Boundaries are very important and not to be taken for granted and compromised.Love and care for them but ensure you are not endangering yourself.Never get to the point whereby you are too relaxed.Where possible,let them not leave with you.They love being free.I have my stories.God be with you sis..
Well spoken. I too had a very negative experience that has definitely affected my perspective. I will never again let down my guard around any hired help
Yes o. They love being free to waka not knowing they can compromise ones security. I live in a gated and secure estate. My maid can’t go out freely without my consent. I saw she was frustrated staying indoors all day time. She felt it was best she resign.
Hmmmm.... Well said sis! Actually the wicked ones have helps that stay long with them. Weldone, you tried you did your best, I love the courage you had to collect the clothes. I'm still trying to set boundaries with my househelps. Like, you just spoke like me right now coz I think I have a heart for young girls. I ensure I treat them well. They eat what I eat etc but most of them still misbehave. I have had my own fair share of the househelp palava. I have had one insult me when leaving and many of them take one's niceness for granted. It's a long story.... Most of them are actually after men, they don't want to work for money, they just want men to give them money. Just recently, my cousin told me that my relationship with my househelp is making her take me for granted which is true and my husband once said something, he said that I care so much about the lives of these girls but they care less about me and my family. Most of them, no matter how nice you are to them are just very selfish and would only do the things that would suit them. I have so much to say about this coz in my 4years of having househelps ( coz of the nature of my job), it's not been so pleasant. Can't wait for my kids to be grown so that I can do without having a help. I am still trying to set boundaries but it's sometimes difficult because of my nature. I pray for wisdom on how to handle them. Househelp ish can be stressful. I remember a pastor in my church once said that they had to really really pray about the househelp thing and even sowed seeds in church and God finally gave them someone that stayed with them for 8 years. I pray God give you wisdom on how to handle the househelp and I pray this particular househelp stays with you for long. My advise is that you keep your househelp off your channel to avoid issues. You can't trust these people, most of them are ungrateful and impatient, you don't know their next line of action. Right now, I ensure my househelp does the job she is employed to do and I ensure she does it well cos, I have really really stressed myself in the name of "I don't want to stress my househelp" but they still end up leaving or sometimes we have to send them away coz of their behavioural issues. I now ensure I utilise them, afterall, they are paid to do it. Thank God that my husband is firm, it has helped me coz I'm so soft that I get taken for granted but my husband sits them up. I'll do my best for my househelp, if they choose to leave, fine. I know I have tried. For phone, I can help you fix your spoilt phone but to give a new one or my old phone, you have to stay with me for like 1 year plus. Coz these days, I noticed that these girls are phone addicts, instead of doing their jobs, they'll be on phones... I can keep typing about this but in a nutshell. While they are around, utilize them, do the best you can do for them, advise them about life, hygiene, their future etc. Don't carry their problem, including their family problems on your head, do the best you can do. Be ready for any shocker, If they choose to leave, move on and don't depend on them for everything. I'll be glad to know more about how to set boundaries coz I'm so open and free and I hate it, I'm working so hard on overcoming that.
Hi PrincessChristy, thank you so much for sharing🤗 You're definitely right; setting boundaries can sometimes be quite difficult cos of our nature. But we just have to keep looking to God to direct/ help us. It's not easy, but we got this!✊🏽👊🏽🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
You didn’t do anything wrong. Even if she had a phone or not I’m sure she always had it in her to do something like this. It just baffles me how people spoil opportunities for others because you’ll never try this with another help again. I try to make it my prayer point everyday that “Let no one hurt the spirit of whoever is destined to help me before I meet them”. You’re a wonderful person and I know God will give you exactly what suits you ❤️.
Very good.Infact,this one of collecting everything back is goodddd!Come on! Let her go and see how out side is.The guy will just use and dump her She is saying she ia sorry about what happened because the guy don dey show her shege.It's not what she expected that she is seeing.It's too late.
I had a help 2020 who stayed for 5 months. We made her comfortable to the best of our ability to the extent that people said we over did. Long story short, she left to make and sell broom, work from one restaurant to the other. This person who was eating what she wants would call her people in her language and complain of hunger. I was mad when her parents told my mom her report which were all lies but I was HAPPY within because I gave her more than she had ever had and a better look than she came and was weeks after she left! I have learned my lessons and told myself that the next person would not have such privileges yet I wont be a MONSTER !!
My own is no matter how you treat these people, some of them, the thing controlling them is more spiritual than physical. While some comes in with this entitlement mentality. Myself, I have never had help because I can be like NJ, I will be feeling guilty foe something I know is right because I may just be thinking maybe I did something wrong. Abeg!, I prefer work and go.
@@sandraoluwatoki4787 I had her because my niece had a daughter and we were all working but this person only attends to the child when we were not home. She never bathe the child but was washing with either myself or my niece. I work in a college of education and at the time, I was at the admission office( the girl knew) yet her parents told me they want her back because the want to apply to a college of education. Its been 2 years but I'm tearing as I type.
