In terms of ‘taking up that space’ I have found a warm smile and actively engaging with those around you works wonders. The person who serves you in the supermarket deserves an active response to their automatic greeting as much as anyone else. These brief interactions can give you and others a real lift.
I really appreciate learning from a woman who is closer to my age. All of your comments are on point with the issues. I’m having to deal with right now. It’s not inexpensive to learn how to redo your makeup as you age and how to redo your styling as your body changes. Thank you for all of your help.
I had a little chuckle with your take backspace segment. I have always felt a shiver of shock or surprise run through me when I discovered I was being talked about. I have never felt like I was upfront or being observed. Bless you for encouraging me to boldly be who I really want to be. I may have to save up for it for a while.
Thank you for your insight, encouragement, kindness and wisdom! I am 60 and have been slowly allowing myself to disappear. I will take better care … and “take up that space”! God bless you, happy new year!
@kirstengriffin Yes see this makes me sad. I hear it a lot. You do not need to be out of your comfort zone but taking back the sapce and stepping out again a little is important. Let me know how you get on.
I thoroughly enjoyed this video, Michelle. Thank You! Yes, step forward never backward! And find an exercise or sport or physical activity you enjoy-you will be more motivated to get going and keep going! Keep on keepin' on!
First time viewer here,looking forward to your future videos.Your positive,encouraging advice is great & you address the whole woman, not just the exterior appearance.Thank you & all the best in the New Year!🎉
Thanks for this video, Michelle! I'm definitely going to make a point of telling other women how nice they look/an item they're wearing, etc. Making people feel good is always a good idea!! Hope you had a wonderful xmas with your family and all the best in 2025!!
@celiathirlwall3329 Yay thank you I love it when I read this! Wouldn't it be amazing if everyone who watched this did the same? Merry Christmas and a Happy New year to you and yours too.
I so agree with getting your colours done and getting them updated. The trouble is, it can be hard to get a good consultation. i was done in the 90s, as a deep autumn, then went lighter (hair and eyes) with age. My original lady, the CMB trainer in UK had retired, so had to find another. Got bright spring, which did not believe and looked awful on me, so then another, warm spring, then another warm autumn - totally confused! I suspect I am somewhere between my original deep autumn and a soft autumn, as have only neutral warm skin, not very warm at all, and certainly anything bright overwhelms me. It would be nice to know for certain again, but lost my faith in, and lots of money, colour consultation for the time being.
@trishagoodwin4069 Yes it can be very tricky. So I think part of the problem is that there are too many people out there who call themselves 'stylists' after doing a two week online course or similar. It is equally frustrating for the likes of us who have years of experience. In addition there were originally four colour palettes in the 80's and then that was extended to 12 in the 90's. Personally, I do not think that everyone fits perfectly into those predefined boxes and more often that not I find myself swapping colours out to better suit the individual. You only have to look out the window to see that not everyone can possibly fit into 12 colour palettes! So in answer to your query, you are very likely correct and you very likely do fall between the cracks. A lot f people do. The problem with trying to fit everyone into 12 boxes is that some fit better than others and the likelihood is you have attributes that apply to several of those predefined palettes. However, in addition that also means that you will have attributes that don't too! On top of this, I do not believe the original palettes take into account women as they age when often colours need to become slightly more muted. This is particularly the case when someone decides to embrace the grey. My best advice would be either a. book in for a chat with me, or b. Look for someone with 10 years plus (preferably longer) experience of working with lots of different people. That is not as a stylist in a department store for example, but outside clients. Also ask them to prove their experience and ask to see lots of references (20+).
I like picking a scarf in the colour I would like to try, its an inexpensive way to add colour without a big expense if you end up not liking it. As for make up, I tint my lashes every couple of months, a little concealer, bold lipstick and good to go.
@@capsuleclosetstylist I'd like to also, but who does that? Someone at the make-up counter or a hair colorist? My colorist doesn't but should I call around to other salons and just ask about that service? Brows too, right? Thank you!
I am always asking women what perfume they are wearing because they smell so good and always asking where they got a particular item of clothing because I love it on them but my daughters are always embarrassed when I do this. But I can see the persons face light up when I do this.
