Black women are single because they will not date/marry a man who is less successful than they are. Black men on the other hand will date/marry a woman who is less successful. Black women have high standards when it comes to relationships, which is mostly financially based. How much do he make? What career or businesses do he have/own? Bank account amount? Nothing to do with Love. Trust. Honesty. Loyalty. Relationship with God. (The nucleus of any great relationship) A successful black woman making $60,000 annually will not date or marry a brother making $30,000 annually. Facts. Very rare cases if any.
It couldn't have anything to do with slavery because from reconstruction to the 1960's black people were the most married group in America and both men and women performed specific roles. Black women joining up with feminists and taking the welfare crumbs was the catalyst of the breakup of the family. From then on black women took on slogans that white women thought up of I'm a strong black woman (something I've yet to hear any white woman say about herself) or I don't need no man. Since then black women have raised their daughters to not depend or submit to a man. In doing so she robs the her daughters of the experience of seeing what black men mean to a family. If you want to find the cause of black womens confusion of why they're single, look no further than their mothers doorstep.
The slavery reason is nonsense. 50 years ago 70% of black women were married now it's like 20%. Has nothing to do with slavery. There are many reasons but slavery that happened to someone else by someone else over a hundred 100 years ago is not the reason. How about black women look in the mirror as see how they act. Probably a better place to start.
You do know that back in the day, people couldn't afford a ring and never had one. You caught up to some 20th-century doctrine. Besides rich folks, most filks didn't even have one.
I have seen that regardless of race, a woman will be single if she has a big belly/ Men like a thick woman, but the abdominal fat (bodily inflammation) is a turn off.
the whole "BLACK WOMEN IS INDEPENANT" thing is kinda stupid , because the truth is WHITE WOMEN, ASIAN WOMEN & HISPANIC WOMEN are also very INDEPENDANT as well, its just that WHITE, ASIAN & HISPANIC WOMEN who are independent are still smart enough to know how to let a MAN lead the way & take care of the HOUSEHOLD , where as most BLACK WOMEN are to HARD, STUBBORN & CONTROLLING to the Point where they wanna be the BOSS in the relationship, which Emasculates the Man, & that's why most MEN don't wanna MARRY BLACK WOMEN, & that's why BLACK WOMEN will forever be the most SINGLE group of UNMARRIED WOMEN on the planet
Its not that women are taught to be independent because a lot of women are taught these same skills (they just dont name it independent woman). Instead, its that our black women are not taught how to pick the right partner for marriage. Neither does the men.
Independence trained or otherwise is not an issue, what is the issue is it has been used as an excuse. You said you know a woman with 5 kids and no husband, how does that happen? Why would anyone want to marry someone with that much extra baggage? Yes men can appreciate a smart woman but why should degrees impress them, it is not as if she is going to take care of all the bills? Men are still looked at as the bread winner when it comes to marriage. Just like women men have a list of wants also, and since they are expected to be the bread winner, how far a woman went in college is not that high on his list. Most black men know they do not fit the ideal image many black women are looking for, and they have come to terms with that, yet black women knowing that ideal is rare do not want to lower the bar, and they should not have to, but that goes both ways. So you and your may think your friends are very attractive, and not to say they may be nice looking, just like they may feel most men do not measures up, maybe the men they are chasing feel the same about them. It has nothing to do with hair, and yes looks do matter a lot, just as is does for women but it is how women treat men that counts for much of the attraction. It can't be an act either, bate and switch has put many black men on alert. Most men would like to meet that special someone in their early to mid-twenties settle down have a family and have that happily ever after, but they are not the hot guys most black women look at, or even would give the time of day. Less than 40% of black men have kids and less than 20% of those who do have many kids with multiple women, which show how few men black women are choosing. A few of which are guys with nothing but good looks to offer. When a man does this he is called shallow for only looking at a woman's looks, when a woman does it, well what have you called your friends that have done this, really to their face? The no male leadership argument also goes out the window because those women have never told the men they choose to have children with they had to lead or do anything first. Then after the hot guys hurt them they treat the rest of black men as if they did those women wrong, why? Or the men should go sit on the shelf until these women choose to bless then with the chance to what, try to win her over? Again why should these men do that? Your friends sound like they are in their 30's or older, maybe if they chose one of those medium hot but nice guys they met in college, they would be happily married now, but would have meant lowering those standards a little when it came to looks. As for career, yes women have a handicap, but it is not men, but time. Also that achievement comes at the cost of time, so like white and Asian women black women have to make a choice. If you have issues with that, take it up with God. Speaking of which, we all know going to church doesn't a good person make. How does God feel about having 5 kids with no husband?
