Most of these comments are scary. They are in a phase that is challenging. It’s okay to tell their exhaustion from their eyes. It’s okay for there to be a slight disconnect. What’s important is that they are still committed to growing and becoming together. Family expectations can change over the years and it’s not our place to say who is doing it wrong or right over a 15 minute video. You don’t know the conversations they have or the weight of any of them carry. The internet is really becoming scary and forgetting to give people grace and allow them be human. I love you guys so much and pray that you enjoy every season of your marriage.
@@neidrawright9621I would rather say it how it is … is literally their thumbnail… I RATHER SPEAK UP ON WHAT I CAN SEE (I am 40yo) and hope I can spark a little something in both than stay quite and in a few months years hear a tragic outcome …
A table of 4 is a full table. I loved Jess's answer to that question! It reflects the load mothers carry, besides the literal carry of the baby in their bellies. It's more than just aesthetics (yes, wishing for a "full table" is in part a picture dream), its how much of a parent you can be FOR LIFE, and the quality of that. Parenting shouldn't be about quantity but about quality! Plus, there is a LITERAL mental change to mothers brain, as your heart grows with each baby you have, your body is paying a price. I pray for Jess's recovery to be as smooth as possible and for her to feel herself again! Mothers know best
Why so many excuses, I somebody says I want to have 2 children, then stop, period, why she has to explain herself or people need to find some sort of explanation why she doesnt want more. What is event he concept of wanting to have more and more children, are people greedy or what? Its perfectly normal to have two children, and nothing else needs to be added. Period.
also! when those children have children and they’re older, they WILL have a full table. My parents had two girls and already with our spouses and children it’s a big event
You can tell they're going through it. The vibe is different. Jess is OK to express your opinion and set boundaries. You have to think about yourself first. You already gave enough
Is Jess the main breadwinner in the house too? I don’t watch them very often, but more often than not Gabe is struggling mentally. I get mental illness, but I can only imagine how exhausting it would be for Jess especially now they have 2 young children.
@@ARandomAnna she posts more consistently on her individual channel, he hasn't posted a video on there in years, so probably. I'd like to believe he has things going on behind the scenes that he just can't share yet.
my husband just asked me if I ever regret not having more kids. our daughter is 13 and I got my tube's tied when she was maybe 3... i had an awful experience being pregnant and never wanted to put myself through that again. I told him sometimes I feel sad she doesn't have someone but I am so happy and satisfied with just being her mother. Jess, you as a women and a mother know what's best for you. you got this girl. and marriage, oh it's hard but that's family.
For all of you leaving bad comments about their marriage and about Gabe, if you are so worried about them start praying for them instead of speaking ill about them, we've seen them fall in love, get married, grow into a beautiful marriage through the years, if you guys truly believe something is off, pray about it, that God can give them strength and keep protecting their marriage instead of gossiping.
Thanks for your comment. I was only blessed with one healthy child after having 2 miscarriages. I am thrilled to be a mum but even having just one child comes with some challenges as far as time, energy and expenses are concerned. There are pros and cons no matter how many children we have.
I say this to my child all the time, I was only able to have one kid, and it’s hard when all your family members have 1+ kids, my son grew up watching all his little cousins have siblings but him. Still trying to be the best mom I can to an only child. ❤
@ It’s just how God intended it to be. Never speak of it negatively ❤️ One thing I grew up to love being an only child is the very special relationship I have with my mother. We’re literally just like bestfriends! I feel like I wouldn’t have had that special bond with her if I had other siblings around (my mom had 2 miscarriages). Don’t worry about it too much ❤️❤️
You don't have to have 4 or 5 kids to have a full table, you can have 2 kids and then they will get married and have their own spouses and kids so the table will still be full 🙏🏻🥰❤
Why so many excuses, When somebody says I want to have 2 children, then stop, period, why she has to explain herself or people need to find some sort of explanation why she doesnt want more. What is event he concept of wanting to have more and more children, are people greedy or what? Its perfectly normal to have two children, and nothing else needs to be added. Period.
Thing is both Jess and Gabe are from families with 3 siblings so that must be pressure they put on themselves to have more kids than 2 because otherwise it's not a "full" family, I think 😢
@@Alina-zx6nn She will figure out it is not all magic with him.... Guys like him have a traditional view of women and its hard to break out of it since she agreed living this kind of lifestyle.
I want to give you jess a hug 🥺 i’m a new mom and i know it’s hard to take care of your kids sometimes and you forget yourself and your need but i’m proud of you it will get easier soon 🫂💗💗
I had four kids and my postpartum depression got progressively worse with each one. By the 4th child I needed serious help and I was so exhausted I couldn’t help myself. I would say be prepared to talk to your doctor and be in close touch if you have another child ❤
I find it ridiculous that people keep wanting more and more kids when their own mental health is at stake like how can u be so selfish? Isn't it a common sense that u wont be able to properly provide love to them if YOU'RE not happy ? Already ruining your own life, good, now ruin theirs too
@@user-zu9un6st4tI’m pregnant with my 4th and 3 times never had PPD, anxiety, or any mental health issues. My mother died when I was pregnant with my third and that was the most difficult time of my life, but my kids honestly pulled me from the pit of despair and helped me heal. Everyone is different. Parenting is a struggle but one well worth every bit of it.
17:05 I absolutely love how he worded it. That they're surviving through this difficult time on the strong base that they have built throughout their entire relationship and thinking positively of their future. Basically #relationshipgoals honestly lol
Jess. Your feelings matter and your opinions do too. Think about yourself 1st because if you don’t, no one will do it for you - trust me. ❤️ I have such a sweet spot for you and hope you have a happy life. ❤
Are you a christian? Just saying because arrived here because Jess is. Your advice is selfish with we try to avoid, God will think about us, so "o one will do it for you" is not nice. God bless you!
I hope they both really are okay, gabe seems really over it and out of it and it seems jess is the one holding all of it together been a supporter for years and hope they make it!.
The post partum period is like no other time in someone’s life, for both husband and wife. It is extremely difficult in all facets, and if you have little to no time for yourself, that includes not having time for your significant other. The survival aspect in the beginning is very normal. They just need some more time. They otherwise seem fine.
Exactly I wish I was a man too the only thing they gotta do to procreate is to have fun cum game and Walla, no risk of dying no risk of body change no risk of discomfort for 9 months no problem of emotional rollercoaster.
It’s important to not father’s financial provider capabilities , he’s capable of supporting a child and also conceiving that child with her. Not everything is just birth , creating children if it was celebrated way birth was conception is also huge a man basically impregnating their wife
You guys are always so Honest, real, and raw. Me and my Partner welcomed our First November 2023, after a year of our daughter, our relationship has been tested hard at times but it’s brought us tighter than ever. I wouldn’t trade for the world!!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Steve_porss1 is the man , I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety."
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live. Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
It feels like gabe just doesnt feel accomplished in himself on his own right. And feels depressed about that, he talked about that already couple years ago. I hope things work out for him. Saying that, there should be more support for jess' personal growth and career from him. Jess is not just a mother and her own person. And i feel like she really pressures herself in that regard, but also prides herself in that. I hope with gabes help she can find a balance and think of her own health and happiness. Getting support from gabe is important and i hope he is prioritizing jess enough.
People are wildin. Dynamics between partners can and should change with shifting life circumstances, but it is not our job as their supporters to determine whether or not their relationship is up to our standards. They willingly share a tiny portion of their lives with us, and it's bold for people to fill in all the gaps between the lines. Making judgments and assumptions is hurtful! We have always loved your content and your family, thanks for continuing to share❤
Yeah for real all of the unsolicited advice and retrospection into their lives and motives is strange coming from these other subscribers on this video. Also if you’ve never even had kids, please especially*** refrain from making comments, because until you actually have kids of your own you will never understand the dilemma and personal conflict between wanting more children and being realistic about how hard it is to raise multiple children.
I really couldn't understand why people have this hate towards them, especially Gabe. I even went ahead and googled Gabe and Jess, only to find a reddit thread of hateful comments. It seems there's a group of people who have decided to just attach Christian couples. Please, let's make Jess and Gabe aware. It's just so sad.
Yes. And Having more than one child especially in early post partum weeks/months is not easy. On the mother or couple. The unsolicited advice is so weird. It’s their marriage and if she decides to have more kids it’s fully her decision just as much as his..
Thank you for this most of the comments I’ve been reading are completely out of order we all love Jess & Gabe they mean a lot to us they deserve our support, love, prayer & encouragement in this transition stage not the opposite!
This was all exactly why I stayed 1 and done. I knew I had hit my capacity after 1 and so little sleep. I’m also really happy, my son is now 6 and having 1 just felt right for me. I have friends who had 2 when my son was little and they all seemed SO overwhelmed, exhausted, one had postpartum depression, it just didn’t feel like a happy place. Just thankful whenever I see the validation that it’s ok to choose what’s best for you. You don’t even have to have kids if you don’t want that. Be smart enough to know yourself and what is best for your life.
@@brucenina3615 mine is a 2 year old too and I'm wondering if I'm capable to handle more. I'd love to give ger a sibling but it's been really hard having a small kid😭
I love having 2! I found it easier than 1 as they entertain each other - one is 2.5 and the other 6 months. It’s so much better than 1. Everyone has different experiences 🥰
I'm pregnant with our first and we've already decided that this is it. Talking about having kids before we got pregnant, we always said we wanted two, but this pregnancy has been so difficult with so many complications so neither of us want to go through it again. If we were to 'have' another child, it would be years before we even thought about it and we've already decided that if we do, it'll be adoption instead of having our own.
Since they’ve mentioned not wanting to be a family channel like other TH-camrs and are keeping their kids private, I’m really curious how this channel will look now that they have two kids. It’s a big shift, and especially with Gabe seeming less invested in TH-cam lately, it makes me wonder what direction they’ll take in the future. Just something I’ve been thinking about as a longtime viewer!
