@@aviksblog8145 Society. That goddamn collective ego who is constantly judging us. Or at least that we perceive is judging us. Should it matter? Maybe not.
The painful part is he deleted it all, just to say a typical response, it’s so accurate and hurts so much that this is truly how it goes, there’s so much you wanna say but…you just feel like you can’t say it because you could cause problems, so you turn back on it
I’m in this same situation. I feel stuck I want to break up with this girl but every time I start breaking up with her I second guess myslef and decide not to. I think I have an attachment issue of some sort but I don’t want to spend any time with them. How can I get out of this?
The problem with romantic relationships is the way that media portrays it to be, it seems to always be “the honeymoon phase”, always with that butterfly feeling in your stomach, nervous and giggly. However a relationship is not linear, there’s the beginning, then after that is when it truly gets tested, how will you feel once the love has settled and it becomes your normal. Will it be enough? Are they enough? I realized that you don’t always have to feel this infatuated feeling, you can be in love with somebody that’s not necessarily extra ordinary to others. After the beginning, you’ll grow together and that is what is truly the most beautiful, supporting one another, making each other laugh but also being able to stand on your own. I’m glad I figured this out early on, love is different for everyone so don’t subject yourself and please don’t compare yourself, you’re amazing
there's something beautiful about being brutally and vulnerably honest. to be authentic, to be real, to be human. it feels very earthy and yet charming.
you are worth the blood of Jesus! More valuable than any silver or Gold! Jesus died for u! He died so we can be with him! And he came back!! He loves u! Come to Christ today❤ believe! And Recieve! For God so loved the world that he gave his only son that who so ever believes in him will not die but have eternal life-John 3:16 Today can your day of salvation ❤❤❤
Yeah I was going to make a comment as well asking if it was suppose to be a private video. That being said he liked your comment so it's probably fine.
@@leamubiu I mean, to be fair, many pieces of art have been made in private, with privacy and intimacy in mind. But I believe Sisyphus just wanted to make a video on looking back at the first love
I just broke up from a relationship like this. He didn't say much apart from he doesn't know why he doesn't love me, and that he'd wish he does, but he just can't. He says I'm perfect for him, objectively speaking, but he doesn't know why the feeling isn't there. The problem is though, I loved him with all my heart. This video brought me the consolation he never did; it was as if you said the thoughts he had but was unable to formulate into words. Thank you.
@@bloomnbury7387 Thank you for taking the time to read and reply, Rudranni. I'm still not sure what his thought process was like, but hopefully he is happy now.
I read once that love for the first 13 months or so isn’t love It is the honeymoon phase Because your brain produces chemicals that make you feel in love and think that this person is “the one” for you After this phase your heart and mind think about the other and if you really love him/her Maybe he wasn’t in live with you, maybe his mind made him think so Sorry that you had to live that
My girlfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago after 3 amazing years together. Idk why I’m typing this and putting it in a TH-cam comment but I am. I’m not one to talk about my problems unless it’s with someone close to me, but here I am. Crying as I type this , letting the internet know. Not once in those 3 years did we ever raise our voice at each other. Not once did we argue. Not once did we go to sleep angry at the other person. Not once. 3 beautiful years that I’ll always remember and cherish. Unfortunately, I always had this gut feeling that for some reason we weren’t meant to be for each other. I don’t know why, but it’d be in the back of my mind, I’d never let it affect the way I loved her and treated her though. I loved her passionately and gave her every part of me, and vice versa. Towards the tail end of things, for the past few months , I felt things begin to change. I kept trying and trying and trying , and doing new things to keep the excitement and get the sparkle back but I could slowly see it dwindling away. Our anniversary was 2 days after Christmas , and even then it felt like the last one we might share together. One of the worst feelings of all time is knowing you’re doing everything you can but it isn’t working. Fast forward to January and she tells me she wants a break for a month or so. I don’t believe in breaks but I loved her so I decided to give it a shot. At first I kept telling myself I would do whatever she wants, but as the time went on I realized that I kept denying what it is I felt was the best thing to do. Best thing for her, but also the best thing for myself. I tend to neglect myself and my happiness and feelings for other people and always put people before myself. There’s no worse feeling than knowing that what is the best for you , isn’t what you want. I felt us growing apart for a while, and I realized I was never going to be able to meet the expectations she wanted of me and fulfill the things she wants in life, especially if I couldn’t even do it for myself. It breaks my heart knowing that she’s crying because of me, that I hurt her. But it isn’t any easier for me. I want her to be happy, and that happiness might be with someone else, and that’s okay with me. Idk how long it’ll take me to figure myself out and for me to learn self love and value, but just like the video said. It sucks , but it’s for the better. I believe I made the right choice , even though neither one of us can see it now. It’s for the better. If you read this thank you, you definitely didn’t have to but it feels good to finally let this out. Thank you
I was on the receiving end of a devastating breakup several months ago and in case it's any consolation to you, it sounds like you're handling it beautifully. Reading your comment actually made me tear up a little. Seems to me that you're giving her empathy and appreciation at a distance, and I think that's the best gift you can give her now.
"Not once in those 3 years did we ever raise our voice at each other. Not once did we argue. Not once did we go to sleep angry at the other person." As much as I would hope these three years were as amazing, I wonder if this might be exactly the reason why things went downhill... always putting up a smile and neglecting one's own emotions, in hope that the other is "happy", is the worst thing in a relationship, since even little nuances can grow into insurmountable unhappiness if no one is willing to speak up about them. Still, would like to give my best wish for you.
You are me. And I am you. The only difference is I feel I am nearing the receiving end of this. It’s scary and it may not actually even be about to happen. but right now it’s painful and hurt a lot. So thank you for being someone I know has gotten through my crisis
Thanks a lot for sharing. I can definitely relate with you and it's just painful. I learned that it's important to think about myself more and not put others first always and then talk about it. ❤ If you are not happy with who you are in the relationship, it won't work probably. All the best ✌️❤
Anyone else legitimately write like this in a relationship trying to be deep in thought and articulate your emotions and your partner just sends back "ok"
bro i say "ok" to my friends a lot now you're gonna make me not want to but i'll still have nothing else to say which is why i say "ok" in the first place
@@UwU-ok2jr "Okay, I understand" "Thank you for taking the time to tell me that" "I genuinely don't know what to say" "I need time to think this over" Are all way better options than just saying "ok". That can make you come off as disinterested. I'm an essay-texter myself, and to me length signifies effort. It's like you saw someone taking the time to expose their heart to you, and responded with no interest or emotion (bc of lack of emojis, signifiers or punctuation). Just showing that you've seen someone's text isn't enough, actually say something. We want to know how you feel. If you don't know how you feel, then say that. Anything other than a vague "ok".
Rarely, if ever, do I watch a video on TH-cam more than once. It's just been 9 hours since this was uploaded and I've watched it 6 times already. Hits too deep. Never take it down, man. This was incredibly beautiful.
wtf man I want my distant troubled greek dudes and european past century bohemians that had way too much time to think about life, I wasnt expecting a perfectly relatable modern day love struggle being lived right now by my man Sisiphus 55 :( shit hits too hard damn, hope we all get better and be happy somehow
I like to think the feeling is the same, but the circumstances surrounding it almost always seem to be so deeply personal it makes the feeling get applied to something personal.
This has to be one of the most relatable videos I've ever watched. Not only does it make me feel better and reliefed of my daily struggles, it also reflects the oh so perfect times I once had and still wish I'd have to only then come to the conclusion that everything that I loved so much only made everything more problematic. I love this video.
Seeing the Daughters album cover in your pfp under this video only a week after i discovered the band, hits differently. "The road is dark, the road is long, remember these are just the words to somebody else's song."
U don’t understand how precious your comment is to me. I’ve been searching every single day, I never knew what was that feeling, and your comment made me realize this is exactly how I felt. I broke up with my gf 1 week ago and there was this feeling that it hurted so much but I finally understand it, I love the feeling of loving her, of having someone to dish out all that love, but deep down I knew we weren’t gonna work
The ending made my heart sink, because I think it’s fair to say that we’ve ALL had that one moment where we deeply want to say something to the person we love(d), but in the last moment we doubt if it matters or if they will care, and say something generic or vague to seem less hurt from the fallout of a relationship that felt perfect but realistically was not. This video was great, and very relatable. Thank you for making this
this is the second time i come back to this video. I had to end a 3-year relationship at the beginning of this year. I loved her with all of my heart, but i eventually realized she did not. It was a strange relationship, our first one too. We were young, we went trough so much together. But i fell in love with someone that wasnt actually ''real''. I realized i have been spending 3 years with a completely different person, someone that drained my life and energy bit by bit. When i realized what kind of a person she really was, and what she was doing to me, i had to end it all. It was the most difficult decision of my life. Then came some really difficult months. I thinked about her, i remembered our moments together, but none of that was real, and none of that could came back. I became frustrated, i hurt myself out of anger more than one time. I wasnt angry with her, but with myself. I still loved her, and that crushed me even more, day by day. Im better now (relatively), and i started to realize that, as sisyphus says, ''it's for the better''. Im not happy it ended, im happy it happened, and that those few, real, good, pure moments in our past will stay there, eternally. In both our memories they're there, and i hope other pure and good moments can be created in the future with someone else. This whole comment is probably gonna get buried under countless others under this video, but even so if someone's reading this i wish you the best of happiness and love in your life. And if she is reading this, i loved you sunshine. I really did
I hope you find whatever you're searching for and still have some sort of passion. This type of thing is really difficult to deal with and you seemed to have taken the most dangerous stick out of the bunch. I hope you're doing good from now on and still enjoy life. I ain't gay but I'll give you as much love and support in this comment that I can
for anyone reading this: If you think you're falling out of love with someone, don't panic! First off, you were already dating for a long time before you fell in love, so obviously loving someone isn't a requirement to date, and not loving someone (on it's own) is not a good enough reason to stop dating! A lack of love can be caused by many things including mental health! If you think you might be depressed, then yeah, no shit, there's gonna be periods where you don't love anybody, or anything! Love comes and goes, but it doesn't mean you should panic and cut things off. As long as you're still having fun with someone then there's no reason you should gatekeep yourself from a relationship with them! Obvious caveats: You start to find them unbearable. You love someone else (this is a bit tricky)? You don't like them at all and discovered the relationship was / is solely about something else like infatuation, evading loneliness, or just sex. You think they are abusive / manipulative These are valid reasons to break up with someone once you stop loving them. Losing "love" by itself is not a good enough reason to pull yourself away from a good friend!
Heed these words fr, I made that mistake (5 years ago) and I'm still catching myself wanting to text her. Don't date your best friends, its too risky. One conversation and you'll never see them again
It’s so painful being the person on the receiving end of this!! I can see him fading away and I know there’s absolutely nothing I can do and I keep searching for signs that he loves me even though I know they’re not there!!
It is painful especially when you are confused if you want him or you want the idea of him. I started looking for signs even if it wasn't meant to be! Made it all more confusing. It's hard since you want him but also you don't want him to see you as the one liking him if it makes sense! I feel you PS hope you do well❤❤
It's also really painful and difficult being on the initiating end. I felt like the biggest asshole in the world after breaking up. It was the first relationship for both of us and she really loved me but I somehow was never able to feel the same way about her.
That really does hurt because I feel like we exchanged those words to each other, and now it feels like we're miles apart, it didn't take long for her words to mean nothing to her, yet I still about them from time to time, still wanting to love her.
People don't realize that love is not a feeling. The feeling is simply infatuation with some other feelings sprinkled in. After about 6 months to a year sometimes longer that feeling starts to really dwindle. Sometimes things like the attention safety and pleasure of sex can even displace the infatuation. Love is choosing to stay with them. Love is when you choose someone even when you have negative feelings for them. Thats what marriage is all about. Going past feelings. The feelings can even return actually. Its just it takes literally no effort to make them in the beginning. They are just there. Literally the moment you see each other. You are flooded with infatuation for them and they are for you. That is not love. A common goal in life. A mission to reach. Loving that person better. Making a better life together. Having a vision that stretches to the grave. Those keep love strong. The feelings come back. They come and go. My wife and I have lost feelings but gained them back over and over. But the most powerful intimacy a person can give is shared when you make it through those moments and reunite the feelings you once had. Staying loyal despite the hardship. Fighting regardless of the feelings. These really show the mark of true love.
I've already cried watching the video where he said that he wants to love her, and reading your comment makes me in tears even more. I really appreciate that you write this all down and I wish for the best to both of you. I hope that I can keep these in mind and continue to mature in the relationship.
I’m in love with this girl, and as per usual, she doesn’t feel the same way, and the only thing that hurts more than knowing that she doesn’t feel the same way, is the fact that I know eventually I probably won’t feel the same way either, even though it hurts to love her, I never want to stop loving her
aww that's so sad. :'( I feel you. There's this girl and she is awesome and I like her very much. But she has her plans to go and eventually well lose contact and it hurts very much.
@✧ Shroomi ✧frankly idk what love is. I think I fall on the aro spectrum but like maybe it's this care for a person and u want to be with them and you love their vibe maybe. That's that for ME.
I just had a mental breakdown and I was crying waterfalls and thinking about *it* every 2 minutes. When I finally stood up and checked youtube, this was the first video recommended by to me. I immediately clicked on it and half-way through watching this... It comforted me so much, I felt like someone was telling me their own story about their heartbreak and somehow felt some empathy coming from this guy. I don't know if this is just purely a coincidence, or some miracle type shit...but holy fuck, I was stunned. I haven't dated anyone, nor had a heartbreak. I have my own different issues but this video gave off the same feeling of comfort I needed to have. I was crying and biting onto the pillows so my parents wouldn't hear me for 2 hours straight...... Thank you, whoever you are.. Seriously.
@@mickelamanuel7330 agree completely on the phone eavesdropping part. It's funny how we've just taken this device, that is connected to the internet, literally spying on us for granted. Fuck cyberpunk, we're already goddamned androids man!
