Joh I am from Brenda my mother is exactly like this the worse she had devided us as siblings. We don't get along because of her and she jealous.. when you can help she Nice and when life hits lowor make mistakes she the is the first to talk about you . she celebrates my downfall and hates it when am making it only beneficial for her. I made so many mistakes trying to please her . I cut her off and my siblings who have her traits. There are mothers like this. Only those who had experience this kind of abuse and narcissist will get it
@@PhenduK Thank you cc I don't even go home anymore as we always fight her or we fight each other as siblings. The worst I don't have education as i was raising my younger siblings and chores taking care of her house slaving away. Worse i made mistake to marry at 19 to run away from home situation but it was also the worse as i gave birth and wife. Now divorced unemployment. Went home she was the first to call me failure return soldier and abused left again with my kids..
Our downfall starts when we get so tired of struggling than we get a job and wants to be the savior of the family. You want to uplift the family man. When you can't anymore people starts to make you feel bad and true colour's come out. But madam speaker said it well. Thank you madam
You are spot on Madam Speaker, this is the extend to which things can go wrong with black tax in toxic family environments. I teach a lot on the subject. I am a survivor of a toxic mother, after building my mother a double storey house I had to walk away from my relationship with her for my own healing and restoration... I would love to share my story with your audience one day
True. I can help when I have. Parents should not demand or feel entitled to my finances. Yes, they educated me they absolutely did everything, but they need to know that it was their responsibility.
@rosinamogano9545 it is sickening, I had to be very strategic about this, and it has given me peace, if I have money I will assist, if I don't have I don't have, period. The operative word is I am assisting so that everyone else can contribute their part, so I decide how much I will assist with, but it's not my responsibility really, and, I don't buy groceries, people must buy what they eat, so that I don't find myself spending thousands trying to feed people who don't care if I go to bed with or without food with my son. Nope, not anymore!!!🚶♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
I am a mother. Children didn't bring themselves to this world. It is our responsibility to feed and educate them as bazali. Black taks is a demon as you said. Im a parent who dont like freebees. If they give,i will accept but dont make it a norm. Children also have their lives to live and to educate their children. As bazali,lets stop milking our children especially girls. Etswang mo tabeng ya gore ngwana ngwanyana o berekela hae. O iperekela neng yena? Things are expensive now. Phela ka seo o nang le sona and amogela seo o fiwang. Lets pray God to help us to have a good relationship with our children and their partners. Thank you
When they cannot get any money from brenda then brenda is a nuisance to them. This is so unfair. She is good enough as long as she is sending all this money back home and it can NEVER be enough. Brenda is back at home now, she is probably going through a career slump and this is what she has to deal with, an unhappy self entitled old lady. This is not dementia she did say it's been going on for a long time. Magogo ukhohlakele qha. This is magogo feeling entitled. Her kids must give give give and work to pay her back for sending them to school. This is very common behaviour emakhaya so we r not surprised. Magogo ukhohlakele period
True that , I'm going thru a lot because of this, they are times I feel like quitting the job n so they'll understand when I say I don't hav money cos wow ,n they are so manipulative
We Black people do not discuss narcissistic mothers. Many are walking around damaged by such mothers. May God come into this relationship and heal both.
This environment is not healthy for the little one. The mother is clearly toxic. It’s heartbreaking. She must leave asap. And having a narcissistic parent must be painful. Yoh! 😢
Sad part about this situation is that, if this old lady dies today, society will expect Brenda to show up and show out! People will expect her to forget all these things and just be the bigger person. People talk from a place of comfort. There are parents who hate their children!!!!!!
Eish it's tough sometimes in our families Brenda atleast she must get her own place so that they can have peace with her mum and the rest of her family 🙏
It's situations like these that increases my adoration for my late mom. My mom took care of us all the way to taking care of our kids. We always tried to spoil that woman, but she'd find ways of giving back. I pray for Brenda, may GOD turn things around for the better for her🙏🏼🙌🏼
This is sad 😢, painful 😰 How can a mother be like this at her age.Brend still need to bury her 😢. This is painful ,mothers need to heal . Sorry Brenda , may God help you.