My mom wanted four kids, but she had two miscarriages, and two live babies. Now my brother and I are both married, so she always says she has four kids (us two and our spouses) like she dreamed of. Her table is now full with us plus her grandkids. 🥰
Im pregnant with my fourth.. I really really really want this baby. BUT when my husband right after our third was born said he cant wait for us to have another I wanted to sent him to outer space 😂😂😂 Their baby is so tiny.. maybe she would consider another baby in a few years from now 😊 Her reaction was totally normal
i have watched and supported you guys ever since the first day you met & i know i’ll always be a huge fan of you both because i just know you’re good people. i’ve just been going through the comments & i actually agree with all of them. coming from a mama who has a 2 year old and a 5 month old, it’s HARD. me and my partner don’t get any quality time together, we haven’t been on a date for 2 years because we have no one to help us. my partner works full time and is also studying, i, of course am currently a stay at home mama (i won’t be forever tho 🤞🏻). i feel so lucky to have my partner as he openly admits he’d rather work and study than be a stay at home parent as it’s harder with the kids. he says himself that he can clock off from work, but you can’t do that when your work is home. when i was younger, i wanted 4 children BUT when i actually fell pregnant, i found out that my body does not carry well. both of my pregnancies were the worst months of my life, and i feel so guilty for saying that but it’s true. i was so unwell, physically and mentally so after our second, i said “that’s it. no more kids.” & my partner went and had a vasectomy, as after having two kids, he also said “we’ve been blessed with two, and that’s enough.” we’ve both only just started to go back to the gym, and have some sort of a ‘normal’ life back. i, of course struggled a lot after my awful pregnancies and births, because it’s us women who go through the ordeal on our own (physically especially). i don’t think anyone can actually comprehend just how much our bodies go through when carrying and birthing a baby, it’s not easy and it takes a long time to feel ‘okay’ again. so it’s okay to change your mind on how many kids you want, especially after experiencing it. honestly, if you sat me & my partner down, our answers would have been very similar to yours and that’s okay. i hope you’re both okay, you’re doing great. i always appreciate honest videos like this, because it makes us feel like we’re not alone 🤍
Thank you for being vulnerable & honest about the adjustment from 1-2 kiddos! I totally understand how it’s hard. Especially if he is having a hard napping all of this time. That’s rough! Our 2nd had horrible colic for a month. Soon as we gave her mother’s nature gas drops, it helped sooooo much!!! Other than that, we felt it was easier going from 1-2 than 0-1 because we knew what to expect and how to handle situations when it got rough.
I feel as though this is normal. Since women naturally have to take on more parenting responsibilities in the baby stage, they may not want more kids. As for the selfish comments about Gabe..he is not forcing her to have a certain amount of kids. He is clearly understanding. He is not being selfish for answering a question honestly.
@@ashleybarrios3679I agree, in our household it’s the other way around, and we have constant discussions about how we feel, but we are also in the thick of 2 under 2. Permanent decisions shouldn’t be made in the thick of postpartum.
They got married in their early 20s people change SO much by the time they turn 30. They’re probably growing apart. Jess seems way more mature, grounded, and smart
This was such a hard watch. I’ve been here since 2018 when you was both long term, and I know it is SO hard having a toddler and a newborn but gabe seem so distant and Jess seems like she’s trying. However we all love you and we’re here for you ♥️
I feel like the home schooling put Gabe in a bubble and he can’t seem to let this “content creator” thing go. If it wasn’t for Jess who would actually be watching his content? 😕
@@Ravencycle21he's been struggling with depression since 2017 right? I'm not saying it's his fault but as a husband and the father of his children, he needs to find help and get better rather than citing the same reason and use it as an excuse to not work or parent their children. Also he seemed very enthusiastic to only answer questions directed to him but was so sarcastic making faces whenever she answered. Frankly, i hope they resolve whatever issues they have but she deserves so much better.
The answer they gave on the marriage question, that they are living on the base that they have created before is the most honest and realistic answer given in history, honestly, this is why people should not get married because of a pregnancy, the couple needs to make that decision and journey for themselves alone or they don’t make it after, ive never meet a couple that got together for a kid that lasted, this way you need the base to survive having kids
Love yalls growth. So inspiring and relatable! Love seeing you guys strong in your faith and navigating life to the best of your ability because at the end of the day that’s all we can do, showing up 100% and letting God take care of everything else! Def my role models 🫶🏼🫶🏼
Jess and Gabe i just want to remind you don’t take any comment here to the heart, other people lead different lives than yours they have different experience and relationships so they shouldn’t projects their experiences and expectations on you , also everyone want to act like a psychologist on the internet and they wanna put diagnosis on others thinking they are helping when they are not , you know yourselves better . I think you believe that too but for me personally i just realized that if you keep being thankful and sincerely grateful for the things that God give you or put on your way wither bad or good your life gets better and your worries got less like genuinely believing that God have your best interest in mind in everything in your life so you should never despair.
11:40 We will keep praying about it and if god wants us to have more kids…. ??????????? HOW ABOUT YOU ASKED YOUR WIFE WHAT SHE WANTS. This is ridiculous
I think he means, God will guide them both if they are both ready for more kids or not. And if they are both not ready, then they will interpret it as Gods message as well. The problem with Christians is that we just word things badly and non religious people misinterpret us.
@ you don‘t get it. jess is literally saying her limit might be 2 or 3. (let‘s be honest she is pushing it with 3 and only saying it cause gabes there) and gabe is like YeAa welll let‘s seee what god wants. Aka he is not taking her seriously and lowkey pressuring her to change her mind. CAUSE HE KNOWS EXACTLY THAT HE WANTS HIS DUMB TABLE. HE KNOWS THAT HE WANTS 5. HE KNOWS JESS PROBABLY DOES NOT WANT MORE. So he just ignores it and hope she will give him what he wants. MAYBE he‘s not even aware his doing that. But a good husband in my opinion would say that it‘s his wifes decision because it is her body and she makes more sacrificies OBVIOUSLY.
The way you look at each other never changed. Your love for each other is so strong, it makes me so happy. Also, i’ve been here since 2016!! Love you guys🫶🏼
don't let this man convince u to have more kids, jess. u're already giving so much of yourself to your family. you're strong brave and so hard working and men will NEVER know what women go thru, when it comes to both pregnancy, giving birth AND being a mom in general always makes u carry the most weight in the household. u're a provider too so it's insane. wait at least 10 more years, then think about it again. let the kids grow and then let yourself pursue other things that are Not only motherhood, u deserve it!!!!!!!!!
You sound like a serpent. This man is her husband. I really hope she is strong enough to not listen to people like you. Having children with your husband is not a decision that is only hers. He made a covenant with her and viceversa. They are in the trenches of parenthood right now, no one regrets having more kids, but a lot of people regret not having more. They both need mentors that have already been through this really tough time, and not only listen to their present experiences. This stage passes and emotional, mental and fiscal strength comes back. I have 4 kids, my time in the trenches was really hard, but now that my oldest is 14, I’m thankful I didn’t let my decisions be guided by my feelings during that time.
This is what an INCEL would say, stay away from this channel and stop spreading negativity. I guarantee that you are someone who's struggling with relationships in life and DON'T try to bring this family down with you.
As someone who’s been following you since the beginning of your relationship, it’s so refreshing to see a healthy couple… And when I say healthy I don’t mean the unrealistic perfect couples we see all over social media, healthy to me means that even when you’re struggling you still manage to work things out and come out even stronger… Most of the time in any relationship things are hard and we have to make a lot of compromises if we want it to work. Thank you for showing us that among all this “hookup culture” there are still people who fight for what they love 🤍! Love y’all and sorry for my English, I know it’s not that good 😅
THIS! Exactly! Well said. What I see is a loving couple that is going through challenging times, but is willing to make things work together. God bless them.
I'm so sure they have already talked about everything they're sharing in this video, so they feel comfortable with each other, as the have show us this whooole time. They've proved that they have a very strong marriage and that they're very comunicative. Obviously, they're still adjusting to the two babys routing ❤ so happy and proud of you, guys, I know you will always do the best for your family
it's the womans choice if she wants to have more kids or not, not the man. the woman goes through the birth, the pain, and postpartum. the man doesn't have to go through any of that, so they don't get to decide how many kids they want
That's only true in an unhealthy, immature relationship where you see your husband or wife as an enemy. In a mature, stable relationship both people's stances on children matter. Both people talk about children before getting married and during a marriage, they both communicate about their thoughts and feelings on a subject matter. If they don't see eye to eye (depending on the subject) they agree to disagree, compromise, get professional help or leave as a last resort.
Parenting is hard work every single day, both physically and mentally. Gabe and Jess are in the thick of it right now with 2 young babies. It takes time to adjust and get into a good routine.
This is real, raw, and beautiful! I can only imagine two kids and going on little sleep! Will keep you guys in my prayers. Thank you for sharing! Love you guys! Will continue to support❤
For men, it's just a random number they throw. Had they experienced 1% of the discomfort and pain of pregnancy and child birth, they would've shut up. But they don't care nor have empathy
This was such a real video. I had two babies 10 months apart. I didn’t have any issues after my first, but I had postpartum depression after my daughter. She’s 3 now, and I still feel like I have it sometimes. It is hard, the sleep deprivation is real, but I promise you - it gets better. It is survival mode for the first three years. You will come out of it and have time for yourself again. Sending prayers and well wishes. 🤍
For peoples who defending gabe that he’s not selfish & he can express his view. Yes he can . But should he? This women had 2 very traumatic birth experience & now unintentionally u making her feel guilty that she can’t have more if she would they had more, that’s a guilt women carries her with her entire life, she already gave u 2 beautiful children. I know he’s not forcing her or anything but making her feel guilty about it is not ok. It’s ok to say i want more kid when u dont carry them for 9 months & destroy your bory your mental health your back your boobs your Vgg. U can be shut up for rest of your life & make your women proud of it.
And this man child doesn't even work. She does it all. Bring money in, taking care of the kids etc and all he does is complain about being depressed and makes her do what he wants. Idk how delusional people can be to find reasons fr this man child. Jess clearly made a huge mistake marrying someone like him.
I wonder how you would respond if it was Jess who wanted to have more kids, and Gabe said he would struggle to have more. Would you defend Gabe the way you’re defending Jess? Would you say Jess should be more understanding of her husbands struggles? I doubt it. Men are allowed to share their desires in their marriage. Unfortunately they’ve shared 15 mins of their lives a week - with a bunch of people who are so critical of everything they say or do.