I hope you feel better eventually and I want to share some advice in case it might help you because it helped me somewhat: “Tell the people that you know care. If you know your parents or a good friend care then tell them. They will try and help you don’t hesitate on it or it might get worse”
I love the idea of you sysiphus. I may not ever know you or meet you, hell if we saw eachother on the street we may not get along, but the you that this video and the rest of your channel creates in me is wonderful, caring, and authentic. I don't and can't really love you over the internet, but the idea of you is something to behold
The worst thing is when you feel like it’s a personal failure because someone else doesn’t love you. You know it’s not their fault or yours, it’s a combination of a million different factors out of your control, but you still can’t help but think you weren’t enough. Not enough to keep their attention, not enough to satisfy them, not deserving. On the flip side of the coin, if you’re the one falling out of love, things are just as painful, too real. I need to remember this feeling.
this was beautiful. i think i sometimes forget that love actually happens. theres so much representation of superficial infatuation and it's rare for me to see people who care about someone because they are the way they are rather than what they do for you. i hope one day i can have a connection like this with someone even if there isn't a "happily ever after"
It’s one of the worst pains, being so connected to someone and when it ends you think you’ll never be able to find someone like that again. It’s made me believe that marriage is a bit of a hoax too
This video got me crying rn because my relationship screams so eerily alike with the only difference being I love this girl with everything, both of us having bad childhoods the word love holds no significant meaning to her other than a word used to express how she or I likes something more than usual, we’ve never exchanged the word but that’s just me not wanting to make her feel trapped or like saying it makes everything more serious from then on, I care for her more than anyone I’ve cared about in a way that makes me profound, of course she’s beautiful but I feel a human connection that I try to compare to other experiences I’ve had and none of them match up. I’ve thought about telling her honestly and dealing with the consequences or giving it with the preface that it can be a one-off thing that is solely for her to know how I feel and make of it what she will, but this girl is so meaningful to me without her even knowing it and whenever I look her in the eyes I say the words I love you and I don’t know what follows that besides her gaze and the fact nothing else seems more important to me at this moment like she’s building highways in my head that I’ll hopefully never see bare of cars driving through, although if I did I would understand it was of my own fault somehow because there’s no way her unknowing complexity could ever waver my thoughts about her, she’s perfect
It does happen.. i never believed in love and marriage scares me cuz of my childhood.. but what happened is that , once i decided that i no longer want to complicate life ,i just want a peaceful life doing what makes me happy,in fact I've never been in a relationship even though i want to cuz i know that i don't love them i just want to love them cuz of what they can offer me..then last years, out of nowhere, i fell in love , i was worried cuz it happens so quickly and it's a person i found online.. and for someone who have never been in love ,it was both magical and terrifying.. after a while, i noticed some changes in my thought patterns.. I don't think about what she can offer me, instead, i think about what i can do to support her dreams and passion, how I can make her smile , basically what i can do in order to make her feel loved and appreciated.. what makes it better is that, that's the first time i found someone who's similar to me but also the opposite of me .. we have similar passions and mindset, but unlike me , she's confident and fearless where I'm more timid and insecure..my 10yr friendship was over cuz one of us want to move on and be happy while the other one only feels more connected when we're miserable together,it was bonded out of shared painful experiences.. so the fact that me and my girl bond over those positive things instead of our negative sides does make a difference..
he sent this video to me, before we broke up, and watching it made me start to think too hard about our relationship. he said he didn’t mean it as him feeling this way too, but why would he send this one to me if he didn’t? i slowly began to pull away. i’d force myself to not text him all day, and didn’t tell him things i wanted to tell him. i started to think i wasn’t enough, and like we weren’t meant for each other, even though before watching it, i thought we were soulmates. we haven’t spoken to each other at all in weeks. i’m sorry things ended that way. i hope you’re happy, and aren’t sad about it anymore. thanks for being so good to me, andre
it's been another one of those silent nights, and maybe it's worse since we reopened the hurt between us. i find myself coming back to this video and thinking about everything that happened. i had told you i watched this channel before and when the video came out soon after i immediately shared it with you. there are many things here that resonated with me at the time. after i rewatched it with you, you asked if we were drifting apart and i promised i didn't feel that way. the distance didn't help and it gave you a reason to doubt that could have been avoided. we talked about infatuation and love and i couldn't explain the fears i had whether you would accept me as i was when it came down to it. yet being together you let me be the child i couldn't be when i was younger brought me so close to you, and these are the memories i hold most dear: reading picture books at the library on a sunny day, eating cinnamon pretzels with nacho cheese at the mall, making crazy scenarios of how many cats we could possibly have in the house, going to the park and being scared to fall off scooters and bikes, holding me close as we would take a nap. meeting you 8 years ago has been the best thing to happen, it took me away from things going on at home. i was amazed with the familiarity i felt with you, and i even began to trust you. trust was something new to me, maybe it was for you too. as we grew old enough, i knew i had to do everything i could to set up a life for ourselves, away from the past. it feels strange now being here without you. i truly wanted to get through our hardships and start a new chapter with you. i don't know where to go from here, i get too scared to move on and leave you behind. on these nights where things get too quiet and i'm left in my own head, i really do scream. scream every feeling that i can feel so i don't drown. we were so close we felt like we were the same person, we matched together perfectly. i don't know what to do without you, but maybe that's exactly what it is. you wanted to be your own person, and maybe i need to be my own person too. i can't say that i am happy, and that i'm not sad about it anymore, but i'm glad for the time we spent together, and for the opportunity to have you in my life. thank you for letting me be a part of yours, courtney
@@TheLightningpenguin thank you for helping me be who i am today, for always being there for me, and for being the best person i know. i’m sorry for reopening things. i know it was wrong, but i just needed to know what would happen, if you would be there. i’m sorry. i’m sorry for hurting you. i know a comment apology isn’t enough, but it’s what i’ve got. i’m sorry. thank you for everything, andre
@@davesisonn YESSS I LITERALLY FEEL THE SAME WAY AS THEM but like said it's for the best though I have urges to go after them and they probably over me but don't feel bad cause it happens and it was a good experience and peak of my life so I won't regret anything
I love it when the internet gives me yet another reason to be thankful for my husband (other the ones that come to mind when I wake up and see his face every day). How nice it is to love and be loved.
I caught myself in a state of idealizing a potential relationship recently. When I realized things weren't going to turn out the way I hoped I was devastated with the consequences of looking stupid or at least feeling I did. But more so I was frustrated with allowing myself back into that self sabatoging cycle of believing I can exert my perception of someone onto them and it will somehow not be selfish and ultimately beneficial for both of us. I was thankful I could catch myself being wrong soon enough to quell the hurt but your video came out just in time to fully affirm how I felt. Thank you so much, buddy. You always come to bat for us.
I can’t describe how much I relate your comment, man. I’ve been in the exact same situation, idealizing a possibility. It’s ALL in my head yet it feels so bad
Exurb1a once said, "Nothing can ever ruin this." Edit: 4k likes in three weeks and an interesting discussion about rape. The best TH-cam comment I've ever posted. Not proud.
@@isaimtz-cmcho688 man he is not a shity perseon nonebody is perfect and all there is are alegations so nothing is proven and he is free until proven guilty
I feel just as hurt and healed after watching this. Hurt because it's exactly how it feels to miss her, but healed because at least I know someone out there understands the pain I could never put into words. Thank you
This hit me right in the heart. I'm trying not to weep in front of my family. This pretty much encapsulates my feelings right now. I'm trying to move on, seeing other people but I'd be lying if I didn't think about her during silent nights or when I pass our favorite hangout spots. We broke it off last July in the middle of the pandemic after three years of mostly good times, trips and experiences. Anyway, love the video, wasn't expecting to feel this hard today.
The first love is always so explosive and dynamic and visceral. My wife is the true love of my life, but after 3 years of marriage the electricity and butterflies are only occaisonal. And that is perfectly fine. Love matures, it grows in depth. And that is a normal thing.
@@Edge9897 My first actual love lasted for 4 and a half years. In that time period, she left me three times to chase those butterfly feelings but when those butterflies faded with flings, she'd always come back to me. For me, this meant stopping the healing process and abandoning whatever relationships I was building at that time and take her back. Our fourth and final separation was 10 years ago. She's had two boyfriends and one failed marriage since. I dated a girl for 5 months in 2017. I wish our love had matured too. Dont know why I'm replying to this but your comments resonated with me
this is so raw and really captures all the emotions of a breakup beautifully. it really brought me to the realization that we don’t fear being in pain, we fear being alone in pain (at least for me)
Wanting to love someone, to escape the emptiness and suffocating isolation, and to find pleasure in the possibility of liberating someone else from that too, that's just my experience. This video reminded me of such a continuing pattern in my mind. Hoping to find a feeling of being loved in trying to be someone who is that person for someone else. Thing is, nobody is bettered that way, and truthfully, no one wanted it to be that way.
Just commit to love, don't question it and you will see that you are able to love anybody if they give their love back. The thing is if you live in denial and have clogged up feelings that will tranfer to your partner aswell. So just fuck your second thoughts and go for it.
It feels weird to watch this after breaking up with my girlfriend, i don’t know anybody would even care to read this but i feel like my heart pierced and its for this exact reason. I think she just lost her love for me after not seeing eachother for 2 months. But how can one lose love? I may be saying these in sadness but i can’t stop loving her.
@Sakurr Because sometimes you find that person who sticks with you for life, and it's worth going through the pain to find that. Personally I had just one breakup in highschool which probably catalyzed a seemingly permanent depression in me. I haven't dated anyone 12 years since then as I felt every relationship wouldn't work out if I was even worth a relationship to begin with. So I'd avoid flirty situations. I even found someone who was a really great match for me around 5 years ago, got her number, and ghosted her like a moron thinking she deserved better and it wouldn't work out anyways. I got stuck in a cycle of learned helplessness, and also had this idea in my head that I shouldn't date anyone unless I was happy all the time. I would hear things online like if you cant make yourself happy, how can you make others? Well now I know all of that is stupid. While I can see the benefits of staying single, growing up, learning what you want, and avoiding potential relationships that would have caused heartbreak, it gets a lot harder to meet people when you get older. You also eventually might get to the point where you feel the heartbreaking loneliness which can be just as emotional as a breakup. So go out there and date, but be smart about it. There are plenty of people who are interesting in their own ways, and thinking other relationships are bound to go as sour as your previous one is a delusion.
@@Angela-vm3kc infatuation has always been so interesting to me. I've dated a total of 2 people, and the first one was absolutely infatuated with me. Until it turned out I was human, and my flaws were too much. Infatuation doesn't last, and isn't love and a lot of people don't know that I think. I'm worried the same thing might happen with the person I'm currently dating. I see love differently from my ex, and it takes more time to form for me. My current partner adores me but I'm afraid that when those rose-tinted glasses fall off he'll realize I'm not good enough anymore, like my ex did. I'm not actually, perfect. But, it's worth a try, isn't it? To find someone who can maybe see things the way you do, to find safety and comfort in someone. To change and to change someone, for better and for worse. Love is really just an interesting topic
This happened to me too. We broke up about a month ago, and we were going long distance. I was completely fine with it and I even felt like I grew closer to her, even if I saw her every 2 weeks at the most. We broke up and said that she lost the connection about a month before she brought it up. It hit hard because I know she suffered through being with me just because she didn’t want me to hurt, but all I wanted was for her to be happy even if it means hurt for me. Ive been in relationships before her, but nothing really hit harder than this break up. Idk why, she’s not the first person I loved, but all I think about is how she just hung up on me, saying “I’ll see ya when I see ya”. The last thing I ever heard her say. I hope you’re doing ok now man, I understand how it feel. But we get through it
My girlfriend, who has been in the military for the last half-year, recently left me after realizing that her feelings for me weren't there anymore. The distance that came with my time at uni and hers at "the edge of the world" in the military, became too much to handle -- and she fell out of love with me. I remember seeing this video previously, thinking it was cute and heartbreaking. But now, on a re-watch in my current state, I sit broken. It was never easy for her when it came to being apart, I'm not mad and I can't blame her for it either - because somehow I'm not surprised that it went this direction. I'm just sad that I didn't *know* before it was to late. She had known it for a few months, even the week where we got to meet up, but couldn't say it before we were again separated by a countrys worth of distance. I miss you, and I'm not sure I'll ever stop missing you either. You're on your journey where you must do what you must to be the person you want to be, and I'll be on mine trying to understand what went wrong and blaming myself because its easier to have something to get mad at. I loved you, even when you stopped saying it back, as much as I do now
I have been ugly sobbing for way too long after watching this. This feels so similar to what my ex told me. “I loved you for as long as I could,” and “you know you deserve better, though.” It’s been seven months and it hurts as much as the day after he left. He thinks it’s for the better, and he might be right. I am still barely handle the loss
@Sakurr I’m so sorry for that, to you both. It will get better, I swear. This may not be the best advice.. But I will say this. You don’t have to jump up and try to re-discover what life truly is/means to you just yet. Take a resting period, as it’s okay to rest a little. Eventually however, bring yourself back whenever you feel ready to. Find your balance, your ground, and water those plants in your mind again. Things will be better! If you struggle to do so, seek professional help. I’m a she, and I had my first heartbreak in June of 2021, which things got a lot better for me eventually. Trust in the process, and I can really understand you. I hope you feel better soon. Good luck :)
This is so true. I've seen a lot of married couples who didn't really act too lovey dovey all the time and after being exposed to such both in real life and on TV far too much I came to a conclusion: the perfect romantic partner is just a best friend who you fuck with from time to time. It's kind of why the idea of having a "female best friend" while being married or my wife having a "male best friend" while married to me sounds off to me.
Hey, Sisyphus, idk if you'll ever see this message, but to sum up all that I want to say is... Thank you. This video was all too relatable to me and bought me some strange sort of closure. I've never thought someone else could feel the exact thing I was. This struck a place in my soul, and I'm so thankful that you created this masterpiece. Thank you. Never delete this chief.
I had watched this before, and I am watching it again. This feels so deeply personal, as if you are speaking my mind. The feelings, the texts at the end, the absence of closure from ones own self, even our perceptions about love,.. everything were the same. Thank you for creating this, Sisyphus ♥️.
