Frugal money saving advice that you probably won't like.

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  • @bookmagicroe9553
    @bookmagicroe9553 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +98

    The other day I baked a whole chicken. Had chicken dinner for two. Used bones and some of the chicken to make soup which
    was another two servings for two people. Next day used leftovers with mayo on salad for two. Finally the little bit left was used in a pasta salad. With a little creativity you can stretch your food dollars.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      😀😀

    • @rustykatt3870
      @rustykatt3870 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hi bookmagicroe- yes, it's amazing, isn't it. Great idea! Thanks for the reminder. 😊

    • @joannapatterson4625
      @joannapatterson4625 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Totally! I eat the same way.

    • @HelplessHawk
      @HelplessHawk หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Brilliant! I want to do the same. I'm doing meals for 1
      Can I keep the chicken for long time or do I have to use it within 4 days. When I've tried before to "stretch" it I'm having to have it morning noon and night! I'm not sure about freezing it..

    • @OOSPassie
      @OOSPassie หลายเดือนก่อน

      @HelplessHawk freezing works fine.
      Also. Pack it portions BEFORE the first meal in clean GLASS containers. Then it's still hot and this packs cleaner so it keeps longer.
      Use mason jars. Use left over and cleaned jam/fruit/veg jars.

  • @jmshrrsn
    @jmshrrsn 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    You sound like my mum! She talked a lot of sense. I despair when I see others wasting their money whilst at the same time complaining they have no money. Great video!

  • @Cleaningfairy1970
    @Cleaningfairy1970 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I have a small group of friends and we get together at each others houses twice a month. We watch movies together, play board games and card games and have a potluck. Its a ton of fun and and a whole lot less expensive than eating out.

  • @lindabudzik9583
    @lindabudzik9583 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +56

    I love your advice about teacher gifts. Every year when I start to see articles about how to create really cheap teacher gifts, I think, "Oh, those poor teachers." How many apple emblazoned / apple shaped items do they need? I wish teachers would band together and say, "Just give me the $3 you would spend putting together the cheap coffee mug, hot chocolate mix, and peppermint stick and save yourself the trouble." How demoralizing it must be to know you are getting a token based on the cheapest item they could find on Pinterest. We should give teachers respect, support, help, and thanks-not cheap trinkets to clutter their lives-or cash or a gift card they can actually use. ❤️

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      It's mostly junk that gets thrown away

    • @kellyhaydon7674
      @kellyhaydon7674 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Here in New Zealand, we don't give teachers a gift, in our culture we see that teachers are paid to teach. ( Be it not very well) Buts just not common practice

    • @lobstermash
      @lobstermash หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Yes! Junk gifts are a burden to the recipient! It's just filling the landfills.

    • @StephASMR
      @StephASMR หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      As a teacher, we love to get a handwritten card with something meaningful written in it. I have a kept all of mine over the years. I love going back through them and reading them sometimes.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @ I'm retired and I still have every handwritten note and card from pupils and parents.

  • @S.RMarigold
    @S.RMarigold 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    As a teacher I totally agree with no gifts I have a box full of cards made by the kids and love that.

    • @OOSPassie
      @OOSPassie หลายเดือนก่อน

      As a teacher: a card is a LOT better than a trinket or chocolate!

  • @rachelrichards8312
    @rachelrichards8312 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Jane, I actually think this was your best chat ever. FULL of honesty, truth and humour.

  • @DebfromVa
    @DebfromVa 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    This video was so on point for these frugal times. Jane your hair looks amazing!

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Oh thank you!

    • @LauraMacMillan-el2kc
      @LauraMacMillan-el2kc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I love Jane’s hair! Soooo jealous 😁 !
      I look better with my hair short. But it’s a nuisance having to get it cut every 7 weeks or so. (It used to be every 5 weeks but … $$$.)
      I can’t cut it myself because I have two very strong whorls in my hair and I would end up with a couple of impossible-to-manage “cowlicks!”
      Plus since retirement and C-19; I really dislike leaving the house at all anymore - probably to the point it’s a little unhealthy. But that’s another story.

    • @ginnypeckham4022
      @ginnypeckham4022 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      French hairdressers are the best!

  • @CharleneEvenson
    @CharleneEvenson 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    I wish more people would tell people the truth and how it works in the real world. Thank you Jane and Mike. Bless you both.

  • @danibryant9318
    @danibryant9318 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +76

    Jane your hair looks fabulous, I love it parted on the side too ❤❤❤

  • @cathecavalle1016
    @cathecavalle1016 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

    It is especially important in today’s economy to be very frugal .

