers, DON‘T DO IT! Why lying about something, that is halal?? And you will be fated to lie to keep your secret. Ambiguous speech won’t work anymore someday, if your first wife isn’t completely stupid. She will maybe even suspect you to do any haram. And how will you be able to give your secret wife her rights? How will you be able to be with her every second night, without the other wife noticing something? You will get used to lying and will mess up your good character and iman. And someday the truth will come out and it can affect your marriage. It’s inevitable! So be honest in the first place.
there is no fairness in secrecy. it not about getting permission from the wife, it about being fairness for the wife. lying is sin for a reason brother.
Literally alhamdulillah my husband is not like this. The way so many Muslim men speak about these topics is so harsh. I swear it's like they don't like women they just want to use us to satisfy their desires in a halal way.
I have a polygamy trauma. My father didnt wants my mom to have childrens, When she was prégnant with me he neglect her I was supposed to not be born But I miraculously was born and then all my siblings were born to my name would have been Miracle in arabic.
You can never fulfill your wives’ rights if you have a wife in secret. Never. You’re either going to be lying unnecessarily to one wife, or oppressing the other wife by not giving her equal nights. Polygyny is very very difficult nowadays as well, unless the man is wealthy or lives in a country with a low cost of living. I’ve been in a polygynous marriage, my husband had a 2nd wife and it wasn’t easy for any party but it can work with maturity and if you’re all on the same page. It’s also not as heart wrenching as women think once you get over the initial transition period, you get used to it, it takes work and effort and there’s difficult moments but it’s possible.
If money is an issue, there are lots of career driven sisters who don’t need financial support. In misyar marriage the man can be "unjust" without sinning. It is very much possible for a man to be polygynous today.
@@moonwalkerr87what is misyar marriage?also isn't in Islam provision the responsibility of the husband and he is supposed to pay for all the stuff not the wife?
@@levi0309 It is done willingly. No one is forcing anyone. There are women who compromise when they meet a good married man that cannot financially support them.
People should know that polygyny also gives widows and women with some problems a chance to get married Because if every man only had one option, it decrease their chance of actually getting married one day
honestly reading some me comments is one of many reason I never want to get married its never enough for u men u always want more I prefer my peace no husband means no problems Allah is my only provider and I only relay on him only no need for a husband bc alot of u will or wont never understand how it feels as a woman reading those this I prefer to die as a unmarried woman then having a men like that honestly
There is a reason Allah allowed 4 wives for men. There is no reason to be angry or frustrated about it if you're a sister, just read about men and women's nature. It's in man's nature to always "want more", while it's in women's nature to automatically get attached to "one" man. So the best thing is to keep it halal. Keep the relationship halal, and if you get to the stage of marrying another women, then confirm it publicly (family & friends), not hide it in private and treat all the wives equally good. The fact it's not that easy in these times is a different discussion, nonetheless what we are seeing in the West is a disease of Western dating mentality, where they don't marry each other, yet astaghfirullah they end up cheating and get with another women behind "their" women's back. May Allah protect us all from haram.
But it is still okay for a woman to say that she isn’t okay with it , especially if she discussed it with the man before marriage. She can then simply divorce the man in that case, because it is her right to divorce him if he marries a second wife , the same way a man can marry another wife.
@@firdowsjohnson5766 why is it ok for a Muslim woman to say she isn't ok with a halal thing? Isn't being a Muslim all about surrendering yourself to Allah? No matter what opinion or will you might have? In front of Allah, are you not supposed to accept His will even if you don't agree or find it unpleasant?
@asmodeusoflust83 Allah said if you can't be righteous to the wifes, only get one. If one wife is unhappy, you are already sinning. It is very easy to make a woman unhappy. It's not really halal if the first wife is pissed and sad about the second marriage.
most those marriages failed, in my city they married with wife knowing, economy got bad later, they stopped providing for their first wives and kids. its really selfish to think to marry more than one in our times. even if you has money now, economy is not stable and the guy needs to save for his kids future. this while we ignore the wives feeling, its still not practical thing to do.
The problem with polygeny is that men are not doing it well.i don't think men that do it secretly fear their wife they just fear the obvious that she will not accept it.remember not all women can handle this matter this why rasullullah did say take care of our feelings.i think secret second wife isn't a good idea.if you know your wife will not accept this for herself be straight forward and be ready to loose her or loose getting multiple wife.make duaa for Allah to make it easy for her and ease her jalousy.
Salam brother Faiyad, can you tell us what credentials you have to work with “clients” or create a marriage podcast? Are you a counsellor with certifications? Are you married? What are your credentials to be advising people? Genuinely curious.
As a revert, I had fears that I would never be able to get married to a Muslim man unless I accepted being a second wife... I didn't think I was "first wife material" just as I reverted later in life... so I spent a lot of time trying to get comfortable with the idea. #podcast really looking forward to the podcast brother
Asalamualaikum sister, don't say that! You are first wife material! All of us women are equal to another regardless of being a revert or born muslim! Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'Ala blessed you when He chose you and forgave all your sins when you accepted Islam! All of us women and each of the 4 wives you mentioned would be and are equal! You are amazing! May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'Ala bles you, strengthen you, guide you, make it easy for you, and grant you comfort, Ameen.
A sister here. I genuinely don’t understand brothers who do that. Marrying a second wife in secret is degrading and emasculating, like what are you afraid of? Your wife’s anger?? We hide something we are ashamed of, something we aren’t supposed to be doing, but marrying up to four wives is halal and there is nothing wrong with it, so why are you hiding it as if it’s some big crime? Is your wife so out of control and disobedient that if you tell her you intend to marry a second wife - which is a man’s right, and he doesn’t need anyone’s permission obviously - she would throw a fit? Man up and own up to your decisions, it’s your right that no one can take away. Also, things like these should be discussed before marriage. Sadly there are a lot of sisters with feminist traits who don’t want to accept halal things like polygyny.
Exactly. However, some brothers may face legal consequences from the wife and court system if they are found to have a second wife and may risk losing his children.
@@hellokitty10117 A woman doesn’t just ‘divorce’. It’s a man’s right. A woman can request khula and her husband may deny her, in that case she would have to ask a Muslim judge for divorce. So yeah, divorce and in laws shouldn’t be a problem for a man :) But to be fair, if the wife throws a fit after finding out that he wants a second wife, despite him being able to afford multiple wives, he should spare himself the headache and just divorce her.
@@SpaghettiBolognese99 That’s horrible, but yeah, the western system is biased in favor of women. So much for ‘progress and human rights’, lol. I think that men should talk this through with the woman before marriage, so that he knows he’s on the safe side. But marrying in secret is still not the solution.
The lying is the problem. As for Marty ng a second wife you don't need permission nor do you have to tell your wife. Lying is what makes it secret. If she asks you should tell her. If you made yourself into "that man" you never have to lie. Lying is a weak thing for a man to do. And will cripple your future with any woman. Because women don't want cowards for husbands
in yemen domestic abuse is pretty bad. we need to response appropriatly to our current situation. many men are abusive because they themselves were abused as children and bring it to their vulnerable weak woman who depend on their husbands for survival .. so the abused men know she ain't going anywhere. woman need money and should heave less or no children in order to survive better in our current situations.. it is not a choice it is a frocefull quest for survival of woman
Am from zanzibar. Actually Kenyan married in zanzibar. Polygamy here is very normal because 99% of us are Muslims here. And polygamy is the order of the day. Actually if you have one wife here, people get surprised at you.
Don't you still have to accept polygamy as a muslim regardless since it's part of islam even if your nafs finds it hard and even if it's not written for you. isn't it haram to not accept something allah has made halal.
