The Bible says people get divorced because of their hard hearts. A marriage hack won't soften their hearts only the love of Christ can soften and change hearts. Infidelity, abuse, unforgiveness, selfishness, pride are heart problems.
Fantastic ideas. I'm a men's marriage coach and these ideas would dramatically improve our entire society. And congratulations for turning your life around and now, being a leader to help thousands. Well done Mr. Whitfield.
I never knew most marriages only lasted 7 years. I was married 14 years and it was hard letting go. The thought of knowing it would have to be renewed could make one work harder to love harder and forgive easier.
The idea of renewal is interesting. I would like to see tougher requirements for obtaining an initial marriage license. It is tougher to get a Driver's License than a Marriage License. At a minimum we should mandate premarital counseling before being granted a marriage license.
The marriage counseling needs to be thorough - covering all major topics of life, with an educationally qualified counselor, lasting as long as it takes for both to get a full understanding of what the expectations and requirements are of one another
Absolutely love the divorce hack! This was an amazing Ted talk I think this is a study the clerk of the courts world wide should consider. Congrats. I love it. Keep shining King.
I can't really agree with the idea of a renewable covenant. That's an oxymoron. However, I do agree with requiring more training BEFORE marriage, and some kind of way to strongly encourage a periodic relationship review. There is something to be said for stronger domestic violence laws. But in the end hearts are what need to change. Otherwise, a long, terrible marriage until death ends it is really no better than divorce. Thank God HE specializes in changing hearts.
If I knew what I know now, I would not have filed for a divorce. We both would have been better for it, especially our daughter. I should have known the effect of divorce...since my parents divorced. My father abandoned my brother and I...just as my ex did the same with our daughter.i told my daughter, God selected me to be her mother, because of the pain she was going to endure. I thank God he chose me.
Marriage reboot 'should' be happening quarterly to yearly. So much about us change during the year and we should be conducting checkups no different than we do for an annual doctor appointment. If we utilize proper tools and seek them out I wholeheartedly believe marriages would sustain much longer. I too am a divorcee and I had to go back to the drawing board to accept all responsibility for the demise of it. Next time around will be different. I today am far more knowledgeable and my keen with my communication.
Thought provoking. However, I think self evaluation and revaluation of the marriage vows should be a constant. If the recommended 7 year reboot is more practical, then it would suggest that the marriage vows be amended to include such. This would cancel the "till death do us part" clause and facilitate a proposed expiration for the Marriage Contract eliminating COVENANT it was meant to be. SAD 😭
Laterras you’re awesome amazing wonderful & do transparent. I truly believe your future wife is on her way. Thank you again for being LIT!!! But more than that thank you for giving God the glory & making Him the center of your life.
I usually say that for driver's license: Texans hola. Today I said management need to have some renewal classes too because I really think they have forgotten how to treat people.
I love his show “Dear future wifey” and this sounds like a great idea, except for one thing. . .we didn’t create the institution of marriage and therefore, we don’t have the authority to change it. Howbeever, this is not such a bad idea. I agree that it’s incredibly sad that we demonize divorce more than we do adultery, abuse or abandonment. God help us.
It's true that humans didn't institute the marriage arrangement. But would it be interesting IF we indeed did have to refile ...every 7 years...just like for our license tags..and if the person didn't refile...they would have to take a mandatory class before it would be reissued.🤔
L. Whitfield, I appreciate your ideas about marriage & finding ways to make marriage stronger. I also disagree with state or government intervention in a vow between God, Man & Woman, beyond what already exists, we are grown. The problem is human beings are not perfect and neither is a individual's marriage. We as Christians will have more success as we trust the perfect purpose & will of God then do the work as the Holy Spirit leads🕊 & continue to grow in God's love. God spoke into our lives to love daily & continuously"Be fruitful & multiply". It is easier said than done but we have to be more accountable & forgiving in order to move forward in marriage, I believe. In my opinion, you have good intentions but statistics will get better or worse based on our growth or lack of therein as a society: Agape Love is the key🔑!
This is a Great. When Couples get Married they should go to God First and get Counseling. Continue Counseling every 3 Months. Also attend a great Marriage Retreat with a Couple that been Married for a long time. Share how they work things through. The Mann’s would be a great Couple to Start this Ministry.
