I WAS MARRIED IN A VERY BIG WEDDING IN LONDON.I THOUGHT MY MARRIAGE STARTED BUT IT'S ENDED SAME DAY.
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Ladies! Ladies please stop staying in a marriage that doesn't work
Herina Hellen sometimes you can forcerad by different reasons.
Fact👌
Say that one more time for the people in the back
And faking to the world
@@kensu7257 naah no situation forces you,people make choices
Pole mom.Kindly, remove that ring he put on ur finger.It might be still trying your developments.Not all are blessed
Atumia aria marutaga wira wa Ngai nimahuragwo mbaara nene muno ni ngoma agerete athuri ini so. Pole Sana pastor Jane
True am a victim.
Mapenzi can’t be forced.. I am getting angry watching this. God is faithful
Me too. Love, respect yourself. Man was looking for documents..stay. Lt happens all the times with Nigerians in diaspora, but a fellow Kenyan?? She was more a mother to the narcissistic man
True, that story is annoying.
Eti God hates divorce mbona lakini watu hawaelewi biblia. Surely???? Uteseke ukufe?????? So God ordained for you. Wacha kutoelewa biblia
Wow! I'm shocked!! 😲 I've never heard of a man kufagia nyumba, it's always women who do, but I guess there is always a first time🤷🏾♀️
He was Narcissist
He had brought you down to his level.
Used to get Citizenship.
The guy must have found you very desperate. Please usipende mwingine hivyo.
How do I get part two of this interview?
Jibakishie
Kuwa mjanja
The lesson here for me is: women over 40 need to be okay with being single and ending bad relationships. No shame. It might be painful but it is less pain and trauma than being in an abusive relationship or one where there is no mutual respect. Love and marriage is not by force, let it go...
It's not about age , it's about the man you marry , there any even young ladies in their 20s you through the same thing, but most of them they don't open up
Very true
Not about age pls pls
Not about age pls
Coz u think when one turns 40 they are not loveable or they are too old to love and be loved?
There was a big red flag. He never loved you. He used you. You gave him paper. He was a complete narcissist.
That man was a rotten pastor, you did wrong covering him up, a snake will still bite u ,
Yet another narcissistic abusive relationship, The goal of a narcissist is to destroy and eventually kill all your dreams, reduce you to nothing in an effort of trying to control you. Stress you to a point of committing suicide. This kind never change, they only get worse.
Our people are only beginning to know about narcissistic people. It’s easy to judge wrongly till you understand what someone has gone through. I still believe narcissism is demonic though
Sharon, I'm with you on that, they are demonic and hiding everywhere especially in churches. I have a page that I shed a light on how to spot a narcissist and the narcissist are working hard to get it closed claiming its a hate group. Here is my link for any one who wants to learn more
facebook.com/youarenotlosingit/
@@sharonwabarakamusic Thank you Sharon. Naccistisic Personality Disorder (NPD). To me, It's a kinder of sickness.
Let continue to read more on this personalities. Let also pray and create awareness to young ladies OR men, to identify NPD traits early in relationships and not to confuse these traits with love.
@@faithkimathi4068 yes it is a personality disorder but the way it manifests it is like demonic possession, narcissists manipulate even prayers that’s how evil it can be, halafu no one believes the victims.
Never force yourself in a man who has no heart.
Can you get married if you get a husband!? Lol 😂 the answer is , if you have a husband means that you are married ! Most women put themselves in these messes ! Leaving the day of the wending could have saved you a great wound n hurts!! This woman uses too much "church "even when it's obviously personal weakness .
Akioa after 2 months ata mimi hivo hivo. Mimi nishinde nimelilia mwanaume ni oxygen ananipea
This was a marriage of convenience, the only person who thought otherwise was the woman. There is a lot of men/women who will appear to be what you are looking for and we need to ask God for discernment.
Discernment !!!? True. However in this case, God didnot speak to her through dreams, a feeling or through other people. He sent physical evidence on the evening of the wedding. The marriage should have been annulled, but she went ahead with it to protect herself, her family, the church. .Almost 2 decades later the Church of God has been drugged through the mud, she is still crying her heart out and I am sure her family is heart broken to see her like this. May God heal her.