This is so sad! I really feel heartbroken, for your own mother to do this to you . I wish actors in this country would be paid more money for their craft for us not to see such talented people go down and out!💔💔💔
Wow, this is just sad.. really sad. There's nothing wrong with wanting to help your family, but it also important to have boundaries because wow, how fast they turn on you when that money stops rolling in.. wow! Blood is not thicker than my peace, no no.
I totally relate to Brenda i went through what she's going through for years and it hurts me seeing this video..Some mothers are really toxic to the core..at some point i despised her.. I'm glad we have no relationship and i don't need her in my life
Brenda explained her situation with MacG.. she did say izinto azimnandanga ekhaya kubo ngenxa yez entitlements and black tax...badayisa imfuyo yakhe bangamnike imali
The people in this comment section refuse to listen, and what’s even more infuriating is their lack of understanding about what Brenda is going through. Despite having no insight into her struggles, they arrogantly cling to their belief that their way of handling such situations is the only right one. This mindset, especially when coming from entitled parents, is both harmful and dismissive. And while we’re at it, let’s also discuss black tax something many seem to overlook or trivialize. It’s a complex burden, often misunderstood by those who haven’t experienced it. Brenda’s situation might be compounded by this, as black tax places a heavy responsibility on individuals to financially support their families, often at the expense of their own well-being. People need to stop making assumptions and start addressing these issues with compassion and a broader perspective.
Clearly, there is nothing as painful as being illtreated by your mother. Those of you who have good relationships with your mothers, you are blessed, cherish that. Brenda my dear, stay strong. Find a safe place for you and your baby. Break free, it's not going to be easy, but for your own health, break free sesi.
How... She does not have a job..no job no money... She put all her money to help her mom build the house. Now that the money is finished mom true colors are showing..
@@123smc that explains a lot. So she is bitter and her mom is bitter and she has a child on her back. She will have to choose to heal and forgiveness( not reconciliation) if that cycle is to be broken. No one ever hurts you from the place of wholeness and love.
@@ntombindweni you get me. She has to choose her peace. And choosing her peace means she must cut her off and leave that house. I know she’s invested a lot, but for her own healing. She must choose peace. Otherwise she’ll go mad!
And if you petsued the dark side, she'd love you eve so dearly, in a Flash! Im glad youre taking a stand for your Faith. God says we need to choose Gom over all our loved ones orthewise we're not worthy of rhe kingdom
Funeka ubabhatale for ukukhulisa nokukuzala nokukufundisa, you are forever indebted if you don’t you become the black sheep of the family and your name is tainted badly amongst other family members and izihlobo, abantu abakulibali ngezinto ozenza kunina when it’s only lies or half truths. Sadly Brenda’s story illuminates what happens in some black African families and this is why people had compassion on her and donated because they can relate. We know it all too well! 😢 😞
I would never expose my mom or any of my family members like this I would rather move out. I just don't see how recording an old woman who probably doesn't have social media is going to help her, the recording itself is one sided coz she keeps provoking the mom to talk and to beat her while she sounds put together I bet her response would be totally different if she was not recording but she has to look and sound calm for the socials the mom actually said "beat me Brenda because that is what you do" I am not taking sides but I think the family needs intervention. It's not black tax to me Madam Speaker it's helping and serving my family I do it out of love not obligation, I would never eat while my family starves. We were taught to share everything and that is one of the Greatest Legacy that my grandfather left us with.
Dated a girl with a terrible relationship with her dad, he was very manipulative and emotionally blackmailed her. I ended that ish cause I was like here I will surfer as her man, taking care of her family as well. Always, always keep your ear to the ground on these things cause your children need a good future ay le nonsense we get stuck in cause ngyamthanda. That is not enough, a healthy relationship with both families ibalulekile else stop making babies bathong.
But sometimes employment doesn't last and you don't have a choice but to go back home... and sometimes it's cheaper to travel to work from home than renting..
Brenda's mom seem to be my mom's sibling. Exactly the same, blaming, dividing family, supporting outsiders just to gain platform to drag my name in the mud. Hard to please, the list gives on n on n on. Jho!
