Depression is very common in first-year retirees. Be prepared for this huge shift in identity and purpose with some of the clear strategies that I outline here in this video. Don't forget to like and subscribe to the channel! Let me know how you're pursuing a healthy third act! 💪🏼
In my first year of retirement, I didn't have time to get depressed. Too many projects around the home and property. But at 2-1/2 years, I am lonely and questioning many things. I'm a part-time adult lifeguard with other retirees, and that's great. But I've slipped into a moderate depression with the constant loneliness. I just need more social connections, but it's very difficult to establish. That's really where I've failed in life. No marriage, children, friends, or close family. I'm sure there are millions of retirees in the same scenario.
You're not alone. Many feel the same way. But you haven't failed. If you truly have no friends or family to share life with I'd highly recommend that you pursue joining some groups to "force" the production of relationships. Start with groups that are organized around things you are interested in. Join as many as your schedule will allow. Don't lean on one group to create all the new relationships in your life. Spreading yourself around will allow for the "chemistry" to spontaneously happen. If you need more help my email address is in the "about" section. Feel free to reach out.
Appreciate the solutions -- for me the "get outside" one works every time. I may not come back doing cartwheels but I definitely lose the intense feelings trying to overtake me. Thank you!
911. I LOVED my job.!! I was convinced/enticed, that I deserved it. .OH NO NO.!!!! I retired, and i couldn't return. I hate it. I miss everything about my job. I lost interest in all my activities, hobbies.! I stressed so much, i now have anxiety, and insomnia.... and severe depression. I hate myself for retiring. I hate living. I don't go out at all anymore, and i have to plans, goals,... i just suffer every day. My mental and physical health are declining,... with depression i just don't care anymore. I don't care about anything. I ruined my life.
I'm so sorry to hear this. I highly suggest that you seek some professional help. Depression is not something to take lightly. We get so much of our identity from our work. It's often after the transition to retirement that we become aware of this. Please get some help.
@PaulPeixoto Thank you!, and thank you for acknowledging that we come aware of our identity, purpose etc. after. I have reached out for help from psychologist, 988 suicide line, VA crisis line, Pastors, etc... Im really in a bad state. It's 3:50 am. I don't sleep anymore. You're right. Depression really is serious. I'm not able to accept , and I'm mentally paralyzed. Depression has destroyed my outlook on life. I was told " at this point, no one can help me but myself " I'm VERY AFRAID. To be experienced myself suffering, with no way of getting my life/ job back.
Depression is very common in first-year retirees. Be prepared for this huge shift in identity and purpose with some of the clear strategies that I outline here in this video. Don't forget to like and subscribe to the channel! Let me know how you're pursuing a healthy third act! 💪🏼
In my first year of retirement, I didn't have time to get depressed. Too many projects around the home and property. But at 2-1/2 years, I am lonely and questioning many things. I'm a part-time adult lifeguard with other retirees, and that's great. But I've slipped into a moderate depression with the constant loneliness. I just need more social connections, but it's very difficult to establish. That's really where I've failed in life. No marriage, children, friends, or close family. I'm sure there are millions of retirees in the same scenario.
You're not alone. Many feel the same way. But you haven't failed. If you truly have no friends or family to share life with I'd highly recommend that you pursue joining some groups to "force" the production of relationships. Start with groups that are organized around things you are interested in. Join as many as your schedule will allow. Don't lean on one group to create all the new relationships in your life. Spreading yourself around will allow for the "chemistry" to spontaneously happen. If you need more help my email address is in the "about" section. Feel free to reach out.
@@PaulPeixoto Thank you. I'm trying.
We're staying active in our third act!
That's great! Keep up the great work over there! 🙏🏽
Appreciate the solutions -- for me the "get outside" one works every time. I may not come back doing cartwheels but I definitely lose the intense feelings trying to overtake me. Thank you!
Excellent! Keep up the great work! 💪🏼
THANKS, SOME GOOD STUFF HERE
You bet!
911. I LOVED my job.!! I was convinced/enticed, that I deserved it.
.OH NO NO.!!!! I retired, and i couldn't return. I hate it. I miss everything about my job. I lost interest in all my activities, hobbies.! I stressed so much, i now have anxiety, and insomnia.... and severe depression. I hate myself for retiring. I hate living. I don't go out at all anymore, and i have to plans, goals,... i just suffer every day. My mental and physical health are declining,... with depression i just don't care anymore. I don't care about anything. I ruined my life.
I'm so sorry to hear this. I highly suggest that you seek some professional help. Depression is not something to take lightly. We get so much of our identity from our work. It's often after the transition to retirement that we become aware of this. Please get some help.
@PaulPeixoto Thank you!, and thank you for acknowledging that we come aware of our identity, purpose etc. after. I have reached out for help from psychologist, 988 suicide line, VA crisis line, Pastors, etc... Im really in a bad state. It's 3:50 am. I don't sleep anymore. You're right. Depression really is serious. I'm not able to accept , and I'm mentally paralyzed. Depression has destroyed my outlook on life.
I was told " at this point, no one can help me but myself "
I'm VERY AFRAID. To be experienced myself suffering, with no way of getting my life/ job back.
@@klanderkal I want to help you get help. Email me via the address in the "about" section here on TH-cam.