Willow, what you feel or felt is grief, my partner of 25years( long time for us lesbians) passed away 18 months ago and your feelings are exactly the same as mine, pull on through, the feelings never leave but you have to accept them, she was the love of my life,but pull on through, if i can do it you can.
I am very proud of you. I lost 14 years of my life, and my entire life’s savings. I also, went bankrupt. The good part is that once I got free of that terrible relationship I got me back. My friends did not realize I had a sense of humor because I would sit back and be silent. My friends and family were so excited because they got me back. There are worse things than being alone. It is good to hear are ready to love yourself. Awesome💪🏼
Girl, literally what you say in 4:50 hit home soooooo hard. Been broken up for 4 months now and what I found to be the hardest thing for me was learning to be my own source of happiness again. Seeing you helped a lot though
Willow live your life on your own terms. My husband of 38 years died 9 years ago and the grief was overwhelming, took me three years to over come the grief. I was 57 years old and I had to find out who I was. I have matured into the person I have always wanted to be. I am comfortable being alone. I do not care what anyone thinks of me. I wish you all the best in your life.
Honestly thank you for this. I'm just getting out of a 5 year relationship, married for over a year of it. It's been hard, I saw it coming for a while now. I put his priorities first rather than my own. He didn't appreciate what I did until it was too late. We don't hate each other, which I think makes it harder. He said I was too good for him and took me for granted. We're still friends and living together. I've been looking for other people and I ended up on Bumble. I've talked with a few great people, mostly women. I can't wait to see where this goes, I'm happy now with myself and want to share it with someone. Also, if you wanted to know if two women match either of them can start the conversation, at least on Bumble where women have to start the conversation.
I'm in such a dating rut. The last time that I was going steady was 18 years ago. I had something of a relationship in 2008 (a lot if dirty talk and flirting at work, but especially since I didn't have a cell phone yet, there were communication issues. And her mom years later trying to get us back together). I've since had so many awkward first dates, a woman who used a wake as a networking opportunity and had friends of mine wondering if I was her spouse when she left me to babysit her daughter while she schmoozed at an art show that we were coincidentally both at. It was a Second Life relationship that was so sensual and revelatory to me. I was starting to explore my gender identity and how I expressed it to others and (while being 100% honest), I met this Aussie woman who was a corrections officer on the other side of the world. Vicariously through our avatars, we would chat, cuddle, kiss, have a lot of sex, read, discuss books that we've read, and more talking. I had never had such romantic and sexual chemistry with anyone before!!! I've continued to explore my gender identity, and it seems almost certain now that I'm trans. In 2019, I met someone over Match (where profiles binarily say that you're either gay or straight), and a woman that I met there told me that she was pan. For a cis-woman, she was VERY well-versed in "ball culture" and Pose, and when we'd work on art together, even her paintings were of androgynous women. But within like a week of us talking, she gave me the ultimatum of either me coming out as trans to everyone, or us just being "friends" because she'd otherwise feel like she was living a lie. She then broke up entirely from me, feeling sorry for putting me in that position, and when I saw her on "OKCupid" (which allows for a possible "pan" identifying label"), she had herself listed as straight. I'm wondering if she was closeted herself, and that she'd feel the pressure of "living a lie" regardless of what I did.
It’s true in my 40s I realized I’m so content with my life now. I don’t want another man . I’m happy well not now because we have a lockdown and I can’t even buy a bucket 🪣. Breathe
Hi, it’s nice to see you no matter how long it’s been. I’m glad you’re still alive. I’m sorry that you’ve had to go through all of this hardship and pain. I’m so happy that you’ve had a learning experience from it instead of throwing everything away and leaving this world. I’m so proud of you for pushing through all of those dark times and making it here today. Thank you for being so strong, so successful, and for being such an inspiration. You’re so encouraging and I love seeing your smiling face because I know that if you can make it through all of this, then anyone can. You’re amazing! Thank you for being so vulnerable with all of us. ♥️
So proud of you my friend!! And that tiktok really huts home, never even thought of having to do my dreams over but now it makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing this with us. You always seem to come in at the right moment. I hope u have an incredible weekend and keep being the incredible you that you are!! Much love!
Willow, you never need to apologize to us. All we want is for you to "find your new normal" and be happy. We've all had our heart broken at some time in our lives so we at least have an idea of what you're going through. Do what you need to do for yourself. We'll be here when you're ready.
Its so true you go from an & to just you. I broke up with my partner of 25 years and had to figure out who I was and who I wanted to be in the future. It was 8 years ago and I still have days. We are friends now. I was broken for a few years. Still rebuilding but life does get better.
Love the yellow walls!! Glad to see you back! You’ve come so far, learning about yourself, self care, all the important things! Keep going - you got this :)
Was so happy to see another upload! I love your videos ❤️ I'm in the same boat as you. Time is your best friend and its the perfect opportunity to relearn yourself 🌼 and I agree Lesbians move quicker and have longer dates and I think it's because for wlw there are no rules or standards of dating so we can do whatever we want like have a 10 hour date or uhaul after the 3rd date 😂 plus we form more emotional bonds so we take TIME to get to know the other person!
