I truly feel for Matthew, you and the kids. Some people can't be helped, don't want to be helped or believe they don't need help. By sharing your story you've helped a lot of people, you reminded me not to soften my stance as the crazy always returns.
Thank you for sharing your story with us Jessica. It is absolutely heartbreaking. Especially when it involves your FAMILY. I am personally no-contact with my parents for many reasons and it is devastating. But ultimately, there is no price for peace of mind and I choose peace for my family and kids every time. Blessings and love to everyone from Australia 🇦🇺💜✨
This is really heartbreaking. My mom can be super annoying and her inflexibility and narrow-mindedness is tiring at times, but honestly after listening to your story I feel the urge to hug her and thank her for just being a normal kind of crazy. And I want to hug you and just let you know that from what I can see in your videos of how you interact with your children, you are a wonderful mom and I just know you would never put them through anything your MIL has put your husband and you through. Greetings from the other side of the Atlantic. I always enjoy watching your videos.
You are so mentally and emotionally strong to have gone through this and be who you are today. I’m so proud of you and your husband for putting your kids first and not making them endure that kind of relationship. I hope the MIL got the help she needed at the hospital and recovers and lives a better life. I know you hope that too. I have so much respect for you for protecting your family and selves and not just putting up with abusive behaviour. ❤ good for you!
Obviously she needs some help. I hope she has gotten some. I’m glad you’re no longer in contact. You know, I’ve worked at a few Assisted Living places. I would always feel bad for the few elderly people whose children would not visit or make contact. Then I realized, more than likely there is probably really good reasons for no contact from those children. Take care!😊
I kinda wish I could give you a standing ovation right now, only nobody is around to join in...🙄 So 👏 LET'S 👏ALL👏*👏JUST 👏 IMAGINE 👏!! 🤗🤗👏👏👏🤗🤗🤗🥰👏👏 You deserve it, Jessica, because you expertly handled an extremely psychotic situation with great intelligence, discernment and strength. Bravo, Missy!! And the same to your husband x2. There was surely an added layer of trauma and extra strength required of him👏👏👏👏
My dad always go angry crazy like that until i put a stop to it and stand up for myself he now behaves way better and knows i wont stay in contact if he blast again. Glad u guys r sorted stay safe❤
You couldn’t ever be her, Jessica. The parents I worry about are the ones who actually think they’re doing everything right and that they could never be wrong aka The Sainted Mother OR She Who Shall Not Be Named. You’re doing great, friend. ♥️
Thank you for sharing your story I know it was incredibly hard to share. I am so sorry you and your husband have to go through all of this. Please know it's not you or your husbands fault. It sounds like you tried hard to keep a connection. Hoping everyone is able to heal and find some peace.
She was never gonna put herself in harms way. She thought a desperate, dramatic and extreme approach was the only way to make you all feel guilty for going non-contact with her and let her back into your lives.
It must have been a devastating experience for you and your husband, but thank you for sharing your story. This is the kind of thing that puts you in a different category than other You Tubers. Life is hard, and things happen that cause pain and suffering. You have shown that it isn't all glitter and unicorns. My heart goes out to you and your family. If you were closer to me, I think we would be pretty good friends! ❤
This was powerful. Your closing few sentences made me really well up 😢. Thank you, Jessica and Matthew, for posting this. I am sure it will be helpful to some people going through similar situations.
Oof. I don't even know what to say after all that. I just wish your little family all the best. And as for his mom. I hope she heals. That's all imma say about that. Thank you for sharing! ❤
I’m so sorry. Unfortunately, she’s most likely on one of those toxic estranged parents sites lamenting about how awful people are and how victimized she is 😢
Thank you so much for sharing this. It is very hard to cut people out of your life. You are such a sweet person and so kind! You are a positive lady and we need more people like you! 💝💝
Bless you and Matthew’s hearts… I’m so glad that you were strong and realized that contact with her, especially at that point, would be the worst thing for your children. 🙏❤️
the pain in her face shows it was so difficult at the time and it still affects them. im glad you didnt let your kids see her during the situation. as bad as it sounds, that would have traumatized them way more than you think.
