@@singingblueberryehhhh and say what I killed my friends taking drugs ?? She’s to blame .. her actions was disgusting.. and the youth of day it’s the norm .. smoke weed sniff the white stuff.. walking brain dead idiots .. NO SYMPATHY WHAT SO EVER
@@VintageVegansbut kids who have seen a profoundly moving interview face to face might be less likely to turn to drugs and make poor life or death decisions in adulthood.
Unpopular opinion here. Passengers are also responsible for getting into a car with someone driving who they know is under the influence. Obviously this excludes people like children, those with dementia and those forced into a car etc. That doesn't mean to say the driver goes unpunished, but if you are an adult getting into a car willingly with someone under the influence that's the chance you take.
She is taking responsibility here. Most people NEVER do that. I hope she knows, it's okay to forgive herself. She has been punished enough. Her friends wouldn't want her to torture herself like this.
Your friends wouldn’t want you to feel this way. You are clearly very remorseful. Every single human being makes poor decisions at some point in their lives but not all have the repercussions you have. Please be kind to yourself. I think by sharing your story to highschool students you could really make a difference. I wish you peace with a comforting hug ♥️
@@socialmoon Come on- she was in her late twenties and she was driving a car. That comes with responsibility. It’s like a nurse going off for a chat and leaving patients unattended and then 3 died. Driving comes with immense responsibility. It was shocking that she even considered it to start with. Use public transport if you want to do drugs or drink or are tired .
@@notreallyafamousartist695 she's told her story as a warning to others. She knows what she has done more than anyone else. Let's hope you don't make the same mistake
If the accident happened because she dozed off while driving, it's likely unrelated to the ecstacy. People that have not taken any substance doze off and crash all the time
@Motherhustler sounds like excuses to me. Make a conscious decision to find a place to pull over at. I'm not sure what country you're in, but there's usually a shoulder you can pull over at in the USA. But I had to do this one day. I had 30 more minutes to drive to make it to my nephew's graduation, but I couldn't take that chance. Found a gas station to pull over at and took a nap. I was late for the graduation, but everyone was safe.
this is heartbreaking.. I was in a terrible collision at 21.. The driver in the other Vehicle was 16. He died on impact. No alcohol was involved that I was aware of but he was all over the road. It has haunted me my entire life
I'm so sorry. What a horrible trauma to live with. I hope that you have found some peace over time. It wasn't your fault, and yet still, what a hard thing to experience at 21.
People usually think about how well they can manage while impaired before thinking about how helpless others are to our decisions. It's best to simply hand over the keys and quit making stupid gambles...especially when they involve other people. My mom used to drive drunk while my sister and I were in the car. To this day she disgusts me.
In a split second ANY one of us can make a decision with life long consequences. Consequences that will change and destroy many lives, including our own. I hope you, Teresa, can move on from the past, from the unbearable pain you must be feeling, and forgive yourself. Sending love. xx
Drug and alcohol users always say they felt OK to drive. The thing about using drugs and alcohol is that you’re not capable of making that assessment - that’s why you never do it! Use your brains people!!!!
The problem is the substances not the people, as they impair your ability to make decisions. That's part of why we do them. Not absolving the countless tragic events of course.
I think everyone who got into the car that night was as reckless as each other. I’m sure if your three friends survived and you passed away, they would feel just as guilty for letting you get into the car and drive under the influence. It’s tragic what happened but it’s not only one person to be blamed. Everyone made their own decisions that night. Having said that, I’m sorry for what you’ve experienced and condolences to the families who lost their loved ones.
Very good point about if she would have been the only one to pass away. They would have all blamed themselves for falling asleep and not staying up with her.
@@emyyoung6629plus the friends who didn't put their seatbelts on could have been flung forward in an accident- killing the driver. I'm sure they would have felt terrible guilt if they had survived.
I don't take drugs but after having my child, I took St John's Wort to help with postnatal depression. I never knew it would effect my driving, but I knocked a lady off her bike. Thankfully she was okay, and I vowed I would never get back into the car until I'd stopped taking the medicine. Tiredness can effect driving just as much and I would pull over to safe place, wind the window down and have a sleep before continuing on my journey. Grief can also effect driving or hearing bad news and having to drive to the hospital. So many things can effect driving it's a wonder the roads are safe at all. Stay safe!
@@happyandblessed5640 I think you made some really good points, often people drive when really they shouldn’t, during grief or tragic events for example, martial affairs etc. I think many people won’t admit it but probably shouldn’t especially if they have taken a strong sleeping pill the night before, even those who don’t and are insomniacs surviving on little sleep. Thank you for mentioning the St John’s Wort, it’s good to discuss these things as I would never have thought of that one impacting as greatly as you mentioned and I know many people who have taken it and still do for low mood.
Maybe there was no bad intent but the carelessness in getting in that car while high was astounding, which is why she feels so much guilt. Let this be a lesson to us all to be careful with our decisions.
You never ever think it’s going to happen to you, that’s the thing. It seems as though she was trying to be careful given she had driven before on ecstasy and been fine. It is such a tragic shame it happened so quickly and she couldn’t pull over in time but it only takes minutes to fall asleep, the poor love. I had a similar situation on the way to a festival, my Friend who hadn’t been drinking or taking any drugs but was driving a bit too fast admittedly as we were running late and he wanted to arrive early and get set up, sadly lost control of the car. The car was a right off but we were very fortunate and all made it out alive and well the guy in the back didn’t have his seat belt on but we had so much stuff in the car he even stayed put, I remember his glasses went flying out the window and he managed to find them on the grass and put them back on, they weren’t even broken! It really is luck of the draw in situations like that at times, the Fire-Brigade thought my Friend had fallen asleep at the wheel because of how badly the car was damaged. I was the passenger in the front seat next to him and it was the most scariest thing I’ve ever witnessed, a truck came up alongside us and I will forever remember the noise of the wheels jamming into us and my window smashing in and my screaming! We were extremely fortunate in a very unfortunate situation. This poor, poor lady my heart goes out to her, what a brave soul for telling her story. The immense amount of guilt and grief she must have felt is hard to comprehend but she has to remember that no one forced her Friend’s to get into her car, they wouldn’t want her feeling sadness and sorrow all of her life but I understand she wished and prayed she had been taken with them as we all would have done had we shared the same fate as she had on that night! ❤️🩹
Very sad situation no intent but this is a lesson to all. I tell my son never get in a car with someone who has been drinking or taking drugs. I hope she finds peace within herself
Clearly she was impaired - but on what basis? Was she guilty of "being high" or "being tired?" Especially as she recalls briefly drifting-off? Bc the truth is that *both* factors contribute to countless accidents each day. And more worrisome? We know far less about either impairment - being tired or being high - then we probably should. Here in Canada, for eg. marijuana was legalized with few (if any) studies conducted to determine exactly *how* it impairs drivers, or for how long. Consequently, thousands of folks use marijuana - and/or other drugs - and then drive, without either "rough rules-of-thumb," such as "one drink over an hour's probably fine," or an objective measure such as a "blood-alcohol level," that both drivers & police can use to guage impairment. This must be the case with other drugs, too. Are you "fit to drive" on New Year's Day - even if your blood-alcohol level's returned to normal? Are you a "safe driver" in the mornings, if you take a sedating "little blue pill" each night to help you sleep? Maybe; maybe not. This woman used ecstasy the night before - and stayed-up all night. The next day, was she still impaired by the drug, by lack-of-sleep, or by both? We'll never really know. America's National Sleep Foundation estimates that some 20% of people suffer from sleep apnea - a condition which causes profound daytime fatigue. It often causes sufferers to "nod-off" unawares, and leads to untold #'s of traffic fatalities. And tragically? 85% of sleep apnea sufferers don't even know they have it. Right now? I have 3 patients who are new mothers, and they're profoundly - maybe pathologically - sleep-deprived. Are they too impaired to drive? The law says no, but you tell me. I get the judgment. We *need* to believe that we're very different from this woman - bc the alternative is terrifying. Who among us hasn't checked a msg on our phone - even briefly, once, and on an empty road? Who hasn't reached for something in the backseat, or glanced away to change the radio? Who can honestly say they've never driven exhausted or angry or upset, or after having "just one drink," knowing only that we're "probably fine," bc we'd be below the legal limit? The uncomfortable truth is, this woman made a pretty small, pretty human mistake. It was the consequences that were catastrophic. This *could* have happened to any of us - or if not this? Something just like it. And that terrifies us. That's why we need to blame her, to "other" her, and to distance ourselves from the frightening possibility that we could end-up just like her. No one spends too much time thinking about the bad luck part of things. Maybe that's the part that scares us most.