Proud of this Willow and the growth that has happened. Always great to see you on here. Take it slow and dating life will happen for you. Have a fabulous day Willow 😃
I'm 22 and have never been in a relationship. I've gotten tired of waiting to fall in love and am considering trying casual dating, but I'm too scared of hurting people. I give "serious" vibes apparently -people don't expect me to want something casual. But I'm really tired of never trying because they don't feel like "my person". Does anybody have any advice on how soon I should communicate my boundaries and maybe a bit on advice on how to? I don't know why I'm asking that in this particular comment section, but seems like a place where I can open my heart. I'm really tired of my loneliness but it feels like love isn't something you can really decide to find. It will come, I hope.
We missed you Wil but glad to see your back. I mean I understand the never wanting to deal with heartbreak again but I feel like when you meet someone that you have feelings for and they have feelings for you it’s the best feeling in the world. That’s what happened with my girlfriend now fiancé
Girl, I’ve been there. Time and friends helped me heal. Yeah, I still think about her sometimes but not often and never for long. Then I met my wife...I slid into her DMs and we’ve been married for 4 years now, together for 6. If I had to do it all over again just to meet my wife, I would.
As soon as I realized that you posted a new video, I immediately went to watch it. Great to see you back in a much happier place. I luckily never had to go through such a break up. So true that time really is the factor. There are so many stereotypes on humans whether they are gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, straight or whatever. Everybody is an individual and things that might apply to others must not apply to everyone. I wish you best of luck and success in your dating experience!
Keep trying, work to make it through every minute, every hour, make it to lunch, try to make it through day by day. Before you know it you'll have struggled through it and made it. I can't say you'll feel like you're strong for struggling through it at first. But one day you'll be able to look back and see how strong you were and be thankful to your past self.
I thought it was really interesting how you talked about setting rules for yourself. I’m almost two years single and keep putting off dating because I’m still so deep in working on myself and am constantly feeling like I’m not good enough yet. I keep thinking that I’ll allow myself to break my rules when I reach all my goals. Like I’ll have fun and fall in love again when I have all my shit together and life is perfect for me. When in reality self-love and development are ever evolving
Wow. What you're describing hits home so hard. About grieving and being in a dark place, losing yourself in relationships. I might have gone through a break up recently but I haven't really accepted it yet even though we don't live together anymore. I'm questioning everything and also doing this existential soul searching, especially the theme of I thought so sure my life was going one way and now I have to be like...my goals and complete concept of my life has been turned on it's head. I'm trying to make friends in this new city and step outside of my shell a bit more. And trying to write and practice yoga, because I think in the future I'll be grateful for it.
I've been there my partner passed away 6 years ago and will take time, it's part of out journey through life good or bad things happen for a reason, but you can do it there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Stay strong you've got this
Willow, I’ve been with my partner since 1982. Our relationship has seen its up and downs, but I would go through it again. I almost lost my partner to a traumatic injury less than 2 months ago. She is my rock and I don’t know how I would feel losing her. We met on a rainy Friday afternoon on a bus. Keep yourself open to finding your soul mate.
Excited for you 😊 Dating never worked for me. I did meet my partner on an app but we ended up becoming friends rather than getting into something straight away. Then after we had time to get to know each other it developed into a romance. I dont think there is any one way to start a relationship but you have to find the other person who is happy to do it the same way as you!
Willow, it's lovely to see you again, you look beautiful and I admire your courage, tenacity, and vulnerability. As for why WLW move so quickly? I would say it's emotional connection but also possibly excitement about finding another WLW with whom one shares mutual interest/attraction. As for meeting people, I'm not currently looking to date but I know that for connecting with people in general and making new friends, what's been really helpful and magical for me is participating in workshops, groups and conferences virtually, on topics that interest me and that I'm passionate about. This has actually opened up a lot more than has been possible for me pre-pandemic because I'm able to connect with people from all over the world.
I personally love it when a date is called a date. I see it as setting up foundations for a trusting relationship. The more a person knows themselves and by extension knows when they are attracted to somebody and want to date them, the more you can trust them to be a clear communicator and not be up and down emotionally in a connection. It also means that when they say they have a friend, you can trust that a friend is a friend. I think the friendships sliding into relationship risk making you hypervigilant of their other friends, it can make you question how decisive the parter is in general and it indicates somebody who can change their mind at any time and is unsure. It creates an atmosphere of doubt rather then security. I'm lesbian and I can't wait to meet a woman receptive to dating me/or to ask me on a date. I'm over the *hangs* and *opps we fell into bed*. I don't want to be somebody's accident anymore, I want to be intentionally dated. :)
I also have no idea why woman find it some intimidating if I ask them on a date *hey would you like to go on a date with me?* what is so scary about somebody finding you attractive and wanting to explore the potential? It's awesome! Haha! And there's plenty of room always to say no if you don't feel compatible and obviously you can tailor the pace to suit both people. I've never understood how some people find it uncomfortable to be liked by somebody openly. Personally, if a woman told me she was my friend and then moved on me I would feel like that that more freaky because how long as she had an agenda that she has kept from me, under the pretend friendship? And how do I trust her if we start off with her saying we have a friendship connection, it's her lying to herself and me at the same time, so kinda gross? Everybody is different. I guess I put this out as the other POV. :)
Sometimes you just have to be strong and let things go. Nothing will ever be perfect. Be happy for the good memories, and try to find peace and move on. Good to see you back on TH-cam.
nice to know some one is feeling the same way it is so nice that your not alone. Thanks for sharing there is alot going on sometimes and if we don't look inwards then how can we be ready to let anyone else in from the outside. Keep healing and you will attract who the universe needs you to be with.