Sending you and Matthew so much love and. I am speechless! What you and have been through has been horrendous! You both are kind,compassionate and loving and great parents. 💗
Thank you for sharing, I feel for your husband and your family. My mother is similar and it is a very tough position to be in. You have to do what is right for you and your family.
After watching this series the entire way thru, I understand why you and Matt went no contact and tbh I completely agree. As a mom whose 21yr old chooses to have very little to no contact with me and none of the extreme things your MIL put you guys thru were even close to why my son has or is doing this currently I'm still lost. My son has a daughter whose alittle over 2 n I've seen a handful of times, his gf is pregnant with their 2nd and idk how far along, whether it's another girl or a boy, if my sons still doing all the reckless things he was doing or if he's learned anything from all the law interaction he's had. My daughter is 24, has 2 kids and I am her primary sitter for my grandbabies. She is closer to me now than she ever was, our relationship has done a total 360. I'm not saying I was a saint by any means. However I made sure my kids were taken care of, had everything they needed, loved them more than myself so when I was fucking up they were no where near any of it!! I've tried several times to make amends with my son, he says he forgives me, we have a good 6 to 9 months n then he ghosts again. When things are good they are great. I see all my grandbabies. Both my kids. And my heart is full. When things are rocky However it feels like pieces of my heart are missing. Idk what else to do to fix or mend the relationship with my son. I'm beyond sad that I'm missing everything with both him and my granddaughter and likely will with the baby they are having. Sorry for the long response I guess I'm just venting. I am glad However you and Matt have done everything in your power to try and make a relationship work and I'm sorry it just couldn't be that way. Matt losing out on his mom after losing his dad has to be a tough tough situation to navigate and in all honesty Jess idk how you do it!! You don't really go all personal with things but sometimes I'm glad you do and this is definitely one of those times. Sending you all so very much ❤ and so so many happy, positive ✨️ 💛 💖
This is such a sad situation. Family struggles hurt so much. I haven’t spoken to my brother in more than 30 years. Of course it was over my house when my mom passed. We had been looking after her with my brother and his wife occasionally visiting.. He did t get my home or the bits she wanted my kids to have. So he threw a tantrum and I haven’t seen him since. Not even when he had a heart attack, he is probably fine now, I know he survived it!
It's a shame you had her come to your house for that visitation with your kids instead of meeting at a restaurant or even McDonald's. I had a feeling she was going to abuse knowing your address. I know this hasn't been easy and the decision to cut contact with her has been difficult. I totally get why you had to do it. It's for the safety of your family and preservation of your family's mental health.
This is so sad. You have a kind heart and I know you would not be unkind. This is to protect your family from a toxic relationship. Boundary setting is so important. I hope your MIL gets the help she need.
Wow, that’s quite the story. I hope Matthew is ok, and you and your kids too, I just know my dad was raised by people who shouldn’t have raised ants, let alone people. He and his sister were seriously f’ed up, but not like this. All my love, and thank you so much for all you do, it looks like seriously hard work, and these days finishing a book is about as hard of work as I do.❤❤❤❤❤❤
Honestly it’s for the best she never see those kids because she has a deep seated resentment towards both of you (my bio mom is the same, bpd narc) and she would be a danger to them. I was dumbfounded the police even suggested such a mentally ill person get to see those children. Absolutely repulsive. She sounds like a very unstable person unsafe for herself and society and hopefully she lives out her days peacefully never bothering anyone again. I would put trespassing and a cease and desist on her if she ever tried to make contact in the future.
I feel so bad for you and family. We’ve lived through this with an aunt. I believe the medical society really needs to address these mental issues better than what is being done now. We live in a country with the highest mental illnesses of all time? Why? Come on America we can do better! Prayers ! 🙏🏻♥️
I am so sorry you and your family went through this. I have a similar situation with my biological mom and I decided last year (after years of trying to repair the relationship) to finally go no contact, and it has given me tremendous peace and healing from years of trauma. I’m now pregnant with my first child and I refuse to allow her to ever meet my child. She found out because she stalks my social medias despite being blocked and she has her flying monkeys stalk me as well like a true narcissist. She manipulates people with similar character to her into believing she is somehow entitled to my life so I began sharing my story as to why we are no contact publicly and the drama ceased when I stated I would file a restraining order if the behavior continued. Like your husband’s mother, mine has threatened my well being just as she threatened my sisters years before. I truly feel like she would harm me, my child or my husband. There are so many similarities in our stories my heart goes out to you and yours.