After reaching 50 ( now 61) I decided to keep really slim and take extra care how I present to the world. I didn't want to become invisable! For me, the most important reason, and this has been the payoff- younger people- teens, 20's 30's onwards, will still engage in interesting conversation! I didn't want to feel like I had nothing to say, and assume it didn't matter anyway because I was just an old lady. So glad I made that decision😊
New subscriber here! 🙋♀️ Hi! 😊 I really enjoyed this video, it made a lot of sense to me. Definitely not one for bright colours and like a relaxed style of dressing (love wide legged trousers, trainers and general sport luxe look.) I agree 100% about eating well, also exercise. I am plus sized but do a lot for my health as I believe that how you feel about yourself is reflected in how you look and present. I am looking forward to getting to know your content more in the coming weeks and months. ❤
My hair is naturally white/ grey now and I need eye makeup to stop looking like a ghost. Moisturiser by the gallon also required- using clinique. But very little foundation. What I notice is that make up done in natural light at home is washed out in fluorescent light at work so might need extra eye liner and lipstick.
With skin care in SC USA 🇺🇸, I’m still getting whiteheads and blackheads. My skin was oily growing up, but I’m 74 now. What do you suggest? I no longer have oily skin
Here are some skincare tips for whiteheads and blackheads post menopause: * Use retinoids: Prescription retinoids like adapalene and tretinoin are more effective than over-the-counter retinol for treating acne, scarring, and hyperpigmentation. They work by increasing cell turnover, reducing oil production, and unclogging pores. * Choose a gentle cleanser: Look for a cleanser with not too many active ingredients, as potent ingredients like vitamin C can cause a reaction. * Use a moisturizer with alpha hydroxy acids (AHAs): AHAs boost exfoliation and cell turnover. Avoid moisturizers with rich ceramides, which can make breakouts worse. * Exfoliate: Chemical exfoliation is generally preferred to physical exfoliation. * Use lightweight products: Look for products that are low in oils, lipids, and silicone derivatives. Silicone can contribute to clogged pores, breakouts, and dull skin. * Use products with hyaluronic acid: Hyaluronic acid is a non-oily, water-holding active that can help. * Use products with peptides and ceramides: These are gentle ways to keep your skin barrier in check.
As I’ve moved into my 60’s I’ve started to tone my makeup down. I’m ash blonde and getting more grey. What about brows tho? The blonde pencil I’ve been using seems too bold but I don’t find lighter colors. I’ve noticed that good brows really wake up my face but mine are very patchy and also going silver grey.
@Windswept-q9i I get mine dyed. If you go to someone good they will colour in the grey and match it to your hair. They are a little darker at first (mine are in this video as I had had them done the day before.
Great advice, Michelle. You are looking lovely today. Are you a winter by chance? Black looks good on you. I'm a True Summer in SciArt system and Jeweltone Summer in Zyla system. Black is really draining on me but navy is good. I love to wear my colors and feel happy in them. Neutrals head to toe for me is kinda depressing. Happy 2025!
My hairdresser always says that grey hair makes you appear older and does not work for the vast majority of women. I have rather pale skin and with grey hair I would be completely washed out, so I would have to put on lots of make up to compensate for it. And yes: wear colour, don‘t go all grey and beige. Older people unfortunately show a tendency for these pale colours, I don‘t understand why.
@lynnbult9750 Thank you for your contribution. To clarify, I create all of these videos and the advice in them for free. I cannot use any image due to copyright issues, which could result in fines amounting to thousands. Moreover, I’m not willing to spend hundreds for a single image. To work around this, I use a subscription-based service that lets me select from a set of images. This means my options are limited. That said, I do choose what I believe is most appropriate from the available options. Unfortunately, until I either charge for every video or the selection of images becomes more diverse, this is the best I can offer as a free service at the moment. I hope that clarifies the situation. However, I do agree that, unfortunately, what is available is limited.
@BronwynneBessette-v7s What is wrong with grey hair? Nothing. I choose to dye mine blonde, but I do not begrudge others who choose to embrace the grey.