Thank you for this video. I could relate to so much of what you were saying which really meant a lot. I have no idea how to figure out dating & sometimes it does feel like such a different world that I have no idea how to navigate. It can be overwhelming & scary especially having been hurt in the past. The grieving does take time but the lessons & growth from it can be truly beautiful! Sending all my love! ❤ Lucy xx
I totally get what you mean. I was in an 11 year relationship with my ex wife, I didn't realise how toxic the relationship was until I was out of it. I gave her all I had and tried to be the version of me that she wanted me to be, so when we split up I didn't know who I was anymore. I've worked on myself, my confidence and realised its ok to have boundaries. I'm happy with who I am. I am ready to date again but I can get so nervous that I ramble on and awkward when it comes to approaching women I find attractive (sorry for rambling) x
It’s just great to see you again and yes relearning everything he said that really good, and working on yourself and being honest is hard. Heartbreak is so difficult cause you go through so many different feelings like you blame yourself and then it turns into why me ectera. I am just so happy that you’re back and I think in life you need keep learning and growing through life. Thank you for sharing this video and I enjoyed watching this video and I’ve always enjoyed your videos. Missed you a lot
So happy to see you again, very glad that you have found a new path to follow. Best thing you did was going to a new place and I hope it was in a new city or a large neighborhood. I do want to know if you still in contact with old collaboration buddy's loved the connection you three had. Glad that you are relearning again your life so you understand what you need and what you can offer to new and old people. Bless you and love you be happy and love your self because I and many subs do also.
My relationship just ended completely I was definitely the same all my eggs in her basket. We’d spoken about our future and that’s what I planned to do. Ring bought and all...I’m struggling big time at the moment but it’s nice to hear from someone who’s gone through this. I feel so lost and don’t know how to start again.
So glad ur back..& yes it’s hard after a break up (especially if u thought u were gona b with her for life..yep I know tht one)..Really proud uve come out the other side hun & it’s your own special journey now..good luck with everything & keep smiling lovely xxx ❣️🌟😘
First, I have a Flexispot Standing Desk in my office at work. I love it! Second, you’re beautiful inside and out and your personality is going to attract a lot of ladies (and guys, so you’ll need to kick them out of the way, lol). You’ve got this, you just have to be patient during this pandemic. If this were normal times, I would say “go to clubs and hangout near the DJ table....all my lesbian friends are currently dating or married to DJs!” 👩🎤🎛 You’re too amazing of a person to be alone for long, so I know the right lady is out there for you and soon you’ll be doing one of those “GF Tag” videos like ElloSteph is doing (just hopefully you won’t be doing as many as she has to do 🥲). ✌🏾💜
It SUCKS! But you become more self aware and grow ....and your life dreams come back too YAY 💗 change is something I've grown to accept ... our life story has so many possible paths, not just the one script we set down with our first long term partner ... but I'm not sure I'll ever have that same love again but that's ok as these things are a once off and new love takes a different but fantastic form 🌼🌸🌼
Listening to you...you're fine Willow.. You really are...love you...you'll find someone great because you are fantastic...kinda chill out..you're great
I can relate to this so much... perfect timing.... I completely lost myself. It’s been a year and a half and I’m still trying to move on... there’s moments I’m really happy with how I’m doing now. Definitely Loving myself more, lost 24 pounds too so that’s nice lol. I’m so scared to Date again though, my relationship was Toxic, and it was also my first, so that’s all I know.... I’ll definitely have to set a bunch of boundaries on my Next relationships.
It's a growing process and yes it hurts having had your world turned upside down. Now you have a chance to learn how you can move forward to a new future and new chapter and take time to heal. Love and light to you.
Breaking up is so hard and not easy to moving on past,I think don't push or dating someone to make yourself forget the pain and your right give yourself time,time to heal your heart,time to feel in love again, time.to give respect to yourself and in the right time the person you want in your life is coming.I love you sence 2016 stay strong and safe always.
Camuication is the most important part of a Relationship, But to First love yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself and when you meet that Special person who loves them self you will have a True and loving caring Honest Respectful Relationship
The pandemic helped me realize my marriage had been over for a long time and I didn’t have any more time to waste. We’re actually on the same page about it and I hope it continues that way. I feel so much lighter now and excited for what comes next. Once Canadá gets it’s act together and has our population fully vaccinated. Sure it’s scary to think what to do next. How’s the next chapter going to be? I’m still thinking about that, but I have no doubt it’s the best thing for me to move on and I can’t wait to meet new people again, either dates or friends.