The fact that so many people relate to this, and not in some "deep-fake" way, just shows you how humans are similar, no matter the race, and horoscopes are just B.S. no offence.
I love the fact that this is so relatable, feels so personal, but at the same time it is the same for so many people. I hate that the youtube algorithm knows me so well but I love it when it shows pieces of art like this, stuff that makes you see that we are not alone in this world.
I like to revisit this every once in awhile. Every time it hurts less and less, and recently I've come to remember you with a smile rather than tears. I'd like to think that, in another life, in a different timeline we'd still be friends. I Hope wherever you are, you're safe and happy. I miss you, stranger.
Oh my god. This is so jarringly similar to a situation I'm currently in, and it only became eerily more similar as you expressed your internal monologue. From the idealism to the disheartenment and regret. Are our experiences uncannily similar, or are some aspects of love and our feelings surrounding it human universals? I suspect somewhere in-between... Anyway, video was a banger, lol
Not just you! Me too! My guy moved far away temporarily. Loss of passion. There wasnt even anything wrong in the relationship. Hell things were perfect and maybe too perfect. That idealized relationship felt empty. the distance from covid dwindled that utopia into a dystopia.
Most human experiences are shared by everyone around us. We get so wrapped up in our lives and stories, we forget that there are eons and eons of civilizations filled with people who have been through the same. We forget that there are people right next to us who share our pain and pleasures.
Broke up with my my gf two days ago. Relationship lasted two years and it was special. Feeling lost and anxious now. Vid didn't help with that but thanks for sharing.
This is one of the most beautiful videos I've ever seen. Somehow, it felt like I was the one talking here. All these things match what I always wanted to say to her but never found the right words or the courage to do so. Hands down, one of the most beautiful and relatable video I've ever encountered.
It may sound weird, but after hearing so many stories like this, and seeing how it impacted all the women (and men) in my life, I feel like it’s better for me to just avoid getting in a relationship… I never had a boyfriend, only (unsuccessful) crushes, but honestly I feel like it’s pointless to get in a relationship, to trust someone, to love him fully, to feel comfortable and safe, if this relationship will most probably end in failure and heartbreak, and I can do nothing about it… And it’s so sad for me, because i really do want to feel love, I really want to experience what it’s like being in a relationship, but I’m just too afraid of it, too afraid to take this risk, because if I’m probably going to get my heart broken, then maybe it’s just better to give up on love… idk, it’s a really shitty feeling to have
Ikr! It's like i wanna be loved but what if it doesn't work? All love stories nowadays ends up on depressed notes and I'm just not strong enough to survive that heartbreak thing.
If you start loving someone definitely don't run away from it. It's always better to try and fail than not try at all. Even if it ends you'll still have the memories of the experiences you went through. I'm going to write my story as an example but if it's too long you don't need to read it. Because it's also pretty childish but I have no other to tell, and sometimes I just feel the need to pour my thoughts somewhere I am pretty socially awkward so I interact very little with girls, which makes me have crushes extremely rarely. But there was this one girl who was so open and friendly with me for no reason whatsoever, which was pretty unusual considering my main social skill is to slowly distance myself from any people who are not very close friends. I didn't notice it at first, but she was beautiful. Even though I didn't know her that well it seemed she had almost everything I like at girls in general. I ended up liking her and decided to take my shot and ask her out. Believe me I had no idea what I was doing, I was more scared of meeting with her and sitting awkwardly not having what to say than being rejected. But she said yes and we went out one day and looking back the "date" was average at best but for my standards it was pretty successful, I was pleased. Unfortunately she wasn't interested in going out another time, so I told her I liked her just to make sure she didn't think the same, and I was obviously right. You might say I shouldn't have done that but I had nothing to lose, and I didn't. After a little while she continued being as open and friendly with me as before, which only made me hopeful but I knew the chances were too small to act again on it. Half a year later we went in a 1 week camp and I knew that that was probably my only chance to try to get closer to her, but I had no better idea than bring some cards to hopefully play together. I had no clue what I could do other than that, so I wasn't expecting much other than slight disappointment in the end. Boy was I wrong. Just so you know, most probably for a normal person what happened in the camp means much less than it meant to me, because for me everything was a new experience. To make you understand, let me tell you the first thing that went surprisingly different than what I expected. It was in the very beginning actually. We went there with the bus and of course what I wanted was to get to sit with her. But again I had no plan whatsoever to make that happen so I just occupied a chair in the back and stared at the window thinking how I wasn't going to do any better in the rest of the week either. She came with her friends and I thought I was lucky enough that they sat on the last row (because there were 4 or 5 chairs next to each other) which was close to me so I could maybe sometimes join their conversation. But after a little she comes and sits right on the chair next to me because it has adjustable backrest, and she doesn't even use it. And not only that, when we start sleeping after a while she rests her head on my shoulder. As I said it doesn't sound that impressive but for me it was something completely new. I've never actually gotten that close to a girl before, so imagine how was the bus trip to me compared to what I was expecting. That's how it was almost the whole camp as well. One of the most surprising things was in the first or second night when she called me for a walk outside. It was just us 2, walking together on the empty streets of a dormant town in a clear night. It was just beautiful. And we took walks the next nights too. During the whole camp I was in a constant chaos of emotions, most revolving around whether or not she actually liked me. Because despite those magic moments, she didn't seem to look at me any differently than she was looking at others. Many people were seeing us as lovers, but she only seemed to be confused by that. There were many times I was almost convinced that she was only maybe overly friendly, but then when we were just us 2 she says or does something that raises my hopes all over again. I knew I had to bring up somehow the fact that I liked her just to see how she'd react, but towards the end of the camp she started to realise what was on my mind and started avoiding spending time alone with me, so I needed not more explanation. At the end of the camp I had a feeling of unfulfillment, but I wasn't necessarily sad. After all the camp went unexpectedly better than I had hoped for. Unfortunately I'll probably not get any more moments like that with her, but at least she's still as friendly when we talk. Personally I'd be very happy just being close friends with her because I still like her company whether she likes me romantically or not. But she doesn't know that and probably doesn't want to give me any more false hope so I guess there's nothing I can do :/ The reason I told you this is because an experience doesn't need to end well to be worth living it. As much as I would have wanted to be with her, the fact that she ultimately rejected me wasn't a reason to be sad, it was just not a reason to be happy. Thinking of my missed shot, the happiness of shooting it outweighed the fact that it had missed. Even though I ended up still alone, those moments of complete happiness in which I merely thought a dream might fulfill are still something I cherish. In the end, my life is no worse than it was before her, so I have no reason to regret the memories I earned. As a saying goes, don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened. That's why never give up love, because loving someone is worth much more than avoiding a heartbreak
Thank you all for your advice :) I guess that I can still never predict what is going to happen, and it’s a bit scary, but I guess that’s the whole point of life, and when love comes to my life - I jus need to embrace it and hope for the best (and sorry for my bad English haha)
Hello, I just went through my first breakup. Ever. We were together for three years. End of middle school, grade eight, to a little into our junior year of high school. We’re juniors now about to become seniors. We haven’t spoken in months because they haven’t given me a chance to talk with them about anything. They cut me off completely without ever giving me closure, I guess. We last spoke in November 2022, so to me this is still recent, so the fact that this video found me is almost like divine intervention. I know and understand this feeling discussed in the video, and the video sums everything I feel currently. In my case, my first relationship was 3 years long, and I completely forgot what it was like to be single. So now being on my own, it can get hard sometimes and I cry. However, I’m thankful this video found me because there’s some level of comfort in knowing I’m not alone in this. Other people know what I’m going through, and I will be okay. I need to be
i cant explain how much i can relate to this video. i lost my best friend over last summer and i know its something pretty stupid to say to a best friend, but i really did love her. like a sister i never had. she wanted to go hang out with a boy all summer and i just accepted that. usually your texts with that person you lose slowly decrease and you slowly stop talking to them. she never responded after on regular text i sent her. i never cried about it, i tried not to think about it too much. now im crying my eyes out after watching this video. she was the best friend i've ever had. people always say relationships end for the better, but all i wish is that she loved me as much as i love her. i will always love her. edit: i wrote this a while ago and for a bit of an update we still arent talking but im doing so much better now. thank you for everyone in the replies and even if it's hard to believe i know it will work out for all of you. sending so much love
i too lost my bestest friend as well back in the fall of last year. i mean i still have her on the very few socials i have, but i tend to avoid her posts and such. it’s honestly so bizarre to me how we went to being like sisters since the 7th grade to being complete fucking strangers once we were entering our 20s. we’ve never really had an argument before and the ONLY time we did, she ghosted me right after. i do hate to admit that i cried over her for a pretty long time, but slowly just came to terms with what happened between us. i most definitely understand your pain, dear. it’s a really hard healing process, although i know you’ll definitely overcome it. i hope you know that you’re not alone in this and i sincerely wish you the absolute best in what’s to come in the future. ‹3
Losing a best friend is just as, if not MORE painful to losing your significant other. It’s not stupid to grieve over a lost connection. I cried many times when my best friend drifted apart and changed
I first came across this video not long after we started dating, and now im back here to watch it once again. i liked this video so much since it shows such genuiness and realism, so i shared it to her. even though our time together was short, i regret nothing. all the seconds, effort, and love i gave to our relationship, i regret none of them. at the start, i told her, she was either going to the person that saves me or break me. well it was the latter. our end was quite rough but despite that, i want nothing but the very best for her. i love her now and will still be loving her for a while. i know she doesnt feel the same. it really hurts rn. but its for the better. maybe she was right, we werent meant for each other. idk why or what the fck i wrote, but thx for reading it.
this is like those nights when you miss them, but sometime has passed and you're no longer talking, for good reasons though.. we have to move on. some nights you feel like shit missing them, sometime just a gratitude that you get to send time together. You want to say all of these things that you feel and let them know that even you both grew apart, you still appreciate them for all the moments that you both shared together but you're no longer talking and for good reasons too, we have to move on. Loved this video and the rest of the content, Sisyphus 55.
it's really not inevitable, it's just highly unlikely bc most people go through more than one relationship in their life. that doesn't mean it's the same for everyone.. this video is just talking through what usually happens
This is a masterpiece. This is what the Internet needs, Painfully accurate depiction of the human experience. Thank you so much for making it and sharing it
Ig there's a reason why I found this video. I've been crying like crazy for four days straight knowing that things are coming to an end and fighting a losing battle. My only consolation is to at least come to terms with things knowing I at least tried everything that I could to keep that same connection going somehow. I hope you're happy wherever you're headed you deserve it and I wish nothing but the best. I just hope you'll remember me from time to time. Thank you for all these months. The pandemic was a lot more bearable and even fun thanks to you.
I’m in this same situation. I feel stuck I want to break up with this girl but every time I start breaking up with her I second guess myslef and decide not to. I think I have an attachment issue of some sort but I don’t want to spend any time with them. How can I get out of this?
"I wanted to love you" hit me hard like way too hard. I always remind my self that I wanted to love her and the best thing I could do was to constantly do everything other lovers do, like send messages everyday, go out every week or at least once in a while,... It was fun at first, we didn't share many common hobbies or anything else but she was very understanding so it was easy to talk to her and she somehow felt the same toward me. She did a lot for me, like way too much and I always thought to myself that I didn't deserve this and I was not giving the same back. Doubting myself and my so called "love" was the worst feeling ever. The though of "texting her becoming a chore instead of a way to express, relieve my stresses and tell her stories about my day" always there at the back of my mind. I felt like I'm texting her because I had to, not because I wanted to or in a passionate way. Then the thought just became worst and there it is "the thought to end the relationship" but I was still lingering for some reasons, maybe because she had a anxiety problem and I was afraid she'd hurt herself in some kinda ways, but then again that's just forcing myself and I know I'm not a great actor. She noticed how weird I act sometimes, we had a few arguments and they was all about some mundane stuff and I still never understand. It had always been me vs myself, battling my own thoughts while putting up the best version of myself next to her, I always tried to justify my action and always felt horrible. I don't really understand her like I always thought to myself. She loved me a lot and I wanted to love her back the same way, but I can't. It's the painful truth. I'm still regret I couldn't be the better version of myself for her, for the relationship. Eventually the inevitable, of course, was inevitable.
Hey man, just because you dont feel some fuzzy feeling in your belly after a couple months doesn’t mean you don’t love her. Love is about the ability to grow together. Not the romanticized idealistic shit you see on media that may be influencing you to think its about some kinda feeling. And that once you stop feeling that feeling you ‘don’t belong’ with this person anymore. That ain’t it imo.
@@hero9402 ok fair enough. He did also say she suffered from anxiety, and unfortunately sometimes these things can complicate relationships, if the other person isn’t getting the help and support they need as well. But i’m just making assumptions. The term “ just wasn’t feeling it anymore “ just sounds so vague to me. But it’s not for me to understand anyway.
@@Yoyozo663 yeah I get it I thought the same thing as you too that maybe they have Idea that love is perfect and where expecting the impossible. But then I was like but He is too smart for that he does understand everything. And things would have been really bad (I mean like emotionally not connecting and things like that) between them and there wasn't any chance of it getting better. So yeah I understand what you mean.
I think it's idealistic to think that you can just continue to love someone forever and that clinging to this thought will just end up damaging your relationship with the other person
Hey, I wonder if you still feel the same way, but I'm assuming you think first love is the way to go since it's fresh and it seems like someone will really hold you close forever. One thing I can say is that in first love, people are stupid. Naive. Don't know much. They are more likely to make mistakes and honestly because of that the relationship wouldn't last long. That's because they're basing everything out of infatuation. First love is memorable because it's fresh, but first love is also the most painful because you only realize the things you should have done after it's over and you've matured.
Real late, but that doesn't change anything of my message. People cope with solitude by dating someone, its always been that way, and it always will be that way. He doesn't love her, he's never had the passion to go and get back together, it's just you cannot forget someone like her. Eventually he'll get over it, just as everyone else, and eventually, this video will fit someone else. It's naive to expect someone to have their first love be you, but don't date someone if you can easily tell it's just to cope with a previous relationship.
