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I am 71 years old and from London, when I was growing up it was illegal to be gay until 1967 when homosexuality was decriminalised but you had to be over 21 years old, I was 14 then and the second eldest of ten children, I told my mother I was gay and she said she always new and she loved, she was a strong woman which gave me the confidence to come out to my siblings who to this day love ❤️ me and my late husband, we were together for over forty years, I wish you both nothing but love
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I can't really describe why, but I found it somehow very touching. Hope, you're doing ok! Thank you so much for being here! ❤️
Etienne and Thành, I knew that I was Gay at age 4, but I didn't Come Out until I was 36. I live in very conservative Texas. That's why I waited so long. 🇺🇸🏳️🌈🤝🇻🇳🇩🇪🏳️🌈
Wow, that's early! I don't think I had a clue about my sexuality at that age. But then again, I don't remember much of it anyway. I can understand that you waited with your coming out, though. Hope, you're doing OK now! ❤️
Coming out is such a personal thing to do but it is and always will be the most liberating thing to do, also your mental health will improve, take care of each other
Wow! You are full of surprises! But even Thanh doesn't like women to love there is definitely a reason behind it. And it is not just the fact that you are gay. I like the way you told your stories. Love is not simple thing. But to love and be loved doesn't depend on gender preferences. I have a few gay friends and their coming out and love stories are at some point sound like yours. Be happy. You know who you are! (Even that Eti is trying to figure out the purpose of his life and who he is and what he wants). It's so sad that we live far away from each other and can't talk. To write a comment is not the same as a live conversation. Love you boys! I love you as a women and a mother.
Looking forward to this 😊 The love you share via this channel is an inspiration for me and gives me joy, lots of happy emotions, and hope it will happen to me too ❤️
6:28 You're right, I was fortunate. My mother was a REAL hippie of the 60's, and it was never a big deal, more like "oh...and so?" I think people need to get over the "being gay" as if that alone is bigger than concentrating on "being in a real relationship" Know what I mean? And hey, that goes for ANY type of relationship, not just for us!❤
I love the way both of you show your love for each other ❤❤ i hope to have courage so i can also show the world how i feel about my self and for my love 😢
@@kookie_nightappleff Oh yeah... I know a Pakistani boy here in Germany, and I think he's not even out yet. I think it's good to not rush it before you can be on your own, but I can understand that you want to come out. Do you think moving is an option at some point?
@@etivathanh I am in a final year of my med school after completing my study . I just want to run away from this country with my partner 😭 I need to endure it for one more year 😞😭😭 so we can have a better future together
I like your coming out story it's so cool and so calming to watch.what I like most is for thanh for being pure naturally honest no filter in whatever he thinks he say it even the vulgar words I may say to him saying those I didn't feel malicious but rather sounds as it is natural thing thatswhy I find him genuinely amazing ❤ honestly you two are pure, decent and so professional such an inspiring couple,love you both ❤ The questions I want to ask 1.who's more jealousy type(eti or thanh) 2.who's more clingy and wants to cuddle most 3. who's the one to apologize first when at fault 4.what is your common argument (daily activity)(behavior)
Thank you so much for your lovely comment!❤️ I think we have some of your questions also in the list for the next Q&A video(s), but let me answer them briefly here too: 1) Tbh, I'm not sure. We're both fairly relaxed but at the same time also a tiny bit jealous, I'd say. We do give each other much freedom, though. 2) We're both quite clingy 😆 3) Usually me (Eti), but I'm also the one who gets into a conflict first usually 4) Small stuff, e.g. things that one forgot to do.
Mis niños hermosos ❤❤ ya soy una persona mayor, mi mamá y mi hermano nunca aceptaron a mi hermano y el murió cuando tenía 28 años y yo todavía lo extraño y lloró por él, espero que ustedes siempre sean muy felices 😊
🌈Oye! Just learned that Thai senate passed same-sex marriage bill! So, Taiwan, Nepal and now Thailand, gay marriage is legal! Happy Pride Month everyone! 🥳
Hi guys another fab video it's great that you invite us into your lives and let us experience life with you. It can't be easy to tell your stories to a camera. Must admit Thanh is so funny love his turn of phrase but equally your facial expressions do make me laugh. Well done guys take care. ❤❤
Danke euch für euer Coming Out Video,ich finde man sollte in der heutigen Zeit offen darüber reden können.Leider war es früher nicht immer möglich sich zu outen was ich nie verstanden hab.Ich wünsche euch das Ihr beide immer glücklich seit.🍀💞🌈Wünsche euch ein schönes,entspanntes Wochenende.Lieben Gruß von eurem Fan Peggy W.🥰
Loved this video and gosh you guys make me laugh I love it 🤣❤️🫂 my coming out story was hard and it took a year or so for my mom to even acknowledge my wife. I grew up in a very conservative Christian family, I didn't come out come out officially till I was 23 I think 🤔 23 or 24. I always knew though something was different about me at a very young age like in elementary school. I always gravitated towards women than guys 🤷🏾♀️ because of my up bringing though I found times where I came out to some people but then would go back in the closet due to fear frankly. But lol it's a long story but that's the jist of my coming out story 🤷🏾♀️😋
Thank you so much for sharing your story! Wow, you came out later than I thought, but I understand why. I'm glad that you made it, though, and that you're now with your wife!