@j.p.p.1964 Anything else? Well this is a bit awkward. You seem upset, are you ok? It is tricky sometimes when that green-eyed monster rears its ugly head and spews all over your keyboard isn’t it? But let’s be real-if we were face to face, I bet you’d be less likely to throw that nastiness about. So, let’s talk about that comment of yours. With 25 years of experience in my field, I can assure you that my expertise is far more valuable than any remarks on my looks. So, how about we focus on something a bit more positive, like lifting women up with a compliment? Remember, my channel is all about keeping it respectful and inclusive. Your comments about my looks are strictly in the “not cool” section of my community guidelines. Consider this a gentle nudge to keep the compliments coming and the negativity at bay. Otherwise, I will have to send you to the naughty corner with a "Time Out" sticker. Trust me, it’s not a fun place to be! You and your channel will likely disappear after all and we would not want that would we? You can read more here support.google.com/youtube/answer/2802268?hl=en#:~:text=We%20may%20terminate%20your%20channel,dedicated%20to%20a%20policy%20violation. So, let's make a deal: I’ll promise to hold my comments about your inability to respect a professional woman when you see one, if you keep your keyboard monster in check. Sound fair?
@@j.p.p.1964 Wby don't say more about what you mean? Anything in particular? What does she need to change. You won't respond because your message shows you are jealous and bitter.
In terms of ‘taking up that space’ I have found a warm smile and actively engaging with those around you works wonders. The person who serves you in the supermarket deserves an active response to their automatic greeting as much as anyone else. These brief interactions can give you and others a real lift.
@jeansdaughter 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Absolutely, it costs nothing and can really change someone's day.
So true.... i practice it eery day! Much love from South of France
I really appreciate learning from a woman who is closer to my age. All of your comments are on point with the issues. I’m having to deal with right now. It’s not inexpensive to learn how to redo your makeup as you age and how to redo your styling as your body changes. Thank you for all of your help.
I had a little chuckle with your take backspace segment. I have always felt a shiver of shock or surprise run through me when I discovered I was being talked about. I have never felt like I was upfront or being observed. Bless you for encouraging me to boldly be who I really want to be. I may have to save up for it for a while.
Thank you for your insight, encouragement, kindness and wisdom! I am 60 and have been slowly allowing myself to disappear. I will take better care … and “take up that space”! God bless you, happy new year!
@kirstengriffin Yes see this makes me sad. I hear it a lot. You do not need to be out of your comfort zone but taking back the sapce and stepping out again a little is important. Let me know how you get on.
How right you are ! Your suggestions are so important and encouraging. You have reminded me to be confident. Thank you. 🌷🌷
Thank you! Great suggestions to be deliberate and thoughtfully choose to NOT fade away.
@merrim7765 Yes take back that space! 😊
Thank you for the super advice and great video! Just in time for my New Year's resolutions.
I thoroughly enjoyed this video, Michelle. Thank You! Yes, step forward never backward! And find an exercise or sport or physical activity you enjoy-you will be more motivated to get going and keep going! Keep on keepin' on!
First time viewer here,looking forward to your future videos.Your positive,encouraging advice is great & you address the whole woman, not just the exterior appearance.Thank you & all the best in the New Year!🎉
I enjoyed this friendly, timely reminder. Thanks very much.
Thanks for this video, Michelle! I'm definitely going to make a point of telling other women how nice they look/an item they're wearing, etc. Making people feel good is always a good idea!! Hope you had a wonderful xmas with your family and all the best in 2025!!
Yes! Agree! It's so easy to do, and you do feel better for giving a compliment!
@celiathirlwall3329 Yay thank you I love it when I read this! Wouldn't it be amazing if everyone who watched this did the same? Merry Christmas and a Happy New year to you and yours too.
@willowvee5844 It is a win win!
@@celiathirlwall3329 I’m 83, and three women, who looked to me to be in their forties, complimented me on how I look. I also compliment people.
I so agree with getting your colours done and getting them updated. The trouble is, it can be hard to get a good consultation. i was done in the 90s, as a deep autumn, then went lighter (hair and eyes) with age. My original lady, the CMB trainer in UK had retired, so had to find another. Got bright spring, which did not believe and looked awful on me, so then another, warm spring, then another warm autumn - totally confused! I suspect I am somewhere between my original deep autumn and a soft autumn, as have only neutral warm skin, not very warm at all, and certainly anything bright overwhelms me. It would be nice to know for certain again, but lost my faith in, and lots of money, colour consultation for the time being.