In fact, you see that your resolution, that is the same for me after i also learnt my lesson. Someone I welcomed in my home, shopped for, treated for eczema and low blood level, in fact a lot things. She enters her room by 7pm and wakes up after 6am. My mum who had come to assist me because i had just given birth was working more than her. This girl got the guts to insult me and my parents (my over 70 year old retired doctor parents o) because she heard me tell the agency that i could no longer work with her because she was lazy. She knew she was leaving anyway so she just started misbehaving. The things she said shocked me to the marrow!! I have one now and I am trying not to be too nice. It is hard, but once bitten twice shy sha!
It's the way they just become rude once they know they'll be leaving!🤦🏽♀️ I've seen that so many times! I am really sorry you went through that🫂 Thank you for sharing🤍🤍🤍
Hmmm You literally told my story about my experience with my help in this episode. I'm glad you shared. There's something about feeling pity for these helps and granting them as much freedom and everything they need including smart phones, social media, etc. It backfired in my case, she'd get so distracted with my baby that all I do when I'm at work or working from home is watch CCTV. Insult me, what didn't I see. No one told me how better it is to rather be alone than live with someone who's so bitter and not exactly appreciative. I learnt that it's always best to define what you want from the start and create necessary boundaries whilst being nice to them regardless of them being paid and all. Thanks for sharing, I'm glad you learnt from the experience and we the viewers learnt one or two too. Blessed week ahead.❤
I have learnt to set some boundaries no matter how much I like you, to avoid see finish. I also went through similar situation ,also spent a lot before Mmeso came.
Setting necessary boundaries is really important, and I've learnt to do that. I'm sorry you went through something similar. May God continue to help us🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you🤍🤍🤍
Hi Nj, I knew it; with all of the niceness you spoke about that the story would end up this exact way. There are people like her scattered all over the world. When you are extremely nice to them, they usually feel that they don’t deserve it and you know this saying; ‘to whom much is given, much is expected’ people like this just have this feeling inside of them that they can never give back to match the other’s kindness. It’s not about the work or any work. She just had to excuse herself that way than to feel disappointed if she doesn’t meet up with expectations Much ❤
19 years old is a child?! Lmaooo At 19, I was responsible and wouldn’t have taken advantage of God granting me a chance to good life and I’d follow man wey no get shishi who may be a ritualist all for gini? Make it make sense pls!
Hi NJ, The problem is that you started off wrong - you didn't set boundaries right at the start. I believe in being nice and kind always, but your relationship was of an EMPLOYEE and EMPLOYER. Unfortunately, Angel took liberties and "ABUSED" your kindness. What a wasted opportunity!! No doubt she's now realising how foolishly she acted. She took advantage of your kind nature. Just remember if there's there's a next time to always set boundaries. Sorry you had such a bad experience.
😂😂😂😂 I had a similar experience, she woke up one morning and left. Of course, the estate gate turned her back. I took back all the clothes I bought and she has been going around complaining to everyone that I took the clothes from her. The thing really pained her. I said yes na, the next help will wear it since we all want to be unreasonable.
Dang Angel! She just messed up big time. Unfortunately, Angel decided to mess up the good things coming her way. NJ, I am so sorry that you had to experience such behavior from Angel. You definitely did the right thing. God bless you and your family ❤❤❤
I thought having live-in helps was luxury until I had my triplet. I've seen shege but thank God my kids are growing and have started daycare. I now have one help and we are coping. She's not perfect but she's willing to stay.
Thank God!🙏🏼 "Willing to stay", that's the keyword here. I'm sorry you saw shege😄 It's just sad. Thank you so much for sharing🤍🤍🤍 My love to the triplets🤍🤍
Me watching similar things my mom experienced with her girl and even more. The girl actually left today today. My mom was still feeling bad that she sent her today. I told her not to feel bad, after all the good good things she did for this girl. They are never grateful, no matter how nice you are to them. Very wicked people. It is well
That's so sad! I'm so sorry your mum went through that. It's almost like the nicer you are to them, the more they misbehave! They take that niceness for granted, and it becomes so annoying and confusing at some point, cos why?!!! Please tell your mum not to feel bad. She did the right thing🫂 Thank you so much for sharing🤍🤍🤍 My love to your mum🤍🤍
@@BanterWithNjmy husband told me when my maid left on Sunday…..’’toks and I was happy u got it right with this one’ …I told him…see I got it right but her head is not correct….telling me ehn…as I’m a boss she too is a boss. She hates to take correction from me in my husband’s presence
Wow NJ I am soooo sorry! Eiiiii Angel see how wild she is! Bad girl oooo the way she really faked who and how she is. Thank God she didn't bring anyone to your house to place you in danger. Glory to God nothing like that happened. Sorry ooo NJ she took your kindness as a weakness.
I trust Nelo Okeke to do a good job in taking everything back🤣😅😅 She was definitely the best person to be there at the right time & place🤣😅 House help stories are just one that you will keep swapping till you find a good one. Please don’t be too quick to do a YT video with them esp the ones that’re social media friendly. Your grace & personality will get you a good person eventually. As for the lady, she missed out on a great opportunity cuz we all know how stories like this end. NJ, biko block her number if you can & great job on taking everything back. No time! She dey call you mummy & dey plan exit for back. Mummy lachakwa ya nti ebe’ono! Thank God nothing even happened to her. All these kidnappings happening in Nigeria… yet they will never learn. Odiegwu!
