Narcissistic psychopath HG Tudor tries to CONTROL and MANIPULATE me! | OTE Podcast
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- I interview narcissistic psychopath HG Tudor about famous narcissists, as he tries to control and manipulate me. We talk all about narcissism, empathy, how to leave a psychopath, how to rile one and everything else you want to know.
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Andrew Gold links:
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#narcissism #psychopathy #darktriad
0:00 Intro (What is a Narcissist? Who are you?)
3:50 Narcissism vs Psychopathy
6:15 Manipulation and Motivation
15:50 Cognitive Empathy
22:25 Ultra Framework
26:01 Narcissist Fuel
36:00 Famous Narcissists
42:46 Social Justice Narcissism
48:42 Why Does HG Warn Others? - บันเทิง
Looking forward to seeing you all there, I'll make it to the chat!
Thank you for doing this important work. I hope HG will be accurately ethical as every professional. This is a mental health disorder and people are not narcissists. They are human beings. They are people with a mental health disorder and this does not mean they are evil or bad! It means we must apply psychological health and safety measures with the lenses of emotional and cognitive compassion and empathy for each individual who has this disorder. Please do get this right HG. I’m tired of you calling people a medical label. It is unethical and wrong. We don’t call people cancer because they have cancer so stop calling people with narcissism a narcissist. Be ethically accurate HG. ❤ it’s in ya to do so. 😇🌿🤍🖤💔❤️🩹
I found this interview compelling, Andrew & HG, in that, you rarely meet a self-aware narcissist.
Mostly, they will gaslight you into thinking it's your behaviour that is the problem. Very insightful.
@PinkyV Thank you!!!
@PinkyV just listened to one on Scientology and along comes HG, so I subbed as well. HG's videos have taught me more and helped me heal from narcs in my life than books or therapy.
Great Interview. But had to vomit at when the prime example of Narcissist you guys can think of is Megan Markel . That Beautiful Black Dutchess sure broke Englands Fragile Racist Brain . A drop of black and Monarchy shattered 😭
H. G. Tudor is one of my favorite TH-camrs! His series on Harry’s wife is not only hilarious, it is fascinating and informative. Great interview!
Thanks Momria!
I look forward to hearing him and his polished voice. He is my favourite. He has lots of supporters and at least he admits who and what he is. Unlike that female who hasn't got a clue what she is and even if she did know, would never admit it.
@@veronicacrabtreehill6608 that's why we love his channel he's real about it
I’ll check it out. Thank you.
HG Tudor is a fraud in case you did not know. He is an actor albeit an educated one.
The irony is people will watch this and think he is a nice guy, or that the abuse he enacts upon others is a form of self protection..
They will ignore everything he says, although, he warned everyone and told them exactly who he is...
The most important thing I have learned is not to judge others potential behavior based upon my perception of morality or what I believe they are capable of...Listen to them and believe them when they tell you who they are.
Well, obviously YOU do not follow H.G. cause HE NEVER SAYS OR PRETENDS to be 'a nice guy'. He says it as it is: he calls himself a narc, he tells AND WARNS others of the ways, the intelligent, brilliant ways of the different types and You obviously do not do WHAT YOU SAY YOURSELF: believe him ! Pitty for you ... believe a narc when he tells you he is.
@Mino Mokwa
That's the exact point she's making, that people will ignore him telling them what he is because their own feelings prevail.
You can see it all over his YT comments, women telling him he's wonderful and witty and so, so clever with seemingly no need to the fact this fuels him. Plenty of them are fangirling over a purely parasocial relationship and ignore what he's saying about himself - I'm sure there's a hefty subset that either think they can save him, he's really not that bad, just needs love etc. It's really strange.
@@minomokwa744 as I commented above, many of is viewers pour adoration on him on his channel, and say they'd like to be with him etc. That is NOT acknowledging what the man is teaching about how to manage a narc or psychopath. I see these women as being thrilled to meet one in a bar and be a new victim. Learning from him is great, but we need to apply it in real life.
Not me, he sounds chilling to me, and I have no doubt that he abuses people to get what he wants. He sounds like people are just a a means to an end.
@@minomokwa744 And you still go on giving him attention and adoration, despite knowing what he is... That's not helping anything. Especially not when you can get all the info you need on these personality disorders from actual pshychologists. The only way we make these people go away, and not cause harm, is to completly ignore them.
I used to be married to a narcissist… it was the most damaging experience I’ve ever had. It’s taken over 16 years to heal and I’m now married to an amazing man who’s the complete opposite of my ex. This is super interesting to me.. As an empath, listening to stuff like this helps me understand why I went through what I did. Thank you for these videos! ❤
glad you healed from it and found a good guy. narcs are like robots. they have zero empathy and tend to look for it in others.
Yes it’s terrifying this man has a girlfriend that has no idea I just won’t to rescue her
I’m happy for you , that you able to recover . I never did & 10 years later the Consequences are in our lives daily
I was married to one and landed in a long term relationship with another one. Done with relationships.
All normal people are empathetic.
“When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” ~ Dr. Maya Angelou
Tudors videos helped many people to escape different kind of abusers. He talks so openly, clear and honestly it's fascinating.
You won't get an iota of truth from this pathetic pathological lying creep who in all probability has no diagnosis as claimed but it should be mad liar.
He snapped me out of a cycle of abuse from a narcissitic partner. I think it's listening to it first hand .... its midnight blowing its like an awakening.
I absolutely LOVE HG. He may be a nightmare in person, but as an educator and entertainer he’s fabulous.
I think he's terrifying and has a volce to match!
He gives me the absolute creeps! I think he's a coward for not exposing himself!
I agree. Love HG and his channel.
@@lil-al that’s not his voice.
Umm, he is a narcissistic psychopath. That means liar and manipulator. You still believe him? Lol
I hope everyone educates themselves on narcissistic abuse in intimate relationships. The love bombing, gaslighting, lies, deceit, manipulation, abuse and eventual discard is the most horrendous abuse. Victims of narcissistic abuse end up losing their identity and come under the control of their abuser. It’s sick and must be called out.
@Little Angel... You described what I went thru for 12 years. He even turned my kids against me! Lied on the divorce papers that all material assets were already divided! BShit they were!!! I couldn't get time off from work to look for a lawyer and I couldn't afford one! Then I received an envelope on the mail stating the divorce was finalized and done!!! I wasn't informed of the day of the finalization. My ex's answer when I asked about that, was "I didn't think you wanted to go to sign the papers!!!" I'm living by myself for almost 5 years now. My kids won't come to visit at all. They always have an excuse! I went to visit them a few
times, but everything got so expensive I don't have the money for gas...
Exactly and HG Tudor is one of the worst of those abusers. An absolute nutcase with a BBC radio presenters voice. He should be locked up somewhere away from the general public. An evil, pointless individual.
Yes, had the experience and which I knew about NPD before. The whole ‘I don’t like animals’ to me is no. 1 indication something is wrong with a person. My ex narc just tolerated my mini dog who who was no trouble and stayed near me as she was a lil terrified of him. In hindsight I should have picked up on this.
I’m married to a narcissist and it’s hell. I had filed for divorce years ago but found out I was pregnant. It was a rough pregnancy and my son is severely disabled. I traded my happiness to care for my son. If I had gone through the divorce it would have been a nightmare and I would have had to share custody with my disabled son along with our 3 other children. I was not willing to sacrifice my children for my happiness.