It's not my responsibility yam ukuphekela wena....Whose responsibility Brenda...?hay nawe Brenda....Pray for a job girl ngoba very soon gogo will open a protection order that will remove you from the house
Toh shame Brenda. Tjis one ke ya maPalestina and Isreal. Cannot address nqturally becuase its a spiritual matter. And unfortunately one (spiritually) rules over the other. Rather seperate physically but by all leans keep mom in prayers; eternity is a really long time to be on the wrong or "compromised" side❤
And then we always blame white people for our lack of prosperity in this country, meanwhile it started at home. Parents and family feeling you’re obligated to make their lives better, whilst they don’t give a shit about yours. Imagine all the time that she would send money home and taking care of them and now that she don’t have money or work anymore they see her as a nuisance 😢. This is heartbreaking and it happens to most of us. Some of our friends buy cars and travel the world and some of us have to feed everyone at home. I remember how I had to start work at 18 and buying clothes and furniture for my older family members and I didn’t even have a kid and this is still ongoing.then as soon as you say you don’t have money they start acting differently towards you. When is this going to stop
Sis brenda shes also not ok why didn't she do her hair we don't have money we are unemployed babby daddy left us we are laughing stock in our hood we owe tymbank laybuy deposit but we are not like this you cant allow yourself to be like this we fight life with zero cent everyday hleng
Depression my dear, I know it's easy to tell people that they mustn't look like their problems but when you are depressed, small things like getting out of bed, brushing your teeth are the hardest!
Who's house os that one? You calljit black tax but when things get bad you run home to that same parent same home you said you dont owe them anything 😢
She is a disgruntled old lady this one. Brenda did what many young black women have done when they start working, send a chunk if their salaries home and they want to help out at home. But such moms, ah we know them well. Oo, i took u to school. Emotional black mail.
Ukudelela kuthini? Listening with comprehension is a skill dear! Also learn to not judge without knowing the full details abeg, Brenda is unemployed first, she built a home for her mother and had you taken the liberty to listen to some of her interviews you'd understand that ebesebenzela ekhaya meaning imali yakhe yonke was going to the mother now that she has no income and needs emotional and financial support what does the mother do? Sund idika please
Posting your elder on social media instead of finding your own place is too low.. It doesn't matter what they did, i mean we all come from this but never recorded them. Now people don't know the full story are busy calling out the elderly woman. It's wrong and God is watching.
@@julietedochem6217 You will grow older to become one of those so-called elders who cover up atrocious acts in the family in the name of "respect". Being so resolute about how Brenda should've reacted to the abuse she claims was meted on her, I shudder to imagine the lengths you would go to just to protect abusers in your family. "It doesn't matter what they did..." YOHHH.
The comments are depressing. This generation is lost. You've lost yourselves and misleading each other.. To degrade and embarrass your mom for the world to see and not see nothing wrong - instead feel justified. God knows what this lady does to her mom outside of cameras. Really shameful. People, if your parents annoy you and you don't want to assist them when they can nolonger care for themselves, leave them. Leave them in peace instead of harassing them or emotionally abusing them. Brenda is an actor,there isn't income there. She can not say she is a breadwinner- rather a dependent. Her sister disagreeing is a big clue. Social workers called is another sign. Sis wena you are misleading the people. You will all age one day, I pray your children don't speak blacktax words to you and never treat you like Brenda is treating her mother. I pray none of you ever become Brenda's mother.
So sad, but I think family must be involved in this case to resolve it, coz each and every home has its own problems but we don't publish them, but in this case shew must try to move from that home, and also our parents mus not put pressure on us because we are not working
I have 3 working daughters and I don't know what is 'black tax' all I know is that every payday I expect money from them, food, clothes and rental money.
Why do you expect money from them? They are not your parents but your children. Our government helps us. So live according to chelete e ba o fang? Tlogela bana mosadi
You are very wrong Madam speaker.What is Brenda doing in her mother's house?Shouldn't she be married in her own house with her husband and kids?This screams elderly abuse.This as African people is so low, to hide food from your mother.O tena mmage, she wants to be alone in peace.Brenda must face her choices and leave , this will be resolved.
