Ghosted - suddenly, unexpectedly
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ก.ย. 2024
- Everything was good. Great dates, great connection. Suddenly, you’re ghosted. What happened? Love Advice discusses this peculiar turn of events: #ghosted #radiosilence #newrelationships #firstdates
Krista writes, “Hi Susan, I just had a fun first date with this guy. I thought we had a chemistry. He texted me when he got home and thanked me for a wonderful first date, but It’s been 4 days and I haven’t heard from him after that text. Should I text him or wait for him to message me again?
Thank you for your reply. Sincerely, Krista”
Ana writes, “I love your videos! I'm obsessing with a situation. I had a date with a guy that I had a lot in common. He tried to be Mr. Perfect the whole date, praising me a lot, cooking for me, massaging and all. He weirdly asked MANY TIMES if I was liking him. After this amazing date he never talked to me again and when I messaged him asking to meet him again he blocked me. Why did he try so hard for nothing?”
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Slow ghosting hurts even more by an intimate partner. And then you get cut out of their lives completely
I recently went through this in January. I went out of state across the country to meet them. Ghosted.
That can be absolutely painful to endure, I’m sure. In the end, they did not give you the respect you deserve!
So if a man is ghosting you, why text him? It‘s a sign he‘s just not into you. Why would you degrade yourself to write him? Move on to the next🥳
Great show on ghosting! Think we might need one on the zombie or haunting…where they ghost you but then weeks or months later they return from the dead 🧟♂️
So many interesting dating terms being developed these days!
In my experience ghosting rarely has anything to do with something you did and said and probably has more to do with there is another women.
You were either something fun for him, or maybe he met both of you at the same time. Either way he was not radically honest with you about what was going on. I would suspect there were other secrets.
I find it best to be honest with each other from the beginning and lay down your wants and expectations. If he runs he was week and would of run anyway.
Unfortunately ghosting is very prevalent in the dating market, it happened to me many times.
Ya well that and being immature are reasons for them ghosting, blocking, running etc,… Younger men, we’re grown ass women, just text a quick honest msg saying “this ends here and Now” , (hehehe that’s from Thor)we would respect that and be done ! Men please, just try it, I promise, we back off immmediately!
I have to admit, I feel "disappointed" even when the online dating guys who I've never even met "drop off" & disappear, after we've been chatting by text & phone on a regular basis...
So I know I'd definitely feel hurt & confused with a man I've spent time with & had several in person dates with! I'll go into that "Obsessive Loop" in my head that you described.... 😣😣😣
"Upgrade your partner selection" - yes! I will be 40 in 2 weeks' time and this pretty much summarizes what I learnt till now. I put up with so many awful situations for so many years. I was afraid to upgrade because I felt I was in debt to men who were interested in me, just giving me the bare minimum. Then with time and a lot of work on myself I understood that my selection pattern was erroneous. I hope I still can find a great man and have a family.
I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back through the heIp of mr ose who can also heIp you restore your relationship.
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The man who ghosted me a month ago had commitment issues. I believe I was too good for him and that he prefers to be in relationships with women that cheat on him and treat him badly. I feel like he needs a challenge and I was too nice for him. I have known him for many years and he would always choose these types of women over me for a long term relationship. I am tired of being an option to him and not a priority and I refuse to contact him ever again. I gave him one too many chances to redeem himself with me.
Great Video Susan! You were "en Fuego" from start to finish here. The Ghosting is spot on and the rest was superb! The recent Vacation did you good. Love your energy! David viewing while in the South of France..and it's boiling here!🙌
What a wonderful compliment! My trip was absolutely lovely and quite needed. I love love love the south of France. Hoping to head back next year!
I was seeing a guy for a few months. We were exclusive & had plans to meet up. After not hearing from him st the meeting time I sent him a text. He texted me breaking it off & blocked me before I could respond. I'm pretty broken because it was so out of no where and I did not even get to talk to him.
I'm so sorry that happened to you!
People behave so horribly. No one has any manners or consideration. That was such a self-centred thing for him to do - I’m so sorry.
So sorry you couldn't get closure. I'm sending a text to the person I've been seeing for a couple months in the morning finding out why she suddenly began slow fading or slow ghosting me, and I know the fact that I think I can get some actual answers and closure from her is huge for me. I hope you find a way to move on.
Dear Susan, as always, thank you for your wisdom. To me, the main takeaway is: as you said at 40:27, the fact that we normalise (ghosting) does not make it okay.
I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back through the heIp of mr ose who can also heIp you restore your relationship.
Wh'atsap him for heIp🙏.
At my age i prefer to have a peacefull life...I need your support and prayers for that. My love and prayers to you all
We unfortunately ignore the RED FLAGS ☺️
Yes, I did. And why is that? Crazy!
Or we don’t recognize them…
@@SusanWinter oh I saw them and forged ahead anyway. And found more along the way. And then I let him charm the pants off of me, literally.
@@SusanWinter Yes. Or just make excuses!!
It's not the ghosting that's a shock anymore, it's when the other person actually speaks with you and that's a shame. Good luck and happy dating to u alllll!!!