@@kayk2956I'm not sure what age your kids are, but just be aware that they will very likely come to resent you when they're grown. It's very common as they blame the "normal" parent for not leaving, thus exposing them to the witnessing of narcissistic abuse and they see the "normal" parent as weak. Just explain to your kids as they're growing why you've made the decision to stay and they may eventually come around.
God bless you❤
I so appreciate H G Tudors speaking about J.K.Rowling, her treatment was appalling, she just expressed her opinion about a law, and made fun of the frase "people who menstruate"...they cancelled her and yet she refused to bow down, and continues expressing her view, and I admire her even more ❤and I totally lost respect of the three little shits who would be nothing without her. It's really awful how many people have become fascists😢
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Erkhm... I think you missed a lot of anti-trans statements J.K. Rowling made. Especially the essay she wrote on the subject - she gives her opinion and it is clearly transphobic.
Just because she thinks she is right and expresses her opinion does not mean that it is actually true. She is a white cis woman and refuses to listen to transgender women voices that tell her why what she said is harmful and why it is wrong.
JK may not think she is transphobic but she behaves that way.
Also, just because her work "brought joy to people" that does not mean she has a immunity from public opinion and cannot do no wrong.
Be critical of the people you admire and works you enjoy - refusing to see any wrong doing just because you like someone or their work actually shows that you not only lack empathy but are easy to manipulate.
Socialists
I KNOW and people are buying it. Like she was mean and terrible and “transfobic” when in fact she is caring and refusing to buy the bs. And respectful too. Caring so much more for truth and integrity than reputation and status. Gotta love that!!
We need to stop taking this guilt bait that narcissists and their enablers are constantly putting before our faces. 😣!
Just one small correction: they did not manage to cancel her.
Fortunately, she is far too powerful and so is Harry Potter.
This man is fascinating. I don't know that I like him, but his intelligence and clarity is a breath of fresh air.
don’t know that you like him? whoa! with respect to diagnosed narcissistic psychopath - resist allure of superficial charm, mellifluous voice, intelligence, etc at *all* costs⚠️
@@virtualremote this comment 😂
The best part is, liking him or not, the burden of that is solely on the listeners, as HG could care less, either way. It's a double reverse mind 🔩.
I admit I like him very much, and would have fun and laughs with him if he were my friend, but I also know he'd be incapable of liking me. I would just be a tertiary source of fuel. I would not choose to be in an intimate relationship with someone like him, though, having a narcissistic mother and brother, I've learned to avoid people like that. He has explained so much, and so clearly, and I have learned so much about human behaviour from his videos, that I am glad he at least is around, though we all know some narcissists who are a waste of air.
I love him!!
I was married to a high middle narcissist for 30 years. I can totally attest to the lack of empathy, the facade they wear for others outside the home, the charm and humor, etc. My ex was also a domestic abuser and was quick to anger and be violent. Cruelty made him feel powerful. He also has a very successful career because his facade fools many who he encounters. It is true that they see any vulnerability as weakness and ALL of their relationships are transactional- including with their own children.
One thing he didn't mention is that many narcissists display addictive behavior. My ex was adddicted to porn, exercise, energy drinks, and binge drinking in bars.
Could you explain why they see vulnerability a weakness? Also how they appear to to hate and have such disdain of someone who has empathy? Ur comment helped so much thankyou.
@@suzanne7813 Although they project self-confidence, narcissists actually have very low self-esteem. They don't trust others, and while vulnerability is necessary in any meaningful relationship, they cannot tolerate criticism or any form of non-compliance. They must have total control of their surroundings and the people in it.
People who exhibit trust, empathy, caring, consideration for others are held in contempt because they see that as an invitation to be taken advantage of. It's all part of their alternate reality and it's totally messed up.
@@suzanne7813 I know this is not adressed to me but I will try to respond nontheless. A narcisist/antisocial behaviour person of this kind will see empathy as a weakness because it is not a self serving action. Anything that puts the self at a disadvantage will be perceived by them as a lacking trait. In a way, they are right, not being totally selfish means one might take actions which don't serve them the best. Now, there are reasons why this is a useful and required trait in society but a narcissist is incapable of perceiving it that way.
@@suzanne7813 I've had it explained to me in this way: The narcissism causes the narcissist to see others as an extension of themselves. There's no "me, and you", just "me, and you are an extension of me".
So anything done by the other person, that threatens the narc getting needs met, is akin to the narcissist attacking themselves. So that needs to be eliminated. This happens on a subliminal level, and it is why when you embarrass the narcissist, the payback is swift and harsh.
Just another side of a very complex disorder. I had to be on the receiving side to even begin to grasp what it means, and I still learn new insights, all the time.
..Suzanne, it's very simple, any empathy, any tendancy to give way, to put others first, will be exploited cynically by pity play and getting you to give way and put them first, they then despise you for being exploitable.
HG Tudor sounds so callous and scary. He's opened my eyes. I never thought that there are people like that.
Don't get it twisted! He is only doing it because he is getting more out of it than you ever will. This is not about YOU.
Hes only a liar in performance hence a pathetic creep.
These people that say they love HG have never been around or subjugated by a narcissist. They have no idea the damage they can cause. This is why the world is in chaos, because too many narcissist are in power. Think about it.
I doubt that people truly “love” him any more than someone can love a celebrity they’ve never met. Rather, he’s interesting, intelligent, and hypnotic.
Thank you, Trump fits the bill to a T 😂
I took note of the abuse he suffered... I also watched full documentaries on TH-cam about Meghan Markle... Her childhood was nothing to write home about, either! It's a "Survival instinct" they develop and a flipping powerful one at that!!! SAD😥
I EXACTLY agree with you!! They are a parasitic subspecies and will destroy the world if we don't find a way to deal with them. HGT is just using his charm on these people and they are victims of him.
@@YukonFox1972Indeed...and if you are still listening to him you've learned NOTHING.
In incredible to hear someone speak so honestly about themselves. As an H.G. Subscriber I’ve realized how rare that is because I’m so often shocked by not only his honest but how clearly he sees himself and the impetus of his actions. Before him I had no idea how different narcissists are from “normal” people. And it’s actually pretty sad to think how empty they are inside and how incapable they are of so many feelings.
His honesty and intelligence are qualities. But sorry, someone who doesn't care about other people isn't a human being, more like an inferior being.
40 years for me 35 trying to get away to no avail. He was a workaholic & alcoholic only 2 modes. I never saw fear in him ever except when saw him dead in hospice. His arms were up in self-defense & the horrified look in his eyes with one little teardrop I'll never get out of my head.
@@dannyvanhecke Yes, but With therapy you can do better. As long as a person knows they have this, they aren’t so far gone mentally that they can do something about it. Admitting to that, is the first step.😉
@@Maggie22002 Over all the years of humanity knowing about psychopathy, not a single psychopath has been cured by therapy. Reason for that is pretty self explanatory, as was said in this video. They see emotions as weakness, they see themsleves as better to everyone else. Sad to say it but, theres nothing that can be done with these individuals, for time being atleast. Perhaps in the future, where you could reorganize your brain or something else super science fiction!
So true! As a psychologist, I thought surely he was faking it, how could he be so self-aware? He's also incredibly intelligent, which goes without saying. It's sad, it destroys other people & it's a generational cycle that is difficult to break out.
Awe, Andrew, you were absolutely correct. All her life, Harry's wife has gotten what she wants through the men with whom she has associated herself. That is not a feminist. And I say that as a woman.
There is a word for women like MM but I don't want to be sent to Facebook jail. 🧐🇦🇺
haha! whos meghan markle??
