This is a motivation story. Yes being fit is important in life as for health care, confidence and wellness. The lady of the story is absolutely correct. 💯 Once we lose weight and look good suddenly everyone wants you even your ex husband. SMH I'm glad she didn't take him back. Move forward and enjoy your beautiful life. @ 26:04 👏
Yes a Facebook women’s group to share recipes, exercise routine! Zumba, weight lifting! I’m old, but I look young because I exercise, lift weights and walk a lot! There’s lots of women in their 50s and they walk over 10 miles a day to keep fit. There’s so many of us that have learned to live a lifestyle that is healthy!
Huag ua tsaug tu niam tsev aw koj ntxov tuak qhia koj txoj kev rog pub rau sawv daw os thiaj tsi lig rau tsoom poj niam ua kheev2 noj es rog2 nawb zoo heev
I am very impressed with this lady for taking ownership in her weight issue. Most importantly making effort to take care of herself. Proud of you lady. Hopefully you continue to take care of yourself and don't take him back. You also gave great advice.
Yes. I agree with you. I do feel that us hmong women forget to love ourselves and maintain ourselves because of kids, house chores, and loving our husband. We forget to come back and love ourself. We tend to say, "oh, who cares I am married already".... we need a mindset like yours.
Ua tsaug os tus me niam tsev. Koj zaj dab neeg no yog ib txoj uas very inspirational thiab txhawb zog heev li. Kuv yuav tau hlub kuv tus kheej li koj hais. Ua tsaug.
Kuv xav hais tias yeej tsis tim koj tus txiv thiab yeej tim koj thiab es zam txim rau koj tus txiv es neb rov los nyob ua kev ntshai neb cov menyuam yuav zoo siab heev rau neb os nkawv aw ua niam tshiab thiab txiv tshiab tsis zoo ua mog.
If i was this lady and i had gone thru this earthly trial, learned this hard lesson of a lifetime, lost 150+ lbs, and spent thousands of dollars to fix myself, i would NEVER go back to that jerk of an ex-husband. Why go thru all that just to go back to him? He was the root cause of everything.
17 xyoo dhau los kuv muaj 132 lbs diam hos tam sim no kuv ua exercise thiab noj me me noj healthy foods xwb kuv poob los rau 104 lbs lawm xwb zoo siab tshaj hnav daim twg los zoo nkauj tab sis kuv lub hnub xyoog twb muaj 58 xyoo lawm lauj.
Thank you for sharing your journey. Vincaus, 320 lbs - it is a lot of weight to lose and go thru! But you did it, and CONGRATULATIONS! I PRAY for you to keep it up, continue to love yourself, and please DO NOT allow your loser ex-husband to come back into your life. I am in my late 40s, and my husband is in his mid-50s, but our weights are still the same as in High School and College days! Because we love ourselves and make sure we stay healthy and take care of one another, including our two adult daughters. Staying healthy is not hard. One just has to eat less, portion your food, drink lots of water, and do a 20-30 minute workout every day. Even just walking is a workout, my Hmong Vincaus. Please takes this little time and take care of yourself! In all Hmong events or most Hmong household dinner tables - I get terrified when I see the overflow of food plates along with many sweet drinks/alcohol my Hmong Vincaus, their children, and spouses put into their bodies. To me, it is not about “zoo nkauj!” It is about being “healthy!” I hope my Hmong people learn to eat for the health of their bodies, NOT the amount of food they have. PEACE :)
Yes we need to learn how to self love. Don’t worry too much about the things you can’t control. Don’t let yourself go just because you’re married and busy with life. We gotta self care. You deserve so much better. He didn’t love you at your worst so he doesn’t deserve you at your best.
Sister, you are so inspiring. Thank you for caring about all of us enough to be vulnerable and share your journey with us. I wish you all the best life has to offer.
Yes please take care of yourself everyone. Obesity is deadly and not good for anyone. lets stop promoting obesity and making it seem like its ok and normal. We all need to love ourselves and be good to our health os mog. Good luck to everyone who is starting or is already on a weight loss journey. Tsis easy li os tag si its worth it!
