Mu ntsees vajtswv os vajtswv yog lub tshaw vam tshiab thiab yog txoj kev kaj siab raw neb lub neej thiab nyeem vajlukub yuav ua raw yug nkag sia txos lub neej ntiaj teb txaus siab raw yam ua yus muaj lo yog ntsib vajtswv yua khu tau neb txoj kev nyuaj siab os vim vaj tswv tub khu tua kuv txoj kev nyuaj siab lawm os
If you go to church pray for him. If you are still practicing shaman then find another shaman to help. My daughter was going through depression for many years I had asked many shaman to help but only 1 shaman actually helped her! This year I finally can see that my daughter can truly smile agin.
Depression is a mental disorder that it is so hard to overcome. You are doing a great thing by staying by his side and continue to support and love him. I believe he will come through. You are his rock.
We all need Jesus Christ. Only Jesus can save us from our sin. Dying without Jesus will be the biggest mistake you will ever make when you’re passed from this world.
I totally agree! Those who don’t understand will never believe Jesus Christ unless they run out of their resources and hit rock bottom of experience a near death situation.
Go find another shaman, find a shaman who look into it first before you have an ritual. Often time, if there has been someone in the family who has committed and nothing has been done, sometime the spirit comes to find another spirit to replace them. Also depression is real. Go seek professional.
Yeah, I have similar situation like your husband too. Tell him death is not the solution. Keep talking to him about positive. Wish I can talk to him too, but I will pray for him too.
Lady, you must find specialty help in the "real mental change" of your husband in his "psychological state of damage" due to molecules in his brain because neurotransmitters (the experiences and interactions in jail) may have triggered and altered your husband's brain activity and receiving structure. Please get the professional help he needs so that he can talk openly and deal with his embarrassment, failure, and anything that he encounters while in jail. I believe that your husband won't heal until the level of his cortisol level decreases in his brain and creates a path for him to accept the fact of the matter that led him to jail and the consequences that he suffered. Also, as the brain is the central organ of perceiving and adapting, your husband must forgive himself and free his thoughts! Good luck - I am sending you and your husband lots of prayers!
He needs professional help. My husband was depressed after back surgery, he went to group therapy & realized that there are other people out there with bigger problems than his so he's ok now. He's very thankful for therapy that helped him.
Tsam zoo li kuv tus txiv os ua rau kuv nim txhawj2 mas ua yim cuaj thaj neeb kho txog qhov kawg tseem yog tham tau hluas nkauj xwb es tham tau hluas nkauj es ntshai yus paub es nyuab siab txog qhov xav tuag xwb hawb yaw xiam kuv cov nyiaj tshaj plaws li hos
Get him professional mental help. He's not alone. There are many others going through similar situations. This one incident doesn't define who he's. For example, think of a person like a whole pie. This incident is just one small piece of that whole pie. There's something deeper that traumatized him than the drunk driving offense he committed. The drunk driving offense may be what triggered it. His thinking right now is illogical. Hmong people style of trying to help others will not work. Also, take care of yourself so you can take care of him and the children. God bless you and your family.
I know that he was only in jail for a short time but did something happen to him in there? It sounds like he may have experienced something traumatizing to make him react the way he did. I hope he is able to find some peace with his past and a way to move forward.
Sounds like something traumatic happened to him while he was in jail. Niam Ntsuab Teev did mention there were more to the story that she cannot share. This may confirm something horrible happened to him while in jail.
@@hlubxwbmog9202you're right she did mention that. I'm curious now what she didn't say but sounds like something did happen while in jail. I feel sad for him and his wife.
You two seem to be good people. He sounds depressed. Keep taking him to see a therapist. There are people out there with physical diseases that are dying to live. Your husband is living to die. And please take better care of yourself. If both of you are sick, who will be your or his caretaker? Praying you all get through this.
I applaud you to be patient and supported him. However, he has to man up or let him be…! You can only so much to help him. The rest is up to him to help himself…😩!
For some people it doesn’t matter how much you helped or find him help it doesn’t work if he doesn’t come to term and realize it himself it will not work. I know we do have a lot of mental and depression among our Hmoob but it’s just too embarrassing to bring it out. Tus siab hos.
To Tus Niam Tsev/Wife of this story: Please take your husband to the ER at your local hospital. I know mental health is frown upon in the Hmong community but he needs help. Your husband is currently undergoing a mental health crisis. From what we are hearing, it appears the DUI heighten his symptoms. Your husband was already stressed going through a lot since the passing of his father. Please take his symptoms seriously and call 9-1-1 if you do not know what to do.
My father was depressed before he was detained for being falsely accused. We were afraid that he would unalive himself but he moved past it. Sadly, he passed away from kidney failure few years after. Praying that your husband will find healing. Instead of being ashamed, he should learn a lesson and advise other Hmong men to not drink and drive. Try going to church?
People don’t understand that when they’re depressed, their spouse and children will most likely become depressed too. I feel sorry for you because you have to deal with a weak selfish husband. He’s traumatized and needs to seek mental health asap. He’s only thinking about himself and not you or your family. Praying and Neeg doesn’t always help. He needs to be put on psychotic meds to see if that’ll help. People that threaten to commit suicide will eventually do it. Please take care of not just your husband but yourself. You are a very strong woman. Best of luck to you and your family. ❤
1 ces tham tau hluas nkauj ntshai plam lub neej 2 ces raug dab nram nkauj lawm xwb. 3 ces ceeb & ntshai heev lawm xwb. Ntsuam xyuas 3 yam no zoo2 rau seb tim qhov twg kho qhov ntawd rau yeej yuav zoo xwb tus niam tsev. Koj hnov tias koj mob lawm vim koj take to much of koj tus txiv cov negatives energy os. Take yourself ov.
Tus niam tsev xyuam xim koj tus kheej nawb, koj txhawj koj tus txiv ntau dua koj lawm, koj hu koj tus txiv tus ntsuj plig, tiam sis koj yuav tau hu koj tus plig thiab, tsam nyuaj siab yuav yog koj os tus me niam tsev
You need to take him to talk to people whos been in the same situation as him. Once he see that there are others who go through the same thing and they are doing fine, perhaps that will make him realize that its not that bad. Best of luck.