Nj you are niceeeeeeeeeeee. Kings come to your rising. this is more than nice. It shows INTENTIONALITY. that you are thinking of a person. That you put yourselves in their shoes
Imagine the Mum calling to tell you nonsense, instead of her to call to apologize and scold her child for been misled by a man, she’s calling for her clothes(mtchewwwww) . NJ you really have a big heart o, you still messaged her after awhile and the human-being even had the guts to be rude to you(SMH). She has seen it that life is not the way she thought about it and calling back, she’s not even serious and trust me she might not even have this type of opportunity again.
Chai, aunty NJ I experienced almost the same thing (betrayalof trust and confidence). It was painful eh. I was nice and kind but maybe not to the extreme like you. I cried the day she left because i was like 'after everything?' You see that ' I collected the things I bought for her' I did the same and I don't regret it, eziokwu. Her mum was so mad that I took the things I gave her. Some people were like i shouldn't have, yea, but I did... I took the clothes and stuff to the church for welfare because i don't think I'm getting a househelp any time soon.
Awww.. I am so sorry you went through that🫂🤗 I can definitely relate to how painful it must have been. May God help us all🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you for sharing🤍🤍🤍
Children of nowadays. With all the horror stories on line of girls been killed by men they met online. I don't know if they don't read such stories and learn from it. May God help us and our children that they don't neglect our teachings. Nj Nwanyi oma thanks for praying for her and wishing her well. Time will surely tell. She will grow up someday and deeply regret her actions. Nne you did well by collecting everything you bought for her . Do take care my sister and keep been you, you were created specially by God to be a kind hearted woman. Lot of love.
When my help acted her drama, people made me feel bad saying I spoilt her and gave her leg The clothes I bought, the gifts to her sisters It’s well I just told myself, next time my boundaries will be stricter
Ah! What do people really want??!! All these young girls! NJ your story sounds same as Nazom's😳😳😳. And that's how Angel has spoilt the road for others🤦. NJ you're such a sweet soul❤❤. Thank God things didn't go wrong(I mean, an implicative scenario) before her slimmy side got revealed. NJ, I reiterate! You're a sweet sweet sweet soul❤.
So sad, she was not well guided, if only she was more focused. Funny video, I appreciate the little funny clips inserted. You even tried to reach out to her again even with the rude response 😅😅. Small pikin sense, one day, she would know better
I had the same experience with my helper after 2yrs of working for me i did everything i could to make her happy i bought new phone very expensive i was paying her so well i make sure i give extra cash to cover her transportation, eat anything you want as food is not a problem for me, she went on holiday was unable to come back because of cash i paid she came back , one beautiful morning i was waiting for her as usual zhe sent me a message saying i travel to johannesburg so i wont come back. Try calling no response asked her friend what wrong no response i was so so disappointed it wasnt easy for me the whole situation pain me so much.. Not a good expérience especially when you trust and love the person. I took the same decision you come for work i treat you as a worker no extra no pamparing. Let keep it there even if you leave it wont affect me. So my dear NJ just forget about her.
lol. My help dt I took like a sister. Anytime I caution her in presence of my husband, she wd retreat into her shell. Not wanting to eat or associate. She wd say mummy I dnt like wat u said…in tears!!. I’m like…😮I’m ur boss, I correct u when u are wrong. She’s 35 wit 3 kids and separated from her husband. She packed her bags and left my house one Sunday morning. Maybe she liked my husband or maybe she feels too big to be corrected. 🤷♀️ I’ve discovered that those maids dt have sisters in same town as where they are working dnt blink an eyelid…they are tired of d work they pack to their sisters place.
NJ, If you can recall, the first thing i asked u was "What abt that phone you bought for her. That girl does not deserve good. She was bad to NJ upon the treatment you gave her as real angel.
I have had a terrible experience with my nanny, i just sent her away last Saturday. I treated this lafy like my own sister, bought a lot of things for her until people around me were complaining that im too kind to her but the way she treated me ehh
It's sad nice personalities are not rewarded with like niceness. It was sad to hear you say I've learnt my lesson. I'm like this and I've learnt my lesson too
I don't blame you for taking all the things you bought back from her, apart from the toiletries. Some people don't know what they have until they have lost it
They are on the same Whataspp group, so glad i don't have to deal with them, great Job for taking it all back, the next person will rock it. Thank God you dint fall my hand,LOL
@@BanterWithNj when I watched my CCTV & saw how my help flung my 2yrs old baby on the floor and almost broke his spinal cord…. A help that hasn’t even stayed 2weeks in my house… she didn’t know cameras were planted all over … some of these helps are damaged beings , a girl I haven’t even spoken to more than 5times since she came… haaaaa
I have noticed that nice people are not lucky when it comes to house help but you see all these wicked madams, they have the best of house help, I don't know why.