I couldn’t agree more. He panned out to be a bit of a disappointment. As soon as the real life hit him he turned into just like you said a man child. He sees himself as the victim that’s got it hardest. He needs to man up and turn into a man. To me it feels like the tables have turned, at the beginning Gabe loved her more than she loved him and now it’s the other way around . That’s the worst thing that can happen in her situation. He will be putting himself first in many ways and everything will fall onto Jess. She didn’t deserve this.
the Lord has recently softened my heart to having more babies after my 2. my youngest just turned 1 and i had a hardened heart towards it for 14 months. but i prayed and he finally softened my heart and we are now trying for our next 🤍 i received the same advice as you jess, don’t make perm decisions in this stage. i’m glad i didn’t because i almost went through with the irreversible thing for my hubby! y’all are one of the most godly people i know & follow. jess, you know that by yourself you don’t have the capacity to be a good mother, but only through the LORD, will he GIVE you the capacity to be a godly mother as many as He desires 🫶🏽🕊️ praying for you both & your growing family! psalm 127:3 🛐
Love your testimony of a softened heart and in allowing God to Write His Story through your life. I had my life plan all set and planned to have two kids after my career… to first have a boy at age 30 and then girl, two years later. Upon hearing my plan, my mother was beside herself and asked who in the world I thought I was to determine when, how, and what about my life…and told me to just let God be Lord. I saw my pride, repented, and surrendered my life plan to God and ended up having 10 kids (with 2 in Heaven) and ZERO regrets!! My eldest turned out to be a girl, (I had wanted a boy) and is now a surgeon! God Writes the Best stories if we step aside and trust Him!😇💭🙌🏽💯 In my experience, a life surrendered to God’s Plan is the best life; He is kind to give us the grace, strength , and whatever it is we need to fulfill His Plan…. Our job is to be the willing Vessel to bring His Plan into fruition. Anyway, thanks for your time in reading this! May God bless you and your family to fulfill all His Dreams and Intentions for your lives!🙏🏽🕊️❤)✝️💯
Gabe there is more to life than kids. If u put them at the center ur depression will be 100x worse when they become independent and leave the house....say good bye to family dinners. Jess has been carrying this relationship since it started. She had to care for a depressed husband and now two children. This is okay but its a lot. The fact that gabe was the first to answer that baby #3+ question is so so wrong... turn to ur wife and let her speak FIRST bc its her choice. Its like he doesnt care what she is going thru. Anyway good luck to ur family and jess 4 ppl at a table is enough. Ur too nice for him. Gabe stop treating ur wife as a doormat.
wait I havent seen you guys in ages. i remember you both flying back and forth to see each other, and then decided to check how long you've been married. DID NOT THINK IT HAD BEEN OVER 8 YEARS FROM WHEN I FIRST SAW YOU BOTH! that is insane. i feel so old, I am 23 now and i remember seeing you guys when i was about 13/14 in middle school omggg
I think it's more of the woman's call on how many kids to have, in a sense, or when to have them, because they know their body and emotional safety. God is obviously always tyere,but God won't spit you out just because you don't have a ton of kids.
I really enjoy your content, and I'm so happy to see you here. I'm sending you both lots of love and Gods blessings. (To those judging, especially Christians, remember, it is not our place to judge, especially based on a very very tiny snippet of their lives. For those saying that something is off, as a Christian, you should instead pray for them, and if you feel like their content doenf resonate or interest you anymore, then unsubsribe and stop watching. So many people are struggling silently. You don't know just how dangerous one negative comment can be to someone straggling. So please, practice kindness, first, with yourselves, and then you'll stop projecfing on others, including strangers on social media. Speak blessings on your lives and on others instead of spewing negativity and hate on people that you don't know and may never meet. If you're a parent or married and are leaving negative comments on this young family, then you ought to really reflect and put yourselves in their shoes. As you point at them, 4 more fingers are pointing at you. If you are not married and don't have kids yet, then you're just being a hater, really. Please, Christians, love to show kindness, grace, and the love of Christ. As a matter of fact here is a challenge for all of us this week, let's pray for the Holy Spirit to impart us with His fruits, that we may be good stewards, and not pharisees.)
take a weekend off and do something together. Go out, have fun, recharge your batteries. Married life isn't just about raising children. It's also important not to lose yourself in the process. Otherwise you'll just end up living past each other. Gabe just looks completely worn out, more so than Jesse (probably because she's wearing makeup). But in my opinion you really need time for yourselves. Gabe doesn't look so happy anymore, more sad and tired and lost in thought. Two children under 3 is hard, but it gets better. It's also important to make time for each other.
Kids are HARD work! Especially in the beginning - and you need support to enjoy the date nights and have a helping hands. But I love this comment . Supportive and helpful advice. date nights would be nice once the baby is a bit older right now, it’s hard to do
My experience from 1 to 2 was way worse than 0 to 1. The hardest thing was not sleeping enough cause the baby keeping me all night in the first 1 month and the toddler wants to play in the morning. Also the postpartum was really emotional, cause I don't know if anyone feel the same, but I feel guilty all the time. When I look at my toddler I felt guilty cause I didn't have time for her as I used to, but when I look at my baby I also felt guilty cause I can't give him all the time I have as I used to when my toddler was a baby. SO I cried everyday and it lasted pretty long. I think 2 months. My first postpartum emotional stage was only lasted 1 week. All respect to family that have children more than two and do it alone.
I don’t know why but I’ve started having a really strange feeling about gabe after the first child. It’s like he sees himself as an unaccomplished actor that’s become a victim to fatherhood. He doesn’t seem to have his heart is in it. Jess looks like she’s the one carrying the marriage and having to be a full time mother at the same time. I hope she’s okay and gets the love and support she needs.
I told my mum about them, she said ah wait, this relationship is not as perfect as they make it appear. I would be careful to idolize any online marriage. They struggle as any other person too.
Nah, he does nothing. His social are dying. And he doesn't get sponsors and they have naby videos where they've said he is "taking a break" sane story for yeaaarsss now @@Madelein211
What the hell are you talking about? 1 you don't know them personally, 2 i say these comments are bad, you don't live with them and you don't know what happens in they lives. You are capable of judging. Look your live, look in your house.
If it helps. Really hope this helps. My mom had 7 of us. Something that’s helped her is continuing to pray. Having little time for herself everyday even tho it got challenging. My dad would work mornings and she was home 24/7 taking care of us. When my dad would get home her and him would have dinner together. Cleaning around the house, taking a shower when dad is home to watch the babies, sing, take me and my siblings out on a walk and getting back make popcorn for us and movie time. Mind you we didn’t have much money growing up but she always kept going, kept herself busy and she had all of us 2years apart in age. I get along with all my siblings so glad she had us back to back and I know she sacrificed so much for us but super grateful. My mom and dad’s relationship always up and down but what’s important is u continue to chose each other and never go to sleep mad at each other. They were never perfect but I can see till this day they are perfect for each other. Also the biggest thing that has helped my siblings and I be good to each other is our parents always instilled following God no matter what. That in the future we do not ever stop believing in him and never stop going to church on Sundays. Never let anyone get in the way of our growth in faith.
Gabe is literally so annoying with his I wAnt a FuLl diNnEr tAble like babeee isn’t your mental health always in the trenches??? More children won’t fix that. And also obviously it is Jess’s body and it should be HER decision. And he never stops pressuring her. Jess pleaaaase stand up for yourself more.
Absolutely , man doesn’t know what his depression could turn into as it is something you can’t fully control, imagine her having more kids to please him and one day finds herself doing it alone, nope. This is why you need to date someone for some years before you go and get married, you get to know them and see how their conditions affect them.
Listen guys, they’ve got to compromise. They took the vows, they love each other. It’s still a big sacrifice for the guy too having more kids- it’s a huge adjustment for them as a family unit. Whatever they choose is whatever they choose.
@ um but jess is obviously saying she doesn‘t really want more while gabe wants 3 more. so it can‘t be that hard on him. also now he apparently wants to focus on his own movie stuff so who would have to sacrifice more? Jess. I don‘t think Gabe would want 3 more if it would impact his physical and mental state like it impacts jess. Cause then he couldn‘t fully focus on his unfullfilled passions.
She's already given birth to 2, why is he acting like she "owes" him more? He's being ridiculous, he's not the one that gonna be giving birth so it's not about what he wants. Definitely being super selfish here.
I've had a strange feeling about him since a little before Jess's got pregnant with Makaia. Sadly, it looks like she is carrying the relationship, parenthood and the household
I think people are thinking too deep into this video. I just see a married couple struggling to find time for themselves individually and spending quality time as a couple while raising an infant and toddler. To me this sounds quite normal. They’re trying to find their rhythm. Like they mentioned, they want to wait until Cuba is out of the infant stage or even until both are out of the toddler stage to decide whether or not they want more because right now its challenging to even think about another. He understands Jess when she says the amount of kids she wants depends on her ability to be the best mother she can be. Ideally he wants 6 kids, but their obviously taking it a kid at a time. Nothing wrong with wanting your lovely wife to create more children with you, who you know is an amazing sweet loving strong mother. Yes, Jess carries the baby in her body for 9 months, but Gabe takes care of her while she’s pregnant and once the babies out they take turns caring for their children for years after that. It’s a team effort. Men and women have their own functions, each with their own personal strengths. May God bless your marriage Gabe and Jess, and give you guys strength and resilience in this challenging time.
@@ermelinda2223I feel like people say that because his depression gets in the way for him providing financially? And not stepping up? Seems like Jess makes the money and does the most around the house.But then again I don't think anyone actually knows. He may be making money and just not telling their channel, so idk who they are to judge. Could be other reasons but I don't know them
He doesn't work, she provides financially, he never seems to work around the house, at least according to her videos. He's always sulking and saying he's too depressed to work. They keep saying they're a traditional household so she has to take care of the kids but i dont think a man refuses to provide in traditional households lol. He constantly mocks her, makes everything about himself... Her labour story and what not. All he does is get tattoos and buy legos from her money. If you watch her videos and insta you'll find her mostly going through it, doing half the things around the house, taking care of kids and create content cause that's their only source of income. People keep saying that's because he's depressed but for years on end you put everything on your wife and refuse to work or do anything and blame it on depression. Like come on, a man of god or a man will still do something to take care of his family. So yeah people are calling him out on his being a man child. Also they did a podcast, she enjoyed doing it, he isn't feeling it so they didn't continue even though she wanted to. He says the only reason she's famous on TH-cam is because she's a woman and good looking.. Not even appreciating her for her hard work that he should be doing in the first place. She was providing because he ws going through it... Years later she's still doing it while he does nothing and its their own words of how he's taking a break and most of his insta stories will be either mocking her or playing with his legos or F1 stuff. Like take care of your kids and family, mr traditional Christian man of god. Just because she's not saying anything he keeps doing it @@ermelinda2223
I really liked your answer to the last question! I think so many couples assume that their marriage will break apart if they don’t find the time to “prioritise” the marriage. The truth is that is very very difficult to do when you have a new baby, and I think trying to “prioritise” the marriage can be something that adds even more anxiety bc it’s either an extra thing you have to do or else you believe you will not survive as a couple. I’m not saying it shouldn’t be done at some point, but I think making sure you’re having babies with someone you actually have a really strong marriage already and knowing that this is just a phase it’s what makes a marriage really last after kids.