Lub neej kuv ua 2 txoj haujlwm hos kuv tus txiv nyob tham nkauj Hmoob Nplog xa nyiaj rau lawv siv dawb ces tseg kiag lawm. Khib yus siab tshaj plaws, tshuav tuag xwb. Kavtsij nrog nws sib tw nyob, txomnyem los puam chawj, tseg lub zog so.
Yes sisters out there, we must love, respect, live, and take care of ourselves!!! Don't forget to do that for and to ourselves!!! If we do not love, respect, live, and take care of ourselves then no one even will!!!
Thank you for sharing your story. We need to balance life and work. When we concentrate too much on work we will lose our family. We women need to love yourself first before our spouse. Hmong men are very evil. They still have this mentality that men have the right to cheat. It’s part of their birth right. Your husband doesn’t deserve you.
Lub neeg kasiab is, you do not need to take care of that husband. He grown he wanna look good he got hands to help him. As a wife we can only guide them. Is not selfish to love or look out for yourself first. Good for you sister
Do not Go Back to him, if you do then Koj twb tsi tau zeem. Know your value and love yourself. Txiv neej tsi tag rau nwg....smh ua neeg muaj siab thiab os, qub neeg qub siab nawb.......
Your have a great support system. Your nyab and daughter are awesome, they took care of you after surgery. Anyways, this just goes to remind me to stop eating bad food and take care of myself before it get worse. 😅
Qhov uas peb yuav tsum yeej mas ua li koj hais tabsis ib qho peb yuav tau tso Nyiaj like loose weight contest. Qhov no thiaj pab tau kuv me2 xwb other wise I have no power.
It's sad! Every Hmong party I went to, all the married women are obese! Hmong women are bigger than the men on the dance floor. Have anyone watched the way Hmong women eat at events? They eat sooooo much! I am sorry for saying this but it is the truth.
Great lesson, sister. He does not loves you for what/who you are. Don't take him back. He will treats you the same as before. Find someone who can appreciate you.
Congratulations to you sister!! I’m so happy for you, now that’s self love!! Your husband doesn’t deserve you at your best. When you were at your worst, he wasn’t there for you and didn’t want anything to do with you. It’s the same as he only married you for better and not for worse, for rich and not for poor, and only in health and not in sickness. If you didn’t change yourself, he wouldn’t want you back and would still refuse to talk to you. What will happen when you are sick, will he run away too because he doesn’t like it? You are still your children’s mother and don’t need to be married to their father. Your brothers have no rights to tell you to go back to your husband. What did your brothers do when your husband left you? Were they able to tell him to stay? Part of loving ourselves is saying NO to things we don’t agree.
A lot of times women don’t think their spouse deserves a slim beautiful wife and gave it hell when eating or taking care of themselves. If you going to change do it while ur still married. But when u do it you want someone else instead of ur husband that is also selfish and don’t really love ur husband. The excuses of oh to busy working or doing this or that doesn’t help your marriage. I’m pretty sure your husband gave you plenty of signs or warnings that he wasn’t attracted to you anymore because of ur obesity.
Hahahahaha! 😂😂😂😂 I try not to eat so much but later that day I get very hungry and I eat more than I should. Trying to be skinny was my resolution every year but it never happened. Food is too good to resist. My weights now is 200 pound. I don't even know how to start to lose weight. It's easy to say but very hard to do.
Nyob zoo os niam lau kuv ce yog ib tug tsev nyob nplog teb os kuv ce ho hlub2 kuv tu txiv thiab ntshaw2 nyiaj e tsi nco hlub kuv tu kheej e kuv yuag dhau kuv tu txiv ho tsi nyiam e kuv ho mag nrauj vim txoj kev yuag os
Yes, stay fit & be healthy for yourself not for others. Love yourself no matter what. Some men will still leave you even if you are skinny. But if you take care of yourself by making yourself look good, then your man will not leave you. Because he knows there will be other men out there who still want you. One reason why, I tried to look my best wherever I go, except for work.
Tus kj ces yog kv ntag os niam laus aw kv Mas nyiam kj zaj neej neeg heev li os niam laus Aw
If he doesn’t love you at your worst he doesn’t deserve you at your best!
💯 agree
I said that exact thing to my ex and he replied, "there is no best to you!" I stopped using that line ever since. 😥
But sometime we don't get to our best if we don't get hurt along the way.
