It has to be regarded as self betrayal and so you commit to never betraying yourself again. As soon as you see similar characteristics in another, you walk away faster... or run lol.
Too correct! Abuse can be repeated over and over again because the victim gets used to been devalued and only attracted to people that make them feel it’s a privilege to be in a relationship with them.
On my way to divorcing my husband is when I realized that he HATES me and he does everything to show me without it being illegal so he won’t alert anyone to his behavior
When I did not know about narcissists, I got stuck trying to understand why this loved one hated me so much. Now, I have learned that a Narcissist cannot love, they only desire to control.I Thank God for the Good Work that you do by bringing light and clarity into this kind of darkness.
It was hard not to take the abuse personally when we were subjected to their contempt after we sacrificed so much for them. Narcissists see our kindness as a weakness & they're empowered by making us feel like crap. We need to be our own best friend now by showing them that we are so much better & healthier with them out of our lives. Even just to rob them of the satisfaction they were unable to permanently harm us
Yes, he wants me dead. He pretends to have feelings but he’s absolutely evil. Unbelievable. They want you to fail. It’s almost morbid and when you see the truth, how much damage they caused you feel sick. But then slowly you find friends.
Absolutely correct my friend. It broke my heart but I felt it coming for years and ran away. No contact for two months and I’m getting better. We tried to fix her thinking but no luck. She got worse as she got older.
Wow I feel like there was an actual reason now that during the break up I was involved in a car wreck and both my legs were broken ..... Couldn't have been a harder time to find the will to survive all the while she took the house the shop and I had to build a new home on raw land in the winter,,, alone , dude I'm like the most resilient man ever and I started CrossFit and break dancing, no cap all facts ,🎉 😊 thank you for this beautiful life I didn't die
I realised that one actually was trying to get me to kill myself. His next girlfriend did just that after only going out with him for a much shorter time. Just utterly irremediably evil.
I fell into the trap of giving people the benefit of the doubt. Being so forgiving didn't lead me to the right path. Instead, I lost myself and totally couldn't recognize myself again. It is ok to love. Love them from afar. Do not risk losing yourself. It is very dark down there. Once the redflags are waving, trust and believe yourself. Do not entertain or leave them. Believe in your gut feelings.
We can't give people the benefit of the doubt. That is old thinking that has to be reprogrammed. The old "everyone is inherently good " is bullshit. People have to really show you who they are first before you maybe believe them. They have to really earn your trust! Blessings to you!
I disagree to love them from afar. Why would you love someone whose end goal is to destroy you just to keep their shit ego high? Why do something against your self-preservation?
@@Acadia708 I agree, I don't love from afar, I radically accept the narcissist wanted my destruction and therefore any love has gone, and died. They are the enemy. I wouldn't waste my love on an enemy. More productive to offer that love to myself and my healing.
I find myself pushing through so hard accomplishing all my goals one week and the next crashing crying in a bathtub wondering how I could be so deceived and confused by someone who claimed to love me. I feel like I can’t trust anyone now
💯 The covert narcissit literally destroyed my life in ways i didnt think exsisted,smear campaigns, triangulation, isolation ,i made a big mistake to live in isolation, its the worst thing to do,the experience is so sureal ,i didnt know what to do !its like like living in the worst nightmare, i did not believe these people exsisted
I keep imagining her showing up. There’s part of me that longs for her to make an appearance at my house like she used to. I’m so ready for that to be over. I’m the one who left her, I’m the one who blocked her put the lonely child inside myself still craves for another episode of the dark fantasy.
I feel that feeling so profoundly. After 36 years, I’m seperating from my husband. I know he detests me for holding him accountable. Dismissive avoidant narcissist.
You have to be "Real" with yourself & live in "Reality" within the moment & your environment. Especially... love yourself & show yourself compassion & patience. One baby step at a time. Put yourself first & love you...strengths, faults, & that means more than the narcissist/narcissists in your life. Stop being the martyr & savior for someone who "Does not like and love you." They never have, but they wore a mask as in picking up traits, characteristics, & expressions from others as narcissists are (very observant) & mirror these identical emotions & traits they observed from you & others. Narcissists carry a big bag of tricks and "Hooks" to utilize at their convience as they have used them before, but they also develop new accessories to enhance their skills & techniques for future use. Stop the codependency and work on setting limits and boundaries. Realize the narcissist is extremely codependent on you, family, friends, and people in general as they use others to enmesh & stick their tentacles & attach themselves into your flesh as in a blood thirsty leach inorder to reclaim, elevate & heighten their ego, sense of self & grandiosity to "Discard & dismiss" their codependency.
@@Suzanne-wg5kl True. I'm just tired, I have to pick one, survival comes first feelings can wait. it's the process. still have to go to work. I must care for myself as always and i'm tired. Burned out, trying to light my own fire.