Both my husband and I had been married before so when we came into our partnership 9 yrs ago, we understood that marriage is God's (divine) law and how delicate the institution of marriage is We understood that getting married the 2nd time around would be our next step in our coupling, bt had to consider our children's well being and how this may affect them good, bad, or indifferent. It was crucial we had those conversations as a newly blended family unit. As a result, we continued to work on centering our union with respect, trust, and most of all infinite love that only faith in oir Savior Jesus Christ can facilitate our goals as a power couple for the fam and individual goals too. We communicate and express our affection as often as possible. Real intimacy is highly favored and recommended into making a marriage last for years to come.
Thank you. Interesting concept to ponder. I pray that when I get married my marriage would break the generational curses in my family, so divorce isn’t an option. We will have to set something in place to keep our marriage. So, I might have to keep some of these nuggets for thought. Basically, you ain’t leaving in 7 yrs., but some changes will be made😂😂
You were amazing and accurate. Your ideas should be written into law with enough resources to cover. Sadly for me. My DV carried into 1995 and the laws had not been strengthened, neither were PPOs. Shelters weren't as safe either and stalking had just been defined with a half hearted remedy. Grateful for you shedding light to the darkness. Keep on keeping on bro.
If I had marriage counselling before my first marriage I would never have married the man I did , sometimes pain is the experience to understand what the lesson is , I never thought I would ever look at marriage again since my trust in mankind was zero ,I did all I could not to integrate with the other species, apart from wrk I isolated from events that put me in their company , domestic violence and other failed relationships closed that door for many years ,I just choose the wrong people , It’s amazing how God can force a transition when you least expect , Nothing greater than complete peace , nothing greater than intentional love .
Thank you Laterras for your perspective. I like the idea of being required to take training courses on marriage skills. Pre-martial counseling and ongoing couple / individual therapy are beneficial.
Accountability, Transparency, Emotional Maturity... all the things required for Relationships baked into Training& Skills development and re-committent for marriage. Good points.. Instead of cancelling their covenant, sentence them to "hard time together" to do the remedial work, if things aren't going well?
Laterras Laterras Laterras You My Dear Sir.. Are Phenomenal 👑 I Thank God For You You Shine Light In Dark Places! Much Love Brother and Thank You So Much For ALWAYS Keeping It LIT! Love This Contribution!!
3 year stints. 90 days before the renewal each partner has to do a questionnaire to decide if the contract will be renewed. Combined score has to be 175+ out of 200 possible points to continue.
This was provocative and definitely food for thought. I feel implementing a seven year renewal would cause people to this seriously about the union they are about to embark on. The truth is too many people make divorce an option. I really enjoyed your presentation, keep the good work up.
You did FREAKIN AMMMAAAAZZZIINNNGGG👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🥰🥰🥰!!! So dope... I still cant believe that there is someone who views/ links the concept of marriage to those of business the way I do as far as sustainability...Booooyyyy you did that!!!
Great talk. I do believe some counseling should be involved before marriage. And I’m not talking about just counseling with your pastor but with a licensed therapist to get to the root of challenges. I like the concept of marriage training. Not sure about the expiration of the marriage license after every 7 years. But I love your journey.
Bravo King Laterras. While God instituted marriage, the vows were not mentioned in scripture. I think this concept you introduced would be awesome. I pray your work continues to evolve as another tool to equip mankind for God Ordained kingdom spouses.
Great stuff.. good speaker.. let's see how it goes if implemented.. as for me I would say don't wait until year 7 to do the necessaries. Start at yr 6 1/2. On a flip side I feel some persons may just gonna be waiting for yr 7 to reach so the can quit..like a teenager anxious to get to age 18..
Very well stated and thought out. That would make a lot of sense and probably help in eliminating misconceptions and unspoken expectations the other doesn't know they are being held against and disappointing. Huh. Thank you.
Firstly I would really like to commend everyone who has married and stayed in a marriage and toughed it out to see a successful marriage and life and they can have that glass of lemonade that’s beautiful. Now beyond that your a very intelligent man talented creative successful and innovative so ask yourself what would that make you endowed with all these talents if your creating a platform such as this. if I were you I would focus on the word of God and accept exactly what his word has to say in reference to every area of my life. I would fight struggle and sacrifice in every area I need to in my life to overcome my flesh and I would live my life humbling myself adjusting myself according to his word. I really think that would be best. God bless
Powerful! 🤔 Serious Food for thought. Terms of License.... SEVEN (7)! ITCH OR SWITCH? @Laterras always profound.💪🏾 For the past few months, You've been keeping me on my toes with the Dear Wifey episodes as I'm going through my process/preparation - 1st Wife/2nd marriage 🙏🏾 And now this. Thank you for challenging my thoughts/journey.🙌🏾 I appreciate you!