Having a baby, like the whole formation in womb and breastfeeding takes a huge huge toll on our bodies. It's not just the post partum, responsibilities and work load that increases, because with time that can get better. But the affect and depletion of my own body I've seen is remarkable, and I eat good and healthy but still my bones, joints have aged remarkably
Ha that’s pretty much all the questions & answers they do! The one I hate and never watch is the one where couples share “ their first time” that baffles me that they share that stuff.. it’s nobody’s business’ what the hell haha
@@rubygomez9171 I would imagine your face if your partner joked like that for the whole internet to see lol, especially considering they’re quite religious (you can see Jess’s reaction). I just expressed how this “joke” sounded from a perspective of a viewer.
it‘s so nice to see you talk, about something so vulnerable. you got this, even tho its a big transition. im sure god is right next to y‘all. praying for you ❤
No offense Gabe but you're not the one giving birth, careful with your words. Jess, feel free to set boundaries!!!!! Parenting its about QUALITY, not quantity. (A full table can be made out of 2 kids as well) It's not about what God wants, it's what about YOU want and what you can give as a mother. Take care and don't be afraid to share your emotions! Girl power forever
How can you say "it's not about what God wants" who do you think gave her the first two kids, herself?? Life is not worth living if you don't desire to live the way God wants
Gabriel tries to put this pressure on Jess to have more kids. Let the girl rest and take care of herself after 2 pregnancies. 5 kids is A LOT, you don't need to have 5 kids to have a full table and to feel accomplished in life. ''God will decide if we have more kids or not", okay I get that but how about you let your wife decide? She is the one that is going through the pregnancies not you Gabriel. Jess is an amazing woman, I remember a time when Gabe was not feeling the best and wasn't really able to provide financially for their family for a year and Jess took on that role. Then she gave birth to 2 kids. She really is an amazing woman and she still is very young! I am very happy to see that a lot of people here have a very similiar opinion to me. I don't normally comment on videos but this is something I have noticed for a while now and it is very sad.
I know Gabe is a great Dad but Jess as a mother takes on more because its her body that carries the baby and her body that's still all over the place with a newborn and as a mother you always just have so much on your mind thay sometimes fathers dont think about on the daily. Trust your instincts Jess! Remember that when theyre older and each have their partners and kids it will be a full table!
Sometimes it can be good especially if they are stuck in their bubble. It’s kind of important to have perspective, and if your partner is being immensely inconsiderate or just a little irrational, it can be hard to know if you just disagree OR if you’re not actually crazy and it’s time to put your foot down… It’s good for Jess to know that she has final say over what her body can handle in terms of giving birth. She’s not making it where they’ll never have a whole family because “his table is not full”. She needs to make sure her health and safety is taken care of and it’s NOT a bad thing to hear it from third party sources (adult commenters) who’s only bias is seeing them both do well and their relationship thrive Anyways, I say this as a person who’d also come to bat for Gabe if there was a situation flip-flopped from this where SHE seemed a bit out of touch in a way that could be extremely detrimental to his mental/emotional/physical well-being Yes things can be kept private but reality checks are also okay
Haven’t watched their video in years… and after watching this I feel so sad for Jess. Gabe still seems just as immature as he did 5 years ago and Jess just looks so tired and sad. 😢 I feel like they’re trying to keep this channel going but don’t seem into it anymore. Wishing them the best 💞
I love how right off the bat she's focusing on how her love for her kids multiplied with a second baby, while he's focusing on the negatives, he can't work, he's exhausted from the crying and screaming.
Missed seeing you guys! But i can only imagine how challenging it was to set aside an hour to get this done! Just a word of encouragement, sometimes in the midst of what feels like a storm it may seem like it will never stop pouring, but soon you will be out of it and on to another beautiful chapter! Take care of yourselves and your family first ❤
thats actually good. like you already have built a STRONG foundation in your marriage for 8 years, that even if now you're super busy with 2 babies, it's not hurting your marriage. this is why it's important to wait for babies even after your marriage. thanks for this video, guys
Gabe is clearly disassociating whenever Jess is talking about something she cares about or sharing her opinion or something that isn’t involved with him. You can tell that they are both very much struggling in their own ways and he is not seeing her full perspective which I’m sure is very difficult on her with her postpartum.
You guys are adorable together, as always. Gabe making fun of Jess's "okay" brought me back ♥️ Absolutely love how Jess has grown into this mature version of herself (100% to the fact that she thought about being the best mum she can be for the two kids she has). Wishing you some long naps, good times with the little ones, and a full night of sleep somewhere in there. ☺️
Sometimes you spend too much time with a person they start to seem like the enemy. Seems like he gets sucked in his depression and takes everything down around with him not realizing his spouse is going through the hardest life transition one can go through by herself. Thats the vibe.. and he 100% takes her for granted despite Jess being the best version of a woman one can be to a man like him. Sounds harsh but that’s the truth he’s taking his family for granted when he treats her disrespectfully.
Completely valid that transitioning from 1 to 2 kids is much more difficult! As a mom of 4, 1-2 was the hardest, 0-1 next, and 2-3 and 3-4 were about the same!
11:20 omg he’s so annoying like he will always be the first to answer this question. And he sounds like a child explaining it. So delusional. HOW about you asked your wife if she wants to grow another child in HER body?????? Just get a smaller dinner table ffs. LIKE BE FR look at JESS FACE when he says it.
Having 3 kids now and seeing the 2 older ones playing and being best friends is so much fun to witness. It takes time and it's still hard at times, but getting to that stage is completely worth it. Hang it there the baby stage goes by so quickly. Even with those long days and nights.
As a mom of 2under 2 the little one is 18 months now and the big one in 3 years and it gets better 😴❤️ you’ll get your sleep ❤ thank you for sharing the strugles with us
I love the way you said that! I'm 7 weeks postpartum with our first and we really are surviving off of our foundation right now. Missing quality time and physical touch but I know it will come back eventually... It's like we've set romance to the side and picked up this huge project of taking care of a newborn but we're a great team and I can tell you two are too!
Praying for both of you. You're in a difficult phase. God bless you with strength Gabe to lead your family and God bless you Jess with strength to support your family through the storms to come
It’s absolutely normal to feel that the transition is hard. A toddler and a newborn is hard. A strong relationship might struggle at first but will get even stronger after hard times like this one. You two have always been so good at communicating (as far as we know) so you are going to make the best decision as a couple as to whether you’re having more kids or not. Wish you guys all the best!
Just want to let you know that y'all are not alone. I Have 2 littles and it is HARD. My youngest is 18 months and it's starting to smooth out a little but I still feel like I'm in quite a busy season. I also want a big family but I'm definitely taking it one kid at a time right now. It's a lot on a woman's body/emotions etc. keep pushing through. You got this mama. 🫶🏻
Seriously loved this video and felt like a genuine catch up with you guys as we send little cheers from a bit of a sideline in this new chapter of yalls lives. Although quality time isn’t much with the both the sense of team work is definitely there 🙏🏻 can’t wait to see what 2025 has in store for you two 😊.
Jess and Gabe are amazing. Some "fans" are so judgemental and even openly judgemental. It must be so hurtful. You guys are an amazing couple and family. Please keep creating content and sharing despite judgement from others! You're inspiring to sooo many 💛💛
So glad you guys are back! I'm sure it's been a learning curve to have two kids, but you guys are figuring it out and WILL find that rhythm.Thank you for your transparency and honesty. 🫶
Most of these comments are scary. They are in a phase that is challenging. It’s okay to tell their exhaustion from their eyes. It’s okay for there to be a slight disconnect. What’s important is that they are still committed to growing and becoming together.
Family expectations can change over the years and it’s not our place to say who is doing it wrong or right over a 15 minute video. You don’t know the conversations they have or the weight of any of them carry.
The internet is really becoming scary and forgetting to give people grace and allow them be human.
I love you guys so much and pray that you enjoy every season of your marriage.
this!
SHE IS HE IS NOT
@@ti_ffe my words exactly... If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all! Love you Jess & Gabe!
amen girl
@@neidrawright9621I would rather say it how it is … is literally their thumbnail… I RATHER SPEAK UP ON WHAT I CAN SEE (I am 40yo) and hope I can spark a little something in both than stay quite and in a few months years hear a tragic outcome …
After reading the comments I realized Im not the only one thinking that something is off for a while now, poor jess she is so hard working my respect!
it’s called postpartum. ITS ROUGH. ever been through it?
Yes I totally agree
It’s pretty obvious you’ve never had kids and been through postpartum
@@angelicaca.Is not just postpartum … SHE IS TRYING REALLY HARD BUT GABRIEL INSTEAD OF BEING A SUPPORT SYSTEM IS ANOTHER KID ON HER LIST …
@@angesosamx you saw an 10 minute video, out of their 44k minutes in their month. sure, you know!!
A table of 4 is a full table. I loved Jess's answer to that question! It reflects the load mothers carry, besides the literal carry of the baby in their bellies. It's more than just aesthetics (yes, wishing for a "full table" is in part a picture dream), its how much of a parent you can be FOR LIFE, and the quality of that. Parenting shouldn't be about quantity but about quality! Plus, there is a LITERAL mental change to mothers brain, as your heart grows with each baby you have, your body is paying a price. I pray for Jess's recovery to be as smooth as possible and for her to feel herself again! Mothers know best
Why so many excuses, I somebody says I want to have 2 children, then stop, period, why she has to explain herself or people need to find some sort of explanation why she doesnt want more. What is event he concept of wanting to have more and more children, are people greedy or what? Its perfectly normal to have two children, and nothing else needs to be added. Period.
also! when those children have children and they’re older, they WILL have a full table. My parents had two girls and already with our spouses and children it’s a big event
You can tell they're going through it. The vibe is different. Jess is OK to express your opinion and set boundaries. You have to think about yourself first. You already gave enough
Thought the same
Is Jess the main breadwinner in the house too?
I don’t watch them very often, but more often than not Gabe is struggling mentally.
I get mental illness, but I can only imagine how exhausting it would be for Jess especially now they have 2 young children.
It's people like you who are struggling with relationship in life and giving "advice" to people whose situation you don't know
@@ARandomAnna she posts more consistently on her individual channel, he hasn't posted a video on there in years, so probably. I'd like to believe he has things going on behind the scenes that he just can't share yet.
Dont act like you know them,its better attimes to jhs shut up than jhs assuming
my husband just asked me if I ever regret not having more kids. our daughter is 13 and I got my tube's tied when she was maybe 3... i had an awful experience being pregnant and never wanted to put myself through that again. I told him sometimes I feel sad she doesn't have someone but I am so happy and satisfied with just being her mother. Jess, you as a women and a mother know what's best for you. you got this girl. and marriage, oh it's hard but that's family.
Love this ❤
So good! Every family is different. Every woman is different.
For all of you leaving bad comments about their marriage and about Gabe, if you are so worried about them start praying for them instead of speaking ill about them, we've seen them fall in love, get married, grow into a beautiful marriage through the years, if you guys truly believe something is off, pray about it, that God can give them strength and keep protecting their marriage instead of gossiping.