Grief. I'm in depression phase right now. sometimes acceptance(i cant 'fix' nothing in this person or the relationship so ill just leave) leads you there, ill make it, they might not. I can see their life falling apart and feel a weird type of compassion fatigue. Reminds me of lifeguard swim class. I see them drowning but they are pulling me under, so to save myself I have to watch them drown, or hurt them. Its heartbreaking and exhausting. Had to go the legal route for closure. Just because I can take a hit doesn't mean I should. No contact...fun times.
This is so true after 2.5 years I am in a different place.. I kept engaging with this type . Time gave me space and repair of my soul. I will never ever accept.this behavior again. The last guy I dated was out to ruin me
My brother is a narcissist. We were both middle-aged adults and I thought we are finally getting closer than we've ever been and I started having someone break in my house and terrorize me and it turned out to be my brother and after confronting him he still didn't stop for a total of 4 years. I had to sell my home and move not once but twice. It was a horrible experience beyond words.
Wow, i'm sorry to hear this. I had just gotten the closest to my sister I had ever been, and then she stole my kids. She is a narcissist and there are a few others I am dealing with as well. It's been challenging because they pulled my kids back into the trauma. Tricky to know how to proceed sometimes. Lots of love to you!
I have narcissists in my family too, terrible growing up in that. You cannot believe or trust them because when they have you back, watch out. Deceiving, evil demons.
I didn't know about this term until I listened to a video, and I said here the personality of my ex-husband. Also I understand I need healing. It was so difficult for me to accept that I was only an object for him that he only used me for his projects. After 7 years of separation I started to feel better. I feel so good now.
its a very unsettling feeling, tjat someone wants to kill you, especially if its a sibling because you can't get away from them and there is a family loyalty there tjat is difficult to push past.
They will strike as deeply and as horribly as you can imagine, but the real you, inside, remains inviolate, because the whole attack is based on lies. None of it is real. You are still who you were before you encountered this evil. Shake off the illusion. Your relationship with your grandchildren may have changed, and you will have to learn to accept this loss, but one day, they too will be able to shake off the illusion and I hope they return to you. In the meantime, while you wait, continue to be the loving person you are, rebuild your life and expand...evil has no power to extinguish your goodness, no matter how hard it tries to convince you otherwise.
Very thankful this came up in feed. Just watched your previous short on how a narcissist wants to destroy the target. At least the tech Gods are showing mercy. And the Universe is sending a rallying message. I’m about down for the count
One time I asked my ex narc girlfriend. What did you like in me that make you come to me, I was with another girl at the time and she knew that. She said, I saw yor calmness type and I wanted to destroy that. After a couple of months discarded her.
Going through a custody battle with the narcissist. I want as little contact as possible, he knows it. He's pushing to keep it where I HAVE to contact him. Resistance is tricky, but I see the importance.
I have heart disease & I have had two strokes . I looked after my mother for 7 years before I had to put her into a nursing home. I am the recipient of the majority of her will and my brother , who is a lawyer and who comes from a better financial position as me , he owns his own home , wishes me to die . Not one message of goodwill from him only threats of being taken to court for what I don't know . Narcissists are evil . They have not a decent bone in their body .
So glad i left him, he looked like the red flags he embodied and thanks to my parents i made excuses for his bs for too long but it's on me now that i have the knowledge
I’ve been separated from his grips. Now we have 5 grandchildren , I know from his behaviours that he has tried to erase me and replace me. I can not be erased from my grandkids. It’s a longer story, this is the very shortest version of it.
Its unbelievable. .Trying to destroy the very efforts taken to make her happy. Undermining every project. Recently moved on.. Found a sweetheart and appreciate her kindness so much.
All the guys who watch these videos for validation are encouraged to self reflect, increase awareness and validate themselves. If you are a victim you are not innocent either and address your entitlements. Narcissists abuse you to destroy you and unknowingly encourage you to grow (to parent them) if you have practiced self awareness. Such as this every dynamic reinforces the false bond too! Narcs know it as false bond too! Anyway, Richard is doing quite helpful work. Kudos to him. Kudos to those who are fighting to kill their ego/monsters to become their authentic self. Godspeed.
We're done for several years. He's playing our kids against me and all that evil is being viewed as special to them to do this! They've all ghosted me! 20 years now!
my biggest problem growing up with a Narcissist mother and psychopath father, Narcissists siblings, aunties, uncles, cousins,grandparents and friends etc. I got used to them and never been afraid of them, probably half if my problem that is. The fearless mindset that comes with my adhd - factor two psychopathy. great video. thanks Richard.
I will never know a person is a narcissist until it’s too late. I can’t go on. My will is destroyed you’re right. Absolutely. I wish I could just call God and ask if he can come pick me up early.