Dear Laterras Loving you and your work from a distance in Sydney Australia 🇦🇺 I really appreciate your supportive ideas on dv especially being a survivor. Recently on one of your podcasts - dear wifey, you mentioned the 12 month marriage board meeting, that's brilliant 👏 Lastly you are so right about the fact there is no training for marriage although some of us old school british ladies did receive such training from family and school, but that was more about being a wife. Yes we should learn and earn a marriage licence. Great talk Laterras!! Love the blue jacket 💙and glasses. #1 Sydney fan Ms Trina Margaret. Cheers and blessings 🙌 🙏🏽
I agree with recommitting but disagree with the whole explanation around it , even example given on how couples marriage ended after 7 years, adding celebrity marriage experience , 7 represents completion or wholeness , resting I believe Marriage is a day to day commitment , decision
I really enjoyed this talk Latteras I think that hack may work because people can access what they have gained in there 7 year period or not gain and discuss his or her commitment to their spouse.
I like that concept! So many people stay because of making the oath before God. It is a very serious oath. If your partner doesn’t uphold the oath, what is the 1 person to do?
Interesting very good thoughts people who’re married ,single about to marry to engage in or to consider this kind of commitment it’s more than what I thought it should be...you raised legit concerns 👋🏻
Why not let's do the work prior to marriage. Therapy and counseling would only benefit the conversation of marriage and its expectations before doing the deed. Let's try harder at obeying God's words and stop making exceptions to the rule. Of course there are solid and applicable reasons to leave a marriage, but so many divorces are based on the lack of "happiness". If happiness is the gauge for commitment then we could never commit to anything longterm.
The problem with this idea is the government is now allowed to interfere with freedom of association. The government should not be allowed to force a couple to divorce who do not want to.
I like your speech in all the research you did. This one thing just kept coming back to me What God has joined together let no man put asunder. Did God join the marriage or do our own desires, faith or flesh maybe even the idea of marriage brought us together. I got married because it would keep me from formication. And the idea of marriage was wonderful. I had no clue to why I was getting married it certainly wasn't God, for the guy I married wasn't ready either and get this we were both believers. My answer would be 7 years of a marriage course study before marriage that should be a required course that people should take before, and refresher courses during. For One must get to know themselves and be willing to surrender one's self before dating with the expectation of marriage. And be sure that it is God who really joins you together and not anything else that I've mentioned.
I found a hack to marriage as well, let GOD pick😜💯 that’s for me personally because we can renew all you want ain’t nobody going nowhere unless God say and I mean that literally😂 what I’ve noticed is that it’s vital to ensure that you partner with someone that shares your belief system, morals, values and views on marriage, these kinds of answers can come out through prayer, observing and most definitely as Laterras said in pre marital counseling. Do not be unequally yoked. When asking questions to see if the other party’s answer is equivalent to yours ask open ended questions, questions where a yes or no won’t suffice for example why questions and see if their logic or rational is in alignment with yours.
🤔 hmmmm…. Interesting idea but it moves away from Gods plan for marriage. How about we work on the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control…. No need to introduce a new doctrine if you are a Christian…
Interesting but at 26 years, I choose GOD. HE is Forever Faithful🙏🏾. Proverbs 3:5-6. I prefer the P word over the D word. Prayer over divorce. I just don't feel that tax payers should have to get involved in the marriage. We already have laws with marriage (BIBLE).
I disagree with marriage licenses expiring. I think there should be mandatory counseling at year 7. We should also implement life courses at every level of education. We don’t need to add more limitations but more education. But the education needs to start from birth. We also need to stop teaching boys to sleep with as many women as possible, and then expect them to change their behaviors once they get married. It’s not a switch you can just turn off. And stop teaching women to be wives only. Americans are already over policed, we don’t need more legalities, policies, procedures, and stipulations to get & stay married. You would just be adding to the problem. Is that really what God wants? Dies the word say marriage should expire? Or did He limit the reasons(exception) for divorce?