Shes a gold digger
Right. It’s called being a calculating social climber and gold digger.
And More than this, Emer, Harry's wife, was always told
"How Beautiful you are."
How "Clever you are".
She was SO SPOILT.
Got her own way in EVERYTHING.
DADDIES GIRL, shouldn't mean that she gets everything.
"MEGAN GETS WHAT MEGAN WANTS."
I dated a Narcissist for 9 months it was a living hell. I went No Contact , it took me 8 years to get rid of him !!
I enjoyed the interview with HG.
I have done several courses on understanding the Narc and discovered my Mother is one following child hood trauma work .
It took me 36 yrs too get rid of mine I was never married to him but I had his child and oh Lord he tortured my whole family.
I did too. It (and she) was awful.
Andrew is so handsome and empathetic! I love his sense of honesty and integrity. He’s a great example of an empath.
Truly a tragedy for such a keen mind to inhabit a body without a soul in it.
Interesting comment. Does a soul really exist?
@@annemccarron2281 Yea souls exist.
@@michaelmcgee335 Agree, part of the proof that souls exist is you certainly know when it's not there.
It's a disability, with the proviso that he doesn't even know it is.
This Narcissism is an evil condition. The soul is full of fear. They are petrified that if they love someone else they will,be abandoned. Their soul becomes consumed with fear and deception jealousy envy greed. They live by their animal,nature only and narcissists are,very good at survival and can be sucessful. You will find that love empathy kindness forgiveness is not necessary for survival. Animals are tricky and really evolution has no niceness about it as death is necessary for evolution.
As much as I hate feeding into a narcissitic's ego, I have to say HG Tudor never disappoints. Andrew asked some great questions!! Great interview!! Thank you Andrew and HG!!!
I get what you say about feeding the ego of the narcissist, but At least HG is using his narcissism to help others….even if his reasons for doing so are purely selfish, he is actually doing a good thing by educating people.
@@dredubz5825 I agree with you 100%! Thank you for responding.
Andrew shows how talk to narcissists
That was absolutely brilliant, scary but brilliant!!! I too am an empath and it took me years to say "No!". I was in my thirties when someone called me a "Bitch" because of it. I smiled at them and said, "Thank you". I am constantly striving to protect myself so that I am not sucked in by others problems and then taken advantage of. In the past, I have given to the point of compromising myself. I give and do things for others because it gives me great joy. It seems I am the flip side of a narcissist. It seems that where they are controlling and manipulative to get what the want, I behave from my heart without thinking. So I am doing my best to be aware. I won't change who I am because I like myself, but I can learn to protect myself by learning what I can from outspoken people. God help us! :-). Thank you fellas!!!
Thank you for commenting. We share many characteristics and I’m learning to create boundaries and say NO.
If a narcissist slights me, I’ll put up a mirror and show them who they are.
Obviously HG wouldn’t care, but my sister has a meltdown.
Doing well not responding to her attacks lately and letting her listen to her nonsense.
That must have been a glorious day when you thanked the person calling you a bitch. 🤣
I’m currently my parents caregiver which is hard at times but I love them.
They’ve given me so much in my lifetime and it’s my turn to help them.
I’m happy you learned to love yourself and own yourself completely.
Your comment gifted me some pearls of wisdom and a heart chuckle.
😊🙌🏼🤍
@@AimeeAimee444 God bless you and your family. I'm glad I was able to help. I dropped out of grad school to take care of my dad. I spent 12 years caring for him until he passed. It's hard to give up so much of your life, but I was able to smile after my dad passed. I made his life a joy, and I can live with that. Sometimes he drove me crazy, but I have a good sense of humor. We laughed a lot and it's what got me through it. Hang in there, Lady! Remember, when you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot in it. 🙂
@@janetmilone7711 Thank you for your advice. We do have difficult days but I want them to feel safe and know they’re loved.
I always try to make them laugh and remind them of what they’ve accomplished and how many lives they’ve touched.
Wishing you the best of everything!
🙌🏼🤍😊
Yes we need to learn to say no. We also need to stop engaging with those people who take advantage of us. I am in process of doing this, for sometime, as i work through the spectrum of emotions.
Thank you for your video.
NSW Australia
Same 😭
Gosh, its frightening to think these people exist and operate in the upper echelons of society
politicians!
@@thesoundlikechameleons2082 honey, it’s worldwide. Not just politicians
Most politicians are narcissistic.
Dear Andrew, this is terrific, thank you so much! I am a social worker, and I have learned a great deal about narcissism from HG Tudor….more than I ever learned in grad school. In addition, I was in a long-term relationship with a narcissist in the past, so I really appreciate being “schooled” on this topic for my own healing. Sending blessings and much gratitude, Maralyn
My ex date was narcissist and I did not know it as we did not spend that much of time, now I wonder if we did continue if I was able to keep up with narcissistic needs :-D I live with sociopath and when people say it is so bad and so on and they use and abuse, I just laugh. Any type of a human being is ok as long as they find who to couple with :-) We target each other's parts that is not important to us but important to partner, and so we both gain and neither really suffer :-D I know his manipulations and his absence of shame etc and it works very well for both :-D I am very sure narcissists can be valuable humans as well if they only get the right direction and surroundings where their needs are not demonized but understood and met and in fact, better than sociopaths or psychopaths, they can work hard to make their needs met, so maybe we just need more education about all these personalities and see where who fits in society to benefit it.
I have to ask because your a social worker.
My experience going to mental health is it's full of narcissist's and psychopath's.
My life has been absolutely ravaged in ways I could never have imagined.
I can't seem to get away from it these people have a cult maybe?
I've tried hard to figure it out I think they stalk they're clients and try and get them to commit suicide or just label them crazy from the collective gas lighting they do.
It's not just them it's like a huge smear campaign stalking crazy crazy stuff.
At the end of the day nothing will be done and more people will die or be permanently disabled.
I view it as a small group in this mental health network that menticide their clients for fun.
Basically serial killers without the blood.
Why are so many in mental health cluster B personality disorders?
Why doesn't anyone seem aware of this or willing to do anything about it if they are.
You learned nothing from this pathetic performative actor / pathological liars gimmick.
My ex and my daughter are a lot like this. And I had to learn the only way to deal is not react. Indifference and ignoring them is very powerful. There’s no point in trying to reason with them
And I had a massive fail tonight with my daughter. But it’s been a year and I’ve learned I’m gonna slip up sometimes 🥲
I feel for you, my ex and first born daughter too. It takes a long time to come to terms with the daughter thing. Heartbreaking. I can't count how many times I've fallen for her bs.
It took me until middle age to realize that about my sister. She's a rageoholic narcissist (well, that's what I call her). But she's definitely a narcissist.
@@amethystfeathers7324 Yep. Living it. More realistic now. But trying not to lose my humanity because of the lack of hers. Hard balancing act
@@Maggiex58 I’d love to hear your story if you want to share. I’m sorry we have this in common. But whatever you want to talk about I’m here and I understand. We’re in a club we never asked to be in.
An excellent interview! H G Tudor is not an easy guest. Impressive by both parties.
Hes a t pot pathological liar pretending to be these things - pathetic.
I can listen to HG everyday, he is not only knowledgeable he has an awesome voice, but he’d already know that 💕💕
listen to prof Sam Vaknin instead
Hilarious comment. 🤔🤔😂
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@@tesskennedy4959 It shows the pathological lying creep has a team
Were other attractions fred west / sutcliffe / bundy et al ?