I am surrounded with em. Both parents & all my gfs in succession I’d say now plus neighbors etc. Probably grandparents too. I have learned how to co-operate. Thank God I don’t have kids! It is beyond time to let it/them all go eh? So many things are becoming clear
Honestly I was single 12 years prior to said guy and I wasn’t looking .. apparently he was though so here I am picking the pieces of myself up like a puzzle that’s been scattered.. I have been finding them quicker than I thought I would … I am ok being broken..not broken enough to fail myself again ..
No take all the time you need. I dated a psychopath for 2 years and ended up coming out with brain tumors less than a year after we broke up. My health has forever been changed at 26 because that person. Get to know yourself, love yourself heal yourself. We need ourselves all of our lives❤❤
I Never want again a narcissist They want to destroy me.never again another one like this. Develope your Will. He must nurture and care for me and strenght and time to be told. Resist them
Oh my gosh and I had just been contemplating giving up. But I feel the destructive venom so deeply. And I didn’t know that fighting in this moment is like fighting all future narcissists combined 😮
I never ever wanted to continue the abuse, actually its the opposite ive always wanted a truly caring and genuine person but all ive got are various narcs in my life. I dont believe its all about me ‘finding another version of abuser’ or not having will to survive, actually its that will that for some unknown reason kept me going to this day.
@@tonywhildingwe're not magnets. we don't attract them. it's deeper than that. do Richards courses and mind the language being used by your self to others ❤
That’s very true👏🏼👏🏼 your videos are helping me so much to identify and reconoced I was living in a narcissist relationship for half of my life and will never go again in this! Thank you so so much ❤
I’m glad this was and is not me. Once I realized there was a problem, began researching, came to the very sad understanding that I could not fix my mother and the ONLY thing I could offer, was for me to embrace abuse, I left, never looked back, she died, and I have no guilt. Since then, one narcissist after another, has simply been gotten rid of and these are not mostly narcissists I’ve chosen, like in love. These are narcissists who I’ve met through work and neighbors. One was a friendly neighbor. Got rid of her, too.
I didn't invite my narcissistic next door neighbours into my life, they just moved in. Then got another relative into another apartment as they have ambitions to own the building and act like they already do and other owners are their tenants. Never met such nasty people before in my life and I'm 71 yrs old. I DON'T want them, and neither do other owners.
@ they’re definitely out there. I’ve lived her for over 30 years, in my apartment. And only in the last 8 years or so, have I experienced people who become angry and almost abusive, because I have boundaries. A tenant a few doors away, one living beneath me and the new one who replaced he, when she passed, have made it pretty clear that they wonder just what I think I’m doing in my apartment, when they need a free caregiver or nanny. Although I don’t bend to it, between what I’ve gone through with these people and maybe being an empath, I can feel it right through the floor. The feeling of, “Look at her. She was home today. Probably on vacation and she knows I want her to look after my child!” People who aren’t even trying to have anything to offer you, yet feel you should be like a fire extinguisher, ready to solve their problems. With both my mother and the previous tenant, it became a police issue, with the phone stalking and opening of mail/packages, respectively. Crazy sister even broke into the house I inherited and changed the lock, when the judge offered me the house, but hadn’t sent the deed yet. I’m almost 60 and behaviors of what formerly seemed like normal, non-criminal people, are now going off the charts. What you are eluding to are neighbors who don’t see others as tenants, laterally. They see them as servants who had better work for them, if they don’t want any trouble. This, in all likelihood, goes double for me, as a single, black woman, with no kids, with the absolute indignation they show, when I don’t comply. I look like the most “uppity” little thing to them and it doesn’t matter from where they hail. So far, US and India. But, these narcissistic types, never self-check. They wonder why I don’t understand that, when they moved in, I was simply an amenity, included with rent. They disgust me, but I’ve watch them either drop dead or just leave me alone, because they find they’re making “0” headway. The trouble with these types though? They always plan to want waaay to much and reciprocate nothing. An example is, I already know that, because I won’t become my neighbor’s free, permanent nanny to her child and allow her high energy child to run amuck in my apartment, crashing up the place and terrifying my pets, she probably wouldn’t dial 911, if she saw me laying on the sidewalk. That’s the ugly of it.
This is what I’m having the hardest time dealing with… I have now survived toxic relationships with three different narcissistic men, one grandiose, one covert, one communal/covert… the second one snuck in under the radar, finally figured out what was going on with him and got out of it, but with the last one I was honestly being really careful and had elaborate filters in place to flush out narcissistic people, and he totally tricked me with false empathy and altruistic acts, ended up being worse than the other two combined. I know what to watch out for. It seems like they are evolving. And I am not seeking these people out, the universe seems to be delivering them into my life with intention.
Wow, it's tricky to navigate this territory. I'm so damaged that I see narcissism even in the good guys. What a journey aye!!! Blessing from an old girl in NZ.
In my experience, it has been less about destroying the victim and more about CONTROLLING them. Some are more evil than others. Though I think tearing them down is part of how they control them, I guess. Sad!