It hurts. It hurts so much to watch this. I feel so infinitely lonely these days. The passing of time has become such a stinging reality, and I've been sleeping for hours just to hope I'll wake up the next day and that today will end quicker. I check my phone everyother moment, praying I get a text from her, hoping to just have convo, even an argument. I crave her attention, her presence, her messages. Her love. It really sucks, I lost the person closest to me, I lost a friend, a lover, and a companion. And now I'm left desolate, I have all these thoughts and no one to vent to, all these emotions but I only feel numb. I hate where I am, and I just want another shot at life Edit: don't get me wrong, this is an absolutely beautiful video. It captures an emotion which so many of us have felt, which we thought we'd never be able to explain. Only few can narrate such an emotion and draw out its pain, loneliness, loss of direction, moments of satisfaction and shift of nature in conversation. You've managed to replicate a hug through a video and for that I thank you :").
hey man, it will be ok. Just dont give up on yourself. You dont need anyone else to enjoy living on this earth, it just sucks really bad when this relationship stuff is still fresh in your mind.
OMFG STOP. I was so invested and so involved and when the end hit. And all those sweet words and meaningful thoughts, got deleted to type a shorter less personal message. I FELT that in every way I think i ever could. This video explains so much strangely relatable stuff. It’s comforting almost.
I've never even been in love, in fact I'm probably too young to even know what being in love feels like but for some reason this video hit me as if I've already experienced this before, as if I know exactly what it's like. I don't know where I'm going with this but good job! you somehow made me feel things as if I've dealt with it first-hand.
"I have to remind myself that everything is over and a part of me is forever gone and that it's for the better" "It is for the better. It is. I want it to be" I haven't found the words to describe my emotions up until now. Literally thank you for everything
it's one of those nights where the silence becomes too much. i miss her so much it's almost unbearable. i miss our conversations and how she'd comfort me during one of the darkest times of my life. now she's gone, not completely gone, but she's not really here anymore, living her own life and dealing with her own problems, and im also living my own life and dealing with my own stuff and having fun with other people, but when it's dark at night, i can't help but remember her and how talking to her used to be the most exciting part of my whole day, and i just miss her so much. i wish i could turn back time and enjoy everything again. it just hasn't hit me that we're not part of each other's daily routine anymore
This hit home. It's almost been 3 yrs since I got out of a long distance relationship. My first love lol. When we broke up, there were no bitter feelings. We still laughed and joked in those moments. We stopped talking shortly. I still think of him somedays. I don't wanna be with him. Just. I don't know. I didn't thank him enough for the love he gave me I guess.
shit. one of my biggest fears is what if my boyfriend and i will come to this point. everything's perfect now. but it's so perfect it's suspicious. and i've always been an overthinker.
That’s the scary thing that keeps your love alive and exciting. You never know when the last day will be, or when your last date will be. So for now, you just have to cherish every moment.
i’ve seen this three times and i was trying to be one of those people and put down some meaningful comment. i think all that i need to put it that this is the best video i’ve ever watched. Thanks Man
Someone once told me that love is like hitting a button 1000 times, and 999 times, crap drops on your head, and then the 1000th time, you get a cookie. It might not be the best cookie. Might not even be a good cookie. But it's a welcome departure from the constant sh*t. I hope your next button press, stranger, is a good one. Only way to find out though? Is to press that button.
I just got out a relationship just like this. It was like at some point we both stopped trying to make it work. This so beautiful illustrates the regret and pain that the lack of comfort and stability in a partner leads to, while still knowing deep down that’s it’s better this way.
for months I looked for a song that would relate to the feelings I feel and couldn't find but everything i felt is written right here. i hope all of it is for the better. and thank you.
this is actually the first time i went through the whole video and watched and _listened._ i've come across too many times to remember, and always clicked off. i don't know why. but i finally watched it. and i cried. it's beautiful, it hurts.
My boyfriend constantly ignores me and disrespects me, and this video really resonates. I can’t stop crying today because I feel like it’s almost over. I miss the old version of him, the one I fell in love with.
This was depressing yet beautiful, it made me remember all the times I never said what I wanted to say when he deleted all of what he wrote, sometimes it feels like I'll never meet the person who's right for me, and this makes me feel less lonely I guess, this was beautifully depressing
I really, _really_ related to some parts of this. Vent comment incoming: I am asexual and on the aromantic spectrum (not entirely sure where), and I had a girlfriend for a year and a bit, just two years ago. We were close friends, we confided in each other; our differences occasionally brought about a perhaps excessive amount of bickering, but it also lined up this “yin/yang” type of dynamic, where we could offer encouragement to each other in problems where we needed to be more like the other person. All in all, we didn’t fully understand each other, but we tried and really cared. Still do. I thought I was in love with her, as I started to fantasise about doing romantic things with her, but she beat me to confessing that love. She called me her “forever person”, a term which I loved and which felt exactly right to describe my feeling for her as well. We got together, and navigated through the occasional awkwardness into a pretty good relationship. But over one summer, my feelings for her shifted back into friendship somehow. I didn’t notice at first, and it was absolutely spontaneous, no determinable cause in sight, but suddenly I realised that we weren’t doing anything romantic together anymore. It took months of pure dread, confiding in a close friend who encouraged me, and an amount of courage I didn’t even know I had, to go on a final date and bring it up, talk it through. It was this really emotionally confusing moment, walking around in a deserted part of town by night and telling her I didn’t think our relationship was working anymore. It was such a relief, because the dread stopped as I got all of it off my chest, and as I found out that she herself had somehow fallen out of love in about the same timeframe as me. What I had mistaken for her being busy (which she was, to be fair), had really been a loss of romantic interest in me, just like what I’d experienced. Knowing that we were exactly on the same page for what felt like the first time in months (we’d been arguing pointlessly a lot as well), it made for the best break-up I could’ve wished for. We sat on a bench and hugged and cried, mourning the relationship that slipped through our fingers for some unknown reason. I felt on her same wavelength, which didn’t happen often, and it was so disorienting for it to be the last part of our romantic relationship. Later, I realised there was some poetic symmetry in it: she’d had the courage to start our relationship, and I’d had the courage to end it. I don’t regret any of it, and we’re back to being close friends like before (with extremely minimal awkwardness in the transition period, as we’d basically been only friends for half of our “relationship”). When I look back on it all, it is hard to tell if I was ever in love at all. It’s possible that I just really wanted to be, that I just liked doing romantic things because of the act, and not because I was making her feel good, that I just didn’t know what that type of love felt like-only what it _looked_ like. Or I could’ve actually loved her, and then simply fallen out of it somehow. I still don’t know, and maybe I never will. Only time will tell if it will ever feel right for me to have such a relationship again, though I have a feeling it won’t-which is fine. I just don’t know.
first of all, your way of telling your story was really captivating and i want to express how beautiful it is. yes, you did lose her as a lover but the transition back to friends is something i couldnt do myself and that shows how, perhaps, you weren’t meant for each other romantically but platonically. i hope you find your significant other one day, and if you dont want that kindnof relationship that you have wonderful friends that value you as you are. sincerely, another asexual person :)
@@ottovonbasedmark I can’t tell you how moving it was to read this. I appreciate it a lot, and I hope you know how much good you’re doing by writing things like this. I wish you to be as happy as you have just made me with your reply. Have a good day or night, wherever you are, kind stranger ;)
i know exactly what you mean. i just “got out of” a dread-filled romantic relationship with a very close friend of mine. we’re both ace. i liked having that emotional intimacy with them, especially a year ago, because it made me feel needed in a time where i was unhealthy. we continued this semiromantic relationship for a whole semester, in which i constantly worried about their feelings for me. i finally brought it up and said that they were hard to read and i couldn’t tell if they liked me anymore. they told me that they had been using me kinda as an anchor to life and reality, and that they couldn’t do that again. they couldn’t be what i wanted or needed. i had seen it coming for ages, to be honest, but it was horrible to hear them talk about themself like that, like i was a better person than them (their words). it’s still scary. we’re back to weird semiplatonic, and i’m a bit happier now. but i still have extreme feelings of protectiveness and extreme emotional investment in their life, which makes me think i want to be more than friends again. i think they feel the same thing, like we’re both confused about our feelings. idk man there’s so much going on. and we can’t just say “do i want to kiss this person” as a way to evaluate our feelings. yiPpEe however i’m really happy you figured out this relationship with your friend. from one ace to another :)
I started watching this video a bit ago and had to pause it. I’ve come back to it after a few months of growing and have finally finished it. It’s honestly so beautiful and made me cry.
I love not feeling alone, you can really get into your own head and think you're the only one feeling a certain type of way, but we're surrounded by people feeling these same feelings, we just don't know
Really similar vibe to a Pablo Neruda poem I read once.
"I loved her and sometimes, she loved me too"
What's the poem called?
@@treyebillups8602 "Tonight I can write"
Pablo Neruda is a horrible human being. Just know that
Neruda funeke
@@treyebillups8602 "Poem 20" from 20 love poems and a desperate song by Pablo Neruda
"the coziness of a relationship makes it easy to forget the piercing sensation of solitude" - jesus
I don't remember jesus saying this
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@@add852 Because it was written in baeble, not in bible.
Damn jesus that hit different
I don’t remember this in the Bible
The ending was beautiful, a lot of the times we don't say as much as we really want out of fear of what the other person will say..
Or society. That ending pulled on the strings to my waterfall !
Not to mention, I would never be able to let go of her sweater.
@@aviksblog8145 Society. That goddamn collective ego who is constantly judging us. Or at least that we perceive is judging us. Should it matter? Maybe not.
@@zaidsada6841 probably not, and yet it still does cause we are social animals
i’d say it’s more out of fear of what the other person will think, and how it can affect how they will view and treat you...
The painful part is he deleted it all, just to say a typical response, it’s so accurate and hurts so much that this is truly how it goes, there’s so much you wanna say but…you just feel like you can’t say it because you could cause problems, so you turn back on it
I hate how that works. I'm in a position where I just want to send it. Maybe I'll cause problems, but what do I have to lose? It's already bad :(
@@zacharyh1407 how are you doing
@@zacharyh1407 Hope it went well
I’m in this same situation. I feel stuck I want to break up with this girl but every time I start breaking up with her I second guess myslef and decide not to. I think I have an attachment issue of some sort but I don’t want to spend any time with them. How can I get out of this?
So fucking true that it pains me just reading this
"Especially in those nights where the silence becomes all too much."
God, the dread.
@@murpledeer What song is this?
i HATE the dread so much, after breaking up I started dreading every single night so incredibly much for weeks straight, i never want to feel it again
@skipscrop im in the same boat rn every time im about to sleep I feel so lonely knowing that im sleeping and waking up without someone I really loved
The realization of not loving someone you want to love is such an awful feeling
i agree :(
🍃🍃
And when being told they've stopped loving you even tho your madly in love is an awful feeling too
@@cufomocha8850 this kills
@@cufomocha8850THIS omg
The problem with romantic relationships is the way that media portrays it to be, it seems to always be “the honeymoon phase”, always with that butterfly feeling in your stomach, nervous and giggly. However a relationship is not linear, there’s the beginning, then after that is when it truly gets tested, how will you feel once the love has settled and it becomes your normal. Will it be enough? Are they enough? I realized that you don’t always have to feel this infatuated feeling, you can be in love with somebody that’s not necessarily extra ordinary to others. After the beginning, you’ll grow together and that is what is truly the most beautiful, supporting one another, making each other laugh but also being able to stand on your own. I’m glad I figured this out early on, love is different for everyone so don’t subject yourself and please don’t compare yourself, you’re amazing
too true, said well
I love this comment
I think this is the best top comment there could be. I appreciate your words so much.
well said 💙
I think Lala Land handles this really well. It totally shows the ups and downs in any relationship
there's something beautiful about being brutally and vulnerably honest. to be authentic, to be real, to be human. it feels very earthy and yet charming.
you are worth the blood of Jesus! More valuable than any silver or Gold! Jesus died for u! He died so we can be with him! And he came back!! He loves u! Come to Christ today❤ believe! And Recieve!
For God so loved the world that he gave his only son that who so ever believes in him will not die but have eternal life-John 3:16
Today can your day of salvation ❤❤❤
true
this feels like one of those voice memos you record at 3am out of angst and then forget the next day
Wow- this is so true
Except that you never forget it. It's always there. Not in you phone. But somewhere in the corner of your heart.
Out of angst? 😂 k begrijp je wel tho
@@39deflect wdym, angst is also an english word if you meant that
I walk into the another room and just forget..
This was beautifully heart wrenching, but I felt like we weren't supposed to see this.
Yeah I was going to make a comment as well asking if it was suppose to be a private video. That being said he liked your comment so it's probably fine.
@@abbatrombonelol imagine the headlines: "Dude takes the trouble of animating 7 minutes worth of scripted video, only to keep it private" XD
@@leamubiu I mean, to be fair, many pieces of art have been made in private, with privacy and intimacy in mind.
But I believe Sisyphus just wanted to make a video on looking back at the first love
have you thought this about lovesongs?
@@asu8570 this is WAY more relatable and deeply touching than any love song to be honest. (Or any commercial one at least)
I just broke up from a relationship like this. He didn't say much apart from he doesn't know why he doesn't love me, and that he'd wish he does, but he just can't. He says I'm perfect for him, objectively speaking, but he doesn't know why the feeling isn't there. The problem is though, I loved him with all my heart. This video brought me the consolation he never did; it was as if you said the thoughts he had but was unable to formulate into words. Thank you.
you know maybe he thought you were his aspiration.
Like you were perfect and he thought he could be yours but it is a thought and not a reality.
@@bloomnbury7387 Thank you for taking the time to read and reply, Rudranni. I'm still not sure what his thought process was like, but hopefully he is happy now.
@@celinehosea oh yeah my pleasure ✨
but this is just my opinion. Okay peace✌️
I read once that love for the first 13 months or so isn’t love
It is the honeymoon phase
Because your brain produces chemicals that make you feel in love and think that this person is “the one” for you
After this phase your heart and mind think about the other and if you really love him/her
Maybe he wasn’t in live with you, maybe his mind made him think so
Sorry that you had to live that
@@Hi-ub1gl did you mean 3 months or you meant to put 13?
My girlfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago after 3 amazing years together.
Idk why I’m typing this and putting it in a TH-cam comment but I am. I’m not one to talk about my problems unless it’s with someone close to me, but here I am. Crying as I type this , letting the internet know.
Not once in those 3 years did we ever raise our voice at each other. Not once did we argue. Not once did we go to sleep angry at the other person. Not once. 3 beautiful years that I’ll always remember and cherish.
Unfortunately, I always had this gut feeling that for some reason we weren’t meant to be for each other. I don’t know why, but it’d be in the back of my mind, I’d never let it affect the way I loved her and treated her though. I loved her passionately and gave her every part of me, and vice versa.
Towards the tail end of things, for the past few months , I felt things begin to change. I kept trying and trying and trying , and doing new things to keep the excitement and get the sparkle back but I could slowly see it dwindling away. Our anniversary was 2 days after Christmas , and even then it felt like the last one we might share together.
One of the worst feelings of all time is knowing you’re doing everything you can but it isn’t working. Fast forward to January and she tells me she wants a break for a month or so. I don’t believe in breaks but I loved her so I decided to give it a shot.
At first I kept telling myself I would do whatever she wants, but as the time went on I realized that I kept denying what it is I felt was the best thing to do.
Best thing for her, but also the best thing for myself.
I tend to neglect myself and my happiness and feelings for other people and always put people before myself.
There’s no worse feeling than knowing that what is the best for you , isn’t what you want.
I felt us growing apart for a while, and I realized I was never going to be able to meet the expectations she wanted of me and fulfill the things she wants in life, especially if I couldn’t even do it for myself.
It breaks my heart knowing that she’s crying because of me, that I hurt her.
But it isn’t any easier for me.
I want her to be happy, and that happiness might be with someone else, and that’s okay with me.
Idk how long it’ll take me to figure myself out and for me to learn self love and value, but just like the video said.
It sucks , but it’s for the better. I believe I made the right choice , even though neither one of us can see it now. It’s for the better.
If you read this thank you, you definitely didn’t have to but it feels good to finally let this out.
Thank you
I was on the receiving end of a devastating breakup several months ago and in case it's any consolation to you, it sounds like you're handling it beautifully. Reading your comment actually made me tear up a little. Seems to me that you're giving her empathy and appreciation at a distance, and I think that's the best gift you can give her now.
This is so beautiful, thank you for sharing ❤
"Not once in those 3 years did we ever raise our voice at each other. Not once did we argue. Not once did we go to sleep angry at the other person." As much as I would hope these three years were as amazing, I wonder if this might be exactly the reason why things went downhill... always putting up a smile and neglecting one's own emotions, in hope that the other is "happy", is the worst thing in a relationship, since even little nuances can grow into insurmountable unhappiness if no one is willing to speak up about them. Still, would like to give my best wish for you.
You are me. And I am you. The only difference is I feel I am nearing the receiving end of this. It’s scary and it may not actually even be about to happen. but right now it’s painful and hurt a lot. So thank you for being someone I know has gotten through my crisis
Thanks a lot for sharing. I can definitely relate with you and it's just painful. I learned that it's important to think about myself more and not put others first always and then talk about it. ❤ If you are not happy with who you are in the relationship, it won't work probably. All the best ✌️❤
This video hits home. I needed to see this without knowing beforehand.
Yes
Yes
Yes
Yes
Yes
Anyone else legitimately write like this in a relationship trying to be deep in thought and articulate your emotions and your partner just sends back "ok"
Same here bro you’re not alone
bro i say "ok" to my friends a lot now you're gonna make me not want to but i'll still have nothing else to say which is why i say "ok" in the first place
@@UwU-ok2jr ok
yep....
@@UwU-ok2jr "Okay, I understand" "Thank you for taking the time to tell me that" "I genuinely don't know what to say" "I need time to think this over" Are all way better options than just saying "ok". That can make you come off as disinterested.
I'm an essay-texter myself, and to me length signifies effort. It's like you saw someone taking the time to expose their heart to you, and responded with no interest or emotion (bc of lack of emojis, signifiers or punctuation). Just showing that you've seen someone's text isn't enough, actually say something. We want to know how you feel. If you don't know how you feel, then say that. Anything other than a vague "ok".
Rarely, if ever, do I watch a video on TH-cam more than once. It's just been 9 hours since this was uploaded and I've watched it 6 times already. Hits too deep. Never take it down, man. This was incredibly beautiful.
This is sweet
It is beautiful
fully agreed
Exactly how I feel
i come back to this like a tradition every month. "i wanted to love you and i dont think I'll ever stop wanting to love you." hits home
The love isn’t the passion, the love is the bond.
love has many names and should ultimately be used in all walks of form.
passion drives a person, both people having wonderful passion for each other is what makes them want each other and want to try.
I heavily agree with this. A relationship is not built on passion.
Jesus is love❤
Love is a lot of things. It's a big blob of a word of many different types that English I explicable refuses to have words for
wtf man I want my distant troubled greek dudes and european past century bohemians that had way too much time to think about life, I wasnt expecting a perfectly relatable modern day love struggle being lived right now by my man Sisiphus 55 :(
shit hits too hard damn, hope we all get better and be happy somehow
Underrated comment
Like check
Snap back to reality
It’s absurd how personal heartbreak feels yet we can relate so deeply.
I like to think the feeling is the same, but the circumstances surrounding it almost always seem to be so deeply personal it makes the feeling get applied to something personal.
stuck between wishing we were still together or whishing we had never met
This has to be one of the most relatable videos I've ever watched. Not only does it make me feel better and reliefed of my daily struggles, it also reflects the oh so perfect times I once had and still wish I'd have to only then come to the conclusion that everything that I loved so much only made everything more problematic. I love this video.
IS THERE SOMETHING BURNING HERE OR IS IT MEEEEEEE
Seeing the Daughters album cover in your pfp under this video only a week after i discovered the band, hits differently.
"The road is dark, the road is long, remember these are just the words to somebody else's song."
This city is an empty glass
I like your pfp
Maybe the sun waits for you to be told what to do
“I didn’t love you, I loved the feeling of loving you.” sounds like the way to put it.
U don’t understand how precious your comment is to me. I’ve been searching every single day, I never knew what was that feeling, and your comment made me realize this is exactly how I felt. I broke up with my gf 1 week ago and there was this feeling that it hurted so much but I finally understand it, I love the feeling of loving her, of having someone to dish out all that love, but deep down I knew we weren’t gonna work
The ending made my heart sink, because I think it’s fair to say that we’ve ALL had that one moment where we deeply want to say something to the person we love(d), but in the last moment we doubt if it matters or if they will care, and say something generic or vague to seem less hurt from the fallout of a relationship that felt perfect but realistically was not. This video was great, and very relatable. Thank you for making this
this is the second time i come back to this video. I had to end a 3-year relationship at the beginning of this year. I loved her with all of my heart, but i eventually realized she did not. It was a strange relationship, our first one too. We were young, we went trough so much together. But i fell in love with someone that wasnt actually ''real''. I realized i have been spending 3 years with a completely different person, someone that drained my life and energy bit by bit. When i realized what kind of a person she really was, and what she was doing to me, i had to end it all. It was the most difficult decision of my life. Then came some really difficult months. I thinked about her, i remembered our moments together, but none of that was real, and none of that could came back. I became frustrated, i hurt myself out of anger more than one time. I wasnt angry with her, but with myself. I still loved her, and that crushed me even more, day by day. Im better now (relatively), and i started to realize that, as sisyphus says, ''it's for the better''. Im not happy it ended, im happy it happened, and that those few, real, good, pure moments in our past will stay there, eternally. In both our memories they're there, and i hope other pure and good moments can be created in the future with someone else. This whole comment is probably gonna get buried under countless others under this video, but even so if someone's reading this i wish you the best of happiness and love in your life. And if she is reading this, i loved you sunshine. I really did
I'm wishing you peace homie
The ending broke me 😭
I hope you find whatever you're searching for and still have some sort of passion. This type of thing is really difficult to deal with and you seemed to have taken the most dangerous stick out of the bunch. I hope you're doing good from now on and still enjoy life.
I ain't gay but I'll give you as much love and support in this comment that I can
for anyone reading this: If you think you're falling out of love with someone, don't panic!
First off, you were already dating for a long time before you fell in love, so obviously loving someone isn't a requirement to date, and not loving someone (on it's own) is not a good enough reason to stop dating!
A lack of love can be caused by many things including mental health! If you think you might be depressed, then yeah, no shit, there's gonna be periods where you don't love anybody, or anything!
Love comes and goes, but it doesn't mean you should panic and cut things off. As long as you're still having fun with someone then there's no reason you should gatekeep yourself from a relationship with them!
Obvious caveats:
You start to find them unbearable.
You love someone else (this is a bit tricky)?
You don't like them at all and discovered the relationship was / is solely about something else like infatuation, evading loneliness, or just sex.
You think they are abusive / manipulative
These are valid reasons to break up with someone once you stop loving them. Losing "love" by itself is not a good enough reason to pull yourself away from a good friend!
thank you
I don't think I am, I'm just scared I will. and I'm still panicking.
but thank you a lot
Well said
Heed these words fr, I made that mistake (5 years ago) and I'm still catching myself wanting to text her. Don't date your best friends, its too risky. One conversation and you'll never see them again
@@lysergidedaydream5970 i feel this so much… i am so scared that i won’t want this anymore some day that i forget whether i want it now
love is a daily choice, if you love based off how youre feeling then youre not ready for a ltr trust me!!!
It’s so painful being the person on the receiving end of this!! I can see him fading away and I know there’s absolutely nothing I can do and I keep searching for signs that he loves me even though I know they’re not there!!
It is painful especially when you are confused if you want him or you want the idea of him. I started looking for signs even if it wasn't meant to be! Made it all more confusing. It's hard since you want him but also you don't want him to see you as the one liking him if it makes sense! I feel you
PS hope you do well❤❤
Same, i keep asking why? I just can’t stop thinking about texting her or meeting with her. I miss hugging her so much
It's also really painful and difficult being on the initiating end. I felt like the biggest asshole in the world after breaking up. It was the first relationship for both of us and she really loved me but I somehow was never able to feel the same way about her.
"And I don't think I'll ever stop wanting to love you."
that hit hard. ima go cry now.
Ps.
I miss you Dani.
Wait for me!!
@@maxd0898 yay now im not alone :)
I literally started crying when he said that
ive really wanted to fall out of love from this person i love so much but no matter how much i try i cant
That really does hurt because I feel like we exchanged those words to each other, and now it feels like we're miles apart, it didn't take long for her words to mean nothing to her, yet I still about them from time to time, still wanting to love her.
"but i did it and you said it back"
that hit hard...
i miss you sana, you were something special.
you can love someone and not end up with one another - it’s the kind of love story we rarely talk about, and also the one that i, too, am enduring
People don't realize that love is not a feeling. The feeling is simply infatuation with some other feelings sprinkled in. After about 6 months to a year sometimes longer that feeling starts to really dwindle. Sometimes things like the attention safety and pleasure of sex can even displace the infatuation. Love is choosing to stay with them. Love is when you choose someone even when you have negative feelings for them. Thats what marriage is all about. Going past feelings. The feelings can even return actually. Its just it takes literally no effort to make them in the beginning. They are just there. Literally the moment you see each other. You are flooded with infatuation for them and they are for you. That is not love. A common goal in life. A mission to reach. Loving that person better. Making a better life together. Having a vision that stretches to the grave. Those keep love strong. The feelings come back. They come and go. My wife and I have lost feelings but gained them back over and over. But the most powerful intimacy a person can give is shared when you make it through those moments and reunite the feelings you once had. Staying loyal despite the hardship. Fighting regardless of the feelings. These really show the mark of true love.
Well said man
TRUTH
I've already cried watching the video where he said that he wants to love her, and reading your comment makes me in tears even more.
I really appreciate that you write this all down and I wish for the best to both of you. I hope that I can keep these in mind and continue to mature in the relationship.
thank you, peanut butter. i will remember this comment :)
Peanut Butter... I've finally found you...
I’m in love with this girl, and as per usual, she doesn’t feel the same way, and the only thing that hurts more than knowing that she doesn’t feel the same way, is the fact that I know eventually I probably won’t feel the same way either, even though it hurts to love her, I never want to stop loving her
Maybe she's not the one for u
U gotta move on bro . That's the way it is sometimes !
aww that's so sad. :'(
I feel you. There's this girl and she is awesome and I like her very much. But she has her plans to go and eventually well lose contact and it hurts very much.
@✧ Shroomi ✧frankly idk what love is. I think I fall on the aro spectrum but like maybe it's this care for a person and u want to be with them and you love their vibe maybe. That's that for ME.
same here i dont think i can
this is honestly beautiful. reminds me of “perks of being a wallflower” the way it’s written.
Is that a book or something
@@izzyjp_it’s a film I’m not sure if it was a book before though.
@@dollphobicc1947 it was originally a book, then it got turned into a film.
I feel like a lot of us been in the same situation, that "u deserve to be happy" really hurts like a bullet
I just had a mental breakdown and I was crying waterfalls and thinking about *it* every 2 minutes. When I finally stood up and checked youtube, this was the first video recommended by to me. I immediately clicked on it and half-way through watching this... It comforted me so much, I felt like someone was telling me their own story about their heartbreak and somehow felt some empathy coming from this guy. I don't know if this is just purely a coincidence, or some miracle type shit...but holy fuck, I was stunned. I haven't dated anyone, nor had a heartbreak. I have my own different issues but this video gave off the same feeling of comfort I needed to have. I was crying and biting onto the pillows so my parents wouldn't hear me for 2 hours straight...... Thank you, whoever you are.. Seriously.
Everything will get better, i promise ❤️ stay strong
yeah, your phone is listening to you. Not even a joke, same thing happened to me.
