At 43 years old, I did vanlife for 1/2 year, then lived off grid in a cabin for 1/2 year in the cold Canadian winter. The biggest lesson I learned is that solitude can quickly turn to isolation. It's a subtle shift when it happens, but has a profound impact on how you experience life. Solitude it great, as long as it's balanced with some companionship.
@@ChristianSchaffer Growing up as an only child, and being an infj, I always felt I had a high threshold. But my cabin experience really put it to the test. That said, I look forward to being back on the road with the van soon. :)
Great song by Emmett Franz recounting the life of Chris McCandless who slipped into the isolation you speak of: th-cam.com/video/PBLSzetYYWs/w-d-xo.html
Even though you disdain urban areas, much of your identity is derived from this source. Education, sense of your physical beauty, sources of income, and more. Now you have created a new identity, and your age and maturity makes you a natural. But your prior self is there. People have been capable travelers for a long time, not a new or original thing. Youre probably best off with people who don't really need you. But could you deal with that? Interesting thing, marketing a freestyle life. Is that ambiguous? How much is drama? Still, well shot and beautiful places, that stay with you as a pure experience. In your minds eye, not on video. The rawer (less comfort) the better you will feel connected. Sing in the woods, play a harmonica. Howl with wolves.
It's a great way to stay stagnant, and possibly spiral into destructive mindsets and habits. So unless you've got a super solid foundation, have fun with your isolation.
I'm an 80-year-old writer and editor who has always longed to live the life you're living. What a wonderful time I've just had watching to of your videos. You seem to be speaking directly to me, and your comments on this second video (the first was your half-our van tour) are so honest and vivid and perfect in the description of how it can be desperately lonely in a crowd and fantastically fulfilling to in solitude. I fell like, in spite of a nearly 50-year age difference, we could have many conversations as you and Mariah Alice did, about the things that matter, that pull us together, that help us reach out and touch each other in the ways that sustain and nourish. I've never subscribed to a TH-cam channel before, but I'm looking forward to what I'll find in your other videos, past and future. Thank you.
Checking back in with you 8 months after your comment. Have you made any steps toward living this type of life? If not, you really should. 3 months, 6 months, heck 2 weeks. What writing content you'd collect! I so hope you do. Life is such an adventure. Please tell us all about it when you do.
@@ChristianSchaffer Interesting share and much appreciated. Loneliness... personally, physically alone 24/7/365 not by choice, but due to life circumstances. I Lost my wife and twin flame to cancer on our 20th wedding anniversary 2019, my father six months later, my mother a year later.:( I Spent a good part of 7 years taking care of each of them. Blessed with two beautiful children that are 19 and 21 out of the home now. Forging their place in life. I'm literally in 4000 sq ft. empty villa and I'm alone physically , mentally, however , I am filled with their beautiful spirits. I am grateful I was given so much from them. Emotionally tied directly to them. Not alone but alone. Not ready to be alone. For now in a rare club, I am alone. Not planning or wanting to be alone. In unique company. Not able to relate because of it , I'm alone in a crowd . Strange however real. Their gifts they shared continues to light me up💕Eternal. Together. One . Alone , lone , not lonely.
@@egreens8512 I'm the opposite; so many people but always alone, 24/7 😥 I think I got used to it. I have no other option... I want a mobile home too 🚐 just to get lost of everything... Plus I love be around Mother Nature peacefully.
I feel the same. However once you accept that you are different than most of those people around you - and you are cool with that - it gets easier. We are all different - ultimately, which is probably a good thing. But reading comments like these here help you realise some people (albeit a minority) think the same, and this helps reduce any social pressures to conform to what is commonly perceived as 'normal', and allow you to be you.
I'm 53 and my friends sometimes don't understand my need to be alone. I too enjoy socializing and being around my friends. I enjoy trips alone, just me and a book, fresh air, a lake, woods. Being a extrovert/introvert to me is a blessing.
Nature has so much to offer if we just stop, look, and listen. Everyday is a gift to cherish. A positive attitude, good health, and a simple smile can work wonders. They are priceless.
“Just because you’re in a house. With your friends and with your family and with your community. You can still be lonely.” Wow, this speaks to me so much. Thank you for this video, you are truly inspiring❤️
This is the first time I have ever left a comment on the internet... I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your content. It's genuine and I appreciate you being willing to put yourself out there to share your experiences.
Thanks for sharing your van life with us while i am considering about having a van life in the future. YOU are really a beautiful person on both inside and appearance!!!!!
Thank you amazing video of nature and sharing your adventure. I guess you need somebody to make you not lonely. I pray that the Lord will guide you with his wisdom.
Every remote or nomadic arrangement requires actively dealing with loneliness and various kinds of isolation. It doesn't even require a road. Thank you for sharing.
Appreciate your videos. I choose to be Alone or by myself instead of being lonely. I've been living in a shed behind a gas station for the past two and a half years. Before that i spent years living in my truck. I like solitude and try hard not to let isolation creep into my state of mind. You keep posting and I'll keep watching 🙏👍😎🐕🦺
There are so many ambiverts out there that just watched this and thought “damn that’s totally me!” You’ve touched many of your viewers/subscribers today with your candor and courage to share these vulnerabilities… it’s so much appreciated! For those of us with significant others that are not ambiverts, it’s important that they understand and support this side of you.
There were so many incredible life lessons in this short video that I sent it to my 21-year old daughter who has now subscribed to your channel and instagram. There's something very unique and incredible about the way you combine video, photography and your own comments. Your explanation on how spending time alone made you feel less alone was so profound! So glad I came across your channel. It's a breath of fresh air and believe me, the world needs a lot of fresh air right now :) Safe travels!
Please look after yourself Christian, I was sensing some sadness in your spirit. I hope you are okay. Remember if you are feeling lonely you are not alone, a vast majority of people feel the same way, but most people are good at faking it. I love your authenticity and your bravery to follow your truth, something our society needs more of. Sending you much love 💕💕.
Can’t decide what I like most. Your words or your videos. I feel myself seeing your video as if I’m you. Really takes me back to what is life all about. How do you live your dreams. Thanks for being such a good storyteller and visionary.
Preach. This is the first video I've ever watched of yours. I started watching because I'm interested in doing either short or long-term boondocking. But I expected you to say you were lonely because you needed more people around you. You surprised me, and what you describe is exactly how I feel almost 100% of the time. I have to pick my moments with people, and admittedly they are few and far between. I'll keep watching your videos. Be well.
Yay!!! 100,000 subscribers!!! Congratulations 🍾. This video is my favorite. I really feel that when you express yourself like this you will keep climbing. The people you touch and reach makes a HUGE difference. Some don’t understand why they feel the way they do and when you share, it helps them. Good job! Love ya, Mom
I am so glad i stumbled onto your channel after resarching Vanlife builds. No one has ever explained so well the way I feel about ME. It just gave me complete validation on how/who Iam. I love people, but can;t be around too many for too long. I love the wild, and solitude and my sould craves it. Thank you. So much.
Can’t thank you enough for your honesty and authenticity. Feel exactly the same about loneliness. Love the “extroverted introvert”. That’s me for sure too. The nature videos and stills are absolutely stunning. Thanks for sharing your incredible talent on your channel. Stay safe and look forward to your next video.
Thank you Christian. The intimacy of your pictures and videos is amazing. So many of your photos seem like they should be in a gallery for viewing. The glimpses of your personal life and experiences also carry a feeling of intimacy in your honesty and willingness to share. 100k is very nice but I hope a mere shadow of things to come.
Stay "strong" girl!!! I was absolutely alone during the ENTIRE pandemic without family and friends for over an entire year and I deal better without people due to the fact that a lot of people bring "unnecessary noise"....Kudos
When you are in touch with yourself you’re never alone. But when you’re not in touch, then you’re truly alone. ✨☺️Beautiful pictures, music thoughts 🙏🏼
This was such a good video and so true. Loneliness is just about who's around you. It's good to see someone looking to strive for balance. I'm an introverted extrovert too. There are times where I need to be alone in my own thoughts and other times, I like to be around people in large crowds, it just depends. I love Mariah's videos too. You both give such honest perspectives of life on the road.