May God forever shower you will his Love and protection. You are an amazing person, wife and mother. Know that you are loved by lord of people! Me, included💗💗😊
This story is very close to things that have happened with my husband’s mother as well. She actually sent me a message on Facebook today asking me to let my husband know that she was having gallbladder surgery in 2 weeks and is currently on bed rest. We have been no contact with her since my kids were about 5&7 and now they are 13 and 11. She wants to see the kids. My kids do remember her because we tried to have a relationship with her for them but it became dangerous I felt, for them to be around her. ( it’s sad, but my kids understand now that she’s not well. She loves them and my husband, but she has very unstable behavior and sadly they feel bad for her but don’t desire a relationship either. I had a panic attack afterwards. I immediately texted my husband and made sure she doesn’t have our address (because she will just show up if she knows where we live.) I feel so bad for both your mother in law and mine because I believe they are not healthy mentally and they don’t know it, and they can’t understand why we react the way we do. Prayers for you all and merry Christmas! ❤
Jessica, you tell your story well. I believe your husbands mother has problems and I understand you detaching from her. She needs help that is beyond your capabilities. My concern is regrets after she is gone. If your husband never had a loving relationship with his mother, he may be fine. But because she was his first caretaker he probably has a bond with her and may have fond memories that he has forgotten since you and he connected. HE may feel guilt in the future that he does not realize now and you may not be able to fix it. That is what I would be thinking about. Because I am not in your shoes I can say this, if I am wrong, I apologize, but she is his mom not yours and regret is something no one wants. Good luck to you and your family.❤
My Mother's Day message was from my daughter telling me to consider her dead. I told her I would not fight with her, and after she went completely out of left field, I had to block her. I did not have regular contact with my daughter. I had to contact my ex-husband and his family because she started saying that he had abused her and I covered for him(THAT NEVER HAPPENED) Any abuse investigations are state records, there is no record of what she was saying. I get how Jessica & her husband feel. I love my daughter, but I cannot deal with her delusions. There is a long story about everything. I will not feed into her delusions.
It’s in one I’ve the videos. Her father in law said in front of the MIL how good Jessica’s pie was and when he opened a bakery/restaurant( his dream some day) she was going to be the chef.
Love your strength. I don't think any parent that acts this way will ever really learn why their kids don't want to spend time with them. They just sadly aren't capable.
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After all she put you through, you have an absolute heart of gold Jess……wishing you a peaceful happy life. X
Heartbreaking for you. Now I see why you have such kindness and empathy wirh your family. Take care of you and yours ❤
What a story... I am sorry this happened to both of you, but your husband 😢
We are going through this my husband’s mother, almost exactly the same story. Thanks for sharing, it helped us not feel alone in this whole ordeal.
I truly feel for Matthew, you and the kids. Some people can't be helped, don't want to be helped or believe they don't need help. By sharing your story you've helped a lot of people, you reminded me not to soften my stance as the crazy always returns.
Thank you for sharing your story with us Jessica.
It is absolutely heartbreaking. Especially when it involves your FAMILY.
I am personally no-contact with my parents for many reasons and it is devastating.
But ultimately, there is no price for peace of mind and I choose peace for my family and kids every time.
Blessings and love to everyone from Australia 🇦🇺💜✨
This is really heartbreaking. My mom can be super annoying and her inflexibility and narrow-mindedness is tiring at times, but honestly after listening to your story I feel the urge to hug her and thank her for just being a normal kind of crazy. And I want to hug you and just let you know that from what I can see in your videos of how you interact with your children, you are a wonderful mom and I just know you would never put them through anything your MIL has put your husband and you through. Greetings from the other side of the Atlantic. I always enjoy watching your videos.
You are so mentally and emotionally strong to have gone through this and be who you are today. I’m so proud of you and your husband for putting your kids first and not making them endure that kind of relationship. I hope the MIL got the help she needed at the hospital and recovers and lives a better life. I know you hope that too. I have so much respect for you for protecting your family and selves and not just putting up with abusive behaviour. ❤ good for you!