First, my prayers for your lost due to violence. Now, the concept of a seven years contract isn't Biblical and it seems to be a way out of opting out of one's responsibility within the marriage. If the work is put in before the marriage and if both persons are committed to growth, communicate, and seek godly counsel while married. Along with, making sure they take time for each other and remember their vows they made to God then divorce or seven years renewal wouldn't and shouldn't be an option. Instead every year, for six years, the couple works to make a lovely impact for year seven. Example: for six years they work on perfecting their marriage, their vows, their love. Then each year seven they sit down together to see where growth and time is needed.
The first thing Jesus does to address the issue, is describe how marriage was created in the beginning. When asked why Moses allowed divorce, He responded that due to the hardness of their hearts and stubbornness this was allowed but not how it was created to be. If divorce was allowed which was not what God intended, why not a way to lower the rate? It's so easy to divorce these days. So is getting married. If people knew they couldn't get out that easily and that there's consequences, each person would make sure they have all the necessary training and no more getting married for convenience, for fleshly desires, for material benefits etc.
The issue with some of these comments is aligning marriage with a Christianity God, when we know many other religions get married. This is why there should be a separation between state and church. But unfortunately, church is involved in too many government laws. You can not use the argument of what is in the Bible because marriage is officially a transaction by the government no matter what bible scripture you quote. And God ain’t in every marriage so we can kill that noise. This sounds like a great idea, at the very least to provoke thought and hopefully more seriousness when approaching marriage.
Marriage is an institution that God created.....that’s fact. So regardless of if you are a professing Christian or not. When you get married, you are following God’s desires for a man and woman. If you believe church and state should be totally separate then the state should have no say so in marriage because marriage is a CHURCH thing. Correct me if I’m wrong but Christianity is the first (and only?) religion to make marriage about a sacrificial selfless love. Everyone else viewed it as political/financial gain. We ALL (even unbelievers) benefit from following God’s model of marriage.
I love your podcast but this is a terrible idea. God said marriage is for life. Not a 7 year plan that you can opt out of just so you can avoid the “divorce” category. This is what happens when you try to do things your way instead of God’s way. I pray that you reflect on this because you have a large audience and don’t want to lead people down an unfruitful path. God says husband and wife is like Christ and the church. (Ephesians 5) Imagine if every 7 years God had to decide if he wanted to continue loving us and being in relationship with us. That’s not a stable foundation. I pray that everyone consider these things and make sure your thinking lines up with scripture instead of the world.
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The Bible says people get divorced because of their hard hearts. A marriage hack won't soften their hearts only the love of Christ can soften and change hearts. Infidelity, abuse, unforgiveness, selfishness, pride are heart problems.
Fantastic ideas. I'm a men's marriage coach and these ideas would dramatically improve our entire society. And congratulations for turning your life around and now, being a leader to help thousands. Well done Mr. Whitfield.
Thanks @davidfrey
Marriage is truly a life altering decision
I never knew most marriages only lasted 7 years. I was married 14 years and it was hard letting go. The thought of knowing it would have to be renewed could make one work harder to love harder and forgive easier.
Facts!
True Statement ❤
The idea of renewal is interesting. I would like to see tougher requirements for obtaining an initial marriage license. It is tougher to get a Driver's License than a Marriage License. At a minimum we should mandate premarital counseling before being granted a marriage license.
The marriage counseling needs to be thorough - covering all major topics of life, with an educationally qualified counselor, lasting as long as it takes for both to get a full understanding of what the expectations and requirements are of one another
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Absolutely love the divorce hack! This was an amazing Ted talk I think this is a study the clerk of the courts world wide should consider. Congrats. I love it. Keep shining King.
I can't really agree with the idea of a renewable covenant. That's an oxymoron. However, I do agree with requiring more training BEFORE marriage, and some kind of way to strongly encourage a periodic relationship review. There is something to be said for stronger domestic violence laws. But in the end hearts are what need to change. Otherwise, a long, terrible marriage until death ends it is really no better than divorce. Thank God HE specializes in changing hearts.
I love the work you are doing and your TH-cam is helping me on my journey to discover love as well. Can't wait for the next episode.
Powerful and impactful! Thank you for your transparency Laterras!
If I knew what I know now, I would not have filed for a divorce. We both would have been better for it, especially our daughter. I should have known the effect of divorce...since my parents divorced. My father abandoned my brother and I...just as my ex did the same with our daughter.i told my daughter, God selected me to be her mother, because of the pain she was going to endure. I thank God he chose me.
