Chopped to celebrate my divorce, at the age of thirty-one, after 15 years in an abusive marriage. Decided to let it grow during COVID pandemic. Now, at seventy- six years of age, silver, and long enough to reach my shoulders. I’m HAPPY! I ❤️it. I’m doing ME👍🏽👏🏽
Thank you for being so candid and sharing your big chop story. I'm so sorry you endured an abusive marriage. No one deserves that mistreatment. I bet your hair is beautiful. The fact that you're happy is what's most important. ❤
Thanks To the beautician for saying out loud the tradition of burning the hair. I thought I was the only one who knew it. No one else ever mentions it. 😊❤
It looks Beautiful! 😍😍😍 Happy for you that you finally did it. You can be naturally you and embrace your full beauty. Its much better than the wig you had on before too and you can save sooo much money just being you 🥰🥰
Conformation for me because I am Becoming myself as well and it feels good to me just to actually know me better. Thank you for your brave self clamations. Beautiful
Gorgeous! Just gorgeous! My mom put a kiddie perm in my hair at 10 years old. I was told that my hair was bad, too thick, too nappy, too kinky! Now I am totally 100% natural! Enjoy the process.
I know how she feels...it was a west/eastcoast thing for me always having to keep it together and a perm/ weave/wig was it...the makeup too. Finding yourself and loving yourself is the most freeing adventure for a black woman❤ i did this 15yrs ago and helped my older sis find herself last year❤ so beautiful to live to see this day where we arent hiding who we truly are...the comment about the kitchen i helped my bff past that its traumatic💔she now has a thick beautiful coffed head of hair. Feed your hair treat it like a plant water it with rose water aloe water oil it with coconut oil/fatty oils stimulate it with herbs and flowers and your hair will thank u❤😊
Thank you for sharing. I’m actually transitioning to go back to loose natural and doing the big chop at 42 to grow loose natural hair as long as my locks are. Looking forward to following the journey
My hair was continually relaxed by a professional stylist up until 2020. I stopped when my hair texture changed. It became easy to over-process and I could not get stylists to listen. I grew out shoulder length hair without a big chop. It was a journey because it changes constantly. But anyway, I can relate to the journey of discovering one’s natural hair later in life.
I grew up the same way, nappy hair, course hair, and yes felt bad for years about the texture, my hair is down my back but thick as hell only do relaxer twice a year now younger yrs once a month. Always wondered about going short and natural just never had the guts. People are a trip when I try to wear wigs just to protect my hair people why you got that wig on with all that hair. At almost 60 I am almost at that point.i want to feel free. You look so pretty with the short cut. I probably cry to whenever I do it. 😊
Thank you for sharing your personal experience. I find it odd too when people have such big opinions about how we wear our hair or when we choose to switch it up and wear wigs, braids, etc. I find it so liberating to freely express my creative energy through my hairstyles.
I love this video! You look gorgeous!! I just got the same style three months ago. I did the big chop and I love it!!!! I regret not doing it sooner. You’re beautiful my love!! 💜💜🫶🏾🫶🏾
This is touching, emotional and really beautiful. You look absolutely fabulous. They call it the kitchen area because in the old days the architecture of the time always put the kitchen at the BACK of the house.
Wow you are so expressive ... May I say .. Sis soon those will be tears of joy as your fingers appreciate the feeling of your hair. I big chopped years ago and it took a while to adjust but I loved going swimming two or three times a week swimming under water like a mermaid. Hun you'll rock your twa with style ... go head girl fulljoy. 🥰
I still can not believe I allowed my hair to dictate how I lived my life and whether or not I worked out as hard or went swimming for so long. I'm so liberated now.
Fabulous! It brings out your beautiful features even more now. Rock it Girl! I am ready to do another Big Chop. Yes, like you said, at first it was because of a divorce and I needed to do it for a different me. Then, again, for different reasons. Now, due to illnesses, I am doing a big chop, to renew my spirits and to make my life and hair routine manageable and yet still more freeing for me. I am PROUD OF YOU!
