Visiting My Dad in Prison | Chiquis and Chill S3, Ep 73

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  • @elimartinez___
    @elimartinez___ 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

    Saying he got too many years for what he did is crazyyy!!! He should be in jail for the rest of his life!!!

    • @emiliarodriguez7809
      @emiliarodriguez7809 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      A un hombre que abusa de una niña se merece que lo castren y si lo hace con sus propias hijas se merece que le saquen los ojos y nunca más vuelvan a ver la luz del sol.

  • @JaniraGarcia-p6i
    @JaniraGarcia-p6i 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +321

    I think you need to work on not blaming yourself for his situation. Whatever he is going through is a direct consequence of his actions. Also, I don’t think you need to thank him for anything. Apologizing and hearing you out was the least he could have done for you. He did not do you a favor.

    • @jessicaortiz1089
      @jessicaortiz1089 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Yes it's crazy 😢 I don't know it's hard to understand her.

    • @bridgetcalderon4905
      @bridgetcalderon4905 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yessss!!!

    • @lgutierrez9592
      @lgutierrez9592 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly!!

    • @CarolC_Vibes
      @CarolC_Vibes 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Facts!

    • @nancyventura3267
      @nancyventura3267 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I love love love Chiquis, but I definitely agree with this person. You don’t owe him anything. He took something so valuable from you and after so long, he finally apologized. That’s THE LEAST HE CAN DO.

  • @diamondlady693
    @diamondlady693 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +125

    I believe a pedo* never changes.
    He has no choice but to do so(change). He has no access to children.
    He had no reason so be mad at you. He did this to you and your Tia.
    He made a decision.
    Now, this healing is for you.
    But be honest would you trust your nieces or children with him alone?

    • @Lauracgee
      @Lauracgee 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      thats exactly what i asked. also, i also understand if her dad was SA himself when he was small and saw nothing wrong with doing it to his daughters, but, idk. its tough for her

    • @ClaribellaGonzalez
      @ClaribellaGonzalez 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I thought the same thing. If she needed his apology for her to have closure and can feel free than great for her!! But personally, I don’t think I could have a relationship w/ my abuser. I wouldn’t be able to trust them around my kids or any kids period. Also him being mad at her for a long time???? Like sir you ABUSED your daughter… you’re mad??? Huh?

    • @Julee25
      @Julee25 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly!! My exact question!

  • @bridgetcalderon4905
    @bridgetcalderon4905 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +159

    I don’t think it’s enough time. Tbh a grown ass man doing that to a child is one of the most horrible things that can happen to that child. He deserves life in there. You can forgive him all you want but he does not deserve to be free.

    • @lgutierrez9592
      @lgutierrez9592 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      And not any child he did it to his daughters

    • @Julee25
      @Julee25 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      A sick man will always be a sick man.

    • @miriamgaytan1880
      @miriamgaytan1880 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      💯💯💯💯💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @lexicreations8179
      @lexicreations8179 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      His other daughter is mad at the time he is there. But that could have happened to her since chiquis is saying he did not understand what he did was wrong. That's why they should face life because they will do it to others

    • @Julee25
      @Julee25 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@lexicreations8179 it seems like being in prison has not been enough to accept his wrong doing and not rehabilitated

  • @ladamaperfecta7
    @ladamaperfecta7 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +72

    “I wasn’t a great dad” biggest understatement of the decade. You owe him nothing. Seriously Chiquis,I hope you’re doing this for you and not for him because some things truly should not be forgiven and forgotten .

  • @MYOPINIONLIKEITORNOT
    @MYOPINIONLIKEITORNOT 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +167

    Personally I think it's weird that he was mad at you. That he "didn't understand" what he did wrong? "Only YOU know what you went through"? He does too! HE feels weird you speak about what happened to you (what HE did)? Honestly it doesn't seem like he's taking full accountability. He acknowledged his mistakes 7 years ago. Did he ever clear your name to his family, those that called you a liar?.
    You did what was best for you and if that conversation was enough for you and gave you peace, than that's all that matters.

    • @joseviveros899
      @joseviveros899 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      agreed

    • @cocogal4550
      @cocogal4550 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Right? Like why was he the one mad ? lol

    • @J10-f4s
      @J10-f4s 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@cocogal4550 he was mad because she testified against him.

    • @korrinagarcia-hk3ib
      @korrinagarcia-hk3ib 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      He was mad because at that time he didn’t know what he did, he blamed everyone else he was selfish, and she literally said he apologized because he takes accountability now, and he’s saying only YOU know what you went through as in, no one can tell the story for her, but her so how dare everyone call her a liar.

  • @karinaflores1785
    @karinaflores1785 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Chiquis I work in a correctional facility and let me tell you that…
    Those ppl don’t change!
    It’s sad but it is what it is, it’s there choice to keep hurting society.
    I still love and respect you as a person but you need to stop trusting and allowing ppl to keep hurting you. You are glowing and growing rn.

