Caitlin Moran: “Now I’m Dead, Here’s My Letter Of Advice For You"

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  • British journalist Caitlin Moran wrote this letter to her eldest daughter Lizzie in 2013, explaining at the time:
    “My daughter is about to turn 13 and I’ve been smoking a lot recently, and so - in the wee small hours, when my lungs feel like there’s a small mouse inside them, scratching to get out - I’ve thought about writing her one of those “Now I’m Dead, Here’s My Letter Of Advice For You To Consult As You Continue Your Now Motherless Life” letters. Here’s the first draft. Might tweak it a bit later. When I’ve had another fag.”
    Here's Caitlin herself to read it - originally performed at the Freemason's Hall, London.
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ความคิดเห็น • 238

  • @Florkl
    @Florkl 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +166

    “You always look beautiful in them. You always look beautiful.” It’s a tragedy not everyone gets to hear those words.

    • @Liliarthan
      @Liliarthan 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Absolutely

  • @chrsd2536
    @chrsd2536 2 ปีที่แล้ว +748

    Can you imagine how much you'd miss a mom who was like this? 😥

    • @joisagirlsname
      @joisagirlsname 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Yes. My dad was like this, and I still miss him every day.

    • @ericthompson3982
      @ericthompson3982 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Right?

    • @ericthompson3982
      @ericthompson3982 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      @@WhiskeyGulf71 You... lead a bit of a sad life, don't you? Please find some good friends that you can speak with.

    • @Elizabeth-rq1vi
      @Elizabeth-rq1vi ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@WhiskeyGulf71 she sounds like a wonderful person, she was giving advice to her 13yo daughter! George Bernard Shaw said “you don’t stop playing when you grow old, you grow old when you stop playing”. She didn’t want her daughter to loose that joy of life as she grew up plus she had very sound advice that is relatable on this side of the pond.

    • @MSYNGWIE12
      @MSYNGWIE12 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      My therapist would love to show this to my late mother, who missed the boat, sadly...She was so cut off from her own emotional turmoil, she might not get this. Pure heartfelt, sense, warm and wise...

  • @Saezimmerman
    @Saezimmerman ปีที่แล้ว +130

    "You probably aren't having a nervous breakdown. You just need a cup of tea and a biscuit."

    • @Doooooooooooood
      @Doooooooooooood ปีที่แล้ว +10

      That should be plastered all over every home page, every profile, every post on every social media platform!

    • @judycroteau482
      @judycroteau482 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      And “buy a big biscuit tin”. 😂

  • @ER-uy7ct
    @ER-uy7ct 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    So, I'm sitting in my family room crying. My mom has stage 3, moving to stage 4 lung cancer. And she has not lost her sense of humor like this mother. Thinking about my life without her and her humor and wit has been so hard.
    This letter reminds me to think of the great stories have with her as the center of them all. Family trips, walking down the Champs-Élysées getting so thirsty and buy 2 large glasses of diet coke for 20 francs (this was 2002).
    I have to remember the fun we had.

  • @LM-he7eb
    @LM-he7eb 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +99

    She sounds like such an awesome mom. I know the letter was not meant for me. But, I took it, I took it, I took the advice. It is filled with fun, wisdom, care, awareness & LOVE.

    • @Liliarthan
      @Liliarthan 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same. Feels like a type of vicarious experience of motherly love

    • @jk013x
      @jk013x 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wisdom and love are meant for everyone. I'm sure the woman who wrote that would be overjoyed to know how many people she was able to touch with her words.

  • @StefanTravis
    @StefanTravis 2 ปีที่แล้ว +426

    "Never love someone who you think you need to mend."
    Yep. It's 25 years too late for me, but it's good advice anyway.

    • @elainepayne7047
      @elainepayne7047 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      And for me? 60 years too late!!!!

    • @Px828
      @Px828 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@elainepayne7047 40 for me.

    • @Erizou90
      @Erizou90 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      As long as you are alive and you got the message, it's not too late. You're still here and you're still able to make the best of that advice.