Based on the comments so far, sounds like there are quite a lot of us extroverted introverts 😊🙌🏻 It’s nice knowing we’re not alone in this otherwise extroverted world
@@ChristianSchaffer I identified myself with that part of the video and made me smile (like: "that's me!"). I love the views on this video! 🌅😍🏞 So peaceful... I'm in love with Mother Nature. Every time I get the chance I enjoy Mother Nature and use that moment to be with myself and think... I would like to have a mobile home too 🚐 and be able to travel US 🇺🇲; and beyond... 💖
Great comment - 'Loneliness is just about who's around you.' pretty much sums it up for me. Being alone outside intensifies the experience, and connection with the natural surroundings. Being with someone at that moment who 'gets it' is super special, however that is rare and more often than not, is not the case and that leaves one feeling lonely.
@@Mike-qz4pi The loneliest I've ever felt, were the times I tried to hold onto a relationship with someone who no longer wanted to be with me. Agonizing loneliness. The kind that sends me to counseling with someone qualified to help me learn and, hopefully, learn more about myself, and go back to loving life.
I had my first cup 'o joe with ya this morning. I love the way you just put it out there. Most people can't. Love your heart about your G-pa...he looks really cool. There is nothing like nature, and you can only really get that art, by being in the gallery. I feel that being immersed in natural beauty, can bleed into you, and make you more beautiful too. It does. I was raised in a beautiful place, and it's still with me. I need more of that! Thanks for sharing your art and your heart...it's, really, really nice.
Congrats on the milestone of 100K! Doesn't surprise me as your personality is very engaging and your photography skills are wonderful. Keep producing the wonderful content. Your honesty about your personal vision is refreshing.
I’ll be honest and admit I was drawn to watch you because you are stunning, but I’m glad to stay because you back that up with intelligence, honesty and interesting content. I still haven’t started my UK van-life yet but I’m inspired by your posts. This one especially resonates with me, being alone in a crowd, even surrounded by friends, has always been the hardest part of socialising for me. I can small-talk a bit, but I’m a sheep, not a wolf, and do much better listening and responding rather than driving the discussion. I spend a lot of time alone here at home, so when I start travelling it won’t be much of a shock. And although I will still get lonely having people like you to draw inspiration and understanding from will be invaluable. Thank you for sharing your life with us ❤
OH MY GOODNESS Christian! Hearing you describe how you feel regarding socializing and enjoying your solitude really hit home for me. I thought I was the only one on earth who felt this way. I believe more people feel this way but are afraid to admit it or like me, they feel they are different than everyone else. You are so awesome, love your channel.
And here I was thinking the exact same thing! I've always felt out of the loop for some reason, and this video really struck a chord with me. It's got me thinking about stuff in a different way now. I feel like I need a road trip away from everything and everyone.
Came across your channel recently, in fact, this is only the second video of yours that I've watched. What struck me about what you said, is that you're the first person who I've ever heard describe exactly how I've felt my entire life. How you need your alone time and actually become a different person (irritable, etc) if you're around people too much. All those things you described about yourself felt like you were describing me, including the "extroverted introvert". It's all me, too. Thank you for sharing this. It really meant more to me than I can express. From a fellow Washington native.
Realizing one's need for solitude - free of guilt and/or others' expectations - is one of the most poignant moments of self awareness we can have. Drive on!
Thank you for such a wonderful honest video. So many of us are like you but people don’t understand and they get hurt or angry that we need alone time. Stay safe beautiful lady.
Beautiful and honest. One of the other things I found add to the loneliness on the road is also one of the biggest draws. The not having a schedule, being able to wake up and literally go in any direction. It can be overwhelming and making all of those decisions on one's own without anyone to bounce them off can be extremely lonely. You touch on this this in the should I wait for the ferry out drive section of this video.
Thank you for sharing this truth! I have felt so misunderstood for so long with how much I enjoy being by myself. I, too never have found the boundary where I feel like I need people. I pray I find a guy who mirrors the beautiful relationship independence that you two have.
All I can say is WOW you are a very inspirational young lady, you are amazing. Very sorry for your loss but I’m sure he is looking down on you keeping you safe. X
I really appreciate your honesty and addressing what your audience is asking. Very intimate and vulnerable, thank you for sharing. I moved to California in 2018 and have felt that same loneliness that you describe. People, crowds and even the workplace is not the fit. I find joy and comfort in nature and the more I explore. Most of my friends and community is on the east coast and I find it harder to find that community as I age (47 SWM). I've been fantasizing about the van life. Hopefully soon I get to experience the ups and downs of that lifestyle. Your honesty is awesome, but please don't feel youtube pressure or stress to post something. We are here when you are ready. Safe travels, mentally, spiritually and physically.
Loved the Ebbys Landing footage and all the other gorgeous spots you capture so beautifully. Relate 100% to the need for alone time and the extroverted introvert personality style. Love your videos and videography. Thank you ~
I appreciate the honesty, there sites/videos that you watch and they tend to sugar coat it, some people thrive well while others need the safety factor of familiarity, keeping being you
How beautiful that you both acknowledge each others needs for "alone time" and celebrate being apart while still connected. I've always wondered if there is a being on the road "too long" or being alone "too long", by nature, I think as humans we need to connect with others. So the fact that you are alone and not really ever alone is great to see. You take the time to spend it with others and talk. It's incredible how much we can learn from others just by listening. Everyone has a story. So many times you watch these videos and think "wow, they are in total isolation". Thank you for your continued content of being real and also including some of the most incredible scenery that I have ever seen. Enjoy the journey.
I feel most full emotionally full when I’m 20 out in the backcountry-no one around-no light pollution and myself with my thoughts.I like to cook for myself,and I really enjoy sitting down at my folding table after cooking a great healthy meal from the back of my 4 Runner,with the stars to look at.
Thanks so much for this video. The beauty of the Olympic Peninsula as well as your other locations is exactly why I subscribe to your channel. The beauty of our country shown through your amazing photography and video production is Amazing.
I can totally relate to the "need" for alone time. While I do enjoy a night out with close friends (preferably one at a time), I almost prefer solitude. I love going to the beach by myself so I can hear the ocean waves crashing along the shoreline, without the interruption of someone talking over them. I like to take life at my own pace and not have someone trying to hurry me up or slow me down.
i've felt intense loneliness throughout my life, this has been the first yr solitude has been my bliss, van life, introversion, and the great outdoors just feels amazing
You are very good at expressing yourself, talking about your thoughts and feelings. Very interesting! And your amazing intro with so many beautiful pictures/videos!
even though this is an old vid, I have to say that your cinematography is off the charts. Truly a visual pleasure watching your content. Keep it up !!!!
I love this video and I have just found your channel today after a road trip to Scotland and realising why I just never feel happy living in suburbia. When I lived I the USA I was fortunate to travel 5 States but with a male friend. I would love to try van life as a next step, it's the security that worries me, but it's probably safer than being in any of our UK cities! I really resonated with you needing your 'alone' time and the surface level conversations. I have felt for a long time I don't fit into the norms of what I was brought up to believe life should be. I love nature and travel, my soul feels happiest there, but also with my loved ones. Thank you for your videos, they are very helpful.
the best part was at 8:12 where the music stopped, the cutscene from the van, the beach, to the forest, the stillness and just the sounds of nature, the "silence" was :)
I’m an outgoing introvert in a converted ambo. 😍. Also from WA. I feel this so deep. It’s so hard to understand how majority of people don’t crave and love alone time.
I love the depth of your conversations...no shallow talk. Sooo refreshing. I know that feeling of boredom and loneliness in a crowd. The lack of 'meaty' discussion, that I too find draining. Continue your authenticity. ❤❤❤❤
My goodness, you articulated so well what I have felt about the loneliness of being in crowds and the societal expectations that you must feel at home in crowded events, yet I could never put into words myself, despite having a PhD. Pity you are not here in England.. I'd love to chat with someone like you who understands that introverts can be extroverts sometimes too. Great authentic video.