Finding this comment after all those negative comments made me feel better. This is really sweet ❤ bless u
AMEN 🙏
@Jennyalou ❤❤❤
Amen
Also- A full table is also families with 1 child. I say this as an only child. ❤️
amen!!! i’m an only child as well and the table was full because that’s just how God intended it to be 🩵
Thanks for your comment. I was only blessed with one healthy child after having 2 miscarriages. I am thrilled to be a mum but even having just one child comes with some challenges as far as time, energy and expenses are concerned. There are pros and cons no matter how many children we have.
She probably meant it as for her ❤
I say this to my child all the time, I was only able to have one kid, and it’s hard when all your family members have 1+ kids, my son grew up watching all his little cousins have siblings but him. Still trying to be the best mom I can to an only child. ❤
@ It’s just how God intended it to be. Never speak of it negatively ❤️ One thing I grew up to love being an only child is the very special relationship I have with my mother. We’re literally just like bestfriends! I feel like I wouldn’t have had that special bond with her if I had other siblings around (my mom had 2 miscarriages). Don’t worry about it too much ❤️❤️
You don't have to have 4 or 5 kids to have a full table, you can have 2 kids and then they will get married and have their own spouses and kids so the table will still be full 🙏🏻🥰❤
They don’t even need all that! They can get a 4 person table and it will be full ❤
Why so many excuses, When somebody says I want to have 2 children, then stop, period, why she has to explain herself or people need to find some sort of explanation why she doesnt want more. What is event he concept of wanting to have more and more children, are people greedy or what? Its perfectly normal to have two children, and nothing else needs to be added. Period.
@@mariaagosti-pm7tk For real but he can’t accept it. He keeps pressuring her
Thing is both Jess and Gabe are from families with 3 siblings so that must be pressure they put on themselves to have more kids than 2 because otherwise it's not a "full" family, I think 😢
@@Alina-zx6nn She will figure out it is not all magic with him.... Guys like him have a traditional view of women and its hard to break out of it since she agreed living this kind of lifestyle.
I want to give you jess a hug 🥺 i’m a new mom and i know it’s hard to take care of your kids sometimes and you forget yourself and your need but i’m proud of you it will get easier soon 🫂💗💗
And we are proud of you
You guys are above the click baity captions and thumbnail. I say this with love, please don’t.
Yeah.
I'm a fan since day 1 and i couldnt agree more to this comment. They should really stop doing it
Exactly tho I love them but those are kinda rude to us the "fans"
Did they change the title since?
@@alissay98the title is fine but the thumbnail says “not the best”
I had four kids and my postpartum depression got progressively worse with each one. By the 4th child I needed serious help and I was so exhausted I couldn’t help myself. I would say be prepared to talk to your doctor and be in close touch if you have another child ❤
Then stop having children dude why is it so hard? Wasn't having 1 or 2 enough?
I find it ridiculous that people keep wanting more and more kids when their own mental health is at stake like how can u be so selfish? Isn't it a common sense that u wont be able to properly provide love to them if YOU'RE not happy ? Already ruining your own life, good, now ruin theirs too
@@user-zu9un6st4tI’m pregnant with my 4th and 3 times never had PPD, anxiety, or any mental health issues. My mother died when I was pregnant with my third and that was the most difficult time of my life, but my kids honestly pulled me from the pit of despair and helped me heal. Everyone is different. Parenting is a struggle but one well worth every bit of it.
Plus is expensive 😅
@ My children are my greatest joy on this earth. They are a gift from God. Suffering is involved for all good things. Jesus is proof of that. 🙏😇
17:05 I absolutely love how he worded it. That they're surviving through this difficult time on the strong base that they have built throughout their entire relationship and thinking positively of their future. Basically #relationshipgoals honestly lol
literally!!! that’s a real depiction of marriage
Jess. Your feelings matter and your opinions do too.
Think about yourself 1st because if you don’t, no one will do it for you - trust me. ❤️
I have such a sweet spot for you and hope you have a happy life. ❤
Yep!
I think if Jess is fulfilled with 2 kids and can’t handle more, she should be able to voice that.
Are you a christian? Just saying because arrived here because Jess is. Your advice is selfish with we try to avoid, God will think about us, so "o one will do it for you" is not nice. God bless you!
@ You must me 12 if you did not get the point of my comment. Hence why you’re the only one. Have a great one!
I hope they both really are okay, gabe seems really over it and out of it and it seems jess is the one holding all of it together been a supporter for years and hope they make it!.
The post partum period is like no other time in someone’s life, for both husband and wife. It is extremely difficult in all facets, and if you have little to no time for yourself, that includes not having time for your significant other. The survival aspect in the beginning is very normal. They just need some more time. They otherwise seem fine.
Second this comment you even with the little youtube clip still feels like something off especially since she blogs more by herself.
It's so easy for Gabe to want more kids because he's not the one giving birth.
wow great observation 🤯
Exactly I wish I was a man too the only thing they gotta do to procreate is to have fun cum game and Walla, no risk of dying no risk of body change no risk of discomfort for 9 months no problem of emotional rollercoaster.
It’s important to not father’s financial provider capabilities , he’s capable of supporting a child and also conceiving that child with her. Not everything is just birth , creating children if it was celebrated way birth was conception is also huge a man basically impregnating their wife
@@lorelwebber6435 He’s not even the one working lol
@@CillavsGamesthey are both working. This is their channel. What sort of comment is this though ?
You guys are always so Honest, real, and raw. Me and my Partner welcomed our First November 2023, after a year of our daughter, our relationship has been tested hard at times but it’s brought us tighter than ever. I wouldn’t trade for the world!!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Steve_porss1 is the man , I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety."
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live.
Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Is he on instagram?
Steve_porss1 is the man
It feels like gabe just doesnt feel accomplished in himself on his own right. And feels depressed about that, he talked about that already couple years ago. I hope things work out for him.
Saying that, there should be more support for jess' personal growth and career from him. Jess is not just a mother and her own person. And i feel like she really pressures herself in that regard, but also prides herself in that. I hope with gabes help she can find a balance and think of her own health and happiness. Getting support from gabe is important and i hope he is prioritizing jess enough.
People are wildin. Dynamics between partners can and should change with shifting life circumstances, but it is not our job as their supporters to determine whether or not their relationship is up to our standards. They willingly share a tiny portion of their lives with us, and it's bold for people to fill in all the gaps between the lines. Making judgments and assumptions is hurtful! We have always loved your content and your family, thanks for continuing to share❤
Yeah for real all of the unsolicited advice and retrospection into their lives and motives is strange coming from these other subscribers on this video. Also if you’ve never even had kids, please especially*** refrain from making comments, because until you actually have kids of your own you will never understand the dilemma and personal conflict between wanting more children and being realistic about how hard it is to raise multiple children.
I really couldn't understand why people have this hate towards them, especially Gabe. I even went ahead and googled Gabe and Jess, only to find a reddit thread of hateful comments. It seems there's a group of people who have decided to just attach Christian couples. Please, let's make Jess and Gabe aware. It's just so sad.
Yes. And Having more than one child especially in early post partum weeks/months is not easy. On the mother or couple. The unsolicited advice is so weird. It’s their marriage and if she decides to have more kids it’s fully her decision just as much as his..
Thank you for this most of the comments I’ve been reading are completely out of order we all love Jess & Gabe they mean a lot to us they deserve our support, love, prayer & encouragement in this transition stage not the opposite!
Love this comment because everything else is so negative which they obviously don’t need either!
This was all exactly why I stayed 1 and done. I knew I had hit my capacity after 1 and so little sleep. I’m also really happy, my son is now 6 and having 1 just felt right for me. I have friends who had 2 when my son was little and they all seemed SO overwhelmed, exhausted, one had postpartum depression, it just didn’t feel like a happy place. Just thankful whenever I see the validation that it’s ok to choose what’s best for you. You don’t even have to have kids if you don’t want that. Be smart enough to know yourself and what is best for your life.
This is so nice to hear 😭😭🥹 mine is only 2 but I think I'm one and done? I worry about siblings though
@@brucenina3615 mine is a 2 year old too and I'm wondering if I'm capable to handle more. I'd love to give ger a sibling but it's been really hard having a small kid😭
I love having 2! I found it easier than 1 as they entertain each other - one is 2.5 and the other 6 months. It’s so much better than 1. Everyone has different experiences 🥰
I'm pregnant with our first and we've already decided that this is it. Talking about having kids before we got pregnant, we always said we wanted two, but this pregnancy has been so difficult with so many complications so neither of us want to go through it again. If we were to 'have' another child, it would be years before we even thought about it and we've already decided that if we do, it'll be adoption instead of having our own.
@@kiiam.3831maybe a pet:)? If that’s something helpful. Hope you the best!
Since they’ve mentioned not wanting to be a family channel like other TH-camrs and are keeping their kids private, I’m really curious how this channel will look now that they have two kids. It’s a big shift, and especially with Gabe seeming less invested in TH-cam lately, it makes me wonder what direction they’ll take in the future. Just something I’ve been thinking about as a longtime viewer!
My mom wanted four kids, but she had two miscarriages, and two live babies. Now my brother and I are both married, so she always says she has four kids (us two and our spouses) like she dreamed of. Her table is now full with us plus her grandkids. 🥰
this is so sweet 🥺
😭😭😭
jesse’s face when gabe said he wants 4-4 kids 😭😭❤️🩹 my girl going through it
Im pregnant with my fourth.. I really really really want this baby. BUT when my husband right after our third was born said he cant wait for us to have another I wanted to sent him to outer space 😂😂😂
Their baby is so tiny.. maybe she would consider another baby in a few years from
now 😊
Her reaction was totally normal
7:05 Jess' ok attack is so hilarious I couldn't stop rewinding to watch the compilation again 😂
Yeees hahahaa 😂❤️ „…ok”
i have watched and supported you guys ever since the first day you met & i know i’ll always be a huge fan of you both because i just know you’re good people.
i’ve just been going through the comments & i actually agree with all of them. coming from a mama who has a 2 year old and a 5 month old, it’s HARD. me and my partner don’t get any quality time together, we haven’t been on a date for 2 years because we have no one to help us. my partner works full time and is also studying, i, of course am currently a stay at home mama (i won’t be forever tho 🤞🏻).
i feel so lucky to have my partner as he openly admits he’d rather work and study than be a stay at home parent as it’s harder with the kids. he says himself that he can clock off from work, but you can’t do that when your work is home.
when i was younger, i wanted 4 children BUT when i actually fell pregnant, i found out that my body does not carry well. both of my pregnancies were the worst months of my life, and i feel so guilty for saying that but it’s true. i was so unwell, physically and mentally so after our second, i said “that’s it. no more kids.” & my partner went and had a vasectomy, as after having two kids, he also said “we’ve been blessed with two, and that’s enough.”
we’ve both only just started to go back to the gym, and have some sort of a ‘normal’ life back.
i, of course struggled a lot after my awful pregnancies and births, because it’s us women who go through the ordeal on our own (physically especially). i don’t think anyone can actually comprehend just how much our bodies go through when carrying and birthing a baby, it’s not easy and it takes a long time to feel ‘okay’ again. so it’s okay to change your mind on how many kids you want, especially after experiencing it.
honestly, if you sat me & my partner down, our answers would have been very similar to yours and that’s okay.
i hope you’re both okay, you’re doing great. i always appreciate honest videos like this, because it makes us feel like we’re not alone 🤍
ps sorry for the life story, i think ive just used this platform as my therapy 😅
Thank you for being vulnerable & honest about the adjustment from 1-2 kiddos!
