I’m only 22 but I’ve come to realize the importance of walking around with your head up, chest out, and a smile. Being that positivity can be life changing for someone.
@@DraculasHeadOnPike See thats the thing about confidence ,the only person who knows whether you are confident or not is you , if you think of your self as a confident person then you are one,Its like a choice you have to make yk. You just wake up and say youre confident you are confident. Confidence isn't something anyone is born with its just a choice you make
@@DraculasHeadOnPikethe phrase “fake it till you make it” actually works when working on your confidence. Once it’s been a while doing things again and again and again, you will notice you’ve been gaining confidence in that thing, and by consecuence, you will start being more confident.
(20yr old) Best advice I can give anyone: 1. Failue isn’t one event, it’s the consistent decline of … 2. Walk with a bounce, head high, chest out, make eye contact and smile to people. When in a restaurant/cafe/bakery always take control of the room, be loud, respectful and funny (Always smile) Happiness radiates happiness, people who see u happy will become happy and people will react postiviely to your happiness (it’s a neverending cycle) This is a major foundation to then be successfull in my opinion, build the best connections and develop your networking skills
When I was 19 years old, (I'm currently turning 21), I used to work for like 12hours, ended up with me breaking down and experiencing the worst anxiety /rut of my life, I have now learnt to say no to overworking(like actually taking more time to enjoy things I thought was a waste of time) and the toxic hustle grind, and be more holistic in my self-improvement, and actually enjoy the days more, Thanks a ton as always for your videos
(17) I don't know how to handle my situation with my old friends. I realize that I don't want to do what they're doing anymore, hanging out till 2am on discord playing games, some out partying and drinking, etc etc... i've kind of just been slowly drifting, spending more time alone working on myself or sometimes in genuine interactions with company I enjoy (new friends: we play music together, box, gym, sports, etc...). My current plan is to just still be kind when we see each other but not really participate in those late nights anymore. Its not the lifestyle i'm looking for and i've been a lot happier and fulfilled this way. If anyone has any pointers that'd be great, thanks.
I’d keep focusing on my progress, and hanging with the good friends. Still be respectful to the old ones though, as it shows that you’re still the person they know but better.
How to embrace the fear of uncertainty, and learn to be comfortable with the uncomfortable. I'm always staying within my own bubble, where I can control the future events/outcomes. It's always been a struggle to move beyond my mental constraints, and further expand my domains.
Go just out of your bubble. Find the easiest thing you can do outside of your comfort zone. For me this was a small incline I had to go through on my bike. Do that consistently you have now levelled up in this skill. Rinse and repeat and eventually you will be comfortable with the uncomfortable
Feeling afraid of something you don’t have a 100% control control over or you wanna wait exactly what’s gonna happen in 100% normal to think what you want to be reporting about is to not participate in the thing dude you’re afraid of instead of being afraid of being afraid, it’s going to feel bad or afraid, but it’s not fine to make that fear control your actions.
Man you are still so real and pure even though money is in your face. I appreciate you a ton bro. I’m far up on the self improvement and other guys my age look up to me, and it is partly because of guys like you that I kept going through tough times and even worked harder on myself. For example when I was 15 (now 17) my dad got diagnosed with ALS, and it was very progressive. During his decline I took my mental and physical so serious even more so than before. Worked out 6/7 days a week and leveled up about everywhere (except for school where I couldn’t really put my attention at the time, but still managed with decent grades). He died within a year later when I was 16, but the grind has not stopped. Now working really hard and about to have exams for my last year of grad school. One little thing I struggle with though is when I tell others about self improvement ideas and things I am working on in the early stages of it and the feedback always is negative, I tend to give up on it for a while. I understand this is something people automatically do because they don’t want others to outgrow them, so now I just silently grind before showing my passions, but do you have any other advice on the mental block of opinions on your goals?
I would start meditation "Meditation can help strengthen your mindfulness and inner peace. As a result, you develop a deeper self-acceptance and a better understanding of your own thoughts and feelings. This makes it easier for you to accept the opinions of others without them strongly influencing your own self-perception. Ultimately, meditation helps to establish a stable inner foundation that enables you to react more calmly to the opinions of others."
Keep up the amazing work bro. Your ability to work hard through tragedy and adversity will get you very far in life. You will be a man everyone looks up to and counts on. My advice is to not let others opinions bog you down and question your identity as a man.
Sorry for your loss man. To your question, I'd say get a group of friends online from Adonis Gang or something and speak to them about your goals, not to "normal people". Hormozi says something like if they don't have a life you want, don't listen to their opinions.
I recommend you read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie because, in that book, Mr.Carnegie talks about how you can get other people to understand you and like you even if they have the opposite opinions and beliefs that you have. One piece of advice I will give to you is to always control your temper in conversations because getting angry or emotional will only make the other person more stubborn with his ideologies, opinions, and beliefs because he/she will feel the need to defend themselves and their pride. So never say that the other person is wrong or stupid and genuinely be open-minded even if you know that they are wrong. Doing so will make the other person more open-minded as well so he might start understanding and respecting your goals and ideas even if he/she is a loser. I could talk about a lot more techniques like this but I'll just recommend you to read the book that I mentioned cuz it will change your life
I'm actually loving how hamza is switching between modern, highly edited videos with extra clips, music etc and just old-school, dopamine free video for us day ones.
He did it multiple times and switched back to highly edited videos again and again. It's hard to take these switches seriously when they happen that often.
Honestly I do not know what question to ask so heres a warrior's advice: Power comes in response to a need, not a desire. You have you create that need, not wait for it. You don't want it, You need it. (reply to it how ever you please, I'm curious what you all will reply to a statement as such.)
(Power comes in response to a need,not a desire)- if you want to achive something like muscular body, to be good academicly, to have a good relationship.its takes power to achive it, not by just desireing it must be backed up with action. (you have you creat that need,not to wait for it)-the need is created by desire,the need can be anything which is created by you then again it is backed up by taking action. (you don't want it,you need it.)-it is not something that you will be fine with out it, you have to be it.
be the kind of person that legit people, people who have goals and hustle want te be friends with , if you improve in life , people like that are going to come to you
Start hustling yourself and becoming the type of person you would want to be friends with and you will attract like minded people to you. Law of Attraction.
Clicked on first video, since I've went full on in my own journey. Now just chilling in nature, listening to the birds singing and writing this comment. 😄 Life's wonderful man.
Today, for the first time, I approached two girls. Even though I felt uncomfortable, I still did it because, as Hamza once said, you have to gather the courage to talk to girls so you can meet your future dream woman. And ever since that the thought never left me, so I told myself I wouldn't leave the city today until I got a number. And to be honest, I did it, and afterwards, I felt so confident, even though it went so badly and now they're ghosting me. But I know that in the future, it won't be like this because it's part of the progress. So i am happy of todays Progress
Well done on building up the courage. Most people don't realize how difficult it is to do this without having any prior experience, it can be so scary and overwhelming, but the fact that you pushed through is fantastic. Although what you're doing is healthy and fairly positive skill you need to acquire, don't be attached to the outcome, rather the let outcome find you. I'm Christian and you don't necessarily have to be Christian to understand the following: Matthew 12:30 AMP [30] He who is not with Me [once and for all on My side] is against Me; and he who does not [unequivocally] gather with Me scatters. If they don't talk to you, their honestly doing you a favour, you don't have to waste your time on people who don't resonate with you. Stay blessed brother, focus on the process not the outcome ❤
@visualities I asked a girl about her phone number, but she told me that she had a boyfriend, so I just turned directions. Afterwards I asked another girl I was like asking her some stuff, she were responding, but it still was kinda awkward because as I talked to her my mouth told her "i am sorry" for doing it so bad and I didnt even wanted to say it, it just came out. But in the end I still got her number, I texted her "hey was nice to meet you" and since then no reply😭. Anyways this was a wholesome experience and I kinda like to get rejected by girls. Because it only tells you that you have room to improve. So yeah I got only one number. Have a great day my brother!
I lost myself. I stopped watching your videoes and fell into even worse habits, i still workout but that's it, my mindset is all wrong. I'm mostly typing this for myself but i'm gonna try and stay on the right path. I hope i'll be able to forgive myself for what i've done.
how old are you bro? I'm 15 btw and I feel like I'm behind everyone my age on self-improvement because I can't even focus properly due to allergies bruh
@@rithvikmedasani363 I’m 22 but don’t use allergies as a reason for why you feel behind. You’re literally 15. I didn’t discover self improvement until 17/18. Do the best you can with the cards you’ve been dealt. I wish I knew about self improvement at 15
@@ejm_official thank you so much for that advice brother! I really needed it! I think I'll go to college this year to have something to grind and also to gain some skills like social skills and time management skills
It’s not that deep bro your only human after all and we aren’t perfect, instead of beating yourself up about it just get back to it and use your relapse into bad habits as a lesson to never do it again, you’ve got this g 👊
I’ve been existent on this world for long enough for me to know that everyone lives are different in a unique way, but everyday when we walk past a person we don’t know, we somehow feel connected, but we take it for granted and never said anything to that person like “if I don’t see you again live a good life” or something like that, there’s just so many people in this world and personally if I don’t see them again in life it just feels so darned awkward. Because that person could be your future lover, acquaintance or friend. I know there is no way to tell if you can live tomorrow or die in your sleep. This just makes me question life itself, and why have god created us, and why have we turned into antisocial animals that only live only for themselves. 0:21
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Do smth with your life bro find a hobby that you love and then grind it until you become faboulus in it. for me it's skating and i will grind this summer.
I’m 17 years old and my mental state has been very destructive my family is concerned about me and my school can’t trust me to find other jobs. I have been watching Hamza for some months and I really try to be on self improvement so that I can’t be this troublemaker at school
I'm nowhere near 20+ but this sounds like an important phase in your life, you have two options, and know the long-term results of both so choose wisely
Never really had this problem but I would figure out what’s making you act out is it insecurity, anxiety, depression, family pressure etc. what you figure it out read books are how to fix that specific instead of self improvement as a whole
I have been where you are , my life had massive négative change when i was your age ( 19 yo now ) My advice : do what you can brother d'ont put too much pressure on yourself and d'ont compare yourself to others when they are doing better than you try to see how they do it and not they're achivements , gym and martial arts , even if mentally u're not felling better now , the time will come you will thank yourself , try to enjoy your family and close friends more , if you d'ont make yourself happy no one will do it for you , and when you have anxiety or you d'ont control yourself when u're with some people ( ur voice , talking , eyes contact ... ) d'ont be mad at yourself , just try to forget , those aren't so important . I am sure you are an amazing person .
I am only 12 lol. Kinda young, but just wanna say that this is the best channel ever!! So glad I statred watching your videos, before I was always gamming(average 12y) Thank you so much!! 👍
I’m 18 and soon this year I’ll be graduating from high school. I want to start hustling immediately after I graduate and take my self-improvement to another level, but idk how, where, or what to start with. I just wanna make some money so I can buy my own first car and take care of my family. Also, I find myself not being able to hold good conversations with many people, it’s usually very quick, shallow, and boring, and I want to fix that too. to summarize my two questions are: - where and how do i start making my own money and ofc self-improve more efficiently fresh out of high school? - how do i hold interesting conversations that create strong bonds with others?
I'm 21 and here's what I'm gonna do...To start all of this first thing is to build a good physique ..make a goal to build an aesthetic or whatever physique you like... remember that this goal should be a year or long because body is not build soon and this creates consistency and teaches you things you can apply into different areas .... To making money...first research the algorithms of all social platforms..like trending niches that are popping up ..but you need to understand that you might need to shift to one permanent niche later on which you'll find it along the way so you don't have to worry that much .... And for the conversations part...you aren't able to have good conversations because you yourself don't have anything to talk to first of all ...that's why you need to go on adventures once in a while or do some crazy shit with the boyzz so you can experience things to talk about them ...and more importantly...you need to understand that people like to talk when you talk like them not talk like you...they get interested if you are talking about something that they like ...learn more about them and talk in their language of things.... That is all this might be long but it's useful
Hi @KafkaKunafa, I'm about to turn 21 and Ill be completely honest with you, I have not taken action with regards to becoming financially free and supporting my family, but it is something I want to begin during the summer holidays after my exams. With regards to interesting conversations, I have felt sometimes its not always your fault. There are just some people who clash with your personality and so it can be really difficult to hold a conversation, almost as if your putting in all the work, which in my opinion is not that healthy. But I feel for the most part you still have a lot of control and responsibility when it comes to starting and maintaining a conversation. Hamza has recommended this book, and it definitely helped me a whole lot last year, called 'How to make friends and influence people' by Dale Carnegie. This book is based of social norms in the past, however, I believe it is really relevant to standing out in todays generation and just being happy/content with the interactions you have through out the day. I am planning to re-read this book as I feel I have slipped a bit in my conversating skill. I think once you figure out what interests a person, whether that ben in a work/life context, start asking questions about that. Lets say the person opposite you loves boats, start asking them about their favourite boats, where they have travelled using their boats, and why they like boating. Asking a 'why' question is the best way to start engaging a person since its so open as a question, meaning the other person can have a lot to say about it, and it can help you get to know the deeper sides of a person and the way they think and act, which personally I find really interesting. You have got this bro, I wish you the best of luck on your self-improvement journey, and God bless both you and I are able to provide for our families and become strong masculine role models for our tribes :)
I'm 21 and I'd say to start where you are now tbh try to do some research about what market youre trying to get into at the side so by the time you graduate you at least have some knowledge about what you want to get into also develop a routine to support your habits like exercising meditating especially meditating. So in short take care of your mental health more and do some research about the market you want to get into
I'm 21 years old and here is a summary of my advise which may be close to your attitudes: 1. Hit to the gym and eat proteins and healthy food, cut out any junk food for good but you can slack off once or twice if you're hanging out with friends. 2. Read books regarding relationships and connections there are hundreds of them. 3. Try to listen to others conversations when they're talking to each other and nit just listen but analyze every word and posture and voice tune and etc. 4. Look for online businesses which are best to start with and see what's trendy these days and which one is your liking. Finding a few friends who are also doing this and are planning to run a business massively enhances your progress because you can learn from each other.
I lost meaning for everything. I stopped self-improvement, I stopped working on my business, I feel worse than before it started self-improvement and for everything I say ,,there's no point in doing this. The only things that are left are my friends and the gym
Imagine Those warrior..and greek God..they dont give a fuck about thier lives they fight for their families and provide things and after that their they are a real men in front of their woman and children..this fuels me and it will help you
Everything you do is for your future kids not you. You gona tell your kids the reason they are not in private school was because you lost motivation? Respectfully quit being a wimp n get on with it did you think it would be easy?
To all my brothers here, I am 19 and in self improvement for a quiet a while but i don't know what should i focus most at this time like gym, making money, social skills etc. Also not seeing much progress sometimes feels very discouraging.
work on all pillars, your can go to the gym early in the morning, after go to work or do you hustle, if where you work there is a cycle of people socialise there , if there is non, just follow hamza' s advice 😊of talking to 2 new girls every day
I also have the impression that you cannot focus on everything all at ones and be succesful at them. In my opinion, if there's a priority like making money, you should mainly focus on that and neglect lesser important aspects for some time. That's what all of those entrepreneurs do as well. 16 hour days for a few years until they reach 7 figure revenues. They then start focusing on the other aspects more, because they can outsource large parts of their business.
