This makes a lot of sense. After a period of Illness I had to sit and do nothing for a long time, I’ve felt bad about this as I felt I was wasting time and other people seemed to use this time to set up businesses or write books. This made me feel like I was being unproductive but in fact I was dedicating time to healing and accepting things and living in the moment ❤
I thought it was only me when I told my therapist, I alway see my 6 year old self holding onto to my leg or hiding behind me, wanting me to protect her because no one else did.
Yeah kind of seems impossible to fix those blocks, to fix the stem once it's been damaged....you cant literally go back in time. Seems like once you've been seriously broken in childhood you're gonna be effed for the rest of life
I’m so glad to hear that doing nothing is healing! At present I am in such a phase and I have been bothered by feelings of guilt for wasting time - but more so I feel like I need to just do nothing while I “get over” the most recent episode of work place bullying and decide what to do next.
Gosh, I've been spending the morning reading about how to begin getting my life back together after a depressive episode. This video came up on my feed and I really needed this right now. Thank you.🙏
This is quite the stuff I've been searching answers for.. Thank you Steven, Dr K & The DOAC team for making it happen, you guys all rock!! Love all of y'all 🙏🏿
Wow he was getting into your guts Steven. I love this interview. It’s the kind of work I do also in a different way. But one thing I’d add is the person working on themselves has to be willing to hear hard things AND trust the person guiding them enough to value their insights and guidance. If the person guiding them isn’t valued or trusted by the client then nothing heals. This guy may be someone you’d take to heart, but would you feel the same if someone that could do just as much or even better then him, that isn’t a doctor or famous? That’s where people may be cutting themselves off to getting the help they need most.
I've been in the field for over 20 yrs but certainly have seen many therapists pander to their clients instead of calling them out on their personal destructive behaviors, actions and thought processes.
This is one of the classic misunderstanding. You need to be aware of every fucking frame of your existence. Not one and done, "oh I know that" bullshit.
Watched in full 🔥🔥 I echo Dr.K. when he said, "Steven, you ARE enough" and that Steven should take time to "just be". Even i learnt to just be from previous DOAC guests. I hope Steven will try to "just sit for 20 mins and just be". Daylight before screen light really brings an ease to start your day...and mine! 🙌
I'm learning now who I really am! And telling myself when that child comes out, this is not me!! You are better than what he made you think you are! It's dawning on me but it's been 6months now😩it takes time!
If an ordinary guy confronted and told you about it, you would not take him serious. Popularity somehow draws one’s attention to actually think about what is said
Best thing I ever did was get so depressed that all i could do is sit on my patio and stare into the distance. After months of doing this, my internal zoo finally started to clear, and I was like… wtf. The key is sitting and doing nothing; but you’re not doing nothing, you are clearing years and years of internal shite. It just disperses up into the sky. I feel like a different person now, and i swear it’s from just sitting and staring outward while my mind ran out of steam (and eventually, you realize, holy crap.., this is awareness. I’m aware now).
It is at this pinnacle of video & time taht had me further identified myself, and to move forward, with my sis help in career movement and whoever that picked up this length of the video: KUDOS TO U, i have further opened and aware of myself. so i know why and who i am; which is an important step toward understanding my emotional responses
Triggers are step one. We all have them. But some of us have a minefield of them. Depending on how traumatized we are. Some of them are explosive, connected with anger. Others make you shrink, in sorrow or shame. A good start is sorting out or greyrocking people that trigger us and concentrate on the people with whom we have good communication. We must be aware of manipulative people. When we are triggered, it's helpful to think: am I oversensitive or is this person actually manipulating me? Manipulative people are masters at discovering triggers. I wonder how they work.
I stopped watching dr. K a few years ago (even though I found his content very valuable) due to his stance on the covid vaccine. He was reviewing a story about a grandmother who didn't want to take it and her children who wanted her to take it. They were going to stop being around her if she didn't take it. Dr. K sided with the children. And I lost a lot of respect for him. At this point I'm learning to try to take useful information from people even when I disagree with them strongly about certain issues, so I'll probably start watching him again. I do wonder if he's done any self reflection about himself about that topic since then. He formed his opinion based on his own biases of being a dr without even really analyzing all of the information about the topic independently(which we should do about literally every topic we come across).
@@AmandaHeyliger I took notes. Dr K is State of the Art. And Steve is just so good at interviewing. Opens up. Because he is not defensive. And that's rare! Here he let Dr K invite him. Here we had real time therapy! Very, very brave. Heartwarming.