Your beautiful soul is hurting far beyond what your beautiful passed on friend's will ever want you to feel!! Your compassion and empathy and heartache is evident! Your friend's are wishing you healing from the other side . . . . God bless your courageous heart!! Sending love and healing your way! ❤💓💗🙏
I fell asleep for a second. Driving home from a festival 20 years ago. I was alone. Pulled over and spent the night sleeping in my car, on the side of the road. Frightened myself. I could have killed myself, and god knows who else. Massive wake-up call. This could have easily have been me. Forgive yourself. You all made irresponsible choices that night. Could easily have been any of you driving one another in that condition . You were also kids. We all make mistakes. Some bigger than others. I’m so sorry this happened to you. You deserve peace. Sending love. ❤❤❤❤
Absolutely correc. Anyone who I not naive knows it’s not til it’s over, and if you’re still breathing, you are ALWAYS capable of making a mistake that can KILL an innocent bystander. It’s doesn’t need to be in a car, there are LOTS of mistakes you can make that will result in the death of another person. I’m amazed comments stating otherwise have a single upvote, let alone dozens…Stay humble, you aren’t infallible unless you are God Almighty
Too many people make this same choice to drive under the influence and think that something like this would never happen to them. Thank u for spreading awareness. I feel like the trauma and guilt u are left with is punishment enough and I hope u continue to try to make a difference now.
What a tragedy, she is truly remorseful for what happened and this should be a lesson to everyone about driving under influence of anything or even driving while tired . RIP ✝️ to her friends who lost their lives
This gave me goosebumps. I think back to being young and know i made some really really stupid decisions including getting in the car when my friends had taken drugs. And you do think it wont happen to you. I am so lucky that it didnt.
You didn’t have to do this. You are brave to open yourself up to so much criticism. I admire your courage. I hope you find peace and acceptance. By talking about this you could save a life. Thank you
Wow. I had a similar experience with my friend driving home from a Toronto rave at 8am speeding 70-80MPH down the Sunday morning QEW- which was packed - there were 5 of us snoozing- I opened my eyes for “no reason” to surveye the scene out of nowhere and saw our driver was in the last stages of accelerating into the back of a 18wheeler in the left lane - I saw him nodded off- I yelled his name at the last second and he woke up, jerked the wheel in a correction maneuver that could have been worse but somehow, he pulled it off. We had traffic packed around us on a 6 lane highway- all going 70-80. Im sure others saw what was happening when he drifted lanes. It would have been just awful- a busy morning holiday in Canada. Sorry for your experience- keep sharing your story, you brought me back to the time when I almost left this mortal coil. For years, I had a hard time driving with people, I’d have fear in the passenger seat if they did anything fast and get pissed!. I might still have that tick.
Ah bless you , what a terrible tragedy for all of you, so easily done , so sad for you , so brave to share your story . We all did this years ago and thought nothing of driving home after festivals or nights out and thinking we were all invincible. Don’t blame yourself , my heart really goes out to you ❤🙏🩵
When I was her age I was involved in a similar party scene. I'm so grateful that me and my friends all lived downtown so we were able to cab everywhere after EDMs and clubs and not think about it. I knew MANY people that would drive though, after finishing their night/morning at the after hours. Even if you don't feel overtly high any more, all your sense are still off for some time and the intense fatigue can set in out of nowhere. It's an absolute tragedy and series of terrible mistakes but I feel for her and respect how deeply it has affected her and her resolve for atonement and carrying this loss with her.
The details of this was just horrific and awful all around, but I am glad this story was told. She did something really stupid and dumb, which had tragic consequences, but she sounds very remorseful. She cannot undo what she has done, but I hope she moves on, and has a good life.
@@melistasy It's a tragedy and awful all around, especially for the victims. I am sure she will feel shame and guilt for the rest of her life, but she cannot undo what is done. Also, the victims knew she was on E, and went along in the car knowing this information. Of course they did not know what would happen or are to blame, but it is just a tragedy all around.
Heartbreaking to listen to but think she's done everything she can to pay for what happened. It must be the hardest thing to face knowing you killed your friends in a moment of carelessness. I think she's very brave for going public and showing that she feels the guilt and pain. We all do stupid things, hopefully nobody gets harmed but as in this case, sadly they did.
There are a lot of comments passing judgment on her story. Yes, clearly she made a very poor choice, but she is also clearly still carrying immense guilt and shame years later and seems to feel as responsible as she did the day it happened. What vulnerability it is to share her story in this way. Working in the substance use/mental health field, I have heard many stories similar to Teresa’s. If I have learned anything, her experience could be any of us. We are capable of anything through our decisions and choices if we are not careful. I do hope she continues to share her story to help educate and prevent youth and others to be mindful of what can occur through substance use. God bless you, Teresa.
" her experience could be any of us"...utter nonsense. I would NEVER drive under the influence of anything. Nor would I get in a car if I had even the slightest suspicion the driver was on drugs or drink.
I have never use cigarettes, drugs or alcohol. This is a conscious choice. I made this decision as a child. I come from a family of alcoholics and I saw what it did to them and us. This is not an accident. My sympathies lie with the families of those who died.
As my Japanese mother said. She shouldn't be carrying any guilt anymore because she should have gone to aokigahara and gotten it over with, the second she realized she killed people.
Who cares what she is feeling...she deserves every bit of guilt, shame etc. What matters is the deceased. Do you think the deceased would feel pity for her? She was responsible for their safety. Her actions were the only reason they died.
@@bv3bv334 You are a very miserable person. Who th are you to pass judgement on her ?! I can guarantee you, you are far from a perfect person. Get a new life because clearly you need some changes in your current. SHAME on YOU.
It sounds like even without any substance use, if it was late she could have nodded off anyway. I’ve never taken drugs but the number of times many years ago I’ve had to drive long distances while tired, trying all the tricks - window down, music full blast, drink coffee, stop for quick breaks but still felt soooooo goddam tired, I’m often surprised I’m still alive. I agree with one of the earlier replies about doing talks in schools. Obviously don’t do drugs or drink and drive, but also don’t drive any reasonable distance when tired. If you start to feel your eyelids go, it’s time to pull over. Very valuable lesson and I’m literally about to go and talk to my kid about this. I lived in France during a time when drinking and driving was considered perfectly normal. I was the driver and the beer at the party was very strong. The 2 dudes in the back were snoring away oblivious to how pissed I was but the dude in my passenger seat saw, and he stayed awake, talked to me to keep me awake, and pretty much watched me like a hawk for the entire drive back. I dread to think what would have happened if he hadn’t done that.
I agree. It honestly seems to me it was more tiredness in this case than drug influence. Typically after 4 hours those types of drugs have started to wear off. Sounds like her friends were acknowledging that she could get sleepy as they promised they would stay awake with her. They were also responsible adults who decided to do what they did. What a horrible nightmare. This lady does not need anyone lecturing her on what she could have done better. I’m sure she has been over all those scenarios a million times. I pray freedom for her.
Ecstasy causes tiredness on the come down. Driving tired is also an offence. Not judging just more context. It’s an awful thing to live with. Horrendous for the families of the people who died. They also made a choice of course. It’s a risk to get in a vehicle even when not impaired. I think we are complacent about cars, I see so many people in their own world oblivious to a lot that is going on around them. In a bubble they think is safe. Modern cars even more so because speed doesn’t feel like much and the comfort, music, it’s like being in your living room not operating a speeding heavy machine that is as deadly as a weapon. Accidents can happen when not under the influence, split second of inattentiveness or other factors beyond the drivers control, but I do believe the ecstasy was a major factor here.
Dear Teresa, your story was very moving to hear, and it's very clear you are a good person. You're extremely brave. Please don't take this burden solely on yourself. Your friends wouldn't want you to feel like that. You did it together, you just happened to be the driver. Anyone could have been in your group. It just happened to be you. You have taken responsibility and dealt with so much pain. You deserve to be free of guilt.
I am so sorry for your journey. I pray that you will find it in yourself to ask God to take this burden of guilt from you. If you ask, he will take it from you and give you peace. You survived for a reason. Many blessings and peace for your days ahead.