Boundaries are very important and not to be taken for granted and compromised.Love and care for them but ensure you are not endangering yourself.Never get to the point whereby you are too relaxed.Where possible,let them not leave with you.They love being free.I have my stories.God be with you sis..
Well spoken. I too had a very negative experience that has definitely affected my perspective. I will never again let down my guard around any hired help
Yes o. They love being free to waka not knowing they can compromise ones security. I live in a gated and secure estate. My maid can’t go out freely without my consent. I saw she was frustrated staying indoors all day time. She felt it was best she resign.
You're right. Thank you🤍
Chai!! anytime I remember this story eeh, it still shocks me🙆♀️🙆♀️🙆♀️
Hmmmm....
Well said sis! Actually the wicked ones have helps that stay long with them.
Weldone, you tried you did your best, I love the courage you had to collect the clothes.
I'm still trying to set boundaries with my househelps. Like, you just spoke like me right now coz I think I have a heart for young girls.
I ensure I treat them well. They eat what I eat etc but most of them still misbehave.
I have had my own fair share of the househelp palava.
I have had one insult me when leaving and many of them take one's niceness for granted.
It's a long story....
Most of them are actually after men, they don't want to work for money, they just want men to give them money.
Just recently, my cousin told me that my relationship with my househelp is making her take me for granted which is true and my husband once said something, he said that I care so much about the lives of these girls but they care less about me and my family.
Most of them, no matter how nice you are to them are just very selfish and would only do the things that would suit them.
I have so much to say about this coz in my 4years of having househelps ( coz of the nature of my job), it's not been so pleasant. Can't wait for my kids to be grown so that I can do without having a help.
I am still trying to set boundaries but it's sometimes difficult because of my nature.
I pray for wisdom on how to handle them.
Househelp ish can be stressful.
I remember a pastor in my church once said that they had to really really pray about the househelp thing and even sowed seeds in church and God finally gave them someone that stayed with them for 8 years.
I pray God give you wisdom on how to handle the househelp and I pray this particular househelp stays with you for long.
My advise is that you keep your househelp off your channel to avoid issues.
You can't trust these people, most of them are ungrateful and impatient, you don't know their next line of action.
Right now, I ensure my househelp does the job she is employed to do and I ensure she does it well cos, I have really really stressed myself in the name of "I don't want to stress my househelp" but they still end up leaving or sometimes we have to send them away coz of their behavioural issues.
I now ensure I utilise them, afterall, they are paid to do it. Thank God that my husband is firm, it has helped me coz I'm so soft that I get taken for granted but my husband sits them up.
I'll do my best for my househelp, if they choose to leave, fine. I know I have tried.
For phone, I can help you fix your spoilt phone but to give a new one or my old phone, you have to stay with me for like 1 year plus. Coz these days, I noticed that these girls are phone addicts, instead of doing their jobs, they'll be on phones...
I can keep typing about this but in a nutshell. While they are around, utilize them, do the best you can do for them, advise them about life, hygiene, their future etc.
Don't carry their problem, including their family problems on your head, do the best you can do. Be ready for any shocker, If they choose to leave, move on and don't depend on them for everything.
I'll be glad to know more about how to set boundaries coz I'm so open and free and I hate it, I'm working so hard on overcoming that.
Hi PrincessChristy, thank you so much for sharing🤗 You're definitely right; setting boundaries can sometimes be quite difficult cos of our nature. But we just have to keep looking to God to direct/ help us. It's not easy, but we got this!✊🏽👊🏽🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
This video cracked I and my mum up it also reminded us of some crazy experiences we’ve encountered 😂 people take kindness for weakness lol
Exactly! They do🤦🏽♀️ I'm glad you and your mum enjoyed watching😄 Please, send my love to her😁 Thank you🤍🤍🤍
You didn’t do anything wrong. Even if she had a phone or not I’m sure she always had it in her to do something like this. It just baffles me how people spoil opportunities for others because you’ll never try this with another help again. I try to make it my prayer point everyday that “Let no one hurt the spirit of whoever is destined to help me before I meet them”. You’re a wonderful person and I know God will give you exactly what suits you ❤️.
AMEN!🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you so much!🤍🤍🤍
You are just a nice person I see it in your videos. don’t just let anyone make you feel bad about that.
Thank you🤍🤍
Very good.Infact,this one of collecting everything back is goodddd!Come on! Let her go and see how out side is.The guy will just use and dump her She is saying she ia sorry about what happened because the guy don dey show her shege.It's not what she expected that she is seeing.It's too late.
Nj earned more of my respect for the aftermath. The fact you took everything is it for me, great job 👏 👍
Thank you😄🤍🤍
I had a help 2020 who stayed for 5 months. We made her comfortable to the best of our ability to the extent that people said we over did. Long story short, she left to make and sell broom, work from one restaurant to the other. This person who was eating what she wants would call her people in her language and complain of hunger.
I was mad when her parents told my mom her report which were all lies but I was HAPPY within because I gave her more than she had ever had and a better look than she came and was weeks after she left!