  • @rosemarysior3765
    @rosemarysior3765 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Sorry , but i would not have a relationship with him , forgiveness and having a relationship are two different things , ive been through something similar " with my grandfather and uncle, and because of this, ive been emotional effected my whole life , but God bless you chiquis , i love and adore you , your such an amazing soul , ❤️

  • @carolinabarajas2640
    @carolinabarajas2640 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +100

    idk I could never. And for me personally, not that it matters. He deserves the time he was given, that and more. It would be so weird still wanting a relationship with someone that did that to me. You’re not real Chiquis, you have such a big heart. ❤️

  • @joseviveros899
    @joseviveros899 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    i dont like how he said "speak about it so often" like excuse me sir how dare you.

  • @can_per
    @can_per 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    “Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” Everyone heals at their own pace in their own way. It looks like this helped you in your life journey and that’s all that matters.

  • @jamiejayvargas8116
    @jamiejayvargas8116 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I too was a victim of SA when I was younger by close family member. It honestly breaks my heart that she still feels guilt and fault for something she had no fault or control over. He is paying a direct consequence for his actions it is no one’s fault but his own. It isn’t only “your truth” it is THE truth, he is still in many ways gaslighting and not being fully accountable. Forgive him for you, not because he deserves anything. I really wish and hope you’re able to seek some help for some of the feelings and emotions your dealing with, because you in no way owe him anything and in no way is any of this your fault. Please take this comment from a place of concern and love, becareful with him and guard your heart and emotions.

  • @msp0226
    @msp0226 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    I don’t like that he was like “it’s your truth” “don’t let people tell you your wrong” he could’ve been like you’re not a liar because i did do those things to you. he asked for forgiveness but took the weight off it in my opinion, or maybe im just projecting for Chiquis, it seems she needed that apology more than anything.

    • @MYOPINIONLIKEITORNOT
      @MYOPINIONLIKEITORNOT 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Not just that but he didn't understand what he did wrong for years? That's impossible. Criminals known what they do is wrong and choose to do it but to say he didn't understand is crazy. It's not like he has a disability that didn't allow him to know better. He's still not taking full accountability. He could've also been clearing up her name with his family. Not thay chiquis needs it but they called her a loar for years.

    • @bridgetcalderon4905
      @bridgetcalderon4905 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I don’t think he truly wants to admit it.

  • @marielasaldivar4010
    @marielasaldivar4010 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    I think it was your inner little girl that was scared to be there and see the person that was supposed to protect her, and didn’t 😢

    • @GM-ue8xc
      @GM-ue8xc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      This!! Her inner child was terrified

  • @MandyRomero-tt3pk
    @MandyRomero-tt3pk 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    Chiquis that man is a pedo and unfortunately it’s not something that he can just “turn off” You having daddy issues and looking for a relationship with the man who took her innocence from you the man who instead of protecting you he hurt in the worst way possible!!!

    • @springlove7219
      @springlove7219 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      True but not only that, believing that the time he was given was too much?!…he didn’t only do it once he did it to others as well, that are known of but those practices are not a one and done deal. God knows who else or how many others in his country of origin. He is not going to say. God knows why things happen the way they do and maybe this is the way he should be dealt with in protection of others in the future.

    • @MiEli987
      @MiEli987 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It’s a confusing message for sure. I feel she talks about in a personal perspective and then says this is her testimony and the reason she talks about it. I hope little girls that experience this abuse don’t think they have to do this. Chiquis says, she forgave him before he ever apologized or admit to it, again a confusion message. She even says in her personal message to him, thank you for seeing me, I know it was along time. What?! You father took advantage of you and others and denied this entire time. I hope she doesn’t help get him out early. Think about the other victims too.

    • @springlove7219
      @springlove7219 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@MiEli987 agree, I feel she or they meaning the other sister/sisters are trying to fill a void since they already lost one parent they are trying to rescue the other. However he is a pedo and there is no working around that. Plus looks like he has a good time with others In there. They should put feelings aside and look at the whole picture and of course, if they want to see him, visit but leave him in there.

  • @jasminerojas6049
    @jasminerojas6049 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    you're so strong Janney! it takes one strong women to do what you did and forgive those type of actions. We love you and are so proud of you for being so brave

  • @dominizel25
    @dominizel25 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    rewatching all the rivera shows and all the episodes and chiquis's documentary Ive come to the conclusion that jenni was not a good mother to her at all chiquis deserved so much better i hope shes healing now and gets to be a great mom

    • @rebecasalgado3110
      @rebecasalgado3110 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      this! I think she choose being an artist first before being a mother. There is nothing wrong with that. But chiquis had a lot on her shoulders. This is true forgiveness. I just want to hug her

  • @yeyamartinez9189
    @yeyamartinez9189 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    Although I’m not a fan of your music, I am a big fan of you! You are an incredible person.

