Ive never been this vulnerable 🥹
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ก.พ. 2023
- Hey friends!! Its been a minute and I wanted to share what happened to me in 2022 and how I grew and continue to from from it. Thank you so much for hanging in there with me and giving me the time I needed to take care of my self 🫶🏿
Lots of love,
Nyma
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You were engaged, you had a home together, it was a marriage in many ways, so it’s in some ways a divorce. But you did a great job working through it! ❤
She was married to him,,, but not him
“The people who recognized I was struggling and didn’t let me struggle alone” 🥺🥺 that absolutely broke me
We love you and missed. Yes you are going to be fine 🙏🏽
Me too because sometimes it’s obvious but even close family will almost kick you when you’re down. I thank God for resilience and him covering me bc I may have been physically alone but I wouldn’t have made it unless a higher power was with me always.
I’ve been saying for awhile now that Covid made people truly examine their lives and relationships. There was no place to run and hide, you had to face the reality. A lot of relationships didn’t weather this storm and that’s ok. All that matters is you coming out stronger/happier than before.
We all had nothing better to do than look inward really.
Yes Ma'am
I totally agree. I was married for 20 years and separated during the 20th year. I was totally devastated, homeless, physically sick, living in hotels with my 2 daughters and grandchild. My faith in God helped to guide me and a year later we were working on repairing our relationship. Just when we thought we were OK our oldest daughter passed away December of 2022 due to complications of COVID. Now we're raising our grandchild. I consider it a blessing to be able to do it. I'm in awe of the journey that our lives have taken.
Agreed! Very isolating and lonely times. Personally it was extremely hard but I would journal and pray, then I made a plan and list of goals and they all came true! You find out what you’re made of.
BIG FACTS! Ended my relationship November of 2020, but I knew it was over around that summer! Hard, but best thing I did for me❤ got closer to God, and boy was that the best feeling in the world 😩❤️ God really loves us y’all
My daughter-in-law is going to be 39 and she is pregnant with her first baby. You have time.❤
I married my best friend of 10 years in 2021 and we got divorced last August 2022. Hardest thing I have ever done but I’m so much happier now. I hope you’re able to find some joy and peace!
Omg!! Honestly that could have been me I was actually planning the wedding.. im so glad you’re feeling better now 🫶🏿
@@NymaTang everything happens for a reason my friend! Love ya
You can get thru this!! ❤❤
Could you please list what you are using?
Please don't feel alone. Many of us are rescuers but we don't let people be there for us. I am leaening to live in my emtions and truly gain insight and grow. That is a painful process because self awareness is not intuitive for me. I get up and move on.
Today is exactly a year ago that my husband of 33 years died. I don't talk about it because it's such a downer for everyone who hears it. So my world is different and not in a way I'd have chosen. But this is my life now. So I thank you Nyma for being transparent with us. I'm in a better place than I was and I expect to get to an even better place than this. I don't even know what else to say. Just thank you 💜
Oh that's terrible. So very sorry for your loss. I wish you continuing & growing peace
Sending you much love
@ Tmac1963 am really sorry, l know lts not easy, wishing you more healing time and God's comfort.
So sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs and kisses.
sending you so much love 💜
More people need to know what these biological clock conversations do to people emotionally and mentally... If you're on the timetable you're already well aware, if you could matetialize the right partner out of thin air it would be done. Either you're asking me to settle or are completely blind to my feelings as an individual-I am more than my reproductive system. Our loved ones mean well, but we need to start giving people truth bombs, having kids for the sake of having them or time 'running out' is not what's up when the situation isn't right. Glad you're finding your way through it all.
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Seriously!
This is the absolute Bible truth!!! I feel seen and heard. Thank you for this comment ❤
love this comment.
True,, I lost me 20s and till mid thirties due to being immigrant,, I was trying to survive,, in different country, different weather, different culture,, I wasn't allowed to date or have sex it would bring shame, mid 30s I dated a horrible man who used to and dumped me I was inexperienced at 38 I was engaged to a childish man,, I thought I can make it work,, but never did,, at 40 now people talk about biological clock, it hurts nothing I can do I was unlucky.. They good at pointing it out but never help when you drawning.
it's hard to choose yourself, especially for us girls, but i'm glad you did. i can't imagine how hard it was but it's always worth it.
you're brave for crying & also learning to let ppl in/be cared for; advice we all need to hear. thank you for sharing❤
This right here… and you ended feeling so much doubt in the beginning too.