I wish that as women we would feel free to leave destructive relationships. May we never feel the urge to pretend and sacrifice ourselves for people who never have (and never will) love us. Very sad. I pray for her complete healing, strength, and restoration in Jesus' Name. 🙏🏽
Thanks for including English subtitles. I wish more of your fellow Kenyan influencers would do the same. God bless.
This pastor allowed herself to be used by a conman. It’s shameful and she should erase this man in her memory and seek professional help.
Not cry for a conman
Hizi marriage za mapastor never knew they were so fake. Hii story Ni Kama ya pastor Joan Wairimu. Finding a good husband is as hard as finding a job in Kenya.
Am listening this story with bitterness and with many questions, you mean pastors can behave this way??
Secondly marriage is good but it's not meant for everyone, ones you realize your marriage is not working face the reality and call it quits. You will be hurt when quiting but you will be happy the rest of your life.
If marriage is abusive that man or woman is not your meant for you period!!
Being single does not mean wewe ni kiwete, ladies don't agree Tobe humiliated by men in the name of marriage it takes the two to tango.
I am sorry but you said you wanted to protect a church? Religion is the down fall of African women and men. You let a man use you? Where is human dignity? Self worth? Respect? I would liked this woman to talk about LOVE. I think she got obssesed about him. Sorry i am a psychologist not a religious person. I was brought up in very strict Christian family but i left all those fanatism ....all young people use common sense, LOVE, diginity, self respect and put boundaries on your live .... religion will put in hell. She still in love with him and she refused to move on .... what a pity???? Jesus they said he died on Cross dont let anyone crucify you ooooohhhh i beg
I agree with you.
I totally agree with you I don't even pity her she's too good to be true
Uhn! If there is hell means that there is paradise.
I totally agree with you about the religion and the African women and though I like the high respect mum accorded her ex husband the extent of living with him again even after he moved on with another woman is quite a big risk especially of stds and having married another wife Disqualified the man to be a church leader or elder according to Paul in his letter to Titus. The man took advantage of her accomodative nature to abuse her but all that happens on this earth will be paid back right here on earth :the tears for children and an oppressed woman reaches to the throne of God while still wet and still hot
Sammy Ndekei ndekei some times people uses religion in a different way as in her case . She was too obsessed in love n married thing and uses too much "sake of the church " that's her weakness not religion.I am a single mother in a church where single people leave alone divorcee like me get no position in the church but that doesn't qualify me to force myself for marriage in order to fit the small society .
Ignoring the red flag just coz you want to see the good in people will cost you someday
He wanted papers not love ❤️. She was desperate (I have so I am not judging) and she wanted to desperately prove and believe she was loved!!!
I hope those stepchildren recognize the great sacrifice she made for them. He used her for UK citizenship for himself and his children. May we never be abused by anyone in Jesus' Name. We single sisters will walk in divine wisdom in all things including marriage. Amen.
Amen
Amen
The children love her
All those problems because of your ex husband ...bona wazee wengine hawaongei straight forward and you move on ..korwo ninii ingiamutigite okiroko ...
My conclusion,9 years after walking out of an abusive marriage is,most men don't like intelligent,smart women. It rubs their ego the wrong way. Once you see the reds flags,run for cover. Once you catch your man cheating ,run fast run. Women should embrace singlehood. And to ladies who think being 40 is a curse and choose to settle with any man,my friend just got buried for this mistake. A man can have sex with you and still not love you. Somebody said abusive men will always come back to see if you are still stupid🙄
Well said.
True
Being single is not a crime. But where do you kids from? From another woman?
@@reginakamanga3586 it might be out of divorce ,death of a partner or separation
Yes, if you are still stupid enough to take another dose of crap, he will give it to you
This is a good story but the flow is bad.. i got confused many times but i pray for healing upon you Wa muita. Your heart is broken. Let go and let God
No flow at all!!
Impossible serving God in such a relationship
Waoh. Too confused. You are a counselor and you allowed all this to happen. Am not judging you but am opinion is that you were blinded by your public image. From what you said it seems like your man married you only to acquire permit of stay and didn't know how to get out later.
She did counselling after all this
Women, a marriage starts and ends with honor & respect, love comes through after honor and respect. Hakuna harusi bibi atanjenga peke yake........if a man talks to you narcissistically,has an affair even during your wedding night, abandons you......what exactly are we waiting for? You are stuck with a FOOL who doesn't know himself and he will never change unless Jesus dies again. Girls love yourself, nobody should treat you like a substandard human being unless you let them. Pole mama, glad you made it out.
