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I have a daughter and ex-husband as well but only stayed married for 5 years. I always "knew" I was lesbian, but for many reasons, married. I don't regret it - it's just the course my life took and a choice I made at that time. The most difficult part for me has always been the criticism from other lesbians or the horrible amounts of jealousy from ex-girlfriends - of not just my relationship with my ex but of my daughter also. Today, I am happily married to a woman who doesn't make snide comments about my past and loves my daughter (who is now 25 years old). Thank you for sharing your story!You guys are awesome.
P you are definitely not alone and this happens to a lot more women than people think, it's just not talked about very openly. I got married to a man at the age of 19 after having known him for only a couple of months. Up to then, I had never been in a relationship or even had any kind of sexual experience, neither with a boy nor a girl. I had always only focused on school and had just moved to the other side of the country to start my studies when I met him. At 19, I had no experience and also no self-confidence when it came to relationships. So when he asked me to marry him and I hesitated because marriage had been nowhere on my list back then, he said "I'm not going to ask you again" so I panicked, thinking this was my only chance to be with someone and have a family so I agreed. Stupid, I know. Just like P, I would go back and slap myself if I could now lol, but out of that 15 year marriage I also got 2 wonderful sons and a lot of valuable life lessons, the most important one being to never deny who you are and always listen to what your inner voice or gut feeling tells you, it's usually right. By the end of that marriage I was unhappy to the point of depression and only when I fell head over heels in love with a woman 25 years older than me did I truly realise what had been wrong all my life, and in retrospect it all started to make sense. It was a tough journey, my husband also had cheated on me for several years and we were basically separated although not divorced yet when I met her. She has been my catalyst in a million ways and played a huge role in helping me to understand and finally accept myself. That being said, I just wanted to point out that there are a LOT of women who come out later in life and it really is nothing so extraordinary. There are many reasons why women also often have a harder time realizing that they are gay than men do, but it would be too much to mention them all here. I can very much relate to your journey P, and it makes me incredibly happy every time I see a woman embracing her truth. It's never too late. xx
Sometimes when I hear these stories I get a knee-jerk reaction. If you hadn’t married, you probably would have never had kids in your lifetime. That’s the truth to why lesbians prefer to marry men and for me it seems so convenient that they “realize” they were gay all along only after they had kids (never before). Depression or no depression, such women tend to have their cake and eat it too because they were lucky other lesbians were out there being out and suffering the social consequences. Very convenient to “realize” they were gay only now, when they face less social problems and it’s even fashionable with certain young crowds. It makes me want to roll my eyes. 🙄
I don't understand that if you are a lesbian before the marriage, and you know about this, how can you possibly be married to a man and be happy about it? Regardless of familial and societal pressure, surely your own inner voice would tell you not to accept the marriage in the first place?
They do it because they want the priviliges and social status that come with it, plus the easiness in having kids. They don’t want to admit it and try to pass it off as “I didn’t realize” until X years of marriage (when I benefitted), but that’s the actual reason, the external benefits. There’s social pressure to get married and you can’t say why you don’t want to.
@@ciobalina7445 Well that's a very sad situation to be in when you can't be what you want to be from the start. I couldn't imagine playing a part in something like this.
@@huitzilopochtli_tenochtitl496 I don’t know what to say. You would need to be in that situation. Most of us are more affected by society’s validation than we want to admit.
@@ciobalina7445 Well I am in this situation, secretly, however coming from a non-conservative household that does not bully its own family members to get married at a certain age, I have the luxury to atleast decline a heterosexual marriage. For me personally it would be unfair to involve a man in my life knowing that I could not love him, nor would actually like being physically intimate with him. I just could not bring myself to do it. Also, I would not like to bring children into the world where they could potentially be faced with a situation that one of their parents does not love the other parent (if they were to eventually find out) and that the marriage was, essentially, based on fraud. I am in my late 20's and all of my friends are married, I put it down to being busy as to why I am not married. Coming out is not an option even though I live in a western country. I do however, plan to live my life according to my true orientation, if in secret. You only live life the once and I do not want to live it without experiencing true love, that my heart desires 🙂.
@@huitzilopochtli_tenochtitl496 I understand your perspective. I have to say though that I met girls/women like you who once they reached their 30s started changing their minds and are now married to men. It’s mostly because they decided they want kids and it was easier this way, I think. So I would say that it’s best not to judge or say “I would never etc” because you never know what the future brings or how you change. Being the only one not married might affect you more than you think in the future, especially if you can’t find a committed female partner and you go unwillingly from one short-term relationship to the other.
Girls I can tell that is not so easy if you live in a country where being gay is forbidden , I’m not talking about myself but I’m the voice for a special girls that I date for few months, married with kids , that can’t be gay because of her religion . So she realized her orientation but cane back to live her “fake “ straight life...