Obviously she needs some help. I hope she has gotten some.
I’m glad you’re no longer in contact.
You know, I’ve worked at a few Assisted Living places. I would always feel bad for the few elderly people whose children would not visit or make contact. Then I realized, more than likely there is probably really good reasons for no contact from those children.
Take care!😊
Thanks for sharing such a difficult story. Thank God you're in a good place.
I kinda wish I could give you a standing ovation right now, only nobody is around to join in...🙄 So 👏 LET'S 👏ALL👏*👏JUST 👏 IMAGINE 👏!! 🤗🤗👏👏👏🤗🤗🤗🥰👏👏 You deserve it, Jessica, because you expertly handled an extremely psychotic situation with great intelligence, discernment and strength. Bravo, Missy!! And the same to your husband x2. There was surely an added layer of trauma and extra strength required of him👏👏👏👏
As hard as it must be you are doing the right thing. Bless you all.❤
Currently in one of these steps with my mom but I wish my kids were smaller while it was happening. Ugh. I'm glad you made it to part 10.
So sorry! We’ve been no contact for 5-6 years with my mother in law. It’s so heartbreaking. Praying for you.❤
So sorry that your family had to go thru all this…..
I wish only the very best for you”all” of you….
My dad always go angry crazy like that until i put a stop to it and stand up for myself he now behaves way better and knows i wont stay in contact if he blast again. Glad u guys r sorted stay safe❤
You couldn’t ever be her, Jessica. The parents I worry about are the ones who actually think they’re doing everything right and that they could never be wrong aka The Sainted Mother OR She Who Shall Not Be Named. You’re doing great, friend. ♥️
You did the right thing to protect your family. Enough said.
I have not talked to my mother in 10 years. Sometimes that's the best thing you can do for your family. Hopes and prayers for your family. 🙏❣️💙
Thank you for sharing your story I know it was incredibly hard to share. I am so sorry you and your husband have to go through all of this. Please know it's not you or your husbands fault. It sounds like you tried hard to keep a connection. Hoping everyone is able to heal and find some peace.
She was never gonna put herself in harms way. She thought a desperate, dramatic and extreme approach was the only way to make you all feel guilty for going non-contact with her and let her back into your lives.
It must have been a devastating experience for you and your husband, but thank you for sharing your story. This is the kind of thing that puts you in a different category than other You Tubers. Life is hard, and things happen that cause pain and suffering. You have shown that it isn't all glitter and unicorns. My heart goes out to you and your family. If you were closer to me, I think we would be pretty good friends! ❤
This was powerful. Your closing few sentences made me really well up 😢. Thank you, Jessica and Matthew, for posting this. I am sure it will be helpful to some people going through similar situations.
Oof. I don't even know what to say after all that. I just wish your little family all the best. And as for his mom. I hope she heals. That's all imma say about that.
Thank you for sharing! ❤
I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that. I hope you are healing and doing well
I’m so sorry. Unfortunately, she’s most likely on one of those toxic estranged parents sites lamenting about how awful people are and how victimized she is 😢
Thank you so much for sharing this. It is very hard to cut people out of your life. You are such a sweet person and so kind! You are a positive lady and we need more people like you! 💝💝
Bless you and Matthew’s hearts… I’m so glad that you were strong and realized that contact with her, especially at that point, would be the worst thing for your children. 🙏❤️
Wow, sorry you all had to deal with all this. You have a heart of gold. I'm so glad to be a friend. Love your videos they make my day.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry your family had to go through that, but so proud of how you’re thriving.
I'm so sorry to hear your MIL put you through this. I wish you and your family all the best and pray she is getting the help she needs🙏❤️
the pain in her face shows it was so difficult at the time and it still affects them. im glad you didnt let your kids see her during the situation. as bad as it sounds, that would have traumatized them way more than you think.
Sending you and Matthew so much love and. I am speechless! What you and have been through has been horrendous! You both are kind,compassionate and
loving and great parents. 💗
Hugs I am so sorry.
Thank you for sharing, I feel for your husband and your family. My mother is similar and it is a very tough position to be in. You have to do what is right for you and your family.