Hurt people project their hurt unhealed parts in others in order to soothe. They haven't learned how to love themselves. I don't believe it has malicious intent. It's simply their hurt parts unchecked in their lack of awareness. In their lack to cope with their own hurt parts. We can stay in our power and simply send them love. Model to them self love by connecting and loving yourself in their presence. And tell them the negative projection they cast onto you is not for you. Model to them that harsh judgment onto others or you is not true. For example, if they are naming something critical, I get curious and playful and say, 'hmmmm, I wonder what's wrong with being gay, or being overweight? I don't see how that hurts me and I know I can't change or control others. I wonder what it is about being gay or being overweight is so troubling to you and why I'm hearing such criticism to these choices or preferences that these others have made it have'. 🤔 They then will defend themselves. I then simply state my truth. 'Well I understand this is concerning for you and for me in my experience these things simply don't matter. I can only focus on myself. And I love and accept myself. . And that feels good in my body'. ❤😂Watch them in their confusion. And keep standing in your personal power and truth modeling to them that they can not sway you. Don't take anything they say personally. In fact, laugh. 😂laugh not at them, but at how sad it is that they are so stuck in deep suffering and in a lack of awareness and self responsibility to heal their trauma. And simply glow in self love, in self acceptance radiating to their nervous system and mirror neurons what they could coregulate to. It's a choice. ❤ 💥 💥 💥 ❤
It has to be regarded as self betrayal and so you commit to never betraying yourself again. As soon as you see similar characteristics in another, you walk away faster... or run lol.
Overcoming the abuse takes such a long time after a few years something forgotten pops into thoughts from nowhere so bad.
I knew my mother wanted to destroy me but I always doubted it, because it was so crazy.
100%
Exactly. RUN!!
@@amber40494It is so crazy when mother narcissist doing so many things to destroy a very soul of her child.
Hell on earth is a narcissist's victim.
You do not fear death anymore.
Whatever helps you sleep at night
True
My NPD mom always said there'd be hell to pay and there was!
Too correct! Abuse can be repeated over and over again because the victim gets used to been devalued and only attracted to people that make them feel it’s a privilege to be in a relationship with them.
I replaced a grandiose narcissist with a covert narc. The second was far worse. I now watch for red flags like I'm at a parade!
Dang 😮 so true
On my way to divorcing my husband is when I realized that he HATES me and he does everything to show me without it being illegal so he won’t alert anyone to his behavior
When I did not know about narcissists, I got stuck trying to understand why this loved one hated me so much. Now, I have learned that a Narcissist cannot love, they only desire to control.I Thank God for the Good Work that you do by bringing light and clarity into this kind of darkness.
It was hard not to take the abuse personally when we were subjected to their contempt after we sacrificed so much for them. Narcissists see our kindness as a weakness & they're empowered by making us feel like crap. We need to be our own best friend now by showing them that we are so much better & healthier with them out of our lives. Even just to rob them of the satisfaction they were unable to permanently harm us
Yes, he wants me dead. He pretends to have feelings but he’s absolutely evil. Unbelievable. They want you to fail. It’s almost morbid and when you see the truth, how much damage they caused you feel sick. But then slowly you find friends.
I agree...so much damaged they cause
Cool, cool. Watching this video just hurt my stomach 👍
Absolutely correct my friend. It broke my heart but I felt it coming for years and ran away. No contact for two months and I’m getting better. We tried to fix her thinking but no luck. She got worse as she got older.
Wow I feel like there was an actual reason now that during the break up I was involved in a car wreck and both my legs were broken ..... Couldn't have been a harder time to find the will to survive all the while she took the house the shop and I had to build a new home on raw land in the winter,,, alone , dude I'm like the most resilient man ever and I started CrossFit and break dancing, no cap all facts ,🎉 😊 thank you for this beautiful life I didn't die
Deep very deep. So much grief when you realize that evil intent in them. 😮
I realised that one actually was trying to get me to kill myself. His next girlfriend did just that after only going out with him for a much shorter time. Just utterly irremediably evil.
So much grief.
I fell into the trap of giving people the benefit of the doubt. Being so forgiving didn't lead me to the right path. Instead, I lost myself and totally couldn't recognize myself again. It is ok to love. Love them from afar. Do not risk losing yourself. It is very dark down there. Once the redflags are waving, trust and believe yourself. Do not entertain or leave them. Believe in your gut feelings.
We can't give people the benefit of the doubt. That is old thinking that has to be reprogrammed. The old "everyone is inherently good " is bullshit. People have to really show you who they are first before you maybe believe them. They have to really earn your trust! Blessings to you!
Careful, people will always try to gaslight you into a forgiving mindset that could even unalive you!
I disagree to love them from afar. Why would you love someone whose end goal is to destroy you just to keep their shit ego high? Why do something against your self-preservation?