@etivathanh thanks !! And np!^.^ it was hard go stay closeted for so long but it came and went ya know? I'd come in and out over the years due to alot of confusion and fear. And frankly due to all that it still affects me to do this day even being married now🙃 but it helps having now supportive friends and my wife always being there for me to comfort me 🥰
War eine schwierige Zeit für euch beide. Bewundere euch sehr. Ihr seit stark. Wünsche nur das Beste für euch. Bleibt so wie ihr seid. Herzliche Grüsse aus der Schweiz 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
OMG, just got to this video but will have to watch it in the morning as it is already well past 3 am. I quickly schemed through the comments section. I'd better get lots of tissue papers ready. I'm sensitive that way. :)
@@etivathanh Ok, so I finally watched this video. Great that you guys had it relatively easy and I'm happy for you! I guess I kind of had it easy too or at least did not have to go through major drama. I grew up in South Korea where things related to sex were hardly ever talked about openly let alone gay related stuff. If gay related stuff ever came up, it would usually be in the forms of mockery, disgust, etc., but it rarely comes up and almost considered either taboo or non-existent. At least that's how I felt growing up. Good thing about this was that I did not have to worry or struggle over the concern of my sexual orientation because no one talked about it really and I did not have to question myself. I was very much aware that it was not to be discussed with anyone, though. I was not curious, and I had no interest really. I just assumed that I would finish school, get a job, then marry a woman and start my own family one day like everyone else. Plus, students in Korea typically have no time for anything other than things that are directly related to schoolwork. I was not a big fan of the education system but looking back, it kind of helped me out since most kids around me was about getting schoolwork done, getting better grades and going to a better school. That's a whole another topic of itself lol Another unique cultural aspect in Korea that helped me was that there was no pressure for boys to date a girl vice versa. It actually is frowned upon if you dated someone while in school since it was considered something that gets in the way of your pursuit of education. Yeah, so much emphasis on education in Korea. I did go on one group date in high school though. was arranged by one of my friends. My date seemed to like me and showed further interest to meet with me separately, but I did not feel the same toward her. I did not think too much of it but I had zero interest in girls. That I knew! lol It wasn't until I went into military service in my early 20s that I found out or confirmed my suspicion that I am gay. In short, one of my good buddies from California confessed that he liked me more than as a friend one evening. My reaction was a surprise as he had a girlfriend back home (although they broke up shortly after but not because of me) and I did not expect that he was gay at all. We were already good friends, and he was super cute. and I was curious. so we kissed. very good. kissed more and well into the late night in the room. hehe No one knew I was gay though. My coming out to others came much later. To a few close friends, all of whom were straight girls in college. They all fortunately took it well. Some even said they suspected that I was gay already. lol Then a few more years passed. I eventually came out to my family who never asked me about my romantic life although they always knew I lived with a man. They just assumed that he was my roommate. Go figure! When my father was sentenced with a late-stage cancer, I decided to tell my family. Since everyone was so stressed out about my father's health, my coming out was not a shocker to them. Timing was good. I believe things would have been quite difficult otherwise. I always thought my mom would be disappointed but would accept me for who I am, but I was always worried about how my father and sister would take the news. They're the "tough" ones. well, my father passed away a few months after my coming out. My mom and sister are alright with me being gay. They don't really make any fuss out of it. They just wish me and my hubby happiness every time I talk to them on the phone, which I'm grateful for. I am not sure if things would be the same if I were in Korea though. It is still rather hostile society towards gays. Very little progress has been made in the last 20 or so years as far as I am aware. Only my direct family members know that I live with a man, and they don't feel comfortable letting other relatives know. I don't think it is necessary but it is telling how the reality still is for us gays in Korea. We have to stay hidden. Anyways, I'm happy to have been able to live my life rather freely as a gay man in the US and now in Germany. Ok, super long comment. Not brave enough to appear in your video (sorry) so lengthy write up here. Thanks for reading! :)
@@MrWhitney4e I think this goes into our channel history as the longest comment so far 😆 I actually studied with Koreans in Vietnam, and I always saw the school system as rather bad, so it's interesting to see that it actually has helped you in a way. And likewise, the strong focus on education, which I also think is tough, seemed to actually have some good side here. The story with you and your friend sounds like an amazing love story! What happened to him, or is the still your hubby? Yeah, I'm afraid the situation hasn't changed much in SK. From what I've gathered from my classmates, much of the homophobia still persists, though my classmates were largely fine with it (some even were interestingly close with me). Thank you so much for sharing your story! I bet this is something that many like to read! It's OK if you don't like to appear in a video (though I must admit I think it would have been very interesting!).