@trishagoodwin4069 Yes it can be very tricky. So I think part of the problem is that there are too many people out there who call themselves 'stylists' after doing a two week online course or similar. It is equally frustrating for the likes of us who have years of experience. In addition there were originally four colour palettes in the 80's and then that was extended to 12 in the 90's. Personally, I do not think that everyone fits perfectly into those predefined boxes and more often that not I find myself swapping colours out to better suit the individual. You only have to look out the window to see that not everyone can possibly fit into 12 colour palettes! So in answer to your query, you are very likely correct and you very likely do fall between the cracks. A lot f people do. The problem with trying to fit everyone into 12 boxes is that some fit better than others and the likelihood is you have attributes that apply to several of those predefined palettes. However, in addition that also means that you will have attributes that don't too! On top of this, I do not believe the original palettes take into account women as they age when often colours need to become slightly more muted. This is particularly the case when someone decides to embrace the grey. My best advice would be either a. book in for a chat with me, or b. Look for someone with 10 years plus (preferably longer) experience of working with lots of different people. That is not as a stylist in a department store for example, but outside clients. Also ask them to prove their experience and ask to see lots of references (20+).
I like picking a scarf in the colour I would like to try, its an inexpensive way to add colour without a big expense if you end up not liking it. As for make up, I tint my lashes every couple of months, a little concealer, bold lipstick and good to go.
@stardust4987 This sounds like great advice. Yes I have started having my lashes tinted too.
@@capsuleclosetstylist I'd like to also, but who does that? Someone at the make-up counter or a hair colorist? My colorist doesn't but should I call around to other salons and just ask about that service? Brows too, right? Thank you!
Love the lipstick you are wearing!
@carmensmagicalstorytime5679 Thank you it is Charlotte Tilbury rstyle.me/+IHMySKPaWYZbhRBsJpPjkQ
I am always asking women what perfume they are wearing because they smell so good and always asking where they got a particular item of clothing because I love it on them but my daughters are always embarrassed when I do this. But I can see the persons face light up when I do this.
@Linda-bh5yx I think what you are doing is fabulous. It costs nothing and can really make someones day.
After reaching 50 ( now 61) I decided to keep really slim and take extra care how I present to the world. I didn't want to become invisable! For me, the most important reason, and this has been the payoff- younger people- teens, 20's 30's onwards, will still engage in interesting conversation! I didn't want to feel like I had nothing to say, and assume it didn't matter anyway because I was just an old lady. So glad I made that decision😊
@willowvee5844 Good for you. I totally agree. I think intergenerational conversations can be the best.
New subscriber here! 🙋♀️ Hi! 😊 I really enjoyed this video, it made a lot of sense to me. Definitely not one for bright colours and like a relaxed style of dressing (love wide legged trousers, trainers and general sport luxe look.) I agree 100% about eating well, also exercise. I am plus sized but do a lot for my health as I believe that how you feel about yourself is reflected in how you look and present. I am looking forward to getting to know your content more in the coming weeks and months. ❤
Just bomped into you video..... very uplifting... as i am down and a bit sick.... Merci beaucoup, thanks and love from South of France
@mariabanholzer7942 Ah you are very welcome I am glad you enjoyed it. I used to head to Cannes every year when I worked in film.
Good points, thank you
@judithhatch2883 I am glad you enjoyed it.
My hair is naturally white/ grey now and I need eye makeup to stop looking like a ghost. Moisturiser by the gallon also required- using clinique. But very little foundation. What I notice is that make up done in natural light at home is washed out in fluorescent light at work so might need extra eye liner and lipstick.
Thank you for your ideas❤❤❤
@marissaclaridge7627 You are very welcome thank you for the feedback.
Hermes scarves add color around the neckline works for me. I don't dye my hair or paint my face but I care for my skin.
@kayallen7603 I love a scarf and totally agree.
Thanks for this video. Ignore the trolls with nothing better to do
@jomidwinter They always come out from under their bridges when a video is doing well. Thank you for your feedback it is much appreciated.
With skin care in SC USA 🇺🇸, I’m still getting whiteheads and blackheads. My skin was oily growing up, but I’m 74 now. What do you suggest? I no longer have oily skin
Here are some skincare tips for whiteheads and blackheads post menopause:
* Use retinoids: Prescription retinoids like adapalene and tretinoin are more effective than over-the-counter retinol for treating acne, scarring, and hyperpigmentation. They work by increasing cell turnover, reducing oil production, and unclogging pores.
* Choose a gentle cleanser: Look for a cleanser with not too many active ingredients, as potent ingredients like vitamin C can cause a reaction.