  • @farmerwife8412
    @farmerwife8412 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    As a teacher, a hand written note from a student would bring me joy! ❤ Please, no trinkets. They only end up in the bin.

    • @wandacarr668
      @wandacarr668 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@farmerwife8412 We used to pick dandelions for our teacher.

  • @susanjacks8830
    @susanjacks8830 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +64

    Well now Jane that is probably the most frank video you have done yet but we all need to hear it. I think just about everyone could do a better job with saying no and cutting back. My husband and I have had some big changes in our life in the past 3 weeks. He became ill and was in hospital for 4 days. Long story short he has been diagnosed with a blood cancer (myeloma). The doctor put him on a low sodium diet because he is having kidney issues as well. Thankfully I had a sinking fund fully stocked with cash for emergency food. We were able to go to the grocery apart from our regular shop and buy the low sodium items I needed to prepare meals at home. The doctor said NO fast food. So we are kind of forced into giving up our weekly fast food. Thank goodness I had a good sinking fund put back for extras. Thank you! You and Mike will never know how much your advice helps.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thanks for watching

    • @lynnoorman2144
      @lynnoorman2144 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      You will save money by not having that fast food take away! So you will rebuild your emergency fund! Take one of Jayne's other tips on board, though - plan in some meals with minimal cooking and washing up, to give yourself a break. So sorry to hear of the diagnosis, take care.

    • @hepzibah5945
      @hepzibah5945 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@susanjacks8830 I am so sorry about your husband's diagnosis, I hope you all pull through this. All the best.

  • @georgepolen9123
    @georgepolen9123 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    About saying "no"- when you say "no" stop right there. Don"t give reasons or excuses! This simply provides a wedge for people to try to change your mind. Saying a definite no leaves no room for argument! As always, I think your advice is sound- Mrs. G

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Well said!

    • @owenwilson6737
      @owenwilson6737 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      💯 “No” is a complete sentence

    • @OOSPassie
      @OOSPassie หลายเดือนก่อน

      Being Dutch. Saying no is just honest.

  • @peghamrick1051
    @peghamrick1051 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When my children were in school (PK-12), a couple of parents in my kids’ classes would organize a cash gift at Christmas/holiday time for the teacher from the parents in the classroom. It was done anonymously so if someone could not give, they would not feel forced to contribute. There were donations in all amounts from $5.00 and more from those who could afford it. The teachers appreciated whatever amount they received. They did not need anymore trinkets, coffee mugs or the like. Teachers in the US are underpaid, and they always appreciated the cash gift.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Teachers are underpaid every where. Most countries really don't deserve them

  • @akmevans1613
    @akmevans1613 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +170

    If you constantly say no to people wanting to meet up, they don’t ask again! That’s how I ended up with no friends and extremely lonely with very poor mental health.

    • @gladyschandler6724
      @gladyschandler6724 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      Just be selective. I do maybe a brunch or a HH once a month

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +107

      They weren't your friends, they were acquaintances. Real friends keep your company

    • @carolbaril9513
      @carolbaril9513 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      What a good reminder that it is never too late to be an adult. We do need to take responsibility for our decisions.

    • @uhohbestie
      @uhohbestie 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

      Sorry to hear they dropped you like that… Regarding saying no though, you can also come up with an alternative (free) suggestion. Instead of going to the cinema, watch a film at home and get some snacks. Instead of going out, meet at home or in a park or whatever. A ”No” can have a comma and a ”but” following it!

    • @pitita585
      @pitita585 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +64

      @@akmevans1613 she said “when you constantly say no.” And it’s true. Friendship is reciprocal. People may understand for a while that you’re dealing with things, but if they get the message all of the time that you aren’t ever available, relationships fall away. Balance is key.

  • @luba-healthywithluba6866
    @luba-healthywithluba6866 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Thank you, Jane!
    I am so blessed with two friends who like to meet for walks.
    As for gifts, one time I received a small, beautiful notebook with my first initial on it. It was useful and meaningful. The key to giving good gifts is listening! People talk about what they like.
    We eat all our meals at home. This is a huge money saver even with buying quality food.