@@etivathanh My god, I'm telling you it's a living hell! so much work to do and so much pressure to do well. I'm glad I'm no longer a student in Korea. I can tell you that much haha By the way, I would guess most Koreans will be perfectly fine (or try their best to maintain a straight face to be polite at the least lol) with gays overseas, especially gays that are not fellow Koreans. Plus, Germany is a highly regarded country by most people in Korea. So, that probably explains the interactions you had with Koreans. So my first bf is not my hubby. He and I were together for about two years until he was transferred back to the US. We did meet up in the States though as I went to school in the US shortly after he got sent back home. Long story short, I broke his heart, and we went our separate ways. At the time I was not sure there would be a life for me as a gay man. So much fear and unknowns in the strange new land, then. I was in very homophobic part of the US, too. I know, what was I thinking? I actually was so afraid that I was going to stay in the closet for the rest of my life, marry a woman and have a family. And that's exactly what I told my ex. He was upset and would call me many times about getting back together. Gosh, I must have really broken his heart although I was lost myself too and had no intention of hurting him. By the way, he still holds grudge on me, but he's been happily married for well over 10 years now with a cute Pinoy in California. I was fortunate enough to have dated a few nice men and learned a lot about how life could be as a gay man, which was very promising and helped me become more hopeful. Eventually I left the conservative area and moved to NYC where I later met my hubby. NYC was a lot of fun! and not so fun sometimes. :)
By the way, I came out to a few of my close female friends while in college. I did not come out to my family until 2019 when my father was diagnosed with cancer. I met my hubby in 2010. Some guys only date those who are out. I'm only grateful that he was patient and understanding of my situations. He came out in his late teen/early 20s. His father stopped talking to him for nearly one year but then eventually warmed up to him. I met the entire family when they came to NYC in 2011. Such loving bunch of people and treated me no different. I felt very much "normal" around them. All of his family is very open and very understanding. I wish this is how everyone in the world was! By the way, since you shared so much in the video, my hubby's older sister's husband is also bisexual. Well, he was with a man when young. My hubby had a gf in high school but mostly peer pressure. I, on the other hand, have never even held hands with a girl. So, I'm more like Thanh in that sense, gay gay gay gay gay lol Ok, maybe I'm more asexual now than ever, though. Enough for now! Have a great week!
Thank you gentlemen for your stories, Okay Eti you are a young 37, how old is Thanh?......sending love and happiness, Richard....❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Здравствуйте мои хорошие! ❤❤❤ Ваша любовь прекрасна! Любите друг друга долго...долго...долго!!! Это же счастье...когда есть человек заботящийся о тебе !!!ЛЮБЛЮ ВАС!❤🥰
May God guide you and help you in whatever you do avery happy birthday to you may God bless you and give you a long life may God strengthen you and grant you the power to live a life of success and happiness may God bless your family and near and dear ones how is your family
Türkçe alt yazı olduğu için minnattarim ve size hayranım yasadiklariniza birbirinize olan muhteşem ilişkinize ve yaşadığınız her kötü olay içinde çok üzgünüm umarım herşey sizin için muhteşem gider❤❤❤
Qué suerte tienen de tenerse. Than qué hermoso que tu familia te aceptó. Tengo primos, amigos, ahijado gays y no se atreven a salir del armario. Guatemala 🇬🇹 es un país conservador y enfermo de religión. Muchos de ellos lanzan todos los días odio. Abrazos para ustedes.
i am asexual and nonbinary and queer. my story is not dramatic eniter. i just never dated properly and dont really want it and say my parentrs how it is and let them deal with it. I feel like in some sucomstenses nonbinary have privelege over binary trans people. when in my case, for example, i dont want hormone therapy but in russia where i live, goverment banned transgender care all together and i feel like i am more lucky then many others. my parents pretty liberal and i just overtime tell about myself organically when i feels like, but my father still call me girl sometimes. (sorry if i made mistakes)
@@etivathanh Thank you guys, fortunately I’m going to have a husband who help me when that time comes, anyway happy pride month and thank you, your videos are always so sweet.
I haven't come out yet to my mom My whole family is religious If I'm being honest, I'm not and if I tell her I'm already what she thought Tell you the truth I've never had boyfriend by the way I love your videos
Io sono una donna etero ma trovo molto bello che tu non ti voglia definire ma dica che sei attratto dalla persona non dal genere, queste etichette (gay, bisessuale, pansessuale)sono quelle che creano razzismo purtroppo. Ognuno dovrebbe vivere la sua sessualità come meglio crede.
When I was 11 years old I feel that I am a gay and at the age 15 I finnally recognised my Identity as a gay after preparing myself mentally since childhood my behaviour is completely different from other boys and I don't like girls I don't want to close with any girl but I have a strong feeling with boys I feel comfortable with boys mentally when any contact with any boy I have feel love hormones not with any girls I feel uncomfortable and heatfull feeling or environment with any girl so I recognised me as a gay 🏳️🌈❤❤ but I know my gardens like cut me into pecics when they know about my homosexuality 😢
Mijn. Dochter liet een liedje horen waarin er werd gezongen girls like girls . Zo vertelde ze me dat ze bi seksueel is.. als moeder was mijn reactie ok als je maar gelukkig bent . Ik verschoot er niet echt van . Als moeder voel je dat . Ook was er al een getrouwd guy koppel in de familie . mijn dochter observeerde blijkbaar wel hoe ik over hen reageerde en zo .