I totally understand how it’s hard. Especially if he is having a hard napping all of this time. That’s rough!
Our 2nd had horrible colic for a month. Soon as we gave her mother’s nature gas drops, it helped sooooo much!!!
Other than that, we felt it was easier going from 1-2 than 0-1 because we knew what to expect and how to handle situations when it got rough.
Feels like Jess has really struggled and doesn't know if she's okay to have any more children, but Gabe really wants more 🥺
Gabe is weird and kinda selfish
I feel as though this is normal. Since women naturally have to take on more parenting responsibilities in the baby stage, they may not want more kids. As for the selfish comments about Gabe..he is not forcing her to have a certain amount of kids. He is clearly understanding. He is not being selfish for answering a question honestly.
Gabe gets what he wants. 😅
@@ashleybarrios3679 exactly! thank u for sharing your experience🤍🤍
@@ashleybarrios3679I agree, in our household it’s the other way around, and we have constant discussions about how we feel, but we are also in the thick of 2 under 2. Permanent decisions shouldn’t be made in the thick of postpartum.
They got married in their early 20s people change SO much by the time they turn 30. They’re probably growing apart. Jess seems way more mature, grounded, and smart
This was such a hard watch. I’ve been here since 2018 when you was both long term, and I know it is SO hard having a toddler and a newborn but gabe seem so distant and Jess seems like she’s trying. However we all love you and we’re here for you ♥️
Maybe he is struggling with his depression? I agree
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I feel like the home schooling put Gabe in a bubble and he can’t seem to let this “content creator” thing go. If it wasn’t for Jess who would actually be watching his content? 😕
From someone who’s partner suffers from depression I feel that something like that is unfolding and it hurts
@@Ravencycle21he's been struggling with depression since 2017 right? I'm not saying it's his fault but as a husband and the father of his children, he needs to find help and get better rather than citing the same reason and use it as an excuse to not work or parent their children. Also he seemed very enthusiastic to only answer questions directed to him but was so sarcastic making faces whenever she answered. Frankly, i hope they resolve whatever issues they have but she deserves so much better.
The answer they gave on the marriage question, that they are living on the base that they have created before is the most honest and realistic answer given in history, honestly, this is why people should not get married because of a pregnancy, the couple needs to make that decision and journey for themselves alone or they don’t make it after, ive never meet a couple that got together for a kid that lasted, this way you need the base to survive having kids
Love yalls growth. So inspiring and relatable! Love seeing you guys strong in your faith and navigating life to the best of your ability because at the end of the day that’s all we can do, showing up 100% and letting God take care of everything else! Def my role models 🫶🏼🫶🏼
To think ive been watching since before you were married
Me too.
same
Jess and Gabe i just want to remind you don’t take any comment here to the heart, other people lead different lives than yours they have different experience and relationships so they shouldn’t projects their experiences and expectations on you , also everyone want to act like a psychologist on the internet and they wanna put diagnosis on others thinking they are helping when they are not , you know yourselves better .
I think you believe that too but for me personally i just realized that if you keep being thankful and sincerely grateful for the things that God give you or put on your way wither bad or good your life gets better and your worries got less like genuinely believing that God have your best interest in mind in everything in your life so you should never despair.
11:40 We will keep praying about it and if god wants us to have more kids…. ??????????? HOW ABOUT YOU ASKED YOUR WIFE WHAT SHE WANTS. This is ridiculous
Nothing pisses me off more than this!
I think he means, God will guide them both if they are both ready for more kids or not. And if they are both not ready, then they will interpret it as Gods message as well. The problem with Christians is that we just word things badly and non religious people misinterpret us.
@@chellyd.7977but jess is already making clear that she can’t really imagine having more… he shouldn’t completely ignore that
Dude there’s healing yknow- a kid is the greatest gift and if she feels God is guiding her that way and she’s cool with it who’s to stop em 💁♀️
@ you don‘t get it. jess is literally saying her limit might be 2 or 3. (let‘s be honest she is pushing it with 3 and only saying it cause gabes there) and gabe is like YeAa welll let‘s seee what god wants. Aka he is not taking her seriously and lowkey pressuring her to change her mind. CAUSE HE KNOWS EXACTLY THAT HE WANTS HIS DUMB TABLE. HE KNOWS THAT HE WANTS 5. HE KNOWS JESS PROBABLY DOES NOT WANT MORE. So he just ignores it and hope she will give him what he wants. MAYBE he‘s not even aware his doing that. But a good husband in my opinion would say that it‘s his wifes decision because it is her body and she makes more sacrificies OBVIOUSLY.
I caught myself smiling in the beginning because I'm so excited to see y'all
Oh its always such a true JOY to see you guys uploading! I definitely miss it! Definitely the highlight to my week seeing this notification!
The way you look at each other never changed. Your love for each other is so strong, it makes me so happy.
Also, i’ve been here since 2016!! Love you guys🫶🏼
Omg same (the look + 2016 part) 🥹🩵
don't let this man convince u to have more kids, jess. u're already giving so much of yourself to your family. you're strong brave and so hard working and men will NEVER know what women go thru, when it comes to both pregnancy, giving birth AND being a mom in general always makes u carry the most weight in the household. u're a provider too so it's insane. wait at least 10 more years, then think about it again. let the kids grow and then let yourself pursue other things that are Not only motherhood, u deserve it!!!!!!!!!
You sound like a serpent. This man is her husband. I really hope she is strong enough to not listen to people like you. Having children with your husband is not a decision that is only hers. He made a covenant with her and viceversa. They are in the trenches of parenthood right now, no one regrets having more kids, but a lot of people regret not having more. They both need mentors that have already been through this really tough time, and not only listen to their present experiences. This stage passes and emotional, mental and fiscal strength comes back. I have 4 kids, my time in the trenches was really hard, but now that my oldest is 14, I’m thankful I didn’t let my decisions be guided by my feelings during that time.
@@mamimalista7924that’s actually really well said! And you pushed through it. So worth it
FR FR FR!!!
This is what an INCEL would say, stay away from this channel and stop spreading negativity. I guarantee that you are someone who's struggling with relationships in life and DON'T try to bring this family down with you.
and btw, gabe is not "this man", he is the husband and all these incels women keep away from this Christian family and don't spread this negativity
As someone who’s been following you since the beginning of your relationship, it’s so refreshing to see a healthy couple… And when I say healthy I don’t mean the unrealistic perfect couples we see all over social media, healthy to me means that even when you’re struggling you still manage to work things out and come out even stronger… Most of the time in any relationship things are hard and we have to make a lot of compromises if we want it to work. Thank you for showing us that among all this “hookup culture” there are still people who fight for what they love 🤍! Love y’all and sorry for my English, I know it’s not that good 😅
THIS! Exactly! Well said. What I see is a loving couple that is going through challenging times, but is willing to make things work together. God bless them.
I'm so sure they have already talked about everything they're sharing in this video, so they feel comfortable with each other, as the have show us this whooole time. They've proved that they have a very strong marriage and that they're very comunicative. Obviously, they're still adjusting to the two babys routing ❤ so happy and proud of you, guys, I know you will always do the best for your family
This hurt my heart. Gabe saying his favorite memory was getting you pregnant made me uncomfortable.
Right? Like he hasn’t matured at all
Yeah that was honestly sad
So uncomfortable!
I'm pretty sure it was a joke
it's the womans choice if she wants to have more kids or not, not the man. the woman goes through the birth, the pain, and postpartum. the man doesn't have to go through any of that, so they don't get to decide how many kids they want
That's only true in an unhealthy, immature relationship where you see your husband or wife as an enemy.
In a mature, stable relationship both people's stances on children matter. Both people talk about children before getting married and during a marriage, they both communicate about their thoughts and feelings on a subject matter.
If they don't see eye to eye (depending on the subject) they agree to disagree, compromise, get professional help or leave as a last resort.
this was a really strange video, Gabe isn’t very kind or totally there and I see that Jess is struggling. Sad.
Parenting is hard work every single day, both physically and mentally.
Gabe and Jess are in the thick of it right now with 2 young babies. It takes time to adjust and get into a good routine.
@@susanmcguire4664yea most definitely!
This is real, raw, and beautiful! I can only imagine two kids and going on little sleep! Will keep you guys in my prayers. Thank you for sharing! Love you guys! Will continue to support❤
Jess body needs to rest. 4 or 5 is really wild of him to say. Women go through so much 😪 dam.
For men, it's just a random number they throw. Had they experienced 1% of the discomfort and pain of pregnancy and child birth, they would've shut up.
But they don't care nor have empathy
@@Random.sachen1yup I wanted 5 kids until I went through child birth and almost died 😅 one is enough for me! I’m good!
This!!
This makes me thankful that my husband and I agree to have 2 kids and that’s it.
This was peaceful. Praying the best for yall! Rest in His presence even in the chaos
This was such a real video. I had two babies 10 months apart. I didn’t have any issues after my first, but I had postpartum depression after my daughter. She’s 3 now, and I still feel like I have it sometimes. It is hard, the sleep deprivation is real, but I promise you - it gets better. It is survival mode for the first three years. You will come out of it and have time for yourself again. Sending prayers and well wishes. 🤍
For peoples who defending gabe that he’s not selfish & he can express his view. Yes he can . But should he? This women had 2 very traumatic birth experience & now unintentionally u making her feel guilty that she can’t have more if she would they had more, that’s a guilt women carries her with her entire life, she already gave u 2 beautiful children. I know he’s not forcing her or anything but making her feel guilty about it is not ok. It’s ok to say i want more kid when u dont carry them for 9 months & destroy your bory your mental health your back your boobs your Vgg. U can be shut up for rest of your life & make your women proud of it.
And this man child doesn't even work. She does it all. Bring money in, taking care of the kids etc and all he does is complain about being depressed and makes her do what he wants. Idk how delusional people can be to find reasons fr this man child. Jess clearly made a huge mistake marrying someone like him.
I wonder how you would respond if it was Jess who wanted to have more kids, and Gabe said he would struggle to have more. Would you defend Gabe the way you’re defending Jess? Would you say Jess should be more understanding of her husbands struggles? I doubt it.