Through the thousands of years that history has played out, the countless people who've died because they were too weak.. The strongest have survived.. It's already in YOUR DNA.. YOU have to unlock your full potential, it would be a shame to your bloodline if you didn't.. I don't know if you'll understand the weight behind this, but. 600 years from now theirs going to be a kid wondering why how he can fight so well.. And why he's so strong.. He's going to an amazing speaker and he's going to be the richest your family has ever seen All because you never gave up your actions will have a positive effect on your life and generations down the line Stay true to yourself To god And to others If you feel discouraged from a lack of results.. it means you need discipline to carry you through Review your plan and improve where possible.. You're always going to be learning new things.. ALWAYS.
Prioritize engaging in activities you genuinely enjoy, focusing on the journey rather than solely on the destination. Otherwise, you're likely to experience constant stress without seeing real progress. Had I grasped this concept a year ago, I could have avoided a year of futilely chasing outcomes, which only resulted in stress and ingratitude. I failed to recognize the blessings in my life. Now, I see the value in my current circumstances and am beginning to enjoy my life, slowly transforming into the person who effortlessly attracts the life I desire. This change has significantly simplified and enriched my life, making it happier and more fulfilling. It's astonishing how much improvement comes from accepting my life as it is and pursuing what I truly want. It's crucial, however, to distinguish between genuinely fulfilling activities and short-term indulgences like lounging around, using substances, or eating junk food. If you're inclined towards these habits, it might be time to explore positive routines, discover more about yourself, build discipline, and find what truly excites you. Once you uncover these passions, the appeal of wasteful activities diminishes because you'd rather spend your time engaging in meaningful pursuits. For instance, despite hearing the benefits of gym workouts, I never enjoyed them, mistakenly believing they were the sole path to fitness. This pursuit of immediate results, without enjoying the process, left me stressed and drained. Eventually, I discovered my love for calisthenics, which I engage in purely for the joy it brings. Removing the pressure to achieve specific outcomes has allowed me to cherish the process, focusing less on results and more on my passion, which I can't imagine living without.
if you have a plan to get rich just go for it, you can still go out with your friends. But, trust me after 3-5 years you will regret not chasing your dream, and waisting your time doing dumb things. My advice stay in college, and hang out with your friends(maybe twice a week), but when you go home do something that will get you closer to your goal every single day.
Well in building the house we build the foundations first. Your body mind and soul. Relationship with God your physique and getting money should be your first priorities. Then everything else can be built on that foundation when in doubt remember your foundations
You said, you are only 19. I remember a clip from Andrew Tate saying that you're only 19, you are a baby ! You have no human responsibility that you are in charge, so take all the risks you can in young age ! It's doesn't matter that you lost everything, but it's not the same for a guy 40 y.o with 3 childs... TAKE RISKS
i dont know brother! to be honest... i think you should do a deep reflections on how you want your life to be. so... have a vision. after that, you need to know the resources that you need for fulfill your vision. you need money? you need time? you need knowledge? know what you need for fill the gap between you and your goals! and always remember, put your mental health first, and heavily work on yourself!
To be completely honest the best answer is to not do anything. What I mean by that is quite literally to not distract yourself or rush into anything I would take time and reflect upon myself and what it is I wanted to work towards. Write stuff down, keep track of thoughts you have often. For example you might keep thinking about a certain experience when left to your own thoughts and that might be one of the things holding you back. In essence, my advice is to take the time to really understand yourself and the direction you want your life to go in. I can understand how daunting of a task that is though so I will tell you now you don't have to get a perfect answer just enough vague ones to get started.
Actually everyqhere. Talk to someone at the gym, talk to random people on a train or bus, go running and join someone jogging. Sign up for swimming, maybe for martial arts and I am sure you will find them.
Hey bro I was struggling with this exact thing. And it took a long while for me to make friends who actually care. And all this happend out of no where very quickly actually. Go to libraries, restaurants, gyms, and don't force friendship let it come to you. Dont expect it to happen overnight either, and don't be afraid to initiate going out with people. Being positive will attract the right people, and if they don't stay then they weren't the right people. Good luck bro you will get there eventually
I had cut off porn addiction and junk food addiction. But when I went to university, I got back with these addiction. I don't workout now, don't wake up early, even if I wake up, I procrastinate on my work and go back to sleep. I don't meditate. Man, I just want my normal disciplined life back. Your help would be highly appreciated.
I have 4 years left of puberty, if I'm lucky. I feel like the pieces are coming apart day after day, and I keep trying to pull myself together and put an effort on the puzzle. But as the days pass by, putting an effort, making progress on that puzzle piece gets harder and harder, and its this compounding effect that I feel I have no control over. I'm almost 15, I've been making efforts for self improvement since I was 12. I'm in the worst position of my life so far in terms of mental health, I don't expect for that to change. My whole life I've been incompetent at everything I've touched, and so I never pursued anything. Not friends, not hobbies, not even my studies; the supposed purpose of my teenage years. I'm behind my peers to an unimaginable degree. How do I flip this on its head. How do I get out of this, this desire to break free has lingered despite my bad condition. To give you a bit of context, and a couple things you may find useful, when answering my question: I have a grand total of 1 friend. He's a self improvement guru, he's maxxed out every millisecond of his time ever since he was 12. He has an incredible physique, training and seeing tangible results in his attempt to be an MMA fighter. He's intelligent, manages his time, can work endlessly, Top band grades. -Dis-appointed parents. Although he isn't the most empathetic guy, getting help from him is almost impossible as he puts maximizing his time over anything else, including helping a friend in need. Could I make use of this connection to help me get out of this rut? I need help. Thank you for your time.
You could join in with whatever he’s doing, or just do it yourself. 15 years ago in school I struggled to connect with people, I only learned how to talk to people through my absent fathers way of talking to people. Whenever I wanted to do something I’d just do it anyway, always offer others, but be the leader, even if you have no-one to lead, people will want to follow you if you’re going in good directions, bring them along.
Hey bro, I was in the same boat with hitting puberty late. It sucks I know bc I didn’t see signs of puberty till around 15 and I’m currently 18 and still going through it. Just focus on what you can control and prioritize you’re mental health ASAP.Watch Hamzas full mental health guide that really helped me
See brother your comment literally explains your problem. If you've been on self improvement for 3 years and still feel like the way you do there's something wrong isn't it?I read your comment 3 times and you seem like an intelligent guy and an overthinker. On what terms you think you're behind your peers in an unimaginable degree? Your one friend who aspire to be an MMA fighter, do you have the same goal in your mind? If you can answer these 2 questions I can give you some good advice with what I know
Here's the CURE : 1. maximize your biology. YOUR PHYSICAL STATE DIRECTLY EFFECTS YOUR MENTAL STATE. a. Cut out garbage food. Don't eat fast food or ultra processed food (food with 1 trillion ingredients). Eat simple foods like meat, fruits, vegetables eggs etc. b. Workout Everyday. Plenty of guides online. Pushups, running, squats is a good place to start. c. FIX YOUR SLEEP. Wake up at a certain time. And sleep at a certain time 2. Read & Write. a. Reading enriches you with the experiences of others allowing you to learn much faster than those before you and currently those around you. You can literally choose your peers, your mentors can be some of the greatest people to have ever lived. b .Writing is quite literally, thinking. Write about anything. What you think about teachers. What you think about yourself. What you think about the efficiency of the criminal justice system. Literally anything, and it WILL make you SHARPER 3. QUIT FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF Quite honestly my friend, you speak very pathetically. Do you notice what you're even saying to yourself? a. "I don't expect for that to change" WEAK : You're are literally telling yourself "I WANT TO LOSE". Never speak to yourself this way. Catch yourself next time. Force yourself to think and speak like a winner. No longer LISTEN to yourself. from now on you will NARRATE to yourself who you want to be. b. "My whole life I've been incompetent at everything I've touched, and so I never pursued anything" WEAK: "I've been a loser my entire life, so I continued to be a loser" ??????????. Be stronger an refer to 3a c. "Could I make use of this connection to help me get out of this rut?" W E A K: "I'm a loser so should I beg the only winner in my life to help me?!" Two things to say on this. One, this is pathetic, you already know what to do, you're just to scared to do it. Your pretending like he's gonna share some secret sauce that makes everything easier, and BOOM, you get everything you want!!! . . . . . WAKE UP TO REALITY . . . . . EAT PAIN AND PROSPER Two, everyone hates a needy person. I have cutout many people in my life ruthelesly (but respectfully), the always weak, the always needy, the always complaining, the always depressed. The simply hindered me. I had a friend ask me in a sad tone, he said "why don't you hang out with any of the boys anymore?" I said "You are my child hood friend and I will always remember you, but I am going to become LEGENDARY, not decent, not good, not great, but LEGENDARY. If you want to be someone who is frequently around me on my ascension, then you must be my equal or greater. Anything else will diminish my spirit. and that is UNACCEPTABLE." He looked at me like I was insane. Is what it is. No hate against him, still has a place in my heart. But he's not on my same wave length. My friend to be the friends with the strong you must become strong. Learn to carry your weight. 4. Social media a. No tiktok or IG. Obvious reasons if your IQ isn't tanked. b. Don't listen to shitty music that either makes you stupid or sad/depressed. IT IS POISONING YOUR BRAIN. 5. "How do I get out of this, this desire to break free has lingered despite my bad condition" Quit lying to yourself. You know what you needed to do. You don't desire to break free. You desire to for the world to become easier. You pray the magically one day will come where everything will become easy. You pray that the pain simply stop . . . Coward THE ONLY WAY IS THROUGH The world will not become easier You must become stronger Will you be that flame who refuses to be consumed by the darkness? Will you rebel by burning with fury pain & rage? Or you will you go quietly into the darkness?
If your insecure about yourself watching these videos help but taking action will give you a different kind of happiness. Set a goal on what you want to look like/ be and work towards that . As you progress towards that goal you will feel better about yourself. I was in the same boat , so I'm just sharing my experiences and what I did.
How to find high quality friends, a masculine friend, when you just doesn't have one to improve together, how to find a friend that is on self-improvement as well?
Take initiative to invite them to things and not wait for them to invite you. Don't care if they like you or not just do you and they will see how much of a man and generous person you are and will naturally gravitate towards you.
Literally just ask the question. And if you don't get a response, just give your input on the question you asked, just to get it started if no one else responds yet. I've learned that a lot of times if you want something, you always have to act. Hesitation leads to discouragement, so if you can gain that confidence from the start, you would be much more happier with yourself whether anyone responds or not. Also make the question as presentable as possible, give it with confidence and sound interested in your own question. That's just how I'll go about it, but freestyle it, because it's you, not me.
My girlfriend and I are breaking up right now. We have been together for 4 months now and we had a beautiful time. No problems. However, it's a long distance relationship. We saw each other every two weeks for a couple of days. I often flew to England to meet her and her family. I really love her and her family. They were all so good to me, so welcoming and caring. When we cant see each other, we video call everyday for at least an hour. But she thinks that we should break up as she considers herself not to be good enough for me and my plan for the future which is to have children and marry her. Also, the long distance stuff really upsets her and hurts her feelings not to be able to see me all the time. She has been planning on doing a SOLO world trip to especially South America, which of course would make the distance and periods of not seeing each other even bigger. Her goal is to find herself there and get relief and figure things out in terms of her own mental health and stuff. I figured that I'll have to let her go. I said I was gonna come with her and I even started to learn Spanish, but she just does not want me to come with her and by now I am sure that she will not change her mind about that. Yesterday evening, we pretty much broke up and she said that we can remain friends. As I said, everything was good and polarized between us. It is not that I fucked up heavily. But in her opinion, it is time to split up because we would now, as we both graduate, both enter different paths in life. My question to you guys is whether or not I should reserve myself for her and for when she comes back from her trip which might end in 1 to 1.5 years from now. Should I stay mentally attached? That is what I am currently wondering. I am sure that there is no perfect answer to that. It depends how she feels about me during that time and so on, but I really really fell in love with that girl and her family. So I would hate to lose her and at this point I cant imagine ever loving another girl like I love her. I believe that she will stay in my head forever as this was our first relationship. Potentially, we could come back together after her world trip. Do I now go into a slight monk mode (I am 19) but already into the gym for years, do I also try to find myself, do I meet new women to date or do I reserve myself for her?
Hey Bro, Greetings from Germany! First things first, sorry for my English it’s not the best. If I was in your situation I would now focus on myself. Hustle, grind , love yourself and become the best version of your self. Your life will and have to go forward, with her and without her. So I would recommend you to work on yourself, build that self love for you and if you want to stay in contact with her it’s totally fine. Just work on yourself and meet up in if she is back and talk about the past. If it still match and your feelings are still there you can go for a relationship again. But do not limit yourself with women, need new women, stay in contact with other woman. It will increase your self confidence. I wish you all of the best brother. In regards to Thanh from Germany 🇩🇪
GM my friend My advice is simple: in times of peace, prepare for war What that means is that even though you don't know what you want to do or what you will do in the future, prepare yourself to be ready to do it when the opportunity arises. Focus on the basic - build your body, your mind, and your money - those are the foundations that will support ANYTHING that you later find to be your true goal
For some time isolate yourself from internet, especialy social media and then when you are doing it long enough you will start to figure things out. Hope this helps, helped me. Good luck brother.
you're giving your power to other shit, these comments here giving motivational shit, I mean it's not bad neither helpful. What are your pressures of life? It's generally not having enough money or not being able to attract women or both. Think about what's holding you back from getting the life you desire? Do other people's opinions or as you say it 'pressure' block your way to the path you wanna go in? then cut them out. The moment you complain about something you lose control of it. take control and cut the pressures.
I'm always afraid, before training, before sparring, to talk to the girl I like, to be honest with my parents about my future. Will the fear ever go away?
I am almost 21 and i struggle with this too.. especially because there is no such thing as progressive overload for this (you either do it completely or you dont)
No, it can decrease but will never go away completely. However, you can learn how not to be afraid of this anxiety. The key for that is to always try to do things overcoming this feeling and see that the result is not as scary as you expected
if you fake courage it actually courage when i first start sparing i always has this fear didnt know the opponent but it goes when your mind knows you are in it their is no escape.
No, the fear is never going to go away. Fear is a natural human emotion. You can't deal with it. But, you can manage to control it, and get over it. For example, you're afraid to talk to girls, Good. You trick your mind to go, with fear in you and let your mind talk naturally to this girl... It's also correlated with self-confidence...
I have nothing to ask. I just wan to say, Whatever you're doing right now, don't give up One day it will pay off No matter what, please please please don't give up Your future self will thank you. This mindset is what pushes me during the hard times
Motivation is energy. Getting in good shape, good diet and good sleep can help that. You don’t have a big enough why, that’s the reason you lack motivation. Find your why.
Hey Hamza, I am under 20 but have no specific questions, but I am very intrigued by this system of young men taking advice from older men, to prevent new generations making the same mistakes as the previous ones.