Thanh, seem a little upset or perhaps put off with Eti personl history of lover's, especially when he mentioned female lovers 🤔 from my personal observation, I'm guessing he might be feeling little bit insecure, which is certainly natural, and wondering now I have to compete with females as well......😮
Eti, it sounds that are bisexual if you can find an attraction in girls still today. You said pansexual, but that's a person who mostly attracted to personalities. In such a case, you can ask yourself if you think you could find attraction to a transexual and pretty much any sexuality. A trans person with boobs and a d**k is something I have strong feelings about and cannot go there. That would be pansexual. But I'm not insure you could possibly redefine yourself as bisexual. Think heavily on that however. It's always easy to say gay. But I'm like Thanh, no female parts. They freak me out at the thought of doing that, although I did once. But she also knew I was gay already, we were like best friends. But there is a story behind the reason we slept together. Let me know if you want to hear that story.
Hm... bisexual would kind of mean I'm attracted strictly to both male and female genders (however that's defined then), so basically a very binary sexuality. But, I can be attracted to a trans person too. For example, there are transguys/FTM I find really attractive (also sexually), that's why if I don't call it "gay" I would call it "pan". However, in fact, my experience of this is rather fluid, meaning not always the same - hence I tend to not care about that for myself so much. And yes, I would love to hear the rest of your story and the reason why you slept with your friend despite not being into her!
Neither of that, I'm actually agnostic (in short: I don't follow any religion or believe in gods/higher beings, but I'm open to spiritual things and any possible existence).
I love your videos lovely couple,, my youngest son is gay and I proud of him , because he is my little giant with a big heart and I hope in the future , he'll find a special and lovely person for him. blessyou guys ❤💚💜💙💛🎶🎵🌹the life is beautiful and God is good all the time.
We would love to hear your coming out stories! If you feel comfortable enough, feel free to share your stories in the comments. Also, if you like, we would actually like to hear some of your stories. If you're interested in sharing your story in an interview, email us, and we'll get in touch:
etivathanh.com/#contact
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@@Lucasandkibo-lover Great! Looking forward to that!
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I am 71 years old and from London, when I was growing up it was illegal to be gay until 1967 when homosexuality was decriminalised but you had to be over 21 years old, I was 14 then and the second eldest of ten children, I told my mother I was gay and she said she always new and she loved, she was a strong woman which gave me the confidence to come out to my siblings who to this day love ❤️ me and my late husband, we were together for over forty years, I wish you both nothing but love
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I can't really describe why, but I found it somehow very touching. Hope, you're doing ok! Thank you so much for being here! ❤️
Wow 40 years ❤
And what a bout children you have them???
@@abuhamasa1476 We don't have children, and will definitely wait a few more years before considering having some.
Eti looks like Mark, the judge from the "The Voice of German" . OMG
So gorgeous together...could listen to Thanh talk English all day 😊🫶💗💗
Thank you both for sharing your story. My brother was gay, one of the kindness humans you would ever meet, I miss him terribly 💔
Hope, you're doing ok! ❤️
Etienne and Thành, I knew that I was Gay at age 4, but I didn't Come Out until I was 36. I live in very conservative Texas. That's why I waited so long. 🇺🇸🏳️🌈🤝🇻🇳🇩🇪🏳️🌈
Wow, that's early! I don't think I had a clue about my sexuality at that age. But then again, I don't remember much of it anyway. I can understand that you waited with your coming out, though. Hope, you're doing OK now! ❤️
Again "ew"? Why are you here then? 😆
@@whyusmvn Maybe a different diet helps 😉
Coming out is such a personal thing to do but it is and always will be the most liberating thing to do, also your mental health will improve, take care of each other
Totally agree with all that! ❤️
Wow! You are full of surprises! But even Thanh doesn't like women to love there is definitely a reason behind it. And it is not just the fact that you are gay. I like the way you told your stories. Love is not simple thing. But to love and be loved doesn't depend on gender preferences. I have a few gay friends and their coming out and love stories are at some point sound like yours. Be happy. You know who you are! (Even that Eti is trying to figure out the purpose of his life and who he is and what he wants). It's so sad that we live far away from each other and can't talk. To write a comment is not the same as a live conversation. Love you boys! I love you as a women and a mother.
I think you're right, love has nothing to do with gender preferences.