You've been missed by many! Believe me, you will find a cover for your pan in no time because your inside soul is very beautiful! Looking forward for more video from you. Hang in there!
My personal experience in the queer dating world hasn’t been the best. I’ve been with some people that were just absolutely awful to me. I didn’t want to date anyone after the things I’d been through. But I decided to take a chance one day and downloaded the app HER. (If I’m being completely honest, I downloaded it for the hook ups). But I ended up meeting my best friend and soulmate through that app. We’re getting married next year. 🥰 Im not saying to download the app or whatever. Just a reminder to never give up. And that love shows up in the most unexpected places and the most unexpected people.
Life can get better and you can start things in life, go through things in life, or be at the end of things in life. Then you start that new wonderful scary chapter of the unknown. It's o.k. though your going to learn how to be strong and get through it. Break ups can be very hard sometimes.
I’m so glad she is doing better and has allowed herself to let go of the past. It’s hard af but at the same time it is sooo freeing! Was wondering why she said dating for the first time in this vid? Was it her first relationship?
To your questions and disclaimer this is my opinions: I think Queer woman move fast because the dating pool is so small and they are afraid if they pass on this person they won't get another chance. However I'll argue that's not true. With dating apps, social media, good old fashioned chance and events/clubs there seems to be a lot more opportunties than we give credit for for connection. I think the dates are long because we want do the reverse speed dating where we aren't looking for the cliffs notes we are looking for the whole story of a person especially when we find a person we have a general connection with . I think it also goes back to the fear that we won't meet anyone because our options are limited and the fact that we are women or nonbinary so we feel comfortable being more open to each other. Sorry for the long answers.
Good to see you again... I feel what you've went through. Because, it's also happened to me before. On my experience, I loved too much. I gave everything. Nor, I have left anything to myself.... the woman who I really loved the most. She left me without saying anything....... suddenly, I just heard that she's getting married. At those times I seemed to die....it took too long to accept that she's not really part of my life....in my mind, I want revenge.buttttt I can't.....on my prayers🙏thank GOD 🙏 I'm okey.
lesbians move quickly because our dating pool is so small compared to the het dating pool that when we find someone we really vibe with we just feel like we CAN'T let go or we'll be looking forever lol. i laugh but i'm serious, it's not only why we "uhaul" but it's why so many lesbian friend groups have all dated or hooked up w each other; the options are slim even in queerer cities
Ohhh idol welcome come...where have you been i missed you soooo much....stay safe and hope you are doing great ....Anyway, better luck next time lesson learned...
How long do you give someone to find out if they are funny? I mean some people might need some time to feel comfortable to show their weird side (fun side). Serious question.
To answer the question about why lesbians move so fast: it’s because women think they need to capitalize on the moment and get wrapped up in the butterflies. The truth is, you are more insecure about not meeting someone else who gives you that “high” feeling so intensely so you make irrational decisions based on momentary interactions. Women need to get back to basics and realize their worth and stop putting it into one person. Put it in yourself and watch the universe manifest those good people that deserve you. And get off the dating apps. You can’t have all these expectations when you are a mess... you will end up in a mess. That goes for anyone regardless of sexuality.
The music is too distracting. I’ve had to rewind like 5 times(I’m only about 2 1/2 mins in) because the music. It would be more personal, more heartfelt with out that music. We want to hear *You!* 😉
Willow, what you feel or felt is grief, my partner of 25years( long time for us lesbians) passed away 18 months ago and your feelings are exactly the same as mine, pull on through, the feelings never leave but you have to accept them, she was the love of my life,but pull on through, if i can do it you can.
I am very proud of you. I lost 14 years of my life, and my entire life’s savings. I also, went bankrupt. The good part is that once I got free of that terrible relationship I got me back. My friends did not realize I had a sense of humor because I would sit back and be silent. My friends and family were so excited because they got me back. There are worse things than being alone. It is good to hear are ready to love yourself. Awesome💪🏼
Damn you've had a journey, from an internet stranger I'm so glad you found your way back.
Girl, literally what you say in 4:50 hit home soooooo hard. Been broken up for 4 months now and what I found to be the hardest thing for me was learning to be my own source of happiness again. Seeing you helped a lot though
Oh hi you're back. We missed you. Btw I love your shirt
Willow live your life on your own terms. My husband of 38 years died 9 years ago and the grief was overwhelming, took me three years to over come the grief. I was 57 years old and I had to find out who I was. I have matured into the person I have always wanted to be. I am comfortable being alone. I do not care what anyone thinks of me. I wish you all the best in your life.
Honestly thank you for this. I'm just getting out of a 5 year relationship, married for over a year of it. It's been hard, I saw it coming for a while now. I put his priorities first rather than my own. He didn't appreciate what I did until it was too late. We don't hate each other, which I think makes it harder. He said I was too good for him and took me for granted. We're still friends and living together. I've been looking for other people and I ended up on Bumble. I've talked with a few great people, mostly women. I can't wait to see where this goes, I'm happy now with myself and want to share it with someone.