Thank you for sharing, jessica. I'm so sorry this happened. Hopefully his mom gets the mental help she needs
Thank you so much for sharing this ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️
After watching this series the entire way thru, I understand why you and Matt went no contact and tbh I completely agree. As a mom whose 21yr old chooses to have very little to no contact with me and none of the extreme things your MIL put you guys thru were even close to why my son has or is doing this currently I'm still lost. My son has a daughter whose alittle over 2 n I've seen a handful of times, his gf is pregnant with their 2nd and idk how far along, whether it's another girl or a boy, if my sons still doing all the reckless things he was doing or if he's learned anything from all the law interaction he's had. My daughter is 24, has 2 kids and I am her primary sitter for my grandbabies. She is closer to me now than she ever was, our relationship has done a total 360. I'm not saying I was a saint by any means. However I made sure my kids were taken care of, had everything they needed, loved them more than myself so when I was fucking up they were no where near any of it!! I've tried several times to make amends with my son, he says he forgives me, we have a good 6 to 9 months n then he ghosts again. When things are good they are great. I see all my grandbabies. Both my kids. And my heart is full. When things are rocky However it feels like pieces of my heart are missing. Idk what else to do to fix or mend the relationship with my son. I'm beyond sad that I'm missing everything with both him and my granddaughter and likely will with the baby they are having. Sorry for the long response I guess I'm just venting. I am glad However you and Matt have done everything in your power to try and make a relationship work and I'm sorry it just couldn't be that way. Matt losing out on his mom after losing his dad has to be a tough tough situation to navigate and in all honesty Jess idk how you do it!! You don't really go all personal with things but sometimes I'm glad you do and this is definitely one of those times. Sending you all so very much ❤ and so so many happy, positive ✨️ 💛 💖
Well done, you certainly express yourself rationally and calmly. I like seeing this side of you, mature and reflective.
Good job, young lady.
I am so sorry you and your husband had to go through this
This is such a sad situation. Family struggles hurt so much. I haven’t spoken to my brother in more than 30 years. Of course it was over my house when my mom passed. We had been looking after her with my brother and his wife occasionally visiting.. He did t get my home or the bits she wanted my kids to have. So he threw a tantrum and I haven’t seen him since. Not even when he had a heart attack, he is probably fine now, I know he survived it!
Girl you & Matthew & your kiddos are thriving & im so glad we all can be a small part of watching that ❤
I am so sorry. Prayers for you and your family. ❤
Thank you for sharing
God... i hope she gets all the help she needs!
It's a shame you had her come to your house for that visitation with your kids instead of meeting at a restaurant or even McDonald's. I had a feeling she was going to abuse knowing your address. I know this hasn't been easy and the decision to cut contact with her has been difficult. I totally get why you had to do it. It's for the safety of your family and preservation of your family's mental health.
This is so sad. You have a kind heart and I know you would not be unkind. This is to protect your family from a toxic relationship. Boundary setting is so important. I hope your MIL gets the help she need.
Your a good mom ,and wife Jessica Hugs and love to you
Wow, that’s quite the story. I hope Matthew is ok, and you and your kids too, I just know my dad was raised by people who shouldn’t have raised ants, let alone people. He and his sister were seriously f’ed up, but not like this. All my love, and thank you so much for all you do, it looks like seriously hard work, and these days finishing a book is about as hard of work as I do.❤❤❤❤❤❤
These are hard decisions to make. May God bless you for doing the hard stuff in keeping your children sane.
Honestly it’s for the best she never see those kids because she has a deep seated resentment towards both of you (my bio mom is the same, bpd narc) and she would be a danger to them. I was dumbfounded the police even suggested such a mentally ill person get to see those children. Absolutely repulsive. She sounds like a very unstable person unsafe for herself and society and hopefully she lives out her days peacefully never bothering anyone again. I would put trespassing and a cease and desist on her if she ever tried to make contact in the future.
Blessings to you and your family. I commend you for your ❤ you have a great ❤ and I’m glad to see your family is intact. Blessings
I feel so bad for you and family. We’ve lived through this with an aunt. I believe the medical society really needs to address these mental issues better than what is being done now. We live in a country with the highest mental illnesses of all time? Why? Come on America we can do better! Prayers ! 🙏🏻♥️
I am so sorry you and your family went through this.