In 2022 in our town 4 young adults were drinking at a party when they left the party the female driver started racing someone she saw at a stop light she lost control crashed into a pole the car split her 3 passengers had died on impact she walked away with a broken wrist. She is currently serving 5 yrs. It’s very tragic I feel for the families and the lives lost. She is remorseful at her court hearing she was a wreck she apologized for her bad choice she wished it would have been her instead of her three friends. Sad all the way around she will get out when she’s in her late 20’s I hope she can make a powerful impact with her Life she can be a public speaker in schools about drinking, racing & distracted driving.
Self forgiveness is the ONLY answer to removing yourself from imprisonment ❤ Everyone makes mistakes which is the human experience ✨️ Did you ever think that you and your friends were all in agreement in your prebirth planning that you all participated in this so that you would be able to help educate others to never get behind the wheel whilst being intoxicated??? This is a very powerful message to all others that WILL save lives.
Thank you so much for your honesty. I feel a huge amount of compassion for you and all that you have been carrying through your life! It’s courageous of you to share this! You’re a good person. ❤️
Singingblueberry made a great comment saying speaking at schools would be a great opportunity for kids to benefit from her story. I couldn’t agree more. If you can make something anything good come from a tragedy like this you should. If just one kid hears this and it makes an impact on them and helps them make a better decision it would be so worth it. I pray for the families that lost their loved ones and I pray for this lady telling her painful story. I wish for her to find peace and forgiveness for her self
I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. But i am surprised that anyone is surprised that doing drugs and then getting behind a wheel might not go well. It could have been worse. But it isn’t a tragic thing that happened, it’s a thing that happened because of what she did. The fact that she wanted to go to prison makes it obvious that she has a conscience. And i think she has done her best to make amends. I wish her well and hopefully others will learn from her story.
I don't think she was surprised. I don't think it works quite as black and white as you are saying. The effect of the drugs on the brain can affect a person's judgement, the effect of the belief the person has at the time and the beliefs of everyone else in the group affect judgement. If she had thought that this would have happened, I'd she had considered it, she would not have done it. So there was no intent.
@@sarahfellows3074 Nothing about what she shared and my response to it implied intent. She and people every day do what she did, take drugs and booze and get behind a wheel. None of them really believe they are taking a huge of risk by doing that. And so it keeps happening. If they did, they’d go to festivals and say - “I’m committing to being sober for the event.” Not “I’m going to stop using a few hours before I drive home.” You are going to a lot of trouble to parse this to absolve her of any actual responsibility for what happened. This story of hers, and her willingness to share it, is an opportunity for other people to learn from her fatal mistake. Part of her mistake was an error in judgement about it being safe to do a bit of ecstasy and then drive. My comment isn’t thoughtless and “black and white” as you say. And your comment isn’t about compassion or better critical thinking, it’s enablement. You are suggesting she isn’t really responsible because the drugs clouded her judgement. The drugs almost certainly clouded her judgement - no shit Sherlock. It’s why you don’t do them if you know you’re going to be operating a vehicle. She is 100% responsible for what happened. She certainly didn’t do any of it maliciously, she just did what a lot of people do, and excuse themselves for doing. And so it keeps happening because people do all kinds of mental gymnastics to convince themselves that “the universe just had that plan, so it happened.” Nope. Reckless decisions made by her caused this tragedy. Massively damaged her own life and ended her friends’ lives. Obviously none of it done with malicious intent, and yet several people died. She’s sharing a valuable lesson here and yet you and people responding as you are to what she’s sharing are refusing to hear it.
She said she had used ecstasy before and driven and nothing happened. But there’s a a first time for everything. Don’t take risks with your life. I’m 63. Young people, stop and think about what it will take to be get to be my age and older. Make decisions based on wanting to live a long and healthy life.
Must be a terrible burden to live with this guilt This poor woman has a life sentence of guilt 27 is very young We do silly things when young I feel very sorry for this woman's friends and this woman A tragic story She is bringing awareness to the perils of drug taking before driving ❤
@@JOHNTHEWHISK They have responsibility too. They got into the car knowing she had taken half a pill a few hours earlier, and 2 of them didn’t wear seat belts. Everyone was at fault here. The only thing left to do is forgive. I hope she finds peace, she seems like a genuine soul.
Only 4 years and did only 2 years in prison!??!! That’s crazy. Smh, the justice system is horrible. I’m glad you’ll never do drugs again but 3 ppl still died. I pray that the people who passed away are resting peacefully 🕊️
You know what? There are people on TH-cam that never killed anyone, never abused drugs, have led moral lives, and they get more hate than this woman. Incredible.
I just don't understand how you can think it's okay to drive after a few hours of taking ecstasy? It would severely impair your judgment. Even walking home stoned I would want to make sure my friends got home safe but driving on E? And the first rule of any passengers is they must buckle up, the force of them hitting the front seats during an impact could be fatal for the driver too, its not just a decision that affects the individual. I feel like we need much more education in this country on driving, and why safety and mitigation is so important.
"HOW CAN YOU THINK IT'S OK TO DRIVE AFTER A FEW HOURS OF TAKING ECSTASY"? IT WOULD SEVERELY IMPAIR YOUR JUDGMENT. You literally just asked then answered your own question. The answer is because yes it does severely impairs your judgment so that is why you would think it's OK to drive after taking it. I also speak from experience because when I was younger I took it and it 100% distorts reality, perception and time.
@@Naturefan354so how did you get there before taking ecstasy? What did you think before you took the estacy and had to drive home? Use your brain, the plan was always to drive home on drugs because “I can handle it and the effects lessened”
No amount of prison could penalize her as much as she’s done to herself. Don’t get me wrong, I believe in accountability, paying for your mistakes. I’m just saying she obviously has integrity and her remorse is still immense. I pray that the families have all found some kind of peace… whatever that may look like for them. Tragedy, all the way around
So much compassion for her. I have made many poor decisions in my life, I have (emotionally) hurt others through my choices. The burden she has had to live with is so heavy. My Answer is Jesus. The comfort from Him surpasses everything.
You can tell how sincere this beautiful lady is she means every word she says & has used her lapse of judgment/mistake to do good in this world & try to help others what a brave amazing lady to turn things around .. we have all made mistakes some more serious than others but let’s not all pretend we have never taken drugs or drank many of us here have made mistakes especially in our teens/20s & taken silly risks. I speak as someone who has stupidly drank drove twice in my 20s who like this lady felt she had control luckily nothing happened then I’ve been on the other side being involved in a serious accident by a careless driver on his phone despite him not showing much compassion or genuine remorse I can forgive & know as humans we make mistakes unfortunately some end with such seriously devastating consequences. I think this woman is a good woman I’m happy for her she seems to have found peace ☮️
All the comments defending her are exactly why people dont learn, and think they can get away with this. She was 27, not a child, had done it before and arrogantly believed she could keep getting away with it. People dead because of her, she should be in jail. Can sit crying on camera all she wants, doesn't bring them back. No one is perfect but this goes beyond that.
It's so refreshing to see so many supportive comments here. It's so true that we are all more than capable of making poor decisions that have drastic consequences, especially when in the presence of our peers. It's clear Theresa is consumed with guilt and knows she will be haunted by this mistake for the rest of your life. I hope she can heal from this
I have been in a car before with people driving recklessly. You don’t have to drive recklessly it is a choice . Don’t get in a car with people you barely know. The consequences can be disastrous. One split second can cause a crisis and change lives forever .
It was brave of her to tell this story. People always want to blame someone without thinking about what that person goes through. My cousin (more like a sister) pulled out in front of a loaded dump truck. It messed him up emotionally.
You are such a brave, honest person. It takes so much courage to admit what you did and take ownership, I admire you greatly. There but for the grace of God go so many of us. I took stupid risks and got away with it, boy was I lucky. Nobody should be judging you and the person judging you most of all is yourself. My heart goes out to you I want to give you a big hug. ❤❤
You can feel the pain and guilt that she feels. The whole situation is so sad. People lost their lives because of one decision, one mistake. But I don’t think her friends would want her to suffer like this, especially after all these years. Because I don’t think you’re the same person at 45 as you were at 27. I don’t think you’re the same person after something like this. She lived, but the guilt must be unbearable.
There are a lot of comments showing a lot of empathy. I think that is great. Bad things happen to everyone. Some are worse than others. If this had happened last week there wouldnt be a single decent comment. I find that interesting.
You have taken accountability and done your time. Now, lift up your chin and thrive. If you want to help the world and be a good citizen, smile, laugh, and be a good listener. Do not become a martyr for the cause.
