Most pioneer women had to give birth on their own on the Praries. A doctor was a day or more away by buggy. A lot women died in child birth. Other women would birth like it was part of their job that day and would then get up and prepare a meal for her husband and kids. It was expected out of them.
This happened with my son. The doctor kept telling me to stop pushing that I wasn’t ready and I kept telling her it’s not me. My body literally ejected my son out without me even trying to. Sometimes we women need to pay more attention to what our bodies are telling us vs the doctors.
I love how they said you weren’t ready but YOUR BODY said you were absolutely ready! Like what makes them say you’re not ready? They need to learn that the body decided for itself sometimes!
Lol “stop pushing” sir how well can you hold in a fart before it starts to hurt or goes away? Not long I bet. The body does what the body wants and it wants the baby OUT
They told me to take a break because I was pushing for almost 2 hours and I tried but my body wouldn't let me. Ended up pushing for 3 and a half hours with no break but baby came out eventually. It's not easy to stop pushing.
Same for me with my daughter. Every woman in the room told him come NOW we can see the hair on the babies head & he said nah, she's not ready yet. Thank God my Mom was there to catch her. Still had to pay $10k to the hospital. Gotta love American Healthcare
Lol ! I'm 25, and I was also 4 weeks early. My original birthday was supposed to be April fools day and I played an early trick on them and came on March 2nd 😂. I was also the only baby out of my mother's 3 children who broke her water.
@@AaliyahSanders-ltpx I’m 22 and I took a while to get here because my birthday’s June 28th so here’s the story of how that happened a little background info before this story starts: my mom did not know she was even pregnant until she was about 4 months along so she did everything she wasn’t supposed to do like smoke and drink and she didn’t think to take a pregnancy test until she missed her period so once she missed her period it tipped her off to something being wrong because she had my sister 3 years before and she was showing signs of being pregnant flash forward to the day I was born so my mom goes to the hospital to figure out what’s going on because it’s been 10 months and she still has yet to have a baby and the doctors tell her “oh! Your in active labor “ now my mom is shook because she didn’t expect to give birth on that day so they prepare a labor room for her and leave her with my dad (who was just as shocked but he couldn’t say the words so the doctor comes in and tells her that she’s 9cm dilated and she can start pushing so of course she starts pushing and I come out after about 2 hours of labor now since I was tiny (about the size of a loaf of bread) my doctor had concerns and they took me to the ICU unit for more tests and stuff but after about 3 days they took me home and I was able to meet my older sister (who was very happy to be big sis) and now I’m turning 22 on June 28th and I am still planning my 38th birthday party
@@AaliyahSanders-ltpxwow! I was supposed to come out in around June, but came out early on April fools. My grandparents did not believe my parents when they said I was born early on that day xD
This is crazy and awesome! Same exact thing happened with my youngest daughter! Was going across a 3.5 mile bridge and my wife said the baby was coming now and I called 911 to get an ambulance to meet us! Well long story short I had to pull over and barely got around in time to the passenger seat to take her pants off and catch our daughter and she came flopping out just like this! She wasn’t crying for almost a min and I had to flip her over and pat her back and she finally started to cry! It was the craziest and happiest moment of my life! We then had to sit there for the longest 10 minutes of our lives until the ambulance got there. I suffer from severe anxiety and remained calm the whole time until they both got into the ambulance then I blacked out and fell over. Luckily the fire rescue guys were right next to me and caught me before hitting the ground. They then gave me oxygen and sat there for a good 15-20 mins until my panic attack was over. Still one of the craziest days of my life!
That is an awesome story! I felt like I was there on the outside looking in. I felt a happy kind of anxiety just reading about it. Great job handling the whole situation!
Do you know what’s worse than giving birth in a hospital?? Giving birth in a car where it’s small and in an uncomfortable position. They were probably on their way to the hospital but the baby decided to come early. Just because it’s expensive dosen’t mean you shouldn’t do it. Some hospitals have good treatment less stress and a good birthing expirience and what if the baby gets tangled in the umbillicok cords? There’s no way someone’s gonna use kitchen knifes and go into the ladies stomach. These emergencies are what the hospitals are for 💀 it’s expensive because they use tools and time.
How many watching this wishing it was that quick for them. No hours in labour no gas and air no pain relief injections. The whole thing seemed so natural and mum and baby healthy they'll be going home soon, perfection.
Shoot I sure wish i had gas and air! I’m in Pa America. They barely believe in midwives. You gotta hire your own. And a doula is almost impossible to get without the perfect insurance 😞
I gave birth to my son like this - but on my knees in the passenger seat. It had nothing to do with me. It felt like a conversation between my uterus and my baby. I felt his head drop, then just had enough time to pull my pants down before he was pushed out and caught by dad. It was the most powerful and empowering experience. I truly felt my femaleness. No interfering medical intervention. Just love.
@@MountainMaid238 no just painting modern medicine as some sort of villain is insane to me considering I’m pretty sure you needed medical attention afterwards
I remember the nurse yelling at me “STOP IT! don’t push,don’t push.. I SAID don’t push!” like maam I’m not doin SHITTTT my body is in control, not me, so blame evolution! Some of them L&D nurses are SO fkn rude & hateful. And it kills me bc they literally went to school for this & yet wanna act brand new. Not to mention this experience was during my first ever pregnancy/childbirth. I was barely 20yrs old & so afraid in a way I had never before experienced. All it would’ve taken is for a nurse to say, “everything is going as per usual & you’re doing good”. I would’ve felt so much relief. Instead I felt isolated & alone-even tho I had my husband & family- they also made me feel like I was dumb or as if they were judging me for literally not knowing how to give birth. Like, hello, I’m a teen pregnancy statistic & regardless of your personal opinion, I’m still a patient deserving of your compassion- if not your professionalism at the very fkn least! Edit: 47k likes & 235+ comments tells me one thing: that’s way too fkn many of us women commiserating over horrible experiences of labor & delivery here in the US. They treat us like we’re a package from Amazon Prime. The faster they can get us in then ship us out-unprepared & scared to death most often times-comes down to being overworked/understaffed/unsympathetic and most importantly it’s all abt MONEY! If you have Medicaid they’re even more likely to treat you as a commodity or less-than. Due to only receiving literally Pennie’s to the dollar for the services rendered to you. 68 cent per $1 to be exact according my pediatrician here in GA circa 2007. May be even less now.
You'd think that after that many years of school and being in that profession they would have at least learned to listen to the woman experiencing and feeling it. But they think they know better all the time. Just ignore them and do your own thing.
@@celialusma4618I imagine it's really only a big deal for the Dr and the billing dept. How you gonna charge $1,000s when you weren't even in the room? As for mom and baby, it's a bigger deal that she listen to her body and relax.
@@shinkuueditsliterally like what are these comments sounds like you might’ve been confused because you’re an emotional woman :( aw you should’ve waited for the doctor!! HUH? it is a natural process that starts when it starts, delaying it can lead to the baby becoming disabled due to lack of oxygen etc
I gave birth to my daughter in my home. It's a real reflex. I remember my midwife saying, "you're going to push, without trying. Your body WILL push the baby out." So for curiosity sake, when a contraction happened, I didn't push. And WHOOP I felt my daughter slide all the way down and begin crowning. And after I pushed her head out, the rest just HAPPENED. I remember thinking to myself I'M NOT DOING THIS I'M NOT DOING THIS. My female instincts kicked into overdrive and the mama bear was birthing. It was honestly an amazing experience.
My younger sister who is much stronger person then me had a baby. She told me right after she gave birth don’t have baby. She said she doesn’t remember saying that.
Doctors are in so much of a hurry. I had that reflex feeling with my first, hand I felt very little discomfort. The second one not so much. A different dr and his ways was more difficult.
I had a first birth in Germany Suhl ( very good hospital it was in summer 2015) hospital with baby's fetal ejection reflex on left side in bed, after water immersion.
Glad to know this! I planned on a natural unmedicated birth, I was at a birthing center but after 25+ hours of intense labor and back labor and only making it to 3cm, my midwife’s said it’d be best to go to the hospital. So I got the epidural and pushed on my back because I was completely numb, total opposite of what I wanted but with next baby I want to attempt natural again!
I was told in the hospital to not push. I wasn’t pushing. My body was literally pushing my son out on its own and they told me not to like I could control it. Horrible birthing experience there especially for a first time mom like myself. It wasn’t like that when any of us were born there and it seems like I’m the only one brave enough to speak on it.
When I had my son many years ago (my second child) the original delivery room nurse I had was inexperienced and I kept telling her the baby was coming and she kept saying "no it's not coming, no it's not coming". I could feel the crowning. I told her I wanted another nurse. Finally an experienced nurse came in and I was so glad to see her I grabbed her hand and I said "my baby is coming". The other nurse said "she keeps saying the baby's coming." The experience nurse asked her "have you ever had a baby?" and the young nurse said no. The experienced nurse told her "well you need to shut up and get out of here". My labor was 2 hours and 45 minutes from the beginning until he was born. I remember that vividly and it has been over 40 years. This is an inspiring video...
@@CrystalM1917 that's probably true. I didn't necessarily want her to get out, I just wanted someone in there who was experienced and knew what to do. I was still young and my son came fast. Even faster than my daughter had.
These comments lets me know how dense the medical workers are. They should know that the body will do what it wants when it wants during childbirth by NOW. -That baby is big and healthy 💕 Congrats to the parents.
Dear Pisces, I hate to contradict you and add to your (perhaps unintentional) rage-bait, however, after seeing that people are agreeing with you, I feel the need to do so. Making yourself push when your body is doing it naturally can be harmful and cause issues. Please do your research before criticizing people who have gone to school for the subject you are criticizing their knowledge of. Sincerely, Rythers (PS: I fully agree. That is one beautiful baby, congratulations to the parents, but the baby and the mama still need taken to the hospital to be checked out.)
@@Rythers_Are you stupid? the comment your replied to said “the body does what it wants” meaning sometimes you literally can’t stop pushing because of contractions. Don’t come here on some high horse acting like you’re better than her in your approach to your correction without even comprehending the very comment you replied to
What are you even contradicting in what she said? You are simply lecturing without understanding what's going on. That person was agreeing with others that the mother should be supported in her instincts and not told to fight against her body's natural process to birth her child(ren). Which is what these "medical professionals" routinely do because they are ignorant and/or want things done in their own time, unconcerned with the fact that attempts to stop active labor will cause damage. Just as attempts to force the baby out before labor is active and the ejection reflex is initiated. I have personally witnessed this and heard NUMEROUS stories that share extremely similar details to what I have seen. In addition to other abuses and neglect that vulnerable birthing mothers are commonly victims of at the hands of "trained medical professionals".
I pushed for around an hour with zero results. My body started pushing for me and he was out in two or three minutes. This reflex is so cool and natural!
They made me push for 4 hours!!! I was soooo exhausted, my blood pressure was through the roof, and I almost fainted many times. I kept saying I don't feel like I need to push yet! I don't feel my body trying to push yet! And they kept making me!!! This was with my first and I had no idea what to expect. Then they decided I wasn't progressing so needed an emergency c-section and literally right after they prepped me and were just about to wheel me to surgery my body started wanting to push and I could feel it!!! And I was screaming and crying by this time... please let me push again!! I can do it this time!!! They kept telling me to stop and knocked me out and I woke up in the recovery room. They had to pull my baby back out of the birth canal bc by the time they cut me my body was trying to eject the baby! My pelvis never did spread until that moment so there was no way for me to push the baby out until then! If they had waited my health and the baby's wouldn't have been jeopardized in the first place and wouldn't have needed to have an emergency c-section! And then I wouldn't have had to have 2 more after! So I never got to experience giving birth naturally bc of modern doctors acting as if they know better than my own body did. Just bc I was fully dilated and effaced didn't mean it was time for me to push!!! There was no reason other than the doctor's convenience that I had to start pushing until my body started to tell me to.
@@NotWokebutAwake.happened to me as well!! I got in the OR room, the nurse took a look in there and baby’s head was out and Surgeon said no we need to do the csection and he had to push him back to be able to take him out. 1 yr postpartum and i hated the experience! My first baby too!