My comment may be harsh, but here's the truth to your husband! Just be glad you're still alive. Be glad you can still enjoy life! TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS!!! Just imagine the families that have to grieve over the loss of a family member to people who decided to drink and drive! They didn't have a choice! Anyone who has lost someone to a drunk driver WILL KNOW WHAT I MEAN!
I've been there..where your husband's been to. I have to do a lot of self search and I pray alot. Finally after 2 to 3 years of special type of ceeb siab and ceeb hlwb I got better the last 10 years.
Tus niam tsev koj tus txiv ko nws yuav tuag nws thiaj hais li ko vim muaj dab tsog tshuag nyob ze nws vim koj tus txiv lub paj hlwb tsis ua hauj lwm zoo lawm ntse koj ua lo koj ua tsis tau tag vim nws ua li ub li no ces yog muaj tus yob nws lawm koj tus txiv ko xav thiab xav ces ntse tsam ho yuav mus dai tuag nawb cov neeg coj thiab hais li koj tus txiv ces nws xav qhov tuag ntau tsaj qhov nws ua neeg nyob na
Nothing you can do, but only Jesus Christ is the the solution, he opened to the suicidal demon when he was in prison to come to him when he is the most fragile, the suicidal spirit controled his mind. Please safe him when you still have time.
Tus me ntxhai coj nws mus NTSEEG VAJTSWV xwb nws raug Dab nyuaj siab yuj nws lawm yog koj coj mus coag VAJTSWV muaj hwjchim nws thiaj tsem tau dab tuag tsi yuj nws lub siab xwb tiamsis nyob ntawm koj xwb yog kojxav tia yuav pab tau nws los coj nws yog koj xav tia tsi nyiam ce tsi txhob coj xwb vim hai tia VAJTSWV tsi zoo lis Dab es koj yuav sim nws saib nws puas pab cawm tau nawb yuavtsum yog yus ntseeg nws tiag tiag thiab saib VAJTSWVpuas yuav yus thiab os.
Sister, there are a couple methods you should try. One, look deep into his family lineage and see if there is any suicidal deaths or deaths without a proper burial. Often times, it’s these spirits that will come back to tshoj siab. I have seen it happened to my brother before and a traditional shaman resolved the issue, the result was immediately. Also, it sounds like he ceeb lawm so it might be a good idea to find someone to xai ceeb. Secondly, it didn’t sound like he ever sought out professional mental health. He should see a psychologist or admit himself to a behavior health program- most big hospitals would have one onsite. Lastly, if he is willing to convert, he should seek help and put his trust in God. Good luck to you, sister! I also learned from a great grandpa that when it is time for a person to go their spirit will find a way to leave no matter what.
Txhob ua neeb kho xwb, yuav tau ua neeb saib seb puas pom dab tsi tso. Nws yog ib leeg tub xwb, tsam nws txiv hos tsis tau zoo vaj zoo tsev los hos muaj kev txom nyem lwm yam es hos pheej los yuj nws siab nws ntsws. Yog thaum Doctor lawv twb pab tag lawv lub tswv yim lawm es twb tsis zoo ces nrhiav kev pab los ntawm hmoob li txuj ci seb puas yuav pab tau lawm xwb...
Cas luag tej twb raug ib yam li ko es lawv ho tsis xav txog qhov tuag mam ntshe xav tuag rau dab ob ceg xwb pob cov txiv neej zoo li no mam ntseeg tsis tau li nawb yus rov qab ua rau yus xwb ces kav tsij tseg txoj kev hauv ncaw hauv beer ces yeej yuav zoo xwb
Me niam hluas koj tsis yuam kev nawb mog yus tus txiv yus yuav los ua yus tus txij nkawm lawm txawm zoo li cas los yov tau zov nws hlub nws mus kom txog qhov Kawg os mog.. vim nws yog tus yus hlub es hlub kom txog hnub kawg yus ua zoo rau yus xwb mog kuv yiv thov tswv ntuj pub lub zog kom loj rau koj tiv kom dhau txoj ke nyuaj siab nawb mog vim thaum nws nrog nws niam nws txiv nyob nws zoo zoo nawb mog. Nws mam li los puas hauv yus lub me.xub ntiag es txhob qaug zog nawb mog kuv mam thov Huab Tais Tswv Ntuj Rau Koj Mog... kuv tus tswv ntuj nrog rau nws leej tub yesxus pleev thov nej muab lub zog loj rau tus niam tsev no kom nws muaj lub zog tiv lom dhau lub sij hawm no thiab thov txog kuv tus tswv ntuj ntiab tus dab phem ntawm nws tus txiv mus kom deb li deb tau nyuag yaus yov ua koj tsaug kom txog hnub nyuag yaus los kom txog kuv txiv tswv ntuj mog. Amen 🙏
There's nothing you can do. He is starting to affect your mental health now too. Be careful. There are some people no matter what you do you cannot help them and they are beyond your help. Just take care of yourself. My story is similar to yours but it turned out my husband was doing drugs behind my back for years and than I finally piece everything together. Good luck.
Mekas txoj Cai muaj nyob ntawv tsis hwm ce nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb. Vim hmoob txhoj kev Liam...alcohol mekas tsua hau me me kom lom zem xwb but peb cov hmoob ce tau hau lawm ce hau kom tuag. Tuag tsawg xwb vim nom tswv muab chance zaum 2 rau koj lo koj tsis take.
Before I met my husband he was in the same boat as your husband. He used to smoke 1 or 2 pack of cigarettes a day and drink Friday to Sunday. Until he got the same issue as your husband so he stop smoking and drinking completely. He start shaking and have fever for almost 1 or 2 week after that he don't drink alcohol or smoke anymore. Even we go to hangout with his friends he don't drink, he only drink water or the zero alcohol beer only. If he really want to stop drinking and change his drinking life he can. If my husband can do it your husband can do it. But it's based on the people he hangout with too. Us hmong people like to force people to drink or talk down on them. He just need to say no mean no.