I was raving around this time period, late nineties/early aughts. Driven plenty of times rolling balls. By the grace of God I’m still here. Prayers to this woman - we all make dumb decisions as kids.
The amount of people in this comment section saying, “hey, we’ve all done stupid things like this!”… just proves to me that punishments for driving under the influence are no way near harsh enough. Too many people brush off drinking & driving or using drugs & driving as a “youthful indiscretion”. NOPE. NOT ME. NOT ONCE. I’ve never done it & I have zero tolerance for anyone who does it or defends it as “a mistake”. NO, you’re just a horrible selfish narcissistic person. It’s been well known for DECADES how being intoxicated negatively impacts a person’s reflexes when driving, so… no one should get a 2nd chance to F* up another person’s life because you were too stupid to call a cab. I also find it interesting how many people are blaming her passengers because they decided to get in the car with her, but no one even mentions that she could have killed or injured a completely INNOCENT victim if she had crashed into another car or a pedestrian. Again - penalties for this crime need to be WAYYYY harsher than they are.
@@lopear111 I do believe she is massively remorseful and I do feel sorry for her. It’s a terrible thing to have to live with and I’m sure she’d give anything to change the choices she made. That said, this was entirely her fault. Her passengers did not take on the responsibility to drive. They weren’t responsible for knowing whether she was still under the influence. All of this was 100% her responsibility. She has actually taken responsibility. What’s shocking is the number of people in the comments section suggesting that she isn’t responsible. That it could happen to anyone. And claiming her friends could have offered to drive. She was the driver, end of. And it could not happen to anyone. It could only happen to someone who is 1) totally ok with doing illegal drugs and 2) chooses to drive after doing those illegal drugs. That’s not everyone.
Hard to listen to. Especially as she was 27, I was expecting teens or twenties. I’m not surprised the deceased parents are no longer in contact, doesn’t matter how remorseful she is they still have to live without their children. No winners here.
Ok, the results were as bad as they could possibly be, it was an awful accident but you can clearly see at her core she is a good person, I've done stupid stuff before too and got away with it, I feel for all involved
I hope some day she feels peace and is able to let go of this burden. Everyone here is at fault. They had all done drugs, and driving home after a festival late at night, they absolutely should have stayed awake with her. Imagine if she had been the one to pass away, they all would have blamed themselves too. Very heartbreaking situation and she’s been through enough, people don’t need to pile on and act like they’ve never made a bad choice.
Such a terrible story . Her empathy for her friends is real and emotional. I feel for her and allso for her friends. Words can’t describe this terrible event . My thoughts are with her and her friends and there families. 🙏🙏🙏
I think of the times I drove with too much too drink or we all smoked pot and drove. As horrible as this story is, her friends knew that she was high, and she still carries immense guilt. A very tragic story
To be fair it wasn't "just an accident". An accident is something that happens without intention. Driving whilst under the influence of drugs is intentional.
It is categorically an accident in the judicial system. Also, what do you want her to call it? She explained in detail how she fell asleep at the wheel. That part was an error or accident. What words should she use? She served time, volunteered, gave up her right to drive, was on medications and is still haunted by the outcome decades later. Even the court and her circle let her move on.
@@fornx8574 Doesn't matter what the "judicial system" calls it. It wasn't an accident. She drove drugged up. These things happen when druggies get behind the wheel. Same goes for Alcoholics. WE ALL KNOW THIS FACT. That is why driving while on drugs is prohibited. She knew this. And yet she chose to drive. No accident. An inevitable outcome, more like. No amount of apologising by her, by you for her, or by anyone else on her behalf is going to change the FACT that these things happen when druggies get behind the wheel. So, no, not an accident. I am confident if you could contact the deceased and tell them that it was an "accident", because that is how the "judicial system" labelled it, they certainly wouldn't feel any better about the fact they have lost their lives.
I almost came off the road once when driving late at night alone and tired when I was young. It made me realise how easy something like this could happen. Hard to know from what she said whether the cause was tiredness or drugs or both. Obviously you should never drive under the influence or very tired. I respect this woman for telling this story , I'm praying for her. It has obviously been devastating.
She should go to schools and tell her story to as many students as possible. I think a lot of kids could benefit from hearing about this.
She doesn’t have to. She tells her story here.
@@Burps___ Of course she doesn't have to, just saying it could be helpful.
@@singingblueberryehhhh and say what I killed my friends taking drugs ?? She’s to blame .. her actions was disgusting.. and the youth of day it’s the norm .. smoke weed sniff the white stuff.. walking brain dead idiots .. NO SYMPATHY WHAT SO EVER
It’s not just kids who use drugs.
@@VintageVegansbut kids who have seen a profoundly moving interview face to face might be less likely to turn to drugs and make poor life or death decisions in adulthood.
Unpopular opinion here. Passengers are also responsible for getting into a car with someone driving who they know is under the influence. Obviously this excludes people like children, those with dementia and those forced into a car etc. That doesn't mean to say the driver goes unpunished, but if you are an adult getting into a car willingly with someone under the influence that's the chance you take.
Agreed
@@lizregan8195 agree
Agreed
Agreed.
a thousand percent yes.
She is taking responsibility here. Most people NEVER do that. I hope she knows, it's okay to forgive herself. She has been punished enough. Her friends wouldn't want her to torture herself like this.
Your friends wouldn’t want you to feel this way. You are clearly very remorseful. Every single human being makes poor decisions at some point in their lives but not all have the repercussions you have. Please be kind to yourself. I think by sharing your story to highschool students you could really make a difference. I wish you peace with a comforting hug ♥️
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Ditto! She needs to be here and keep sharing this experience so others don’t emulate it
I feel nothing but empathy for all involved. We all do stupid, reckless things, but most of us are lucky enough to walk away.
Exactly!
@@socialmoon Come on- she was in her late twenties and she was driving a car. That comes with responsibility. It’s like a nurse going off for a chat and leaving patients unattended and then 3 died. Driving comes with immense responsibility. It was shocking that she even considered it to start with. Use public transport if you want to do drugs or drink or are tired .
@@MsZelda2012Exactly
She was close to 30yrs old!
We dont all do stupid reckless things. At here age she was incredibly irresponsible; shame on her
@@qxq- Agree
This lady doesnt need any more hate. She must be in a world of pain x
She voluntarily killed 3 people. I want to hear you say that if one of those three was YOUR family
@@notreallyafamousartist695 she's told her story as a warning to others. She knows what she has done more than anyone else.
Let's hope you don't make the same mistake
If the accident happened because she dozed off while driving, it's likely unrelated to the ecstacy. People that have not taken any substance doze off and crash all the time
@@notreallyafamousartist695 Exactly and what if she was YOUR FAMILY the one that drove?
She doesn't look in pain to me she's smiling at the beginning, she deserves her pain if she is in pain.
She fell asleep for a moment and many people have done that even without drugs. Tragic story 😢
And you were being reckless too. Let's not normalize falling asleep behind the wheel. It can kill, so pull over if you're falling sleep!
@@melistasykind of hard to do when there’s no where to pull off quickly.
@Motherhustler sounds like excuses to me. Make a conscious decision to find a place to pull over at. I'm not sure what country you're in, but there's usually a shoulder you can pull over at in the USA. But
I had to do this one day. I had 30 more minutes to drive to make it to my nephew's graduation, but I couldn't take that chance. Found a gas station to pull over at and took a nap. I was late for the graduation, but everyone was safe.
she took drugs and ultimately caused the " accident"
but this was on drugs
this is heartbreaking.. I was in a terrible collision at 21.. The driver in the other Vehicle was 16. He died on impact. No alcohol was involved that I was aware of but he was all over the road. It has haunted me my entire life
Thank God you were OK ❤
On his phone maybe?
I'm so sorry. What a horrible trauma to live with. I hope that you have found some peace over time. It wasn't your fault, and yet still, what a hard thing to experience at 21.
Ok but that was no alcohol/drugs involved. This lady was tripping on X.
@@coco_b X is a drug.
That guilt is heavy. She learned a tremendous lesson by way of her very poor choices. RIP to the friends 🕊️🕊️🕊️
My cousin was killed in an accident caused by another driver who decided to drive while drunk.
It’s a really selfish act to drive impaired.
well said
People usually think about how well they can manage while impaired before thinking about how helpless others are to our decisions. It's best to simply hand over the keys and quit making stupid gambles...especially when they involve other people. My mom used to drive drunk while my sister and I were in the car. To this day she disgusts me.