  • @rustykatt3870
    @rustykatt3870 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    We're finding that "Saturday fridge soup" saves a lot. It's satisfying to use up the veggies and other leftovers in the fridge, and make soup. I put in some spices and it's satisfying. We tend to stay home that day- saves $50 - 100 from flying out of our pocket💸💸. Good luck to us all! ✨😊👍✨

    • @YeshuaKingMessiah
      @YeshuaKingMessiah 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Throwback Thursday could do this in. Put it in the lineup with Taco Tuesday and Pizza Friday.
      Sat is Spaghetti Saturday!Cooks all day till ur about to lose ur mind lol

  • @Vera-y8m
    @Vera-y8m หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    As a retired teacher I absolutely agree with the teacher gift thing. Best gift I ever received was an ice cream tub of strawberries from someone's garden but I did receive many expensive gifts that just made me cringe because I felt my salary was payment enough for my job and I felt it was a privilege to have a job where I felt appreciated and well treated as not everyone I'd trained with had been so fortunate. As for the rest of your tips Jane, they are fabulous! I need to watch this video once a week every week until I can trust myself to say no every time I should but since subscribing to your channel I am getting better and have nailed many of them thanks to you. Great video! ❤❤

  • @lindaash1932
    @lindaash1932 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    My daughter always used to make gifts for her teachers. One of my good friends was a teacher all her life until COVID retired her, and she said that the home made gifts were the most special to her because the students were showcasing what they have learnt throughout the year. If the kids enjoyed being in their class, they would want to make something for them, if they didn't enjoy their time, then a gift is not needed.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I can promise you, as a teacher, we wouldn’t say anything else……..even if it ended up in the bin.

    • @lindaash1932
      @lindaash1932 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@FrugalQueeninFrancemy friend was a special education teacher, she spoke from the heart, my daughter was mainstream but loved making her teachers gifts if she enjoyed the year with them. My friend was not her teacher.

  • @lynnestait8011
    @lynnestait8011 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    spot on Jane, but the first thing I noticed... 35000 subscribers!!! - another amazing milestone - well done both, on one of the best channels on YT 🙂

  • @JEANNEHUNTER-q5t
    @JEANNEHUNTER-q5t 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    As a person living on my own who doesn't (shouldn't) eat that much, I now tend to buy good, well prepared ready-made meals to which I add extra frozen veg and fruit. I hate the waste of fresh food going bad because I cannot eat it fast enough.

  • @lovechangesus
    @lovechangesus 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    A very good way to enjoy cooking at home is to think about all the corners you have to cut to be able to afford to buy food, then just imagine the corners restaurants and fast food places cut to be able to afford that same food and rent and staff, etc.... it makes me shudder to think of the quality of that food.

  • @sharonp.6505
    @sharonp.6505 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Oh my gosh! I love your vibe! I'm definately feeling the "new assertive me" emerging! My resolution for this year! Thanks!

  • @gladyschandler6724
    @gladyschandler6724 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I only gift to my close friends, and sometimes it's a used book or some of my nice jewelry since I'm 73.

  • @SandraM4972
    @SandraM4972 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +79

    Hi Jane, last weekend my husband an i sat down with our children. We had written down our income and the fixspendings. We did this the first time with the kids. It helped a lot. They aren`t complainig about the food anymore. They even came up with controlling the daily use of water and energy to lower the bill. 😉

    • @lynnoorman2144
      @lynnoorman2144 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I did that with mine, too. My boys are now in their late 30s - not in debt and have savings. Now they are more settled in jobs they are saving for a house deposit each.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      That is awesome!

    • @annbeth6730
      @annbeth6730 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@SandraM4972My sons 34 now. He told me I stopped asking for things because I realised you didn’t have a lot of money.
      Heart breaking but they understand when they are old enough to

    • @lesleygordon1748
      @lesleygordon1748 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      What wonderful young people you and your husband are growing. They will do well in all aspects of their lives.

    • @annemarie3636
      @annemarie3636 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What ages are they?

  • @gladyschandler6724
    @gladyschandler6724 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Yesterday I made lentils with farro using homemade bone broth, leftover lamb broth and also used some leftover pasta sauce

  • @StrawberryFields-1
    @StrawberryFields-1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    Your hair looks fantastic by the way!! I’m still working on reducing my food budget without sacrificing quality- but I’ve nailed cooking from home! I’ve done that for many years mostly because I love my own cooking and it’s healthier. But now when I see the cost of meals and drinks out, holy moly, I don’t know how anyone could save money eating takeout.

  • @annbeth6730
    @annbeth6730 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I won’t shop without a list.
    I have trained myself not to impulse buy . I can’t afford to stockpile. I have one in use one in storage. So I don’t run out of. It works. When I open my one in storage the item goes on the list . If it’s not on the list it doesn’t get bought. Good video ❤

  • @mufr9539
    @mufr9539 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Merci Jane pour tes supers conseils! J'aime regarder ta chaîne qui me permet également d'améliorer ma compréhension en anglais. Nous étions de passage à Huelgoat cet été. C'est vraiment un lieu féérique! Les petits dont je m’occupe m'ont offert de beaux dessins et des flapjacks faits-maison, pour mon anniversaire, cela m'a fait très plaisir!