Well this is from a first hand experience, men can act on marrying multiple wives, but with that remember there will be repercussions don’t get butt hurt and expect your first wife’s love and affection to stay the same as it did before. Just like your energy will go to someone else within 24 hours, men be fine when she does not respond with your expectations. It comes with serious consequences. Remember you are free to choose but you are not free from the consequences of your choices. Accept it.
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@@cyberyousef7519 brother I understand what u are trying to say but tht is a pretty dumb comparison to make🤦 Also brother calm down, I saw your comment on other posts as well. If your intention is to advise, your words are way too harsh for tht and you're just a keyboard warrior, fear Allah bro.
As a muslim girl I have never had a problem with being a second wife or my future husband marrying a second wife i used to dream of having someone who would love me way so much but as i grew older i realised that no one can ever love me the way I have always wanted more than the way Allah does in my search for love i found out that only ALLAH can love me in all ways that i want so if it pleases Allah why not i think as women we should seek more of Allah's love more than men's love
Polygamy is a right given men by Allah and lot of so called muslim women have some issue with it like a hypocrite. Allah mentioned in the Quran there will some people who will like part of the book and dislikes other part of the book.
Women are very naturally jealous. A good amount of jealousy in both men and women is healthy. I agree with poly with those who can afford it and be fair with both families and women. And I do believe a good, caring husband will consider what is best for his family, whether that is monogamy or poly. I do believe in many cases, monogamy is best for the family unit, especially in the uk with the cost of living so high and the demand of a good father presence for children. However! that being said, I think it takes a very rare man to be able to navigate that fairly. On the day of judgement do you want to be slanted because you favored one wife over the other? In this current climate, it is very hard to give fairly in time and money. And if you expect to reduce the lifestyle you gave the first or force the first into a job to accomodate and afford another wife, this is wrong. Are you emotionally mature enough to handle two women? Can you be fair? Do you have enough time? Do you have enough time for the children? I can confidently say, personally, poly. is not for me. I know myself as an individual and my husband is on the same page as me. I require a lot of attention to be feel love, I can admit that, without it I feel very emotionaly alone and it does affect my mental wellbeing. I do have a lot of skills and hobbies but I still have a natural level and need of attention so, I do not feel that I best suit poly,. but I try to make it up by being a good wife. I cook well, I learnt lots of traditional turkish food for my husband. I try my best to be attentive to my husband and listen well. I'm not perfect, but I do try! I prioritise my time with him, I dress well for him. I adore my husband. It is about respecting one another enough to talk through it. If it is not something that you are both on board with, divorce amicably or comprimise. Women are emotional and need reassurance. As a man, if you want to have a second wife... man up... tell your wife... be honest... and suffer the consequence if that is not for your wife or end up with two wives! And for women, if there is no legitimate reason to deny this request, talk it through your husband, get to the root and work it out from there. Is there a way you can be a better wife? Do you need to find more time for each other? Is something lacking? What are your concerns?
in yemen domestic abuse is pretty bad. we need to response appropriatly to our current situation. many men are abusive because they themselves were abused as children and bring it to their vulnerable weak woman who depend on their husbands for survival .. so the abused men know she ain't going anywhere. woman need money and should heave less or no children in order to survive better in our current situations.. it is not a choice it is a frocefull quest for survival of woman
@@Sfsewlmao 😂 Less children? Not the advice of the Prophet at all. More like we need more righteous children to be raised in this ummah that’s in the lowest point rn.
whats your islamic educational background ? where and under whom did you study islam ? who are your teachers? do you know the arabic language ? barak Allahu feekum.
Assalamalaikum wa rahmatullah, watched your video and it was definitely worth the time, I loved every single point you made and agreed with every single thing, great video my brother, may Allah(swt) reward you for your dedication and forgive the Muslim ummah.
@@azazel_playz7055don’t lie against the religion of Allah, and do not speak without knowledge. A man definitely doesn’t need his wives permissions to get married. Can you find in the sunnah where the prophet ﷺ ever asked his other wives if he could get married?
You did not cover the most important reason for polygyny especially in impoverished societies. Men from these places don't struggle and earn just to provide his wife with luxury but to fulfill basic needs so he obviously thinks about other women too who do not have a single person in their life to take care of them as they get old and the community even forgets about them.
In Sudan, a man doing polygyny is not a problem in it self. But many families shoose to not do it for purely financial reasons most of the time. This is general, talking much deeper is hard in a comment.
The West has made it a shameful thing, on top of our own normal jealousy SubhaanAllah from what I see here in Australia, the brothers who really shouldnt get a second wife, do get second wives.. and the brothers who do fall under the conditions Allah has made to have a second wife, don't want a second wife SubhaanAllah as sisters we need to stop making haram what Allah has made halal in this matter (putting in marriage contracts etc) inshaaAllah.. both brothers and us sisters need to do better in this matter inshaaAllah..
What are your thoughts on Muslim marriage contracts without marriage by law? I often especially here in Germany come across clashes between the Islamic and legal law of a country. Polygamy for example can't be acknowledged by law, the weddings with 2 witnesses, a wali and the mahr are not aknowledged by the legal marriage office. If a Muslim legally divorces his wife and takes or wants to take a new one he must wait for 1 year until the legal marriage is over. (this is a pretty long Iddah period lots of Fitna and self control required)
Are you even Muslims anymore polygamy is in the Quran and Quran is book for people to the end of time ask forgiveness to Allah (s. w. t) before it too late
A woman who accepts a second wife has no self-respect. In Islam, she has the right to 4 wives, but they also have very harsh conditions. At the same time, Allah has clearly stated in the verse that the best one is a single wife. You cannot normalize a second wife. For God's sake, whoever wants the man she loves to have another wife? He may not tolerate him touching a woman. I am 18 years old and I have lived carefully until now and I want someone who is clean and has never touched a girl like me. After I have been so careful and lived, will I be the second wife? Please don't do it this time, while I have so many questions, I want a clean person among millions of people. While it's hard to find one, do you also want a second wife??
If a man is a righteous man, he does not want a second wife anyway. He strives for heaven in the afterlife, not for desire in this world. In this period, men who want a second wife do so for their sexual desires and for the dirtiness of their souls.
No, simply not Who said she doesn’t respect herself? Second who said being “a second wife” means being “the second option” or something like that You simply got it wrong
It doesn't exist for me. Current men want this for their dirty worldly soul. A man who lives for the afterlife does not pursue worldly desires. @@cyberyousef7519
I am in the west and guys have 304s and multiple children from different women but he is single and nobody cares but once polygamy is talked about then big problem.
So if out of the blue he wants a 2nd, and i dont want him to have a 2nd wife, he can ignore me and do so anyways? Wouldnt that be unfair because im upset and dont feel loved? I also know its his right, so can i just leave, like divorce him?