@@jewelslaggy304 I felt like a failure for so long. I had a birth plan of no drugs all natural but in the hospital! I was young but I was 18! And my husband and I took classes and everything! My parents helped me a lot bc my dad was in there with my mom when she delivered 4 naturally! So I was so secure in myself! Until being induced! That is unnatural! And it forces labor. It was about 8 hrs and I still wasn't having reg contrations or dilating. So they broke my water! And for some reason all the pitocin hit me at once and i went into full force labor straight in my back!!! They wouldn't let me get up or move bc my BP shot up, and bc I was stressing the baby was stressing. So they made me have an epidural. Blah blah blah 22 hrs later after pushing without needing to for 4 hrs and being faint they take me to OR same as you. My epidural had worn off and I was needing to push so bad and they noticed I was crowing also, so I felt them cut me open and pull the baby out with no meds bc they couldn't give me anything else until cord was cut. As soon as cord was cut they knocked me out! I have no memory of seeing my baby until 3 days later I was kept so high on meds. My father told me I almost died and had to have 2 blood transfusions!!! I wanted to try again to have a Vback but my wonderful doctor after wouldn't risk it. He said they messed me up. And I could get pregnant and carry the baby fine but he was seriously concerned about delivery for both baby and I. So he delivered my next 2 by. Cesarean. He was wonderful.
@@jewelslaggy304 I'm so sorry you experienced almost exactly what I did. It was horrible and ruined what could have and should have been the most joyous moment in our lives. The birth of our first child! But I just got to be there when my first grandbaby was born. And my daughter did amazing and it was great for her! I was so proud. AM so proud! Hehd
@@user-bc3rv2hz1kwhy gross? May look strange to you, but it’s the most precious thing a woman can do for the world, give birth. Your mom did it, and you are here thanks to her.
My daughter was born like that and it really shocked me that I had no control over my body because I was in the labor room not the delivery room. I was scared and upset about not being in the delivery room and my husband had left to get the nurse, I was by myself and my baby was being born and I had no control over my body. Your body knows what to do by reflexes. Never in my life had I experienced not being in control, that was shocking. Nature is amazing and God thought of everything when He designed us. I was only 19 years old and I didn’t know much. I thought you had to be in the delivery room with the doctor delivering the baby. The truth is a woman could do it by herself. Not a good idea because the baby really needs someone to clear the airway, notice that baby didn’t cry.
I was alone too 😢😢😢 I was hurting too much to find the call button but my body started injecting my baby out and all I could do was scream, the nurse came running and said omg wait let me get the dr, and I yelled too late and my daughter squirted up into my hands 😂 8 pounds 9 oz!
Fun fact if you dont push but relax as much as possible you give your body the chance to di what it needs to do, which is opening up the pelvic muscles
I think this is what happened to me. My body pushed on its own first about 3/4 times and it broke my waters like that and then it was time for me to push
100% I pushed 3 times. and when I mean push , I mean I RELAXED and then pushed my muscles. it was amazing and I can't wait to do it again. birth can be beautiful. LISTEN to your body
@@rcg224 just had the same experience 2 days ago 😅 I barely even pushed, only did 3 pushes as well a few minutes after my water broke! I had an accidental home delivery and would love all natural again
Child birth is the best thing ever in this world. I was present with each of our kids during birth. I thank my wife every day for our children. I'm a big dude, I honestly don't think I could carry a child full term if I was a Mum. So hats off to all the Mums out there💙💚❤We Love You... xxxx
These are Canadians, so the hospital is free. This was also on an express toll route so they got free travel on this highway for a year & a gift card from the 407 for car seats
I love how "daddy" was the perfect receiver. He helped birth his child, and THAT to me is something beyond special. Something millions of women have never experienced. I wish I would've left the medical "extras" out of my past births. Someone on standby would've been good enough .
@@jaysax7381 I mean the experience and the bond that's involved. Yes, a healthy baby is a wonderful gift. The continued bond on the parents being there for one another is important. There's a lot of depression that sometimes sets in after having a baby. That parental bond is VERY important. That's what I meant by my comment. MY own opinion.
Most pioneer women had to give birth on their own on the Praries. Some were fortunate enough to have their husbands at home that day as it was rare that he could take a day off. A doctor was a day away by buggy and out of reach. A lot women died in child birth. Other women would birth like it was part of their job that day and would then get up and prepare a meal for her husband and kids. It was expected out of them. And they would turn around and get pregnant as they needed the help the kids provided on the farm. They were tough as nails then. They didn't have a choice.
@@Dan-xx5jq I agree to all the facts of like. MY opinion was simply how special it is when that father is able to be there, and what I wish I could've done in MY past.
I've known too many babies born dead and women who bled profusely to say this. My births were easy and I still almost lost a baby due to meconium aspiration and a double cord wrap. Come on now. Let's be real. Childbirth is one of the most dangerous things a person could do in their life, unassisted childbirth without prenatal care has a high mortality rate across the board.
For all 3 of mine they told me it wasn’t time to push, and I kept telling them that it’s happening. Once they even said “No, you’re not dilated enough” I said I’m telling you, it’s happening..and they peeked under the sheets and it sure was happening! 😂 My mother was a labor and delivery nurse for 40 years, she was with me and just said If you know it’s time to push, then just push.
This happened with my daughter. I did like half a small push & there was NO stopping her after that. I told them I wanted to push & they said I wasnt ready. I said "ok well you can either stand there or leave but I'm pushing either way"😂 I was so blessed. They broke my water at 3am & she was born at 6:06am after that tiny half push. 9lbs 6oz & 22. 5 inches. ❤
Oh wow that is horrendous!! When my daughter was birthing her second baby the nurses told her to take a comfort stop to pass faeces, unfortunately whilst this occurred my daughter began to push accidently and the baby was born very suddenly, when the baby took it's first breath it's stomach became full of gas and suddenly exploded in the birthing bed. The beautiful baby was pronounced as severely unwell and spent eight weeks in hospital - all because they told my daughter 'don't push '. The hospital said my daughter taking a comfort break so late in the birth was the reason her precious child suffered from a stomach explosion.
@@SageXavender He was though. I'm not even Christian but most historians believe he did exist in the Herodian kingdom. Whether you believe in his divinity is another thing.
One of my sons had a precipitous birth. He was pushing himself out, and the nurse held him back for at least ten minutes until the doctor arrived. This caused my baby to nearly die. When he took his first breath, both his lungs burst. He also got Group B Strep septicemia, which was in all his systems except his nervous system. Luckily, he had a miraculous recovery on his third day of life and was able to be taken off the respirator. He's 28 years old now - tall and strong, happily married and healthy. I still call him my miracle boy.
“The nurse held him back” So that lunatic tried to halt the natural progression of your child’s birth like that’s ever okay?! I’m 6 months pregnant right now and just thinking about that makes me so upset. 😡 My husband would’ve made the biggest scene about it
From my understanding your body pushes by itself, and your pushing helps along, but not pushing doesn't stop the body from doing its job. There is no stopping that baby from coming out. 😅
Lucky are those mothers who have sucha smooth delivery. I have seen people struggle for days at length with difficult labour. Congratulations to the baby n mom and may everyone experience such smooth healthy delivery 🙏🏻 😃
That's also why the 911 dispatcher was telling them not to hang up. Still gotta get to the hospital to make sure the baby and the mom are ok! This happened to one of my cousins; she gave birth while she was in the shower. Her husband got home only to find her in the tub and being like "yeah, this happened like 15 minutes ago, mind driving us to the hospital just in case?" They were all fine in the end.
This is why most women have bad birthing experiences. It’s so sad but if you birth in most hospitals time is money and they don’t give you time to feel the fetal ejection reflex and push when you and your baby are ready. Instead they instruct you to push when they believe you are ready and this mentality is so fundamentally flawed. They end up having you pushing for hours, usually on your backs and you are led to believe that this is normal. It’s not normal! Fetal ejection reflex is real. We need to do a lot of re-education so women regain faith in their own bodies. We are fearfully and wonderfully made. Not to say that complications don’t happen but if we were properly educated on birthing those complications wouldn’t be the norm.
My mom had a midwife most her pregnancies which were amazing at keeping it natural. My one brother was sunny side up so the midwife had no choice but to take her to the hospital and delivered him by c-section.
Amen. I don't plan on having children but I'm 35 so most of my friends do. There seems to be a horrible trend of induction and artificial hormones and doctors not letting bodies do what they are designed to do. Then everyone wonders why they're having issues giving birth, healing, and breastfeeding. 🙄
@@Secretagent71114 definitely. I was one of mom’s first kids, (second born) and that was before she started having midwives, I was an induced baby. 12/30/1998. I would have been born early 1999 (a new year baby). My mom had 8 kids, she started home births after the 3rd.
Watching my two sons mother give birth to them will forever be the most impactful experience of my life. So much respect and appreciation for her in that moment. It's truly incredible, words and even videos don't do it justice.
I’m so nervous to give birth for the first time, I’m pretty far along in pregnancy and I have to keep reassuring myself “your body will know what to do, you won’t even have to think about it”
This is beautiful. My body wouldn’t “open” for my babies… my pelvic bones were essentially stuck. So my babies never made it below a -3 in the birthing canal, and that was just my first. I went into labor with my second but nothing happened at all after the initial water break and mild contractions. Needless to say, mine were all c-sections. My doc jokingly said afterward “you know, this would’ve killed you 100 years ago… you couldn’t give birth to a lemon with the way your body reacts. All I can say is, thank god for modern medicine lol
My nurse said dont push, and i remember telling her "i stopped but shes still coming". They got a good laugh out of that. My team was amazing. Loved them all through both my girls.
Were you laying down or sitting like this lady? From all ive read it seems like all births should be done not laying down because its so much easier, faster and safer for mommy and baby and now that ive heard of this involutary contractions im curious if it has to do with the position too
When I was giving birth to my daughter, my nurse asked me why I didn't push when I had a contraction. I told her I didn't feel the need to push yet. I'll wait for my body to tell me when It's time to push. The next contraction i felt it and I pushed and nurses said " wow how strong you are". I said.. "i'm not I just follow my body and what it want me to do". I didn't have to push hard. Three pushes and my daughter was out. It's so important to follow the body or you'll work against it.
Oh wow that is horrendous!! When my daughter was birthing her second baby the nurses told her to take a comfort stop to pass faeces, unfortunately whilst this occurred my daughter began to push accidently and the baby was born very suddenly, when the baby took it's first breath it's stomach became full of gas and suddenly exploded in the birthing bed. The beautiful baby was pronounced as severely unwell and spent eight weeks in hospital - all because they told my daughter 'don't push '. The hospital said my daughter taking a comfort break so late in the birth was the reason her precious child suffered from a stomach explosion.
@@AGNETHAFALTSK0G I'm so sorry that happened to your grandchild. Poor baby. I hope the baby is ok now. I didn't know that could even happen. Was that in Sweden? I saw your name, that's why I asked. Because I'm from Sweden.
@@sofiaw9571 yes indeed! Thank you for your message, my granddaughter is well now thank you - however she spent almost eight weeks in confinement with tubes and wires all over , it was incredibly sad to not be able to help or even hold her close just to pray and give to her all the love. Thank to God I must say after this traumatic event , now she is perfectly well and she has learned recently to play the bowed cello string instrument and this brings myself and daughter such happiness. Warning - during birthing don't let the staff try to needs or offer you bad advice, please if you felt they are wrong yours woman's body actually knows the best rather to any so-called medical advisors.
I was the same with my son too. Body took over. The nurse checked me as I was just getting in bed and as soon as my feet went in the bed my chin hit my chest my son nearly hit the foot of the bed. It was half hour drive and 5 minutes to have him. No pain meds either 👍😁☘️
@@magsmcgarrigle981 🤯🤯 holy crap that’s crazy !! I’m glad the whole process didn’t take long for you because I heard some women be in labor for days on end 😵💫😵💫💀
Yessss! I’ve had four kiddos and only had an epidural with the first one. With her I had to lay on my back and push (it was AWFUL) but with the next three, my body did all the work. It felt like I had control but I didn’t, if that makes sense. Like hey this baby is COMING OUT so get ready, lmao. My second baby was born at 41 weeks and I went from walking around my hospital room in labor to hopping up on the bed and pulling her out myself… more like guiding her out. My body ejected her itself. It was -incredible-
My 2nd was just like this. I had no pain. Just felt funny, went to hospital, as soon as I got out the car, her head slipped out. As soon as I got on the bed she slid completely out. The nurses didn't even have gloves on yet. Best labor ever.