I remember reading a comment from a psychopath regarding empathy.
He said, 'imagine a young girl skipping down the road and she trips and falls on the concrete.
She's bleeding profusely from her knee and she's crying. Would you feel bad for her?.
Now, how do you feel about the concrete slab she's damaged which she hurt herself on. Do you feel sympathy for that concrete? No? Thats how we (psychopaths) feel about the girl.'
He has learnt from others how he should behave in such situations though and can emulate appropriate emotions . Theres a lot of dissonance for their partner when they stop pretending because its so hard to believe or comprehend. They dont tell you one morning over breakfast " theres something you need to know about me that I never felt safe enough to telk you before" They just do something inconceivable like not pissing on you when youre on fire because they are busy watching a fly walk on a wall....getting more and more annoyed by you distracting them they will eventually scream " could you die a little quieter ffs! "
Wow. It’s Scary to know there are (many) people out there who think like that, and view other lives as Nothing but a concrete slab! Very Sad and very WORRYING!
And to think that many are in politics or positions of power!
That's chilling and accurate.
Wow! Excellent analogy.
@@morticiagomez6166 agree, it's a bit scary,...because we don't have that instant looking glass for a person's,,inside,,
This person is the most frightening person I’ve ever listened to. It’s over 24 hours since I listened to this podcast and he gets more frightening with time. It’s hard to know who he is, even when he tells you who he is. That said, I am fascinated by psychology and love these podcasts.
scared the heck out of me too cheryl!
I don't know if he or his audience frightens me more. I've followed his yt channel on/off for several months. From time to time he would casually, but straight up say what he's done to his 'victims', e.g. how he made them cry and desparate, then immediately turn back towards his topic (in this instance Meghan Markle). And guess what - practically NO ONE remarks on it in the comment section, let alone sanctions it. I don't know what creeps me out more, him being so candid or his audience just accepting it/not even noticing it because they are too busy ranting about Meghan etc... creepy!
Why frightening? I suppose, you would be a target to any predatory species :-)
There's a possibility that he's just saying these things because he's trying to really get across how a narcissist thanks so he's going to tell you exactly how they think, and he wants you to believe it's definitely true by him saying he definitely is one. I'm not so sure hardcore narcissist would be this self aware.
The first step to becoming a better person is admitting that you have a problem.
I know my mother is narcissist, she would never admit to doing anything wrong, let alone admitting that she's a narcissist!
I’m glad that you stopped Tudor from using his usual creepy voice. Thank you.
HG is terrifying. He is also fascinating. My wife has been trying to figure out who he is forever. She thinks he is part of the royal family. I think he just works for them.
No way is he part of the RF because underlying his speech is distinct residue of a regional accent.
The only member of the RF who has that is Kate but her accent is nothing like his.
His accent is very subtle and you can only pick up on it with certain words.
@@supertuscans9512I literally just wrote that in the comments a few minutes ago. I’m glad you too can hear some kind of regional or I think northern accent too. 😃
It has been alleged, he is a short, stocky, bald guy who lives in his mother's basement. Smart, went to uni, but uses all his funds to buy women and sniff sniff stuff....is very selfish and doesn't help others, look after them, etc....just goes after his own enjoyment and pleasure. Or uses his funds to buy people to do what he wants, rather than taking responsibility. Lazy, self-indulgent. His accent is fake...he tries to hide it because it indicates where he is from....but his accent drops from time to time. Certainly no royal.
@@MyDaisy66 Yes, agree, he tries to hide it....
@@supertuscans9512for example when he says tongue. Says it too naturally to be one of his deceptive accent throw off scent efforts.
“You’re able to have a laugh and enjoy being around someone. Is that not liking someone?”
“No”
Lol
That was so funny! 😂
My partner exactly. I watch people being fooled by him all the time. They have a great laugh .....the moment theyre out of earshot its "assholes" . I dont tell them because they wouldnt believe me, they wouldnt believe this nice jovial fellow is a complete lie. Me telling them would make me look like a horrible person with serious issues.
@@satsumamoon- So you do nothing and sit back passively assisting him. And also this creature is your partner?! 🤮 ...
Not wanting to step on a spider and kill it is not silly. The spider is a life. Acknowledging that is a good thing. I'm the same, by the way. Good show, Joy
I spent hours trying to feed a bumble bee who had lost a wing. Might have been kinder to smash it, but I just dud’s want to do it. Now, ants I can kill.
There is a video on the channel known as “The Dodo” about a woman in Scotland who saved the life of a bumblebee that was born without wings. That little bee was able to live out its entire life of 3 months very happily with this caring lady.
yesterday I was lifting heavy plant pot & a husky black spider appeared hanging by a thread from pot. I had 2 seconds to decide 'plant or spider', ended up hurting my back to protect spider & keep plant in pot. I have black widows in my small garden, I swear they know I won't hurt them.
HG spelled narcissism out for me when I was under the fog of war, dazed and confused by what I didn't even know existed. Because of his insight I was able to identify and detach but not before a lot of damage had already been done. These scars remind me how close I came to the end of myself.
What a an honour being a tertiary source in HG’s fuel matrix.
I wanted to write a comment like that but you said it perfectly! 😂😂😂
A great honour, like being abused by a big tv star!🤣
Lol
He's fascinating, enlightening, brutally honest & has a wonderful voice.
Wonderful voice, lmao
@@No-xs1no & a merry christmas & happy new year to you asshole.
@@No-xs1no indeed 😂
Such thoughtful, provocative questions, Andrew...and the responses from H.G. are nothing short of fascinating. Well done!
I tried ignoring my narcissist mother, I went to live at the other side of the country to escape her (France, so 1300 km), well she crossed the country many times to come at my door without asking me, and the last 2 times she became completely hysterical on my doorstep because I refused to open to her, my neighbors hearing all of it. I had to leave my appartement because of her. She knows that I ll never tell her anymore where I live. So she s turning all my family against me, because she knows that I love them. They re completely under her control, so I cant talk to them. Now I m homeless living in my car and completely alone. She cant physicaly hit me anymore, her words cant reach me anymore, I dont love her anymore, I dont care about her, when shes hospitalised I dont give her any attention at all not a call nothing (it makes her fake cry, snif poor kitty, I wouldnt cry for her), but she still got what she wanted, destroy my life. I ll never talk to her again. I have no mother anymore. Even if you ignore a narcissist, he or she can completely destroy your life. You need to leave everything behind you and never tell anyone where you live, because he or she will cry and make pity of himelf to obtain your adress by anybody hwo could possibly know it. And they re pretty good actors ! They can eaven lie to the police to envolve them and make you open the door of your own home !
I completely get it, I moved to Canada 20 years ago and she would just show up too. She ruined every relationship she ever knew about and told my husband all the time for like 20 years to leave me. I had to cut her off. When I visit my home country I will not visit her and I cannot tell people she knows that I am arriving with my 15 year old son who none of them have ever met because she will ruin us seeing them.
no contact is key - they kill you eventally if you do not leave, better homeless and free than with narc parents
Good for you, best to start fresh.
Stay strong ❤❤❤❤❤
How about showing some respect for your mother who gave you life
This creep makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up when he laughs. I could tell it was not genuine, if anything else he was amused by himself. I would not even want to be in the same room with this guy. He has no boundaries.
You have to appreciate the insights granted by this unusually self aware narcissist, who's willing to let us peak behind the curtain. He reminds me of magicians who show how tricks are done. Both reduce the ability of others to harm through misrepresenting what they are and how they do what they do.