I'm a former extrovert (read all of this and you can claim bull on the former part - ROFL), beaten into outward introversion by society due to my brain damage, past stuttering and auditory memory issues making my communication dialogue skills for those who hate to think = zero (its not there!). And yeah, I do feel along in a crowd. No one gets me. I talk intelligent but then my brain snaps and adds rubbish because of the brain damage, the intelligent people run and join the idiots who hate to think. Don't blame them! I don't know what to say to people most of the time anyway. I did a 28 day solo camping trip and missed people, so would go into town to just see people. It taught me that 'the life wasn't for me' but....here I am, older, realizing I'll never have people IN my life where I have true comraderie, so why not do this vanlifing? I had Reactive Attachment Disorder and Austictic symptoms with the wrong food allergies so people run where I live - USA. I'm here, researching and trying to find that reality check that makes me go 'nope, can not do this' while I can't wait to jump in and just go! I have Shaken Baby syndrome, high functioning, do drive, and have my Zevy for company (stuffed miyoni timberwolf). Will I bite the bullet after my dad moves into Nursing home? Probably. It means my sister goes homeless OR gets a roommate, because my townhome will be rented for $2000 with me paying the HOA fees. My stuff will go into storage, and I'll have my income going into a trust account so that I can actually afford reality with food allergies and an economy that cost more and more while my SSDI never keeps up with the true cost of living. I also hope to get a CDL license so that maybe I can learn to tow a vehicle and drive a Class C so I get more luxuries. ROFL So, Van conversion on the cheap - Throw in a British camper's loo, fold-up table, fold-up mattress (save the lungs), sleeping bag, 7-day cooler, campers chair(s) and away you go! Take some foam poster board, glue misc. crap to it to make it look like a homeless dump to put in plan site, so that no one bothers rummaging your car and nicking thing. Fake security. ROFL (It doesn't really work though, because you'll have the cops breathing down your back depending on where you put the vehicle.) Best Wishes from someone who wanted to get a Ph.D in Maths, Sociology, Quantum Physics-Maths-Computers but managed a BS in Social Sciences (brain randomly shows up, so I failed at all jobs.) I just wanted you to know my story for another perspective Extrovert to outward introvert. Thanks!
I just started following you and I loved this video so much. I related on so many levels. I was the loneliest of my life when I was married. And now I live in the rural countryside and I never feel alone. Thank you for your amazing videos xx
I can relate to so much in this video and the views are stunning. Being the front man in a band and not wanting to be the center of attention makes being alone so satisfying. Can’t waiting until my van is ready to get away and meet some souls like you all. Or maybe not. Haha. I really like following Mariah too. Congrats on 100k.
This video was very comforting to me. I thought I was the only one that loved being alone. And same thing, introverted extrovert! Friends always asked me “why are you alone all the time?” Or “why do you go out to eat alone”? Because it’s BLISSFUL when you enjoy and love your own company ❤️
Sorry, we are not meant to be alone. We are born into the crucible of relationship. We are naturally tribal . Mental illness is often measure by one’s community contribution. Two hearts are better than one. We do need solitude in order to recharge but mindfully measured . Even nomadic tribes , travel together. The person who has their “tent outside the tribe” is often considered someone who is an outcast. Why would you subject yourself to that as a lifestyle. You are a true introvert. I agree that a career where you can achieve that measured solitude but still be part of a community sounds balanced.
It's so refreshing to know other introvert/extrovert ppl are among me , more than I realized ❤️ I just took a 16 + hr road trip adventure from NH to the Carolinas and back , I went with my bf. I could've just gone alone & I would've enjoyed my own company aswell. I admire your ability to be true to yourself & I truly understand your lifestyle 💜 I'd love to meet ya one-day ☺️ I had a funny moment while on my own rode adventure....I passed a van that looked so similar to yours and I thought 💭 I wonder if it was you lol
So beautifully shot. The landscape takes my breath away... You're in all my favorite spots, and since I am stuck in Florida (for now) it is like a well needed reminder of where my goals lie! Ditto on the dislike of obligatory small talk in crowds... so exhausting ... every business event ever.
I'm in my mid thirties and just kinda realizing this same thing about myself. I get along just fine in groups of people - when I want to be. But I really enjoy having time to myself and quiet. Terms like "homebody" and "introvert" always carried a somewhat negative connotation growing up and it took some time for me to understand that this is completely, totally okay.
Same, I always thought something was wrong with me growing up- and throughout all of my twenties. I wish I knew then that alone time was healthy and normal and some of us just need more than others 💁🏼♀️
It is totally okay. I'm 77, and in my mid-thirties, newly separated from my husband, because he told me he no longer wanted to be married to me, yet he refused to leave our home, and to stay in a house with someone you thought you knew, but who had become a cold stranger - was uniquely and agonizingly, lonely. I had to learn to grieve for someone who was still alive, and the only way I was able to do it was to move out and learn to be alone, and, with counseling, learn that I enjoyed my own company. It took another marriage and another living death, and much counseling, meditation, walks, the healing hands of expert massage therapists, yoga, hugs from valued friends, to gain the wisdom of solitude, and the healing benefits of deep breathing. It helped that I lived in Kitsap County, Washington state for 18.5 years, where I took many a day or weekend round trip visit to Seattle, the North Cascade National Park, the Olympic Peninsula, Vancouver WA and BC, etc., sometimes alone, sometimes with my best friend, sometimes with my brother, who lived in Vancouver WA with his wife and two daughters. Then I moved to Mount Vernon, Skagit County where I spent the last eighteen months of my 21 years in WA State. I miss my heart-home, and am so glad to see it via the lens of Christian's cameras and her eyes and the lens and eyes of other gifted nomads. It is not only okay to be alone and enjoy solitude, it is mentally, physically, and spiritually healthy. TO BE ALONE AND ENJOY SOLITUDE - IS MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY AND SPIRITUALLY HEALTHY! ~ Alice, the Sometimes Wise One, Sullivan. It would be sad to be 77.5 and not to have learned any life-affirming knowledge. "I'M OKAY, YOU'RE OKAY" is a good book, as is "SURVIVING THE LOSS OF A LOVE".
I asked this question on one of your other videos. I apologize for asking a question you obviously answer a lot. I admire you so much, I am an introvert with chronic OCD. I sometimes would just love to live in a van away from everyone and all sounds of life. But as introverted as I am, even I need people around me at times. With everything that has been going on around the world the last 2 years, I have had my alone time now. I love your videos by the way and I cannot stop watching.
The most lonely I have ever been in my life is when I have been in a close relationship with someone and struggle to find myself. I am comfortable being alone, sometimes I think too comfortable, believing (or perhaps programmed to believe) it is not healthy to live a solitary life. I do like people but I like them on my own terms and that is rarely what I get when I am around people, particularly the same people, all the time. I am very outgoing, quick witted, smart, a vast bank of trivial information, funny (and humble, LOL) so people do like to be around me but I can easily feel suffocated and need to rush to a safe place to spend some quality time with myself. So honestly, I do understand how you feel. I think the more we become in touch with ourselves, the less we want to be in a position to require the approval of others. Strangely, I do like living in the City, particularly now that I am in my 70s. I believe it is a convenience thing more than anything else but I like having my personal fortress within that City. Life is such a complex and layered thing and is so different for each individual. I think you have found your niche and I hope that you will always remember to be truest to yourself no matter how much greener the grass may look on the other side of the fence or no matter how much or in what ways you believe your decisions may impact others.
Wow, I can relate to what you're saying so much!! The feeling of being lonely while being surrounded with friends, but not while being on my own. I need to recharge just like you. I've just started watching your videos and I love them!! They are so helpful and really speak to my adventurous nature!! Maybe I'll see you on the road one day!!...