My mom was a midwife and she told me that once she was talking with a mom and idk if I remember right but she delivered while talking to her With no pain and fast Idk if this is the exact story But that was one of the unique cases my mom told me about
Big baby doesnt mean healthy baby. Big baby is actually bad and is a sign of macrosomnia. This condition is caused by gestational disbetes, and can lead to hypoglycemia in infants.
@@christianmcbreartyHe's soft and pink underneath all that intra-uterine tissue. That's why the nurses wash babies in the hospital immediately after birth -- those little shits look pale and sticky and gross at first, but really they just need a bath.
I just wanted to talk about how she told him to just put the baby on her. She's in so much pain and was so calm and clear headed, it's amazing how strong she is ❤
I wanna talk about how she was told to not hang up bc it sounded like she was on the phone with emergency services but if the baby is out and healthy and they’re heading to the hospital, there’s no reason for her to stay on the line
@@Itz_GlitchyAsh no, they need to be guided on how to keep the baby alive until they get to the hospital. For example they need to know to double tie the cord so that the blood doesnt go back into the placenta leading to the death of the baby. That happened to a nurse in comment section
@reading1713 gosh I've never heard of that. Look up lotus birth. Some people keep the placenta attached for several hours so all the blood goes into the baby.
Put the baby on her was not calm or cool headed. Not one person noticed the baby was essentially dead? Calm and cool headed would be get clear airway and do cpr and such. Really? No one? How is this a celebration when the baby isn't breathing, isn't crying, isn't moving, and is blue?
@lovegodfirst654 🤣🤣 that's exactly what every baby looks like when it comes out!! It's not blue or dead. It's covered in vernix and has been floating in a bag of fluid for 9 months, so the skin looks blue. This mama did perfect and the baby looks perfectly healthy.
This happened to me. Everyone was yelling at me not to push and I was like dude…. Can’t control it 🤣 my body was violently ejecting my son. It was nuts.
My doctor and nurses got mad at me because I rolled on to my side, and my son shot out like a football and almost hit the wall in the very back of the room. But my husband caught him, and then my dad caught my husband.
This happened to me but in the hospital. The nurses kept telling me over and over to stop pushing! I finally yelled that I was not pushing. The only reason they were doing this was because they didn't want me to deliver without the doctor there. The doctor did make it. I literally only pushed once to get her shoulders out. I was super annoyed by them. Also, the anesthesiologist had to be called in late to give me more. I think he wasn't happy about it and administered it to fast. My whole body seized up, and my legs started shaking uncontrollably. It barely lasted a whole minute, but it was so scary. This was with my second child.
@TheDramacist Baby was perfect. It was a normal healthy delivery. Honestly, I didn't even need the doctor. It was an easy delivery. I only had an epidural because they told me I couldn't move around, and i had to stay still on the bed and not move. The baby was moving too much, and they couldn't keep the monitor on her. Heart rate was normal tho. I just had to suffer so they could have control. Baby was completely fine. I think they only wanted the doctor in there to charge insurance. How can you bill for a delivery if the doctor wasn't even there?
They want the doctor there so the doctor can get paid. They only get paid for delivery if they are physically there, even if they walk in and catch the baby and that’s all they do. Tell them to shut up if they tell you to wait for the doctor.
That's what happened to me with my third child because the nurses were changing shifts. The morning nurses didn't want me to deliver because they'd have to stay and didn't want to. The new nurse told me to start pushing and then told me to stop. I asked why. She said because the baby is coming! I told her that's what happens when I push!! The baby comes out. They got the doctor 30 minutes later. 2 pushes, and we were done.
My mum always used to say I couldn't wait to be born and I was born withouther pushing! This makes me emotional because she jas left us now!congratulations to the parents ❤❤❤
I learned years ago that giving birth isn’t supposed to be painful, but often times it is because of fear. I read a women’s story about her experience and how she learned about this and was determined to give birth pain free. She said she basically just relaxed as much as possible when the contractions came, and didn’t let herself feel scared by them. She just took some deep breaths and let them come and go. Trusting that her body was doing it’s job. Eventually, she gave birth pain free at home and with no complications. It changed my perspective of childbirth completely. I hope every woman gets this experience, every time.
It’s true! I wasn’t scared with my first just recently untim they put me on oxygen because my son wasn’t receiving enough oxygen due to his umbilical cord getting pinched and his heart rate was dropping to the 80’s. My contractions on pitocin were strong and painful but the actual birth itself was not. When I began pushing, it only hurt because I began pushing harder to get him out faster. I was so worried about him. Labor was in total 3.5hours with only 20 minutes of pushing.
This relaxed process of birth is the "Dr Bradley" method! Totally natural! This Dr brought the father into the birth process, when before they were banned from the delivery room.
@@user-ju9pd3pi5h That’s amazing! Thank you for sharing! It’s one thing to read about it in an article, but hearing it from someone makes me feel even more assured that it’s real lol. That’s awesome. I’m glad you had that experience!
It’s not “supposed to be” painful, but it is for most people because of some unlucky evolution. When humans evolved to be bipedal, it changed our hipbones in a way that made it way harder to push out a baby.
I was talking to my nurse during my fourth delivery and I remember her eyes all wide and she got on the radio and said "she's unintentionally pushing, I need a doctor!"
Were you laying down or sitting like this lady? From all ive read it seems like all births should be done not laying down because its so much easier, faster and safer for mommy and baby and now that ive heard of this involutary contractions im curious if it has to do with the position too
Talk about a reflex reaction! Me and my husband aren't even criers or super outwardly emotional but the second we saw our baby like it's like being hit by an emotional bus lol, you can't help but cry. I honestly think it's probably one of the most powerful feelings you'll ever have. Enjoy your baby!
lol I just gave birth to my 3rd daughter a week ago and once again they told me not to push because the doctor wasn’t in the delivery room yet. I told them I was gonna push, I had to my body was forcing me to do it. Listen to your body not what other people are telling you to do. When you have a baby, your body knows exactly what to do. God build our bodies perfectly, trust yourself!
had my first three weeks ago and absolutely, your body forces it. I wouldn't say my body did it on it's own but I HAD to push. almost had his ass in the car lol
Did you get an epidural? With me, they just upped it, so nothing happened till the Dr on call got there. I had to wait an hour and I think it caused some problems with my bladder. I'm pretty sure I have a prolapse bladder or uterus now because of it.
True , same with my youngest son , to me the nurse was not ready , got mad at me and trying to stop his birth, it was horrible, i had to scream for the Dr. He came running in to save me from that bad nurse
This happened with our 3rd baby. Our second son. I jumped into the bathtub because I knew he was coming. My water popped intensely and I couldn't hold him in anymore! He came out in 2 pushes but I didn't even push he just popped out! It was amazing. He looked right at me too. My husband helped put him right into my arms. The paramedics walked up and said wow good job dad!
Mamma grabbed that baby straight away! She said "gimme, and let's go!!!" Birth has been made into such a scary experience, but our bodies know exactly what to do. I wish doctors listened to women more, and didn't force women's bodies to the max.
Oh brother not everyone’s experience is the same! It IS a scary experience and y’all need to stop trying to downplay the fact that birth can and has literally killed women. It’s fine for people to be scared; and not everyone’s body’s react the same
@@jaysax7381 It only kills women if you are uneducated and don't listen to the warning signs that you need a c-section. Over half the maternal mortality rate is from murder and suicide.
@@jaysax7381 it’s scary A) because society makes it out to be. Women are told it’ll be the worst most painful and traumatic experience of our lives and it’s treated as a medical emergency in which women need people in white coats and a college education to save us from ourselves. How can we possible birth our babies without a room full of doctors and nurses telling us what to do and how to do it?!?! And B) because medical professionals are literally trained to be scared of birth. They are taught how to manage birth, to make it less “unpredictable” and scary. So even in the hospital, where staff sees it every single day and modern medicine is readily available, everyone is on edge and preparing for the worst. All these comments about how nurses don’t understand the fetal ejection reflex and are frantically yelling at women to “stop pushing!” when she literally can’t help it prove my point. Fear. Fear of birth has been instilled in them. Fear of catching a baby. Fear that they will lose their jobs if they don’t stop a birth from happening before the doctor is present. Fear that something catastrophic is going to happen when they don’t have backup. Etc etc etc. Also, most obstetric staff have never actually seen a true undisturbed, physiologic mother-led birth. They see medicated and/or highly managed births. And in medicated and/or highly managed births, a woman’s physiology is disrupted and altered and the labor & birth process does not and cannot happen in the way it would otherwise. In most cases, interfering with labor the way the obstetric system routinely does nowadays, literally makes birth MORE dangerous. Birth is literally a physiological bodily function. Yes, things can go wrong. But things can go wrong in all our bodily functions, including digestion, elimination, liver function, etc. Modern medicine is wonderful and life-saving, no doubt. But if we treated birth as the NORMAL biological, physiological function of a woman’s body like it IS, it would be so much less scary. And btw, there are SO many things we do on a daily basis that could be dangerous and even kill us. Driving, for one. Crossing the street. Swimming. Using sharp knives. We could slip in the shower. We could trip over our kids’ toys on the floor and injure ourselves. We could misstep and fall down the stairs. You get the point. We could choose to have fear over everything. Because EVERYTHING in life carries risk. Or, we could educate ourselves, arm ourselves with knowledge and whatever supports we feel is necessary (in the case of birth, utilize the tools in a hospital, or not) and surrender.
I experienced this too! The best way I could describe it to someone was, you know when you're dry heaving or throwing up and you want to stop but you can't? Your body just continues to do it. That's how it felt for me.
Were you laying down or sitting like this lady? From all ive read it seems like all births should be done not laying down because its so much easier, faster and safer for mommy and baby and now that ive heard of this involutary contractions im curious if it has to do with the position too
@@dianaayt I was sitting up right with my legs up and open. I was leaned as far forward sitting up as I could. I've had 3 pregnancies, each one I gave birth to naturally. I only felt this strong uncontrollably pushing, again only way to describe it is when you're throwing up/dry heaving uncontrollably, with my last child. She's 3 now.
THIS! My son turned 3 on Saturday. He was so stubborn and put me through 37 hours of labor. The hour before I had him I kept feeling pressure and everything else because my epidural failed. The nurse told me to stop pushing because I was only 9cm and had started suggesting a c-section right before that. 🙄 I hadn’t been pushing. Thank goodness he came right after shift change. My MIL got our nurse from the day prior who was the SWEETEST nurse. She practically delivered our son. The hospitalist was in there for maybe 15 seconds before he came. My second will be 2 in July and the hospitalist barely had time to set up. He was like I know that it’s hard not to but if you can try not to push. He was that close. He coached me through everything and I had no idea my son had been born when he said are you ready to meet your son. That second hospital was a heaven sent. I will never forget the kindness or the hospitalist for the kindness they showed my family. ❤
Omg my epidural started failing like 7 hrs before I had my daughter, I was 34 hrs in labor because I had to be in induced. I had a nurse who was completely arguing me when I was telling her I could feel everything and moving my legs way more than I’m suppose to. Around an hr before I delivered, I felt like the urge to push but one nurse for like the last 3 hrs kept saying I was only 9cm, right after my ob came in my room and told me I was ready and at 10cm.
Oh wow that is horrendous!! When my daughter was birthing her second baby the nurses told her to take a comfort stop to pass faeces, unfortunately whilst this occurred my daughter began to push accidently and the baby was born very suddenly, when the baby took it's first breath it's stomach became full of gas and suddenly exploded in the birthing bed. The beautiful baby was pronounced as severely unwell and spent eight weeks in hospital - all because they told my daughter 'don't push '. The hospital said my daughter taking a comfort break so late in the birth was the reason her precious child suffered from a stomach explosion.