Pretentious mumbo-jumbo for the most part, with all due respect... Whenever you hear someone declaiming things with so much emotion and conviction it means that 1. the theory or solution has not matured yet and 2. he's battling those same problems himself and tries to convince himself of the respective findings. And needs to shout them out loud to the world, for then to hear what he has discovered. If you doubt that's the case then pause the video at random times and notice the expression of insecurity in the young doctor's eyes; they are telling the actual truth.
Ok, please explain. D Trump, comes across as a scared toddler. But half of the population identifies with him? While the other half says, no pointed scissors for that one.
Sorry but the ancient John Bradshaw "healing the inner-child" thing just doesn't work. At least it didn't for me. I finally found something that truly works. That something is a someone. His name is above every other name ❤❤❤
Well the truth sometimes is simple and oftentimes we already know the truth deep inside. Truth is also eternal, if you search for something new or profound you already lost the point. The main goal is to facilitate the other person to really sink it in, so hopefully some behaviour change is promoted.
📺 Watch the full episode here
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This makes a lot of sense. After a period of Illness I had to sit and do nothing for a long time, I’ve felt bad about this as I felt I was wasting time and other people seemed to use this time to set up businesses or write books. This made me feel like I was being unproductive but in fact I was dedicating time to healing and accepting things and living in the moment ❤
Plus a serious dose of humility and perhaps if you never went through that illness and all that self-reflection you wouldn't have any. Congrats 👏
I love Dr Ks energy when giving such deep insights to his audience. This stuff speaks to me right now.
I thought it was only me when I told my therapist, I alway see my 6 year old self holding onto to my leg or hiding behind me, wanting me to protect her because no one else did.
“When did you start your first company?”
“In the womb actually. I experienced a lot of push back from me mum.”
Awareness is key. It turned my life around. Awareness and reflection cured lifelong chronic pain and medical issues. I feel like a Phoenix Rising!
You have to accept yourself where your at, gently guiding the awareness for change with step by step plan. No pain no gain.
It is hard to get rid of trauma (ptsd and cptsd) because they are the crooked building blocks you have built your entire life on.
Yeah kind of seems impossible to fix those blocks, to fix the stem once it's been damaged....you cant literally go back in time. Seems like once you've been seriously broken in childhood you're gonna be effed for the rest of life
@@Freecoke6 there is always time to pivot as long as you are alive though is the good thing. Barring any physical or mental limitations at least
This is the message I've been looking for my entire life. I appreciate the way in which he delivers it too. I am so grateful 🙏
I’m so glad to hear that doing nothing is healing! At present I am in such a phase and I have been bothered by feelings of guilt for wasting time - but more so I feel like I need to just do nothing while I “get over” the most recent episode of work place bullying and decide what to do next.
Gosh, I've been spending the morning reading about how to begin getting my life back together after a depressive episode. This video came up on my feed and I really needed this right now. Thank you.🙏
Watch the whole interview! It's excellent
Dr K is brilliant next level. What a great guy
It gets going after 13 minutes of to-and-fro
at about 13:55
He touches
at the ant cingulate crtx
This is quite the stuff I've been searching answers for.. Thank you Steven, Dr K & The DOAC team for making it happen, you guys all rock!! Love all of y'all 🙏🏿
He makes so much sense. Will now go and watch the full episode. Thanks
Boy oh boy. This guy is really good. Clear as a bell. And funny. Really great. Thank you.
This is extremely awesome advice.
I am stunned about what he said and how easily he explained it.
Wow he was getting into your guts Steven. I love this interview. It’s the kind of work I do also in a different way. But one thing I’d add is the person working on themselves has to be willing to hear hard things AND trust the person guiding them enough to value their insights and guidance. If the person guiding them isn’t valued or trusted by the client then nothing heals. This guy may be someone you’d take to heart, but would you feel the same if someone that could do just as much or even better then him, that isn’t a doctor or famous? That’s where people may be cutting themselves off to getting the help they need most.
I've been in the field for over 20 yrs but certainly have seen many therapists pander to their clients instead of calling them out on their personal destructive behaviors, actions and thought processes.
@@cindyeyler Steve invited him, though. They have chemistry and trust. Great interview. Amazing guys.
@@cindyeyler Being an overachiever is not an embarrasing call out. That's why it worked.
@@charlottenilsson3820 I didn’t mean it that way. And nothing is embarrassing about this. I was saying he was getting to the core. That’s a good thing
Alot of us take our own time for granted, when we can do so much with it internally and externally emotionally and mentally
this
I can be completely aware that I'm stuck in a loop of wasting time while it's happening. I need willpower to break out of that.