Yes it is but you will notice the persons you want are very rare which is good as a man as you build yourself you will control your reality more and if this is what you want you can filter that into existence
How do i hold myself accountable and stop making excuses for my failure and how to take more risks and overcome failure hamza thank you by the way for your guidance by the way when i first started watching your videos i didn't take action and thanks to modern conditioning i dismissed what you said as toxic but now that i have hit rock bottom and fell harder into degenracy i have begin to appreciate your advice more than ever as a young man so again thank you. Sorry for the paragraph
You become accountable by holding yourself accountable. You stop making excuses by not making excuses. You take more risks by taking more risks. You think that there is some easy answer You think there is a trick that makes it less painful THERE ARE NO TRICKS THE ONLY WAY IS THROUGH Embrace the pain Or you will not "overcome failure" ps "Sorry for the paragraph" if you think this is a lot of writing you're brain is fried and you should read some books
We like being lazy. And asking these questions are a lazy way to feel like we're going somewhere without actually going somewhere. We decide what we want to do, any time of the day. Even if we're "exhausted" we still have the option to decide and choose. And so, if you know what you should be doing, just do it, instead of overcomplicating and turning it into some stupid philosophy. It's hard yes, I slack sometimes yes, but realize that it's always within your control. I wanna say 3 interesting and helpful things though: 1. Make your goals visible through writing them down and adjust what you should be doing and when in order to achieve your goals. This helps clean things up in your head and help you focus 2. Doing hard things regularly increases the size of something in your brain, I dont know the name of it, which is responsible for doing hard things, and when you stop doing them, after a day or two it starts shrinking again, so momentum is a big thing, once you start do not stop, or else you'll feel hard things become hard again 3. Develop a character in which you have no other choice other than do what you gotta do. For example, which is a really weird experience of mine. Right before I went to bed I read a book in which the main character is very disciplined. When I woke up somehow my mind tricked me into thinking that I was him for a solid 2-3 seconds and instead of staying in bed I fucking jumped out of it thinking that this is who I am and what I should be doing. Don't give yourself other choices, you can't stay in bed, you can't skip the gym, you just do it. ❤
The answers you have received, despite the good intentions, probably didn't do much for you(correct me if I'm wrong). Taking risks and overcoming (fear of) failure are no easy things to learn, and thus it will take time and energy. The first step is to accept that, and to realize it is gonna take a while. Play the long game. Eventually, it will all become second nature. For now, let's return to the core of your problem. Your thoughts seem to be quite chaotic and unorganized. Since your situation is not specified, it's a bit harder to know what's going on exactly, so take this with a grain of salt. My recommendation for you is to watch either some David Goggings OR Julienhimself videos (they are quite the opposite, so make a choice) and see what happens. Other people you could check out are Jordan Peterson(old content!), Gabor Maté, Better Ideas or even Tristan Tate lol. These last ones should come with a warning. They might become a source of distraction and confusion. But from my impression you don't have too much to lose at this point. It's still better to binge on productivity TH-cam videos than God knows what..
@@Dontoverthinkthis-sq7ws I have already watched videos from most of your suggestions but thank you anyway for them my root problem I will say is lack of discipline a flaw I have been slowly working on or doing the hard work even when I don't feel like it.and yes these replies have helped recently.
As a 14 year old, i believe a girl can be high value human because of personality, behaviour etc. Without being a model looking girl. i believe some people think a high value girl has to be facially attractive which i found isnt true. so 20 year olds you agree or not.
consider it two faces of the same coin, both physical attraction and personality are needed. also think about it, a high value girl would 100% take care of her looks, a low quality one wouldnt.
Btw I'm a single mother raised 16 year old boy who witnessed constant fights at home since I grew up even till today. Changed houses from my father's parent's home to father's own home to mother's parent's home which my mother reconstructed with her own money and now my aunt fights with my mother. My mother works a middle-class earning job which I'm very grateful to. My mother is my only family and I have no siblings.
For a man I believe that trauma is a good thing, it's what makes you succeed in life, I actually love it and embrace it. I came to this realization this morning, I got a bit sad because of some personal issues and everytime my mood improves I find my self trying to come back to the sad state, I actually liked, sometimes it's good to feel sad, it's good to feel anxious as long as you are still doing the work. But I'm sure Hamza would disagree and tell you to read some book 😅
@@dangermouse6404 Thank you for your insight G! However I think home is a place where you rest and relax. I work hard and all but what's the point if at the end I don't have that core fulfillment and peace in the most basic unit of life.
@@fahadalnabi Yeah I totally get you brother, but for me I rarely feel peace and I don't want to feel it, it will just make me lazier, but I'm weird I guess 😆
Bro I have been raised by single father and it's tough to handle the situation of your home but I have learnt one thing that moving around in nature and developing new hobbies which can divert your mind from all these problems but at the same time you have to handle the situation with your parents because there is solution for every problem Bro.... I hope you find this helpful
im 17 I've been consistent on my business reselling i have a vision opening a store but my parents do support me but are really pushing me too go to uni but i don't want too and i find it hard on what to choose my business or not fulfilling my parents wish for me
Imo, to master the art of stoicism and mental and physical fortitude (the only person influencing your actions is you, not the media, not peer pressure, just you aligned to your purpose)
To have the courage to stand up for the truth and not be frightened Being Moral and Just Building Your character strong Having respect for everyone Not being influenced by anyone easily
In my opinion true strength is to stand bravely even when the odds are against us, to not break when we are faced with adversities.true bravery is to stand still and face our fears not depending on the outcome.
I'd say keep it in your head at times when you see them or think of them, and when you're doing things like a sport or maybe gym or anything else really, remind yourself how you felt and what it made you feel, trust me it'll drive you on your own to improve 💪🏻
In improving yourself you will realize that holding anger towards someone only hurts yourself in the long run. You will have to see it from a higher level of consciousness and see that the things that person embodies you do not align with and use that a a compass to guide you. Kind of like an anti vision.
I am 20 so idk if I should ask or reply. but here's my take on it: *Gratitute Journal* when my family members do something petty (eg accidentally hittinng my laptop or somehting) and I feel anger towards them, and I think of yelling at them or confronting them. but after I started gratitude journaling towards them, and trying to see their side of things, I can handle my anger much better. Your comment sounds like you want to be angry towards someone, and hoping you can use that anger to improve yourself. I HIGHLY dont recommend that. it will leave you resentful because then your brain will just find reasons to get angry. If you have any toxic friends, just ghost them imo.
Others action towards us is not in our control but reaction we give to the situation is in our control.anger is a strong emotion which can be channeled into productive thing such as lifting weights.
iam 18 .as hamza said start posting videos and gain followers ,i would tried this but my mind doesnt accept this becouse of shyness and other faceing camera. the main reason why iam not posting off is waht the peaople thunk about me if i post a video these all bad thoughts come to mind when am started to trying .my life is moving like a shit dont know what to do ... feeling like dumbsy
Im currently 16 (as of December), and am a virgin. I’m the type of guy that finds promiscuous women quite repulsive, and I value myself and my standards higher than that. I’m a Junior in high school and I have had one high school girlfriend in my Freshman year who I took to Prom (yes my school is weird). At the time I was not very sexual. I was romantic in a way, but kind of simpy. I never kissed her or anything intimate in that way, though we cuddled and fell asleep in each other’s arms before. She later left me saying she saw me as a friend, and i was heartbroken. It’s been two years now, and I’m starting to realize i may not be fully past that trauma. This is because i really saw this woman as ‘the one’, and i was deeply invested in her. My first question is this: how can one heal from the emotional and psychological trauma of losing a woman you invested so much of yourself into, and help your mind realize you are available and don’t have to be loyal, so you can date again? My second question stems from the fact that i am a virgin. I had a chance to have sex with the girl i dated in freshman year, but i honestly didn’t want to. It wasn’t because i loved her, i was just in love in a more wholesome way. I value a real connection in a relationship and a genuine concrete foundation of mutual interest, and i want to know where to look for these women. And I’m not religious really, though i study Shintoism, but I want to lose my virginity with a woman who is also a virgin. I don’t know if thats a far fetched ideal, but it’s one that’s important to me. So my second question is this: where can i find a woman who i can form a genuine connection with, who is also a virgin, for me to experience my first time with? If you respond to my comment, thank you very much, and have a great day! 😁
I’m not 20, I’m 18. And this isn’t really an answer… But I lost my virginity at 13. And dude.. I’ve cried about it at night. I feel so.. Indescribably sad. That I couldn’t give it to someone special. PLEASE don’t rush it.. really make sure it’s special.
@@kenju8929 Thank you for sharing your experience. I 100% intend yo give it to someone special, and i appreciate you opening up. I will definitely take your words into consideration. Keep up your grind brotha
Your purpose is to become the best version of yourself in all areas. Financially, physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc. Get started where you can and the money making part will come to you. Sit down with a journal and write out the things you’re good at, things you enjoy, and things you know a lot about. Try everything and find the grind that you can endure forever. The one that’s your purpose is the one you can help the most people/ have the biggest impact with
Starting over from scratch, I would prioritize discovering what truly brings me joy and engagement, emphasizing the importance of the journey itself over the destination. It's crucial to understand that forcing outcomes or focusing solely on profitability from the outset can hinder genuine progress and fulfillment. To find my purpose and potentially profit from it, I'd build positive habits and routines to explore my interests deeply, distinguishing between fleeting pleasures and true passions. This exploration involves trying different activities to unearth what resonates with me, thus developing discipline and self-awareness. Identifying an activity that I naturally enjoy, much like my preference for calisthenics over gym workouts, allows me to engage with it purely for the love of the process, rather than the results. This approach ensures a more enjoyable and fulfilling life and establishes a foundation for profitability. However, it's vital to acknowledge that forcing things or chasing immediate profitability can lead to instability. Instead, becoming proficient in your passion through dedicated learning and practice is key. As you excel in something you love, monetization opportunities will naturally emerge. You might not see all the possibilities now, as it's a process that unfolds step by step. Only by committing to each stage of growth can you begin to see the next steps and understand how to make your passion profitable. To summarize, finding your purpose and potentially profiting from it entails experimenting extensively and embracing your passions without pushing for immediate results. Transforming into someone who naturally engages with their interests leads to a life in harmony with those passions. Initially, your focus should be on personal growth and skill development rather than immediate profitability; success and stability stem from consistent dedication and becoming proficient in what you love. As you master your area of passion, you'll naturally discover various ways to monetize it, uncovering opportunities that weren't apparent at the beginning. This gradual process of exploration and improvement will guide you to see the future steps more clearly.
What should i care about the most?: Being Spiritual Being Muscular Being Smart Being Attractive Being Sucsesfull and Rich Being all of them (which means i have to redudce my training for all aspects)
Happiness comes from progress and accomplishment. Instead of focusing on trying to become happy, focus on building the life you desire and for-filling your purpose while you're here. You pursing this will bring happiness with it. Also, don't withhold happiness from yourself until you reach a certain goal. Learn to love the process of reaching that goal/building your dream life and you will find happiness in the process.
Gratitude ever single day. You will always have more or less than another person. So the acquisition of things will not make you happy long term. But gratitude will
I’m 17 about to be 18 and I can’t find my purpose or passion. I’ve been into so many different things but they all end up as hobbies: art, instruments, sports… I learn them to the point where i know more than the people that have never tried it, but i never master any of them. It feels like i’ve wasted all my efforts and now i know bits and bits of knowledge and skill all for nothing. I don’t know what to do with my life because i dont have a strong passion, at this point i’m just gonna go on with school and try to get a cs degree. I don’t want to work as anything so i just want to make money and live my life. I’ve never took any business related subjects because i’ve never been interested. I don’t want to show my face on the internet and i don’t know how to make money from nothing, i’ve looked into the entrepreneurships, trading… and none of them look realistic, they are all trying to sell their course. I only have like 2 close friends and they are not into this shit, but they seem to be doing way better than me, doing part time jobs, studying…(i’m in a gap year/ language study time rn, for studying aboard) I feel so lost and lonely. I’m moving in between places and will study aboard soon and it feels like i can’t invest in things because i will leave where i am soon, like Hamza said about him being productive at his home, it’s hard to grind when i’m only “visiting” my home for 3 months then leaving. Im scared of my future and recently i often look at my plans of studying aboard and just think to myself why am i even doing this, i dont even really wanna study this subject, the language is so difficult and i’ve always hated learning languages. i’m just so lost. How do i find my purpose when i dont have a passion? How do i invest in myself fully when i don’t feel at home and my environment feels temporary ? How do i prepare for my future when i feel like it’s already too late? How do i realistically make money without the online course bullshit?
Bro wtf you're almost exactly in my position. I am 17 about to be 18 with the same issue, learning a language to study CS abroad, trying not to end up in some boring ass job. But what's appealing to me is the challenge. Learn a language from scratch, hard. But it gets even worse when 50% drop out of the university within the first year bc it's so difficult, and the cherry on top, it's expensive as fuck and the people of that nationality are known for being hard to become friends with. I often ask myself why it is I want to do it again, and I get asked even more by other people. But it's to try something new, something challenging. Imagine the hardship I must endure to make it work, and the growth and development I'll experience having endured such a struggle. Challenge builds character, so don't shy away from hard things, embrace them.
The good news is you’re 17 and you have time to change your life. A lot of people don’t have passions I wouldn’t really focus on that. I would focus on learning high paying skills that will allow you have the best future trust me you’ll find something to do when you make a lot of money
@@hannibalotte7515 I get that but sometimes it’s just really fucking hard you know? like when i wanted to do it it sounds great and challenging and fun, but when i need to do it i’m like shit i might actually fail and its a really hard time. I keep doubting my decision because there are other easier ways out. I guess its kinda similar to when i plan things out and want to do it it sounds easy, but when i need to do it i’m not motivated anymore, and when it comes to big decisions like going aboard for university its not something i can back out easily and i’m just scared and hopeless
@@Winstonbfit That’s true sometimes i get caught up on all the things that happened and my worries and forget that being 17 and going to university is most probably still one of my earliest stages in life, sometimes i feel like just wanting some money is kinda shallow but i didn’t choose to be born in this world where money is everything lol
Brother, you have a great mindset of urgency that's necessary for success. You're 17 years old, you're looking at the trajectory of your life, seeing where it will take you, and recognizing it's not where you want to be; that's not common at your age. I know 17 seems like you are coming up on the time where things are too late, but they aren't. In order to get to a point where you can invest in yourself, it seems like you already know what you need to do. You've pointed out the problem: your environment is not conducive to productivity and growth. Since it seems like for at least the time being you can't control that you move around, you need to find a way to work on yourself no matter where you are. Once you get the opportunity to remain in the same place, grind even harder. As for money, that will come. As you improve yourself as a person and develop a work ethic, you'll find a way to make money. Start looking for people your age who are interested in entrepreneurship and even talk to some older guys about it - you'll have to look. Finally, if you don't enjoy what you're studying then stop it and go do something else. Wasting your life on things you don't want to do is how you end up miserable. You're in a good position brother, don't waste it.
Have a non judgemental point of view and embrace the cycles of being a human being. Mistakes are where the growth happens and are an essential part of life. Removing your ego and seeing them for what they are (a redirection) can help a lot
Understand that you are not your past self and there is nothing you can do about it due to it being in the past. Extract the lesson you learned from the mistake and use it to make you better. Don't ponder on the mistake and try your best to move past it.