Laying with your so called love and breeding me does not qualify me to taking care of you because of your failure. You had all the opportunity to prepare a good environment financially etc to take care of me with love. But wena you failed amd fell weak to your urges and emotions cause uchazekile now I'm must be Noah? This is the downfall of most black families. Children should be a continuation to your plan, your legacy, not donkey to work you out of your failures.
Respect goes both ways to create a healthy stable relationship. You don't want your children to turn disrespectful because they are disrespected by you the parent. Treating your children with dignity never hurts.
You comment and justify the way you want but fact is the moment you getting older you get mind challenge so what she did show that she is not aware of that
This is sad 😢, painful 😰 How can a mother be like this at her age.Brend still need to bury her 😢. This is painful ,mothers need to heal . Sorry Brenda , may God help you.
Joh I am from Brenda my mother is exactly like this the worse she had devided us as siblings. We don't get along because of her and she jealous.. when you can help she Nice and when life hits lowor make mistakes she the is the first to talk about you . she celebrates my downfall and hates it when am making it only beneficial for her. I made so many mistakes trying to please her . I cut her off and my siblings who have her traits. There are mothers like this. Only those who had experience this kind of abuse and narcissist will get it
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Sending you lots of love sis❤
It shall be well, no matter what!
It looks like most of us we are in the same boat.the hurtful thing is they are our mothers.
@@PhenduK Thank you cc I don't even go home anymore as we always fight her or we fight each other as siblings. The worst I don't have education as i was raising my younger siblings and chores taking care of her house slaving away. Worse i made mistake to marry at 19 to run away from home situation but it was also the worse as i gave birth and wife. Now divorced unemployment. Went home she was the first to call me failure return soldier and abused left again with my kids..
Our downfall starts when we get so tired of struggling than we get a job and wants to be the savior of the family. You want to uplift the family man. When you can't anymore people starts to make you feel bad and true colour's come out. But madam speaker said it well. Thank you madam
Because they see u as the family cash cow and how they loathe u when the money has run out 😢
You are spot on Madam Speaker, this is the extend to which things can go wrong with black tax in toxic family environments. I teach a lot on the subject. I am a survivor of a toxic mother, after building my mother a double storey house I had to walk away from my relationship with her for my own healing and restoration... I would love to share my story with your audience one day
@@LeratoWBSvideo Good for you sis am sorry sending Love and hugs
True. I can help when I have. Parents should not demand or feel entitled to my finances. Yes, they educated me they absolutely did everything, but they need to know that it was their responsibility.
Amen!😢
Ayinguye yedwa Brenda ojongene nale situation qha sithule💔
Ibuhlungu lento if awunamali you are nothing within family
My father always said "a cow cannot drink milk from a calf."
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Is so crazy what we are going through in our families.
@rosinamogano9545 it is sickening, I had to be very strategic about this, and it has given me peace, if I have money I will assist, if I don't have I don't have, period. The operative word is I am assisting so that everyone else can contribute their part, so I decide how much I will assist with, but it's not my responsibility really, and, I don't buy groceries, people must buy what they eat, so that I don't find myself spending thousands trying to feed people who don't care if I go to bed with or without food with my son. Nope, not anymore!!!🚶♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Thank you Madam Speaker... black tax is dangerous
I wish you can invite ousi Brenda to the podcast
Toxic mother wil only love u when u have money once u broke they treat u like trash yoh 😢this is sad
It's not abt the mother the girl is more toxic 😮
I am a mother. Children didn't bring themselves to this world. It is our responsibility to feed and educate them as bazali. Black taks is a demon as you said. Im a parent who dont like freebees. If they give,i will accept but dont make it a norm. Children also have their lives to live and to educate their children. As bazali,lets stop milking our children especially girls. Etswang mo tabeng ya gore ngwana ngwanyana o berekela hae. O iperekela neng yena? Things are expensive now. Phela ka seo o nang le sona and amogela seo o fiwang. Lets pray God to help us to have a good relationship with our children and their partners. Thank you
Parents are abusing us in the name of raising us😢
When they cannot get any money from brenda then brenda is a nuisance to them. This is so unfair. She is good enough as long as she is sending all this money back home and it can NEVER be enough. Brenda is back at home now, she is probably going through a career slump and this is what she has to deal with, an unhappy self entitled old lady. This is not dementia she did say it's been going on for a long time. Magogo ukhohlakele qha. This is magogo feeling entitled. Her kids must give give give and work to pay her back for sending them to school. This is very common behaviour emakhaya so we r not surprised. Magogo ukhohlakele period
This is not only in africa, it is in the Caribbean as well
When said nelz! That is the sad 😞 truth!