In reflecting upon my childhood, I recall a distinct memory of my mother engaging in a hair-burning ritual. It was her firm belief that this practice would prevent birds from acquiring her hair, which she feared would lead to negative consequences. While I do not fully comprehend the rationale behind this belief, I intend to seek clarification from her. 🪶 Furthermore, I am contemplating a significant change in my own hairstyle. In the past, I have experimented with short hair, initially experiencing apprehension but ultimately embracing and cherishing the look. During my twenties and thirties, short hair imparted a sense of maturity, professionalism, and attractiveness. However, I am hesitant to adopt an excessively short hairstyle, as I am concerned about appearing older than my actual age. My desire is to maintain a youthful appearance. 💇♀️ 😂😊
@@srjackson1132 Our hair is so personal and such a big part of who we are. You get to decide how you want to wear it and how you feel it looks best and makes you feel about yourself. I am loving my short hair. I think it helps me maintain my youthful glow.
This made me emotional. I just started to transition from my relaxer. I have not seen my natural texture since I was 15. I am 49. Its time. I plan to cut all the relaxed hair off In june of 2025. Scared but ready to embrace my curls.
There's a reason you stumbled upon my video. I just decided to go for it, scheduled an appointment and put it on my calendar. One of the best decisions I've ever made for me.
Thank you so much for the sweet compliments. Initially, I was so scared I wouldn't like it. I love it short and I'm not sure I'll ever want to grow it out again.
Wow, this really hit home… I got my first relaxer at 11 and stopped at 18. Every month! At 18 I got the big chop but not as big as your chop was. But I cried, and this brought back a lot of memories. I’m 29 now, btw, and I never broke up my stylist and would go back to him in a heartbeat. You look beautiful ❤
I wish I had had the courage to embrace my natural texture so much younger. I'm so glad I did, finally. BTW, I never broke up with my stylist. We're still friends and I will go and see her when my hair grows out a bit more.
Wow I’m 74 and I didn’t get a relaxer until I was about 24yrs, I wore an Afro in college and several times I’ve gone back and forth between natural and straight styles, some relaxed and some pressed and flat ironed. The most freeing was when I grew my gray hair out and stayed natural. I love it.
hello , here you are , a full grown adult ( for some time ) and saying , you never knew what your natural hair looked like and crying , drama🤔🤔🤔🤔however , your new do , looks gorgeous..............thank you , for sharing🥰🥰🥰🥰............
I do the water version of that hair burning process., I live in Northern California so I drop my cut, trimmed, and shed hair over the Golden Gate Bridge. Whenever I go on a run or jog over the bridge.
No don’t send the text just show up and let her see the new you, when you reach a certain age short hair is freedom I assure you, you won’t look back.❤😊
Love your hair, cut, and color. I know you won't have time to style it the way she did. So did she tell tell/show you how to sponge it to get the same look?
My mother was from South Carolina...and she did not throw hair away she would put it on the eye on the stove and burn it......I still do it today....sometimes
People talk so much nonsense, why she didn't bag up the buzzed hair and add it to the part that was cut with scissors Listen don't get caught up in ancestral stuff that keeps you in bondage. You don't need to burn your hair. Next step cry out to Jesus. He is the only one who will help you find your true identity, you need the Holy Spirit.
Maybe therapy is needed to help in this situation. Looks beautiful. Natural hair us beautiful. Relaxers cool too. To each their own. In a few months you will be like...dayyyuummm my hair does this??!🥰
Chopped to celebrate my divorce, at the age of thirty-one, after 15 years in an abusive marriage. Decided to let it grow during COVID pandemic. Now, at seventy- six years of age, silver, and long enough to reach my shoulders. I’m HAPPY! I ❤️it. I’m doing ME👍🏽👏🏽
Thank you for being so candid and sharing your big chop story. I'm so sorry you endured an abusive marriage. No one deserves that mistreatment. I bet your hair is beautiful. The fact that you're happy is what's most important. ❤
WHOA 😮The gorgeousness can’t even be described. Love, love, love ❤
Thanks
To the beautician for saying out loud the tradition of burning the hair. I thought I was the only one who knew it. No one else ever mentions it. 😊❤
I'd never heard of that tradition before. I'm glad she told me too.