Omg you too?? My mom was in labor with me for 38 hrs (though it was more bc of doctors negligence) and eventually had to be operated out via c-section because the doctor just kept telling my mom to push
My son was a Premie and it took me 72hrs before my Doctors Daughter Said literally..FB it get her ready... We taking the baby!! I was happy & scared but he's a bouncing healthy 16yr old now!!!
i birthed my first two in the hospital, was induced, medicated the whole 9 yards! my 3rd, i was waited until she was ready and boy when they’re ready they’re ready… i only made it 15 min down the rd and we pulled over and i birthed her in the passenger seat of my car on the side of an interstate! ❤ luckily the ambulance got there just in time for me to push one time and she was out! when they pulled up i tried standing- bad idea, that was when i put my hand down there and realized she was already fully crowning. i still can’t believe it happened but it’s amazing what we’re capable of when we just let our bodies do they’re job! i felt so much better after birthing her vs my first two. i was up and ready to go vs being drugged up, weak and exhausted! highly recommend natural births!
haha this almost my same story except we were 30 mins away from the hospital! like you, my 3rd that was born in the car was the most pleasant compared to being medicated with the first 2
I was induced with my 2 boys thanks to being a T1D. It was awful. My first weighted 8lbs 6oz, my 2nd was 6lbs 6oz and those 2lbs make a huge difference.
I was induced with my first and super drugged up and I was happy I did. With my second it was natural and that was great too. I can't knock either option. They're both great, it just depends on the person, their experience, and the pregnancy
My body did this with my youngest son, the only all natural birth i had. I couldn't help what was happening, the nurses were too busy telling me to stop so i could fill out paperwork. 🙄 my son sure showed them!! Our bodies are truly magical.
I gave birth like this in a car outside the hospital. Oh man god bless you momma. Brought back memories i thought i broke the door kicking it every contraction
Happened to me in an ambulance a couple blocks from the hospital. Paramedics said I hadn’t even crowned yet & I yelled at them that “the baby is coming!” but they didn’t believe me till he popped out. It was an unreal feeling as I had no control at all. It’s amazing what the female body can do when an epidural isn’t numbing all the muscles needed for a quick birth.
A distant cousin of mine gave birth before the paramedics could show up. She literally woke up at 2am, husband on a work trip, her 3 weeks before scheduled birthday, felt like having a poop broke her water in the bathroom crawled to her phone to call for a ambulance and call her best friend/neighbor to come babysit her other 2 children while she would go to the hospital. Total time 17 minutes. She opened the door for paramedics with the baby in a towel. Some birts are truly magic
Honesty was scared there would be a bunch imatuter people trying to poke fun about this. Glad everyone was mature and down to earth. This is truly beautiful, the miracle of life ❤
I want this type of birthing...i gave birth in a dream like this, so I hope it will be in reality...30week pregnant first... I gave birth yesterday, and it wasn't bad at all. I labored at home until I was 10 cm dialted, and when I got to the hospital, I gave birth right away... not even 30 minutes. The only problem is my child was born with Down syndrome, and I don't have her with me she staying in the NiCU 😢😢😭
At first, I thought you meant the whole in the car situation and I was like, "why the hell would you want to give birth in a cramped, uncomfortable car?" Lol
So crazy. I didn't have this reflex with my first birth. It took 3hrs of pushing. Second baby this reflex took me by surprise and baby was out in 3 pushes. Such a difference!
It’s possibly because you weren’t given the opportunity to wait for this reflex. First time in labor is generally much longer. It’s probable that you were instructed to push when your body wasn’t ready hence why it took 3 hours to push.
@angelag5157 absolutely true! We all have the reflex. Then these demons, I mean doctors take control and prevent us from doing as God intended. They cause as much mental and physical damage as possible. 😢
My cousins have been told it'd be better just to go home and have their kid then call the ems or go to the hospital later for checkups. Depending on if you're high risk or not you can have your child in a just as quiet environment and not have doctors telling you not to scream or push when your body is telling you to do the opposite.
Praying should I have a child one day, the birth process does not conclude in a vehicle. lol Ideally, would rather be at home or in a hospital if medically necessary but without the cascade of interventions.
❤❤ My mother-in-law had one of my sister-in-laws peacefully just sitting on a chair. If she wouldn’t of caught her she would have been on that floor. Then this same sister-in-law had a home birth of twins by herself with the assistance of her 5 year old daughter. Some women are blessed to have a baby 1-2-3 and out…❤
I was told to stop pushing while giving birth, so not to tear my skin was her assessment…maybe it was my baby trying to come through maybe I was in so much pain and excitement in that moment knowing my baby was on the way and didn’t want to stay in my uterus anymore!! 23 yrs later and she is still going strong in life her way!!
PLEASE make sure the cord gets double tied. When I worked nights as a nurse. A couple traveling I57 delivered their 1st baby on the side of the road. This was before cell phones. The baby was on Moms chest when they arrived at the hospital and the PLACENTAL was in the floor board .THE BABY WAS DEAD DUE TO ALL ITS BLOOD BEING PULLED BACK INTO THE PLACENTA. I will never FORGET MOMS SCREAMS..
This is why when all the nurses (happened with almost every single birth I gave which is 5) said “Don’t push!” and I said that I wasn’t, that the baby practically flew out and the Dr. barely made in the room in time to catch them. Also, it really hurts to not help your pushes and hold back when your body is literally doing it on its own but the nurses are screaming repeatedly for you NOT to push. It’s almost worse than the contractions themselves.
Yeah bc the doctor don’t get paid if they’re not in there. It’s so sick that women’s health is literally the last thing on their minds & all they’re thinking about is the money. So sick.
@@kay-collinsidk about the us (here the doctor get paid a fixed salary or by patient whether or not he was in thé room) But don't push usually (in my knowledge means ) if you are manually pushing stop so you may receive the assistance of the doctor in case of complications and in the post natal care This is what I know but I am still not considered I professional so ..
This is so beautiful and scary all at once. Us women are so strong our bodies know exactly what to do and it’s so fascinating and magical. This made me cry.
I had my son in my camper bathroom and 1000% was like this. My water broke and all I had to do was stand up and he was born. Like the instincts and the way you know what to do but don’t at the same time when you have those kinda moments happening is insane. Crazy experience.
When I was in labor and started screaming "I think I have to poop!!" The nurses RUSHED to get the doctor lmaoo they said "don't push" I was like huh???! It's coming out I'm not even pushing 😂😂
"Just put the baby on me!" No fear anymore, just instinctual love. That was incredible.
Most pioneer women had to give birth on their own on the Praries. A doctor was a day or more away by buggy. A lot women died in child birth. Other women would birth like it was part of their job that day and would then get up and prepare a meal for her husband and kids. It was expected out of them.
@@Dan-xx5jq midwives
I thought she said "just pull the baby out of me".
Looks like it’s not her first child seeing how swiftly it all happened
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This happened with my son. The doctor kept telling me to stop pushing that I wasn’t ready and I kept telling her it’s not me. My body literally ejected my son out without me even trying to. Sometimes we women need to pay more attention to what our bodies are telling us vs the doctors.
I love how they said you weren’t ready but YOUR BODY said you were absolutely ready! Like what makes them say you’re not ready? They need to learn that the body decided for itself sometimes!
That’s what I told my nurse she didn’t believe me and the doctor was literally runnin in to catch my baby
Lol “stop pushing” sir how well can you hold in a fart before it starts to hurt or goes away? Not long I bet. The body does what the body wants and it wants the baby OUT
They told me to take a break because I was pushing for almost 2 hours and I tried but my body wouldn't let me. Ended up pushing for 3 and a half hours with no break but baby came out eventually. It's not easy to stop pushing.
Same for me with my daughter. Every woman in the room told him come NOW we can see the hair on the babies head & he said nah, she's not ready yet. Thank God my Mom was there to catch her. Still had to pay $10k to the hospital. Gotta love American Healthcare
Wowzers 😊
My last baby was a one push n out , hour labor and 4 weeks early .
She’s 26 now & still impatient 🤣
Lol ! I'm 25, and I was also 4 weeks early. My original birthday was supposed to be April fools day and I played an early trick on them and came on March 2nd 😂. I was also the only baby out of my mother's 3 children who broke her water.
@@AaliyahSanders-ltpx I’m 22 and I took a while to get here because my birthday’s June 28th so here’s the story of how that happened a little background info before this story starts: my mom did not know she was even pregnant until she was about 4 months along so she did everything she wasn’t supposed to do like smoke and drink and she didn’t think to take a pregnancy test until she missed her period so once she missed her period it tipped her off to something being wrong because she had my sister 3 years before and she was showing signs of being pregnant flash forward to the day I was born so my mom goes to the hospital to figure out what’s going on because it’s been 10 months and she still has yet to have a baby and the doctors tell her “oh! Your in active labor “ now my mom is shook because she didn’t expect to give birth on that day so they prepare a labor room for her and leave her with my dad (who was just as shocked but he couldn’t say the words so the doctor comes in and tells her that she’s 9cm dilated and she can start pushing so of course she starts pushing and I come out after about 2 hours of labor now since I was tiny (about the size of a loaf of bread) my doctor had concerns and they took me to the ICU unit for more tests and stuff but after about 3 days they took me home and I was able to meet my older sister (who was very happy to be big sis) and now I’m turning 22 on June 28th and I am still planning my 38th birthday party
@@AaliyahSanders-ltpxwow! I was supposed to come out in around June, but came out early on April fools. My grandparents did not believe my parents when they said I was born early on that day xD
Oh I Love this comment 😂 and still impatient 🤣🤣
Wow! My 3rd baby was 3 weeks early and was a fetal ejection. Shes 19 healthy and happy
This is crazy and awesome! Same exact thing happened with my youngest daughter! Was going across a 3.5 mile bridge and my wife said the baby was coming now and I called 911 to get an ambulance to meet us! Well long story short I had to pull over and barely got around in time to the passenger seat to take her pants off and catch our daughter and she came flopping out just like this! She wasn’t crying for almost a min and I had to flip her over and pat her back and she finally started to cry! It was the craziest and happiest moment of my life! We then had to sit there for the longest 10 minutes of our lives until the ambulance got there. I suffer from severe anxiety and remained calm the whole time until they both got into the ambulance then I blacked out and fell over. Luckily the fire rescue guys were right next to me and caught me before hitting the ground. They then gave me oxygen and sat there for a good 15-20 mins until my panic attack was over. Still one of the craziest days of my life!
that is a beautiful story!! So proud of you, and your wife!❤
That is an awesome story! I felt like I was there on the outside looking in. I felt a happy kind of anxiety just reading about it. Great job handling the whole situation!
Tears are flowing while I’m smiling. Your story is amazing.
But when they needed you, you were the man Dad.
Wonderful story ❤️
They just saved soo much money by not going to the hospital
They still have to go to the hospital
THEIR LIFE WAS AT RISK
@@multipurpose6984???
Do you know what’s worse than giving birth in a hospital?? Giving birth in a car where it’s small and in an uncomfortable position. They were probably on their way to the hospital but the baby decided to come early. Just because it’s expensive dosen’t mean you shouldn’t do it.
Some hospitals have good treatment less stress and a good birthing expirience and what if the baby gets tangled in the umbillicok cords? There’s no way someone’s gonna use kitchen knifes and go into the ladies stomach. These emergencies are what the hospitals are for 💀 it’s expensive because they use tools and time.
@@FrogrorinaYou're so right...those umbillocoks are a menace!
I had nurses yelling for me to not push. I wasn’t manually pushing, my body was naturally pushing. Nurse caught her 😮
😂 what a funny thing to tell someone when their body is ready and already doing it.
Omg this happened to me too
Same. I had to yell at the DR that I wasn't pushing and had no control! On my birth report she noted it as "involuntary pushing."
I had same experience.
Doctors shouted "Stop pushing."
I yelled back "I'm not pushing, it's my contraction."
One of the scariest feelings! One minute I was having contractions, the next my body pushing her out and there was no way of stopping it!
How many watching this wishing it was that quick for them. No hours in labour no gas and air no pain relief injections. The whole thing seemed so natural and mum and baby healthy they'll be going home soon, perfection.
Me! I got cut down there and the baby’s heart beat kept going down 😢
Shoot I sure wish i had gas and air! I’m in Pa America. They barely believe in midwives. You gotta hire your own. And a doula is almost impossible to get without the perfect insurance 😞
Me!
I wish I could have had my babies naturally. I think that's a beautiful experience
I understand. My son wasn't positioned correctly so I pushed for THREE HOURS before they told me I had to have a c-section.