In a split second ANY one of us can make a decision with life long consequences. Consequences that will change and destroy many lives, including our own. I hope you, Teresa, can move on from the past, from the unbearable pain you must be feeling, and forgive yourself. Sending love. xx
Move on from the past? I hope she doesn't! Her guilt and pain is part of the consequences for her actions.
Drug and alcohol users always say they felt OK to drive. The thing about using drugs and alcohol is that you’re not capable of making that assessment - that’s why you never do it!
Use your brains people!!!!
How do you use a brain that’s impaired.
Exactly, the thing impairing them from driving is also impairing their decision making!
not so its just a bad decision!
The problem is the substances not the people, as they impair your ability to make decisions. That's part of why we do them. Not absolving the countless tragic events of course.
@ you make the decision to take the drug. 👁️👁️
Poor thing. She shows a lot of courage. RIP to her friends.
I think everyone who got into the car that night was as reckless as each other. I’m sure if your three friends survived and you passed away, they would feel just as guilty for letting you get into the car and drive under the influence. It’s tragic what happened but it’s not only one person to be blamed. Everyone made their own decisions that night. Having said that, I’m sorry for what you’ve experienced and condolences to the families who lost their loved ones.
Very good point about if she would have been the only one to pass away. They would have all blamed themselves for falling asleep and not staying up with her.
@@emyyoung6629plus the friends who didn't put their seatbelts on could have been flung forward in an accident- killing the driver. I'm sure they would have felt terrible guilt if they had survived.
I don't take drugs but after having my child, I took St John's Wort to help with postnatal depression. I never knew it would effect my driving, but I knocked a lady off her bike. Thankfully she was okay, and I vowed I would never get back into the car until I'd stopped taking the medicine.
Tiredness can effect driving just as much and I would pull over to safe place, wind the window down and have a sleep before continuing on my journey.
Grief can also effect driving or hearing bad news and having to drive to the hospital.
So many things can effect driving it's a wonder the roads are safe at all.
Stay safe!
@@happyandblessed5640 I think you made some really good points, often people drive when really they shouldn’t, during grief or tragic events for example, martial affairs etc. I think many people won’t admit it but probably shouldn’t especially if they have taken a strong sleeping pill the night before, even those who don’t and are insomniacs surviving on little sleep. Thank you for mentioning the St John’s Wort, it’s good to discuss these things as I would never have thought of that one impacting as greatly as you mentioned and I know many people who have taken it and still do for low mood.
@@toxictottie Thank you for your reply.
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Maybe there was no bad intent but the carelessness in getting in that car while high was astounding, which is why she feels so much guilt. Let this be a lesson to us all to be careful with our decisions.
Recklessness.
You never ever think it’s going to happen to you, that’s the thing. It seems as though she was trying to be careful given she had driven before on ecstasy and been fine. It is such a tragic shame it happened so quickly and she couldn’t pull over in time but it only takes minutes to fall asleep, the poor love.
I had a similar situation on the way to a festival, my Friend who hadn’t been drinking or taking any drugs but was driving a bit too fast admittedly as we were running late and he wanted to arrive early and get set up, sadly lost control of the car. The car was a right off but we were very fortunate and all made it out alive and well the guy in the back didn’t have his seat belt on but we had so much stuff in the car he even stayed put, I remember his glasses went flying out the window and he managed to find them on the grass and put them back on, they weren’t even broken!
It really is luck of the draw in situations like that at times, the Fire-Brigade thought my Friend had fallen asleep at the wheel because of how badly the car was damaged. I was the passenger in the front seat next to him and it was the most scariest thing I’ve ever witnessed, a truck came up alongside us and I will forever remember the noise of the wheels jamming into us and my window smashing in and my screaming! We were extremely fortunate in a very unfortunate situation. This poor, poor lady my heart goes out to her, what a brave soul for telling her story. The immense amount of guilt and grief she must have felt is hard to comprehend but she has to remember that no one forced her Friend’s to get into her car, they wouldn’t want her feeling sadness and sorrow all of her life but I understand she wished and prayed she had been taken with them as we all would have done had we shared the same fate as she had on that night! ❤️🩹
Very sad situation no intent but this is a lesson to all. I tell my son never get in a car with someone who has been drinking or taking drugs. I hope she finds peace within herself
Clearly she was impaired - but on what basis? Was she guilty of "being high" or "being tired?" Especially as she recalls briefly drifting-off? Bc the truth is that *both* factors contribute to countless accidents each day. And more worrisome? We know far less about either impairment - being tired or being high - then we probably should.
Here in Canada, for eg. marijuana was legalized with few (if any) studies conducted to determine exactly *how* it impairs drivers, or for how long. Consequently, thousands of folks use marijuana - and/or other drugs - and then drive, without either "rough rules-of-thumb," such as "one drink over an hour's probably fine," or an objective measure such as a "blood-alcohol level," that both drivers & police can use to guage impairment.
This must be the case with other drugs, too. Are you "fit to drive" on New Year's Day - even if your blood-alcohol level's returned to normal? Are you a "safe driver" in the mornings, if you take a sedating "little blue pill" each night to help you sleep? Maybe; maybe not. This woman used ecstasy the night before - and stayed-up all night. The next day, was she still impaired by the drug, by lack-of-sleep, or by both? We'll never really know.
America's National Sleep Foundation estimates that some 20% of people suffer from sleep apnea - a condition which causes profound daytime fatigue. It often causes sufferers to "nod-off" unawares, and leads to untold #'s of traffic fatalities. And tragically? 85% of sleep apnea sufferers don't even know they have it. Right now? I have 3 patients who are new mothers, and they're profoundly - maybe pathologically - sleep-deprived. Are they too impaired to drive? The law says no, but you tell me.
I get the judgment. We *need* to believe that we're very different from this woman - bc the alternative is terrifying. Who among us hasn't checked a msg on our phone - even briefly, once, and on an empty road? Who hasn't reached for something in the backseat, or glanced away to change the radio? Who can honestly say they've never driven exhausted or angry or upset, or after having "just one drink," knowing only that we're "probably fine," bc we'd be below the legal limit?
The uncomfortable truth is, this woman made a pretty small, pretty human mistake. It was the consequences that were catastrophic. This *could* have happened to any of us - or if not this? Something just like it. And that terrifies us. That's why we need to blame her, to "other" her, and to distance ourselves from the frightening possibility that we could end-up just like her.
No one spends too much time thinking about the bad luck part of things. Maybe that's the part that scares us most.
@@karasea1021and she’s still paying for it.
You are very brave for sharing this tragic life event.
brave ? She is a murderer, she should be in prison !
Your beautiful soul is hurting far beyond what your beautiful passed on friend's will ever want you to feel!! Your compassion and empathy and heartache is evident! Your friend's are wishing you healing from the other side . . . . God bless your courageous heart!! Sending love and healing your way! ❤💓💗🙏
I fell asleep for a second. Driving home from a festival 20 years ago. I was alone. Pulled over and spent the night sleeping in my car, on the side of the road. Frightened myself. I could have killed myself, and god knows who else. Massive wake-up call. This could have easily have been me. Forgive yourself. You all made irresponsible choices that night. Could easily have been any of you driving one another in that condition .
You were also kids. We all make mistakes. Some bigger than others. I’m so sorry this happened to you.
You deserve peace. Sending love. ❤❤❤❤
She was 27; very far from being ‘a kid’!!
@@donnajohnson8035I can’t believe she’s only 45 currently. She looks easily 55!
At 27, you’re 3 years off 30 - that isn’t a “kid”: open your fucking eyes.
Absolutely correc. Anyone who I not naive knows it’s not til it’s over, and if you’re still breathing, you are ALWAYS capable of making a mistake that can KILL an innocent bystander. It’s doesn’t need to be in a car, there are LOTS of mistakes you can make that will result in the death of another person. I’m amazed comments stating otherwise have a single upvote, let alone dozens…Stay humble, you aren’t infallible unless you are God Almighty
27 year olds are not kids. She was pushing 30
You must forgive YOURSELF. Sending love and prayers, hugs
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@@nevaeh8255
1. You MUST 'gaf',
since you cared enough to comment. 😉
2. Google Translate is
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@@SUPERSPAZD bro ur literally brainrotted urself into thinking i care , i can type 4 letters that took 4 seconds n not gaf old head .