Also, if you wanted to know if two women match either of them can start the conversation, at least on Bumble where women have to start the conversation.
I'm in such a dating rut. The last time that I was going steady was 18 years ago. I had something of a relationship in 2008 (a lot if dirty talk and flirting at work, but especially since I didn't have a cell phone yet, there were communication issues. And her mom years later trying to get us back together). I've since had so many awkward first dates, a woman who used a wake as a networking opportunity and had friends of mine wondering if I was her spouse when she left me to babysit her daughter while she schmoozed at an art show that we were coincidentally both at. It was a Second Life relationship that was so sensual and revelatory to me. I was starting to explore my gender identity and how I expressed it to others and (while being 100% honest), I met this Aussie woman who was a corrections officer on the other side of the world. Vicariously through our avatars, we would chat, cuddle, kiss, have a lot of sex, read, discuss books that we've read, and more talking. I had never had such romantic and sexual chemistry with anyone before!!!
I've continued to explore my gender identity, and it seems almost certain now that I'm trans. In 2019, I met someone over Match (where profiles binarily say that you're either gay or straight), and a woman that I met there told me that she was pan. For a cis-woman, she was VERY well-versed in "ball culture" and Pose, and when we'd work on art together, even her paintings were of androgynous women. But within like a week of us talking, she gave me the ultimatum of either me coming out as trans to everyone, or us just being "friends" because she'd otherwise feel like she was living a lie. She then broke up entirely from me, feeling sorry for putting me in that position, and when I saw her on "OKCupid" (which allows for a possible "pan" identifying label"), she had herself listed as straight. I'm wondering if she was closeted herself, and that she'd feel the pressure of "living a lie" regardless of what I did.
It’s true in my 40s I realized I’m so content with my life now. I don’t want another man . I’m happy well not now because we have a lockdown and I can’t even buy a bucket 🪣. Breathe
Hi, it’s nice to see you no matter how long it’s been. I’m glad you’re still alive. I’m sorry that you’ve had to go through all of this hardship and pain. I’m so happy that you’ve had a learning experience from it instead of throwing everything away and leaving this world. I’m so proud of you for pushing through all of those dark times and making it here today. Thank you for being so strong, so successful, and for being such an inspiration. You’re so encouraging and I love seeing your smiling face because I know that if you can make it through all of this, then anyone can. You’re amazing! Thank you for being so vulnerable with all of us. ♥️
So proud of you my friend!! And that tiktok really huts home, never even thought of having to do my dreams over but now it makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing this with us. You always seem to come in at the right moment. I hope u have an incredible weekend and keep being the incredible you that you are!! Much love!
Willow, you never need to apologize to us. All we want is for you to "find your new normal" and be happy. We've all had our heart broken at some time in our lives so we at least have an idea of what you're going through. Do what you need to do for yourself. We'll be here when you're ready.
Welcome back willow.
Be strong
We got you
Its so true you go from an & to just you. I broke up with my partner of 25 years and had to figure out who I was and who I wanted to be in the future. It was 8 years ago and I still have days. We are friends now. I was broken for a few years. Still rebuilding but life does get better.
Love the yellow walls!! Glad to see you back! You’ve come so far, learning about yourself, self care, all the important things! Keep going - you got this :)
Was so happy to see another upload! I love your videos ❤️ I'm in the same boat as you. Time is your best friend and its the perfect opportunity to relearn yourself 🌼 and I agree Lesbians move quicker and have longer dates and I think it's because for wlw there are no rules or standards of dating so we can do whatever we want like have a 10 hour date or uhaul after the 3rd date 😂 plus we form more emotional bonds so we take TIME to get to know the other person!
Proud of this Willow and the growth that has happened. Always great to see you on here. Take it slow and dating life will happen for you. Have a fabulous day Willow 😃
I'm 22 and have never been in a relationship. I've gotten tired of waiting to fall in love and am considering trying casual dating, but I'm too scared of hurting people. I give "serious" vibes apparently -people don't expect me to want something casual. But I'm really tired of never trying because they don't feel like "my person". Does anybody have any advice on how soon I should communicate my boundaries and maybe a bit on advice on how to? I don't know why I'm asking that in this particular comment section, but seems like a place where I can open my heart. I'm really tired of my loneliness but it feels like love isn't something you can really decide to find. It will come, I hope.
You are so authentic in this video. Your voice sounds different. You sound more confident and at ease. Keep on keeping on! ❤️
We missed you Wil but glad to see your back. I mean I understand the never wanting to deal with heartbreak again but I feel like when you meet someone that you have feelings for and they have feelings for you it’s the best feeling in the world. That’s what happened with my girlfriend now fiancé
Girl, I’ve been there. Time and friends helped me heal. Yeah, I still think about her sometimes but not often and never for long. Then I met my wife...I slid into her DMs and we’ve been married for 4 years now, together for 6. If I had to do it all over again just to meet my wife, I would.