I gave birth to my son like this - but on my knees in the passenger seat. It had nothing to do with me. It felt like a conversation between my uterus and my baby. I felt his head drop, then just had enough time to pull my pants down before he was pushed out and caught by dad. It was the most powerful and empowering experience. I truly felt my femaleness. No interfering medical intervention. Just love.
Lmao what
@@tragicjaguar76 Birth
@@MountainMaid238 I know that but “I truly felt my femaleness. No *interfering* medical intervention. Just love.” Is insane though
@@tragicjaguar76 Insane? Why? Because I felt the power of being a woman with birthing organs and owned it?
@@MountainMaid238 no just painting modern medicine as some sort of villain is insane to me considering I’m pretty sure you needed medical attention afterwards
I remember the nurse yelling at me “STOP IT! don’t push,don’t push.. I SAID don’t push!” like maam I’m not doin SHITTTT my body is in control, not me, so blame evolution! Some of them L&D nurses are SO fkn rude & hateful. And it kills me bc they literally went to school for this & yet wanna act brand new.
Not to mention this experience was during my first ever pregnancy/childbirth. I was barely 20yrs old & so afraid in a way I had never before experienced. All it would’ve taken is for a nurse to say, “everything is going as per usual & you’re doing good”. I would’ve felt so much relief. Instead I felt isolated & alone-even tho I had my husband & family- they also made me feel like I was dumb or as if they were judging me for literally not knowing how to give birth. Like, hello, I’m a teen pregnancy statistic & regardless of your personal opinion, I’m still a patient deserving of your compassion- if not your professionalism at the very fkn least!
Edit: 47k likes & 235+ comments tells me one thing: that’s way too fkn many of us women commiserating over horrible experiences of labor & delivery here in the US. They treat us like we’re a package from Amazon Prime. The faster they can get us in then ship us out-unprepared & scared to death most often times-comes down to being overworked/understaffed/unsympathetic and most importantly it’s all abt MONEY! If you have Medicaid they’re even more likely to treat you as a commodity or less-than. Due to only receiving literally Pennie’s to the dollar for the services rendered to you. 68 cent per $1 to be exact according my pediatrician here in GA circa 2007. May be even less now.
You'd think that after that many years of school and being in that profession they would have at least learned to listen to the woman experiencing and feeling it. But they think they know better all the time. Just ignore them and do your own thing.
@@loganleroy8622is it a big deal if the doctor is not there ?
@@celialusma4618I imagine it's really only a big deal for the Dr and the billing dept. How you gonna charge $1,000s when you weren't even in the room? As for mom and baby, it's a bigger deal that she listen to her body and relax.
@@loganleroy8622Not the gaslighting
@@shinkuueditsliterally like what are these comments sounds like you might’ve been confused because you’re an emotional woman :( aw you should’ve waited for the doctor!! HUH? it is a natural process that starts when it starts, delaying it can lead to the baby becoming disabled due to lack of oxygen etc
I gave birth to my daughter in my home. It's a real reflex. I remember my midwife saying, "you're going to push, without trying. Your body WILL push the baby out." So for curiosity sake, when a contraction happened, I didn't push. And WHOOP I felt my daughter slide all the way down and begin crowning. And after I pushed her head out, the rest just HAPPENED. I remember thinking to myself I'M NOT DOING THIS I'M NOT DOING THIS. My female instincts kicked into overdrive and the mama bear was birthing. It was honestly an amazing experience.
My younger sister who is much stronger person then me had a baby. She told me right after she gave birth don’t have baby. She said she doesn’t remember saying that.
Doctors are in so much of a hurry. I had that reflex feeling with my first, hand I felt very little discomfort. The second one not so much. A different dr and his ways was more difficult.
I had a first birth in Germany Suhl ( very good hospital it was in summer 2015) hospital with baby's fetal ejection reflex on left side in bed, after water immersion.
Glad to know this! I planned on a natural unmedicated birth, I was at a birthing center but after 25+ hours of intense labor and back labor and only making it to 3cm, my midwife’s said it’d be best to go to the hospital. So I got the epidural and pushed on my back because I was completely numb, total opposite of what I wanted but with next baby I want to attempt natural again!
I was told in the hospital to not push. I wasn’t pushing. My body was literally pushing my son out on its own and they told me not to like I could control it. Horrible birthing experience there especially for a first time mom like myself. It wasn’t like that when any of us were born there and it seems like I’m the only one brave enough to speak on it.
When I had my son many years ago (my second child) the original delivery room nurse I had was inexperienced and I kept telling her the baby was coming and she kept saying "no it's not coming, no it's not coming". I could feel the crowning. I told her I wanted another nurse. Finally an experienced nurse came in and I was so glad to see her I grabbed her hand and I said "my baby is coming". The other nurse said "she keeps saying the baby's coming." The experience nurse asked her "have you ever had a baby?" and the young nurse said no. The experienced nurse told her "well you need to shut up and get out of here". My labor was 2 hours and 45 minutes from the beginning until he was born. I remember that vividly and it has been over 40 years.
This is an inspiring video...
She didn't need to get out of there she needed to stay and watch so she could learn.
@@CrystalM1917 that's probably true. I didn't necessarily want her to get out, I just wanted someone in there who was experienced and knew what to do. I was still young and my son came fast. Even faster than my daughter had.
These comments lets me know how dense the medical workers are. They should know that the body will do what it wants when it wants during childbirth by NOW. -That baby is big and healthy 💕 Congrats to the parents.
Dear Pisces,
I hate to contradict you and add to your (perhaps unintentional) rage-bait, however, after seeing that people are agreeing with you, I feel the need to do so.
Making yourself push when your body is doing it naturally can be harmful and cause issues.
Please do your research before criticizing people who have gone to school for the subject you are criticizing their knowledge of.
Sincerely,
Rythers
(PS: I fully agree. That is one beautiful baby, congratulations to the parents, but the baby and the mama still need taken to the hospital to be checked out.)
@@Rythers_Are you stupid? the comment your replied to said “the body does what it wants” meaning sometimes you literally can’t stop pushing because of contractions.
Don’t come here on some high horse acting like you’re better than her in your approach to your correction without even comprehending the very comment you replied to
What are you even contradicting in what she said? You are simply lecturing without understanding what's going on.
That person was agreeing with others that the mother should be supported in her instincts and not told to fight against her body's natural process to birth her child(ren). Which is what these "medical professionals" routinely do because they are ignorant and/or want things done in their own time, unconcerned with the fact that attempts to stop active labor will cause damage. Just as attempts to force the baby out before labor is active and the ejection reflex is initiated.
I have personally witnessed this and heard NUMEROUS stories that share extremely similar details to what I have seen. In addition to other abuses and neglect that vulnerable birthing mothers are commonly victims of at the hands of "trained medical professionals".
@@Rythers_i impolite you to reread. Also you sound insufferable. This is youtube.
I pushed for around an hour with zero results. My body started pushing for me and he was out in two or three minutes. This reflex is so cool and natural!
Daaaaamn!
They made me push for 4 hours!!! I was soooo exhausted, my blood pressure was through the roof, and I almost fainted many times. I kept saying I don't feel like I need to push yet! I don't feel my body trying to push yet! And they kept making me!!! This was with my first and I had no idea what to expect. Then they decided I wasn't progressing so needed an emergency c-section and literally right after they prepped me and were just about to wheel me to surgery my body started wanting to push and I could feel it!!! And I was screaming and crying by this time... please let me push again!! I can do it this time!!! They kept telling me to stop and knocked me out and I woke up in the recovery room. They had to pull my baby back out of the birth canal bc by the time they cut me my body was trying to eject the baby! My pelvis never did spread until that moment so there was no way for me to push the baby out until then! If they had waited my health and the baby's wouldn't have been jeopardized in the first place and wouldn't have needed to have an emergency c-section! And then I wouldn't have had to have 2 more after! So I never got to experience giving birth naturally bc of modern doctors acting as if they know better than my own body did. Just bc I was fully dilated and effaced didn't mean it was time for me to push!!! There was no reason other than the doctor's convenience that I had to start pushing until my body started to tell me to.
@@NotWokebutAwake.happened to me as well!! I got in the OR room, the nurse took a look in there and baby’s head was out and Surgeon said no we need to do the csection and he had to push him back to be able to take him out. 1 yr postpartum and i hated the experience! My first baby too!
@@jewelslaggy304 I felt like a failure for so long. I had a birth plan of no drugs all natural but in the hospital! I was young but I was 18! And my husband and I took classes and everything! My parents helped me a lot bc my dad was in there with my mom when she delivered 4 naturally! So I was so secure in myself! Until being induced! That is unnatural! And it forces labor. It was about 8 hrs and I still wasn't having reg contrations or dilating. So they broke my water! And for some reason all the pitocin hit me at once and i went into full force labor straight in my back!!! They wouldn't let me get up or move bc my BP shot up, and bc I was stressing the baby was stressing. So they made me have an epidural. Blah blah blah 22 hrs later after pushing without needing to for 4 hrs and being faint they take me to OR same as you. My epidural had worn off and I was needing to push so bad and they noticed I was crowing also, so I felt them cut me open and pull the baby out with no meds bc they couldn't give me anything else until cord was cut. As soon as cord was cut they knocked me out! I have no memory of seeing my baby until 3 days later I was kept so high on meds. My father told me I almost died and had to have 2 blood transfusions!!! I wanted to try again to have a Vback but my wonderful doctor after wouldn't risk it. He said they messed me up. And I could get pregnant and carry the baby fine but he was seriously concerned about delivery for both baby and I. So he delivered my next 2 by. Cesarean. He was wonderful.
@@jewelslaggy304 I'm so sorry you experienced almost exactly what I did. It was horrible and ruined what could have and should have been the most joyous moment in our lives. The birth of our first child! But I just got to be there when my first grandbaby was born. And my daughter did amazing and it was great for her! I was so proud. AM so proud! Hehd
Your body said, “WE ARE OUTTA HERE,” wow women are powerful
Kinda gross tbh lol
@@user-bc3rv2hz1k Youre calling yourself gross?
Evicted 😅
Ok but that baby isn’t moving
@@user-bc3rv2hz1kwhy gross? May look strange to you, but it’s the most precious thing a woman can do for the world, give birth. Your mom did it, and you are here thanks to her.
My daughter was born like that and it really shocked me that I had no control over my body because I was in the labor room not the delivery room. I was scared and upset about not being in the delivery room and my husband had left to get the nurse, I was by myself and my baby was being born and I had no control over my body. Your body knows what to do by reflexes. Never in my life had I experienced not being in control, that was shocking. Nature is amazing and God thought of everything when He designed us. I was only 19 years old and I didn’t know much. I thought you had to be in the delivery room with the doctor delivering the baby. The truth is a woman could do it by herself. Not a good idea because the baby really needs someone to clear the airway, notice that baby didn’t cry.
I was alone too 😢😢😢 I was hurting too much to find the call button but my body started injecting my baby out and all I could do was scream, the nurse came running and said omg wait let me get the dr, and I yelled too late and my daughter squirted up into my hands 😂 8 pounds 9 oz!
The vast majority of babies do not need their airways cleared. And it is healthy and okay if it takes 30 seconds for baby to take their first breath.
Look at all that hair!! What a beautiful, healthy baby! ❤
I had premature babies. They didn’t want me to push…but towards the end, your body says…”Out you go!” I felt this on 2 of my babies.
"Out you go" 😅😂 The body is over it.
Well I mean if the body wanted them out then are they really premature 🤷♀️
@@aesira2679Yes because they weren’t fully matured yet. The body doesn’t decide when they SHOULD come out but when it WANTS them out 😭
@@user-bd4rs2ec1k wow i love this 😭
@@user-bd4rs2ec1k but why would the body force the kid out if its not ready 😭
Fun fact if you dont push but relax as much as possible you give your body the chance to di what it needs to do, which is opening up the pelvic muscles
I just read the exact same thing in other video!