    • @emiliarodriguez7809
      @emiliarodriguez7809 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Want a relationship with an abuser makes her an incredible person. That’s wrong. He abused her aunt, herself and her sister. What kid a person does that?

    • @auroravargas55
      @auroravargas55 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@emiliarodriguez7809 her aunt?? Wdym ?

    • @emiliarodriguez7809
      @emiliarodriguez7809 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@auroravargas55 yes, her aunt Rosie, herself and her little sister Jacqui. He did it when they were little girls. There’s a full interview with Charitin Goyco in escádalo tv. Her mom was with them in the interview. Then you can find a video when he got convicted for abuse and rape them.

  • @TeawithValerie1
    @TeawithValerie1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    I don’t like how she thanks him!😢 your so beautiful chiquis! Keep doing you and I hope when you have your blessing from god your mind and world will change for the better ! God bless you always! Happy healing ☮️🫶🏽

    • @ElizabethRamirez-q8l
      @ElizabethRamirez-q8l 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      She praises and worships her mom too! And her mom also treated her like shit!!!

  • @antonellaleal
    @antonellaleal 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    "Hey Chiquis , the way you think about what happens is very concerning. It might be a good idea to look into finding a new therapist. There's no need to thank him for anything, and seeing you is the bare minimum he should do. He certainly doesn’t need to be a part of your life anymore. Focus on yourself and work to close that chapter for good."

  • @jessicaortiz1089
    @jessicaortiz1089 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    Chiquis im sorry but i feel like your in denial. It almost feels like you still have daddy issues. I believe in forgiveness 100 % but i dont think that continuing a relationship with a person that hurt you and your family so much is necessary. I dont chiquis. Would have him around your child? Idk. It almost feels like your blaming your self for what he did for you. For his sickness.

    • @vanessabigrod
      @vanessabigrod 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Unless you’ve walked a mile in her shoes, you’re not going to comprehend nor understand.

  • @teriakichicken5060
    @teriakichicken5060 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Chiquis, thank you for being so vulnerable and letting people hear the reality of sexual abuse, it made me tear up when you said that he asked you to forgive him, I was also abused by my father and he’s not in prison, he is free and only my mom & sister know, if my sister didn’t tell anybody else.. and I’ve been pretty much forced to brush that under the rug and pretend that it didn’t happen because I depend on my father and so does my mom.. and so I carry these feelings in my heart that I don’t think I could ever really express.. my relationship with my dad has had ups and downs, and he even said he’s sorry in front of my whole family one time when he was drunk.. I just don’t know what to feel because I think that I was made out to seem like a liar or like I exaggerated.. but no, I know what I experienced was not ok or normal for a young boy.. but I just pray that some day I find peace with this.. dios te bendiga

  • @planningwithalo
    @planningwithalo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    You’re brave and so kind hearted Chiquis , it’s insane how one of the persons who’s hurt you the most can also have you yearning for such validation. Our brains are wilddddd , the way parents are our first ever most important connection and attachment . Sheesh , this was a hard episode , thank you so much for your vulnerability .

  • @SusieColmenero
    @SusieColmenero 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    As mom to a girl it makes me uncomfortable that you feel bad for how long he’s in there.
    A grown man or woman that has touched a little girl, a woman, boy, man or child inappropriately should ROT in jail for the rest of their life.
    Can you forgive, for you? Ofcourse! But feeling bad about it I believe are unhealed traumas that’s are still lingering. Still love you though. ❤

  • @marianaberg9863
    @marianaberg9863 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    You keep mentioning being nervous, being a baby, acting/feeling like a little girl and thats because you were a little girl when he traumatized you. You gave him so much grace. Sexual abuse is horrendous, but doing that to a child let alone his own child is beyond evil. He doesnt understand why you talk about "it" so much?? Because "it" destroys you and if you dont seek therapy, it becomes you. But i guess good on him for letting "it" go so easily.

  • @msp0226
    @msp0226 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    it breaks my heart that you feel bad, in a way I understand but we all have consequences to our actions- some are just more severe than others but I’m sure you know that it’s not your fault Chiquis. ❤

    • @emiliarodriguez7809
      @emiliarodriguez7809 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I wouldn’t feel bad or guilty if they take my father’s eyes out if he abused for years a little girl specially if they are my aunt, my self and my little sister. He is in prison because abusing a child is a crime. Don’t normalize any type of abuse.

  • @nanaalvaa
    @nanaalvaa 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    This podcast definitely has me balling in tears!! You’re so brave! ❤️‍🩹

  • @melissarentas6027
    @melissarentas6027 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I love how you always support your siblings no matter what and if she’s taking heat for it it’s because people really really don’t love you her or your mother

  • @Yiyyio
    @Yiyyio 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You have enormous strength, compassion, and self awareness for doing this. If this is what you needed to heal, then it’s what you needed. No one knows what is best for another person. I’m happy you figured out what is best for you and had the courage to do it.