Kov koj tu Txiv’s siab loj os kuv tu twg maj 2 zaum lawm tab si no tseem nim hnub mu hais li nw cov 4 os kuv tseem nyuaj siab tshaj lamw thaib vim kuv tsis puab tshab ntseb thiab kuv tseem muaj me nyuam thiab ma kuv ah yam nyuaj siab os oh kuv tu Txiv’s maj kiag nw twg tsis nyuaj yus tseem yog tu nyuaj xwb os vim wb nyua qhu si yuav xwb na
Li no ces yog mob neeb, yog tseem ntseeg kev caij qub. Yog ntseeg vaj ntswv ces thov vaj ntswv tas li thiaj muab lub siab rau vaj ntswv, nyob zee vaj ntswv.
Kuv haj yam raug loj tshaj koj vim thaub hmoob teb xa ntiav kuv tu txiv ua tsev ho tseem ntiav tab luaj plog tuaj ntev kuv tu txiv thiab tab si nws twb tsi txhaum peb ho tso Tau nws lo ta luaj haj tseem mag teeb meem thiab kuv qhov loj tshaj koj qhov os viv ncaus aws plaub twb hai tsi tag
I can understand your husband. I had one dui. It is one of the most embarrassing and depressing thing that can happen to one individual. I didn't tell my parents 2 years later. How I move on is with time.
Ib tug txiv neej yawg nyob ruam txog txij no lawm ces cia nws mus nws thiab los mas….ntuj es. Ua ntau tsam koj hos ua nws ntej lawm thiab os Ua neeb ua yaig txhij txhua lawm ces txhob ua dabtsi rau lawm os There’s no fixing it. He lost hope. Let him go as he wishes.
I work in the mental health field, and he needs support. Sometimes these struggles stem from deeper issues related to brain chemistry. He’s facing serious challenges, and it’s essential for him to see someone who can prescribe the right medications to help with his thoughts of death. Your love and family support have been vital in keeping him going, and you’ve done everything right. But he may also need medication to improve his outlook. I treat patients like this regularly, and with the right treatment, they often find happiness. Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions.
Qhov nyuag yuam lev me, me li no xwb yeej tsis tsim nyog koj tus ua cuag li no. Teb zaum koj yuav tau neeb ntxiv yog koj tseem coj kev cai qub. Tsis tag li ntawv ces koj cia li coj nws mus church kiag xwb tej zaum kuj yuav pab tau thiab. You are an awesome person who has been doing great work for supporting him through this.
Peb ua neeg nyob sawv daws yeej txawj ua yuam ke o yus yuav tau zam txim rau yus tu kheej txhob muab tu kheej coj mus tsau rau txoj kev nyuam siab ma yeej g muaj leej twg rau txim rau yus yog yus g xav ntaus g xav phem. yus xav mus rau qhov zoo xb .yam yus ua dhau lawm yeej tig g tau mus keb qhaib ua hnub no mus rau tom ntej kom zoo tshaj xb nawb
Qhov teebmeem me2 xwb os mus xaisceeb xwb thiab yog nws hlub nws ces nws yeej tsis ua li no nws yuav tau tswj nws tus kheej xwb koj tsis hlub koj ces koj tseem yuav tuag ua ntej koj tus txiv os me vivncaus
Neb qhov teeb meem no me2 xwb yeej muaj yam ua kj tus txiv siab lawm yog tseem coj qub kev cai no yuav tau ua neeb kho tiag nawb ua neeb no ma zoo li Dr. Muab tshuaj thiab os tej co tshuaj ma Dr. Muab tsis haum yus thiab ces yuav tau ua ntau thaj neeb me ntsis nawb.ho yog nws ua2 li ma tej zaum nws twb tham tau hluas nkaun muaj lwm yam nws qhia tsis tau nej xwb nws thiaj pheej hais li thiab os vim txiv neej no peb ntseeg tsis tau nws lub siab li nawb muaj coob tus ua lub maib no thaum kawg ces yog muaj tus thiab lawm thiab xwb os
Koj tseem kho tsis tau raug xwb os yog qhov nws ceeb xwb kuv pab tau neb os ua siab loj kuv twb pab tau cov ceeb e cia li si qaug txaj kaws li 3zaug xwb zoo tshaj ua ib thaj neeb os
Wow! Love to have a good wife like you. Tell your husband, we all make mistakes. What he did was just a lesson to learn from. Life is too precious. Wished we all could live more than one hundred years so we can enjoy life more with the one that we love. Wish you and your husband the best of luck
me niam laus kj tug me txiv muaj qhov teeb meem me me li ko xwb es nws ces li xav rawv qhov kev tuag tag li xwb es kj yuav tsum coj koj tus me txij nkawm mus cuag cov xfb ntseeg vaj tswv es coj nws mu ntseeg vaj tswv txhua yam kev xav nkawm nws thiab kj neb tej kev nyuab siab koj thiaj li yuav pab tau neb lub neej kaj siab zoo siab xwb mog thov vaj tswv txhawb neb lub dag zog mog me niam laus aw
Sounds to me like your household, your relationship is one of those that display /overplay tender love emotions. Meaning you show too much empathy toward each other which sometimes can be a bad thing. 1 they will become a crybaby😂 and expect that same treatment through out. 2 they cannot be self reliant and independent should there be a divorce, which sometimes leads to suicidal. But be careful with wishing death for sympathy. The darkside might be listening.
Sister you're stressed out and not taking care of yourself. Go see a Dr. and get medications , it might be bladder infection ok. Go soon don't wait. I hope your husband recovers very soon sister.