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Exactly, I agree👍
Kj hais tau zoo HV kv yg ib tug niam tsev khwv khwv li kj thiab cas tu siab ua luaj
Yuag los ib yam thb o puv kom zoo saib thiaj ntxim hlub os
Niam laus aw cas kj yuav txawm haiv tau zoo luaj o yeem yog li koj haiv lawm
Self love first. ❤ If he loves you he should have been your better half and help you.
Hai tau tu siab thiab xav luag kawg😂
Muaj tseeb, yog tau hlub Tus kheej tshaj nawb
This is a motivation story. Yes being fit is important in life as for health care, confidence and wellness. The lady of the story is absolutely correct. 💯
Once we lose weight and look good suddenly everyone wants you even your ex husband. SMH I'm glad she didn't take him back. Move forward and enjoy your beautiful life. @ 26:04 👏
Yes a Facebook women’s group to share recipes, exercise routine! Zumba, weight lifting! I’m old, but I look young because I exercise, lift weights and walk a lot! There’s lots of women in their 50s and they walk over 10 miles a day to keep fit. There’s so many of us that have learned to live a lifestyle that is healthy!
Huag ua tsaug tu niam tsev aw koj ntxov tuak qhia koj txoj kev rog pub rau sawv daw os thiaj tsi lig rau tsoom poj niam ua kheev2 noj es rog2 nawb zoo heev
Es yog yus ho yuag2 heev li no yu tu txiv puas nyiam yu lawm ma
Tsi yuav lawm os. Qub neeg ces qub siab mog. Nws txoj kev hlub tsi yog tseeb. Yog nws hlub thaum koj yuag xwb ces nyob tsi ntev os. Txiv neej siab phem phem os mog. Muaj hnub yog koj puv tuaj ces nws yuav rov tso koj dua. Mob ib zaug xwb txaus lawm
Niam ntsuab teej aw kj thb kuv ce ntshe nkee mu ib yam os kv ma nro kawg li thb os
I am very impressed with this lady for taking ownership in her weight issue. Most importantly making effort to take care of herself. Proud of you lady. Hopefully you continue to take care of yourself and don't take him back. You also gave great advice.
Thub lab rov qab yuav nyiaj txiv dev Liam os. Thaum yus phem tsis hlub yus. Thaum yus yuag es mam hnub ces tsis yog kev hlub tseeb nawb niam laus.
Yog os
Yes. I agree with you. I do feel that us hmong women forget to love ourselves and maintain ourselves because of kids, house chores, and loving our husband. We forget to come back and love ourself. We tend to say, "oh, who cares I am married already".... we need a mindset like yours.
Niam tsuab teev kuv xav nrog koj tham os yuav ua hu tau koj
I agree with this!! 💯
muaj tseeb nawb
Ua tsaug os tus me niam tsev. Koj zaj dab neeg no yog ib txoj uas very inspirational thiab txhawb zog heev li. Kuv yuav tau hlub kuv tus kheej li koj hais. Ua tsaug.
Kuv xav hais tias yeej tsis tim koj tus txiv thiab yeej tim koj thiab es zam txim rau koj tus txiv es neb rov los nyob ua kev ntshai neb cov menyuam yuav zoo siab heev rau neb os nkawv aw ua niam tshiab thiab txiv tshiab tsis zoo ua mog.
Lifestyle is the most important part of life. Thanks for sharing!
If i was this lady and i had gone thru this earthly trial, learned this hard lesson of a lifetime, lost 150+ lbs, and spent thousands of dollars to fix myself, i would NEVER go back to that jerk of an ex-husband. Why go thru all that just to go back to him? He was the root cause of everything.
niam laus koj hais tau yog kawg 😅
N. Ntsuab Teev aw, koj tseem zoo nkauj kawg li os.
Tus me niam tsev txhua2 yam koj hais los mas thiaj li yog tshaj plaws li nawb mog Ua tsaug ntau2 rau txhua yam nawb.
I’m glad you learned to love yourself!! I’m glad you’re debt free and you’ve lost a lot of weight!! Be proud of yourself!😊
Kuv nyiam koj qhov idea ua exercise ua ke kawg li.
Tus me niam hluas koj ua tau kawg , exercise thiab yoo mov yoo khoom noj rog yoo ntsev yoo roj ib si nawv. Easy to fasten easy to do exercise sister.