Furthermore, no evidence appears either in the Quran or sunnah requiring the permission of the first wife if her husband wishes to marry another wife, and therefore he is not required to ask her permission. However, he needs to be judicious in taking this decision and to weigh it carefully with respect to benefits and drawbacks and to look with the eye of wisdom at all of the considerations pertaining to the matter, and he should strive all he can to conciliate, reassure, and satisfy his first wife, in order to ease and mitigate the effect of the matter upon her. So if you not wisely enough don't even try
Iam a muslim man married and iam saying that ur wife is only loving u for ur cash or to protect herself actually its in most arranged marriage cases they never love their man and after that i also believed that love on earth is temporary😊 love is for allah only,,,,, and also to note that indeed i will recommend all man to have sex with ur wife recommended pls don't neglect it because they will never approach it first so do it with foreplay ❤and love ur wife and remember ur wife is NOT UR REAL LOVE as she is just for support and cash or children's she may never love u actually i have seen it in a huge amount in arranged marriage,,,love only allah and all the messengers😊😊😊
Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife." Source: Sahih Muslim 1467 Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
About abandon in bed According to Ibn baz rahimaho Allah, It means you sleep in the same bed without having sex. In other explanations, it means to give her your back while sleeping. Allah knows best These explanations actually make sense
That Sheikh Assim Al Hakim clip nearly put tears of laugh on me 🤣🤣🤣. The guy literally said he made a mistake to marry a 2nd wife. I was like "WHAT!!! WTF!". So you met a new woman, courted her for some period, then proposed, she accepted; then you both planned the nikah by calling imaam, friends and family, did the nikah ceremony; then you probably did a walimah where everyone ate food and drank, had conversations, jokes, etc., you've probably slept with her several times. Allah knows how long they were married before he informed his 1st wife. Sometime years. AND he called that a mistake?! ...Bruv. 🤣🥲🤣🤣 Anyways, sisters, just make it easy for brothers. If we marry an additional wife, it's got nothing to do with you and doesn't reduce your status before us. It just in us to want several women, that's all. Disney and H(B)ollywood have put false ideas about men in your since you were young (and men have been brainwashed too about women, but that's another topic). Men do not think like women at all. Ditch feminism and modern ideology and accept Islam fully.
It’s so important that you mentioned that even if a woman does everything right he might still want another woman, because some men use the fact that a wife wasn’t doing enough that’s why they got another one , again I think a man being honest about what he wants can save himself and the person he wants to be with a lot of headaches and heartaches just be honest that this is something you want to practice so the woman knows what to expect , a man that is brave would not be going around hiding things instead he’s going to be straight forward , at the end of the day everyone is free to do want they want men can practice it and women can choose if that’s something she can deal with , it can be a lot smoother if the man is upfront with his intentions and fair if he gonna do it and the women are not forced or lied to about it or treated fairly if she accepts it
A lot of women don’t mind being kept a secret hmmm you don’t know how many women are in my husband’s DMs trying to get with him and he is a famous muslim man.
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Yes Brother, your 1 Wife must give you the Permission to mary a Second Wife.
May i ask what do you even mean by practicing polygamy correctly? Like which is the correct way and which is the wrong way, and which one is the one women don't like etc etc because your video has me slightly confused you see
Men and women are there to COMPLETE each other, not to COMPETE
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@@niharikaarora3450 yes man are naturally polygamous and desire more than women . Thats why in monogamous societies man does adultery, visits brothel , have mistressses . Just look at the self proclaimed western civilization and thier so called liberal moral standards
Why r ppl obsessing over getting a second wife if it’s hard as hell to even get 1?
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Tbh from my experience most of them do that as a challenge to women since marrying more than one wife is becoming a taboo because of women’s emotions, so these men trying to compete with these women lol
who is obsessing ? what you see are married men wanting a second, if you see non married men then open your mouth, we discus the permissible topics, whats halal and whats haram, why are women obsessing over thier " rights " when they cant even keep a husband then ? or why this and why that when they cant even do this , you see how stupid your point is ? just because they cant get married NOW, doesn't mean they should not think about thier future and possibilities or thier god given rights.
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Its also the same reason why most women these days wants to work, when being a mother is just difficult by itself
If u know ur wife is not ok with polgyny. Don’t ruin and destroy ur family for another one
What ur saying is dangerous. Me personally if I was in this situation then I would seek to keep the peace. However, you can get 2 wives if u want and if she doesn't like it she can leave the marriage. Islamically that's valid....
It's the other way around. If one thinks they can forbid your rights, that's a good reason to leave.
As a woman I can tell you no woman is "OK" seeing her husband practicing polygyny however the one closer to their deen and smart enough to know life would be harder as a divorcee (if he is willing to put up with your responsibilities) would put up with it
@@aqeel786p I am saying if he knows that she will divorce him he does not need to get a second wife. This causes a society problem, the dude is basically a dead beat leaving his children and his children will not have a smooth growing process.
@@aqeel786p Also it depends on why he wants another wife, if it's just he wants to then no problem. But if his wife is absolutely nuts and abusive then that would make more sense.
Woman ARE allowed to put a clause before marriage to not allow a second wife. Islamically this is permissible. And islamically there are many conditions for man to get a second wife.
This is an opinion according to some scholars, and other scholars say you can’t. It isn’t correct to just transmit what you have heard by other people on social media
@Remy-yu2yb there is no sin. she can just leave. simple as that and its halal
@@iymuslim Sahabi women practiced it. I think that puts an edn to whatever the scholars said.
In fact it is good to give up the second for the first
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There’s theory and then there’s real life. In real life, majority men cannot afford a second wife unless they expect their wife to financially contribute to the household so he can afford to be with another woman. I don’t know any woman who would allow her husband to marry a second wife on her dime 😂 the reality is, the Muslim community waste their time with these discussions. This is a discussion for the 1%. If you work a regular 9-5, live in a western country and make less than 250k a year, you cannot afford a second wife + second family/children. Trying to get a second wife when YOU KNOW and YOUR FIRST WIFE KNOWS that you cannot afford this, will just result in your second wife divorcing you (not because of the polygamy, but because you can no longer financially take care of her and your children with this new second wife expense), and you will destroy your relationship with your first wife and your children. The key is to just marry a woman who is open to polygamy instead of trying to force it on a woman that does not want that life.
If money is an issue, there are lots of career driven sisters who don’t need financial support. In misyar marriage the man can be "unjust" without sinning. It is very much possible for a man to be polygynous today.
OFC. The polygamous marriage thing is for people who have a legacy to leave
This is exactly what makes me angry about these broke brothers who act like it is their right. When the government is providing for your first wife because you’re too lazy or broke, that does not open you up to take the responsibility of another wife/family. One of the wife’s rights is that you provide for her. When you can’t even do that, who allowed you to even think about a second?
@@moonwalkerr87 any self-respecting woman with a family who loves her would never allow her to marry a man without fulfilling her rights. That sounds like halal prostitution and that is not respectable at all. Yuck.
@@Noname-vu1om exactly sister, these men are delusional.
For me personally, I'm not into polygamy as a woman and I would never want to be with a man that wants it. He shall find another woman that agrees with it because that's not going to be me.
I can't give that to him, which means I would rather him find someone that agrees/doesn't mind it.
The reason why I'm against it was the reason that this was allowed to happen. Muslim men used to marry women who are divorced, who are widowed, or had responsibilities and needed help with it. It was done out of kindness. Now, it's almost done if he thinks his wife is not good enough for him physically, and he wants something else.
A lot of men these days choose to have secret wives and create a relationship with them that does not allow them to have children and for it to be just a fun fling, and then they will go find their next victim. It's like men these days do not marry for the right reasons.
One of the main conditions for polygamy, is besides the fact that you have to fulfil all the requests and be able to provide for them and be responsible for them, is the fact that you have to have everything equal for them. Unfortunately, some men make it very clear that they have favourites, and they prefer a wife over another.
In Islam, the most important thing is to have everything equal between them. However, it is impossible to have everything equal between four different women, which kind of makes this hat on. It's like you're allowed to, but you can't.
It also makes me feel insufficient as a woman, it's like as if I'm lacking something, and he's looking for the thing that I lack in another woman. Of course, if I can't get him children, that's a different situation. But if I can, and I'm doing my best, I don't see why there is another reason to have a different wife.
I only read the first paragraph, but yes in islam you can put in the nikah that you don’t want him to marry another woman after you, its as simple as that
In that case you will have the right to stop him from marrying a second wife even if he wanted to
Asalamualikum sister, you are not insufficient as a woman dear! Women and Men are equal, but different! May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'Ala bless you, strengthen you, and guide you, Ameen.
@@fatimaqazi3349 Thank you for your kind words!!! Same thing goes to you!