Tus me viv ncaus yog koj tsi xav li cas no cia peb tus xh tuaj thov vajtswv pab koj tus txiv kom nws ras txog txoj kev tuag txaus ntshai heev li no os me viv ncaus,vajtswv pab tau nws tiag22 li os nb tej nyuag qhov me2 xb txhb tuag nb mog txhb ua tus ruam22 li nyiaj tswb tsi zoo nb mog yg yus tua yus tus kheej mas mus txg dab teb txim tseem loj tshaj lawm nb mog
Sister, he may have trauma or depression from what happened. Please seek professional counseling if he has not done yet. Sounds like you might have an anxiety n panic attack yourself. Koj mus xais ceeb thiab nawb mog. Nws tsis yog tias xais 3 zaug ces yuav zoo. Cov neeg ceeb loj2 mas yuav tau xais ntev mus thiaj zoo taus, 6 mos to 1year. Yooj yim rau cov tsis taug txoj kev nyuaj siab hais tabsis muaj qee tus pab tsis tau nws lub hlwb nawb. Zoo li koj poob rau lub pas dej es koj tawm tsis tau nawb. Thov Txhob tso tseg mog tus viv ncaus, kav tsij mus xais ceeb ua neeb ntxiv rau neb 2 leeg mog, please222. This is very scary for both of you. Peb hmoob tseem tsis tau ntseeg txog txoj kev nyuaj siab los yog trauma no pes tsawg nawb. Muaj ib txhia tseem xav tias yog yus crazy xwb no os. Tsis noj leej twg nkaub tuav leej twh npe saum no nawb...
Tus me Niam tsev aw wb on Niam txiv raug Kiag li koj tus txiv es wb tus cawm seej yog tus hu ua Niam ntxoov neeb Yaj hmoob Cluny koj mus nrhiav nyob hauv TH-cam es saib nws puas yuav pab tau neb nawb yog tsis muaj nws ntshai wb twb ploj los ntev lawm ok 😘
Coj nws mus rau tom tshawj es cia cov Xibfwb thov Vajtswv rau nws mas. Ib qhov me li me xwb es. Peb cov no ua ua poj laib loj txaus lawm. 😂 Nyob nkuaj tsheej hli tas lawm. 😂 Mus thov Vajtswv pab rau xwb os.
Maybe there might be something more than just he got in jail. Maybe something happened in jail that he refused to tell everyone. Do more investigating.
Mu ntsees vajtswv os vajtswv yog lub tshaw vam tshiab thiab yog txoj kev kaj siab raw neb lub neej thiab nyeem vajlukub yuav ua raw yug nkag sia txos lub neej ntiaj teb txaus siab raw yam ua yus muaj lo yog ntsib vajtswv yua khu tau neb txoj kev nyuaj siab os vim vaj tswv tub khu tua kuv txoj kev nyuaj siab lawm os
If you go to church pray for him. If you are still practicing shaman then find another shaman to help.
My daughter was going through depression for many years I had asked many shaman to help but only 1 shaman actually helped her! This year I finally can see that my daughter can truly smile agin.
Depression is a mental disorder that it is so hard to overcome. You are doing a great thing by staying by his side and continue to support and love him. I believe he will come through. You are his rock.
We all need Jesus Christ. Only Jesus can save us from our sin. Dying without Jesus will be the biggest mistake you will ever make when you’re passed from this world.
Does the cop who stopped him have Jesus?
I totally agree! Those who don’t understand will never believe Jesus Christ unless they run out of their resources and hit rock bottom of experience a near death situation.
No matter what. Some of these officers done with force and not explain.
Ha, ha what a good solution. Let us know when Jesus comes.
Yug tsi paab yug tug kheej cas tsi muaj leej twg paab tau yug.
Go find another shaman, find a shaman who look into it first before you have an ritual. Often time, if there has been someone in the family who has committed and nothing has been done, sometime the spirit comes to find another spirit to replace them.
Also depression is real. Go seek professional.
Yeah, I have similar situation like your husband too. Tell him death is not the solution. Keep talking to him about positive. Wish I can talk to him too, but I will pray for him too.
Did anyone everyone bother to ask him what happen to him when he was in jail
Lady, you must find specialty help in the "real mental change" of your husband in his "psychological state of damage" due to molecules in his brain because neurotransmitters (the experiences and interactions in jail) may have triggered and altered your husband's brain activity and receiving structure. Please get the professional help he needs so that he can talk openly and deal with his embarrassment, failure, and anything that he encounters while in jail. I believe that your husband won't heal until the level of his cortisol level decreases in his brain and creates a path for him to accept the fact of the matter that led him to jail and the consequences that he suffered. Also, as the brain is the central organ of perceiving and adapting, your husband must forgive himself and free his thoughts! Good luck - I am sending you and your husband lots of prayers!
He needs professional help. My husband was depressed after back surgery, he went to group therapy & realized that there are other people out there with bigger problems than his so he's ok now. He's very thankful for therapy that helped him.
He went and didn’t help!!!
Tsam zoo li kuv tus txiv os ua rau kuv nim txhawj2 mas ua yim cuaj thaj neeb kho txog qhov kawg tseem yog tham tau hluas nkauj xwb es tham tau hluas nkauj es ntshai yus paub es nyuab siab txog qhov xav tuag xwb hawb yaw xiam kuv cov nyiaj tshaj plaws li hos
Get him professional mental help. He's not alone. There are many others going through similar situations. This one incident doesn't define who he's. For example, think of a person like a whole pie. This incident is just one small piece of that whole pie.
There's something deeper that traumatized him than the drunk driving offense he committed. The drunk driving offense may be what triggered it.
His thinking right now is illogical. Hmong people style of trying to help others will not work.
Also, take care of yourself so you can take care of him and the children. God bless you and your family.
Thov vaj tswv ntuj pab koj os
I know that he was only in jail for a short time but did something happen to him in there? It sounds like he may have experienced something traumatizing to make him react the way he did. I hope he is able to find some peace with his past and a way to move forward.
Sounds like something traumatic happened to him while he was in jail. Niam Ntsuab Teev did mention there were more to the story that she cannot share. This may confirm something horrible happened to him while in jail.