I have a similar situation with my biological mom and I decided last year (after years of trying to repair the relationship) to finally go no contact, and it has given me tremendous peace and healing from years of trauma.
I’m now pregnant with my first child and I refuse to allow her to ever meet my child. She found out because she stalks my social medias despite being blocked and she has her flying monkeys stalk me as well like a true narcissist. She manipulates people with similar character to her into believing she is somehow entitled to my life so I began sharing my story as to why we are no contact publicly and the drama ceased when I stated I would file a restraining order if the behavior continued.
Like your husband’s mother, mine has threatened my well being just as she threatened my sisters years before. I truly feel like she would harm me, my child or my husband.
There are so many similarities in our stories my heart goes out to you and yours.
I am so sorry! But you have to protect your kids!
May God forever shower you will his Love and protection. You are an amazing person, wife and mother. Know that you are loved by lord of people! Me, included💗💗😊
Sending hugs 💚
Bless y'all's hearts!
What a story…..sorry you went through this…and at the same time wish there was more….I am going to miss story time
This story is very close to things that have happened with my husband’s mother as well. She actually sent me a message on Facebook today asking me to let my husband know that she was having gallbladder surgery in 2 weeks and is currently on bed rest. We have been no contact with her since my kids were about 5&7 and now they are 13 and 11. She wants to see the kids. My kids do remember her because we tried to have a relationship with her for them but it became dangerous I felt, for them to be around her. ( it’s sad, but my kids understand now that she’s not well. She loves them and my husband, but she has very unstable behavior and sadly they feel bad for her but don’t desire a relationship either. I had a panic attack afterwards. I immediately texted my husband and made sure she doesn’t have our address (because she will just show up if she knows where we live.) I feel so bad for both your mother in law and mine because I believe they are not healthy mentally and they don’t know it, and they can’t understand why we react the way we do. Prayers for you all and merry Christmas! ❤
Hugs to your family and you❤
Sorry for this. I wish I didn’t understand but I do all to well. Cutting ties was the best decision I’ve ever made. Wishing you well.
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Jessica, you tell your story well. I believe your husbands mother has problems and I understand you detaching from her. She needs help that is beyond your capabilities. My concern is regrets after she is gone. If your husband never had a loving relationship with his mother, he may be fine. But because she was his first caretaker he probably has a bond with her and may have fond memories that he has forgotten since you and he connected. HE may feel guilt in the future that he does not realize now and you may not be able to fix it. That is what I would be thinking about. Because I am not in your shoes I can say this, if I am wrong, I apologize, but she is his mom not yours and regret is something no one wants. Good luck to you and your family.❤
Jessica please take care of yourself and your family. They are the most important thing in life.
My Mother's Day message was from my daughter telling me to consider her dead. I told her I would not fight with her, and after she went completely out of left field, I had to block her. I did not have regular contact with my daughter. I had to contact my ex-husband and his family because she started saying that he had abused her and I covered for him(THAT NEVER HAPPENED) Any abuse investigations are state records, there is no record of what she was saying. I get how Jessica & her husband feel. I love my daughter, but I cannot deal with her delusions. There is a long story about everything. I will not feed into her delusions.
🤍🤍🤍thank you for sharing this with us💌
Wait did I miss the part about the pumpkin pie? I thought there was a pumpkin pie recipe involved
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Yet Jesica where do the pie come into play . Why was final no contact had to do with 5he pie . I never heard that part
It’s in one I’ve the videos. Her father in law said in front of the MIL how good Jessica’s pie was and when he opened a bakery/restaurant( his dream some day) she was going to be the chef.
@Nikki_5869 thank you so much . I went back and found what she said .
Sorry this happened to you and your husband.
Is the Sainted Mother a real saying or one that she created?
Jessica stated that her MIL gave herself that name.
Lol my kids call my brother uncle salty because i call him "salty dalty" 😅 his name is Dalton.
Salty??? Wow….
You, your husband and your kids come FIRST.
I’m praying for everyone
Love your strength. I don't think any parent that acts this way will ever really learn why their kids don't want to spend time with them. They just sadly aren't capable.