@@huitzilopochtli_tenochtitl496 Except that's not how that works? You can love one person emotionally, and only that person of that gender once, and Not be sexually attracted to them at all. A lot of gay people find themselves married to someone of the opposite gender, who they genuinely love, and only realize or come to terms with being gay later in life. Edit: A lot of things influence marriage, and my case was not a simple fall in love and get married. It involved a homophobic family that tried to beat the gay out of me, and me trying my best to be the person they wanted by trying to be straight. Obviously, it didn't work.
@@motherrabbit4991 you and your family ruined a man's life it's a fraud you lied all the years of marriage It's very selfish of you hope that man recovers
FIRST of all... NEVER lie to YOURSELF !!! If you don't BELIEVE in YOURSELF, NO ONE else will !!! . That car horn was WEIRD, and what happened in the end ??? Did someone walk in ??? I was lost THERE, nothing more than USUAL !!! LOL Until next time..💞
I so understand this. The reasons why can be complicated. My heart is with you. ❤
I know exactly what P she dealt with I had exactly happened to me but it's not good to live with regrets better later than never 🌹🌹💝💝
I agree with u!
💛❤️ Come share your story on Reddit.com/r/LateBloomerLesbians ! Some of us are married to men, some of us are dating them, and some of us are chronically single. But we well have one thing in common: we are late to the coming out game. It's a place for bi, lesbian, and questioning women to share, give advice, and receive support! ❤️💛
I have a daughter and ex-husband as well but only stayed married for 5 years. I always "knew" I was lesbian, but for many reasons, married. I don't regret it - it's just the course my life took and a choice I made at that time. The most difficult part for me has always been the criticism from other lesbians or the horrible amounts of jealousy from ex-girlfriends - of not just my relationship with my ex but of my daughter also. Today, I am happily married to a woman who doesn't make snide comments about my past and loves my daughter (who is now 25 years old). Thank you for sharing your story!You guys are awesome.
@Chipmunk Correct, lesbians only fall in love with - women or in my case, my wife. Therefore, I am lesbian.
In this situation, was you able to fall in love with you husband. If not, how was you able to keep the marriage going?.
P you are definitely not alone and this happens to a lot more women than people think, it's just not talked about very openly. I got married to a man at the age of 19 after having known him for only a couple of months. Up to then, I had never been in a relationship or even had any kind of sexual experience, neither with a boy nor a girl. I had always only focused on school and had just moved to the other side of the country to start my studies when I met him. At 19, I had no experience and also no self-confidence when it came to relationships. So when he asked me to marry him and I hesitated because marriage had been nowhere on my list back then, he said "I'm not going to ask you again" so I panicked, thinking this was my only chance to be with someone and have a family so I agreed. Stupid, I know. Just like P, I would go back and slap myself if I could now lol, but out of that 15 year marriage I also got 2 wonderful sons and a lot of valuable life lessons, the most important one being to never deny who you are and always listen to what your inner voice or gut feeling tells you, it's usually right. By the end of that marriage I was unhappy to the point of depression and only when I fell head over heels in love with a woman 25 years older than me did I truly realise what had been wrong all my life, and in retrospect it all started to make sense. It was a tough journey, my husband also had cheated on me for several years and we were basically separated although not divorced yet when I met her. She has been my catalyst in a million ways and played a huge role in helping me to understand and finally accept myself. That being said, I just wanted to point out that there are a LOT of women who come out later in life and it really is nothing so extraordinary. There are many reasons why women also often have a harder time realizing that they are gay than men do, but it would be too much to mention them all here. I can very much relate to your journey P, and it makes me incredibly happy every time I see a woman embracing her truth. It's never too late. xx
Sometimes when I hear these stories I get a knee-jerk reaction. If you hadn’t married, you probably would have never had kids in your lifetime. That’s the truth to why lesbians prefer to marry men and for me it seems so convenient that they “realize” they were gay all along only after they had kids (never before). Depression or no depression, such women tend to have their cake and eat it too because they were lucky other lesbians were out there being out and suffering the social consequences. Very convenient to “realize” they were gay only now, when they face less social problems and it’s even fashionable with certain young crowds. It makes me want to roll my eyes. 🙄
Happy Holidays to you both! 🎄 Thank you so much for the lovely videos you put out. They are always so appreciated. ❤️
16 years here. Biggest regret is letting fear & ppls opinion control me.
You both are so amazing together and beautiful. Love your Videos. Merry Christmas to you both ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I completely understand her. I was in a relationship for five years with a man.
"Gürültü yapıcam, konuşmanızın bitmesini bekliyorum" 😝😂😂
Annen çok tatlı, onunla özel videolar da yap lütfen💙
@@pxpq videonun sonunda konuşan Sedef'in annesi..