@@mickelamanuel7330 agree completely on the phone eavesdropping part. It's funny how we've just taken this device, that is connected to the internet, literally spying on us for granted. Fuck cyberpunk, we're already goddamned androids man!
I hope you feel better eventually and I want to share some advice in case it might help you because it helped me somewhat: “Tell the people that you know care. If you know your parents or a good friend care then tell them. They will try and help you don’t hesitate on it or it might get worse”
This, shall pass too. It's time anyways
I love the idea of you sysiphus. I may not ever know you or meet you, hell if we saw eachother on the street we may not get along, but the you that this video and the rest of your channel creates in me is wonderful, caring, and authentic. I don't and can't really love you over the internet, but the idea of you is something to behold
Who needs therapy, when you have funny stickman on the Internet, amirite?
@525 But I like Captain America :(
@@empty_set_ exactly
If i ever meet him in a street, our RESONANCE will break the road and destroy the city.
"because i wanted to love you", "i dont know why i couldnt love you" "and i dont think ill ever stop wanting to" is the realest thing rver
The worst thing is when you feel like it’s a personal failure because someone else doesn’t love you. You know it’s not their fault or yours, it’s a combination of a million different factors out of your control, but you still can’t help but think you weren’t enough. Not enough to keep their attention, not enough to satisfy them, not deserving. On the flip side of the coin, if you’re the one falling out of love, things are just as painful, too real. I need to remember this feeling.
this was beautiful. i think i sometimes forget that love actually happens. theres so much representation of superficial infatuation and it's rare for me to see people who care about someone because they are the way they are rather than what they do for you. i hope one day i can have a connection like this with someone even if there isn't a "happily ever after"
It’s one of the worst pains, being so connected to someone and when it ends you think you’ll never be able to find someone like that again. It’s made me believe that marriage is a bit of a hoax too
well are you interviewing every couple you see? I would hope it's not too rare that would be sad
This video got me crying rn because my relationship screams so eerily alike with the only difference being I love this girl with everything, both of us having bad childhoods the word love holds no significant meaning to her other than a word used to express how she or I likes something more than usual, we’ve never exchanged the word but that’s just me not wanting to make her feel trapped or like saying it makes everything more serious from then on, I care for her more than anyone I’ve cared about in a way that makes me profound, of course she’s beautiful but I feel a human connection that I try to compare to other experiences I’ve had and none of them match up. I’ve thought about telling her honestly and dealing with the consequences or giving it with the preface that it can be a one-off thing that is solely for her to know how I feel and make of it what she will, but this girl is so meaningful to me without her even knowing it and whenever I look her in the eyes I say the words I love you and I don’t know what follows that besides her gaze and the fact nothing else seems more important to me at this moment like she’s building highways in my head that I’ll hopefully never see bare of cars driving through, although if I did I would understand it was of my own fault somehow because there’s no way her unknowing complexity could ever waver my thoughts about her, she’s perfect
you will have it, you will have it; but it will make you shallow if it doesn't last, you know?
It does happen.. i never believed in love and marriage scares me cuz of my childhood.. but what happened is that , once i decided that i no longer want to complicate life ,i just want a peaceful life doing what makes me happy,in fact I've never been in a relationship even though i want to cuz i know that i don't love them i just want to love them cuz of what they can offer me..then last years, out of nowhere, i fell in love , i was worried cuz it happens so quickly and it's a person i found online.. and for someone who have never been in love ,it was both magical and terrifying.. after a while, i noticed some changes in my thought patterns.. I don't think about what she can offer me, instead, i think about what i can do to support her dreams and passion, how I can make her smile , basically what i can do in order to make her feel loved and appreciated.. what makes it better is that, that's the first time i found someone who's similar to me but also the opposite of me .. we have similar passions and mindset, but unlike me , she's confident and fearless where I'm more timid and insecure..my 10yr friendship was over cuz one of us want to move on and be happy while the other one only feels more connected when we're miserable together,it was bonded out of shared painful experiences.. so the fact that me and my girl bond over those positive things instead of our negative sides does make a difference..
he sent this video to me, before we broke up, and watching it made me start to think too hard about our relationship. he said he didn’t mean it as him feeling this way too, but why would he send this one to me if he didn’t? i slowly began to pull away. i’d force myself to not text him all day, and didn’t tell him things i wanted to tell him. i started to think i wasn’t enough, and like we weren’t meant for each other, even though before watching it, i thought we were soulmates. we haven’t spoken to each other at all in weeks. i’m sorry things ended that way. i hope you’re happy, and aren’t sad about it anymore. thanks for being so good to me, andre
it's been another one of those silent nights, and maybe it's worse since we reopened the hurt between us. i find myself coming back to this video and thinking about everything that happened. i had told you i watched this channel before and when the video came out soon after i immediately shared it with you. there are many things here that resonated with me at the time. after i rewatched it with you, you asked if we were drifting apart and i promised i didn't feel that way. the distance didn't help and it gave you a reason to doubt that could have been avoided.
we talked about infatuation and love and i couldn't explain the fears i had whether you would accept me as i was when it came down to it. yet being together you let me be the child i couldn't be when i was younger brought me so close to you, and these are the memories i hold most dear: reading picture books at the library on a sunny day, eating cinnamon pretzels with nacho cheese at the mall, making crazy scenarios of how many cats we could possibly have in the house, going to the park and being scared to fall off scooters and bikes, holding me close as we would take a nap.
meeting you 8 years ago has been the best thing to happen, it took me away from things going on at home. i was amazed with the familiarity i felt with you, and i even began to trust you. trust was something new to me, maybe it was for you too. as we grew old enough, i knew i had to do everything i could to set up a life for ourselves, away from the past. it feels strange now being here without you. i truly wanted to get through our hardships and start a new chapter with you. i don't know where to go from here, i get too scared to move on and leave you behind.
on these nights where things get too quiet and i'm left in my own head, i really do scream. scream every feeling that i can feel so i don't drown. we were so close we felt like we were the same person, we matched together perfectly. i don't know what to do without you, but maybe that's exactly what it is. you wanted to be your own person, and maybe i need to be my own person too. i can't say that i am happy, and that i'm not sad about it anymore, but i'm glad for the time we spent together, and for the opportunity to have you in my life. thank you for letting me be a part of yours, courtney
@@TheLightningpenguin thank you for helping me be who i am today, for always being there for me, and for being the best person i know. i’m sorry for reopening things. i know it was wrong, but i just needed to know what would happen, if you would be there. i’m sorry. i’m sorry for hurting you. i know a comment apology isn’t enough, but it’s what i’ve got. i’m sorry. thank you for everything, andre
@@courtguerra2002 don’t give up on each other :(
🙁🙁
@@davesisonn YESSS I LITERALLY FEEL THE SAME WAY AS THEM but like said it's for the best though I have urges to go after them and they probably over me but don't feel bad cause it happens and it was a good experience and peak of my life so I won't regret anything
I love it when the internet gives me yet another reason to be thankful for my husband (other the ones that come to mind when I wake up and see his face every day). How nice it is to love and be loved.
Could feel the love through the screen, thank you
I caught myself in a state of idealizing a potential relationship recently. When I realized things weren't going to turn out the way I hoped I was devastated with the consequences of looking stupid or at least feeling I did. But more so I was frustrated with allowing myself back into that self sabatoging cycle of believing I can exert my perception of someone onto them and it will somehow not be selfish and ultimately beneficial for both of us. I was thankful I could catch myself being wrong soon enough to quell the hurt but your video came out just in time to fully affirm how I felt. Thank you so much, buddy. You always come to bat for us.
I can’t describe how much I relate your comment, man. I’ve been in the exact same situation, idealizing a possibility. It’s ALL in my head yet it feels so bad
Bro. I feel you. I have to constantly catch myself on this aswell.
Exurb1a once said, "Nothing can ever ruin this."
Edit: 4k likes in three weeks and an interesting discussion about rape. The best TH-cam comment I've ever posted. Not proud.
exurb1a’s a shitty person :/
i loved his old videos but nothing hits the same after hearing about the allegations against him
@@isaimtz-cmcho688 what are the allegations against him/where can i find the source of them? just curious bc i watch a lot of his videos
@@isaimtz-cmcho688 man he is not a shity perseon nonebody is perfect and all there is are alegations so nothing is proven and he is free until proven guilty
@@tomparker2310 thank you! will be reading thru her site
@@sarahxu6305 let me know whether u reach a verdict on him
I feel just as hurt and healed after watching this. Hurt because it's exactly how it feels to miss her, but healed because at least I know someone out there understands the pain I could never put into words.
Thank you
This hit me right in the heart. I'm trying not to weep in front of my family. This pretty much encapsulates my feelings right now. I'm trying to move on, seeing other people but I'd be lying if I didn't think about her during silent nights or when I pass our favorite hangout spots. We broke it off last July in the middle of the pandemic after three years of mostly good times, trips and experiences.
Anyway, love the video, wasn't expecting to feel this hard today.
it's ok to weep. this is now an official sisyphus 55 crying sesh
:')
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@@Sisyphus55 i'd say it's important to weep
@@bill8383 beauty.
@@seatyourself7082 I guess beauty is both momentary and forever in a sense ..
The first love is always so explosive and dynamic and visceral. My wife is the true love of my life, but after 3 years of marriage the electricity and butterflies are only occaisonal. And that is perfectly fine. Love matures, it grows in depth. And that is a normal thing.
Stay happy brother!
Good point. All these comments about the "feelings not being there anymore" sound so immature. Relationships grow and change just like life.
@@Edge9897 My first actual love lasted for 4 and a half years. In that time period, she left me three times to chase those butterfly feelings but when those butterflies faded with flings, she'd always come back to me. For me, this meant stopping the healing process and abandoning whatever relationships I was building at that time and take her back. Our fourth and final separation was 10 years ago. She's had two boyfriends and one failed marriage since. I dated a girl for 5 months in 2017. I wish our love had matured too. Dont know why I'm replying to this but your comments resonated with me
this is so raw and really captures all the emotions of a breakup beautifully. it really brought me to the realization that we don’t fear being in pain, we fear being alone in pain (at least for me)
he kept the sweater 🥹
Wtf, I came here for philosophy videos and now I’m leaving crying
If philosophy doesn’t make you weep, you’re doing it wrong
Me too 😂😂
I thought there was gonna be a meme
Right
😂😂
Wanting to love someone, to escape the emptiness and suffocating isolation, and to find pleasure in the possibility of liberating someone else from that too, that's just my experience. This video reminded me of such a continuing pattern in my mind.
Hoping to find a feeling of being loved in trying to be someone who is that person for someone else.
Thing is, nobody is bettered that way, and truthfully, no one wanted it to be that way.
Just commit to love, don't question it and you will see that you are able to love anybody if they give their love back. The thing is if you live in denial and have clogged up feelings that will tranfer to your partner aswell. So just fuck your second thoughts and go for it.
@@IndicatedGoodLife hell yea
@@IndicatedGoodLife All hail our lord and saviour!
It feels weird to watch this after breaking up with my girlfriend, i don’t know anybody would even care to read this but i feel like my heart pierced and its for this exact reason. I think she just lost her love for me after not seeing eachother for 2 months. But how can one lose love? I may be saying these in sadness but i can’t stop loving her.
its infatuation like fall out of love one day waking up u dont love the person
@Sakurr Because sometimes you find that person who sticks with you for life, and it's worth going through the pain to find that. Personally I had just one breakup in highschool which probably catalyzed a seemingly permanent depression in me. I haven't dated anyone 12 years since then as I felt every relationship wouldn't work out if I was even worth a relationship to begin with. So I'd avoid flirty situations. I even found someone who was a really great match for me around 5 years ago, got her number, and ghosted her like a moron thinking she deserved better and it wouldn't work out anyways. I got stuck in a cycle of learned helplessness, and also had this idea in my head that I shouldn't date anyone unless I was happy all the time. I would hear things online like if you cant make yourself happy, how can you make others?
Well now I know all of that is stupid. While I can see the benefits of staying single, growing up, learning what you want, and avoiding potential relationships that would have caused heartbreak, it gets a lot harder to meet people when you get older. You also eventually might get to the point where you feel the heartbreaking loneliness which can be just as emotional as a breakup. So go out there and date, but be smart about it. There are plenty of people who are interesting in their own ways, and thinking other relationships are bound to go as sour as your previous one is a delusion.
@@Angela-vm3kc infatuation has always been so interesting to me. I've dated a total of 2 people, and the first one was absolutely infatuated with me. Until it turned out I was human, and my flaws were too much. Infatuation doesn't last, and isn't love and a lot of people don't know that I think. I'm worried the same thing might happen with the person I'm currently dating. I see love differently from my ex, and it takes more time to form for me. My current partner adores me but I'm afraid that when those rose-tinted glasses fall off he'll realize I'm not good enough anymore, like my ex did. I'm not actually, perfect. But, it's worth a try, isn't it? To find someone who can maybe see things the way you do, to find safety and comfort in someone. To change and to change someone, for better and for worse. Love is really just an interesting topic
This happened to me too. We broke up about a month ago, and we were going long distance. I was completely fine with it and I even felt like I grew closer to her, even if I saw her every 2 weeks at the most. We broke up and said that she lost the connection about a month before she brought it up. It hit hard because I know she suffered through being with me just because she didn’t want me to hurt, but all I wanted was for her to be happy even if it means hurt for me. Ive been in relationships before her, but nothing really hit harder than this break up. Idk why, she’s not the first person I loved, but all I think about is how she just hung up on me, saying “I’ll see ya when I see ya”. The last thing I ever heard her say. I hope you’re doing ok now man, I understand how it feel. But we get through it
My girlfriend, who has been in the military for the last half-year, recently left me after realizing that her feelings for me weren't there anymore. The distance that came with my time at uni and hers at "the edge of the world" in the military, became too much to handle -- and she fell out of love with me.
I remember seeing this video previously, thinking it was cute and heartbreaking. But now, on a re-watch in my current state, I sit broken. It was never easy for her when it came to being apart, I'm not mad and I can't blame her for it either - because somehow I'm not surprised that it went this direction. I'm just sad that I didn't *know* before it was to late. She had known it for a few months, even the week where we got to meet up, but couldn't say it before we were again separated by a countrys worth of distance.