@@hlubxwbmog9202you're right she did mention that. I'm curious now what she didn't say but sounds like something did happen while in jail. I feel sad for him and his wife.
You two seem to be good people. He sounds depressed. Keep taking him to see a therapist. There are people out there with physical diseases that are dying to live. Your husband is living to die. And please take better care of yourself. If both of you are sick, who will be your or his caretaker? Praying you all get through this.
Sister he loss hope and faith. It is time for him to seek Jesus for strength and salvation. 😊 god bless him!
I applaud you to be patient and supported him. However, he has to man up or let him be…! You can only so much to help him. The rest is up to him to help himself…😩!
For some people it doesn’t matter how much you helped or find him help it doesn’t work if he doesn’t come to term and realize it himself it will not work. I know we do have a lot of mental and depression among our Hmoob but it’s just too embarrassing to bring it out. Tus siab hos.
Mus ntseeg vaj tswv , thov xib fwb tuaj thov vajtswv rau neb 2 niam txiv nyeem phau vaj lug kub thiab muab rau ncoo thov vaj tswv txhua hnub txhua hmo ua ntej yuav pw yuav yuav mus work yuav pab tau mog
I think something happened to him inside the jailhouse.
I agree 😳
Diddy?
i think so too because there’s no other reason why he would want to do harm to himself
To Tus Niam Tsev/Wife of this story: Please take your husband to the ER at your local hospital. I know mental health is frown upon in the Hmong community but he needs help. Your husband is currently undergoing a mental health crisis. From what we are hearing, it appears the DUI heighten his symptoms. Your husband was already stressed going through a lot since the passing of his father. Please take his symptoms seriously and call 9-1-1 if you do not know what to do.
My father was depressed before he was detained for being falsely accused. We were afraid that he would unalive himself but he moved past it. Sadly, he passed away from kidney failure few years after. Praying that your husband will find healing. Instead of being ashamed, he should learn a lesson and advise other Hmong men to not drink and drive. Try going to church?
People don’t understand that when they’re depressed, their spouse and children will most likely become depressed too. I feel sorry for you because you have to deal with a weak selfish husband. He’s traumatized and needs to seek mental health asap. He’s only thinking about himself and not you or your family. Praying and Neeg doesn’t always help. He needs to be put on psychotic meds to see if that’ll help. People that threaten to commit suicide will eventually do it. Please take care of not just your husband but yourself. You are a very strong woman. Best of luck to you and your family. ❤
Anxiety xwb you did your best
1 ces tham tau hluas nkauj ntshai plam lub neej 2 ces raug dab nram nkauj lawm xwb. 3 ces ceeb & ntshai heev lawm xwb. Ntsuam xyuas 3 yam no zoo2 rau seb tim qhov twg kho qhov ntawd rau yeej yuav zoo xwb tus niam tsev. Koj hnov tias koj mob lawm vim koj take to much of koj tus txiv cov negatives energy os. Take yourself ov.
Mental health is so Important, in this culture it’ gets put under the rug . Love yourself and please reach out for professional help .
Tus niam tsev xyuam xim koj tus kheej nawb, koj txhawj koj tus txiv ntau dua koj lawm, koj hu koj tus txiv tus ntsuj plig, tiam sis koj yuav tau hu koj tus plig thiab, tsam nyuaj siab yuav yog koj os tus me niam tsev
You need to take him to talk to people whos been in the same situation as him. Once he see that there are others who go through the same thing and they are doing fine, perhaps that will make him realize that its not that bad. Best of luck.
My comment may be harsh, but here's the truth to your husband!
Just be glad you're still alive. Be glad you can still enjoy life! TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS!!!
Just imagine the families that have to grieve over the loss of a family member to people who decided to drink and drive! They didn't have a choice!
Anyone who has lost someone to a drunk driver WILL KNOW WHAT I MEAN!
I've been there..where your husband's been to. I have to do a lot of self search and I pray alot. Finally after 2 to 3 years of special type of ceeb siab and ceeb hlwb I got better the last 10 years.
Tus niam tsev koj tus txiv ko nws yuav tuag nws thiaj hais li ko vim muaj dab tsog tshuag nyob ze nws vim koj tus txiv lub paj hlwb tsis ua hauj lwm zoo lawm ntse koj ua lo koj ua tsis tau tag vim nws ua li ub li no ces yog muaj tus yob nws lawm koj tus txiv ko xav thiab xav ces ntse tsam ho yuav mus dai tuag nawb cov neeg coj thiab hais li koj tus txiv ces nws xav qhov tuag ntau tsaj qhov nws ua neeg nyob na
Passport over seas
Nothing you can do, but only Jesus Christ is the the solution, he opened to the suicidal demon when he was in prison to come to him when he is the most fragile, the suicidal spirit controled his mind. Please safe him when you still have time.
Kev ceeb ke ntshai heeev yuav ua tau yus lub raum tuag tau koj yuav tsum ua siab loj ho koj tus txiv yuav tau mus saib mus kho
Tus me ntxhai coj nws mus NTSEEG VAJTSWV xwb nws raug Dab nyuaj siab yuj nws lawm yog koj coj mus coag VAJTSWV muaj hwjchim nws thiaj tsem tau dab tuag tsi yuj nws lub siab xwb tiamsis nyob ntawm koj xwb yog kojxav tia yuav pab tau nws los coj nws yog koj xav tia tsi nyiam ce tsi txhob coj xwb vim hai tia VAJTSWV tsi zoo lis Dab es koj yuav sim nws saib nws puas pab cawm tau nawb yuavtsum yog yus ntseeg nws tiag tiag thiab saib VAJTSWVpuas yuav yus thiab os.
Sister, there are a couple methods you should try. One, look deep into his family lineage and see if there is any suicidal deaths or deaths without a proper burial. Often times, it’s these spirits that will come back to tshoj siab. I have seen it happened to my brother before and a traditional shaman resolved the issue, the result was immediately. Also, it sounds like he ceeb lawm so it might be a good idea to find someone to xai ceeb. Secondly, it didn’t sound like he ever sought out professional mental health. He should see a psychologist or admit himself to a behavior health program- most big hospitals would have one onsite. Lastly, if he is willing to convert, he should seek help and put his trust in God. Good luck to you, sister! I also learned from a great grandpa that when it is time for a person to go their spirit will find a way to leave no matter what.