    • @gentianvandewerken929
      @gentianvandewerken929 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Hope you got out /I did after 30 years, best thing I ever did!

    • @katyjudd1061
      @katyjudd1061 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@Px828 Same.

  • @yehuditcollins6783
    @yehuditcollins6783 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I'm nearly 87. When things go wrong, and they do, i ask myself, "If this was happening to someone else, would I laugh?" So i end up laughing not crying.

    • @gretebremseth1622
      @gretebremseth1622 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Very good advice! Wish you a happy birthday! Long distance hug from Norway! ❤ 💙

  • @jwvandegronden
    @jwvandegronden ปีที่แล้ว +239

    That teared me up, the end was the final blow…. What a great mother!! And how important to have supportive parents, this way or anyway as long as it comes from the heart. Like this.
    I just fell into this well of letters, never heard of it until today and I’m hooked. Straightaway!! Thank you to the people who came up with this brilliant idea!!

    • @ellejuniperfilms
      @ellejuniperfilms ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Agreed ! It's an amazing rabbit hole to get down into. Hilarious and moving.

    • @beckyg2604
      @beckyg2604 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I'm so glad I'm not the only one who recently discovered Letters Live! The hilarious ones are great fun, but the occasional touching letter is great, too. This one managed to hit both notes.

    • @SarahJLBriggs
      @SarahJLBriggs 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Me too! They started popping up and they're ace.

    • @LM-he7eb
      @LM-he7eb 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      OMG. Thank God I'm not the only one. I thought I was weird. I teared up too

    • @johnhilton4348
      @johnhilton4348 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You've written my feelings perfectly. (I'm still mopping my face.)

  • @ToriLand78
    @ToriLand78 ปีที่แล้ว +120

    I'm so sorry this woman has passed away. She seems like someone who I would have loved to have known and called a friend. What a wonderful combination of laughter through tears. A brilliant final letter from a brilliant woman.

    • @binghobson7122
      @binghobson7122 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      She hasn’t! The woman reading it wrote it!

    • @ToriLand78
      @ToriLand78 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yes, I realized that a little too late.

    • @cxzact9204
      @cxzact9204 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Your comment just reduced me to tears, god damnit.

    • @penelopeboythorn
      @penelopeboythorn 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      A prime dinner party guest

  • @doberman1ism
    @doberman1ism 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I am 70 years young and I greatly appreciate mums letter. I wish I could have known her. I know we would have gotten along famously. I know she is resting in peace. What a wonderful free spirit!

    • @AenesidemusOZ
      @AenesidemusOZ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      The letter's author was the woman reading it. This is one time where an amazing piece of pathos is actually worthy of joy rather than sadness.

    • @sweetpotatofries99
      @sweetpotatofries99 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@AenesidemusOZ the letter's author was the woman reading it? What?

    • @AenesidemusOZ
      @AenesidemusOZ 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @sweetpotatofries99 Caitlin Moran, the woman reading the letter, wrote the letter to her daughter, Lizzie, in 2013.

  • @jeremiahgabriel5709
    @jeremiahgabriel5709 2 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    This is a useful, delightful, irreverent in the best way, letter. Also, a human body described as "meat clockwork" is awesome.

  • @k.m.2625
    @k.m.2625 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    Wish my mom had given me advice like that. Bless you, Caitlin Moran. Your daughter is going to have a brilliant life.

  • @RHLW
    @RHLW 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    "Never start smoking"...
    Can confirm.

  • @andrewc.2952
    @andrewc.2952 2 ปีที่แล้ว +151

    Wow. Just wow. I'm honestly very deeply touched by this life changing letter. God bless her memory.

    • @al201103
      @al201103 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      She's still with us - the speaker is the author, very much alive and well and still writing.

    • @FasterFaster196
      @FasterFaster196 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@al201103 I was wondering who the writer was.