As soon as I realized that you posted a new video, I immediately went to watch it.
Great to see you back in a much happier place.
I luckily never had to go through such a break up. So true that time really is the factor.
There are so many stereotypes on humans whether they are gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, straight or whatever. Everybody is an individual and things that might apply to others must not apply to everyone.
I wish you best of luck and success in your dating experience!
Honestly heartbreak can probably be as lethal as childbirth, in this day and age. Love you Willow you’re doing great keep it up take it easy 💚
My willow is back yeah we have missed you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Keep trying, work to make it through every minute, every hour, make it to lunch, try to make it through day by day. Before you know it you'll have struggled through it and made it. I can't say you'll feel like you're strong for struggling through it at first. But one day you'll be able to look back and see how strong you were and be thankful to your past self.
I thought it was really interesting how you talked about setting rules for yourself. I’m almost two years single and keep putting off dating because I’m still so deep in working on myself and am constantly feeling like I’m not good enough yet. I keep thinking that I’ll allow myself to break my rules when I reach all my goals. Like I’ll have fun and fall in love again when I have all my shit together and life is perfect for me. When in reality self-love and development are ever evolving
Wow. What you're describing hits home so hard. About grieving and being in a dark place, losing yourself in relationships. I might have gone through a break up recently but I haven't really accepted it yet even though we don't live together anymore. I'm questioning everything and also doing this existential soul searching, especially the theme of I thought so sure my life was going one way and now I have to be like...my goals and complete concept of my life has been turned on it's head. I'm trying to make friends in this new city and step outside of my shell a bit more. And trying to write and practice yoga, because I think in the future I'll be grateful for it.
I've been there my partner passed away 6 years ago and will take time, it's part of out journey through life good or bad things happen for a reason, but you can do it there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Stay strong you've got this
Willow, I’ve been with my partner since 1982. Our relationship has seen its up and downs, but I would go through it again. I almost lost my partner to a traumatic injury less than 2 months ago. She is my rock and I don’t know how I would feel losing her. We met on a rainy Friday afternoon on a bus. Keep yourself open to finding your soul mate.
Finally out of a 30 year old bullying relationship. Yes I’m older...and wiser. Like your blog.
Excited for you 😊 Dating never worked for me. I did meet my partner on an app but we ended up becoming friends rather than getting into something straight away. Then after we had time to get to know each other it developed into a romance. I dont think there is any one way to start a relationship but you have to find the other person who is happy to do it the same way as you!
willow youre back . i miss u . ❤️
You are not alone. I also have a weakness of putting my eggs in one basket and I get so lost when things don't go well.
Willow, it's lovely to see you again, you look beautiful and I admire your courage, tenacity, and vulnerability. As for why WLW move so quickly? I would say it's emotional connection but also possibly excitement about finding another WLW with whom one shares mutual interest/attraction. As for meeting people, I'm not currently looking to date but I know that for connecting with people in general and making new friends, what's been really helpful and magical for me is participating in workshops, groups and conferences virtually, on topics that interest me and that I'm passionate about. This has actually opened up a lot more than has been possible for me pre-pandemic because I'm able to connect with people from all over the world.
Missed you so much Willow!!!
I personally love it when a date is called a date. I see it as setting up foundations for a trusting relationship. The more a person knows themselves and by extension knows when they are attracted to somebody and want to date them, the more you can trust them to be a clear communicator and not be up and down emotionally in a connection. It also means that when they say they have a friend, you can trust that a friend is a friend. I think the friendships sliding into relationship risk making you hypervigilant of their other friends, it can make you question how decisive the parter is in general and it indicates somebody who can change their mind at any time and is unsure. It creates an atmosphere of doubt rather then security. I'm lesbian and I can't wait to meet a woman receptive to dating me/or to ask me on a date. I'm over the *hangs* and *opps we fell into bed*. I don't want to be somebody's accident anymore, I want to be intentionally dated. :)
I also have no idea why woman find it some intimidating if I ask them on a date *hey would you like to go on a date with me?* what is so scary about somebody finding you attractive and wanting to explore the potential? It's awesome! Haha! And there's plenty of room always to say no if you don't feel compatible and obviously you can tailor the pace to suit both people. I've never understood how some people find it uncomfortable to be liked by somebody openly. Personally, if a woman told me she was my friend and then moved on me I would feel like that that more freaky because how long as she had an agenda that she has kept from me, under the pretend friendship? And how do I trust her if we start off with her saying we have a friendship connection, it's her lying to herself and me at the same time, so kinda gross? Everybody is different. I guess I put this out as the other POV. :)
Sometimes you just have to be strong and let things go. Nothing will ever be perfect. Be happy for the good memories, and try to find peace and move on. Good to see you back on TH-cam.
nice to know some one is feeling the same way it is so nice that your not alone. Thanks for sharing there is alot going on sometimes and if we don't look inwards then how can we be ready to let anyone else in from the outside. Keep healing and you will attract who the universe needs you to be with.