Thank you so much for your support! ❤️
Looking forward to this 😊 The love you share via this channel is an inspiration for me and gives me joy, lots of happy emotions, and hope it will happen to me too ❤️
I'm so glad to hear that! Thank you so much, Gustav! ❤️
6:28 You're right, I was fortunate. My mother was a REAL hippie of the 60's, and it was never a big deal, more like "oh...and so?" I think people need to get over the "being gay" as if that alone is bigger than concentrating on "being in a real relationship" Know what I mean? And hey, that goes for ANY type of relationship, not just for us!❤
I love the way both of you show your love for each other ❤❤ i hope to have courage so i can also show the world how i feel about my self and for my love 😢
Be brave, you only have this one live, and it's yours! Much love to you! ❤️
@@etivathanh I am trying to come out to my parents but I am from Pakistan and it's impossible in my country but I am trying 😞😭😭
@@kookie_nightappleff Oh yeah... I know a Pakistani boy here in Germany, and I think he's not even out yet. I think it's good to not rush it before you can be on your own, but I can understand that you want to come out. Do you think moving is an option at some point?
@@etivathanh I am in a final year of my med school after completing my study . I just want to run away from this country with my partner 😭 I need to endure it for one more year 😞😭😭 so we can have a better future together
@@kookie_nightappleff I understand that it's difficult. One more year sounds doable, though. You can do it!
Thanh is a doll! So cute!
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I just loved it I'm totally understand and relate to you both. new subscriber here. BLESSINGS!
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I like your coming out story it's so cool and so calming to watch.what I like most is for thanh for being pure naturally honest no filter in whatever he thinks he say it even the vulgar words I may say to him saying those I didn't feel malicious but rather sounds as it is natural thing thatswhy I find him genuinely amazing ❤ honestly you two are pure, decent and so professional such an inspiring couple,love you both ❤
The questions I want to ask
1.who's more jealousy type(eti or thanh)
2.who's more clingy and wants to cuddle most
3. who's the one to apologize first when at fault
4.what is your common argument (daily activity)(behavior)
Thank you so much for your lovely comment!❤️
I think we have some of your questions also in the list for the next Q&A video(s), but let me answer them briefly here too:
1) Tbh, I'm not sure. We're both fairly relaxed but at the same time also a tiny bit jealous, I'd say. We do give each other much freedom, though.
2) We're both quite clingy 😆
3) Usually me (Eti), but I'm also the one who gets into a conflict first usually
4) Small stuff, e.g. things that one forgot to do.
Oh thank you for responding and I'm so touch you gave me your attention more power,, love you both❤️❤️
@@necresflores1717 No worries, we try to reply to everyone (as long as we still can 😆)
Thank u so much
It was nice chatting with u
I'm actually straight but love gay stuffs
But sometimes I feel I should be gay 🌈 😁😎
Thank you! ❤️ You feel like you should be gay? What makes you feel like that?
You are such a lovely couple, it warms my heart.
Mis niños hermosos ❤❤ ya soy una persona mayor, mi mamá y mi hermano nunca aceptaron a mi hermano y el murió cuando tenía 28 años y yo todavía lo extraño y lloró por él, espero que ustedes siempre sean muy felices 😊
Thank you so much for sharing this! Your comment is also very kind! And, sorry for your loss!
Thanh might share, if any is left ! Love you two 🎉
🌈Oye! Just learned that Thai senate passed same-sex marriage bill! So, Taiwan, Nepal and now Thailand, gay marriage is legal! Happy Pride Month everyone! 🥳
Oh wow! What great news for this year's Pride Month! 🥳🥳🥳
Another lovely and informative vlog. Stay safe and sending much love to you both. C u in your next vlog. Jennifer xx
Thank you so much, Jennifer! ❤️
Hi guys another fab video it's great that you invite us into your lives and let us experience life with you. It can't be easy to tell your stories to a camera. Must admit Thanh is so funny love his turn of phrase but equally your facial expressions do make me laugh. Well done guys take care. ❤❤
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Danke euch für euer Coming Out Video,ich finde man sollte in der heutigen Zeit offen darüber reden können.Leider war es früher nicht immer möglich sich zu outen was ich nie verstanden hab.Ich wünsche euch das Ihr beide immer glücklich seit.🍀💞🌈Wünsche euch ein schönes,entspanntes Wochenende.Lieben Gruß von eurem Fan Peggy W.🥰
Vielen lieben Dank für deinen tollen Kommentar, Peggy! Hab auch ein schönes Wochenende! ❤️
Waiting. I just love your videos the way you share your concern and love with each other.
Thank you so much!
The guy with long hair is very beautiful
Loved this video and gosh you guys make me laugh I love it 🤣❤️🫂 my coming out story was hard and it took a year or so for my mom to even acknowledge my wife. I grew up in a very conservative Christian family, I didn't come out come out officially till I was 23 I think 🤔 23 or 24. I always knew though something was different about me at a very young age like in elementary school. I always gravitated towards women than guys 🤷🏾♀️ because of my up bringing though I found times where I came out to some people but then would go back in the closet due to fear frankly. But lol it's a long story but that's the jist of my coming out story 🤷🏾♀️😋
Thank you so much for sharing your story! Wow, you came out later than I thought, but I understand why. I'm glad that you made it, though, and that you're now with your wife!