Some people just wants to be married to show people they have a 💍
Ukweli why go through this ati muthuri no ndi muite biu this lady is annoying
Everything one does has a pay.
This man will pay at the fulness of time.
It might take years. But he will pay. Watch the space
If you can't encourage her just pita ,everybody condemning her,who has never messed up in love and life?????take heart ❤️ ma'am
kindly host Maureen wanjaro wife to late legend mwalimu George wanjaro usikie maajabu ya musa
Please tell us abit kionjo where can I find her testimony
At reke ciume na ene show just watch part 1 n 2
I second you let her host her
@@moureenthera960 you can also look her facebook. Maureen wanjaro
Very sad l couldnot hold my 😭😭😭😭
This stories haki,,ati pastor's wife my foot,mm nitakuanika mbele ya Kanisa nkt.
With respect, the dear pastor's story is neither flowing nor making sense entirely cos it's all over the place (almost incoherent). One struggles to understand the account or keep up with her. When one is not comfortable with sharing her journey by leaving out key details, all that's left is a half-baked story full of holes. Rather than educating/encouraging the viewers, it leaves them totally confused. Shiru kindly encourage ur guests prior interview to open up or give themselves time to heal, till such a time that they're comfortable sharing their journey fully. It's a rushed testimony that leaves more questions than answers.
ni mushenee unapenda, after you know everything then what? You seem to know more than what she is telling.
@@ritatruphena413 Wacha stress, kunywa maji.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂
I guess u r the wife who destroyed her marriage ....mia hau
@@wanjirungari5781 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Wadada mtatuonyesha mambos.
@@frashiahwangari2177 sio mambo nivile umecomment kabla kuskiza part zote mbili
Just come to learn don't follow the pastor but only the word of God ,is this man truly God servant no judgement waiting for part 2 more popcorn 🍿 please 😂
Labda huyo wa kenya alimfanyia kitu, pole sana mum.
My thots too...Ile siku hizo juju zitaisha nguvu hataamini...
Am soo sorry for what you went through🙏glad you made it out. Some of us our mother's are still struggling in the stupid marriages because they're serving in church. The advice given by Christians to pray for their abusive spouses its painful💔kids hurt alot. More power to you
The greatest problem with ladies is appearing so desperate to a man. Why peg your freedom to some useless desperate and hopeless man? She went ahead to take the man's children to the UK? THIS IS STOOPING TOO LOW. This is insane, she is even goes ahead to remarry him back knowing very well that he has another wife. What wrong with women?? I am so pissed off? I value myself so much to stoop this low .nkt
U.K YOTE KUJENI HAPA!!! HOW COULD YOU NEGLECT YOUR OWN?? PASTOR JANE HAMIA USA. POLE SANA MUM.😥
mum pliz fear God only forget about people what thy going to say love your self arume ni nyamu God will fight for his work you can't fight for God wachana na kuolewa kabisha tumikiya mungu
Waaah hii familia yote naijua ni neiba ya shush pale Ngochi... Kahunira primary am old student there still and Gitwe girls was my favorite school.
Pole mama ila sijaelewa sababu ya kuvulmilia hayo yote.
ATA Mimi sishiki
You can't become who you were created to be without going through winds and testing.How you respond in these difficult time will determine whether you come out bitter or you you come out better.You may feel like you're sorrounded by opposition,everything has come against you.Don't worry God is sorrounding what's sorrounding you..(A painful story but God fights for the righteous)
Amen
Very true
Can't wait for pt 2..men men that one just wanted papers.very selfish. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Tuned . A great woman of faith. She is from my home area. May God bless her.
God hates divorce; but, hates some marriages even more for instance her flopped one. In Ezra ch10 God commanded mass divorce so let believers stop saying God hates divorce. I just doubt this woman was ready for an interview too much sanitizing (wont mention this, that) for a moment you doubt she is the victim. She ought to love herself first and fast. Anyway, a pretty cases study of what never ever to do
I’m the first one today. Talking is therapy for healing. I will call you
Sorry my sister kanitha urugamagio ni Ngai no ti mundu.hau niho waguaga kigeranio.