I would think of money lol , his salary would be divided in 2 , so that means lesser food , clothes and other necessary stuff , and if other wife get sick , then you would stay like bankrupted ....
@@yevheniiaalbin1934 that's what I was saying! Some men matty wives that they cannot handle. Women need men who are responsible, and sometimes they can't be balanced or provided for properly.
Remember that his salary would be divided to 3 sections because he needs some of the money himself. LOL
To marry in secret is so horrible!! It is horrible for the kids! Don't do that. If you want to then invite your kids with her to get to know each other so that you can plant sympathy between them. Let your kids know that you love them and and that they also has to respect this. Don't do it in secret. It destroys the trust between you and your kids/wife/sister/mother.
Yeah, I feel bad for the girls who get convinced their man loves them if he marries them in secret, like, gurl, he is sneaking to see you and hiding you as if he is seeing a prostitute😒
Yea sure i agree with you, but don’t get so emotional, its just a youtube comment
Marrying a second wife when your wife really doesn’t want you to is pretty horrible, but Allah allows it without her permission so some Muslims will condone it.
@@matthenley3886 it is horrible for my parents if i keep a beard , it does not matter , who has the right to prevent me from doing something halal ? no one has
@@matthenley3886yeah they can get more wives under conditions it’s not as they want
The disregard for women's feelings is unreal . To do an action that will undoubtedly hurt and destroy your spouse without any remorse is straight up sociopathic in my opinion.
Depends if they do that on purpose to make their wife feel less some men hâte their first wife and they try To ruin them or their reputation subhana Allah
Is your religion ''women's feelings''?
Your opinion is complete nonsense. You fail to realise that Islam doesn't revolve around a woman's emotion. Everything which hurts a woman's feelings isn't instantly wrong.
When men are struggling to give rights to wife it's fine, but other way around? You act like it's oppression. The nonsense women like you talk is all double standards
@Humaira uou do realize that polygyny comes with STRICT conditions right? If a woman doesn’t feel like she’s being taken care of, knows her husband will play favoritism, it is not allowed for you to still go and marry 4 because you’re breaking the rules of Allah.
no need to manipulate others by saying what you’re saying about “women’s feelings”. do you only marry for sex and kids?
@@SimranMakandar-s9o Stop speaking nonsense woman. Fear Allah.
A woman can feel something which is not actually true. Feelings are true, but they are not always the truth. Also a lot of women lie nowadays about men, intentionally and unintentionally.
Also a woman can't predict the future. She won't 'know her husband will play favoritism'. Fear Allah before you speak such garbage.
I don't mind being in polygamy relationship but if my husband can't provide me things and wants to married another wife & have favoritism. No way I let him,I have a right to confront him.
Exactly if a man can't treat and provide for his wives equally he shouldn't be in such a relationship. It's a full time responsibility.
Finally women standing up
U don't mind. Bruh since when does a women not mind. I'm a man and that's not in your nature. Your gonna mind and your gonna accept it lol. The prophet wife's broke plates. Aisha, read about her.
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I don’t know, as a Muslim woman it still seems a bit unfair to me.. I don’t want to feel like his love is being divided amongst others. I can’t even imagine him looking at another woman not to mention sleeping with and having kids with her. He’s my partner, we have a special connection, inside jokes, years of built trust and love, i know it’s not the intention but I know most woman would not help but feel inferior in a way if he disregarded all that and found another woman. He’s always gonna prefer someone more- maybe he will treat us both well, but emotionally he will always have a favorite.
Can someone please ease my heart for me
Well it’s a normal feeling and the wives of the Prophet pbuh also felt a similar type of “jealousy” at times. Obviously you can’t put yourself in the shoes of a biological male to understand how they think or feel, but thinking about Allah and trusting His wisdom behind such decisions can help you be more at ease.
You know how you can have more than one child but still value and love and take care of all of them the same? How You don’t secretly wish that one or more of them wasn’t part of your family? You could see it like that.
If a man wants to enjoy another woman, it should definitely not be for free, he should take full responsibility, he should be there in both good and hard times.
@@96muslimgirlthat’s definitely not the same bruh what?🙂
@@farrah9792he’s saying about dividing love so yeah it’s same
My grandfather had 2nd wife and to this day we still have problems in my family because of it. Even though the parties involved all died. If you’re trying to escape the problems in your marriage with 2nd marriage it’s not going to work. Just makes everything worse. And the children that grows up in this environment tends to negative views on marriage and Islam. I have seen plenty of people that never want to get married because of this reason.
Sure but again this doesn’t mean we take individual horror stories to denounce poly. As a matter of fact, seems like it wasn’t very Islamic the way that marriage was managed, Allah yerhamo by your grandfather. Even you said if you do it to escape your problems. You shouldn’t just marry again to fix current marriage problems.
Your story is the majority experience I've seen with polygyny in my life. 8 out of 11 poly marriages ended in disaster, and this sort of disaster is familial destruction, it isn't small.
This is basically an ad catered to men for your coaching 😂 funny how the majority of the video is bashing women for not wanting their husband to have multiple secret wives
I really like the way this video was broken down.
As a sister who has never warmed to the idea of polygyny I think it would be nice to see you discuss (perhaps in a future podcast) reasons why a man would want to marry another woman other than the obvious. Because even as you said, it was intended for a limitation so it’s not just for sexual desires, because what if a man is not fulfilled after wife no. 4?
If this man wants to increase his Imaan as he is improving in his deen through other sunnah practises it seems more understandable in my eyes.
I think it’s important to be honest as men know that most women get jealous and ‘hiding’ is not deemed a just way to act towards your wife especially if she never agreed to this.
May Allah reward the women who welcome this and grant them the highest levels of Jannah, Ameen.
Ameen sis. We discuss this on the new podcast that launches June 1 in sha Allah
Hmmm i think women dont want pologamy because its their fitrah to not want to share, not becaause of womanism or because we think men and women are the same, its also not true that a woman cant think of anyone else just because she is married to a good man, its just haram so no point in thinking of it
No its not their fitrah
In my opinion its the fitrah of the man, and women these days dont want it because they are more masculine than in the past
It’s definitely their firtrah because the wives of the prophet had jealousy too.
@@cyberyousef7519 tell me you haven't studied Islam without telling me...
@@cyberyousef7519 how is it linked..?
@@cyberyousef7519so musculinity is disgusting and very gross even men can't tolerate that no wonder why women avoiding men
Polygamy causes heartbreak i know as my poor nan was one and she had such hardship from it the marriage didn't last. It can work if the situation is right i.e poor lady in need of shelter etc. but most muslim women would only be ok with this arrangement if she doesn't love him but thats ok as not everyone can marry for love. Love marriages are a special blessing not afforded to many. Some women may just need basic needs met and be second wife thats ok too.
so when woman during the prophets time were jealous or upset when the other wives were mentioned....they were also influenced by ✨WoMaNiSm✨
Who said this? This is natural and the prophet acknowledged this. However these stipulations in contracts about second wives are ridiculous.
@@Abdur-Rahman862 no they aint.
marriage is not about that much trust its about survival of the individuals and the team work they they do together. u dont however start a company with somebody and decide they should hold all the assets or they can have a second partner without ur knowledge because that will have an effect on your side of the buisnes.
There’s a difference between a woman’s NATURE and feministic gynocentric LIES spread in the modern world.
@@SpaghettiBolognese99 when so many men are dying in war an woman have to start sharing men. but we don't have to do that anymore. we don't have tos hare and we don't have to be unsatisfied with our partners anymore
@@SfsewDid prophet saw married aysha ra cause she was a widow or divorcee or some helpless woman.
Polygamy have been before islam. It's not something introduced by islam to protect helpless woman.