  • @Abstractintrovert0824
    @Abstractintrovert0824 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Very good tips especially saying no. Once you say no a few times it gets easier. Also your hair is lovely.

  • @yuliyapike669
    @yuliyapike669 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A creative way to meet up with people without spending money is doing it at a park for a walk. At a river for a swim. At their house or your house for coffee and a neighborhood stroll. I do it all the time and I even tell people I can't do anything that isn't free. People totally understand. They even text me when it's the free entry day to a museum ;)

  • @mikel2044
    @mikel2044 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Saying “no” is hard. So ease into it. I say “yes” twice and then a “no”. They never catch on….they are grateful I say “yes” and understand when I say “no”. When I gained more confidence I change the ratio to more “no” and less “yes”. It gives me control of how I want to spend my time and money. Good job Jane.

  • @addy088
    @addy088 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I have a tradition with one of my best friends, we always have a theme dinner at home at Halloween, i do deserts, she does the appetizers or vice versa, this years we cooked the main dish together and it was so much fun 😊

  • @sheila1013
    @sheila1013 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I don't miss the constant collections at work. I began contributing selectively as they were for anything and everything. Thankfully that no longer happens since retiring. I have a smaller circle of friends now which works out fine for me financially. We are of a similar mindset and meet up as and when. Your hair looks nice Jane. Like the long layers. 😃👌🥰

  • @katharinawalker716
    @katharinawalker716 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Very well explained, you are responsible for your own financial path, no one else to blame, end of story. A very hard truth for some people.

  • @orhidejaskale6452
    @orhidejaskale6452 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Gift givers have it the worst. It's always someone's birthday or a holiday and the shopping never ends. They actually don't like to be on the receiving end.

  • @jennil7797
    @jennil7797 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    I like home cooked food so much more than eating out and we live 15 miles from a take away outlet. So, we spend three days, twice a year staying in a little hotel belonging to friends. Their food is home cooked, delicious and for six days a year, I don't cook or wash dishes. Luxu ry!
    As a teacher, the things I kept were the little cards, or more usually the folded piece of paper, with a picture and , often funny little message the child had drawn by themselves. Ten years after retiring, I still have lots of them!

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Exactly, I can still remember the phone calls, letters and cards saying thank you

  • @Catriona-t4j
    @Catriona-t4j 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I worked out that my SIL was spending around £50 not taking a packed lunch to work. I challenged him to take one and he agreed at the end of a month that it had saved him at least £200 and the food was in the house anyway as our family had always taken packed food to work. Love your hair!

  • @kathigos4921
    @kathigos4921 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Every two year old discovers that no is a very powerful word, and then we somehow forget. It took me a few decades, 😂, but its a great and powerful word again, used thoughtfully to make my life fit with my true goals. 😊

  • @michelehagerman216
    @michelehagerman216 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Sorry, for another comment, Jane! I appreciate that you realize not everyone has the time, facilities, or inclination to cook everything from scratch. As you say, a frozen pizza at home is still cheaper than take out. I just absolutely loved your recent video about helping the viewer who had issues stretching her food budget to the entire month.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thanks for your feedback

    • @lobstermash
      @lobstermash หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I agree it's hard cooking dinner from scratch after a working day. When I was working (now retired) I used to cook a lot of staples at the weekend and keep them in individual servings in the freezer. Pasta sauces, stews and curries, quiches, homemade bread, etc. It made life so easy. If I didn't do it I would always be tempted to buy takeaways on the way home.

    • @owenwilson6737
      @owenwilson6737 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same - I am gluten free and it has meant that I have had to learn to cook properly and make more things from scratch. I meal prep / batch cook on Sunday so there’s always something in the freezer if I get home late from work or the gym and don’t feel like cooking. Ordering in food or takeaway is something I just don’t do. There are a couple of places I like to eat out at occasionally but when I do I use my EatClub app and always get at least 15% off.

  • @kamicrum4408
    @kamicrum4408 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    When my children would ask for sometjing to est and I knew they were full, Id tell them to drink a nuce glass of cold water, some peopke interpet im thirsty as hungry!, I had 1 child who always wanted to eat when bored,at times lonely too,,Id ask her if she was really hungry, reminding her that she just ate, why dont you go read, walk your dog, ect. Shed find something to do& forget about esting!😊

  • @momof2momof2
    @momof2momof2 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    When my children were in school, I always gave their teachers gifts, but they were very thoughtful, useful gifts, I knew they would want and use. For my young adult children over the last several years, they mostly want cash or gift cards that I get for free from my credit card points each year. For my siblings, we decided years ago to not exchange gifts. So I only buy for my children, a neighbor and a close friend. I recently gave up our Direct TV which was $124.99 a month. We have free tv with a lot of channels from an antenna. We do host Christmas at our home, and love it. I start buying for it months in advance. Have a lovely day !