@@Acadia708 I agree, I don't love from afar, I radically accept the narcissist wanted my destruction and therefore any love has gone, and died. They are the enemy. I wouldn't waste my love on an enemy. More productive to offer that love to myself and my healing.
Same. Sending you peace and healing.
I find myself pushing through so hard accomplishing all my goals one week and the next crashing crying in a bathtub wondering how I could be so deceived and confused by someone who claimed to love me. I feel like I can’t trust anyone now
I’m crying in the bathroom with you honey
Yes - this! Take care of you - me too
You are under attack. Man your battle stations. People need to wake up and watch their back ✌🏽💯🗽
💯 The covert narcissit literally destroyed my life in ways i didnt think exsisted,smear campaigns, triangulation, isolation ,i made a big mistake to live in isolation, its the worst thing to do,the experience is so sureal ,i didnt know what to do !its like like living in the worst nightmare, i did not believe these people exsisted
Very pro delivery. This chap knows his stuff. (If I'm able to say).
I keep imagining her showing up. There’s part of me that longs for her to make an appearance at my house like she used to. I’m so ready for that to be over. I’m the one who left her, I’m the one who blocked her put the lonely child inside myself still craves for another episode of the dark fantasy.
I feel that feeling so profoundly. After 36 years, I’m seperating from my husband. I know he detests me for holding him accountable. Dismissive avoidant narcissist.
I dealt with same..."dismissive avoidant narcissist."
The worst type, I think and in my ( former!) situation, add A Lot of very insecure, Angry Covert narc to that. 👋👋👋
You have to be "Real" with yourself & live in "Reality" within the moment & your environment. Especially... love yourself & show yourself compassion & patience. One baby step at a time. Put yourself first & love you...strengths, faults, & that means more than the narcissist/narcissists in your life. Stop being the martyr & savior for someone who "Does not like and love you." They never have, but they wore a mask as in picking up traits, characteristics, & expressions from others as narcissists are (very observant) & mirror these identical emotions & traits they observed from you & others. Narcissists carry a big bag of tricks and "Hooks" to utilize at their convience as they have used them before, but they also develop new accessories to enhance their skills & techniques for future use. Stop the codependency and work on setting limits and boundaries. Realize the narcissist is extremely codependent on you, family, friends, and people in general as they use others to enmesh & stick their tentacles & attach themselves into your flesh as in a blood thirsty leach inorder to reclaim, elevate & heighten their ego, sense of self & grandiosity to "Discard & dismiss" their codependency.
👍Well said!💯🎯
without your info out there I would have felt so alone thank you
The will to resist. Sounds like a fight. I guess its gotta be that way. Betrayed and disappointed. Gotta grieve later, gotta survive right now.
It's a spiritual battle."
Well said 💯
We didn't Lose Anything.
And we Chose
Our selves. !!!
@@Suzanne-wg5kl True. I'm just tired, I have to pick one, survival comes first feelings can wait. it's the process. still have to go to work. I must care for myself as always and i'm tired. Burned out, trying to light my own fire.
Grief. I'm in depression phase right now. sometimes acceptance(i cant 'fix' nothing in this person or the relationship so ill just leave) leads you there, ill make it, they might not. I can see their life falling apart and feel a weird type of compassion fatigue. Reminds me of lifeguard swim class. I see them drowning but they are pulling me under, so to save myself I have to watch them drown, or hurt them. Its heartbreaking and exhausting. Had to go the legal route for closure. Just because I can take a hit doesn't mean I should. No contact...fun times.
That's so true, Sir! I am going through that right now! Real daamage has been done! I did not deserve what they put me through!
This is so true after 2.5 years I am in a different place..
I kept engaging with this type . Time gave me space and repair of my soul. I will never ever accept.this behavior again. The last guy I dated was out to ruin me
Well said!
My brother is a narcissist. We were both middle-aged adults and I thought we are finally getting closer than we've ever been and I started having someone break in my house and terrorize me and it turned out to be my brother and after confronting him he still didn't stop for a total of 4 years. I had to sell my home and move not once but twice. It was a horrible experience beyond words.
Wow, i'm sorry to hear this. I had just gotten the closest to my sister I had ever been, and then she stole my kids. She is a narcissist and there are a few others I am dealing with as well. It's been challenging because they pulled my kids back into the trauma. Tricky to know how to proceed sometimes. Lots of love to you!
I have narcissists in my family too, terrible growing up in that. You cannot believe or trust them because when they have you back, watch out. Deceiving, evil demons.
@@lindsay3268 They will cause your kids to turn on you.
I didn't know about this term until I listened to a video, and I said here the personality of my ex-husband. Also I understand I need healing. It was so difficult for me to accept that I was only an object for him that he only used me for his projects. After 7 years of separation I started to feel better. I feel so good now.