Acokaga gwaku arehererwo ni muka.Dont die 4 the sake of the church.The church belongs to God.
oh my!!, this beautiful lady is still in pain..God fix her n let the pain n tears go away
It's ok to cry dear. I was also reported to police falsely you have all my support WOG. That wound need to heal completely. Call me please 0782732325. Iron sharpens iron
Ngai wa atumia ario giti ini athuri magatuonia uhoro mi nlishindwa kuvumilia mundu noakue okahora ni dipression ikifika place we have to let it go and let God sorry for everything oundu wi gitumi wi mwega kana wi muru micii ni miritu .
you need to understan that narcist go thro pain and they want their victims to suffer too. why are women so blinded. i cant vumilia a narcist. but most of their are gd people first but then you learn quickly you are married to an animal!
Huyo alikuwa anataka permanent residence through you na umletee watoto wake UK 😁
Dont mean to be horrible but it seems so obvious to us that this man didn't love you. Why did you live in denial for so long? You were counselling other people. You needed counselling yourself This is why it's dangerous to go to any counsellor with regard to your marriage.
I like watching your interviews a whole lot but this one was very confusing and with so many loopholes.
Talk to your people before they come in air. If someone is not ready to share her story entirely then don’t bring them on air.
Everything is not adding up.
My thoughts too. If only we could be/have been flies on the wall. Nobody is perfect and it's easier to judge (if we have to) if we witnessed every single second, minute, day......of the case study.
true
I think you are right about the gaps in the story but she mentioned earlier on she wasn't willing to into details for the sake of the respect she still has for that man. I support her.
@@teopistorsind9874 ASANTE SANA
First that man didn't love you even a second then you have live in denial for so long third upto now you have not let it go.
True anafaa to let go,how does she say with a lot of love for her husband trash
There was no love the guy did not love her even for aminute.more grace to you mum
Never Never force love.Learn how to.let go.It was very clear that this relationship we going no.whete
I think its at times holding something too much is not fair cos it might be thats not even your God chosen Adam n Eve. I don't believe when one get married then you have to go through hell .At times Gods works differently .May God help us to stay in his clock. Its not about years He is a miracle God. Later He restores everything.
Hii maneno ya religion siwezani, sijui mafuta, sijui ordained. All to brainwash people to go in circles of right and wrong.
Huyo mzee viboko zake lazima atapata...Fake & user! Why call him husband & keep the ring on?...mom you are still in denial...keeping the ring on is wrong unless you are a co-wife! You should not be ashamed of being a single mother especially when you know you did your part...have the peace of mind & let it go!! Voices that tell people to stay in marriage for the sake of outside appearance should not be listened to!!
I am so glad you're speaking out. Hehee keep it up my sister. Be strong and keep going....
Mama enda mtandao wachana na hao watu wa church. Upate mzungu wa 60 or 65yrs mkae vizuri
I don't blame so much the con husband.... You're are treated the way you allow... This Lady was desperate for marriage and the con pastor so that
Ya mapenzi nili graduate, ndonirio kanyoni wa Ng'ethe, Just curious Mum, kaí wahīkíte wimutumia wa kaigana???? Tondú kuhika mucīī wanahikanio . Hedaga kufunga na kuomba otherwise.....
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Women persevere a lot. Mwenye kuvaa kiatu ndie ajuaye penye inauma
Usipende mtu hakupendi. Period.. Hakuna biblia inasema hukae na mtu akikutesa ukilia kila siku.
This lady just wanted marriage but she was in denial. Jipende and leave toxic marriages. He didn't love her but only wanted papers
Women abroad past 40 stop matlrrying all these men without documents they preying on you wapate makaratasi. They always go for desperate women
I don't like it when people refer to a church of pastor so and so,worse when the portrait of the pastor sometimes with his wife a very big poster of the two, for God's sake it's not their church BUT church of God
A very sad story bit truth is huyu mtu hakukupenda. He wanted papers for himself amd his children and the financing she was offering at the time
Woiye Ngai ni munene. This looks like a very good woman
He sounds like my ex husband completely kana ari brother yake
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂kana cousin yake
People die and we get over it so i tell this lady to get couselling and move on.
The church belongs to God. You cannot protect it.the gates of hell will not prevail against the church of GOD. Let God reign over your life. You will find happiness if you really learn to totally put your trust in the Lord. Marriage is not a matter of life and death.love yourself.
It's such sad story, but educative. As Christians, we must live according to the word of God, and deny ourselves the comfort to please other. Pole Mum.