  • @simonefeaster5131
    @simonefeaster5131 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Jane, I’m right with you on all of what you discussed today. Especially with respect to careful usage of sales at my local food stores..it’s like a fun puzzle to solve weekly! Also, Hope from Under the Median gave you a shout out in her last video. I hope it sends some more people here. All the best to you, Mike and the pups❤

  • @CherylAnderson0
    @CherylAnderson0 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I couldn’t finish my pickling jalapeños because I didn’t have enough garlic. I did 4 jars and have enough for 2 more. I’ll pick up some fresh garlic on my way home from work tomorrow. In the southern US it’s like the peppers know winter is coming and they start making like crazy at the end of the season. I agree and understand everything you said. It’s all about priorities and unfortunately most people want their cake and eat it too. Most are not willing to be disciplined enough to sacrifice in one area to gain advantage in another. Just this morning my husband and I were discussing Christmas. All your advice today was perfect timing for me!

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Happy pickling

    • @Katesharpandvoice
      @Katesharpandvoice 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Don't use the garlic with the peppers...they'll be fine. Save time and money by using what you have on hand and not going out to get more.

  • @NadineTouzet
    @NadineTouzet 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I couldn’t agree more. I had a colleague/friend who always complained of being broke but she would buy the most extravagant gifts as thank yous for the smallest things you did for her. She probably thought me a miser but I inherited my father’s money sense (even though I like to splurge at times). My being retired now means that I have to be even more careful with money, and I can say that I generally live within my means.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Like I said, gift giving is a selfish act to make the giver feel good

  • @carolined3058
    @carolined3058 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Sometimes you need a bump on the road to see clear, well said.

  • @joannapatterson4625
    @joannapatterson4625 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Your content is spot on. Thank you🙂
    Totally agree. Decide on the goal, make the sacrifices if that means getting ahead financially.
    People act like they are so hard up. While this may be true for some, in reality, we all have items in our budgets that are not necessities. (certain foods, streaming services, whatever…..)

  • @hepzibah5945
    @hepzibah5945 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I subscribed because of this video Jane. Thank you for such a frank and absolutely direct video. It is refreshing, especially in a day and age where direct talk is considered mean. I appreciate this. Your hair is gorgeous as well.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thanks for subbing!

    • @hepzibah5945
      @hepzibah5945 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @FrugalQueeninFrance You're welcome.

  • @paivishaw1163
    @paivishaw1163 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Very good that you at times “take us by the ear” and remind us what responsible adult behaviour is. Sound suggestions as always❤

  • @karentownsemd2117
    @karentownsemd2117 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    After 15 years of going to the Christmas meal at work I said no thanks the first year my colleagues were ‘why aren’t you coming etc’ 5 years on they all just except I don’t go no problem and I am very happy to stay later so they can all get away to go and iam very happy to hear how their evening went, this change came about when I decided to cut back on everything so I could cut back on my working hours it’s amazing how much I saved and I don’t feel that I am missing out on anything if anything I am much happier I don’t feel the pressure anymore to say yes when I would rather say no.thanks Jane and Mike

  • @anita_R
    @anita_R 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Love your new haircut xx

  • @paulamonaghan3280
    @paulamonaghan3280 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Absolutely love the new hair style! My daughter and I go over our monthly budgets together. Since we live in the same house she knows what the utility bills are and helps with lowering those costs if possible. We have always used drying racks for about 3/4 of the laundry and now it will be 100% as our 4 year old new dryer bit the dust and is not worth repairing (they make them so cheap now a days). If we have to dry something really bulky we will go to the laundromat and pay the $2 to dry a load.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Great idea!!

    • @YeshuaKingMessiah
      @YeshuaKingMessiah 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Buy used old dryers. They last forever and ppl get rid of them simply to get a new one.
      I want one no more than 15 young (made before 2009).

  • @paulacostello6912
    @paulacostello6912 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Hi Jane and Mike, I wanted to let you know I've been watching TH-cam on my TV recently and i don't know how to like and comment there. So I'm at my computer and will be liking and commenting on videos your system may not show I've watched. I think you've been making some of your most important videos ever. I actually did like all the advice in this one, especially that people have to act like adults if they want to make financial progress. I have experienced myself and/or witnessed in some ppl close to me the damage created by impulse spending, "i want it NOW" and "i deserve". Your videos are so helpful. Thank you as always. And congrats on reaching 35K!