Txhob ua neeb kho xwb, yuav tau ua neeb saib seb puas pom dab tsi tso. Nws yog ib leeg tub xwb, tsam nws txiv hos tsis tau zoo vaj zoo tsev los hos muaj kev txom nyem lwm yam es hos pheej los yuj nws siab nws ntsws.
Yog thaum Doctor lawv twb pab tag lawv lub tswv yim lawm es twb tsis zoo ces nrhiav kev pab los ntawm hmoob li txuj ci seb puas yuav pab tau lawm xwb...
"THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE" advice from my 14 year old son.
Vaj ib leeg thiaj yuav pab tau txoj kev dab yoj siab os sister ntawm koj ces yog ceeb loj dhau lawm xwb mus xais ceeb nawb tsam koj ho ua koj tus txiv ntej nawb mog
Cas luag tej twb raug ib yam li ko es lawv ho tsis xav txog qhov tuag mam ntshe xav tuag rau dab ob ceg xwb pob cov txiv neej zoo li no mam ntseeg tsis tau li nawb yus rov qab ua rau yus xwb ces kav tsij tseg txoj kev hauv ncaw hauv beer ces yeej yuav zoo xwb
Me niam hluas koj tsis yuam kev nawb mog yus tus txiv yus yuav los ua yus tus txij nkawm lawm txawm zoo li cas los yov tau zov nws hlub nws mus kom txog qhov Kawg os mog.. vim nws yog tus yus hlub es hlub kom txog hnub kawg yus ua zoo rau yus xwb mog kuv yiv thov tswv ntuj pub lub zog kom loj rau koj tiv kom dhau txoj ke nyuaj siab nawb mog vim thaum nws nrog nws niam nws txiv nyob nws zoo zoo nawb mog. Nws mam li los puas hauv yus lub me.xub ntiag es txhob qaug zog nawb mog kuv mam thov Huab Tais Tswv Ntuj Rau Koj Mog... kuv tus tswv ntuj nrog rau nws leej tub yesxus pleev thov nej muab lub zog loj rau tus niam tsev no kom nws muaj lub zog tiv lom dhau lub sij hawm no thiab thov txog kuv tus tswv ntuj ntiab tus dab phem ntawm nws tus txiv mus kom deb li deb tau nyuag yaus yov ua koj tsaug kom txog hnub nyuag yaus los kom txog kuv txiv tswv ntuj mog. Amen 🙏
There's nothing you can do. He is starting to affect your mental health now too. Be careful. There are some people no matter what you do you cannot help them and they are beyond your help. Just take care of yourself. My story is similar to yours but it turned out my husband was doing drugs behind my back for years and than I finally piece everything together. Good luck.
Mekas txoj Cai muaj nyob ntawv tsis hwm ce nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb.
Vim hmoob txhoj kev Liam...alcohol mekas tsua hau me me kom lom zem xwb but peb cov hmoob ce tau hau lawm ce hau kom tuag. Tuag tsawg xwb vim nom tswv muab chance zaum 2 rau koj lo koj tsis take.
Koj coj nws tuaj saib peb lub teb chaw nram teb chaw Guyane no seb nws pos xis nyob os peb ua liaj teb li sqb tim nplog peb nyob koom zej koom zos ZOS HMOOB nawb . Peb cog txiv tsawb txiv lwm tsib txiv taub ntoo txiv maj mib txiv mov mes.. yov hav zoo tuaj nploos tua kauv tuaj npua teb.tua nploos coj tuaj saib peb nawb mog
Before I met my husband he was in the same boat as your husband. He used to smoke 1 or 2 pack of cigarettes a day and drink Friday to Sunday. Until he got the same issue as your husband so he stop smoking and drinking completely. He start shaking and have fever for almost 1 or 2 week after that he don't drink alcohol or smoke anymore. Even we go to hangout with his friends he don't drink, he only drink water or the zero alcohol beer only. If he really want to stop drinking and change his drinking life he can. If my husband can do it your husband can do it. But it's based on the people he hangout with too. Us hmong people like to force people to drink or talk down on them. He just need to say no mean no.
Please get your husband help for mental health. Get him check out. Best of luck to you.
She tried that but it didn’t help 😢
God is your answer. Only God can save us from the evil spirit.
Kov koj tu Txiv’s siab loj os kuv tu twg maj 2 zaum lawm tab si no tseem nim hnub mu hais li nw cov 4 os kuv tseem nyuaj siab tshaj lamw thaib vim kuv tsis puab tshab ntseb thiab kuv tseem muaj me nyuam thiab ma kuv ah yam nyuaj siab os oh kuv tu Txiv’s maj kiag nw twg tsis nyuaj yus tseem yog tu nyuaj xwb os vim wb nyua qhu si yuav xwb na
Life in America, no one is more important than other, all are equal, remember this and your depression would not taken over you.
txhob tib kev neeb yaig mus nrhiav cov neeb cag los kho tej zaum yuav pab tau os. mus nrhiav tus txawj khi hlua khawv koob rau coj thiab yuav tsum zoo xwb mas
Let this story be a lesson for those young generations that are about to throw their marriage away due to overseas.
Li no ces yog mob neeb, yog tseem ntseeg kev caij qub. Yog ntseeg vaj ntswv ces thov vaj ntswv tas li thiaj muab lub siab rau vaj ntswv, nyob zee vaj ntswv.
Koj yuav tau coj nws mus ntseeg Vajtswv xwb thiaj yuav pab tau neb.