Men are allowed to share their desires in their marriage. Unfortunately they’ve shared 15 mins of their lives a week - with a bunch of people who are so critical of everything they say or do.
I couldn’t agree more. He panned out to be a bit of a disappointment. As soon as the real life hit him he turned into just like you said a man child. He sees himself as the victim that’s got it hardest. He needs to man up and turn into a man. To me it feels like the tables have turned, at the beginning Gabe loved her more than she loved him and now it’s the other way around . That’s the worst thing that can happen in her situation. He will be putting himself first in many ways and everything will fall onto Jess. She didn’t deserve this.
@@Madelein211totally agree
@@Melodynn1where did you hear that he wasn’t working can you tell us where exactly that was said?
the Lord has recently softened my heart to having more babies after my 2. my youngest just turned 1 and i had a hardened heart towards it for 14 months. but i prayed and he finally softened my heart and we are now trying for our next 🤍
i received the same advice as you jess, don’t make perm decisions in this stage. i’m glad i didn’t because i almost went through with the irreversible thing for my hubby!
y’all are one of the most godly people i know & follow. jess, you know that by yourself you don’t have the capacity to be a good mother, but only through the LORD, will he GIVE you the capacity to be a godly mother as many as He desires 🫶🏽🕊️
praying for you both & your growing family!
psalm 127:3 🛐
Love your testimony of a softened heart and in allowing God to Write His Story through your life.
I had my life plan all set and planned to have two kids after my career… to first have a boy at age 30 and then girl, two years later.
Upon hearing my plan, my mother was beside herself and asked who in the world I thought I was to determine when, how, and what about my life…and told me to just let God be Lord.
I saw my pride, repented, and surrendered my life plan to God and ended up having 10 kids (with 2 in Heaven) and ZERO regrets!!
My eldest turned out to be a girl, (I had wanted a boy) and is now a surgeon!
God Writes the Best stories if we step aside and trust Him!😇💭🙌🏽💯
In my experience, a life surrendered to God’s Plan is the best life; He is kind to give us the grace, strength , and whatever it is we need to fulfill His Plan…. Our job is to be the willing Vessel to bring His Plan into fruition.
Anyway, thanks for your time in reading this!
May God bless you and your family to fulfill all His Dreams and Intentions for your lives!🙏🏽🕊️❤)✝️💯
You guys are glowing & I see two tired but beautiful parents trying their very best! 🥹🥰💛
Gabe there is more to life than kids. If u put them at the center ur depression will be 100x worse when they become independent and leave the house....say good bye to family dinners.
Jess has been carrying this relationship since it started. She had to care for a depressed husband and now two children. This is okay but its a lot. The fact that gabe was the first to answer that baby #3+ question is so so wrong... turn to ur wife and let her speak FIRST bc its her choice. Its like he doesnt care what she is going thru. Anyway good luck to ur family and jess 4 ppl at a table is enough. Ur too nice for him. Gabe stop treating ur wife as a doormat.
wait I havent seen you guys in ages. i remember you both flying back and forth to see each other, and then decided to check how long you've been married. DID NOT THINK IT HAD BEEN OVER 8 YEARS FROM WHEN I FIRST SAW YOU BOTH! that is insane. i feel so old, I am 23 now and i remember seeing you guys when i was about 13/14 in middle school omggg
I think it's more of the woman's call on how many kids to have, in a sense, or when to have them, because they know their body and emotional safety. God is obviously always tyere,but God won't spit you out just because you don't have a ton of kids.
I really enjoy your content, and I'm so happy to see you here. I'm sending you both lots of love and Gods blessings.
(To those judging, especially Christians, remember, it is not our place to judge, especially based on a very very tiny snippet of their lives. For those saying that something is off, as a Christian, you should instead pray for them, and if you feel like their content doenf resonate or interest you anymore, then unsubsribe and stop watching.
So many people are struggling silently. You don't know just how dangerous one negative comment can be to someone straggling.
So please, practice kindness, first, with yourselves, and then you'll stop projecfing on others, including strangers on social media. Speak blessings on your lives and on others instead of spewing negativity and hate on people that you don't know and may never meet.
If you're a parent or married and are leaving negative comments on this young family, then you ought to really reflect and put yourselves in their shoes. As you point at them, 4 more fingers are pointing at you.
If you are not married and don't have kids yet, then you're just being a hater, really.
Please, Christians, love to show kindness, grace, and the love of Christ. As a matter of fact here is a challenge for all of us this week, let's pray for the Holy Spirit to impart us with His fruits, that we may be good stewards, and not pharisees.)
take a weekend off and do something together. Go out, have fun, recharge your batteries. Married life isn't just about raising children. It's also important not to lose yourself in the process. Otherwise you'll just end up living past each other. Gabe just looks completely worn out, more so than Jesse (probably because she's wearing makeup). But in my opinion you really need time for yourselves. Gabe doesn't look so happy anymore, more sad and tired and lost in thought. Two children under 3 is hard, but it gets better. It's also important to make time for each other.
Kids are HARD work! Especially in the beginning - and you need support to enjoy the date nights and have a helping hands. But I love this comment . Supportive and helpful advice. date nights would be nice once the baby is a bit older right now, it’s hard to do
My experience from 1 to 2 was way worse than 0 to 1. The hardest thing was not sleeping enough cause the baby keeping me all night in the first 1 month and the toddler wants to play in the morning.
Also the postpartum was really emotional, cause I don't know if anyone feel the same, but I feel guilty all the time. When I look at my toddler I felt guilty cause I didn't have time for her as I used to, but when I look at my baby I also felt guilty cause I can't give him all the time I have as I used to when my toddler was a baby. SO I cried everyday and it lasted pretty long. I think 2 months.
My first postpartum emotional stage was only lasted 1 week.
All respect to family that have children more than two and do it alone.
I don’t know why but I’ve started having a really strange feeling about gabe after the first child. It’s like he sees himself as an unaccomplished actor that’s become a victim to fatherhood. He doesn’t seem to have his heart is in it. Jess looks like she’s the one carrying the marriage and having to be a full time mother at the same time. I hope she’s okay and gets the love and support she needs.
@@Madelein211 Plus, she’s the one working while he does what exactly?
I told my mum about them, she said ah wait, this relationship is not as perfect as they make it appear. I would be careful to idolize any online marriage. They struggle as any other person too.
@@CillavsGames I assume he does social media and maybe a bit of real estate perhaps?
Nah, he does nothing. His social are dying. And he doesn't get sponsors and they have naby videos where they've said he is "taking a break" sane story for yeaaarsss now @@Madelein211
What the hell are you talking about? 1 you don't know them personally, 2 i say these comments are bad, you don't live with them and you don't know what happens in they lives. You are capable of judging. Look your live, look in your house.
If it helps. Really hope this helps. My mom had 7 of us. Something that’s helped her is continuing to pray. Having little time for herself everyday even tho it got challenging. My dad would work mornings and she was home 24/7 taking care of us. When my dad would get home her and him would have dinner together. Cleaning around the house, taking a shower when dad is home to watch the babies, sing, take me and my siblings out on a walk and getting back make popcorn for us and movie time. Mind you we didn’t have much money growing up but she always kept going, kept herself busy and she had all of us 2years apart in age. I get along with all my siblings so glad she had us back to back and I know she sacrificed so much for us but super grateful. My mom and dad’s relationship always up and down but what’s important is u continue to chose each other and never go to sleep mad at each other. They were never perfect but I can see till this day they are perfect for each other. Also the biggest thing that has helped my siblings and I be good to each other is our parents always instilled following God no matter what. That in the future we do not ever stop believing in him and never stop going to church on Sundays. Never let anyone get in the way of our growth in faith.
Gabe is literally so annoying with his I wAnt a FuLl diNnEr tAble like babeee isn’t your mental health always in the trenches??? More children won’t fix that. And also obviously it is Jess’s body and it should be HER decision. And he never stops pressuring her. Jess pleaaaase stand up for yourself more.
Absolutely , man doesn’t know what his depression could turn into as it is something you can’t fully control, imagine her having more kids to please him and one day finds herself doing it alone, nope. This is why you need to date someone for some years before you go and get married, you get to know them and see how their conditions affect them.
Listen guys, they’ve got to compromise. They took the vows, they love each other. It’s still a big sacrifice for the guy too having more kids- it’s a huge adjustment for them as a family unit. Whatever they choose is whatever they choose.
Ps- love the INFP prof pic
@ um but jess is obviously saying she doesn‘t really want more while gabe wants 3 more. so it can‘t be that hard on him. also now he apparently wants to focus on his own movie stuff so who would have to sacrifice more? Jess. I don‘t think Gabe would want 3 more if it would impact his physical and mental state like it impacts jess. Cause then he couldn‘t fully focus on his unfullfilled passions.
She's already given birth to 2, why is he acting like she "owes" him more? He's being ridiculous, he's not the one that gonna be giving birth so it's not about what he wants. Definitely being super selfish here.
I've had a strange feeling about him since a little before Jess's got pregnant with Makaia. Sadly, it looks like she is carrying the relationship, parenthood and the household
Gabe looks so done
I think people are thinking too deep into this video. I just see a married couple struggling to find time for themselves individually and spending quality time as a couple while raising an infant and toddler. To me this sounds quite normal. They’re trying to find their rhythm. Like they mentioned, they want to wait until Cuba is out of the infant stage or even until both are out of the toddler stage to decide whether or not they want more because right now its challenging to even think about another. He understands Jess when she says the amount of kids she wants depends on her ability to be the best mother she can be. Ideally he wants 6 kids, but their obviously taking it a kid at a time. Nothing wrong with wanting your lovely wife to create more children with you, who you know is an amazing sweet loving strong mother. Yes, Jess carries the baby in her body for 9 months, but Gabe takes care of her while she’s pregnant and once the babies out they take turns caring for their children for years after that. It’s a team effort. Men and women have their own functions, each with their own personal strengths. May God bless your marriage Gabe and Jess, and give you guys strength and resilience in this challenging time.
Yes but people are allowed to check in with Jess, as the one who has to give birth if more kids are being had
I don’t think this man child is the American dream Jess thought he was.
We care about you, girl. It’s your life and your table, too!
Why is he a man child specifically? Genuinely asking because I’ve seen many commenting the same thing
@@ermelinda2223oh, where to begin.