What you say is kind of misleading, especially when you talk about natural inclinations. If all men are polygamous by nature, why does Allah mention monogamy in the Holy Quran by saying you can content yourself with one wife? It's like Allah is not going to tell you to drink water only if you're wealthy because water is essential to you. Since the majority of men cannot afford to marry multiple women, why would men be polygamous by nature? Why isn't polygyny the norm then? Why did Allah allow men to marry only one woman if it's against their nature? Most men nowadays just want to marry multiple women for the wrong reasons. As a Muslim woman, I’m not against polygyny, but an option isn’t an obligation, a norm, or a general truth.
It was for the past but now single men even more than women 80 percentage of men are single it will cause more loneliness and disaster it's not feasible for now
I feel like men nowadays seek to marry another woman because they feel their first wife is lacking in one way or another e.g., she’s not as young or beautiful, she may not want to have intercourse, or more kids etc. in this sense how can a man treat his first wife equally to a second or third if he feels she is lacking or defective? Men who seek another wife should realise that a second wife should not be a replacement or substitution, but rather complementary to the first wife.
Tbh if she doesn’t want to have intercourse, then she shouldn’t mind him getting another wife
Some men might get into zina because of that problem
Equality is primarily in time and money, not feelings. And if it is misyar marriage then equality is not a must, he can be "unjust" without sinning.
So true I had that uncle 《he spreads lie about me》 saying my hubby To marry a second wife cause I wanted to help him and I was masculine.
Thank you for talking about this topic. I've met too many convert sisters who accept to be the "secret" second wife to a man that helped them accept Islam. They will give away their rights and dignity for the sake of man that will lead them to jennah. They get so delusional and suffer with depression and suicidal thoughts. When these men's actions don't align with their words, they blame Islam and leave the religion. The emotional trauma that they cause to the first wife and her children is unethical. I would never wish that for any Muslims. I personally accept polygamy for my husband. When and if he ever does decide to take on another wife, I would love to support him. I would make sure he gives the sister her rights. Inshallah. Polygamy is Sunnah and it can work in these times. We just have to be transparent of our expectations and needs.
If a woman doesn't want her man to have a second wife, she can put it in her Nikkah contract for a reason and it is permissible because Allah the most knowing knows that some women would not want that. Everyone is not tailored the same way. You cannot just say women should accept it and if not, there is a problem in her Taqwaa. I don't know why men are acting as if women are depriving them from their right when they put those contracts. This is permissible to the woman as much as it is permissible to men to marry many.
Only 1/4 of madhabs hold that view, so that tells you lot.
Cannot stop a man from what he is allowed to do. What you can stipulate in the nikah contract is that you can divorce if he remarries. And that stipulation must be agreed upon by both. You cannot take away a man’s right, but you can give yourself the right to divorce. There is a difference between restricting someone’s right and givving yourself a right.
@moonwalkerr87 of course. That's why it's important to have this discussion before even getting married. Finding a spouse who is okay with our goals in the future (for example: marrying more than one wife). Its not wrong at all from both sides (for a woman to prefer a husband who only wants one wife or for a man who prefers to have more than one wife). Its just both sides need to be honest. May Allah SWT ease everything for us
@Themessagedrama That is called isthlaal. Making what Allah made halaal, haram. This is actually forbidden. Just because she adds that to a marriage contract. Don't mean he can't marry again. He can divorce her and move on. Or not agree to thst at all.
@@Sumayyah-ho1wl Look, the thing about that "Nikkah contract" clause - it's actually not against Islamic law at all. It's the woman's right to have that in there if she wants. You should really check with religious scholars and rulings (fatwas) before saying it's not allowed(haram). She is not going to stop him from remarrying, but she will get divorced if she wants to. Even if it's your right to remarry you cannot force her to accept it. It would be a lot better if the partners just talked it all through and agreed on everything upfront, instead of wasting time and energy on it later on.
People say that the man does not have to tell his wife. This is FALSE. He doesn't need her permission, however the Prophet pbuh said that MARRIAGES MUST BE PUBLICIZED FOR MANY LOGICAL AND PRACTICAL AND SOCIAL REASONS. So, if marriages must be publicized then OBVIOUSLY THE WIFE WOULD KNOW AND SHOULD KNOW. if the community knows! Also, a secret marriage entails lying all the time, hidden children (which is haram because kids could grow up and mistakenly marry their siblings not knowing that they even have those siblings). All of these sheikhs that hide this obvious knowledge for the sake of men's secret pleasures will be accountable to Allah. They are ruining lives and families by enabling lying.
Honestly multuple wives is a very difficult thing that many brothers and sisters can't do at all. The marriage is not only between the man and the women but also the women have some sorta of relationship with each other because of the kids and the same husband. I as a muslim woman I know I can't handle it because I have great amount of jealousy and want 100% monogamy where I don't even allow opposite gender friends. It is a tough thing that many people can't 100% do which can lead to hell. I will choose monogamous husband and if he wants 2nd or more wives, I will ask for divorce because I know I will probably commit a sin by either being mean to him, or to one of the women or I will disobey him. I also know many men can't treat all women equal so he will most likely earn sins too. It is easier to avoid hell fire instead of playing too close to it for me.
Same here as a guy I really don't have enough mental fortitude to balance multiple wives even one is difficult for which is why I rather stay single(unless it's Allah's plan for me to marry other then that I'm okay with controling my desires/lust).
Very difficult, but still if a man who can handle and wants to do it you shouldn’t shame him
@@cyberyousef7519 oh no, of course I won't shame him but I won't be involved in it lol. I applaud anyone who can do it sincerely be it the man and the women. Also the kids.
Fr. I'd rather stay single than be in a situation which can lead me to hellfire because I can't cope with the conditions. Allah swt is most gracious and didn't make it a must for the women to accept it if they can't, divorce is permissible alhamdulillah
@@bintz100 ok bro.😅
these people getting second wife and doing secretly are betraying their partner and their trust
Although it is halal to not tell your first wife Allah does say that you require to treat them justly, and lying could be involved which is haram so it is best to not keep it secret
@@Avistyl nah it ain't halal akhi, how can u say that talking to another woman secretly and marrying her is halal, u gotta discuss with ur partner and if ur wife says no because she is jealous, now that's a good wife
Lil reminder to the gents 🤗🤭:
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
إِذَا كَانَ عِنْدَ الرَّجُلِ امْرَأَتَانِ فَلَمْ يَعْدِلْ بَيْنَهُمَا جَاءَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَشِقُّهُ سَاقِطٌ
If a man has two wives and he is not just between them, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides collapsed.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1141, Grade: Sahih
This is a great reminder 🤍Marrying multiple wives is a huge and serious responsibility, and you'll have to answer for every moment of injustice you put your loved ones through. As the prophet (pbuh) once said, "Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for there is no barrier between it and Allah". This gives the most comfort out of anything when I hear the horrors of what many women go through in such marriages. Allah swt is Most Just, He will most certainly never wrong anyone, alhamdulillah 🤍
People love to use this Hadith in this issue. As a Muslim if you think you do any form of worship without any flaws and it's perfect then you're arrogant, because no human is without flaws.
My salat, my fasts are nowhere near as perfect as it should be? That's ok. But marrying multiple women? Your behavior and sense of justice better be on the same level as the perfect role model, the Prophet (pbuh), himself or else divorce.
@asmodeusoflust83 yes, bcuz Allah says I'll forgive u ignoring my rights but never that of my creation. Your just nit picking the parts of Islam u like
@@rereraira4863 Where did I nitpick can you please point out?
@asmodeusoflust83 the point where u are trying to justify polygamy by comparing it with salat and fasts. You're marrying a human, not a "form of worship" where u can mess up and be forgiven.