T Adams Thanks for watching. This video was meant to spark conversation not to set standards for anyone or their life choices. It's my opinion. Thanks for sharing yours. As for God he is the only one in a position to judge. Why would any want anyone with children? Well the easy answer is: they fall in love and relationships are never like in the movies- they will not be perfect. lol. No human is perfect without sin. God bless!
@ T Adams - I notice that she doesn't address the issues you brought up. This video is just another black female who skips over the real issues, one of which as you stated they (black females) will look over the guys in college because they're not hot or playing sports. Unlike "Becky" when she in college she choosing looking for a mate.Once they (black females) enter the workforce they then find that there is competition for the educated brothers and they find that they can't compete. With that said it's the brothers fault because they can't find a partner lol.And then there's this ideal that an educated man who has put in the time at school and on his job /career to position himself to provide for a family, should just throw that away and chose an overweight woman with children. These women bring nothing to the table but hardship and baggage. What man in his right mind would go for that?
rationalone100 Thank you for watching the video. For your information, I as well as other BLACK women married well- not a sports player, but and educated brother, who I met after college. We went to different colleges. He is my heart. I picked him and he picked me and we were blessed to find each other. I did , more than compete, I won. Becky does not exists in the minds of BLACK men who love themselves and their people. My husband is one of the, educated brothers who only ever dated Black girls. So I am PROUD to be his wife. You see when you love thy self you look for someone who reflects that.You missed the point of this video. Watch it again.
I thought the point of this video was to open a dialogue? I guess I was wrong. Only God should judge the choices of men, is included in your reply, or is that wrong also?
T Adams no it was just another roundabout way of saying black man ain't shit. it's the same song and dance in her reply tells you exactly the way she feels about black men in your thought process was well thought out and she could have actually responded to what you said. it's all good thank God it's not you that has to be married to her
It was not slavery, it was the new deal by LBJ. The government gave black women a choice of the government taking care of them or the black woman continuing to be with the black man. The black woman chose the check.
I subscribed as soon as you said you were raised by a single father. I'm a single father of two children 6 & 5, a boy and girl. I would love to hear you discuss growing up raised by a single father.
Why is it women are valued for their beauty and income but men thumb their noses at women considered high maintenance, gold diggers or act Butch? Men say they don't want females after their bank account, yet why do relationships get based on money? Besides the obvious, how is a relationship going to be honest if there is only conditional love?
Paying on a house, is different than actually owning a home..You own it when you finish paying for it...car note, and student loans --same principle. . Now again, how many of your friends are independent?
BW will do anything to be accepted by white society....Even most of the ones with degrees are a major burden.... They foolishly spend money, buying houses that they WILL NEVER be able to pay off...The same with cars, etc....and leaving their children anything will be almost impossible.... Then they will get old, and the system will end up getting their house, while they end up lonely in a nursing home (facility)....and thats THE END!!! I know because I already see it happening....... :(
Black Adam - " Paying on a house, is different than actually owning a home..You own it when you finish paying for it...car note, and student loans --same principle. " I caught that also, yet these women are so educated that they don't know the difference between paying on a house and owning a house.
You have skipped a lot of information even though you have some valid points. Black woman will be single for simply not submitting to her man; you can keep your Tyra Bank opinions to yourself.
250 years of trauma and slavery under another name called Jim Crow for another 100 years and the new name of slavery the prison system makes it a theme that threads our history here. There's no escaping it
7:25 I kinda disagree with. I entered into a lot of female lives and they were upset with me because of the last man in their lives. I've always been a hard worker, peace maker, and Pretty much a quiet person. It's an insult to a man that spends his life living right to have to examine himself time and time again to adjust himself constantly to keep peace around a person who has ABSOLUTELY NO PEACE in their own life. When brothers see that they're wasting time sifting in the US, then we start visiting places like the Central and South Americas.
