This is something I'm currently struggling with. I've been alone but not lonely for over 7 years. Recently, I reconnected with a friend who I've known for 38 years, since we were 7 years old. I was honest about my BPD diagnosis from the beginning because I was trying to protect him. Mind you, we got back in touch because his father passed away so I felt this immediate need to take care of him. And I did. Fast forward one month and we had fallen in love with each other. After 38 years. But he saw my explosive rage come out last week and now everything is up in the air. I'm in a shame spiral and feel like I tried to tell him this could happen while still taking ownership of my poor reaction. And I really do love him.
Once I started healing my attachment wounds I started feeling less lonely and started to enjoy being alone without feeling lonely. I almost never felt like I got out what I put into friendships so I found being the best friend I always needed, for myself was extremely empowering. I do have some great friends I can vent to but at the end of the day nobody really understands me like I do and I'm becoming very secure in that finally.
Thank you I needed this, this is the kind of loneliness I feel right now. It's hard to find people who understand or want to help at all, this podcast helps so much. Sending love💛
Being alone - contentment in the moment.
Feeling alone - you crave human interactions.
Validation of both knowing the difference.
This is something I'm currently struggling with. I've been alone but not lonely for over 7 years. Recently, I reconnected with a friend who I've known for 38 years, since we were 7 years old. I was honest about my BPD diagnosis from the beginning because I was trying to protect him. Mind you, we got back in touch because his father passed away so I felt this immediate need to take care of him. And I did. Fast forward one month and we had fallen in love with each other. After 38 years. But he saw my explosive rage come out last week and now everything is up in the air. I'm in a shame spiral and feel like I tried to tell him this could happen while still taking ownership of my poor reaction. And I really do love him.
Once I started healing my attachment wounds I started feeling less lonely and started to enjoy being alone without feeling lonely. I almost never felt like I got out what I put into friendships so I found being the best friend I always needed, for myself was extremely empowering. I do have some great friends I can vent to but at the end of the day nobody really understands me like I do and I'm becoming very secure in that finally.
Thank you I needed this, this is the kind of loneliness I feel right now. It's hard to find people who understand or want to help at all, this podcast helps so much. Sending love💛
Can i come on this show?
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