@etivathanh thanks !! And np!^.^ it was hard go stay closeted for so long but it came and went ya know? I'd come in and out over the years due to alot of confusion and fear. And frankly due to all that it still affects me to do this day even being married now🙃 but it helps having now supportive friends and my wife always being there for me to comfort me 🥰
Always like watching the video. Miss you so much.
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I relate to Eti, I don’t really care about gender or anything like that. As long as I like the person and they’re kind to me that’s all that matters.
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I wish I could be this open about being a gay guy it's embarrassing
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@@Bingo-yj9pg Oh, I see. Maybe later in life this will be easier.
War eine schwierige Zeit für euch beide. Bewundere euch sehr. Ihr seit stark. Wünsche nur das Beste für euch. Bleibt so wie ihr seid. Herzliche Grüsse aus der Schweiz 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
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Siempre tengo el celular en las manos y justo cuando lo deje para trabajar un poco empezó el live y me lo perdí todo 😭😭
It was only a premiere, not live. However, we were there watching with you and chatting with you live.
@@etivathanh Que bien, entonces cuando tenga tiempo lo miraré porque ahorita estoy trabajando 😅
@@naranjitaruth Alright!
Olá meninos sou hetero mais adoro os gay o amor não tem gênero o importante e ser feliz 😊👌❤🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷
Thank you so much for supporting us and everyone else who's not straight! It's so nice to see people like you here!
My coming out Story is not that fancy xD
I only looked for a website that describes my sexuality and sent it to my mom when I was in school 😂
That's actually a good idea!
I like your story. Love both of you ❤
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OMG, just got to this video but will have to watch it in the morning as it is already well past 3 am. I quickly schemed through the comments section. I'd better get lots of tissue papers ready. I'm sensitive that way. :)
Hope, you'll have fun watching this!
@@etivathanh Ok, so I finally watched this video. Great that you guys had it relatively easy and I'm happy for you! I guess I kind of had it easy too or at least did not have to go through major drama. I grew up in South Korea where things related to sex were hardly ever talked about openly let alone gay related stuff. If gay related stuff ever came up, it would usually be in the forms of mockery, disgust, etc., but it rarely comes up and almost considered either taboo or non-existent. At least that's how I felt growing up. Good thing about this was that I did not have to worry or struggle over the concern of my sexual orientation because no one talked about it really and I did not have to question myself. I was very much aware that it was not to be discussed with anyone, though. I was not curious, and I had no interest really. I just assumed that I would finish school, get a job, then marry a woman and start my own family one day like everyone else. Plus, students in Korea typically have no time for anything other than things that are directly related to schoolwork. I was not a big fan of the education system but looking back, it kind of helped me out since most kids around me was about getting schoolwork done, getting better grades and going to a better school. That's a whole another topic of itself lol
Another unique cultural aspect in Korea that helped me was that there was no pressure for boys to date a girl vice versa. It actually is frowned upon if you dated someone while in school since it was considered something that gets in the way of your pursuit of education. Yeah, so much emphasis on education in Korea.
I did go on one group date in high school though. was arranged by one of my friends. My date seemed to like me and showed further interest to meet with me separately, but I did not feel the same toward her. I did not think too much of it but I had zero interest in girls. That I knew! lol
It wasn't until I went into military service in my early 20s that I found out or confirmed my suspicion that I am gay. In short, one of my good buddies from California confessed that he liked me more than as a friend one evening. My reaction was a surprise as he had a girlfriend back home (although they broke up shortly after but not because of me) and I did not expect that he was gay at all. We were already good friends, and he was super cute. and I was curious. so we kissed. very good. kissed more and well into the late night in the room. hehe
No one knew I was gay though. My coming out to others came much later. To a few close friends, all of whom were straight girls in college. They all fortunately took it well. Some even said they suspected that I was gay already. lol
Then a few more years passed. I eventually came out to my family who never asked me about my romantic life although they always knew I lived with a man. They just assumed that he was my roommate. Go figure!
When my father was sentenced with a late-stage cancer, I decided to tell my family. Since everyone was so stressed out about my father's health, my coming out was not a shocker to them. Timing was good. I believe things would have been quite difficult otherwise. I always thought my mom would be disappointed but would accept me for who I am, but I was always worried about how my father and sister would take the news. They're the "tough" ones. well, my father passed away a few months after my coming out. My mom and sister are alright with me being gay. They don't really make any fuss out of it. They just wish me and my hubby happiness every time I talk to them on the phone, which I'm grateful for.
I am not sure if things would be the same if I were in Korea though. It is still rather hostile society towards gays. Very little progress has been made in the last 20 or so years as far as I am aware. Only my direct family members know that I live with a man, and they don't feel comfortable letting other relatives know. I don't think it is necessary but it is telling how the reality still is for us gays in Korea. We have to stay hidden. Anyways, I'm happy to have been able to live my life rather freely as a gay man in the US and now in Germany. Ok, super long comment. Not brave enough to appear in your video (sorry) so lengthy write up here. Thanks for reading! :)
@@MrWhitney4e I think this goes into our channel history as the longest comment so far 😆
I actually studied with Koreans in Vietnam, and I always saw the school system as rather bad, so it's interesting to see that it actually has helped you in a way. And likewise, the strong focus on education, which I also think is tough, seemed to actually have some good side here.