Stopped Shackin' I am so excited to move this platform. I love it!!!!
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Marriage reboot 'should' be happening quarterly to yearly. So much about us change during the year and we should be conducting checkups no different than we do for an annual doctor appointment. If we utilize proper tools and seek them out I wholeheartedly believe marriages would sustain much longer. I too am a divorcee and I had to go back to the drawing board to accept all responsibility for the demise of it. Next time around will be different. I today am far more knowledgeable and my keen with my communication.
Your transparency is beyond words! You are truly a blessing. May God continue to bless and keep you. ❤️
To God be the glory
Since people chase after that piece of paper more than the godly meaning and display of marriage, this is actually a great idea.
Thought provoking. However, I think self evaluation and revaluation of the marriage vows should be a constant. If the recommended 7 year reboot is more practical, then it would suggest that the marriage vows be amended to include such. This would cancel the "till death do us part" clause and facilitate a proposed expiration for the Marriage Contract eliminating COVENANT it was meant to be. SAD 😭
I admire the truth in your testimony. This is more than a notion. It should be written into state law and put to use.
Laterras you’re awesome amazing wonderful & do transparent. I truly believe your future wife is on her way. Thank you again for being LIT!!! But more than that thank you for giving God the glory & making Him the center of your life.
I usually say that for driver's license: Texans hola. Today I said management need to have some renewal classes too because I really think they have forgotten how to treat people.
From 11mins to the end I was like wow this needs to go viral. We need to do the work
Let's do it!
I love his show “Dear future wifey” and this sounds like a great idea, except for one thing. . .we didn’t create the institution of marriage and therefore, we don’t have the authority to change it. Howbeever, this is not such a bad idea.
I agree that it’s incredibly sad that we demonize divorce more than we do adultery, abuse or abandonment. God help us.
It's true that humans didn't institute the marriage arrangement. But would it be interesting IF we indeed did have to refile ...every 7 years...just like for our license tags..and if the person didn't refile...they would have to take a mandatory class before it would be reissued.🤔
L. Whitfield, I appreciate your ideas about marriage & finding ways to make marriage stronger. I also disagree with state or government intervention in a vow between God, Man & Woman, beyond what already exists, we are grown. The problem is human beings are not perfect and neither is a individual's marriage. We as Christians will have more success as we trust the perfect purpose & will of God then do the work as the Holy Spirit leads🕊 & continue to grow in God's love. God spoke into our lives to love daily & continuously"Be fruitful & multiply". It is easier said than done but we have to be more accountable & forgiving in order to move forward in marriage, I believe. In my opinion, you have good intentions but statistics will get better or worse based on our growth or lack of therein as a society: Agape Love is the key🔑!
Thank you for your feedback
The transparency 👏🏾
This is a Great. When Couples get Married they should go to God First and get Counseling. Continue Counseling every 3 Months. Also attend a great Marriage Retreat with a Couple that been Married for a long time. Share how they work things through. The Mann’s would be a great Couple to Start this Ministry.
Both my husband and I had been married before so when we came into our partnership 9 yrs ago, we understood that marriage is God's (divine) law and how delicate the institution of marriage is We understood that getting married the 2nd time around would be our next step in our coupling, bt had to consider our children's well being and how this may affect them good, bad, or indifferent. It was crucial we had those conversations as a newly blended family unit. As a result, we continued to work on centering our union with respect, trust, and most of all infinite love that only faith in oir Savior Jesus Christ can facilitate our goals as a power couple for the fam and individual goals too. We communicate and express our affection as often as possible. Real intimacy is highly favored and recommended into making a marriage last for years to come.
I applaud you two for being intentional
I wish there really was an expiration for marriage. This one I'm in now would definitely benefit from that.
Love it! Shared it! And listened again for better notes. Thanks Laterras for the light and keeping it LIT😊
Thank you. I appreciate you listening.
Excellent as always Laterras. You make so much sense! Sorry to learn about your aunt and grandma.
So awesome that you did a Tedx Talk Laterras, God is doing great things with you!
'I will renew my membership' so interesting, what a perspective, thank you
Excellent idea! Renew or recommit every 7 years!!!!