  • @lentilgoddess
    @lentilgoddess 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    My gosh, the hair!! So lovely. Re: your point about not eating out. I very rarely eat out and have not eaten in my college cafeteria for years, because it is exorbitant. Yesterday, due to a few miscalculations, I arrived at school hungry, went to said cafeteria, and got two eggs, about a cup of potato covered in seasoned salt, and a cup of coffee. This meal cost 15 dollars. Fifteen. Dollars.A brutal reminder not to grab 'n go!

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Exactly!!

    • @fishermanwife7086
      @fishermanwife7086 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That's crazy! My son is head chef at a college Cafe and they are all you can eat for $7.

  • @beverlyanntaylor9652
    @beverlyanntaylor9652 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I like and appreciate your straight forwardness! 😊💜

  • @joannagriffiths948
    @joannagriffiths948 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Spot on! I haven't had a take-away for about 25 years. Much easier to stick to a budget and say 'no' in a single household though. I think people often say 'yes' to things to keep the peace in a busy household. One thing I love doing is going to the supermarket with my list (I make all my meals) and resist all the tempting items that are there to catch you at every turn, don't forget the supermarket is engineered to make you buy things "eye level = buy level". It is a great feeling if you go to browse in a shop and leave not having bought anything - it is elating! Frugal doesn't mean being unhappy - it is liberating!

  • @Helen-c1n
    @Helen-c1n 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I feel very frugal now- I had no idea people gave so many gifts! Ive only ever given to close friends and family.

  • @lat1419
    @lat1419 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    My family don't do gifts but we instead give each household / each other a single Christmas tree ornament. It means so much more, and you have the reminders to come out every year.
    I do needle felring and people love small personalised felted gifts - the felted tree decorations are welcone too.

    • @lat1419
      @lat1419 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      PS I forgot - get the tree decorations in post- Xmas sales for the next year !

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      That's meaningful

    • @catherinephillips8925
      @catherinephillips8925 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      What a wonderful idea ,
      Thanks for sharing

  • @krissy2321
    @krissy2321 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Bravo Jane👏
    Great points and lots of common sense, you are a breath of fresh air.
    Thanks for these reminders and all the videos you make😊

  • @lynnhensley4326
    @lynnhensley4326 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    As a former teacher, I agree. There is so many little junkie gifts that are disposed of. I liked a letter or a note in a Christmas card to express appreciation for teaching their child. One thing I did like was a Visa gift card. I use them for items for my class.
    I have stopped gifts except for the 6 immediate family members. I have cut way back on mailing Christmas cards, too. No new decorations either. Reusing what we have.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Well said

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Well said

    • @YeshuaKingMessiah
      @YeshuaKingMessiah 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yup I stopped sending cards
      N I stopped getting them lol
      Oh well
      I sent prob 50 a yr. How silly of me. No one actually cared about me.

  • @lucylocket5262
    @lucylocket5262 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I approached this video with "I'm probably not going to like it but I'll listen to it". I LOVED IT. I agree with you 100%. I have always been like that. The only thing I could add it that home cooking is also much, much healthier than ordering takeaways or eating out. Taking good care of your health will also save you a lot of money in the long run.

  • @akhiker2495
    @akhiker2495 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Your hair is so pretty! Love the cut. Not giving presents and getting organized are difficult ones for me.

  • @anita_R
    @anita_R 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Oh I've made the potato cheese and bacon bake every day the last 5 days. It's so nice 🎉

  • @karencatalano4349
    @karencatalano4349 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    At my granddaughters old school they would have list of what to get the teachers for Christmas and most of them were for gift cards for coffee or restaurants. It was getting out of hand

  • @beckypetersen2680
    @beckypetersen2680 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I think the part about you being responsible for your own budget is really vital. If everyone would understand that no one SHOULD care more about your own money than YOU - not a business, not a therapist or financial advisor, etc. Also saying no. It is so unpopular in this day and age to not be a "team player" that people feel like they have no control - and thus the first part - where you are responsible for your own spending, etc is vital to remember and tell yourself daily.

  • @huntacademy3041
    @huntacademy3041 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Just what I needed to hear! Thank you! ❤

  • @carlienvandernet7902
    @carlienvandernet7902 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I love to go shopping with one of my friends, but that doesn’t mean that I’m going to buy anything. I always take my drink with me so that I don’t have to get that at a restaurant. My friends know about my financial situation so we either do things that are free or if they want to do things that costs money they will pay for me. I do go to the theater once in awhile but I will either save up for it or get the ticket for my birthday and if I eat out it’s always a very cheap meal like chips or a sandwich, nothing fancy.