Then you got out of it at the moment but you still are not aware of what drives you to that time wasting
This is one of the classic misunderstanding. You need to be aware of every fucking frame of your existence. Not one and done, "oh I know that" bullshit.
Watched in full 🔥🔥
I echo Dr.K. when he said, "Steven, you ARE enough" and that Steven should take time to "just be". Even i learnt to just be from previous DOAC guests. I hope Steven will try to "just sit for 20 mins and just be". Daylight before screen light really brings an ease to start your day...and mine! 🙌
I adapted by being a people pleaser…until it wears me out
❤ so did I.....I did not realise how much that was totally embedded into my body and mind until recently ❤
Loneliness 😮
During covid I missed talking to people.
Isolation is difficult without human connections 😊
Absolutely love this one. Dr K is so sharp and hugely beneficial
The indian accent moment 😂😂😂 👌
9:50 hehe
So good lol!
😂 perfect placement, laughed out loud.
@@Simo-qp6xg me too. I love it when he does that.
Right, scamming us even on TH-cam
2:23 Well, as far as this channel is concerned, you’re helping people. That’s a good enough reason.
3:30 my favorite quote from this
As usual, a BRILLIANT podcast 👏🏽
Keep them up👍🏽👌🏽
Greetings from Indonesia 🇮🇩🥂
Unveiling Your Hidden Potential by Bruce Thornwood (thank me later)
This is top 3 fave YT vids for me now.
Have you watched the full interview? So so good!
I'm learning now who I really am! And telling myself when that child comes out, this is not me!! You are better than what he made you think you are! It's dawning on me but it's been 6months now😩it takes time!
This is the best advice I heard in a long time
I really really like this guy!) Steven's face was like "seat and do nothing for a while?? Whhaaat??" 😂😂
If an ordinary guy confronted and told you about it, you would not take him serious. Popularity somehow draws one’s attention to actually think about what is said
Dr K thank you for doing what you do ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Best thing I ever did was get so depressed that all i could do is sit on my patio and stare into the distance. After months of doing this, my internal zoo finally started to clear, and I was like… wtf. The key is sitting and doing nothing; but you’re not doing nothing, you are clearing years and years of internal shite. It just disperses up into the sky. I feel like a different person now, and i swear it’s from just sitting and staring outward while my mind ran out of steam (and eventually, you realize, holy crap.., this is awareness. I’m aware now).
It is at this pinnacle of video & time taht had me further identified myself, and to move forward, with my sis help in career movement and whoever that picked up this length of the video: KUDOS TO U, i have further opened and aware of myself. so i know why and who i am; which is an important step toward understanding my emotional responses
This guy knows so much. So interesting .
Thank you ❤
reminds of some things dispenza says. it’s v good to have this additional perspective tho
I relate to this heavy- felt like he was talking directly to me 🤣
Drk is the real deal
I loved the joyous smile 😂
When speaking with Dr K
Hahaha happy 😊
That was fascinating
Triggers are step one. We all have them. But some of us have a minefield of them. Depending on how traumatized we are. Some of them are explosive, connected with anger. Others make you shrink, in sorrow or shame. A good start is sorting out or greyrocking people that trigger us and concentrate on the people with whom we have good communication. We must be aware of manipulative people. When we are triggered, it's helpful to think: am I oversensitive or is this person actually manipulating me? Manipulative people are masters at discovering triggers. I wonder how they work.
Triggers don't matter...it's the charge inside of you that they are connected to......
@@01Bouwhuis That's what it is. Something happens outside and something goes on inside of you. Due to "memories". Often supressed.
And yes, I do believe that's the point to think whether it's manipulation. Or your overreaction.
Living in the present, is one thing, living life and being aware of it and yourself that can be 2 very difficult n complex things
This is a really good interview!
Hi Steven, sorry to break your heart here in Portugal in a few days😅, in fc porto 🇵🇹🇵🇹🇵🇹.
This dude is a genius!
Thank you so much doctor alok iam really helped, it's like am healing
I wish I adapted by being successful instead of being shy ,at least I would have one less trouble. 😅
Great video!!! Thank you!!
Good lord this guy is amazing.
This clip is a gold mine
I loved Steven’s laugh
soooo good sit down and write ✍️ it down for you - practice
What a great video.
We identify ourselves by our job. Or lack of.
Not by our emotions.
Suffer with depression so only get worse if I'm doing nothing.
I love how Stephen laughs so hard 😂
In the words of Morpheus: “free your mind”.
dr k the goat
People will mirror how you feel about yourself! The sense of who you are is important!