I have learned my lessons and told myself that the next person would not have such privileges yet I wont be a MONSTER !!
Please don't allow her change your beautiful spirit
Exactly! These things just make one toughen up/ sit up! I am sorry you had to go through that🤗 Thank you so much for sharing🤍🤍🤍
My own is no matter how you treat these people, some of them, the thing controlling them is more spiritual than physical. While some comes in with this entitlement mentality. Myself, I have never had help because I can be like NJ, I will be feeling guilty foe something I know is right because I may just be thinking maybe I did something wrong. Abeg!, I prefer work and go.
@@sandraoluwatoki4787 I had her because my niece had a daughter and we were all working but this person only attends to the child when we were not home. She never bathe the child but was washing with either myself or my niece. I work in a college of education and at the time, I was at the admission office( the girl knew) yet her parents told me they want her back because the want to apply to a college of education. Its been 2 years but I'm tearing as I type.
This is so sad. I feel really bad when ladies mess up good opportunities. I really pray she’s able to forgive herself.
🙏🏼🙏🏼🤍
It's good you listened to the advice of your sister's 😂😂😂😂nice sharing ❤
Thank you🤍🤍
You’ve gained a new subscriber 🥰I just like your vibe❤️
Awww.. Thank you so much!🙏🏼 Welcome to the family🤍🤍
I will always come back to this video as a reminder to be strict . Because I have the tendency to loose guard with people. And over do
My dear! We are in the same WhatsApp group!😩
Nj you're a sweet soul, please dont stop been good to people ❤❤
Thank you🤍🤍
In fact, you see that your resolution, that is the same for me after i also learnt my lesson. Someone I welcomed in my home, shopped for, treated for eczema and low blood level, in fact a lot things. She enters her room by 7pm and wakes up after 6am. My mum who had come to assist me because i had just given birth was working more than her. This girl got the guts to insult me and my parents (my over 70 year old retired doctor parents o) because she heard me tell the agency that i could no longer work with her because she was lazy. She knew she was leaving anyway so she just started misbehaving. The things she said shocked me to the marrow!! I have one now and I am trying not to be too nice. It is hard, but once bitten twice shy sha!
It's the way they just become rude once they know they'll be leaving!🤦🏽♀️ I've seen that so many times! I am really sorry you went through that🫂 Thank you for sharing🤍🤍🤍
I love the decision you took by keeping d stuff for the next person, she wanted to fool you but she will definitely regret her decision
I really enjoyed watching. This a big lesson to other people who don't understand what life is about.
Thank you🤍
Hmmm
You literally told my story about my experience with my help in this episode.
I'm glad you shared.
There's something about feeling pity for these helps and granting them as much freedom and everything they need including smart phones, social media, etc.
It backfired in my case, she'd get so distracted with my baby that all I do when I'm at work or working from home is watch CCTV.
Insult me, what didn't I see.
No one told me how better it is to rather be alone than live with someone who's so bitter and not exactly appreciative.
I learnt that it's always best to define what you want from the start and create necessary boundaries whilst being nice to them regardless of them being paid and all.
Thanks for sharing, I'm glad you learnt from the experience and we the viewers learnt one or two too.
Blessed week ahead.❤
Thank you so much🤍🤍 I am so sorry you went through that🤗 I have definitely learnt to create necessary boundaries. God help us🙏🏼🙏🏼🤍🤍🤍
I have learnt to set some boundaries no matter how much I like you, to avoid see finish. I also went through similar situation ,also spent a lot before Mmeso came.
Setting necessary boundaries is really important, and I've learnt to do that. I'm sorry you went through something similar. May God continue to help us🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you🤍🤍🤍
Hi Nj,
I knew it; with all of the niceness you spoke about that the story would end up this exact way.
There are people like her scattered all over the world. When you are extremely nice to them, they usually feel that they don’t deserve it and you know this saying; ‘to whom much is given, much is expected’ people like this just have this feeling inside of them that they can never give back to match the other’s kindness.
It’s not about the work or any work. She just had to excuse herself that way than to feel disappointed if she doesn’t meet up with expectations
Much ❤
You may be right, but it's just sad. Thank you so much🤍🤍🤍
Aunty Nj, even when you where saying "I'm not that nice" ...I could still feel your niceness😫😫. God bless your kind heart❤️
AMEN!🙏🏼😂😄🤍
You did well my dear.
Her mum is a culprit also. If the woman didn't support it, she would bring the girl to your house and tell her to apologize.
I enjoyed your eyes rolling and facial expressions ❤
Thank you😄🤍
Angel is a child, she acted like her age
Years from now, she would look back and bit herself up for messing up this opportunity.
Such a pity
19 years old is a child?!
Lmaooo
At 19, I was responsible and wouldn’t have taken advantage of God granting me a chance to good life and I’d follow man wey no get shishi who may be a ritualist all for gini?
Make it make sense pls!
@@vivianreginaldsmen sef Dey find this economy hard. Which money man wan give woman in this economy. 😅😅😅
She's not a child but a young adult that is also spoiled. Children don't do porn and sleep around.