As a senior and having spent my entire life alone I can honestly say the loneliness disappeared when I invited God back into my life. Don't forget to make room for God in your life because at the end of the day, that's all we really have!
In my opinion, this is your best video so far. The beautiful footages along with your feelings and thoughts about vanlife make it very tasteful. Thanks for sharing 👍
Hey. I was a little taken aback, how you so completely summed up my thoughts. I live mostly off grid on the Tasman Peninsula, Tasmania, Australia. At times I “Miss” people, but I don’t really ever feel alone. My life has been one of working in festivals, events, and being around people. I gave that all up, and have felt free since. Your statement about feeling alone at a party, rings true. New Years Eve…I was invited to a party….. sat there with 20+ people, and felt completely alone. I can talk and pretend I’m into it….but left feeling like I’d rather had been at home reading a book. I’ve seen two of your posts, the other about the bad things about Vanlife. I appreciate your honesty. Very refreshing in this fake, fAke social media world. New subscriber. Rob, Tasmania, Australia 🇦🇺
Hey Christian, I can totally relate with the emotional roller coaster you describe. In my 46yrs of living, being the youngest of 10 children, I always felt alone surrounded by everyone and was always super happy and content sitting by myself with a drawing pad or just watching the river flow through the rocks and trees as the wind blew gently. My career choice to be a Marine was something that took me away from all that... and THAT was super hard for me. So, I've had to learn why at some moments I'm the life of the party and the center of attention but, other times I just can't be around anyone. And I learned I'm not so much of an Introvert or an Extrovert as much as I'm an Ambivert. With small bouts of being very out going and charismatic, I truly cherish my alone time to recharge and reflect. Loneliness doesn't hit as hard knowing when I need to be around people, and that's my new regulation. Also, I always wondered why I hated small talk and always looked at the deeper meaning of things. Thinking I was always an Alpha male, I never questioned myself; just bared through it. But, recently I have discovered the meaning of the Sigma male personality... and THAT is what I find myself to be to a "T"; Artistic, creative, thoughtful, and a focused lone wolf. My workouts keep me focused on my health while my mind wanders the concepts of my heart, and I fill the inbetween with meaningful habits. I love that you made this video... and hope this encourages (if not, inspires) you to make more. Look into Ambiverts and Sigma personalities where you seem to have some of the traits. Happy van lifing and stay amazing 👍
OMG Christian, thank you ... I'm 7 days from moving in to my van. My soul yearns for the open road and all its solitude and adventure ... it's so close I can taste it. I relate to so much of what you said, especially about not being good at small talk. I love the honesty, beauty and grace that you offer us all through your thoughts, words and images. This video is my fave. Keep shinin your truth sistah, you so inspire me
Check out the Myers Briggs personality test. You sound like you may be an INFJ (or similar) personality. Makes perfect sense to need a little isolation to recharge. 💙
What I’m looking at in this video looks so calm, relaxing and beautiful. Then it also looks lonely and dangerous being alone in the outside, not knowing if or when some lunatic will walk up on me. No one living this kind of life so far has said they have guns with them for protection, and if they do they would be wise. I wish we lived in a world full of love and respect for each other but we don’t so I couldn’t live this life even with someone. I wish you joy, peace, safety and happiness on your journey.
Christian, you are a very remarkable women, your knowledge, honesty and openness to touch on and share your feelings about an important and sensitive aspect in life, like loneliness speaks volumes of your character. Truly uplifting and motivating, thank you.
It takes strength, self respect and self confidence to be comfortable alone. Being alone and being lonely are not the same. Totally relate to loneliness and crowds. Ha! Mariah and Finn are on quite the journey. Was nice to see her through a different lens.
I back packed through Europe and the Middle East for a year when I was young and it was such a magical time. All those deep yet transient connections that are still with me. Now I’m near retirement and seeing your life of freedom and beauty bought memories and a tear to my eyes. I feel like I’ve missed so much on some level since then. You’re a lovely spirit. May your adventures bring you joy.
This video certainly hit home for me. I have been down a van life TH-cam rabbit home recently and came upon your channel tonight. I am now a subscriber, and look forward to more posts!
You are one inspiring lady in more ways than you can imagine. Looking at your videos is a true feast and the way you let shine your introspective nature in such beautiful ways is refreshing and authentic. Know that you are galvanizing a full time single mom with a gorgeous pre-teen to convert a Sprinter and take the road many months a year. Thanks for being you.
I so connect with what you share here. I am an introvert, very comfortable with being alone and not lonely. I can open up and be extroverted when I am with friends and people I know. Thanks for sharing real life.
OMG! You are so beautiful and deep! I am an attractive super outgoing woman and you just helped me understand the introvert/extrovert personality. It actually brought tears to my eyes, and I rarely cry. I felt understood. Thank you. I just took a two-month cross-country solo driving trip in my Prius. Hiked in amazing places and not once did I feel lonely. I felt so happy and at peace. As you mentioned the loneliest I've felt has been with large groups of people having fun, but lacking deep connection. Pure emptiness. Thank you because it's the first time I've heard someone describe me out loud. Stay safe and happy.
Wow...You have pinpointed it best...As a young man I traveled this country extensively on a dime and a prayer & enjoyed/learned from every minute of it...When I felt like you are relating to, I just said screw it & hiked the Appalachian trail one summer...Absolutely recharged the batteries!!!...A few years later, I did the Pacific Crest & found the same inner peace....Fast forward to almost 50 years later, I have the yearning to do something similar....Bless your soul!!!!
That intro got me. Loving the new vlog style. Also so well said on loneliness. Oddly feeling most alone around big crowds. Glad to see I made the cut!
duhh you made the cut. let’s all get out on a hike when you get back 😊
Drew Simms! Hello!? I love the channel. Big fan my dude. Just watched your most recent video.
I don’t think it’s odd at all. The only time I ever feel lonely is in groups of people.
@@ChristianSchafferhi my name is Mike Horton and I love your video very much
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At 43 years old, I did vanlife for 1/2 year, then lived off grid in a cabin for 1/2 year in the cold Canadian winter. The biggest lesson I learned is that solitude can quickly turn to isolation. It's a subtle shift when it happens, but has a profound impact on how you experience life. Solitude it great, as long as it's balanced with some companionship.
Yeah I could definitely see that happening at some point. It’s interesting how we all have such different thresholds
@@ChristianSchaffer Growing up as an only child, and being an infj, I always felt I had a high threshold. But my cabin experience really put it to the test. That said, I look forward to being back on the road with the van soon. :)
That is definitely an opinion, not a truth define companionship ? That can be in many forms as well
Great song by Emmett Franz recounting the life of Chris McCandless who slipped into the isolation you speak of: th-cam.com/video/PBLSzetYYWs/w-d-xo.html
Even though you disdain urban areas, much of your identity is derived from this source. Education, sense of your physical beauty, sources of income, and more. Now you have created a new identity, and your age and maturity makes you a natural. But your prior self is there. People have been capable travelers for a long time, not a new or original thing. Youre probably best off with people who don't really need you. But could you deal with that? Interesting thing, marketing a freestyle life. Is that ambiguous? How much is drama? Still, well shot and beautiful places, that stay with you as a pure experience. In your minds eye, not on video. The rawer (less comfort) the better you will feel connected. Sing in the woods, play a harmonica. Howl with wolves.
"Being alone for a while is dangerous. It's addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don't want to deal with people anymore." - Tom Hardly
Total bs
It's a great way to stay stagnant, and possibly spiral into destructive mindsets and habits. So unless you've got a super solid foundation, have fun with your isolation.
I mean not everyone is the same. This sounds like a form of punishment for extroverts lol
@@aaron___6014rather weak depending your own growth solely on other people to be honest.
I love my solitary life…. No regrets.