17 xyoo dhau los kuv muaj 132 lbs diam hos tam sim no kuv ua exercise thiab noj me me noj healthy foods xwb kuv poob los rau 104 lbs lawm xwb zoo siab tshaj hnav daim twg los zoo nkauj tab sis kuv lub hnub xyoog twb muaj 58 xyoo lawm lauj.
Don’t ever go back to your txiv dev liamxwv ntxiv lawm. Tau zoo nyob ces nyob ib lees twjywv ntshe yuav zoo thiaj li tsis lwjsiab lwjntsws nawb. Yog tias rov mus yuav qub txiv xwb ces yuav rov coj lub siab lub ntsws li qub xwb. Qub neeg qub siab yeej yuav tsis hloov li os nawb. Txhob tso siab rau txivneej tws hlo li os. Yog lawv hlub koj tiag tiag lawv yeej tsis tso koj povtseg mus hlub lwmtus li ntawd hlo li nawb.
Koj ma hais yog tshaj plaw li lawm os mog
Love yourself above all things and anyone. Don’t blame others for not wanting to love you if you don’t love yourself.
Lam los sim tshuaj ngab laj teb mas niam laus
Yuav tau hlub yus thiab zoo siab koj qhia PEB paub ua tsaug ntau nawv os tus me niam tais
Thank you for sharing your journey. Vincaus, 320 lbs - it is a lot of weight to lose and go thru! But you did it, and CONGRATULATIONS! I PRAY for you to keep it up, continue to love yourself, and please DO NOT allow your loser ex-husband to come back into your life.
I am in my late 40s, and my husband is in his mid-50s, but our weights are still the same as in High School and College days! Because we love ourselves and make sure we stay healthy and take care of one another, including our two adult daughters.
Staying healthy is not hard. One just has to eat less, portion your food, drink lots of water, and do a 20-30 minute workout every day. Even just walking is a workout, my Hmong Vincaus. Please takes this little time and take care of yourself!
In all Hmong events or most Hmong household dinner tables - I get terrified when I see the overflow of food plates along with many sweet drinks/alcohol my Hmong Vincaus, their children, and spouses put into their bodies. To me, it is not about “zoo nkauj!” It is about being “healthy!” I hope my Hmong people learn to eat for the health of their bodies, NOT the amount of food they have. PEACE :)
Koj ua yog kawg ma
kuv thb os
Yes we need to learn how to self love. Don’t worry too much about the things you can’t control. Don’t let yourself go just because you’re married and busy with life. We gotta self care. You deserve so much better. He didn’t love you at your worst so he doesn’t deserve you at your best.
Kuv ces ntshe ze2 qhov yuav mag nrauj thiab lau vim kuv 200 phaus thiab tiag yuav ua li cas thiaj yoo yuag tau koj hais li os
Pab tsis tau li os...............zaub mov cem cem neeg li os....kawg plam kev hlub mas thiaj yog lub tshuaj yuag xwb nawb.
Vuag 320 😮😮😮 noj kiwi slim 1 hli xwb ces zoo li niag afrika tshaib zaub tshaib mov.
Lesson learned. Txob ntshaw ntshaw nyiaj thiab mus huas nyiaj es tsis nco qab txog yis lib neej los yog yus tus txiv. Txog thaum kawg muaj nyiaj tsis muaj txiv lawm ho tsis zoo ib zaug lawm thiab.
Kuv twb raug thaj no lawm. Mus huas nyiaj los pab yus lub neej but txiv neej lawv need tus poj niam nyob rau ntawd rau lawv.
May aw cas koj ua funny ua luaj li os
sister may koj muab cov tshuaj qaib cov no zoo heev li os rau allergy na
Xav nrog nej exercise
Txiv neej ce rog2 lo tsi zoo ib zaug yuag2 lo txiv neej hai tia niag pob2 txha thiab no lo ma
Sister, you are so inspiring. Thank you for caring about all of us enough to be vulnerable and share your journey with us. I wish you all the best life has to offer.
Yes please take care of yourself everyone. Obesity is deadly and not good for anyone. lets stop promoting obesity and making it seem like its ok and normal. We all need to love ourselves and be good to our health os mog. Good luck to everyone who is starting or is already on a weight loss journey. Tsis easy li os tag si its worth it!