If Muslims practice Islam correctly (both men and women) polygamy wouldn’t be a big issue
So true
1 #podcast. 2 as a new Muslim woman I get the concept of a man being able to have multiple wives. And I get it now on the flip side I as a woman know I can’t be in one. It’s more of an emotional issue for me growing up an a non Muslim household I seen the way my dad look and love my mom and various and always wanted that same thing. To a man to love and cherish me as my dad do my mom. An I also know after a while I know I will with draw from the relationship which will end up breaking up a home. Since I never grew up in a broken home why put myself in a that situation ❤ but love your content and look forward to the podcast. May Allah keep blessing you and your family with your success
I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE: Brothers, DON‘T DO IT!
Why lying about something, that is halal?? And you will be fated to lie to keep your secret. Ambiguous speech won’t work anymore someday, if your first wife isn’t completely stupid. She will maybe even suspect you to do any haram. And how will you be able to give your secret wife her rights? How will you be able to be with her every second night, without the other wife noticing something? You will get used to lying and will mess up your good character and iman. And someday the truth will come out and it can affect your marriage. It’s inevitable! So be honest in the first place.
there is no fairness in secrecy. it not about getting permission from the wife, it about being fairness for the wife. lying is sin for a reason brother.
Y'all make me physically ill
May Allah cure your sickness.
Wallahi 😭 Muslim men like this scare me may Allah protect us ameen
Literally alhamdulillah my husband is not like this. The way so many Muslim men speak about these topics is so harsh. I swear it's like they don't like women they just want to use us to satisfy their desires in a halal way.
How?
@@AqilahSafia Im not those men
I have a polygamy trauma. My father didnt wants my mom to have childrens, When she was prégnant with me he neglect her I was supposed to not be born But I miraculously was born and then all my siblings were born to my name would have been Miracle in arabic.
You can never fulfill your wives’ rights if you have a wife in secret. Never. You’re either going to be lying unnecessarily to one wife, or oppressing the other wife by not giving her equal nights. Polygyny is very very difficult nowadays as well, unless the man is wealthy or lives in a country with a low cost of living. I’ve been in a polygynous marriage, my husband had a 2nd wife and it wasn’t easy for any party but it can work with maturity and if you’re all on the same page. It’s also not as heart wrenching as women think once you get over the initial transition period, you get used to it, it takes work and effort and there’s difficult moments but it’s possible.
If money is an issue, there are lots of career driven sisters who don’t need financial support. In misyar marriage the man can be "unjust" without sinning. It is very much possible for a man to be polygynous today.
@@moonwalkerr87what is misyar marriage?also isn't in Islam provision the responsibility of the husband and he is supposed to pay for all the stuff not the wife?
@@goodlife9791 Yes, but if a woman wants to give up some marital rights, that's also fine. There are lots of videos on misyar marriage.
@@moonwalkerr87 Why would a woman give up her God given financial rights just so that you can marry another women? Lmao, may Allah Guide us
@@levi0309 It is done willingly. No one is forcing anyone. There are women who compromise when they meet a good married man that cannot financially support them.
People should know that polygyny also gives widows and women with some problems a chance to get married
Because if every man only had one option, it decrease their chance of actually getting married one day
yes 👍
honestly reading some me comments is one of many reason I never want to get married its never enough for u men u always want more I prefer my peace no husband means no problems Allah is my only provider and I only relay on him only no need for a husband bc alot of u will or wont never understand how it feels as a woman reading those this I prefer to die as a unmarried woman then having a men like that honestly
There is a reason Allah allowed 4 wives for men. There is no reason to be angry or frustrated about it if you're a sister, just read about men and women's nature. It's in man's nature to always "want more", while it's in women's nature to automatically get attached to "one" man. So the best thing is to keep it halal. Keep the relationship halal, and if you get to the stage of marrying another women, then confirm it publicly (family & friends), not hide it in private and treat all the wives equally good.
The fact it's not that easy in these times is a different discussion, nonetheless what we are seeing in the West is a disease of Western dating mentality, where they don't marry each other, yet astaghfirullah they end up cheating and get with another women behind "their" women's back. May Allah protect us all from haram.
Ameen ameen ameen.
But it is still okay for a woman to say that she isn’t okay with it , especially if she discussed it with the man before marriage. She can then simply divorce the man in that case, because it is her right to divorce him if he marries a second wife , the same way a man can marry another wife.
@@firdowsjohnson5766 why is it ok for a Muslim woman to say she isn't ok with a halal thing? Isn't being a Muslim all about surrendering yourself to Allah? No matter what opinion or will you might have? In front of Allah, are you not supposed to accept His will even if you don't agree or find it unpleasant?
@asmodeusoflust83 Allah said if you can't be righteous to the wifes, only get one.
If one wife is unhappy, you are already sinning. It is very easy to make a woman unhappy.
It's not really halal if the first wife is pissed and sad about the second marriage.
most those marriages failed, in my city they married with wife knowing, economy got bad later, they stopped providing for their first wives and kids. its really selfish to think to marry more than one in our times. even if you has money now, economy is not stable and the guy needs to save for his kids future. this while we ignore the wives feeling, its still not practical thing to do.
Bro I'm dead 😂😂😂 "you are not the father" nice meme
Crying about this is equivalent of complaining about mahr being a thing.
The problem with polygeny is that men are not doing it well.i don't think men that do it secretly fear their wife they just fear the obvious that she will not accept it.remember not all women can handle this matter this why rasullullah did say take care of our feelings.i think secret second wife isn't a good idea.if you know your wife will not accept this for herself be straight forward and be ready to loose her or loose getting multiple wife.make duaa for Allah to make it easy for her and ease her jalousy.
Great video keep it up you're doing amazing things 😁👍
My 2 cents if you marry in secret you cheated if you told her you want another wife that is way different
Salam brother Faiyad, can you tell us what credentials you have to work with “clients” or create a marriage podcast? Are you a counsellor with certifications? Are you married? What are your credentials to be advising people? Genuinely curious.
As a revert, I had fears that I would never be able to get married to a Muslim man unless I accepted being a second wife... I didn't think I was "first wife material" just as I reverted later in life... so I spent a lot of time trying to get comfortable with the idea.
#podcast really looking forward to the podcast brother
May Allah bless you! June 1 come soon
Asalamualaikum sister, don't say that! You are first wife material! All of us women are equal to another regardless of being a revert or born muslim! Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'Ala blessed you when He chose you and forgave all your sins when you accepted Islam! All of us women and each of the 4 wives you mentioned would be and are equal! You are amazing! May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'Ala bles you, strengthen you, guide you, make it easy for you, and grant you comfort, Ameen.
you are right. Cowardice is being afraid to be honest. Lies are for weak people
I'm from Tunisia, it is a muslim country Alhamdulillah yet polygyny is forbidden by Tunisian law
come to algeria when you want a second
My Big support 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
A sister here. I genuinely don’t understand brothers who do that. Marrying a second wife in secret is degrading and emasculating, like what are you afraid of? Your wife’s anger?? We hide something we are ashamed of, something we aren’t supposed to be doing, but marrying up to four wives is halal and there is nothing wrong with it, so why are you hiding it as if it’s some big crime? Is your wife so out of control and disobedient that if you tell her you intend to marry a second wife - which is a man’s right, and he doesn’t need anyone’s permission obviously - she would throw a fit? Man up and own up to your decisions, it’s your right that no one can take away. Also, things like these should be discussed before marriage. Sadly there are a lot of sisters with feminist traits who don’t want to accept halal things like polygyny.
Exactly. However, some brothers may face legal consequences from the wife and court system if they are found to have a second wife and may risk losing his children.
no she wouldnt just throw a fit shed divorce u and ur in laws would fck up ur life.
