The problem with TIME OUTS | Better behaviour management

I was wrong about time outs... here's why, and what we can do instead!
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[@rockinemi]

Happy :) I totally agree with you, I work in a foundation unit and we have a few children that struggle to regulate their emotions and will resort to violence if they don't calm down quickly so we have choice boards that they use. They can have a cuddle, have a chat, play with a fidget toy, go on a walk, stomp, or scrunch up and throw paper (which we recycle after). Some children love to try and blow the anger away like the big bad wolf, helping them to breathe and bringing some comedy to the situation to calm them down when I "get blown away". We also have zones of regulation that are colours describing what we may be feeling that are used throughout school. When they are calm we talk about what happened "I know you were cross and that's okay I sometimes get cross too, but it's what we do when we are cross that is important" and they will apologise, clean up the mess or have a consequence. Great video, love your content.

[@LittleLearnersVideos]

Love this! Helping children regulate their emotions, learn coping techniques and know their adults care ❤️

[@maireadhaughian5897]

Happy. I really enjoyed listening to your advice, I always instinctively did the same. My son had alot of anger to process in his early years & had no expression. My partner felt discipline was needed & I felt he needed reassurance & support. It was v tough on all of us because he was very angry regularly during the day. I had to pull on my inner strength &change so I could reach him. We tried time outs & there were a few times where I had to just close a door & walk away but reassurance, kindness were key & quiet time, hugs and gradually I started to be more firm with strong boundaries & voice. It's a process but the time outs just built his frustration, anger & loneliness.

[@sherryclink3400]

Happy.
Another tip: have the child 'practice' the alternative/acceptable behavior. For example, slamming a door: "Oops, that is not the way we close the door...let's practice closing the door more quietly." And then you model closing the door quietly and the child practices doing it.
(Love, love, love your phonics videos.)

[@lovinglife4897]

Love your channel. Thank you! 🙏

[@Madalene]

I love the idea of ‘Time In’ - happy!

[@niluf6741]

Happy :) Thank you for the good advice

[@THomasJPeel]

When I was little - my sister (a little older than me) were fighting over a toy. Mom came and took the toy and put the toy in time out. After the toy's time out each of got to play with exclusively for a certain then we had to let the other child have a turn. After that we never fought over toys.

[@SRHisntSilent]

Happy I found your channel
I subscribed since i found your What Is Gentle Parenting video

[@anewornotrub4570]

Happy! Such a great channel.

[@rkit10]

Happy!
Interesting idea of a time in, completely agree that would work for some children! I do have child at the moment who struggles to regulate their emotions and often hurts others. What would you think of a time out in that instance?

[@rac5856]

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[@kellyhidalgo1281]

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[@alicewee301]

Happy! (And others who didn't go through this video must be wondering why is everyone so "happy".)

[@THomasJPeel]

HAPPY!!!!

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[@Hudayfi_123]

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[@jeanpearson5956]

HAPPY

[@ECEWorld789]

Good

[@sarah-jayne9571]

I love this, what would you suggest as a consequence for physical violence? My two sons have asd and adhd and struggle with sibling rivalry! They are 6 and 8 years old!

[@sbella44]

❤HAPPY❤
I agree and disagree with this content.
I am a parent and timeouts have worked so well.
My children have a good understanding of what is positive and negative behaviour. They are aware of the consequences of negative behaviour; restricted or no screen time, cleaning up messes etc.
In an educational setting self regulation is key. Also knowing the child and having a good understanding of behaviour in children and our role as educators.

[@lovinglife4897]

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