I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back through the heIp of mr ose who can also heIp you restore your relationship.
Wh'atsap him for heIp🙏.
Yeah its definitely harder to understand w someone who u had a relationship with. Someone who can communicate, someone with a heart etc......
V confusing and awful but it is what it is.
But in the example u gave at the start of the video after one date - thats not really ghosting.
One date means nothing. After a few dates or after an actual relationship its justified that you deserve an answer.
I had a guy ghost me after a few months intensive relationship, he pursued me like mad but he refused to give any answers. This was about 15 years ago. Ive since moved on but it hurt me very deeply at thr time. And yes I did kind of blame myself.......
thanks for the videos
You look so good with curls in your hair 👍
Thank you! The humidity in NY makes keeping them easy!
People are intrusive. They're looking for equity and want to find out what you have as a decision making process.
Been on both sides of ghosted. I've done it....got it done to me.....bottom line/reality: you're not into them or they aren't into you. I have to say though, I don't totally ghost out of the unexpected, I mean it's usually after giving hints as to communicating that what they are looking for, and what I am looking for aren't a match. But what I can't stand are the ones that don't communicate, and I have no idea. Thats just simply crazy on their part.
So move on......many more fish in the sea.
No one is expecting to/be ghosted. This person was never my anything, he knew me from work. He is just doing it for his own enjoyment. He knows he terrified me with his ghosting, I am old,living alone, no one believes me that this guy is ghosting me, as well he has his buddies ghosting me, JUST FOR FUN”. 3:58
A guy has been in the wind for a week and we haven't known each other a month. I'm ok if he lost interest, it happens, but I don't understand why he won't give me my things... that's the only reason I sent a text recently
I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back through the heIp of mr ose who can also heIp you restore your relationship.
Wh'atsap him for heIp🙏.
Great show thank you Susan 🙌🏻🌞
You’re welcome! Glad you enjoyed it
Susan, you are reading my mind again these days ♥️
I hope this video helped!
Ghosted by my fwb.. who been talking to for 4 years.
Sadly when we had a conversation at the beginning I said no ghosting. He said he doesn't ghost people and that's a shiity thing to do. (I have the screen shot) sadly been in limmerence with this fool. We met up last end of Feb. After one message, hes ghosted me ever since. So disrespectful..
I'm debating whether to delete him or not now.. know him for 14 years...
The integrity issue tells a lot 🙃
That app idea is genius! @40:43
I think it would be a very useful concept!
Missed the live stream ( work > time difference ) and didn't see the notification until now. Just watched it and you were in great intellectual shape again. As usual.
I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back through the heIp of mr ose who can also heIp you restore your relationship.
This is brilliant advice Susan. But is it really worth the effort? It depends on how you feel about them!!!!
Thank you my lady I appreciate your videos my love 🥰
Thank you my wonderful, John!
Havent heard from a guy in two weeks. His phone is off and he has no social media, there is no way to contact even when I texted. Oh well
Heyy Susan! How come you’re not in Arizona, at this time of the year, like you’d normally be?
Please be aware of human sex trafficking and worse!!! A lot of potential victims get scoped by guys pretending to date online, and ask invasive questions, such as what car are you driving, where do you work, where do you work-out or what gym do you go to, clubs, etc etc. They may not know where you actually live, but try to narrow it down to find you otherwise. So if you're young, pretty and not quite yet wise to the world - this is a thing to keep in mind when someone is asking too many personal Qs early on during online dating!!!
Hi Susan, I like you. Hugs Bill
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There is no way I am the first (?)
YOU ARE FIRST!!!!!
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@@SusanWinter Watching video..................... "Girlfriend" is away on vacation...........waiting to see if she continues e-mails AFTER her return. (Fingers crossed.)
The one sure thing every man knows in this day and age is that never listen or take dating advice from women. The reason being is that what they say they want doesn't match up what they go for. Hence, don't believe what she said, only believe her actions.
Oh, yes, bad boys finish first and you know it yourself. A man's personality and character usually way down to women's requirements. Height, looks and money will be on top of that list. 💯💯💯
That’s cause you go for woman who look for those traits in someone. Not every woman looks for a man who is rich. Yes we want you to have a job and not be a bum. Of course everyone is attracted to looks. Looks only go so far. You can be hot but a shitty personality kills it. Start as friends seems the best way.
@@SixxQueen91 Although I agree with some of your views, you kinda missed the whole point. My point is that women don't admit they value height, looks and sometimes money way more than a man's personality and character. Why don't you go out and observe in the real world and do more research 🤔.
'Start as friends '? That's absolutely the worst dating advice you can give to anyone. You just illustrated my point on why it's a bad idea to take a dating advice from women.
Hey i need your help tell me in my case : me and my ex-boyfriend were fighting like any normal couple
But in this time he told me bad words and hurted me so much so i told him that m leaving then we didn't talk again (i closed my social accnts but when i reopen them the next day he blocked me)
So i feel like i am the one who dumped him
Wish u tell me because m so confused about should i reache out or no
It's have been tow months since the break up.