@@SUPERSPAZD bro did ur old head a** get my comment deleted? anyway
@@SUPERSPAZD Like I said, u been on the internet too much u think something i type that took less than 5 seconds means i still gaf, try again old head
Too many people make this same choice to drive under the influence and think that something like this would never happen to them. Thank u for spreading awareness. I feel like the trauma and guilt u are left with is punishment enough and I hope u continue to try to make a difference now.
What a tragedy, she is truly remorseful for what happened and this should be a lesson to everyone about driving under influence of anything or even driving while tired . RIP ✝️ to her friends who lost their lives
This gave me goosebumps. I think back to being young and know i made some really really stupid decisions including getting in the car when my friends had taken drugs. And you do think it wont happen to you. I am so lucky that it didnt.
Your comment could’ve been written by me. To think of all the times I drove reckless boggles my mind. This jarred my memory..
Wow…..what a BEAUTIFUL woman !!!! Rip to her friends 😢🪽🪽🪽🕊️🕊️🕊️
You didn’t have to do this. You are brave to open yourself up to so much criticism. I admire your courage. I hope you find peace and acceptance. By talking about this you could save a life. Thank you
I felt this deeply. Sad situation all round.
Yes I agree. Her remorse is so enormous it is palpable
Blessings and healing for Teresa and blessing for her friends souls who died in the accident also.
Wow. I had a similar experience with my friend driving home from a Toronto rave at 8am speeding 70-80MPH down the Sunday morning QEW- which was packed - there were 5 of us snoozing- I opened my eyes for “no reason” to surveye the scene out of nowhere and saw our driver was in the last stages of accelerating into the back of a 18wheeler in the left lane - I saw him nodded off- I yelled his name at the last second and he woke up, jerked the wheel in a correction maneuver that could have been worse but somehow, he pulled it off. We had traffic packed around us on a 6 lane highway- all going 70-80. Im sure others saw what was happening when he drifted lanes. It would have been just awful- a busy morning holiday in Canada. Sorry for your experience- keep sharing your story, you brought me back to the time when I almost left this mortal coil. For years, I had a hard time driving with people, I’d have fear in the passenger seat if they did anything fast and get pissed!. I might still have that tick.
Ah bless you , what a terrible tragedy for all of you, so easily done , so sad for you , so brave to share your story . We all did this years ago and thought nothing of driving home after festivals or nights out and thinking we were all invincible. Don’t blame yourself , my heart really goes out to you ❤🙏🩵
Poor woman. Can't imagine what that level of guilt does do a person
When I was her age I was involved in a similar party scene. I'm so grateful that me and my friends all lived downtown so we were able to cab everywhere after EDMs and clubs and not think about it. I knew MANY people that would drive though, after finishing their night/morning at the after hours. Even if you don't feel overtly high any more, all your sense are still off for some time and the intense fatigue can set in out of nowhere. It's an absolute tragedy and series of terrible mistakes but I feel for her and respect how deeply it has affected her and her resolve for atonement and carrying this loss with her.
The details of this was just horrific and awful all around, but I am glad this story was told. She did something really stupid and dumb, which had tragic consequences, but she sounds very remorseful. She cannot undo what she has done, but I hope she moves on, and has a good life.
She doesn't deserve a good life, sorry
Moves on? No, she sould not move on from the trauma she has caused herself and others. You think the victim's family have moved on??
@@melistasy It's a tragedy and awful all around, especially for the victims. I am sure she will feel shame and guilt for the rest of her life, but she cannot undo what is done. Also, the victims knew she was on E, and went along in the car knowing this information. Of course they did not know what would happen or are to blame, but it is just a tragedy all around.
Heartbreaking to listen to but think she's done everything she can to pay for what happened.
It must be the hardest thing to face knowing you killed your friends in a moment of carelessness.
I think she's very brave for going public and showing that she feels the guilt and pain.
We all do stupid things, hopefully nobody gets harmed but as in this case, sadly they did.
This woman is not a bad person
There are a lot of comments passing judgment on her story. Yes, clearly she made a very poor choice, but she is also clearly still carrying immense guilt and shame years later and seems to feel as responsible as she did the day it happened. What vulnerability it is to share her story in this way. Working in the substance use/mental health field, I have heard many stories similar to Teresa’s. If I have learned anything, her experience could be any of us. We are capable of anything through our decisions and choices if we are not careful. I do hope she continues to share her story to help educate and prevent youth and others to be mindful of what can occur through substance use. God bless you, Teresa.
" her experience could be any of us"...utter nonsense. I would NEVER drive under the influence of anything. Nor would I get in a car if I had even the slightest suspicion the driver was on drugs or drink.
I have never use cigarettes, drugs or alcohol. This is a conscious choice. I made this decision as a child. I come from a family of alcoholics and I saw what it did to them and us. This is not an accident. My sympathies lie with the families of those who died.
As my Japanese mother said. She shouldn't be carrying any guilt anymore because she should have gone to aokigahara and gotten it over with, the second she realized she killed people.
Who cares what she is feeling...she deserves every bit of guilt, shame etc. What matters is the deceased. Do you think the deceased would feel pity for her? She was responsible for their safety. Her actions were the only reason they died.
@@bv3bv334 You are a very miserable person. Who th are you to pass judgement on her ?! I can guarantee you, you are far from a perfect person. Get a new life because clearly you need some changes in your current. SHAME on YOU.
It sounds like even without any substance use, if it was late she could have nodded off anyway. I’ve never taken drugs but the number of times many years ago I’ve had to drive long distances while tired, trying all the tricks - window down, music full blast, drink coffee, stop for quick breaks but still felt soooooo goddam tired, I’m often surprised I’m still alive.
I agree with one of the earlier replies about doing talks in schools. Obviously don’t do drugs or drink and drive, but also don’t drive any reasonable distance when tired. If you start to feel your eyelids go, it’s time to pull over. Very valuable lesson and I’m literally about to go and talk to my kid about this.
I lived in France during a time when drinking and driving was considered perfectly normal. I was the driver and the beer at the party was very strong. The 2 dudes in the back were snoring away oblivious to how pissed I was but the dude in my passenger seat saw, and he stayed awake, talked to me to keep me awake, and pretty much watched me like a hawk for the entire drive back. I dread to think what would have happened if he hadn’t done that.
I agree. It honestly seems to me it was more tiredness in this case than drug influence. Typically after 4 hours those types of drugs have started to wear off. Sounds like her friends were acknowledging that she could get sleepy as they promised they would stay awake with her. They were also responsible adults who decided to do what they did.
What a horrible nightmare. This lady does not need anyone lecturing her on what she could have done better. I’m sure she has been over all those scenarios a million times. I pray freedom for her.
Ecstasy causes tiredness on the come down. Driving tired is also an offence. Not judging just more context. It’s an awful thing to live with. Horrendous for the families of the people who died. They also made a choice of course. It’s a risk to get in a vehicle even when not impaired. I think we are complacent about cars, I see so many people in their own world oblivious to a lot that is going on around them. In a bubble they think is safe. Modern cars even more so because speed doesn’t feel like much and the comfort, music, it’s like being in your living room not operating a speeding heavy machine that is as deadly as a weapon. Accidents can happen when not under the influence, split second of inattentiveness or other factors beyond the drivers control, but I do believe the ecstasy was a major factor here.
You may save countless lives through telling your story. Thank you for sharing.
Dear Teresa, your story was very moving to hear, and it's very clear you are a good person. You're extremely brave. Please don't take this burden solely on yourself. Your friends wouldn't want you to feel like that. You did it together, you just happened to be the driver. Anyone could have been in your group. It just happened to be you. You have taken responsibility and dealt with so much pain. You deserve to be free of guilt.
I am so sorry for your journey. I pray that you will find it in yourself to ask God to take this burden of guilt from you. If you ask, he will take it from you and give you peace. You survived for a reason. Many blessings and peace for your days ahead.
Oh my love 🧡 I’m so sorry. I hope you have continue to find some sense of peace. XX
In 2022 in our town 4 young adults were drinking at a party when they left the party the female driver started racing someone she saw at a stop light she lost control crashed into a pole the car split her 3 passengers had died on impact she walked away with a broken wrist. She is currently serving 5 yrs. It’s very tragic I feel for the families and the lives lost. She is remorseful at her court hearing she was a wreck she apologized for her bad choice she wished it would have been her instead of her three friends. Sad all the way around she will get out when she’s in her late 20’s I hope she can make a powerful impact with her Life she can be a public speaker in schools about drinking, racing & distracted driving.
should visit parties talk to that crowd too in daytime
Five years for killing 3? Wow
Self forgiveness is the ONLY answer to removing yourself from imprisonment ❤ Everyone makes mistakes which is the human experience ✨️ Did you ever think that you and your friends were all in agreement in your prebirth planning that you all participated in this so that you would be able to help educate others to never get behind the wheel whilst being intoxicated??? This is a very powerful message to all others that WILL save lives.