My 7-year relationship ended 18 months ago and I'm still grieving and sorting through it. It's hard! I cut off contact 3 months ago because I realised he wasn't a good friend to me at all and I was just clinging on.
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I ended my 11 year relationship 15 months ago. I grieved towards end of my relationship and the beginning of my single hood. I've been having a blast through the ups and downs. I recently cut off contact as well. We are two different people. I will always have love for him but, I love and am in love with myself more. Good luck girl, you got this.
My relationship of 4 years that took up all of my late 20s ended 3 months before COVID. So I entered COVID alone, 8 hours from my family and friends, in the apartment we got to together. It's been over 3 years and I'm just feeling comfortable saying I'm ready to let someone else in. But it was three years of learning my emotions and myself and my boundaries. Keep your head up doll! Life is definitely a marathon.
Has anyone asked Nyma Tang a question on that creator connection website ThoughtSpace AI where you get instant answers to questions and can watch where he discusses it? Ok, was just wondering.
Side note but that (I think) concealer is a PERFECT match for you nyma!!! Wow I've never seen such a perfect match before esp on a dark skinned person
A 10 year relationship. That’s rough! Having to find yourself all over again? Who you are as a single woman. Dating again after that. Finding someone who knows you through and through again. It’s a lot! I can’t even imagine ❤ but you are here. You got this ❤ you are so worthy and beautiful and loved. Thank you for sharing this with us ❤
this is such a sweet message :)
@@shalenah It was! Very thoughtful!!
Thank you for sharing with us. Being ok with vulnerability is so hard when you always have to keep it together.
Yes, I didn’t think I was allowed to be a mess 😩 but now it is what it is.
Yes, embrace not always being ok. Something I had to examine and work thru, it wasn't easy at the beginning, but now it is such a relief!
I think those of us who watched knew what was happening. I did the same thing and 2021 was devastating. But something about all the heartache in the world kind of magnified it.
Wow I never really thought about it amplifying everything.. I hope you doing better these days though 🫶🏿
Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your experience. I wish you joy and happiness!
Thank you 🥹
I’m Oldest of 5 and also Sudanese. This resonated too much. Thank you for your honesty. I’m proud of you 💕
Has anyone asked Nyma Tang a question on that creator connection website ThoughtSpace AI where you get instant answers to questions and can watch where he discusses it? Ok, was just wondering.
Been watching you for years and I’ve always thought we were very alike. There’s just something about your aura that gives off nurturing and loving but strong willed. I am also the oldest and like the mom figure and I have found myself struggling with the same issue of bottling everything up and downplaying my own feelings. I just wanted to say I’m sorry you went through that, I really am, but I’m also proud of you for doing what was best for yourself. Thank you for sharing ❤ I hope you keep healing and doing amazing at life.
🥹 oldest siblings deserve more… I know you understand
@@NymaTang I agree, we do! Luckily we have the blessing of being looked up to by the people we love the most!
That outro was gold. I also count it a win when I’m able to cry. I recall how cold my heart was when I didn’t think there was room in the world for my feelings. A friend asked me “do you think you’re insignificant?” And the crying levies broke. Big love to you, Nyma - it’s impossible to see the other side of pain when you’re in it, but here you are and the work continues.
I'm glad you're starting to heal. Some things take a long long time. I basically burned my whole life to the ground, gave up on all my old hobbies and completely changed my life after i broke up with a relationship of 7 years over 4 years ago and I still sometimes have dreams where we are still together and having a good time. I'm glad you were able to stay friends and that the worst of the pain has passed for you
I hope your healing continues and you stay surrounded by support and love
That's growth, and it makes you realise that people who truly care for you will never sit in judgement. More power to you!
Hi Nyma. I have been here for a while, but when I saw the Loreal foundation commercial with HER and Kate Winslet for the first time on Thursday, I said to myself that's Nyma. Congratulations! You've worked so hard.