While black women are single, most of them still have kids. Aka they're baby mamas. Most men find that to be an EXTREMELY undesirable piece of baggage. Why would a man want to be financially burdened with taking care of someone else's kids? Black women lead the nation with being single mothers. That's on them. Naturally this leads to these women having "gold digger" traits. They want a man to "take care of them" and their kids.
It's really a spiritual war. We just have to reprogram our thinking and go back to our first love, Jesus Christ. He won't lead anyone astray. If it's in God's will, marriage will happen with the right partner.
Thank you. I have always been open to dating other races of men. I never discriminate. I have had white male friends and Hispanic; other than my own kind :-).
Sigh, excuses and never take accountability for there actions. After four seconds of watching I already knew where this was going and had to stop the video.
I agree to a large part that our community has been warped and mishappened by outer forces beyond our control. But there is individual responsibility that comes into play.
Its not independence, its the fact they have no emotion for others its that simple. Or its just every black man you come across, which i doubt. You can see this with people like Jada Koren Pinkett Smith and FRIENDS. There's no human being on the planet that can make you happy, only yourself.
let's talk about what is fake, with black women, let's talk why we have extra every thing I love black women, a lot of them just love bad boys, and bad boys don't want to get married , give a nerd a chance.
You are wrong. Before Black Women hitched their wagon to Feminism things were different for them. I grew up in the 50's where the vast majority of Black Women were MARRIED. The vast majority of Black Women I encountered were all MARRIED and had children who I went to school with. In the 60's There was the Feminist Movement and Black Women hitched their wagons to it. In order to get Government Housing there could NOT be any Adult Men so Black Men got the BOOT by Black Women. In the 60's there was the Vietnam War of which hundreds of thousands Black Men were DRAFTED. This took away young marriage Black Men. Many Black Men returned home with issues from Vietnam. I saw this happen to many relatives. Black Women in College adopted the I am a Strong Black Woman and I Don Not Need a Man Attitude so many Black Men said, ok see ya. Now they are alone and they ask why? Many Black Women when young chose thugs, criminals, pimps, parolees, guys on felony probation, and guys on the run. Those Black Women turned their noses up and asses away from Good Black Men. I saw this in College when meeting Black Women but all they wanted was guys who had swag and who dogged them out. So many Black Women who I encountered after College had a kid or kids and who wants an already made family? Dealing with the ex and his bad ass kid or kids is a bad situation. Who wants to deal with the ex coming by and the Woman arguing with him. Too much DRAMA. That is how my Uncle got killed. The ex got out of prison, came home, saw he had been replaced, got a gun, shot my Uncle from behind in the head. Today so many Black Women have ISSUES and DRAMA in their lives. The biggest issue is dealing with their kids from different guys. Who wants that? Becky who you hate, knows how to use and be on Birth Control and to have an abortion or use RU 486. Becky does NOT have kids. Yes there are many Single Mothers but the vast majority are not. I met a handful of Black Women who did not have kids. They thought they were all that so I said good by. The other Black Girls had a kid or kids. I met Becky and the Asaian Girls and they had no kids. I met the Latin Girls, some had a kid and others did not. I met the Indian Girl, she had a MBA, no kids, and was still a virgin. I met my Wife, she is from the Philippines, never been married, no kids, College Degree, has a job, was still a virgin, and never goes around saying she is Strong and Does NOT need a Man. Those were my choices and I married the last one because we NEVER argue. She is how my Mother, my Aunt, my Grand Mother and how the Women were when I was growing up. They shut up, cooked, had babies, kept the house immaculate. My Mom was married for 38 until Pops died. Grand Ma was married over 50 years. Many will not like it but those Women were all Black and MARRIED. None had kids before they met and MARRIED. None ran around saying how Strong they were, and NOT ONE SAID THEY DO NOT NEED A MAN. ALL NEEDED A MAN AND WERE MARRIED.