The story with you and your friend sounds like an amazing love story! What happened to him, or is the still your hubby?
Yeah, I'm afraid the situation hasn't changed much in SK. From what I've gathered from my classmates, much of the homophobia still persists, though my classmates were largely fine with it (some even were interestingly close with me).
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I bet this is something that many like to read! It's OK if you don't like to appear in a video (though I must admit I think it would have been very interesting!).
@@etivathanh My god, I'm telling you it's a living hell! so much work to do and so much pressure to do well. I'm glad I'm no longer a student in Korea. I can tell you that much haha
By the way, I would guess most Koreans will be perfectly fine (or try their best to maintain a straight face to be polite at the least lol) with gays overseas, especially gays that are not fellow Koreans. Plus, Germany is a highly regarded country by most people in Korea. So, that probably explains the interactions you had with Koreans.
So my first bf is not my hubby. He and I were together for about two years until he was transferred back to the US. We did meet up in the States though as I went to school in the US shortly after he got sent back home. Long story short, I broke his heart, and we went our separate ways. At the time I was not sure there would be a life for me as a gay man. So much fear and unknowns in the strange new land, then. I was in very homophobic part of the US, too. I know, what was I thinking? I actually was so afraid that I was going to stay in the closet for the rest of my life, marry a woman and have a family. And that's exactly what I told my ex. He was upset and would call me many times about getting back together. Gosh, I must have really broken his heart although I was lost myself too and had no intention of hurting him. By the way, he still holds grudge on me, but he's been happily married for well over 10 years now with a cute Pinoy in California.
I was fortunate enough to have dated a few nice men and learned a lot about how life could be as a gay man, which was very promising and helped me become more hopeful. Eventually I left the conservative area and moved to NYC where I later met my hubby. NYC was a lot of fun! and not so fun sometimes. :)
By the way, I came out to a few of my close female friends while in college. I did not come out to my family until 2019 when my father was diagnosed with cancer. I met my hubby in 2010. Some guys only date those who are out. I'm only grateful that he was patient and understanding of my situations. He came out in his late teen/early 20s. His father stopped talking to him for nearly one year but then eventually warmed up to him. I met the entire family when they came to NYC in 2011. Such loving bunch of people and treated me no different. I felt very much "normal" around them.
All of his family is very open and very understanding. I wish this is how everyone in the world was!
By the way, since you shared so much in the video, my hubby's older sister's husband is also bisexual. Well, he was with a man when young. My hubby had a gf in high school but mostly peer pressure.
I, on the other hand, have never even held hands with a girl. So, I'm more like Thanh in that sense, gay gay gay gay gay lol
Ok, maybe I'm more asexual now than ever, though. Enough for now! Have a great week!
Thank you gentlemen for your stories, Okay Eti you are a young 37, how old is Thanh?......sending love and happiness, Richard....❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Our pleasure! ❤️ Thanh is nearly 30 now. Much love to you! ❤️
@@etivathanh thank you, we all know he looks more like 18 or 20 .............Richard....❤❤❤❤❤❤
I just turn to 42 last week. And I still stay in a closet and I live in Borneo. Sad but need to move on being single.
Is Borneo so anti-LGBTQ?
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Hi it so verey nice to see the both of you and how are things going for the both of you by robert
Thank you, Robert! ❤️
May God guide you and help you in whatever you do avery happy birthday to you may God bless you and give you a long life may God strengthen you and grant you the power to live a life of success and happiness may God bless your family and near and dear ones how is your family
Thank you so much ❤️
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Vielen lieben Dank, Andrea ❤
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Beautiful video❤ Love is love! 🩵
Qué suerte tienen de tenerse. Than qué hermoso que tu familia te aceptó. Tengo primos, amigos, ahijado gays y no se atreven a salir del armario. Guatemala 🇬🇹 es un país conservador y enfermo de religión. Muchos de ellos lanzan todos los días odio. Abrazos para ustedes.
Thank you so much! And good luck to your family members! It doesn't sound very easy 😕
Nossa Thanh não parece ter quase 30 anos muito lindo 👌❤🇧🇷
i am asexual and nonbinary and queer. my story is not dramatic eniter. i just never dated properly and dont really want it and say my parentrs how it is and let them deal with it. I feel like in some sucomstenses nonbinary have privelege over binary trans people. when in my case, for example, i dont want hormone therapy but in russia where i live, goverment banned transgender care all together and i feel like i am more lucky then many others. my parents pretty liberal and i just overtime tell about myself organically when i feels like, but my father still call me girl sometimes.
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Thank you so much for sharing your story!❤️ I can only imagine how difficult life must be in Russia for you. Hope, you're doing OK!
