A CANDID CONVERSATION ON DEALING WITH IN LAWS | FT SOILA CURTIS
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ส.ค. 2024
- We had a conversation with Soila sharing our experiences on dealing with in laws in marriage
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I learned to keep my distance. Polite in person and bye til the next time.
Wewe me when I got married hapo ndo nilijua si jui my mother inlaw together with my father in-law walikuwa wanakuja 10usubui hadi usiku the first time I thought were it's ok lakini sasa in a week they would came like 5days in a week you have to make breakfast, lunch, dinner for them saizo kwa nyumba mins struggle financially wewe na bado wanataka pesa wewe sasa I used to wake up early nafanya Kazi kwa nyumba na toka unapigiwa simu uko wapi tuko apa inje ya gate me I just answer siuko karibu wewe mimi Aki vitu zingine Jehovah........
I relate with this conversation in so many levels. On the money part, I think most of us were misguided. I have come to the conclusion that it is better for spouses to deal with their own families when it comes to money, otherwise your inlaws may resent you and yet you are innocent. Great session Margie and Soila!
I totally agree with you ☺️
This was soo great!!Yaani... at times there's so much expected from this woman of this generation from the families we are married into yet at the same time there's a thick line between our mother's generation and ours.. Reconciling these two generations is NOT so easy for a woman in this generation..they should be KIND.. Good in-laws integrate the new member (that includes the husband and the wife) by extending grace..we all do things differently and had different experiences from our families, Which has entirely shaped our beliefs and values, and learning takes time..killing expectation from both families and being kind goes a long way ✌️..I know of in-laws who would not communicate what is expected and if you don't do mwana utasengenywa, and you become the topic of discussion till eternity for something that doesn't count..🤣🤣
This is insightful Maggie and Soila....the wisdom in here
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Suggestion: maybe we could here the men's perspective.
Also do more of these especially for young wives like myself.
For a season in my marriage, I really felt overwhelmed and defeated. Thank you for showing us the way and encouraging us
If you guys have done it, we can also do it and better because of the lessons you share
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I love the chemistry between the two of you 🤗🤗
This was insightful-I am in a situation where my hubby feels like I don't want his people simply cz I have put my boundaries.
Also one of his relatives disrespected me in his presence and he never said a thing when I later talked to him on the side to address the issue he said I am trying to cause a rift between his people and himself.
He also invites his relatives to our house without informing me..
The wisdoms here aki.
I'm not yet married but this was a really nice topic to prepare for marriage.
Good job soila and Maggie
First time listening to this. Margie u are so wise. Would listen to you over n over again.
I really enjoyed this conversation, the energy that Soila brings is admirable. I like your personality Soila. Margie please bring her more often to discus more other topics.
Margie, the milk is maruranu…it doesn’t have things (the way you said it 🙄🙄)….it’s normal cow milk that is really boiled and added fresh lemon juice and left to ferment…also you can add fresh hot boiled milk to reduce the acidic level. This is equivalent of yoghurt for this community.
Came here courtesy of Soila and really loved the conversation and you Margie... New subbie 🤗
Karibu sana ❤️
Fantastic duo for sure !This conversation was so eye-opening and such a great resource for soon to be wives .
Thank you ❤️
Soila your hair 😍😍😍😍
Insightful as always.
Can we please talk about their energy am here for the laughs, the sync and sarcasm too .
Such a necessary talk for me since i had no pre marital counselling. Thank uu for this.
wooow mama rhemani.... i never saw this coming. i love this combo
Healthy boundaries for hosting and money is critical.
Beautiful ladies, amazing convo right there💯
very rich convo maggie & soila.
Thank you 💞
Haiya! Soila kumbe uko hapa?? nice talk..
You guys can start a podcast(married women... something)you great
This Convo was so insightful.
Great message but mnashindana kuongea I can't follow well. Please take turns to speak.
Love love soila
Good to see you here ❤
A very informative topic I would say To enjoy continued and long-lasting peace, it is imperative to get your spouse to learn the value of communication and cooperation.
Wueh.....juu yangu is story for another day.
my parents in law always compare my kid with my hubbies cousin kid ,they always say we dont feed him well, why are his teeth not yet out, that i should shave his hair coz it causes him ati not to grow, weuh inlaws can be toxic aki
That's very toxic for sure
Iknoow its the sane case with me ohh you're not feeding her well nkt!!
This is very insightful... lessons.
Thank you 💝
Please deets on that pre marriage counselling class please. I've always suggested parents do pre marriage class coz they play a bigger part of the marriage working . Please deets . And also deets on your lash plug. Please ... Deets Leo tuende kesho .
ANOTHER THING IVE NEVER SLEPT AT MY INLAWS HOME I JUST FEEL LIKE AM NOT COMFORTABLE
I enjoyed this episode so much 👌. Y'all are so beautiful 😍
Thank you Slizer ,❤️❤️
This was timely and informative for me🥰
❤❤❤wauu soila unakula nn looking good Maggie hey
This was very informative
Thank you Maggie 😊
This is a heavy conversation and you guys had lovely points. However we will appreciate if you guys can take turns to present your points, most information is lost in interruptions. Otherwise lovely video.
This is such beautiful colabo.
Thank you 💕
margie, i think you were interrupting a lot this video. loved it all the same
Wisdom I love you lovely ladies
U got new sub keep shinning beautiful nice content
Soila is chewing as usual🤣🤣🤣
This was great Convo
Margie have a question of late my mother in law makes some weird comments on my nine month baby like you have a lot weight that is why you can't move, the baby does not know her she is like you don't want me... she tells my baby mara she tells me I leave her the baby bcz I can't find a good nanny and mark you my baby is still breastfeeding, when I was due unfortunately I was operated Cs can you imagine she said it's bcz I use family planning na saa hizi I don't use any aki I was hurt. so am wondering what is her real problem... She never used to meddle on my issues before I got pregnant
We are different tribes
Do take heart. It's not easy and your comment particularly caught my eye because I've experienced the same. Try as much as you can to set boundaries and stand up to her. Each time we trying to please and get their approval and this only gives them more power to trample us upon. Gain your voice, kama mbaya mbaya
@@mswakape wow I hope I get the courage mark you my husband is the only son, yenye if I be hard on her I have an enemy with my husband.
Thanks though will try
You can open up to your husband and ask him to tell her to stop the comments. If he doesn't you can set your boundaries respectfully the next time it happens.
Beautiful
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My in-laws are toxic waeh🤦
😅😅😅😊😊amabere amarorani is the name of the milk