True that , I'm going thru a lot because of this, they are times I feel like quitting the job n so they'll understand when I say I don't hav money cos wow ,n they are so manipulative
We Black people do not discuss narcissistic mothers. Many are walking around damaged by such mothers.
May God come into this relationship and heal both.
This environment is not healthy for the little one. The mother is clearly toxic. It’s heartbreaking. She must leave asap. And having a narcissistic parent must be painful. Yoh! 😢
It's very painful. My dad is narcissistic, that man put me through hell. 2 extend my child hated him. It's truly sad
Helping people has now turned into taking care of them and their kids for life. People now purposely have babies just to demand black tax from people
Sad part about this situation is that, if this old lady dies today, society will expect Brenda to show up and show out! People will expect her to forget all these things and just be the bigger person.
People talk from a place of comfort. There are parents who hate their children!!!!!!
I loved you from day one Madam Speaker… you are so honest. Everything you said is true.
Please do a podcast on black tax
Hallelujah 🙌 You said it, its a demon 😈 and No boundaries, toxic, narcissistic parents, especially mothers they dont understand boundaries.
Eish it's tough sometimes in our families Brenda atleast she must get her own place so that they can have peace with her mum and the rest of her family 🙏
It's situations like these that increases my adoration for my late mom. My mom took care of us all the way to taking care of our kids. We always tried to spoil that woman, but she'd find ways of giving back. I pray for Brenda, may GOD turn things around for the better for her🙏🏼🙌🏼
This is sad 😢, painful 😰
How can a mother be like this at her age.Brend still need to bury her 😢.
This is painful ,mothers need to heal .
Sorry Brenda , may God help you.
She's sweet her voice says it all.
My kids knows very well ukuthi they dont owe me anything i tell them almost everyday
This is so sad! I really feel heartbroken, for your own mother to do this to you . I wish actors in this country would be paid more money for their craft for us not to see such talented people go down and out!💔💔💔
Wow, this is just sad.. really sad.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to help your family, but it also important to have boundaries because wow, how fast they turn on you when that money stops rolling in.. wow!
Blood is not thicker than my peace, no no.
Thank you Madam Speaker ,Every time when you talk is like I’m listening to my older sister 🫶🏻💐much love Sana ❤️
I totally relate to Brenda i went through what she's going through for years and it hurts me seeing this video..Some mothers are really toxic to the core..at some point i despised her.. I'm glad we have no relationship and i don't need her in my life
Brenda explained her situation with MacG.. she did say izinto azimnandanga ekhaya kubo ngenxa yez entitlements and black tax...badayisa imfuyo yakhe bangamnike imali
The people in this comment section refuse to listen, and what’s even more infuriating is their lack of understanding about what Brenda is going through. Despite having no insight into her struggles, they arrogantly cling to their belief that their way of handling such situations is the only right one. This mindset, especially when coming from entitled parents, is both harmful and dismissive.
And while we’re at it, let’s also discuss black tax something many seem to overlook or trivialize. It’s a complex burden, often misunderstood by those who haven’t experienced it. Brenda’s situation might be compounded by this, as black tax places a heavy responsibility on individuals to financially support their families, often at the expense of their own well-being. People need to stop making assumptions and start addressing these issues with compassion and a broader perspective.
“…by those who haven’t experienced it.” That’s where we differ my sister, they will never know it until it happens to them!