Thank you. Interesting concept to ponder. I pray that when I get married my marriage would break the generational curses in my family, so divorce isn’t an option. We will have to set something in place to keep our marriage. So, I might have to keep some of these nuggets for thought. Basically, you ain’t leaving in 7 yrs., but some changes will be made😂😂
You were amazing and accurate. Your ideas should be written into law with enough resources to cover. Sadly for me. My DV carried into 1995 and the laws had not been strengthened, neither were PPOs. Shelters weren't as safe either and stalking had just been defined with a half hearted remedy. Grateful for you shedding light to the darkness. Keep on keeping on bro.
@ Latteras R Whitfield great presentation on the marriage and divorce situation .
If I had marriage counselling before my first marriage I would never have married the man I did ,
sometimes pain is the experience to understand what the lesson is , I never thought I would ever look at marriage again since my trust in mankind was zero ,I did all I could not to integrate with the other species, apart from wrk I isolated from events that put me in their company ,
domestic violence and other failed relationships closed that door for many years ,I just choose the wrong people ,
It’s amazing how God can force a transition when you least expect ,
Nothing greater than complete peace , nothing greater than intentional love .
Congrats brother you made it to ted talk 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Thanks@djmagickenny
This is definitely something to think about
Thank you Laterras for your perspective. I like the idea of being required to take training courses on marriage skills. Pre-martial counseling and ongoing couple / individual therapy are beneficial.
Thank you for watching.
Divorce is better than mudering.
Accountability, Transparency, Emotional Maturity... all the things required for Relationships baked into Training& Skills development and re-committent for marriage. Good points..
Instead of cancelling their covenant, sentence them to "hard time together" to do the remedial work, if things aren't going well?
Laterras Laterras Laterras You My Dear Sir.. Are Phenomenal 👑 I Thank God For You You Shine Light In Dark Places! Much Love Brother and Thank You So Much For ALWAYS Keeping It LIT! Love This Contribution!!
3 year stints. 90 days before the renewal each partner has to do a questionnaire to decide if the contract will be renewed. Combined score has to be 175+ out of 200 possible points to continue.
Lol
This was provocative and definitely food for thought. I feel implementing a seven year renewal would cause people to this seriously about the union they are about to embark on. The truth is too many people make divorce an option. I really enjoyed your presentation, keep the good work up.
Awesome presentation!!! Interesting concept...
I will renew my membership... We are doing the work...
so true must have training
You did FREAKIN AMMMAAAAZZZIINNNGGG👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🥰🥰🥰!!! So dope... I still cant believe that there is someone who views/ links the concept of marriage to those of business the way I do as far as sustainability...Booooyyyy you did that!!!
I love your idea of marriage
Great points to consider before ever getting married!
This was awesome King! So many gems 💎🙏🏾 Yes, it’s a great idea to intentionally implement your marriage hack. Thanks for sharing this with us!
Thanks
Great talk. I do believe some counseling should be involved before marriage. And I’m not talking about just counseling with your pastor but with a licensed therapist to get to the root of challenges. I like the concept of marriage training. Not sure about the expiration of the marriage license after every 7 years. But I love your journey.
Bravo King Laterras. While God instituted marriage, the vows were not mentioned in scripture. I think this concept you introduced would be awesome. I pray your work continues to evolve as another tool to equip mankind for God Ordained kingdom spouses.
Most people don't realize that.
So proud of you Mr.Whitfield. I'm a follower of your many bodies of work but particularly the dear wifey podcast.
Thank you for your support
Great stuff.. good speaker.. let's see how it goes if implemented.. as for me I would say don't wait until year 7 to do the necessaries. Start at yr 6 1/2.
On a flip side I feel some persons may just gonna be waiting for yr 7 to reach so the can quit..like a teenager anxious to get to age 18..
Very well stated and thought out. That would make a lot of sense and probably help in eliminating misconceptions and unspoken expectations the other doesn't know they are being held against and disappointing. Huh. Thank you.
Well spoken Laterras, I agree with renewing the marriage license
Mine lasted 7 years but it was over long before that.
Confirmation, so glad I landed on this
Well done Laterras!
Firstly I would really like to commend everyone who has married and stayed in a marriage and toughed it out to see a successful marriage and life and they can have that glass of lemonade that’s beautiful.