90% problems can be solved with pure awareness of self
First 30 seconds and I'm zoned innnn
…interessting 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
His Indian aunty hand gestures are so cute 😂
LOLOL what do you mean Doctor, the sweet piss isn't lemonade? HAHAHAHAHAHA
I stopped watching dr. K a few years ago (even though I found his content very valuable) due to his stance on the covid vaccine. He was reviewing a story about a grandmother who didn't want to take it and her children who wanted her to take it. They were going to stop being around her if she didn't take it. Dr. K sided with the children. And I lost a lot of respect for him.
At this point I'm learning to try to take useful information from people even when I disagree with them strongly about certain issues, so I'll probably start watching him again. I do wonder if he's done any self reflection about himself about that topic since then. He formed his opinion based on his own biases of being a dr without even really analyzing all of the information about the topic independently(which we should do about literally every topic we come across).
Everyone forms their own biases based on their own studies, no?
Who are you, is not what you are doing?
In my mind.
Am I right or wrong?
Steven hahaha thr answerss are like a kid in the school 😅😂
That’s why I won’t have children if I couldn’t guarantee to give him/she a good childhood
I found that you don't have to guarantee anything, you just have to be there and life will put all the random pieces together to make it work.
Agreed. I refuse to just “wing it” with my children.
Is there a way to “guarantee” a good childhood???
@@ALTheFreeMan there isn’t a way to guarantee anything. But having a good foundation definitely helps.
@@tf8187 Agreed.
One more too many. I can't see the forest for the trees anymore.
My internal mind is ore like a circus🎪. At least a zoo is organized.
❤
❤️shadowork❤ this was a great interview. Thoughtful perspective. Thank you
@@AmandaHeyliger I took notes. Dr K is State of the Art. And Steve is just so good at interviewing. Opens up. Because he is not defensive. And that's rare! Here he let Dr K invite him. Here we had real time therapy! Very, very brave. Heartwarming.
Joker didn't shoot batmans parents fyi 😜
Does the Doctor have legs?
Is this another channel?
Yeah, you’re on the clips channel
Who's here in 2025?
Yep, I've jumped timelines.
Im from the future
GGMU!
Watching true crime about serial killers 😮?
How does this work against our psyche?
😮😮😮😮😮
Who’s here in 2024?
Omg me too!
😂🤔🤔🤔I wonder??
😂😂😂
Pretentious mumbo-jumbo for the most part, with all due respect... Whenever you hear someone declaiming things with so much emotion and conviction it means that 1. the theory or solution has not matured yet and 2. he's battling those same problems himself and tries to convince himself of the respective findings. And needs to shout them out loud to the world, for then to hear what he has discovered.
If you doubt that's the case then pause the video at random times and notice the expression of insecurity in the young doctor's eyes; they are telling the actual truth.
Unless that’s the way a person is all the time….
Like this gentleman .
This is nonsense, sorry. We know tons about how trauma effects people, through science.
He’s so earnest he must have a book to sell
He is always this way
Maybe you just need to have more honest human conversations
Snake oil seller all common sense in the end not complacated
@@oakpurple "common sense" that's why millions of people watch his videos and make break throughs, cause it's common sense, lmao
Quacks throw in a bit of common sense and lots words to make you feel they know best but there’s always a bill at the end
Ok, please explain. D Trump, comes across as a scared toddler. But half of the population identifies with him? While the other half says, no pointed scissors for that one.
Sorry but the ancient John Bradshaw "healing the inner-child" thing just doesn't work. At least it didn't for me. I finally found something that truly works. That something is a someone. His name is above every other name ❤❤❤
I can’t ignore the uptalk
Please get an Ai expert on the podcast
Ew
What does that have to do with this vid
Cepati d
Smelly d
Sorry this is nothing new. He has really good story telling skills but it’s nothing profound
Well the truth sometimes is simple and oftentimes we already know the truth deep inside. Truth is also eternal, if you search for something new or profound you already lost the point. The main goal is to facilitate the other person to really sink it in, so hopefully some behaviour change is promoted.
When is he trying to say something new? He is educating us on trauma not trying to be unique. Not everything has to be linked to ego.
Get a therapist, find Jesus, read the Bible.
thx bot
pretty cringe
I don’t believe the guy who’s wearing red threads on his wrist, because he believes it will protect him from the evil eye and bad energy.
Steven just for once stop trying to relate what these people say to yourself all the time, its ruining the podcast.
Boy oh boy. This guy is really good. Clear as a bell. And funny. Really great. Thank you.