Clearly, there is nothing as painful as being illtreated by your mother. Those of you who have good relationships with your mothers, you are blessed, cherish that. Brenda my dear, stay strong. Find a safe place for you and your baby. Break free, it's not going to be easy, but for your own health, break free sesi.
Watching you from Ireland 🇮🇪
It's painful ,😭😭😭I
Yoo Madam speaker please do a podcast about topic eo 🇧🇼🙏
I understand you,its very sad and painful
Thank you cc everything you said it's true
Spot on madam Speaker❤❤
Hey .. they dnt appreciate.. im glad i got my wake up call b4 its too late.. @ list now, im putting my self first..
Brenda needs to move out honestly.
How... She does not have a job..no job no money... She put all her money to help her mom build the house. Now that the money is finished mom true colors are showing..
@@123smc that explains a lot. So she is bitter and her mom is bitter and she has a child on her back. She will have to choose to heal and forgiveness( not reconciliation) if that cycle is to be broken. No one ever hurts you from the place of wholeness and love.
@@ntombindweni you get me. She has to choose her peace. And choosing her peace means she must cut her off and leave that house. I know she’s invested a lot, but for her own healing. She must choose peace. Otherwise she’ll go mad!
@@moe_ramzyou perhaps have a place for her?
Ewe,ingxaki kuduru kwa ukwenza igali
Mothers can be so greedy. My mother is late but she was so greedy.
Am up for the topic🙋♀️ya black tax let's talk about it this weeks top😢🫡
So true and you can see that recording that video was her last cry 😢😢
Sho sisi waze walikhuluma iqiniso,abanye abazali batoxic ,Brenda is going through a lot may the good Lord be with her .
Black tax I'm counted it still breaking my heart 😢
And if you petsued the dark side, she'd love you eve so dearly, in a Flash! Im glad youre taking a stand for your Faith. God says we need to choose Gom over all our loved ones orthewise we're not worthy of rhe kingdom
Funeka ubabhatale for ukukhulisa nokukuzala nokukufundisa, you are forever indebted if you don’t you become the black sheep of the family and your name is tainted badly amongst other family members and izihlobo, abantu abakulibali ngezinto ozenza kunina when it’s only lies or half truths. Sadly Brenda’s story illuminates what happens in some black African families and this is why people had compassion on her and donated because they can relate. We know it all too well! 😢 😞
I feel sorry for this girl, but umama possible uqalwa yi dementia . I hope she can understand
Was this necessary for Brenda to do, is this how we have become as black nation where is Ubuntu kodwa.
U can tell, it was her last resort.
One said my child should buy me a house because i took her to varsity 😮 bathong when is she going to buy her own house?
Its old age,she must just ignore her
I would never expose my mom or any of my family members like this I would rather move out. I just don't see how recording an old woman who probably doesn't have social media is going to help her, the recording itself is one sided coz she keeps provoking the mom to talk and to beat her while she sounds put together I bet her response would be totally different if she was not recording but she has to look and sound calm for the socials the mom actually said "beat me Brenda because that is what you do" I am not taking sides but I think the family needs intervention. It's not black tax to me Madam Speaker it's helping and serving my family I do it out of love not obligation, I would never eat while my family starves. We were taught to share everything and that is one of the Greatest Legacy that my grandfather left us with.
God bless you
Dated a girl with a terrible relationship with her dad, he was very manipulative and emotionally blackmailed her. I ended that ish cause I was like here I will surfer as her man, taking care of her family as well. Always, always keep your ear to the ground on these things cause your children need a good future ay le nonsense we get stuck in cause ngyamthanda. That is not enough, a healthy relationship with both families ibalulekile else stop making babies bathong.
Parent's must be like me, at 25 you leave the house , you come and visit anytime you wish to
But sometimes employment doesn't last and you don't have a choice but to go back home... and sometimes it's cheaper to travel to work from home than renting..
True @@AllLoveKetso
Painful 😢😢
Brenda's mom seem to be my mom's sibling. Exactly the same, blaming, dividing family, supporting outsiders just to gain platform to drag my name in the mud. Hard to please, the list gives on n on n on. Jho!