Im 19 years old. I have been practising philosophy( stoicism, Buddhism etc.) I also do look up to self improvement influencers such as Hamza, Iman Ghadzi. The issue I find is that they offer various different advice in terms of achieving the good life and what the good life actually is. Philosophy advises that I control my desires, renounce external this and focus on inner work, focus on my character. The latter such as Hamza advise that I work hard, act a certain way to get the women and the money. My question is how do I balance the philosophical life with the modern idea of success? Because when I often try not to concern my self with externals such as money and women; try living minimalistic and control the desire for unnecessary pleasures, the modern self improvement industry often makes me seem inferior, lacking work ethic and as a loser. I am struggling to find a solution or a middle ground. I am aware that at the end of the day only I can answer that question, but any advice would be appreciated. "One man prays: 'how can I sleep with that woman?' your prayer is: 'how can I lose the desire to sleep with her?'"- Marucs Aurelius
1.Why do you care others see you as a loser. 2.if you are religious the answer is following the advice of your religion 3.why not try both ways and see what works
I am in a *very* similar situation. My personal solution is that work on externals (mainly financial) frees up one's time for inner work. How can you focus on yourself when you are stuck working on some job, or stuck worrying about what you are going to eat? Focusing on some of these external needs grants freedom, and although we don't have perfect control over whether we get these external needs (and therefore by Stoicism we should not worry about them), we can still in a sort of "unattached" way work towards them, and if we work right there is a good chance we will be successful. This either might serve as a solution to you, or as a further complexity, or as nothing at all and something you forget about later: but you may be interested in the ideas of the philosopher Gurdjieff, particularly in his idea of the "fourth way" of self-development (in contrast to the other "three ways"): (from wikipedia) "Gurdjieff said that his Fourth Way was a quicker means than the first three ways because it simultaneously combined work on all three centers rather than focusing on one. It could be followed by ordinary people in everyday life, requiring no retirement into the desert. The Fourth Way does involve certain conditions imposed by a teacher, but blind acceptance of them is discouraged. Each student is advised to do only what they understand and to verify for themselves the teaching's ideas." Feel free to reply if you have any questions or disagreements. I hope that you will find your way through your story of life. P.S. about the self-development people making you feel bad: know that this an intentional and meant to stir up people from their "sleep" of average life. You are already out of this sleep, but you have something else from sleep that is muddling your mind, namely your confusion (that we share) about the conflicts between the these two sets of advice. Therefore, referencing some ideas of Gurdjieff, you should not take the facts like your bad work ethic into your "emotional mind," but your "intellectual mind;" note this information and think about it, but avoid letting it get to you emotionally, since this would be unnecessarily torturous, as you are not asleep like the people these methods are meant to be used on.
I'm turning 18 next month and I don't know where my life is going. Im in a relationship where we argue daily, I always skip MMA training to smoke weed just because its easier and my attendance in college is low. I also struggle keeping my emotions under control and lash out often. I don't like the person I feel like I'm becoming but I have no idea how to change.
start by changing some small habits in your daily life like waking up early , taking a shower in the morning , having a healthy diet , cutting screen time and then start removing any distractions from your life that will stop you from becoming what you want
i just want to be rich and take care of family and retire them, make them proud, but everytime i try to start a business or something i keep finding myself stopping at the worst time and start doing bad habits like playing games, and everytime i play games i get pissed off, i get pissed off by how uselless i am how worthless i am how im wasting my time on these bs games because my mom and my dad looks me with empty eyes (whats he gonna do about his life) and i feel bad about this but i cant keep going on the thing that i should do because i just dont have "real friends" who are thinking about their futures, i just need friends that has goals. Please i just need some friends
Hey mate So. Life is life. We are all living the same existence. People often say becoming a billionaire is unrealistic. Elon musk is a billionaire and his life is just as real as yours When it comes to doing the things that matter. You’re worth just sitting down and writing out how mad existence is at all. It can help you to do work you know you should do when you remind yourself how mad it is that you’re even here. Not to mention the shit your parents and everyone else has gone through to make your life as easy as possible It’s so lucky. And so easy to take for granted But writing this down reminds you how lucky you are And can help you do the work to achieve the things you want to achieve for the people you love
Number 1 stop being a pussy talking bout how you're so worthless. Like ok, so stop being worthless, do something that gives you some value and increases your worth. its always 1 step at a time man you just gotta keep making steps and never give up on yourself. Believe that your ambitions will come true and then once you really believe that your actions start to follow suit with your ambition because you know that it needs to happen for your goals to come into fruition. And stop using lack of friends as an excuse. If you want friends that have ambitions you gotta provide those friends w value too. You're not valuable enough yet to have friends w high value and ambitions.
The lizard brain is like a child you cannot destroy it. Instead you have to be kind and take care of it like a child. When it screams and says it wants to do something you act with discipline and say no or maybe later. You can’t destroy that side of you.
The answers for our questions are already with us But i came here for a advice Being chairman and following semmen retention and doing workout and helping poors and social network friends building creating fame is a game changer
how do I gain more confidence. how do I know what "friends" to take out of my life and how? If someone is disrespecting me infront of alot of people how do i handle that?
You take friends out of your life by simply answering short answers and not initiating conversation. You write down every friend. And there positive and negative influences then remove all who are bad for you. The last question if to vague if it's a lot of strangers you shouldn't care if yoy kinda know these people you also shouldn't really care. Also get loud and angry when they disrespect you
The 1st most important is gym and diet. Build good strong body. 2nd Very important thing! Stay out off trouble. Dont do any off the stupid stuff if you can avoid it.
I’ve been existent on this world for long enough for me to know that everyone lives are different in a unique way, but everyday when we walk past a person we don’t know, we somehow feel connected, but we take it for granted and never said anything to that person like “if I don’t see you again live a good life” or something like that, there’s just so many people in this world and personally if I don’t see them again in life it just feels so darned awkward. Because that person could be your future lover, acquaintance or friend. I know there is no way to tell if you can live tomorrow or die in your sleep. This just makes me question life itself, and why have god created us, and why have we turned into antisocial animals that only live only for themselves.
I also live in a third world country, you can use your computer and wifi to earn money, the advantage that you have is that you dont need a lot of money to be able to have a good life in these countries
My question is "How to know what to say in conversations and how to keep them going?" Because whenever I start a one topic and we finish it I genuinely don't know what to say next or what am I supposed to do. The worst feeling I ever get is when I can hear my every idea inside my head but then I realize that the person sitting right next to me doesn't hear anything and just sits there quietly, I'm being honest I get called a lot like "the boring one" or the "Mr. Quiet" But really I wanna talk to people and I wanna open up & start having some friends. I'm completely open to any advice
You get thoughts in your head and you don't tell them the thoughts. Try to just say what comes to mind not worrying about if it's a stupid thing to say. Also don't be afraid of a little silence. You remind me of a friend of mine hope this helps
@@bathsaltseller Thanks man I really needed someone to open my mind on how talking really works, I mean I wasn't so sure if people wanted to hear exactly everything I have on my mind but i can try at least opening to them
I'm 16...when i was a kid (upto class 2) I was very popular among friends(regardless of gender)..I was like the Sun among other stars when seen from the earth...my teachers were also happy with my progress...I excelled in my studies and E.A.s...but then had a ligament injury...was out for almost a year...came back and was never like before...in fact, since then till date my grades have dropped significantly, my talents are not shining brightly, I just have lost everything I had...except for my intelligence...earlier i used to study everyday even when there was an occassion...but now, its just the opposite...earlier i was the most popular kid in school now im the most casted off...i have few friends but the rest of the class literally thinks im weird when its not..and moreover no girls stick around now when i had female friends when i was young...oh yeah and me and my mom have been abused by my father and his family since my childhood...i wanna know if there's a way i cld become what i was prior to whn it all went wrong ? now i feel shy to talk to girls when this was not the case back then...how to change this ?
I’m 17 years old and I’ve been in a relationship with this girl for 7 months she’s my everything but my anxiety and overthinking get in the way and i feel like I’m in this constant war with my head I’ve made her such a priority and I don’t know how to break that i just want to be healthy and love her the right way
You've put so much time into her where it feels like if you aren't around her you feel unfulfilled or like your lacking something. Idk if that's you, but it is for some. I'm no relationship expert, this is just some sound advice. Talk it out with her. These are conversations you need to have. Be open, don't fall for the stereotype of "a guy can't express much feelings" or however it goes, but be honest with her, and allow her to give you her input on the matter. Remember that your life doesn't revolve around her, neither does her life revolve around you. That's only the case if you arent married. Another thing, your own mind will construct thoughts and even create imaginations of this person. You first have to realize that not everything being thought of or imagined is true. Think of your mind like a battlefield, cause that's what it feels like when your thoughts seem to override your head. But thoughts will form, and it's really up to you if you want to dwell on them or not. And never speak directly from a thought(like saying everything that comes to mind, especially when it's about a person) only If you are in a sound and clear conscience. And one more thing that helps me battle all the mind games, and the anxiety and prevents stress, or I should say someone who helps me is Jesus. Not many people believe, but you never know till you ask Him. He gives me peace in situations that would usually seem strange to have peace in. He affirms my mind, reminded always of His Love, Joy, and Peace. (2 Timothy 1:7) the fear is gone, because He reassures me with His Love, He gives me power to stand against the enemy and his tactics of mental oppression, and gives me a sound mind. You're 17 bro, still young. You shouldn't be stressed as you say you are, sadly this is the case for many teenagers. And some don't have a way to fight against it because they fight the battle alone. You hide yourself and live a quiet life where know one know what you're going through, and that's usually because we are hiding a secret. You might be doing something that you know isn't right, but you don't want anyone yo know to keep away from judgement. But instead it's hurting you. (Proverbs 28:13) .
How to find a tribe where you'll get life long friends who not only will be there for grinding together, but to grow, to have fun ( non-degen ways) altogether build strong brotherhood.
I realized something. It's about motivation. We need to constantly remind ourselves of what we are committing to else we'll be slacking off all the time. Which is why we need to consume such videos on a daily or weekly basis until we get like for a long time in this self improvement journey like about an year or more.
Im 15, trying to be a soccer player. I play karate and very athletic for a football player because of the heavy trainig sessions in karate. Im struggling with performing well, i pushed myself so hard to day in the karate gym that i threw up because i was fasting that day for ramadan. Im not very disciplined i do things because i feel like i have to and when i dont i feel really bad about it it stays on my mind for a long time. Suddenly, i can see myself as a failure in 10 years' time, so that's a motivation for me to change that every session i work out. Im confused on to continue what im doing because im not seeing results i experienced coaches in football that are racist because im an arab or they favourite other people that im better then. It made me cry for months and work on myself. Now i play the u15 team for an amateur club. My friends were all fake, and im glad i found it sooner than later, and i have to be careful with everyone i talk to now. My question is, how do i get happier? When i was in u13 i used to be at the peak of my life i scored in every league match we had and i was the striker for the team and my coach was great and i was practising 6 hours a day until i got a 4 month injury. It was head trauma from karate and i have been depressed ever since. I workout around 4 hours a day now sometimes i add an extra jog session but its been harder than ramadan.
Can I just say I just got a notebook to write stuff like this in because i don't want to annoy anyone with it and it honestly feels so much better to write all of this and read it
I’m 19 (20 in a month). If you find a wife material woman but you’re currently poor, what should you do? My plan was to level up as a man first and then once I’ve achieve my goals or at least got close to them, then I’d find a woman. But Hamza said if she’s genuinely 1 of a kind, don’t let her go. If I were to find that woman tomorrow, what should I do? Because my family is poor atm we can’t even afford rent or anything and if I have a woman, I’ll have to pay for a lot of stuff which I can’t do atm. What would you do if you were me and you met her tomorrow?
Hey man I'm 15 aswell, if you wait to feel motivated for everything then you won't get much done. You need to have discipline. Second height is honestly controlled by genetics there isn't much you can do. Just improve everything in your life that you can control!
I just won a massive business competition and came FIRST PLACE: th-cam.com/video/SyMFphASx9k/w-d-xo.html
damn
Honestly it's crazy to see how many people here need actual friends that are real
Yea sometimes thats all you need in life
It’s honestly a very very important part of life: social life. If one thing fall apart, the rest falls apart too
Yea we all need it, but it's hard to find people who are actually decent and don't do degen shit
I’m only 22 but I’ve come to realize the importance of walking around with your head up, chest out, and a smile. Being that positivity can be life changing for someone.
real
like how to?? i am not confident enough to walk lol?!!?! i forget how to walk when i see a bunch of people
@@DraculasHeadOnPike See thats the thing about confidence ,the only person who knows whether you are confident or not is you , if you think of your self as a confident person then you are one,Its like a choice you have to make yk. You just wake up and say youre confident you are confident. Confidence isn't something anyone is born with its just a choice you make
@@DraculasHeadOnPikethe phrase “fake it till you make it” actually works when working on your confidence. Once it’s been a while doing things again and again and again, you will notice you’ve been gaining confidence in that thing, and by consecuence, you will start being more confident.
change for your self bro and your family make them proud dont make them think that u are a waste of space
These are the type of videos we need Hamza keep up the good work!
(20yr old) Best advice I can give anyone:
1. Failue isn’t one event, it’s the consistent decline of …
2. Walk with a bounce, head high, chest out, make eye contact and smile to people. When in a restaurant/cafe/bakery always take control of the room, be loud, respectful and funny (Always smile)
Happiness radiates happiness, people who see u happy will become happy and people will react postiviely to your happiness (it’s a neverending cycle)
This is a major foundation to then be successfull in my opinion, build the best connections and develop your networking skills
1st one is massive
When I was 19 years old, (I'm currently turning 21), I used to work for like 12hours, ended up with me breaking down and experiencing the worst anxiety /rut of my life, I have now learnt to say no to overworking(like actually taking more time to enjoy things I thought was a waste of time) and the toxic hustle grind, and be more holistic in my self-improvement, and actually enjoy the days more, Thanks a ton as always for your videos
For sure you gotta like what you do
Hamza is like the big bro we all wanted
Check out Jose Zuniga
(17) I don't know how to handle my situation with my old friends. I realize that I don't want to do what they're doing anymore, hanging out till 2am on discord playing games, some out partying and drinking, etc etc... i've kind of just been slowly drifting, spending more time alone working on myself or sometimes in genuine interactions with company I enjoy (new friends: we play music together, box, gym, sports, etc...). My current plan is to just still be kind when we see each other but not really participate in those late nights anymore. Its not the lifestyle i'm looking for and i've been a lot happier and fulfilled this way. If anyone has any pointers that'd be great, thanks.
Like Plan The Things With Generosity And Cancel It In Last Moments Or Just Switch On DND When They Will Try N Contact You.
I’d keep focusing on my progress, and hanging with the good friends. Still be respectful to the old ones though, as it shows that you’re still the person they know but better.
How to embrace the fear of uncertainty, and learn to be comfortable with the uncomfortable. I'm always staying within my own bubble, where I can control the future events/outcomes. It's always been a struggle to move beyond my mental constraints, and further expand my domains.
Go just out of your bubble. Find the easiest thing you can do outside of your comfort zone. For me this was a small incline I had to go through on my bike. Do that consistently you have now levelled up in this skill. Rinse and repeat and eventually you will be comfortable with the uncomfortable
Feeling afraid of something you don’t have a 100% control control over or you wanna wait exactly what’s gonna happen in 100% normal to think what you want to be reporting about is to not participate in the thing dude you’re afraid of instead of being afraid of being afraid, it’s going to feel bad or afraid, but it’s not fine to make that fear control your actions.
What is the most affective way to network with real hard working people well in high school?
Man you are still so real and pure even though money is in your face. I appreciate you a ton bro. I’m far up on the self improvement and other guys my age look up to me, and it is partly because of guys like you that I kept going through tough times and even worked harder on myself. For example when I was 15 (now 17) my dad got diagnosed with ALS, and it was very progressive. During his decline I took my mental and physical so serious even more so than before. Worked out 6/7 days a week and leveled up about everywhere (except for school where I couldn’t really put my attention at the time, but still managed with decent grades). He died within a year later when I was 16, but the grind has not stopped. Now working really hard and about to have exams for my last year of grad school. One little thing I struggle with though is when I tell others about self improvement ideas and things I am working on in the early stages of it and the feedback always is negative, I tend to give up on it for a while. I understand this is something people automatically do because they don’t want others to outgrow them, so now I just silently grind before showing my passions, but do you have any other advice on the mental block of opinions on your goals?
I would start meditation "Meditation can help strengthen your mindfulness and inner peace. As a result, you develop a deeper self-acceptance and a better understanding of your own thoughts and feelings. This makes it easier for you to accept the opinions of others without them strongly influencing your own self-perception. Ultimately, meditation helps to establish a stable inner foundation that enables you to react more calmly to the opinions of others."