@@hellokitty10117 A woman doesn’t just ‘divorce’. It’s a man’s right. A woman can request khula and her husband may deny her, in that case she would have to ask a Muslim judge for divorce. So yeah, divorce and in laws shouldn’t be a problem for a man :) But to be fair, if the wife throws a fit after finding out that he wants a second wife, despite him being able to afford multiple wives, he should spare himself the headache and just divorce her.
@@SpaghettiBolognese99 That’s horrible, but yeah, the western system is biased in favor of women. So much for ‘progress and human rights’, lol. I think that men should talk this through with the woman before marriage, so that he knows he’s on the safe side. But marrying in secret is still not the solution.
I was in the middle of typing a comment about projecting being a widespread issue that goes under the radar, and then you mentioned it.
The lying is the problem. As for Marty ng a second wife you don't need permission nor do you have to tell your wife. Lying is what makes it secret. If she asks you should tell her. If you made yourself into "that man" you never have to lie. Lying is a weak thing for a man to do. And will cripple your future with any woman. Because women don't want cowards for husbands
in yemen domestic abuse is pretty bad. we need to response appropriatly to our current situation. many men are abusive because they themselves were abused as children and bring it to their vulnerable weak woman who depend on their husbands for survival .. so the abused men know she ain't going anywhere. woman need money and should heave less or no children in order to survive better in our current situations.. it is not a choice it is a frocefull quest for survival of woman
May Allah save them from such a fate 😢
Am from zanzibar. Actually Kenyan married in zanzibar. Polygamy here is very normal because 99% of us are Muslims here. And polygamy is the order of the day. Actually if you have one wife here, people get surprised at you.
Don't you still have to accept polygamy as a muslim regardless since it's part of islam even if your nafs finds it hard and even if it's not written for you. isn't it haram to not accept something allah has made halal.
Well this is from a first hand experience, men can act on marrying multiple wives, but with that remember there will be repercussions don’t get butt hurt and expect your first wife’s love and affection to stay the same as it did before. Just like your energy will go to someone else within 24 hours, men be fine when she does not respond with your expectations.
It comes with serious consequences. Remember you are free to choose but you are not free from the consequences of your choices. Accept it.
Subhan'allah i dont understand why so many muslimahs are against polygamy may allah swt guide us all ameen..
What do the kuffar preach?
What do muslim women listen to?
There's your answer.
Maybe bc of the men?
Money
Bc I don't want him seeing someone else's (•) (•)
@@faridwiser5441 🤣🤣🤣 and other thing down too
Polygamy is just not ok for me
Women: Leave this cult.
Great Editing! Very precisely worded video! And the memes that you throw in there are so funny, even a serious topic becomes light hearted and penetrates even deeper.
Great job, great work 👍🏼
Keep it up!
Allahumma barik
Thats so sad, even if you get to paradise you still have to share your husband .
You are like a child who is mad sharing his parents with his siblings
Nothing is wrong with it
@@cyberyousef7519 The parent-child relationship is not the same as the husband-wife relationship though...
@@RedSoloCupppppapparently it is 🤪🤪🤪
@@RedSoloCupppppyup, i agreed, bcz partner is as it means.. Partner, its a mutual relationship.
@@cyberyousef7519 brother I understand what u are trying to say but tht is a pretty dumb comparison to make🤦
Also brother calm down, I saw your comment on other posts as well. If your intention is to advise, your words are way too harsh for tht and you're just a keyboard warrior, fear Allah bro.
As a muslim girl I have never had a problem with being a second wife or my future husband marrying a second wife i used to dream of having someone who would love me way so much but as i grew older i realised that no one can ever love me the way I have always wanted more than the way Allah does in my search for love i found out that only ALLAH can love me in all ways that i want so if it pleases Allah why not i think as women we should seek more of Allah's love more than men's love
Or just love your self. Why always seek in others for love and validation?
Polygamy is a right given men by Allah and lot of so called muslim women have some issue with it like a hypocrite. Allah mentioned in the Quran there will some people who will like part of the book and dislikes other part of the book.
Women are very naturally jealous. A good amount of jealousy in both men and women is healthy.
I agree with poly with those who can afford it and be fair with both families and women. And I do believe a good, caring husband will consider what is best for his family, whether that is monogamy or poly. I do believe in many cases, monogamy is best for the family unit, especially in the uk with the cost of living so high and the demand of a good father presence for children.
However! that being said, I think it takes a very rare man to be able to navigate that fairly. On the day of judgement do you want to be slanted because you favored one wife over the other? In this current climate, it is very hard to give fairly in time and money. And if you expect to reduce the lifestyle you gave the first or force the first into a job to accomodate and afford another wife, this is wrong. Are you emotionally mature enough to handle two women? Can you be fair? Do you have enough time? Do you have enough time for the children?
I can confidently say, personally, poly. is not for me. I know myself as an individual and my husband is on the same page as me. I require a lot of attention to be feel love, I can admit that, without it I feel very emotionaly alone and it does affect my mental wellbeing. I do have a lot of skills and hobbies but I still have a natural level and need of attention so, I do not feel that I best suit poly,. but I try to make it up by being a good wife. I cook well, I learnt lots of traditional turkish food for my husband. I try my best to be attentive to my husband and listen well. I'm not perfect, but I do try! I prioritise my time with him, I dress well for him. I adore my husband.
It is about respecting one another enough to talk through it. If it is not something that you are both on board with, divorce amicably or comprimise. Women are emotional and need reassurance.
As a man, if you want to have a second wife... man up... tell your wife... be honest... and suffer the consequence if that is not for your wife or end up with two wives! And for women, if there is no legitimate reason to deny this request, talk it through your husband, get to the root and work it out from there. Is there a way you can be a better wife? Do you need to find more time for each other? Is something lacking? What are your concerns?
It is halal for women to put restriction on polygyny on nikah contract and Sahaba also practiced it. So, don't blackmail such women.
#podcast im so excited for this podcast i just know its going to be fire🔥🔥
In sha Allah bro we put a lot of work into it
Well I'm from Yemen and Polygyny is part of our culture my great-grandfather had 3 Wives and my moms uncles had all two wives minimum
in yemen domestic abuse is pretty bad. we need to response appropriatly to our current situation. many men are abusive because they themselves were abused as children and bring it to their vulnerable weak woman who depend on their husbands for survival .. so the abused men know she ain't going anywhere. woman need money and should heave less or no children in order to survive better in our current situations.. it is not a choice it is a frocefull quest for survival of woman
@@Sfsewlmao 😂
Less children? Not the advice of the Prophet at all. More like we need more righteous children to be raised in this ummah that’s in the lowest point rn.
@@nxronite9994 we are in no position in our countries cultures to be raising a hole generation of righteous children. my point still stands
@@Sfsewu spamming here I saw the same comment 😂😂😂stop lying and putting fake things
@@Jaywalker45 "putting fake things" lol.
i never lied a single time.
whats your islamic educational background ? where and under whom did you study islam ? who are your teachers? do you know the arabic language ? barak Allahu feekum.
Assalamalaikum wa rahmatullah, watched your video and it was definitely worth the time, I loved every single point you made and agreed with every single thing, great video my brother, may Allah(swt) reward you for your dedication and forgive the Muslim ummah.
Ameen and may Allah bless you as well
Walaikum assalam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatu
Very informative information saar
The husband doesn't need his wives permission to get a second wife
No he literally does
There are three rule for marriage
But there is 5 for marriage for second
@@azazel_playz7055 says who ?
@@azazel_playz7055don’t lie against the religion of Allah, and do not speak without knowledge. A man definitely doesn’t need his wives permissions to get married. Can you find in the sunnah where the prophet ﷺ ever asked his other wives if he could get married?