I remember as a child my mother and grandmother used to do this, both from south.
Absolutely Gorgeous!!!
I’ve Big CHOPPED SEVERAL TIMES!!!!
Freeing is an understatement!!!
❤❤❤❤❤
That’s EXACTLY how I feel.
I big chopped to raise my children-I loved it then. I started growing my hair 4 years ago-I love it now. Self acceptance is key.
I'm so glad I did it. I was scared.
It looks Beautiful! 😍😍😍 Happy for you that you finally did it. You can be naturally you and embrace your full beauty. Its much better than the wig you had on before too and you can save sooo much money just being you 🥰🥰
Hello sis. It's looking good on you. I've went through this about 4 hrs ago. Just make sure it always look good. You will be ok.
I SHAVED MY HEAD 3 YEARS AGO AND I FELT SO FREE! I LOVE YOUR HAIR ❤
I can only imagine how liberating shaving your head must have felt. Thank you for the love and kindness.
free from what?
@@jlynn9575Free from protective styles and wigs!
Conformation for me because I am Becoming myself as well and it feels good to me just to actually know me better. Thank you for your brave self clamations. Beautiful
I’m glad it gave you confirmation. Thank you for your words of kindness.
Gal that short hair will get you into trouble coz you fireeeeeee. ❤
😜😜😜 Sis! I already feel it.
Hair grows back. I shaved my hair bald twice, didn't miss it. Loved the journey of regrowing my hair.
Me too. Friends thought I was crazy. I loved it!
Stunning!!! You look absolutely beautiful!!!
Gorgeous! Just gorgeous! My mom put a kiddie perm in my hair at 10 years old. I was told that my hair was bad, too thick, too nappy, too kinky! Now I am totally 100% natural! Enjoy the process.
So I know you feel me 100%. I wish I hadn't waited so long to meet myself.
Sis, don’t send a text. Breaking up with someone should always be done face-to-face even if it’s yours hairstylist.🥰❤️
The chop was FIRE!!! I love to see women who can rock those low cuts. Fierce sis Fierce!
Thank you so much. I never knew I could wear my hair so short and love it this much.
Sis, do not send the text. This is your stylist, friend, and confidant. She will understand. Love you for sharing 💜💜💜
Thank you for the advice and support.
Send the text and tell her what you did and why. She'll understand. Also, happy to be happy is ok!
Tell your stylist in person.
Your new hair is beautiful.
I know how she feels...it was a west/eastcoast thing for me always having to keep it together and a perm/ weave/wig was it...the makeup too. Finding yourself and loving yourself is the most freeing adventure for a black woman❤ i did this 15yrs ago and helped my older sis find herself last year❤ so beautiful to live to see this day where we arent hiding who we truly are...the comment about the kitchen i helped my bff past that its traumatic💔she now has a thick beautiful coffed head of hair. Feed your hair treat it like a plant water it with rose water aloe water oil it with coconut oil/fatty oils stimulate it with herbs and flowers and your hair will thank u❤😊
Beautiful! thank you for being vulnerable and sharing ❤️❤️
Thank you for watching commenting. It was a life-altering experience. I'm so grateful for it.
Thank you for sharing. I’m actually transitioning to go back to loose natural and doing the big chop at 42 to grow loose natural hair as long as my locks are. Looking forward to following the journey
Thank you for taking the time to engage with me. I'm open to trying locs, really, whatever I want now.
My hair was continually relaxed by a professional stylist up until 2020. I stopped when my hair texture changed. It became easy to over-process and I could not get stylists to listen. I grew out shoulder length hair without a big chop. It was a journey because it changes constantly. But anyway, I can relate to the journey of discovering one’s natural hair later in life.
@@felicial7628 Glad I finally felt ready to make this big change and get acquainted with my natural texture.
Thank you for sharing this life shift with such grace. I am so glad that you brought a support person.