I am very good with fixing things in and around house I am amazing with my hands but I also think some black women don't like men like that they like to go out and eat and sit in restaurant. They Give You Praises for being able to work with your hands but that's as far as it goes
Wow this sister is on point #blackwashing just like any other race of people you don't see a high rate of mingle with other races. Black people are the only race washing our blood line. Loving ourselves has to show in our children and to the children in general. Loving ourselves matters! 🤗
ir is something wrong with it! in 1970 black women better as Human Beings! they has husbands and a family because there was nothing negative to influence them!
Black women are single because they will not date/marry a man who is less successful than they are. Black men on the other hand will date/marry a woman who is less successful. Black women have high standards when it comes to relationships, which is mostly financially based. How much do he make? What career or businesses do he have/own? Bank account amount? Nothing to do with Love. Trust. Honesty. Loyalty. Relationship with God. (The nucleus of any great relationship)
A successful black woman making $60,000 annually will not date or marry a brother making $30,000 annually. Facts. Very rare cases if any.
It couldn't have anything to do with slavery because from reconstruction to the 1960's black people were the most married group in America and both men and women performed specific roles. Black women joining up with feminists and taking the welfare crumbs was the catalyst of the breakup of the family. From then on black women took on slogans that white women thought up of I'm a strong black woman (something I've yet to hear any white woman say about herself) or I don't need no man. Since then black women have raised their daughters to not depend or submit to a man. In doing so she robs the her daughters of the experience of seeing what black men mean to a family. If you want to find the cause of black womens confusion of why they're single, look no further than their mothers doorstep.
ill be damned if i marry an american black woman.
whoo else Jamaican and proud I am !!!!
Yes, you will be damned, a damned fool! Lol!
The slavery reason is nonsense. 50 years ago 70% of black women were married now it's like 20%. Has nothing to do with slavery. There are many reasons but slavery that happened to someone else by someone else over a hundred 100 years ago is not the reason. How about black women look in the mirror as see how they act. Probably a better place to start.
It's amazing how some women love to claim that they are happily married and you never see a ring on their finger at all....LOL!!
You dont need a ring on your finger to be happily married
The obsession with these things is what is ruining things today
You do know that back in the day, people couldn't afford a ring and never had one. You caught up to some 20th-century doctrine. Besides rich folks, most filks didn't even have one.
I was raised in a two parent household just
like Theo on the Cosby show
A degree is just a stand in line peace of paper.
I have seen that regardless of race, a woman will be single if she has a big belly/ Men like a thick woman, but the abdominal fat (bodily inflammation) is a turn off.
the whole "BLACK WOMEN IS INDEPENANT" thing is kinda stupid , because the truth is WHITE WOMEN, ASIAN WOMEN & HISPANIC WOMEN are also very INDEPENDANT as well, its just that WHITE, ASIAN & HISPANIC WOMEN who are independent are still smart enough to know how to let a MAN lead the way & take care of the HOUSEHOLD , where as most BLACK WOMEN are to HARD, STUBBORN & CONTROLLING to the Point where they wanna be the BOSS in the relationship, which Emasculates the Man, & that's why most MEN don't wanna MARRY BLACK WOMEN, & that's why BLACK WOMEN will forever be the most SINGLE group of UNMARRIED WOMEN on the planet
Sister your totally wrong all women aren't naturally bossy
Its not that women are taught to be independent because a lot of women are taught these same skills (they just dont name it independent woman). Instead, its that our black women are not taught how to pick the right partner for marriage. Neither does the men.
Ok...I see u recognized the training. My 1st comment was a few seconds before dat. I went in too early.