Now beyond that your a very intelligent man talented creative successful and innovative so ask yourself what would that make you endowed with all these talents if your creating a platform such as this. if I were you I would focus on the word of God and accept exactly what his word has to say in reference to every area of my life. I would fight struggle and sacrifice in every area I need to in my life to overcome my flesh and I would live my life humbling myself adjusting myself according to his word. I really think that would be best. God bless
I think this is a simple (not easy) and practical idea. Great talk my brotha!
You make so much sense.... well done👏🏽
Powerful! 🤔 Serious Food for thought.
Terms of License....
SEVEN (7)! ITCH OR SWITCH?
@Laterras always profound.💪🏾 For the past few months, You've been keeping me on my toes with the Dear Wifey episodes as I'm going through my process/preparation - 1st Wife/2nd marriage 🙏🏾 And now this. Thank you for challenging my thoughts/journey.🙌🏾 I appreciate you!
Thought provoking…Excellent Ted Talk….”therapy is key”. Well done L!
Thanks
Divorce is frowned upon in my faith more than adultery.
This is good
Great work!
Dear Laterras
Loving you and your work from a distance in Sydney Australia 🇦🇺
I really appreciate your supportive ideas on dv especially being a survivor. Recently on one of your podcasts - dear wifey, you mentioned the 12 month marriage board meeting, that's brilliant 👏
Lastly you are so right about the fact there is no training for marriage although some of us old school british ladies did receive such training from family and school, but that was more about being a wife. Yes we should learn and earn a marriage licence.
Great talk Laterras!! Love the blue jacket 💙and glasses.
#1 Sydney fan
Ms Trina Margaret.
Cheers and blessings 🙌 🙏🏽
Thank you so much @trinacouzens
Great job. Proud of you my brother...
So good Laterras! Thanks for sharing your story so vulnerably and giving us tools to use for the future
Hey buddy! Thanks for watching
Congratulations!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Awesome idea. i would love that. I always
felt marriages should come with more rules/laws.
Thanks
I agree with recommitting but disagree with the whole explanation around it , even example given on how couples marriage ended after 7 years, adding celebrity marriage experience ,
7 represents completion or wholeness , resting
I believe Marriage is a day to day commitment , decision
I really enjoyed this talk Latteras I think that hack may work because people can access what they have gained in there 7 year period or not gain and discuss his or her commitment to their spouse.
This was dope!
Thanks.
Wow! Very interesting and something to think about.
this is genius
Thanks
I like that concept! So many people stay because of making the oath before God. It is a very serious oath. If your partner doesn’t uphold the oath, what is the 1 person to do?
Good stuff Pastor Laterras!
Hilarious
Interesting very good thoughts people who’re married ,single about to marry to engage in or to consider this kind of commitment it’s more than what I thought it should be...you raised legit concerns 👋🏻
Why not let's do the work prior to marriage. Therapy and counseling would only benefit the conversation of marriage and its expectations before doing the deed. Let's try harder at obeying God's words and stop making exceptions to the rule. Of course there are solid and applicable reasons to leave a marriage, but so many divorces are based on the lack of "happiness". If happiness is the gauge for commitment then we could never commit to anything longterm.
🗣️This is good
The problem with this idea is the government is now allowed to interfere with freedom of association. The government should not be allowed to force a couple to divorce who do not want to.
Good stuff!!
Wow.. Congratulations!!🤯
I like your speech in all the research you did. This one thing just kept coming back to me What God has joined together let no man put asunder. Did God join the marriage or do our own desires, faith or flesh maybe even the idea of marriage brought us together. I got married because it would keep me from formication. And the idea of marriage was wonderful. I had no clue to why I was getting married it certainly wasn't God, for the guy I married wasn't ready either and get this we were both believers. My answer would be 7 years of a marriage course study before marriage that should be a required course that people should take before, and refresher courses during. For One must get to know themselves and be willing to surrender one's self before dating with the expectation of marriage. And be sure that it is God who really joins you together and not anything else that I've mentioned.
Interesting.
I found a hack to marriage as well, let GOD pick😜💯 that’s for me personally because we can renew all you want ain’t nobody going nowhere unless God say and I mean that literally😂 what I’ve noticed is that it’s vital to ensure that you partner with someone that shares your belief system, morals, values and views on marriage, these kinds of answers can come out through prayer, observing and most definitely as Laterras said in pre marital counseling. Do not be unequally yoked. When asking questions to see if the other party’s answer is equivalent to yours ask open ended questions, questions where a yes or no won’t suffice for example why questions and see if their logic or rational is in alignment with yours.