I haven’t came out yet 😂, but I have to soon probably in the future. Love you guys, you’re cute, from 🇮🇩
We wish you all the best for your coming out! ❤️
@@etivathanh Thank you guys, fortunately I’m going to have a husband who help me when that time comes, anyway happy pride month and thank you, your videos are always so sweet.
@@Kid-qp7hp Thank you so much! Happy Pride month to you too!❤
Thanh how old are you now, eti and thanh how many year together
Thanh is nearly 30, and we have been together for over three years now.
Thanks for reply for me love you both of you😘😘
Obrigada por responder meu comentário fiquei feliz 😊❤🇧🇷
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Oh I am waiting for this video eti and thanh ❤❤
I haven't come out yet to my mom My whole family is religious If I'm being honest, I'm not and if I tell her I'm already what she thought Tell you the truth I've never had boyfriend by the way I love your videos
Oh, that sounds a bit difficult... Hopefully, you can find a good way for you to deal with the situation.
не всё в жизни сложно и это хорошо
you are a very beautiful couple and I wish you only happiness kisses from France where I ❤
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Oh no, acabo de entrar y me perdí la historia 😩
You can watch it again 🙂
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@@etivathanh you’re welcome
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Io sono una donna etero ma trovo molto bello che tu non ti voglia definire ma dica che sei attratto dalla persona non dal genere, queste etichette (gay, bisessuale, pansessuale)sono quelle che creano razzismo purtroppo. Ognuno dovrebbe vivere la sua sessualità come meglio crede.
Thank you so much for your great comment! And yes, I agree that we shouldn't squeeze ourselves into labels! Thank you for your support! ❤️
We are waiting for your babies 😘😊😅
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When I was 11 years old I feel that I am a gay and at the age 15 I finnally recognised my Identity as a gay after preparing myself mentally since childhood my behaviour is completely different from other boys and I don't like girls I don't want to close with any girl but I have a strong feeling with boys I feel comfortable with boys mentally when any contact with any boy I have feel love hormones not with any girls I feel uncomfortable and heatfull feeling or environment with any girl so I recognised me as a gay 🏳️🌈❤❤ but I know my gardens like cut me into pecics when they know about my homosexuality 😢
Thank you so much for sharing your story! Hope, you're doing ok! ❤️
i want a german Boyfriend 😍🤗
Eti is so Handsome
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Mijn. Dochter liet een liedje horen waarin er werd gezongen girls like girls . Zo vertelde ze me dat ze bi seksueel is.. als moeder was mijn reactie ok als je maar gelukkig bent . Ik verschoot er niet echt van . Als moeder voel je dat . Ook was er al een getrouwd guy koppel in de familie . mijn dochter observeerde blijkbaar wel hoe ik over hen reageerde en zo .
Glad you're such a supportive mother! ❤
Thanh, seem a little upset or perhaps put off with Eti personl history of lover's, especially when he mentioned female lovers 🤔 from my personal observation, I'm guessing he might be feeling little bit insecure, which is certainly natural, and wondering now I have to compete with females as well......😮
Not sure why he reacted like that. He actually knew about this for quite some time already. But he doesn't need to worry much anyway 😉
Eti, it sounds that are bisexual if you can find an attraction in girls still today. You said pansexual, but that's a person who mostly attracted to personalities. In such a case, you can ask yourself if you think you could find attraction to a transexual and pretty much any sexuality. A trans person with boobs and a d**k is something I have strong feelings about and cannot go there. That would be pansexual. But I'm not insure you could possibly redefine yourself as bisexual. Think heavily on that however. It's always easy to say gay. But I'm like Thanh, no female parts. They freak me out at the thought of doing that, although I did once. But she also knew I was gay already, we were like best friends. But there is a story behind the reason we slept together. Let me know if you want to hear that story.
Hm... bisexual would kind of mean I'm attracted strictly to both male and female genders (however that's defined then), so basically a very binary sexuality. But, I can be attracted to a trans person too. For example, there are transguys/FTM I find really attractive (also sexually), that's why if I don't call it "gay" I would call it "pan". However, in fact, my experience of this is rather fluid, meaning not always the same - hence I tend to not care about that for myself so much.
And yes, I would love to hear the rest of your story and the reason why you slept with your friend despite not being into her!
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Is Eti Hindu or some sort of Hare Krishna follower?
Neither of that, I'm actually agnostic (in short: I don't follow any religion or believe in gods/higher beings, but I'm open to spiritual things and any possible existence).
@@etivathanh your little pony tail behind is suggestive of something ....
@@SujhbujhWali Oh, really? That made you think I could be Hindu or a Hare Krishna follower? I didn't know there's anything like that.
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I love your videos lovely couple,, my youngest son is gay and I proud of him , because he is my little giant with a big heart and I hope in the future , he'll find a special and lovely person for him. blessyou guys ❤💚💜💙💛🎶🎵🌹the life is beautiful and God is good all the time.
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