All the best as you enjoy life❤ 🎉
I don't know if I would have gotten through my big chop without Kailei. Thank God for friends who show up to support you.
This was a deep therapy session! ❤Congratulations! Your beautiful.
It really was. Thank you
Cute hairstyle! It makes your eyes shine.
Thank you
I grew up the same way, nappy hair, course hair, and yes felt bad for years about the texture, my hair is down my back but thick as hell only do relaxer twice a year now younger yrs once a month. Always wondered about going short and natural just never had the guts. People are a trip when I try to wear wigs just to protect my hair people why you got that wig on with all that hair. At almost 60 I am almost at that point.i want to feel free. You look so pretty with the short cut. I probably cry to whenever I do it. 😊
Thank you for sharing your personal experience. I find it odd too when people have such big opinions about how we wear our hair or when we choose to switch it up and wear wigs, braids, etc. I find it so liberating to freely express my creative energy through my hairstyles.
I love this video! You look gorgeous!! I just got the same style three months ago. I did the big chop and I love it!!!! I regret not doing it sooner. You’re beautiful my love!! 💜💜🫶🏾🫶🏾
I bet your big chop is beautiful too. Not doing it sooner is my only regret.
Yes! Heal that part of your inner child. I love it.
Didn't realize I needed healing like until I did it.
Beautiful woman, and beautiful cut! She looks STUNNING! And OH to be so slim! 💚
You look SO vibrant!!!💕
Cutting my hair has increased my zest for life.
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful embrace your natural ❤❤❤❤
I can finally say that I absolutely love my natural hair as it grows out of my scalp.
This is touching, emotional and really beautiful. You look absolutely fabulous. They call it the kitchen area because in the old days the architecture of the time always put the kitchen at the BACK of the house.
Thank you for the compliment and for taking the time to watch. I never knew that's why they called it the kitchen. Thank you for schooling me.
You look beautiful. Thank you for sharing this part of your hair journey. I am inspired by the Big Chop!
So glad you felt inspired. This was such a big moment for me. I want to help other women feel confident and find their joy. I had to go first.
This is such a huge life moment - well done!
It was THE biggest life moment for me next to becoming a mom and marrying my husband.
Wow you are so expressive ... May I say .. Sis soon those will be tears of joy as your fingers appreciate the feeling of your hair. I big chopped years ago and it took a while to adjust but I loved going swimming two or three times a week swimming under water like a mermaid. Hun you'll rock your twa with style ... go head girl fulljoy. 🥰
I still can not believe I allowed my hair to dictate how I lived my life and whether or not I worked out as hard or went swimming for so long. I'm so liberated now.
Loved this so much!!! Love your storytelling!
Thank you for taking the time to watch and for engaging with me. I'm a different version of me now, and I love it.
Fabulous! It brings out your beautiful features even more now. Rock it Girl! I am ready to do another Big Chop. Yes, like you said, at first it was because of a divorce and I needed to do it for a different me. Then, again, for different reasons. Now, due to illnesses, I am doing a big chop, to renew my spirits and to make my life and hair routine manageable and yet still more freeing for me. I am PROUD OF YOU!
In reflecting upon my childhood, I recall a distinct memory of my mother engaging in a hair-burning ritual. It was her firm belief that this practice would prevent birds from acquiring her hair, which she feared would lead to negative consequences. While I do not fully comprehend the rationale behind this belief, I intend to seek clarification from her. 🪶
Furthermore, I am contemplating a significant change in my own hairstyle. In the past, I have experimented with short hair, initially experiencing apprehension but ultimately embracing and cherishing the look. During my twenties and thirties, short hair imparted a sense of maturity, professionalism, and attractiveness. However, I am hesitant to adopt an excessively short hairstyle, as I am concerned about appearing older than my actual age. My desire is to maintain a youthful appearance. 💇♀️ 😂😊
Thank you so much for taking the time to engage with my story. I appreciate your support and kindness. God bless you as you battle your illness.
@@srjackson1132 Our hair is so personal and such a big part of who we are. You get to decide how you want to wear it and how you feel it looks best and makes you feel about yourself. I am loving my short hair. I think it helps me maintain my youthful glow.