Hi NJ, The problem is that you started off wrong - you didn't set boundaries right at the start. I believe in being nice and kind always, but your relationship was of an EMPLOYEE and EMPLOYER. Unfortunately, Angel took liberties and "ABUSED" your kindness. What a wasted opportunity!! No doubt she's now realising how foolishly she acted. She took advantage of your kind nature. Just remember if there's there's a next time to always set boundaries. Sorry you had such a bad experience.
Thank you so much🤍🤍 I have definitely learnt to set necessary boundaries😊
See how Angel lost her biggest opportunity to stay with Kind NJ.
You did well by taking the things back , we are proud of you😂😂.
Thank you!😄🤍
I enjoyed this story time too much 😂😂
😂😂😂😂 I had a similar experience, she woke up one morning and left. Of course, the estate gate turned her back. I took back all the clothes I bought and she has been going around complaining to everyone that I took the clothes from her. The thing really pained her. I said yes na, the next help will wear it since we all want to be unreasonable.
Right!👌🏽😄😄
Dang Angel! She just messed up big time. Unfortunately, Angel decided to mess up the good things coming her way. NJ, I am so sorry that you had to experience such behavior from Angel. You definitely did the right thing. God bless you and your family ❤❤❤
AMEN!!🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you so much, Sir🤍🤍🤍 God bless you and your family, too🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I subscribed when I heard you spoke Igbo cos I like to support my people. Love from Canada 🇨🇦 🇨🇦🇨🇦
Best story teller😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you!💃🏽💃🏽😄🤍
Some house help can be so ungrateful. I like the way you handled the issue
Thank you🤍
Your spirit was calm not because she was a good person but because you are a genuinely good person. It was you all along not her.
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NJ, God delivered you frpm her. Thank God for strange deliverance
Thank you🤍
Nj please we need more sitdwn stories let diz biko , e d sweet person 😊
Thank you!💃🏽😄🤍
I thought having live-in helps was luxury until I had my triplet. I've seen shege but thank God my kids are growing and have started daycare. I now have one help and we are coping. She's not perfect but she's willing to stay.
Thank God!🙏🏼 "Willing to stay", that's the keyword here. I'm sorry you saw shege😄 It's just sad. Thank you so much for sharing🤍🤍🤍 My love to the triplets🤍🤍
Na she loose...
Glad you listened to your siblings advice.
Don't stop being good dear ❤
Thank you so much, Uzo🤍🤍
Hmmmm
That’s sad some people misuse opportunity that others are looking for.
Wow 😮. Her response to the text message you sent to her shocked me more.
My dear! E shock me!🤦🏽♀️
You have a good heart, Nj! Angel lost big time. Someday she'd realise it but it could be too late.
Thank you🤍🤍
NJ oooo..... 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
Just learn. No one is saying you shouldn't be nice but there should just be a limit.
Yeah, I kinda get that now🤷🏽♀️🤍
welcome back NJ!
Thank you, Sir!🤍🤍🤍
@@BanterWithNj You are welcome 🤗❤️
Nj your right!!!!!! It’s nice people that this helps show shege, I agree
It's just sad.
There is no maybe Nj. No room for regret. You did your part really well. Whoever will stay will surely stay ❤
True. Thank you🤍
Nj Ur eyes eeeh😂😂😂 fear just dey catch me!
Omoh this story eeh😢 some helps sha may God have mercy on them
AMEN!!🙏🏼😄🤍
Me watching similar things my mom experienced with her girl and even more. The girl actually left today today. My mom was still feeling bad that she sent her today. I told her not to feel bad, after all the good good things she did for this girl. They are never grateful, no matter how nice you are to them. Very wicked people. It is well
That's so sad! I'm so sorry your mum went through that. It's almost like the nicer you are to them, the more they misbehave! They take that niceness for granted, and it becomes so annoying and confusing at some point, cos why?!!! Please tell your mum not to feel bad. She did the right thing🫂 Thank you so much for sharing🤍🤍🤍 My love to your mum🤍🤍
@@BanterWithNjmy husband told me when my maid left on Sunday…..’’toks and I was happy u got it right with this one’ …I told him…see I got it right but her head is not correct….telling me ehn…as I’m a boss she too is a boss. She hates to take correction from me in my husband’s presence
Heeeeeeeeh... The ending shocked me o 😂 The way I shouted "Heeeeiiii".
Wow NJ I am soooo sorry! Eiiiii Angel see how wild she is! Bad girl oooo the way she really faked who and how she is. Thank God she didn't bring anyone to your house to place you in danger. Glory to God nothing like that happened. Sorry ooo NJ she took your kindness as a weakness.
Thank you so much🤍🤍🤍
NWA! You did the right thing obviously.Anywaysihave missed you ooo NJ.