Where is baby daddy ? 😂😂
Black tax is satanic. We must all depend on God and set people free to live their lives. Everything we do should be out of love, not obligation.
The mother is so toxic
dont say 4tsek to your mother my sister
She is exclaiming
It's not my responsibility yam ukuphekela wena....Whose responsibility Brenda...?hay nawe Brenda....Pray for a job girl ngoba very soon gogo will open a protection order that will remove you from the house
Toh shame Brenda. Tjis one ke ya maPalestina and Isreal. Cannot address nqturally becuase its a spiritual matter. And unfortunately one (spiritually) rules over the other. Rather seperate physically but by all leans keep mom in prayers; eternity is a really long time to be on the wrong or "compromised" side❤
I relate 😢😢😢
And then we always blame white people for our lack of prosperity in this country, meanwhile it started at home. Parents and family feeling you’re obligated to make their lives better, whilst they don’t give a shit about yours. Imagine all the time that she would send money home and taking care of them and now that she don’t have money or work anymore they see her as a nuisance 😢. This is heartbreaking and it happens to most of us. Some of our friends buy cars and travel the world and some of us have to feed everyone at home. I remember how I had to start work at 18 and buying clothes and furniture for my older family members and I didn’t even have a kid and this is still ongoing.then as soon as you say you don’t have money they start acting differently towards you. When is this going to stop
Sis brenda shes also not ok why didn't she do her hair we don't have money we are unemployed babby daddy left us we are laughing stock in our hood we owe tymbank laybuy deposit but we are not like this you cant allow yourself to be like this we fight life with zero cent everyday hleng
Depression my dear, I know it's easy to tell people that they mustn't look like their problems but when you are depressed, small things like getting out of bed, brushing your teeth are the hardest!
Family friends and boyfriends can use there are some good people and bad people at the same time
Why is she calling her 'Dabawo' ?
Kaloku xa umntana ekhula ebizwa njalo naye uye alinganise abanye
Oh i get it, someone just told me kutsi 'dabawo' is Aunt......I thought Dabawo is the name of the mother, I was like what a cheeky child🙈🙈
😂@@iris1896
I so wish singake sithole umzali owenza lento yoku black tax umntwana kebachaze why ngba this is so bad ukuhlukumeza
I hope I am not rube but this. But this old lady is ungreatful. She has a lovely decent home but yet she is shouting as if she is leaving on poverty
Who's house os that one? You calljit black tax but when things get bad you run home to that same parent same home you said you dont owe them anything 😢
She built it,she said it on Mac g's podcast.
She is a disgruntled old lady this one. Brenda did what many young black women have done when they start working, send a chunk if their salaries home and they want to help out at home. But such moms, ah we know them well. Oo, i took u to school. Emotional black mail.
You are clearly not following the story, but you felt like you can contribute your rusty 2 cents! Weeee!
Well it's her house that she spent all her money building so your point makes no sense
This is said.
Noba ubenjani ngumzali wakho lowo uthi akuloxanduva lwakho ukuba adle hayi cc landa intsimbi yakho emhlophe kungashuqa kubasiwe newa nje awunasimilo
She has had enough shame,let her be..she is gathering evidence..
Yuuuuu uyadelela naye lo Brenda..why is she back home? She should find her own place and leave her mom in peace in her home..
Exactly
If she's being abused or not happy staying there, she should just leave her old mom alone.
Get your own place man, this is sad
You are all over this comments section saying bs. Gtfo!
Ukudelela kuthini? Listening with comprehension is a skill dear! Also learn to not judge without knowing the full details abeg, Brenda is unemployed first, she built a home for her mother and had you taken the liberty to listen to some of her interviews you'd understand that ebesebenzela ekhaya meaning imali yakhe yonke was going to the mother now that she has no income and needs emotional and financial support what does the mother do? Sund idika please
@😢eish this is very painful zygolicious1216
Posting your elder on social media instead of finding your own place is too low..
It doesn't matter what they did, i mean we all come from this but never recorded them. Now people don't know the full story are busy calling out the elderly woman.
It's wrong and God is watching.
"It doesn't matter what they did..."???