I miss you, and I'm not sure I'll ever stop missing you either. You're on your journey where you must do what you must to be the person you want to be, and I'll be on mine trying to understand what went wrong and blaming myself because its easier to have something to get mad at. I loved you, even when you stopped saying it back, as much as I do now
I hope you heal❤
You will be alright brother , the pain will slowly fade away
I have been ugly sobbing for way too long after watching this. This feels so similar to what my ex told me. “I loved you for as long as I could,” and “you know you deserve better, though.” It’s been seven months and it hurts as much as the day after he left. He thinks it’s for the better, and he might be right. I am still barely handle the loss
@Sakurr
I’m so sorry for that, to you both. It will get better, I swear. This may not be the best advice.. But I will say this. You don’t have to jump up and try to re-discover what life truly is/means to you just yet. Take a resting period, as it’s okay to rest a little. Eventually however, bring yourself back whenever you feel ready to. Find your balance, your ground, and water those plants in your mind again. Things will be better! If you struggle to do so, seek professional help. I’m a she, and I had my first heartbreak in June of 2021, which things got a lot better for me eventually. Trust in the process, and I can really understand you. I hope you feel better soon. Good luck :)
That's why your romantic partner needs to be your best friend first
A true friendship never fades, even when the romantic feelings do
for real.
Nah bruh you made me sad
Still is, and hope she will
This is so true. I've seen a lot of married couples who didn't really act too lovey dovey all the time and after being exposed to such both in real life and on TV far too much I came to a conclusion: the perfect romantic partner is just a best friend who you fuck with from time to time. It's kind of why the idea of having a "female best friend" while being married or my wife having a "male best friend" while married to me sounds off to me.
It fades as well, we were best friends, it didn’t stop her to leave me
Hey, Sisyphus, idk if you'll ever see this message, but to sum up all that I want to say is...
Thank you. This video was all too relatable to me and bought me some strange sort of closure. I've never thought someone else could feel the exact thing I was. This struck a place in my soul, and I'm so thankful that you created this masterpiece. Thank you. Never delete this chief.
I had watched this before, and I am watching it again. This feels so deeply personal, as if you are speaking my mind. The feelings, the texts at the end, the absence of closure from ones own self, even our perceptions about love,.. everything were the same.
Thank you for creating this, Sisyphus ♥️.
damn the timing of this video with personal events is scary
Thought I was the only one 😳
Yep
yeahhh this is so weird bc it got recommended to me at like… the perfect worst time
you have no idea man
The fact that so many people relate to this, and not in some "deep-fake" way, just shows you how humans are similar, no matter the race, and horoscopes are just B.S. no offence.
This is like a youtubers version of a breakup song. Fucking masterpiece.
I love the fact that this is so relatable, feels so personal, but at the same time it is the same for so many people. I hate that the youtube algorithm knows me so well but I love it when it shows pieces of art like this, stuff that makes you see that we are not alone in this world.
Couldn’t have said it any better
I like to revisit this every once in awhile. Every time it hurts less and less, and recently I've come to remember you with a smile rather than tears. I'd like to think that, in another life, in a different timeline we'd still be friends. I Hope wherever you are, you're safe and happy. I miss you, stranger.
This made me cry
Oh my god. This is so jarringly similar to a situation I'm currently in, and it only became eerily more similar as you expressed your internal monologue. From the idealism to the disheartenment and regret.
Are our experiences uncannily similar, or are some aspects of love and our feelings surrounding it human universals? I suspect somewhere in-between... Anyway, video was a banger, lol
Not just you! Me too!
My guy moved far away temporarily. Loss of passion. There wasnt even anything wrong in the relationship. Hell things were perfect and maybe too perfect. That idealized relationship felt empty. the distance from covid dwindled that utopia into a dystopia.
Most human experiences are shared by everyone around us. We get so wrapped up in our lives and stories, we forget that there are eons and eons of civilizations filled with people who have been through the same. We forget that there are people right next to us who share our pain and pleasures.
me too
HUMANITY
M O R P H I C R E S O N A N C E
Broke up with my my gf two days ago. Relationship lasted two years and it was special. Feeling lost and anxious now. Vid didn't help with that but thanks for sharing.
Take care of yourself
Much love friend, we'll get out of this alive, cheers
Things will get better eventually.
When one door closes, another door opens.
Stay strong bud, I believe in ya
This is one of the most beautiful videos I've ever seen. Somehow, it felt like I was the one talking here. All these things match what I always wanted to say to her but never found the right words or the courage to do so. Hands down, one of the most beautiful and relatable video I've ever encountered.
This feels like a cross between a video essay and a poetry reading
It may sound weird, but after hearing so many stories like this, and seeing how it impacted all the women (and men) in my life, I feel like it’s better for me to just avoid getting in a relationship… I never had a boyfriend, only (unsuccessful) crushes, but honestly I feel like it’s pointless to get in a relationship, to trust someone, to love him fully, to feel comfortable and safe, if this relationship will most probably end in failure and heartbreak, and I can do nothing about it… And it’s so sad for me, because i really do want to feel love, I really want to experience what it’s like being in a relationship, but I’m just too afraid of it, too afraid to take this risk, because if I’m probably going to get my heart broken, then maybe it’s just better to give up on love… idk, it’s a really shitty feeling to have
Ikr! It's like i wanna be loved but what if it doesn't work? All love stories nowadays ends up on depressed notes and I'm just not strong enough to survive that heartbreak thing.
Mee too. Also my other problem is that my attachment style is anxious avoidant😔
At the end, everyone is going to hurt you, you just need to find the ones worth getting hurt for.
-Bob Marley I’m pretty sure lol
If you start loving someone definitely don't run away from it. It's always better to try and fail than not try at all. Even if it ends you'll still have the memories of the experiences you went through. I'm going to write my story as an example but if it's too long you don't need to read it. Because it's also pretty childish but I have no other to tell, and sometimes I just feel the need to pour my thoughts somewhere
I am pretty socially awkward so I interact very little with girls, which makes me have crushes extremely rarely. But there was this one girl who was so open and friendly with me for no reason whatsoever, which was pretty unusual considering my main social skill is to slowly distance myself from any people who are not very close friends. I didn't notice it at first, but she was beautiful. Even though I didn't know her that well it seemed she had almost everything I like at girls in general.
I ended up liking her and decided to take my shot and ask her out. Believe me I had no idea what I was doing, I was more scared of meeting with her and sitting awkwardly not having what to say than being rejected. But she said yes and we went out one day and looking back the "date" was average at best but for my standards it was pretty successful, I was pleased. Unfortunately she wasn't interested in going out another time, so I told her I liked her just to make sure she didn't think the same, and I was obviously right. You might say I shouldn't have done that but I had nothing to lose, and I didn't. After a little while she continued being as open and friendly with me as before, which only made me hopeful but I knew the chances were too small to act again on it.
Half a year later we went in a 1 week camp and I knew that that was probably my only chance to try to get closer to her, but I had no better idea than bring some cards to hopefully play together. I had no clue what I could do other than that, so I wasn't expecting much other than slight disappointment in the end. Boy was I wrong. Just so you know, most probably for a normal person what happened in the camp means much less than it meant to me, because for me everything was a new experience. To make you understand, let me tell you the first thing that went surprisingly different than what I expected. It was in the very beginning actually. We went there with the bus and of course what I wanted was to get to sit with her. But again I had no plan whatsoever to make that happen so I just occupied a chair in the back and stared at the window thinking how I wasn't going to do any better in the rest of the week either. She came with her friends and I thought I was lucky enough that they sat on the last row (because there were 4 or 5 chairs next to each other) which was close to me so I could maybe sometimes join their conversation. But after a little she comes and sits right on the chair next to me because it has adjustable backrest, and she doesn't even use it. And not only that, when we start sleeping after a while she rests her head on my shoulder. As I said it doesn't sound that impressive but for me it was something completely new. I've never actually gotten that close to a girl before, so imagine how was the bus trip to me compared to what I was expecting. That's how it was almost the whole camp as well. One of the most surprising things was in the first or second night when she called me for a walk outside. It was just us 2, walking together on the empty streets of a dormant town in a clear night. It was just beautiful. And we took walks the next nights too. During the whole camp I was in a constant chaos of emotions, most revolving around whether or not she actually liked me. Because despite those magic moments, she didn't seem to look at me any differently than she was looking at others. Many people were seeing us as lovers, but she only seemed to be confused by that. There were many times I was almost convinced that she was only maybe overly friendly, but then when we were just us 2 she says or does something that raises my hopes all over again. I knew I had to bring up somehow the fact that I liked her just to see how she'd react, but towards the end of the camp she started to realise what was on my mind and started avoiding spending time alone with me, so I needed not more explanation.
At the end of the camp I had a feeling of unfulfillment, but I wasn't necessarily sad. After all the camp went unexpectedly better than I had hoped for. Unfortunately I'll probably not get any more moments like that with her, but at least she's still as friendly when we talk. Personally I'd be very happy just being close friends with her because I still like her company whether she likes me romantically or not. But she doesn't know that and probably doesn't want to give me any more false hope so I guess there's nothing I can do :/
The reason I told you this is because an experience doesn't need to end well to be worth living it. As much as I would have wanted to be with her, the fact that she ultimately rejected me wasn't a reason to be sad, it was just not a reason to be happy. Thinking of my missed shot, the happiness of shooting it outweighed the fact that it had missed. Even though I ended up still alone, those moments of complete happiness in which I merely thought a dream might fulfill are still something I cherish. In the end, my life is no worse than it was before her, so I have no reason to regret the memories I earned.
As a saying goes, don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened. That's why never give up love, because loving someone is worth much more than avoiding a heartbreak
Thank you all for your advice :) I guess that I can still never predict what is going to happen, and it’s a bit scary, but I guess that’s the whole point of life, and when love comes to my life - I jus need to embrace it and hope for the best (and sorry for my bad English haha)
I just burst out crying in the middle of the video and didn’t even know what hit me.
Thank you for this.
Hello, I just went through my first breakup. Ever. We were together for three years. End of middle school, grade eight, to a little into our junior year of high school. We’re juniors now about to become seniors. We haven’t spoken in months because they haven’t given me a chance to talk with them about anything. They cut me off completely without ever giving me closure, I guess. We last spoke in November 2022, so to me this is still recent, so the fact that this video found me is almost like divine intervention. I know and understand this feeling discussed in the video, and the video sums everything I feel currently. In my case, my first relationship was 3 years long, and I completely forgot what it was like to be single. So now being on my own, it can get hard sometimes and I cry. However, I’m thankful this video found me because there’s some level of comfort in knowing I’m not alone in this. Other people know what I’m going through, and I will be okay. I need to be
As someone with no romantic experience, I feel this more than I should.
I feel this about some friendships I've had
Me reading the title: omg am I blushing?
Also me: a stranger and a man xd
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@@theprogrammer32 the Block Of Wood speaks axiomatic truths
@@theprogrammer32 would’ve been better off with a noose but thanks anyway
@@freiabereinsam- dont worry Im right there with ya buddy
@@theprogrammer32 much obliged pal
i cant explain how much i can relate to this video. i lost my best friend over last summer and i know its something pretty stupid to say to a best friend, but i really did love her. like a sister i never had. she wanted to go hang out with a boy all summer and i just accepted that. usually your texts with that person you lose slowly decrease and you slowly stop talking to them. she never responded after on regular text i sent her. i never cried about it, i tried not to think about it too much. now im crying my eyes out after watching this video. she was the best friend i've ever had. people always say relationships end for the better, but all i wish is that she loved me as much as i love her. i will always love her.
edit: i wrote this a while ago and for a bit of an update we still arent talking but im doing so much better now. thank you for everyone in the replies and even if it's hard to believe i know it will work out for all of you. sending so much love
i too lost my bestest friend as well back in the fall of last year. i mean i still have her on the very few socials i have, but i tend to avoid her posts and such. it’s honestly so bizarre to me how we went to being like sisters since the 7th grade to being complete fucking strangers once we were entering our 20s. we’ve never really had an argument before and the ONLY time we did, she ghosted me right after. i do hate to admit that i cried over her for a pretty long time, but slowly just came to terms with what happened between us. i most definitely understand your pain, dear. it’s a really hard healing process, although i know you’ll definitely overcome it. i hope you know that you’re not alone in this and i sincerely wish you the absolute best in what’s to come in the future. ‹3
this exact situation is happening to me but shes still here and i want to tell her but something is holding me back. i feel like its too late
I feel that a similar situation is about to happen to me
@@claudia3916 Hello, as long as she doesn't have a boyfriend, it's NEVER too late. You won't know until you TRY. Ask, my man, don't regret it!!!
Losing a best friend is just as, if not MORE painful to losing your significant other. It’s not stupid to grieve over a lost connection. I cried many times when my best friend drifted apart and changed
I first came across this video not long after we started dating, and now im back here to watch it once again. i liked this video so much since it shows such genuiness and realism, so i shared it to her. even though our time together was short, i regret nothing. all the seconds, effort, and love i gave to our relationship, i regret none of them. at the start, i told her, she was either going to the person that saves me or break me. well it was the latter. our end was quite rough but despite that, i want nothing but the very best for her. i love her now and will still be loving her for a while. i know she doesnt feel the same. it really hurts rn. but its for the better. maybe she was right, we werent meant for each other.
idk why or what the fck i wrote, but thx for reading it.
this is like those nights when you miss them, but sometime has passed and you're no longer talking, for good reasons though.. we have to move on. some nights you feel like shit missing them, sometime just a gratitude that you get to send time together. You want to say all of these things that you feel and let them know that even you both grew apart, you still appreciate them for all the moments that you both shared together but you're no longer talking and for good reasons too, we have to move on. Loved this video and the rest of the content, Sisyphus 55.