@knowlesitall Thank you, hun.
Fabulous, just fabulous!!
Thank you so much for the kindness and support.
This made me emotional. I just started to transition from my relaxer. I have not seen my natural texture since I was 15. I am 49. Its time. I plan to cut all the relaxed hair off In june of 2025. Scared but ready to embrace my curls.
It will feel like a weight has been lifted. I wish I'd done my sooner.
You look gorgeous. I’m like your grandma, when I retired I stopped straightening and let it go,gray.
I think I finally. made m mine up to do it! I have been wanting to do it for almost 2 years now. I think this is it.
There's a reason you stumbled upon my video. I just decided to go for it, scheduled an appointment and put it on my calendar. One of the best decisions I've ever made for me.
I did the big chop to short short, its a new start.😊
Doesn’t it feel so good?
The kitchen or where we use to have to cook was round the back of the house outside, hence #kitchen was termed
Yiu hair looks Gorgeous 😘👌🏾
Oh, ok. Thank you for explaining this.
Welcome sister! You look beautiful 😍 congratulations 🎉
Thank you for your kindness and support.
You were beautiful before,but now… OMG you look like a model!!! Very stunning!!! Short hair is sooo you!!! ❤❤❤😊
Thank you so much for the sweet compliments. Initially, I was so scared I wouldn't like it. I love it short and I'm not sure I'll ever want to grow it out again.
Wow, this really hit home… I got my first relaxer at 11 and stopped at 18. Every month!
At 18 I got the big chop but not as big as your chop was. But I cried, and this brought back a lot of memories. I’m 29 now, btw, and I never broke up my stylist and would go back to him in a heartbeat. You look beautiful ❤
I wish I had had the courage to embrace my natural texture so much younger. I'm so glad I did, finally. BTW, I never broke up with my stylist. We're still friends and I will go and see her when my hair grows out a bit more.
Its really true, hair holds energy. Pay attention to 21:00 when the flames increased 2X. Praying for healing
Whoa! 🤯 Thank you for pointing this out.
those are the relaxer chemicals friend.
Wow I’m 74 and I didn’t get a relaxer until I was about 24yrs, I wore an Afro in college and several times I’ve gone back and forth between natural and straight styles, some relaxed and some pressed and flat ironed. The most freeing was when I grew my gray hair out and stayed natural. I love it.
I love the versatility of our hair. I bet your wisdom highlights are gorgeous.
Do not end a relationship, any relationship by text. I agree. Take her to lunch.
Love it!! So beautiful!
You’re so kind. Thank you
You look sooo gorgeous with the new look. Supermodel 💞
🤗 Thank you for the support and compliments. I appreciate you.
You look so good!!!! Do it again after you turn 50❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for the kind words. I just might.😃
Literally my same story, never seen my natural texture, relaxers since 6 and 45 years old…. Been growing out my hair for the last 6 months
How has your experience been so far?
Beautiful hair! So much nicer than the wig!x❤️
They call it the kitchen because the kitchen is in the back of the house 😂
I first heard that in a hair forum when I went natural in 2007.
@@christinam81 I’ve heard since I was a little girl. Never knew its origin.
Another phenomenal video! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🥹
Thank you. This was such a life-changing moment for me. I was so scared to do it.
Hair looks AWESOME…did you post stylist?
Thank you, Yes, her name is Tahirah at The Faded Beauty in Atlanta.
Your red hair is fire 🔥. ❤❤❤ love it.
Thank you. I love the copper red hair too.
I big chopped 2 months before turning 40 it had to be done new chapter , new era
I love that for you. Embrace it all. I’m becoming the best version of myself in my 40s.
I grew my hair out and never big chopped . But I did it for the same reasons, I wanted to know myself as I naturally am .
We can have such complicated relationships with our hair.
You and your hair are beautiful, own it.
Thank you for the compliments. I'm finally in a space where I can own it.