Independence trained or otherwise is not an issue, what is the issue is it has been used as an excuse. You said you know a woman with 5 kids and no husband, how does that happen? Why would anyone want to marry someone with that much extra baggage? Yes men can appreciate a smart woman but why should degrees impress them, it is not as if she is going to take care of all the bills? Men are still looked at as the bread winner when it comes to marriage. Just like women men have a list of wants also, and since they are expected to be the bread winner, how far a woman went in college is not that high on his list. Most black men know they do not fit the ideal image many black women are looking for, and they have come to terms with that, yet black women knowing that ideal is rare do not want to lower the bar, and they should not have to, but that goes both ways. So you and your may think your friends are very attractive, and not to say they may be nice looking, just like they may feel most men do not measures up, maybe the men they are chasing feel the same about them. It has nothing to do with hair, and yes looks do matter a lot, just as is does for women but it is how women treat men that counts for much of the attraction. It can't be an act either, bate and switch has put many black men on alert. Most men would like to meet that special someone in their early to mid-twenties settle down have a family and have that happily ever after, but they are not the hot guys most black women look at, or even would give the time of day. Less than 40% of black men have kids and less than 20% of those who do have many kids with multiple women, which show how few men black women are choosing. A few of which are guys with nothing but good looks to offer. When a man does this he is called shallow for only looking at a woman's looks, when a woman does it, well what have you called your friends that have done this, really to their face? The no male leadership argument also goes out the window because those women have never told the men they choose to have children with they had to lead or do anything first. Then after the hot guys hurt them they treat the rest of black men as if they did those women wrong, why? Or the men should go sit on the shelf until these women choose to bless then with the chance to what, try to win her over? Again why should these men do that? Your friends sound like they are in their 30's or older, maybe if they chose one of those medium hot but nice guys they met in college, they would be happily married now, but would have meant lowering those standards a little when it came to looks. As for career, yes women have a handicap, but it is not men, but time. Also that achievement comes at the cost of time, so like white and Asian women black women have to make a choice. If you have issues with that, take it up with God. Speaking of which, we all know going to church doesn't a good person make. How does God feel about having 5 kids with no husband?
T Adams Thanks for watching. This video was meant to spark conversation not to set standards for anyone or their life choices. It's my opinion. Thanks for sharing yours. As for God he is the only one in a position to judge. Why would any want anyone with children? Well the easy answer is: they fall in love and relationships are never like in the movies- they will not be perfect. lol. No human is perfect without sin. God bless!
@ T Adams - I notice that she doesn't address the issues you brought up. This video is just another black female who skips over the real issues, one of which as you stated they (black females) will look over the guys in college because they're not hot or playing sports. Unlike "Becky" when she in college she choosing looking for a mate.Once they (black females) enter the workforce they then find that there is competition for the educated brothers and they find that they can't compete. With that said it's the brothers fault because they can't find a partner lol.And then there's this ideal that an educated man who has put in the time at school and on his job /career to position himself to provide for a family, should just throw that away and chose an overweight woman with children. These women bring nothing to the table but hardship and baggage. What man in his right mind would go for that?
rationalone100 Thank you for watching the video. For your information, I as well as other BLACK women married well- not a sports player, but and educated brother, who I met after college. We went to different colleges. He is my heart. I picked him and he picked me and we were blessed to find each other. I did , more than compete, I won. Becky does not exists in the minds of BLACK men who love themselves and their people. My husband is one of the, educated brothers
who only ever dated Black girls. So I am PROUD to be his wife. You see when you love thy self you look for someone who reflects that.You missed the point of this video. Watch it again.
I thought the point of this video was to open a dialogue? I guess I was wrong. Only God should judge the choices of men, is included in your reply, or is that wrong also?
T Adams no it was just another roundabout way of saying black man ain't shit. it's the same song and dance in her reply tells you exactly the way she feels about black men in your thought process was well thought out and she could have actually responded to what you said. it's all good thank God it's not you that has to be married to her
It was not slavery, it was the new deal by LBJ. The government gave black women a choice of the government taking care of them or the black woman continuing to be with the black man. The black woman chose the check.
Pick up a history book. LBJ had the great society. Franklin Roosevelt had the New Deal. Folks always talking and don't know anything.
I'll answer the question,because they want to be
I subscribed as soon as you said you were raised by a single father. I'm a single father of two children 6 & 5, a boy and girl. I would love to hear you discuss growing up raised by a single father.
Lady's! Y'all choose to be single, stop blaming man, if you want a man! You can have one, what's the problem?