Nws ua kom koj khiav nws mus xwb vim koj muab nws hlub dhau lawm es koj thiaj lis tau taug txoj kev kos. Yog nws hlub koj ces nws twb tsis coj lis kos rau koj yog mus ntawm nws ces nws tig lo saib tias nws plam koj lawm es nws thiaj lis tsis ras tau tias nws ua dab tsis dhau mus lawm
Kj tus txiv raug cov dab ua tuag hauv nkuaj lawm nriav ib tug txiv neeb txwj neeb laug tuaj ua ib thaj neeb tu sab quas tus dab ntawv mus nawb
Kuv haj yam raug loj tshaj koj vim thaub hmoob teb xa ntiav kuv tu txiv ua tsev ho tseem ntiav tab luaj plog tuaj ntev kuv tu txiv thiab tab si nws twb tsi txhaum peb ho tso Tau nws lo ta luaj haj tseem mag teeb meem thiab kuv qhov loj tshaj koj qhov os viv ncaus aws plaub twb hai tsi tag
I can understand your husband. I had one dui. It is one of the most embarrassing and depressing thing that can happen to one individual. I didn't tell my parents 2 years later. How I move on is with time.
Ib tug txiv neej yawg nyob ruam txog txij no lawm ces cia nws mus nws thiab los mas….ntuj es.
Ua ntau tsam koj hos ua nws ntej lawm thiab os
Ua neeb ua yaig txhij txhua lawm ces txhob ua dabtsi rau lawm os
There’s no fixing it.
He lost hope. Let him go as he wishes.
Mus nrhiav Neeb yaig pab thiab ma lov, coj mus xais ceeb, ua neeb mus saib tus yawg ua koj hais tias nim qhuav tuag ntawm tib si os
If you don’t appreciate lure than trade life with someone who wants to live
Yus tsua nros yus UA yus xwb es sij yuav tuag. Pab tsis tau
Smoke some loud
I work in the mental health field, and he needs support. Sometimes these struggles stem from deeper issues related to brain chemistry. He’s facing serious challenges, and it’s essential for him to see someone who can prescribe the right medications to help with his thoughts of death. Your love and family support have been vital in keeping him going, and you’ve done everything right. But he may also need medication to improve his outlook. I treat patients like this regularly, and with the right treatment, they often find happiness. Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions.
Tsis yog tim ntsuj plig nawb. Yog peb hmoob txoj kev tsis txo hwjchim xwb. Yuav tau txo hwjchim me ntsis thiab os.
Tus muam yog nws txhob xav txog hmoob lub neej ces koj coj nws mus ntseeg Vajtswv mog. Muaj ib co church mas lawb neej lawb dab nrog. Tabsis yeej muaj cov church lawb dab xwb tsis lawb neej nawb. Qhov tseem ceeb yuav tau txo hwjchim me ntsis nawb.
Txog qhov koj lub raum. Koj mus yuav cov kua txiv ( juice ) noni juice yuav mus clean koj lub raum nawb. Thau koj haus li 2- 3 hnub koj yuav pom muaj txo tawm thaum koj mus siv chav dej. Raws li kuv tus muam hais mas thaum siv chav dej es tawm txo ntawv mas yeej ua rau yus hnov txawv tabsis txhob ntshai no nawb.
Koj Pua Xav tia kv muaj tu tshiab lm nw thiaj ua li kom koj txhb pb
I already walk that path...
❤❤❤❤koj tus txiv ceeb lawm muab xais ceeb os
It takes time to heal...nej yuav Tau saib kom nruj mus ntev zog ces mam maj mam zoo os...tsis yog nws ib leeg xwb...seb nyiaj Tswb ne.
Non Christian, need to STOP forcing others to drink. We can choose when to drink and when not to drink.
Qhov nyuag yuam lev me, me li no xwb yeej tsis tsim nyog koj tus ua cuag li no. Teb zaum koj yuav tau neeb ntxiv yog koj tseem coj kev cai qub. Tsis tag li ntawv ces koj cia li coj nws mus church kiag xwb tej zaum kuj yuav pab tau thiab. You are an awesome person who has been doing great work for supporting him through this.
Hais kom nws txhob maj tuag ea tos koj yuav insurance tso nws mam tuag no na
Peb ua neeg nyob sawv daws yeej txawj ua yuam ke o yus yuav tau zam txim rau yus tu kheej txhob muab tu kheej coj mus tsau rau txoj kev nyuam siab ma yeej g muaj leej twg rau txim rau yus yog yus g xav ntaus g xav phem. yus xav mus rau qhov zoo xb .yam yus ua dhau lawm yeej tig g tau mus keb qhaib ua hnub no mus rau tom ntej kom zoo tshaj xb nawb
Cov teeb meem zoo li no ces kawg coj mus ntseeg Vajtswv lawm xwb thaj yuav dim xwb mog thov txhob tos lub sij hawm lig dhau mog
Qhov teebmeem me2 xwb os mus xaisceeb xwb thiab yog nws hlub nws ces nws yeej tsis ua li no nws yuav tau tswj nws tus kheej xwb koj tsis hlub koj ces koj tseem yuav tuag ua ntej koj tus txiv os me vivncaus
Nws mob lawm os koj coj nws mus nriav dov tawm nyuaj siab lawm los tsis tau zoo li ko ces yuav tau noj ntshuaj os
Muab daws npe tshiab mog, yog paub koj ces yuav tham nrog koj, tab sis tsis paub koj ces. Puam chawj os tab sis muab nws daws npe tshiab hu ua ( Muaj Yeej) ces nws yeej txhua yam lawm mog.