You have gorgeous hair!😍
Thank you ☺ Now, I finally think so too.
hello , here you are , a full grown adult ( for some time ) and saying , you never knew what your natural hair looked like and crying , drama🤔🤔🤔🤔however , your new do , looks gorgeous..............thank you , for sharing🥰🥰🥰🥰............
It was a very emotional experience for me
I just turned 40. I cut my hair low and got coils. Best idea!
Doesn't it feel so good?
It’s pretty and she looks beautiful ❤
Thank you
Omgg you look amazing
Thank you
I'm 50 and about to do this. I'm sooooo scared, but I know I need to do it. but...
I was in the same boat. I finally just decided to go for it. I'm so glad I did. I'm thinking you will be too.
Once you tackle your natural hair, open your mind to locs. The maintenance is so much easier. But enjoy your natural hair!
I may explore locs in the future. Thank you for watching.
I do the water version of that hair burning process., I live in Northern California so I drop my cut, trimmed, and shed hair over the Golden Gate Bridge. Whenever I go on a run or jog over the bridge.
That's original. I've never heard of that.
Love it!
Girl, you have beautiful hair😍
Thank you so much. I finally get to see it.
You look Amazing!
Thank you. Kind of you to say.
No don’t send the text just show up and let her see the new you, when you reach a certain age short hair is freedom I assure you, you won’t look back.❤😊
Liberating Beautiful chop!!!
When you do it, it can be shocking! I avoided mirrors the first week!!
I chopped it off 7 times because it felt good. 2016 was the last time and now at 60 I am tailbone length.
I feel like I may do it again in a few years, or just whenever I feel like it. It's the best feeling.
She looks fly ❤
Sweet of you to say. Thank you.
Beautiful!
Thank you
Perfection!!!❤💃🏾
Luv,🎉🎉🎉all three styles.The shorter the better.
I'm leaning into that part. I never expected to love it so much this short.
Don't text take her to lunch...natural is better always.❤
Love your hair, cut, and color. I know you won't have time to style it the way she did. So did she tell tell/show you how to sponge it to get the same look?
She told me how to style it on my own and which products to use. I've become a bit of a product junkie now 😆
Really nice. I like the look on you, pretty lady.
Thank you
You are Beautiful especially with the short haircut.
Thank you☺
So freakin beautiful ❤
I appreciate you
My mother was from South Carolina...and she did not throw hair away she would put it on the eye on the stove and burn it......I still do it today....sometimes
But you are already beautiful, tall, and thin, with great teeth and a great smile!
Thank you for all of the compliments.
People talk so much nonsense, why she didn't bag up the buzzed hair and add it to the part that was cut with scissors
Listen don't get caught up in ancestral stuff that keeps you in bondage.
You don't need to burn your hair.
Next step cry out to Jesus.
He is the only one who will help you find your true identity, you need the Holy Spirit.
Maybe therapy is needed to help in this situation. Looks beautiful. Natural hair us beautiful. Relaxers cool too. To each their own. In a few months you will be like...dayyyuummm my hair does this??!🥰
My therapist continues to provide a safe place for me to talk about all of my feelings and experiences. I'm so grateful.
Dont send the text, it's doing too much. Just be sure to still pop in occasionally too maintain a friendship if you feel that close to her 😊
Love this advice. Thanks
Beautiful
I've big chopp3d many times before. Now that im àlmost forty, I want to do it again!
Go for it! I love mine.
Been going to the barber for about 8 years now and haven’t looked back life long baldie
Her hair was cute. Why did she cut it, to go natural. You could’ve transition
I wanted to start from scratch
@ I do understand that being natural myself .
No, in person
Hello Greetings from your EAV neighbor!
Hello. EAV?
@ the location of the shop is my neighborhood 🖤
@@ceehach3386 I didn't know people called it EAV. Thank you for schooling me.
beautiful.....
I appreciate you.
Don’t send a text, have a conversation with her.
Good advice. Thank you
Going from "big head wig head" to "small head ball head" is ok if that's what you want to do girl. IT'S ONLY HAIR!
🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thank you
SUPER CUTE ON YOU
Thank you
🔥
Thank you for the love☺