I'm an 80-year-old writer and editor who has always longed to live the life you're living. What a wonderful time I've just had watching to of your videos. You seem to be speaking directly to me, and your comments on this second video (the first was your half-our van tour) are so honest and vivid and perfect in the description of how it can be desperately lonely in a crowd and fantastically fulfilling to in solitude. I fell like, in spite of a nearly 50-year age difference, we could have many conversations as you and Mariah Alice did, about the things that matter, that pull us together, that help us reach out and touch each other in the ways that sustain and nourish. I've never subscribed to a TH-cam channel before, but I'm looking forward to what I'll find in your other videos, past and future. Thank you.
Me too! 61 years old.
Checking back in with you 8 months after your comment. Have you made any steps toward living this type of life? If not, you really should. 3 months, 6 months, heck 2 weeks. What writing content you'd collect! I so hope you do. Life is such an adventure. Please tell us all about it when you do.
That's beautiful!
Loneliness is such a strange feeling, especially when you’re with people. That’s the worst kind of loneliness.
I know that feeling...
agreed 👏🏻
@@ChristianSchaffer Interesting share and much appreciated. Loneliness... personally, physically alone 24/7/365 not by choice, but due to life circumstances. I Lost my wife and twin flame to cancer on our 20th wedding anniversary 2019, my father six months later, my mother a year later.:( I Spent a good part of 7 years taking care of each of them. Blessed with two beautiful children that are 19 and 21 out of the home now. Forging their place in life. I'm literally in 4000 sq ft. empty villa and I'm alone physically , mentally, however , I am filled with their beautiful spirits. I am grateful I was given so much from them. Emotionally tied directly to them. Not alone but alone. Not ready to be alone. For now in a rare club, I am alone. Not planning or wanting to be alone. In unique company. Not able to relate because of it , I'm alone in a crowd . Strange however real. Their gifts they shared continues to light me up💕Eternal. Together. One . Alone , lone , not lonely.
@@egreens8512 I'm the opposite; so many people but always alone, 24/7 😥 I think I got used to it. I have no other option... I want a mobile home too 🚐 just to get lost of everything... Plus I love be around Mother Nature peacefully.
I feel the same. However once you accept that you are different than most of those people around you - and you are cool with that - it gets easier. We are all different - ultimately, which is probably a good thing. But reading comments like these here help you realise some people (albeit a minority) think the same, and this helps reduce any social pressures to conform to what is commonly perceived as 'normal', and allow you to be you.
I'm 53 and my friends sometimes don't understand my need to be alone. I too enjoy socializing and being around my friends. I enjoy trips alone, just me and a book, fresh air, a lake, woods. Being a extrovert/introvert to me is a blessing.
Nature has so much to offer if we just stop, look, and listen. Everyday is a gift to cherish. A positive attitude, good health, and a simple smile can work wonders. They are priceless.
All the things that you listed that can work wonders is not from nature but from your own mind.
“Just because you’re in a house. With your friends and with your family and with your community. You can still be lonely.” Wow, this speaks to me so much. Thank you for this video, you are truly inspiring❤️
This is the first time I have ever left a comment on the internet...
I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your content. It's genuine and I appreciate you being willing to put yourself out there to share your experiences.
Thanks for sharing your van life with us while i am considering about having a van life in the future. YOU are really a beautiful person on both inside and appearance!!!!!
Beautiful soul ✨ thank you for shining your light. Your videos are a perfect blend of realness and art. 💕
Thank you for the love 😭💕
Thank you amazing video of nature and sharing your adventure. I guess you need somebody to make you not lonely. I pray that the Lord will guide you with his wisdom.
Okay. You are a poet of film, photography, and word. You make the world a better place for all of us. Thank you.
Every remote or nomadic arrangement requires actively dealing with loneliness and various kinds of isolation. It doesn't even require a road. Thank you for sharing.
Any relations to Charlie?!
Appreciate your videos. I choose to be Alone or by myself instead of being lonely. I've been living in a shed behind a gas station for the past two and a half years. Before that i spent years living in my truck. I like solitude and try hard not to let isolation creep into my state of mind. You keep posting and I'll keep watching 🙏👍😎🐕🦺
There are so many ambiverts out there that just watched this and thought “damn that’s totally me!” You’ve touched many of your viewers/subscribers today with your candor and courage to share these vulnerabilities… it’s so much appreciated! For those of us with significant others that are not ambiverts, it’s important that they understand and support this side of you.
All I can say to this comment is: Yessssssss
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INTJ too I bet.
There were so many incredible life lessons in this short video that I sent it to my 21-year old daughter who has now subscribed to your channel and instagram. There's something very unique and incredible about the way you combine video, photography and your own comments. Your explanation on how spending time alone made you feel less alone was so profound! So glad I came across your channel. It's a breath of fresh air and believe me, the world needs a lot of fresh air right now :) Safe travels!
Please look after yourself Christian, I was sensing some sadness in your spirit. I hope you are okay. Remember if you are feeling lonely you are not alone, a vast majority of people feel the same way, but most people are good at faking it. I love your authenticity and your bravery to follow your truth, something our society needs more of. Sending you much love 💕💕.
Mt Baker is a glorious place...excellent camera work.
Can’t decide what I like most. Your words or your videos. I feel myself seeing your video as if I’m you. Really takes me back to what is life all about. How do you live your dreams. Thanks for being such a good storyteller and visionary.
Preach. This is the first video I've ever watched of yours. I started watching because I'm interested in doing either short or long-term boondocking. But I expected you to say you were lonely because you needed more people around you. You surprised me, and what you describe is exactly how I feel almost 100% of the time. I have to pick my moments with people, and admittedly they are few and far between. I'll keep watching your videos. Be well.
"The loneliest moments in my adult life have all been in situations where I was surrounded by people" You're singing my song. same here.
Your authenticity and truthfulness is mind blowing and that's what I love most
Yay!!! 100,000 subscribers!!! Congratulations 🍾. This video is my favorite. I really feel that when you express yourself like this you will keep climbing. The people you touch and reach makes a HUGE difference. Some don’t understand why they feel the way they do and when you share, it helps them. Good job! Love ya, Mom
I am so glad i stumbled onto your channel after resarching Vanlife builds. No one has ever explained so well the way I feel about ME. It just gave me complete validation on how/who Iam. I love people, but can;t be around too many for too long. I love the wild, and solitude and my sould craves it. Thank you. So much.
seems like there are a lot of us who feel this way ☺️🤍 extroverted introverts unite 🏴☠️
Can’t thank you enough for your honesty and authenticity. Feel exactly the same about loneliness. Love the “extroverted introvert”. That’s me for sure too. The nature videos and stills are absolutely stunning. Thanks for sharing your incredible talent on your channel. Stay safe and look forward to your next video.
yes, same for me...
Thanks for being vulnerable and creating this. It's so important. Everyone needs this reminder.
Thank you Christian. The intimacy of your pictures and videos is amazing. So many of your photos seem like they should be in a gallery for viewing. The glimpses of your personal life and experiences also carry a feeling of intimacy in your honesty and willingness to share. 100k is very nice but I hope a mere shadow of things to come.
I so appreciate you 🙏🏻 Thank you for being here from the beginning!
I like how you explained your situation and how you recharge yourself. Be safe, be happy and be yourself.
Stay "strong" girl!!! I was absolutely alone during the ENTIRE pandemic without family and friends for over an entire year and I deal better without people due to the fact that a lot of people bring "unnecessary noise"....Kudos
When you are in touch with yourself you’re never alone. But when you’re not in touch, then you’re truly alone. ✨☺️Beautiful pictures, music thoughts 🙏🏼
This was such a good video and so true. Loneliness is just about who's around you. It's good to see someone looking to strive for balance. I'm an introverted extrovert too. There are times where I need to be alone in my own thoughts and other times, I like to be around people in large crowds, it just depends. I love Mariah's videos too. You both give such honest perspectives of life on the road.