I think this is what happened to me. My body pushed on its own first about 3/4 times and it broke my waters like that and then it was time for me to push
100% I pushed 3 times. and when I mean push , I mean I RELAXED and then pushed my muscles. it was amazing and I can't wait to do it again. birth can be beautiful. LISTEN to your body
@@Justsomebody009 I bet you weren't the type who was stressed about birth either
@@rcg224 just had the same experience 2 days ago 😅
I barely even pushed, only did 3 pushes as well a few minutes after my water broke! I had an accidental home delivery and would love all natural again
When they say “the baby just fell out” I didn’t think it was possible 🤣
Child birth is the best thing ever in this world. I was present with each of our kids during birth. I thank my wife every day for our children. I'm a big dude, I honestly don't think I could carry a child full term if I was a Mum. So hats off to all the Mums out there💙💚❤We Love You... xxxx
I wish more men thought like you. Thank you from us Mums ❤
These are Canadians, so the hospital is free. This was also on an express toll route so they got free travel on this highway for a year & a gift card from the 407 for car seats
i knew ive seen this clip before
I really need to get out of America lol
@@KA-zn4kn ay a civil war is getting closer and closer 😂
@@KA-zn4knsame
We are taxed so high here that nothing is free.
I love how "daddy" was the perfect receiver. He helped birth his child, and THAT to me is something beyond special. Something millions of women have never experienced. I wish I would've left the medical "extras" out of my past births. Someone on standby would've been good enough .
It really doesn’t matter either way as long as the kid is fine like what do you even mean by that?
@@jaysax7381 I mean the experience and the bond that's involved. Yes, a healthy baby is a wonderful gift. The continued bond on the parents being there for one another is important. There's a lot of depression that sometimes sets in after having a baby. That parental bond is VERY important. That's what I meant by my comment. MY own opinion.
Most pioneer women had to give birth on their own on the Praries. Some were fortunate enough to have their husbands at home that day as it was rare that he could take a day off. A doctor was a day away by buggy and out of reach. A lot women died in child birth. Other women would birth like it was part of their job that day and would then get up and prepare a meal for her husband and kids. It was expected out of them. And they would turn around and get pregnant as they needed the help the kids provided on the farm. They were tough as nails then. They didn't have a choice.
@@Dan-xx5jq I agree to all the facts of like. MY opinion was simply how special it is when that father is able to be there, and what I wish I could've done in MY past.
I've known too many babies born dead and women who bled profusely to say this. My births were easy and I still almost lost a baby due to meconium aspiration and a double cord wrap. Come on now. Let's be real. Childbirth is one of the most dangerous things a person could do in their life, unassisted childbirth without prenatal care has a high mortality rate across the board.
For all 3 of mine they told me it wasn’t time to push, and I kept telling them that it’s happening. Once they even said “No, you’re not dilated enough” I said I’m telling you, it’s happening..and they peeked under the sheets and it sure was happening! 😂 My mother was a labor and delivery nurse for 40 years, she was with me and just said If you know it’s time to push, then just push.
This happened with my daughter.
I did like half a small push & there was NO stopping her after that.
I told them I wanted to push & they said I wasnt ready.
I said "ok well you can either stand there or leave but I'm pushing either way"😂
I was so blessed.
They broke my water at 3am & she was born at 6:06am after that tiny half push. 9lbs 6oz & 22. 5 inches. ❤
"Baby is with momy! Jesus!" Thats a beautiful dad ❤ i know that baby is going to receive all the love he needs
Oh wow that is horrendous!! When my daughter was birthing her second baby the nurses told her to take a comfort stop to pass faeces, unfortunately whilst this occurred my daughter began to push accidently and the baby was born very suddenly, when the baby took it's first breath it's stomach became full of gas and suddenly exploded in the birthing bed. The beautiful baby was pronounced as severely unwell and spent eight weeks in hospital - all because they told my daughter 'don't push '. The hospital said my daughter taking a comfort break so late in the birth was the reason her precious child suffered from a stomach explosion.
@@AGNETHAFALTSK0Gthat sounds like a your daughter’s problem
@@adanicolae8648what the heck does that mean? It sounds cold and judgemental.
Jesus ain't real bro imagine still believing in that old foreign myth. 💀💀💀
@@SageXavender He was though. I'm not even Christian but most historians believe he did exist in the Herodian kingdom. Whether you believe in his divinity is another thing.
One of my sons had a precipitous birth. He was pushing himself out, and the nurse held him back for at least ten minutes until the doctor arrived. This caused my baby to nearly die. When he took his first breath, both his lungs burst. He also got Group B Strep septicemia, which was in all his systems except his nervous system. Luckily, he had a miraculous recovery on his third day of life and was able to be taken off the respirator. He's 28 years old now - tall and strong, happily married and healthy. I still call him my miracle boy.
i hope that nurse was fired omg
Did you sue the hospital??
That woman would have to watch her back for the rest of her life.
“The nurse held him back” So that lunatic tried to halt the natural progression of your child’s birth like that’s ever okay?! I’m 6 months pregnant right now and just thinking about that makes me so upset. 😡 My husband would’ve made the biggest scene about it
Oh my gosh how disgusting!!! I hope she was never allowed to practice again😮
From my understanding your body pushes by itself, and your pushing helps along, but not pushing doesn't stop the body from doing its job. There is no stopping that baby from coming out. 😅
Lucky are those mothers who have sucha smooth delivery. I have seen people struggle for days at length with difficult labour. Congratulations to the baby n mom and may everyone experience such smooth healthy delivery 🙏🏻 😃
I hope the baby is alright and started breathing. May they be blessed.
Still getting oxygen from the cord for a couple minutes
That's also why the 911 dispatcher was telling them not to hang up. Still gotta get to the hospital to make sure the baby and the mom are ok!
This happened to one of my cousins; she gave birth while she was in the shower. Her husband got home only to find her in the tub and being like "yeah, this happened like 15 minutes ago, mind driving us to the hospital just in case?" They were all fine in the end.
He looked floppy as hell!
@@kmcNorway I feel like we should be taught more about natural birth without having to seek out midwives.
Yes the baby did breathe like three seconds after they cut the video
This is why most women have bad birthing experiences. It’s so sad but if you birth in most hospitals time is money and they don’t give you time to feel the fetal ejection reflex and push when you and your baby are ready. Instead they instruct you to push when they believe you are ready and this mentality is so fundamentally flawed. They end up having you pushing for hours, usually on your backs and you are led to believe that this is normal. It’s not normal! Fetal ejection reflex is real. We need to do a lot of re-education so women regain faith in their own bodies. We are fearfully and wonderfully made. Not to say that complications don’t happen but if we were properly educated on birthing those complications wouldn’t be the norm.
My mom had a midwife most her pregnancies which were amazing at keeping it natural. My one brother was sunny side up so the midwife had no choice but to take her to the hospital and delivered him by c-section.
Amen. I don't plan on having children but I'm 35 so most of my friends do. There seems to be a horrible trend of induction and artificial hormones and doctors not letting bodies do what they are designed to do. Then everyone wonders why they're having issues giving birth, healing, and breastfeeding. 🙄
Amen 🙌🏼
@@Secretagent71114 definitely. I was one of mom’s first kids, (second born) and that was before she started having midwives, I was an induced baby. 12/30/1998. I would have been born early 1999 (a new year baby). My mom had 8 kids, she started home births after the 3rd.
Yano your comment is the first I'm hearing of this. Thank you 😊
Congratulations mama and daddy! Great job! Beautiful healthy baby!
I love the husband 😂 “baby’s out! Baby’s out! Baby’s with mom!” 😂😂😂
Watching my two sons mother give birth to them will forever be the most impactful experience of my life. So much respect and appreciation for her in that moment. It's truly incredible, words and even videos don't do it justice.
Where does it say she's married?
Kept her seatbelt on throughout. Excellent safety awareness
I mean it most likely was a hindrance bc they’re parked off the shoulder not even driving so it didn’t make a difference either way atp😂
She’s going to be a great mom!
safety first!
You're supposed to be buckled at all times on the road and in the vehicle esp if you're on the shoulder of the road.@@rileynatalie
Seat belts have 5050 chance of survival on or off. Sorry but- it's true so no whatever u just said, not ture.
Congratulations to the parents. Whoever helped the mom give birth did an amazing job in such a confined space, well done ❤
Brought tears to my eyes with that look of pure joy when she held her babe. A mom never forgets that first time.
Baby was like "ready or not, mama! Here I come!" 😂❤ Glad they're both ok.
😂😂😂😂❤
I’m so nervous to give birth for the first time, I’m pretty far along in pregnancy and I have to keep reassuring myself “your body will know what to do, you won’t even have to think about it”
This is beautiful. My body wouldn’t “open” for my babies… my pelvic bones were essentially stuck. So my babies never made it below a -3 in the birthing canal, and that was just my first. I went into labor with my second but nothing happened at all after the initial water break and mild contractions. Needless to say, mine were all c-sections. My doc jokingly said afterward “you know, this would’ve killed you 100 years ago… you couldn’t give birth to a lemon with the way your body reacts. All I can say is, thank god for modern medicine lol
My mom also had 2 rough childbirth
( I destroyed my placenta before getting out lol )
Thank god for medicine we all would have been dead
"You couldn't give birth to a lemon" omfg xD that doctor is a keeper.
My friend had this same problem her first time. It was really rough.
What does It mean a -3 in the birthing canal?
@@cnkk333i think shes reffering to dialation so it only opened 3 cm and too small for a baby
My nurse said dont push, and i remember telling her "i stopped but shes still coming". They got a good laugh out of that. My team was amazing. Loved them all through both my girls.
Were you laying down or sitting like this lady? From all ive read it seems like all births should be done not laying down because its so much easier, faster and safer for mommy and baby and now that ive heard of this involutary contractions im curious if it has to do with the position too
@@dianaayt I was laying down, but part of it may be my hypermobility. Gives me quick labors and odd contractions
Same thing happened to me . Doc said “stop pushing “ . I saw “ I’m not “ 😂 5 min labour . GOD IS GOOD ❤
When I was giving birth to my daughter, my nurse asked me why I didn't push when I had a contraction. I told her I didn't feel the need to push yet. I'll wait for my body to tell me when It's time to push. The next contraction i felt it and I pushed and nurses said " wow how strong you are". I said.. "i'm not I just follow my body and what it want me to do". I didn't have to push hard. Three pushes and my daughter was out. It's so important to follow the body or you'll work against it.
Oh wow that is horrendous!! When my daughter was birthing her second baby the nurses told her to take a comfort stop to pass faeces, unfortunately whilst this occurred my daughter began to push accidently and the baby was born very suddenly, when the baby took it's first breath it's stomach became full of gas and suddenly exploded in the birthing bed. The beautiful baby was pronounced as severely unwell and spent eight weeks in hospital - all because they told my daughter 'don't push '. The hospital said my daughter taking a comfort break so late in the birth was the reason her precious child suffered from a stomach explosion.
@@AGNETHAFALTSK0GA 'comfort break'? I've never heard of such a thing! It's fascinating how different countries advocate different practices.
@@AGNETHAFALTSK0G I'm so sorry that happened to your grandchild. Poor baby. I hope the baby is ok now. I didn't know that could even happen. Was that in Sweden? I saw your name, that's why I asked. Because I'm from Sweden.
@@sofiaw9571 yes indeed! Thank you for your message, my granddaughter is well now thank you - however she spent almost eight weeks in confinement with tubes and wires all over , it was incredibly sad to not be able to help or even hold her close just to pray and give to her all the love. Thank to God I must say after this traumatic event , now she is perfectly well and she has learned recently to play the bowed cello string instrument and this brings myself and daughter such happiness. Warning - during birthing don't let the staff try to needs or offer you bad advice, please if you felt they are wrong yours woman's body actually knows the best rather to any so-called medical advisors.
That’s my hubby’s cousin! Way to go Erica. My husband also delivered our second baby. I know how you feel ❤
Aww, I hope mummy and baby are doing well❤️🙏🏿
@@Diana-queenie38 yes, they are. Thanks.
Please tell me they named the baby Carmen or Carson 😂
Glad they're doing well❤
Congratulations!! I’m so sorry to intrude, I was just wondering in the beginning of the video the baby didn’t cry at all, was everything okay??
Congratulations to your family!!!