Keep up the amazing work bro. Your ability to work hard through tragedy and adversity will get you very far in life. You will be a man everyone looks up to and counts on. My advice is to not let others opinions bog you down and question your identity as a man.
Sorry for your loss man. To your question, I'd say get a group of friends online from Adonis Gang or something and speak to them about your goals, not to "normal people". Hormozi says something like if they don't have a life you want, don't listen to their opinions.
I recommend you read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie because, in that book, Mr.Carnegie talks about how you can get other people to understand you and like you even if they have the opposite opinions and beliefs that you have.
One piece of advice I will give to you is to always control your temper in conversations because getting angry or emotional will only make the other person more stubborn with his ideologies, opinions, and beliefs because he/she will feel the need to defend themselves and their pride. So never say that the other person is wrong or stupid and genuinely be open-minded even if you know that they are wrong. Doing so will make the other person more open-minded as well so he might start understanding and respecting your goals and ideas even if he/she is a loser.
I could talk about a lot more techniques like this but I'll just recommend you to read the book that I mentioned cuz it will change your life
Rest in peace. I admire your strength. Wishing you the best brother.
I'm actually loving how hamza is switching between modern, highly edited videos with extra clips, music etc and just old-school, dopamine free video for us day ones.
He did it multiple times and switched back to highly edited videos again and again. It's hard to take these switches seriously when they happen that often.
Honestly I do not know what question to ask so heres a warrior's advice: Power comes in response to a need, not a desire. You have you create that need, not wait for it. You don't want it, You need it. (reply to it how ever you please, I'm curious what you all will reply to a statement as such.)
How to be needed how to crave for that need what should I do
Without a strong necessity, most people are unable to make changes.
(Power comes in response to a need,not a desire)- if you want to achive something like muscular body, to be good academicly, to have a good relationship.its takes power to achive it, not by just desireing it must be backed up with action. (you have you creat that need,not to wait for it)-the need is created by desire,the need can be anything which is created by you then again it is backed up by taking action. (you don't want it,you need it.)-it is not something that you will be fine with out it, you have to be it.
A true saiyan warrior
Indeed… also necessity is the mother of invention…
it is these videos hamza made from this time this year I keep coming back to. quality is unmatched
This video is a gem. Exactly what i needed, thank you.
Love these kinda videos.. no hyperediting and raw knowledge.. Keep up man!
agreed
This is your alt lol@@deadwick306
dang saw ur videos now
I think you will love hamza uncut
how to find legit friends who hustle and have goals.
be the kind of person that legit people, people who have goals and hustle want te be friends with , if you improve in life , people like that are going to come to you
Start hustling yourself and becoming the type of person you would want to be friends with and you will attract like minded people to you. Law of Attraction.
you dont they will find you if you follow this path
Difficult, but not impossible. Hang around places that you can find friends like you mention.
you don’t find them. You attract them.
Best video I've seen on TH-cam in a while, definately going to apply this ASAP in my life. Thanks Hamza, truly appreciate it.
Clicked on first video, since I've went full on in my own journey.
Now just chilling in nature, listening to the birds singing and writing this comment. 😄
Life's wonderful man.
Today, for the first time, I approached two girls. Even though I felt uncomfortable, I still did it because, as Hamza once said, you have to gather the courage to talk to girls so you can meet your future dream woman. And ever since that the thought never left me, so I told myself I wouldn't leave the city today until I got a number. And to be honest, I did it, and afterwards, I felt so confident, even though it went so badly and now they're ghosting me. But I know that in the future, it won't be like this because it's part of the progress. So i am happy of todays Progress
So this means you did get a number?
Well done on building up the courage. Most people don't realize how difficult it is to do this without having any prior experience, it can be so scary and overwhelming, but the fact that you pushed through is fantastic.
Although what you're doing is healthy and fairly positive skill you need to acquire, don't be attached to the outcome, rather the let outcome find you.
I'm Christian and you don't necessarily have to be Christian to understand the following:
Matthew 12:30 AMP
[30] He who is not with Me [once and for all on My side] is against Me; and he who does not [unequivocally] gather with Me scatters.
If they don't talk to you, their honestly doing you a favour, you don't have to waste your time on people who don't resonate with you.
Stay blessed brother, focus on the process not the outcome ❤
Good fucking shit bro you're a beast for that
@visualities I asked a girl about her phone number, but she told me that she had a boyfriend, so I just turned directions. Afterwards I asked another girl I was like asking her some stuff, she were responding, but it still was kinda awkward because as I talked to her my mouth told her "i am sorry" for doing it so bad and I didnt even wanted to say it, it just came out. But in the end I still got her number, I texted her "hey was nice to meet you" and since then no reply😭. Anyways this was a wholesome experience and I kinda like to get rejected by girls. Because it only tells you that you have room to improve. So yeah I got only one number. Have a great day my brother!
@@djuicebox15thank you, bro For the time you took for me. In Germany we say "Gott segne dich".
I lost myself. I stopped watching your videoes and fell into even worse habits, i still workout but that's it, my mindset is all wrong. I'm mostly typing this for myself but i'm gonna try and stay on the right path. I hope i'll be able to forgive myself for what i've done.
Watch Hamza’s video titled “Staying consistent on self improvement”. It really helped me
how old are you bro?
I'm 15 btw and I feel like I'm behind everyone my age on self-improvement because I can't even focus properly due to allergies bruh
@@rithvikmedasani363 I’m 22 but don’t use allergies as a reason for why you feel behind. You’re literally 15. I didn’t discover self improvement until 17/18. Do the best you can with the cards you’ve been dealt. I wish I knew about self improvement at 15
@@ejm_official thank you so much for that advice brother! I really needed it!
I think I'll go to college this year to have something to grind and also to gain some skills like social skills and time management skills
It’s not that deep bro your only human after all and we aren’t perfect, instead of beating yourself up about it just get back to it and use your relapse into bad habits as a lesson to never do it again, you’ve got this g 👊
I’ve been existent on this world for long enough for me to know that everyone lives are different in a unique way, but everyday when we walk past a person we don’t know, we somehow feel connected, but we take it for granted and never said anything to that person like “if I don’t see you again live a good life” or something like that, there’s just so many people in this world and personally if I don’t see them again in life it just feels so darned awkward. Because that person could be your future lover, acquaintance or friend. I know there is no way to tell if you can live tomorrow or die in your sleep. This just makes me question life itself, and why have god created us, and why have we turned into antisocial animals that only live only for themselves. 0:21
I follow u because of this genuineness❤
00:01 Fitness is key for overall success and well-being
01:43 Training hard and improving fitness led to overall personal and business growth
04:50 Entrepreneurship can truly transform your life and financial situation.
06:28 Focus on building followers before monetization
09:45 Pursue self-improvement and high-quality relationships
11:24 Focus on high quality women for personal growth.
14:44 Discovering real purpose beyond immediate restrictions.
16:31 High quality woman is valued for her purity and traits
19:15 High standards are valuable, don't settle
This video really helped me mentally i think that i really need to lock in and do something with my life
Do smth with your life bro find a hobby that you love and then grind it until you become faboulus in it. for me it's skating and i will grind this summer.
how to ditch friends who influence you to do bad habits, even when they are your only friend and you know they wont change.
Leave him behind focus to the path you wanted to and you will attract better people than you currently have
This is probably the most informative TH-cam video I’ve watched in a very long time. Keep it up, bro.
I’m 17 years old and my mental state has been very destructive my family is concerned about me and my school can’t trust me to find other jobs. I have been watching Hamza for some months and I really try to be on self improvement so that I can’t be this troublemaker at school
I'm nowhere near 20+ but this sounds like an important phase in your life, you have two options, and know the long-term results of both so choose wisely
Be honorable. and pick one online skill and do it daily until you make money from it
If they aren’t where you want to be, don’t take their advice
Never really had this problem but I would figure out what’s making you act out is it insecurity, anxiety, depression, family pressure etc. what you figure it out read books are how to fix that specific instead of self improvement as a whole
I have been where you are , my life had massive négative change when i was your age ( 19 yo now )
My advice : do what you can brother d'ont put too much pressure on yourself and d'ont compare yourself to others when they are doing better than you try to see how they do it and not they're achivements , gym and martial arts , even if mentally u're not felling better now , the time will come you will thank yourself , try to enjoy your family and close friends more , if you d'ont make yourself happy no one will do it for you , and when you have anxiety or you d'ont control yourself when u're with some people ( ur voice , talking , eyes contact ... ) d'ont be mad at yourself , just try to forget , those aren't so important . I am sure you are an amazing person .
Learning MMA one video please brother... You are my idol
I am only 12 lol. Kinda young, but just wanna say that this is the best channel ever!! So glad I statred watching your videos, before I was always gamming(average 12y) Thank you so much!! 👍
I’m 18 and soon this year I’ll be graduating from high school. I want to start hustling immediately after I graduate and take my self-improvement to another level, but idk how, where, or what to start with. I just wanna make some money so I can buy my own first car and take care of my family. Also, I find myself not being able to hold good conversations with many people, it’s usually very quick, shallow, and boring, and I want to fix that too.
to summarize my two questions are:
- where and how do i start making my own money and ofc self-improve more efficiently fresh out of high school?
- how do i hold interesting conversations that create strong bonds with others?
I'm 21 and here's what I'm gonna do...To start all of this first thing is to build a good physique ..make a goal to build an aesthetic or whatever physique you like... remember that this goal should be a year or long because body is not build soon and this creates consistency and teaches you things you can apply into different areas ....
To making money...first research the algorithms of all social platforms..like trending niches that are popping up ..but you need to understand that you might need to shift to one permanent niche later on which you'll find it along the way so you don't have to worry that much ....
And for the conversations part...you aren't able to have good conversations because you yourself don't have anything to talk to first of all ...that's why you need to go on adventures once in a while or do some crazy shit with the boyzz so you can experience things to talk about them ...and more importantly...you need to understand that people like to talk when you talk like them not talk like you...they get interested if you are talking about something that they like ...learn more about them and talk in their language of things....
That is all this might be long but it's useful
Hi @KafkaKunafa, I'm about to turn 21 and Ill be completely honest with you, I have not taken action with regards to becoming financially free and supporting my family, but it is something I want to begin during the summer holidays after my exams.
With regards to interesting conversations, I have felt sometimes its not always your fault. There are just some people who clash with your personality and so it can be really difficult to hold a conversation, almost as if your putting in all the work, which in my opinion is not that healthy. But I feel for the most part you still have a lot of control and responsibility when it comes to starting and maintaining a conversation.
Hamza has recommended this book, and it definitely helped me a whole lot last year, called 'How to make friends and influence people' by Dale Carnegie. This book is based of social norms in the past, however, I believe it is really relevant to standing out in todays generation and just being happy/content with the interactions you have through out the day. I am planning to re-read this book as I feel I have slipped a bit in my conversating skill.
I think once you figure out what interests a person, whether that ben in a work/life context, start asking questions about that. Lets say the person opposite you loves boats, start asking them about their favourite boats, where they have travelled using their boats, and why they like boating. Asking a 'why' question is the best way to start engaging a person since its so open as a question, meaning the other person can have a lot to say about it, and it can help you get to know the deeper sides of a person and the way they think and act, which personally I find really interesting.
You have got this bro, I wish you the best of luck on your self-improvement journey, and God bless both you and I are able to provide for our families and become strong masculine role models for our tribes :)
I'm 21 and I'd say to start where you are now tbh try to do some research about what market youre trying to get into at the side so by the time you graduate you at least have some knowledge about what you want to get into also develop a routine to support your habits like exercising meditating especially meditating.
So in short take care of your mental health more and do some research about the market you want to get into
Your answer. Lies in great books and conversation with yourself
I'm 21 years old and here is a summary of my advise which may be close to your attitudes:
1. Hit to the gym and eat proteins and healthy food, cut out any junk food for good but you can slack off once or twice if you're hanging out with friends.
2. Read books regarding relationships and connections there are hundreds of them.
3. Try to listen to others conversations when they're talking to each other and nit just listen but analyze every word and posture and voice tune and etc.
4. Look for online businesses which are best to start with and see what's trendy these days and which one is your liking. Finding a few friends who are also doing this and are planning to run a business massively enhances your progress because you can learn from each other.
I lost meaning for everything. I stopped self-improvement, I stopped working on my business, I feel worse than before it started self-improvement and for everything I say ,,there's no point in doing this. The only things that are left are my friends and the gym
Imagine Those warrior..and greek God..they dont give a fuck about thier lives they fight for their families and provide things and after that their they are a real men in front of their woman and children..this fuels me and it will help you
Everything you do is for your future kids not you. You gona tell your kids the reason they are not in private school was because you lost motivation? Respectfully quit being a wimp n get on with it did you think it would be easy?
I'm not over 20 so maybe I'm overstepping here, but for the love of god read meditations by Marcus Aurelius. Best off-hand decision I've ever made.
To all my brothers here,
I am 19 and in self improvement for a quiet a while but i don't know what should i focus most at this time like gym, making money, social skills etc. Also not seeing much progress sometimes feels very discouraging.
work on all pillars, your can go to the gym early in the morning, after go to work or do you hustle, if where you work there is a cycle of people socialise there , if there is non, just follow hamza' s advice 😊of talking to 2 new girls every day
Bende de benzer bir durum var. Ama devam etmek zorundayız. bir de Neverfap akademiyi öneririm.
I also have the impression that you cannot focus on everything all at ones and be succesful at them. In my opinion, if there's a priority like making money, you should mainly focus on that and neglect lesser important aspects for some time. That's what all of those entrepreneurs do as well. 16 hour days for a few years until they reach 7 figure revenues. They then start focusing on the other aspects more, because they can outsource large parts of their business.
Through the thousands of years that history has played out, the countless people who've died because they were too weak.. The strongest have survived.. It's already in YOUR DNA..
YOU have to unlock your full potential, it would be a shame to your bloodline if you didn't..
I don't know if you'll understand the weight behind this, but.
600 years from now theirs going to be a kid wondering why how he can fight so well.. And why he's so strong.. He's going to an amazing speaker and he's going to be the richest your family has ever seen
All because you never gave up
your actions will have a positive effect on your life and generations down the line
Stay true to yourself
To god
And to others
If you feel discouraged from a lack of results.. it means you need discipline to carry you through
Review your plan and improve where possible.. You're always going to be learning new things.. ALWAYS.
Prioritize engaging in activities you genuinely enjoy, focusing on the journey rather than solely on the destination. Otherwise, you're likely to experience constant stress without seeing real progress.
Had I grasped this concept a year ago, I could have avoided a year of futilely chasing outcomes, which only resulted in stress and ingratitude. I failed to recognize the blessings in my life. Now, I see the value in my current circumstances and am beginning to enjoy my life, slowly transforming into the person who effortlessly attracts the life I desire. This change has significantly simplified and enriched my life, making it happier and more fulfilling. It's astonishing how much improvement comes from accepting my life as it is and pursuing what I truly want.
It's crucial, however, to distinguish between genuinely fulfilling activities and short-term indulgences like lounging around, using substances, or eating junk food. If you're inclined towards these habits, it might be time to explore positive routines, discover more about yourself, build discipline, and find what truly excites you. Once you uncover these passions, the appeal of wasteful activities diminishes because you'd rather spend your time engaging in meaningful pursuits.
For instance, despite hearing the benefits of gym workouts, I never enjoyed them, mistakenly believing they were the sole path to fitness. This pursuit of immediate results, without enjoying the process, left me stressed and drained. Eventually, I discovered my love for calisthenics, which I engage in purely for the joy it brings. Removing the pressure to achieve specific outcomes has allowed me to cherish the process, focusing less on results and more on my passion, which I can't imagine living without.