    • @celticlass8573
      @celticlass8573 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@FasterFaster196 The writer is Caitlin Moran, who is the one reading the letter. It confused me for a moment too, since I didn't know who she was. :)

    • @victoria7t
      @victoria7t 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@FasterFaster196you could have easily found out on your own. Read the description of what the videos about before you watch the video

  • @aeneas-sails
    @aeneas-sails 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    The whole series is pretty excellent, but this one in particular shines brightly.

  • @martinwetzel892
    @martinwetzel892 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    This was incredibly wholesome and heartbreaking at the same time. What a wonderful piece of advice to pass on.

  • @chonkymonster671
    @chonkymonster671 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    What a wonderful gift that she left for her daughter. And how heartbreaking it must have been for her as she was fading away knowing that she won't be there with her. I'm gonna go call my mom.

    • @Soren015
      @Soren015 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      The woman reading is the author - so don't be heartbroken; she's alive and well!

  • @berulan8463
    @berulan8463 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    'Don't stop me now"
    is such a great soundtrack for life, death and ever after.

    • @MrBizteck
      @MrBizteck ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ive requested that Banjo song ..
      ' no more fucks to give' to be played at mine.

  • @grannypeacock
    @grannypeacock ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I have officially adopted this woman as my mother

  • @blackbutterfly1517
    @blackbutterfly1517 2 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    Brilliant and funny. This letter is a treasure. ⭐️

  • @hobistinyheartbag
    @hobistinyheartbag ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I’m so glad she is here and sharing her own letter 💜

  • @bainslayer
    @bainslayer ปีที่แล้ว +4

    immediately taking notes, this is how you say goodbye.

  • @matthewotto8322
    @matthewotto8322 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    For the record, as he hung on his cross, Christ was making plans to hang out later, with his new friend on the cross next to him.

  • @mikes5637
    @mikes5637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    "Get a big biscuit tin".
    Advice to live by.

  • @eleanor.shadow
    @eleanor.shadow 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Love this! If I ever need to leave someone a letter, I hope I can dole out such sound advice in such a funny way 😆

  • @ApocalypseofMichael
    @ApocalypseofMichael 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    What an incredible letter; written by an incredible woman❤

  • @joealtmaier9271
    @joealtmaier9271 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I told my kids this all the time. It's not a waste if you get a story out of it!

  • @WhiteCamry
    @WhiteCamry 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    It's not every Mum who lives to read her posthumous letter of advice to her daughter and get laughs.

    • @judycroteau482
      @judycroteau482 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I believe that it is someone else’s letter - not the narrator. Just a great letter that needed to be heard by many people.

    • @judycroteau482
      @judycroteau482 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I stand corrected. I just read the description and the narrator DID write this letter to her daughter one day when she felt like she was dying. I love this woman! What an amazing letter! ❤

  • @pamlou4330
    @pamlou4330 2 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    One of the best letter I heard in my life !

  • @alenemarie1726
    @alenemarie1726 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I miss my dad so much. This hits so hard when he isn’t here to tell me he loves me.

  • @garyb2392
    @garyb2392 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This was an amazing gift to her daughter…and that we get a chance to hear it! TY

  • @NaughtyNecro
    @NaughtyNecro 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    As a smoker with self image issues, I needed this.

  • @ladyhawke1357
    @ladyhawke1357 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    What priceless words and so beautifully read.

  • @carabiner7999
    @carabiner7999 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Just so brilliant!

  • @Locklear33
    @Locklear33 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    That is one hell of a mum❤

  • @arxaaron
    @arxaaron 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Brilliant. Lovely. I needed this in so many ways!

  • @dsatt57
    @dsatt57 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This is brilliant advice, every word.

  • @KaritKtana
    @KaritKtana 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The thumbnail alone makes her look like a fun witch. Brilliant! 👏✨

  • @JadBouHarfouch
    @JadBouHarfouch 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Never left a comment before, but this was the best letter and advice I have heard in a long time

  • @kalachulip
    @kalachulip ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you. Dropped by this channel when I needed to hear ~the-right-words. Thanks a lot. 🥺

  • @chandana___
    @chandana___ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow.. Wow... Loved this so much..