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@@strawberry-bl7du e biliyorum zaten. Videonun sonunda Sedef'in annesinin sesi geliyor. İyi dinlerseniz duyarsınız
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Did P continue to communicate with her ex-husband after the divorce? Do they still get along? Has Sadie ever met him?
Yes of course I’ve met him! He’s very sweet actually, and yes they are on friendly terms. 🙂
I don't understand that if you are a lesbian before the marriage, and you know about this, how can you possibly be married to a man and be happy about it? Regardless of familial and societal pressure, surely your own inner voice would tell you not to accept the marriage in the first place?
They do it because they want the priviliges and social status that come with it, plus the easiness in having kids. They don’t want to admit it and try to pass it off as “I didn’t realize” until X years of marriage (when I benefitted), but that’s the actual reason, the external benefits. There’s social pressure to get married and you can’t say why you don’t want to.
@@ciobalina7445 Well that's a very sad situation to be in when you can't be what you want to be from the start. I couldn't imagine playing a part in something like this.
@@huitzilopochtli_tenochtitl496 I don’t know what to say. You would need to be in that situation. Most of us are more affected by society’s validation than we want to admit.
@@ciobalina7445 Well I am in this situation, secretly, however coming from a non-conservative household that does not bully its own family members to get married at a certain age, I have the luxury to atleast decline a heterosexual marriage. For me personally it would be unfair to involve a man in my life knowing that I could not love him, nor would actually like being physically intimate with him. I just could not bring myself to do it. Also, I would not like to bring children into the world where they could potentially be faced with a situation that one of their parents does not love the other parent (if they were to eventually find out) and that the marriage was, essentially, based on fraud.
I am in my late 20's and all of my friends are married, I put it down to being busy as to why I am not married. Coming out is not an option even though I live in a western country. I do however, plan to live my life according to my true orientation, if in secret. You only live life the once and I do not want to live it without experiencing true love, that my heart desires 🙂.
@@huitzilopochtli_tenochtitl496 I understand your perspective. I have to say though that I met girls/women like you who once they reached their 30s started changing their minds and are now married to men. It’s mostly because they decided they want kids and it was easier this way, I think. So I would say that it’s best not to judge or say “I would never etc” because you never know what the future brings or how you change. Being the only one not married might affect you more than you think in the future, especially if you can’t find a committed female partner and you go unwillingly from one short-term relationship to the other.
Gosh. She’s so attractive. I hope I can look half as good as her at her age.
Girls I can tell that is not so easy if you live in a country where being gay is forbidden , I’m not talking about myself but I’m the voice for a special girls that I date for few months, married with kids , that can’t be gay because of her religion . So she realized her orientation but cane back to live her “fake “ straight life...
Altyazılar yok 😢😢😢😢
'Can i touch it ?' ❤ So polite and respectful P !
20th day of vlogmas . i just wanna say ilove u si much my princess babe maan 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕😘😘💕😘🥰🥰😍🥰🥰🥰😍
How old is P's daughter ?
You're so adorable...watching u guys made my day.♥♥♥
I needed to see this...I'm in this situation..I married a man who I did love, and tried my best to deal with my sexuality.
But if you did love him, then you are not a lesbian 🤔.
@@huitzilopochtli_tenochtitl496 Except that's not how that works? You can love one person emotionally, and only that person of that gender once, and Not be sexually attracted to them at all. A lot of gay people find themselves married to someone of the opposite gender, who they genuinely love, and only realize or come to terms with being gay later in life.
Edit: A lot of things influence marriage, and my case was not a simple fall in love and get married. It involved a homophobic family that tried to beat the gay out of me, and me trying my best to be the person they wanted by trying to be straight. Obviously, it didn't work.
@@motherrabbit4991 you and your family ruined a man's life it's a fraud you lied all the years of marriage
It's very selfish of you hope that man recovers
P feel comfortable kissing your girl ...much love from tanzania
Complimenti. Oltre ad essere una coppia meravigliosa, siete davvero interessanti da seguire. You two are awesome! Love you both.
Good morning sadie&P...i love you both..😘
What about your daughter
FIRST of all...
NEVER lie to YOURSELF !!!
If you don't BELIEVE in YOURSELF, NO ONE else will !!! . That car horn was WEIRD, and what happened in the end ??? Did someone walk in ???
I was lost THERE, nothing more than USUAL !!! LOL
Until next time..💞
Saddeeee or p I big fan of u
Good morning 🌹🌹
Hii Love 😍😍
You’re bi, not gay. You’re welcome.
dat intro tho
why are you guys keep making same kind of videos? i love you but that’s the truth