You nailed it, for his own selfish reasons this guy is doing good, it serves him to help others, his reasons and reasoning are chilling, but it's amazingly useful!
Excellent analogy!
This "insight" isn't needed, literally none of this was new to me. You can get all this from pshychologists. Giving people like him attention only help them hurt others.
Yes I don't mind at all giving him my tiny bit of tertiary fuel when I watch and comment on his channel. There's always something to take away from his videos.
@@christinelindberg-gilhus1590
Who do you think he's hurting? He's not teaching a masterclass in how to become a narcissist. You either are or you aren't. What he does is explain who a narcissist is so how is that hurting anyone?
You leave a narcissist by cutting off all communication but barring that, you talk with no emotion and as few words as possible. Complete apathy towards their existence usually works. That’s how I got rid of the one I dated.
Correct , apathy will draw the narcissist to you as you are perceived as a challenge to their authoritarian control system.
@@ian1patterson Not in my experience. Apathy pretty much gave him no ammunition to work with. I dated him for 7 years and the more emotional I was the more turmoil he generated. Apathy shut his games down.
@@causticchameleon7861 It's very regrettable that you experienced first hand an individual with no boundaries...I've encountered a few myself and I must say within powerful positions in politics.
You're right. With ex-husband, I cut off communication with him when our divorce started. He was trying to control me even though he had kicked me to the curb. I didn't know about narcissism then, but I instinctively knew what to do. At the courthouse, he even tried to get my attention. SMH... Of course I ignored him. How pathetic! ~ Anastacia in Cleveland
Yes if u have the energy to keep that up it will work. It drove him crazy. He did not understand why I was entirely non reactive. They can’t get their supply & they will leave for. bigger supplier.
I have never heard of a narcissistic psychopath having so much self awareness. This man is scary.
he has nothing else in his sad boring life to do!
Don't get it twisted! He is only doing it because he is getting more out of it than you ever will. This is not about YOU.
Thats a creep but one i'd never believe a word that he says including the diagnosis - in other words such a disturbed fake.
I've read somewhere HG Tudor is actually Peter Hitchins, brother of Christopher Hitchens. It sounds just like him
@@marz1801 Whoever it is the man is a pathetic creep performing narcissism and psychopathy & whose story doesn't stack up. I'd not go for Hitchens myself although that could be right / its a good supposition. The thing is HG cultivated accent cracks into cockney just slightly when be gins to lose concentration & thats ( with other reasons ) is why i do not personally feel its P Hitchens.I do feel in all reasonable probability women who say they fancy him might take one look and flee terrified in horror at a physical lack of sexiness. I just tend not to buy the bloke at all & can see the clangers / chinks in the story / and wavering. often faltering tones of the middle class accent down to COMMON. = PATHETIC NOT PSYCHOPATHIC.
HG Tudor sounds like all the elites at the World Economic forum. "I want to live forever" "I don't want to share my food with the mindless eaters"
I've been subbed to HG Tudor for awhile now, and he has helped me immensely. I don't care if he gets fuel from that, lol, because the small bit of fuel he may get from me, or any of his viewers, is totally worth it for the information and learning he gives. As an Aspie, I'm particularly vulnerable to narcissists, and his channel has been invaluable to me to spot them and understand myself more.
Subscribed!
Thanks Vanessa!
You are the exact person he looks for. Do better.
@@ipsosmaati1971 Knowledge is power.
@@ipsosmaati1971 No, it is smart to compartmentalise. The information he provides is invaluable
As a fellow autist, who has grown up with, and been in relationship, with ASPDs, you can get information about these people from pshychologists. Nothing of what he says is new or insightful. And you alone might not be a big supply source, but he has plenty of followers, and you all together are a huge source for him. These people need to be ignored, otherwise you just help him harm others.
Wow Andrew, thankyou for this show. I was fully engrossed the entire time. Your skills as an interviewer are absolutely second to none. Once again Thank You.
Aw thank you pixie what a lovely comment!
I agree, particularly at 3.00 minutes. He asks a very specific question, one which rattles the guy in my opinion, one which was unexpected and daresay has not ever been asked before or perhaps was asked with such non judgemental child like curiosity that it threw the guy being interviewed. Notably it came after speaking specifically and more in depth about not ever being good enough over the physical and sexual abuse which he has to some extent managed to block out, repress, glaze over. He's not a psychopath, he's a broken little boy that can be healed and indeed in turn has a powerful capacity to heal others. He can keep deluding himself that he is not in pain by deriving quote unquote pleasure and temporary satisfaction/relief from inflicting, being the instigator of another's pain/discomfort/grief - all the myriad of emotions he can no longer feel - will no longer allow himself to be vulnerable enough to feel because it is unsafe to do so. Say a prayer for that little boy, hold him tight and be his protector and in that little boy may you see every little boy, every little girl, may you see you, God, Love. 🙏🏽💓
And of course the perfect interviewee...one who loves talking about themselves...
I cant help thinking that we are insanely lucky that this man is totally devoid of any feelings what's so ever and he knows what he is. Can you imagine that the only thing that would give him any sense of true feelings was to hurt other people. He is, in my opinion, one step away from being raging serial killer. Very scary man.
He's not as bad as he describes. By saying he is, helps to make people understand these conditions, rather than, " I think this is what they are" - it gives more credibility.
Everything he is saying is correct and he is clearly a very intelligent and knowledgeable man on this subject but my guess is he is playing the character of a narcissist. Having lived with one for 13 years and struggled to get him out of my life for 7yrs after we split up, I think HG Tudor knows this subject inside and out, but my instincts tell me he isn't one really.
One of the BIGGEST traits of a narcissist, is their fear of being exposed and they will fight to the death and twist everything to avoid that exposure of their failures/scheming and lies. Being exposed risks people not loving and admiring them. Taking MM look at ALL the lies on Oprah, Netflix, Spare, Finding Freedom, Endgame, cancelling her family (the people who can expose her), cancelling former friends, cancelling the royals etc. She will stop at nothing, no matter the hurt and damage to people who once she would have loved.
HG Tudor, wouldn't expose himself as a narcissist because he risks people cancelling him. So he's either playing a role, or he's not as bad as he thinks. Either way, he's great and all other information is spot on and delivered very very well. I'm a huge fan.
@@sarahwhyld5596I agree completely, he is either exaggerating his condition or after learning and studying the condition is educating us because this condition is insidious and seems to becoming more prevalent. We need educating on this subject. HG is the perfect person to do so. Great interview.
Gosh, when he said he didn't like animals, I got the full picture of who HG is, and I got chills, but the sadness of knowing he was created from abuse is heartbreaking. Fascinating interview.
Andrew: Do you feel like doing that with me?
Tudor: No, you're managing to hold my attention.
Let the manipulation games begin! Fascinating...
haha we had fun!
The level of self awareness coupled with transparency is mesmerizing.
You are the mark..he could and would abuse you...and you would let him.
@@ipsosmaati1971 Absolutely
@@cavejelly , why? He has told us how he works . Believe him.
@@ipsosmaati1971 Are you Trolling people at this point?
@@cavejelly 🤣😂 Even if you have the awareness that it is just one of his tools in his “ toolkit” or toolbox.
Great conservation with HG Tudors 👏👏well done ❤. Thank you😊
Wow. Towards the end of this, I had 2 questions: Why is HG Tudor educating the rest of us, and how does fear of death affect him. Answered by him together in the next segment, and makes everything fit together. Thanks for this. One of the most engrossing TH-cam interviews I've ever watched.