  • @helenmartin8051
    @helenmartin8051 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Brilliantly written !!!! 😊

  • @lonniekropf808
    @lonniekropf808 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    One of the best letters I’ve heard so far.

  • @caigner
    @caigner ปีที่แล้ว +2

    THAT was a brilliant presentation!

  • @lisca2866
    @lisca2866 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Amazing!! Very talented

  • @hanyabi-habib8226
    @hanyabi-habib8226 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Awwwww, this one is so sweet. 😿

  • @user-zj7cs2bc2i
    @user-zj7cs2bc2i 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Amazing! 👏👏👏👏

  • @elainepayne7047
    @elainepayne7047 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The very best advice ever!

  • @mrketteringhan
    @mrketteringhan 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What a fantastic letter, and can think of no one better to have read it. Wonderful.

    • @iwantmyoperahouse
      @iwantmyoperahouse 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, because she herself is the author, right? Just thought I’d point it out because it’s my second time listening to this and only just now realised that Caitlin Moran wrote this. I was now browsing the comments to see if anyone else got it 😊

  • @glenmcfarlane
    @glenmcfarlane 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’ve just shared this with my 3 daughters. How glorious.

  • @kristykienitz3061
    @kristykienitz3061 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love this!!!

  • @rosieHolliday5887
    @rosieHolliday5887 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That might have been the best I've heard so far. What an absolutely diamond mum. I bet she was a pleasure to know. RIP fantastic lady x

  • @claytonskids6764
    @claytonskids6764 ปีที่แล้ว

    YES! REAL life lessons !…… Thank You 💕🤗👍

  • @gilesmcdowall8860
    @gilesmcdowall8860 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Why can’t all mothers be like this? Loads of advice and a sense of humour 🤣

  • @fariesz6786
    @fariesz6786 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    i can say out of experience that not all horrid experiences make for amazing anecdotes.
    then again i have long decided to live my f•••ed up life as if they did. must not be _my_ problem if people don't _like_ hearing some things if it's important for me to tell those stories.
    this mum was a blessing like mine fortunately still is. an aspiration. a hero.

    • @celticlass8573
      @celticlass8573 ปีที่แล้ว

      She's still alive, fortunately. :)

    • @primrosedahlia9466
      @primrosedahlia9466 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah I agree, but I think she was referring more to the times you totally screw up and make a fool out of yourself, than stories of abuse.

  • @mariannegeraud6318
    @mariannegeraud6318 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Only a mum can give such
    realistic, graphic,down to earth and so easy to understand advice!!!

    • @grahamyates2490
      @grahamyates2490 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Try reading Rudyard Kipling's poem "If". It might give you an idea of the type of advice a father can give.

    • @mariannegeraud6318
      @mariannegeraud6318 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@grahamyates2490 I have read it and I loved it...some moving advice on how to be a better person and live life to the fullest!

  • @watcherintherye1111
    @watcherintherye1111 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This one is surely my favourite of all these...

  • @LindaNelOlivier
    @LindaNelOlivier 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is just the best in every way.

  • @johnrowland3105
    @johnrowland3105 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Awesome.
    Love the idea of a crem full of folk wearing plastic moustaches singing along to Don't stop me now, laughing out loud as the song progresses.

  • @lightningwingdragon973
    @lightningwingdragon973 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This restored my faith in humanity

  • @rushiaskinnerwallace6175
    @rushiaskinnerwallace6175 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I adore this

  • @busayoogunsola3458
    @busayoogunsola3458 ปีที่แล้ว

    That was brilliant!!!

  • @annathy
    @annathy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Best advice ever.

  • @Anil18834
    @Anil18834 ปีที่แล้ว

    What a WONDERFUL letter!

  • @madderhat5852
    @madderhat5852 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Can something pierce your mind, heart and gut at the same time?

  • @chanjessiet
    @chanjessiet 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have tears in my hear when I feel her love

  • @writtenwordsschoolofenglish
    @writtenwordsschoolofenglish 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What a brilliant letter! I must show this to my own daughter.