  • @Dazebby
    @Dazebby 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    This was very triggering for me as a child who SA. I lost my respect for you. The fact you said he didn’t deserve all that time. All the PTSD all the hurt he caused not to you but your whole family. A man who touches a child deserves life in prison. Just because they probably experienced it as a child gives no right to try and do it to another child.

    • @ElizabethRamirez-q8l
      @ElizabethRamirez-q8l 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly!!!! Even her mother treated her like crap!!! And she worships her mom

  • @sir_excuseme
    @sir_excuseme 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I’m glad you got the closure you needed and if you choose to have a relationship with him, it is your right and your business. However, trying to humanize a demon is crazy. There is good and there is bad and that is a monster and I hope he stays there and never sees the light of day!!

  • @luciatrujillo7924
    @luciatrujillo7924 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am in awe of your strength! Your ability to forgive and rise above it all and in the public eye. That's just amazing. To choose to love you and let go of what no longer serves you.

  • @stephaniecardenas652
    @stephaniecardenas652 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Idk if she’s still trying to get her dad out but she needs to think because he can do what he did to other kids

  • @Marleyy2_1
    @Marleyy2_1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Oh my God this is horrible. I understand, forgiving it’s a way of healing , but not when they harm you and the way he harmed her and her family, I could not stand watching the end of it where she’s talking to him, seems like she’s grateful for him or for even him giving her the time of day, expect him to call you constantly and ask you for financial help specially once he gets out, inmates have a way of manipulating the brain, especially kind people like her, Im sure her mom is not happy like she mentioned. She works so hard to put this monster in prison. I worked in the department in the past and these kind of people are the worst of the worst, I feel compassion towards her. I said what I said.

    • @Laly_44
      @Laly_44 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I agree with you 100%. Jenni suffered so much as well with this monster, the whole family did. It's hard to understand chiquis and Jackie. They all went through hell with him!

  • @maliricagravano6247
    @maliricagravano6247 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Creeeepy the two mind set of chiquis and her dad...

    • @MandyRomero-tt3pk
      @MandyRomero-tt3pk 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Seriously it’s so sad that she’s so much need for a father figure that she’s looking for it in the man who s a her

    • @emiliarodriguez7809
      @emiliarodriguez7809 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Is sick what she is saying and what she is doing.

  • @mayraa457
    @mayraa457 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    chiquis dont feel bad about how many years he got. this needs to be a message for all pedos that if you mess with our children these are the consequences! I am happy you were validated and heard that you are not a liar from him. hopefully when he talks to his family he keeps the same story/tune and not try to paint you in a different light

  • @melissarentas6027
    @melissarentas6027 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Your husband is so shy publicly, but even the little few videos that you’ve posted with him, I can see in his eyes how much he loves you and it warms my heart. Not because you’re a famous person that I have followed and love since I was young,because you are simply a beautiful person.

  • @irislopez-guevara4918
    @irislopez-guevara4918 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Forgiveness can happen from a distance. While it might help to express your feelings, there’s no need to maintain a relationship with someone who once hurt your younger self. Think about what little Janney would have felt, enduring pain from someone who was supposed to protect her. Now, you have the power to protect her, and she would be so proud of the strength and healing you’ve shown, Chiquis.
    I understand how certain words can be triggering, especially for those who haven’t yet healed or found justice for what happened to them. Hearing stories like this can be painful. But out of respect for Chiquis, she deserves only grace, not judgment. She has shown courage in sharing her story, and her vulnerability is a gift to those who need it.”
    .

  • @angieSPEAKS1
    @angieSPEAKS1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thanks for sharing details about your visit to see your dad. Those were such personal details so thank you for sharing your experience with us. We love you Chiquis! Forgiveness changes people. Many blessings to you and your family 🙏

  • @AprilRose-i8y
    @AprilRose-i8y 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow. Heartbreaking and touching. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @monicaestelladuran4230
    @monicaestelladuran4230 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    🦋So glad for the closure. Entering your 40's will be so free-ing 🦋

  • @ivettehernandez-martinez8334
    @ivettehernandez-martinez8334 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Aww Chiquis I always just want to hug you 🫂❤️🥹

  • @JesusPerez-ux9zw
    @JesusPerez-ux9zw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Chiquis forgiveness is a very powerful thing God bless mija 🙏🙏👍👍