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Your videos are amazing,🙏🏼
you're right, I remember being so willful to complete a task.. these days really struggling but I am working on pushing myself to do things
This is so on point. I’m balling my eyes out.. I have intimately been on this journey for a while now. Forgiveness. 😭
🫂
Forgiveness? Oh forgive yourself.
Get up, and start anew❤
Yessssssss it’s the intent you know as to why you can’t fully embrace them because you KNOW
I'm going through the Getup soldier and get back out there stage right now. As usual Spartan, you reinforce my focus. Thank you Rich
Same here. 🍀💪
@@christophermacdonald3879 I like thst -so good -'Spartan -you reinforce my strength'
its a very unsettling feeling, tjat someone wants to kill you, especially if its a sibling because you can't get away from them and there is a family loyalty there tjat is difficult to push past.
More pain than ever. She took my grandbabies from me. She's the worst plus spreading horrible lies. 😞
They will strike as deeply and as horribly as you can imagine, but the real you, inside, remains inviolate, because the whole attack is based on lies. None of it is real. You are still who you were before you encountered this evil. Shake off the illusion. Your relationship with your grandchildren may have changed, and you will have to learn to accept this loss, but one day, they too will be able to shake off the illusion and I hope they return to you. In the meantime, while you wait, continue to be the loving person you are, rebuild your life and expand...evil has no power to extinguish your goodness, no matter how hard it tries to convince you otherwise.
Very thankful this came up in feed. Just watched your previous short on how a narcissist wants to destroy the target. At least the tech Gods are showing mercy. And the Universe is sending a rallying message. I’m about down for the count
🩷🙏🩷 You are not alone. 😊 Hang on and make it through the🔥. 💞💞💞Blessings of love and strength to get to the other side. 💞💞💞
Tech Gods are just feeding themselves.
Time does heal. Thanks to these educational videos that person is nothing now and I pray I have alarms to stop future possiblities.
At least we choose to heal . They don't .
One time I asked my ex narc girlfriend. What did you like in me that make you come to me, I was with another girl at the time and she knew that. She said, I saw yor calmness type and I wanted to destroy that. After a couple of months discarded her.
She said what? 😮
You are good now. 🍀🍀🍀🍀
@irenahabe2855 Yes I'm okay and enjoin life. Thanks
You left your at the time girlfriend for that?
@Acadia708 Wos only a sex thing not a relationship.
Hell no. Never again. Ever.
Never Again
that's what I've always said... and it's been 5 times 😢
I'm getting better, quicker at noticing, not quick enough in seeing that flags are red...
@@369-b1f don't beat yourself up. Just keep educating yourself and remember:
You didn't ask for this but you will LIVE THROUGH THIS.
I unsubsribed from you as I so want to break free from these parasites but here you are talking absolute truth again. Thank you Richard.
Going through a custody battle with the narcissist. I want as little contact as possible, he knows it. He's pushing to keep it where I HAVE to contact him. Resistance is tricky, but I see the importance.
I have heart disease & I have had two strokes . I looked after my mother for 7 years before I had to put her into a nursing home.
I am the recipient of the majority of her will and my brother , who is a lawyer and who comes from a better financial position as me , he owns his own home , wishes me to die .
Not one message of goodwill from him only threats of being taken to court for what I don't know .
Narcissists are evil . They have not a decent bone in their body .
It's impossible to reason with them so don't try learnt from experience
Imagine reasoning with an egg?😂
So glad i left him, he looked like the red flags he embodied and thanks to my parents i made excuses for his bs for too long but it's on me now that i have the knowledge
So very well told and so profoundly analyzed
I’ve been separated from his grips. Now we have 5 grandchildren , I know from his behaviours that he has tried to erase me and replace me. I can not be erased from my grandkids. It’s a longer story, this is the very shortest version of it.
You always impart extremely important information. Thank you, Richard, for your expertise. God bless you, Kind Man. 🙏
So true. My ex was one threw me out on my daughter 18th birthday, found another one, paid for everything. Now it's my turn to love myself.
Thanks Richard
I almost died a few times while with the narcissist. All by design.
Please continue to protect me from narcissistic mate.
Listen to this man. This is exactly what happened to me.
My narcissist is my landlord
No apartments around
But he pulled back and let others hurt me
Its unbelievable. .Trying to destroy the very efforts taken to make her happy. Undermining every project. Recently moved on.. Found a sweetheart and appreciate her kindness so much.
All the guys who watch these videos for validation are encouraged to self reflect, increase awareness and validate themselves. If you are a victim you are not innocent either and address your entitlements. Narcissists abuse you to destroy you and unknowingly encourage you to grow (to parent them) if you have practiced self awareness. Such as this every dynamic reinforces the false bond too! Narcs know it as false bond too!
Anyway, Richard is doing quite helpful work. Kudos to him. Kudos to those who are fighting to kill their ego/monsters to become their authentic self. Godspeed.