I feel you. I've had my breakup in my thirties a year ago. Welcome back!
I like this Willow! You seem so much happier :)
Funny is a must. I need laughter scattered throughout my life. The best thing is that I already know that I bring whit and humor into a relationship.
Thank you for this video. I could relate to so much of what you were saying which really meant a lot. I have no idea how to figure out dating & sometimes it does feel like such a different world that I have no idea how to navigate. It can be overwhelming & scary especially having been hurt in the past. The grieving does take time but the lessons & growth from it can be truly beautiful! Sending all my love! ❤ Lucy xx
I totally get what you mean. I was in an 11 year relationship with my ex wife, I didn't realise how toxic the relationship was until I was out of it. I gave her all I had and tried to be the version of me that she wanted me to be, so when we split up I didn't know who I was anymore. I've worked on myself, my confidence and realised its ok to have boundaries. I'm happy with who I am. I am ready to date again but I can get so nervous that I ramble on and awkward when it comes to approaching women I find attractive (sorry for rambling) x
I MISSED YOU!! welcome back!!!
Perfect . Hi Willy you’ve been missed
It’s just great to see you again and yes relearning everything he said that really good, and working on yourself and being honest is hard. Heartbreak is so difficult cause you go through so many different feelings like you blame yourself and then it turns into why me ectera. I am just so happy that you’re back and I think in life you need keep learning and growing through life. Thank you for sharing this video and I enjoyed watching this video and I’ve always enjoyed your videos. Missed you a lot
So happy to see you again, very glad that you have found a new path to follow. Best thing you did was going to a new place and I hope it was in a new city or a large neighborhood. I do want to know if you still in contact with old collaboration buddy's loved the connection you three had. Glad that you are relearning again your life so you understand what you need and what you can offer to new and old people. Bless you and love you be happy and love your self because I and many subs do also.
My relationship just ended completely I was definitely the same all my eggs in her basket. We’d spoken about our future and that’s what I planned to do. Ring bought and all...I’m struggling big time at the moment but it’s nice to hear from someone who’s gone through this. I feel so lost and don’t know how to start again.
Hey message me on hangout lets chat
@@donaldforextrader3710 Dude, what the hell are you doing here. Have you read the title? Watched the video? Read Chelseas comment? Apparently not. :D
So glad ur back..& yes it’s hard after a break up (especially if u thought u were gona b with her for life..yep I know tht one)..Really proud uve come out the other side hun & it’s your own special journey now..good luck with everything & keep smiling lovely xxx ❣️🌟😘
Welcome back willow, I'm from the Philippines,and I'm very happy to back in your youtube channel,I love you willow
First, I have a Flexispot Standing Desk in my office at work. I love it! Second, you’re beautiful inside and out and your personality is going to attract a lot of ladies (and guys, so you’ll need to kick them out of the way, lol). You’ve got this, you just have to be patient during this pandemic. If this were normal times, I would say “go to clubs and hangout near the DJ table....all my lesbian friends are currently dating or married to DJs!” 👩🎤🎛
You’re too amazing of a person to be alone for long, so I know the right lady is out there for you and soon you’ll be doing one of those “GF Tag” videos like ElloSteph is doing (just hopefully you won’t be doing as many as she has to do 🥲). ✌🏾💜
It SUCKS! But you become more self aware and grow ....and your life dreams come back too YAY 💗 change is something I've grown to accept ... our life story has so many possible paths, not just the one script we set down with our first long term partner ... but I'm not sure I'll ever have that same love again but that's ok as these things are a once off and new love takes a different but fantastic form 🌼🌸🌼
Let’s go!! Welcome back!! #QueenWillow
Glad you’re feeling better about it
Listening to you...you're fine Willow..
You really are...love you...you'll find someone great because you are fantastic...kinda chill out..you're great
I can relate to this so much... perfect timing.... I completely lost myself. It’s been a year and a half and I’m still trying to move on... there’s moments I’m really happy with how I’m doing now. Definitely Loving myself more, lost 24 pounds too so that’s nice lol. I’m so scared to Date again though, my relationship was Toxic, and it was also my first, so that’s all I know.... I’ll definitely have to set a bunch of boundaries on my Next relationships.
It's a growing process and yes it hurts having had your world turned upside down. Now you have a chance to learn how you can move forward to a new future and new chapter and take time to heal. Love and light to you.
Breaking up is so hard and not easy to moving on past,I think don't push or dating someone to make yourself forget the pain and your right give yourself time,time to heal your heart,time to feel in love again, time.to give respect to yourself and in the right time the person you want in your life is coming.I love you sence 2016 stay strong and safe always.
There is a love for everyone. Sometimes I really painfull to found the right one. But the moust important is to love yourself first. .... love
Camuication is the most important part of a Relationship, But to First love yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself and when you meet that Special person who loves them self you will have a True and loving caring Honest Respectful Relationship
Glad u is back.
