Jason and Tandy- Stillbirth Interview- Don't Talk About the Baby

Jason and Tandy tell their story at our first public filming event. Don't Talk About the Baby is the first documentary to explore the culture of silence surrounding pregnancy loss and infertility.

[@kylam143]

Thank you for sharing your story

[@heidisthoughts5689]

Thanks for sharing

[@deekircher21]

Thank you for sharing

[@stevenikitas8170]

These are very sad videos but they are informative. I knew nothing about stillbirth until I saw them so thank you to you for making the effort, as painful as it certainly is.

[@rosiebevins6348]

so sorry for your loss

[@suzannethompson9261]

So many of us have had losses. I had 5 miscarriages between my first and second

[@aijab5129]

I am sorry for Your loss, it is unbelievably hurtful.Had my angel princess pass away, being 23 weeks, thinking it should be the "save" time, and can only relate to being shocked, lost and having no idea before that it could happen...There are that many questions why..Sending Your family lots of love&best wishes for the future! ❤❤❤

[@amberwestfall720]

I always had a feeling that I wasn’t going to have my baby girl here with me during my pregnancy. I always had bad dreams that my baby was taken from me and I’ll always cry. The day I found out my baby girl didn’t have a heart beat and I just bursted into tears. Until this day I do because she was my first baby and I’ve been trying for 6 years.

[@arieswife8926]

Amber how are you now? You gotten preg. Again? Im very sorry, I lost my baby boy too this year its so traumatic. So freackin unfair

[@robertivers4200]

We had the leaf on the door

[@alisonmonson8978]

I really appreciate your candor and your story resonates a lot with me. I had a loss at 22 1/2 wks on 6/25/2017. I thought I was 25 weeks along and we had only found out the gender (girl) a couple of weeks prior, and we weren’t told of any issues at that time. So at my next regular appointment, they found no heartbeat. The cause was congenital heart failure due to a heart condition I have. I never got a leaf on my door. Unfortunately, I had to be induced and go through the whole thing alone in the cardiac ICU. I really didn’t have enough time to think about it, so I chose not to hold or see my daughter. To this day, my husband and extended family and I don’t talk about it. We never gave her a name or anything. I’m not sure how it would have changed if we’d done those things, but it just seemed too painful at the time. And I had the worst care at the hospital. They kicked my family members out of the room and I did not receive any counseling or suggestions from doctors, nurses, social workers, or anyone. I honestly felt like the only one and beat myself up for so long, just like you said in your story. It really is such a lonely experience. You never see Facebook posts of people delivering silent babies. But fortunately for us, too, we were blessed with an amazing daughter a year later and a son 2 years (almost to the day) later (2018 and 2019, respectively). Thanks again for sharing your experiences, and I’m really glad that you found a good way of not only dealing with your losses, but of getting involved in such a worthy cause. I admire you both ❤️ ❤️

[@KrackKills2013]

Sorry for your loss🌹❤️💞

[@alexisdogskin6906]

My son was stillborn 7/7/18 at 36wks and I'm from Bismarck ND

[@Stephyrodolfo]

Alexis Lee I’m so sorry ❤️

[@heighton7206]

so sorry for your losses. ❤❤

[@kylam143]

I know exactly how u feel my baby boy passed away.

[@kylam143]

U both are strong and I am so sorry

[@desertbreeze69]

There are answers why these things happen and it’s NOT God!!

[@loca2472011]

Dixie Hull Then what are the answers?

[@arieswife8926]

Yeah what are the answers ? I had my stillborn son 4 weeks ago at 29weeks pregnant. Im heartbroken and fucking grieving. I have been praying to have a baby because ive been having infertility and then finally i got pregnant we taught its a miracle...I FELT it was a miracle. Me and my mother spent the whole pregnancy praying to God that everything will be okay...and then this happens??

[@aijab5129]

Aries,so sorry for Your loss, sometimes there are no answers& it hurts that much. How are You doing now? You can answer, if wish privately.

[@daughterofKing1]

why he doesn't let her finish?!

[@andiellison]

I think this is just how they communicate. Every couple has their own style and habits.

[@jon8342]

Shut up

[@ashleyforshaw735]

💖

[@aussiemomma6069]

i often asked why, the answer i got was why not?

[@loca2472011]

Aussie Momma I’m sorry you got that answer. That was uncaring.