...I don't want me and him to end up like this.
that's what im thinking :(
Just remember that a short happy relationship is better than a long one where one or both of you feels like your dragging it out
ARE YOU TWO STILL TOGETHER
it's inevitable
it's really not inevitable, it's just highly unlikely bc most people go through more than one relationship in their life. that doesn't mean it's the same for everyone.. this video is just talking through what usually happens
I think I'm in love with this
This is a masterpiece. This is what the Internet needs, Painfully accurate depiction of the human experience. Thank you so much for making it and sharing it
This is relatable so much it hurts
Ig there's a reason why I found this video. I've been crying like crazy for four days straight knowing that things are coming to an end and fighting a losing battle. My only consolation is to at least come to terms with things knowing I at least tried everything that I could to keep that same connection going somehow. I hope you're happy wherever you're headed you deserve it and I wish nothing but the best. I just hope you'll remember me from time to time. Thank you for all these months. The pandemic was a lot more bearable and even fun thanks to you.
Wait are you "her"...?
wait a second
Wait a damn minute..
I’m in this same situation. I feel stuck I want to break up with this girl but every time I start breaking up with her I second guess myslef and decide not to. I think I have an attachment issue of some sort but I don’t want to spend any time with them. How can I get out of this?
"I wanted to love you" hit me hard like way too hard. I always remind my self that I wanted to love her and the best thing I could do was to constantly do everything other lovers do, like send messages everyday, go out every week or at least once in a while,... It was fun at first, we didn't share many common hobbies or anything else but she was very understanding so it was easy to talk to her and she somehow felt the same toward me. She did a lot for me, like way too much and I always thought to myself that I didn't deserve this and I was not giving the same back. Doubting myself and my so called "love" was the worst feeling ever. The though of "texting her becoming a chore instead of a way to express, relieve my stresses and tell her stories about my day" always there at the back of my mind. I felt like I'm texting her because I had to, not because I wanted to or in a passionate way. Then the thought just became worst and there it is "the thought to end the relationship" but I was still lingering for some reasons, maybe because she had a anxiety problem and I was afraid she'd hurt herself in some kinda ways, but then again that's just forcing myself and I know I'm not a great actor. She noticed how weird I act sometimes, we had a few arguments and they was all about some mundane stuff and I still never understand. It had always been me vs myself, battling my own thoughts while putting up the best version of myself next to her, I always tried to justify my action and always felt horrible. I don't really understand her like I always thought to myself. She loved me a lot and I wanted to love her back the same way, but I can't. It's the painful truth. I'm still regret I couldn't be the better version of myself for her, for the relationship. Eventually the inevitable, of course, was inevitable.
Hey man, just because you dont feel some fuzzy feeling in your belly after a couple months doesn’t mean you don’t love her. Love is about the ability to grow together.
Not the romanticized idealistic shit you see on media that may be influencing you to think its about some kinda feeling. And that once you stop feeling that feeling you ‘don’t belong’ with this person anymore. That ain’t it imo.
I think that he is smart enough to understand it. And I think he was talking about actually being able to love someone.
@@hero9402 ok fair enough. He did also say she suffered from anxiety, and unfortunately sometimes these things can complicate relationships, if the other person isn’t getting the help and support they need as well. But i’m just making assumptions.
The term “ just wasn’t feeling it anymore “ just sounds so vague to me. But it’s not for me to understand anyway.
@@Yoyozo663 yeah I get it I thought the same thing as you too that maybe they have Idea that love is perfect and where expecting the impossible. But then I was like but He is too smart for that he does understand everything. And things would have been really bad (I mean like emotionally not connecting and things like that) between them and there wasn't any chance of it getting better.
So yeah I understand what you mean.
I think it's idealistic to think that you can just continue to love someone forever and that clinging to this thought will just end up damaging your relationship with the other person
For real, I thought this video was bullshit and it’s what happens when you watch too much romance movies
this is why i’m afraid to be in a relationship with someone who already had their first love.
Hey, I wonder if you still feel the same way, but I'm assuming you think first love is the way to go since it's fresh and it seems like someone will really hold you close forever. One thing I can say is that in first love, people are stupid. Naive. Don't know much. They are more likely to make mistakes and honestly because of that the relationship wouldn't last long. That's because they're basing everything out of infatuation. First love is memorable because it's fresh, but first love is also the most painful because you only realize the things you should have done after it's over and you've matured.
@@ssychostella needed this
Real late, but that doesn't change anything of my message. People cope with solitude by dating someone, its always been that way, and it always will be that way. He doesn't love her, he's never had the passion to go and get back together, it's just you cannot forget someone like her. Eventually he'll get over it, just as everyone else, and eventually, this video will fit someone else. It's naive to expect someone to have their first love be you, but don't date someone if you can easily tell it's just to cope with a previous relationship.
@@ssychostella thanks for that.
@@ssychostella ty♡
It hurts. It hurts so much to watch this. I feel so infinitely lonely these days. The passing of time has become such a stinging reality, and I've been sleeping for hours just to hope I'll wake up the next day and that today will end quicker. I check my phone everyother moment, praying I get a text from her, hoping to just have convo, even an argument. I crave her attention, her presence, her messages. Her love. It really sucks, I lost the person closest to me, I lost a friend, a lover, and a companion. And now I'm left desolate, I have all these thoughts and no one to vent to, all these emotions but I only feel numb.
I hate where I am, and I just want another shot at life
Edit: don't get me wrong, this is an absolutely beautiful video. It captures an emotion which so many of us have felt, which we thought we'd never be able to explain. Only few can narrate such an emotion and draw out its pain, loneliness, loss of direction, moments of satisfaction and shift of nature in conversation.
You've managed to replicate a hug through a video and for that I thank you :").
hey man, it will be ok. Just dont give up on yourself. You dont need anyone else to enjoy living on this earth, it just sucks really bad when this relationship stuff is still fresh in your mind.
OMFG STOP. I was so invested and so involved and when the end hit. And all those sweet words and meaningful thoughts, got deleted to type a shorter less personal message. I FELT that in every way I think i ever could. This video explains so much strangely relatable stuff. It’s comforting almost.
I've never even been in love, in fact I'm probably too young to even know what being in love feels like but for some reason this video hit me as if I've already experienced this before, as if I know exactly what it's like. I don't know where I'm going with this but good job! you somehow made me feel things as if I've dealt with it first-hand.
that last scene gave me "emily is a away" vibes. ouch
Do you know the french film "Mr. Nobody"? Damn, that had this feeling.
"I have to remind myself that everything is over and a part of me is forever gone and that it's for the better"
"It is for the better. It is. I want it to be"
I haven't found the words to describe my emotions up until now. Literally thank you for everything
it's one of those nights where the silence becomes too much. i miss her so much it's almost unbearable. i miss our conversations and how she'd comfort me during one of the darkest times of my life. now she's gone, not completely gone, but she's not really here anymore, living her own life and dealing with her own problems, and im also living my own life and dealing with my own stuff and having fun with other people, but when it's dark at night, i can't help but remember her and how talking to her used to be the most exciting part of my whole day, and i just miss her so much. i wish i could turn back time and enjoy everything again. it just hasn't hit me that we're not part of each other's daily routine anymore
This hit home. It's almost been 3 yrs since I got out of a long distance relationship. My first love lol. When we broke up, there were no bitter feelings. We still laughed and joked in those moments. We stopped talking shortly. I still think of him somedays. I don't wanna be with him. Just. I don't know. I didn't thank him enough for the love he gave me I guess.
shit. one of my biggest fears is what if my boyfriend and i will come to this point. everything's perfect now. but it's so perfect it's suspicious. and i've always been an overthinker.
Good luck, but honestly I would talk to him about it may help:)
Enjoy it while it lasts
That’s the scary thing that keeps your love alive and exciting. You never know when the last day will be, or when your last date will be. So for now, you just have to cherish every moment.
better to love and lose than to never lose at all
same here.
i’ve seen this three times and i was trying to be one of those people and put down some meaningful comment. i think all that i need to put it that this is the best video i’ve ever watched.
Thanks Man
I think this comment perfectly sums up my feelings on this video, too
This is so beautiful. Don’t feel bad because that love ended, just know it only ended because there was love in the first place.
Someone once told me that love is like hitting a button 1000 times, and 999 times, crap drops on your head, and then the 1000th time, you get a cookie. It might not be the best cookie. Might not even be a good cookie.
But it's a welcome departure from the constant sh*t.
I hope your next button press, stranger, is a good one. Only way to find out though? Is to press that button.
Who cares about a cookie that much?
@@sansamman4619 oh my god shut up
@@sansamman4619 cookie monster
Obviously
i literally pressed the on button on my remote 999 times and the show i got was jersey shore guess you were right
I stopped at the 3rd presso of the button
I just got out a relationship just like this. It was like at some point we both stopped trying to make it work. This so beautiful illustrates the regret and pain that the lack of comfort and stability in a partner leads to, while still knowing deep down that’s it’s better this way.
How?
for months I looked for a song that would relate to the feelings I feel and couldn't find but everything i felt is written right here.
i hope all of it is for the better.
and thank you.
this is actually the first time i went through the whole video and watched and _listened._ i've come across too many times to remember, and always clicked off. i don't know why. but i finally watched it. and i cried. it's beautiful, it hurts.
My boyfriend constantly ignores me and disrespects me, and this video really resonates. I can’t stop crying today because I feel like it’s almost over. I miss the old version of him, the one I fell in love with.
My ex would do the same to me. I'm so so so sorry, I know how much that hurts and how rough that feels
I hope you’re happy now
This was depressing yet beautiful, it made me remember all the times I never said what I wanted to say when he deleted all of what he wrote, sometimes it feels like I'll never meet the person who's right for me, and this makes me feel less lonely I guess, this was beautifully depressing
I really, _really_ related to some parts of this.
Vent comment incoming:
I am asexual and on the aromantic spectrum (not entirely sure where), and I had a girlfriend for a year and a bit, just two years ago. We were close friends, we confided in each other; our differences occasionally brought about a perhaps excessive amount of bickering, but it also lined up this “yin/yang” type of dynamic, where we could offer encouragement to each other in problems where we needed to be more like the other person. All in all, we didn’t fully understand each other, but we tried and really cared. Still do.
I thought I was in love with her, as I started to fantasise about doing romantic things with her, but she beat me to confessing that love. She called me her “forever person”, a term which I loved and which felt exactly right to describe my feeling for her as well. We got together, and navigated through the occasional awkwardness into a pretty good relationship. But over one summer, my feelings for her shifted back into friendship somehow. I didn’t notice at first, and it was absolutely spontaneous, no determinable cause in sight, but suddenly I realised that we weren’t doing anything romantic together anymore. It took months of pure dread, confiding in a close friend who encouraged me, and an amount of courage I didn’t even know I had, to go on a final date and bring it up, talk it through.
It was this really emotionally confusing moment, walking around in a deserted part of town by night and telling her I didn’t think our relationship was working anymore. It was such a relief, because the dread stopped as I got all of it off my chest, and as I found out that she herself had somehow fallen out of love in about the same timeframe as me. What I had mistaken for her being busy (which she was, to be fair), had really been a loss of romantic interest in me, just like what I’d experienced.
Knowing that we were exactly on the same page for what felt like the first time in months (we’d been arguing pointlessly a lot as well), it made for the best break-up I could’ve wished for. We sat on a bench and hugged and cried, mourning the relationship that slipped through our fingers for some unknown reason. I felt on her same wavelength, which didn’t happen often, and it was so disorienting for it to be the last part of our romantic relationship.
Later, I realised there was some poetic symmetry in it: she’d had the courage to start our relationship, and I’d had the courage to end it. I don’t regret any of it, and we’re back to being close friends like before (with extremely minimal awkwardness in the transition period, as we’d basically been only friends for half of our “relationship”).
When I look back on it all, it is hard to tell if I was ever in love at all. It’s possible that I just really wanted to be, that I just liked doing romantic things because of the act, and not because I was making her feel good, that I just didn’t know what that type of love felt like-only what it _looked_ like. Or I could’ve actually loved her, and then simply fallen out of it somehow. I still don’t know, and maybe I never will. Only time will tell if it will ever feel right for me to have such a relationship again, though I have a feeling it won’t-which is fine. I just don’t know.
♥️
Thank you.
first of all, your way of telling your story was really captivating and i want to express how beautiful it is. yes, you did lose her as a lover but the transition back to friends is something i couldnt do myself and that shows how, perhaps, you weren’t meant for each other romantically but platonically. i hope you find your significant other one day, and if you dont want that kindnof relationship that you have wonderful friends that value you as you are.
sincerely, another asexual person :)
@@ottovonbasedmark I can’t tell you how moving it was to read this. I appreciate it a lot, and I hope you know how much good you’re doing by writing things like this. I wish you to be as happy as you have just made me with your reply. Have a good day or night, wherever you are, kind stranger ;)
i know exactly what you mean. i just “got out of” a dread-filled romantic relationship with a very close friend of mine. we’re both ace. i liked having that emotional intimacy with them, especially a year ago, because it made me feel needed in a time where i was unhealthy. we continued this semiromantic relationship for a whole semester, in which i constantly worried about their feelings for me. i finally brought it up and said that they were hard to read and i couldn’t tell if they liked me anymore. they told me that they had been using me kinda as an anchor to life and reality, and that they couldn’t do that again. they couldn’t be what i wanted or needed. i had seen it coming for ages, to be honest, but it was horrible to hear them talk about themself like that, like i was a better person than them (their words). it’s still scary. we’re back to weird semiplatonic, and i’m a bit happier now. but i still have extreme feelings of protectiveness and extreme emotional investment in their life, which makes me think i want to be more than friends again. i think they feel the same thing, like we’re both confused about our feelings. idk man there’s so much going on. and we can’t just say “do i want to kiss this person” as a way to evaluate our feelings. yiPpEe
however i’m really happy you figured out this relationship with your friend. from one ace to another :)
I started watching this video a bit ago and had to pause it. I’ve come back to it after a few months of growing and have finally finished it. It’s honestly so beautiful and made me cry.
I love not feeling alone, you can really get into your own head and think you're the only one feeling a certain type of way, but we're surrounded by people feeling these same feelings, we just don't know
Fr i didnt know how much people went through this till now