This interview scared the sh**out of me!!! The honesty and the information HG is putting on the plate are unbelievable to me! I‘ll be thinking about this for many days to come!
“I’d rather be hated, than ignored,” thinks every Narcissist!
Turned me on 1 dunno what’s wrong with me
I don’t believe he’s honest. More of a snake oil salesperson
I have to say I really like this guy. Totally fascinating and open. He reminds me of a ancient wise vampire.
Vampire, exactly! An energy vampire. I imagine he would enjoy the reference 😂. He does have a hypnotic way about him.
Too funny.......yes "I vont to suck your Blooood"😅
@@lynnwhitcomb3226 Count Dracula 🧛♂️ for sure! 😅
@@lynnwhitcomb3226 yes no emotion at all. He is actually really interesting.
@@lynnwhitcomb3226 si don't think he's physically abusive. He's too intelligent for that. He just uses other ways to contol
One would think only someone very frightened would be so obsessed and preoccupied with being in control all the time
a pathetic pathological lying creep yes
I credit HG Tudor as being part of my recovery from decades of narcissistic abuse. He and an excellent therapist helped me to heal. Understanding narcissism has helped enormously and HG was the key.
It's amazing that someone so outrageously self-centered could be so very beneficial to the population at large. I watch his channel all time and receive so much good education from this very damaged person. It breaks my heart to hear how he got this way. I'm sorry he was raised by such a pack of wolves. I can't imagine going through life feeling nothing due to unimaginable abuse.
People aren't all good or all bad. We're all a mixture of both. Capable of both good and bad. This is why boundaries are crucial. Boundaries on ourselves: "I won't do that", and boundaries between ourselves and others: "you won't do that to me".
For example when HG is giving useful or helpful information, he is good, when he is trying to control people, he is bad. He is not all good or all bad.
I have tried to squash all emotion. and to become self serving; I don't see how it is possible.
At least that what he tells us happened
I am almost sure that here must be narcissism that helped him to become valuable instead of dangerous criminal. Psychopaths mirror surroundings and learn from it. Usually abused psychopath becomes criminal of some sort. But in this case it seems narcissism saved him. Yes, he is a very curious case. And a wonderful teacher.
Don't feel sorry for him. I lived many the same experiences, I also have the narcissistic gene from my narcissist mother and I know I am not a narcissist. I don't manipulate or abuse, as I and many others mike myself have a conscience. How you were raised, your childhood environment is no excuse for causing pain and suffering to others.
I’ve followed HG Tudor for many years and I find him to be absolutely fascinating. I stumbled upon your channel this evening, Andrew and I must say “well done!!”
You are by far the best interviewer of HG that I have seen to date! Great job! I really hope you have him on again.
And also…a huge thank you to you, as well HG :)
Welcome aboard!
This guy feels like a combination between AI and some form of art
No he's real.
Can you imagine if we came to find out he’s an AÍ ? 😮
How do you know he is real? I believe he is just playing a character.
HG's work has helped me immensely. He is the best resource on narcissism I have ever found and I'm eternally grateful to him
HG Tudor is so well spoken. Frightengly honest.
Fascinating interview. Also the most bone-chilling and unnerving. I had an overwhelming feeling of the need to run fast and far from HG and had to remind myself that it was just a you tube video. He makes my abusive husband seem like an empath. I'm glad he gets his "fuel" from informing ppl on the truth about narcissists. We can certainly use him for that good. But I can't help thinking that he should be locked up, away from society. I'm shocked that no one has commented on the fact that there's some poor woman out there who's going to be tortured by him, her life possibly destroyed by him and she's completely unaware of her impending doom. Yet so many comments are focused on praising him and his intellect. Narcissists are true monsters and do not deserve praise. Never trust anyone who doesn't like animals.
Yes.
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I completely agree with what you said, when he mentioned his girlfriend has no idea I cringed, because that happened to me until I realised what I was dealing with, having dealt with varying degrees of narcissists before. My heart went out to her poor woman. There is another narcissist on youtube who has a channel, mental healness, I forget his name, but he is very open about it and his wife knows and he is in therapy.
@@catlady6938 Really too bad therapy doesn't work on these people. It just makes them better manipulators.
@@erickeller162 I think this guy is trying to help himself, at least he is aware of it and not trying to hide it anymore unlike HG Tudor, he is trying to control his condition , yes there is no cure but for him maybe he can control how bad he is. Sadly he is a one off, many narcissists would never even admit they had a problem let alone try to get some help.
What a terrific interview with HG Tudor. He is an extremely intelligent person to listen to, plus I think it is so good that he informs us first hand the life of HIS narcissism. I'm a woman of senior years and I appreciate that reading books or listening to experts on this subject is good, but to be able to listen to someone who can so clearly explain his level and that of so many different types of narcissist is jaw dropping. He has such a lovely voice that I can see how people can be drawn in so easily. I will most definitely follow up on his other sites, since this interesting interview Andrew. I have been following him over Meghan for quite a time now, he tells it as it is, no sugar coating about this woman who suddenly feels so entitled that she can TRY to lecture my gender as to what we are, how we have missed out etc, etc. Her lying is so obvious she is treating us as fools and in no way thinking to help our gender at all!! This is all for own gratification, for I feel that as a child she was spoilt rotten, her father tried his very best bless him, then when she became an adult and started acting she played various characters, now she is in the spotlight, a place she always wanted to be in, she really does not know who she is, hence the constant changing of herself. Also Andrew, those women who had put you down for your comments about women and how they feel etc they are fools!! If we women feel we can comment about men and their feelings, then men should be able to comment on us. This ruddy feminism lark is making me sick, they crush men saying they can do without them, then in the next breath they are screaming out that men should be helping them, saw it in the 60's and now again it's rearing it's head. I have never been a slave to ANYONE!!! If I wanted to do something I did it, so I never felt the need to join the burn your bra brigade from the 60's. TRG's site the other day had an extremely interesting talk with lots of information about Gloria Steiner's involvement in the CIA and how Meghan is very involved with her and could possibly be linked with the same cause and intentions, well worth listening to. Thank you once again Andrew really worth listening to.
Exactly what I came up with from the get go… she is hired to cause distraction and strife to take down the monarchy… she doesn’t follow directions which may harm her in the end. Dammit. Tsk.
I was physically, verbally and sexually abused, but I grew the other way. I am very empathic which brings with it it's own problems. I read too much into other people's problems and how I can help them which I know I can't. Sometimes because I can't help it hurts my heart so much. I sometimes wish I was narcissistic but then the grass is always greener.....
@@maryfyrr thank you for your really kind words they made me Smile!!!😸
Take care and stay safe and secure!!!
Much has been said about people who don't love animals being narcissistic or sociopathic. I live in a part of the country where hunting is a common sport and therefore dogs are in abundance around here. I have observed that narcissistic people may own many dogs yet they see them more as equipment or tools rather than pets. It is not uncommon for beagles to be intentionally starved prior to a hunt by abusive people. I am a former client of HG Tudor and I cannot recommend his work enough. I was not paid to say this.
What do you mean you are a former client? Is he a type of counsellor?
@@morticiagomez6166 he offers Consulting Services and they are totally worth it.
@@ad6417 Interesting! He’s very INTELLIGENT! So it helps him navigate through life!
@@ad6417 omg, is he licensed? Is he legal?
@@annem7806 Consultants don't have to be licensed in the United States.