@@ermelinda2223I feel like people say that because his depression gets in the way for him providing financially? And not stepping up? Seems like Jess makes the money and does the most around the house.But then again I don't think anyone actually knows. He may be making money and just not telling their channel, so idk who they are to judge. Could be other reasons but I don't know them
He doesn't work, she provides financially, he never seems to work around the house, at least according to her videos. He's always sulking and saying he's too depressed to work. They keep saying they're a traditional household so she has to take care of the kids but i dont think a man refuses to provide in traditional households lol. He constantly mocks her, makes everything about himself... Her labour story and what not. All he does is get tattoos and buy legos from her money. If you watch her videos and insta you'll find her mostly going through it, doing half the things around the house, taking care of kids and create content cause that's their only source of income. People keep saying that's because he's depressed but for years on end you put everything on your wife and refuse to work or do anything and blame it on depression. Like come on, a man of god or a man will still do something to take care of his family. So yeah people are calling him out on his being a man child. Also they did a podcast, she enjoyed doing it, he isn't feeling it so they didn't continue even though she wanted to. He says the only reason she's famous on TH-cam is because she's a woman and good looking.. Not even appreciating her for her hard work that he should be doing in the first place. She was providing because he ws going through it... Years later she's still doing it while he does nothing and its their own words of how he's taking a break and most of his insta stories will be either mocking her or playing with his legos or F1 stuff. Like take care of your kids and family, mr traditional Christian man of god. Just because she's not saying anything he keeps doing it @@ermelinda2223
@@Melodynn1wow, you're so invested in Gabe's life! I pray the Lord frees you from the hate you carry in your heart over a total stranger.
I really liked your answer to the last question! I think so many couples assume that their marriage will break apart if they don’t find the time to “prioritise” the marriage. The truth is that is very very difficult to do when you have a new baby, and I think trying to “prioritise” the marriage can be something that adds even more anxiety bc it’s either an extra thing you have to do or else you believe you will not survive as a couple.
I’m not saying it shouldn’t be done at some point, but I think making sure you’re having babies with someone you actually have a really strong marriage already and knowing that this is just a phase it’s what makes a marriage really last after kids.
Having a baby, like the whole formation in womb and breastfeeding takes a huge huge toll on our bodies. It's not just the post partum, responsibilities and work load that increases, because with time that can get better. But the affect and depletion of my own body I've seen is remarkable, and I eat good and healthy but still my bones, joints have aged remarkably
Some things are better off left unsaid and unshared…
Ha that’s pretty much all the questions & answers they do! The one I hate and never watch is the one where couples share “ their first time” that baffles me that they share that stuff.. it’s nobody’s business’ what the hell haha
When Gabe said his favorite memory is when he got Jess pregnant was SO awkward…
RIGHT, like obvi he was joking but also…
He’s joking chill 🙄
@@rubygomez9171 I would imagine your face if your partner joked like that for the whole internet to see lol, especially considering they’re quite religious (you can see Jess’s reaction). I just expressed how this “joke” sounded from a perspective of a viewer.
@@OlyaSummers I wouldn’t mind it’s a joke chill.
Gabe’s eyes look so sad/ depressed…. Hope he’s okay
it‘s so nice to see you talk, about something so vulnerable. you got this, even tho its a big transition. im sure god is right next to y‘all. praying for you ❤
No offense Gabe but you're not the one giving birth, careful with your words. Jess, feel free to set boundaries!!!!! Parenting its about QUALITY, not quantity. (A full table can be made out of 2 kids as well) It's not about what God wants, it's what about YOU want and what you can give as a mother. Take care and don't be afraid to share your emotions! Girl power forever
How can you say "it's not about what God wants" who do you think gave her the first two kids, herself??
Life is not worth living if you don't desire to live the way God wants
Gabriel tries to put this pressure on Jess to have more kids. Let the girl rest and take care of herself after 2 pregnancies. 5 kids is A LOT, you don't need to have 5 kids to have a full table and to feel accomplished in life. ''God will decide if we have more kids or not", okay I get that but how about you let your wife decide? She is the one that is going through the pregnancies not you Gabriel. Jess is an amazing woman, I remember a time when Gabe was not feeling the best and wasn't really able to provide financially for their family for a year and Jess took on that role. Then she gave birth to 2 kids. She really is an amazing woman and she still is very young! I am very happy to see that a lot of people here have a very similiar opinion to me. I don't normally comment on videos but this is something I have noticed for a while now and it is very sad.
I know Gabe is a great Dad but Jess as a mother takes on more because its her body that carries the baby and her body that's still all over the place with a newborn and as a mother you always just have so much on your mind thay sometimes fathers dont think about on the daily. Trust your instincts Jess! Remember that when theyre older and each have their partners and kids it will be a full table!
This seemed private - you guys don’t have to upload everything to the internet! ❤
Sometimes it can be good especially if they are stuck in their bubble.
It’s kind of important to have perspective, and if your partner is being immensely inconsiderate or just a little irrational, it can be hard to know if you just disagree OR if you’re not actually crazy and it’s time to put your foot down… It’s good for Jess to know that she has final say over what her body can handle in terms of giving birth. She’s not making it where they’ll never have a whole family because “his table is not full”. She needs to make sure her health and safety is taken care of and it’s NOT a bad thing to hear it from third party sources (adult commenters) who’s only bias is seeing them both do well and their relationship thrive
Anyways, I say this as a person who’d also come to bat for Gabe if there was a situation flip-flopped from this where SHE seemed a bit out of touch in a way that could be extremely detrimental to his mental/emotional/physical well-being
Yes things can be kept private but reality checks are also okay
Remember the first year of a baby's life is the hardest for the parents. You are both exhausted. Give yourselves grace.
Haven’t watched their video in years… and after watching this I feel so sad for Jess. Gabe still seems just as immature as he did 5 years ago and Jess just looks so tired and sad. 😢 I feel like they’re trying to keep this channel going but don’t seem into it anymore. Wishing them the best 💞
I love how right off the bat she's focusing on how her love for her kids multiplied with a second baby, while he's focusing on the negatives, he can't work, he's exhausted from the crying and screaming.
we've missed you guys!
They keep sponsoring better help, but in reality they’re the ones that need it more 😭
you mean they keep getting sponsored by betterhelp. 😀 Jess and Gabe aren’t sponsoring anyone
Missed seeing you guys! But i can only imagine how challenging it was to set aside an hour to get this done! Just a word of encouragement, sometimes in the midst of what feels like a storm it may seem like it will never stop pouring, but soon you will be out of it and on to another beautiful chapter! Take care of yourselves and your family first ❤
Gabe seems hes very out of the marriage with how he responded to Jess and acts towards her.
Gabe, better to have only 2 kids and a healthy happy wife, than 3+ kids that u could see every other weekend and no wife
thats actually good. like you already have built a STRONG foundation in your marriage for 8 years, that even if now you're super busy with 2 babies, it's not hurting your marriage. this is why it's important to wait for babies even after your marriage. thanks for this video, guys
I can definitely see that point.
Gabe is clearly disassociating whenever Jess is talking about something she cares about or sharing her opinion or something that isn’t involved with him. You can tell that they are both very much struggling in their own ways and he is not seeing her full perspective which I’m sure is very difficult on her with her postpartum.
You guys are adorable together, as always. Gabe making fun of Jess's "okay" brought me back ♥️ Absolutely love how Jess has grown into this mature version of herself (100% to the fact that she thought about being the best mum she can be for the two kids she has). Wishing you some long naps, good times with the little ones, and a full night of sleep somewhere in there. ☺️
Sometimes you spend too much time with a person they start to seem like the enemy. Seems like he gets sucked in his depression and takes everything down around with him not realizing his spouse is going through the hardest life transition one can go through by herself. Thats the vibe.. and he 100% takes her for granted despite Jess being the best version of a woman one can be to a man like him. Sounds harsh but that’s the truth he’s taking his family for granted when he treats her disrespectfully.
Completely valid that transitioning from 1 to 2 kids is much more difficult! As a mom of 4, 1-2 was the hardest, 0-1 next, and 2-3 and 3-4 were about the same!
11:20 omg he’s so annoying like he will always be the first to answer this question. And he sounds like a child explaining it. So delusional. HOW about you asked your wife if she wants to grow another child in HER body?????? Just get a smaller dinner table ffs. LIKE BE FR look at JESS FACE when he says it.
lol right? Get a smaller table!
So childish behavior
Having 3 kids now and seeing the 2 older ones playing and being best friends is so much fun to witness.
It takes time and it's still hard at times, but getting to that stage is completely worth it.
Hang it there the baby stage goes by so quickly. Even with those long days and nights.
As a mom of 2under 2 the little one is 18 months now and the big one in 3 years and it gets better 😴❤️ you’ll get your sleep ❤ thank you for sharing the strugles with us
psych grad here. the loneliest stage of couples’ lives is normally after they have kids. every couple with kids goes through this phase.
I love the way you said that! I'm 7 weeks postpartum with our first and we really are surviving off of our foundation right now. Missing quality time and physical touch but I know it will come back eventually... It's like we've set romance to the side and picked up this huge project of taking care of a newborn but we're a great team and I can tell you two are too!
Praying for both of you. You're in a difficult phase. God bless you with strength Gabe to lead your family and God bless you Jess with strength to support your family through the storms to come
These comments are wild… I really think we need to stop commenting on people’s personal lives that we know nothing about…. ♥️
Exactly
It’s absolutely normal to feel that the transition is hard. A toddler and a newborn is hard. A strong relationship might struggle at first but will get even stronger after hard times like this one. You two have always been so good at communicating (as far as we know) so you are going to make the best decision as a couple as to whether you’re having more kids or not. Wish you guys all the best!
Just want to let you know that y'all are not alone. I Have 2 littles and it is HARD. My youngest is 18 months and it's starting to smooth out a little but I still feel like I'm in quite a busy season. I also want a big family but I'm definitely taking it one kid at a time right now. It's a lot on a woman's body/emotions etc. keep pushing through. You got this mama. 🫶🏻
I love how raw and real this is because my hubby and I are in the same boat with baby number one and this just validates my feelings
Seriously loved this video and felt like a genuine catch up with you guys as we send little cheers from a bit of a sideline in this new chapter of yalls lives. Although quality time isn’t much with the both the sense of team work is definitely there 🙏🏻 can’t wait to see what 2025 has in store for you two 😊.
Awe such a good catch up!! I can’t wait to see what the future holds for y’all🫶🏻
Jess and Gabe are amazing. Some "fans" are so judgemental and even openly judgemental. It must be so hurtful. You guys are an amazing couple and family. Please keep creating content and sharing despite judgement from others! You're inspiring to sooo many 💛💛
1000% agree 💕
People are allowed to have their opinions on this video. Some people seem concerned as to how Jess and Gabe are coping.
@@susanmcguire4664i wasnt refering to the people who are concerned ;) Im refering to people being rude and hurtful ❤️🩹
So glad you guys are back! I'm sure it's been a learning curve to have two kids, but you guys are figuring it out and WILL find that rhythm.Thank you for your transparency and honesty. 🫶