You're awesome Willow, so glad you do love yourself ☺️💜☀️
The pandemic helped me realize my marriage had been over for a long time and I didn’t have any more time to waste. We’re actually on the same page about it and I hope it continues that way. I feel so much lighter now and excited for what comes next. Once Canadá gets it’s act together and has our population fully vaccinated.
Sure it’s scary to think what to do next. How’s the next chapter going to be? I’m still thinking about that, but I have no doubt it’s the best thing for me to move on and I can’t wait to meet new people again, either dates or friends.
Glad you're back!
Welcome back willow
You've been missed by many! Believe me, you will find a cover for your pan in no time because your inside soul is very beautiful! Looking forward for more video from you. Hang in there!
made me cry because that's what I feel like I'm going through
My personal experience in the queer dating world hasn’t been the best. I’ve been with some people that were just absolutely awful to me. I didn’t want to date anyone after the things I’d been through. But I decided to take a chance one day and downloaded the app HER. (If I’m being completely honest, I downloaded it for the hook ups). But I ended up meeting my best friend and soulmate through that app. We’re getting married next year. 🥰 Im not saying to download the app or whatever. Just a reminder to never give up. And that love shows up in the most unexpected places and the most unexpected people.
Life can get better and you can start things in life, go through things in life, or be at the end of things in life. Then you start that new wonderful scary chapter of the unknown. It's o.k. though your going to learn how to be strong and get through it. Break ups can be very hard sometimes.
LOVE YOU WILLOW!!
I’m so glad she is doing better and has allowed herself to let go of the past. It’s hard af but at the same time it is sooo freeing! Was wondering why she said dating for the first time in this vid? Was it her first relationship?
It was an advice for dating for the first time for people who asked.
To your questions and disclaimer this is my opinions: I think Queer woman move fast because the dating pool is so small and they are afraid if they pass on this person they won't get another chance. However I'll argue that's not true. With dating apps, social media, good old fashioned chance and events/clubs there seems to be a lot more opportunties than we give credit for for connection. I think the dates are long because we want do the reverse speed dating where we aren't looking for the cliffs notes we are looking for the whole story of a person especially when we find a person we have a general connection with . I think it also goes back to the fear that we won't meet anyone because our options are limited and the fact that we are women or nonbinary so we feel comfortable being more open to each other. Sorry for the long answers.
Welcome back im going through the same thing heartbreak are a bitch sending love❤and time help everything
welcome back
You did it willow i know your a good person God Is good all the time love lots from Philippines ❤️❤️❤️🇵🇭
You doing good girl, keep going!
Love this vid so much!
Can seriously relate...hang in there.
Aaaawww, beautiful Willow 💞💞💞💞💞
you are amazing. the next one will be the luckiest of all to have you. listen to your guts. 👍🏻
I was just watching a Willy video and Willy uploaded .
I'm 62 and have been single for over 5 years now and I don't know how to meet Bisexual or straight woman, what should I do?
Good to see you again... I feel what you've went through. Because, it's also happened to me before. On my experience, I loved too much. I gave everything. Nor, I have left anything to myself.... the woman who I really loved the most. She left me without saying anything....... suddenly, I just heard that she's getting married. At those times I seemed to die....it took too long to accept that she's not really part of my life....in my mind, I want revenge.buttttt I can't.....on my prayers🙏thank GOD 🙏 I'm okey.
I'm always watching your videos socute 🥰
Where did you get that shirt?? I want it!
lesbians move quickly because our dating pool is so small compared to the het dating pool that when we find someone we really vibe with we just feel like we CAN'T let go or we'll be looking forever lol. i laugh but i'm serious, it's not only why we "uhaul" but it's why so many lesbian friend groups have all dated or hooked up w each other; the options are slim even in queerer cities
It’s nice to see you happy Willow. Let me know what you find out.
Ohhh idol welcome come...where have you been i missed you soooo much....stay safe and hope you are doing great ....Anyway, better luck next time lesson learned...
Thank for new vlog Idol God bless take care always
You are the most amazing person love your shirt
I'm finding serious relationship but I can't found.. but it's hard I know.. this world in finding tru love..
long time no see willow
Beautiful inside and out. 🌈👭
How long do you give someone to find out if they are funny? I mean some people might need some time to feel comfortable to show their weird side (fun side). Serious question.
Hola willow 🌈💖💖
Check out The.Holistic.Psychologist on IG if you haven’t. Great stuff.
To answer the question about why lesbians move so fast: it’s because women think they need to capitalize on the moment and get wrapped up in the butterflies. The truth is, you are more insecure about not meeting someone else who gives you that “high” feeling so intensely so you make irrational decisions based on momentary interactions. Women need to get back to basics and realize their worth and stop putting it into one person. Put it in yourself and watch the universe manifest those good people that deserve you. And get off the dating apps. You can’t have all these expectations when you are a mess... you will end up in a mess. That goes for anyone regardless of sexuality.
If you come back healthier you can take as much time as you want
The music is too distracting. I’ve had to rewind like 5 times(I’m only about 2 1/2 mins in) because the music. It would be more personal, more heartfelt with out that music. We want to hear *You!* 😉
Love you 🥰
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