  • @lindajacquot5391
    @lindajacquot5391 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You're right - that was tough, but necessary. The always lovely Fluff Girls at the end did much to soften the message. ❤️🐾❤️🐾😉

  • @WilliamSkaer
    @WilliamSkaer 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My husband and I have two grown daughters, with their families there are nine of us here at Christmas. All adults. This year we drew names, just one name each and are getting stocking stuffers for that person. Historically we always ended up with a living room filled with gifts. Hopefully this newer approach will take the stress of off everyone ! Our rip roaring Holiday family game night seems to give more Joy than gifts!!
    Mrs Wm.

  • @kathrynlongstaff8298
    @kathrynlongstaff8298 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I agree. Living in Dubai it is astonishing how much money people fritter all.the.time. Being gluten-free has forced my hand to learn how to properly cook. We have a nominal takeaway amount. Our friends and peers can't believe we dont drop money on a daily coffee or weekly brunch. I am happy to say no but suggest an alternative - a picnic at the beach or a hike in the mountains or a desert sunset bbq. All possible. All very low cost. Also, as a teacher, I totally agree about the trinkets. A nice email, a thoughtful card or a postcard sent from a student on a gap year, those matter most. The trinkets are kind and appreciated but the words mean more. I've just turned 40 and I feel like when I look in the mirror, I have more confidence to speak my mind and not rollover with things I dont like or want to do. I'm not a child. I'm a full-adult. I decide, we decide as a couple and family. Thank you for the straight words, they are always appreciated

  • @susannahedwards8230
    @susannahedwards8230 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Do all the things mentioned and yes i have a friend like you said. Quotes i hear often is " if you cant decide get both!", " i dont know how you do it im always broke", and "well i just dont think that way".

  • @andreeabelciu6081
    @andreeabelciu6081 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Nice hair! I lived like that all my life. Not happy with this situation but that is the way my life is. Once I have made peace with this it became actually nice.

  • @susanherper5419
    @susanherper5419 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Great stuff! Thanks for the reality check!

  • @lorelei9393
    @lorelei9393 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Good straightforward ideas. We so often get into a bind financially or otherwise becauce we dont say no

  • @Jennheartsqs
    @Jennheartsqs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Couldn't agree more with your advice to be organized with your spending! The place I get my hair cut shares a building with my supermarket. My supermarket receipt always has a coupon on the back of it for 15% off a hair cut, so I always plan to go grocery shopping the same day that I also plan to get my haircut. These little tricks add up over the year and can really help us save a lot of money. Always appreciate your gentle - but straight forward - advice.

  • @lisaclark8761
    @lisaclark8761 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you Jane! Excellent information

  • @lindab8078
    @lindab8078 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Another great video Jane and Mike!

  • @lilalavendel3951
    @lilalavendel3951 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Great video! When I think how much stuff I bought in the past because I did'nt say no😢. Since some years now I do say no🎉. For example, there is a new book I really would love to read, but it costs 30 Euros🙈, that is crazy. In the past I would bought it without thinking. Now I am waiting to borrow it in the library. The library costs me 20 Euros a year.

  • @marty9011
    @marty9011 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    What you said was hard-hitting & all true ! Fortunately I have no trouble saying " No ", specially when I add that I can't afford it. No arguing with that.
    I loved your sheep comment. Yes, we should be individuals & not sheep. I couldn't really cook when I got married but I could read & simply followed
    recipes. How hard is that ?

    • @LauraMacMillan-el2kc
      @LauraMacMillan-el2kc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I had a lovely, talented, artistic, and exceptionally kind co-worker who was convinced that she “couldn’t cook.” I told her that the biggest difference between a good cook and a struggling one is that the “good” cook has a dozen or so well-practiced recipes in her repertoire; and that the recipes needn’t be difficult, time consuming, or overly complicated.
      We chatted a bit about the sorts of things she and her family liked to eat, and I gave her a half-dozen or so of my favourites to get her started. Every time she made one for the first time she was absolutely thrilled that “I can do it!”
      I still consider that episode to be one of the most worthwhile things I did at (if not for!) that job.
      PS I’m not a great cook either. Just a methodical one, who learned by doing; and gradually got better and a bit more creative over time.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      🥰

  • @zulu_juliett
    @zulu_juliett หลายเดือนก่อน

    Best and most helpful video I have seen in last months here. Some points hit hard 😅 but I like the style! I should play it always again, when I didn’t say no or buy some unnecessary stuff.

  • @NessaRossini...
    @NessaRossini... 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Excellent! I'm pretty much doing all of this now.
    Love your ombré hair, it looks amazing. 🥰

  • @karryhuston1321
    @karryhuston1321 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hi Jane and Mike...great video as always.