I have learned so much from you. I believe I could have become a narcissist as my mother was one. My father was not fond of my. I asked my mother why when I was about 9. She told me that he was too strict on me and she told him to leave me alone (which he did). He committed suicide when I was 15. In the meantime she told me he was insanely jealous of her. Later in life as I watched her, I realized he was embarrassed not jealous. She was beautiful and always flirted. I felt sorry for him. What a tragedy for him. I believe if he had lived, I could have established a relationship with him. A tragedy for both of us. I did blame her for his death as she did not respect him. Probably it's the reason I struggled to not repeat her actions.
Andrew Gold, you are one brave man to interview this fellow! I do follow HG and now you!
I find this fascinating - I am absolutely the opposite of a narcissist. I over empathise to the point of getting upset about everything and everyone who is suffering and it can be debilitating. This guy sounds scary but so intelligent. I would like to spend a day in his brain to see how it feels. I sometimes think it might be nice to not have a conscience and not worry about other people or animals being mistreated.
Intelligence is attractive, that’s his compensation. It will attract like minds but it would feel intimidating to empathetic people if they are rage filled and no self control or they’ve crafted cognitive empathy so well you could not tell they were; this the charming effect. Narcissism is a spectrum much like everything else. Keep watch of behavior, words, they study you. But make sure that you are studying them without giving it away.
He is the same combination as my ex husband. He was formally diagnosed in 2003 and I have that written diagnosis and it has NPD and ASPD both on it. The mystery with him is that we were together 10 years before he was ready to discard me, and while I did miss some red flags in our first dates, I have no knowledge of him doing anything harmful to anyone so when he became so unleashed and sadistic with me I was totally shocked and unable to protect myself or my children. Practically overnight my life became unrecognizable to me.
I’m sorry to hear that! 😢
No recognizeable red flags for 5 years. I understand you. Seeing the dark eyes the very first time is shocking
There are always red flags, the trouble is not recognising them. Flags that may be instantly recognisable to one person may be invisible to another. It may be that you only saw the flags that were over your "threshold". Kind of like only noticing how hot the weather is, when it goes over your heat threshold. If you're used to being ignored or forgotten about, for example, you may not notice when someone ignores you. But if you 've never been shouted at, or hit, then when someone does that, you think, they became mean overnight, but they were always mean. You didn't notice how mean because it was under your "threshold".
@@ebbyc1817 So True!
@@ebbyc1817 so true
I’m hating myself for liking this guy 😂 I never want him in my world but he is absolutely fascinating!
That’s how they ensnare victims.
It’s pretty remarkable that he not only admits to his own narcissism but WANTS to educate those of us who are empathetic and have attracted folks who mimic behavior but it’s only on the surface. The puzzle is HG acknowledges it and seeks to help others but that isn’t empathy? Maybe it’s just fuel😉
I think it's absolutely terrible that he has a girlfriend right now who is being subject to abuse
@@KarensOpinionsMayDiffer EXACTLY!!
I know I feel mesmerized by him & find myself thinking something is so sweet Then he’ll just say that he’s only doing it for fuel, etc., & I realize how much I/we put our feelings & beliefs onto others. Even though I know that HG Tudor or murderers on crime shows don’t care for others, I often find myself thinking they did something because they do care. I’m such as empathetic person that I just can’t stop myself from thinking people aren’t at all capable of caring even though I intellectually understand they don’t care.
What an amazing interviewer. You drew out so much pertinent information from an incredible source. I am not sure who was in 'control' of who, but the honesty, intelligence and civility from you both was evident and so well communicated.
Anyone who says they don't like animals is never going to be my friend, that's for sure. This guy is gross. What a shame that this can happen to humans.
It's ironic that HG Tudor sees empathy as weakness. I see his affliction as a weakness. He is the very definition of stunted. I imagine his brain, like a computer, just mostly shut down to preserve his sanity in order to survive the trauma. I was also abused as a kid but I wouldn't give up any of the pain I feel (for myself or others) because I can also experience the beautiful things in life with the same emotional intensity. He is a rare egg in that he owns up to and speaks freely about his inner workings. All narcissists I know would never admit, to others or to themselves, that they are a narcissist. I'm curious what led him to get diagnosed and begin to delve into this self-discovery. There had to be something in his life that wasn't working for him.
His ex girlfriend was a psychology student and told him that he fitted in to the category of a narcissistic psychopath. In his childhood his mother was a narcissist and he was sexually and emotionally abused by family members.
It's kind of like being in a coma -- you don't know what you're missing out on because you're not aware of it.
@@l.c838 , how do you know?
@@Safra62 He did an interview with someone on TH-cam, it will be amongst his videos somewhere.
It's the psychopathy, not the narcissism that makes him seem likable. It's learned. Narcs are not that self aware. Don't be fooled.
I'm very empathetic and I really had no idea how much danger that can put you in because I have a very hard time hearing people say they would step over an old lady in the street if no one saw them. But he said it and I believe him. I am sorry for his girlfriend, if she thinks he loves her, because when he jettisons her she's going to be devastated.
I was a caregiver for an elderly narcissistic lady and she was something to behold. As an empath I was amazingly able to observe her behaviour and reactions without it impacting too much but it inevitably did. She also had no feelings for animals and even drowned a squirrel although said she wouldn't do that again. She cut bees and wasps in half to get rid of them. Strangely whenever she took morphine (not for pain) and I walked into her house I could feel the difference in the atmosphere being far less *prickly*. She used to play caregivers off against each other whenever she was bored. You couldn't believe anything she said at all, not even the most innocuous things.
Spellbound. Fascinating chat, thank you Andrew and HG. 💖
Andrew is a brilliant interviewer, I just stumbled on this channel, I’m surprised there aren’t a higher number of subscribers
Aw thank you ! People were saying that about subs a few months ago when I had just 1k! So we are getting there. If all you guys tell 5 friends …. Although that sounds like an MLM
I just found it today 😘
He really is !!!
It is so therapeutic to hear a true narcissist speak so plainly and truthfully. Love it, so quietly empowering to us who have experienced a relationship with a narcissist. Thank you for the interview both of you
Narcs have a pretty level view of exactly what they are doing. It’s because it’s a mask for a lot of other crap. It’s the other crap that leaves them numb and the mask gives them credit in the real world to act. It takes a lot of literature and analysis to get to this point; however. My mom even in her senility has this capability a lot of the time. But she still goes off and it’s pretty awful. I have had to phone people to apologize.
Don't be so sure he is being entirely truthful. He's truthful when it suits him. There's not much power or control to be gained from being entirely truthful - rather it makes you more vulnerable. Spinning the truth, that's a good game for a narc.
:...and then there's me, the ultra." That is hilarious. 🤣
HG Tudor, the eloquent edgelord.
Fascinating interview! I agree with the way to leave a narcissist is quickly and completely. I had to totally block my mother from my life. Sadly it meant no contact with my father either - until my mother died. Then I got him back.
I've listened to HG Tudor for almost 2 years. I've really benefitted from his videos and books. I struggle to believe he has no empathy. He's so kind and funny a lot of tge time. He just very knowledgeable. He directs people who have suffered abuse to the Angel Fund. I personally like him. However, I'm a codependent empath who suffered years ago from sexual, then later narcissistic abuse. I'm a happy survivor.
I understand, as a BPD (discouraged/quiet) empath. He understands our kinds cognitively. But he's who he is, and we see him (and people like him) through our empathic and very human lens, which is often our downfall.