I'm 17 and in college, not sure if I should still follow the group, but the feeling of being left out is still there...
if you have a plan to get rich just go for it, you can still go out with your friends. But, trust me after 3-5 years you will regret not chasing your dream, and waisting your time doing dumb things. My advice stay in college, and hang out with your friends(maybe twice a week), but when you go home do something that will get you closer to your goal every single day.
@@S3GAMER-bc9lk love you man❤️
I’m 19 and will turn 20 in November, my question is: how would you start your life over if you have lost everything, if you went back to ground zero?
Well in building the house we build the foundations first. Your body mind and soul. Relationship with God your physique and getting money should be your first priorities. Then everything else can be built on that foundation when in doubt remember your foundations
You said, you are only 19. I remember a clip from Andrew Tate saying that you're only 19, you are a baby ! You have no human responsibility that you are in charge, so take all the risks you can in young age ! It's doesn't matter that you lost everything, but it's not the same for a guy 40 y.o with 3 childs... TAKE RISKS
i dont know brother! to be honest... i think you should do a deep reflections on how you want your life to be.
so... have a vision.
after that, you need to know the resources that you need for fulfill your vision.
you need money? you need time? you need knowledge?
know what you need for fill the gap between you and your goals!
and always remember, put your mental health first, and heavily work on yourself!
i would read read read read all day , reading is what actually makes you smart and being getting smart you get what ever you wish in life
To be completely honest the best answer is to not do anything. What I mean by that is quite literally to not distract yourself or rush into anything I would take time and reflect upon myself and what it is I wanted to work towards. Write stuff down, keep track of thoughts you have often. For example you might keep thinking about a certain experience when left to your own thoughts and that might be one of the things holding you back. In essence, my advice is to take the time to really understand yourself and the direction you want your life to go in. I can understand how daunting of a task that is though so I will tell you now you don't have to get a perfect answer just enough vague ones to get started.
How do you actually find a group of high quality friends that also initiate fun activities and you're not the only one initiating fun things?
Im in the same situation, i guess there are lonely periods but you also want to be the person who socializes more, be the extrovert outside
Actually build confidence and they will come to you. That’s how I did it.
Actually everyqhere. Talk to someone at the gym, talk to random people on a train or bus, go running and join someone jogging. Sign up for swimming, maybe for martial arts and I am sure you will find them.
Hey bro I was struggling with this exact thing. And it took a long while for me to make friends who actually care. And all this happend out of no where very quickly actually. Go to libraries, restaurants, gyms, and don't force friendship let it come to you. Dont expect it to happen overnight either, and don't be afraid to initiate going out with people. Being positive will attract the right people, and if they don't stay then they weren't the right people. Good luck bro you will get there eventually
Controversial, but realistically you shouldn’t be engaging or worried about unproductive fun when you’re young
I am proud of myself and appreciative of the work I did at a young age
Pls explain ur struggles and important things 😢😢
I had cut off porn addiction and junk food addiction.
But when I went to university, I got back with these addiction. I don't workout now, don't wake up early, even if I wake up, I procrastinate on my work and go back to sleep.
I don't meditate.
Man, I just want my normal disciplined life back.
Your help would be highly appreciated.
I have 4 years left of puberty, if I'm lucky. I feel like the pieces are coming apart day after day, and I keep trying to pull myself together and put an effort on the puzzle. But as the days pass by, putting an effort, making progress on that puzzle piece gets harder and harder, and its this compounding effect that I feel I have no control over.
I'm almost 15, I've been making efforts for self improvement since I was 12. I'm in the worst position of my life so far in terms of mental health, I don't expect for that to change. My whole life I've been incompetent at everything I've touched, and so I never pursued anything. Not friends, not hobbies, not even my studies; the supposed purpose of my teenage years. I'm behind my peers to an unimaginable degree. How do I flip this on its head.
How do I get out of this, this desire to break free has lingered despite my bad condition. To give you a bit of context, and a couple things you may find useful, when answering my question: I have a grand total of 1 friend. He's a self improvement guru, he's maxxed out every millisecond of his time ever since he was 12. He has an incredible physique, training and seeing tangible results in his attempt to be an MMA fighter. He's intelligent, manages his time, can work endlessly, Top band grades. -Dis-appointed parents. Although he isn't the most empathetic guy, getting help from him is almost impossible as he puts maximizing his time over anything else, including helping a friend in need. Could I make use of this connection to help me get out of this rut?
I need help. Thank you for your time.
You could join in with whatever he’s doing, or just do it yourself. 15 years ago in school I struggled to connect with people, I only learned how to talk to people through my absent fathers way of talking to people.
Whenever I wanted to do something I’d just do it anyway, always offer others, but be the leader, even if you have no-one to lead, people will want to follow you if you’re going in good directions, bring them along.
Hey bro, I was in the same boat with hitting puberty late.
It sucks I know bc I didn’t see signs of puberty till around 15 and I’m currently 18 and still going through it. Just focus on what you can control and prioritize you’re mental health ASAP.Watch Hamzas full mental health guide that really helped me
See brother your comment literally explains your problem. If you've been on self improvement for 3 years and still feel like the way you do there's something wrong isn't it?I read your comment 3 times and you seem like an intelligent guy and an overthinker. On what terms you think you're behind your peers in an unimaginable degree? Your one friend who aspire to be an MMA fighter, do you have the same goal in your mind? If you can answer these 2 questions I can give you some good advice with what I know
Puburty stops at 25 for guy and even then your test is still really high (prime at your 30s
Here's the CURE :
1. maximize your biology. YOUR PHYSICAL STATE DIRECTLY EFFECTS YOUR MENTAL STATE.
a. Cut out garbage food. Don't eat fast food or ultra processed food (food with 1 trillion ingredients). Eat simple foods like meat, fruits, vegetables eggs etc.
b. Workout Everyday. Plenty of guides online. Pushups, running, squats is a good place to start.
c. FIX YOUR SLEEP. Wake up at a certain time. And sleep at a certain time
2. Read & Write.
a. Reading enriches you with the experiences of others allowing you to learn much faster than those before you and currently those around you. You can literally choose your peers, your mentors can be some of the greatest people to have ever lived.
b .Writing is quite literally, thinking. Write about anything. What you think about teachers. What you think about yourself. What you think about the efficiency of the criminal justice system. Literally anything, and it WILL make you SHARPER
3. QUIT FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF
Quite honestly my friend, you speak very pathetically. Do you notice what you're even saying to yourself?
a. "I don't expect for that to change" WEAK :
You're are literally telling yourself "I WANT TO LOSE". Never speak to yourself this way. Catch yourself next time. Force yourself to think and speak like a winner. No longer LISTEN to yourself. from now on you will NARRATE to yourself who you want to be.
b. "My whole life I've been incompetent at everything I've touched, and so I never pursued anything" WEAK:
"I've been a loser my entire life, so I continued to be a loser" ??????????.
Be stronger an refer to 3a
c. "Could I make use of this connection to help me get out of this rut?" W E A K:
"I'm a loser so should I beg the only winner in my life to help me?!"
Two things to say on this. One, this is pathetic, you already know what to do, you're just to scared to do it. Your pretending like he's gonna share some secret sauce that makes everything easier, and BOOM, you get everything you want!!! . . . . . WAKE UP TO REALITY . . . . . EAT PAIN AND PROSPER
Two, everyone hates a needy person. I have cutout many people in my life ruthelesly (but respectfully), the always weak, the always needy, the always complaining, the always depressed. The simply hindered me. I had a friend ask me in a sad tone, he said "why don't you hang out with any of the boys anymore?" I said "You are my child hood friend and I will always remember you, but I am going to become LEGENDARY, not decent, not good, not great, but LEGENDARY. If you want to be someone who is frequently around me on my ascension, then you must be my equal or greater. Anything else will diminish my spirit. and that is UNACCEPTABLE." He looked at me like I was insane. Is what it is. No hate against him, still has a place in my heart. But he's not on my same wave length.
My friend to be the friends with the strong you must become strong. Learn to carry your weight.
4. Social media
a. No tiktok or IG. Obvious reasons if your IQ isn't tanked.
b. Don't listen to shitty music that either makes you stupid or sad/depressed. IT IS POISONING YOUR BRAIN.
5. "How do I get out of this, this desire to break free has lingered despite my bad condition"
Quit lying to yourself. You know what you needed to do. You don't desire to break free. You desire to for the world to become easier. You pray the magically one day will come where everything will become easy. You pray that the pain simply stop . . . Coward
THE ONLY WAY IS THROUGH
The world will not become easier
You must become stronger
Will you be that flame who refuses to be consumed by the darkness?
Will you rebel by burning with fury pain & rage?
Or you will you go quietly into the darkness?
Bro I’m a Tamil teen and I’m so insecure abut my self and your vids keeps on changing my mood,day and life pls keep on making videos
If your insecure about yourself watching these videos help but taking action will give you a different kind of happiness. Set a goal on what you want to look like/ be and work towards that . As you progress towards that goal you will feel better about yourself. I was in the same boat , so I'm just sharing my experiences and what I did.
Whats a tamil
i am a tamil teen too
@@dharanangappan3671from Karnataka bro
Thanks guys
How to find high quality friends, a masculine friend, when you just doesn't have one to improve together, how to find a friend that is on self-improvement as well?
get to know more people, maybe join a local training community
Sometimes the most high quality friends will appear in your life by pure accident. Learn to vet them and keep good people around
@@FIDANNYO I can confirm this my brother ❤️ I met my best friend that I consider even more than a brother last year accidentally !
@@psychofnaf4141 Amazing brother, Cherish the good people!
Take initiative to invite them to things and not wait for them to invite you. Don't care if they like you or not just do you and they will see how much of a man and generous person you are and will naturally gravitate towards you.
How to bring up more deep and serious conversations with friends that get them to open up
Literally just ask the question. And if you don't get a response, just give your input on the question you asked, just to get it started if no one else responds yet. I've learned that a lot of times if you want something, you always have to act. Hesitation leads to discouragement, so if you can gain that confidence from the start, you would be much more happier with yourself whether anyone responds or not.
Also make the question as presentable as possible, give it with confidence and sound interested in your own question.
That's just how I'll go about it, but freestyle it, because it's you, not me.
@@cornelius3166 yeah thats hella good advice, thats what I've been picking up recently, and now I'm gonna do it a lot more, thanks bro
My girlfriend and I are breaking up right now.
We have been together for 4 months now and we had a beautiful time. No problems.
However, it's a long distance relationship. We saw each other every two weeks for a couple of days. I often flew to England to meet her and her family. I really love her and her family. They were all so good to me, so welcoming and caring. When we cant see each other, we video call everyday for at least an hour.
But she thinks that we should break up as she considers herself not to be good enough for me and my plan for the future which is to have children and marry her. Also, the long distance stuff really upsets her and hurts her feelings not to be able to see me all the time.
She has been planning on doing a SOLO world trip to especially South America, which of course would make the distance and periods of not seeing each other even bigger.
Her goal is to find herself there and get relief and figure things out in terms of her own mental health and stuff.
I figured that I'll have to let her go. I said I was gonna come with her and I even started to learn Spanish, but she just does not want me to come with her and by now I am sure that she will not change her mind about that.
Yesterday evening, we pretty much broke up and she said that we can remain friends. As I said, everything was good and polarized between us. It is not that I fucked up heavily. But in her opinion, it is time to split up because we would now, as we both graduate, both enter different paths in life.
My question to you guys is whether or not I should reserve myself for her and for when she comes back from her trip which might end in 1 to 1.5 years from now.
Should I stay mentally attached? That is what I am currently wondering. I am sure that there is no perfect answer to that. It depends how she feels about me during that time and so on, but I really really fell in love with that girl and her family. So I would hate to lose her and at this point I cant imagine ever loving another girl like I love her. I believe that she will stay in my head forever as this was our first relationship.
Potentially, we could come back together after her world trip. Do I now go into a slight monk mode (I am 19) but already into the gym for years, do I also try to find myself, do I meet new women to date or do I reserve myself for her?
Hey Bro,
Greetings from Germany!
First things first, sorry for my English it’s not the best.
If I was in your situation I would now focus on myself. Hustle, grind , love yourself and become the best version of your self. Your life will and have to go forward, with her and without her.
So I would recommend you to work on yourself, build that self love for you and if you want to stay in contact with her it’s totally fine. Just work on yourself and meet up in if she is back and talk about the past. If it still match and your feelings are still there you can go for a relationship again. But do not limit yourself with women, need new women, stay in contact with other woman. It will increase your self confidence.
I wish you all of the best brother.
In regards to
Thanh from Germany 🇩🇪
what to do when you don't know what to do with life? when it feels like you're surrounded by pressure on all sides. sometimes i just wanna give up.
GM my friend
My advice is simple: in times of peace, prepare for war
What that means is that even though you don't know what you want to do or what you will do in the future, prepare yourself to be ready to do it when the opportunity arises. Focus on the basic - build your body, your mind, and your money - those are the foundations that will support ANYTHING that you later find to be your true goal
For some time isolate yourself from internet, especialy social media and then when you are doing it long enough you will start to figure things out. Hope this helps, helped me. Good luck brother.
Find peace with yourself and figure out what works and don't and know that it's okay to make mistakes we all know that we are not perfect.
you're giving your power to other shit, these comments here giving motivational shit, I mean it's not bad neither helpful.
What are your pressures of life? It's generally not having enough money or not being able to attract women or both. Think about what's holding you back from getting the life you desire? Do other people's opinions or as you say it 'pressure' block your way to the path you wanna go in? then cut them out.
The moment you complain about something you lose control of it. take control and cut the pressures.
It seems like that feeling doesn’t go away until you find your true purpose. Then, all the pressure becomes easy to deal with.
I'm always afraid, before training, before sparring, to talk to the girl I like, to be honest with my parents about my future. Will the fear ever go away?
You overcome fears once you face them. It's almost like a skill: you do it more - you do it better. Try to open up more, and it will become easier
I am almost 21 and i struggle with this too.. especially because there is no such thing as progressive overload for this (you either do it completely or you dont)
No, it can decrease but will never go away completely. However, you can learn how not to be afraid of this anxiety. The key for that is to always try to do things overcoming this feeling and see that the result is not as scary as you expected
if you fake courage it actually courage when i first start sparing i always has this fear didnt know the opponent but it goes when your mind knows you are in it their is no escape.
No, the fear is never going to go away. Fear is a natural human emotion. You can't deal with it. But, you can manage to control it, and get over it. For example, you're afraid to talk to girls, Good. You trick your mind to go, with fear in you and let your mind talk naturally to this girl... It's also correlated with self-confidence...
how to get morning wood feeling like super energy
Testosterone is what causes morning wood. So eat clean and exercise
I have nothing to ask.
I just wan to say,
Whatever you're doing right now, don't give up
One day it will pay off
No matter what, please please please don't give up
Your future self will thank you.
This mindset is what pushes me during the hard times
How to do the right things with 0 motivation and keep going
Motivation is energy. Getting in good shape, good diet and good sleep can help that. You don’t have a big enough why, that’s the reason you lack motivation. Find your why.
you have to start- todays work on yourself wont be seen until consistency and you start trying new things like meditating and walking in nature
Lmao what a weak question.
You think there is some secret answer that removes the pain?
ahahahahahahahaha dork
Hey Hamza, I am under 20 but have no specific questions, but I am very intrigued by this system of young men taking advice from older men, to prevent new generations making the same mistakes as the previous ones.
How do I stay on my grind but i mean ACTUALLY be consistent, no excuses.
Read Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz, you only go as far as your self image allows you to.
It's my advice it might not be fully true go on monk mode. Fully up to you to take it or not
MY QUESTION:
IS Having the 90s type of love, old school type of love mindset good in this generation?