  • @BMR_1313
    @BMR_1313 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Chiquis, some of these comments are worth to be read.
    I am putting MY opinion and in no way or form does it or will it change the way you see this situation with your father.
    I feel like, he only apologized bcus YOU had made it publicly clear that if he does not come forward and apologize for what he did to you, you wouldn’t want to be a part of him in any way or form, that you were going to move on with your life as you have. I’m not sure if those were the exact words you have said but I know that was the idea. BUT you have been perfectly fine without him. I think he knew about that so this “apology” in my thoughts ARE NOT SINCERE. I feel like he thinks or knows that he will be better off with you being forgiving of him so she can be more on “his side” bcus as you we all know that saying “keep your friends close but your enemies closer” and I’m not saying you’re his enemy or vice versa but I think you will understand what I’m saying and what I mean by that.
    He is also in no place to validate someone who’s a part of your life. Like ummm excuse me?
    Chiquis, I hope that you are really getting some kind of therapy, bcus yes, forgiving someone who hurt you in any matter is good for your heart and for your peace but now having a relationship with your father? That is a relationship that has been torn apart bcus of him.
    And YOU SHOULD NOT FEEL BAD that he’s incarcerated because of something he did to you, come on! This is stuff that gets talked through in therapy. And genuinely, if you feel this way you have yet to find a great therapist for you bcus you’re not a victim of this bcus of what you did but bcus of someone else.
    And props to Emilio bcus I could never look up to someone and even have respect for someone who did that to you chiquis.

    • @MandyRomero-tt3pk
      @MandyRomero-tt3pk 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Seriously!! It makes me feel so bad for Chiquis it’s like she’s craving for that love of a parent that she’s willing to have a relationship with a monster

    • @lauraswan8647
      @lauraswan8647 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Very well said

    • @lauraswan8647
      @lauraswan8647 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@MandyRomero-tt3pkexactly

  • @ellacent
    @ellacent 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    There are so many comments on here full of anger and lack of forgiveness that makes me so sad, too many people are projecting their pain and unresolved trauma on to you! Which is not ok because where you are right now and the peace that radiates in you is all that matters. People can change. Let’s create that safe space for everyone to do so & focus on our own journey and applaud people like Chiquis who share their vulnerability with the world, it really does help so many to know you are not alone.
    For someone who has gone through the healing journey, THIS is so beautiful. Praying for more love, strength and genuine happiness in your life, so happy to see you make it to the other side of these dark moments and see you shine light on to it truly is inspiring. From those of us who get you, and all the nuances in the journey so incredibly proud of you girl! Xo

  • @melissarentas6027
    @melissarentas6027 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You forgave him for you, not for him and that is your right to do so as a Christian myself I fully respect you I am so glad that you got that statement that you needed to hear from him. I have loved you since you were born. Not because your mom was a famous singer, but because I got to see you growing up on TV and for me it was like watching someone from next-door. You are such a beautiful person and you deserve nothing but happiness.

  • @funcolorfulandsafespace4693
    @funcolorfulandsafespace4693 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is next level forgiveness, this is how you know you have healed and forgiven those that has harmed you. ❤

  • @cassandralucero4730
    @cassandralucero4730 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    It’s one thing to forgive and another to believe he doesn’t deserve the amount of time he got. That is absolutely vile and something a pedo apologist would say.

  • @playanddream9013
    @playanddream9013 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    This Is the true meaning of Forgiveness ❤

  • @monicaestelladuran4230
    @monicaestelladuran4230 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I have all your books 📚 big fan of your reality shows & spin offs. The podcast too of course! Haven't seen the docu series since it's in Spanish. So thanks for this episode 🙏❤

  • @dominizel25
    @dominizel25 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    how is his daughter still upset with chiquis for being sexually abused by her own father ,that's how u know he's lying to chiquis and asking for forgiveness to he can get out faster

  • @LizConway-q5y
    @LizConway-q5y 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It's your healing process. It's for you and you alone. There should be no judgement on how you feel. God Bless you.

  • @julianmadrigales
    @julianmadrigales 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Everyones healing looks different your strong chiquis 💪🏽🫶

  • @bettysosa4644
    @bettysosa4644 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Omg 😂I was in tears hearing you talk. I am glad you saw him cause this is what you needed to get it off your chest. Prayers 🙏🏽that things get better for y’all. So happy Emilio was there for you. He is a wonderful man who loves you ❤love you girl.

  • @JonathanCortez-l4o
    @JonathanCortez-l4o 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m sorry you feel that way I also experienced being SA as a small child and I was so angry for a long time but you know what that anger does to you as an adult it ruins relationships, forgiveness is for YOU not for anyone else. God handles everything and He sees everything it’s not our job to get even or revenge. I also tried to protect that person but she went thru therapy and has an amazing partner so Chiquis im so proud of you !!!

  • @danielago5798
    @danielago5798 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Out of the 17 years incarcerated, he’s only realized he’s sick in the head for 7 years. Clearly needs more time. The part “I don’t like that you talk about it so much or at all“ pissed me off. Also where they call him suegro & that they think you’re cute, ew. Cute as a sick man he is or “was”. Kudos to you guys for trying again, I wanna say no judgement but damn I am squinting & slightly judging because guys always get mad chances on fucking up even when it comes to kids. BUT this was more for you than him. God bless always, Janney as I do identify myself with the personality you show even if I haven’t gone thru most of what you have. Xoxo

  • @BizzieMcGoodies
    @BizzieMcGoodies 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I don’t want to judge but good on you for doing what’s best for your healing journey girl. Everyone has their own journey and processes. It speaks volumes about what kind of husband you have. He encourages your healing and that’s what’s different from the rest of your relationships. He’s probably also tapped in and self aware another reason this relationship is different than the rest. Sending you both love and light on your life journey 🫶🏼

  • @ConnieAlaniz-bj9dq
    @ConnieAlaniz-bj9dq 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Super emotional hearing everything .😰😨😥 What you said and your dad said. .