Why is it women are valued for their beauty and income but men thumb their noses at women considered high maintenance, gold diggers or act Butch? Men say they don't want females after their bank account, yet why do relationships get based on money? Besides the obvious, how is a relationship going to be honest if there is only conditional love?
Yvette neal seriously, who told you Men value a Woman's income🤔🤔🤔🤔
toomuchwolves men are not looking for money? Just a good woman?😂😂
Ummmmmmm Men don't give a fuck about a Woman's money........
toomuchwolves what planet are you living on? They will tell you e everytime she's a good screw but I wouldn't marry her!
Again, Who told you Men value a Woman's money 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
Paying on a house, is different than actually owning a home..You own it when you finish paying for it...car note, and student loans --same principle. .
Now again, how many of your friends are independent?
BW will do anything to be accepted by white society....Even most of the ones with degrees are a major burden.... They foolishly spend money, buying houses that they WILL NEVER be able to pay off...The same with cars, etc....and leaving their children anything will be almost impossible....
Then they will get old, and the system will end up getting their house, while they end up lonely in a nursing home (facility)....and thats THE END!!! I know because I already see it happening....... :(
Black Adam -
" Paying on a house, is different than actually owning a home..You own it when you finish paying for it...car note, and student loans --same principle. "
I caught that also, yet these women are so educated that they don't know the difference between paying on a house and owning a house.
This lady is clueless
Quit picking bad men and stop acting like you have two mouths and one ear.
the reason their single is because they self praised their self's and look down on black men, because black men are the struggle
You have skipped a lot of information even though you have some valid points. Black woman will be single for simply not submitting to her man; you can keep your Tyra Bank opinions to yourself.
Black women kicked out black men
OVER THE WELFARE CHECK
Every topic just has to be connected with SLAVERY !!!! smh
250 years of trauma and slavery under another name called Jim Crow for another 100 years and the new name of slavery the prison system makes it a theme that threads our history here. There's no escaping it
PROSPERITY PIMPING
started in church, perfected by college educated black women
Yet people raised by single fathers don't have Any of these problems
7:25 I kinda disagree with. I entered into a lot of female lives and they were upset with me because of the last man in their lives. I've always been a hard worker, peace maker, and Pretty much a quiet person. It's an insult to a man that spends his life living right to have to examine himself time and time again to adjust himself constantly to keep peace around a person who has ABSOLUTELY NO PEACE in their own life. When brothers see that they're wasting time sifting in the US, then we start visiting places like the Central and South Americas.
While black women are single, most of them still have kids. Aka they're baby mamas. Most men find that to be an EXTREMELY undesirable piece of baggage. Why would a man want to be financially burdened with taking care of someone else's kids? Black women lead the nation with being single mothers. That's on them. Naturally this leads to these women having "gold digger" traits. They want a man to "take care of them" and their kids.
It's really a spiritual war. We just have to reprogram our thinking and go back to our first love, Jesus Christ. He won't lead anyone astray. If it's in God's will, marriage will happen with the right partner.
Tonya Patterson your gorgeous are you single i believe in God you into interracial dating
Thank you. I have always been open to dating other races of men. I never discriminate. I have had white male friends and Hispanic; other than my own kind :-).
Tonya Patterson Black people need to stop believing in fairy tales.
Women are prepared for marriage from a young age and playing with Barbie and Ken dolls. Men grew up with action figures.
Sigh, excuses and never take accountability for there actions. After four seconds of watching I already knew where this was going and had to stop the video.
lol this woman just disrespected the shit out of black men in a real kind and sweet way lmao.
I agree to a large part that our community has been warped and mishappened by outer forces beyond our control. But there is individual responsibility that comes into play.
excellent vlog your message is very clear
women can not be father's ..
Was this a school project? 😂😂😂
Trained by whom?
Its not independence, its the fact they have no emotion for others its that simple. Or its just every black man you come across, which i doubt. You can see this with people like Jada Koren Pinkett Smith and FRIENDS. There's no human being on the planet that can make you happy, only yourself.
let's talk about what is fake, with black women, let's talk why we have extra every thing I love black women, a lot of them just love bad boys, and bad boys don't want to get married , give a nerd a chance.
