Making Writer Friends | Social Climbing, Group Chats & Performative Friendships

Making friends in publishing! Writer and author friendships! So complicated! A bit scary. I'm sharing a LOT of thoughts on how to find and make writer friends, pitfalls of friendship, social climbing, performative friendships, and more.
Yes it's long AF. But I filmed it in parts and it's divided up so it's easy to jump around!
00:00 Introduction
00:51 Part 1 Why Friendship in Publishing is Complicated
03:41 Friendly networking vs friends
05:33 Part 2 Pitfalls of Friendship
09:08 We can't all get along
11:24 When friendships organically change/end
13:22 New friends at new levels
15:18 Publishing can change people
18:18 Part 3 Finding and making friends
22:37 The brave approach & staying open
27:09 Advice for agented/published authors
31:41 Part 4 Publishing is High School
35:42 You can opt out but
36:57 Gossip
40:13 The dreaded group chat
44:22 Better not to subtweet
48:07 Part 5 Social Climbing
50:18 Best practices for not being a jerk
55:18 Part 6 Performative Friendships
59:42 Part 7 Toxic & Bad Actors
01:02:50 Idea stealers
01:05:30 Conclusion
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Camera: Canon t6i
Mic: Rode VideoMic Pro+
Lighting: Limo Studio Soft Kit
Editing Software: Magix Movie Edit Pro