The way she held her baby after they came out🥰🥰🥰🥰 I looove being a mommy ❤ no better love and I pray mommy and baby are safe and healthy
Awwww so beautiful!!! Hope your baby was healthy be blessed
I’m learning so much from this comment section I didn’t know our body’s can naturally do this 😭👏🏾 congrats on the little one 😭❤️🔥
Sameeee
I was the same with my son too. Body took over. The nurse checked me as I was just getting in bed and as soon as my feet went in the bed my chin hit my chest my son nearly hit the foot of the bed. It was half hour drive and 5 minutes to have him. No pain meds either 👍😁☘️
@@magsmcgarrigle981 🤯🤯 holy crap that’s crazy !! I’m glad the whole process didn’t take long for you because I heard some women be in labor for days on end 😵💫😵💫💀
Me tooo so excited 😂
Yessss! I’ve had four kiddos and only had an epidural with the first one. With her I had to lay on my back and push (it was AWFUL) but with the next three, my body did all the work. It felt like I had control but I didn’t, if that makes sense. Like hey this baby is COMING OUT so get ready, lmao. My second baby was born at 41 weeks and I went from walking around my hospital room in labor to hopping up on the bed and pulling her out myself… more like guiding her out. My body ejected her itself. It was -incredible-
My 2nd was just like this. I had no pain. Just felt funny, went to hospital, as soon as I got out the car, her head slipped out. As soon as I got on the bed she slid completely out. The nurses didn't even have gloves on yet. Best labor ever.
That nurse was an og she understood the assignment catch your baby no matter what ❤
My mom was a midwife and she told me that once she was talking with a mom and idk if I remember right but she delivered while talking to her
With no pain and fast
Idk if this is the exact story
But that was one of the unique cases my mom told me about
Not even worth it to go to the hospital at that point, they're gonna charge your insurance thousands no matter what
Omg this was so beautiful! Moms are THE BEST
Congratulations. All is eull with you and the baby. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
That is a *BIG* Healthy baby too! Congrats Mom, And Dad!
He looks dead 😢
I wonder if baby will always be early for everything in the future ❤
Big baby doesnt mean healthy baby. Big baby is actually bad and is a sign of macrosomnia. This condition is caused by gestational disbetes, and can lead to hypoglycemia in infants.
@@christianmcbreartyHe's soft and pink underneath all that intra-uterine tissue. That's why the nurses wash babies in the hospital immediately after birth -- those little shits look pale and sticky and gross at first, but really they just need a bath.
I just wanted to talk about how she told him to just put the baby on her. She's in so much pain and was so calm and clear headed, it's amazing how strong she is ❤
I wanna talk about how she was told to not hang up bc it sounded like she was on the phone with emergency services but if the baby is out and healthy and they’re heading to the hospital, there’s no reason for her to stay on the line
@@Itz_GlitchyAsh no, they need to be guided on how to keep the baby alive until they get to the hospital. For example they need to know to double tie the cord so that the blood doesnt go back into the placenta leading to the death of the baby. That happened to a nurse in comment section
@reading1713 gosh I've never heard of that. Look up lotus birth. Some people keep the placenta attached for several hours so all the blood goes into the baby.
Put the baby on her was not calm or cool headed. Not one person noticed the baby was essentially dead? Calm and cool headed would be get clear airway and do cpr and such. Really? No one? How is this a celebration when the baby isn't breathing, isn't crying, isn't moving, and is blue?
@lovegodfirst654 🤣🤣 that's exactly what every baby looks like when it comes out!! It's not blue or dead. It's covered in vernix and has been floating in a bag of fluid for 9 months, so the skin looks blue. This mama did perfect and the baby looks perfectly healthy.
Talk about heading to the drive-thru!😂😂😂😂
This is beautiful! Congratulations to Mom, Dad, and Baby, as well...😊😊😊
This happened to me. Everyone was yelling at me not to push and I was like dude…. Can’t control it 🤣 my body was violently ejecting my son. It was nuts.
"violently" 😅
My doctor and nurses got mad at me because I rolled on to my side, and my son shot out like a football and almost hit the wall in the very back of the room. But my husband caught him, and then my dad caught my husband.
@@brieanmcdowell7943I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not.
@@brieanmcdowell7943LMFAOOOO IS THIS FR?
@@gennys.better yep it was real. One of the nurses told me she was just going to let my son hit the wall and break his neck.
This happened to me but in the hospital. The nurses kept telling me over and over to stop pushing! I finally yelled that I was not pushing.
The only reason they were doing this was because they didn't want me to deliver without the doctor there. The doctor did make it. I literally only pushed once to get her shoulders out.
I was super annoyed by them. Also, the anesthesiologist had to be called in late to give me more. I think he wasn't happy about it and administered it to fast. My whole body seized up, and my legs started shaking uncontrollably. It barely lasted a whole minute, but it was so scary.
This was with my second child.
Why did they feel they needed the Dr? I'm sorry you had such a stressful and frightening experience. Was baby ok?
@TheDramacist Baby was perfect. It was a normal healthy delivery. Honestly, I didn't even need the doctor. It was an easy delivery. I only had an epidural because they told me I couldn't move around, and i had to stay still on the bed and not move. The baby was moving too much, and they couldn't keep the monitor on her. Heart rate was normal tho. I just had to suffer so they could have control. Baby was completely fine.
I think they only wanted the doctor in there to charge insurance. How can you bill for a delivery if the doctor wasn't even there?
They want the doctor there so the doctor can get paid. They only get paid for delivery if they are physically there, even if they walk in and catch the baby and that’s all they do. Tell them to shut up if they tell you to wait for the doctor.
That's what happened to me with my third child because the nurses were changing shifts. The morning nurses didn't want me to deliver because they'd have to stay and didn't want to. The new nurse told me to start pushing and then told me to stop. I asked why. She said because the baby is coming! I told her that's what happens when I push!! The baby comes out. They got the doctor 30 minutes later. 2 pushes, and we were done.
Medicine is so late with women and mental health care. Every other fields are well known about besides when it has to do with women and mental illness
I think this is the best delivery because mommy got the baby right to her skin ..
we are mammals
My mum always used to say I couldn't wait to be born and I was born withouther pushing! This makes me emotional because she jas left us now!congratulations to the parents ❤❤❤
I learned years ago that giving birth isn’t supposed to be painful, but often times it is because of fear.
I read a women’s story about her experience and how she learned about this and was determined to give birth pain free.
She said she basically just relaxed as much as possible when the contractions came, and didn’t let herself feel scared by them. She just took some deep breaths and let them come and go. Trusting that her body was doing it’s job.
Eventually, she gave birth pain free at home and with no complications. It changed my perspective of childbirth completely. I hope every woman gets this experience, every time.
It’s true! I wasn’t scared with my first just recently untim they put me on oxygen because my son wasn’t receiving enough oxygen due to his umbilical cord getting pinched and his heart rate was dropping to the 80’s. My contractions on pitocin were strong and painful but the actual birth itself was not. When I began pushing, it only hurt because I began pushing harder to get him out faster. I was so worried about him. Labor was in total 3.5hours with only 20 minutes of pushing.
This relaxed process of birth is the "Dr Bradley" method! Totally natural! This Dr brought the father into the birth process, when before they were banned from the delivery room.
@@user-ju9pd3pi5h That’s amazing! Thank you for sharing!
It’s one thing to read about it in an article, but hearing it from someone makes me feel even more assured that it’s real lol. That’s awesome. I’m glad you had that experience!
That makes me feel so much better
It’s not “supposed to be” painful, but it is for most people because of some unlucky evolution. When humans evolved to be bipedal, it changed our hipbones in a way that made it way harder to push out a baby.
I was talking to my nurse during my fourth delivery and I remember her eyes all wide and she got on the radio and said "she's unintentionally pushing, I need a doctor!"
Jeeez all for the insurance and policies. Imagine if the baby came out without the dr.
Were you laying down or sitting like this lady? From all ive read it seems like all births should be done not laying down because its so much easier, faster and safer for mommy and baby and now that ive heard of this involutary contractions im curious if it has to do with the position too
@@dianaayt I was actually sitting up
That "baby is out, baby is out"❤😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hubby said "Jesus!" Dad, you called the RIGHT ONE!🙌🏾
"Just put the baby on me" has my heart, the way they kept so calm and both held their baby for the first time is just heart touching....
Being pregnant every time I watch a video where a baby is born I start bawling for no reason. I already know I’m gonna bawl when he’s born haha
Same.❤ It’s such a moment
Best of luck!!! It's the most magical feeling holding your newborn for the first time!!
Talk about a reflex reaction! Me and my husband aren't even criers or super outwardly emotional but the second we saw our baby like it's like being hit by an emotional bus lol, you can't help but cry. I honestly think it's probably one of the most powerful feelings you'll ever have. Enjoy your baby!
i’m 21, nowhere near to being pregnant and i’m bawling my eyes out😭😭
This is such an example of a woman's strength. Also, she just avoided a massive hospital bill. A win-win!
Not gonna lie. I literally flinched when the baby appeared.
lol I just gave birth to my 3rd daughter a week ago and once again they told me not to push because the doctor wasn’t in the delivery room yet. I told them I was gonna push, I had to my body was forcing me to do it. Listen to your body not what other people are telling you to do. When you have a baby, your body knows exactly what to do. God build our bodies perfectly, trust yourself!
Wow. So they treat women like they’re completely stupid or something… “DON’T push yet Mmmkay?? Juuusst waaaait for the Doctor💅🏻😇” 🙄
had my first three weeks ago and absolutely, your body forces it. I wouldn't say my body did it on it's own but I HAD to push. almost had his ass in the car lol
You are right. God has arranged everything!❤
Did you get an epidural? With me, they just upped it, so nothing happened till the Dr on call got there. I had to wait an hour and I think it caused some problems with my bladder. I'm pretty sure I have a prolapse bladder or uterus now because of it.
True , same with my youngest son , to me the nurse was not ready , got mad at me and trying to stop his birth, it was horrible, i had to scream for the Dr. He came running in to save me from that bad nurse
This happened with our 3rd baby. Our second son. I jumped into the bathtub because I knew he was coming. My water popped intensely and I couldn't hold him in anymore! He came out in 2 pushes but I didn't even push he just popped out! It was amazing. He looked right at me too. My husband helped put him right into my arms. The paramedics walked up and said wow good job dad!
Mamma grabbed that baby straight away! She said "gimme, and let's go!!!"
Birth has been made into such a scary experience, but our bodies know exactly what to do. I wish doctors listened to women more, and didn't force women's bodies to the max.
It IS a scary experience. It is often a beautiful one, but definitely scary.
Oh brother not everyone’s experience is the same! It IS a scary experience and y’all need to stop trying to downplay the fact that birth can and has literally killed women. It’s fine for people to be scared; and not everyone’s body’s react the same
@@jaysax7381 It only kills women if you are uneducated and don't listen to the warning signs that you need a c-section. Over half the maternal mortality rate is from murder and suicide.
@@jaysax7381 it’s scary A) because society makes it out to be. Women are told it’ll be the worst most painful and traumatic experience of our lives and it’s treated as a medical emergency in which women need people in white coats and a college education to save us from ourselves. How can we possible birth our babies without a room full of doctors and nurses telling us what to do and how to do it?!?! And B) because medical professionals are literally trained to be scared of birth. They are taught how to manage birth, to make it less “unpredictable” and scary. So even in the hospital, where staff sees it every single day and modern medicine is readily available, everyone is on edge and preparing for the worst. All these comments about how nurses don’t understand the fetal ejection reflex and are frantically yelling at women to “stop pushing!” when she literally can’t help it prove my point. Fear. Fear of birth has been instilled in them. Fear of catching a baby. Fear that they will lose their jobs if they don’t stop a birth from happening before the doctor is present. Fear that something catastrophic is going to happen when they don’t have backup. Etc etc etc. Also, most obstetric staff have never actually seen a true undisturbed, physiologic mother-led birth. They see medicated and/or highly managed births. And in medicated and/or highly managed births, a woman’s physiology is disrupted and altered and the labor & birth process does not and cannot happen in the way it would otherwise. In most cases, interfering with labor the way the obstetric system routinely does nowadays, literally makes birth MORE dangerous.
Birth is literally a physiological bodily function. Yes, things can go wrong. But things can go wrong in all our bodily functions, including digestion, elimination, liver function, etc. Modern medicine is wonderful and life-saving, no doubt. But if we treated birth as the NORMAL biological, physiological function of a woman’s body like it IS, it would be so much less scary.