Lub neej kuv ua 2 txoj haujlwm hos kuv tus txiv nyob tham nkauj Hmoob Nplog xa nyiaj rau lawv siv dawb ces tseg kiag lawm. Khib yus siab tshaj plaws, tshuav tuag xwb. Kavtsij nrog nws sib tw nyob, txomnyem los puam chawj, tseg lub zog so.
Yes sisters out there, we must love, respect, live, and take care of ourselves!!! Don't forget to do that for and to ourselves!!! If we do not love, respect, live, and take care of ourselves then no one even will!!!
Peb ma tsi tu siab li os mog peb ma zoo siab heev li xwb os
😭 zaj no mas hais tau raug yus tshaj plaws li os. Got to start loving myself more too!
Thank you for sharing your story. We need to balance life and work. When we concentrate too much on work we will lose our family. We women need to love yourself first before our spouse. Hmong men are very evil. They still have this mentality that men have the right to cheat. It’s part of their birth right. Your husband doesn’t deserve you.
It’s a Good thing he move on to force you to change your life. Otherwise you will have heart attacks at an early age.
Kuv los yuav tuag vim tus kab mob no li os
Sure self love, proud of this women
Yog lawm nawb txhua tus txiv neej nyiam poj niam nyuag xwb
Yim rog ces yim mob kawtaw xwb. Yim yuag ces yim kajsiab xwb.
Niam ntsuab teev nej pheej hai phau 150 phau e pua yog peb sab 150 ciab no lo ye ca kV nhạc 70 ciab e zoo kV twb nrog lm
Peb cov pojniam hmoob tsis siab es txhob noj qab qab. peb noj ntau ces peb yog maiv qav taub xwb. 😆
Lub neeg kasiab is, you do not need to take care of that husband. He grown he wanna look good he got hands to help him. As a wife we can only guide them. Is not selfish to love or look out for yourself first. Good for you sister
Do not Go Back to him, if you do then Koj twb tsi tau zeem. Know your value and love yourself. Txiv neej tsi tag rau nwg....smh ua neeg muaj siab thiab os, qub neeg qub siab nawb.......
Your have a great support system. Your nyab and daughter are awesome, they took care of you after surgery. Anyways, this just goes to remind me to stop eating bad food and take care of myself before it get worse. 😅
My word of wisdom to everyone.
Take care of yourself and love yourself. Exercise and keep yourself healthy.
Thanks so much you 🙏 sister aw
THANK YOU SIS ON POINT. May you continue your success
Kuv nyiam koj cov lus niam Ntsuab teev.. Good idea we go on diet. Count me in. 😁😁
I’m glad you start in the middle cuz is blah blah blah
YES! TODAY ON, I GOING TO BE PRETTY. WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT. ❤️❤️❤️
May yog noj hmoov daj ces mob qab xib taw os
Qhov uas peb yuav tsum yeej mas ua li koj hais tabsis ib qho peb yuav tau tso Nyiaj like loose weight contest. Qhov no thiaj pab tau kuv me2 xwb other wise I have no power.
It's sad! Every Hmong party I went to, all the married women are obese! Hmong women are bigger than the men on the dance floor. Have anyone watched the way Hmong women eat at events? They eat sooooo much! I am sorry for saying this but it is the truth.
Agreed with you 💯, vim peb hlub peb cov me nyuam thiab tus txiv thiab tus sab nraud xwb peb tsis hlub peb tus kheej zoo dua
Thov koj txhob rov qab lawm os. Nws tsis hlub koj tiag nas. Cov txiv neej no koj zoo npaum cas los yeej phem os.
Great lesson, sister. He does not loves you for what/who you are. Don't take him back. He will treats you the same as before. Find someone who can appreciate you.
Yes, its seft love, but we don't see ourselves love. We always give love to other before us. Thanks for telling us. I need seft love too.
Cov phooj ywg aw.... tiam 21 no yuav rum hlub yus tus kheej ua ntej. Yog yus tsis hlub yus ces leej twg los tsis hlub yus li os.
Sister I feel you! We women need to find time for our self and love us, Even I still need to work on ..😊
Tus txiv siab phem siab dub quav dev li ntawd txhob khuv xim nws lawm....nws yeej tsis zoo lawm ...lwm hnub nws yeej yuav rov ua rau koj mob siab dua xwb
May stay away from XAS!!!…You itch come from weeds.