Thank you so much for your honesty. I feel a huge amount of compassion for you and all that you have been carrying through your life! It’s courageous of you to share this! You’re a good person. ❤️
Bless this lady. I know her friends forgive her, and would not want this lifetime of hellish suffering for her. Her penance has been paid.
Singingblueberry made a great comment saying speaking at schools would be a great opportunity for kids to benefit from her story. I couldn’t agree more. If you can make something anything good come from a tragedy like this you should. If just one kid hears this and it makes an impact on them and helps them make a better decision it would be so worth it. I pray for the families that lost their loved ones and I pray for this lady telling her painful story. I wish for her to find peace and forgiveness for her self
I know her friends forgave her 😢 It hurts them to see her suffer like that... One day in heaven they'll all reunite and hug her 🙏🏻
Probably not……. . But it’s over now ….
I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. But i am surprised that anyone is surprised that doing drugs and then getting behind a wheel might not go well. It could have been worse. But it isn’t a tragic thing that happened, it’s a thing that happened because of what she did. The fact that she wanted to go to prison makes it obvious that she has a conscience. And i think she has done her best to make amends. I wish her well and hopefully others will learn from her story.
I agree. When she keeps saying it was a ‘tragic accident’ it seemed a bit off. A tragic accident is a tree falling on someone in my opinion
It was an accident because she didn't kill them on purpose. Negligence and carelessness yes, but not on purpose.
What would she call it besides an accident? It was an accident. It wasn't deliberate
I don't think she was surprised. I don't think it works quite as black and white as you are saying. The effect of the drugs on the brain can affect a person's judgement, the effect of the belief the person has at the time and the beliefs of everyone else in the group affect judgement. If she had thought that this would have happened, I'd she had considered it, she would not have done it. So there was no intent.
@@sarahfellows3074 Nothing about what she shared and my response to it implied intent. She and people every day do what she did, take drugs and booze and get behind a wheel. None of them really believe they are taking a huge of risk by doing that. And so it keeps happening. If they did, they’d go to festivals and say - “I’m committing to being sober for the event.” Not “I’m going to stop using a few hours before I drive home.” You are going to a lot of trouble to parse this to absolve her of any actual responsibility for what happened. This story of hers, and her willingness to share it, is an opportunity for other people to learn from her fatal mistake. Part of her mistake was an error in judgement about it being safe to do a bit of ecstasy and then drive. My comment isn’t thoughtless and “black and white” as you say. And your comment isn’t about compassion or better critical thinking, it’s enablement. You are suggesting she isn’t really responsible because the drugs clouded her judgement. The drugs almost certainly clouded her judgement - no shit Sherlock. It’s why you don’t do them if you know you’re going to be operating a vehicle. She is 100% responsible for what happened. She certainly didn’t do any of it maliciously, she just did what a lot of people do, and excuse themselves for doing. And so it keeps happening because people do all kinds of mental gymnastics to convince themselves that “the universe just had that plan, so it happened.” Nope. Reckless decisions made by her caused this tragedy. Massively damaged her own life and ended her friends’ lives. Obviously none of it done with malicious intent, and yet several people died. She’s sharing a valuable lesson here and yet you and people responding as you are to what she’s sharing are refusing to hear it.
My heart goes out to her. I can sense this is very genuine and so hard for her.
She said she had used ecstasy before and driven and nothing happened. But there’s a a first time for everything. Don’t take risks with your life. I’m 63. Young people, stop and think about what it will take to be get to be my age and older. Make decisions based on wanting to live a long and healthy life.
We're human we all make mistakes bad decisions doesn't mean your a bad person.
A bad decision is not taking an umbrella on rainy day… Rethink that
What if she killed your kids??
Must be a terrible burden to live with this guilt
This poor woman has a life sentence of guilt
27 is very young
We do silly things when young
I feel very sorry for this woman's friends and this woman
A tragic story
She is bringing awareness to the perils of drug taking before driving ❤
She has to live with herself, yeah. But she's alive. They aren't.
@@JOHNTHEWHISK its beyond me why you continue to troll... I never understand why people think I know I'll write some dreadful comments...
Absolutely, a lot of us to crazy things when we're young, and it's neither here nor there. But every now and then something crazy happens.
Poor woman it's all so sad god bless
@@JOHNTHEWHISK They have responsibility too. They got into the car knowing she had taken half a pill a few hours earlier, and 2 of them didn’t wear seat belts. Everyone was at fault here. The only thing left to do is forgive. I hope she finds peace, she seems like a genuine soul.
Only 4 years and did only 2 years in prison!??!! That’s crazy. Smh, the justice system is horrible. I’m glad you’ll never do drugs again but 3 ppl still died.
I pray that the people who passed away are resting peacefully 🕊️
I have never wanted to hug someone through a screen more! God bless you, Teresa. ❤
I feel the same way! ❤
You know what? There are people on TH-cam that never killed anyone, never abused drugs, have led moral lives, and they get more hate than this woman. Incredible.
God bless this woman 😔 May her beautiful self find healing ❤️🩹 & her friends rest in peace 💐 I just want to give her a big hug. Xo.
Imagine the comments on this video if it were a headline in a newspaper “Drug Fuelled Woman Kills 3 Friends in Horror Crash”.
Oh no 😢😢 I physically felt her pain , she has paid & WILL ALWAYS pay in her soul , please help her lord ❤❤❤❤
27 is old enough to know better and not be influenced by peers to take drugs when you know you’re driving.
Nodding off behind the wheel is so common, she served jail time, she needs to forgive herself. She sounds like a great person 😢
I just don't understand how you can think it's okay to drive after a few hours of taking ecstasy? It would severely impair your judgment. Even walking home stoned I would want to make sure my friends got home safe but driving on E? And the first rule of any passengers is they must buckle up, the force of them hitting the front seats during an impact could be fatal for the driver too, its not just a decision that affects the individual. I feel like we need much more education in this country on driving, and why safety and mitigation is so important.
"HOW CAN YOU THINK IT'S OK TO DRIVE AFTER A FEW HOURS OF TAKING ECSTASY"? IT WOULD SEVERELY IMPAIR YOUR JUDGMENT.
You literally just asked then answered your own question. The answer is because yes it does severely impairs your judgment so that is why you would think it's OK to drive after taking it. I also speak from experience because when I was younger I took it and it 100% distorts reality, perception and time.
@@Naturefan354so how did you get there before taking ecstasy? What did you think before you took the estacy and had to drive home? Use your brain, the plan was always to drive home on drugs because “I can handle it and the effects lessened”
God heal your soul!. Heal all trauma. Blessings to you. 😢❤
No amount of prison could penalize her as much as she’s done to herself. Don’t get me wrong, I believe in accountability, paying for your mistakes. I’m just saying she obviously has integrity and her remorse is still immense. I pray that the families have all found some kind of peace… whatever that may look like for them. Tragedy, all the way around
So much compassion for her. I have made many poor decisions in my life, I have (emotionally) hurt others through my choices. The burden she has had to live with is so heavy. My Answer is Jesus. The comfort from Him surpasses everything.
Amen!
Good way for not taking responsibility.
@taopaille-paille4992 clearly this woman has talen responsibility because she has felt overwhelming guilt for years
@@rebeccaj7164 I was taking to Trust Jesus.
@@taopaille-paille4992 Why do you think that I did not take responsibility?
Her accent is very soothing .. RIP to your friends you have a purpose that’s why your still here ❤
Her friends got into the car with her as well. This lady mustn't place all of the blame on herself.
I guess that's true, they were all adults...
And 2 chose not to wear seatbelts. The blame should definitely be shared.
@@kezzokav5905 Absolutely.