I want to like him because of his charm and humor but when people tell you who they are listen to them.
@@jenynz5334 Thank you. Your comment helps me understand better how he is.
I am intrigued with his hard earned facade, but remain guarded getting sucked into that facade knowing he's the Ultra. As long as he has his audience, he will always have the fuel he desires and the platitudes his subscribers give him does just that. I'm glad he incorporated humor into his facade, otherwise I'd be nodding off to often. :o)
I absolutely believe he has NO empathy, but have learned much from him. Psychopaths can have cognitive clarity.
Extraordinary interview and exchange between the two of you. Well done.
ah thank you!
I’ve watched him regularly if not daily (to help buffer my own narc at home) for over a year and this interview was phenomenal! You handled yourself so well! I would have been instantly intimidated😒You have no idea how happy this made me, to see him in action with you as a presumed empath (because you said you, you know, have a problem with animal torture 😳)! 🙏🏼👍🏼
I adore listening to HG on his channel but I imagine having a relationship with him is like dating a robotic AI
I'd only expect to find the most gross creature of a person performing this pathological lying
ATLEAST HG IS HONEST ABOUT WHAT HE IS. AND WHAT A CHILDHOOD HE CAME FROM ! LIKE SO MANY OF US ! I HOPE HE FINDS HAPPINESSIN HIS LIFE.
l think the hardest narc relationship is when the narcissist is your own adult child. Narcissistic spouses/parents/siblings are often discussed, but rarely Narcissistic children. This, I feel, is the most difficult situation since we generally love our children unconditionally so it's almost impossible to go 'no contact' here. The hurt and pain is indescribable when it's a beloved child.
I’m new to that idea, but am experiencing it right now with my child, it’s utterly destructive and heartbreaking. They literally have no empathy or desire to understand any other view than their own, and if I don’t provide them with something of value - whatever that is - then I have no value. So I’ve been cut free. I can’t get my head around it. It’s so sad to watch it and be powerless to change the path they’re on… And of course I’ve lost my child. It’s like a bereavement
@@bramsrockhopper3377 I'm so sorry for your pain. I understand a good deal of it; although my son, as far as I know, didn't have NPD, he tragically became addicted to drugs. The behaviour he exhibited over several years was erratic and often the same as a Narcissist. For many years I tried everything - tough love, support, having him living at home with us etc, and I eventually managed to get him into a Christian rehab. He left after a week. My life was a nightmare from one emergency situation to another. We finally lost him two and a half years ago when he died from an overdose. I can't begin to describe my pain. He was 33 years old, but to me still my darling blond boy 💔
@@angelaleishman1570 I’m so sorry to hear that Angela… Children are the biggest blessing in our lives, but they can bring so much pain when things go wrong. There are so many influences in their lives, not all of them positive, and once they’re older teenagers, there’s little parents can do but watch and support and cross our fingers. Your son knew you loved him, I’m sure. Drugs are horrific and many find it impossible to escape their grip. He’ll be resting in peace now. I send you a big hug from one mum to another x
@@bramsrockhopper3377 Thank you 🥲 And I send you a hug too and hope your situation improves and resolves itself x
Children are selfish by nature, it’s preservation. Only child syndrome is real, I see it in my daughter, the world revolves around them, so they think. Waking up can be brutal, so I made it a point for her to share, not spoil her too much, and demand she do chores and participates in team sports. I think it helps somewhat.
Mr. Tudor is brilliant! His verbal skills are superior.
Thank you for having HG Tudor. He offered a terrific insight into the human inner being.
H.G.Tudor whether he means to be or not is HILARIOUS-
The spider thing isn't silly. You help in spite of being inconvenienced. You are inconvenienced, but you still do it, because the alternative would be guilt too bad to tolerate. HG is sad to me. I think he doesn't realize what he misses. With the sadness, comes great joy and with empathy comes deep connection. I do appreciate his contributions.
As an American I love the fact that you also had the same reaction to the names of the royals. I listen to HG often. He has helped me solve the mysteries of past Narcs. that have crossed my path. So the question of "what the hell was I thinking getting involved with that a-hole" has been answered.
HG is magnificent and I am sure he is pleased that you are using his work. But be aware....he is an Ultra. I found him on his website about 4 years ago and he has helped me get away from a dangerous Lower Middle level narcissist.
What an incredible interview! We never get to hear these people speak honestly. Wow! That explains a lot about the world we live in. We're told these individuals exist but simply don't believe it because it isn't our experience and we don't know how to identify with it. Again, very powerful interview.
Excellent podcast, massive fan of H.G. and must say that Andrew Gold is one of very few podcasters/ interview partners that really lsten and has intelligent questions throughout !!!
HG Tudor is absolutely in a category of one. He's brilliant.
It's hard for me to believe he's truly a narcissist or a psychopath because he is so self-aware and the lack of self-awareness is usually paramount at least for narcissism.
He is interesting. I never heard someone being so honest and coherent about his own mental condition.
Why would you assume he is being honest?
@@spaceghost8995 As I said, it is interesting that he speaks so openly about his mental condition, narcissism and psychopathy.
He answers quickly, no delay as someone that knows from experience should do, or is use to being questioned.
Personally it doesn't matter, the information is good.
I judge by the content, but his pleasant voice and extensive vocabulary is an added asset.
Another great episode. Great fan of HG and his work and have recently discovered Andrew. HG's voice is nectar to the ears and, if I might be so forward, Andrew is damn easy on the eyes. 😆
haha thank you davina !
It's all a manipulation mask
Few things:
- i'd advise not looking at that flashing image. I can't explain but it's not beneficial to the eyes and brain.
- HD comes with the scary voice. He knows that's an asset.
- I love certain terms he uses, such as fuel matrix and hybrids.
- After a lifetime of feeling too much, I get it when he says that it's a weakness. I now avoid people so I don't feel tossed around by emotions.
- I was with a narc for over 20 yrs. Physically distant for 6. Tried to stay friends was an experiment; watching his methods so I could validate all I felt in those past years was 100% valid and not due to, as he still states, my being "dramatic". I'm finally satisfied with the experiment, and being fed up with his cutting words when I challenge him, I'm cutting him off completely so no more fuel from my voice and emotions over the phone. Thanks, HD, for making it clear, how to cut off fuel. Grayrock is the only way.
- Everyone speaking badly about meghan markle is feeding her.
Only just stumbled upon this. HG is one of the channels I regularly watch. This interview is fascinating. Thank you both for a captivating hour.
As toxic as narcissists and psychopaths are, it’s fascinating to hear someone speak so openly about it. Both narcissists and psychopaths are capable of achieving much success in their lives.
I really appreciate the honesty because it makes me want to look after myself better. I'm too trusting because I used to assume everyone was like me whereas that's so not true. There are a lot of mental disorders. I have ADHD and social anxiety and those are mental disorders but mine aren't dangerous to other people. I guess HG isn't dangerous, other than lying to his close friends and relationships, but others are. We have to be careful.
Actually, you are wrong. With ADHD, you make impulsive decisions without thinking consequences which would lead to harm to other people.
@@seriouslyjoking2 That’s not ADHD at all. Lol.
I've been listening to HG for years and I appreciate him so much, he's opened my brain to do more research on this personality disorder. I've studied narcissism for 3.5 years now however HG's breakdown of levels still rattles my brain. I wish he would make a PowerPoint for his listeners to refer back to.
This is one of the most fascinating interviews I’ve ever heard. Andrew, you are an excellent interviewer. I’m really enjoying your channel!