I'm so sorry about your break up. Good things will continue for you. 🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️❤
Same. I just saw the commercial and I was like 😱😱 that's nyma tang!! So excited for her!!
You’re amazing Nyma…. Thanks for sharing… so much. I got out a 6 year relationship and I felt like it was a freaking divorce tooo!! Now I’m so much in love with myself sooo much. ☺️ And the universe sent me someone so amazing, sweet, and honest out of nowhere when I was able to recover with the help of my friends. You are so strong for opening up and sharing your pain. Thank you so much for sharing this with us! The relatable story I felt so deeply.
I came on here expecting to send love and support to you and here you are giving loving words to me!! I struggle so much letting my friends in and telling them when I’m struggling. I’m going to come back to this video when I need to be reminded why it’s important.
Yes I went through a break up of a 10 year friendship/relationship in 2020 as well and still cry about it here and there. It's tough while going through it but I'm glad that we all saw it through and are here to speak about it. 🙂
I know the feeling. 😢 I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years in late 2020 and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I’m still working through it. Stay strong my Love, you made the right decision. ❤
You are a strong, resilient, and beautiful woman, Nyma! Thank you for sharing with us. We love you and stand with you ❤❤ ps that concealer blended out so pretty I couldn’t stop looking at it! Your skin is always so flawless.
You got this, babe! 😊 I also downplay my feelings a lot. And I’ll even be laughing the whole time as if the bs I’m going through is funny but it’s not, it’s just a coping mechanism. Never worry about sharing your feelings! Most of us can relate on some level and we are here for you always ❤
Awww Nyma thank you so much for you vulnerability!!❤️ It's a true reflection of your resilience in the midst of what you're still grieving, and that you realize if you're going through something it's likely that other's are too and may have similar difficulties in managing their mourning process! Love the self-work and self-love❤️
Thank you for coming here to open up about your pain and struggles. Your so strong. Thank you. Your loved so much. ❤❤❤
I was wondering why I never saw you at all last year! I don't think I've ever commented on your videos, but I came across this and what you said resonated with me, despite not being in the same circumstances. The pandemic opened my eyes to my relationship with my parents and had me learn more things about myself and them during that time and man. It was not fun. Not fun at all. But you're absolutely right that it's okay to accept your feelings but also tell that to whoever is listening. If something isn't cool with you, then it isn't cool with you and you're absolutely allowed to say so (obviously in a way that's nice and not condescending lol). Crying is so stigmatised in society today, it's always seen as being weak and things like that and sure, maybe in the moment it is weakening, but more often than not, after a good cry (and a good nap), people can feel rejuvenated and more alive after it. Being in that depressive funk totally sucks but it allows for reflection and growth and I think that's just really important. It's okay to cry. It's okay to feel a certain way about a certain situation. Just know, your feelings always will be valid, no matter what. Even if someone else disagrees, your feelings still matter. Never let anyone make you feel inferior for what you're feeling and certainly not without your consent.
Girl this is so relatable because I’ve experienced the same thing and therapy has helped me so much because the anxiety that followed me laid me flat on my ass for months. Whew thank God that tears don’t last forever 🙌🏾
Thank you so much for your vulnerability and your transparency. So many of us are forced to deal with these very normal bumps in life on our own and in silence, so to have folks speak openly about their emotions (especially as a Black woman) is so important. I am so glad you had people around you who held you in care and who gave you space to grieve, to cry, to laugh and to feel everything you feel. That is what community is.. that is what love is. That is what uplifting means. I am so happy you are finding yourself again and coming home to yourself. Sending you so much love and here’s to you and your next chapter and journey ! 🫶🏾
Aw girl. Good for you for doing what you need. ❤❤❤ thank you for sharing with us and sending you so much love
i'm really happy for you for healing & learning & growing. may it only continue in 2023
It’s going to take time, however you’re going to be ok! It’s never easy to end a relationship that isn’t working any longer… it’s great that you can still be friends 🙏🏾
We are proud of you too. It takes courage to leave safe and familiar even when it no longer fits. I wish you luck on your new journey.