* Use a moisturizer with alpha hydroxy acids (AHAs): AHAs boost exfoliation and cell turnover. Avoid moisturizers with rich ceramides, which can make breakouts worse.
* Exfoliate: Chemical exfoliation is generally preferred to physical exfoliation.
* Use lightweight products: Look for products that are low in oils, lipids, and silicone derivatives. Silicone can contribute to clogged pores, breakouts, and dull skin.
* Use products with hyaluronic acid: Hyaluronic acid is a non-oily, water-holding active that can help.
* Use products with peptides and ceramides: These are gentle ways to keep your skin barrier in check.
Thanks so much!!! Suggest brands?
As I’ve moved into my 60’s I’ve started to tone my makeup down. I’m ash blonde and getting more grey. What about brows tho? The blonde pencil I’ve been using seems too bold but I don’t find lighter colors. I’ve noticed that good brows really wake up my face but mine are very patchy and also going silver grey.
@Windswept-q9i I get mine dyed. If you go to someone good they will colour in the grey and match it to your hair. They are a little darker at first (mine are in this video as I had had them done the day before.
Great!
@FollowMeAway Thank you.
Great advice, Michelle. You are looking lovely today. Are you a winter by chance? Black looks good on you. I'm a True Summer in SciArt system and Jeweltone Summer in Zyla system. Black is really draining on me but navy is good. I love to wear my colors and feel happy in them. Neutrals head to toe for me is kinda depressing. Happy 2025!
I’d like to see you wearing pink!
@kathysarmiento4652 Thank you for your comment. Not very many pinks work for me so I do not have many in my palette.
My hairdresser always says that grey hair makes you appear older and does not work for the vast majority of women. I have rather pale skin and with grey hair I would be completely washed out, so I would have to put on lots of make up to compensate for it.
And yes: wear colour, don‘t go all grey and beige. Older people unfortunately show a tendency for these pale colours, I don‘t understand why.
Why do all your models have gray hair. I color my hair auburn and would appreciate models with colored hair to see how the colors look on them.
@lynnbult9750 Thank you for your contribution. To clarify, I create all of these videos and the advice in them for free. I cannot use any image due to copyright issues, which could result in fines amounting to thousands. Moreover, I’m not willing to spend hundreds for a single image. To work around this, I use a subscription-based service that lets me select from a set of images. This means my options are limited.
That said, I do choose what I believe is most appropriate from the available options. Unfortunately, until I either charge for every video or the selection of images becomes more diverse, this is the best I can offer as a free service at the moment. I hope that clarifies the situation. However, I do agree that, unfortunately, what is available is limited.
All the effort with the clothes, makeup, exercise, posture and grey hair? Lol.
@BronwynneBessette-v7s What is wrong with grey hair? Nothing. I choose to dye mine blonde, but I do not begrudge others who choose to embrace the grey.
ok. She's talking about colors, about looking younger... maybe she should use her tipps for herself
@j.p.p.1964 Anything else? Well this is a bit awkward. You seem upset, are you ok? It is tricky sometimes when that green-eyed monster rears its ugly head and spews all over your keyboard isn’t it? But let’s be real-if we were face to face, I bet you’d be less likely to throw that nastiness about.
So, let’s talk about that comment of yours.
With 25 years of experience in my field, I can assure you that my expertise is far more valuable than any remarks on my looks. So, how about we focus on something a bit more positive, like lifting women up with a compliment?
Remember, my channel is all about keeping it respectful and inclusive. Your comments about my looks are strictly in the “not cool” section of my community guidelines.
Consider this a gentle nudge to keep the compliments coming and the negativity at bay. Otherwise, I will have to send you to the naughty corner with a "Time Out" sticker. Trust me, it’s not a fun place to be! You and your channel will likely disappear after all and we would not want that would we? You can read more here support.google.com/youtube/answer/2802268?hl=en#:~:text=We%20may%20terminate%20your%20channel,dedicated%20to%20a%20policy%20violation.
So, let's make a deal: I’ll promise to hold my comments about your inability to respect a professional woman when you see one, if you keep your keyboard monster in check. Sound fair?
@@j.p.p.1964 Wby don't say more about what you mean? Anything in particular? What does she need to change. You won't respond because your message shows you are jealous and bitter.
@capsuleclosetstylist you are the most fabulous woman l ever heard and read about🧘♀️
It us really useless to be nasty. J.J.P I think you are feeling a bit tired.