This is good….. Good job L!
🤔 hmmmm…. Interesting idea but it moves away from Gods plan for marriage. How about we work on the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control…. No need to introduce a new doctrine if you are a Christian…
Absolutely right.
You betta say that🙏🏾❤🙏🏾
Interesting but at 26 years, I choose GOD. HE is Forever Faithful🙏🏾.
Proverbs 3:5-6. I prefer the P word over the D word. Prayer over divorce. I just don't feel that tax payers should have to get involved in the marriage. We already have laws with marriage (BIBLE).
Good stuff sir..
Thank you bro
This was excellent
Thank you
I'm on my 2nd divorce. This has been so draining for .me
I love this new ideology for renewing vowels every 7 years. I could see this going global. Thanks for your transparency, this was good!😊🌸
Intresting but problematic
I disagree with marriage licenses expiring. I think there should be mandatory counseling at year 7. We should also implement life courses at every level of education. We don’t need to add more limitations but more education. But the education needs to start from birth. We also need to stop teaching boys to sleep with as many women as possible, and then expect them to change their behaviors once they get married. It’s not a switch you can just turn off. And stop teaching women to be wives only. Americans are already over policed, we don’t need more legalities, policies, procedures, and stipulations to get & stay married. You would just be adding to the problem. Is that really what God wants? Dies the word say marriage should expire? Or did He limit the reasons(exception) for divorce?
First, my prayers for your lost due to violence.
Now, the concept of a seven years contract isn't Biblical and it seems to be a way out of opting out of one's responsibility within the marriage.
If the work is put in before the marriage and if both persons are committed to growth, communicate, and seek godly counsel while married. Along with, making sure they take time for each other and remember their vows they made to God then divorce or seven years renewal wouldn't and shouldn't be an option.
Instead every year, for six years, the couple works to make a lovely impact for year seven.
Example: for six years they work on perfecting their marriage, their vows, their love. Then each year seven they sit down together to see where growth and time is needed.
The first thing Jesus does to address the issue, is describe how marriage was created in the beginning. When asked why Moses allowed divorce, He responded that due to the hardness of their hearts and stubbornness this was allowed but not how it was created to be. If divorce was allowed which was not what God intended, why not a way to lower the rate? It's so easy to divorce these days. So is getting married. If people knew they couldn't get out that easily and that there's consequences, each person would make sure they have all the necessary training and no more getting married for convenience, for fleshly desires, for material benefits etc.
The issue with some of these comments is aligning marriage with a Christianity God, when we know many other religions get married. This is why there should be a separation between state and church. But unfortunately, church is involved in too many government laws. You can not use the argument of what is in the Bible because marriage is officially a transaction by the government no matter what bible scripture you quote. And God ain’t in every marriage so we can kill that noise. This sounds like a great idea, at the very least to provoke thought and hopefully more seriousness when approaching marriage.
You get it! Thanks.
Marriage is an institution that God created.....that’s fact. So regardless of if you are a professing Christian or not. When you get married, you are following God’s desires for a man and woman. If you believe church and state should be totally separate then the state should have no say so in marriage because marriage is a CHURCH thing.
Correct me if I’m wrong but Christianity is the first (and only?) religion to make marriage about a sacrificial selfless love. Everyone else viewed it as political/financial gain. We ALL (even unbelievers) benefit from following God’s model of marriage.
@@ashh7877 EXACTLYYYYYYY
All of these requirements that you are suggesting is too controlling. No!!
You think divorce is high now, such an elimination of marriage in the 7 th year will easily and simply increase the numbers to MORE divorcing.
I love your podcast but this is a terrible idea. God said marriage is for life. Not a 7 year plan that you can opt out of just so you can avoid the “divorce” category. This is what happens when you try to do things your way instead of God’s way. I pray that you reflect on this because you have a large audience and don’t want to lead people down an unfruitful path. God says husband and wife is like Christ and the church. (Ephesians 5) Imagine if every 7 years God had to decide if he wanted to continue loving us and being in relationship with us. That’s not a stable foundation. I pray that everyone consider these things and make sure your thinking lines up with scripture instead of the world.
Thank you for your feedback. This is just an idea
AAAAAAMEN!!!!!! Ash H. Amen.