I'm so glad you made it through these experiences and are comfortable enough to draw close to those who love you! I try not to pry whenever I see that someone is absent online, but I am really grateful to hear that you're still with us and you're growing through the pains.
Nyma you truly are a Queen!!! I've been a subscriber of yours for a few years and have watched you blossom into the beautiful woman that you are. Stay strong lady and continue to let your inner beauty radiate with your outer beauty! P.S. You looked awesome in the Loreal makeup commercial!!! Stay blessed and prayed up!!!
Bless your heart! God is good he always wants what is best for us. I pray that you continue to heal and move into your purpose and destiny!💜
Thank you for sharing this. I had a tough break-up last year and I remain glad that I decided to walk away. We are not friends and I'm ok with that, too. I have learned that my life is better flying solo. I, too, retreat into myself when I'm having a tough time with life. I act like the total Cancer I am by staying in my shell and only coming out when I absolutely must. I will probably return to therapy at some point this year. I have never had a lot of friends, though I do have someone in whom I can confide without fear of judgment. I feel glad that you have such a friend in your life. You're young and learning how to show up for yourself. Never stop doing this work, it will serve you in ways you cannot comprehend.
I felt this on so many levels!! I applaud your transparency & strength, Queen. 💛
❤ thank you for sharing yourself with us! I ended a long term relationship in 2020 with someone I was fully planning to marry. I also just realized that we were not a good fit for each other, no matter how badly I wanted to make things work. It was so hard and even this year I am still recovering because for two years after the break up neither of us had fully let go. I appreciate your vulnerability and send you all the love on your healing journey!❤️
Sending you love, continued healing and joy. I'm the oldest in my family too, always put others needs and emotions first. While I'm sad you went through the pain, I'm thankful you found support, safety in expressing your emotions and growth. ❤
I'm so excited and proud of you. So hyped that you are back and I have a feeling you will be bringing new energy to your channel. I mean we loved you before but a woman who goes through a break up, heals and takes that time to go deep spiritually is just a totally higher vibrational free woman
I relate so much to you and the way you carry yourself, good and bad. I’m on the same healing journey with myself. It’s comforting to know that some of our best days are still to be lived. Good luck 🤎
This message is so applicable to so many aspects… let trusted people help comfort you!
You are a very special lady, I love your voice, your presence, your vulnerability, your honesty, the way you wear make up (because I also have a dark complexion), you do all so beautifully. You are blessed.
So sorry and I hope you’re feeling much better now. I’m reminded to not let a man “string me along” and it’s okay to leave any situation that’s no longer working. Thank you for your transparency. ❤
So proud of you. I'm going through my own journey of letting people in when I'm going through it and it's weird to be the person who needs help rather than the person who provides help.
I know how you feel. This was me in 2018/19. You will just keep growing and evolving. You know deep down what’s best for you and when you begin to trust yourself, it feels so freeing.
Nyma, the ending words you put down really struck home--"If this video isn't a testament to growth and learning about yourself, I don't know what is. I'm really proud of myself." It's tough for a lot of us to let relationships (even good ones) go where they need to go and the healthy boundaries and the work you put in to yourself proves that it's worth it. I've been having a hard time communicating to a friend that I want to be there for them in a similar way to your friend with you and it's encouraging to see how friendship helped you in this time. Wishing you the absolute best!
First of all you are absolutely beautiful, thanks so much for this video, I am queen of bottling emotions because I think no one will understand what I'm feeling, I'm slowly opening up to a few people but it's still a work in progress. Glad you are at peace.
I'm so sorry for everything you've went through nyma. We love you 💖
Your so beautiful. Life has its seasons, and now that the winter is over heal in your spring. Because summer is just round the corner. Love on you!
Last year my 5 year relationship ended and I thought it was gonna be forever. And my ex lived with me for months afterward and it made it so much harder!!!! And yeah it did feel like a divorce. I struggled so much because it’s hard when you had someone there all the time and then they’re gone. But here’s to a new journey ❤
You got this!❤️
Thanks for sharing and being so vulnerable here nyma❤ I hope with time your heart heals and continue growing 🧿🥰
I'm sorry that happened. I know how it feels. I'm glad you are back and better than ever!