Based on the comments so far, sounds like there are quite a lot of us extroverted introverts 😊🙌🏻 It’s nice knowing we’re not alone in this otherwise extroverted world
@@ChristianSchaffer I identified myself with that part of the video and made me smile (like: "that's me!"). I love the views on this video! 🌅😍🏞 So peaceful... I'm in love with Mother Nature. Every time I get the chance I enjoy Mother Nature and use that moment to be with myself and think... I would like to have a mobile home too 🚐 and be able to travel US 🇺🇲; and beyond... 💖
Great comment - 'Loneliness is just about who's around you.' pretty much sums it up for me. Being alone outside intensifies the experience, and connection with the natural surroundings. Being with someone at that moment who 'gets it' is super special, however that is rare and more often than not, is not the case and that leaves one feeling lonely.
@@Mike-qz4pi The loneliest I've ever felt, were the times I tried to hold onto a relationship with someone who no longer wanted to be with me. Agonizing loneliness. The kind that sends me to counseling with someone qualified to help me learn and, hopefully, learn more about myself, and go back to loving life.
@@ChristianSchaffer I like that. "extraverted introvert" less disappointments that way!
I had my first cup 'o joe with ya this morning. I love the way you just put it out there. Most people can't. Love your heart about your G-pa...he looks really cool. There is nothing like nature, and you can only really get that art, by being in the gallery. I feel that being immersed in natural beauty, can bleed into you, and make you more beautiful too. It does. I was raised in a beautiful place, and it's still with me. I need more of that! Thanks for sharing your art and your heart...it's, really, really nice.
Congrats on the milestone of 100K! Doesn't surprise me as your personality is very engaging and your photography skills are wonderful. Keep producing the wonderful content. Your honesty about your personal vision is refreshing.
Thanks for your support 😌🙏🏻
I’ll be honest and admit I was drawn to watch you because you are stunning, but I’m glad to stay because you back that up with intelligence, honesty and interesting content. I still haven’t started my UK van-life yet but I’m inspired by your posts. This one especially resonates with me, being alone in a crowd, even surrounded by friends, has always been the hardest part of socialising for me. I can small-talk a bit, but I’m a sheep, not a wolf, and do much better listening and responding rather than driving the discussion. I spend a lot of time alone here at home, so when I start travelling it won’t be much of a shock. And although I will still get lonely having people like you to draw inspiration and understanding from will be invaluable. Thank you for sharing your life with us ❤
OH MY GOODNESS Christian! Hearing you describe how you feel regarding socializing and enjoying your solitude really hit home for me. I thought I was the only one on earth who felt this way. I believe more people feel this way but are afraid to admit it or like me, they feel they are different than everyone else. You are so awesome, love your channel.
same!! introverts unite! ..like, tomorrow or something 😝
And here I was thinking the exact same thing! I've always felt out of the loop for some reason, and this video really struck a chord with me. It's got me thinking about stuff in a different way now. I feel like I need a road trip away from everything and everyone.
Came across your channel recently, in fact, this is only the second video of yours that I've watched. What struck me about what you said, is that you're the first person who I've ever heard describe exactly how I've felt my entire life. How you need your alone time and actually become a different person (irritable, etc) if you're around people too much. All those things you described about yourself felt like you were describing me, including the "extroverted introvert". It's all me, too. Thank you for sharing this. It really meant more to me than I can express. From a fellow Washington native.
Realizing one's need for solitude - free of guilt and/or others' expectations - is one of the most poignant moments of self awareness we can have. Drive on!
Thank you for such a wonderful honest video. So many of us are like you but people don’t understand and they get hurt or angry that we need alone time. Stay safe beautiful lady.
“I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity.”
― Albert Einstein
He sounds like a smart man 😉
@@ChristianSchaffer now thats funny
@@ChristianSchaffer - He did the best with what he had
Yes, delicious is just the right word!
Beautiful and honest. One of the other things I found add to the loneliness on the road is also one of the biggest draws. The not having a schedule, being able to wake up and literally go in any direction. It can be overwhelming and making all of those decisions on one's own without anyone to bounce them off can be extremely lonely. You touch on this this in the should I wait for the ferry out drive section of this video.
Thank you for sharing this truth! I have felt so misunderstood for so long with how much I enjoy being by myself. I, too never have found the boundary where I feel like I need people. I pray I find a guy who mirrors the beautiful relationship independence that you two have.
All I can say is WOW you are a very inspirational young lady, you are amazing. Very sorry for your loss but I’m sure he is looking down on you keeping you safe. X
I really appreciate your honesty and addressing what your audience is asking. Very intimate and vulnerable, thank you for sharing. I moved to California in 2018 and have felt that same loneliness that you describe. People, crowds and even the workplace is not the fit. I find joy and comfort in nature and the more I explore. Most of my friends and community is on the east coast and I find it harder to find that community as I age (47 SWM). I've been fantasizing about the van life. Hopefully soon I get to experience the ups and downs of that lifestyle. Your honesty is awesome, but please don't feel youtube pressure or stress to post something. We are here when you are ready. Safe travels, mentally, spiritually and physically.
I fully agree, big cities just stress me out. I'm leaning more and more towards doing van life... Being out in nature all the time!
Loved the Ebbys Landing footage and all the other gorgeous spots you capture so beautifully. Relate 100% to the need for alone time and the extroverted introvert personality style. Love your videos and videography. Thank you ~
I feel this in my soul! Feeling lonely around people when I haven’t had enough recharge time and connect with myself-always a delicate balance!
I appreciate the honesty, there sites/videos that you watch and they tend to sugar coat it, some people thrive well while others need the safety factor of familiarity, keeping being you
Some seriously nice visuals in there wowza
Beautiful photography, thank you. And I admire your grit, resilience and independence.
Best episode yet !
I feel similarly. My wife understands me about it too. We're developing a similar plan. Thank you
Thank you Marc 🙏🏻 Happy to hear it resonates
How beautiful that you both acknowledge each others needs for "alone time" and celebrate being apart while still connected. I've always wondered if there is a being on the road "too long" or being alone "too long", by nature, I think as humans we need to connect with others. So the fact that you are alone and not really ever alone is great to see. You take the time to spend it with others and talk. It's incredible how much we can learn from others just by listening. Everyone has a story.
So many times you watch these videos and think "wow, they are in total isolation". Thank you for your continued content of being real and also including some of the most incredible scenery that I have ever seen. Enjoy the journey.
I feel most full emotionally full when I’m 20 out in the backcountry-no one around-no light pollution and myself with my thoughts.I like to cook for myself,and I really enjoy sitting down at my folding table after cooking a great healthy meal from the back of my 4 Runner,with the stars to look at.
Amen. Living the good life
Thanks so much for this video. The beauty of the Olympic Peninsula as well as your other locations is exactly why I subscribe to your channel. The beauty of our country shown through your amazing photography and video production is Amazing.
I can totally relate to the "need" for alone time. While I do enjoy a night out with close friends (preferably one at a time), I almost prefer solitude. I love going to the beach by myself so I can hear the ocean waves crashing along the shoreline, without the interruption of someone talking over them. I like to take life at my own pace and not have someone trying to hurry me up or slow me down.
i've felt intense loneliness throughout my life, this has been the first yr solitude has been my bliss, van life, introversion, and the great outdoors just feels amazing
You are very good at expressing yourself, talking about your thoughts and feelings. Very interesting! And your amazing intro with so many beautiful pictures/videos!
even though this is an old vid, I have to say that your cinematography is off the charts. Truly a visual pleasure watching your content.
Keep it up !!!!
Your photography is stunning, I love how you capture nature. Your thoughts on loneliness is spot on! Love your content!
Thanks so much Lauren 🙏🏻
I love this video and I have just found your channel today after a road trip to Scotland and realising why I just never feel happy living in suburbia. When I lived I the USA I was fortunate to travel 5 States but with a male friend. I would love to try van life as a next step, it's the security that worries me, but it's probably safer than being in any of our UK cities! I really resonated with you needing your 'alone' time and the surface level conversations. I have felt for a long time I don't fit into the norms of what I was brought up to believe life should be. I love nature and travel, my soul feels happiest there, but also with my loved ones. Thank you for your videos, they are very helpful.
That's awesome that you and Mariah found each other! I wondered if you would, as you both have been wandering around the NW lately.