  • @Badwolf555
    @Badwolf555 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Excellent advice and reminders!

  • @rustykatt3870
    @rustykatt3870 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    We have cut down eating out by 80 - 90% (the 2 or 3 places that really deserve it remain on our list- mom and pop places). Avoids the "tipping culture" of staff wanting 25 - 30%. We'll tip ourselves with our savings. Good luck to us all! ✨😊👍✨

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That is awesome!

    • @YeshuaKingMessiah
      @YeshuaKingMessiah 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yeah I double the tax as the tip
      “That’s all, folks!”
      I look at tips as just another tax. So eating out, I’m taxed 3x instead of 1x like at the grocery.
      I will maybe get a take out from somewhere twice a yr but not sit down there (almost everyone does take out now). Can’t afford triple taxes. Already paying triple for the small bit of food!

  • @CrisHuron
    @CrisHuron 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Hi Jane, ur hair looks terrific. Hi to all including Mike n the puppies. I always shop then cook at home. 😊🤗🙏🏻🇺🇸

  • @juliethartwell4525
    @juliethartwell4525 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Just wanted to say that I absolutely agree, and the affirmation that personally I like to think I’m assertive and confident enough to say ‘No’ when I feel the need!
    Caring, kindness and empathy is one thing, but in this world of consumerism and over indulgence, it really isn’t necessary to overspend to our financial detriment, - and to hell with what anyone else thinks! 😉

  • @mlv3707
    @mlv3707 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Dear Jane, maybe you have talked about this subject before but I have missed it…
    Would it be possible for you to make a video regarding how to ”think different” when you have small kids. I have a 4 year old and would love your feedback in a video on how to save more and be creative to keep the costs down and spend less. I think that we are many who would love some tips and inspiration from your own life and what you used to do when your children was younger/small. Love from Sweden.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Great suggestion!

    • @S-K.456
      @S-K.456 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Great suggestion and teens too!

  • @tracyc1630
    @tracyc1630 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You are truly honest..thank you ❤

  • @jeanettethomson3212
    @jeanettethomson3212 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I sooooo thoroughly enjoyed this video today. You are absolutely spot-on with this advice. I agree with you 100%, and I don't understand why others don't have this basic common sense.
    On a different point, you were so entertaining today! Soooo funny in your words and expressions! And also, your hair is gorgeous today!! You look so good!! 😊

  • @kaelaleedaley
    @kaelaleedaley หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Excellent video, thank you so much and God Bless your common sense advice xx

  • @sylviahufer7019
    @sylviahufer7019 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I bulk buy and bulk cook all the time , portion it up into single serve meal for the freezer , all I have to do is take out a couple meal and put them in the fridge in the morning and reheat at tea time . We have only stopped buying adults gifts in about the last few years and now only give gifts to the grandchildren until the age of 18 ,

  • @cindyfoley268
    @cindyfoley268 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Loved this video! I just smiled the whole time. 😊

  • @connietroxell1575
    @connietroxell1575 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Great video! Even when we are already frugal it helps to hear these words again. It keeps us on track. Love you hair too!

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@connietroxell1575 thank you for watching

  • @corinneleppard1933
    @corinneleppard1933 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I moved into my own house in 1996 , have moved several times since, but have never ever had a takeaway. We eat out once or twice a year at the most, usually for my son's birthday and this year for a combined silver anniversary and my birthday, both this month. I think saying "no" is a key one. I remember the first time there was a mum's night out and I really couldn't afford to go, found myself making excuses why I couldn't make it, worried that I might be judged in some way. After that time, it became easier and I no longer have any trouble saying no and don't, in most cases, feel the need to justify or explain my decision. Let people judge if they want. It's having the confidence to say no that first time or two.

  • @Aria54321-h
    @Aria54321-h 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Jane, you are so beautiful. Thank you for these tips. We eat from home most of the time.

  • @jodieupton4000
    @jodieupton4000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I am implementing a few of these,.thank you.

  • @denisescott3943
    @denisescott3943 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Jane you are so intelligent. I admire your diligence.
    I suffer from killer headaches and it causes to not be able organized. Since having chemotherapy I have lost my taste on so many foods.

  • @florencevictoire6086
    @florencevictoire6086 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Loving the pep talk 😂 Most of it I agree. Looking forward to more 😂

  • @emelyanovamasha
    @emelyanovamasha หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You are not a sheep! 🐑 Repeat after me: "I am not a sheep"👍 love it 😅

  • @normamaher9901
    @normamaher9901 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I completely agree, well said Jane, I've had to contribute to a gift for my boss in the past, peer pressure, not anymore