Wow, I'm so sorry you were struggling so much. I hope your year and life gets better. You deserve it.
I understand how you feel about not allowing yourself to cry or allowing yourself to be comforted by others. I was like that before but I realized that the burden was just to much to bear and for my mental I had to talk about it to others and allow myself to be comforted. Speak your truth and don’t bottle what’s bothering you. Let it out and give yourself permission to grieve it’s ok. Hugs and kisses. I wish you the best.
We love you for being you! I’m glad to see you are ok Nyma! I missed your videos! Stay strong 💪
Love you Nyman! Keep being strong babe. And it is okay to feel your feelings. So proud of you
Nyma, você é uma inspiração ❤ uma mulher incrível! Amo você ❤
❤❤❤ So PROUD of YOU!!..you can cry on our shoulders anytime
Thank you for sharing you are helping so many ❤❤❤
Thank you for your courage and vulnerability I'm sad that you had to go through that but happy you came out on the othr side and are healing. I'm the oldest as well and it's hard for us to let anyone know we are not ok and that is OK! I can relate and it's painful and hard and ugly and it can be devastating and you made it anyway, you didn't give up you let the emotions flow through you I'm proud of you!!!
Thank you for sharing this and I am glad you are on your healing path! Nothing but virtual love and hugs from me to you ❤😊
Oh Nyma🥹🥹 So sorry you were in such pain. Glad you are better. Sending love and hugs❤️🤗
I'm glad you found your happy and continue to let people in that care about you. Sending love and light.
From the first video of you I've seen up to (most especially) now, I continue to admire you as a person.
When I see tears roll down your cheeks, my eyes well up with tears, too, for whatever reason. I wish you the best in your growth journey. You did what was right for you, and you will meet someone compatible.
I have been there, with hiding my emotions and withdrawing during struggles. But it is because I AM vulnerable, and people have attacked my weaknesses in the past or abandoned me when most needed. I have learned to trust and be vulnerable with the RIGHT person.❤
Sending you lots of love! Your best days are ahead of you! 💗💗
Thank you for sharing this with us.💗
I can relate to the not sharing when you're hurting. It makes it really difficult to process those tough emotions. I'm glad you had friends come out to tell you they saw through the facade.
I don't know how you cried while applying your makeup and came out looking fire. Lol
I’m glad you made it through with support. Long term relationships breaking off is difficult. We are fragile but resilient. I understand the difficulties of what you went thru.
Crying is healing. We are stronger then we think we are. Not easy letting people in. But you do it’s the best. Thanks for sharing. Many blessings beautiful 🤎🤎
We love you and are so proud of you❤ praying for you as you embark this phase Ian your life
Welcome back Nyma,
Love that y'all are still able to remain friends and that you aren't trashing him. Blessings & good vibes to both of y'all 🙏🏽🌈
OMG ❣️ I HAVE JUST SEEN YOU ON A L'OREAL COMMERCIAL ❣️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN'T CONQUER. YOU ARE BLESSED AND HIGHLY FAVORED 💫
Im happy to see you again hun hope you feeling better and if that aint the case i sent u a big virtual hug 💖 you got this queen 💖
Wow. So sorry you had to go through that. Happy to hear that you are doing well. Be happy. You deserve the world!
I REALLY felt this video because I'm going through the same thing with my relationship of almost 8 years. It really does feel like a divorce and I go from feeling really angry to wanting to cry and this video made me do that because I can really identify with what you're saying. I know it takes time but I definitely know this too will pass.
You're definitely not alone ❤️ I don't know if you have a hard time letting yourself process emotions, but I definitely do because I tend to shut down instead. Something that helped me immeasurably with processing the end of a long term relationship was listening to music that expressed similar emotions to what I felt. It made me feel less alone, kept me from thinking too much because I could focus on the lyrics, and gave me a safe space to process my emotions without overthinking about the things that caused them and feeling worse.