Safe Travels! ✌🏼😉
the best part was at 8:12 where the music stopped, the cutscene from the van, the beach, to the forest, the stillness and just the sounds of nature, the "silence" was :)
I have to get better at recording natural audio like that. I tend to mess it up by coughing or saying something stupid 😅
I’m an outgoing introvert in a converted ambo. 😍. Also from WA. I feel this so deep. It’s so hard to understand how majority of people don’t crave and love alone time.
I love the depth of your conversations...no shallow talk. Sooo refreshing. I know that feeling of boredom and loneliness in a crowd. The lack of 'meaty' discussion, that I too find draining. Continue your authenticity. ❤❤❤❤
My goodness, you articulated so well what I have felt about the loneliness of being in crowds and the societal expectations that you must feel at home in crowded events, yet I could never put into words myself, despite having a PhD. Pity you are not here in England.. I'd love to chat with someone like you who understands that introverts can be extroverts sometimes too. Great authentic video.
I'm a former extrovert (read all of this and you can claim bull on the former part - ROFL), beaten into outward introversion by society due to my brain damage, past stuttering and auditory memory issues making my communication dialogue skills for those who hate to think = zero (its not there!). And yeah, I do feel along in a crowd. No one gets me. I talk intelligent but then my brain snaps and adds rubbish because of the brain damage, the intelligent people run and join the idiots who hate to think. Don't blame them! I don't know what to say to people most of the time anyway. I did a 28 day solo camping trip and missed people, so would go into town to just see people. It taught me that 'the life wasn't for me' but....here I am, older, realizing I'll never have people IN my life where I have true comraderie, so why not do this vanlifing? I had Reactive Attachment Disorder and Austictic symptoms with the wrong food allergies so people run where I live - USA.
I'm here, researching and trying to find that reality check that makes me go 'nope, can not do this' while I can't wait to jump in and just go! I have Shaken Baby syndrome, high functioning, do drive, and have my Zevy for company (stuffed miyoni timberwolf). Will I bite the bullet after my dad moves into Nursing home? Probably. It means my sister goes homeless OR gets a roommate, because my townhome will be rented for $2000 with me paying the HOA fees. My stuff will go into storage, and I'll have my income going into a trust account so that I can actually afford reality with food allergies and an economy that cost more and more while my SSDI never keeps up with the true cost of living.
I also hope to get a CDL license so that maybe I can learn to tow a vehicle and drive a Class C so I get more luxuries. ROFL So, Van conversion on the cheap - Throw in a British camper's loo, fold-up table, fold-up mattress (save the lungs), sleeping bag, 7-day cooler, campers chair(s) and away you go! Take some foam poster board, glue misc. crap to it to make it look like a homeless dump to put in plan site, so that no one bothers rummaging your car and nicking thing. Fake security. ROFL (It doesn't really work though, because you'll have the cops breathing down your back depending on where you put the vehicle.)
Best Wishes from someone who wanted to get a Ph.D in Maths, Sociology, Quantum Physics-Maths-Computers but managed a BS in Social Sciences (brain randomly shows up, so I failed at all jobs.) I just wanted you to know my story for another perspective Extrovert to outward introvert. Thanks!
I just started following you and I loved this video so much. I related on so many levels. I was the loneliest of my life when I was married. And now I live in the rural countryside and I never feel alone. Thank you for your amazing videos xx
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I can relate to so much in this video and the views are stunning. Being the front man in a band and not wanting to be the center of attention makes being alone so satisfying. Can’t waiting until my van is ready to get away and meet some souls like you all. Or maybe not. Haha. I really like following Mariah too. Congrats on 100k.
A lot of pure magic in this one for me Christian and huge favorite. Thank you for sharing.
This video was very comforting to me. I thought I was the only one that loved being alone. And same thing, introverted extrovert! Friends always asked me “why are you alone all the time?” Or “why do you go out to eat alone”? Because it’s BLISSFUL when you enjoy and love your own company ❤️
agreed 💕
Sorry, we are not meant to be alone. We are born into the crucible of relationship. We are naturally tribal . Mental illness is often measure by one’s community contribution. Two hearts are better than one. We do need solitude in order to recharge but mindfully measured . Even nomadic tribes , travel together.
The person who has their “tent outside the tribe” is often considered someone who is an outcast. Why would you subject yourself to that as a lifestyle.
You are a true introvert. I agree that a career where you can achieve that measured solitude but still be part of a community sounds balanced.
You can still have relationships and friendships while having alone time. There can be a balance.
Amazing hike you did up Baker . The summit block, the glacier and lake I definitely need to film an episode there once the border opens up.
your videos are my favourite on TH-cam - 20 minutes of peace in nature, can't wait to experience North America one day like you :)
wow thank you 🙏🏻
It's so refreshing to know other introvert/extrovert ppl are among me , more than I realized ❤️
I just took a 16 + hr road trip adventure from NH to the Carolinas and back , I went with my bf. I could've just gone alone & I would've enjoyed my own company aswell. I admire your ability to be true to yourself & I truly understand your lifestyle 💜
I'd love to meet ya one-day ☺️
I had a funny moment while on my own rode adventure....I passed a van that looked so similar to yours and I thought 💭 I wonder if it was you lol
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So beautifully shot. The landscape takes my breath away... You're in all my favorite spots, and since I am stuck in Florida (for now) it is like a well needed reminder of where my goals lie! Ditto on the dislike of obligatory small talk in crowds... so exhausting ... every business event ever.
I'm in my mid thirties and just kinda realizing this same thing about myself. I get along just fine in groups of people - when I want to be. But I really enjoy having time to myself and quiet. Terms like "homebody" and "introvert" always carried a somewhat negative connotation growing up and it took some time for me to understand that this is completely, totally okay.
Same, I always thought something was wrong with me growing up- and throughout all of my twenties. I wish I knew then that alone time was healthy and normal and some of us just need more than others 💁🏼♀️
It is totally okay. I'm 77, and in my mid-thirties, newly separated from my husband, because he told me he no longer wanted to be married to me, yet he refused to leave our home, and to stay in a house with someone you thought you knew, but who had become a cold stranger - was uniquely and agonizingly, lonely.
I had to learn to grieve for someone who was still alive, and the only way I was able to do it was to move out and learn to be alone, and, with counseling, learn that I enjoyed my own company. It took another marriage and another living death, and much counseling, meditation, walks, the healing hands of expert massage therapists, yoga, hugs from valued friends, to gain the wisdom of solitude, and the healing benefits of deep breathing. It helped that I lived in Kitsap County, Washington state for 18.5 years, where I took many a day or weekend round trip visit to Seattle, the North Cascade National Park, the Olympic Peninsula, Vancouver WA and BC, etc., sometimes alone, sometimes with my best friend, sometimes with my brother, who lived in Vancouver WA with his wife and two daughters. Then I moved to Mount Vernon, Skagit County where I spent the last eighteen months of my 21 years in WA State. I miss my heart-home, and am so glad to see it via the lens of Christian's cameras and her eyes and the lens and eyes of other gifted nomads.
It is not only okay to be alone and enjoy solitude, it is mentally, physically, and spiritually healthy. TO BE ALONE AND ENJOY SOLITUDE - IS MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY AND SPIRITUALLY HEALTHY! ~ Alice, the Sometimes Wise One, Sullivan. It would be sad to be 77.5 and not to have learned any life-affirming knowledge. "I'M OKAY, YOU'RE OKAY" is a good book, as is "SURVIVING THE LOSS OF A LOVE".
I asked this question on one of your other videos. I apologize for asking a question you obviously answer a lot. I admire you so much, I am an introvert with chronic OCD. I sometimes would just love to live in a van away from everyone and all sounds of life. But as introverted as I am, even I need people around me at times. With everything that has been going on around the world the last 2 years, I have had my alone time now. I love your videos by the way and I cannot stop watching.