God is watching that evil gqwirhy old lady. No one owns God in this world.
@backstory701 This is why nothing changes in Africa. No accountability, like what the hell is "it doesn't matter what she did'
@@backstory701 rather than clout chasing, it doesn't matter. She's still an elder. Have some respect
@@julietedochem6217 You will grow older to become one of those so-called elders who cover up atrocious acts in the family in the name of "respect". Being so resolute about how Brenda should've reacted to the abuse she claims was meted on her, I shudder to imagine the lengths you would go to just to protect abusers in your family. "It doesn't matter what they did..." YOHHH.
Breanda have no manners for her elders
Qhina Brenda sisi for y child s sake
Owam umama uyayazi xa ndisekhaya akathengi kutya ndikuthenga ngokwam till ndomnke ngoku im preparing uzokhela this yr ngemali yesecurity i avoid into ezinje ngoba umama mdala sizosheka sisilwa ngelakhaya so ngase ngoku usenamndla ushiye kowenu ekhaya ndim i bread winer zamile ulungisa izindlu ngoku atlist ndakwazi khomba ekhaya mandibashiye ngoba wongabinamali umzali akasakwazi noba ubunceda kangakanani nah ubangumntu o useless
The comments are depressing. This generation is lost. You've lost yourselves and misleading each other.. To degrade and embarrass your mom for the world to see and not see nothing wrong - instead feel justified. God knows what this lady does to her mom outside of cameras. Really shameful.
People, if your parents annoy you and you don't want to assist them when they can nolonger care for themselves, leave them. Leave them in peace instead of harassing them or emotionally abusing them.
Brenda is an actor,there isn't income there. She can not say she is a breadwinner- rather a dependent.
Her sister disagreeing is a big clue.
Social workers called is another sign.
Sis wena you are misleading the people.
You will all age one day, I pray your children don't speak blacktax words to you and never treat you like Brenda is treating her mother.
I pray none of you ever become Brenda's mother.
So sad, but I think family must be involved in this case to resolve it, coz each and every home has its own problems but we don't publish them, but in this case shew must try to move from that home, and also our parents mus not put pressure on us because we are not working
It's responsible to feed your mother like it or ot
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I have 3 working daughters and I don't know what is 'black tax' all I know is that every payday I expect money from them, food, clothes and rental money.
The fact that you "expect it" is black tax.
“You expect”. That sounds like entitlement to me.
Iyoo how about their own needs ur too much
Why do you expect money from them? They are not your parents but your children. Our government helps us. So live according to chelete e ba o fang? Tlogela bana mosadi
Why are you still renting
You are very wrong Madam speaker.What is Brenda doing in her mother's house?Shouldn't she be married in her own house with her husband and kids?This screams elderly abuse.This as African people is so low, to hide food from your mother.O tena mmage, she wants to be alone in peace.Brenda must face her choices and leave , this will be resolved.
Why recording your conversation and leave another side of your story
Laying with your so called love and breeding me does not qualify me to taking care of you because of your failure. You had all the opportunity to prepare a good environment financially etc to take care of me with love. But wena you failed amd fell weak to your urges and emotions cause uchazekile now I'm must be Noah? This is the downfall of most black families. Children should be a continuation to your plan, your legacy, not donkey to work you out of your failures.
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what is stoppong Brenda from leaving and building her own homestead
Money..
@@123smclike 🙄. Ngathi akaboni
Not having money at the moment is what’s stopping her.
Don't be one sided, respect your parents.
Toxic parents don't deserve any respect.
Respect goes both ways to create a healthy stable relationship. You don't want your children to turn disrespectful because they are disrespected by you the parent. Treating your children with dignity never hurts.
Respecting a parent by enslaving yourself
Singenaphi thini ku mina I don't have mother? Hai suka
You comment and justify the way you want but fact is the moment you getting older you get mind challenge so what she did show that she is not aware of that
Do you know her sister treats her the same way, Does she also have a mind challenge?
This is sad 😢, painful 😰
How can a mother be like this at her age.Brend still need to bury her 😢.
This is painful ,mothers need to heal .
Sorry Brenda , may God help you.