Neb qhov teeb meem no me2 xwb yeej muaj yam ua kj tus txiv siab lawm yog tseem coj qub kev cai no yuav tau ua neeb kho tiag nawb ua neeb no ma zoo li Dr. Muab tshuaj thiab os tej co tshuaj ma Dr. Muab tsis haum yus thiab ces yuav tau ua ntau thaj neeb me ntsis nawb.ho yog nws ua2 li ma tej zaum nws twb tham tau hluas nkaun muaj lwm yam nws qhia tsis tau nej xwb nws thiaj pheej hais li thiab os vim txiv neej no peb ntseeg tsis tau nws lub siab li nawb muaj coob tus ua lub maib no thaum kawg ces yog muaj tus thiab lawm thiab xwb os
Kjhu lo mam qhia kj hu nw plig seb pua zoo nawb thiab ma mu saib seb yog vim dab tsi
Koj tseem kho tsis tau raug xwb os yog qhov nws ceeb xwb kuv pab tau neb os ua siab loj kuv twb pab tau cov ceeb e cia li si qaug txaj kaws li 3zaug xwb zoo tshaj ua ib thaj neeb os
Tsis txog xav ntau os. Koj yeej ua tau zoo kawg lawm. Ntse koj tseem yuav mob tuag ua ntev nws thiab os.
Coj Nwg moog ntseeg Vaajtswv, Vaajtswv txhaj yog tug paab tau Nwg.
Sister koj txhob txhawj heev thiab tsam koj tau stroke thiab os los yog tau lim ntshav thiab nawv
Wow! Love to have a good wife like you. Tell your husband, we all make mistakes. What he did was just a lesson to learn from. Life is too precious. Wished we all could live more than one hundred years so we can enjoy life more with the one that we love. Wish you and your husband the best of luck
me niam laus kj tug me txiv muaj qhov teeb meem me me li ko xwb es nws ces li xav rawv qhov kev tuag tag li xwb es kj yuav tsum coj koj tus me txij nkawm mus cuag cov xfb ntseeg vaj tswv es coj nws mu ntseeg vaj tswv txhua yam kev xav nkawm nws thiab kj neb tej kev nyuab siab koj thiaj li yuav pab tau neb lub neej kaj siab zoo siab xwb mog thov vaj tswv txhawb neb lub dag zog mog me niam laus aw
viv ncaus ua zoo tsam kj tau niam yau os thiab ua ib thaj neeb saib kj tsam nws seev seev2 txoj kev tuag nwg tsis tuag tsav ho yog kj os
Kuv xav li ko thb ua txoj mob kom tau niam yau xwb os nw yuav tua nw tu niam tuag sawv tsuj
Sounds to me like your household, your relationship is one of those that display /overplay tender love emotions. Meaning you show too much empathy toward each other which sometimes can be a bad thing. 1 they will become a crybaby😂 and expect that same treatment through out. 2 they cannot be self reliant and independent should there be a divorce, which sometimes leads to suicidal. But be careful with wishing death for sympathy. The darkside might be listening.
Tus niam tsev aws ,kuv Tus txiv twb raug ib li kom thiab yeej nyuab siab kawg lithiab ,tab sis kom koj tus txiv ua siab loj thiab mog .
Sister you're stressed out and not taking care of yourself. Go see a Dr. and get medications , it might be bladder infection ok. Go soon don't wait. I hope your husband recovers very soon sister.
Tus me viv ncaus yog koj tsi xav li cas no cia peb tus xh tuaj thov vajtswv pab koj tus txiv kom nws ras txog txoj kev tuag txaus ntshai heev li no os me viv ncaus,vajtswv pab tau nws tiag22 li os nb tej nyuag qhov me2 xb txhb tuag nb mog txhb ua tus ruam22 li nyiaj tswb tsi zoo nb mog yg yus tua yus tus kheej mas mus txg dab teb txim tseem loj tshaj lawm nb mog
Niam hluas kuv xav tias koj tus txiv muaj hluas nkauj lawm xwb os koj yuav tau hlub koj nawb
Sister, he may have trauma or depression from what happened. Please seek professional counseling if he has not done yet. Sounds like you might have an anxiety n panic attack yourself. Koj mus xais ceeb thiab nawb mog. Nws tsis yog tias xais 3 zaug ces yuav zoo. Cov neeg ceeb loj2 mas yuav tau xais ntev mus thiaj zoo taus, 6 mos to 1year. Yooj yim rau cov tsis taug txoj kev nyuaj siab hais tabsis muaj qee tus pab tsis tau nws lub hlwb nawb. Zoo li koj poob rau lub pas dej es koj tawm tsis tau nawb. Thov Txhob tso tseg mog tus viv ncaus, kav tsij mus xais ceeb ua neeb ntxiv rau neb 2 leeg mog, please222. This is very scary for both of you. Peb hmoob tseem tsis tau ntseeg txog txoj kev nyuaj siab los yog trauma no pes tsawg nawb. Muaj ib txhia tseem xav tias yog yus crazy xwb no os. Tsis noj leej twg nkaub tuav leej twh npe saum no nawb...
nej tsi ua neeb saib tsam yog Kiab thiab vab nkawd lo yuj tau koj tu txiv lawm pob 🤣😂🤣🤣
Tus me Niam tsev aw wb on Niam txiv raug Kiag li koj tus txiv es wb tus cawm seej yog tus hu ua Niam ntxoov neeb Yaj hmoob Cluny koj mus nrhiav nyob hauv TH-cam es saib nws puas yuav pab tau neb nawb yog tsis muaj nws ntshai wb twb ploj los ntev lawm ok 😘
If he wanna tuag let him tuag. Nyob hnyav av lawm xwb!!
Yuav tau coj nws mus ntseeg VajTswv.
Ab kuv niag ces zoo li koj niag lawm thiab os
Coj mu ntseeg vaj tswv e kom xf lawm thov vaj tswv pab koj o mog
Koj hu kuv kuv qhia rau koj daws
He really need exercise to release his stress
Coj nws mus rau tom tshawj es cia cov Xibfwb thov Vajtswv rau nws mas. Ib qhov me li me xwb es. Peb cov no ua ua poj laib loj txaus lawm. 😂 Nyob nkuaj tsheej hli tas lawm. 😂 Mus thov Vajtswv pab rau xwb os.
mu ntseeg vaaj tswv pab tau kawg
Maybe there might be something more than just he got in jail. Maybe something happened in jail that he refused to tell everyone. Do more investigating.
1 nigh in jail, nothing happens to u.
Perhaps it did. May said the end that she didn't mention some stuff into the story.