The most lonely I have ever been in my life is when I have been in a close relationship with someone and struggle to find myself. I am comfortable being alone, sometimes I think too comfortable, believing (or perhaps programmed to believe) it is not healthy to live a solitary life. I do like people but I like them on my own terms and that is rarely what I get when I am around people, particularly the same people, all the time. I am very outgoing, quick witted, smart, a vast bank of trivial information, funny (and humble, LOL) so people do like to be around me but I can easily feel suffocated and need to rush to a safe place to spend some quality time with myself. So honestly, I do understand how you feel. I think the more we become in touch with ourselves, the less we want to be in a position to require the approval of others. Strangely, I do like living in the City, particularly now that I am in my 70s. I believe it is a convenience thing more than anything else but I like having my personal fortress within that City. Life is such a complex and layered thing and is so different for each individual. I think you have found your niche and I hope that you will always remember to be truest to yourself no matter how much greener the grass may look on the other side of the fence or no matter how much or in what ways you believe your decisions may impact others.
What a wonderful comment. You are truly incredible Sherry, you can feel the raw joy and peace in your words. Thank you for sharing a part of you here
Wow, I can relate to what you're saying so much!! The feeling of being lonely while being surrounded with friends, but not while being on my own. I need to recharge just like you. I've just started watching your videos and I love them!! They are so helpful and really speak to my adventurous nature!! Maybe I'll see you on the road one day!!...
Your vlogs Christian are a feast for the eyes. Whether it's a close up lupine or a distant sunset it's absolutely stunning!! Thank you for posting.
That’s the best way of answering my question on loneliness. Beautiful. Keep posting and keep keeping it really.
As a senior and having spent my entire life alone I can honestly say the loneliness disappeared when I invited God back into my life. Don't forget to make room for God in your life because at the end of the day, that's all we really have!
In my opinion, this is your best video so far. The beautiful footages along with your feelings and thoughts about vanlife make it very tasteful. Thanks for sharing 👍
Thank you 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Hey.
I was a little taken aback, how you so completely summed up my thoughts.
I live mostly off grid on the Tasman Peninsula, Tasmania, Australia. At times I “Miss” people, but I don’t really ever feel alone.
My life has been one of working in festivals, events, and being around people. I gave that all up, and have felt free since.
Your statement about feeling alone at a party, rings true. New Years Eve…I was invited to a party….. sat there with 20+ people, and felt completely alone. I can talk and pretend I’m into it….but left feeling like I’d rather had been at home reading a book.
I’ve seen two of your posts, the other about the bad things about Vanlife. I appreciate your honesty. Very refreshing in this fake, fAke social media world.
New subscriber.
Rob, Tasmania, Australia 🇦🇺
Hey Christian, I can totally relate with the emotional roller coaster you describe. In my 46yrs of living, being the youngest of 10 children, I always felt alone surrounded by everyone and was always super happy and content sitting by myself with a drawing pad or just watching the river flow through the rocks and trees as the wind blew gently. My career choice to be a Marine was something that took me away from all that... and THAT was super hard for me. So, I've had to learn why at some moments I'm the life of the party and the center of attention but, other times I just can't be around anyone. And I learned I'm not so much of an Introvert or an Extrovert as much as I'm an Ambivert. With small bouts of being very out going and charismatic, I truly cherish my alone time to recharge and reflect. Loneliness doesn't hit as hard knowing when I need to be around people, and that's my new regulation. Also, I always wondered why I hated small talk and always looked at the deeper meaning of things. Thinking I was always an Alpha male, I never questioned myself; just bared through it. But, recently I have discovered the meaning of the Sigma male personality... and THAT is what I find myself to be to a "T"; Artistic, creative, thoughtful, and a focused lone wolf. My workouts keep me focused on my health while my mind wanders the concepts of my heart, and I fill the inbetween with meaningful habits. I love that you made this video... and hope this encourages (if not, inspires) you to make more. Look into Ambiverts and Sigma personalities where you seem to have some of the traits. Happy van lifing and stay amazing 👍
OMG Christian, thank you ... I'm 7 days from moving in to my van. My soul yearns for the open road and all its solitude and adventure ... it's so close I can taste it. I relate to so much of what you said, especially about not being good at small talk. I love the honesty, beauty and grace that you offer us all through your thoughts, words and images. This video is my fave. Keep shinin your truth sistah, you so inspire me
How's it going with your van life? Hope everything is going well! :)
Check out the Myers Briggs personality test. You sound like you may be an INFJ (or similar) personality. Makes perfect sense to need a little isolation to recharge. 💙
Close! I’m an INTP 🤓
Ha!! Close! I am an INFJ 😁🤗😉
INTJ checking in...
but not too closely
What I’m looking at in this video looks so calm, relaxing and beautiful. Then it also looks lonely and dangerous being alone in the outside, not knowing if or when some lunatic will walk up on me. No one living this kind of life so far has said they have guns with them for protection, and if they do they would be wise. I wish we lived in a world full of love and respect for each other but we don’t so I couldn’t live this life even with someone. I wish you joy, peace, safety and happiness on your journey.
Christian, you are a very remarkable women, your knowledge, honesty and openness to touch on and share your feelings about an important and sensitive aspect in life, like loneliness speaks volumes of your character. Truly uplifting and motivating, thank you.
Your photographic quality is exceptional. Your description of solitude is honest, continue to find solace amongst those majestic peaks. Thank you.
It takes strength, self respect and self confidence to be comfortable alone. Being alone and being lonely are not the same. Totally relate to loneliness and crowds. Ha!
Mariah and Finn are on quite the journey. Was nice to see her through a different lens.
I back packed through Europe and the Middle East for a year when I was young and it was such a magical time. All those deep yet transient connections that are still with me. Now I’m near retirement and seeing your life of freedom and beauty bought memories and a tear to my eyes. I feel like I’ve missed so much on some level since then. You’re a lovely spirit. May your adventures bring you joy.
well said, Christian. Stay tuned. Be happy with yourself. I love your freedom.
Oh I just love Mariah's channel, so nice to see the 2 of you together! ❤
This video certainly hit home for me. I have been down a van life TH-cam rabbit home recently and came upon your channel tonight. I am now a subscriber, and look forward to more posts!
Love seeing all the amazing shots you capture!!! Thank you!
You can feel lonely even when you are surrounded by friends and acquaintances. Very true. I just subscribed.
Thank you so much for sharing. Your photography is exquisite and I love the connection of your experiences!
Your video has made it incredibly easy to see why vanlife is not for some but definitely for others. It speaks a lot to my introverted inner child.
Your pictures and videos are incredible. Can tell you are a professional. Washington is beautiful.
You are one inspiring lady in more ways than you can imagine. Looking at your videos is a true feast and the way you let shine your introspective nature in such beautiful ways is refreshing and authentic. Know that you are galvanizing a full time single mom with a gorgeous pre-teen to convert a Sprinter and take the road many months a year. Thanks for being you.
Bula from Fiji. Full time mom of 4 who loves watching your videos. Stay safe and be blessed.
I so connect with what you share here. I am an introvert, very comfortable with being alone and not lonely. I can open up and be extroverted when I am with friends and people I know.
Thanks for sharing real life.
OMG! You are so beautiful and deep! I am an attractive super outgoing woman and you just helped me understand the introvert/extrovert personality. It actually brought tears to my eyes, and I rarely cry. I felt understood. Thank you. I just took a two-month cross-country solo driving trip in my Prius. Hiked in amazing places and not once did I feel lonely. I felt so happy and at peace. As you mentioned the loneliest I've felt has been with large groups of people having fun, but lacking deep connection. Pure emptiness. Thank you because it's the first time I've heard someone describe me out loud. Stay safe and happy.
Wow...You have pinpointed it best...As a young man I traveled this country extensively on a dime and a prayer & enjoyed/learned from every minute of it...When I felt like you are relating to, I just said screw it & hiked the Appalachian trail one summer...Absolutely recharged the batteries!!!...A few years later, I did the Pacific Crest & found the same inner peace....Fast forward to almost 50 years later, I have the yearning to do something similar....Bless your soul!!!!