Awww.. Thank you!🤗🤍🤍🤍
Thank God that you collected your line back. Its very important 😂😂😂😂
Yeah!👌🏽🤍
I trust Nelo Okeke to do a good job in taking everything back🤣😅😅 She was definitely the best person to be there at the right time & place🤣😅 House help stories are just one that you will keep swapping till you find a good one. Please don’t be too quick to do a YT video with them esp the ones that’re social media friendly. Your grace & personality will get you a good person eventually. As for the lady, she missed out on a great opportunity cuz we all know how stories like this end. NJ, biko block her number if you can & great job on taking everything back. No time! She dey call you mummy & dey plan exit for back. Mummy lachakwa ya nti ebe’ono! Thank God nothing even happened to her. All these kidnappings happening in Nigeria… yet they will never learn. Odiegwu!
Exactly! I was so scared/ worried till I confirmed she was safe, and her parents had spoken with her!🤦🏽♀️ Thank you🤍🤍
@@BanterWithNj really sad how some parents encourage their children to stay with men...
Some mothers no dey try sha! So sad
It's a mix of good and bad out there
You did very well by doing what you did ❤❤❤
Thank you🤍🤍🤍
Nice people find it hard to get a good help.
Fact!🤦🏽♀️
See your eye expression when you were talking about the phone stuff part. Omo😜😜😜
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Nj you are niceeeeeeeeeeee. Kings come to your rising. this is more than nice. It shows INTENTIONALITY. that you are thinking of a person. That you put yourselves in their shoes
Awww.. Thank you so much!🤍🤍🤍
@@BanterWithNj 🫶🏼🤗
Imagine the Mum calling to tell you nonsense, instead of her to call to apologize and scold her child for been misled by a man, she’s calling for her clothes(mtchewwwww) . NJ you really have a big heart o, you still messaged her after awhile and the human-being even had the guts to be rude to you(SMH). She has seen it that life is not the way she thought about it and calling back, she’s not even serious and trust me she might not even have this type of opportunity again.
May God guide her steps🙏🏼🤍
Chai, aunty NJ I experienced almost the same thing (betrayalof trust and confidence). It was painful eh. I was nice and kind but maybe not to the extreme like you. I cried the day she left because i was like 'after everything?'
You see that ' I collected the things I bought for her' I did the same and I don't regret it, eziokwu. Her mum was so mad that I took the things I gave her.
Some people were like i shouldn't have, yea, but I did... I took the clothes and stuff to the church for welfare because i don't think I'm getting a househelp any time soon.
Awww.. I am so sorry you went through that🫂🤗 I can definitely relate to how painful it must have been. May God help us all🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you for sharing🤍🤍🤍
Thanks for the amazing story
My pleasure😊 Thank you for watching🤍🤍
Children of nowadays. With all the horror stories on line of girls been killed by men they met online. I don't know if they don't read such stories and learn from it. May God help us and our children that they don't neglect our teachings.
Nj Nwanyi oma thanks for praying for her and wishing her well. Time will surely tell. She will grow up someday and deeply regret her actions. Nne you did well by collecting everything you bought for her . Do take care my sister and keep been you, you were created specially by God to be a kind hearted woman. Lot of love.
Thank you so so much!🤍🤍 A big Amen to your prayer🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
When my help acted her drama, people made me feel bad saying I spoilt her and gave her leg
The clothes I bought, the gifts to her sisters
It’s well
I just told myself, next time my boundaries will be stricter
You should never feel bad for being kind. We just learn from our experiences, and like you said, put stricter boundaries going forward🤗🤍🤍🤍
Ah! What do people really want??!! All these young girls! NJ your story sounds same as Nazom's😳😳😳.
And that's how Angel has spoilt the road for others🤦.
NJ you're such a sweet soul❤❤. Thank God things didn't go wrong(I mean, an implicative scenario) before her slimmy side got revealed.
NJ, I reiterate! You're a sweet sweet sweet soul❤.
Thank you so much, Chi😘🤍🤍🤍
God almighty will bless u with babies ❣️❣️
You did well. May God help us all and save us from ingrates.
AMEN!🙏🏼🤍
The girl played her age, truth be told, she loves and respects you. Just that the guy in her life is a destiny killer
So sad, she was not well guided, if only she was more focused. Funny video, I appreciate the little funny clips inserted. You even tried to reach out to her again even with the rude response 😅😅. Small pikin sense, one day, she would know better
Thank you!🤍🤍
She did eat made her happy, so u yoo do wat makes u happy. No one will die for another.
Glad that you have also found a better help.
Yes. Thank God🙏🏼🤍
Ah this story is close to the one I had with my househelp o those girls ehn
I had the same experience with my helper after 2yrs of working for me i did everything i could to make her happy i bought new phone very expensive i was paying her so well i make sure i give extra cash to cover her transportation, eat anything you want as food is not a problem for me, she went on holiday was unable to come back because of cash i paid she came back , one beautiful morning i was waiting for her as usual zhe sent me a message saying i travel to johannesburg so i wont come back. Try calling no response asked her friend what wrong no response i was so so disappointed it wasnt easy for me the whole situation pain me so much.. Not a good expérience especially when you trust and love the person. I took the same decision you come for work i treat you as a worker no extra no pamparing. Let keep it there even if you leave it wont affect me. So my dear NJ just forget about her.
Joha whatttttttttt!!! Hw ? Is she still in Johannesburg ???