  • @MissEee7
    @MissEee7 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I feel he low key manipulated the conversation a bit, from your story telling, to be upset that you talk about it so much or you are causing him further turmoil within his family- is very disturbing looking from the outside in. I also feel sexual predators, esp pedophiles, they don't change they only suppress the urge & thoughts. But In the end this is your story & your life.

    • @miriamgaytan1880
      @miriamgaytan1880 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      💯

    • @gw2210
      @gw2210 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I agree and I feel like he told her what she wanted to hear based on the research he has done (watching her pods etc)

    • @GM-ue8xc
      @GM-ue8xc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      100%!!!

  • @xochilreyes3743
    @xochilreyes3743 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sending you all the positive vibes in the world. I know your heart and Soul needed that apology.

  • @ConnieAlaniz-bj9dq
    @ConnieAlaniz-bj9dq 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Proud of you❤❤ feels good to heal and forgive ❤❤ I learned to do the same with the people who hurt me as a child and current it was an amazing feeling and get closer to god ❤❤ ever since it felt Amazing and good feeling. To learn to FORGIVENESS 💜💜 & feels like a big weight knock down & a demon knock down & face your demons able to let go and forgive and only you know your truth and facts.. totally undertstand that feeling.

  • @YdubinaFlores
    @YdubinaFlores 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This really really hit home it made me realize i wasn't we're i need to be and i haven't forgiven the way i thought i did and it broke me thank you so much for opening up and telling the world you help in so many ways thank you and god bless you and your family and your dad

  • @yamilletgarcia4438
    @yamilletgarcia4438 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I wish I had your strength. I still look at my abuser and I crumble inside. Raised by strict Hispanic parents it was a common thing to sweep it under the rug and continue life. Sadly

  • @eli_gut
    @eli_gut 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Awww Chiquis ! 😢 what a wonderful episode & thank for sharing . I aplaude you for following your heart and visiting your dad . A veces no entendemos porque suceden las cosas y no hay que buscar culpables , el momento se llegó de ir con tu papá y lo manejaste de la mejor manera ♥️♥️ inspiras !! Gracias hermosa !!

  • @exiromero7597
    @exiromero7597 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Hola! Janney, siempre recuerda que No puedes complacer a todo el mundo. Si tú estás bien y sientes paz, eso es lo único importante aquí. Y de alguna manera es un círculo mas que se sierra para tu papá también. Eres una persona muy valiente y me siento contenta por ti porque siempre enfrentas tus miedos y luchas de una manera muy sincera, a pesar que No es nada fácil como lo comentas, pero siempre es mejor dormir tranquilo en la almohada porque al final del día nos encontramos con nuestros mismos y ahi no hay nadie más para ayudarnos con nuestros temores. Sigue confiando en Dios, siempre y en tu instinto porque eso te traerá paz, siempre 🙏🏼un saludo a distancia 💞

  • @Em-qh4ft
    @Em-qh4ft 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Chiquis you didn’t recognize yourself, because you reverted to how you were as a child when you experienced a traumatic experience. It’s weird how the brain and trauma works.

    • @J10-f4s
      @J10-f4s 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I just went through this in June. I never told my mom about my abuser until now. I found out he reached out to her after many many years. I saw it as a sign from god. I have never been so weak, broken, vulnerable… just as she explained it. I didn’t recognize myself.

    • @Em-qh4ft
      @Em-qh4ft 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@J10-f4s I can’t even imagine, I hope it helped you heal 🙏🏽

  • @redearaser5026
    @redearaser5026 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I was SA by a very close family member at such a young age and this person is someone I love and I don’t think I’ll ever speak up about it I’m now 18 and this happened a long time ago but for a while I had a little resentment but I forgave them, and we never speak about it but it seems like they have changed and if they can change anyone can❤

  • @danielarroyojr
    @danielarroyojr หลายเดือนก่อน

    Chiquis, I’m a 55 year old fan of #ChiquisNation I only started following you and learning about you through my love of Mexican Regional Music and the long affair with the Mexican culture and food. But what really touch me is after winning a Latin Grammy, you gave thanks to God first which as humans we tend not to do. Then the “What does Chiquis do after winning a Latin Grammy Award? She eats McDonalds with her husband!” You are so down to earth and humble despite your parents and their success. This has spoken volume as to the person you are, who God is and represents in your life and marriage and who you are married too, Emilio. Then I hear this. Congratulations Chiquis, this is spiritual maturity. It takes me back to the once famous, WWJD. You didn’t see a criminal or even your dad, you saw a person. Hurt people hurt people and you stopped that curse over you and yours with your act of forgiveness, mercy and grace. Exactly what Jesus did for me and would do for your dad or anyone who ask for it. Soy un puertorriqueño orgulloso de ti. Te amo 🥰 mi new found Mexican Princess. Can’t wait to see what the future holds for you. Have you thought of a song or two de los coritos de la iglesia?