Never say never But I’m saying it! Never again!! 2025 I’m walking through the 🚪🕊️🙏
I am ready to resist them go away with it .they have no remorse .
We're done for several years. He's playing our kids against me and all that evil is being viewed as special to them to do this! They've all ghosted me! 20 years now!
my biggest problem growing up with a Narcissist mother and psychopath father, Narcissists siblings, aunties, uncles, cousins,grandparents and friends etc.
I got used to them and never been afraid of them, probably half if my problem that is.
The fearless mindset that comes with my adhd - factor two psychopathy.
great video.
thanks Richard.
Thank you very much for this message ❤
I will never know a person is a narcissist until it’s too late. I can’t go on. My will is destroyed you’re right. Absolutely. I wish I could just call God and ask if he can come pick me up early.
They do destroy and years on it still hurts
correct
@@MaNuLaToROfficial Absolutely. Years later, still have to work so hard on healing
I am surrounded with em. Both parents & all my gfs in succession I’d say now plus neighbors etc. Probably grandparents too. I have learned how to co-operate. Thank God I don’t have kids! It is beyond time to let it/them all go eh? So many things are becoming clear
Honestly I was single 12 years prior to said guy and I wasn’t looking .. apparently he was though so here I am picking the pieces of myself up like a puzzle that’s been scattered.. I have been finding them quicker than I thought I would … I am ok being broken..not broken enough to fail myself again ..
crumpled, not broken
"we're not broken we're just bent" P¡NK
True kind of gratitude can heal u from this addiction
I’m in year 4 of healing. Is this bad? I still can’t date
Your pace. It will workout ✔️
No take all the time you need. I dated a psychopath for 2 years and ended up coming out with brain tumors less than a year after we broke up. My health has forever been changed at 26 because that person.
Get to know yourself, love yourself heal yourself. We need ourselves all of our lives❤❤
Dating was never the problem. Making the wrong choice is
@@Hope_is_LoveLarge Brain Tumor also...😢 I am sorry for your suffering. Sending Healing Energy to You!💞💞💞
@crystalvincent8034 patience
I'm not attracted to narcissists. The minute I see a red flag, I cut off all contact with a potential love interest immediately.
Very insightful message. Thank you sir.
I Never want again a narcissist
They want to destroy me.never again another one like this. Develope your Will. He must nurture and care for me and strenght and time to be told.
Resist them
Oh my gosh and I had just been contemplating giving up. But I feel the destructive venom so deeply. And I didn’t know that fighting in this moment is like fighting all future narcissists combined 😮
I never ever wanted to continue the abuse, actually its the opposite ive always wanted a truly caring and genuine person but all ive got are various narcs in my life. I dont believe its all about me ‘finding another version of abuser’ or not having will to survive, actually its that will that for some unknown reason kept me going to this day.
You attract them. They seek out good people.
@@tonywhildingwe're not magnets. we don't attract them. it's deeper than that. do Richards courses and mind the language being used by your self to others ❤
Yes god strengths you ❤
Exactly. Great advice. Find your happiness back and start living ❤
Your way to describe this is strong truth and I like it!
Any time someone negates your feelings.....just walk away. Bitter experience
Are you sure? What if they tell you you’re doing exactly the same?
@@trey1187 Not my style, so that wouldn't happen except under extraordinary circumstances.
@@bruno8417 maybe the key is to walk away quickly then before you start negating theirs because they are negating yours… oh my… idk. Okay
@@trey1187 Did I trigger you?
@@bruno8417 no I’m legitimately asking
I love this message. Yes! We have to nurture ourselves and strengthen our will both. ❤
You speak our feelings spot on . Thank you for making it feel normal.
I feel like more narcissistic now, I will never play this part again.…
That’s very true👏🏼👏🏼 your videos are helping me so much to identify and reconoced I was living in a narcissist relationship for half of my life and will never go again in this! Thank you so so much ❤
I wish I could show my cousins this video, but they think I’m the bad guy. It’s not me, it’s my stepmom.
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Thankyou for sharing
I’m glad this was and is not me. Once I realized there was a problem, began researching, came to the very sad understanding that I could not fix my mother and the ONLY thing I could offer, was for me to embrace abuse, I left, never looked back, she died, and I have no guilt. Since then, one narcissist after another, has simply been gotten rid of and these are not mostly narcissists I’ve chosen, like in love. These are narcissists who I’ve met through work and neighbors. One was a friendly neighbor. Got rid of her, too.
I didn't invite my narcissistic next door neighbours into my life, they just moved in. Then got another relative into another apartment as they have ambitions to own the building and act like they already do and other owners are their tenants. Never met such nasty people before in my life and I'm 71 yrs old. I DON'T want them, and neither do other owners.