Yes it is but you will notice the persons you want are very rare which is good as a man as you build yourself you will control your reality more and if this is what you want you can filter that into existence
Depends on what you like and value
I would say absolutely yes!
Not if you’re talking about struggle love.
Yes
If you find the right woman yes
How do i hold myself accountable and stop making excuses for my failure and how to take more risks and overcome failure hamza thank you by the way for your guidance by the way when i first started watching your videos i didn't take action and thanks to modern conditioning i dismissed what you said as toxic but now that i have hit rock bottom and fell harder into degenracy i have begin to appreciate your advice more than ever as a young man so again thank you. Sorry for the paragraph
You become accountable by holding yourself accountable. You stop making excuses by not making excuses. You take more risks by taking more risks.
You think that there is some easy answer
You think there is a trick that makes it less painful
THERE ARE NO TRICKS
THE ONLY WAY IS THROUGH
Embrace the pain
Or you will not "overcome failure"
ps "Sorry for the paragraph" if you think this is a lot of writing you're brain is fried and you should read some books
We like being lazy. And asking these questions are a lazy way to feel like we're going somewhere without actually going somewhere.
We decide what we want to do, any time of the day. Even if we're "exhausted" we still have the option to decide and choose. And so, if you know what you should be doing, just do it, instead of overcomplicating and turning it into some stupid philosophy.
It's hard yes, I slack sometimes yes, but realize that it's always within your control.
I wanna say 3 interesting and helpful things though:
1. Make your goals visible through writing them down and adjust what you should be doing and when in order to achieve your goals. This helps clean things up in your head and help you focus
2. Doing hard things regularly increases the size of something in your brain, I dont know the name of it, which is responsible for doing hard things, and when you stop doing them, after a day or two it starts shrinking again, so momentum is a big thing, once you start do not stop, or else you'll feel hard things become hard again
3. Develop a character in which you have no other choice other than do what you gotta do.
For example, which is a really weird experience of mine. Right before I went to bed I read a book in which the main character is very disciplined. When I woke up somehow my mind tricked me into thinking that I was him for a solid 2-3 seconds and instead of staying in bed I fucking jumped out of it thinking that this is who I am and what I should be doing.
Don't give yourself other choices, you can't stay in bed, you can't skip the gym, you just do it.
❤
Get a friend who holds you accountable. not necessarily a friend it can be a family member , but a guy as in a male
The answers you have received, despite the good intentions, probably didn't do much for you(correct me if I'm wrong). Taking risks and overcoming (fear of) failure are no easy things to learn, and thus it will take time and energy. The first step is to accept that, and to realize it is gonna take a while. Play the long game. Eventually, it will all become second nature.
For now, let's return to the core of your problem. Your thoughts seem to be quite chaotic and unorganized. Since your situation is not specified, it's a bit harder to know what's going on exactly, so take this with a grain of salt.
My recommendation for you is to watch either some David Goggings OR Julienhimself videos (they are quite the opposite, so make a choice) and see what happens. Other people you could check out are Jordan Peterson(old content!), Gabor Maté, Better Ideas or even Tristan Tate lol.
These last ones should come with a warning. They might become a source of distraction and confusion. But from my impression you don't have too much to lose at this point. It's still better to binge on productivity TH-cam videos than God knows what..
@@Dontoverthinkthis-sq7ws I have already watched videos from most of your suggestions but thank you anyway for them my root problem I will say is lack of discipline a flaw I have been slowly working on or doing the hard work even when I don't feel like it.and yes these replies have helped recently.
As a 14 year old, i believe a girl can be high value human because of personality, behaviour etc. Without being a model looking girl. i believe some people think a high value girl has to be facially attractive which i found isnt true. so 20 year olds you agree or not.
Yes i know facial attractiveness does matter. I am trying to say above average 6-7 looking girl can be a high value a girl.
I’m 18 but yeah you’re correct.
absolutely
It depends who's measuring her value.
Men definitely value facial attractiveness as one of the largest portion in their decision to commit.
consider it two faces of the same coin, both physical attraction and personality are needed. also think about it, a high value girl would 100% take care of her looks, a low quality one wouldnt.
Hamzas a legend
i love you hamza, you helped me alot
How to relieve childhood trauma and what to do when you don't feel peace at your own home? (reply smth⬇️)
Btw I'm a single mother raised 16 year old boy who witnessed constant fights at home since I grew up even till today. Changed houses from my father's parent's home to father's own home to mother's parent's home which my mother reconstructed with her own money and now my aunt fights with my mother. My mother works a middle-class earning job which I'm very grateful to. My mother is my only family and I have no siblings.
For a man I believe that trauma is a good thing, it's what makes you succeed in life, I actually love it and embrace it. I came to this realization this morning, I got a bit sad because of some personal issues and everytime my mood improves I find my self trying to come back to the sad state, I actually liked, sometimes it's good to feel sad, it's good to feel anxious as long as you are still doing the work. But I'm sure Hamza would disagree and tell you to read some book 😅
@@dangermouse6404 Thank you for your insight G! However I think home is a place where you rest and relax. I work hard and all but what's the point if at the end I don't have that core fulfillment and peace in the most basic unit of life.
@@fahadalnabi Yeah I totally get you brother, but for me I rarely feel peace and I don't want to feel it, it will just make me lazier, but I'm weird I guess 😆
Bro I have been raised by single father and it's tough to handle the situation of your home but I have learnt one thing that moving around in nature and developing new hobbies which can divert your mind from all these problems but at the same time you have to handle the situation with your parents because there is solution for every problem Bro....
I hope you find this helpful
"Yeah, this is the best business model and then they’re doing something else"
That is really why I respect Hamza
How can I stay motivated consistently instead of falling back to bad habits over and over again
Work hard and train your body and mind and prioritize God
im 17 I've been consistent on my business reselling i have a vision opening a store but my parents do support me but are really pushing me too go to uni but i don't want too and i find it hard on what to choose my business or not fulfilling my parents wish for me
My question:
What does it mean to truly be strong? To be great? I need to know
Mentally strong, physically strong and spirituality strong
Imo, to master the art of stoicism and mental and physical fortitude (the only person influencing your actions is you, not the media, not peer pressure, just you aligned to your purpose)
To have the courage to stand up for the truth and not be frightened
Being Moral and Just
Building Your character strong
Having respect for everyone
Not being influenced by anyone easily
In my opinion true strength is to stand bravely even when the odds are against us, to not break when we are faced with adversities.true bravery is to stand still and face our fears not depending on the outcome.
Find out through self reflection what you believe it is then don’t stop until you get there. Lots of this stuff is a life long journet
How to maintain anger towards a certain someone so that I can use that anger to drive self improvement??
I'd say keep it in your head at times when you see them or think of them, and when you're doing things like a sport or maybe gym or anything else really, remind yourself how you felt and what it made you feel, trust me it'll drive you on your own to improve 💪🏻
In improving yourself you will realize that holding anger towards someone only hurts yourself in the long run. You will have to see it from a higher level of consciousness and see that the things that person embodies you do not align with and use that a a compass to guide you. Kind of like an anti vision.
Also dissatisfaction is a creative state. Become dissatisfied with yourself. But anger towards another only leads to destruction long term.
I am 20 so idk if I should ask or reply. but here's my take on it:
*Gratitute Journal*
when my family members do something petty (eg accidentally hittinng my laptop or somehting) and I feel anger towards them, and I think of yelling at them or confronting them. but after I started gratitude journaling towards them, and trying to see their side of things, I can handle my anger much better.
Your comment sounds like you want to be angry towards someone, and hoping you can use that anger to improve yourself.
I HIGHLY dont recommend that. it will leave you resentful because then your brain will just find reasons to get angry.
If you have any toxic friends, just ghost them imo.
Others action towards us is not in our control but reaction we give to the situation is in our control.anger is a strong emotion which can be channeled into productive thing such as lifting weights.
iam 18 .as hamza said start posting videos and gain followers ,i would tried this but my mind doesnt accept this becouse of shyness and other faceing camera. the main reason why iam not posting off is waht the peaople thunk about me if i post a video these all bad thoughts come to mind when am started to trying .my life is moving like a shit dont know what to do ...
feeling like dumbsy
Im currently 16 (as of December), and am a virgin. I’m the type of guy that finds promiscuous women quite repulsive, and I value myself and my standards higher than that. I’m a Junior in high school and I have had one high school girlfriend in my Freshman year who I took to Prom (yes my school is weird). At the time I was not very sexual. I was romantic in a way, but kind of simpy. I never kissed her or anything intimate in that way, though we cuddled and fell asleep in each other’s arms before. She later left me saying she saw me as a friend, and i was heartbroken. It’s been two years now, and I’m starting to realize i may not be fully past that trauma. This is because i really saw this woman as ‘the one’, and i was deeply invested in her.
My first question is this: how can one heal from the emotional and psychological trauma of losing a woman you invested so much of yourself into, and help your mind realize you are available and don’t have to be loyal, so you can date again?
My second question stems from the fact that i am a virgin. I had a chance to have sex with the girl i dated in freshman year, but i honestly didn’t want to. It wasn’t because i loved her, i was just in love in a more wholesome way. I value a real connection in a relationship and a genuine concrete foundation of mutual interest, and i want to know where to look for these women. And I’m not religious really, though i study Shintoism, but I want to lose my virginity with a woman who is also a virgin. I don’t know if thats a far fetched ideal, but it’s one that’s important to me.
So my second question is this: where can i find a woman who i can form a genuine connection with, who is also a virgin, for me to experience my first time with?
If you respond to my comment, thank you very much, and have a great day! 😁
I’m not 20, I’m 18. And this isn’t really an answer… But I lost my virginity at 13. And dude.. I’ve cried about it at night. I feel so.. Indescribably sad. That I couldn’t give it to someone special. PLEASE don’t rush it.. really make sure it’s special.
@@kenju8929 Thank you for sharing your experience. I 100% intend yo give it to someone special, and i appreciate you opening up. I will definitely take your words into consideration. Keep up your grind brotha
How to know my purpose and how to be profitable from it.
does he haave a vid on this?
it depends on you how would u loe to spend ur life ? a footballer a drawer , do u want to travel the world or become rich asap that's up to u
Make TH-cam videos
Your purpose is to become the best version of yourself in all areas. Financially, physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc.
Get started where you can and the money making part will come to you. Sit down with a journal and write out the things you’re good at, things you enjoy, and things you know a lot about. Try everything and find the grind that you can endure forever. The one that’s your purpose is the one you can help the most people/ have the biggest impact with
Starting over from scratch, I would prioritize discovering what truly brings me joy and engagement, emphasizing the importance of the journey itself over the destination. It's crucial to understand that forcing outcomes or focusing solely on profitability from the outset can hinder genuine progress and fulfillment.
To find my purpose and potentially profit from it, I'd build positive habits and routines to explore my interests deeply, distinguishing between fleeting pleasures and true passions. This exploration involves trying different activities to unearth what resonates with me, thus developing discipline and self-awareness.
Identifying an activity that I naturally enjoy, much like my preference for calisthenics over gym workouts, allows me to engage with it purely for the love of the process, rather than the results. This approach ensures a more enjoyable and fulfilling life and establishes a foundation for profitability. However, it's vital to acknowledge that forcing things or chasing immediate profitability can lead to instability. Instead, becoming proficient in your passion through dedicated learning and practice is key. As you excel in something you love, monetization opportunities will naturally emerge. You might not see all the possibilities now, as it's a process that unfolds step by step. Only by committing to each stage of growth can you begin to see the next steps and understand how to make your passion profitable.
To summarize, finding your purpose and potentially profiting from it entails experimenting extensively and embracing your passions without pushing for immediate results. Transforming into someone who naturally engages with their interests leads to a life in harmony with those passions. Initially, your focus should be on personal growth and skill development rather than immediate profitability; success and stability stem from consistent dedication and becoming proficient in what you love. As you master your area of passion, you'll naturally discover various ways to monetize it, uncovering opportunities that weren't apparent at the beginning. This gradual process of exploration and improvement will guide you to see the future steps more clearly.
What should i care about the most?:
Being Spiritual
Being Muscular
Being Smart
Being Attractive
Being Sucsesfull and Rich
Being all of them (which means i have to redudce my training for all aspects)
How to be happy in life
Happiness comes from progress and accomplishment. Instead of focusing on trying to become happy, focus on building the life you desire and for-filling your purpose while you're here. You pursing this will bring happiness with it. Also, don't withhold happiness from yourself until you reach a certain goal. Learn to love the process of reaching that goal/building your dream life and you will find happiness in the process.
Gratitude ever single day. You will always have more or less than another person. So the acquisition of things will not make you happy long term. But gratitude will
Thanks this would help me to be a better person in every aspect of my life .
@@akudowells869 I agree with gratitude.
Read Bhagavad Gita
You will know your purpose
I’m 17 about to be 18 and I can’t find my purpose or passion. I’ve been into so many different things but they all end up as hobbies: art, instruments, sports… I learn them to the point where i know more than the people that have never tried it, but i never master any of them. It feels like i’ve wasted all my efforts and now i know bits and bits of knowledge and skill all for nothing. I don’t know what to do with my life because i dont have a strong passion, at this point i’m just gonna go on with school and try to get a cs degree. I don’t want to work as anything so i just want to make money and live my life. I’ve never took any business related subjects because i’ve never been interested. I don’t want to show my face on the internet and i don’t know how to make money from nothing, i’ve looked into the entrepreneurships, trading… and none of them look realistic, they are all trying to sell their course.
I only have like 2 close friends and they are not into this shit, but they seem to be doing way better than me, doing part time jobs, studying…(i’m in a gap year/ language study time rn, for studying aboard) I feel so lost and lonely. I’m moving in between places and will study aboard soon and it feels like i can’t invest in things because i will leave where i am soon, like Hamza said about him being productive at his home, it’s hard to grind when i’m only “visiting” my home for 3 months then leaving. Im scared of my future and recently i often look at my plans of studying aboard and just think to myself why am i even doing this, i dont even really wanna study this subject, the language is so difficult and i’ve always hated learning languages. i’m just so lost.
How do i find my purpose when i dont have a passion? How do i invest in myself fully when i don’t feel at home and my environment feels temporary ? How do i prepare for my future when i feel like it’s already too late? How do i realistically make money without the online course bullshit?
Bro wtf you're almost exactly in my position. I am 17 about to be 18 with the same issue, learning a language to study CS abroad, trying not to end up in some boring ass job.
But what's appealing to me is the challenge. Learn a language from scratch, hard. But it gets even worse when 50% drop out of the university within the first year bc it's so difficult, and the cherry on top, it's expensive as fuck and the people of that nationality are known for being hard to become friends with.
I often ask myself why it is I want to do it again, and I get asked even more by other people. But it's to try something new, something challenging. Imagine the hardship I must endure to make it work, and the growth and development I'll experience having endured such a struggle.
Challenge builds character, so don't shy away from hard things, embrace them.
The good news is you’re 17 and you have time to change your life. A lot of people don’t have passions I wouldn’t really focus on that. I would focus on learning high paying skills that will allow you have the best future trust me you’ll find something to do when you make a lot of money
@@hannibalotte7515 I get that but sometimes it’s just really fucking hard you know? like when i wanted to do it it sounds great and challenging and fun, but when i need to do it i’m like shit i might actually fail and its a really hard time. I keep doubting my decision because there are other easier ways out. I guess its kinda similar to when i plan things out and want to do it it sounds easy, but when i need to do it i’m not motivated anymore, and when it comes to big decisions like going aboard for university its not something i can back out easily and i’m just scared and hopeless
@@Winstonbfit That’s true sometimes i get caught up on all the things that happened and my worries and forget that being 17 and going to university is most probably still one of my earliest stages in life, sometimes i feel like just wanting some money is kinda shallow but i didn’t choose to be born in this world where money is everything lol
Brother, you have a great mindset of urgency that's necessary for success. You're 17 years old, you're looking at the trajectory of your life, seeing where it will take you, and recognizing it's not where you want to be; that's not common at your age. I know 17 seems like you are coming up on the time where things are too late, but they aren't.