Sometimes we don’t make good choices when we’re younger, I made a lot of bad ones! I’m older & wiser now ❤
You can tell how sincere this beautiful lady is she means every word she says & has used her lapse of judgment/mistake to do good in this world & try to help others what a brave amazing lady to turn things around .. we have all made mistakes some more serious than others but let’s not all pretend we have never taken drugs or drank many of us here have made mistakes especially in our teens/20s & taken silly risks. I speak as someone who has stupidly drank drove twice in my 20s who like this lady felt she had control luckily nothing happened then I’ve been on the other side being involved in a serious accident by a careless driver on his phone despite him not showing much compassion or genuine remorse I can forgive & know as humans we make mistakes unfortunately some end with such seriously devastating consequences. I think this woman is a good woman I’m happy for her she seems to have found peace ☮️
She should go into schools. She could really help people. Feel so much for her... 💓
I am sorry for your pain!
You must continue to move forward. The world needs each and everyone of us. Thank you for telling us your story
Incredibly sad and upsetting. Thank you for sharing your story.
God help her and the loved ones of those lost 💔💔💔💔💔
glad she is talking about it and that she is sorry AND SHE CAN SHARE THE STORY TO PREVENT THINGS LIKE THIS!!!
All the comments defending her are exactly why people dont learn, and think they can get away with this. She was 27, not a child, had done it before and arrogantly believed she could keep getting away with it. People dead because of her, she should be in jail. Can sit crying on camera all she wants, doesn't bring them back. No one is perfect but this goes beyond that.
It's so refreshing to see so many supportive comments here. It's so true that we are all more than capable of making poor decisions that have drastic consequences, especially when in the presence of our peers. It's clear Theresa is consumed with guilt and knows she will be haunted by this mistake for the rest of your life. I hope she can heal from this
sad all round, you took responsibility, you then have to live with that decisions you made best of luck for the future.
Praying for her and her friends😔
I have been in a car before with people driving recklessly. You don’t have to drive recklessly it is a choice . Don’t get in a car with people you barely know. The consequences can be disastrous. One split second can cause a crisis and change lives forever .
It was brave of her to tell this story. People always want to blame someone without thinking about what that person goes through. My cousin (more like a sister) pulled out in front of a loaded dump truck. It messed him up emotionally.
You are such a brave, honest person. It takes so much courage to admit what you did and take ownership, I admire you greatly. There but for the grace of God go so many of us. I took stupid risks and got away with it, boy was I lucky. Nobody should be judging you and the person judging you most of all is yourself. My heart goes out to you I want to give you a big hug. ❤❤
You can feel the pain and guilt that she feels. The whole situation is so sad. People lost their lives because of one decision, one mistake. But I don’t think her friends would want her to suffer like this, especially after all these years. Because I don’t think you’re the same person at 45 as you were at 27. I don’t think you’re the same person after something like this. She lived, but the guilt must be unbearable.
There are a lot of comments showing a lot of empathy. I think that is great. Bad things happen to everyone. Some are worse than others. If this had happened last week there wouldnt be a single decent comment. I find that interesting.
Why is anyone doing these wild things at 27? This sounds like someone describing an experience from when they were 16.
You have taken accountability and done your time. Now, lift up your chin and thrive. If you want to help the world and be a good citizen, smile, laugh,
and be a good listener. Do not become a martyr for the cause.
Thank you for sharing your story so sensitively. 💖
I was raving around this time period, late nineties/early aughts. Driven plenty of times rolling balls. By the grace of God I’m still here. Prayers to this woman - we all make dumb decisions as kids.
The amount of people in this comment section saying, “hey, we’ve all done stupid things like this!”… just proves to me that punishments for driving under the influence are no way near harsh enough. Too many people brush off drinking & driving or using drugs & driving as a “youthful indiscretion”. NOPE. NOT ME. NOT ONCE. I’ve never done it & I have zero tolerance for anyone who does it or defends it as “a mistake”. NO, you’re just a horrible selfish narcissistic person. It’s been well known for DECADES how being intoxicated negatively impacts a person’s reflexes when driving, so… no one should get a 2nd chance to F* up another person’s life because you were too stupid to call a cab. I also find it interesting how many people are blaming her passengers because they decided to get in the car with her, but no one even mentions that she could have killed or injured a completely INNOCENT victim if she had crashed into another car or a pedestrian. Again - penalties for this crime need to be WAYYYY harsher than they are.
@@lopear111 I do believe she is massively remorseful and I do feel sorry for her. It’s a terrible thing to have to live with and I’m sure she’d give anything to change the choices she made. That said, this was entirely her fault. Her passengers did not take on the responsibility to drive. They weren’t responsible for knowing whether she was still under the influence. All of this was 100% her responsibility. She has actually taken responsibility. What’s shocking is the number of people in the comments section suggesting that she isn’t responsible. That it could happen to anyone. And claiming her friends could have offered to drive. She was the driver, end of. And it could not happen to anyone. It could only happen to someone who is 1) totally ok with doing illegal drugs and 2) chooses to drive after doing those illegal drugs. That’s not everyone.
@@Mary-tj5qx i'm appalled by the comments too, really disgusting all those virtue signalling. All for likes.
@@AlexandreLimbergernot our place to judge, lest we also be judged, forgive yourself
I feel for her a lot, but it wasn’t an accident, it was poor decisions.
Best comment! 👍
It is still an accident as there was no intention behind it. Regardless of poor decisions .. still an accident.
Yes by everyone, not just her.
Hard to listen to. Especially as she was 27, I was expecting teens or twenties. I’m not surprised the deceased parents are no longer in contact, doesn’t matter how remorseful she is they still have to live without their children. No winners here.
I know If I was one of her friends *...* I would be so proud of her for this.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry you had to endure such a painful experience ❤
Ok, the results were as bad as they could possibly be, it was an awful accident but you can clearly see at her core she is a good person, I've done stupid stuff before too and got away with it, I feel for all involved
I hope some day she feels peace and is able to let go of this burden. Everyone here is at fault. They had all done drugs, and driving home after a festival late at night, they absolutely should have stayed awake with her. Imagine if she had been the one to pass away, they all would have blamed themselves too. Very heartbreaking situation and she’s been through enough, people don’t need to pile on and act like they’ve never made a bad choice.
That's so much bad luck for everyone involved on that day
DUI is not bad luck, it's a choice
Such a terrible story . Her empathy for her friends is real and emotional. I feel for her and allso for her friends. Words can’t describe this terrible event . My thoughts are with her and her friends and there families. 🙏🙏🙏
She is lucky innocent strangers didn’t get harmed, these people knew what they were doing.
Exactly 💯
I think of the times I drove with too much too drink or we all smoked pot and drove. As horrible as this story is, her friends knew that she was high, and she still carries immense guilt. A very tragic story
I've chosen to never drink and drive and don't smoke anything it's not hard choice for alot of people. Isn't it just common sense 🤔 🙄
To be fair it wasn't "just an accident". An accident is something that happens without intention. Driving whilst under the influence of drugs is intentional.
It is categorically an accident in the judicial system. Also, what do you want her to call it? She explained in detail how she fell asleep at the wheel. That part was an error or accident. What words should she use? She served time, volunteered, gave up her right to drive, was on medications and is still haunted by the outcome decades later. Even the court and her circle let her move on.
@@fornx8574 Doesn't matter what the "judicial system" calls it. It wasn't an accident. She drove drugged up. These things happen when druggies get behind the wheel. Same goes for Alcoholics. WE ALL KNOW THIS FACT. That is why driving while on drugs is prohibited. She knew this. And yet she chose to drive. No accident. An inevitable outcome, more like. No amount of apologising by her, by you for her, or by anyone else on her behalf is going to change the FACT that these things happen when druggies get behind the wheel. So, no, not an accident. I am confident if you could contact the deceased and tell them that it was an "accident", because that is how the "judicial system" labelled it, they certainly wouldn't feel any better about the fact they have lost their lives.
She didn’t intend to kill them.
@@Paul-u3i6b "Your judgement is flawed"...and yours isn't?
@@Paul-u3i6b "Whatever punishemnt you feel she deserves means nothing at all"....And where did I mention punishment?
My heart goes out to you..
I almost came off the road once when driving late at night alone and tired when I was young. It made me realise how easy something like this could happen. Hard to know from what she said whether the cause was tiredness or drugs or both. Obviously you should never drive under the influence or very tired. I respect this woman for telling this story , I'm praying for her. It has obviously been devastating.
Yo, I had the read the thumbnail like 15 times…scratching my head thinking, how’d she kill her friends driving without gas, I don’t get it”
Absolutely same here man. I came to the comments for validation of this. Got it, thank u lol. At least 1 Someone else thought the same thing
I clicked the video bc I thought the same thing too 🫣 bc I drive on low gas ⛽️ all the time and I'm like omg I have to watch this