  • @valeriemartinez688
    @valeriemartinez688 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are so real and such a beautiful person for that. I know you made this decision for YOUR peace but wow, the courage is admirable. We love u chiquis!

  • @Loveyourz95
    @Loveyourz95 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This made me tear up Chiquis! This is so beautiful, and thank you for sharing. You have a beautiful heart ❤️

  • @Peanutandjelly.2121
    @Peanutandjelly.2121 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for sharing your story I was sexually abused and now I see all the trauma it caused me and I have a daughter and I’m 35 and overly protective of my son and daughter. I wish I could talk about it more but I just can’t but I’m working on it 😢 so thank you for talking about it ❤❤❤hugs

  • @foreverlyrobledos1203
    @foreverlyrobledos1203 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Chiquis, it takes a big heart and courage to do what you did by visiting your father. You did what was right for you and that is all that matters. No one will understand and comments will be made but there is nothing wrong with what you did. You needed answers for yourself and I would have done the same. When we have God in our hearts and understand about forgiveness we have won a bigger battle. Your heart is so pure and beautiful and there are many of us that would be so lucky to have a friend like you. Continue to share your light and truth because us your loving and true fans will not judge or think any different of you. As for Emilio, you have a wonderful husband by your side and may God bless him so he continues to be your rock and protector. Thank you Chiquis for pouring out your truth. Blessings from one of your down to earth fans from Houston, Texas.

  • @DulceDiego-xq5xy
    @DulceDiego-xq5xy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m crying 12:48 listening to those while driving 😢 Love u chickis❤

  • @issaabbel__1067
    @issaabbel__1067 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Janneyyy thank you for sharing this you healed a part of me and watching your courage your love your soul and forgiveness that you give gave me inspiration ❤ and also some won’t understand and that is also okay

  • @michmex220
    @michmex220 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That’s good chiquis I’m really very happy for you , and maybe a lot of people won’t understand it, but only god knows what you needed for your heart and for your spiritual walk with him and what god gave you through your father asking for your forgiveness was a gift for you ! God loves you and he doesn’t want anything to hinder your spiritual walk with him ! I wish you the best from here on in your relationship with your dad , it’s what god is all about, he is the healer of the broken and of the broken families! God is in the business of doing the miraculous in what needs fixing ! 🙏

  • @cristinacontreras7604
    @cristinacontreras7604 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Chickis you are a very brave woman only God knows what you’ve been through. May God always guard you and protect you❤

  • @jeanieoliver4813
    @jeanieoliver4813 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Chiquis I want to say. Wow this is truly what I believe a reflection of who God is. I watched the shack the other day and it was on the part about wisdom and the father had to decide which kid to take to hell. And the dad couldn’t pick because he loved them both. Then wisdom tells the father who made you judge to decide who goes where. And it showed there past. It’s called the shack really good movie. Your heart is pure and I think this is amazing. You being able to forgive him and not judge him. ❤

  • @4figlets
    @4figlets 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Chiquis for sharing❤ I 💜 Chiquis Sin Filtro! Need season ✌!!

  • @CarolC_Vibes
    @CarolC_Vibes 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Girl don’t feel bad for him. He’s paying for his consequences. What he did to you and your aunt was wrong.

  • @bridgetcalderon4905
    @bridgetcalderon4905 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You do not need to apologize for anything! HE DID THIS TO YOU when yo were a CHILD. He brought this upon his self every action has consequences. Speaking about it is a part of healing you have every right to speak your truth!

  • @MariaGarcia-qh7fv
    @MariaGarcia-qh7fv 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Seeing all the comments says a lot. It’s sad, Chiquis isn’t doing this to please you people, she’s doing it for herself. It’s easy to talk about not wanting to do it, or you don’t understand why she is doing what she is. People who have been through something similar understand why she thinks this way or why she is wanting to talk to him. I never got justice and hear my family talk about this person, so seeing chiquis on the other side, makes me happy for her. I hope this changes the cycle and life is full of peace for her 💜

  • @JacquelineMoreno-xp2mm
    @JacquelineMoreno-xp2mm 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    However one wants to spin it he did what he did and that is wrong regardless. And to say that’s not enough time for people that commit those crimes is insane to hear. To each their own and it makes it hard for someone who has gone through that to hear and many would agree. Everyone has a right to forgive but I would never have someone like that around my children, nieces / nephews or any children for that matter regardless.