In order to get to a point where you can invest in yourself, it seems like you already know what you need to do. You've pointed out the problem: your environment is not conducive to productivity and growth. Since it seems like for at least the time being you can't control that you move around, you need to find a way to work on yourself no matter where you are. Once you get the opportunity to remain in the same place, grind even harder.
As for money, that will come. As you improve yourself as a person and develop a work ethic, you'll find a way to make money. Start looking for people your age who are interested in entrepreneurship and even talk to some older guys about it - you'll have to look.
Finally, if you don't enjoy what you're studying then stop it and go do something else. Wasting your life on things you don't want to do is how you end up miserable.
You're in a good position brother, don't waste it.
how to deal with mistakes
18 years old
Have a non judgemental point of view and embrace the cycles of being a human being. Mistakes are where the growth happens and are an essential part of life. Removing your ego and seeing them for what they are (a redirection) can help a lot
Understand that you are not your past self and there is nothing you can do about it due to it being in the past. Extract the lesson you learned from the mistake and use it to make you better. Don't ponder on the mistake and try your best to move past it.
@@akudowells869 thank you big bro
@@jseter2114 thanks sir
Forgive yourself, not just once. And remember the way you feel will pass and you will feel better. Bad or negative emotions always pass
Im 19 years old. I have been practising philosophy( stoicism, Buddhism etc.) I also do look up to self improvement influencers such as Hamza, Iman Ghadzi. The issue I find is that they offer various different advice in terms of achieving the good life and what the good life actually is. Philosophy advises that I control my desires, renounce external this and focus on inner work, focus on my character. The latter such as Hamza advise that I work hard, act a certain way to get the women and the money. My question is how do I balance the philosophical life with the modern idea of success? Because when I often try not to concern my self with externals such as money and women; try living minimalistic and control the desire for unnecessary pleasures, the modern self improvement industry often makes me seem inferior, lacking work ethic and as a loser. I am struggling to find a solution or a middle ground. I am aware that at the end of the day only I can answer that question, but any advice would be appreciated.
"One man prays: 'how can I sleep with that woman?' your prayer is: 'how can I lose the desire to sleep with her?'"- Marucs Aurelius
1.Why do you care others see you as a loser. 2.if you are religious the answer is following the advice of your religion 3.why not try both ways and see what works
I am in a *very* similar situation. My personal solution is that work on externals (mainly financial) frees up one's time for inner work. How can you focus on yourself when you are stuck working on some job, or stuck worrying about what you are going to eat? Focusing on some of these external needs grants freedom, and although we don't have perfect control over whether we get these external needs (and therefore by Stoicism we should not worry about them), we can still in a sort of "unattached" way work towards them, and if we work right there is a good chance we will be successful.
This either might serve as a solution to you, or as a further complexity, or as nothing at all and something you forget about later: but you may be interested in the ideas of the philosopher Gurdjieff, particularly in his idea of the "fourth way" of self-development (in contrast to the other "three ways"):
(from wikipedia) "Gurdjieff said that his Fourth Way was a quicker means than the first three ways because it simultaneously combined work on all three centers rather than focusing on one. It could be followed by ordinary people in everyday life, requiring no retirement into the desert. The Fourth Way does involve certain conditions imposed by a teacher, but blind acceptance of them is discouraged. Each student is advised to do only what they understand and to verify for themselves the teaching's ideas."
Feel free to reply if you have any questions or disagreements. I hope that you will find your way through your story of life.
P.S. about the self-development people making you feel bad: know that this an intentional and meant to stir up people from their "sleep" of average life. You are already out of this sleep, but you have something else from sleep that is muddling your mind, namely your confusion (that we share) about the conflicts between the these two sets of advice. Therefore, referencing some ideas of Gurdjieff, you should not take the facts like your bad work ethic into your "emotional mind," but your "intellectual mind;" note this information and think about it, but avoid letting it get to you emotionally, since this would be unnecessarily torturous, as you are not asleep like the people these methods are meant to be used on.
Thank you, this was greatly helpful, ill check out Gurdjieff
I'm turning 18 next month and I don't know where my life is going. Im in a relationship where we argue daily, I always skip MMA training to smoke weed just because its easier and my attendance in college is low. I also struggle keeping my emotions under control and lash out often. I don't like the person I feel like I'm becoming but I have no idea how to change.
start by changing some small habits in your daily life like waking up early , taking a shower in the morning , having a healthy diet , cutting screen time and then start removing any distractions from your life that will stop you from becoming what you want
i just want to be rich and take care of family and retire them, make them proud, but everytime i try to start a business or something i keep finding myself stopping at the worst time and start doing bad habits like playing games, and everytime i play games i get pissed off, i get pissed off by how uselless i am how worthless i am how im wasting my time on these bs games because my mom and my dad looks me with empty eyes (whats he gonna do about his life) and i feel bad about this but i cant keep going on the thing that i should do because i just dont have "real friends" who are thinking about their futures, i just need friends that has goals. Please i just need some friends
Hey mate
So. Life is life. We are all living the same existence. People often say becoming a billionaire is unrealistic. Elon musk is a billionaire and his life is just as real as yours
When it comes to doing the things that matter. You’re worth just sitting down and writing out how mad existence is at all. It can help you to do work you know you should do when you remind yourself how mad it is that you’re even here. Not to mention the shit your parents and everyone else has gone through to make your life as easy as possible
It’s so lucky. And so easy to take for granted
But writing this down reminds you how lucky you are
And can help you do the work to achieve the things you want to achieve for the people you love
How old are u bro?
Number 1 stop being a pussy talking bout how you're so worthless. Like ok, so stop being worthless, do something that gives you some value and increases your worth. its always 1 step at a time man you just gotta keep making steps and never give up on yourself. Believe that your ambitions will come true and then once you really believe that your actions start to follow suit with your ambition because you know that it needs to happen for your goals to come into fruition. And stop using lack of friends as an excuse. If you want friends that have ambitions you gotta provide those friends w value too. You're not valuable enough yet to have friends w high value and ambitions.
@@lautarobeheran 15
How to destroy lizard brain and doom scrolling??
The lizard brain is like a child you cannot destroy it. Instead you have to be kind and take care of it like a child. When it screams and says it wants to do something you act with discipline and say no or maybe later. You can’t destroy that side of you.
Meditate.
Also working out is a great form of meditation.
Dopamine detox limit screentime stop staying up late watching Corn, video games and TV shows
The answers for our questions are already with us
But i came here for a advice
Being chairman and following semmen retention and doing workout and helping poors and social network friends building creating fame is a game changer
how do I gain more confidence.
how do I know what "friends" to take out of my life and how?
If someone is disrespecting me infront of alot of people how do i handle that?
You take friends out of your life by simply answering short answers and not initiating conversation. You write down every friend. And there positive and negative influences then remove all who are bad for you. The last question if to vague if it's a lot of strangers you shouldn't care if yoy kinda know these people you also shouldn't really care. Also get loud and angry when they disrespect you
What are thing to learn about women?
Confidence
You cannot behave with women the same way you behave with your male friends
Just read 'The way of the superior men' and you will understand more than 90% of your peers.
How can i chase my dreams at 13 y old
The 1st most important is gym and diet. Build good strong body. 2nd Very important thing! Stay out off trouble. Dont do any off the stupid stuff if you can avoid it.
Watch your diet. Age 13 is the key to starting your journey.
I’ve been existent on this world for long enough for me to know that everyone lives are different in a unique way, but everyday when we walk past a person we don’t know, we somehow feel connected, but we take it for granted and never said anything to that person like “if I don’t see you again live a good life” or something like that, there’s just so many people in this world and personally if I don’t see them again in life it just feels so darned awkward. Because that person could be your future lover, acquaintance or friend. I know there is no way to tell if you can live tomorrow or die in your sleep. This just makes me question life itself, and why have god created us, and why have we turned into antisocial animals that only live only for themselves.
As a 16 year old in a third world country, how do I genuinely build a lot of success?
Use all of your weaknesses as strengths.
@@kamileleroyaIbullshit
Me too I live in 3 world and it's kind a bad place to be at from mauritania 🇲🇷 and you?
I also live in a third world country, you can use your computer and wifi to earn money, the advantage that you have is that you dont need a lot of money to be able to have a good life in these countries
@@antoniopato2875 What if you only have an old phone that gets hot just for watch youtube videos
I'm 17 and sometimes I wonder if pursuing my purpose and dreams will really be worth it
How to survive in a negative environment if leaving is not an option
just remember that u are the man bro,stop caring what others think.Made the environment better and stop giving a fuck
How to be truly happy in life
My question is "How to know what to say in conversations and how to keep them going?" Because whenever I start a one topic and we finish it I genuinely don't know what to say next or what am I supposed to do. The worst feeling I ever get is when I can hear my every idea inside my head but then I realize that the person sitting right next to me doesn't hear anything and just sits there quietly, I'm being honest I get called a lot like "the boring one" or the "Mr. Quiet" But really I wanna talk to people and I wanna open up & start having some friends.
I'm completely open to any advice
You get thoughts in your head and you don't tell them the thoughts. Try to just say what comes to mind not worrying about if it's a stupid thing to say. Also don't be afraid of a little silence. You remind me of a friend of mine hope this helps
@@bathsaltseller Thanks man I really needed someone to open my mind on how talking really works, I mean I wasn't so sure if people wanted to hear exactly everything I have on my mind but i can try at least opening to them
I'm 16...when i was a kid (upto class 2) I was very popular among friends(regardless of gender)..I was like the Sun among other stars when seen from the earth...my teachers were also happy with my progress...I excelled in my studies and E.A.s...but then had a ligament injury...was out for almost a year...came back and was never like before...in fact, since then till date my grades have dropped significantly, my talents are not shining brightly, I just have lost everything I had...except for my intelligence...earlier i used to study everyday even when there was an occassion...but now, its just the opposite...earlier i was the most popular kid in school now im the most casted off...i have few friends but the rest of the class literally thinks im weird when its not..and moreover no girls stick around now when i had female friends when i was young...oh yeah and me and my mom have been abused by my father and his family since my childhood...i wanna know if there's a way i cld become what i was prior to whn it all went wrong ? now i feel shy to talk to girls when this was not the case back then...how to change this ?
I’m 17 years old and I’ve been in a relationship with this girl for 7 months she’s my everything but my anxiety and overthinking get in the way and i feel like I’m in this constant war with my head I’ve made her such a priority and I don’t know how to break that i just want to be healthy and love her the right way
You've put so much time into her where it feels like if you aren't around her you feel unfulfilled or like your lacking something. Idk if that's you, but it is for some. I'm no relationship expert, this is just some sound advice. Talk it out with her. These are conversations you need to have. Be open, don't fall for the stereotype of "a guy can't express much feelings" or however it goes, but be honest with her, and allow her to give you her input on the matter. Remember that your life doesn't revolve around her, neither does her life revolve around you. That's only the case if you arent married.
Another thing, your own mind will construct thoughts and even create imaginations of this person. You first have to realize that not everything being thought of or imagined is true. Think of your mind like a battlefield, cause that's what it feels like when your thoughts seem to override your head. But thoughts will form, and it's really up to you if you want to dwell on them or not. And never speak directly from a thought(like saying everything that comes to mind, especially when it's about a person) only If you are in a sound and clear conscience.
And one more thing that helps me battle all the mind games, and the anxiety and prevents stress, or I should say someone who helps me is Jesus. Not many people believe, but you never know till you ask Him. He gives me peace in situations that would usually seem strange to have peace in. He affirms my mind, reminded always of His Love, Joy, and Peace. (2 Timothy 1:7) the fear is gone, because He reassures me with His Love, He gives me power to stand against the enemy and his tactics of mental oppression, and gives me a sound mind.
You're 17 bro, still young. You shouldn't be stressed as you say you are, sadly this is the case for many teenagers. And some don't have a way to fight against it because they fight the battle alone. You hide yourself and live a quiet life where know one know what you're going through, and that's usually because we are hiding a secret. You might be doing something that you know isn't right, but you don't want anyone yo know to keep away from judgement. But instead it's hurting you. (Proverbs 28:13) .
I forgot all the things I learnt when talking to people for eg smile ,use their name
How to have a good relationship with your family
Hamza just described my girlfriend perfectly. I'm 17. Feelin' good.
I’m thirteen and I started to workout to become athletic yet, when I became bigger I got a lot of respect and intimidation from other guys
How to find a tribe where you'll get life long friends who not only will be there for grinding together, but to grow, to have fun ( non-degen ways) altogether build strong brotherhood.
how to truly find self love within yourself
How to stay focused consistently without losing the path
I realized something. It's about motivation. We need to constantly remind ourselves of what we are committing to else we'll be slacking off all the time. Which is why we need to consume such videos on a daily or weekly basis until we get like for a long time in this self improvement journey like about an year or more.
How do i truly know my friends want to become the best person they can like me
How to find an enough stimulating purpose to turn it into a business. It's look like all business are borings , and passion are over competitive.
Im 15, trying to be a soccer player. I play karate and very athletic for a football player because of the heavy trainig sessions in karate. Im struggling with performing well, i pushed myself so hard to day in the karate gym that i threw up because i was fasting that day for ramadan. Im not very disciplined i do things because i feel like i have to and when i dont i feel really bad about it it stays on my mind for a long time. Suddenly, i can see myself as a failure in 10 years' time, so that's a motivation for me to change that every session i work out. Im confused on to continue what im doing because im not seeing results i experienced coaches in football that are racist because im an arab or they favourite other people that im better then. It made me cry for months and work on myself. Now i play the u15 team for an amateur club. My friends were all fake, and im glad i found it sooner than later, and i have to be careful with everyone i talk to now. My question is, how do i get happier? When i was in u13 i used to be at the peak of my life i scored in every league match we had and i was the striker for the team and my coach was great and i was practising 6 hours a day until i got a 4 month injury. It was head trauma from karate and i have been depressed ever since. I workout around 4 hours a day now sometimes i add an extra jog session but its been harder than ramadan.
Can I just say I just got a notebook to write stuff like this in because i don't want to annoy anyone with it and it honestly feels so much better to write all of this and read it
I'm 17 and it's hard to grasp reality and care for it while living with ADHD, Anxiety, newly c-pts
How do I stop myself from dying an ordinary man without anyone remembering me?
I’m 19 (20 in a month). If you find a wife material woman but you’re currently poor, what should you do? My plan was to level up as a man first and then once I’ve achieve my goals or at least got close to them, then I’d find a woman. But Hamza said if she’s genuinely 1 of a kind, don’t let her go. If I were to find that woman tomorrow, what should I do? Because my family is poor atm we can’t even afford rent or anything and if I have a woman, I’ll have to pay for a lot of stuff which I can’t do atm. What would you do if you were me and you met her tomorrow?
I'm 15 yrs old and how i do feel motivated for everything i do and how i do increase my height to its max potential
Hey man I'm 15 aswell, if you wait to feel motivated for everything then you won't get much done. You need to have discipline. Second height is honestly controlled by genetics there isn't much you can do. Just improve everything in your life that you can control!
How to grind fucking hard without any excuses
How can I be consistent with self improvement when in school I have to be friends with others who don’t understand