Hmmm ur beautiful, 🌻🌻🌻 what do men want? Am sure their was a dark power behind all that, Dont worry, some one better will come ur way...its well with you..
Why force yourself to a man who doesn't love you kwani yeye ndio amekubebea uhai nkt... women wake up love yourself.... ndo wamama wanauliwa in the name of kufunika aibu ... haya endeleeni
Once she realized he was playing her, she should have closed the door tightly shut behind him; but she allowed him in over and over again, and now she cries?
You acted very desperate sister.Dont ever stoop so low for a man just because of protecting marriage institution.
Nii maa maundu Maria ndiraigua mengie kihiko.maratuma njigue guoya wa kuhika maa.
Hi, Wamuita you were my mums best friend back then in Nairobi, Kayole
I THINK WANAFANYA ADVERTISEMENT YA KUNUNUA PLOTS FOR SALE NAKURU PLEASE PLEASE OPEN YOUR EYES WIDE..DON'T USE GOD IN YOUR BUSINESS..THE CHURCH HAS BECOME A MARKET WHERE GOODS AND SERVICES ARE SOLD.
I have realised when you are desperate for a man there are superficial reasons to remain with a man who treats you badly and the real reasons. Her superficial reasons were church and her child but the real reasons was fear, fear of being alone, fear than no one can love you 😍, fear that it’s too late
Fear comes from condemnation. I am not enough by myself. I need a man to love me, choose me, want me and favor me. Christians and church has made marriage an idol that can give you the life of God. And we have been so disappointed. Let’s come to our first love
We need to find our identity in Jehovah God. Not in a marriage. Ikishindikana imeshindikana. Wachana nayo
Shiru start a Kenyan dating site in UK. Anyway good job u doing keep it up
Those type of people never change. They have NPD.
Andu mageithike. Eeeh nituthomithanie kidogo. NPD naguo nimurimu uriku?
Narcissist personality disorder
Thank you. Nondathoma kaundu hau
Marriage is a life long relationship.Never rush in marriage ,take time praying,seek the will.of God and God will direct you to the right parrner in the right time..There is only one man / woman for you.(in marriage 3:things happen as( Gen 2:24 says, Leaving,uniting&One flesh
There are others even if you wait for years it doesn't necessarily work.
Sorry mum so you were married by a pastor mukora? Na noatongoragia kigongona ? Andu nimatie kigongona.
Ma'am you need deliverance from spiritual husband.
Uyu endete muthuri gukira Ngai kaba kwedwo ni Ngai. Noagigocokereire akorwo ni waku.
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I don't think she's ever moved on. And I also think it's also fair to hear pastor side too
The pain people go through in name of happy marriage n church
Wapi like za number two 🙋
Pole, that's why I never force love
ICI ihiko anga neikurema
Kuna part2 ya juu ama
I feel soo too...aaii..she lost herself bcoz of a man...alaaa
@@teresakiruthi4261 : I never entertain nensense with a man... get out
Most Lady Pastors don't make good Wives. Prove me wrong but history has shown so. Just like the Radio presenters, it's difficult to make a Pastor or radio presenter a good wife.
Ask me I will tell you
I think the discussion here is that the man already had another woman in kenya and all he wanted was to marry the Pastor so he could have British papers. . Quite common here in UK. However, God is a God of justice and he won't get away scotch free.
Nima your wedding was no food nituahutire mumo l was one of them. Ngai. Njega
Nitaenda kwa mang'oti upewe mtu na uniite harusi
Thanks for the 4h4h4h4hhhhh4h444h4hhh4h4h4h4hh4h4
She is very beautiful. She is so so strong.
I'm so sorry dear one, let's keep watch of narcissist men
Pole mummie but you are too sweet for this kind of a fake man. I believe he was only there to bring you down and enjoy your downfall. Move on and in the future take care do not give all your heart and feelings to anybody, leave a portion to yourself to give you consolation in case of need.
Ati alipakwa mafuta, then she was ordained by human, yaani bishops. Ordination is from God. Not human being hands. Human believe in human being than God. Later problems comes. This mabishops, as if ni mungu. No bishops will give human holy spirit or enternal. Bt human are brainwashed by so called bishops, pastors, fathers.
Yes ordination is from God but the ceremony definitely is performed by a bishop.
Siwezi kubali upus kaa iyo.noooooooo
A lady with a good heart, do good n gd will come back to you. A true Christian by deeds. ❤