  • @xoxoIsela
    @xoxoIsela 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for sharing! We are all glad that you have been able to get some closure! It doesn’t matter what any else thinks. Have a blessed day 🛍️

  • @patriciatovar8038
    @patriciatovar8038 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Obviously I don’t know you personally but I’m so proud of you, it’s you life , your decision on what you need to do to heal and move forward, super proud and obviously your mom is proud of you too 💕

    • @emiliarodriguez7809
      @emiliarodriguez7809 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No, si yo fuera su madre jamás estaría orgullosa que mi hija fuera a buscar a prisión al hombre que abusó por años a unas niñas. Peor aún siendo mis hijas y mi hermanita. Ellas eran chiquitas. Jenni luchó para poner en prisión a ese hombre. VERGÜENZA, me daría a mí que mi hija no tenga valores y no sepa reconocer el bien y el mal. Que se sienta culpable de haber sido abusada por su padre siendo ella una niña. Necesita ayuda psiquiátrica urgentemente.

  • @marielasaldivar4010
    @marielasaldivar4010 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    He didn’t know what he was doing was wrong??? Like WTF 🤯🤯🤯 he not only abused you, but your little sister as well and your aunt. Narcissistic abusers have a way of manipulating a situation and talking their way out of things.. you blame yourself more than he blames himself. So sad 😞 and you should be grateful he got that many years most victims don’t get any justice at all!

    • @GM-ue8xc
      @GM-ue8xc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      It’s almost like Stockholm syndrome 😕

    • @marielasaldivar4010
      @marielasaldivar4010 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@GM-ue8xc yes exactly this!! I’ve honestly been thinking of this all day 😟

    • @sancheze3046
      @sancheze3046 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Right.. she’s too nice I love her and her family. It’s heartbreaking.

  • @gabriellatorres6787
    @gabriellatorres6787 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love you chiquis for all of that truly your story is healing and a process for me. I watched the netflix show and that was like wow .. and just I love how you have kept the family close ❤️ I use to watch your mom's show when I was soooo young and was obsessed with your family and it's just amazing how everyone has grown and living there lives .. and this step was pretty big and encouraging I could never stand up and do that I basically ran away from family and made my own to just cover the past. And the past is just ptsd and anxiety

  • @reinamauricio7063
    @reinamauricio7063 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow!! You are a brave and strong beautiful woman. Proud of you for having such as humble heart. You did the right thing by taking the take to go see your dad. Que Dios te siga bendiciendo mucho mas.

  • @dorysalove299
    @dorysalove299 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My beautiful Chiqus, You heal your soul and those around you heal, I bless the woman who has become into a beautiful butterfly 🦋 you are doing so well in the search for your inner peace, may God continue blessings you and guiding your footsteps, you are a Resilient Soul, my Soul embraces you with all my love❤

  • @edithlopezm0924
    @edithlopezm0924 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    He gave you the validation you needed Chiquis. Don't worry about any one else opinions. That's just what I think sending you ❤️

  • @brendamontiel248
    @brendamontiel248 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😢 loved this episode when you spoke to your dad I felt the little girl in you, not sure how to explain it but yes loved this episode

  • @evetterivas8450
    @evetterivas8450 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Blessings to you and your family ❤

  • @rosycota1311
    @rosycota1311 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My heart hurts for you but I love the peace you gave me after this. ❤

  • @stephaniehernandez_90
    @stephaniehernandez_90 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I understand that she wants to be close to her dad again since they don’t have their mom anymore but she doesn’t owe him anything. It’s evident that she still has daddy issues and hasn’t come to terms with everything that transpired with her dad. But then again that is what she’s trying to achieve. I think she really needs her dad but just because her mom is not here anymore that doesn’t negate the fact that what he did was wrong on so many levels. He didn’t just abuse Chiquis but Rosie, and Jacquie. I think Chiquis wants to lessen the gravity of her dad’s actions but this man did a lot of harm. His sentence was very much deserved. God bless you and your siblings Chiquis ❤️🙏🏻

  • @melissarentas6027
    @melissarentas6027 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You forgave him for you, not for him and that is your right to do so as a Christian myself I fully respect you

  • @ness8520
    @ness8520 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm excited to hear how it went with that. Hope everything went well for your well-being ❤

  • @anjelicacastro4352
    @anjelicacastro4352 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So proud of you. Healing is the best thing you could’ve done to move forward. God bless 🙏🏽💪🏽🤎

  • @Shhhh4426
    @Shhhh4426 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m crying 😢😢😢 I’m so glad he acknowledged your pain.

  • @dorothy4719
    @dorothy4719 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was very brave of you and you seem very sincere. God bless you and may he continue to guide you ♥️

  • @phannie714
    @phannie714 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I don’t understand all these negative comments. I admire your strength and courageous heart.

  • @Leteah
    @Leteah 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I think that we all have a lot to learn and a long way to go when it comes to forgiveness.
    This is her way of healing, her father is paying for what he did anyway. Chiquis has a kind soul, what is the use of holding resentment and anger, this is her way of letting go.