Alternatively, some people find that upbeat music helps them and sad stuff makes them feel worse. Just do what you can to take care of yourself, accept help from others, and be kind to yourself about what you're going through. It isn't a linear process, there will be good days and bad days, but eventually the good days will far outnumber the bad ones and you'll find yourself looking back on everything and thankful for the ways it allowed you to grow and change. I believe you'll get through it, because I didn't think I could and here I am 4 years later in a relationship healthier than any other I've been in because I was able to learn from my mistakes and to communicate what I'm going through so we can get through it together
You are beautiful! Hey just know that we all have struggled. Sissy better you find out now, then in another 5 or 10 years. Everyone loves you ❤❤❤❤❤❤ Thank you for sharing
💞 You're doing great, sweetheart!
thank you for speaking on this😢 my heart breaks for you and its awful but sometimes the right decision is incredibly painful. i wish you the best in continuing to heal and i cant wait to see what life brings you in the future!
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what your friend did, gently pushing you to let her in and open up is love love love
went through the exact same thing in the same time frame....still trying to process it but like you- I've learned so much about myself and i've grown quite a bit So proud of you
Thank you sharing and being so vulnerable especially as a black woman. It can be so hard to put ourselves first and ask for help and I am so glad you are taking time for yourself and letting people in.
I love you and I pray you continue to recover and do well.
You the reason I started my TH-cam... So much of an uplifter and motivator.
I wish nothing biybyhe best for you
Thank you for sharing sweetheart ♥ We all having a hard time at some point. It takes a lot of courage to open up and trust again. I'm going through the same journey. Wish you nothing but the best for this year.
The last 2 weeks I’ve done nothing but cry because I ended a 4 year relationship. This is hard and I’m glad you spoke on this cause same. I needed to hear that it’ll be okay. I wish it was amicable but it was terrible the way it ended 😞
I've been there. Be kind to yourself and try to take comfort in the little things like a good cup of tea or the beautiful flowers that will start growing in spring as the seasons change along with you.
In the end, you'll find that the pain you experience now with the relationship ending will help you grow and learn and move on to better things.
I hope you have people to help you get through the painful recovery process.
If you have a hard time opening up, you might be able to find comfort in music that expresses similar things to what you're going through and reminds you that you aren't alone while giving you a safe space to process some of the overwhelming emotions. The album Dance and Cry by Mother Mother really got me through my breakup a few years ago, especially putting it on when I went to shower so I didn't ruminate on painful memories and could focus on the music and taking care of my body's needs
One human to another, I am proud of you. There is grieving that takes place when we lose a connection that meant a lot to us. Instead of running away, you faced it head on! You also are trying to heal that aspect of you that avoids being vulnerable and allowing others to be there for you like you are for them. Absolutely amazing and definitely not easy. Thank you for being courageous and sharing your story! I struggle with very similar opportunities as well so thank you for making me feel less alone ❤
Sending love, light, warmth, and compassion your way ❤
Good for Nyma! You deserve support and care💛💗
Thank you for sharing. And yes you do deserve to love yourself and to be loved thank God for family and friends. Love you.
Proud of you too!! You beautiful human and lovely lady. Keep up the self exploration and then be open to letting someone in when you are ready. XOX From Ireland
I'm so happy you are shining light on your pain it's a huge step 🚶♀️in recovery ' I was 24 when I ended a 7 year marriage it was hard, I starting working out at the Gym but the best thing was confinding in my family I learned so much about myself not who people thought I was but who I was created to be, I'm a beautiful woman I'm enough and so are You.
Aww sis 3 months!! That’s so rough being sad alone. I’m happy you finally had a breakthrough! And yes stop suppressing, it will cause physical health issues like stomach issues!
Hi Nyma , I just saw the commercial that you are in and I hollered with happiness. They industry finally heard you , I'm very proud and happy for you. The shade of make you advertised for made you look flawless. You don't need any help though your skin is already beautiful. Continue to surprise me.
Bless you for sharing, life is such an unpredictable ride, and things can change in a moment, we can only react and learn, it is very hard to be vulnerable and to admit feelings to yourself. Take care ❤❤❤
Sending lots of love Nyma. Just know that everything is always working for your highest good. 💖💖💖✨✨