  • @patrickhicks9880
    @patrickhicks9880 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i love this channel

  • @hwway4488
    @hwway4488 ปีที่แล้ว

    So much joy 😊

  • @Carolmaizy
    @Carolmaizy ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Perfect!

  • @inpuris13
    @inpuris13 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    this was actually very helpful

  • @Falbala146
    @Falbala146 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    this is so beautiful.

  • @DavidDel88
    @DavidDel88 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    What a woman! Love her!

  • @denisemcdougal6445
    @denisemcdougal6445 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this mother her letter of ❤

  • @citygirlphotos.tutonelyles4386
    @citygirlphotos.tutonelyles4386 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wonderful👏

  • @johnmunro4952
    @johnmunro4952 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Oh that's beautiful

  • @Kobe29261
    @Kobe29261 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Louise Brealeys performance of her How to Build a Girl is in my top 10 audio books of all time!

  • @elh141
    @elh141 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you from mind, heart and lovely soft body. Patting leg as I type. 💚

  • @christinearmington
    @christinearmington ปีที่แล้ว

    Marvelous! ❤

  • @tomjahnes7811
    @tomjahnes7811 ปีที่แล้ว

    my favorite so far

  • @annmc8392
    @annmc8392 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good advice, hope young people take note.

  • @antonellahuron496
    @antonellahuron496 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this is wonderful advice :)

  • @AshtonArcher
    @AshtonArcher ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Astonished by how much she sounds like Victoria Coren Mitchell!

  • @brolly414
    @brolly414 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How lovely

  • @Misstressofdons
    @Misstressofdons 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a beautiful letter

  • @MysteryMommy1
    @MysteryMommy1 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you

  • @kattoneycliffe6715
    @kattoneycliffe6715 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very good advice there!!

  • @yoeshelkarma1494
    @yoeshelkarma1494 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is the best letter to be read

  • @arlenehutchinson9259
    @arlenehutchinson9259 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks mum ❤

  • @is.this.really.important
    @is.this.really.important 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I wish I had known this woman. I wish she had been my mother. Rest in peace.

    • @sarahsagar2129
      @sarahsagar2129 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      🤣 she's very much alive... after all, you are watching her right now!

    • @nikiTricoteuse
      @nikiTricoteuse 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      The woman reading the letter IS the woman who wrote it. She wrote it to give to her daughter.

    • @CLL9262
      @CLL9262 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nikiTricoteuse Are you sure ?
      How can/do you know this?

    • @nikiTricoteuse
      @nikiTricoteuse 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@CLL9262 It says in the drop down description. (Click on the down arrow to the right of the title.) The woman's name is Caitlin Moran and it's the first draft of a letter she wrote in 2013, to her eldest daughter who was about to turn 13, in case she died before her daughter grew up.

    • @CLL9262
      @CLL9262 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@nikiTricoteuse Thank you for this info.
      What a stunning idea to do this. I wonder what effect such a lettre had on her daughter..

  • @sandjune2753
    @sandjune2753 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a great mum

  • @wisbrington1559
    @wisbrington1559 ปีที่แล้ว

    how adorable

  • @lmg7503
    @lmg7503 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Life, and a letter we should be handed before we walk it's path.😁

  • @MelissaThompson432
    @MelissaThompson432 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I want her to be my new friend.... I need to be told occasionally to have a cup of tea and a biscuit, and I want her to preplan my funeral.

  • @jennyfulcher8035
    @jennyfulcher8035 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hilariously and touching sound advice from Mummy!

  • @shadowjack8
    @shadowjack8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So relatable. My daughter keeps picking guys that she thinks she can fix. Then she married on of them, at her baby shower.

  • @ryfors
    @ryfors ปีที่แล้ว

    Holy shit this was amazing.

  • @judymaphenduka1614
    @judymaphenduka1614 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    🥺❤️

  • @ellenbryn
    @ellenbryn หลายเดือนก่อน

    what a great mom. I hope they had fun with the Freddie Mercury sendoff.

  • @meghanr4617
    @meghanr4617 ปีที่แล้ว

    2:22 My favorite quote