Kuv yeej 1 txwm xub tu kuv ua ntej tag kuv mam li tu kuv tus txiv as.kuv tsis ua li qhov hais as.
This is so true 👍
Don’t be with someone that only loves you when you meet his standard. Remember you’re gonna get old even if you stay slim. And you can’t fix aging.
niam ntsuab teev kj yog leej twg tus ntxhais os thb kj puas ze ntsuab rwg vaj os
Xyov li lauj, ib co txiv neej mas tseem tsw phem tshaj dev nyob tim nplog teb lawm. Kaus hniav twb tsis tshuam khub daj vog tsw2 npaum li tsw lwj.
Kuv twb yog 77 xyoo lawm kuv tu kuv du lug hais lus ze kuv cov phooj ywg los lawv twb tsis fee li. Kuv nyiam2 zoo kuv cov Kaus hniav tseem zoo2 dawb paug.
Kuv ib co phooj ywg hais lus ze kuv ces kuv npo pa mus lawm ib pliag los tig mus rau lwm qhov lawm.
I agree too niam ntsuab teev aw
Congratulations to you sister!! I’m so happy for you, now that’s self love!!
Your husband doesn’t deserve you at your best. When you were at your worst, he wasn’t there for you and didn’t want anything to do with you. It’s the same as he only married you for better and not for worse, for rich and not for poor, and only in health and not in sickness. If you didn’t change yourself, he wouldn’t want you back and would still refuse to talk to you. What will happen when you are sick, will he run away too because he doesn’t like it?
You are still your children’s mother and don’t need to be married to their father. Your brothers have no rights to tell you to go back to your husband. What did your brothers do when your husband left you? Were they able to tell him to stay? Part of loving ourselves is saying NO to things we don’t agree.
Very motivated story
Dim plaws lawm ces kav tsij enjoy koj lub cev zoo nkauj os mog! Tus neeg ko nws tsis hlub koj thaum koj phem tsuas ntshaw koj thaum koj zoo nkauj muaj $$ tsis muaj mob xwb! Lwm hnub yog koj muaj mob nws tsis kam yuav koj thiab ov..
Yog koj mob txaus lawm ces txhob rov qab os 😢😢 hlub koj tus kheej xwb thiaj tsis mob siab ntxiv os
A lot of times women don’t think their spouse deserves a slim beautiful wife and gave it hell when eating or taking care of themselves. If you going to change do it while ur still married. But when u do it you want someone else instead of ur husband that is also selfish and don’t really love ur husband. The excuses of oh to busy working or doing this or that doesn’t help your marriage. I’m pretty sure your husband gave you plenty of signs or warnings that he wasn’t attracted to you anymore because of ur obesity.
❤I’m so happy for you!!❤️may you find someone who truly loves you!❤️
I love your story sister 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Nej es tso kam noj kev haus rau fev teb tas li xwb es Kuv saib nej noj xwb Kuv twb pib rog lawm thiab os
Hahahahaha! 😂😂😂😂 I try not to eat so much but later that day I get very hungry and I eat more than I should. Trying to be skinny was my resolution every year but it never happened. Food is too good to resist. My weights now is 200 pound. I don't even know how to start to lose weight. It's easy to say but very hard to do.
Sister. Weight loss is a journey. You did right for yourself. Love yourself..choose wisely.
Niam tsuab teev yog koj xav yuag cev txob noj mos ntau ntau xwb mas
yog li ko ces kj ua kuv nrog nej ua thiab os niam lau
Nyob zoo os niam lau kuv ce yog ib tug tsev nyob nplog teb os kuv ce ho hlub2 kuv tu txiv thiab ntshaw2 nyiaj e tsi nco hlub kuv tu kheej e kuv yuag dhau kuv tu txiv ho tsi nyiam e kuv ho mag nrauj vim txoj kev yuag os
Yes, stay fit & be healthy for yourself not for others. Love yourself no matter what. Some men will still leave you even if you are skinny. But if you take care of yourself by making yourself look good, then your man will not leave you. Because he knows there will be other men out there who still want you. One reason why, I tried to look my best wherever I go, except for work.
Noj piab nuas xwb zoo dua os