Preach Queen!
Our circumstances is caused by slavery.
You are wrong. Before Black Women hitched their wagon to Feminism things were different for them.
I grew up in the 50's where the vast majority of Black Women were MARRIED. The vast majority of Black Women I encountered were all MARRIED and had children who I went to school with.
In the 60's There was the Feminist Movement and Black Women hitched their wagons to it. In order to get Government Housing there could NOT be any Adult Men so Black Men got the BOOT by Black Women.
In the 60's there was the Vietnam War of which hundreds of thousands Black Men were DRAFTED. This took away young marriage Black Men. Many Black Men returned home with issues from Vietnam. I saw this happen to many relatives.
Black Women in College adopted the I am a Strong Black Woman and I Don Not Need a Man Attitude so many Black Men said, ok see ya. Now they are alone and they ask why?
Many Black Women when young chose thugs, criminals, pimps, parolees, guys on felony probation, and guys on the run. Those Black Women turned their noses up and asses away from Good Black Men. I saw this in College when meeting Black Women but all they wanted was guys who had swag and who dogged them out.
So many Black Women who I encountered after College had a kid or kids and who wants an already made family? Dealing with the ex and his bad ass kid or kids is a bad situation. Who wants to deal with the ex coming by and the Woman arguing with him. Too much DRAMA.
That is how my Uncle got killed. The ex got out of prison, came home, saw he had been replaced, got a gun, shot my Uncle from behind in the head.
Today so many Black Women have ISSUES and DRAMA in their lives. The biggest issue is dealing with their kids from different guys. Who wants that?
Becky who you hate, knows how to use and be on Birth Control and to have an abortion or use RU 486. Becky does NOT have kids. Yes there are many Single Mothers but the vast majority are not.
I met a handful of Black Women who did not have kids. They thought they were all that so I said good by. The other Black Girls had a kid or kids.
I met Becky and the Asaian Girls and they had no kids. I met the Latin Girls, some had a kid and others did not. I met the Indian Girl, she had a MBA, no kids, and was still a virgin.
I met my Wife, she is from the Philippines, never been married, no kids, College Degree, has a job, was still a virgin, and never goes around saying she is Strong and Does NOT need a Man.
Those were my choices and I married the last one because we NEVER argue. She is how my Mother, my Aunt, my Grand Mother and how the Women were when I was growing up. They shut up, cooked, had babies, kept the house immaculate. My Mom was married for 38 until Pops died. Grand Ma was married over 50 years.
Many will not like it but those Women were all Black and MARRIED. None had kids before they met and MARRIED. None ran around saying how Strong they were, and NOT ONE SAID THEY DO NOT NEED A MAN. ALL NEEDED A MAN AND WERE MARRIED.
Lady's wake up! Theirs on perfect man living in this world, wake up,
Please come closer to the camera. It's hard to hear you or film in a closed area where your voice can be better.
H1GHD3FF , That was my first video. I hope do better next time.
Your beautiful in and out hit me back.
Welfare system foodstamps benefit
Quality of volume is bad can barely pick up your voice.
Feminism
Sometimes I think yo guys are just fake to each other in love
restore will not happen.
I am very good with fixing things in and around house I am amazing with my hands but I also think some black women don't like men like that they like to go out and eat and sit in restaurant. They Give You Praises for being able to work with your hands but that's as far as it goes
Social engineering 😐
Wow this sister is on point #blackwashing just like any other race of people you don't see a high rate of mingle with other races. Black people are the only race washing our blood line. Loving ourselves has to show in our children and to the children in general. Loving ourselves matters! 🤗
So your momma was sorry because of role reversal. Hmmm
You are fine
Because they want 2 be.
You dont have to be. I would marry you
ir is something wrong with it!
in 1970 black women better as Human Beings!
they has husbands and a family because
there was nothing negative
to influence them!
tony dorsett True, I love Black women, but they don't make black women like they use to.
Wow!!! Really are you sure about that??!
Mocha Mya your gorgeous are you single
Obesity
your son is cute
MGTOW
Mocha I must admit you are soo beautiful 😍 and a very fine Lady..