Those ones we treat as sisters…😢
Oh no! That's really sad! I am so sorry you went through that, and I'm glad you're doing better🤗 Thank you for sharing🤍🤍🤍
I’m so glad you have cleared your name.
Give it a few months, we’ll see her on nezeville
Ah!😄
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Nj nwannem, it is well with you.
I love your heart, you are a very good person.
May the Lord send good people your way always.
AMEN!🙏🏼 Thank you so much🤍
Hahaha! You even have time to check on her. I block and delete immediately they step out of the gate. They are not worth my time.
My dear, I guess I felt bad at some point. Plus, I really liked her😄
Hahaha! My love dies immediately they leave my house🤣🤣 thank God you have gotten a replacement jaree.
Nj eziboug madu , me wont dare call 🤙🏽 back after I have confirmed she is safe .
Exactly. Block them off.
lol. My help dt I took like a sister. Anytime I caution her in presence of my husband, she wd retreat into her shell. Not wanting to eat or associate. She wd say mummy I dnt like wat u said…in tears!!. I’m like…😮I’m ur boss, I correct u when u are wrong. She’s 35 wit 3 kids and separated from her husband. She packed her bags and left my house one Sunday morning. Maybe she liked my husband or maybe she feels too big to be corrected. 🤷♀️ I’ve discovered that those maids dt have sisters in same town as where they are working dnt blink an eyelid…they are tired of d work they pack to their sisters place.
That's actually true! I'm sorry you went thought that. Thank you for sharing🤍🤍🤍
I think she's not a Bad person,but she allowed herself to be carried away by youthful exuberance.
True!
Agree, the fact that she acknowledged NJ was nice tells me she was good but she got carried away by boys!
Nj,its her loss,there are lots of pple out there waiting for this opportunity, thank God u are over it now, she will definitely regret her actions.
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Chia i feel so sad very disheartened story. This children of this days wow.
The meme videos😂😂
Aunty NJ..I should come and be your house help because I can’t be treated well nd misbehave like this😊😀
Lol😄🤍
I love story time
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Wow…what an ungrateful Angel
I like that Nenye featured in the intro😂😂😂😂
Thank you!😄🤍
It is well. I love your hair ❤❤❤❤
Thank you🤍
Well done my dear not every body have luck for house helps thank God she did not stay modern that for me i will help my self with my sister's for now
Thank you😊🤍🤍
Thank God they didn't use her for pepper soup! Her mum would've accused you...obulu ka isi mee ogo kolu okwu.
Eziokwu! Thank God she was safe!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙌🏽 Thank you🤍🤍
I've learned too early not to be free with helps. If you give a phone. Inspect it regularly.
Right. Thank you🤍
This story is interesting I think I will be the director, where are my cast we need to act this for others to learn a lesson 😂😂😂😂
Nawooo this little girls dis days can overdo
It's crazy! It's almost like it's the same story everywhere!🤦🏽♀️
NJ, If you can recall, the first thing i asked u was "What abt that phone you bought for her.
That girl does not deserve good. She was bad to NJ upon the treatment you gave her as real angel.
Ironbaby, I know! You always had doubts, but I was just too mumuish to see them!😄😄 Thank you🤍🤍🤍
Her loss, what nonsense. May God help this generation
AMEN!!🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you🤍🤍
What!!😳 too bad!
I have had a terrible experience with my nanny, i just sent her away last Saturday. I treated this lafy like my own sister, bought a lot of things for her until people around me were complaining that im too kind to her but the way she treated me ehh
I can imagine! I am really sorry you went through that🫂 You will definitely find the right person someday. Thank you for sharing🤍🤍🤍
Enabling mothers. Househelp matter and story lol. She missed a great opportunity
It's sad nice personalities are not rewarded with like niceness. It was sad to hear you say I've learnt my lesson. I'm like this and I've learnt my lesson too
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I don't blame you for taking all the things you bought back from her, apart from the toiletries.
Some people don't know what they have until they have lost it
Welcome back nj ❤
Thank you🤍🤍
They are on the same Whataspp group, so glad i don't have to deal with them, great Job for taking it all back, the next person will rock it. Thank God you dint fall my hand,LOL
Thank you!🤣🤣🤍
I don't like maids...you did a good job by taking all the tins you bought for her....Angel & her mother smh....I blame the mother
I have had my fair share of ordeals with live-in helps….
Now I am done…l & my kids will continue to manage ourselves
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@@BanterWithNj when I watched my CCTV & saw how my help flung my 2yrs old baby on the floor and almost broke his spinal cord…. A help that hasn’t even stayed 2weeks in my house… she didn’t know cameras were planted all over … some of these helps are damaged beings , a girl I haven’t even spoken to more than 5times since she came… haaaaa
@@ifyodogwuumeh9321NO WAY!!😳🙆🏾♀️ Thank God your son is ok! Jeez!!!!🤦🏽♀️
I have noticed that nice people are not lucky when it comes to house help but you see all these wicked madams, they have the best of house help, I don't know why.
in some extent
You are not wrong 😂😂😂😂
Exactly!👌🏽😄
Very very true