@@azazel_playz7055 stop lying
Make the best of situations, not worsen them
You did not cover the most important reason for polygyny especially in impoverished societies. Men from these places don't struggle and earn just to provide his wife with luxury but to fulfill basic needs so he obviously thinks about other women too who do not have a single person in their life to take care of them as they get old and the community even forgets about them.
A contract like that is unislamically and is banned in the first place
In Sudan, a man doing polygyny is not a problem in it self.
But many families shoose to not do it for purely financial reasons most of the time.
This is general, talking much deeper is hard in a comment.
I'm from somalia my brother geep going don't come back 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Somali men are never just,
The West has made it a shameful thing, on top of our own normal jealousy SubhaanAllah from what I see here in Australia, the brothers who really shouldnt get a second wife, do get second wives.. and the brothers who do fall under the conditions Allah has made to have a second wife, don't want a second wife SubhaanAllah as sisters we need to stop making haram what Allah has made halal in this matter (putting in marriage contracts etc) inshaaAllah.. both brothers and us sisters need to do better in this matter inshaaAllah..
0:44 you should have used a better graphic for masculine , none of these guys even have a beard or look muslim
What are your thoughts on Muslim marriage contracts without marriage by law? I often especially here in Germany come across clashes between the Islamic and legal law of a country. Polygamy for example can't be acknowledged by law, the weddings with 2 witnesses, a wali and the mahr are not aknowledged by the legal marriage office. If a Muslim legally divorces his wife and takes or wants to take a new one he must wait for 1 year until the legal marriage is over. (this is a pretty long Iddah period lots of Fitna and self control required)
There are no secret marriages. You need to explain that. He doesn’t need permission. You need to explain this.
Maby we should leave this sunnah behind it’s a sunnah and outdated it doesn’t work in 2024 maby 1400 years ago but today no
Are you even Muslims anymore polygamy is in the Quran and Quran is book for people to the end of time ask forgiveness to Allah (s. w. t) before it too late
A woman who accepts a second wife has no self-respect. In Islam, she has the right to 4 wives, but they also have very harsh conditions. At the same time, Allah has clearly stated in the verse that the best one is a single wife. You cannot normalize a second wife. For God's sake, whoever wants the man she loves to have another wife? He may not tolerate him touching a woman. I am 18 years old and I have lived carefully until now and I want someone who is clean and has never touched a girl like me. After I have been so careful and lived, will I be the second wife? Please don't do it this time, while I have so many questions, I want a clean person among millions of people. While it's hard to find one, do you also want a second wife??
If a man is a righteous man, he does not want a second wife anyway. He strives for heaven in the afterlife, not for desire in this world. In this period, men who want a second wife do so for their sexual desires and for the dirtiness of their souls.
No, simply not
Who said she doesn’t respect herself?
Second who said being “a second wife” means being “the second option” or something like that
You simply got it wrong
If you don’t want you man to marry another woman then put it in your nikah
It doesn't exist for me. Current men want this for their dirty worldly soul. A man who lives for the afterlife does not pursue worldly desires. @@cyberyousef7519
@@cyberyousef7519I will say anyway
Excited for the podcast. This will ruin Ali Dawahs career
@shahriar4706 no that’s not Islam that’s evilness. Islam is to unite people. But some Muslims are not following Islam.
Praying on another muslim's downfall. Misery at its peak SubhanAllah
@@Abdur-Rahman862 that’s sarcasm
I am in the west and guys have 304s and multiple children from different women but he is single and nobody cares but once polygamy is talked about then big problem.
I’m from Canada and polygeny is illegal
So if out of the blue he wants a 2nd, and i dont want him to have a 2nd wife, he can ignore me and do so anyways? Wouldnt that be unfair because im upset and dont feel loved?
I also know its his right, so can i just leave, like divorce him?
Life is all About Honesty and Commitment...Without These these is No Life!!
Furthermore, no evidence appears either in the Quran or sunnah requiring the permission of the first wife if her husband wishes to marry another wife, and therefore he is not required to ask her permission.
However, he needs to be judicious in taking this decision and to weigh it carefully with respect to benefits and drawbacks and to look with the eye of wisdom at all of the considerations pertaining to the matter, and he should strive all he can to conciliate, reassure, and satisfy his first wife, in order to ease and mitigate the effect of the matter upon her.
So if you not wisely enough don't even try
Iam a muslim man married and iam saying that ur wife is only loving u for ur cash or to protect herself actually its in most arranged marriage cases they never love their man and after that i also believed that love on earth is temporary😊 love is for allah only,,,,, and also to note that indeed i will recommend all man to have sex with ur wife recommended pls don't neglect it because they will never approach it first so do it with foreplay ❤and love ur wife and remember ur wife is NOT UR REAL LOVE as she is just for support and cash or children's she may never love u actually i have seen it in a huge amount in arranged marriage,,,love only allah and all the messengers😊😊😊
It is against the interest of a wife and her children to have polygamy. Polygamy is against the dignity of women.
Tell that to God.
Allah increase our iman and submission
Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
2 hotties??? What 😅
Habibi I’m gonna get a second wife inshallah
Can you treat them both equally?
@@ChosenNaz how many rakat in sura albaqara?
@@ChosenNaz yes he can inshallah
@@bilalshaban2432what an easy question, it’s wudu obviously 😭😂
@@ChosenNaz can you treat your kids equally? if you can't don't get married
About abandon in bed
According to Ibn baz rahimaho Allah, It means you sleep in the same bed without having sex.
In other explanations, it means to give her your back while sleeping.
Allah knows best
These explanations actually make sense
Salam akhi, what regions are supported by your matchmaker app? JazakAllahu khairan
Wa iyaakum it isn’t my own app but should be international
@@FaiyadFit jazakallah
That Sheikh Assim Al Hakim clip nearly put tears of laugh on me 🤣🤣🤣. The guy literally said he made a mistake to marry a 2nd wife. I was like "WHAT!!! WTF!". So you met a new woman, courted her for some period, then proposed, she accepted; then you both planned the nikah by calling imaam, friends and family, did the nikah ceremony; then you probably did a walimah where everyone ate food and drank, had conversations, jokes, etc., you've probably slept with her several times. Allah knows how long they were married before he informed his 1st wife. Sometime years. AND he called that a mistake?! ...Bruv. 🤣🥲🤣🤣
Anyways, sisters, just make it easy for brothers. If we marry an additional wife, it's got nothing to do with you and doesn't reduce your status before us. It just in us to want several women, that's all. Disney and H(B)ollywood have put false ideas about men in your since you were young (and men have been brainwashed too about women, but that's another topic). Men do not think like women at all.
Ditch feminism and modern ideology and accept Islam fully.
It’s so important that you mentioned that even if a woman does everything right he might still want another woman, because some men use the fact that a wife wasn’t doing enough that’s why they got another one , again I think a man being honest about what he wants can save himself and the person he wants to be with a lot of headaches and heartaches just be honest that this is something you want to practice so the woman knows what to expect , a man that is brave would not be going around hiding things instead he’s going to be straight forward , at the end of the day everyone is free to do want they want men can practice it and women can choose if that’s something she can deal with , it can be a lot smoother if the man is upfront with his intentions and fair if he gonna do it and the women are not forced or lied to about it or treated fairly if she accepts it
What about secret daughters and sons?????
A lot of women don’t mind being kept a secret hmmm you don’t know how many women are in my husband’s DMs trying to get with him and he is a famous muslim man.
I dont have a problem with polygamy i just idk im afraid that I'll get jealous 😭 other then that I'll accept
Secret means lies . Isn’t lying a big sin in Islam ? If these ppl really follow Islam then they would be true to themselves 1st then to others.
poor over simplified intro