@ they’re definitely out there. I’ve lived her for over 30 years, in my apartment. And only in the last 8 years or so, have I experienced people who become angry and almost abusive, because I have boundaries. A tenant a few doors away, one living beneath me and the new one who replaced he, when she passed, have made it pretty clear that they wonder just what I think I’m doing in my apartment, when they need a free caregiver or nanny. Although I don’t bend to it, between what I’ve gone through with these people and maybe being an empath, I can feel it right through the floor. The feeling of, “Look at her. She was home today. Probably on vacation and she knows I want her to look after my child!” People who aren’t even trying to have anything to offer you, yet feel you should be like a fire extinguisher, ready to solve their problems. With both my mother and the previous tenant, it became a police issue, with the phone stalking and opening of mail/packages, respectively. Crazy sister even broke into the house I inherited and changed the lock, when the judge offered me the house, but hadn’t sent the deed yet. I’m almost 60 and behaviors of what formerly seemed like normal, non-criminal people, are now going off the charts.
What you are eluding to are neighbors who don’t see others as tenants, laterally. They see them as servants who had better work for them, if they don’t want any trouble. This, in all likelihood, goes double for me, as a single, black woman, with no kids, with the absolute indignation they show, when I don’t comply. I look like the most “uppity” little thing to them and it doesn’t matter from where they hail. So far, US and India. But, these narcissistic types, never self-check. They wonder why I don’t understand that, when they moved in, I was simply an amenity, included with rent. They disgust me, but I’ve watch them either drop dead or just leave me alone, because they find they’re making “0” headway.
The trouble with these types though? They always plan to want waaay to much and reciprocate nothing. An example is, I already know that, because I won’t become my neighbor’s free, permanent nanny to her child and allow her high energy child to run amuck in my apartment, crashing up the place and terrifying my pets, she probably wouldn’t dial 911, if she saw me laying on the sidewalk. That’s the ugly of it.
🎉🎉🎉🎉 thank you Richard
Hell yes they do
This is true thank u 🙏🏻 God bless u
So true and so spot on🙏🙌♥️💕♥️🎯🎯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Your right I’ve done lost of memory search and thst has happened in the past not so much with love but with family relationships. Your right
Wow thats me.
This is what I’m having the hardest time dealing with… I have now survived toxic relationships with three different narcissistic men, one grandiose, one covert, one communal/covert… the second one snuck in under the radar, finally figured out what was going on with him and got out of it, but with the last one I was honestly being really careful and had elaborate filters in place to flush out narcissistic people, and he totally tricked me with false empathy and altruistic acts, ended up being worse than the other two combined. I know what to watch out for. It seems like they are evolving. And I am not seeking these people out, the universe seems to be delivering them into my life with intention.
Wow, it's tricky to navigate this territory. I'm so damaged that I see narcissism even in the good guys. What a journey aye!!! Blessing from an old girl in NZ.
Truth.
Because you’re very attractive 🤗
In my experience, it has been less about destroying the victim and more about CONTROLLING them. Some are more evil than others. Though I think tearing them down is part of how they control them, I guess. Sad!
AMEN 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you ❤
True that. Love your work Richard ❤
Someone asked me about my future dreams. It didn't involve others. I had a dream and now that dream is gone from me.
Yes. Thank you.
Wow.. 😳.. that's my pattern.. up till now..
✨🕯️🎯💫✨ thank you 🪷✨
Thanks ❤
Hurt people project their hurt unhealed parts in others in order to soothe. They haven't learned how to love themselves. I don't believe it has malicious intent. It's simply their hurt parts unchecked in their lack of awareness. In their lack to cope with their own hurt parts. We can stay in our power and simply send them love. Model to them self love by connecting and loving yourself in their presence. And tell them the negative projection they cast onto you is not for you. Model to them that harsh judgment onto others or you is not true. For example, if they are naming something critical, I get curious and playful and say, 'hmmmm, I wonder what's wrong with being gay, or being overweight? I don't see how that hurts me and I know I can't change or control others. I wonder what it is about being gay or being overweight is so troubling to you and why I'm hearing such criticism to these choices or preferences that these others have made it have'. 🤔
They then will defend themselves.
I then simply state my truth. 'Well I understand this is concerning for you and for me in my experience these things simply don't matter. I can only focus on myself. And I love and accept myself. . And that feels good in my body'. ❤😂Watch them in their confusion. And keep standing in your personal power and truth modeling to them that they can not sway you. Don't take anything they say personally. In fact, laugh. 😂laugh not at them, but at how sad it is that they are so stuck in deep suffering and in a lack of awareness and self responsibility to heal their trauma. And simply glow in self love, in self acceptance radiating to their nervous system and mirror neurons what they could coregulate to. It's a choice. ❤ 💥 💥 💥 ❤
Doesn't mean you have to stay with them!
@@Darbaby000 Exactly. This person is making excuses.