And btw, there are SO many things we do on a daily basis that could be dangerous and even kill us. Driving, for one. Crossing the street. Swimming. Using sharp knives. We could slip in the shower. We could trip over our kids’ toys on the floor and injure ourselves. We could misstep and fall down the stairs. You get the point. We could choose to have fear over everything. Because EVERYTHING in life carries risk. Or, we could educate ourselves, arm ourselves with knowledge and whatever supports we feel is necessary (in the case of birth, utilize the tools in a hospital, or not) and surrender.
Omg this scared me. I can’t imagine. I ripped with both my babies. Aww despite the pain babies are such a blessing.
I experienced this too! The best way I could describe it to someone was, you know when you're dry heaving or throwing up and you want to stop but you can't? Your body just continues to do it. That's how it felt for me.
Were you laying down or sitting like this lady? From all ive read it seems like all births should be done not laying down because its so much easier, faster and safer for mommy and baby and now that ive heard of this involutary contractions im curious if it has to do with the position too
@@dianaayt I was sitting up right with my legs up and open. I was leaned as far forward sitting up as I could. I've had 3 pregnancies, each one I gave birth to naturally. I only felt this strong uncontrollably pushing, again only way to describe it is when you're throwing up/dry heaving uncontrollably, with my last child. She's 3 now.
THIS! My son turned 3 on Saturday. He was so stubborn and put me through 37 hours of labor. The hour before I had him I kept feeling pressure and everything else because my epidural failed. The nurse told me to stop pushing because I was only 9cm and had started suggesting a c-section right before that. 🙄 I hadn’t been pushing. Thank goodness he came right after shift change. My MIL got our nurse from the day prior who was the SWEETEST nurse. She practically delivered our son. The hospitalist was in there for maybe 15 seconds before he came.
My second will be 2 in July and the hospitalist barely had time to set up. He was like I know that it’s hard not to but if you can try not to push. He was that close. He coached me through everything and I had no idea my son had been born when he said are you ready to meet your son. That second hospital was a heaven sent. I will never forget the kindness or the hospitalist for the kindness they showed my family. ❤
Omg my epidural started failing like 7 hrs before I had my daughter, I was 34 hrs in labor because I had to be in induced. I had a nurse who was completely arguing me when I was telling her I could feel everything and moving my legs way more than I’m suppose to. Around an hr before I delivered, I felt like the urge to push but one nurse for like the last 3 hrs kept saying I was only 9cm, right after my ob came in my room and told me I was ready and at 10cm.
37?? damn birth isnt ez
Oh wow that is horrendous!! When my daughter was birthing her second baby the nurses told her to take a comfort stop to pass faeces, unfortunately whilst this occurred my daughter began to push accidently and the baby was born very suddenly, when the baby took it's first breath it's stomach became full of gas and suddenly exploded in the birthing bed. The beautiful baby was pronounced as severely unwell and spent eight weeks in hospital - all because they told my daughter 'don't push '. The hospital said my daughter taking a comfort break so late in the birth was the reason her precious child suffered from a stomach explosion.
Omg you too?? My mom was in labor with me for 38 hrs (though it was more bc of doctors negligence) and eventually had to be operated out via c-section because the doctor just kept telling my mom to push
My son was a Premie and it took me 72hrs before my Doctors Daughter Said literally..FB it get her ready... We taking the baby!! I was happy & scared but he's a bouncing healthy 16yr old now!!!
i birthed my first two in the hospital, was induced, medicated the whole 9 yards! my 3rd, i was waited until she was ready and boy when they’re ready they’re ready… i only made it 15 min down the rd and we pulled over and i birthed her in the passenger seat of my car on the side of an interstate! ❤ luckily the ambulance got there just in time for me to push one time and she was out! when they pulled up i tried standing- bad idea, that was when i put my hand down there and realized she was already fully crowning. i still can’t believe it happened but it’s amazing what we’re capable of when we just let our bodies do they’re job! i felt so much better after birthing her vs my first two. i was up and ready to go vs being drugged up, weak and exhausted! highly recommend natural births!
haha this almost my same story except we were 30 mins away from the hospital! like you, my 3rd that was born in the car was the most pleasant compared to being medicated with the first 2
I can imagine her saying this:
“Mom, where was I born?”
“Well….uh, on the side of the highway sweetie😂”
I was induced with my 2 boys thanks to being a T1D. It was awful. My first weighted 8lbs 6oz, my 2nd was 6lbs 6oz and those 2lbs make a huge difference.
I was induced with my first and super drugged up and I was happy I did. With my second it was natural and that was great too. I can't knock either option. They're both great, it just depends on the person, their experience, and the pregnancy
My body did this with my youngest son, the only all natural birth i had. I couldn't help what was happening, the nurses were too busy telling me to stop so i could fill out paperwork. 🙄 my son sure showed them!! Our bodies are truly magical.
What happened to your umbilical cord
I gave birth like this in a car outside the hospital. Oh man god bless you momma. Brought back memories i thought i broke the door kicking it every contraction
That baby said “no ma’am I’m coming out right now. We not dealing with hospital bills I got you girl!!”
The way she held her baby my God brought me to tears that was the most beautiful thing ever
Same ❤
Happened to me in an ambulance a couple blocks from the hospital. Paramedics said I hadn’t even crowned yet & I yelled at them that “the baby is coming!” but they didn’t believe me till he popped out. It was an unreal feeling as I had no control at all. It’s amazing what the female body can do when an epidural isn’t numbing all the muscles needed for a quick birth.
A distant cousin of mine gave birth before the paramedics could show up.
She literally woke up at 2am, husband on a work trip, her 3 weeks before scheduled birthday, felt like having a poop broke her water in the bathroom crawled to her phone to call for a ambulance and call her best friend/neighbor to come babysit her other 2 children while she would go to the hospital. Total time 17 minutes. She opened the door for paramedics with the baby in a towel. Some birts are truly magic
The most beautiful thing on TH-cam this month. ❤❤❤❤ I love life!!
Honesty was scared there would be a bunch imatuter people trying to poke fun about this. Glad everyone was mature and down to earth. This is truly beautiful, the miracle of life ❤
I want this type of birthing...i gave birth in a dream like this, so I hope it will be in reality...30week pregnant first... I gave birth yesterday, and it wasn't bad at all. I labored at home until I was 10 cm dialted, and when I got to the hospital, I gave birth right away... not even 30 minutes. The only problem is my child was born with Down syndrome, and I don't have her with me she staying in the NiCU 😢😢😭
Hope your dream comes through mama❤ all the best for you and baby❤
At first, I thought you meant the whole in the car situation and I was like, "why the hell would you want to give birth in a cramped, uncomfortable car?" Lol
Well it would be the scariest thing ever so I’m not sure why you would hope for it. Things can go wrong.
@@TaLisaLovesDaveDay98 I am talking about fast and easy
@denisedspain7991 I am talking about easy and fast delivery because I heard some women be in labor for 36hrs....
So crazy. I didn't have this reflex with my first birth. It took 3hrs of pushing. Second baby this reflex took me by surprise and baby was out in 3 pushes. Such a difference!
38weeks pregnant, i want the same😢
me too
It’s possibly because you weren’t given the opportunity to wait for this reflex. First time in labor is generally much longer. It’s probable that you were instructed to push when your body wasn’t ready hence why it took 3 hours to push.
@angelag5157 absolutely true! We all have the reflex. Then these demons, I mean doctors take control and prevent us from doing as God intended. They cause as much mental and physical damage as possible. 😢
@@kimwoldI hope it went well!!
My cousins have been told it'd be better just to go home and have their kid then call the ems or go to the hospital later for checkups. Depending on if you're high risk or not you can have your child in a just as quiet environment and not have doctors telling you not to scream or push when your body is telling you to do the opposite.
That was absolutely incredible and I pray my body does the same when I have a baby somebody.
Absolutely beautiful. Women are so powerful ❤
They truly are 💪❤️
I'm not trying to start a gender war but men can withstand like 20 bullets
It's the most overwhelming feeling I have ever experienced. It literally takes over your whole body and you can't stop it.
Like taking a HUGE SHIT!! THE WHOLE 10 MONTHS YOUR BODY IS REJECTING THE BABY UNTIL IT COMES OUT
Try to get the baby to cry! It's so sweet
Bless the baby and the strong mommy ❤❤❤❤
This happened to me. I delivered my fourth son on the passenger seat of a car myself. Proudest moment of my life.
I hope & pray every mama gets a birth like this... This isn't traumatic & happening the way it's supposed to. Bless her & her new addition..
Praying should I have a child one day, the birth process does not conclude in a vehicle. lol Ideally, would rather be at home or in a hospital if medically necessary but without the cascade of interventions.
@@joannestark3023well, shit happens.
Yeah that car is ruined
Does this hurt ?
@@noahzeigler455it's not a fart, it's a baby.
Congratulations! 🎊 👶🏻 👩🍼! You just been blessed 🙌!
This is so scary, but beautiful at the same time. To anyone who has given birth, you are so brave!! Our bodies are amazing in what they can do!
❤❤
My mother-in-law had one of my sister-in-laws peacefully just sitting on a chair. If she wouldn’t of caught her she would have been on that floor. Then this same sister-in-law had a home birth of twins by herself with the assistance of her 5 year old daughter. Some women are blessed to have a baby 1-2-3 and out…❤
My dream, I ask God for that
@@marlasilvaresendegondim5330it is natural, you can have that!
Like instant tears WOMEN ARE SO FREAKING AMAZING 🫶🏾🥰
The hospital is going to charge 50k cuz they were in the phone 😂😂😂
I was told to stop pushing while giving birth, so not to tear my skin was her assessment…maybe it was my baby trying to come through maybe I was in so much pain and excitement in that moment knowing my baby was on the way and didn’t want to stay in my uterus anymore!! 23 yrs later and she is still going strong in life her way!!
PLEASE make sure the cord gets double tied. When I worked nights as a nurse. A couple traveling I57 delivered their 1st baby on the side of the road. This was before cell phones. The baby was on Moms chest when they arrived at the hospital and the PLACENTAL was in the floor board .THE BABY WAS DEAD DUE TO ALL ITS BLOOD BEING PULLED BACK INTO THE PLACENTA. I will never FORGET MOMS SCREAMS..
Holy smokes. I didn't know that was why they tied the cords. OMG. Sending 🫂 and 💕 to the Mom. 😢
Omg this is horrific 😢
I’m so sorry you and they went through that. Poor little baby. So very sad. 😔😔
@@candicesmiles9132 That is my prayer.
😢🥺😭😞😣
This is why when all the nurses (happened with almost every single birth I gave which is 5) said “Don’t push!” and I said that I wasn’t, that the baby practically flew out and the Dr. barely made in the room in time to catch them. Also, it really hurts to not help your pushes and hold back when your body is literally doing it on its own but the nurses are screaming repeatedly for you NOT to push. It’s almost worse than the contractions themselves.
Yeah bc the doctor don’t get paid if they’re not in there. It’s so sick that women’s health is literally the last thing on their minds & all they’re thinking about is the money. So sick.
@@kay-collinsidk about the us (here the doctor get paid a fixed salary or by patient whether or not he was in thé room)
But don't push usually (in my knowledge means ) if you are manually pushing stop so you may receive the assistance of the doctor in case of complications and in the post natal care
This is what I know but I am still not considered I professional so ..
This is so beautiful and scary all at once. Us women are so strong our bodies know exactly what to do and it’s so fascinating and magical. This made me cry.
Wow thats a big baby!! I hope all is well 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🥰🥰🥰🥰
I had my son in my camper bathroom and 1000% was like this. My water broke and all I had to do was stand up and he was born. Like the instincts and the way you know what to do but don’t at the same time when you have those kinda moments happening is insane. Crazy experience.
When I was in labor and started screaming "I think I have to poop!!" The nurses RUSHED to get the doctor lmaoo they said "don't push" I was like huh???! It's coming out I'm not even pushing 😂😂
😅It definitely feels like pooping 😂
(Moms do poop in labor , my mom told me they used to tell the laboring women to "POOP!POOP!"
Because some didn't know how to push
My 3rd son came out this way 😂 no pushing required, it was great!